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Speaker 2: in with Beca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio Podcast.
Speaker 1: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 2: Speaking of scrubbing in, Okay, I don't know if you
Speaker 2: notice anything different on my face today.
Speaker 1: What you don't see that? Do it again? The pimple? Yes,
Speaker 1: uh huh.
Speaker 2: The fact that you can see it from there is
Speaker 2: just go.
Speaker 1: She literally lifted it and shine into the light. But
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 2: It's one of those undergrounders that hurt hell like they
Speaker 2: just hurt being there. It just hurts being there. I
Speaker 2: feel like I have something inside me and I know
Speaker 2: I shouldn't touch it. But what as doctor Tilly, Well,
Speaker 2: would you prescribe me this?
Speaker 1: Don't touch it, keep it clean. I'd put a pimple
Speaker 1: patch on it. Really yeah, maybe it like sulfur mass,
Speaker 1: sulfur based mask so it can extract the stuff, But
Speaker 1: don't touch it. It'll create a wound.
Speaker 2: All I want to do is touch it.
Speaker 1: Well, I gotta say thank you for coming in today
Speaker 1: with such.
Speaker 2: A huge You're welcome.
Speaker 1: But those are the worst. Yeah, I had one on
Speaker 1: my forehead. Oh you saw it last week? Saw it?
Speaker 1: It was, And then I tried what you do with that? Honestly?
Speaker 1: Can I be honest?
Speaker 2: You squeezed it?
Speaker 1: No, well I had squeezed it when I saw you,
Speaker 1: so it was like it was unhappy. I said to myself, Becka,
Speaker 1: you know better than this. So I went home. I
Speaker 1: put a pimple patch on it. Didn't really do anything
Speaker 1: because I had basically created a wound. Yeah, I put
Speaker 1: neasporn on it and then a little band aid. Woke
Speaker 1: up the next day and it was like I would say, healed.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna put neosporn on it to night with
Speaker 2: a band aid.
Speaker 1: But I think you should try. I think there's stuff
Speaker 1: in there. Yeah, first I'll go at it. No, don't
Speaker 1: go on it. I'll put a neosporn band aid on
Speaker 1: it and not go at it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I'll be very upset if I see you next and
Speaker 1: you have a wound. But I do recommend putting like
Speaker 1: a mask and then a pimble patch on there and
Speaker 1: going to sleep. The Hero Cosmetic ones all right, I
Speaker 1: do have paid partnership with them coming up, But I
Speaker 1: love those Wow. So do you hope them at your house? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I think I do. Actually, I might have one in
Speaker 1: my in my bag.
Speaker 2: This is working out anyways, you've been busy.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. This I was just saying, like booked
Speaker 1: and it was one of those weekends where it was
Speaker 1: so fun, like I had such a great weekend, but
Speaker 1: it was like not a RESTful weekend. It was like
Speaker 1: a fun go get them, go get them, you get
Speaker 1: them tigers. So did it start? Well, it started with
Speaker 1: Thursday's episode with Chelsea Cutler, which I loved her so fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah, such a I just she was a great get.
Speaker 2: She has a really good energy.
Speaker 1: Great she was so I just I was if she
Speaker 1: and Haley wrote a song together, I'd die.
Speaker 2: By the way, I meant to ask you. So when
Speaker 2: she says something like that, like, oh, I want to
Speaker 2: do a song with Hailey, do you tell Hailey?
Speaker 1: Well, she said, Actually, what Chelsea said was that she
Speaker 1: wanted Haley to direct a video, which I think is like, obviously,
Speaker 1: writing a song is a compliment, but Hailey shines as
Speaker 1: a director. So like her saying that I told Haley
Speaker 1: and She's like that is so kind, Like she was
Speaker 1: just like very flattered. So do you like make it happen?
Speaker 1: Do you wheel and deal? I'll do as much as
Speaker 1: I can, but I think I offer the I connect
Speaker 1: the dogs and then it's out of my hands. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: but I would love it. So then Friday, as Ali
Speaker 1: Grant's maid of honor, we drove down to San Diego
Speaker 1: and we tried on dresses. Her first try on dress
Speaker 1: experience was it fun? It was really fun, and you know,
Speaker 1: I was like, what do I do as made of honor?
Speaker 1: Like I haven't done this? So like, what is my role?
Speaker 1: What is my role as the maid of honor for this?
Speaker 1: So I got her sprays hand the night before so
Speaker 1: that she felt you know, spirals, she felt her best ye,
Speaker 1: And then we drove down on Friday morning and she
Speaker 1: tried on dresses and it was so fun, Like it
Speaker 1: was so chill, and I think it I guess it
Speaker 1: depends on where you go, but I feel like when
Speaker 1: you go to like when I envision dress try on,
Speaker 1: I feel like it'd be very intimidating depending on where
Speaker 1: you go, right, because you were like, are they gonna
Speaker 1: judge if I'm not like a super small size? Are
Speaker 1: they gonna you know? You're just like, oh, sorry, we
Speaker 1: don't have that size for you, Like that's for a
Speaker 1: different body tie. I don't know. I was just thinking,
Speaker 1: like in my mind, I think could be intimidating. I
Speaker 1: think Ali thought that too. But it was so cute
Speaker 1: and like intimate and cozy. In the place we went
Speaker 1: in San Diego was just like this cute little house
Speaker 1: that had all these beautiful dresses and she was in
Speaker 1: such a it was just every dress looked so beautiful
Speaker 1: on her that it was like easy, breezy. You know.
Speaker 1: It wasn't stressful because like you know, when you're like
Speaker 1: with someone in I keep trying on dresses and then
Speaker 1: nothing's working and you're like, oh no, it's okay, it's okay,
Speaker 1: we just have it on the one It wasn't like that.
Speaker 1: It was like how are you gonna choose? Really? So
Speaker 1: that was a success. We went and had a cute lunch.
Speaker 1: I got I met so I've known Ali since two
Speaker 1: thousand and sixteen, I think, yeah, yeah, and uh, I've
Speaker 1: never met her parents, so that's fun. So we went
Speaker 1: to their house and I got to meet her parents
Speaker 1: and it's it was really it was just fun. And
Speaker 1: then we stayed at a hotel, which one it was
Speaker 1: a new one. It was called like Aliyah or something.
Speaker 1: It's like a Hyatt hotel, but they just opened it
Speaker 1: and insinitas. It was so beautiful. It's right on the water,
Speaker 1: and we had dinner and then did like a jacuzzi.
Speaker 1: It was just like very like girls night, you know,
Speaker 1: it's fun. And then the next morning she.
Speaker 2: Said she tried on ten dresses total. I'm like, that
Speaker 2: seems like a low number to me.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, it was just like so easy, so easy.
Speaker 2: That's like nice to hear because everybody.
Speaker 1: Jojo tried one just a few too, Like we went
Speaker 1: to a couple of different spots, but she didn't try
Speaker 1: on a ton.
