Speaker 1: Oh, what's up man? What's your name?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: Just therapy? Get go?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Wait, who did you think it was? A? Hold on?
Speaker 1: In like in the two seconds where you were like, hey, hello, Like,
Speaker 1: who did you think it was?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I was like, well, I was texting a friend and
Speaker 4: I don't know, and I didn't recognize the number.
Speaker 1: I was like, hold on, I just by the way
Speaker 1: I told I'm not saying that to be a dick.
Speaker 1: I'm genuinely curious because most people don't like just pick
Speaker 1: up for random numbers. I assume you picked up because
Speaker 1: you knew it was me. Like if I get a
Speaker 1: random number, I don't really like pick okay. But but
Speaker 1: in that, in that moment, you did.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why a double text.
Speaker 2: It's like therapy, get like okay.
Speaker 1: Okay, so it's double check. You had an inkling. It
Speaker 1: wasn't just like you're not just going with the flow
Speaker 1: of your life.
Speaker 3: No, I wish I was like that. I can't.
Speaker 1: Why can't you be like that?
Speaker 3: I care too much?
Speaker 4: Man, can't can't be answering the phone for like strangers
Speaker 4: to dude, Like, you gotta keep something in private.
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I feel you? What's your name, I'll just go
Speaker 1: by Robert. Robert Robert. You texted me a few things. Well, okay,
Speaker 1: you texted me a year ago and you said, I
Speaker 1: went on a date a few days ago and I
Speaker 1: got a rejection text. This was a year ago. This
Speaker 1: is fourteen months ago. Actually, I went on a date
Speaker 1: a few days ago and I got a rejection text.
Speaker 1: And I'm not sure how to handle it. How did
Speaker 1: you handle it?
Speaker 2: Well, there's that, but that's that's a year ago. Who
Speaker 2: cares about that?
Speaker 3: I want to talk about like, well, I.
Speaker 4: Guess I need more advice about like my current situation
Speaker 4: about like what did you about this guy at work
Speaker 4: that just keep on halfling me?
Speaker 1: Wait, just real quick, what happened with that date? What
Speaker 1: did you do about the text?
Speaker 4: No, it was just a wee your text? Okay, so
Speaker 4: I guess just the recap about that. Yeah, a year
Speaker 4: ago had been around this time. I was like, yeah,
Speaker 4: around this time, arou on February. So I'm about this
Speaker 4: girl on like a dating app and not gonna lie.
Speaker 4: I was like one of those freaky dee dating apps.
Speaker 4: I think it was like Field and stuff like that.
Speaker 4: So I'm just like, all right, let's go out, and
Speaker 4: I'm just like okay. So we go out right and
Speaker 4: we're clicking, we're viving, we're talking, and we talked so
Speaker 4: much we didn't eat the food. So we went out
Speaker 4: to this like Columbian restaurant. She's like, she's like one
Speaker 4: of those white girls that are like obsessed with like
Speaker 4: speaking Spanish and learned Spanish and she just like solfa
Speaker 4: dancing and butchata and all that. So she's like one
Speaker 4: of those you know what I.
Speaker 2: Mean, Okay, all right, so I speak Spanish, so I'm like,
Speaker 2: all right, I'll smoot her up with my Spanish. We're
Speaker 2: talking and we're getting to you don't know each other,
Speaker 2: and she tells you a lot about her family, what
Speaker 2: she's going to and she like tells me like, oh,
Speaker 2: I'm actually leaving in to go live in Argentina for
Speaker 2: like for a year or two, this and that, and I'm.
Speaker 4: Just like all right, all right, cool. And it wasn't
Speaker 4: like I think the rejection bothered me so much because
Speaker 4: it was more about we. I even asked like, oh,
Speaker 4: we should go on a second date or anything like that.
Speaker 4: I'm like, hey, you should just keep in touch. I
Speaker 4: think you're super cool, and just like we could be
Speaker 4: friends and if you're back in my hometown, let's reconnect
Speaker 4: and just kick it just like neutral, Like I think
Speaker 4: you're just a cool person overall. No, I mean just
Speaker 4: like as a romantic partner, possibly we're just like, you're
Speaker 4: a cool person.
Speaker 3: And she gave me the weirdest response ever.
Speaker 4: It was just like, nah, I just don't feel the
Speaker 4: chemistry or connection with you.
Speaker 3: Did you do you eat your food?
Speaker 2: You shut up this whole time? Like, did you?
Speaker 4: I saw you put your whole plate and it's a
Speaker 4: go bag and I'm like, this bit chalky funked up?
Speaker 1: Holda wait what I'm confused to the equivalency here? What
Speaker 1: is it? What do you mean by oh, you're saying
Speaker 1: she talked the whole time and you didn't get to
Speaker 1: say anything, and so she's like and so you're saying no, no,
Speaker 1: Just so, you're saying that she put her food into
Speaker 1: to go bag, which means she was talking so much
Speaker 1: that she didn't even touch her food, and by that proxy,
Speaker 1: she didn't even let you express yourself enough to tell
Speaker 1: whether or not she liked you. That's what you're saying. I.
Speaker 4: Well, I took this off as like we had such
Speaker 4: a great time. We talked so much, we didn't really
Speaker 4: eat our food. We just talked for like two hours
Speaker 4: to the restaurant closed. And I'm like, is not is
Speaker 4: that not a connection?
Speaker 1: No, No, it's totally not. It's totally not at all,
Speaker 1: totally not at all. Well that's to think about. Let's see,
Speaker 1: here's the thing about dating is dating is horrible. It's
Speaker 1: it's horrible and don't and it's horrible for men and
Speaker 1: women for kind of like there's certain there's certain reasons
Speaker 1: why it's horrible for men and women that are like
Speaker 1: in the Venn diagram of like why it's horrible for
Speaker 1: men and why it's terrible for women. There's actually a
Speaker 1: lot in the middle, I think. But one of the
Speaker 1: reasons why it's horrible is this thing of like you
Speaker 1: really can't go into uh a situation having any expectations
Speaker 1: at all. It's crazy, but it's a little true, do
Speaker 1: you know, Like like like you can go out with
Speaker 1: someone and you can have a great conversation with them
Speaker 1: for three hours and keep hanging out. And if you
Speaker 1: interpret that as we had a good connection, they probably
Speaker 1: want to see me again. You you've you've you've fucked yourself.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: It's a weird thing because it doesn't auto and it
Speaker 1: really it never automatically means like I've and and listen, listen.
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that you are a hideously ugly, boring
Speaker 1: person all it. It could mean a lot of different things.
Speaker 1: Like I mean, I was I was talking to some
Speaker 1: friends of mine and they were like, uh, like this
Speaker 1: girl was like, oh, I went on a date with
Speaker 1: this guy last night. You know, we hung out for
Speaker 1: two hours. Uh. He was nice, he was cool, we
Speaker 1: chatted a lot. But I'm like, I don't know if
Speaker 1: I really need to see him again. You know, like
Speaker 1: that's that's and that's just what what do you mean? Damn,
Speaker 1: that's life. It's like you can sit and have a Yeah,
Speaker 1: you can sit and have a conversation with someone. For
Speaker 1: I feel that way about a lot. I feel that
Speaker 1: way about In fact, the majority of people, frankly is
Speaker 1: I could sit and have a conversation. There's bro there's
Speaker 1: such a big difference between Okay, I had a nice
Speaker 1: night with this person, uh for you know, three hours
Speaker 1: and whatnot. We had a fun time, but like, do
Speaker 1: I need to do it again? Do I need this
Speaker 1: person to be a recurring part of my life. That
Speaker 1: that's a big jump. You know, that's a big You're
Speaker 1: that's a big jump, right, Like she got this this
Speaker 1: woman who you went on this date with, she got
Speaker 1: enough of you for the rest of her entire life,
Speaker 1: which is which says nothing about you. It says nothing.
Speaker 1: It really does. It says nothing about you. I swear
Speaker 1: my life, I'm not it says nothing about you. It
Speaker 1: says it's just like you know, she got I.
Speaker 3: Get it.
Speaker 1: I feel that, dude. I feel like way about people
Speaker 1: that I love. I really to Like there's certain because life,
Speaker 1: how old are you?
Speaker 2: I'm thirty, You're thirty.
Speaker 1: Oh you're thirty, dude, you're thirty. You understand that?
Speaker 3: Like, oh, I understand.
Speaker 2: I totally know what you mean. Like I see I
Speaker 2: had enough of you.
Speaker 4: I see enough of you, which is totally true. There's
Speaker 4: like some friends I have that's like I'll see them
Speaker 4: like once every other month because like I can't do
Speaker 4: back to back weekends with them because I'm.
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I got you, I got enough of you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But I don't know.
Speaker 2: As I gotten older, I just I like to give
Speaker 2: I know, the whole like.
Speaker 3: Having no expectations. I've done that.
