WEBVTT - “SHE IS AWESOME & I GOT A DUI” 0:00:02.480 --> 0:00:04.320 Oh, what's up man? What's your name? 0:00:04.640 --> 0:00:04.800 Oh? 0:00:05.000 --> 0:00:05.840 Just therapy? Get go? 0:00:06.600 --> 0:00:08.320 Yeah? Wait, who did you think it was? A? Hold on? 0:00:08.400 --> 0:00:12.280 In like in the two seconds where you were like, hey, hello, Like, 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:13.520 who did you think it was? 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:15.720 I don't know. 0:00:16.440 --> 0:00:18.640 I was like, well, I was texting a friend and 0:00:18.800 --> 0:00:21.160 I don't know, and I didn't recognize the number. 0:00:21.600 --> 0:00:24.400 I was like, hold on, I just by the way 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:26.079 I told I'm not saying that to be a dick. 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:31.400 I'm genuinely curious because most people don't like just pick 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:34.720 up for random numbers. I assume you picked up because 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:37.600 you knew it was me. Like if I get a 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:39.600 random number, I don't really like pick okay. But but 0:00:39.720 --> 0:00:43.040 in that, in that moment, you did. 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:44.080 Yeah, that's why a double text. 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:48.960 It's like therapy, get like okay. 0:00:47.600 --> 0:00:49.920 Okay, so it's double check. You had an inkling. It 0:00:49.960 --> 0:00:52.000 wasn't just like you're not just going with the flow 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:53.880 of your life. 0:00:54.200 --> 0:00:56.160 No, I wish I was like that. I can't. 0:00:56.720 --> 0:00:57.800 Why can't you be like that? 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:01.640 I care too much? 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:04.120 Man, can't can't be answering the phone for like strangers 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:06.680 to dude, Like, you gotta keep something in private. 0:01:06.400 --> 0:01:06.560 You know? 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:13.400 Yeah? I feel you? What's your name, I'll just go 0:01:13.440 --> 0:01:19.360 by Robert. Robert Robert. You texted me a few things. Well, okay, 0:01:19.360 --> 0:01:21.560 you texted me a year ago and you said, I 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:24.039 went on a date a few days ago and I 0:01:24.080 --> 0:01:27.320 got a rejection text. This was a year ago. This 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:30.720 is fourteen months ago. Actually, I went on a date 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:32.959 a few days ago and I got a rejection text. 0:01:33.000 --> 0:01:36.800 And I'm not sure how to handle it. How did 0:01:36.840 --> 0:01:37.280 you handle it? 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:41.280 Well, there's that, but that's that's a year ago. Who 0:01:41.319 --> 0:01:42.000 cares about that? 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:44.080 I want to talk about like, well, I. 0:01:44.040 --> 0:01:46.400 Guess I need more advice about like my current situation 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:49.640 about like what did you about this guy at work 0:01:49.680 --> 0:01:51.120 that just keep on halfling me? 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:56.080 Wait, just real quick, what happened with that date? What 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:58.240 did you do about the text? 0:01:58.920 --> 0:02:01.160 No, it was just a wee your text? Okay, so 0:02:01.400 --> 0:02:04.440 I guess just the recap about that. Yeah, a year 0:02:04.480 --> 0:02:06.680 ago had been around this time. I was like, yeah, 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:09.120 around this time, arou on February. So I'm about this 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:12.600 girl on like a dating app and not gonna lie. 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:14.639 I was like one of those freaky dee dating apps. 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:16.399 I think it was like Field and stuff like that. 0:02:16.960 --> 0:02:20.520 So I'm just like, all right, let's go out, and 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:24.840 I'm just like okay. So we go out right and 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:28.520 we're clicking, we're viving, we're talking, and we talked so 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:31.000 much we didn't eat the food. So we went out 0:02:31.040 --> 0:02:34.400 to this like Columbian restaurant. She's like, she's like one 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:36.280 of those white girls that are like obsessed with like 0:02:36.320 --> 0:02:39.640 speaking Spanish and learned Spanish and she just like solfa 0:02:39.760 --> 0:02:42.320 dancing and butchata and all that. So she's like one 0:02:42.320 --> 0:02:43.520 of those you know what I. 