Speaker 2: Oh really, yeah, I felt I don't know why I
Speaker 2: envisioned so much chaos, and like so many people have been.
Speaker 2: I was asking people kind of like with wedding planning,
Speaker 2: where do you start? And so many women were saying,
Speaker 2: get your dress asap, and I was like that was
Speaker 2: not even on my mind, Like that was like that's
Speaker 2: on the back burner right now because I thought venue
Speaker 2: and date and all that stuff is more important. And
Speaker 2: they're like, no wedding dresses can be back ordered for
Speaker 2: you know, maybe a year, and I'm like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 2: now that's a whole other stress that I didn't think about.
Speaker 1: I don't think. I think it's fun. That part to
Speaker 1: me feels well, you're so funny about like clothes and stuff.
Speaker 1: But she's like it's a little tight. It's like, no,
Speaker 1: it just fits, it's touching too much of my step.
Speaker 3: According to K and B Bridles, they say most brides
Speaker 3: try on four to seven dresses and they don't recommend
Speaker 3: more than ten because it's just you're gonna start hating.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 3: Other sites say no more than ten to fifteen. So
Speaker 3: I would say ten is kind of right in the pocket.
Speaker 3: Maybe a little high.
Speaker 2: Wow, that's so interesting, I guess. Also I was watching
Speaker 2: Alex Cooper. She was posting her wedding dress trounds and
Speaker 2: she had like it look like she was going through
Speaker 2: so many but maybe it's just a facade.
Speaker 1: Yeah maybe. But also I think once you kind of
Speaker 1: feel like what shape you like, then you can kind
Speaker 1: of narrow it down because like you, she kind of
Speaker 1: tried on different shapes, like you know, the classic wedding gown,
Speaker 1: like a more fitted and then you kind of go like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't want that, or this is the vibe I want,
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, but yeah, so that was really fun.
Speaker 1: And then Saturday we went to met Hailey Marla, who's
Speaker 1: one of her she's Hailey's best friend, but I've adopted
Speaker 1: her as one of my best friends. And then Haley
Speaker 1: brother Thatcher and we went to Disneyland. And Disneyland's so
Speaker 1: funny for me because every time I get there, I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, there's so many people. It's hot.
Speaker 2: I'm like, it was just so hot this weekend too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it was just like it's crowded. And then
Speaker 1: I like walk in the gates of Disney Street and
Speaker 1: I'm like, I made it. I'm here. Yeah, the most
Speaker 1: magical place on Earth.
Speaker 2: I also love Disneyland around Halloween time.
Speaker 1: This is my first time. Oh I've never been. It's so,
Speaker 1: did you go to the Haunted Mansion? No, well, we
Speaker 1: went by it. We saw it. It was like different.
Speaker 2: I mean, it was the night before Christmas themed.
Speaker 1: It's well, it was really cute on the outside. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so we it was really fun though. We went on
Speaker 1: the Okay, so I've been on the Star Wars Resistance
Speaker 1: ried have you been on it?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 1: Do you like Star Wars?
Speaker 3: There's two of them. I was on one of them.
Speaker 2: The other one Star Tours, one of them where you
Speaker 2: like walk out and you see all the white soldiers. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that one, I don't know. That's Rise of the Resistance.
Speaker 3: I think a line for us.
Speaker 1: Okay, that must be that one. It is crazy. But
Speaker 1: the first time we went on that, I was like,
Speaker 1: that was a really cool ride. But I don't I
Speaker 1: think I was expecting like a lot of I don't
Speaker 1: know movement and it was more just like experience. But
Speaker 1: this time I loved it. And I'm not even a
Speaker 1: Star Wars sad. Why did you love it so much?
Speaker 1: I'll be honest.
Speaker 2: You were high, like there's no other right when right.
Speaker 1: When we went on and I was like, this is
Speaker 1: the coolest thing ever. I got so paranoid because that
Speaker 1: the casts they're like mean to you. They're like, get hurry,
Speaker 1: you're moving too slow, like they're in character. But I
Speaker 1: didn't know, so I was like, they know I'm high,
Speaker 1: Like they're like yelling at me to move faster, and
Speaker 1: I was like I felt like I was moving fast enough.
Speaker 1: It was so crazy, but it was so fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna say that ride is not not
Speaker 2: my cup of tea.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, Hayley said she felt like she was in
Speaker 1: the movie so traditional, like I like a coaster. I
Speaker 1: love it. Okay. So then we go over to California
Speaker 1: Adventure and we go on the Incredit Coaster, Yeah, which
Speaker 1: is my favorite roller coaster of all time. I think
Speaker 1: it's like the best roller coaster. Yeah. And we get
Speaker 1: there and the line is you know where the bridges
Speaker 1: when you cross over from uh like where the food is,
Speaker 1: and you cross over the bridge, the line for the
Speaker 1: fast lane was back almost to the bridge. It was
Speaker 1: crazy and you stayed in it. No, we had gotten
Speaker 1: past it, but like once we got off, we saw
Speaker 1: it was but basically we were the last one before
Speaker 1: they had to shut it down, and like towards the
Speaker 1: end of the roller coaster, it abruptly stopped. And I
Speaker 1: looked at Haley and I was like, we're not supposed
Speaker 1: to stop right now. We're supposed to be going like
Speaker 1: fast in the last two loops and She's like, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: they always stop right here, and I'm like, no, they don't.
Speaker 1: And then we got off and they're like, hey, the
Speaker 1: Incredit Coaster is temporarily closed. Did they say why that's
Speaker 1: so scary? I think there was someone getting medical assistance
Speaker 1: in the other so I think they only had one
Speaker 1: going and maybe I don't know, but I got so
Speaker 1: freaked out. It was so scary. That's like my biggest fear. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know why I go on them because that's
Speaker 1: the potential for that to happen, that you get stuck.
Speaker 2: I don't get scared on those big places like Disneyland
Speaker 2: and stuff, but like the little fairs around town. How
Speaker 2: many days has this been going because there's a little
Speaker 2: rickety and who.
Speaker 1: Put it up? Yeah? Yeah, let me see their license. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So Disney was really fun, but my gosh, like, no
Speaker 1: matter what shoes you wear, your feet hurt. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: you were probably not in like oh really, yeah, I
Speaker 1: love them. I mean, like the cutest best shoes. They
Speaker 1: feel like clouds. But like, no matter how long you walk,
Speaker 1: I mean how it's just an abnormal amount of time
Speaker 1: on your feet to be on your feet, on your
Speaker 1: hoobs and a lot of just standing, you know. But
Speaker 1: it was it was so fun. And then yesterday I
Speaker 1: can't say what are costume is is?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Because we're going to post it soon. But Haley and
Speaker 1: I took some Halloween photos in a iconic cost couple's costume.
