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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Just therapy? Get go?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Wait, who did you think it was? A? Hold on?

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Speaker 1: In like in the two seconds where you were like, hey, hello, Like,

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Speaker 1: who did you think it was?

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I was like, well, I was texting a friend and

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Speaker 4: I don't know, and I didn't recognize the number.

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Speaker 1: I was like, hold on, I just by the way

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Speaker 1: I told I'm not saying that to be a dick.

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Speaker 1: I'm genuinely curious because most people don't like just pick

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Speaker 1: up for random numbers. I assume you picked up because

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Speaker 1: you knew it was me. Like if I get a

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Speaker 1: random number, I don't really like pick okay. But but

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Speaker 1: in that, in that moment, you did.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why a double text.

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Speaker 2: It's like therapy, get like okay.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so it's double check. You had an inkling. It

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Speaker 1: wasn't just like you're not just going with the flow

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Speaker 3: No, I wish I was like that. I can't.

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Speaker 1: Why can't you be like that?

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Speaker 3: I care too much?

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Speaker 4: Man, can't can't be answering the phone for like strangers

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Speaker 4: to dude, Like, you gotta keep something in private.

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I feel you? What's your name, I'll just go

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Speaker 1: by Robert. Robert Robert. You texted me a few things. Well, okay,

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Speaker 1: you texted me a year ago and you said, I

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Speaker 1: went on a date a few days ago and I

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Speaker 1: got a rejection text. This was a year ago. This

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Speaker 1: is fourteen months ago. Actually, I went on a date

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Speaker 1: a few days ago and I got a rejection text.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not sure how to handle it. How did

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Speaker 2: Well, there's that, but that's that's a year ago. Who

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Speaker 2: cares about that?

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Speaker 3: I want to talk about like, well, I.

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Speaker 4: Guess I need more advice about like my current situation

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Speaker 4: about like what did you about this guy at work

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Speaker 4: that just keep on halfling me?

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Speaker 1: Wait, just real quick, what happened with that date? What

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Speaker 4: No, it was just a wee your text? Okay, so

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Speaker 4: I guess just the recap about that. Yeah, a year

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Speaker 4: ago had been around this time. I was like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I was like one of those freaky dee dating apps.

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Speaker 4: I think it was like Field and stuff like that.

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Speaker 4: So I'm just like, all right, let's go out, and

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Speaker 4: I'm just like okay. So we go out right and

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Speaker 4: we're clicking, we're viving, we're talking, and we talked so

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Speaker 4: much we didn't eat the food. So we went out

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Speaker 4: to this like Columbian restaurant. She's like, she's like one

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Speaker 4: speaking Spanish and learned Spanish and she just like solfa

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Speaker 2: Mean, Okay, all right, so I speak Spanish, so I'm like,

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Speaker 2: talking and we're getting to you don't know each other,

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Speaker 2: and she tells you a lot about her family, what

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Speaker 2: I'm actually leaving in to go live in Argentina for

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Speaker 4: Just like all right, all right, cool. And it wasn't

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Speaker 4: like I think the rejection bothered me so much because

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Speaker 4: I'm like, hey, you should just keep in touch. I

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Speaker 4: think you're super cool, and just like we could be

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Speaker 4: and just kick it just like neutral, Like I think

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Speaker 4: you're just a cool person overall. No, I mean just

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Speaker 3: And she gave me the weirdest response ever.

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Speaker 4: It was just like, nah, I just don't feel the

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Speaker 3: Did you do you eat your food?

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Speaker 2: You shut up this whole time? Like, did you?

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Speaker 4: I saw you put your whole plate and it's a

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Speaker 1: Holda wait what I'm confused to the equivalency here? What

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Speaker 4: Well, I took this off as like we had such

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Speaker 1: No, No, it's totally not. It's totally not at all,

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Speaker 1: here's the thing about dating is dating is horrible. It's

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Speaker 1: really can't go into uh a situation having any expectations

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Speaker 1: want to see me again. You you've you've you've fucked yourself.

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Speaker 1: It's a weird thing because it doesn't auto and it

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Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that you are a hideously ugly, boring

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Speaker 1: Like I mean, I was I was talking to some

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Speaker 1: that's life. It's like you can sit and have a Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I feel that way about a lot. I feel that

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Speaker 1: that's a big jump, right, Like she got this this

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Speaker 1: enough of you for the rest of her entire life,

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Speaker 1: which is which says nothing about you. It says nothing.

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Speaker 1: It really does. It says nothing about you. I swear

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Speaker 1: my life, I'm not it says nothing about you. It

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Speaker 3: Get it.

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Speaker 1: I feel that, dude. I feel like way about people

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Speaker 1: that I love. I really to Like there's certain because life,

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Speaker 1: how old are you?

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Speaker 2: I'm thirty, You're thirty.

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Speaker 1: Oh you're thirty, dude, you're thirty. You understand that?

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Speaker 3: Like, oh, I understand.

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Speaker 2: I totally know what you mean. Like I see I

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Speaker 4: I see enough of you, which is totally true. There's

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Speaker 4: like some friends I have that's like I'll see them

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Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I got you, I got enough of you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, But I don't know.

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Speaker 2: As I gotten older, I just I like to give

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Speaker 3: Having no expectations. I've done that.

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Speaker 2: It's like, yeah, go into it the open mind, no expectations,

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Speaker 2: don't assume anything. But now I'm just like more of

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Speaker 3: I'm more like I.

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Speaker 1: And you know what, and you know what that I believe.

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Speaker 1: I believe that that's a good process. I really do.

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Speaker 1: That's a good process that probably works for you. That's

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this lady. Yeah, but this lady is like going

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Speaker 1: And she yeah, yeah, yeah, and she's like, well, that's cool,

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Speaker 1: nice to meet you. I'm going to motherfucking Argentina for

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Speaker 1: a year because I don't want That's not what I

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Speaker 1: want to fucking saucid. I want to do all this

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Speaker 1: understand that. I just want you to understand something. You

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Speaker 1: just have to understand logically you have no this this

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Speaker 1: one has no room in her life for you first

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Speaker 1: and then second, and most importantly, understand that this woman

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Speaker 1: having no room in her life for you says nothing

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Speaker 4: I see what you're saying, like I shouldn't like, hey,

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Speaker 4: I guess I shouldn't. I guess I'm taking from it

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Speaker 4: is like I shouldn't hold this stranger's opinion or like

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Speaker 4: her not being interested me so much it affects my

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Speaker 4: life and said to like.

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Speaker 1: No, okay, even okay, even what you just said is

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Speaker 1: king into the fact that you don't understand, you don't

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Speaker 3: All right, let's break it. Break it down for me.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let'll break it down for you. Okay, here's what

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Speaker 1: you just said. You said, I'm taking in her saying

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Speaker 1: she might, she might like you, she might think you're

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Speaker 1: You know what, the funniest thing about this is the

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Speaker 4: But just even like a bystander like no I had,

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Speaker 1: Point, I have I have dear friends. I consider them

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Speaker 1: They're my friends. We like each other's whatever on on

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Speaker 4: Like, what's I'll give you a little context. I guess

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Speaker 4: A lot of people just don't know how to talk

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Speaker 2: I just wanted I was like, do I still got it?

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Speaker 4: Like like scrubbing it like, and I'm never worried about

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Speaker 4: You got some near pleasure for good. I could eat

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Speaker 3: You what happened to me.

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Speaker 4: I didn't do none of that because a few weeks

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, man, You're good.

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Speaker 2: I'm glad to about it.

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Speaker 1: It's just like it's just very funny to like, well, no,

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Speaker 4: I have this money than up. I'm like, all right,

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Speaker 4: cool with it. They let me off work to go

436
00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:32,080
Speaker 4: meet with my po and play face. They're really cool

437
00:22:32,119 --> 00:22:35,359
Speaker 4: about that. But oh my fucking god, do they fucking

438
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:40,320
Speaker 4: drive me up the wall? Okay, And it's like I

439
00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:42,720
Speaker 4: walked into my least another year because I'm like, I

440
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:45,200
Speaker 4: can't I was too stressed about this like court case

441
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 4: to find a new place to like live I don't

442
00:22:48,840 --> 00:22:51,600
Speaker 4: have a car now, so I'm like, I'm like, I

443
00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:54,040
Speaker 4: live in a perfect place where the fuck transportation is

444
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:56,280
Speaker 4: pretty reliable. So I'm like, all right, I don't have

445
00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:58,640
Speaker 4: to worry about getting to work.

446
00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 1: What's your what's your what's your name again?

447
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:04,200
Speaker 3: Robert?

448
00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:09,240
Speaker 1: Robert, Robert? Let's I want let's I want to talk

449
00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:11,639
Speaker 1: this out with you. I'm let's let's talk it out.

450
00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:14,120
Speaker 1: Let's do let's do Gecko therapy? What?

451
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:15,000
Speaker 3: All right?

452
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:20,600
Speaker 1: Okay, so all right, a year ago, you're talking to

453
00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 1: this lady and uh uh, I forget about the thing

454
00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:26,199
Speaker 1: off her not wanting to be your friend, like whatever, like,

455
00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 1: but but you're look, you're listening to her life. You're like,

456
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:30,679
Speaker 1: oh that sounds nice. I'm gonna do that. Then you

457
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:32,520
Speaker 1: get a d U I and then your bank account

458
00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:36,520
Speaker 1: gets wiped out and then where where where are we

459
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:40,120
Speaker 1: at now, Robert? Where how's your life going? Let's talk

460
00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:40,400
Speaker 1: it out.

461
00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:46,359
Speaker 2: Besides besides the work situation, being locked into this job, it's.

462
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 1: Been fine, Okay, good.

463
00:23:48,920 --> 00:23:50,399
Speaker 2: It's like one of those things if you play you

464
00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:53,439
Speaker 2: play ball with the p O court system, do you

465
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 2: do your part?

466
00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 4: Then't let you off easier? You know, they start clamping

467
00:23:57,359 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 4: also start giving you great. You just can't mess.

468
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:01,920
Speaker 2: Up and I'm not.

469
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:03,800
Speaker 3: I don't like an alcoholic.

470
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:04,680
Speaker 2: Where I get the shakes and I got it take

471
00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 2: a drink.

472
00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:06,199
Speaker 3: I mean a mistake.

473
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 4: I fucked up, and you know what, I accept that consequences.

474
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:12,200
Speaker 2: Okay, I have no problem.

475
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:12,840
Speaker 3: I'm not drinking.

476
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:15,120
Speaker 2: It's it's not that, it's not I'm okay with that.

477
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:24,480
Speaker 1: Let's get into this. You're you sent me a text. Okay, okay,

478
00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 1: so you sent me the thing a year ago about

479
00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:27,560
Speaker 1: I went on a date and I got rejected, but

480
00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:31,760
Speaker 1: you sent me a text saying my coworker is keeping

481
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:35,639
Speaker 1: a log on how I'm a shitty employee and is

482
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:37,120
Speaker 1: trying to get me fired.

483
00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:41,679
Speaker 3: That is my main thing.

484
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:45,159
Speaker 4: And it's I'm really stuck in a hard place at

485
00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 4: this point.