Speaker 2: It's like, yeah, go into it the open mind, no expectations,
Speaker 2: don't assume anything. But now I'm just like more of
Speaker 2: like no one ever presents themselves their best the first time,
Speaker 2: maybe the second time, And I feel like I try
Speaker 2: to give people multiple rounds to like, see what's up
Speaker 2: I'm saying, so I usually go with at least a
Speaker 2: two date, three date. Then I just kind of fear
Speaker 2: it out, like all right, is this person pursuing or
Speaker 2: not pursuing.
Speaker 3: I'm more like I.
Speaker 2: Give people, you know, a working interview, you know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying, just like.
Speaker 1: And you know what, and you know what that I believe.
Speaker 1: I believe that that's a good process. I really do.
Speaker 1: That's a good process that probably works for you. That's
Speaker 1: not her process, this this lady, because because that's also
Speaker 1: this lady. Right, how old is this lady?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, this lady. Yeah, but this lady is like going
Speaker 1: to art. This lady's it seems like she's in a
Speaker 1: different place from you, right, she's going to Argentina for
Speaker 1: a year. Like she's not like, uh, you're kind of
Speaker 1: over here. It sounds like being like, oh, I'd like
Speaker 1: to like find a real connection and build something together.
Speaker 1: And she yeah, yeah, yeah, and she's like, well, that's cool,
Speaker 1: nice to meet you. I'm going to motherfucking Argentina for
Speaker 1: a year because I don't want That's not what I
Speaker 1: want to do. I want to dick around and I
Speaker 1: want to fucking saucid. I want to do all this
Speaker 1: stuff right. So there's no there's like, you have to
Speaker 1: understand that. I just want you to understand something. You
Speaker 1: have to understand logically that this woman has that. You
Speaker 1: just have to understand logically you have no this this
Speaker 1: one has no room in her life for you first
Speaker 1: and then second, and most importantly, understand that this woman
Speaker 1: having no room in her life for you says nothing
Speaker 1: about who you are as a human being.
Speaker 4: I see what you're saying, like I shouldn't like, hey,
Speaker 4: I guess I shouldn't. I guess I'm taking from it
Speaker 4: is like I shouldn't hold this stranger's opinion or like
Speaker 4: her not being interested me so much it affects my
Speaker 4: life and said to like.
Speaker 1: No, okay, even okay, even what you just said is
Speaker 1: king into the fact that you don't understand, you don't
Speaker 1: get what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: All right, let's break it. Break it down for me.
Speaker 1: Okay, let'll break it down for you. Okay, here's what
Speaker 1: you just said. You said, I'm taking in her saying
Speaker 1: she's not interested in me or she doesn't like me. Right,
Speaker 1: she might, she might like you, she might think you're
Speaker 1: a nice guy, she might think you're cute enough whatever. Right, yeah,
Speaker 1: but you you have no room in her life. Even
Speaker 1: the fact that you're even what you just said is
Speaker 1: is indicating you don't understand what I'm what I'm telling you.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, I see what you're saying. It's like I
Speaker 2: understand now. I feel like, yeah, in her point, at
Speaker 2: that point of time in her life, she had a
Speaker 2: lot of other plans to go Argentina, and I did
Speaker 2: not make sense in that situation itself, Bustle.
Speaker 1: You know what, the funniest thing about this is the
Speaker 1: way you're talking about this woman. I'm getting from you
Speaker 1: that you don't even like this lady.
Speaker 2: Well, it was just like, well, this was a year ago.
Speaker 2: This I really did like her because I thought she
Speaker 2: was so cool. You know, we had a lot of
Speaker 2: things in common, a lot of similar like ways or
Speaker 2: raised and have a similal background. The only difference is like,
Speaker 2: like I guess like some things. I thought it was
Speaker 2: super cool about that bitch.
Speaker 3: I mean, this girl is a you know, I just
Speaker 3: had that happen.
Speaker 4: I was talking to my sister about this, Like we
Speaker 4: call everyone bitches. They were like, yeah, we just say
Speaker 4: everyone's a bitch and just call them the bitches.
Speaker 3: And just like it just rolls off the tongue. It
Speaker 3: just sounds so much better, you know. Okay, that's just me,
Speaker 3: that's me. My sister just do it though. So so this.
Speaker 2: Girl, right, she just like was doing everything I wish
Speaker 2: I was doing with my life, so to speak. Science, right,
Speaker 2: we have these science backgrounds, but and like in the
Speaker 2: past couple of years, I really got into cooking and
Speaker 2: just like trying your recipes and getting you fancy pot cookbooks.
Speaker 3: And just like really developing that.
Speaker 2: And her what she did at her job was like
Speaker 2: create recipes or like help companies fortify a recipe. And
Speaker 2: I thought that was the coolest thing ever. And she
Speaker 2: was like telling me all this like crazy food science
Speaker 2: about it and like how things are bonded together and
Speaker 2: like the reactions, and I thought it was just like why,
Speaker 2: like certain like ingredients go together to and tench spy,
Speaker 2: certain flavors get some more.
Speaker 3: Ooh mommy out of it.
Speaker 4: And I just thought like, Wow, you're so amazing, so cool,
Speaker 4: and that's why I'm like, I really just wanted to
Speaker 4: be your friend at that point too. I'm like, even
Speaker 4: if anything just thing pan out romantically, she's going off
Speaker 4: to another country, right, I thought she was just that
Speaker 4: cool of a person.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 2: It's like, Wow, I wish I was doing half the
Speaker 2: stuff you were doing. I've been wanting to go live
Speaker 2: in another country for a while, you know.
Speaker 4: I didn't think about going down to like through or
Speaker 4: like just living there for a year or two as well.
Speaker 4: And my whole that was my plan to save up
Speaker 4: some money and just like go down to Lima and
Speaker 4: stay there for the winner. I mean, it would be
Speaker 4: somewhere down there and just avoid a whole year without
Speaker 4: no no snow, you know, no winner.
Speaker 2: That's an amazing Okay, so I'm dream.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm gonna stop you. There two things. I forget
Speaker 1: the first one, but oh wait, no, I remember the
Speaker 1: both now. Okay. Also, by the way, just see you,
Speaker 1: I mean listen, just at the age of thirty. You
Speaker 1: should know this only because like this is just this
Speaker 1: is just like an examination of the finiteness of life
Speaker 1: and time. It's kind of it's interesting, right because asking
Speaker 1: when you ask someone to be romantically involved with you,
Speaker 1: especially on like a committed level, you're asking them for everything.
Speaker 1: And even if you're asking someone to be friends with them,
Speaker 1: you're asking that you're kind of asking them for a lot.
Speaker 1: Do you know I don't think. Yes, I do actually
Speaker 1: believe I actually do believe that. Yes, I do believe that.
Speaker 2: Why why wouldn't friends be a load steaks?
Speaker 1: There's like friends, friends aren't really low stakes.
Speaker 2: I mean, there's acquaintances and there's like French, there's real friendships.
Speaker 2: I would say, somebody who depend on lean on and
Speaker 2: you really seek out their companionship.
Speaker 3: That is a real friendship.
Speaker 4: But just even like a bystander like no I had,
Speaker 4: like that one friend that comes every once in a while.
Speaker 2: To the cookout every so often, you know, and you still.
Speaker 4: Consider them a friend, but there are more of an acquaintance.
Speaker 4: And that's why I think I want it to be
Speaker 4: just more like at that.
Speaker 1: Point, I have I have dear friends. I consider them
Speaker 1: dear friends. I haven't spoken to them in like two years.
Speaker 1: They're my friends. We like each other's whatever on on
Speaker 1: on poop Graham and all that stuff. Maybe you respond
Speaker 1: to a story or whatever, but it's just like I
Speaker 1: don't know. It's it's like this woman, this woman seems
Speaker 1: very very like like busy doing stuff but also with you.
Speaker 1: What is the what is what's going on here? This
Speaker 1: is a new development that I'm getting no hold on.
Speaker 1: This is what but what's going on? This is a
Speaker 1: new development where it's like you're jealous of this lady's life.
Speaker 1: This lady jealousy is like is actually kind of like
Speaker 1: a good compass for like, oh, where should I be
Speaker 1: putting my energy? Because you you'll you'll kind of notice
Speaker 1: like when you're when you're like really aligned in your
Speaker 1: in how you're like living your day to day, you
Speaker 1: really you really don't look at other people's lives. So
Speaker 1: let me ask you this. You're you were jealous of
Speaker 1: this lady because she was doing all this cool stuff?
Speaker 1: Did that? This was a year ago? So did you
Speaker 1: do anything with that jealousy? Like what what's what's do
Speaker 1: you feel like?
Speaker 4: Like, what's I'll give you a little context. I guess
Speaker 4: a year ago, I guess I wasn't on the greatest
Speaker 4: like point in my life, you know. You know, I
Speaker 4: just got out of like a somewhat serious relationship and
Speaker 4: that person just jumped into a new relationship and I
Speaker 4: saw how happy they were, and I'm just thinking to myself,
Speaker 4: I'm like, all right, I'm building up myself from scratch.
