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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com. Russ is on the phone

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Speaker 1: today for a first day follow up, and he's getting

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Speaker 1: ghosted by a woman named Leah. So in a few minutes,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna call her and see if she tell us

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Speaker 1: why she's ghosting him and maybe get him a second date.

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Speaker 1: But first, Russ, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 1: heard from Leah?

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Speaker 2: Hey, guys, it's been almost two weeks now and I

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Speaker 2: haven't heard from her yet.

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Speaker 3: Oh oh, so are you sitting around waiting to hear

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Speaker 3: from her?

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I mean I don't usually get like ghosted

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Speaker 2: like this. You know, it's kind of where I'm calling

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Speaker 2: you guys. This just doesn't really happen to me. But

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Speaker 2: it's you know, it's just frustrating. You know, I don't

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Speaker 2: really know what else to do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, it sucks no matter what. It's frustrating. Well,

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Speaker 3: why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Well, so let's see. We went to like this

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Speaker 2: conference place that was really good. We met up there.

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Speaker 2: They had by dim light. She wore like this like

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Speaker 2: little black dress. I don't know, she's great. Yeah, it

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Speaker 2: was nice, and it was like loud enough to feel fun,

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Speaker 2: but still quiet enough to talk, so we were able

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Speaker 2: to have conversation and stuff. And we ordered like you know,

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Speaker 2: a bunch of the small place and shared everything. Everything

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Speaker 2: was really good. We had like nice convo banner back

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Speaker 2: and forth just right away with good chemistry, and you know,

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Speaker 2: we were laughing the whole time. I mean, it felt

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Speaker 2: easy to me, but I don't know. After dinner we started,

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Speaker 2: we went to go walk around the neighborhood and we

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Speaker 2: ended up sitting on like a low wall outside and

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Speaker 2: you know, I could feel a little tension building and stuff.

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Speaker 2: And I was smooth though, and I told her that

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Speaker 2: I wanted to kiss her, but I wasn't going to

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Speaker 2: do that because I'm a gentleman, and yeah, I wanted

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Speaker 2: her to know I'm different. And I don't know, she

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Speaker 2: said that she had a really good time, and well, how.

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Speaker 3: Did she react to that moment when you were like,

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Speaker 3: I want to kiss you, but I'm not going to kiss.

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Speaker 1: You because I'm a gentleman.

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Speaker 2: Well she just yeah, I mean she just kind of

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Speaker 2: like smiled and giggled, and I don't know, she seemed

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Speaker 2: positive about it. And then like I said, she said

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Speaker 2: that she had a really good time, So I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It feels a good moment, but I don't know if

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Speaker 2: I'm overthinking it. You know, I'm sitting here wondering, you know,

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Speaker 2: why is that She got back to me, and I thought,

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Speaker 2: I got to admit to you guys, like something weird

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Speaker 2: kind of did happen on the date. And I mean

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Speaker 2: it's not that bad, but basically, like I ordered this

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Speaker 2: lava cake and when it arrived, I like, I stuck

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Speaker 2: my finger in it, and I just why why? I

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Speaker 2: did it instinctively because it's something that me and my

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Speaker 2: ex would do every time that we ordered one, and

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Speaker 2: I do it, but why? And I don't know. She

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Speaker 2: laughed when I told her the story, But I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Then I kind of realized it was a very weird

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Speaker 2: thing to do, especially on first date.

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Speaker 3: I would react so some guys taking a finger and

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Speaker 3: a lot of the cake that I was really excited

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Speaker 3: to eat. I feel like, move you had to just

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Speaker 3: had to touch it on.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well yourself your self aware.

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Speaker 2: Thanks, I mean, I just you know, I thought I

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Speaker 2: redeemed myself though by not kept sing her.

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Speaker 1: I don't know Russ is on the phone and he's

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Speaker 1: getting ghosted by a woman named Leah, and so we're

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Speaker 1: about to call her and see if she'll tell us

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Speaker 1: why she's ghosting him and maybe get him a second date.

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Speaker 1: But before we do that, Russ, why don't you break

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Speaker 1: down your date again for us real quick?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? You know, I went on a date with Leah.

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Speaker 2: It's been about two weeks since I've heard from her.

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Speaker 2: We had a great day, went to a tapas place,

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Speaker 2: a lot of chemistry, a lot of conversation. After the date,

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Speaker 2: we uh had kind of a romantic moment where we

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Speaker 2: were about to kiss, but I didn't go through with it.

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Speaker 2: I wanted to be a gentleman. And I don't know.

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Speaker 2: The only thing I can really think about that maybe

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Speaker 2: I did wrong was we got a cake, a lava

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Speaker 2: cake at dinner and I just had a kind of

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Speaker 2: an immature moment and I stuck my finger in it.

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Speaker 1: It's usually a huge why you did it? All right?

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Speaker 1: We'll see if they'll see if that move was the

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Speaker 1: move that made her ghost you. Are you ready for

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Speaker 1: us to call her?

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Speaker 2: I am, Well, we'll see what this is all right?

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Speaker 1: Here we go? H Hello, Hi, man speak to Leah. Please,

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Speaker 1: who's calling?

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Speaker 2: I guess Hi.

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Speaker 1: Leah, how are you? This is a radio show. It's

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Speaker 1: called The Jubil Show.

