1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:01,720 Speaker 1: I don't want to forgive my sister in law for 2 00:00:01,840 --> 00:00:03,000 Speaker 1: what she did to my family. 3 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:04,480 Speaker 2: Should I cut her out? 4 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:07,000 Speaker 1: And this is Okop where we read the craziest true 5 00:00:07,040 --> 00:00:11,640 Speaker 1: stories on Earth. I'm John and Sam. Should ope cut 6 00:00:11,640 --> 00:00:14,000 Speaker 1: the sister lot of the family? What say you saw? 7 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:17,160 Speaker 3: I mean I have zero context because I don't know 8 00:00:17,440 --> 00:00:21,040 Speaker 3: the terrible thing Nope that was done. But if I'm 9 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 3: to look into my crystal ball, I'm gonna say cut 10 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:24,680 Speaker 3: her out. 11 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 2: Cut her out. I'm gonna go not cut her out? 12 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:32,239 Speaker 3: Well, contrarian, I let's see, let's see, let's see, let's 13 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 3: freaking fight. 14 00:00:33,240 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 1: So this one actually comes from our slash Okop show. 15 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:40,600 Speaker 1: We love it when the Okay fam sends in stories. 16 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:42,159 Speaker 1: If you want to have your story read just like 17 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:44,960 Speaker 1: this one, go to our slash Okop show or call 18 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:47,520 Speaker 1: four for zero five zero eight six five sixty seven. 19 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 2: We love reading y'all stories both without further ado. 20 00:00:50,159 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 1: Let's get into this one from Okop fan member Nope 21 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 1: one five five five. My brother is twenty eight mal 22 00:00:57,080 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 1: and married his long term girlfriend about one to two 23 00:00:59,840 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 1: years ago. They were together for four years at that point. 24 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:06,680 Speaker 1: She was always a bit strange, anti social and an 25 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:10,640 Speaker 1: only child. We are a family of five. I have 26 00:01:10,720 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 1: two brothers, and our parents met when they were kids 27 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:16,880 Speaker 1: and they are still together. Wow, that's kind of wild. 28 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:19,399 Speaker 3: What parents meeting when their kids children. Yeah, well, my 29 00:01:19,480 --> 00:01:22,080 Speaker 3: grandparents met when they were five and six. That's probably 30 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 3: a thing from back in the day, right, Like you 31 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 3: like only had the people in your village to you know, 32 00:01:27,040 --> 00:01:27,560 Speaker 3: hook up with. 33 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:31,119 Speaker 4: Didn't have these darn date naps going around here back 34 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:33,679 Speaker 4: in my day, tender. 35 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:37,120 Speaker 2: Let's get married. 36 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 3: Yeah. 37 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 1: So when my brother first brought his now wife home, 38 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 1: she cried in the bathroom and I still to this 39 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 1: day have no idea why. I asked my mother and 40 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: my brother, but my mom was just guessing too. We 41 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 1: thought she must just be upset or we did something, 42 00:01:56,960 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 1: but no one was confronted with anything, so we thought 43 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 1: she might have just been uncomfortable, so we let her 44 00:02:03,320 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 1: be and comforted her. Later on, I remember that she 45 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 1: moved in with my brother and her parents. 46 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 3: I'm sensing a red flat talking about I'm just the 47 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 3: I feel the crying in the bathroom is going to 48 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 3: be important. Yeah, yeah, that's all I'm gonna say. 49 00:02:21,200 --> 00:02:23,160 Speaker 2: It's like, why was she cry? People don't just go 50 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:24,640 Speaker 2: cry in the bathroom. 51 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 4: What I mean, I have like once here, but I 52 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 4: talked about it. 53 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 3: We did. We did talk there. Yeah, we talked about it. 54 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 1: Riley old On, No, no giving hut right now, I'm 55 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 1: giving you a hug right now in your camera yet 56 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:40,240 Speaker 1: out stand up. 57 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 3: All right, We're doing. 58 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:43,400 Speaker 4: Her hug right now. 59 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 2: There we go. 60 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:46,919 Speaker 3: I'm good right in the back. 61 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:47,600 Speaker 2: There we go. 62 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 4: There we go. Wow, lovebody, this. 63 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 3: A little Riley sandwich. 64 00:02:58,520 --> 00:02:59,280 Speaker 4: This is family. 65 00:02:59,600 --> 00:03:03,080 Speaker 3: This is everybody on your only. 66 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:09,800 Speaker 1: So later on I remembered that she moved in with 67 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 1: my brother, and her parents reported my brother for kidnapping 68 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:17,640 Speaker 1: because she refused to visit them. 69 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:21,760 Speaker 3: My parents reported my brother for kidnapping. 70 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:25,520 Speaker 1: So basically parents basically yeah, her parents, So basically they 71 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:30,359 Speaker 1: move in together, and uh, the sister in law's parents 72 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:35,920 Speaker 1: are like, we will, we will. Opie's brother is kidnapping. 73 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 1: Our daughter is the daughter under age. 74 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:41,720 Speaker 4: OPI is twenty six, sister in law is twenty six. 75 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 4: This happened when OPI was eighteen, so they both were 76 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 4: like eighteen. Yes, they were young. This happened back then. 77 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, they were very they were very young. 78 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 3: Can you report a missing child, I mean, you can 79 00:03:53,680 --> 00:03:58,200 Speaker 3: report a missing person. Well, can you can you report 80 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:00,080 Speaker 3: a kidnapping? Well, I guess yes you. 81 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:06,000 Speaker 1: Can, but it's like I have an answer for your question. 82 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 3: Confused. 83 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: She was older than eighteen at that point, so the 84 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: police didn't do anything. So basically she was over eighteen. 85 00:04:13,720 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: They moved again, so they filed the report. 86 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:18,960 Speaker 3: They're like, police, daughter has been kidnapped in a stack 87 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 3: with her boyfriend, and the police are like, oh, she's eighteen. 88 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 1: Like whatever, Well, they didn't get it on kidnapping, but 89 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: what about adult napping? 90 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 3: Adult napping like a great little nap like adult Yeah, 91 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:39,000 Speaker 3: millennials are known to do adult napping? Are they not 92 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:42,360 Speaker 3: working as hard as they should be? So back to ope. 93 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:45,840 Speaker 1: So the sister in law was older than eighteen at 94 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 1: that point, so the police didn't do anything. After that, 95 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 1: they moved to another city, but ended up moving back 96 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:54,400 Speaker 1: with my parents as my brother has found a job 97 00:04:54,520 --> 00:04:58,480 Speaker 1: in our city. When they were living with us, they 98 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:01,360 Speaker 1: were doing it rent free. 99 00:05:02,279 --> 00:05:03,320 Speaker 2: Interpret that as you will. 100 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:09,000 Speaker 1: My parents are paying for almost everything in the household. 