Speaker 1: It's very good. You liked it. I loved it. I
Speaker 1: was very impressed with the photos. Yeah, to show you Mark,
Speaker 1: Will you guys go all out?
Speaker 3: I remember your Grinch one, Yeah.
Speaker 2: The best because it was a Christmas party, so it
Speaker 2: was so unexpected, Like I just thought I was walking
Speaker 2: into like cute dress party town. Right, she may come
Speaker 2: in waddling in like the Grinch and Martha May. One
Speaker 2: of my favorite videos of Becca is her like breathing
Speaker 2: with like the prosthetic nose, like flaring up and down.
Speaker 1: It was so gross like it. It was such a
Speaker 1: weird thing because when I I couldn't breathe while I
Speaker 1: was eating, so I didn't want to eat because it
Speaker 1: was really hard. It was having to like mouth breathe,
Speaker 1: which I don't like to do period. But I did
Speaker 1: keep drinking, so the deadly combo of drinking and not
Speaker 1: eating really snuck up to me. Yeah, it tends to happen.
Speaker 1: Tends to happen. I saw videos the next day where
Speaker 1: I go, hmmm, don't remember that, mm hmm. But everyone
Speaker 1: thought I was a great time. Yeah, you were a
Speaker 1: great time. And that's tough for me to hear because
Speaker 1: it makes me want to please.
Speaker 2: The people, right yeah, and keep the keep drink drinking, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I get it.
Speaker 1: So yeah, we did that all yesterday and then here
Speaker 1: we are today. Wow.
Speaker 2: I actually a lot of people messaged me because I
Speaker 2: went to a chicken tender festival yesterday and everybody was like,
Speaker 2: this is Becca's worst nightmare.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, like, did you have to inspect every
Speaker 1: piece of chicken you ate?
Speaker 2: Nope, swallow a hole, just bid into, bid into it
Speaker 2: and chewed it up and swallowed it.
Speaker 3: That's what I would do too. It sounds like a
Speaker 3: lot of fun the way you described it to me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it was. And you know, so I was
Speaker 2: not gluten free yesterday. I went full gluttonous. But what
Speaker 2: they do is they have these like booths that are
Speaker 2: all set up from different different chicken tender places.
Speaker 1: Where do they have this event? By the way, it's I.
Speaker 2: Forget the name of the venue, but it's it's on
Speaker 2: It's on Santa Monica Boulevard. Oh, it's like it's an Yeah,
Speaker 2: And so they're like little booths and so you pay
Speaker 2: for like the entry, and you just you can take
Speaker 2: as many samples from however money you want, right, and
Speaker 2: they put them in like those little boats, and we
Speaker 2: took the kids and they love chicken tender, so they
Speaker 2: were like having the best time of their lives. But
Speaker 2: you go and you just try all these I sent
Speaker 2: you a text and you just didn't.
Speaker 1: Know was in the middle of the Halloween Photer show.
Speaker 2: I was really excited because I was like really into
Speaker 2: the Raisin Canes chicken tender and I think it's because
Speaker 2: it was in the sauce.
Speaker 1: I was gonna ask you, so do you dip in sauces?
Speaker 2: Yeah, so everybody has like their own sauce, yes, and
Speaker 2: in their sauce, well, Raisin Canes had it in like
Speaker 2: a cup like drinking cups, so they had the sauce
Speaker 2: in the bottom and then they put the chicken tender
Speaker 2: in it, so it was just kind of like floating
Speaker 2: in it.
Speaker 1: It was so soggy. It wasn't soggy.
Speaker 2: It was delicious. And then they had different like you know,
Speaker 2: like Asian inspired ones, and there was like a gumbo
Speaker 2: one and then Jones on third was there, which was
Speaker 2: like it had almost like a Chinese chicken salad to it.
Speaker 1: It was so good. So who won? Who won best
Speaker 1: chicken tender? Uh? For you?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: For me?
Speaker 2: It was Jones on third Wow.
Speaker 1: Yeah, did raisin canes serve like fries and toast or anything?
Speaker 2: No, it was just tender someplaces, but.
Speaker 1: Like raising canes without the fries and toast is just canes. No,
Speaker 1: but let me tell you, the chicken tender was good,
Speaker 1: I know, but like the toast and the so post
Speaker 1: Malone did this whole opening for Raising Canes in Dallas.
Speaker 1: This's like crazy, like amazing raisin Canes restaurant Dallas. I
Speaker 1: was going to go, like when I went to Vegas. Oh,
Speaker 1: but I was going to Vegas. I was supposed to go,
Speaker 1: and I had this genius idea of like for my
Speaker 1: posts with him saying toast Malone because they're known for
Speaker 1: their toe good Anyway, on the cutting room floor, it
Speaker 1: sure is until maybe we meet again maybe yeah, me
Speaker 1: and Posty.
Speaker 2: But I will say so this morning I did not
Speaker 2: feel so good.
Speaker 1: I mean I'd only need a whole day of chicken tenders. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was not.
Speaker 2: I was feeling my stomach was feeling not happy with me.
Speaker 2: This morning's feeling gluttonous. It was just not feeling good.
Speaker 2: And I don't get tummy aches, like I haven't had
Speaker 2: a tummy ache in a long time.
Speaker 3: But did that result in anything if you know what
Speaker 3: I mean?
Speaker 2: Oh, like diarrhea perhaps? No, No, just a lot of pain.
Speaker 3: Okay, but you get past it.
Speaker 2: I'm past it now. Yeah, thank you for asking.
Speaker 1: Say it's gas pain. I don't know it was.
Speaker 2: I was working out actually, and I like felt it
Speaker 2: and I was going to quit my workout, and I
Speaker 2: was like, you know what, it is, challenge you. It
Speaker 2: doesn't change you. So I'm going to stick to it.
Speaker 2: And I did and it went away.
Speaker 1: All right. So that was yesterday this morning? No, no, no,
Speaker 1: but oh yeah yeah yeah the event. What else did
Speaker 1: you do over the weekend?
Speaker 2: I mean, you know what's interesting? Time just flies. I
Speaker 2: can't tell you what I did this weekend.
Speaker 3: But your realize today it's one month to Thanksgiving.
Speaker 2: Today, it's one month to Thanksgiving today, Your birthday is
Speaker 2: in one week.
Speaker 3: Christmas Eve is two months from tomorrow.
Speaker 2: Christmas Eve is two months from tomorrow.
Speaker 1: Yeah, time is going, it's flying.
Speaker 2: I don't know what to do because I don't feel
Speaker 2: like I have enough hours in the day. But I'm
Speaker 2: really I'm really like fired up in like you, just
Speaker 2: in general in life. Right now, I feel like I'm
Speaker 2: firing at all cylinders. I'm feeling very in tune and
Speaker 2: aware and what's.
Speaker 1: The word motivated?
Speaker 2: Motivated, but also like getting it done efficient productive as
Speaker 2: some may say, I watched the Chiefs game.
