WEBVTT - Don't Be Scared to Self Love 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:01.000 Talk. 0:00:01.120 --> 0:00:05.400 Let's talk, talk to We're just two unapologetically black women 0:00:05.640 --> 0:00:10.000 with an opinion to talks. 0:00:10.360 --> 0:00:12.200 What's something, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a 0:00:12.240 --> 0:00:14.600 new episode and we talked back. The show dedicated to 0:00:14.640 --> 0:00:18.920 you dreamers and you chasers, and I like that so 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:21.240 much as AJ. 0:00:21.520 --> 0:00:24.079 It's tam Bama. I love y'all once again. I love y'all. 0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:26.520 Thank y'all for tuning in. Hey girl, what's going on? 0:00:26.840 --> 0:00:30.200 Were still friends, girl? We ain't gonna never not be 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:37.600 my fucking friends now, but you and these my fucking listeners. Girl, y'all, 0:00:37.600 --> 0:00:40.640 please understand that episode was recorded three weeks ago, but 0:00:40.720 --> 0:00:43.640 we did just have another conversation about it, okay, after 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:49.479 the comments and right right before we recorded, right, so, uh, 0:00:50.080 --> 0:00:52.720 going forward, I ain't talking to nobody no more. How 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:55.280 about that? That's how we're gonna solve all the issues. 0:00:55.280 --> 0:00:59.080 The ain't we talked back no more? We we just 0:00:59.120 --> 0:01:03.320 stopped talk get back. Fuck you. That's where I'm at. 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:07.919 How about that that to solve all the issues? She lying, y'all, 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:10.720 She's still gonna talk her. I've been being quiet, Okay, 0:01:10.800 --> 0:01:11.720 I'm being quiet. 0:01:12.000 --> 0:01:16.520 Contractually required to talk every week, okay. 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:17.920 I've been being quiet. It's gonna be the only time 0:01:17.959 --> 0:01:20.960 I talk every week. Motherfucker sign language me if you're 0:01:20.959 --> 0:01:25.520 trying to talk. What you had going on this weekend? 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:28.959 You know what? I did some. 0:01:30.400 --> 0:01:33.200 D I war work on. I finally took my Christmas 0:01:33.200 --> 0:01:33.720 Street down. 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:38.760 Everybody, Yeah she must he left that ship up and 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:41.160 just added some sunflowers to that bitch for the summer. 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:45.399 And then I did some little decorations in my bedroom 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:47.640 and now I'm working on my patio. So that's what 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:50.400 I did this weekend. I just kind of like it 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:53.280 was in my house, and I cleaned out my closet. 0:01:53.920 --> 0:01:56.000 If you can look right now, I got somebody on 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:57.040 the way to come get. 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:59.480 Four trash bags full of shit? Is it like good shit? 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:02.680 Maybe you could just do like a h An Instagram 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:06.040 Uh story sell it's. 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:07.600 You know what, Maybe I should do that because a 0:02:07.640 --> 0:02:09.480 lot of some of this stuff got tags on it. 0:02:10.360 --> 0:02:12.280 I just be up at night, high order and ship. 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:13.000 I'm done with that. 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:16.799 Like I seen people do that in motherfucker's bike, send 0:02:16.840 --> 0:02:20.040 them a PayPal invoice and mail ay shit, why not? 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:22.240 Well, maybe I'll do that instead of just like. 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:24.760 Doing poschmark and stuff like I hate Poshmark, like they 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:27.239 take too much of a percentage off your ship. Like God, 0:02:27.320 --> 0:02:29.160 damn man, I paid five dollars for this, Now I'm 0:02:29.160 --> 0:02:31.160 getting two or one fitting? 0:02:32.040 --> 0:02:35.320 Right, Yeah, I'm gonna I'm gonna look into that because 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:37.320 it is a lot of good stuff in there. Y'all 0:02:37.360 --> 0:02:38.800 hit me up here. Y'all want some of my clothes. 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:40.919 If you're a think girl, you gotta be a size twelve. 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:43.520 You know you can't be No, you little bitch, keep 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:44.600 scab jump. 0:02:44.400 --> 0:02:50.639 Put jeans on, baby, You'll feel my pain. Let's task. 0:02:50.720 --> 0:02:52.399 But I said, what about your we cant do shit. 0:02:52.520 --> 0:02:56.600 I was very much so in zen mode. I went 0:02:56.840 --> 0:02:59.160 to the gym both Saturday and Sunday. 0:02:59.240 --> 0:03:03.440 They did it have the African American Museum opening this week, 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:04.959 which I wanted to attend. 