101 00:05:09,880 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 1: If I try to chip in, they usually refuse, and 102 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:17,200 Speaker 1: I compensate with housework. She rarely helped with the housework. 103 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 1: On the other hand, I was not I was not 104 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 1: okay with it, but my mom said that it was fine. 105 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:25,679 Speaker 1: During her stay, she mostly kept herself in her room. 106 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:29,719 Speaker 1: If there were events like birthdays, she often did not attend, 107 00:05:29,839 --> 00:05:32,640 Speaker 1: even if she was upstairs. I remember one time she 108 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:35,320 Speaker 1: sat down in the middle of the kitchen floor when 109 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:36,480 Speaker 1: we all were having. 110 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:41,240 Speaker 3: Breakfast as a protest protesting what breakfast? 111 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:46,040 Speaker 2: I hate old mail oamil I bought lucky charms. 112 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:49,480 Speaker 1: She said, okay, then I won't be eating then, And 113 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:51,680 Speaker 1: all I saw was that my dad was at the 114 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 1: cutting board getting some bread that she wanted, and she 115 00:05:54,920 --> 00:05:55,919 Speaker 1: wanted something. 116 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:56,680 Speaker 2: From the side of the table. 117 00:05:56,880 --> 00:05:59,640 Speaker 1: She sounds like a brad okay, So it sounds like 118 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:01,719 Speaker 1: like she was like, hey, could you give me something 119 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:03,800 Speaker 1: like could you pass the salt or something? And then 120 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 1: a dad was like kinding brand and She's like, fine, 121 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:07,640 Speaker 1: if you won't pass me the salt, I'm sitting down. 122 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:10,600 Speaker 2: I could be wrong. Sounds like, do you. 123 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 4: Guys know someone that would do this? I have one 124 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 4: person in mind. 125 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 3: No, who would what do this? 126 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 4: Like? Protest breakfast? 127 00:06:19,440 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 3: Who? 128 00:06:19,960 --> 00:06:21,040 Speaker 2: I can't think of anybody? 129 00:06:21,279 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 4: Victoria? 130 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 3: You think Victoria would protest breakfast? 131 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:28,599 Speaker 4: Who in your family would do this? Let me know, 132 00:06:28,640 --> 00:06:30,159 Speaker 4: but they have to be above eighteen. They can't be 133 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:30,600 Speaker 4: your kids. 134 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 2: Okay, drop a comment below. Big Protein wants to know. 135 00:06:35,480 --> 00:06:38,599 Speaker 1: So till this day, I have no idea why she 136 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:40,599 Speaker 1: sat down on the floor and said that. 137 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 3: Okay, So it's like, even though p is unsure, it sounds. 138 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 2: Like if shared. 139 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, if she wanted something, she could have easily asked 140 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:50,560 Speaker 1: for it. But after that she did avoid coming down 141 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: to have breakfast with us. It was too much emotional damage. 142 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:56,720 Speaker 2: I guess what she. 143 00:06:56,640 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 3: Would stop having breakfast in the same house. 144 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 1: So much emotional damage. You did not pass me this hall, 145 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 1: How can I trust you ever again? 146 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 3: Why is the brother with this person? This is? This 147 00:07:09,440 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 3: feels like a red flag? Maybe married at this point. 148 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 3: They're married at this point, right, so present day, they're 149 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 3: twenty six. This is back when they're like eighteen nineteen. Okay, 150 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:19,760 Speaker 3: so this is yeah, they're mary uge red flag. 151 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, let's say something like why the brother's still with them? 152 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:23,960 Speaker 4: What was it? 153 00:07:24,560 --> 00:07:26,119 Speaker 2: Riley Cotta, Riley Cotta. 154 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:31,720 Speaker 1: So you know, sometimes when the girl is a little crazy. 155 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 3: Right rything else, something goes a little. 156 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:39,280 Speaker 2: A little insane. Riley. I can't I can't say it, 157 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:41,200 Speaker 2: but show the sign there it is. 158 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 1: If you're picking up when I'm putting down, that's why. Okay, 159 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 1: So I did not hate her at that point. I 160 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:57,240 Speaker 1: thought that she had some issues with her parents, behavioral issues, 161 00:07:57,360 --> 00:08:01,360 Speaker 1: body image issues as well as like narcisses. But I thought, 162 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 1: if my brother is happy with her, he's happy with her, 163 00:08:04,640 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 1: so kind of like, I'm gonna let it be if 164 00:08:06,680 --> 00:08:13,400 Speaker 1: he's okay. Well, then she accused my mom something heinous, 165 00:08:13,600 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 1: what stealing her socks, and complained about my mom's cooking. 166 00:08:19,520 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 5: Oh no, yourself, it's something for yourself. 167 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 2: Then the story could end here, but it doesn't. But 168 00:08:29,680 --> 00:08:32,720 Speaker 2: of course they got married. 169 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:38,240 Speaker 3: That means they're out of the house, does it though, 170 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:39,520 Speaker 3: I hope does it? 171 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 1: Though about the marriage itself, Oh goodness, gracious, her father 172 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:46,800 Speaker 1: was drunk driving. 173 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:47,920 Speaker 2: My god. 174 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 1: They planned that her mom would be driving, but she 175 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:55,040 Speaker 1: doesn't drive regularly, so the dad took over. To this day, 176 00:08:55,200 --> 00:08:58,800 Speaker 1: I don't understand why they didn't call a taxi apart 177 00:08:58,840 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 1: from that being a part from that, it was a 178 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:04,040 Speaker 1: really small wedding with about eight people. So am I understanding? 179 00:09:04,120 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 2: Right? The dad drunk drove to the wedding? 180 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:11,640 Speaker 3: Is that right? Where was the wedding if it's only 181 00:09:11,679 --> 00:09:12,600 Speaker 3: eight people. 182 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:13,360 Speaker 2: That's insane. 183 00:09:13,440 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 3: Must be like it's someone's house or something like that. 184 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 1: Later on, I learned, okay, that she didn't want a 185 00:09:19,120 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 1: big wedding because it looks kind of odd on our 186 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:25,199 Speaker 1: side because we have a bunch of relatives and she doesn't. 187 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:30,080 Speaker 3: Okay, that's a terrible reason. Yeah, I don't want you 188 00:09:30,120 --> 00:09:34,600 Speaker 3: in your whole family because my family looks so small. Family. 189 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 1: Now reminding you that she has other family members, they 190 00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:42,319 Speaker 1: just don't speak with each other. 191 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:43,800 Speaker 2: Ah, okay, So her. 192 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:46,800 Speaker 3: Would it would put like emphasis on the fact that 193 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 3: her family is not on good terms. 194 00:09:48,240 --> 00:09:48,920 Speaker 2: Ah. 195 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:51,520 Speaker 1: True, good point. Oh not a good reason. No, no, no, no, 196 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:54,720 Speaker 1: But I could see her kind of crazy logic there. 197 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:58,440 Speaker 1: With that said, I had no problem with a small wedding. 198 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:01,800 Speaker 1: The best man and women were my little brother and me. 199 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 1: After the wedding, they moved away and bought a small 200 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 1: house in a nearby village. 