486
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 2: I really don't know going on.

487
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:48,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, what's going on?

488
00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:54,359
Speaker 4: He this guy has autism, and like I've been working,

489
00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:58,159
Speaker 4: he seems like a nice guy. And I you know,

490
00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:01,000
Speaker 4: you get people with like auto and stuff like that

491
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:03,240
Speaker 4: all break. You know, you know how to communicate light

492
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 4: with people.

493
00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:06,359
Speaker 3: You know they're on a spectrum. I get that.

494
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:08,840
Speaker 2: I work in the science, Like in the science field,

495
00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:10,360
Speaker 2: I mean, I meant plenty of them.

496
00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 3: I had them in school. I'm fine, I'm cool.

497
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:15,120
Speaker 2: You know how to like, you know.

498
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:18,560
Speaker 4: How to talk to people. But this guy, he's like

499
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:22,200
Speaker 4: obsessed with me all because I told him, Hey, man,

500
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:24,439
Speaker 4: the way I just told him one day because I

501
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:27,480
Speaker 4: was confronted him because I told him, like, this is

502
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,200
Speaker 4: my work I'm gonna leave for tomorrow.

503
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 3: I'm just really busy. I can't get to it.

504
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 4: And then he starts getting it and it starts working

505
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 4: on my projects, and I'm just like, hey, don't worry

506
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:39,160
Speaker 4: about it, like, focus on what you gotta do. I'm

507
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:41,920
Speaker 4: gonna handle this tomorrow. And this is like roughly a

508
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:46,480
Speaker 4: year ago, and he says no. He starts like it

509
00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:48,480
Speaker 4: has to get done now and this and that, and

510
00:25:48,520 --> 00:25:50,640
Speaker 4: I'm just like hey, and I had to stop him,

511
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:53,439
Speaker 4: just like I don't like you belitterly me and just

512
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:56,440
Speaker 4: talking down to me, because right now you're be literally

513
00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 4: me that I can't finish the job and you're talking

514
00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:02,840
Speaker 4: down to me. How responsible I am for not finishing this.

515
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:05,680
Speaker 3: This is my project, this is my work. I will

516
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:06,680
Speaker 3: take care of it.

517
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:10,280
Speaker 2: And he just goes off on a rant saying that

518
00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:13,240
Speaker 2: I do not belittle him he's not believing me.

519
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,399
Speaker 3: He doesn't know. Wow, he stopped talking about and it

520
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:19,760
Speaker 3: just turns into this whole thing where he's.

521
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:22,120
Speaker 4: Telling me I'm not doing my job right, that I'm

522
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 4: just like a terrible employee.

523
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question. This woman who I

524
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:34,440
Speaker 1: guess it's back from Argentina. Now I don't know, I'm

525
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:37,280
Speaker 1: not who knows, You're not friends with her? Who knows

526
00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:45,000
Speaker 1: she's you know? Who knows? What do you think from

527
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 1: your idea of her, in your idealized version of who

528
00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:52,919
Speaker 1: she is that you aspire to be? What would she

529
00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:55,159
Speaker 1: do in this situation? Do you think.

530
00:26:57,280 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 2: It's hard to say?

531
00:26:58,080 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 3: Okay, not gonna lie.

532
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:01,919
Speaker 4: This is like where like I have a lot of

533
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:07,119
Speaker 4: time like dating in this aspect because I didn't grow

534
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:10,399
Speaker 4: up rich and like have a stable family, and I

535
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 4: didn't come for money like I like, let's I don't

536
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:16,400
Speaker 4: have a like a safety map.

537
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:19,200
Speaker 1: Yeah ye had.

538
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 2: Picked up and quitter, job sold, And it's just like

539
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:28,439
Speaker 2: one of those things where like I I wish, I

540
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,359
Speaker 2: wish I'm here buying two dollars scratch tickets thinking I'm

541
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:35,600
Speaker 2: gonna make a big once a month. Just why are you?

542
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:43,120
Speaker 1: Why are you buying two dollars scratch off tickets.

543
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:43,119
Speaker 3: For the dream.

544
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,480
Speaker 4: It's literally just like a little fun things like who

545
00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 4: knows it'd be fun and it's two dollars.

546
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:57,920
Speaker 1: Dude, dude, dude, Okay, Robert, you said your name was yeah, Uh,

547
00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:01,160
Speaker 1: all right, let's rea. Let's I want to I want

548
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 1: to try to do some gecko therapy. Actually, let's assessed.

549
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:09,320
Speaker 1: That's assessing. Let's assess this because I get you, I

550
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:12,520
Speaker 1: really do. And I understand that this lady who went

551
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 1: to Argentina probably yeah, he probably grew up in a

552
00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 1: more stable, uh environment, probably has a little bit less

553
00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 1: worry about money and these other things, and that helps

554
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:27,440
Speaker 1: life out immensely understandably.

555
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:28,680
Speaker 3: So but.

556
00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: Just like, uh, I'm I want to I want to

557
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 1: reorient your brain because like your energy, like you're focused

558
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:45,840
Speaker 1: on fucking like you're arguing, like like this fucking guy

559
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:49,040
Speaker 1: at your work who gives a fuck about it, Like

560
00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:53,600
Speaker 1: he's like a kind of annoying person, and you have

561
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 1: just like you should expend as little energy engaging with

562
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:04,360
Speaker 1: him as possible who gives a fuck? Fucking well the fuck.

563
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 4: I give And this is the this is the problem

564
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 4: I'm having, the big fuck I'm giving is I don't

565
00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 4: know how much sway or what happens, and like I

566
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:18,280
Speaker 4: do make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes in human but just

567
00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 4: seeing it on a well spreadsheet, well, let me finish,

568
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 4: let me finish, Let me tell you what your concerned

569
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 4: and having your mistake to print it up on axcel

570
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 4: spreadsheet that two eight I took a ship and I

571
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 4: didn't do my report on time and I turned it

572
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 4: in thirty minutes late. It's like agonizing because I'm like,

573
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 4: I cannot lose my job. I cannot lose my job

574
00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 4: because I'm under probation.

575
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 3: That I need a job.

576
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:48,600
Speaker 4: And on top of that, I'm terrified if I apply

577
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:51,440
Speaker 4: for a new job, they're gonna see this fucking smudge

578
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 4: on my record and say, like I got a criminal here.

579
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:56,960
Speaker 4: Granted it's not that big of a.

580
00:29:57,000 --> 00:29:57,480
Speaker 3: Deal, but.

581
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 2: It it is, and it is it is in a

582
00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,760
Speaker 2: sense of like I did commit a crime. I am

583
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 2: it's what I have to do with therapy for this,

584
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 2: for alcohol glasses and stuff like that. And they make

585
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 2: a point you did break a crime and you are

586
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 2: a criminal and accept it, and I'm like, all right,

587
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:19,400
Speaker 2: I accept that. But just the idea of like when

588
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 2: you tell people that you have a a duy or

589
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 2: this on your record, they kind of look at you

590
00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:29,240
Speaker 2: like you have a major problem that I'm going to

591
00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 2: be constantly struggling to come to work because you know,

592
00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:35,040
Speaker 2: I got court cases and I need to meet my

593
00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 2: PO and be on good behavior. When it's nothing like

594
00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 2: that at all.

595
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:47,800
Speaker 1: It's how long, dude, Okay, have you looked into what

596
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:51,719
Speaker 1: is required to uh like move like go to Peru

597
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 1: and start working there.

598
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:56,320
Speaker 3: I can't leave the country. I can't leave the state.

599
00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:01,960
Speaker 1: When when would you be allowed to leave the state?

600
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 2: That's I had a big old touble on like PO

601
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:08,080
Speaker 2: last week about this because I was like, part like

602
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:11,240
Speaker 2: so I got this fancy lawyer right and you smooth

603
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 2: and he's talking this drudge up. And the one thing

604
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 2: I am grateful for he did negotiate early terminations. Like

605
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 2: if he does well early terminations, how am I cool? Great?

606
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:24,480
Speaker 2: I've been a probation for like six months now, six

607
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 2: seven months, and I've been doing great.

608
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:31,440
Speaker 4: I have all my stuff completed. All I have to

609
00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 4: do is he's like eight months of therapy.

610
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 1: Okay, dude, give me the dude, give me I'm skip

611
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:42,520
Speaker 1: skip to the bottom line. When is the earliest you

612
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:47,320
Speaker 1: can leave the country December, December of this year.

613
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:50,960
Speaker 4: December of this year is when I could officially leave

614
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 4: if you've been good. If I've been good, but my

615
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:59,960
Speaker 4: fourth date and like, no, here's the catcher, my termination

616
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:03,440
Speaker 4: of my probation, and like, my court kit end in August,

617
00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:07,520
Speaker 4: so I'm trying to negotiate I should be done in August, right,

618
00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 4: And this too is basically telling me no, I'm gonna

619
00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 4: extend until December because that's when you get done with

620
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:17,920
Speaker 4: your therapy. And I'm just like, what, you can't extend

621
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:18,880
Speaker 4: without a court order?

622
00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 3: Can You.

623
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 1: Can't?

624
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 2: And that's where I'm at.

625
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 1: Where what's is this lawyer that you spent eighty billion

626
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:29,239
Speaker 1: dollars on not helping you out with this?

627
00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:32,040
Speaker 4: I haven't talked to him in a year. So that's

628
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:33,600
Speaker 4: what I'm gonna talk to him about. I need to

629
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 4: talk to him, make sure I got my like, like,

630
00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 4: why I spend all this money on you? Like if

631
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 4: I was not promised when early released, that's why I

632
00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 4: took this deal. If I know I was gonna not

633
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:47,040
Speaker 4: take this, if it's gonna be someone extra hassle, why

634
00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 4: did I do this? Why did I spend all this

635
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 4: money on this fancy lawyer. If I was just gonna

636
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 4: get a shit deal regardless, I was gonna be on

637
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 4: probation for a whole year and a half a year.

638
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:59,320
Speaker 1: So do you is this DOUI on your permanent record now?

639
00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 1: Like are do you? Yeah?

640
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 3: It shows up people.

641
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 2: It depends on what people you know, Some people care,

642
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:10,480
Speaker 2: some people don't. It really depends on the hiring person.

643
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 3: Some people like Brother's.

644
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 1: Probably it's probably places internationally that you can go leave

645
00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 1: the country and fucking uh find some work or whatnot.

646
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 1: But just okay, listen, I'm just gonna do okay, this

647
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 1: is gonna all right, I'm gonna do a little thing.