Speaker 1: You yep, wait, are you going to unalism productive?
Speaker 2: I booked interviews with wedding planners.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's a big deal.
Speaker 2: Step one right, that's step one three interviews.
Speaker 1: Did you find the one? No?
Speaker 2: No, I have the interviews as we probably wants to
Speaker 2: be a part of them. So it's a little challenging
Speaker 2: with all of our schedules.
Speaker 1: But doesn't challenge you.
Speaker 2: It doesn't change It doesn't challenge you. It does not
Speaker 2: change you.
Speaker 3: What is your criteria when you meet these people?
Speaker 2: So I don't know. I'm like, I'm gonna say, you
Speaker 2: meet you with three people, you just take one.
Speaker 1: Well, they're gonna be like, here's my thing in your
Speaker 1: bi Sure, you're just gonna have to go all personality.
Speaker 2: I want somebody that's like very type A that knows
Speaker 2: like that can handle my energy and also is just
Speaker 2: very buttoned up. That's I guess what I'm looking for.
Speaker 1: Button up. Okay, that's good.
Speaker 3: Are their wedding planners that are not buttoned up? It
Speaker 3: seems like that's a question.
Speaker 1: Yeah I would. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I would think not.
Speaker 1: But you should say, what would you rate yourself on
Speaker 1: a buttoned up scale?
Speaker 3: Well, I'll say ten.
Speaker 1: There you go, can't go wrong.
Speaker 3: I think you'll know. I think it's like it's like
Speaker 3: in life, when you know you know. I think you'll know,
Speaker 3: you think?
Speaker 1: So I do vibe and price.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why Robbie's going to be there, because you
Speaker 2: can hit away. He can handle the logistical questions. And
Speaker 2: I'm going to be like, so you had a vision
Speaker 2: board for my wedding.
Speaker 3: What's your favorite Taylor Swift album?
Speaker 1: That's so good? You should be like, can you create
Speaker 1: a vision board into it to me?
Speaker 2: Auditioned to me my wedding?
Speaker 1: I don't know how it works? Want me? I got
Speaker 1: so many? Right? Yeah, talk it through.
Speaker 3: Could you say, Disco, if you were to make a
Speaker 3: vision board for my wedding, what would be on it?
Speaker 3: Maybe that's a question.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's as I said it. I was like Damn,
Speaker 2: that was a good question.
Speaker 1: Just so, what do you think of the Chiefs game?
Speaker 2: So they won? Yeah, they did, they won, And you know,
Speaker 2: I found it interesting that people were not they're not
Speaker 2: so keen on the Brittany Mahomes friendship.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've noticed that too.
Speaker 3: Why is that? I've seen that too, and I don't
Speaker 3: know why.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: If again, I haven't looked into a deep dive. I
Speaker 2: haven't done a deep dive, but apparently there's some slanderous
Speaker 2: remarks that she's made in the Brittany's Mad Yeah, oh okay,
Speaker 2: I should look at that because she seems adorable.
Speaker 3: And also since like high.
Speaker 2: School, I know, oh her and her yeah yeah yeah
Speaker 2: really It's weird but reminded me of like when you're
Speaker 2: newly meeting your significant others wives, you know, like are
Speaker 2: their significant friends, Yeah, but when they're married, it's like
Speaker 2: a different level. Like I remember when I was meeting
Speaker 2: all Robbie's married friends and the very beginning, and I
Speaker 2: was like, it's intimidating.
Speaker 1: You think TAS's intimidated? I think so. You don't imagine
Speaker 1: she feels a certain sense of power when she walks
Speaker 1: into a room. Really yes, but I do think that
Speaker 1: she must have. Yeah, but I do think I was
Speaker 1: gonna say I do think she tried, probably tries to
Speaker 1: like really make it feel like personable because she is
Speaker 1: so massive that she's probably like, I just want to
Speaker 1: be friends that are watching our significant others play. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're chill, we're doing handshakes, We're like living our best life. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I still feel exhausted for her that the camera just
Speaker 1: pants on her and she has to be on for
Speaker 1: her reaction every time she puts on a show.
Speaker 2: She really gives her Yeah.
Speaker 1: True, Yeah, it's a lot. But so was that what
Speaker 1: was that a game? Where was that?
Speaker 2: It was at the Chief's Arrowhead Pond.
Speaker 3: Ahead used to be in Orange County, Yes, but Erahead
Speaker 3: Stadiums in Kansas City. Yes, it was a home game
Speaker 3: for the Chiefs.
Speaker 1: Yes. Oh why did I think it was like an
Speaker 1: overseas game? Is there something about an overseas game that she.
Speaker 2: So she's going to be overseas on tour? Yeah, so
Speaker 2: he's going to come see her.
Speaker 1: Oh that's the conversation that people are having. Yes, okay, yes,
Speaker 1: all right, there's something else I wanted to talk to
Speaker 1: you about.
Speaker 3: You know, we could take a break.
Speaker 1: And Okay, I think about that. Okay, we'll be right back.
Speaker 1: All right, we're back. So every year for my birthday,
Speaker 1: I like to do a trip somewhere with all my
Speaker 1: best friends. And it's fun because I don't like a
Speaker 1: lot of direct attention on me, but it makes it
Speaker 1: feel very like fun and like everyone like goes and
Speaker 1: is together and it's just like a fun time for everyone.
Speaker 1: But it's not like direct birthday attention. It's not I
Speaker 1: prefer it not to be, but it's not. Everyone's just
Speaker 1: like hanging out in on vacation kind of, so it
Speaker 1: feels like less like you know. Anyways, I've been doing
Speaker 1: it since twenty seventeen, where that's where client originated. But
Speaker 1: we're going this week to somewhere like cold and cozy
Speaker 1: because either like last year we did Hawaii and then
Speaker 1: you know, we kind of switch it up if it's
Speaker 1: gonna be like somehere warm or somewere cozy and cold,
Speaker 1: and so this year we're going to Idaho and it's
Speaker 1: supposed to get down. I looked at the weather just
Speaker 1: kind of seeing like, oh, like it it's gonna be
Speaker 1: like nice like sweater weather, eight degrees low, I don't
Speaker 1: even know what what do you do?
Speaker 3: Like and sweater weather? Sweat Yeah, I used to go
Speaker 3: to football games when it was you know, because I'm
Speaker 3: from Wisconsin. I don't know if I've mentioned that, but
Speaker 3: it's like zero for a good stretch. And so when
Speaker 3: when you go out to a football game and you're
Speaker 3: going to be outside for a long period of time,
Speaker 3: you wear like seven layers.
Speaker 2: And I want to say, like when you ski, when
Speaker 2: you go ski, it's like in the twenties, right.
Speaker 3: Anything when thirty, Yeah, but it can be over thirty.
Speaker 3: It's just you know, I.
Speaker 2: Don't think i've ever seen eight I'm on ski.