201 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:07,719 Speaker 2: So that's a win. 202 00:10:10,559 --> 00:10:12,599 Speaker 3: Now she can complain about her own cooking. 203 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:15,120 Speaker 1: Exactly, she can complain about her new husband's cane. 204 00:10:15,120 --> 00:10:15,839 Speaker 2: Now here we go. 205 00:10:16,640 --> 00:10:21,720 Speaker 1: It was actually amazing, well until she completely ignored us 206 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:27,000 Speaker 1: slash became passive aggressive. It took one and a half 207 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:31,040 Speaker 1: years for her to make peace with my mom because 208 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 1: she thought that during the wedding, my mom verbally attacked 209 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:38,840 Speaker 1: her mom. I have no idea if this is true 210 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:41,440 Speaker 1: or not, but during those one and a half years, 211 00:10:41,960 --> 00:10:46,120 Speaker 1: I've put up with her bs from commenting that my 212 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 1: parents are not fit for animals when we're talking about cats, 213 00:10:50,160 --> 00:10:53,200 Speaker 1: or when my brother wanted to have an outdoor cooking 214 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:56,360 Speaker 1: weekend at his new house and she was visibly upset 215 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:59,679 Speaker 1: that we were there. When I wanted to talk to her, 216 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:02,480 Speaker 1: she said that she is the only one taking care 217 00:11:02,520 --> 00:11:05,680 Speaker 1: of my brother and that we're killing him by having 218 00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:06,880 Speaker 1: this outdoor dinner. 219 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:11,920 Speaker 2: Come killing, they're murdering him. Here we go, Here we go. 220 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:16,520 Speaker 2: High cholesterol ones in the family. Come on, high cholesterol 221 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:17,400 Speaker 2: ones in the family. 222 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 5: Can't have a hot dogg God from gobbling all those 223 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:25,160 Speaker 5: Lizzy murders. 224 00:11:25,679 --> 00:11:28,319 Speaker 3: Dude, I'd die from Glzzy Goblin because I'm on drift 225 00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:34,120 Speaker 3: sign Ley. 226 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:38,560 Speaker 1: Come on, gobble it, Gizzie for nothing these days. But 227 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: my brother wanted to celebrate. We eat differently on a 228 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:46,200 Speaker 1: daily basis. But the bizarre thing, Oh, I guess, so 229 00:11:46,280 --> 00:11:49,720 Speaker 1: I guess like the Opie's family, eats not healthy, and 230 00:11:49,760 --> 00:11:51,240 Speaker 1: the brother does usually eat healthy. 231 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 2: So they brought their unhealthy eating to this dinner party. 232 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:58,000 Speaker 3: I did him with it. Maybe that's what Ope's wife 233 00:11:58,280 --> 00:12:03,120 Speaker 3: or Ope's brother's wife is talking about. I think, oh, 234 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:05,720 Speaker 3: I'm going to protest these unhealthy eating habits. 235 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:07,439 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, maybe that was the protest. 236 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:10,959 Speaker 3: So maybe they were having lucky charms and she wanted oatmeal. 237 00:12:11,800 --> 00:12:13,120 Speaker 2: See there we go. 238 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:13,880 Speaker 3: She wanted to boring. 239 00:12:14,080 --> 00:12:16,600 Speaker 2: Hey, you know what, sister in law, take it. It's 240 00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 2: all yours. 241 00:12:17,360 --> 00:12:19,679 Speaker 3: John's all yours oatmeal every morning. 242 00:12:20,080 --> 00:12:22,360 Speaker 4: Starting two days ago, two days ago, and then next 243 00:12:22,360 --> 00:12:25,720 Speaker 4: week he'll have smoothies, and then after that maybe some bagels. 244 00:12:25,920 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 2: You're so close. She was so close. 245 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:29,400 Speaker 1: You were literally about to be three for three, but 246 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:32,760 Speaker 1: not the bagels. I might go back to smoothies once 247 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:33,600 Speaker 1: I'm not sick anymore. 248 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:38,480 Speaker 3: But dude, you close to three is usual smoothies? Yes, 249 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:41,800 Speaker 3: Riley switch is as Smoothie's not good for you. 250 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:42,320 Speaker 2: When you're sick. 251 00:12:42,520 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 3: It's like drinking cold. He needs something like my throat. 252 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:47,800 Speaker 2: My throat is like, you know. 253 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 3: It doesn't feel good. 254 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:49,880 Speaker 2: It doesn't feel good. 255 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 3: No, like hot, hot throat. It makes sense. Yeah, the throat. 256 00:12:55,880 --> 00:13:00,199 Speaker 2: I'm I'm being over here. I'm sorry. 257 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:03,960 Speaker 1: But the bizarre thing is that in their new house, 258 00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:09,960 Speaker 1: she has her own toilets, a toilet that even my 259 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:12,040 Speaker 1: brother cannot use. 260 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:15,880 Speaker 3: That's so weird the for toilet. 261 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:19,080 Speaker 1: During our visits, she makes it very clear that this 262 00:13:19,120 --> 00:13:20,440 Speaker 1: toilet is hers. 263 00:13:20,520 --> 00:13:21,959 Speaker 2: And we cannot use it. 264 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 3: I'm imagining like a big keepout. 265 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:27,480 Speaker 1: Like yeah, on the front of the danger danger death 266 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:28,200 Speaker 1: if you enter. 267 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:31,320 Speaker 3: Maybe she's just self conscious about her farts. 268 00:13:31,920 --> 00:13:32,640 Speaker 2: Totally could be. 269 00:13:32,840 --> 00:13:36,360 Speaker 1: Honestly, of all the things, this is the least crazy, 270 00:13:36,440 --> 00:13:38,720 Speaker 1: Like I could see someone being like my dad is 271 00:13:38,880 --> 00:13:41,200 Speaker 1: very protective about his bathroom. 272 00:13:41,360 --> 00:13:41,680 Speaker 3: Yeah. 273 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:44,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, he will not let me use it at all. 274 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:46,720 Speaker 3: Really, he gets he gets mad every time I use 275 00:13:46,960 --> 00:13:48,560 Speaker 3: the bathroom in the house. 276 00:13:48,679 --> 00:13:51,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's like it's a little personal, you know, 277 00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:52,880 Speaker 2: Like you know, the. 278 00:13:52,800 --> 00:13:54,440 Speaker 3: Thing is, it's the best bathroom in the house, so 279 00:13:54,480 --> 00:13:56,440 Speaker 3: I always use it, and it's always mad. 280 00:13:56,640 --> 00:13:59,120 Speaker 4: No one wants to use my bathroom because there's no door. 281 00:14:03,200 --> 00:14:08,240 Speaker 1: Heally right, guys, wait, wait, wait, can we take a 282 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:10,400 Speaker 1: picture of the bathroom and put it as the green 283 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 1: screen behind oh dosing Riley's bathroom? Oh man, I'm sure 284 00:14:17,040 --> 00:14:19,120 Speaker 1: that's something a lot of people watching. 285 00:14:21,520 --> 00:14:22,480 Speaker 2: We'll get back to the story. 286 00:14:23,000 --> 00:14:23,800 Speaker 3: The side. 287 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:31,400 Speaker 2: I'm getting caught in this episode. My goodness, silence. So 288 00:14:34,280 --> 00:14:38,520 Speaker 2: he's right now. So we're getting back to the story, 289 00:14:38,600 --> 00:14:39,200 Speaker 2: ladies and gentlemen. 290 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:45,280 Speaker 1: The only problem was that the other toilet didn't have 291 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:49,200 Speaker 1: a toilet seed at first, rod Dog and the toilet. 292 00:14:48,880 --> 00:14:51,040 Speaker 3: Baby sat on a toilet with that U. 293 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:55,480 Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, you really got to spread like. 294 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:57,200 Speaker 3: Oh, dide, I just I just do one of these. 295 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 1: Oh that's that's impressive. I mean that probably helps. 296 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:04,800 Speaker 2: Right, that's like. 297 00:15:05,200 --> 00:15:07,400 Speaker 3: You're supposed to do it right. You're supposed to do 298 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:11,040 Speaker 3: it like. I mean, like if you look the if 299 00:15:11,040 --> 00:15:13,600 Speaker 3: you go to China like that, all the all the 300 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:16,560 Speaker 3: toilets are like that, there were plotting toilets. Yeah, we've 301 00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:18,560 Speaker 3: got to all messed up over there, dude, we gotta 302 00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:21,400 Speaker 3: get right. It's I mean, it's it's better for you, your 303 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 3: your It aligns your your your colon. 