648
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:32,320
Speaker 1: I don't want to be all like woo woo on

649
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:34,360
Speaker 1: you or whatever. I get that you have a lot

650
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 1: of like material annoying problems, and you seem to have

651
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 1: accepted the fact that like, you know, you fucked up

652
00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 1: and this is this is this is the material you know,

653
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:46,040
Speaker 1: this is the result of them. You have to deal

654
00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:51,240
Speaker 1: with these problems. But just like meant, just mentally in

655
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:58,960
Speaker 1: the mental space that you can find, I'm I'm telling you,

656
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 1: like what, you gotta develop some a plan or idea

657
00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 1: of like what direction you ultimately want to go, and

658
00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:17,920
Speaker 1: even if it's and just to be like, Okay, this

659
00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:21,080
Speaker 1: might take like two, three, four, however fucking long it

660
00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:27,359
Speaker 1: takes for you like deal with these external dilemmas that

661
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:31,360
Speaker 1: you have. You have to have something in your mind

662
00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:36,239
Speaker 1: to be fixating on. That's that's that you're so like

663
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:41,399
Speaker 1: stoked about the possibility of like this future plan. You're

664
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:44,400
Speaker 1: so stoked on it that you're not that your brain

665
00:34:45,640 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 1: is not in the gutter of like that you look

666
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:52,560
Speaker 1: at this dude making a spreadsheet of you, and you're like,

667
00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:54,880
Speaker 1: and you just you just you let you let it

668
00:34:55,000 --> 00:35:01,320
Speaker 1: take you. You submit your submit yourself to like bend

669
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 1: over and let this guy fuck you in the ass

670
00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: with his spreadsheet. I'm serious. And and then and you

671
00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:11,920
Speaker 1: just you just take it because you're like, I am

672
00:35:12,160 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 1: saving all of my mental energy for this vision of

673
00:35:17,200 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 1: the future that I have of I'm gonna fucking go

674
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 1: to Peru, I'm gonna go to Uri, I'm gonna do

675
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 1: whatever it is that I'm gonna do like this because

676
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 1: right because everything you're telling me right now, you like

677
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 1: I'm not hearing any like visions of the future. And

678
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,880
Speaker 1: I get it, dude, I fucking get I fucking get it.

679
00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 1: That like when you're when you when when your present

680
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 1: moment is wrapped up in all of this like uh,

681
00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 1: logistical shit and annoying people and like stuff that's like

682
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:51,560
Speaker 1: just tugging on your fucking central nervous system. It's really

683
00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 1: it's hard to be anywhere other than the annoying bullshit

684
00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:59,279
Speaker 1: that you're dealing with right now. But but you have

685
00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 1: to have some vision because right because right because you're

686
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:05,880
Speaker 1: buying these two dollars scratch off tickets as like a

687
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:08,279
Speaker 1: way of like, oh maybe this, maybe I'll make a

688
00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 1: bunch of money and this will get me out of here. Right,

689
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 1: But that's not like a real plan, you know, Like,

690
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 1: and I'm and what I'm saying to you is like, like,

691
00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:22,520
Speaker 1: what I'm saying to you is like if you don't

692
00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 1: have even if it, dude, even if it's a fucking

693
00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:28,239
Speaker 1: delusional plan. I mean, winning the lottery is too delusional

694
00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:31,600
Speaker 1: of a plan. But but even if dude, even if

695
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 1: you fuck even if you told me something insane, even

696
00:36:33,680 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 1: if you were like I'm gonna become a famous night

697
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:42,040
Speaker 1: club singer in Lima, I'd be like, great, that's something,

698
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:43,840
Speaker 1: you know, even if you told me you were like,

699
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 1: I'm gonna they're making a Laddin two and I'm gonna

700
00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 1: it's my I'm gonna sneak into the Disney a lot

701
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:53,799
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna do a dance for them, and I'm

702
00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:57,319
Speaker 1: gonna become the new Genie in Aladdin two. I don't,

703
00:36:57,400 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 1: I don't know, just something. It give me a stupid

704
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 1: all right, you know, like just let me fit. It

705
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:06,560
Speaker 1: can be a stupid, insane thing, but you just gotta

706
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 1: have something that you're looking to like because right because

707
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:14,440
Speaker 1: because when this fucking like dude is typing into the

708
00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:19,319
Speaker 1: spreadsheet that you know, farted at two five pm, you're

709
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 1: you have not you have nothing mentally to go to

710
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:25,160
Speaker 1: to be like, you know what, I'm not gonna have

711
00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:27,520
Speaker 1: to deal with this when I'm singing in the in

712
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:30,239
Speaker 1: the jazz lounge in Peru or whatever. Even if it's

713
00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:32,920
Speaker 1: a delusional thing, if it's like a if there's like

714
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:36,360
Speaker 1: a halfway even kind of maybe sort of pathway to

715
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:40,560
Speaker 1: whatever delusional idea you have for for the next part

716
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 1: of your life, just have that. Just have that in

717
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 1: your mind, because right now you're just in circles because

718
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 1: the mental energy you're expanding on getting pissed off at

719
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 1: this guy is like it's just going no way, it's

720
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:54,000
Speaker 1: going you just you just going in circles.

721
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 2: Man.

722
00:37:54,360 --> 00:37:58,480
Speaker 1: So like I I, the first step is to just

723
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:02,479
Speaker 1: have some idea of like where you want your shit

724
00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 1: to go? Do you know what I mean? Do you

725
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 1: have some idea of where you want your shit to go?

726
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 1: Because if I'm asking you this question and and and

727
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:14,319
Speaker 1: and you're like responding not with like some again, if

728
00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:17,520
Speaker 1: you told me some delusional thing of like here's what

729
00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 1: I want to do, I'd be like great. But if

730
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 1: instead you're like just so deeply deeply, deeply, deeply deeply,

731
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,160
Speaker 1: And I get it's hard. I'm not pretending like it's

732
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 1: not hard. It's way easier said than done. I totally

733
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:30,799
Speaker 1: get you, man, But like, do you get do you

734
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:31,640
Speaker 1: get what I am saying?

735
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 3: I see what you're saying, And so that's where I

736
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 3: will go too.

737
00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:37,759
Speaker 2: I'm like, all right, fuck this, I'm like, say, over

738
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 2: your money and once there are things, once there are

739
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 2: things over, just look for I've been looking for a

740
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:45,440
Speaker 2: new job. Just get away from this, because I'm like,

741
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:47,880
Speaker 2: you're right, because like I am, I could show up

742
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 2: to work in the worst attitude and I come home

743
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:53,560
Speaker 2: like emotionally exhausted.

744
00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:54,560
Speaker 1: I'm sure you do.

745
00:38:55,960 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 2: So I'm like all right for at this and last

746
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:04,879
Speaker 2: week we the corporates, the corporation I work at, gave

747
00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:09,120
Speaker 2: out these really nice bonuses, right, and I got mine.

748
00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:10,799
Speaker 2: And that's all I was worried about getting fired from

749
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:13,000
Speaker 2: because I'm like, if I got fired, I'm not gonna

750
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:14,880
Speaker 2: get this bonus. And this is the money I was

751
00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:18,400
Speaker 2: gonna set myself up to like go to Lima and

752
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:20,239
Speaker 2: just coast for a couple of months and just like

753
00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:22,719
Speaker 2: not worry about this. And like if I do freelance work,

754
00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:26,920
Speaker 2: I do freelance work. I'm okay, you know, just serving beer,

755
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:28,320
Speaker 2: like picking up tables.

756
00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:30,720
Speaker 3: I don't care. Like what happened.

757
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 1: What happened.

758
00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:35,719
Speaker 2: Well, here's here's my daughther dilemmas. I've been talking to

759
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 2: this girl and all of a sudden, I'm kind of

760
00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:40,440
Speaker 2: like in a relationship with her now, not trying it

761
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:43,400
Speaker 2: just it just it's just like it derails the whole

762
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 2: thing too. Is that?

763
00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 1: Why is that a dilemma?

764
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 2: Because what about Lima? What about travel in the world

765
00:39:51,200 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 2: and seeing everything? You know, where with.

766
00:39:57,040 --> 00:39:58,520
Speaker 1: Ever come with you to Lima. What's she?

767
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:01,880
Speaker 3: Do you know? I said that I brought that up.

768
00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:03,520
Speaker 2: It's like, you know, what, do you ever thought about

769
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:05,759
Speaker 2: like just traveling the world for a bit and like

770
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 2: doing that just for like a couple of months and

771
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:11,480
Speaker 2: just like coasting and stuff like that. It's like if

772
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 2: I'm married and I'm like what, it's like you married me.

773
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:19,239
Speaker 2: I'm like, what, yeah, Like we can't do this as

774
00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 2: a boyfriend. A girlfriend's like no, no, no, no, no, no.

775
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:25,640
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yep, yep, yep, yep. Yeah, how you said?

776
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 1: I totally totally really and that no, no, no, no, I

777
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:32,759
Speaker 1: know I agree with the reality of your situation. It's

778
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 1: not that I agree with her. There's no there's there was,

779
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:39,400
Speaker 1: There's no like her. That's like agreeing that the sky

780
00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 1: is blue? Do you know what I mean? Like I okay,

781
00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like her wanting that is

782
00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:48,000
Speaker 1: just a fact. I like, whether or not you know

783
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:49,799
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like are you I don't. I have

784
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 1: no comment on whether or not I have no comment

785
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:57,719
Speaker 1: on the validity of her desire because that's not really relevant.

786
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:00,840
Speaker 1: But like, that is her desire. That's the fact that

787
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 1: we're dealing with so I agree with the reality of

788
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:12,080
Speaker 1: the situation, and so like I mean, yeah, yeah, Now

789
00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 1: you have to be like, all right, do I like

790
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 1: this lady enough that I want to get fucking married

791
00:41:16,040 --> 00:41:16,319
Speaker 1: to her?

792
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 2: That yeah, that's where I'm at. So I'm like, all right,

793
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 2: I'm kind of like a couple of months deep in this.

794
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:24,960
Speaker 2: I do like her, and she's like really cool and

795
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:26,319
Speaker 2: I have a great time hanging out with her.

796
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:27,600
Speaker 3: She's a lot of fun.

797
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:31,120
Speaker 2: But I'm just like, and I'm just thinking to myself,

798
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 2: when am I going to see the world?

799
00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:35,520
Speaker 3: When? When? When? Is it? Is this just like a.

800
00:41:35,440 --> 00:41:38,240
Speaker 2: Little dream I'm just gonna like having your like maybe

801
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 2: one day when I'm sixty five, sixty seven and I'm

802
00:41:41,040 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 2: retired or like is this just always a dream or

803
00:41:44,880 --> 00:41:47,600
Speaker 2: something I'm gonna keep on chasing because like little things

804
00:41:47,680 --> 00:41:49,200
Speaker 2: keep on happening in my way.

805
00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:52,640
Speaker 4: Like for it was a dy Okay, that's almost done

806
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:55,600
Speaker 4: and over with. Now it's this new relationship and I'm

807
00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 4: just like.

808
00:41:56,840 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 3: Damn, like what when? When? When? But it's just like

809
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:04,960
Speaker 3: I just need to have a new dream, you know?

810
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 4: Is it something else I need to chase?

811
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:06,959
Speaker 3: After?

812
00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:09,239
Speaker 4: Do I even express like how do we go to

813
00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 4: Like I ask her, like, how would we leave this

814
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:12,880
Speaker 4: like small town and just go somewhere else? And she's like,

815
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:17,120
Speaker 4: family's lost here, buddy. If you like me, you like them.

816
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:20,760
Speaker 4: And I'm like, damn, I'm like I'm really getting double

817
00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:23,920
Speaker 4: down in the city, like like I'm trying to get

818
00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:26,480
Speaker 4: out of it. And I'm just like, seems like everything's.