Speaker 4: I'm looking for a new job, got myself a new job,
Speaker 4: and trying to figure out what I want to do,
Speaker 4: where I want to be in a couple of years,
Speaker 4: try and like save all my money, thinking about moving
Speaker 4: to a different state, different cities, start fresh. And it's
Speaker 4: like slowly like okay, I'm ready. I'm ready to put
Speaker 4: myself out there, really really ready to put myself in
Speaker 4: the game world, just to see how it is, see
Speaker 4: how I could not to be weirdo and just like
Speaker 4: have the human interaction out about interactions, See if I
Speaker 4: could do it, you know, because I think it's insimportant.
Speaker 4: A lot of people just don't know how to talk
Speaker 4: to people and engage with people.
Speaker 2: I just wanted I was like, do I still got it?
Speaker 2: Do I still got that a little spark, that little
Speaker 2: charm that you know, do I still have it. And
Speaker 2: when I was just hearing her story and everything she
Speaker 2: was doing with her life, and I was just like
Speaker 2: so blown away, and I'm just like, okay, okay, where
Speaker 2: do I need to do? They live that life? And
Speaker 2: I always wanted just to like have a care free
Speaker 2: like life, like not a care free but just like
Speaker 2: not worry about like, oh I got to pay my
Speaker 2: student loan? How much money do I have to pay
Speaker 2: save up to have this? And just code yeah, like
Speaker 2: I don't mind.
Speaker 4: Like like scrubbing it like, and I'm never worried about
Speaker 4: like the nicest hotels, like a sleeping like a dorm
Speaker 4: with like ten other people.
Speaker 3: That's fine.
Speaker 4: You got some near pleasure for good. I could eat
Speaker 4: like once a day if I really need to, like
Speaker 4: I could scrub it out. And I'm just thinking to
Speaker 4: myself like all right, dude, this girl hasn't made everything.
Speaker 4: The career, the the passion. I'm like, damn, she's like
Speaker 4: really cool. And I'll tell.
Speaker 3: You what happened to me.
Speaker 4: I didn't do none of that because a few weeks
Speaker 4: later I got myself like.
Speaker 3: Euy, So.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, man, You're good.
Speaker 2: I'm glad to about it.
Speaker 1: It's just like it's just very funny to like, well, no,
Speaker 1: it's just like it's just very funny that you like
Speaker 1: you had this like date with this lady and you're
Speaker 1: like you're like, oh, I'm inspired. I'm gonna move to
Speaker 1: another country. I'm gonna get all my ship together. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna you know, she's studying biomes or whatever. And then
Speaker 1: you get a d I like a week later.
Speaker 3: Oh, you have no idea.
Speaker 4: I have this money than up. I'm like, all right,
Speaker 4: I have my money saved out. I could coast for
Speaker 4: like six months.
Speaker 2: I'm like, all right, this is perfect. My leaf ends
Speaker 2: in like two months. I have my money saved up.
Speaker 2: I'm ready to go. I'm ready to commit. I'm like looking,
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, I'm gonna put this stuff in the
Speaker 2: stories unit. It's gonna cost me so much money I
Speaker 2: put in my budget. I'm gonna live off of like
Speaker 2: one hundred dollars a day.
Speaker 3: It's gonna be great.
Speaker 2: It's gonna really be great.
Speaker 3: Then all my money went.
Speaker 2: To fucking lawyers like negotiates to haggle. But he's like,
Speaker 2: you know what, she's not not to have a guy.
Speaker 2: You know you just made a mistake, come a break, judge,
Speaker 2: And Judge's like, yeah, okay, how about a year of
Speaker 2: classes and how about you really think about what you
Speaker 2: did that? And I'm like, fuck, okay, yeah, I guess so.
Speaker 1: Oh man, okay, all right, so all right, so you
Speaker 1: you you did not go on a on a journey
Speaker 1: of inspiration down to Peru, but you gotta do how
Speaker 1: how badly did that fuck up your financial shit.
Speaker 3: Wiped on my bank account? Like the money.
Speaker 2: I was like, here's the thing about DUIs, do you
Speaker 2: think you're doing everything right?
Speaker 3: Like, all right, you found.
Speaker 1: What do you mean? What do you mean do you
Speaker 1: think you're doing everything right?
Speaker 3: Well, I'll tell you. I'll tell you what you thought
Speaker 3: you think.
Speaker 4: Here's some many cases about things being thrown out of court.
Speaker 4: So I'm like, all right, I'll lurge and I'll get
Speaker 4: myself a really nice lawyer, the fancy one with a
Speaker 4: tighter title esquire. I'm like, okay, me and Smith's Esquire.
Speaker 4: We're gonna take this on. And it's like one of
Speaker 4: the things like I pleaded the fifth I didn't answer
Speaker 4: any questions. I'm thinking it's like, okay, it's a case done.
Speaker 4: We'll see what they do, and then the lawyer you think,
Speaker 4: you like, you hire a lawyer, and then they turn
Speaker 4: around they tell you he's like, all right, you got
Speaker 4: me a retainer. And they turned to you and tell
Speaker 4: you like, if you want to take this trial an
Speaker 4: extra another right, grand And I'm just.
Speaker 3: Like, what, hey, grant take this trial.
Speaker 2: And I'm just like, I would.
Speaker 4: Rather like drive this out for a year or something
Speaker 4: in courts And I'm like, no, do you like I'd
Speaker 4: rather just take take take my punishment, bend over and
Speaker 4: just let them have me and just like get my
Speaker 4: spankings and be done with it. And that locked me
Speaker 4: into this shitty job. That's the worst part too, because
Speaker 4: I have to like being under probation too, just like
Speaker 4: I have to have a job. I have to like
Speaker 4: do these little things. And my job has been really
Speaker 4: cool with it. They let me off work to go
Speaker 4: meet with my po and play face. They're really cool
Speaker 4: about that. But oh my fucking god, do they fucking
Speaker 4: drive me up the wall? Okay, And it's like I
Speaker 4: walked into my least another year because I'm like, I
Speaker 4: can't I was too stressed about this like court case
Speaker 4: to find a new place to like live I don't
Speaker 4: have a car now, so I'm like, I'm like, I
Speaker 4: live in a perfect place where the fuck transportation is
Speaker 4: pretty reliable. So I'm like, all right, I don't have
Speaker 4: to worry about getting to work.
Speaker 1: What's your what's your what's your name again?
Speaker 3: Robert?
Speaker 1: Robert, Robert? Let's I want let's I want to talk
Speaker 1: this out with you. I'm let's let's talk it out.
Speaker 1: Let's do let's do Gecko therapy? What?
Speaker 3: All right?
Speaker 1: Okay, so all right, a year ago, you're talking to
Speaker 1: this lady and uh uh, I forget about the thing
Speaker 1: off her not wanting to be your friend, like whatever, like,
Speaker 1: but but you're look, you're listening to her life. You're like,
Speaker 1: oh that sounds nice. I'm gonna do that. Then you
Speaker 1: get a d U I and then your bank account
Speaker 1: gets wiped out and then where where where are we
Speaker 1: at now, Robert? Where how's your life going? Let's talk
Speaker 1: it out.
Speaker 2: Besides besides the work situation, being locked into this job, it's.
Speaker 1: Been fine, Okay, good.
Speaker 2: It's like one of those things if you play you
Speaker 2: play ball with the p O court system, do you
Speaker 2: do your part?
Speaker 4: Then't let you off easier? You know, they start clamping
Speaker 4: also start giving you great. You just can't mess.
Speaker 2: Up and I'm not.
Speaker 3: I don't like an alcoholic.
Speaker 2: Where I get the shakes and I got it take
Speaker 2: a drink.
Speaker 3: I mean a mistake.
Speaker 4: I fucked up, and you know what, I accept that consequences.
Speaker 2: Okay, I have no problem.
Speaker 3: I'm not drinking.
Speaker 2: It's it's not that, it's not I'm okay with that.
Speaker 1: Let's get into this. You're you sent me a text. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: so you sent me the thing a year ago about
Speaker 1: I went on a date and I got rejected, but
Speaker 1: you sent me a text saying my coworker is keeping
Speaker 1: a log on how I'm a shitty employee and is
Speaker 1: trying to get me fired.
Speaker 3: That is my main thing.
Speaker 4: And it's I'm really stuck in a hard place at
Speaker 4: this point.
Speaker 2: I really don't know going on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what's going on?
Speaker 4: He this guy has autism, and like I've been working,
Speaker 4: he seems like a nice guy. And I you know,
Speaker 4: you get people with like auto and stuff like that
Speaker 4: all break. You know, you know how to communicate light
Speaker 4: with people.
Speaker 3: You know they're on a spectrum. I get that.
Speaker 2: I work in the science, Like in the science field,
Speaker 2: I mean, I meant plenty of them.
Speaker 3: I had them in school. I'm fine, I'm cool.
Speaker 2: You know how to like, you know.
Speaker 4: How to talk to people. But this guy, he's like
Speaker 4: obsessed with me all because I told him, Hey, man,
Speaker 4: the way I just told him one day because I
Speaker 4: was confronted him because I told him, like, this is
Speaker 4: my work I'm gonna leave for tomorrow.
Speaker 3: I'm just really busy. I can't get to it.