304 00:15:24,560 --> 00:15:26,920 Speaker 1: I'm going to do that now moving forward, Well, see, 305 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:34,880 Speaker 1: actually break every toilet sistern law is doing everyone a favor. 306 00:15:35,160 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 1: I want to align your bowels. So you need to 307 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:39,920 Speaker 1: say you're welcome. You're welcome, you are so welcome. 308 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 3: Now you don't need a squatty potty, right, you got 309 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:42,720 Speaker 3: to squad. 310 00:15:42,840 --> 00:15:45,840 Speaker 2: So easy and additional info. 311 00:15:46,240 --> 00:15:49,120 Speaker 1: Apart from the outdoor cooking, we were only at their 312 00:15:49,120 --> 00:15:51,920 Speaker 1: house when there was some things to do, so essentially 313 00:15:51,920 --> 00:15:54,120 Speaker 1: we were doing free work at their house and we 314 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:58,480 Speaker 1: got for it. The last straw was when we went 315 00:15:58,560 --> 00:16:00,880 Speaker 1: to help them installing a ventilation system. 316 00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:03,680 Speaker 3: That does not sound easy. That sounds like a lot 317 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:06,280 Speaker 3: of work. A ventilation system and like the house. 318 00:16:06,720 --> 00:16:11,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, some guys were there installing an AC and three cats. 319 00:16:11,160 --> 00:16:13,800 Speaker 2: Oh uh, there were some guys there that were cats. 320 00:16:14,320 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 1: I was like, what, it's three guys, it's guys installing 321 00:16:16,760 --> 00:16:18,080 Speaker 1: the AC and cats are there. 322 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:20,760 Speaker 2: There we go. My little brother made some. 323 00:16:20,680 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 1: Cake, not a fancy cake, but just a tasty, easy one. Uh. 324 00:16:25,600 --> 00:16:27,720 Speaker 1: She was away at first, the sister of love, and 325 00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:30,880 Speaker 1: she did take the key to her toilet in our 326 00:16:30,960 --> 00:16:32,320 Speaker 1: demid took the key. 327 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:34,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's my toilet. 328 00:16:34,120 --> 00:16:37,360 Speaker 1: She's very productive, it's my toilet. 329 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:38,880 Speaker 2: In our demise. 330 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:43,400 Speaker 1: We had to install the ventilation system into her toilet 331 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:45,560 Speaker 1: as well, so she had to come home. 332 00:16:45,880 --> 00:16:50,120 Speaker 3: So this is not just a ventilation system throughout the 333 00:16:50,160 --> 00:16:51,080 Speaker 3: whole house. 334 00:16:51,280 --> 00:16:51,800 Speaker 2: This is crazy. 335 00:16:51,800 --> 00:16:55,520 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, ye, in her bathroom. Yeah, that's insane, my god. 336 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 3: I mean, either the ventilation system is easier to install 337 00:16:59,280 --> 00:17:03,360 Speaker 3: than I thought, or Opie's family is like a family 338 00:17:03,440 --> 00:17:04,840 Speaker 3: of handy men and women. 339 00:17:04,920 --> 00:17:07,760 Speaker 1: Seriously, Like I think about remember Opie's attitude. OPI was 340 00:17:07,800 --> 00:17:10,480 Speaker 1: like I want to chip in for rent and like 341 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:12,800 Speaker 1: help out, and like my mom wouldn't let me pay. Fine, 342 00:17:12,840 --> 00:17:14,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do all the housework to make up for it. 343 00:17:14,840 --> 00:17:17,480 Speaker 1: Like it sounds like everyone and maybe the brother, but 344 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:20,040 Speaker 1: maybe the sistern law is poisoning him a little bit. 345 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:23,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's why. Maybe that's why Opie wrote this story. 346 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:28,200 Speaker 1: Now, up until this point in the installation, the cats 347 00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:31,280 Speaker 1: were behaving, not jumping on the table, not stealing food. 348 00:17:31,320 --> 00:17:32,560 Speaker 3: Where are the cats are becoming? 349 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:39,400 Speaker 5: Like the cats are gonna do something crazy Now once 350 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:42,520 Speaker 5: she arrived, they literally knew that she was home and 351 00:17:42,560 --> 00:17:45,120 Speaker 5: they were allowed to do anything. 352 00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:47,320 Speaker 3: The cats are unleasious. 353 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:51,000 Speaker 1: One of them even went for my brother's cake and 354 00:17:51,119 --> 00:17:54,760 Speaker 1: started eating it. That's insane. A cat eating a cake. 355 00:17:55,440 --> 00:17:57,600 Speaker 1: My sister in law saw it and just let the 356 00:17:57,640 --> 00:18:01,240 Speaker 1: cat eat it. Well, when my dad saw it, he 357 00:18:01,320 --> 00:18:04,439 Speaker 1: hushed the cat off the table. The cat did scratch 358 00:18:04,480 --> 00:18:08,720 Speaker 1: the tablecloth, but it was more scarred than hurt. My 359 00:18:08,840 --> 00:18:11,760 Speaker 1: sister in law started screaming about how my dad was 360 00:18:11,800 --> 00:18:15,160 Speaker 1: abusing her cats, how he was a monster, and how 361 00:18:15,200 --> 00:18:20,280 Speaker 1: he will need to pay for the tablecloth. Dude, they're 362 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:24,560 Speaker 1: installing their ventilation system for them and you're worried about it. 363 00:18:24,680 --> 00:18:25,840 Speaker 1: How much is a tablecloth? 364 00:18:26,480 --> 00:18:28,800 Speaker 2: I mean I can't imagine, like. 365 00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 3: And also saying like, what twenty dollars? 366 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:34,000 Speaker 1: Maybe twenty dollars because keep in mind, you, mind you, 367 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:36,479 Speaker 1: this is a young, married couple. 368 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:41,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like talking like crazy like antique tablecloths. 369 00:18:41,080 --> 00:18:45,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like it's like twenty thirty bucks Massimum 370 00:18:45,200 --> 00:18:48,520 Speaker 1: something like that. When it was over, everyone just continued 371 00:18:48,520 --> 00:18:50,960 Speaker 1: the work. It was awkward, and I was at that 372 00:18:51,040 --> 00:18:54,000 Speaker 1: point not only upset with her, but with my brother 373 00:18:54,080 --> 00:18:54,520 Speaker 1: as well. 374 00:18:55,119 --> 00:18:56,440 Speaker 2: You don't just. 375 00:18:56,359 --> 00:18:58,720 Speaker 1: Scream at my dad and then have everything go back 376 00:18:58,720 --> 00:19:01,600 Speaker 1: to normal. Yeah, But the thing is I was not 377 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:04,359 Speaker 1: trying to upset her before, as we learned quickly that 378 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:07,359 Speaker 1: she is prone to getting upset, and I realized that 379 00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:11,400 Speaker 1: we were doing a huge disservice to everyone by doing this, 380 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:14,200 Speaker 1: so like basically letting her get away with it, right, 381 00:19:14,480 --> 00:19:18,200 Speaker 1: she is getting away with it because even after everything 382 00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:23,680 Speaker 1: my dad forgave her, she didn't even say sorry to him. 383 00:19:24,119 --> 00:19:26,239 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a hard thing about Like sometimes when like 384 00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:31,520 Speaker 3: people are super just like short fused or rude, I 385 00:19:31,560 --> 00:19:35,119 Speaker 3: think a lot of people just make accommodations yes for 386 00:19:35,320 --> 00:19:39,439 Speaker 3: that person and usually end up apologizing just to like 387 00:19:39,480 --> 00:19:41,080 Speaker 3: applicate the craziness. 388 00:19:41,200 --> 00:19:42,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, you like, I don't want to deal with this, 389 00:19:42,600 --> 00:19:45,959 Speaker 1: but it enables their behavior exactly. That's what's hard about it. 390 00:19:46,080 --> 00:19:50,879 Speaker 3: It's like and sometimes when you don't apologize, then it 391 00:19:51,080 --> 00:19:54,840 Speaker 3: just like it just it makes it worse. It makes 392 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:56,280 Speaker 3: it worse in the short term. 393 00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:58,680 Speaker 1: So question for you, two gentlemen, let's take a quick 394 00:19:58,720 --> 00:20:02,640 Speaker 1: pause right here and every everyone watching, of course at 395 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:06,840 Speaker 1: this moment, do you confront her. You've finished, you've just 396 00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:09,960 Speaker 1: finished installing the AC system, helping out all day, she's 397 00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:10,879 Speaker 1: yelled at your dad. 398 00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:12,919 Speaker 2: Do you go to her and you're like, hey, that 399 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:14,120 Speaker 2: is not okay. 400 00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:18,000 Speaker 3: If she's yelling at your dad, I think, yeah, yeah. 401 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:20,119 Speaker 4: Yeah I would, but like not in front of everyone. 