819
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:29,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, Robert, I listen in my personal I'm gonna in

820
00:42:29,719 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 1: my personal life. I And it's funny because time, like, uh,

821
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:42,120
Speaker 1: I still believe that I can achieve a life with

822
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:48,840
Speaker 1: zero problems or compromises. It's a delusionable belief. Some people

823
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 1: are able to do it. Some people are able to

824
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 1: do it. It's it's I've met people who've been able to

825
00:42:55,239 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 1: achieve a life with uh uh, no problem and no compromises.

826
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 1: I every year, I'm like, fuck, I'm so close, and

827
00:43:06,560 --> 00:43:08,560
Speaker 1: every year I never get I never get there. I

828
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:12,279
Speaker 1: never get there. I'll I'll let you know when I'm

829
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:18,719
Speaker 1: fucking seventy if I ever got there. Always, always, every year,

830
00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:24,040
Speaker 1: every day, every fucking day, Robert, Yeah, every Robert, every

831
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:30,320
Speaker 1: fucking day, I say to myself, I am so close

832
00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 1: to a life where I have zero problems. I don't

833
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 1: know if I'll ever get there, but that's my delusional belief.

834
00:43:37,600 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 1: That's what keeps me, that keeps me getting out of

835
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 1: bed in the morning, is that every day I truly

836
00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:45,359
Speaker 1: believe I am so close to a life where I

837
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:49,359
Speaker 1: have zero problems. I don't know if I'll ever get there,

838
00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 1: but I'm but I believe I will get there. I

839
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:55,480
Speaker 1: don't know if that's right. I think this is somewhat

840
00:43:55,520 --> 00:44:00,200
Speaker 1: relevant to your situation where it's like just all this shit, right,

841
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:03,080
Speaker 1: You're like, oh my god, I finally found a lady

842
00:44:03,680 --> 00:44:07,080
Speaker 1: that that I that I like, who likes me. Yeah,

843
00:44:07,280 --> 00:44:09,320
Speaker 1: oh my god, oh my god, oh fuck it finally,

844
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 1: oh my god. But she but she wants to get

845
00:44:12,239 --> 00:44:15,880
Speaker 1: married and she wants to I can't go to Peru

846
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:19,800
Speaker 1: and this and the anything. You're like, fuck shit, I

847
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 1: wanted something perfect and I believe that you can. Yeah, yeah,

848
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:28,080
Speaker 1: I know. It's like I dude, and I don't want

849
00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 1: to tell I don't want to tell you. Here's the thing.

850
00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:32,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to be the one to tell you

851
00:44:33,440 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 1: that perfection will never arrive. The reason I don't want

852
00:44:37,160 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 1: to be the one that tells you that that perfection

853
00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:42,839
Speaker 1: that like the perfect relationship, the perfect time, will never arrive.

854
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:44,480
Speaker 1: The reason I don't want to be the one to

855
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:46,880
Speaker 1: tell you that is because in my personal life, Robert,

856
00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:53,440
Speaker 1: I delusionally still believe that it's coming, and I might

857
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:55,920
Speaker 1: I might die having never had a perfect era of

858
00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:59,400
Speaker 1: my life. But I don't know. I don't know, so

859
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:00,920
Speaker 1: I won't be I won't be the one to tell

860
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:04,239
Speaker 1: you that perfection isn't coming because I just believe it.

861
00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:06,000
Speaker 1: I believe it could. I don't know.

862
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:07,799
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't believe.

863
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:10,439
Speaker 4: I like to dream like that year. I'm like, next

864
00:45:10,520 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 4: year is my year. Next year's my year, and it's

865
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 4: gonna wait.

866
00:45:14,920 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 2: Hold on to the world.

867
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:16,760
Speaker 3: I'm coming.

868
00:45:16,880 --> 00:45:19,759
Speaker 2: I'm gonna break open and just like have loose.

869
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:24,759
Speaker 1: Robert. Just go to Robert, Robert, Robert. Just go to Peru, dude,

870
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:28,560
Speaker 1: Just what Just go just go just go to Peru. Man,

871
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 1: Just go to fucking Peru. What is all this? Just

872
00:45:30,600 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 1: go fuck the fuck the fuck fuck fuck the United

873
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:37,239
Speaker 1: States government and this lady. And when I just go

874
00:45:37,280 --> 00:45:41,280
Speaker 1: to Peru, man, just ignore all the laws. Fuck reality.

875
00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:45,280
Speaker 1: Fly there with your wings. Just go to Peru.

876
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:45,560
Speaker 2: Man.

877
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:50,919
Speaker 1: Nike, just do it, Nike, No fly too high, get

878
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:53,480
Speaker 1: close to the sun and die. Just go to Peru. Man,

879
00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 1: just just Nike, Just fucking just go to Peru. Man,

880
00:45:58,200 --> 00:45:59,640
Speaker 1: that's all I got for you. Just go to Peru.

881
00:46:00,880 --> 00:46:01,839
Speaker 3: All right? You coming with.

882
00:46:03,920 --> 00:46:07,839
Speaker 1: No, I'm I'm I'm tired. Now I'll go to first

883
00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 1: someday a person on the list. I'll get there. You know,

884
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 1: life is long, hopefully, Yeah, Robert, is there any Is

885
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:17,719
Speaker 1: there anything else you want to say to the people

886
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:18,839
Speaker 1: of the computer before we go?

887
00:46:21,320 --> 00:46:24,040
Speaker 4: No, No, you've heard me rambled all my life and

888
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:30,439
Speaker 4: all my little problems. Hoopa, I'm not looking hot. Yeah, no, no, Yeah,

889
00:46:30,719 --> 00:46:33,240
Speaker 4: I appreciate it. I do really appreciate this therapy.

890
00:46:33,280 --> 00:46:34,560
Speaker 3: Get go, of course.

891
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 1: Oh man, I believe Robert. I believe it. I'm I

892
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:41,920
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I know I said it already, but I

893
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:47,280
Speaker 1: just I I'm so close to a life with zero problems,

894
00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:49,480
Speaker 1: and I think you are too, And I think everyone is,

895
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:56,600
Speaker 1: and everyone compromise, everyone is going to remain so close

896
00:46:56,760 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 1: the world. It's we're we're micro I'm gonna say some

897
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:04,520
Speaker 1: crazy we are microcosms of the world, dude. The world

898
00:47:05,160 --> 00:47:12,359
Speaker 1: is always so close to having zero problems. Forever, there's

899
00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:17,760
Speaker 1: always a problem, dude. There's always a fucking There's always

900
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:22,959
Speaker 1: some fucking lady or guy. There's always some fucking thing.

901
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:28,880
Speaker 1: There's always some war, some disease, there's it's never But

902
00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:32,160
Speaker 1: we're so close. We're so close to world peace. We're

903
00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 1: so close to a beautiful family with no drama, infinite money,

904
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:43,280
Speaker 1: fulfilled dreams. World. We're so close, and it'll happen for

905
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:44,680
Speaker 1: for us and for the universe.

906
00:47:44,800 --> 00:47:45,120
Speaker 2: Robert.

907
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:51,879
Speaker 1: Maybe we're so close. We're gonna be eternally so close. Okay, Robert,

908
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:53,600
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you go. I'm gonna let you live.

909
00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:57,399
Speaker 2: Your life, all right, appreciate it, all right, have a.

910
00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:59,279
Speaker 1: Good one, Robert, you too.

911
00:47:59,440 --> 00:47:59,880
Speaker 2: Bye.

912
00:48:01,000 --> 00:48:05,840
Speaker 1: We're so close. We're so close.

913
00:48:08,320 --> 00:48:10,520
Speaker 2: Hello, Hey, is this Lyle?

914
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:12,000
Speaker 1: It is? Who is this?

915
00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:13,719
Speaker 3: No ship?

916
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:14,399
Speaker 2: This is?

917
00:48:15,080 --> 00:48:15,520
Speaker 3: Let's see?

918
00:48:15,800 --> 00:48:17,040
Speaker 2: Can I go with cool Ranch?

919
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:20,239
Speaker 1: You can totally go with cool Ranch? Cool Ranch? What's

920
00:48:20,239 --> 00:48:23,640
Speaker 1: going on with you? Dog? How you doing? What'sppen? What

921
00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:24,880
Speaker 1: are you doing? What are you doing right now? What

922
00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:26,319
Speaker 1: are you doing in this very moment? Where are you?

923
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:26,920
Speaker 1: What's around you?

924
00:48:27,040 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 3: Oh? Okay, all right?

925
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:36,200
Speaker 2: So I just finished Okay, I holy shit, in out chilling.

926
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:37,480
Speaker 3: I am chilling.

927
00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:41,240
Speaker 2: I just finished watching Shrek two with my family eating peaza.

928
00:48:41,320 --> 00:48:45,399
Speaker 1: Whoa, whoa, Oh you have a good life. Oh my god,

929
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:50,520
Speaker 1: somebody called somebody calls into this podcast with a good light.

930
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:52,400
Speaker 1: I love when this happens.

931
00:48:52,880 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 3: Good.

932
00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:56,719
Speaker 1: I love when this happens. Okay, Okay, don't listen, don't forget,

933
00:48:56,719 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 1: don't forget, please, don't please, don't freak out. You're already doing.

934
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:01,360
Speaker 3: Start to do.

935
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:04,080
Speaker 1: Don't freak out. There's no regure out trust me. Okay,

936
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:08,279
Speaker 1: So you just just what state do you live in?

937
00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:09,640
Speaker 1: What the state of America?

938
00:49:10,040 --> 00:49:10,480
Speaker 2: Washington?

939
00:49:11,040 --> 00:49:15,040
Speaker 1: I live in Washington and Washington State, Washington State. And

940
00:49:16,239 --> 00:49:18,399
Speaker 1: when you say with your family, is this like, who

941
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:19,760
Speaker 1: who's the family you have?

942
00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:20,120
Speaker 2: Like?

943
00:49:20,440 --> 00:49:24,759
Speaker 1: Give give me all the family members.

944
00:49:23,160 --> 00:49:26,839
Speaker 2: My step mom and my dad and my dog.

945
00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:30,479
Speaker 1: Ale, your step mom, your dad and your dog?

946
00:49:31,840 --> 00:49:32,400
Speaker 3: Yeah?

947
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:36,640
Speaker 1: Why Shrek two? Why not Shrek one? Is Shrek?

948
00:49:36,680 --> 00:49:36,879
Speaker 3: Yeah?

949
00:49:36,880 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 1: Why Shrek two?

950
00:49:38,840 --> 00:49:42,560
Speaker 2: Good question? Well, the first one? I feel like, well,

951
00:49:42,560 --> 00:49:44,879
Speaker 2: why why we were watching it? I guess I saw

952
00:49:45,000 --> 00:49:46,759
Speaker 2: my stem I'm watching it, and I wanted to watch it,

953
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:50,759
Speaker 2: so I asked to watch it too. But why Shrek two?

954
00:49:50,880 --> 00:49:54,720
Speaker 2: Ober Shrek one? Well, it's better, honestly.

955
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:56,839
Speaker 1: Really, Shrek? Who is better? Than Shrek One.

