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Speaker 1: Hey, guys, I'm Kaylie Shure and this is too much

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Speaker 1: to say asking questions. Now turn it out you all right, hello,

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Speaker 1: welcome back. UM. So, one of my most popular episodes

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Speaker 1: to this day of the podcast that is, like I

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Speaker 1: think it's like the most shared and definitely the one

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Speaker 1: I heard the most from you guys about is Hungry

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Speaker 1: as the New Skinny from the very beginning of the podcast,

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Speaker 1: And if you haven't listened to it, I recommend going

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Speaker 1: back and listening to that now before we dive in,

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Speaker 1: because it's like a little bit of a part to

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Speaker 1: slash an update, but it's the episode on body image,

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Speaker 1: and um it's one of my favorites as well, so

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Speaker 1: if you haven't heard it, go back and listen to it.

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Speaker 1: It's one of the beginning, very first episodes. But if

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Speaker 1: you have heard it, then let's dive in. So it's

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Speaker 1: so hard to keep up because body image is like

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Speaker 1: gets woven in with trends so often where it's like

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Speaker 1: this certain body types and style or like body positivity

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Speaker 1: is being used by large brands to get people to

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Speaker 1: just like body positivity and body types shouldn't be have

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Speaker 1: any part in capitalism, but they do um and we're

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Speaker 1: being sold things every day everywhere we look, from stuff

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Speaker 1: we see on Instagram, stuff we see on TV, stuff

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Speaker 1: we see in magazines and even like, I mean, it's

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Speaker 1: hard going through Instagram and seeing people that you know

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Speaker 1: And I've had to like, I want to get past

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Speaker 1: and I've had to like mute them because it's not

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Speaker 1: to that person because that person might have no disordered

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Speaker 1: eating thoughts. They're just passionate about fitness and it's not

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Speaker 1: for starters, never feel guilty about doing that. I feel

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Speaker 1: like one of the new trends that has caught on

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Speaker 1: to preface this with different things work for different people,

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Speaker 1: and some people really enjoy doing that and it's seeing

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Speaker 1: good results and feel healthier. But what's right for one

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Speaker 1: something we need to remember. So if you ever did

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Speaker 1: the whole thirty and you didn't see any results, you

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Speaker 1: didn't feel any better, like you might haven't like you

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Speaker 1: might need nutrients. You might have a calcium deficiency, so

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Speaker 1: dairy is actually really good to eat for. You might

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Speaker 1: So some people have really differing types of metabolism that

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Speaker 1: relates to their thyroid. Um My cat, for one, has

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Speaker 1: know from my decades of experience as an anorexic about

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Speaker 1: Like it's like almost like ridiculous that that could be

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