402 00:20:20,280 --> 00:20:21,720 Speaker 4: Just be like to the side, like. 403 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:24,280 Speaker 2: Hey, that's a classic that's a classic move that's going on. 404 00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:26,680 Speaker 4: You're being disrespectful and. 405 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:28,960 Speaker 1: Honestly, like you could even be like in that moment, 406 00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:32,360 Speaker 1: be like, hey, that's like she she yells. 407 00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:33,920 Speaker 2: Like why did you do that? Is my dear obam. 408 00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:36,119 Speaker 1: I was like, hey, that's like totally unfair. Like I 409 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,840 Speaker 1: think that's fair too, but it all like it's even 410 00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:41,320 Speaker 1: more protective of hers, Like you know what, I won't 411 00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:44,280 Speaker 1: like publicly embarrass you or whatever. I'll take you to 412 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:47,560 Speaker 1: the side and tell you like, yo, that's that was 413 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:48,120 Speaker 1: out of line. 414 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:50,199 Speaker 3: Yeah, like that actually is a good middle ground, not 415 00:20:50,240 --> 00:20:53,119 Speaker 3: publicly embarrassing. Hey, that's that's not okay. 416 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:57,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, but but I wouldn't be mad if he defended 417 00:20:57,600 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 1: the dad. Yeah, in that moment, like hey, like stop that, 418 00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:02,400 Speaker 1: why are you doing That's that's too much. 419 00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 3: I think I think that makes. 420 00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:06,440 Speaker 2: Sense, So let us know what you do. I'm very 421 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:07,040 Speaker 2: curious to hear. 422 00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:10,520 Speaker 1: So now she is attending some of our family events 423 00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:13,479 Speaker 1: with my brother. I can't stand her, and I know 424 00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:16,960 Speaker 1: I will upset her, If not by will, then just 425 00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:21,160 Speaker 1: by accident. My mom tries way too much to please 426 00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:22,200 Speaker 1: her when she is around. 427 00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:23,040 Speaker 2: Dude. 428 00:21:23,080 --> 00:21:27,400 Speaker 3: She's totally that personality. I dread what will happen when 429 00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:31,679 Speaker 3: they have children. Dude, Just like she's just short fused 430 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:32,320 Speaker 3: a little crazy. 431 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:36,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, one hundred, like like what that child will need 432 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:40,800 Speaker 1: their own toilet as well, go on, opie joke aside, 433 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:43,679 Speaker 1: I know that I will be the bad guy because 434 00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:45,119 Speaker 1: I have just had enough. 435 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:49,439 Speaker 2: She can go herself with her toilet. God damn bro. 436 00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:52,920 Speaker 1: If you have any advice, please feel free to share. 437 00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:59,119 Speaker 1: I hate her but can still think logically. That is 438 00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:02,240 Speaker 1: the end of the story. And remember this is part 439 00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:04,359 Speaker 1: of the Okay Fam. Yeah, Riley, do we do we 440 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:08,119 Speaker 1: have any comments actually from the Okay Fam themselves that 441 00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:11,240 Speaker 1: are that are giving any advice here? Yeah, I'm very 442 00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:13,560 Speaker 1: curious to see what they have to say. But yeah, Sam, 443 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:15,560 Speaker 1: right now, like what do you think? 444 00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:19,159 Speaker 3: What should MP do? I think talking to the sistern 445 00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:21,760 Speaker 3: in law saying hey, it's not okay that you yell 446 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:25,320 Speaker 3: at my dad, although with the expectation of maybe expecting 447 00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:29,800 Speaker 3: her to be a little bit very defensive, and then 448 00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:33,919 Speaker 3: maybe talking to your parents too, it's like, hey, like, 449 00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:37,440 Speaker 3: are you guys okay with this? I like that idea 450 00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:40,560 Speaker 3: because I think it seems like the parents are enabling 451 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:44,160 Speaker 3: the behavior, and then also talking to the brother and 452 00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,840 Speaker 3: being like, hey, were you okay with her yelling at 453 00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:50,920 Speaker 3: our dad? Like, is that something that you think is okay? 454 00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:52,919 Speaker 3: Because maybe maybe he does think it's okay. I don't know, 455 00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:55,280 Speaker 3: maybe he's defense, but at least you'll know where he 456 00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:56,080 Speaker 3: stands on it. 457 00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:58,560 Speaker 1: That's a good point because we didn't get a whole 458 00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:02,679 Speaker 1: lot of context on to how the brother reacts to this, 459 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:05,879 Speaker 1: other than it seems like he's not really defending that. 460 00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:07,520 Speaker 3: It feels like he's just been a little bit of 461 00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:08,159 Speaker 3: a dormat. 462 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:08,520 Speaker 2: Yeah. 463 00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:10,080 Speaker 1: I think he's just like, I'm just gonna let this 464 00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:12,359 Speaker 1: happen and not again for the same. 465 00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:14,880 Speaker 3: Reason of like rocked the bout because I am worried 466 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:15,960 Speaker 3: about Yeah. 467 00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:18,640 Speaker 1: I'm living like I might get banned from my own 468 00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:21,640 Speaker 1: toilet toilets. 469 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:23,840 Speaker 3: I'll put it out sat in the wood right. 470 00:23:23,920 --> 00:23:25,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh my gosh. 471 00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:28,440 Speaker 1: But I think Riley was pulling together some great comments 472 00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:30,479 Speaker 1: from you all. I'm gonna take a quick look at that. 473 00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,520 Speaker 1: So this is from another member of the Okay Famin 474 00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:36,440 Speaker 1: in our slash Okop show. So Lili's Kitchen says many 475 00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:39,440 Speaker 1: of the described behaviors sounds like she has some mental issues. 476 00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:42,080 Speaker 1: I don't know if her parents reported her kidnapps because 477 00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:45,639 Speaker 1: they know about it. Interesting good point and we're worried 478 00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:48,800 Speaker 1: maybe she needs her meds to function, or if they 479 00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:51,000 Speaker 1: are the reason that she has some sort of PTSD 480 00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:54,280 Speaker 1: and needs her own toilet and tends to have episodes 481 00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:58,240 Speaker 1: of this, like the crying. I say this because I 482 00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:00,639 Speaker 1: have my issues too, and I I know that I 483 00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:04,320 Speaker 1: must seem completely irrational to people around me sometimes. For 484 00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:07,439 Speaker 1: example the breakfast scene, she may be a germophobe and 485 00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:11,240 Speaker 1: can't eat what anybody else has touched. I eat the bread. 486 00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:13,960 Speaker 1: Her only solution is sitting there on the floor and 487 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:16,520 Speaker 1: saying that she eats nothing because she can't cope with 488 00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:19,879 Speaker 1: her own emotions in that moment. In those moments, I 489 00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:22,440 Speaker 1: totally get why you can't stand her. Have you ever 490 00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:24,440 Speaker 1: talked to your brother in private about it? 491 00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:24,840 Speaker 2: Yes? 492 00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:27,919 Speaker 1: Does he know why she behaves like that? And is 493 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:29,840 Speaker 1: this why she supports her? 494 00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:30,480 Speaker 2: Anyways? 