Speaker 3: Yeah, sing is tough.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was shocked. And it just happens to come
Speaker 1: like right when we're arriving. But we are going to
Speaker 1: go for the weekend. It's it's I'm really excited. Everyone's
Speaker 1: just gonna have to well we'll just be inside mostly.
Speaker 1: Tanya is not going.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I tend to. She skips out on the birthday,
Speaker 2: the birthdays trip.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's been on.
Speaker 3: Tend to do it when we're doing the show, right,
Speaker 3: I mean that's what you say, we're doing the morning
Speaker 3: show while you're on your birthday trip usually.
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah.
Speaker 2: I usually the thing is I always I always have
Speaker 2: to come by myself. So I'm always like the I
Speaker 2: always have to go by myself. So that's fine. And
Speaker 2: then but this one, I was like, I actually can
Speaker 2: make it because it was a different weekend than you
Speaker 2: usually do it, and usually working on that weekend.
Speaker 1: It's normally your anniversary weekend.
Speaker 2: That's why our anniversary weekend. But apparently we're not celebrating
Speaker 2: celebrating our anniversary this year, which is a whole other topic.
Speaker 3: But have yet.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we talked about that. He wants to celebrate the
Speaker 1: engage in the proposal. No, it's our wedding date. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, but we don't have a wedding date. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that this should be one last who were all?
Speaker 3: I think you need one anniversary at all times, That's
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. So you got to do this one
Speaker 3: one more time, That's what I think.
Speaker 2: Yes, But so our anniversary falls on Sunday's birthday, so
Speaker 2: I think we're gonna have a birthday party for Sunday.
Speaker 1: Perfect.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So anyways, but uh, where were we talking about?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 2: And then uh, Sunday, I have to be back Sunday
Speaker 2: by eleven. So I was like, I just feel like
Speaker 2: I have to like be the first, the last one
Speaker 2: in and the first one out. And it's a tricky
Speaker 2: situation because you're not close to the airport.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're a little bit of a drive. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: it's tough. You can my thirtieth though, that was your thirtieth.
Speaker 1: That was special. Yeah, but that was a big one.
Speaker 1: That was that was a big one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like that was a lot of activities.
Speaker 1: Oh we did a activity. Yeah, we did so much.
Speaker 1: We did like what do you call those things? The
Speaker 1: hair making things we did. We made like flower crowns.
Speaker 2: We did like a boat excurgion, Yeah, like dinners like
Speaker 2: that was all.
Speaker 1: That was literally vacation. Yeah, it was really fun. They're
Speaker 1: all really fun. But you've only been on that one,
Speaker 1: but normally there are. And then this year, like every year,
Speaker 1: for well not every year, the past two years, Ali
Speaker 1: and I have thrown a Halloween party at my house.
Speaker 1: And at first it was like, let's just do a
Speaker 1: fun thing. We'll have like a bartender, it'll be like casual,
Speaker 1: and then last year kind of got a little bigger
Speaker 1: and I was like I don't know if I want
Speaker 1: to do these at my house anymore, like if they're
Speaker 1: gonna be this big because I don't get to it
Speaker 1: was bigger. Last year was bigger. Yeah, how many more
Speaker 1: people like fifty what? Yeah? And my thing is like
Speaker 1: I'm fine, my house is a great space to have
Speaker 1: the party. It's just like I don't get to relax
Speaker 1: because I'm like stress making sure nothing's getting ruined hosting.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I just want to like not host. So this
Speaker 1: year we were gonna do it somewhere else, and then
Speaker 1: there's just like so Ali's like doing a house remodel,
Speaker 1: She's planning her wedding. I had like all these things happening.
Speaker 1: So we were like, let's just not do it. We've
Speaker 1: gotten so many messages of people being like, wait, y'all
Speaker 1: are doing the Halloween party this year, like those are
Speaker 1: my that's my Halloween plan. And I'm like, man, it
Speaker 1: makes you feel good, like we're throwing a good party.
Speaker 1: But then I realized, like, if you just have a
Speaker 1: bartender and people get free alcohol, that's all they care about.
Speaker 1: They're like, true, it's a I think it's a big
Speaker 1: I think it's a big reason. But last year we
Speaker 1: had like the photo booths set up. It was it
Speaker 1: was a good time, and I.
Speaker 2: Was saying, it's funny because my friends are coming to me.
Speaker 2: Like Paulina was like talking about your Halloween party. Is like,
Speaker 2: I don't think she's doing it this year. She's like, what,
Speaker 2: That's what I was planning on doing.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Sorry, like everyone, no one's getting dressed up this
Speaker 1: year because we're not doing the party.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I have no Halloween. I have no costume.
Speaker 1: You have to like, I have to do something. I
Speaker 1: have nothing, But y'all's past ones have been so good,
Speaker 1: him or Courtney and Travis and then Barbie.
Speaker 3: Like you you good. I have kind of reputation to uphold.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. But now, I mean now it's too late.
Speaker 3: It's not a week.
Speaker 1: It was on Prime right there for you. Okay, you
Speaker 1: can do this, all right. You can pull it off.
Speaker 1: Even if you could literally wear what you have and
Speaker 1: get a blonde wig. You know, could be Sandy and
Speaker 1: Danny from Greece. That's cute and easy. You're the one
Speaker 1: that I want. Yeah, that's cute.
Speaker 3: It is cute. It is pretty cute, and he looks
Speaker 3: super handsome.
Speaker 1: I can't see him in a blonde wig again. So
Speaker 1: he's got to do something with his dark hair because
Speaker 1: that was traumatizing everybody that week.
Speaker 2: Was so gross, so bad.
Speaker 1: In the way he'd like moved with this man. It
Speaker 1: was so creepy.
Speaker 2: It was so creepy, I know, but I love that
Speaker 2: he gets into it.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I will say one thing about Robbie. He's down.
Speaker 1: He's down for anything.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he is down.
Speaker 1: Okay. Oh, we were talking about I was going to
Speaker 1: try and do the transition in nice.
Speaker 3: I missed it.
Speaker 1: Speaking of Idaho being called conversations back, we were talking
Speaker 1: about ice baths. There's an ice bath dating or speed dating?
Speaker 3: Is this in La last week and everyone's talking about
Speaker 3: cold plunges. Everyone's seeing the value in cold plunges. And
Speaker 3: now somebody tried this thing where you get into an
Speaker 3: ice bath with a potential partner and you have three
Speaker 3: minutes in the ice bath to get to know each
Speaker 3: other a little better and decide if you'd like to
Speaker 3: do it, like speed dating, but in a bathtub full
Speaker 3: of ice.
Speaker 1: I just you know how we were talking about was
Speaker 1: Chelsea Cutler, how like you walk away from a conversation
Speaker 1: You're like, why did I say that? But I just
Speaker 1: know you put me in an ice bath and give
Speaker 1: me three minutes. I'm gonna be like, why did I
Speaker 1: bring that up?