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:08.560 All the festivities. But I'm a little bit indifferent about 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:12.880 the African American Museum, not about it opening, but just 0:03:12.960 --> 0:03:14.440 you know, I want to go down there. One day. 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:14.760 I'll go. 0:03:14.960 --> 0:03:18.520 I think the actual opening is on Tuesday. I might 0:03:18.560 --> 0:03:21.040 go sometimes. We just did actually check it out see 0:03:21.040 --> 0:03:22.519 for myself, see what they got in there. 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:28.400 But you know, I saw I want to go to 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:30.480 that that looks like it might be. You know, you 0:03:30.520 --> 0:03:34.840 got to see it because sometimes African American history museums 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:39.600 make me sad. When I was in Memphis, I was like, damn, yeah, man, 0:03:40.160 --> 0:03:42.600 I left. I came in happy and I left. You 0:03:42.640 --> 0:03:44.360 know that Martin Luther King where you go to the 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:45.360 place he got shot? 0:03:45.440 --> 0:03:46.320 Why is this still? 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:49.400 I don't know. Is this how we want to memorialize 0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:52.920 someone's If you look over there, that's the window he 0:03:52.960 --> 0:03:54.640 got shot. 0:03:55.120 --> 0:03:57.480 That tour was too much, man, Like, let me off 0:03:57.560 --> 0:04:04.440 the fucking bus already. I'm sa man, come on, I'm 0:04:04.560 --> 0:04:05.480 sick of it already. 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:08.600 So I know, I guess I would have to experience it. 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:09.560 Yeah. 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:11.640 Then it was like a little place where you could 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:13.880 sit down on the ground and be like you was 0:04:13.960 --> 0:04:16.479 in it. It was like these statues and slaves and 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:18.520 they were chained together and you could get them. 0:04:18.760 --> 0:04:21.279 That is the energy harvesting. See, that's that's why I 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:23.960 don't like these places. Like like you said, you went 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:26.760 and happy and you came out side. If y'all ain't 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:28.720 got some shit in this museum where were showing how 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:31.320 black people are great and have been great from the 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:34.400 beginning of the time, I really can support it, so 0:04:34.800 --> 0:04:37.400 before I before I make any assumptions about it, I 0:04:37.440 --> 0:04:39.640 need to go see it. Our good brother Charlamagna God 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:44.120 is on the board for the museum. He actually spoke 0:04:45.040 --> 0:04:48.039 at a couple events this weekend down here. But yeah, 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:50.039 I'm gonna go check it out this coming week. 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:53.160 Uh. Charleston is also getting the Soho House. Did you 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:54.240 see that? What is that? 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:55.280 What's the Soho House? 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:58.880 Soho House is like all right, Dumbo House in New York. 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:02.560 Oh, you mean a home over? But is it a hotel? 0:05:02.760 --> 0:05:04.800 It is a hotel, but it's also like a member's 0:05:04.839 --> 0:05:07.440 only kind of situation. And you know they get They're 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:10.320 also building four seasons here Chausta. 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:13.400 Got that check. Okay. When I think about getting where 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:16.120 I want to live at like, I love being back home, 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:17.960 I love being in Charleston. I don't really want to 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:21.080 move any place else because I mean, I know y'all 0:05:21.080 --> 0:05:23.160 wanted to listen. It's got on me because I said, 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:25.840 ain't no ocean in Houston, and I stand by that too. 0:05:27.240 --> 0:05:28.040 We got the ocean. 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:30.960 Well, there's definitely no ocean in Houston. I think it's 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:33.200 like maybe thirty minutes out you can get to some 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:34.159 water or something like that. 0:05:34.400 --> 0:05:37.159 No, it's longer than that. It's an hour some change. 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:39.240 If you got to drive that far, girl, I'm going 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:40.320 fifteen minutes at the beach. 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:42.799 Yeah, that's like saying eight there's an ocean in Charlotte. 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:46.640 There's not. I don't know. 