Speaker 4: And then he starts getting it and it starts working
Speaker 4: on my projects, and I'm just like, hey, don't worry
Speaker 4: about it, like, focus on what you gotta do. I'm
Speaker 4: gonna handle this tomorrow. And this is like roughly a
Speaker 4: year ago, and he says no. He starts like it
Speaker 4: has to get done now and this and that, and
Speaker 4: I'm just like hey, and I had to stop him,
Speaker 4: just like I don't like you belitterly me and just
Speaker 4: talking down to me, because right now you're be literally
Speaker 4: me that I can't finish the job and you're talking
Speaker 4: down to me. How responsible I am for not finishing this.
Speaker 3: This is my project, this is my work. I will
Speaker 3: take care of it.
Speaker 2: And he just goes off on a rant saying that
Speaker 2: I do not belittle him he's not believing me.
Speaker 3: He doesn't know. Wow, he stopped talking about and it
Speaker 3: just turns into this whole thing where he's.
Speaker 4: Telling me I'm not doing my job right, that I'm
Speaker 4: just like a terrible employee.
Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question. This woman who I
Speaker 1: guess it's back from Argentina. Now I don't know, I'm
Speaker 1: not who knows, You're not friends with her? Who knows
Speaker 1: she's you know? Who knows? What do you think from
Speaker 1: your idea of her, in your idealized version of who
Speaker 1: she is that you aspire to be? What would she
Speaker 1: do in this situation? Do you think.
Speaker 2: It's hard to say?
Speaker 3: Okay, not gonna lie.
Speaker 4: This is like where like I have a lot of
Speaker 4: time like dating in this aspect because I didn't grow
Speaker 4: up rich and like have a stable family, and I
Speaker 4: didn't come for money like I like, let's I don't
Speaker 4: have a like a safety map.
Speaker 1: Yeah ye had.
Speaker 2: Picked up and quitter, job sold, And it's just like
Speaker 2: one of those things where like I I wish, I
Speaker 2: wish I'm here buying two dollars scratch tickets thinking I'm
Speaker 2: gonna make a big once a month. Just why are you?
Speaker 1: Why are you buying two dollars scratch off tickets.
Speaker 3: For the dream.
Speaker 4: It's literally just like a little fun things like who
Speaker 4: knows it'd be fun and it's two dollars.
Speaker 1: Dude, dude, dude, Okay, Robert, you said your name was yeah, Uh,
Speaker 1: all right, let's rea. Let's I want to I want
Speaker 1: to try to do some gecko therapy. Actually, let's assessed.
Speaker 1: That's assessing. Let's assess this because I get you, I
Speaker 1: really do. And I understand that this lady who went
Speaker 1: to Argentina probably yeah, he probably grew up in a
Speaker 1: more stable, uh environment, probably has a little bit less
Speaker 1: worry about money and these other things, and that helps
Speaker 1: life out immensely understandably.
Speaker 3: So but.
Speaker 1: Just like, uh, I'm I want to I want to
Speaker 1: reorient your brain because like your energy, like you're focused
Speaker 1: on fucking like you're arguing, like like this fucking guy
Speaker 1: at your work who gives a fuck about it, Like
Speaker 1: he's like a kind of annoying person, and you have
Speaker 1: just like you should expend as little energy engaging with
Speaker 1: him as possible who gives a fuck? Fucking well the fuck.
Speaker 4: I give And this is the this is the problem
Speaker 4: I'm having, the big fuck I'm giving is I don't
Speaker 4: know how much sway or what happens, and like I
Speaker 4: do make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes in human but just
Speaker 4: seeing it on a well spreadsheet, well, let me finish,
Speaker 4: let me finish, Let me tell you what your concerned
Speaker 4: and having your mistake to print it up on axcel
Speaker 4: spreadsheet that two eight I took a ship and I
Speaker 4: didn't do my report on time and I turned it
Speaker 4: in thirty minutes late. It's like agonizing because I'm like,
Speaker 4: I cannot lose my job. I cannot lose my job
Speaker 4: because I'm under probation.
Speaker 3: That I need a job.
Speaker 4: And on top of that, I'm terrified if I apply
Speaker 4: for a new job, they're gonna see this fucking smudge
Speaker 4: on my record and say, like I got a criminal here.
Speaker 4: Granted it's not that big of a.
Speaker 3: Deal, but.
Speaker 2: It it is, and it is it is in a
Speaker 2: sense of like I did commit a crime. I am
Speaker 2: it's what I have to do with therapy for this,
Speaker 2: for alcohol glasses and stuff like that. And they make
Speaker 2: a point you did break a crime and you are
Speaker 2: a criminal and accept it, and I'm like, all right,
Speaker 2: I accept that. But just the idea of like when
Speaker 2: you tell people that you have a a duy or
Speaker 2: this on your record, they kind of look at you
Speaker 2: like you have a major problem that I'm going to
Speaker 2: be constantly struggling to come to work because you know,
Speaker 2: I got court cases and I need to meet my
Speaker 2: PO and be on good behavior. When it's nothing like
Speaker 2: that at all.
Speaker 1: It's how long, dude, Okay, have you looked into what
Speaker 1: is required to uh like move like go to Peru
Speaker 1: and start working there.
Speaker 3: I can't leave the country. I can't leave the state.
Speaker 1: When when would you be allowed to leave the state?
Speaker 2: That's I had a big old touble on like PO
Speaker 2: last week about this because I was like, part like
Speaker 2: so I got this fancy lawyer right and you smooth
Speaker 2: and he's talking this drudge up. And the one thing
Speaker 2: I am grateful for he did negotiate early terminations. Like
Speaker 2: if he does well early terminations, how am I cool? Great?
Speaker 2: I've been a probation for like six months now, six
Speaker 2: seven months, and I've been doing great.
Speaker 4: I have all my stuff completed. All I have to
Speaker 4: do is he's like eight months of therapy.
Speaker 1: Okay, dude, give me the dude, give me I'm skip
Speaker 1: skip to the bottom line. When is the earliest you
Speaker 1: can leave the country December, December of this year.
Speaker 4: December of this year is when I could officially leave
Speaker 4: if you've been good. If I've been good, but my
Speaker 4: fourth date and like, no, here's the catcher, my termination
Speaker 4: of my probation, and like, my court kit end in August,
Speaker 4: so I'm trying to negotiate I should be done in August, right,
Speaker 4: And this too is basically telling me no, I'm gonna
Speaker 4: extend until December because that's when you get done with
Speaker 4: your therapy. And I'm just like, what, you can't extend
Speaker 4: without a court order?
Speaker 3: Can You.
Speaker 1: Can't?
Speaker 2: And that's where I'm at.
Speaker 1: Where what's is this lawyer that you spent eighty billion
Speaker 1: dollars on not helping you out with this?
Speaker 4: I haven't talked to him in a year. So that's
Speaker 4: what I'm gonna talk to him about. I need to
Speaker 4: talk to him, make sure I got my like, like,
Speaker 4: why I spend all this money on you? Like if
Speaker 4: I was not promised when early released, that's why I
Speaker 4: took this deal. If I know I was gonna not
Speaker 4: take this, if it's gonna be someone extra hassle, why
Speaker 4: did I do this? Why did I spend all this
Speaker 4: money on this fancy lawyer. If I was just gonna
Speaker 4: get a shit deal regardless, I was gonna be on
Speaker 4: probation for a whole year and a half a year.
Speaker 1: So do you is this DOUI on your permanent record now?
Speaker 1: Like are do you? Yeah?
Speaker 3: It shows up people.
Speaker 2: It depends on what people you know, Some people care,
Speaker 2: some people don't. It really depends on the hiring person.
Speaker 3: Some people like Brother's.
Speaker 1: Probably it's probably places internationally that you can go leave
Speaker 1: the country and fucking uh find some work or whatnot.
Speaker 1: But just okay, listen, I'm just gonna do okay, this
Speaker 1: is gonna all right, I'm gonna do a little thing.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be all like woo woo on
Speaker 1: you or whatever. I get that you have a lot
Speaker 1: of like material annoying problems, and you seem to have
Speaker 1: accepted the fact that like, you know, you fucked up
Speaker 1: and this is this is this is the material you know,
Speaker 1: this is the result of them. You have to deal
Speaker 1: with these problems. But just like meant, just mentally in
Speaker 1: the mental space that you can find, I'm I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: like what, you gotta develop some a plan or idea
Speaker 1: of like what direction you ultimately want to go, and
Speaker 1: even if it's and just to be like, Okay, this
Speaker 1: might take like two, three, four, however fucking long it
Speaker 1: takes for you like deal with these external dilemmas that
Speaker 1: you have. You have to have something in your mind
Speaker 1: to be fixating on. That's that's that you're so like
Speaker 1: stoked about the possibility of like this future plan. You're
Speaker 1: so stoked on it that you're not that your brain
Speaker 1: is not in the gutter of like that you look
Speaker 1: at this dude making a spreadsheet of you, and you're like,
Speaker 1: and you just you just you let you let it
Speaker 1: take you. You submit your submit yourself to like bend
Speaker 1: over and let this guy fuck you in the ass
Speaker 1: with his spreadsheet. I'm serious. And and then and you
Speaker 1: just you just take it because you're like, I am
Speaker 1: saving all of my mental energy for this vision of
Speaker 1: the future that I have of I'm gonna fucking go
Speaker 1: to Peru, I'm gonna go to Uri, I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: whatever it is that I'm gonna do like this because
Speaker 1: right because everything you're telling me right now, you like
Speaker 1: I'm not hearing any like visions of the future. And
Speaker 1: I get it, dude, I fucking get I fucking get it.