495 00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:33,720 Speaker 1: I think maybe your parents know too, because they seem 496 00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:36,200 Speaker 1: to walk on eggshells around her. He may have told 497 00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:39,880 Speaker 1: them so they might understand. So might just be a brat, 498 00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:43,120 Speaker 1: But it sounds like there is something going on deep down, 499 00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:46,080 Speaker 1: And I think that is a great point to make, 500 00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:51,280 Speaker 1: and I really think it would be helpful for. 501 00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:55,480 Speaker 2: I get that maybe maybe. 502 00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:57,800 Speaker 1: The sister in law is very private about it, maybe 503 00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:01,920 Speaker 1: embarrassed about it, and maybe the doesn't want doesn't want 504 00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:04,680 Speaker 1: even if she like, like, let's say she does. 505 00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:09,360 Speaker 3: Like Ope said, like need medication or does have some 506 00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 3: uh like mental issues that she needs to take care 507 00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:19,359 Speaker 3: care of, She's probably not wanting everyone to know about that. 508 00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:23,160 Speaker 2: Which is more than fair. I wonder if there's some way. 509 00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:26,239 Speaker 3: Of But is that okay? But all right, this might 510 00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:30,920 Speaker 3: be a little a controversial question. But does having these 511 00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:35,960 Speaker 3: issues excuse apish behavior? 512 00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:36,680 Speaker 2: Yeah? 513 00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:39,440 Speaker 1: I don't know that it excuses it. And and one 514 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,439 Speaker 1: thing I was thinking of, like you can understand it, 515 00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:44,560 Speaker 1: Yeah you can. I think that definitely helps but excuse it. 516 00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:47,280 Speaker 1: And maybe maybe one thing, if the brother doesn't want 517 00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:50,880 Speaker 1: to reveal the exact things that she's going through, maybe 518 00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:54,440 Speaker 1: the brother can sit down with Ope and be like, hey, look, 519 00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:57,119 Speaker 1: you know, she's gone through some things, she has some 520 00:25:57,160 --> 00:26:00,160 Speaker 1: things that she's working on. I you know, I'm I'm 521 00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:02,639 Speaker 1: guessing the brother would I'm guessing the brother wants to 522 00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:03,400 Speaker 1: help or whatever. 523 00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:07,639 Speaker 3: Like, I think, mental illness doesn't excuse the behavior, but 524 00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:13,480 Speaker 3: it maybe can give the people that are hurt maybe 525 00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:17,360 Speaker 3: by the behavior a little bit of like more empathy. 526 00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:20,639 Speaker 2: So why's context? You know, like does it solve it? 527 00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:21,840 Speaker 2: Absolutely not? 528 00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:24,720 Speaker 1: But I I think you know, and again it's it's 529 00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:29,600 Speaker 1: it's the tough part is when the person, which in 530 00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:35,960 Speaker 1: so many cases totally understandable is maybe you know, embarrassed 531 00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:38,800 Speaker 1: or hurt or whatever, doesn't want to share that information 532 00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:39,800 Speaker 1: for whatever reason. 533 00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:42,760 Speaker 3: And it's like, I mean like for a long time 534 00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:46,040 Speaker 3: there was a way more stigma around mental illness than 535 00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:48,440 Speaker 3: there is today. I do think. So I was watching 536 00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:54,240 Speaker 3: an episode of Ted Lasso and there was like Ted, uh, 537 00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:57,880 Speaker 3: it was like suffering from like anxiety attacks. Yeah, And 538 00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:01,840 Speaker 3: there was this great quote when he basically like he 539 00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:04,200 Speaker 3: said it was just like stomach issues when he was 540 00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:06,800 Speaker 3: having the anxiety attacks. But then it comes out that 541 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:11,640 Speaker 3: it's actually anxiety attack and something that his therapist says 542 00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,440 Speaker 3: to him is like the truth will set you free, 543 00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:17,000 Speaker 3: but first we'll piss you off. And like I think, 544 00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:23,080 Speaker 3: like that's like a bar because it definitely is still 545 00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:25,639 Speaker 3: difficult to come out and say like, hey, this is 546 00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:27,320 Speaker 3: the reason that I'm acting in this way, like I 547 00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:32,680 Speaker 3: have so and so that I'm dealing with either familial 548 00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:39,199 Speaker 3: trauma or mental illness. But I think the world is 549 00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:43,119 Speaker 3: becoming more accepting of that and understanding, and it could 550 00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:46,280 Speaker 3: It just gives more context, and I think people are 551 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:48,800 Speaker 3: It doesn't excuse the beavor, but I think people can 552 00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:52,040 Speaker 3: now understand and know how to deal with you. 553 00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:54,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I think it helps a little bit. 554 00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:57,879 Speaker 1: So yeah, again, like I'm not saying, like out the 555 00:27:57,960 --> 00:28:00,080 Speaker 1: exact thing she's dealing with, but I think there's a 556 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:01,760 Speaker 1: way where you could maybe go and be like, hey, look, 557 00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:03,720 Speaker 1: she's dealing with some stuff. I just wanted to give 558 00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:06,439 Speaker 1: you some context, you know. I think I think that 559 00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:09,680 Speaker 1: could be helpful. So great, great point, Lilith's kitchen, Great, 560 00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:12,240 Speaker 1: great comment. Okay, cool. So yeah, this is Op's response 561 00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:15,760 Speaker 1: a Lili's Kitchen. I think it's certain that she can't 562 00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,119 Speaker 1: cope with her emotions, and I do know for a 563 00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:19,800 Speaker 1: fact that she is embarrassed about it. 564 00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:21,720 Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, that's good. 565 00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:26,000 Speaker 1: Yes, she tends to disappear or avoid the trigger afterwards, 566 00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 1: which again I could also understand if you're like, I 567 00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:30,840 Speaker 1: know I have a trigger, let me remove myself from 568 00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:31,360 Speaker 1: the situation. 569 00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:33,000 Speaker 2: Very helpful context. 570 00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:36,159 Speaker 1: My anger comes from the fact that nothing is done 571 00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:39,240 Speaker 1: about these episodes. We help her brush it under the 572 00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,560 Speaker 1: rug and the trigger points just keep increasing. I don't 573 00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:45,520 Speaker 1: know if my parents know anything. I did not bring 574 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,000 Speaker 1: her up with my brother. I will when I get 575 00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:48,480 Speaker 1: the chance. 576 00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:48,880 Speaker 3: Good. 577 00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:49,600 Speaker 4: She is a. 578 00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:54,479 Speaker 1: Brat and she has mental issues, be it germophobia, some 579 00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:56,120 Speaker 1: kind of or some kind of PTSD. 580 00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:58,320 Speaker 2: I don't know if she was ever diagnosed. 