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:49.960 So it's beautiful, hair man, and they got all of 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:53.400 where I don't know who is affording to live in 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:55.400 Charleston at this point, Girl, you really got to be 0:05:55.440 --> 0:05:59.839 a millionaire to purchase a home here or look me 0:06:00.680 --> 0:06:07.360 or old them, excuse me, owner, the owners. 0:06:07.080 --> 0:06:08.120 Let's let's be clear. 0:06:08.240 --> 0:06:08.600 Period. 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:14.760 So getting another museum for symbolism, where cut me the check? 0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:18.039 Where's the money? And aside from the museum stuff? Because 0:06:18.040 --> 0:06:20.240 I didn't actually partake in those things, I just you know, 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:23.120 worked out, went to the river, put my feet. There's 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:26.279 a lot did I did a lot of grounding this weekend. 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:30.680 I suggest everybody to walk around barefoot. Sometimes we are 0:06:30.720 --> 0:06:33.680 literally walking around two inches off the ground. You're not 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:37.080 grounding when you have shoes on, like you're not getting that. 0:06:36.960 --> 0:06:38.600 Connection to the earth energy. 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:39.400 Yes, you need it. 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:42.360 I left something out. My sister, my older sister, Tanisha, 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:45.160 drove down from DC. They're on their way to Alabama. 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:50.520 They're moving there, I know. And uh, she was supposed 0:06:50.560 --> 0:06:52.680 to teach me that. To me, a man, I can't 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:53.960 learn that ship to save my life. 0:06:54.040 --> 0:06:57.839 The dance, yeah, man, how many? Wasn't so many fucking steps? 0:06:57.960 --> 0:06:59.440 Like get somebody else? 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:01.719 But why why? I didn't know that there was a 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:05.039 whole dance for Remember Lloyd Young Lloyd's song, the song 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:08.760 he had with lo Wayne I Want You. 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:15.679 It's a dance for that. Like where was I dance? 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:18.920 Where did you get the nigga memo? I don't get it. 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:21.560 I didn't get it to me a memo they need 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:24.480 to put like somebody need to do an instruction on that, 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:25.880 motherfucker because. 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:27.520 It's almost like line dancing. 0:07:27.600 --> 0:07:30.120 You know it is line dancing. It's not like it 0:07:30.240 --> 0:07:33.480 is exactly line dancing. Yeah, that's why white people be 0:07:33.600 --> 0:07:35.440 so good at I see so many white people doing it. 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:37.520 To me a dance online like boy to white people 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:38.559 know they can line dance. 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:41.480 I got brown skin, but it bitch, don't have no 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:45.320 coordination to be doing all that shit. Man, Listen, I'm black, 0:07:45.400 --> 0:07:50.120 but with the rhythm. I got it in the bedroom though, 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:52.320 but not on the dance floor. But you can't do it. 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:53.800 Light that with a dicky. 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:57.880 Hey, let's get into the stupid internet, dudes. 0:07:57.880 --> 0:07:58.160 BNCH. 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:01.360 Did y'all watch the BET Awards? 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:03.600 This is the one piece we probably didn't see on 0:08:03.720 --> 0:08:06.640 the awards, but it's all over social media today. 0:08:07.120 --> 0:08:09.800 Jt and low Luzy vert getting into an argument at 0:08:09.800 --> 0:08:13.560 the twenty twenty three b to Bet Awards that resulted 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:16.800 in her throwing her phone at the Philly Rapper in 0:08:16.840 --> 0:08:20.360 the middle of the awards. She said, you fucking groopy 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:25.920 jt Yl's at the Just one a rock rapper before 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:29.640 throwing herself on a hit nowsy with it. Bitch, don't 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:36.680 ever try me like that, bitch ass nigga like abuse. Yes, abused. 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:38.800 I don't never condone abuse me neither. 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:43.600 I mean, I get there, I've been there, but I 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:46.000 do not condone. We hear and we talk back. Do 0:08:46.120 --> 0:08:50.600 not condone abuse. But I get why she was upset 0:08:50.600 --> 0:08:53.400 because it says the other speculation that she might have 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:56.720 been upset because in his song that he performed, which 0:08:56.720 --> 0:08:59.160 is a new song off the Pink Tape. At the 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:04.040 Pink Tape out Boom, he mentions the munch Rapper saying, uh, 0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:06.760 he won a wife look like Ice Spice. 