Speaker 1: That like when you're when you when when your present
Speaker 1: moment is wrapped up in all of this like uh,
Speaker 1: logistical shit and annoying people and like stuff that's like
Speaker 1: just tugging on your fucking central nervous system. It's really
Speaker 1: it's hard to be anywhere other than the annoying bullshit
Speaker 1: that you're dealing with right now. But but you have
Speaker 1: to have some vision because right because right because you're
Speaker 1: buying these two dollars scratch off tickets as like a
Speaker 1: way of like, oh maybe this, maybe I'll make a
Speaker 1: bunch of money and this will get me out of here. Right,
Speaker 1: But that's not like a real plan, you know, Like,
Speaker 1: and I'm and what I'm saying to you is like, like,
Speaker 1: what I'm saying to you is like if you don't
Speaker 1: have even if it, dude, even if it's a fucking
Speaker 1: delusional plan. I mean, winning the lottery is too delusional
Speaker 1: of a plan. But but even if dude, even if
Speaker 1: you fuck even if you told me something insane, even
Speaker 1: if you were like I'm gonna become a famous night
Speaker 1: club singer in Lima, I'd be like, great, that's something,
Speaker 1: you know, even if you told me you were like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna they're making a Laddin two and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: it's my I'm gonna sneak into the Disney a lot
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna do a dance for them, and I'm
Speaker 1: gonna become the new Genie in Aladdin two. I don't,
Speaker 1: I don't know, just something. It give me a stupid
Speaker 1: all right, you know, like just let me fit. It
Speaker 1: can be a stupid, insane thing, but you just gotta
Speaker 1: have something that you're looking to like because right because
Speaker 1: because when this fucking like dude is typing into the
Speaker 1: spreadsheet that you know, farted at two five pm, you're
Speaker 1: you have not you have nothing mentally to go to
Speaker 1: to be like, you know what, I'm not gonna have
Speaker 1: to deal with this when I'm singing in the in
Speaker 1: the jazz lounge in Peru or whatever. Even if it's
Speaker 1: a delusional thing, if it's like a if there's like
Speaker 1: a halfway even kind of maybe sort of pathway to
Speaker 1: whatever delusional idea you have for for the next part
Speaker 1: of your life, just have that. Just have that in
Speaker 1: your mind, because right now you're just in circles because
Speaker 1: the mental energy you're expanding on getting pissed off at
Speaker 1: this guy is like it's just going no way, it's
Speaker 1: going you just you just going in circles.
Speaker 2: Man.
Speaker 1: So like I I, the first step is to just
Speaker 1: have some idea of like where you want your shit
Speaker 1: to go? Do you know what I mean? Do you
Speaker 1: have some idea of where you want your shit to go?
Speaker 1: Because if I'm asking you this question and and and
Speaker 1: and you're like responding not with like some again, if
Speaker 1: you told me some delusional thing of like here's what
Speaker 1: I want to do, I'd be like great. But if
Speaker 1: instead you're like just so deeply deeply, deeply, deeply deeply,
Speaker 1: And I get it's hard. I'm not pretending like it's
Speaker 1: not hard. It's way easier said than done. I totally
Speaker 1: get you, man, But like, do you get do you
Speaker 1: get what I am saying?
Speaker 3: I see what you're saying, And so that's where I
Speaker 3: will go too.
Speaker 2: I'm like, all right, fuck this, I'm like, say, over
Speaker 2: your money and once there are things, once there are
Speaker 2: things over, just look for I've been looking for a
Speaker 2: new job. Just get away from this, because I'm like,
Speaker 2: you're right, because like I am, I could show up
Speaker 2: to work in the worst attitude and I come home
Speaker 2: like emotionally exhausted.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you do.
Speaker 2: So I'm like all right for at this and last
Speaker 2: week we the corporates, the corporation I work at, gave
Speaker 2: out these really nice bonuses, right, and I got mine.
Speaker 2: And that's all I was worried about getting fired from
Speaker 2: because I'm like, if I got fired, I'm not gonna
Speaker 2: get this bonus. And this is the money I was
Speaker 2: gonna set myself up to like go to Lima and
Speaker 2: just coast for a couple of months and just like
Speaker 2: not worry about this. And like if I do freelance work,
Speaker 2: I do freelance work. I'm okay, you know, just serving beer,
Speaker 2: like picking up tables.
Speaker 3: I don't care. Like what happened.
Speaker 1: What happened.
Speaker 2: Well, here's here's my daughther dilemmas. I've been talking to
Speaker 2: this girl and all of a sudden, I'm kind of
Speaker 2: like in a relationship with her now, not trying it
Speaker 2: just it just it's just like it derails the whole
Speaker 2: thing too. Is that?
Speaker 1: Why is that a dilemma?
Speaker 2: Because what about Lima? What about travel in the world
Speaker 2: and seeing everything? You know, where with.
Speaker 1: Ever come with you to Lima. What's she?
Speaker 3: Do you know? I said that I brought that up.
Speaker 2: It's like, you know, what, do you ever thought about
Speaker 2: like just traveling the world for a bit and like
Speaker 2: doing that just for like a couple of months and
Speaker 2: just like coasting and stuff like that. It's like if
Speaker 2: I'm married and I'm like what, it's like you married me.
Speaker 2: I'm like, what, yeah, Like we can't do this as
Speaker 2: a boyfriend. A girlfriend's like no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yep, yep, yep, yep. Yeah, how you said?
Speaker 1: I totally totally really and that no, no, no, no, I
Speaker 1: know I agree with the reality of your situation. It's
Speaker 1: not that I agree with her. There's no there's there was,
Speaker 1: There's no like her. That's like agreeing that the sky
Speaker 1: is blue? Do you know what I mean? Like I okay,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like her wanting that is
Speaker 1: just a fact. I like, whether or not you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like are you I don't. I have
Speaker 1: no comment on whether or not I have no comment
Speaker 1: on the validity of her desire because that's not really relevant.
Speaker 1: But like, that is her desire. That's the fact that
Speaker 1: we're dealing with so I agree with the reality of
Speaker 1: the situation, and so like I mean, yeah, yeah, Now
Speaker 1: you have to be like, all right, do I like
Speaker 1: this lady enough that I want to get fucking married
Speaker 1: to her?
Speaker 2: That yeah, that's where I'm at. So I'm like, all right,
Speaker 2: I'm kind of like a couple of months deep in this.
Speaker 2: I do like her, and she's like really cool and
Speaker 2: I have a great time hanging out with her.
Speaker 3: She's a lot of fun.
Speaker 2: But I'm just like, and I'm just thinking to myself,
Speaker 2: when am I going to see the world?
Speaker 3: When? When? When? Is it? Is this just like a.
Speaker 2: Little dream I'm just gonna like having your like maybe
Speaker 2: one day when I'm sixty five, sixty seven and I'm
Speaker 2: retired or like is this just always a dream or
Speaker 2: something I'm gonna keep on chasing because like little things
Speaker 2: keep on happening in my way.
Speaker 4: Like for it was a dy Okay, that's almost done
Speaker 4: and over with. Now it's this new relationship and I'm
Speaker 4: just like.
Speaker 3: Damn, like what when? When? When? But it's just like
Speaker 3: I just need to have a new dream, you know?
Speaker 4: Is it something else I need to chase?
Speaker 3: After?
Speaker 4: Do I even express like how do we go to
Speaker 4: Like I ask her, like, how would we leave this
Speaker 4: like small town and just go somewhere else? And she's like,
Speaker 4: family's lost here, buddy. If you like me, you like them.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, damn, I'm like I'm really getting double
Speaker 4: down in the city, like like I'm trying to get
Speaker 4: out of it. And I'm just like, seems like everything's.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Robert, I listen in my personal I'm gonna in
Speaker 1: my personal life. I And it's funny because time, like, uh,
Speaker 1: I still believe that I can achieve a life with
Speaker 1: zero problems or compromises. It's a delusionable belief. Some people
Speaker 1: are able to do it. Some people are able to
Speaker 1: do it. It's it's I've met people who've been able to
Speaker 1: achieve a life with uh uh, no problem and no compromises.
Speaker 1: I every year, I'm like, fuck, I'm so close, and
Speaker 1: every year I never get I never get there. I
Speaker 1: never get there. I'll I'll let you know when I'm
Speaker 1: fucking seventy if I ever got there. Always, always, every year,
Speaker 1: every day, every fucking day, Robert, Yeah, every Robert, every
Speaker 1: fucking day, I say to myself, I am so close
Speaker 1: to a life where I have zero problems. I don't
Speaker 1: know if I'll ever get there, but that's my delusional belief.