956
00:49:57,239 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would think so. I think it's funnier. I

957
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:02,920
Speaker 2: think the writing is more clever. I think the jokes

958
00:50:03,040 --> 00:50:04,680
Speaker 2: are more in touch.

959
00:50:04,520 --> 00:50:05,120
Speaker 3: With the time.

960
00:50:05,400 --> 00:50:08,280
Speaker 2: I think they're a little bit they test the waters

961
00:50:08,280 --> 00:50:10,440
Speaker 2: a little more with this one, but not too much.

962
00:50:10,480 --> 00:50:12,479
Speaker 2: They don't go all crazy like they're doing that third

963
00:50:12,520 --> 00:50:13,080
Speaker 2: one they got.

964
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:17,360
Speaker 1: You know which one is the one with all the babies.

965
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 2: I want to say that's the third one. I'm pretty sure.

966
00:50:21,440 --> 00:50:25,040
Speaker 3: M m m hmmm. Do you like that one of

967
00:50:25,040 --> 00:50:25,399
Speaker 3: the most?

968
00:50:26,600 --> 00:50:29,160
Speaker 1: No, I haven't seen any of them.

969
00:50:29,160 --> 00:50:31,279
Speaker 2: Oh, you've never seen a single Shrek movie.

970
00:50:31,440 --> 00:50:33,799
Speaker 1: No, I've seen the first one. I don't know why

971
00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:35,839
Speaker 1: I said I've seen the first one the second one.

972
00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:37,279
Speaker 1: I don't know why I said that. Why the hell

973
00:50:37,280 --> 00:50:43,959
Speaker 1: did I say that? Maybe I'm nervous. Okay, yeah, Ranch cool,

974
00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:46,440
Speaker 1: wrench high. Do you have a good relationship? Do you

975
00:50:46,440 --> 00:50:48,520
Speaker 1: have a good relationship with your mom and your stepdad and.

976
00:50:48,440 --> 00:50:56,919
Speaker 2: Your dog fool? No? Yes, and maybe I love my dog.

977
00:50:57,080 --> 00:50:59,040
Speaker 2: My stepdad's a piece of shit, but I don't live

978
00:50:59,080 --> 00:51:01,160
Speaker 2: it to my live with my dad and my step

979
00:51:01,200 --> 00:51:02,320
Speaker 2: mom doesn't exist.

980
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:03,279
Speaker 3: My sorry.

981
00:51:03,480 --> 00:51:07,239
Speaker 2: My step mom does the gist and she's cool. Oh,

982
00:51:07,520 --> 00:51:08,759
Speaker 2: that was a lot to get that.

983
00:51:09,360 --> 00:51:11,560
Speaker 1: Okay, So in the ranking of who you have the

984
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:19,640
Speaker 1: best relationship with, between your stepmom, your dad, and your dog, who,

985
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 1: it sounds like the dog ranks first.

986
00:51:22,600 --> 00:51:23,000
Speaker 3: Honestly.

987
00:51:23,080 --> 00:51:26,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, lo Ki, she's kind of she's yeah, she's the one.

988
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:29,000
Speaker 1: How's your relationship with your biological dad.

989
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:36,200
Speaker 2: Good dude, good decent. It's nice, it's healthy. I think

990
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:40,000
Speaker 2: it is not negative in the way that most people

991
00:51:40,000 --> 00:51:43,560
Speaker 2: would perceive the negative relationship with their father Inald.

992
00:51:44,280 --> 00:51:46,920
Speaker 1: And how about step mom.

993
00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:50,080
Speaker 2: She's cool, she's always just kind of been around, not always,

994
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:51,960
Speaker 2: but like you know, since I met her, I guess

995
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 2: and usually go for something. Yeah, My dad's kind of.

996
00:51:56,880 --> 00:52:00,400
Speaker 2: Dad's cool. My dad's cool. He's a good chill you know,

997
00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:04,080
Speaker 2: he's a got a good set of malls. He he

998
00:52:04,120 --> 00:52:05,920
Speaker 2: had me super young. He had me at like twenty,

999
00:52:06,120 --> 00:52:10,360
Speaker 2: so he's always kinda yeah, super young, and he's been

1000
00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:14,320
Speaker 2: he had me and then started working. It's kind of

1001
00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:17,200
Speaker 2: with Ben since then, just bought his first house and

1002
00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:19,759
Speaker 2: I moved up here with and so it's kind of cool.

1003
00:52:21,360 --> 00:52:27,840
Speaker 1: And whose idea was it to watch Shrek two?

1004
00:52:30,320 --> 00:52:30,720
Speaker 3: Hmm?

1005
00:52:31,719 --> 00:52:34,120
Speaker 2: I think my step moms And then I decided to

1006
00:52:34,239 --> 00:52:39,280
Speaker 2: join to invite myself rather mm hmmmm.

1007
00:52:39,960 --> 00:52:42,319
Speaker 1: And what's how's your step mom? What's her deal?

1008
00:52:44,280 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 2: She's cool, she's she's the very chill. Whenever I first

1009
00:52:49,160 --> 00:52:51,399
Speaker 2: met her, like ten years ago, she and I used

1010
00:52:51,440 --> 00:52:59,080
Speaker 2: to watch Adventure Time and Clarence Nice and other child

1011
00:52:59,320 --> 00:53:05,160
Speaker 2: you know, car Nice Nice. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

1012
00:53:05,239 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 3: She's quite a bit younger than my dad, which is interesting.

1013
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:12,279
Speaker 1: But what the is she? What's the what's the what's

1014
00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:12,960
Speaker 1: the age gap?

1015
00:53:14,000 --> 00:53:16,240
Speaker 2: Let's say its like eight years, nine years or something.

1016
00:53:18,160 --> 00:53:20,600
Speaker 2: Oh my dad like forty years pushing forty.

1017
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:24,719
Speaker 1: Your dad's forty one. As a young dude, you guys

1018
00:53:24,760 --> 00:53:25,440
Speaker 1: a young dude.

1019
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:29,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, super super young, super young.

1020
00:53:30,320 --> 00:53:34,880
Speaker 1: Cool Ranch, cool, Ranch. They'll be nervous. This is there's nothing,

1021
00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:39,719
Speaker 1: this is actually this is the lowest stakes thing.

1022
00:53:40,880 --> 00:53:41,080
Speaker 3: Dude.

1023
00:53:41,320 --> 00:53:43,879
Speaker 2: You say that, but my body disagrees for some reason.

1024
00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:45,200
Speaker 2: I'm gonna find her flight.

1025
00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:46,719
Speaker 1: I don't know what did you drive it? Did you

1026
00:53:46,760 --> 00:53:48,440
Speaker 1: drive a car? Did you drive a car today?

1027
00:53:49,680 --> 00:53:50,160
Speaker 2: I didn't.

1028
00:53:50,600 --> 00:53:53,200
Speaker 1: That should have made you so much more nervous than this.

1029
00:53:53,280 --> 00:53:54,239
Speaker 1: You could have died.

1030
00:53:54,480 --> 00:53:57,800
Speaker 2: Oh if you Yeah, I think about all the time.

1031
00:53:58,000 --> 00:53:59,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you fucked that. First of all, there's no

1032
00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:02,400
Speaker 1: way to fuck this up. What's going on right now,

1033
00:54:02,400 --> 00:54:04,399
Speaker 1: there's no way to fuck it up. And and by

1034
00:54:04,400 --> 00:54:06,520
Speaker 1: the way, you probably have in your body and in

1035
00:54:06,520 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 1: your mind that there is a way to fuck this up.

1036
00:54:08,360 --> 00:54:10,480
Speaker 1: And even if you and even if you're abiding by

1037
00:54:10,480 --> 00:54:12,759
Speaker 1: the rules of the reality that you have created in

1038
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:15,799
Speaker 1: your body in your mind and you fuck this up

1039
00:54:15,840 --> 00:54:19,360
Speaker 1: according to those rules, this zero consequences to that. Okay,

1040
00:54:19,480 --> 00:54:21,960
Speaker 1: But in the reality of the universe, which is actually

1041
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:24,319
Speaker 1: a true reality, if you fuck up driving, you will die.

1042
00:54:24,400 --> 00:54:27,879
Speaker 1: So that so this is the least this is. This

1043
00:54:27,960 --> 00:54:31,799
Speaker 1: is by far and large, by large, the so far

1044
00:54:32,400 --> 00:54:34,759
Speaker 1: from being the highest stikes thing that you're doing today.

1045
00:54:34,800 --> 00:54:36,360
Speaker 1: But anyway, let me ask you this cool ranch and

1046
00:54:36,400 --> 00:54:39,400
Speaker 1: it's okay. If not, it's okay. If not, it is

1047
00:54:39,400 --> 00:54:42,400
Speaker 1: there anything? Is there any particular reason why you called today?

1048
00:54:44,680 --> 00:54:46,680
Speaker 2: Oh well, I mean I have like a thing I

1049
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:50,239
Speaker 2: could talk or do your question thing. I feel like

1050
00:54:50,280 --> 00:54:53,279
Speaker 2: you're a really good conversationalist, so would mine is talking

1051
00:54:53,320 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 2: about whatever I did call initially about my relationship at

1052
00:54:58,000 --> 00:54:59,800
Speaker 2: the moment, I guess yes.

1053
00:54:59,680 --> 00:55:01,799
Speaker 1: You texted me you said I wanted to call to

1054
00:55:01,840 --> 00:55:05,880
Speaker 1: ask for advice to fix my relationship where everything is

1055
00:55:05,920 --> 00:55:10,480
Speaker 1: awesome and then you will and then you wrote have

1056
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:14,200
Speaker 1: a good night exclamation point, which was very nice. Tell

1057
00:55:14,239 --> 00:55:15,760
Speaker 1: me about your relationship the ranch.

1058
00:55:17,080 --> 00:55:20,600
Speaker 2: Oh, it's so good. I'm dating this person. They're awesome.

1059
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:25,799
Speaker 2: I mean, there's not a whole ton to say except

1060
00:55:25,880 --> 00:55:28,359
Speaker 2: they're awesome. Like I like spending time with them. They

1061
00:55:28,400 --> 00:55:31,239
Speaker 2: make me comfortable, they comfort me. They they bring me

1062
00:55:31,280 --> 00:55:35,200
Speaker 2: happiness and bring them happiness. It's very equal and back

1063
00:55:35,239 --> 00:55:37,239
Speaker 2: and forth. And I don't I don't see anything wrong

1064
00:55:37,239 --> 00:55:41,680
Speaker 2: with it at all. But I guess what I need

1065
00:55:41,719 --> 00:55:48,760
Speaker 2: fixing is, hmm, I fear I might have conditioned myself

1066
00:55:48,800 --> 00:55:53,960
Speaker 2: to expect like more from a relationship, and so like, internally,

1067
00:55:54,040 --> 00:55:56,160
Speaker 2: I find myself looking at the future a lot and

1068
00:55:56,200 --> 00:55:59,919
Speaker 2: not being sure about it. But then with that fear,

1069
00:56:00,040 --> 00:56:01,600
Speaker 2: I come back to the present and I find a

1070
00:56:01,640 --> 00:56:05,000
Speaker 2: reason to be scared. And so I'm wondering if there's

1071
00:56:05,080 --> 00:56:08,520
Speaker 2: like something internally wrong that I've just yet to see

1072
00:56:08,640 --> 00:56:11,960
Speaker 2: with the relationship, or if there's more that I'm not seeing.