Speaker 2: See on its surface, on its face, it sounds like
Speaker 2: something that I would totally be into, like ice bath, yes,
Speaker 2: health wellness.
Speaker 1: Yes.
Speaker 2: There's nothing about an ice bath that I want on
Speaker 2: a first date.
Speaker 1: Nothing.
Speaker 2: I want alcohol involved, I want clothing involved, like I
Speaker 2: just nothing about that sounds like a comfortable first date
Speaker 2: to me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a very specific consumer.
Speaker 3: So the first time you see the person, they're in
Speaker 3: a swimsuit. I mean, it's one step away from naked attraction,
Speaker 3: really close to that. But to Becket's point, I think
Speaker 3: it does take down your walls. You know, you're you know,
Speaker 3: you're hesitant to you're it's all gone. You're an ice bath.
Speaker 3: You're just talking like your your true self is coming out.
Speaker 3: Your inhibitions are gone.
Speaker 1: Speaking of naked attraction, I watched it with Robbie. Oh
Speaker 1: what did you record it? You did? I have to
Speaker 1: find it.
Speaker 2: The audio is like he was like, so I'm not
Speaker 2: watching this and he's like, I don't I'm not watching one?
Speaker 1: Was it one where the woman was looking for a
Speaker 1: man or the man was looking for a woman.
Speaker 2: The woman was looking for a man, and the guy
Speaker 2: had a wiener with an elephant.
Speaker 1: Elephant classic. That was where we started to.
Speaker 2: He was just like, I think we watched not even
Speaker 2: five minutes of it.
Speaker 3: So as soon as they bring up the wall and reveal.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, I'm out, no, thank you?
Speaker 3: Did you say?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: Way? They switch it later and.
Speaker 1: They should have like started with maybe. I think women
Speaker 1: are probably more like gasped a gasp by the men.
Speaker 1: I like this. I think that has an elephant tattoo
Speaker 1: and the penis is the trunk. Oh that's so real.
Speaker 3: I don't like it, Jess.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just watching Instagram now.
Speaker 1: Bluster response. Yeah, he like, we didn't even want to.
Speaker 1: I was like, who's just finished the episode? He's like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to watch it? Interesting? Yeah, he wasn't
Speaker 1: down for it. He is not down.
Speaker 2: So I finished the episode myself.
Speaker 3: And what are your thoughts on the show in general?
Speaker 2: You know I didn't hate it, Okay, sure, I didn't
Speaker 2: hate it. I didn't see the razor bumps that you
Speaker 2: were speaking of. I don't think my TV is big enough.
Speaker 2: I didn't get that up close to you.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, like my yuah, really, I didn't notice it's beautiful.
Speaker 3: Well that's okay, beautiful.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't notice the bumps.
Speaker 2: So I only watched that one. I didn't watch anything else.
Speaker 3: Do you feel like you want to watch more? Because
Speaker 3: I feel like I didn't hate it, but I didn't
Speaker 3: feel like I needed to see anymore.
Speaker 2: No, I don't feel like I need to.
Speaker 3: I feel like I got the idea.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Also, I feel like the dental care in England
Speaker 3: is a stereotype but also factual. They need better dental
Speaker 3: care in England.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it is interesting. Yeah, yeah, I agree. Though it's
Speaker 1: like you see it in you're kind of it's like
Speaker 1: shock factor, and then you see two episodes maybe one
Speaker 1: each ender, yeah, and then you're kind of like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm done.
Speaker 3: I'm good. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because there's not much depth past That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: I almost wish that they, like, I think, an update
Speaker 2: on where Elephant Man and a spoiler alert fix the
Speaker 2: Elephant Man, like where are they now? You know? Did
Speaker 2: they work out? Are they dating? Like I would like
Speaker 2: a little bit more. I feel like it lacks depth.
Speaker 1: I see, well, I'm sure when the mind when the
Speaker 1: US does their version of it, they'll go as a
Speaker 1: full rundown. Did you watch the reunion of that? By
Speaker 1: the way, I did. What do you think I've literally
Speaker 1: thought Stacy and Izzy we're going to be together? Me too.
Speaker 2: I'm shocked.
Speaker 1: I was like, this, they make so much sense to me.
Speaker 1: I was like, and even the way they were.
Speaker 2: Like catching each other and they still want to be friends.
Speaker 2: She's like, oh, I want her to meet my girlfriend.
Speaker 2: I'm like, what are you doing? This is so weird.
Speaker 2: Something feels off. And then the fact that he dated
Speaker 2: Johnny again, I was like, this is getting.
Speaker 1: I don't know if they dated though, I think they.
Speaker 2: Just went on a date.
Speaker 1: I saw each other out and talked like. I didn't
Speaker 1: feel like there.
Speaker 2: Also, did I miss something that they all live in Houston.
Speaker 1: That's how they always do the show. They all are
Speaker 1: from the same place.
Speaker 2: I've missed that the first however, many seasons, because I
Speaker 2: was like, but they're all just romping around the same
Speaker 2: bars in Houston, Texas, Like this is so weird.
Speaker 1: No, they're all like normally from one city. So weird.
Speaker 2: I know. I'm over that show.
Speaker 1: Wow, really next season? No thing?
Speaker 3: Season six is a hard pass from tierrabye, you don't
Speaker 3: think that absence the time between now and then, we'll
Speaker 3: make you.
Speaker 1: I can't watch.
Speaker 2: I'm probably gonna watch it, but I don't know. I
Speaker 2: was very truned off this season me too, Like couples
Speaker 2: made it, and I also feel like the couple that
Speaker 2: made it, Milton and Lydia. They're like living separately right now,
Speaker 2: like one lives in Long Beach and one lives somewhere else.
Speaker 2: I'm like, what.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't really been into it since the first season.
Speaker 1: And I told you because the first season they were purist,
Speaker 1: they didn't know what they were getting into. It felt
Speaker 1: very genuine this I don't know. I'm turned off.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that one island UK am I right out hard pass.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're done with the UK.
Speaker 1: I was I ever never.
Speaker 2: Well, they're doing like the Olympic games, Like they're doing
Speaker 2: the games where they bring back old contestants to do games.
Speaker 1: Oh see, I'd be done for that.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's coming in general, like the road rules, Yeah things.
Speaker 2: I don't know how intense it's going to be, but
Speaker 2: I'm so into it.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, we'll see stand by. Yeah, should we get
Speaker 1: into emails?
Speaker 3: They're tough ones today.
Speaker 1: Do we take a break and let's do that. Okay,
Speaker 1: we'll be back. All right, let's get into some emails.