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:48.200 Mean, Okay, all right, so I speak Spanish, so I'm like, 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:51.839 all right, I'll smoot her up with my Spanish. We're 0:02:51.919 --> 0:02:54.560 talking and we're getting to you don't know each other, 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:56.440 and she tells you a lot about her family, what 0:02:56.520 --> 0:03:01.799 she's going to and she like tells me like, oh, 0:03:01.800 --> 0:03:04.680 I'm actually leaving in to go live in Argentina for 0:03:04.760 --> 0:03:07.480 like for a year or two, this and that, and I'm. 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:13.000 Just like all right, all right, cool. And it wasn't 0:03:13.280 --> 0:03:18.480 like I think the rejection bothered me so much because 0:03:18.680 --> 0:03:23.200 it was more about we. I even asked like, oh, 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:25.000 we should go on a second date or anything like that. 0:03:25.080 --> 0:03:26.799 I'm like, hey, you should just keep in touch. I 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:29.520 think you're super cool, and just like we could be 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:33.680 friends and if you're back in my hometown, let's reconnect 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:36.640 and just kick it just like neutral, Like I think 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:38.680 you're just a cool person overall. No, I mean just 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:42.800 like as a romantic partner, possibly we're just like, you're 0:03:42.800 --> 0:03:43.520 a cool person. 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:47.720 And she gave me the weirdest response ever. 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:51.280 It was just like, nah, I just don't feel the 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:52.520 chemistry or connection with you. 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:56.240 Did you do you eat your food? 0:03:56.320 --> 0:03:59.160 You shut up this whole time? Like, did you? 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:02.080 I saw you put your whole plate and it's a 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:05.360 go bag and I'm like, this bit chalky funked up? 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:13.760 Holda wait what I'm confused to the equivalency here? What 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:17.039 is it? What do you mean by oh, you're saying 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:19.560 she talked the whole time and you didn't get to 0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:22.960 say anything, and so she's like and so you're saying no, no, 0:04:23.120 --> 0:04:27.320 Just so, you're saying that she put her food into 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:29.960 to go bag, which means she was talking so much 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:33.839 that she didn't even touch her food, and by that proxy, 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:37.880 she didn't even let you express yourself enough to tell 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:40.919 whether or not she liked you. That's what you're saying. I. 0:04:41.120 --> 0:04:43.880 Well, I took this off as like we had such 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:47.040 a great time. We talked so much, we didn't really 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:49.279 eat our food. We just talked for like two hours 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:52.520 to the restaurant closed. And I'm like, is not is 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:53.320 that not a connection? 0:04:54.800 --> 0:04:58.240 No, No, it's totally not. It's totally not at all, 0:04:58.800 --> 0:05:01.160 totally not at all. Well that's to think about. Let's see, 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:06.520 here's the thing about dating is dating is horrible. It's 0:05:07.040 --> 0:05:10.480 it's horrible and don't and it's horrible for men and 0:05:10.520 --> 0:05:16.359 women for kind of like there's certain there's certain reasons 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:18.200 why it's horrible for men and women that are like 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:20.320 in the Venn diagram of like why it's horrible for 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:22.120 men and why it's terrible for women. There's actually a 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:24.320 lot in the middle, I think. But one of the 0:05:24.320 --> 0:05:28.600 reasons why it's horrible is this thing of like you 0:05:28.680 --> 0:05:38.360 really can't go into uh a situation having any expectations 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:42.480 at all. It's crazy, but it's a little true, do 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:44.800 you know, Like like like you can go out with 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:47.440 someone and you can have a great conversation with them 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:51.640 for three hours and keep hanging out. And if you 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:55.600 interpret that as we had a good connection, they probably 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:59.880 want to see me again. You you've you've you've fucked yourself. 