1073
00:56:12,040 --> 00:56:15,920
Speaker 1: You know, that's fucking deep. Cool, Ranch, Let's get into

1074
00:56:16,000 --> 00:56:21,680
Speaker 1: this a right, Okay. You say you have conditioned yourself

1075
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:28,040
Speaker 1: to expect more from your relationships. Yeah, what can you

1076
00:56:28,160 --> 00:56:29,840
Speaker 1: can you go into what you mean by that?

1077
00:56:32,640 --> 00:56:36,600
Speaker 2: Well, I mean beyond the things that society does twist

1078
00:56:36,719 --> 00:56:41,839
Speaker 2: condition us to have certain, in my opinion, unrealistic expectations

1079
00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:45,239
Speaker 2: for relationships, Like internally, you know, there are hopes in

1080
00:56:45,400 --> 00:56:49,880
Speaker 2: comparisons that I make subconsciously from my current relationship to

1081
00:56:50,040 --> 00:56:53,480
Speaker 2: past relationships where I see people and I I'm like, well,

1082
00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:55,560
Speaker 2: there's this that's good, there's this is good, but there's

1083
00:56:55,600 --> 00:56:58,600
Speaker 2: this bad thing that's I don't know, it wasn't as

1084
00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:00,719
Speaker 2: bad as this this other person or what this other

1085
00:57:00,719 --> 00:57:03,680
Speaker 2: person did, but it's still there, you know, notice it

1086
00:57:03,800 --> 00:57:06,400
Speaker 2: or maybe there's maybe it's not really that bad, or

1087
00:57:06,400 --> 00:57:11,279
Speaker 2: maybe they're so good it's like but there could be more,

1088
00:57:11,600 --> 00:57:16,320
Speaker 2: or I don't know, all those maybees, all those like

1089
00:57:16,520 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 2: like where do I draw the lines like it's good enough?

1090
00:57:19,560 --> 00:57:19,800
Speaker 3: Chill?

1091
00:57:20,520 --> 00:57:23,560
Speaker 1: Okay, yea, but yeah, yeah, and you're you're twenty.

1092
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:26,520
Speaker 2: Right, twenty one?

1093
00:57:26,560 --> 00:57:30,400
Speaker 1: Okay, where do you draw the line for it's good enough? Well,

1094
00:57:30,440 --> 00:57:36,080
Speaker 1: tell me this. First of all, you're really smart. You're

1095
00:57:36,080 --> 00:57:40,080
Speaker 1: a really smart guy because you've identical. Some people never

1096
00:57:40,720 --> 00:57:44,680
Speaker 1: identify that that you do have to actually draw that line.

1097
00:57:44,960 --> 00:57:47,880
Speaker 1: Some people I get so, I you know, uh, it's

1098
00:57:47,880 --> 00:57:50,040
Speaker 1: not it's not it's not terrifying. It's OK, it's trust me,

1099
00:57:50,040 --> 00:57:53,960
Speaker 1: it's not terrifying. And actually kind of similar to the

1100
00:57:53,960 --> 00:57:58,479
Speaker 1: previous caller. Uh, and the themes of the previous caller.

1101
00:57:58,520 --> 00:57:59,880
Speaker 1: I know you didn't hear the previous caller, but it's

1102
00:57:59,880 --> 00:58:04,080
Speaker 1: for the folks listen to the show. Similar to the

1103
00:58:04,080 --> 00:58:07,600
Speaker 1: previous caller, there is this thing of feeling like, oh,

1104
00:58:07,680 --> 00:58:09,840
Speaker 1: things are always so close to perfect, and they're of

1105
00:58:09,880 --> 00:58:11,920
Speaker 1: course never going to be and you have to kind

1106
00:58:11,920 --> 00:58:16,320
Speaker 1: of in relationships, I feel like you have to you

1107
00:58:16,320 --> 00:58:21,440
Speaker 1: you you have to settle. Some people get really fucking lucky.

1108
00:58:21,840 --> 00:58:24,600
Speaker 1: And they and they and they have to settle on nothing.

1109
00:58:24,800 --> 00:58:30,920
Speaker 1: And they're completely aligned in every aspect important and unimportant,

1110
00:58:31,120 --> 00:58:33,800
Speaker 1: and they're crazy sexually attracted to each other and they

1111
00:58:33,800 --> 00:58:35,800
Speaker 1: have a great sex life and they and they do

1112
00:58:35,840 --> 00:58:38,400
Speaker 1: everything that they want to with each other, and they

1113
00:58:38,440 --> 00:58:40,880
Speaker 1: and they and they live and they live in ex

1114
00:58:41,240 --> 00:58:44,200
Speaker 1: like a perfectly aligned life and all of their interests

1115
00:58:44,200 --> 00:58:50,440
Speaker 1: and all of their lifestyles and you know that happens. Sure,

1116
00:58:51,480 --> 00:58:53,640
Speaker 1: sure that exists. I don't know, you know what else

1117
00:58:53,680 --> 00:58:56,960
Speaker 1: exists is like you know fucking some people have a

1118
00:58:57,000 --> 00:58:59,840
Speaker 1: billion dollars and something like whatever, but like most of

1119
00:58:59,880 --> 00:59:02,760
Speaker 1: the most relationship but it's not but look, but look,

1120
00:59:02,840 --> 00:59:06,000
Speaker 1: it's it's okay, it's okay if that's not you, you know,

1121
00:59:08,760 --> 00:59:12,280
Speaker 1: So what I'm saying, Okay, So you're smart to have identified.

1122
00:59:12,280 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 1: You're really smart to have identified at the age of

1123
00:59:15,200 --> 00:59:19,360
Speaker 1: twenty because, by the way, I'm realizing that I'm twenty eight,

1124
00:59:19,560 --> 00:59:24,520
Speaker 1: I'm realizing this in my life now, you know. So yeah,

1125
00:59:24,560 --> 00:59:28,640
Speaker 1: like you're you, you got a good head start on

1126
00:59:28,720 --> 00:59:31,240
Speaker 1: the realization that nothing will ever be perfect, and you

1127
00:59:31,280 --> 00:59:34,520
Speaker 1: do at some point have to look at a relationship

1128
00:59:34,600 --> 00:59:38,160
Speaker 1: and go what am I willing to put up with?

1129
00:59:38,960 --> 00:59:41,240
Speaker 1: And ask yourself that question and make and you have

1130
00:59:41,280 --> 00:59:43,520
Speaker 1: to bargain, and you have to compromise, and you have

1131
00:59:43,560 --> 00:59:45,120
Speaker 1: to go well, and like I, you have to look

1132
00:59:45,160 --> 00:59:49,720
Speaker 1: deep in your gut and say, what am I willing

1133
00:59:50,000 --> 00:59:52,800
Speaker 1: to put up with about the things I do not

1134
00:59:53,080 --> 00:59:55,280
Speaker 1: like about this person? Things I do not like about

1135
00:59:55,280 --> 00:59:59,480
Speaker 1: this relationship in exchange for the beautiful things that I

1136
00:59:59,520 --> 01:00:02,640
Speaker 1: love about And you have to make that decision. And

1137
01:00:02,680 --> 01:00:07,800
Speaker 1: you're really fucking smart to have identified. Even the fact

1138
01:00:08,200 --> 01:00:10,440
Speaker 1: that you have to make that decision.

1139
01:00:11,360 --> 01:00:14,400
Speaker 2: So that's let's I feel like I'm playing with like

1140
01:00:14,440 --> 01:00:16,760
Speaker 2: a like a human soul. I don't want to like

1141
01:00:17,080 --> 01:00:20,800
Speaker 2: make the decision, just come to like like I don't know,

1142
01:00:21,080 --> 01:00:23,600
Speaker 2: Like ideally, you know, I stick with this person and

1143
01:00:23,640 --> 01:00:26,960
Speaker 2: it works out, but that's not always how life works out.

1144
01:00:26,960 --> 01:00:29,080
Speaker 2: And if it doesn't work out that way, like will

1145
01:00:29,120 --> 01:00:31,240
Speaker 2: I have been doing a disservice to have known that

1146
01:00:31,240 --> 01:00:33,600
Speaker 2: that could have been a possibility without taking action.

1147
01:00:34,440 --> 01:00:35,960
Speaker 1: I mean, let's talk about lets talk abou let' talk

1148
01:00:35,960 --> 01:00:38,240
Speaker 1: about it. Let's talk about that. What why do you

1149
01:00:38,240 --> 01:00:40,240
Speaker 1: feel like you're doing a disservice to this other person?

1150
01:00:41,800 --> 01:00:43,600
Speaker 2: Well, because if this, if this person is in it

1151
01:00:43,640 --> 01:00:46,800
Speaker 2: for the long run, like for sure, like that's like

1152
01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:50,200
Speaker 2: where they're placing their bets and and I'm just here

1153
01:00:50,240 --> 01:00:52,800
Speaker 2: because it's good right now and I don't know, I

1154
01:00:52,800 --> 01:00:54,640
Speaker 2: don't know if it's going to be good long term then,

1155
01:00:54,720 --> 01:00:57,760
Speaker 2: like I don't know. I feel like that's a different

1156
01:00:58,160 --> 01:01:02,520
Speaker 2: different give It's not like it isn't secretly equal.

1157
01:01:03,960 --> 01:01:08,680
Speaker 1: I know what you mean, and I know what you mean,

1158
01:01:08,960 --> 01:01:10,760
Speaker 1: and I would be lying to you if I said

1159
01:01:10,800 --> 01:01:14,160
Speaker 1: I had a good answer for that, I'd be lying

1160
01:01:14,200 --> 01:01:15,480
Speaker 1: to you if I said I had a good answer

1161
01:01:15,480 --> 01:01:25,000
Speaker 1: for that. But I can talk with you about what's missing.

1162
01:01:25,760 --> 01:01:32,320
Speaker 2: What's missing? I really couldn't tell you. It doesn't feel

1163
01:01:32,360 --> 01:01:33,200
Speaker 2: like anything's missing.

1164
01:01:33,240 --> 01:01:37,640
Speaker 3: It's just I don't know. I get.

1165
01:01:37,800 --> 01:01:43,360
Speaker 2: I get thoughts sometimes about like like I compare unfairly,

1166
01:01:43,480 --> 01:01:46,080
Speaker 2: I would say, and I I don't.

1167
01:01:45,920 --> 01:01:47,040
Speaker 3: Have like wandering eyes.

1168
01:01:47,080 --> 01:01:49,880
Speaker 2: I don't I don't see anybody else, and like, oh,

1169
01:01:49,920 --> 01:01:51,640
Speaker 2: I wish I was with them, because I really, like,

1170
01:01:51,640 --> 01:01:56,080
Speaker 2: I genuinely caerish what I have now, but part part

1171
01:01:56,120 --> 01:02:00,560
Speaker 2: of me does think, like like what if with people

1172
01:02:00,560 --> 01:02:02,840
Speaker 2: that don't exist, Like if I'll see somebody's face and

1173
01:02:02,880 --> 01:02:06,160
Speaker 2: I'll map it onto like a character that's like my

1174
01:02:06,160 --> 01:02:07,160
Speaker 2: current partner.

