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Speaker 1: read this this one. Stoopid. Buckle up and hold on tight.

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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is a Strawberry

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Speaker 1: LETTA all right subject post Valentine's Day drama. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I need help getting back on track with my girl.

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Speaker 1: My girl makes a big deal about Valentine's Day, even

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Speaker 1: though I spoil her all year long. I'm a true

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Speaker 1: romantic and I love this woman. I also have two

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Speaker 1: female friends that I've known for many years, and my

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Speaker 1: all out and prepared for layming young lobster tails, garlic,

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Speaker 1: laid her out with a nice gift and I had

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Speaker 1: her favorite candles lit while we ate. I'm a chef,

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Speaker 1: Here's where I went wrong. I also made a plate

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Speaker 1: a quarantine. I didn't mention it to my girl, and

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Speaker 1: I didn't think I needed to. Our Valentine's Night got

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Speaker 1: I went and jumped in the shower and left my

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Speaker 1: phone in the din. God. My female friend sent a

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Speaker 1: text a picture of the flowers, saying thank you with

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Speaker 1: password on my phone since I don't have anything to hide.

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Speaker 1: My girl was furious when I got out of the shower,

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Speaker 1: hour or so later, my girl sent me a screenshot

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Speaker 1: read my favorite chef. It was the same food that

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Speaker 1: I fixed for my girl. My girl said it's over

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Speaker 1: and told me I should be with one of those

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Speaker 1: girls instead, but I want her. Can you please help

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Speaker 1: me out here? Well, certainly gonna try. Everything you did,

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Speaker 1: everything you did in this letter was just dumb and dumber.

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Speaker 1: I mean, seriously, you left your phone, you did that?

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Speaker 1: What were you thinking? I mean, you started off great, though,

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Speaker 1: with the delicious meal, the lobster tail, the candles, and

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Speaker 1: you bought her a nice gift and everything. I mean,

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Speaker 1: but then you had to blow it. I mean, you

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Speaker 1: know this was supposed to be her special Now you

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Speaker 1: said she makes a big deal about Valentine's Day. You

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Speaker 1: from you, not your female friends. I mean, they could

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Speaker 1: have waited one more day. Then you could have included

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Speaker 1: it together since they were both going through things and

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Speaker 1: she's friendly with them too. You said that would have

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Speaker 1: no woman wants to share Valentine's to day. They just don't.

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Speaker 1: They don't want to share it with anyone, let alone

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Speaker 1: to other women. Okay, I just can't stress. That's enough,

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Speaker 1: and that's why she's so mad right now. Can you

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Speaker 1: That's a start. Because she's big mad right now. It's

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Speaker 1: this was just dumb on your part. I'm sorry. This

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Speaker 1: was just dumb. Um and that's why your girlfriend feels

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Speaker 1: like you know you do this for everyone, what makes

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Speaker 1: her special? That that's what she's going through right now.

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Speaker 1: So you can try, you can try to fix it.

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Speaker 1: Anything's possible, Steve. Well, well, player or shout out. Let me.

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Speaker 1: Let me retract that statement, because you ain't no player. Okay,

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Speaker 1: R I don't even understand you. I really don't. Man,

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Speaker 1: You don't have see you. You ain't that bright fellas,

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Speaker 1: Listen to me. We're not that smart. We're not that crafty.

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Speaker 1: You cannot not have a pass code on your phone, don't,

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Speaker 1: answer it and got what ye doe? Are you nuts?

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Speaker 1: That's for starts? But you real stupid And you know

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Speaker 1: I know you stupid because I've done this before. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I've done this with Christmas gifts. Do but I did

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Speaker 1: this when I was eighteen. Yeah, all right, Hold that thought, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Hold that thought. Please. We'll come right back with part

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Speaker 1: two of Steve's response, and twenty three minutes after the hour,

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Speaker 1: the subject of my Strawberry letter today is post Valentine's

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Speaker 1: Day drama. We'll get back into it right after this

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Speaker 1: you're listening to show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letter. This food is a subject. Now.

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Speaker 1: What this food did, y'all? Was he want to get

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Speaker 1: back on track when this girl, because this girl makes

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Speaker 1: a big deal about Valentine's Day. Now he claims that

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Speaker 1: he spoils her all year long. That is questionable. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna explain it to you that right there is questionable.