0:06:00.720 --> 0:06:00.919 You know. 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:04.279 It's a weird thing because it doesn't auto and it 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:10.480 really it never automatically means like I've and and listen, listen. 0:06:10.880 --> 0:06:17.160 It doesn't mean that you are a hideously ugly, boring 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:20.720 person all it. It could mean a lot of different things. 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:25.599 Like I mean, I was I was talking to some 0:06:26.440 --> 0:06:29.960 friends of mine and they were like, uh, like this 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:31.159 girl was like, oh, I went on a date with 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:33.320 this guy last night. You know, we hung out for 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:36.680 two hours. Uh. He was nice, he was cool, we 0:06:36.800 --> 0:06:39.360 chatted a lot. But I'm like, I don't know if 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:43.520 I really need to see him again. You know, like 0:06:43.640 --> 0:06:47.239 that's that's and that's just what what do you mean? Damn, 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:51.960 that's life. It's like you can sit and have a Yeah, 0:06:52.000 --> 0:06:53.880 you can sit and have a conversation with someone. For 0:06:54.040 --> 0:06:55.640 I feel that way about a lot. I feel that 0:06:55.680 --> 0:07:00.600 way about In fact, the majority of people, frankly is 0:07:00.720 --> 0:07:04.400 I could sit and have a conversation. There's bro there's 0:07:04.440 --> 0:07:09.520 such a big difference between Okay, I had a nice 0:07:09.600 --> 0:07:13.960 night with this person, uh for you know, three hours 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:17.960 and whatnot. We had a fun time, but like, do 0:07:18.040 --> 0:07:20.680 I need to do it again? Do I need this 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:24.320 person to be a recurring part of my life. That 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:27.320 that's a big jump. You know, that's a big You're 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:31.600 that's a big jump, right, Like she got this this 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:36.040 woman who you went on this date with, she got 0:07:36.240 --> 0:07:39.640 enough of you for the rest of her entire life, 0:07:39.800 --> 0:07:42.360 which is which says nothing about you. It says nothing. 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:44.120 It really does. It says nothing about you. I swear 0:07:44.240 --> 0:07:46.800 my life, I'm not it says nothing about you. It 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:52.640 says it's just like you know, she got I. 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:55.280 Get it. 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:59.440 I feel that, dude. I feel like way about people 0:07:59.440 --> 0:08:05.920 that I love. I really to Like there's certain because life, 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:06.760 how old are you? 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:10.440 I'm thirty, You're thirty. 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:14.600 Oh you're thirty, dude, you're thirty. You understand that? 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:16.280 Like, oh, I understand. 0:08:16.440 --> 0:08:18.680 I totally know what you mean. Like I see I 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:19.400 had enough of you. 0:08:19.440 --> 0:08:21.520 I see enough of you, which is totally true. There's 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:23.200 like some friends I have that's like I'll see them 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:26.240 like once every other month because like I can't do 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:29.600 back to back weekends with them because I'm. 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:31.520 Like, yeah, I got you, I got enough of you. 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:33.480 Yeah, But I don't know. 0:08:33.720 --> 0:08:36.880 As I gotten older, I just I like to give 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:38.680 I know, the whole like. 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:40.480 Having no expectations. I've done that. 