1175
01:02:06,840 --> 01:02:07,840
Speaker 1: But like yeah.

1176
01:02:08,160 --> 01:02:10,440
Speaker 2: Like a little bit this way, that way or whatever,

1177
01:02:10,640 --> 01:02:14,080
Speaker 2: I don't know, And you're like, good.

1178
01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:17,920
Speaker 1: These are not these are these are these are pretty

1179
01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:22,600
Speaker 1: natural feelings that are these are pretty These are pretty

1180
01:02:22,680 --> 01:02:25,760
Speaker 1: natural feelings that are uncomfortable to have, but they're worth

1181
01:02:25,880 --> 01:02:31,400
Speaker 1: like working through and accepting that you have them, and

1182
01:02:31,520 --> 01:02:33,680
Speaker 1: like coming to this kind of acceptance about it. Is

1183
01:02:33,720 --> 01:02:37,080
Speaker 1: this like a physical thing? Is it? Like you like

1184
01:02:37,120 --> 01:02:39,280
Speaker 1: you're walking around and you see other like pretty girls

1185
01:02:39,280 --> 01:02:40,320
Speaker 1: and you're like, what would it be like to be

1186
01:02:40,360 --> 01:02:41,720
Speaker 1: with like that pretty girl, or what would be like

1187
01:02:41,760 --> 01:02:42,880
Speaker 1: to be like with that pretty girl.

1188
01:02:43,440 --> 01:02:47,080
Speaker 2: Well, pretty pretty anybody, to be honest, I mean, it's

1189
01:02:47,120 --> 01:02:49,720
Speaker 2: not like it's a little bit recent that I've kind

1190
01:02:49,720 --> 01:02:52,480
Speaker 2: of discovered that I'm like kind of into both sides

1191
01:02:52,480 --> 01:02:54,800
Speaker 2: of the spectrum. But I've only ever gotten to experience

1192
01:02:54,840 --> 01:02:58,200
Speaker 2: feeding women, and so I guess that's part of it too,

1193
01:02:58,200 --> 01:02:59,920
Speaker 2: Like maybe I'm a little bit curious about the other

1194
01:03:00,040 --> 01:03:05,200
Speaker 2: gender or okay that I think there's so much that

1195
01:03:05,280 --> 01:03:08,040
Speaker 2: I haven't experienced. So it's just like, yeah, anything.

1196
01:03:08,040 --> 01:03:12,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, the gender thing kind of go ahead.

1197
01:03:13,240 --> 01:03:15,200
Speaker 2: I was just gonna say, I'm almost scared because I

1198
01:03:15,280 --> 01:03:17,440
Speaker 2: feel like I've found the person too early, Like I

1199
01:03:17,480 --> 01:03:20,360
Speaker 2: still want to see what there is, but I know

1200
01:03:20,480 --> 01:03:24,280
Speaker 2: that like if I see that, like to any person

1201
01:03:24,320 --> 01:03:26,400
Speaker 2: in relationships, like it's probably not going to come back

1202
01:03:26,440 --> 01:03:26,800
Speaker 2: to that.

1203
01:03:27,360 --> 01:03:32,200
Speaker 1: You know, I understand because you're like, I mean twenty

1204
01:03:32,920 --> 01:03:36,760
Speaker 1: twenty one is like I understand you wanting to be like,

1205
01:03:37,440 --> 01:03:40,640
Speaker 1: oh what else is out there? Also, like look if

1206
01:03:40,680 --> 01:03:42,760
Speaker 1: you were just like if you were just like like

1207
01:03:43,280 --> 01:03:46,600
Speaker 1: you know, straight, and you were like looking at other

1208
01:03:46,600 --> 01:03:47,880
Speaker 1: pretty girls, like what would we like to be that

1209
01:03:47,960 --> 01:03:52,280
Speaker 1: with everything? Go that that that's yeah, it opens up

1210
01:03:52,280 --> 01:03:55,040
Speaker 1: a whole new can of worms if you're really are

1211
01:03:55,240 --> 01:03:58,400
Speaker 1: out here being like, oh, I think I might have

1212
01:03:58,480 --> 01:04:02,240
Speaker 1: unlocked a z axis to my sexuality and I want

1213
01:04:02,280 --> 01:04:05,200
Speaker 1: to explore what's what's going on? What's going on in there?

1214
01:04:05,400 --> 01:04:09,280
Speaker 1: That's that's that's you know, I'm no expert in in

1215
01:04:09,280 --> 01:04:11,960
Speaker 1: in in this, but that's like kind of a legitimate thing,

1216
01:04:12,520 --> 01:04:17,560
Speaker 1: and those are legitimate like thoughts and questions. And I

1217
01:04:17,600 --> 01:04:23,439
Speaker 1: think that if if is that is that a big

1218
01:04:23,480 --> 01:04:25,120
Speaker 1: part of it? Is it like I want to see

1219
01:04:25,120 --> 01:04:26,840
Speaker 1: what it'd be like to like be with dudes.

1220
01:04:28,080 --> 01:04:31,240
Speaker 2: It with I mean honestly, yeah, like partially I think

1221
01:04:31,240 --> 01:04:34,400
Speaker 2: it's it's even I wouldn't say it's like more so one.

1222
01:04:34,240 --> 01:04:34,800
Speaker 3: Way or the other.

1223
01:04:34,840 --> 01:04:38,240
Speaker 2: It's just I just want to I mean, that's just

1224
01:04:38,280 --> 01:04:41,840
Speaker 2: like a whole fifty percent that I haven't seen at

1225
01:04:41,840 --> 01:04:44,960
Speaker 2: the at the least, let alone. What else is on

1226
01:04:45,400 --> 01:04:49,440
Speaker 2: the feminine present anxiety? You know what I mean? Mm hmmm.

1227
01:04:51,000 --> 01:04:53,120
Speaker 1: Mmmm mmm.

1228
01:04:54,240 --> 01:04:55,760
Speaker 2: I don't know if I'm really looking to us for

1229
01:04:55,840 --> 01:04:58,439
Speaker 2: like an answered per se, Like I understand that there's

1230
01:04:58,480 --> 01:05:01,680
Speaker 2: some things that just come with time, I do worry

1231
01:05:01,720 --> 01:05:06,560
Speaker 2: about the moral dilemma of like how long do I

1232
01:05:06,640 --> 01:05:11,600
Speaker 2: wait with these feelings before I do something about it?

1233
01:05:11,640 --> 01:05:17,520
Speaker 2: And what is the something before it before it becomes

1234
01:05:17,560 --> 01:05:22,360
Speaker 2: like an intentionally gross action, like I've done it before.

1235
01:05:22,400 --> 01:05:24,840
Speaker 2: We're like, I'll be dating somebody, but I know I'm

1236
01:05:24,840 --> 01:05:26,440
Speaker 2: not going to be with them for forever, and so

1237
01:05:26,600 --> 01:05:29,000
Speaker 2: I hold on to it until I feel like it's right,

1238
01:05:29,000 --> 01:05:30,480
Speaker 2: and then I break up with them, and then it's

1239
01:05:30,520 --> 01:05:33,640
Speaker 2: just the I feel terrible because I don't really want

1240
01:05:33,680 --> 01:05:35,200
Speaker 2: to be broken up with and they don't really want

1241
01:05:35,240 --> 01:05:36,919
Speaker 2: to be broken up with. But it was a long

1242
01:05:36,960 --> 01:05:40,360
Speaker 2: time coming, and and then they ask like, well, how

1243
01:05:40,360 --> 01:05:42,560
Speaker 2: long is you know? And I'm like, well, this long, and.

1244
01:05:42,520 --> 01:05:43,760
Speaker 3: Then that just makes it worse.

1245
01:05:43,920 --> 01:05:46,080
Speaker 2: So like, I can't say that this time around, if

1246
01:05:46,120 --> 01:05:48,520
Speaker 2: I even get to that point, Because.

1247
01:05:48,800 --> 01:05:51,200
Speaker 1: What's your level of communication like with this person in

1248
01:05:51,280 --> 01:05:52,520
Speaker 1: terms of your internal models?

1249
01:05:54,360 --> 01:05:57,040
Speaker 2: Pretty solid? I mean, like I said, we have a

1250
01:05:57,160 --> 01:06:01,760
Speaker 2: very healthy relationship, so I don't worry about talking to

1251
01:06:01,800 --> 01:06:06,840
Speaker 2: them so much. But there has been a worry for

1252
01:06:06,920 --> 01:06:09,880
Speaker 2: me bringing this up in particular because they've been kind

1253
01:06:09,880 --> 01:06:17,240
Speaker 2: of insecure regarding how do you call it saying loyal

1254
01:06:17,360 --> 01:06:20,360
Speaker 2: like loyalty. There's this person and her friend group who

1255
01:06:20,400 --> 01:06:22,600
Speaker 2: has been kind of throwing googly ads at me, and

1256
01:06:23,840 --> 01:06:29,720
Speaker 2: I just really noticed early on, and so those signals

1257
01:06:29,720 --> 01:06:32,240
Speaker 2: were received in a way that didn't paint me or

1258
01:06:32,320 --> 01:06:38,160
Speaker 2: them in a good light. And so I've been kind

1259
01:06:38,160 --> 01:06:39,840
Speaker 2: of working to be like, no, like, it's not like that,

1260
01:06:39,880 --> 01:06:41,480
Speaker 2: Like I don't like this other person, I don't have

1261
01:06:41,520 --> 01:06:43,200
Speaker 2: I'm not interested in them, I'm not cheating on you,

1262
01:06:43,280 --> 01:06:45,760
Speaker 2: none of that. Like I like you and I want

1263
01:06:45,800 --> 01:06:47,840
Speaker 2: to be with you, and that's the truth, Like that's

1264
01:06:47,840 --> 01:06:50,960
Speaker 2: not different. But then having that happening while I'm having

1265
01:06:50,960 --> 01:06:52,600
Speaker 2: these emotions makes it really hard for me to bring

1266
01:06:52,680 --> 01:06:56,080
Speaker 2: up because it's just gonna verify their current fears. Like

1267
01:06:56,200 --> 01:06:58,080
Speaker 2: I knew he was thinking about other people and that

1268
01:06:58,160 --> 01:07:01,760
Speaker 2: kind of thing, you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's

1269
01:07:01,800 --> 01:07:05,120
Speaker 2: just like that's not like that, you know, mm hmm.