Speaker 3: Mark, all right, Becka, thank you very much. This first
Speaker 3: one is tough and hoteler Anonymous says, I've been married
Speaker 3: to my husband two years. We've been together eleven and
Speaker 3: a half years. That is some runway right there. Anyway,
Speaker 3: I had got feeling he was being sketchy and something
Speaker 3: was off, so I looked at his phone. He had
Speaker 3: the Whisper app open. This is an app where you
Speaker 3: can talk with people locally anonymously. You create posts that
Speaker 3: people can comment don and start to chat with you.
Speaker 3: I had never heard of this app till I saw
Speaker 3: it on his phone. Well, he's been chatting with women
Speaker 3: in our area, and from what I saw was nothing harmless,
Speaker 3: just making conversation with strangers. But I could tell he
Speaker 3: was trying to be flirty. Then I saw his posts,
Speaker 3: which is different than the conversations. Within the last year,
Speaker 3: he has posted things like maybe getting married was a mistake,
Speaker 3: and I'm no longer happy with my wife and I'm
Speaker 3: no longer attracted to my wife. I confronted him. He's apologetic,
Speaker 3: he says, he loves me and wants to make it right,
Speaker 3: but I don't know how to trust him. He has
Speaker 3: struggled with mental health issues for as long as I've
Speaker 3: known him, in this last year has not been easy
Speaker 3: for either of us. Now, I don't know how to
Speaker 3: move forward. I could use some advice. I don't feel
Speaker 3: like I can tell anyone what's going on without being judged.
Speaker 1: That's so painful, so hurtful to see that.
Speaker 3: Because he's in person, he's going to say no, no, no,
Speaker 3: I didn't mean that. But what is when is a
Speaker 3: person being more honest when he's talking to you face
Speaker 3: to face or when he's posting anonymously on the internet.
Speaker 3: And I don't know the answer to that question.
Speaker 2: Well, I think the fact that he's saying it at
Speaker 2: all is like, so especially after eleven and a half years,
Speaker 2: that's so sad.
Speaker 1: I think this, to me feels like a great time
Speaker 1: to look into couple's therapy, to have someone help navigate
Speaker 1: and see if it's even worth like trying to out
Speaker 1: because my thought process is, like, you already saw these
Speaker 1: things that he said, these hurtful words, so he could
Speaker 1: like that's an out for him, right, for him to
Speaker 1: be like, you know what, I am having a really
Speaker 1: hard time, like I don't know if I want to
Speaker 1: be in this marriage, but instead he's going like, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I want to make it right. So to me, it
Speaker 1: feels like he loves you. He's just he's got to me,
Speaker 1: this is just him being very selfish and like seeking
Speaker 1: something from somewhere else. But I think it's up to
Speaker 1: you to decide if you feel like you'll be able
Speaker 1: to trust him again, because it's not fair for you
Speaker 1: to be in a marriage where you're trying to work
Speaker 1: with someone that you can't feel safe with. And I
Speaker 1: think that it's up to you of like, do you
Speaker 1: want to pursue couples there, but do you want to
Speaker 1: try and make it work, or do you feel like
Speaker 1: you've been hurt and you don't feel like you can
Speaker 1: trust him again.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think there's two things at play here. I
Speaker 2: feel like sometimes people stay in relationships like this because
Speaker 2: they fear being single or they fear starting over again
Speaker 2: with somebody else.
Speaker 1: And I think if.
Speaker 2: That's your fear, then you shouldn't. You should step out
Speaker 2: of that fear because I think you can find somebody
Speaker 2: that you can trust and it's going to be even
Speaker 2: better than you even imagined. But if you want to
Speaker 2: if that's not the case, then you really just want
Speaker 2: to make this relationship work. I think that you can.
Speaker 2: It just depends on you, really, you know, Like I
Speaker 2: had a girlfriend whose husband cheated on her and all
Speaker 2: of her friends were just like divorce, divorce, get out,
Speaker 2: and she wanted to try to make it work. And
Speaker 2: they tried. They tried really hard, and they failed. They
Speaker 2: couldn't figure it out, they couldn't make it work, and
Speaker 2: they ended up getting a divorce. But I think the
Speaker 2: fact that she tried made her be able to go
Speaker 2: through with the divorce.
Speaker 1: Feeling better, like I tried everything.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I think you can take that approach, just
Speaker 2: try and the worst thing that can happen is like
Speaker 2: it doesn't work and you can't get past it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm with you, though. I think I think that
Speaker 1: if you're fearful, because and a half years is a
Speaker 1: long time with someone, and I think there's that fear
Speaker 1: of like comfort, stepping out of the comfort, the safety
Speaker 1: of like being with someone, but he's kind of broken
Speaker 1: that safety that you felt with him. So I think
Speaker 1: if that's your fear, then it's important to like sort
Speaker 1: that out because that's not a reason to stay with
Speaker 1: someone and be miserable.
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's two unknowns. One is the mental health issues.
Speaker 3: We don't know much about that. You know more than
Speaker 3: we do, so maybe that's a factor in his behavior.
Speaker 3: So that's something to consider. Two is why why does
Speaker 3: a guy posts that on an anonymous site just for attention,
Speaker 3: just to get conversations started, just to meet new people.
Speaker 3: And he's trying to think if there is not an
Speaker 3: innocent explanation, but some sort of a reasonable explanation as
Speaker 3: to why he would do this, and maybe he can
Speaker 3: give you that and that can make you feel better
Speaker 3: about this, because my concern is always going to be
Speaker 3: in the back of your head I am no longer
Speaker 3: attracted to my wife. Is always going to be in
Speaker 3: your brain for the foreseeable future, and so that scares
Speaker 3: me a little bit. And are not going to judge you.
Speaker 3: I know you don't want to be judged, and we're not.
Speaker 3: Whatever you decide is what's best for you, But I
Speaker 3: am concerned.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I'm regardless of what you decide. I'm really
Speaker 1: sorry that you are navigating having to navigate this and
Speaker 1: that you saw such hurtful things and feel the betrayal
Speaker 1: that you I imagine you're feeling very hard.
Speaker 3: Brenda says, I am a Day one listener. How about
Speaker 3: that for Brenda left here for.
Speaker 1: We love you for.
Speaker 3: That first time emailing love you all so much. Looking
Speaker 3: for advice on post breakup social media stuff. So I'm
Speaker 3: going to summarize this as best I can. A separated
Speaker 3: from my partner ten months ago after a ten year relationship,
Speaker 3: but she's good, right thing to do, much happier now.
Speaker 3: We have two daughters, ages five and eight. They're the
Speaker 3: best Our co parenting is great. All is good. Question
Speaker 3: what do I do with Instagram and Facebook posts with
Speaker 3: him in them? It feels weird to delete them because
Speaker 3: most of them are family photos? Do I delete them?
Speaker 3: How about the ones that is the two of us?
Speaker 3: Do I delete those? I feel like I might hurt
Speaker 3: his feelings. I keep looking to see if he deleted
Speaker 3: his posts of me, but he hasn't, and I would
Speaker 3: be give me permission to do it myself, but he
Speaker 3: hasn't done that yet, So I'm stuck. I don't know
Speaker 3: what to do. Does this mean I'm not ready? Do
Speaker 3: I wait it out? Longer do I leave it there forever.