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:43.040 It's like, yeah, go into it the open mind, no expectations, 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:45.600 don't assume anything. But now I'm just like more of 0:08:45.679 --> 0:08:49.960 like no one ever presents themselves their best the first time, 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:54.040 maybe the second time, And I feel like I try 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:59.600 to give people multiple rounds to like, see what's up 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:02.880 I'm saying, so I usually go with at least a 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:05.880 two date, three date. Then I just kind of fear 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:08.439 it out, like all right, is this person pursuing or 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:09.280 not pursuing. 0:09:09.760 --> 0:09:10.720 I'm more like I. 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:14.400 Give people, you know, a working interview, you know what 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:15.360 I'm saying, just like. 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:21.000 And you know what, and you know what that I believe. 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:24.240 I believe that that's a good process. I really do. 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:28.840 That's a good process that probably works for you. That's 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:31.920 not her process, this this lady, because because that's also 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:34.040 this lady. Right, how old is this lady? 0:09:34.679 --> 0:09:34.880 Yeah? 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:41.319 Yeah, this lady. Yeah, but this lady is like going 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:44.120 to art. This lady's it seems like she's in a 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:46.920 different place from you, right, she's going to Argentina for 0:09:46.960 --> 0:09:49.839 a year. Like she's not like, uh, you're kind of 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:51.560 over here. It sounds like being like, oh, I'd like 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:55.920 to like find a real connection and build something together. 0:09:56.559 --> 0:10:01.200 And she yeah, yeah, yeah, and she's like, well, that's cool, 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:04.320 nice to meet you. I'm going to motherfucking Argentina for 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:06.280 a year because I don't want That's not what I 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:08.560 want to do. I want to dick around and I 0:10:08.600 --> 0:10:10.360 want to fucking saucid. I want to do all this 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:14.000 stuff right. So there's no there's like, you have to 0:10:14.080 --> 0:10:16.920 understand that. I just want you to understand something. You 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:21.839 have to understand logically that this woman has that. You 0:10:21.880 --> 0:10:25.320 just have to understand logically you have no this this 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:29.400 one has no room in her life for you first 0:10:29.440 --> 0:10:33.400 and then second, and most importantly, understand that this woman 0:10:33.440 --> 0:10:36.720 having no room in her life for you says nothing 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:39.040 about who you are as a human being. 0:10:41.400 --> 0:10:45.480 I see what you're saying, like I shouldn't like, hey, 0:10:45.520 --> 0:10:47.559 I guess I shouldn't. I guess I'm taking from it 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:50.679 is like I shouldn't hold this stranger's opinion or like 0:10:51.600 --> 0:10:54.280 her not being interested me so much it affects my 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:55.360 life and said to like. 0:10:55.400 --> 0:10:59.520 No, okay, even okay, even what you just said is 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:01.720 king into the fact that you don't understand, you don't 0:11:01.720 --> 0:11:02.679 get what I'm saying. 0:11:03.679 --> 0:11:05.280 All right, let's break it. Break it down for me. 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:07.240 Okay, let'll break it down for you. Okay, here's what 0:11:07.280 --> 0:11:10.040 you just said. You said, I'm taking in her saying 0:11:10.080 --> 0:11:14.600 she's not interested in me or she doesn't like me. Right, 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:18.240 she might, she might like you, she might think you're 0:11:18.280 --> 0:11:26.360 a nice guy, she might think you're cute enough whatever. Right, yeah, 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:29.200 but you you have no room in her life. Even 0:11:29.200 --> 0:11:33.240 the fact that you're even what you just said is 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:36.000 is indicating you don't understand what I'm what I'm telling you. 