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Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I am Dramas And this is the Street

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Speaker 1: Stoic Podcast, bringing you your daily dose a timeless stoic philosophy,

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Speaker 1: a remix for the hip hop generation. We are combining

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Speaker 1: ancient philosophy with lyrics and quote from some of the

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Speaker 1: greatest who ever grace a microphone. Now, with that in mind,

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Speaker 1: let's get things started with your daily shot of inspiration.

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Speaker 1: So today we are going to be focusing around the

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Speaker 1: stoic idea of recognizing that there is life after failure. Right,

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Speaker 1: and I think this is a lesson that many of

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Speaker 1: us need to learn or be reminded of. Right. And

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Speaker 1: a song that I felt like kind of really tapped

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Speaker 1: into this, and a lyric specifically that really tapped into

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Speaker 1: this is from Eminem and it's the song space Bound,

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Speaker 1: and he says, it's no one's fault but my own.

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Speaker 1: It's the path I've chosen to go. And to me,

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Speaker 1: this is all about commitment, right, making a decision and

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Speaker 1: committing your full self into whatever it is that you

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Speaker 1: decide to do, the path that you've decided to go down, Right,

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Speaker 1: whatever happens, good or bad, I am going to own

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Speaker 1: my decision. I think that's what he's saying, you know,

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Speaker 1: in this lyric right here, he's talking about, you know,

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Speaker 1: if it fails, I will place no blame on anyone

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Speaker 1: but myself. And I think you know, being able to

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Speaker 1: accept that means that you also understand the fact that

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Speaker 1: even after you may admit, you know, defeat, you still

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Speaker 1: live to fight another day. And I think so many

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Speaker 1: of us forget that when we are making decisions and

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Speaker 1: playing it's safe and listening to other people right. And

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Speaker 1: that leads us perfectly into an exerpt from Marcus Aurelia,

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Speaker 1: specifically Meditations, and he says staying on the path rather

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Speaker 1: than being kept on it right, And he's emphasizing that

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Speaker 1: walking your path because it's what you want to do

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Speaker 1: and what feels right to you, rather than walking a

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Speaker 1: particular path because it's what you're supposed to do. Right.

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Speaker 1: And I'm doing air quotes for anybody not watching the

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Speaker 1: video now, there is so much power when you make

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Speaker 1: a decision right and you stand behind whatever happens as

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Speaker 1: a result. You know, when we take the safe route,

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Speaker 1: you know, or the one that is laid out by

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Speaker 1: someone else, it may provide us with a sure thing, right,

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Speaker 1: But what I found is that it will always come

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Speaker 1: within asterisk. Right, You'll always be left with some sort

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Speaker 1: of curiosity of what would have happened had you have

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Speaker 1: walked the path that you felt called too, Right Like,

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Speaker 1: we're all so scared to make mistakes, and we live

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Speaker 1: as if, you know, one failure or one mistake means

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Speaker 1: the end of our life as we know it. And

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Speaker 1: of course, like there are some circumstances where that might

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Speaker 1: be true, you know, but the vast majority of the

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Speaker 1: time a failure would not be a detrimental thing to us, right, Like,

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Speaker 1: there's so much power in growth, you know, when you

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Speaker 1: decide to make a commitment towards something you know, regardless

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Speaker 1: of its potential for failure. The more you let fear

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Speaker 1: I think that's the overarching kind of lesson to be

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Speaker 1: learned from from both of these people, and even you know,

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Speaker 1: for me, this is something that I relate to so

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Speaker 1: profoundly because I feel like I've had to make these

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Speaker 1: And so many of those different lessons that I learned

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Speaker 1: from that experience, that quote unquote failure, I have taken

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Speaker 1: part of why I get to do what I do,

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Speaker 1: you know right now in my career and in my

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Speaker 1: right and that wouldn't have happened had I have not

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Speaker 1: made that commitment to walk my own path, good or bad,

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Speaker 1: we've heard from em and them, We've heard from Marcus Aurelius.

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Speaker 1: this idea behind recognizing that there is life after failure.

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Speaker 1: Now let's talk about how you can apply this, how

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Speaker 1: you can make it your mantra for today. But first

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Speaker 1: All right, So today we're obviously talking about the stoic

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Speaker 1: And I think it starts with understanding that the choices

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Speaker 1: you are living in some sort of life or death,

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Speaker 1: you know, instance, the decision that you make, it may

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Speaker 1: have some shortcomings in the short term, but it's nothing

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Speaker 1: And I think that's the key we have to remove

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Speaker 1: It means that you committed. It means that you decided

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Speaker 1: that's something to be proud of, regardless of what the

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Speaker 1: Think about this in even more of a practical sense, right, Like,

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Speaker 1: if you are unhappy in your relationship, in your marriage,

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Speaker 1: It's so hard to find somebody like, no, that's all nonsense.

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Speaker 1: There are you know, almost eight billion people on planet Earth.

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Speaker 1: Odds are you're going to bounce back after a failed relationship, right,

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Speaker 1: same thing with a job, Like, if there is a

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Speaker 1: why not make a calculated decision, you know, doing your research,

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Speaker 1: the end of the day, I don't think you're going

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Speaker 1: I'm hoping for all of you. The worst thing we

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Speaker 1: could ever be left with is wondering what if? Now? What? That?

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Speaker 1: In my thank you so much for checking out the

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Speaker 1: Street Stoic podcast. Do your best to apply these concepts

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