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Speaker 3: Hi Leah, I'm Nina.

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Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jebel.

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Speaker 2: What's up?

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Speaker 4: Uh?

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 5: So wait and is this on the radio right now?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Okay. You listen to the show before?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I used to listen on my commute, but now

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Speaker 5: I actually work from home a couple of days a week.

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Speaker 2: Oh, my radio, it's changed a little bit.

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Speaker 1: You I stream the show and whatever you're on. You

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Speaker 1: can be like, hey, Alexa, streamer Juble Show and then

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Speaker 1: it'll do that for you. But we do do a

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Speaker 1: segment on the show called the First Date follow Up,

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Speaker 1: where if you go out on a date with somebody

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Speaker 1: and you would up ghosting them, that person can email

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Speaker 1: us to ask why you're ghosting them. And we got

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Speaker 1: an email about you from someone.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, Russ, would you mind telling us why you're

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Speaker 5: ghosting Russ?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Well, look, I mean he's very nice, he's funny, and

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Speaker 5: he's attractive. But there's just I don't know if there's

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Speaker 5: something that kind of made me pause. I guess it

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Speaker 5: was we had like dinner date. Maybe he caught you up,

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Speaker 5: but it was like it was a topest place with

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Speaker 5: a lot of food, and he kind of narrated everything

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Speaker 5: that happened the whole night.

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Speaker 1: He narrated everything, well what does that mean?

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Speaker 5: Like yes, Like it was like every bite, every thought,

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Speaker 5: every movie he did. It was like he spoke it

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Speaker 5: out loud, like like the first the first thing comes out,

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Speaker 5: it's like croquettes and he's like, oh, here we go,

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Speaker 5: strong presentation.

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Speaker 2: Like.

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Speaker 1: Everything was he being funny? You're like serious?

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I mean like at first I thought it was funny

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Speaker 5: and it was like it was kind of charming, but

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Speaker 5: it like it wouldn't stop. It was like before every bite,

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Speaker 5: every bite, he's like, okay, I'm gonna go in with

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Speaker 5: the fork and he was like you know what, I

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Speaker 5: I'm c I can notice this and this, and then

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Speaker 5: he's like I'm going to take another bite, and then

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Speaker 5: you would take another bite, and it was like it

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Speaker 5: kept going and I was like, we're not really talking

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Speaker 5: about anything about ourselves. Like I didn't feel like.

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Speaker 2: I got to know him.

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Speaker 5: I just was kind of knowing his thoughts in real

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Speaker 5: time like a podcaster.

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Speaker 1: Find interesting okay, a live podcast, and it wasn't the

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Speaker 1: finger in the lava cake that that made you ghost him?

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Speaker 1: Was at the final straw he told us about that.

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Speaker 5: No, it was honestly, like, I mean, I thought that

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Speaker 5: it was like bizarre, but he also explained that it

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Speaker 4: A bit he would do with an X, and I was,

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Speaker 4: I mean, everybody kind of has stuff like that, but

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Speaker 4: it was, like, I probably that was like the only

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Speaker 4: like his immediate impression of every bite of suit.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, well, thank you for telling us why

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Speaker 1: you're ghosting him. And Leah Russ is actually on the

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Speaker 1: phone and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you can hear me, Yes, you go, because I talked.

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Speaker 5: Okay, it's not it's not just talking, it's like narrating.

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Speaker 2: I was being an enthusiastic What are you talking about?

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Speaker 5: Sure, I don't know. I mean, it's crazy to be

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Speaker 5: like I'm going in for another bite right before you

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Speaker 5: take another bite, like oh, there's like a sweety nuttness first,

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Speaker 5: and then there's like a smoky finish after taste, and like, come.

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Speaker 2: On, that's called sharing an experience, like, what are you saying?

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, No, that's called like live commentary. It's

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Speaker 5: like being on TikTok watching a food blogger like you

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Speaker 5: a little like they're hot takes, they're one to ten.

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Speaker 2: So instead of saying something you just disappeared on me.

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Speaker 2: It was the first time meeting.

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Speaker 5: I just didn't want to hurt your feelings.

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Speaker 2: Well you did on the radio too. I feel bad

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Speaker 2: for you now, man, Well you don't have to feel

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Speaker 2: bad for me. It just is what it is. But

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Speaker 2: I think she's overreacting over all that. I don't think

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Speaker 2: it's so big of a deal. I thought I was

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Speaker 2: being funny. No, I mean it is kind of a problem.

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Speaker 5: I mean it's it's sort of it feels a little

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Speaker 5: like domineering and kind of like, I don't know, like

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Speaker 5: a little bit selfish, like at least on a first

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Speaker 5: day too. I want to talk and get to know somebody.

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Speaker 2: So it just seems like an odd precedent. I can

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Speaker 2: only imagine kissing.

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Speaker 5: Or making out, and then it's like I get a

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Speaker 5: play by play of like I'm thinking about putting my

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Speaker 5: hand on the small of your back, and.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, ross of painting updating Leo. Would you

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Speaker 1: like another day with Russ? Will pay for it?

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Speaker 2: No, it's okay. Oh wow, Well Russ is gonna get

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Speaker 2: off the phone and go finish the rest of his

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Speaker 2: day and go get a chocolate cake and stick finger

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Speaker 2: in it, and I'll feel better, self soothing,