Speaker 1: That's what keeps me, that keeps me getting out of
Speaker 1: bed in the morning, is that every day I truly
Speaker 1: believe I am so close to a life where I
Speaker 1: have zero problems. I don't know if I'll ever get there,
Speaker 1: but I'm but I believe I will get there. I
Speaker 1: don't know if that's right. I think this is somewhat
Speaker 1: relevant to your situation where it's like just all this shit, right,
Speaker 1: You're like, oh my god, I finally found a lady
Speaker 1: that that I that I like, who likes me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: oh my god, oh my god, oh fuck it finally,
Speaker 1: oh my god. But she but she wants to get
Speaker 1: married and she wants to I can't go to Peru
Speaker 1: and this and the anything. You're like, fuck shit, I
Speaker 1: wanted something perfect and I believe that you can. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I know. It's like I dude, and I don't want
Speaker 1: to tell I don't want to tell you. Here's the thing.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be the one to tell you
Speaker 1: that perfection will never arrive. The reason I don't want
Speaker 1: to be the one that tells you that that perfection
Speaker 1: that like the perfect relationship, the perfect time, will never arrive.
Speaker 1: The reason I don't want to be the one to
Speaker 1: tell you that is because in my personal life, Robert,
Speaker 1: I delusionally still believe that it's coming, and I might
Speaker 1: I might die having never had a perfect era of
Speaker 1: my life. But I don't know. I don't know, so
Speaker 1: I won't be I won't be the one to tell
Speaker 1: you that perfection isn't coming because I just believe it.
Speaker 1: I believe it could. I don't know.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't believe.
Speaker 4: I like to dream like that year. I'm like, next
Speaker 4: year is my year. Next year's my year, and it's
Speaker 4: gonna wait.
Speaker 2: Hold on to the world.
Speaker 3: I'm coming.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna break open and just like have loose.
Speaker 1: Robert. Just go to Robert, Robert, Robert. Just go to Peru, dude,
Speaker 1: Just what Just go just go just go to Peru. Man,
Speaker 1: Just go to fucking Peru. What is all this? Just
Speaker 1: go fuck the fuck the fuck fuck fuck the United
Speaker 1: States government and this lady. And when I just go
Speaker 1: to Peru, man, just ignore all the laws. Fuck reality.
Speaker 1: Fly there with your wings. Just go to Peru.
Speaker 2: Man.
Speaker 1: Nike, just do it, Nike, No fly too high, get
Speaker 1: close to the sun and die. Just go to Peru. Man,
Speaker 1: just just Nike, Just fucking just go to Peru. Man,
Speaker 1: that's all I got for you. Just go to Peru.
Speaker 3: All right? You coming with.
Speaker 1: No, I'm I'm I'm tired. Now I'll go to first
Speaker 1: someday a person on the list. I'll get there. You know,
Speaker 1: life is long, hopefully, Yeah, Robert, is there any Is
Speaker 1: there anything else you want to say to the people
Speaker 1: of the computer before we go?
Speaker 4: No, No, you've heard me rambled all my life and
Speaker 4: all my little problems. Hoopa, I'm not looking hot. Yeah, no, no, Yeah,
Speaker 4: I appreciate it. I do really appreciate this therapy.
Speaker 3: Get go, of course.
Speaker 1: Oh man, I believe Robert. I believe it. I'm I
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I know I said it already, but I
Speaker 1: just I I'm so close to a life with zero problems,
Speaker 1: and I think you are too, And I think everyone is,
Speaker 1: and everyone compromise, everyone is going to remain so close
Speaker 1: the world. It's we're we're micro I'm gonna say some
Speaker 1: crazy we are microcosms of the world, dude. The world
Speaker 1: is always so close to having zero problems. Forever, there's
Speaker 1: always a problem, dude. There's always a fucking There's always
Speaker 1: some fucking lady or guy. There's always some fucking thing.
Speaker 1: There's always some war, some disease, there's it's never But
Speaker 1: we're so close. We're so close to world peace. We're
Speaker 1: so close to a beautiful family with no drama, infinite money,
Speaker 1: fulfilled dreams. World. We're so close, and it'll happen for
Speaker 1: for us and for the universe.
Speaker 2: Robert.
Speaker 1: Maybe we're so close. We're gonna be eternally so close. Okay, Robert,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you go. I'm gonna let you live.
Speaker 2: Your life, all right, appreciate it, all right, have a.
Speaker 1: Good one, Robert, you too.
Speaker 2: Bye.
Speaker 1: We're so close. We're so close.
Speaker 2: Hello, Hey, is this Lyle?
Speaker 1: It is? Who is this?
Speaker 3: No ship?
Speaker 2: This is?
Speaker 3: Let's see?
Speaker 2: Can I go with cool Ranch?
Speaker 1: You can totally go with cool Ranch? Cool Ranch? What's
Speaker 1: going on with you? Dog? How you doing? What'sppen? What
Speaker 1: are you doing? What are you doing right now? What
Speaker 1: are you doing in this very moment? Where are you?
Speaker 1: What's around you?
Speaker 3: Oh? Okay, all right?
Speaker 2: So I just finished Okay, I holy shit, in out chilling.
Speaker 3: I am chilling.
Speaker 2: I just finished watching Shrek two with my family eating peaza.
Speaker 1: Whoa, whoa, Oh you have a good life. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: somebody called somebody calls into this podcast with a good light.
Speaker 1: I love when this happens.
Speaker 3: Good.
Speaker 1: I love when this happens. Okay, Okay, don't listen, don't forget,
Speaker 1: don't forget, please, don't please, don't freak out. You're already doing.
Speaker 3: Start to do.
Speaker 1: Don't freak out. There's no regure out trust me. Okay,
Speaker 1: So you just just what state do you live in?
Speaker 1: What the state of America?
Speaker 2: Washington?
Speaker 1: I live in Washington and Washington State, Washington State. And
Speaker 1: when you say with your family, is this like, who
Speaker 1: who's the family you have?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: Give give me all the family members.
Speaker 2: My step mom and my dad and my dog.
Speaker 1: Ale, your step mom, your dad and your dog?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Why Shrek two? Why not Shrek one? Is Shrek?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Why Shrek two?
Speaker 2: Good question? Well, the first one? I feel like, well,
Speaker 2: why why we were watching it? I guess I saw
Speaker 2: my stem I'm watching it, and I wanted to watch it,
Speaker 2: so I asked to watch it too. But why Shrek two?
Speaker 2: Ober Shrek one? Well, it's better, honestly.
Speaker 1: Really, Shrek? Who is better? Than Shrek One.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would think so. I think it's funnier. I
Speaker 2: think the writing is more clever. I think the jokes
Speaker 2: are more in touch.
Speaker 3: With the time.
Speaker 2: I think they're a little bit they test the waters
Speaker 2: a little more with this one, but not too much.
Speaker 2: They don't go all crazy like they're doing that third
Speaker 2: one they got.
Speaker 1: You know which one is the one with all the babies.
Speaker 2: I want to say that's the third one. I'm pretty sure.
Speaker 3: M m m hmmm. Do you like that one of
Speaker 3: the most?
Speaker 1: No, I haven't seen any of them.
Speaker 2: Oh, you've never seen a single Shrek movie.
Speaker 1: No, I've seen the first one. I don't know why
Speaker 1: I said I've seen the first one the second one.
Speaker 1: I don't know why I said that. Why the hell
Speaker 1: did I say that? Maybe I'm nervous. Okay, yeah, Ranch cool,
Speaker 1: wrench high. Do you have a good relationship? Do you
Speaker 1: have a good relationship with your mom and your stepdad and.
Speaker 2: Your dog fool? No? Yes, and maybe I love my dog.
Speaker 2: My stepdad's a piece of shit, but I don't live
Speaker 2: it to my live with my dad and my step
Speaker 2: mom doesn't exist.
Speaker 3: My sorry.
Speaker 2: My step mom does the gist and she's cool. Oh,
Speaker 2: that was a lot to get that.
Speaker 1: Okay, So in the ranking of who you have the
Speaker 1: best relationship with, between your stepmom, your dad, and your dog, who,
Speaker 1: it sounds like the dog ranks first.
Speaker 3: Honestly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, lo Ki, she's kind of she's yeah, she's the one.
Speaker 1: How's your relationship with your biological dad.
Speaker 2: Good dude, good decent. It's nice, it's healthy. I think
Speaker 2: it is not negative in the way that most people
Speaker 2: would perceive the negative relationship with their father Inald.
Speaker 1: And how about step mom.
Speaker 2: She's cool, she's always just kind of been around, not always,
Speaker 2: but like you know, since I met her, I guess
Speaker 2: and usually go for something. Yeah, My dad's kind of.
Speaker 2: Dad's cool. My dad's cool. He's a good chill you know,
Speaker 2: he's a got a good set of malls. He he
Speaker 2: had me super young. He had me at like twenty,
Speaker 2: so he's always kinda yeah, super young, and he's been
Speaker 2: he had me and then started working. It's kind of
Speaker 2: with Ben since then, just bought his first house and
Speaker 2: I moved up here with and so it's kind of cool.