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:39.600 Okay, Okay, I see what you're saying. It's like I 0:11:39.679 --> 0:11:42.679 understand now. I feel like, yeah, in her point, at 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:44.640 that point of time in her life, she had a 0:11:44.640 --> 0:11:47.720 lot of other plans to go Argentina, and I did 0:11:47.760 --> 0:11:51.640 not make sense in that situation itself, Bustle. 0:11:51.720 --> 0:11:53.560 You know what, the funniest thing about this is the 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:56.160 way you're talking about this woman. I'm getting from you 0:11:56.559 --> 0:11:58.480 that you don't even like this lady. 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:02.040 Well, it was just like, well, this was a year ago. 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:04.160 This I really did like her because I thought she 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:06.120 was so cool. You know, we had a lot of 0:12:06.120 --> 0:12:08.360 things in common, a lot of similar like ways or 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:12.840 raised and have a similal background. The only difference is like, 0:12:12.840 --> 0:12:15.000 like I guess like some things. I thought it was 0:12:15.000 --> 0:12:16.000 super cool about that bitch. 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:23.400 I mean, this girl is a you know, I just 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:24.200 had that happen. 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:25.840 I was talking to my sister about this, Like we 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:28.920 call everyone bitches. They were like, yeah, we just say 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:30.600 everyone's a bitch and just call them the bitches. 0:12:30.679 --> 0:12:33.080 And just like it just rolls off the tongue. It 0:12:33.120 --> 0:12:38.439 just sounds so much better, you know. Okay, that's just me, 0:12:38.600 --> 0:12:41.960 that's me. My sister just do it though. So so this. 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:45.040 Girl, right, she just like was doing everything I wish 0:12:45.120 --> 0:12:50.280 I was doing with my life, so to speak. Science, right, 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:54.240 we have these science backgrounds, but and like in the 0:12:54.280 --> 0:12:56.720 past couple of years, I really got into cooking and 0:12:56.840 --> 0:13:00.400 just like trying your recipes and getting you fancy pot cookbooks. 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:01.480 And just like really developing that. 0:13:01.720 --> 0:13:04.920 And her what she did at her job was like 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:11.160 create recipes or like help companies fortify a recipe. And 0:13:11.440 --> 0:13:14.440 I thought that was the coolest thing ever. And she 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:17.080 was like telling me all this like crazy food science 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:19.719 about it and like how things are bonded together and 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:23.720 like the reactions, and I thought it was just like why, 0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:28.080 like certain like ingredients go together to and tench spy, 0:13:28.160 --> 0:13:29.520 certain flavors get some more. 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:30.320 Ooh mommy out of it. 0:13:30.960 --> 0:13:34.360 And I just thought like, Wow, you're so amazing, so cool, 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:37.079 and that's why I'm like, I really just wanted to 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:39.760 be your friend at that point too. I'm like, even 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:43.520 if anything just thing pan out romantically, she's going off 0:13:43.559 --> 0:13:46.960 to another country, right, I thought she was just that 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:47.839 cool of a person. 0:13:47.960 --> 0:13:48.200 You know. 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:52.439 It's like, Wow, I wish I was doing half the 0:13:52.480 --> 0:13:54.800 stuff you were doing. I've been wanting to go live 0:13:54.800 --> 0:13:56.840 in another country for a while, you know. 0:13:56.920 --> 0:14:00.560 I didn't think about going down to like through or 0:14:00.640 --> 0:14:04.640 like just living there for a year or two as well. 0:14:04.960 --> 0:14:06.720 And my whole that was my plan to save up 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:08.640 some money and just like go down to Lima and 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:11.400 stay there for the winner. I mean, it would be 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:13.880 somewhere down there and just avoid a whole year without 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:16.320 no no snow, you know, no winner. 0:14:16.559 --> 0:14:19.960 That's an amazing Okay, so I'm dream. 