1270
01:07:06,840 --> 01:07:16,840
Speaker 1: Well yeah, yeah, no, I mean you have these are

1271
01:07:17,200 --> 01:07:19,520
Speaker 1: these are I don't I don't have a good answer

1272
01:07:19,800 --> 01:07:22,840
Speaker 1: for a lot of these feelings, But I do think

1273
01:07:22,880 --> 01:07:27,880
Speaker 1: it's smart that you've identified the fact that you do

1274
01:07:28,080 --> 01:07:29,440
Speaker 1: have to at some point, like be able to look

1275
01:07:29,440 --> 01:07:33,040
Speaker 1: at your current relationship and be like, is this enough

1276
01:07:34,280 --> 01:07:36,959
Speaker 1: for me, Am I willing to sacrifice because sometimes because

1277
01:07:37,040 --> 01:07:40,400
Speaker 1: it'll it'll come easy to your gut, I think, like

1278
01:07:40,480 --> 01:07:44,480
Speaker 1: it'll it'll come easy for you to be like it

1279
01:07:45,000 --> 01:07:47,439
Speaker 1: at a certain point, I think. I think in certain

1280
01:07:47,480 --> 01:07:53,360
Speaker 1: relationships it comes easy for for one to be like, like,

1281
01:07:53,440 --> 01:07:56,440
Speaker 1: look at the relationship and and be like and also

1282
01:07:56,640 --> 01:07:59,960
Speaker 1: to be honest, man like. And this is coming from

1283
01:08:00,160 --> 01:08:03,919
Speaker 1: like my this is coming from like my personal thoughts

1284
01:08:03,960 --> 01:08:06,560
Speaker 1: and feelings with this. As you get because you're you know,

1285
01:08:06,720 --> 01:08:09,480
Speaker 1: you're younger, like twenty one, Like, as you get older,

1286
01:08:09,760 --> 01:08:12,920
Speaker 1: it becomes a lot easier to be able to like

1287
01:08:14,280 --> 01:08:18,920
Speaker 1: look at someone and be like I would rather put

1288
01:08:19,000 --> 01:08:25,040
Speaker 1: because like, okay, playing the field, let's call it being

1289
01:08:25,200 --> 01:08:30,520
Speaker 1: single and dating takes a lot of fucking energy.

1290
01:08:30,479 --> 01:08:32,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it.

1291
01:08:32,600 --> 01:08:36,559
Speaker 1: Takes a lot of energy. And like, I think at

1292
01:08:36,560 --> 01:08:38,200
Speaker 1: a certain point, you should be able to look at

1293
01:08:38,200 --> 01:08:43,759
Speaker 1: your relationship and be like, I would joyfully rather take

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01:08:44,240 --> 01:08:48,839
Speaker 1: all of the fucking energy that playing the field takes,

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Speaker 1: and I would joyfully, joyfully rather put it into developing

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Speaker 1: my relationship with this specific person. And you should be

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Speaker 1: able to make that decision pretty easily, I think, you

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Speaker 1: know what I mean. So you should be able to

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Speaker 1: make that decision pretty easily, and you should be able

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Speaker 1: to look.

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Speaker 3: At like.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. And I personally I believe that that decision gets

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Speaker 1: a little easier as you get older and if you

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01:09:22,720 --> 01:09:27,439
Speaker 1: find the first make them. So yeah, those are my

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01:09:27,520 --> 01:09:28,759
Speaker 1: thoughts on the situation.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely good thoughts, good thoughts in time, I guess on the.

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Speaker 1: Cool Ranch, is there anything else you want to say

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Speaker 1: to the people of the computer before we go?

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Speaker 2: Oh boy, I don't know, Thanks loud, I've been listening

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Speaker 2: to you for a long time.

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Speaker 1: Man.

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Speaker 2: The first time I called I was like sixteen, which

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Speaker 2: I know, I know, I that's not supposed to it's

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01:09:48,520 --> 01:09:51,439
Speaker 2: a little rule breaker or whatever. But anyways, you're a

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01:09:51,479 --> 01:09:54,600
Speaker 2: cool guy. So thanks for doing what you're doing. And

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Speaker 2: I guess the people in the universe keep being water man,

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01:09:57,920 --> 01:10:01,080
Speaker 2: just react to the universe or should it comes to you,

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Speaker 2: the present yourself.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you, Cool Ranch. I appreciate you, and

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Speaker 1: good luck man.

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Speaker 2: Thank you all you're sick.

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Speaker 3: I have a going then.

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Speaker 1: Second Ranch, Bye bye, Well folks. That is the end

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Speaker 1: of the episode that has been the Therapy Gecko podcast.

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01:10:20,400 --> 01:10:24,639
Speaker 1: We laughed, we learned, we loved, we had a good time.

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Speaker 1: I liked those two callers, I did. They touched upon

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01:10:30,520 --> 01:10:34,439
Speaker 1: some relatable stuff. I don't know. Sometimes there's a thing

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01:10:34,439 --> 01:10:37,080
Speaker 1: where like I'll really I'll talk to someone on the

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Speaker 1: phone for like the amount of time that I keep

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Speaker 1: a caller on the phone is just if like if

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Speaker 1: I'm just enjoying the conversation, I'll just let it rip,

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Speaker 1: you know, And then I'll get a comment on Spotify

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Speaker 1: it's like, why'd you let this guy go on for

1334
01:10:48,840 --> 01:10:50,479
Speaker 1: so long? And it's like, well, because it's you know,

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Speaker 1: it's interesting. This is what's I don't know. I don't

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01:10:54,080 --> 01:10:55,439
Speaker 1: know what's so with the cop But I'm gonna be

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01:10:55,479 --> 01:10:57,639
Speaker 1: a hypocrite. I shouldn't. I should shouldn't read the comments

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Speaker 1: if I'm telling other people not to read the comments.

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01:10:59,760 --> 01:11:02,560
Speaker 1: But I do. I read all the comments. Keep posting comments.

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01:11:02,840 --> 01:11:04,600
Speaker 1: I love reading the comments. What can I say? I

1341
01:11:04,640 --> 01:11:07,120
Speaker 1: love reading the comments. Please keep posting comments. I read

1342
01:11:07,200 --> 01:11:09,719
Speaker 1: all of them. I get bored. I'm on the toilet.

1343
01:11:09,800 --> 01:11:15,160
Speaker 1: I read the comments. But I'm I've been on the

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01:11:15,160 --> 01:11:20,080
Speaker 1: internet for I mean, like fifteen years or something like that.

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Speaker 1: I'm I don't. I have moderately thick skin. I think

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01:11:23,520 --> 01:11:25,400
Speaker 1: when it comes to comments. I mean, I'm human. I

1347
01:11:25,520 --> 01:11:28,840
Speaker 1: like when people like me. I think that that's I

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Speaker 1: think most human beings do. But anyway, before before we go,

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Speaker 1: I want to give a quick shout out that I

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01:11:37,560 --> 01:11:42,680
Speaker 1: have moved from super Cast. I have deactivated my Supercast

1351
01:11:42,720 --> 01:11:46,519
Speaker 1: and I have now put all of the premium Therapy

1352
01:11:46,520 --> 01:11:51,679
Speaker 1: get Go offerings on patreon dot com slash lyle forever.

1353
01:11:51,800 --> 01:11:54,280
Speaker 1: So if you want to support this podcast, and you

1354
01:11:54,320 --> 01:11:56,880
Speaker 1: want to and you want to get access to not

1355
01:11:56,960 --> 01:12:02,880
Speaker 1: only every episode of this podcast completely ad free, you

1356
01:12:02,920 --> 01:12:06,360
Speaker 1: can link your Patreon membership to Spotify and you get

1357
01:12:06,360 --> 01:12:08,720
Speaker 1: access to a brand new Spotify feed that has every

1358
01:12:08,760 --> 01:12:14,040
Speaker 1: episode of the podcast ad free, and you also get

1359
01:12:14,040 --> 01:12:17,960
Speaker 1: two bonus episodes of phone calls that didn't make the

1360
01:12:17,960 --> 01:12:20,840
Speaker 1: main pod. You get two of those bonus episodes a month.

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Speaker 1: And I'm also putting out a lot of footage from

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01:12:25,960 --> 01:12:30,200
Speaker 1: my Gecko documentaries. Those are the big things that I'm

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Speaker 1: working on recently. I have extended footage from my time

1364
01:12:33,439 --> 01:12:36,000
Speaker 1: in Iraq, I have extended footage from my Tijuana trip.

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01:12:36,000 --> 01:12:39,200
Speaker 1: I'm going to be uploading extended footage from my Ukraine

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01:12:39,280 --> 01:12:42,080
Speaker 1: video once that gets posted at the end of the month.

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Speaker 1: I do. I'm doing a little monthly Q and A

1368
01:12:46,160 --> 01:12:49,280
Speaker 1: over there. There's a lot of good stuff happening. So

1369
01:12:49,520 --> 01:12:50,960
Speaker 1: if you want to support the show, if you want

1370
01:12:50,960 --> 01:12:54,200
Speaker 1: to get more Gecko stuff, please go to Patreon dot com,

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01:12:54,240 --> 01:12:57,000
Speaker 1: slash lyle forever or find it in the link in

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01:12:57,040 --> 01:13:01,360
Speaker 1: the episode description. And that's about it. Get bless you all. Oh,

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01:13:01,400 --> 01:13:04,320
Speaker 1: and I'm also going on tour. My tour is coming

1374
01:13:04,400 --> 01:13:08,560
Speaker 1: up soon. If you live in San Diego or Los Angeles,

1375
01:13:09,160 --> 01:13:11,640
Speaker 1: please go go get those tickets. There are there are

1376
01:13:11,640 --> 01:13:13,960
Speaker 1: still some tickets available to those shows. Those shows are

1377
01:13:13,960 --> 01:13:19,360
Speaker 1: happening in one month. Therapy geckotour dot com. I started

1378
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Speaker 1: off the tour here in Tokyo where I've been hanging

1379
01:13:22,160 --> 01:13:28,200
Speaker 1: out for a couple months and it's been cool. So uh,

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01:13:28,520 --> 01:13:31,040
Speaker 1: the Tokyo show was great. Thanks for anyone who came

1381
01:13:31,080 --> 01:13:35,160
Speaker 1: out to the Tokyo show. I've got some stories that

1382
01:13:35,240 --> 01:13:38,400
Speaker 1: I'm telling. I'm doing my Gecko therapy. It's it's a

1383
01:13:38,400 --> 01:13:40,200
Speaker 1: good show. I'm very proud of the show. I'm very

1384
01:13:40,240 --> 01:13:43,760
Speaker 1: happy with the live show. This is the fourth time

1385
01:13:43,840 --> 01:13:48,200
Speaker 1: doing it. Please come out. Therapy geckotour dot com. And

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01:13:48,439 --> 01:13:50,160
Speaker 1: those are my little plugs. Those are the things I

1387
01:13:52,080 --> 01:13:55,760
Speaker 1: am am letting you guys know are available if you

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01:13:56,280 --> 01:14:01,160
Speaker 1: desire to venture further into the therapy gecko universe. Uh

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Speaker 1: that's it. God bless you all, thanks for listening. Be

1390
01:14:04,680 --> 01:14:09,280
Speaker 1: back soon. Goes on the line, taking your phone calls

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01:14:09,360 --> 01:14:09,920
Speaker 1: every night.

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01:14:10,320 --> 01:14:13,360
Speaker 2: The Repacon goes doing his night's teaching you a loud

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Speaker 2: in your life, but he's not really an expert.