Speaker 1: And whose idea was it to watch Shrek two?
Speaker 3: Hmm?
Speaker 2: I think my step moms And then I decided to
Speaker 2: join to invite myself rather mm hmmmm.
Speaker 1: And what's how's your step mom? What's her deal?
Speaker 2: She's cool, she's she's the very chill. Whenever I first
Speaker 2: met her, like ten years ago, she and I used
Speaker 2: to watch Adventure Time and Clarence Nice and other child
Speaker 2: you know, car Nice Nice. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3: She's quite a bit younger than my dad, which is interesting.
Speaker 1: But what the is she? What's the what's the what's
Speaker 1: the age gap?
Speaker 2: Let's say its like eight years, nine years or something.
Speaker 2: Oh my dad like forty years pushing forty.
Speaker 1: Your dad's forty one. As a young dude, you guys
Speaker 1: a young dude.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, super super young, super young.
Speaker 1: Cool Ranch, cool, Ranch. They'll be nervous. This is there's nothing,
Speaker 1: this is actually this is the lowest stakes thing.
Speaker 3: Dude.
Speaker 2: You say that, but my body disagrees for some reason.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna find her flight.
Speaker 1: I don't know what did you drive it? Did you
Speaker 1: drive a car? Did you drive a car today?
Speaker 2: I didn't.
Speaker 1: That should have made you so much more nervous than this.
Speaker 1: You could have died.
Speaker 2: Oh if you Yeah, I think about all the time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you fucked that. First of all, there's no
Speaker 1: way to fuck this up. What's going on right now,
Speaker 1: there's no way to fuck it up. And and by
Speaker 1: the way, you probably have in your body and in
Speaker 1: your mind that there is a way to fuck this up.
Speaker 1: And even if you and even if you're abiding by
Speaker 1: the rules of the reality that you have created in
Speaker 1: your body in your mind and you fuck this up
Speaker 1: according to those rules, this zero consequences to that. Okay,
Speaker 1: But in the reality of the universe, which is actually
Speaker 1: a true reality, if you fuck up driving, you will die.
Speaker 1: So that so this is the least this is. This
Speaker 1: is by far and large, by large, the so far
Speaker 1: from being the highest stikes thing that you're doing today.
Speaker 1: But anyway, let me ask you this cool ranch and
Speaker 1: it's okay. If not, it's okay. If not, it is
Speaker 1: there anything? Is there any particular reason why you called today?
Speaker 2: Oh well, I mean I have like a thing I
Speaker 2: could talk or do your question thing. I feel like
Speaker 2: you're a really good conversationalist, so would mine is talking
Speaker 2: about whatever I did call initially about my relationship at
Speaker 2: the moment, I guess yes.
Speaker 1: You texted me you said I wanted to call to
Speaker 1: ask for advice to fix my relationship where everything is
Speaker 1: awesome and then you will and then you wrote have
Speaker 1: a good night exclamation point, which was very nice. Tell
Speaker 1: me about your relationship the ranch.
Speaker 2: Oh, it's so good. I'm dating this person. They're awesome.
Speaker 2: I mean, there's not a whole ton to say except
Speaker 2: they're awesome. Like I like spending time with them. They
Speaker 2: make me comfortable, they comfort me. They they bring me
Speaker 2: happiness and bring them happiness. It's very equal and back
Speaker 2: and forth. And I don't I don't see anything wrong
Speaker 2: with it at all. But I guess what I need
Speaker 2: fixing is, hmm, I fear I might have conditioned myself
Speaker 2: to expect like more from a relationship, and so like, internally,
Speaker 2: I find myself looking at the future a lot and
Speaker 2: not being sure about it. But then with that fear,
Speaker 2: I come back to the present and I find a
Speaker 2: reason to be scared. And so I'm wondering if there's
Speaker 2: like something internally wrong that I've just yet to see
Speaker 2: with the relationship, or if there's more that I'm not seeing.
Speaker 1: You know, that's fucking deep. Cool, Ranch, Let's get into
Speaker 1: this a right, Okay. You say you have conditioned yourself
Speaker 1: to expect more from your relationships. Yeah, what can you
Speaker 1: can you go into what you mean by that?
Speaker 2: Well, I mean beyond the things that society does twist
Speaker 2: condition us to have certain, in my opinion, unrealistic expectations
Speaker 2: for relationships, Like internally, you know, there are hopes in
Speaker 2: comparisons that I make subconsciously from my current relationship to
Speaker 2: past relationships where I see people and I I'm like, well,
Speaker 2: there's this that's good, there's this is good, but there's
Speaker 2: this bad thing that's I don't know, it wasn't as
Speaker 2: bad as this this other person or what this other
Speaker 2: person did, but it's still there, you know, notice it
Speaker 2: or maybe there's maybe it's not really that bad, or
Speaker 2: maybe they're so good it's like but there could be more,
Speaker 2: or I don't know, all those maybees, all those like
Speaker 2: like where do I draw the lines like it's good enough?
Speaker 3: Chill?
Speaker 1: Okay, yea, but yeah, yeah, and you're you're twenty.
Speaker 2: Right, twenty one?
Speaker 1: Okay, where do you draw the line for it's good enough? Well,
Speaker 1: tell me this. First of all, you're really smart. You're
Speaker 1: a really smart guy because you've identical. Some people never
Speaker 1: identify that that you do have to actually draw that line.
Speaker 1: Some people I get so, I you know, uh, it's
Speaker 1: not it's not it's not terrifying. It's OK, it's trust me,
Speaker 1: it's not terrifying. And actually kind of similar to the
Speaker 1: previous caller. Uh, and the themes of the previous caller.
Speaker 1: I know you didn't hear the previous caller, but it's
Speaker 1: for the folks listen to the show. Similar to the
Speaker 1: previous caller, there is this thing of feeling like, oh,
Speaker 1: things are always so close to perfect, and they're of
Speaker 1: course never going to be and you have to kind
Speaker 1: of in relationships, I feel like you have to you
Speaker 1: you you have to settle. Some people get really fucking lucky.
Speaker 1: And they and they and they have to settle on nothing.
Speaker 1: And they're completely aligned in every aspect important and unimportant,
Speaker 1: and they're crazy sexually attracted to each other and they
Speaker 1: have a great sex life and they and they do
Speaker 1: everything that they want to with each other, and they
Speaker 1: and they and they live and they live in ex
Speaker 1: like a perfectly aligned life and all of their interests
Speaker 1: and all of their lifestyles and you know that happens. Sure,
Speaker 1: sure that exists. I don't know, you know what else
Speaker 1: exists is like you know fucking some people have a
Speaker 1: billion dollars and something like whatever, but like most of
Speaker 1: the most relationship but it's not but look, but look,
Speaker 1: it's it's okay, it's okay if that's not you, you know,
Speaker 1: So what I'm saying, Okay, So you're smart to have identified.
Speaker 1: You're really smart to have identified at the age of
Speaker 1: twenty because, by the way, I'm realizing that I'm twenty eight,
Speaker 1: I'm realizing this in my life now, you know. So yeah,
Speaker 1: like you're you, you got a good head start on
Speaker 1: the realization that nothing will ever be perfect, and you
Speaker 1: do at some point have to look at a relationship
Speaker 1: and go what am I willing to put up with?
Speaker 1: And ask yourself that question and make and you have
Speaker 1: to bargain, and you have to compromise, and you have
Speaker 1: to go well, and like I, you have to look
Speaker 1: deep in your gut and say, what am I willing
Speaker 1: to put up with about the things I do not
Speaker 1: like about this person? Things I do not like about
Speaker 1: this relationship in exchange for the beautiful things that I
Speaker 1: love about And you have to make that decision. And
Speaker 1: you're really fucking smart to have identified. Even the fact
Speaker 1: that you have to make that decision.
Speaker 2: So that's let's I feel like I'm playing with like
Speaker 2: a like a human soul. I don't want to like
Speaker 2: make the decision, just come to like like I don't know,
Speaker 2: Like ideally, you know, I stick with this person and
Speaker 2: it works out, but that's not always how life works out.
Speaker 2: And if it doesn't work out that way, like will
Speaker 2: I have been doing a disservice to have known that
Speaker 2: that could have been a possibility without taking action.
Speaker 1: I mean, let's talk about lets talk abou let' talk
Speaker 1: about it. Let's talk about that. What why do you
Speaker 1: feel like you're doing a disservice to this other person?
Speaker 2: Well, because if this, if this person is in it
Speaker 2: for the long run, like for sure, like that's like
Speaker 2: where they're placing their bets and and I'm just here
Speaker 2: because it's good right now and I don't know, I
Speaker 2: don't know if it's going to be good long term then,
Speaker 2: like I don't know. I feel like that's a different
Speaker 2: different give It's not like it isn't secretly equal.
Speaker 1: I know what you mean, and I know what you mean,
Speaker 1: and I would be lying to you if I said
Speaker 1: I had a good answer for that, I'd be lying
Speaker 1: to you if I said I had a good answer
Speaker 1: for that. But I can talk with you about what's missing.