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:23.520 Okay, I'm gonna stop you. There two things. I forget 0:14:23.520 --> 0:14:27.200 the first one, but oh wait, no, I remember the 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:29.960 both now. Okay. Also, by the way, just see you, 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:31.880 I mean listen, just at the age of thirty. You 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:36.080 should know this only because like this is just this 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:39.680 is just like an examination of the finiteness of life 0:14:39.840 --> 0:14:45.400 and time. It's kind of it's interesting, right because asking 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:49.560 when you ask someone to be romantically involved with you, 0:14:50.640 --> 0:14:55.040 especially on like a committed level, you're asking them for everything. 0:14:56.280 --> 0:14:59.600 And even if you're asking someone to be friends with them, 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:03.640 you're asking that you're kind of asking them for a lot. 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:06.920 Do you know I don't think. Yes, I do actually 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:10.040 believe I actually do believe that. Yes, I do believe that. 0:15:10.360 --> 0:15:12.400 Why why wouldn't friends be a load steaks? 0:15:12.760 --> 0:15:15.080 There's like friends, friends aren't really low stakes. 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:20.080 I mean, there's acquaintances and there's like French, there's real friendships. 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:22.600 I would say, somebody who depend on lean on and 0:15:22.640 --> 0:15:25.440 you really seek out their companionship. 0:15:25.440 --> 0:15:26.400 That is a real friendship. 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:29.800 But just even like a bystander like no I had, 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:33.120 like that one friend that comes every once in a while. 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:37.360 To the cookout every so often, you know, and you still. 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:38.960 Consider them a friend, but there are more of an acquaintance. 0:15:39.040 --> 0:15:40.480 And that's why I think I want it to be 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:42.760 just more like at that. 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:46.880 Point, I have I have dear friends. I consider them 0:15:46.920 --> 0:15:50.240 dear friends. I haven't spoken to them in like two years. 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:53.360 They're my friends. We like each other's whatever on on 0:15:53.360 --> 0:15:57.680 on poop Graham and all that stuff. Maybe you respond 0:15:57.720 --> 0:16:00.600 to a story or whatever, but it's just like I 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:05.920 don't know. It's it's like this woman, this woman seems 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:10.160 very very like like busy doing stuff but also with you. 0:16:11.240 --> 0:16:13.240 What is the what is what's going on here? This 0:16:13.320 --> 0:16:19.640 is a new development that I'm getting no hold on. 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:21.960 This is what but what's going on? This is a 0:16:22.000 --> 0:16:25.600 new development where it's like you're jealous of this lady's life. 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:28.720 This lady jealousy is like is actually kind of like 0:16:28.760 --> 0:16:31.280 a good compass for like, oh, where should I be 0:16:31.320 --> 0:16:34.840 putting my energy? Because you you'll you'll kind of notice 0:16:34.920 --> 0:16:38.920 like when you're when you're like really aligned in your 0:16:39.240 --> 0:16:40.720 in how you're like living your day to day, you 0:16:40.800 --> 0:16:43.800 really you really don't look at other people's lives. So 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:45.440 let me ask you this. You're you were jealous of 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:47.920 this lady because she was doing all this cool stuff? 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:54.320 Did that? This was a year ago? So did you 0:16:54.360 --> 0:16:57.880 do anything with that jealousy? Like what what's what's do 0:16:57.920 --> 0:16:58.920 you feel like? 0:16:58.920 --> 0:17:01.480 Like, what's I'll give you a little context. I guess 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:04.320 a year ago, I guess I wasn't on the greatest 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:07.479 like point in my life, you know. You know, I 0:17:07.520 --> 0:17:11.760 just got out of like a somewhat serious relationship and 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:14.119 that person just jumped into a new relationship and I 0:17:14.160 --> 0:17:16.760 saw how happy they were, and I'm just thinking to myself, 0:17:16.760 --> 0:17:20.320 I'm like, all right, I'm building up myself from scratch. 