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Speaker 1: You just did that to give yourself a cushion in

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Speaker 1: this letter, you know. Uh. Anyway, you also have two

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Speaker 1: female friends that I've known for many years, and my

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Speaker 1: with what happened in the letter, don't seem like that

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Speaker 1: all that damn friendly to me? You know, somebody putting

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Speaker 1: how she feel about your little friendship. I keep telling

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Speaker 1: y'all about these opposite sex friends y'all think y'all can

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Speaker 1: I've said it a hundred times you can have opposite

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Speaker 1: here we are. Your dumb ass made your girl a

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Speaker 1: wonderful dinner, garlic mash, potatoes, lobster, you know, fil me

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Speaker 1: young and you're a chef. You know said it all out,

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Speaker 1: got her favorite candle. Y'all having Valentine's dinner. You go

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Speaker 1: to take a shower. You think it's fit to be

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Speaker 1: on and cracking. You fitting go get all this smoky

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Speaker 1: this feeling in your hand, Lobster. You over here, you

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Speaker 1: surfing turf. You smell like you smell like a cow

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Speaker 1: to get sexy like your night just fitting it be jumping.

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Speaker 1: Your dumb ass, leave your phone in the it ain't

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Speaker 1: got no code on it, and it pop up. Your

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Speaker 1: first girl friend who got dumped by her boyfriend. You

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Speaker 1: fell sorry for her, made her plate, send her the

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Speaker 1: same damn food you have made for your so the

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Speaker 1: whole time you cooking this special dinner for your girl,

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Speaker 1: and you send her some damn anyway. She send you

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Speaker 1: the picture with kissy face, thank you the other girl

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Speaker 1: that your friend had a definitive family, no telling high

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Speaker 1: damn long ago. You didn't send her flower hand some

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Speaker 1: damn food. You just a fool. She send you a

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Speaker 1: text loving that, and your girl see it. You come

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Speaker 1: out to shower or hell, break loose. She leaves. Now

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Speaker 1: you want to get back with her. See prep player,

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Speaker 1: here's your problem. You didn't messed up, and the probably

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Speaker 1: was costing you as your age because you never said

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Speaker 1: you something. I was eighteen years old, man. I went

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Speaker 1: down to make company. They had a little special at

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Speaker 1: Christmas by one turk corse bracelet, get another one free.

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Speaker 1: So I bought my girlfriend I'm a side chick, the

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Speaker 1: same damn bracelet. I go home, put them in the

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Speaker 1: same box, put their name on it, wrap it in

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Speaker 1: the same paper, and set up there and got the

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Speaker 1: damn boxes mixed up. So when I hand for New

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Speaker 1: Year's Eve, I mean Christmas Eve, hut bracelet turd corse

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Speaker 1: Christmas Day, I get my girlfriend hers. But when they

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Speaker 1: because I had the same paper, same gil, same box.

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Speaker 1: I'm eighteen, stupid, Now you're a grown man, you're chefs

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Speaker 1: somewhere your ass did this. I never recovered from that.

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Speaker 1: I end up losing both the chicks cosse. Even at eighteen,

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Speaker 1: they was going you bs stupid, big live. They called

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Speaker 1: I had started getting used to my physical features and

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Speaker 1: this box with this health a name on it. Ought

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Speaker 1: found out they had the same damn gift. Huh Jesus,

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Speaker 1: but I was eighteen. This is not the one, Steve,

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Speaker 1: that you said. The girl said that she didn't like

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Speaker 1: your face. That's another one. Now this is a whole

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Speaker 1: another guy. I've been destroyed by women comments, mind tire life. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't like your facial features. I discovered that in

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Speaker 1: the ninth grade. So that's you have never let that

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Speaker 1: up again. You big lip, wide known stupid ass, and

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Speaker 1: that shotted me again, took me right back to you

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Speaker 1: don't like my facial features. And so the problem you got,

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Speaker 1: dog is your ass is old. Yeah, you didn't messed up.

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Speaker 1: You're stupid. Feel special? You need first thing? You need

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