Speaker 2: What's missing? I really couldn't tell you. It doesn't feel
Speaker 2: like anything's missing.
Speaker 3: It's just I don't know. I get.
Speaker 2: I get thoughts sometimes about like like I compare unfairly,
Speaker 2: I would say, and I I don't.
Speaker 3: Have like wandering eyes.
Speaker 2: I don't I don't see anybody else, and like, oh,
Speaker 2: I wish I was with them, because I really, like,
Speaker 2: I genuinely caerish what I have now, but part part
Speaker 2: of me does think, like like what if with people
Speaker 2: that don't exist, Like if I'll see somebody's face and
Speaker 2: I'll map it onto like a character that's like my
Speaker 2: current partner.
Speaker 1: But like yeah.
Speaker 2: Like a little bit this way, that way or whatever,
Speaker 2: I don't know, And you're like, good.
Speaker 1: These are not these are these are these are pretty
Speaker 1: natural feelings that are these are pretty These are pretty
Speaker 1: natural feelings that are uncomfortable to have, but they're worth
Speaker 1: like working through and accepting that you have them, and
Speaker 1: like coming to this kind of acceptance about it. Is
Speaker 1: this like a physical thing? Is it? Like you like
Speaker 1: you're walking around and you see other like pretty girls
Speaker 1: and you're like, what would it be like to be
Speaker 1: with like that pretty girl, or what would be like
Speaker 1: to be like with that pretty girl.
Speaker 2: Well, pretty pretty anybody, to be honest, I mean, it's
Speaker 2: not like it's a little bit recent that I've kind
Speaker 2: of discovered that I'm like kind of into both sides
Speaker 2: of the spectrum. But I've only ever gotten to experience
Speaker 2: feeding women, and so I guess that's part of it too,
Speaker 2: Like maybe I'm a little bit curious about the other
Speaker 2: gender or okay that I think there's so much that
Speaker 2: I haven't experienced. So it's just like, yeah, anything.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the gender thing kind of go ahead.
Speaker 2: I was just gonna say, I'm almost scared because I
Speaker 2: feel like I've found the person too early, Like I
Speaker 2: still want to see what there is, but I know
Speaker 2: that like if I see that, like to any person
Speaker 2: in relationships, like it's probably not going to come back
Speaker 2: to that.
Speaker 1: You know, I understand because you're like, I mean twenty
Speaker 1: twenty one is like I understand you wanting to be like,
Speaker 1: oh what else is out there? Also, like look if
Speaker 1: you were just like if you were just like like
Speaker 1: you know, straight, and you were like looking at other
Speaker 1: pretty girls, like what would we like to be that
Speaker 1: with everything? Go that that that's yeah, it opens up
Speaker 1: a whole new can of worms if you're really are
Speaker 1: out here being like, oh, I think I might have
Speaker 1: unlocked a z axis to my sexuality and I want
Speaker 1: to explore what's what's going on? What's going on in there?
Speaker 1: That's that's that's you know, I'm no expert in in
Speaker 1: in in this, but that's like kind of a legitimate thing,
Speaker 1: and those are legitimate like thoughts and questions. And I
Speaker 1: think that if if is that is that a big
Speaker 1: part of it? Is it like I want to see
Speaker 1: what it'd be like to like be with dudes.
Speaker 2: It with I mean honestly, yeah, like partially I think
Speaker 2: it's it's even I wouldn't say it's like more so one.
Speaker 3: Way or the other.
Speaker 2: It's just I just want to I mean, that's just
Speaker 2: like a whole fifty percent that I haven't seen at
Speaker 2: the at the least, let alone. What else is on
Speaker 2: the feminine present anxiety? You know what I mean? Mm hmmm.
Speaker 1: Mmmm mmm.
Speaker 2: I don't know if I'm really looking to us for
Speaker 2: like an answered per se, Like I understand that there's
Speaker 2: some things that just come with time, I do worry
Speaker 2: about the moral dilemma of like how long do I
Speaker 2: wait with these feelings before I do something about it?
Speaker 2: And what is the something before it before it becomes
Speaker 2: like an intentionally gross action, like I've done it before.
Speaker 2: We're like, I'll be dating somebody, but I know I'm
Speaker 2: not going to be with them for forever, and so
Speaker 2: I hold on to it until I feel like it's right,
Speaker 2: and then I break up with them, and then it's
Speaker 2: just the I feel terrible because I don't really want
Speaker 2: to be broken up with and they don't really want
Speaker 2: to be broken up with. But it was a long
Speaker 2: time coming, and and then they ask like, well, how
Speaker 2: long is you know? And I'm like, well, this long, and.
Speaker 3: Then that just makes it worse.
Speaker 2: So like, I can't say that this time around, if
Speaker 2: I even get to that point, Because.
Speaker 1: What's your level of communication like with this person in
Speaker 1: terms of your internal models?
Speaker 2: Pretty solid? I mean, like I said, we have a
Speaker 2: very healthy relationship, so I don't worry about talking to
Speaker 2: them so much. But there has been a worry for
Speaker 2: me bringing this up in particular because they've been kind
Speaker 2: of insecure regarding how do you call it saying loyal
Speaker 2: like loyalty. There's this person and her friend group who
Speaker 2: has been kind of throwing googly ads at me, and
Speaker 2: I just really noticed early on, and so those signals
Speaker 2: were received in a way that didn't paint me or
Speaker 2: them in a good light. And so I've been kind
Speaker 2: of working to be like, no, like, it's not like that,
Speaker 2: Like I don't like this other person, I don't have
Speaker 2: I'm not interested in them, I'm not cheating on you,
Speaker 2: none of that. Like I like you and I want
Speaker 2: to be with you, and that's the truth, Like that's
Speaker 2: not different. But then having that happening while I'm having
Speaker 2: these emotions makes it really hard for me to bring
Speaker 2: up because it's just gonna verify their current fears. Like
Speaker 2: I knew he was thinking about other people and that
Speaker 2: kind of thing, you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's
Speaker 2: just like that's not like that, you know, mm hmm.
Speaker 1: Well yeah, yeah, no, I mean you have these are
Speaker 1: these are I don't I don't have a good answer
Speaker 1: for a lot of these feelings, But I do think
Speaker 1: it's smart that you've identified the fact that you do
Speaker 1: have to at some point, like be able to look
Speaker 1: at your current relationship and be like, is this enough
Speaker 1: for me, Am I willing to sacrifice because sometimes because
Speaker 1: it'll it'll come easy to your gut, I think, like
Speaker 1: it'll it'll come easy for you to be like it
Speaker 1: at a certain point, I think. I think in certain
Speaker 1: relationships it comes easy for for one to be like, like,
Speaker 1: look at the relationship and and be like and also
Speaker 1: to be honest, man like. And this is coming from
Speaker 1: like my this is coming from like my personal thoughts
Speaker 1: and feelings with this. As you get because you're you know,
Speaker 1: you're younger, like twenty one, Like, as you get older,
Speaker 1: it becomes a lot easier to be able to like
Speaker 1: look at someone and be like I would rather put
Speaker 1: because like, okay, playing the field, let's call it being
Speaker 1: single and dating takes a lot of fucking energy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it.
Speaker 1: Takes a lot of energy. And like, I think at
Speaker 1: a certain point, you should be able to look at
Speaker 1: your relationship and be like, I would joyfully rather take
Speaker 1: all of the fucking energy that playing the field takes,
Speaker 1: and I would joyfully, joyfully rather put it into developing
Speaker 1: my relationship with this specific person. And you should be
Speaker 1: able to make that decision pretty easily, I think, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. So you should be able to
Speaker 1: make that decision pretty easily, and you should be able
Speaker 1: to look.
Speaker 3: At like.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And I personally I believe that that decision gets
Speaker 1: a little easier as you get older and if you
Speaker 1: find the first make them. So yeah, those are my
Speaker 1: thoughts on the situation.
Speaker 2: Absolutely good thoughts, good thoughts in time, I guess on the.
Speaker 1: Cool Ranch, is there anything else you want to say
Speaker 1: to the people of the computer before we go?
Speaker 2: Oh boy, I don't know, Thanks loud, I've been listening
Speaker 2: to you for a long time.
Speaker 1: Man.
Speaker 2: The first time I called I was like sixteen, which
Speaker 2: I know, I know, I that's not supposed to it's
Speaker 2: a little rule breaker or whatever. But anyways, you're a
Speaker 2: cool guy. So thanks for doing what you're doing. And
Speaker 2: I guess the people in the universe keep being water man,
Speaker 2: just react to the universe or should it comes to you,
Speaker 2: the present yourself.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you, Cool Ranch. I appreciate you, and
Speaker 1: good luck man.
Speaker 2: Thank you all you're sick.
Speaker 3: I have a going then.
Speaker 1: Second Ranch, Bye bye, Well folks. That is the end
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Speaker 1: We laughed, we learned, we loved, we had a good time.
Speaker 1: I liked those two callers, I did. They touched upon
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Speaker 1: so long? And it's like, well, because it's you know,
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