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:24.280 I'm looking for a new job, got myself a new job, 0:17:25.280 --> 0:17:28.960 and trying to figure out what I want to do, 0:17:29.000 --> 0:17:31.320 where I want to be in a couple of years, 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:34.280 try and like save all my money, thinking about moving 0:17:34.359 --> 0:17:39.040 to a different state, different cities, start fresh. And it's 0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:41.360 like slowly like okay, I'm ready. I'm ready to put 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:44.119 myself out there, really really ready to put myself in 0:17:44.160 --> 0:17:46.640 the game world, just to see how it is, see 0:17:46.680 --> 0:17:49.760 how I could not to be weirdo and just like 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:54.480 have the human interaction out about interactions, See if I 0:17:54.520 --> 0:17:56.560 could do it, you know, because I think it's insimportant. 0:17:56.560 --> 0:17:58.840 A lot of people just don't know how to talk 0:17:58.880 --> 0:18:00.280 to people and engage with people. 0:18:00.320 --> 0:18:02.000 I just wanted I was like, do I still got it? 0:18:02.040 --> 0:18:03.720 Do I still got that a little spark, that little 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:08.520 charm that you know, do I still have it. And 0:18:09.400 --> 0:18:11.199 when I was just hearing her story and everything she 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:13.760 was doing with her life, and I was just like 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:18.680 so blown away, and I'm just like, okay, okay, where 0:18:18.840 --> 0:18:21.960 do I need to do? They live that life? And 0:18:22.000 --> 0:18:25.000 I always wanted just to like have a care free 0:18:25.040 --> 0:18:27.800 like life, like not a care free but just like 0:18:28.920 --> 0:18:30.840 not worry about like, oh I got to pay my 0:18:30.880 --> 0:18:33.080 student loan? How much money do I have to pay 0:18:33.320 --> 0:18:36.040 save up to have this? And just code yeah, like 0:18:36.119 --> 0:18:37.080 I don't mind. 0:18:36.880 --> 0:18:40.280 Like like scrubbing it like, and I'm never worried about 0:18:40.320 --> 0:18:43.600 like the nicest hotels, like a sleeping like a dorm 0:18:44.080 --> 0:18:45.080 with like ten other people. 0:18:45.160 --> 0:18:45.520 That's fine. 0:18:45.560 --> 0:18:48.120 You got some near pleasure for good. I could eat 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:50.600 like once a day if I really need to, like 0:18:50.680 --> 0:18:53.879 I could scrub it out. And I'm just thinking to 0:18:53.920 --> 0:18:56.760 myself like all right, dude, this girl hasn't made everything. 0:18:57.200 --> 0:19:02.240 The career, the the passion. I'm like, damn, she's like 0:19:03.359 --> 0:19:07.359 really cool. And I'll tell. 0:19:07.200 --> 0:19:08.040 You what happened to me. 0:19:08.280 --> 0:19:11.960 I didn't do none of that because a few weeks 0:19:12.040 --> 0:19:13.160 later I got myself like. 0:19:13.160 --> 0:19:14.040 Euy, So. 0:19:24.359 --> 0:19:26.680 I'm sorry, man, You're good. 0:19:26.840 --> 0:19:28.920 I'm glad to about it. 0:19:28.920 --> 0:19:35.320 It's just like it's just very funny to like, well, no, 0:19:35.359 --> 0:19:38.240 it's just like it's just very funny that you like 0:19:39.800 --> 0:19:42.440 you had this like date with this lady and you're 0:19:42.560 --> 0:19:45.760 like you're like, oh, I'm inspired. I'm gonna move to 0:19:45.800 --> 0:19:48.240 another country. I'm gonna get all my ship together. I'm 0:19:48.240 --> 0:19:52.320 gonna you know, she's studying biomes or whatever. And then 0:19:52.359 --> 0:19:54.760 you get a d I like a week later. 0:19:55.520 --> 0:19:57.360 Oh, you have no idea. 0:19:57.760 --> 0:19:59.720 I have this money than up. I'm like, all right, 0:20:00.160 --> 0:20:02.320 I have my money saved out. I could coast for 0:20:02.359 --> 0:20:03.560 like six months. 0:20:03.840 --> 0:20:07.160 I'm like, all right, this is perfect. My leaf ends 0:20:07.200 --> 0:20:09.840 in like two months. I have my money saved up. 0:20:10.400 --> 0:20:12.600 I'm ready to go. I'm ready to commit. I'm like looking, 0:20:12.640 --> 0:20:13.960 I'm like, okay, I'm gonna put this stuff in the 0:20:13.960 --> 0:20:16.040 stories unit. It's gonna cost me so much money I 0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:18.199 put in my budget. I'm gonna live off of like 0:20:18.200 --> 0:20:19.160 one hundred dollars a day. 0:20:19.240 --> 0:20:20.119 It's gonna be great. 0:20:20.359 --> 0:20:21.600 It's gonna really be great. 0:20:22.440 --> 0:20:23.680 Then all my money went. 0:20:23.600 --> 0:20:27.760 To fucking lawyers like negotiates to haggle. But he's like, 0:20:27.840 --> 0:20:29.600 you know what, she's not not to have a guy. 0:20:29.680 --> 0:20:32.159 You know you just made a mistake, come a break, judge, 0:20:32.240 --> 0:20:35.200 And Judge's like, yeah, okay, how about a year of 0:20:35.280 --> 0:20:37.800 classes and how about you really think about what you 0:20:37.800 --> 0:20:40.480 did that? And I'm like, fuck, okay, yeah, I guess so. 0:20:42.000 --> 0:20:48.000 Oh man, okay, all right, so all right, so you 0:20:48.200 --> 0:20:51.320 you you did not go on a on a journey 0:20:51.320 --> 0:20:55.639