581 00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:01,440 Speaker 1: On one hand, it's not of my business, but I 582 00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:03,840 Speaker 1: would be more understanding if I. 583 00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:05,880 Speaker 2: Know what she's dealing with. 584 00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:10,040 Speaker 1: And then Lili's Kitchen concludes with, well, I see that 585 00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:12,880 Speaker 1: you don't mean bad, so really take a chance when 586 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:15,880 Speaker 1: it comes and talk to your brother. Maybe something is 587 00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:19,280 Speaker 1: done about it. Therapy can take long before we see 588 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:22,240 Speaker 1: the effect of it. Yeah, I think again, It's like 589 00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:26,160 Speaker 1: it's not going to magically fix everything, but if there 590 00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,600 Speaker 1: can be some sort of more understanding. 591 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:31,440 Speaker 3: It's literally what Opie said, like, if I knew, I 592 00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:32,960 Speaker 3: would be a little bit more understanding. 593 00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:33,239 Speaker 2: Right. 594 00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:35,400 Speaker 3: It is not let make her not be a brat. 595 00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:38,400 Speaker 3: She stole a brat, Yes, potentially, but at least you 596 00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:41,920 Speaker 3: have context so you can properly understand how to deal 597 00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:45,000 Speaker 3: with her and be more understanding in how you deal 598 00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:45,360 Speaker 3: with her. 599 00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:48,400 Speaker 1: And also in that last sentence, maybe something is done 600 00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:50,920 Speaker 1: about it. Therapy can take long. Oh sorry, this was 601 00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:53,040 Speaker 1: Lili's kitchen. So yeah, but I was going to say, 602 00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:55,840 Speaker 1: responding to that last sentence, it would be great for 603 00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:57,200 Speaker 1: everyone to be in therapy. 604 00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:01,800 Speaker 2: You know. The sister in law op therapy. He's good. 605 00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:05,240 Speaker 3: Thumbs up, therapy is good. That's right, that's right. 606 00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:07,640 Speaker 1: So this one comes from Michael eight two eight two, 607 00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:10,240 Speaker 1: also part of the Okay fam. Get her told, and 608 00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:14,480 Speaker 1: anyone who doesn't back you, they will in time. No offense, 609 00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 1: but your brother needs to step up. Not in the 610 00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:21,560 Speaker 1: man's a boss way, but in regards to a serious relationship. 611 00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:24,360 Speaker 1: Both men and women should be checking each other and 612 00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:27,280 Speaker 1: telling each other when they are being a dick. Not 613 00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:30,280 Speaker 1: in a public way, but at least behind closed doors. 614 00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:33,920 Speaker 1: Respect is checking each other and love is hearing what 615 00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:36,720 Speaker 1: you don't want to hear, just saying my opinion. 616 00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:39,840 Speaker 2: Only Opie responds with this, I agree with you. 617 00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:43,080 Speaker 1: Sometimes I feel like he set him up for failure 618 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:48,720 Speaker 1: in this matter. So yeah, maybe it was like the 619 00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:52,200 Speaker 1: brother was just so like, like we've been saying kind 620 00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:54,880 Speaker 1: of throughout the story, the brother was so accommodating to 621 00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:58,280 Speaker 1: a point where it ended up maybe hurting and like 622 00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:00,320 Speaker 1: enabling the behavior. 623 00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:01,440 Speaker 2: But yeah, it's a. 624 00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:04,040 Speaker 3: Hard line to draw. So it's like you want to 625 00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:08,600 Speaker 3: be empathetic and understanding, but you don't want to reward 626 00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:09,360 Speaker 3: bad behavior. 627 00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:11,800 Speaker 1: I do really feel for the brother because they've been 628 00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:16,520 Speaker 1: in a eight year relationship from eighteen to twenty six married. 629 00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:21,080 Speaker 1: I feel for the brother, Like this is probably a 630 00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:24,960 Speaker 1: very like you said, it's such a fine line to walk, 631 00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:27,840 Speaker 1: and like what is. 632 00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:31,400 Speaker 2: The right way? I don't know, but that's the question, what. 633 00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:33,200 Speaker 3: Is the right way to do this? Like for anyone 634 00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:36,480 Speaker 3: who has been in a relationship with someone who maybe 635 00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:40,200 Speaker 3: has come off as like an asshole or a brat, 636 00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:46,360 Speaker 3: but has just been dealing with like mental issues or 637 00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:50,080 Speaker 3: mental illness, let us know how you dealt with it 638 00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:53,520 Speaker 3: and what helped, like what was effective? Absolutely, I would 639 00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:57,240 Speaker 3: love to hear your stories in the comments below totally. 640 00:31:57,280 --> 00:31:59,360 Speaker 1: And you know it sounds like the brother loves the 641 00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:02,480 Speaker 1: sister in law. But if you love us, please make 642 00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:04,560 Speaker 1: sure to subscribe We love you and. 643 00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:05,480 Speaker 2: See it tomorrow. 644 00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:09,760 Speaker 3: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives. 645 00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:14,640 Speaker 1: Time for okop Rewam today effed up by being a 646 00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:17,800 Speaker 1: coward and not being truthful to my parents about dropping 647 00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:19,160 Speaker 1: out of university. 648 00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:21,840 Speaker 3: Hey, take it like a maam, Yeah that's right, and 649 00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:25,040 Speaker 3: freaking tell them you drop that ship because right, college 650 00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:26,160 Speaker 3: is for just. 651 00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:29,440 Speaker 1: Be like mom, dad, I dropped out of school like 652 00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:30,280 Speaker 1: my nuts. 653 00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:32,520 Speaker 2: So take that. 654 00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:36,360 Speaker 3: It's exactly how I did it. By the way, Actually, 655 00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:37,719 Speaker 3: how did you do it? Uh? 656 00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:40,240 Speaker 1: Well, initially I was thinking about it and my dad 657 00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:42,320 Speaker 1: he's like, I'm going to make a contract where you 658 00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:44,200 Speaker 1: have to you have to stay in screen. 659 00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:46,840 Speaker 3: It's like we talked about it. Sweep the room, make 660 00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:49,560 Speaker 3: a contract. My dad used to do the contracting too. 661 00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:52,120 Speaker 1: I think it was because it was this was after 662 00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:55,160 Speaker 1: the ABC Family, Yeah, I was. I was on the 663 00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:58,200 Speaker 1: show on ABC Family called Startup You. So after that 664 00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:04,400 Speaker 1: they're like, okay, there's something just discover. 665 00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:07,080 Speaker 3: Go okay, figure it out. 666 00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:09,640 Speaker 1: So my grandma passed away and fall of last year, 667 00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:13,200 Speaker 1: sorry to hear that, I female twenty five, have been 668 00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:16,880 Speaker 1: on a continuous downward spiral due to my mental health failing. 669 00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:20,920 Speaker 1: Hence why I also dropped out of university earlier this year. 670 00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:24,680 Speaker 3: Damn that's that. This is quite the two sentence opener. 