Speaker 3: People are gonna think I'm cheating on him on dating apps.
Speaker 3: If they live it looks like I'm stilling with my axe.
Speaker 3: Help me. The first thing I'll say is, as a guy,
Speaker 3: I guarantee you he has never even considered taking those down.
Speaker 3: Doesn't even enter his head, doesn't even realize they're still there.
Speaker 1: I don't know about that.
Speaker 3: I'm telling you, I'm a guy. He's a guy. We
Speaker 3: don't think that way. It would never even occur to him.
Speaker 1: But if he met another woman and she was like,
Speaker 1: can you take those off?
Speaker 3: She might bring that up and then he might respond yeah,
Speaker 3: but that will be the first time he considers taking
Speaker 3: them down.
Speaker 1: I don't know about that.
Speaker 3: I'm a guy.
Speaker 1: I think Robert took all our foots, like a lot
Speaker 1: of our foot well, like I think both like I
Speaker 1: archived all my photos of Robert. I didn't delete them
Speaker 1: because they were like good memories, so I didn't want
Speaker 1: them to be like gone forever.
Speaker 2: Side note, we'll get back to this. How do you
Speaker 2: what is an archive? And where do you find it?
Speaker 2: You just go to your archive, but no, I can't
Speaker 2: see your archive. You can just see your archive Oh okay, okay, yeah, okay, but.
Speaker 1: It just like takes away the sting of like deleting
Speaker 1: something forever. And so I think you archive them. And
Speaker 1: if if you're if you're like, oh, if you have
Speaker 1: a good relationship with him, and I don't think he'd
Speaker 1: ask you about him, But if he did not going
Speaker 1: to ask you about that, I think it's time for
Speaker 1: you to give yourself permission to move on. And I
Speaker 1: think if you archive them, you don't feel the like
Speaker 1: permanent feeling of deleting them forever. Can you archive on Facebook?
Speaker 1: I've never I don't know. Okay, so, but also I
Speaker 1: don't know about Facebook, But Instagram, I'll say, I know
Speaker 1: someone who is going through a separation and she created
Speaker 1: just a new account. She created a new account for
Speaker 1: all her new photos and stuff.
Speaker 3: Wait, so like the single that single person, the single
Speaker 3: version of that person has her own Instagram.
Speaker 1: And then her married version lives on. I just think
Speaker 1: she wanted a fresh start that didn't have all her
Speaker 1: old stuff on it, and so I think the other
Speaker 1: one was like private or something, so she just started
Speaker 1: a new one. I think maybe she archived the whole
Speaker 1: thing and just started a fresh, new page.
Speaker 2: I don't know, there's like a whole there's like a
Speaker 2: whole page of like her married life.
Speaker 1: That's just like living on the internet. It's kind it's
Speaker 1: very I don't.
Speaker 3: Know her name, so I just make one up. There's
Speaker 3: about Wilhelmina two point zero, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Wilhelmina.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that is interesting.
Speaker 3: Relaunching life.
Speaker 2: I think the thing is too there's no rush, Like
Speaker 2: I don't you know, you said you're I don't know
Speaker 2: if you're dating or if you're not. I just feel
Speaker 2: like there's no rush to do it. So if you
Speaker 2: feel uncomfortable, just wait. But I do think once you
Speaker 2: get into a new relationship, like I remember when I
Speaker 2: started dating Robbie, if I saw photos of his ex
Speaker 2: on his Instagram, that would have been so weird, you
Speaker 2: know what I mean. Like I'm just saying that as
Speaker 2: somebody that you could be a potential partner in your life,
Speaker 2: if they go on your page and they're just seeing
Speaker 2: all these family photos, so it'd be so that would
Speaker 2: have been so weird to me. Like he had pictures
Speaker 2: of his kids up there, him and his kids, so
Speaker 2: I got to see all of him and his kids,
Speaker 2: But there was no X on there, so like that
Speaker 2: to me would be.
Speaker 1: Weird if you start dating again, well, yeah, I think
Speaker 1: she's kind of like wanting to enter that phase.
Speaker 2: So I think I think archive, delete, move on, move forward.
Speaker 1: But we also think you can like archive ones that
Speaker 1: maybe feel very intimate with you and good x, and
Speaker 1: then keep the ones if it's just a family photo
Speaker 1: because y'all are going to interact. I think it's like
Speaker 1: you have this family unit that you were for a
Speaker 1: long time, so that's that might give them an idea
Speaker 1: of what they're getting into before. But if it's like
Speaker 1: an intimate photo of like you and your husband X
Speaker 1: husband kissing or something, and it's like you know, yeah,
Speaker 1: but also.
Speaker 3: Guy, like I said, guys think differently about this. If
Speaker 3: he goes a deep die on your Instagram and he
Speaker 3: sees you and your husband your ex husband in a
Speaker 3: photo and it says eighty seven weeks ago, he's going
Speaker 3: to understand what's going on here, so you're not cheating
Speaker 3: on him. Obviously that was over almost two years.
Speaker 1: Ago, right, So my opinion is either archive some of them,
Speaker 1: keep some others up, or just archive them all and
Speaker 1: don't feel like you have to permanently delete them because
Speaker 1: you can bring those babies back if you want, can
Speaker 1: want to archive them, you can unarchive them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, unarchive Yeah.
Speaker 3: If you give Tanya Lesson in that, Yeah.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have that. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I'm not archiveorial after this. I have not archived anything,
Speaker 2: but people always talk about it. I'm like, what is
Speaker 2: this archive?
Speaker 1: I also wanted to shout out Abby and Kim because
Speaker 1: Abby is Abaca and Kim is a Tania. This is
Speaker 1: a friend of a friend and they're Bagel listeners of
Speaker 1: the podcast. It was her birthday, like October fifth. Kim's
Speaker 1: birthday was October fifth. So we love you Abby and Kim.
Speaker 1: We love you Abby and Kim. Happy belated Kim. Thank
Speaker 1: you for being scrubbers. Yes, and that's all for this week.
Speaker 1: You guys, I'll be in the cold shivering.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be missing you. And but next week we're
Speaker 2: gonna celebrate your birthday right here.
Speaker 1: Next week, my birthday will be our next podcast recording,
Speaker 1: lucky me.
Speaker 2: Do you have any requests or what your birthday podcast?
Speaker 1: No? Like, would you like some cake? No? Just to
Speaker 1: show up and record and would you make any attention
Speaker 1: on it?
Speaker 2: And we want nothing, nothing, just another Monday, just manic Monday.
Speaker 1: I wish you were Sunday. You want nothing? Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: that's all all right. We love you so much. I
Speaker 1: love you so much.
Speaker 2: By