671 00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:28,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, but instead of actually getting help, I just festered 672 00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:30,480 Speaker 1: in my misery in hopes I could find a way 673 00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:33,840 Speaker 1: to resolve everything without getting anyone else involved and becoming 674 00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:36,680 Speaker 1: a burden on anyone else. Oh OK, let me just 675 00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:40,880 Speaker 1: say you deserve help, like everyone that is in a 676 00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:41,680 Speaker 1: position like this. 677 00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:43,440 Speaker 3: Everyone deserves mental health. 678 00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:44,200 Speaker 2: Absolutely. 679 00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:49,080 Speaker 1: Obviously I didn't find a way because that's not how 680 00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:52,080 Speaker 1: this stuff works, and instead it just got worse and worse, 681 00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:54,680 Speaker 1: and I just withdrew from all my social circles that 682 00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:57,480 Speaker 1: could have helped me out. The thing is, I'm a 683 00:33:57,560 --> 00:34:00,400 Speaker 1: child of very strict parents that pride themselves and having 684 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:04,840 Speaker 1: such a well performing and absolutely not mentally ill, self 685 00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:09,680 Speaker 1: sustaining daughter I wish in parentheses, she says, we actually 686 00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:12,480 Speaker 1: got into a huge fight in the past when I 687 00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:15,480 Speaker 1: didn't perform that well in school. So in my delusional mind, 688 00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:18,240 Speaker 1: I thought I could just ride the depressive phase out 689 00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:20,759 Speaker 1: and just re enroll and everything would be all right 690 00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:22,880 Speaker 1: and my parents would still be proud of me and 691 00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:23,920 Speaker 1: never be the wiser. 692 00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:26,600 Speaker 3: So I guess op's like, I just. 693 00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:29,719 Speaker 1: I'm gonna stop school, stop school, and so I don't 694 00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:31,120 Speaker 1: get back. 695 00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:33,080 Speaker 3: Yeah right, Oh. 696 00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:37,200 Speaker 1: Man, Well that didn't happen either. And since my parents 697 00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:40,319 Speaker 1: are claiming some financial benefits because of me being a 698 00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:44,000 Speaker 1: university student. They asked for a certificate of enrollment a 699 00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:47,640 Speaker 1: few weeks back to keep on getting those benefits. Oh man, 700 00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:49,680 Speaker 1: this is turning out going to come crumbling down sticky 701 00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:50,600 Speaker 1: web very quickly. 702 00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:50,960 Speaker 2: Yeah. 703 00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:52,239 Speaker 3: The lies so catching up. 704 00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:55,359 Speaker 1: I always talked myself out of having to present it, 705 00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:58,800 Speaker 1: like blaming some survery issues or something like that, despite 706 00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:01,520 Speaker 1: those moments being the per opportunities where I could have 707 00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:05,120 Speaker 1: come clean. However, today is the deadline. 708 00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:08,799 Speaker 3: Of my lies. Oh that is poetic way of saying it. 709 00:35:09,719 --> 00:35:13,600 Speaker 3: You should become a writer, yeah future, Hey, we're reading it. 710 00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:15,440 Speaker 3: So yeah, it's true. 711 00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:17,680 Speaker 1: And a good chunk of my cowardice kept me from 712 00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:20,880 Speaker 1: cleaning up my mess while also robbing me of my sleep. 713 00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:23,640 Speaker 1: I actually haven't slept in the past few days. 714 00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:24,279 Speaker 3: Oh shit. 715 00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:27,080 Speaker 1: And what happens if your mental health is already terrible 716 00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:30,319 Speaker 1: and you don't get any sleep exactly, you do something 717 00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:35,239 Speaker 1: very stupid, says Opie. And the stupid thing I did 718 00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:38,320 Speaker 1: was actually sitting down with a brain fueled by pure 719 00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:42,719 Speaker 1: fear and owning up, started up photoshop and committing forgery, 720 00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:46,640 Speaker 1: actually sending it to my father's email. That doesn't sound 721 00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:47,239 Speaker 1: like owning up. 722 00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:54,000 Speaker 3: Wow, my goodness, Literally everything butted up. The lies continue. 723 00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:57,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, I committed a crime just because I was too 724 00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:59,960 Speaker 1: afraid to tell my parents that I'm not okay anyway. 725 00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,440 Speaker 1: My only hope is that my father doesn't read his 726 00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:05,520 Speaker 1: emails before the evening so I can numb myself out 727 00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:09,400 Speaker 1: enough to actually go to them and confess everything. 728 00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:12,080 Speaker 3: Man, I mean this is tough. I want. I feel 729 00:36:12,080 --> 00:36:15,120 Speaker 3: like like Op should confess because maybe her parents can 730 00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:16,279 Speaker 3: help her get that help. 731 00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:18,680 Speaker 1: Maybe maybe like I could see how it could be 732 00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:21,160 Speaker 1: really hard, and Op's kind of like already, so like 733 00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:23,880 Speaker 1: it gets harder and harder for her to like confess. 734 00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:26,360 Speaker 1: Maybe go to like a friend first, just like to 735 00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:30,040 Speaker 1: tell it to somebody, Yeah, and like maybe ask them 736 00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:33,799 Speaker 1: some advice or or even friends on the internet or 737 00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:36,040 Speaker 1: like you know, somebody to I mean, this is maybe 738 00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:37,279 Speaker 1: one way of like getting it out. 739 00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:37,600 Speaker 2: Yeah. 740 00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:40,120 Speaker 3: I feel like, hey, you're telling the truth on this forum. Yes, 741 00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:42,640 Speaker 3: you have the willpower and you have it in you 742 00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,920 Speaker 3: to just tell it to your parents and ultimately, like 743 00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:48,680 Speaker 3: most parents, sounds like your parents want the best for you, 744 00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:50,719 Speaker 3: So they're just gonna they're they're they're going to try 745 00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:51,040 Speaker 3: to help. 746 00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:51,359 Speaker 2: Yeah. 747 00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:53,480 Speaker 1: And also, like just again on that note of like 748 00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:57,480 Speaker 1: not wanting to be a burden to somebody, like the 749 00:36:57,520 --> 00:36:59,319 Speaker 1: people and you like like your parents, like all these 750 00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:01,840 Speaker 1: people who care about you. They want you to be better, 751 00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:04,399 Speaker 1: not to be like, you know, quote unquote burdened, which 752 00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:08,640 Speaker 1: it really isn't. And every everyone, everyone deserves that help. 753 00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:10,920 Speaker 1: And and look, there's always your parents, your friends, like 754 00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:15,080 Speaker 1: people the internet, Internet friends like you know, there's always 755 00:37:15,120 --> 00:37:19,600 Speaker 1: resources obviously, therapists as well, suicide hotline, there's there's lots 756 00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:22,120 Speaker 1: of things that that you could go to. And you 757 00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:23,759 Speaker 1: you deserve that, like you don't. You don't deserve to 758 00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:25,000 Speaker 1: feel that you're a burden.