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:11.439 So the larycs didn't actually say say that. The lyric says, 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:14.320 fucking on these sluts. I got a nice wife. I'm 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:17.000 fucking the dog shit out this bitch. Her weight came 0:09:17.120 --> 0:09:20.600 off twice. She had a low fro, look like Ice Spice. 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:22.120 That's actually the way. 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:26.240 That bad, I mean hip hop. 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:31.000 I've been needing all the details, the details. No, that 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:33.640 wasn't that bad. And I guess he performed this song 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:36.880 at the BET Awards right before, excuse me, right before 0:09:37.160 --> 0:09:39.320 she threw the phone at him. She ain't like that. 0:09:39.400 --> 0:09:41.120 And then he has a picture with Ice Spice, So 0:09:41.120 --> 0:09:44.480 I guess all the boys are on Ice Spice, I 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:47.959 mean Ice Spice JT. I wouldn't even I would have 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:49.719 just left the awards alone, like you're not about to 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:53.079 play with me over this, right, I'm out because j 0:09:53.200 --> 0:09:56.720 C JT is fine. She's beautiful, right, so, I mean 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:59.360 a lot of times like men are very visual, right, 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:04.839 so he's looking a fat ass, whatever the case may be. Girl, 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:07.320 I would not have let him get the best of 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:08.800 me in front of. 0:10:08.600 --> 0:10:13.640 All the world awards, the world, everybody. You heard the EVT. 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:20.360 Awards, because listen, that shit was a little ratchet. 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:22.600 It was a lot of ratchet. The whole thing was 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:27.079 I loved every minute of it. Speaking of city girls, 0:10:27.720 --> 0:10:32.080 Young Miami did Jason Lee show recently and there's clips 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:35.960 going around of her speaking about her daughter, and Jason 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:38.920 Lee asked her, did how she felt about her daughter, 0:10:39.640 --> 0:10:42.000 who's three years old right now, being a city girl, 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:46.120 and her response, and I quote this, I want her 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:48.600 race totally different. I don't even want her to see 0:10:48.600 --> 0:10:50.800 the light of day like that, Like I just really 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:53.280 want her to be like level headed, a schoolgirl, and 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:56.000 just on a whole other way. She doesn't want her 0:10:56.080 --> 0:10:58.080 daughter to be a city girl. What is a city 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:01.560 girl anyway? Although there isn't a definition, for the most part, 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:04.080 it seems to be a woman who prioritizes her bag, 0:11:04.600 --> 0:11:07.679 is sexually empowered, and only deals with men who can 0:11:07.720 --> 0:11:11.400 help up level her financially. Some people compare them The 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:14.199 gold Diggers and the other season as empowered women throwing 0:11:14.240 --> 0:11:15.720 duces to the patriarchy. 0:11:17.120 --> 0:11:21.679 Yeah, I mean, I see both. Right. We know that 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:24.600 Young Miami is not throwing duces to the patriarchy because 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:28.240 she is in a harem right now, right and she 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:31.240 doesn't want that same life for her daughter. The thing 0:11:31.320 --> 0:11:33.280 is in the black community, we always be like, oh, 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:35.800 do as I say, not as I do, which is 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:39.760 very stupid because children and most people learn from action 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:41.199 what you're actually doing. 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:42.360 Now what you to say? 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:45.480 What are you doing? What are you showing so you 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:48.080 can't that's a hypocrite, And I mean we do it 0:11:48.080 --> 0:11:50.760 all the time. You always see hypocrites. You want one 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:54.920 thing for your kid. Meanwhile you're on as a city girl. 0:11:55.080 --> 0:11:57.319 And these other women is giving their baby city girl 0:11:57.400 --> 0:11:58.520 birthday parties, you know. 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:03.640 So you know, I don't know, man, but I. 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:08.560 Can understand wanting different for your kid, you know, wanting 0:12:08.600 --> 0:12:10.040 better than what. 0:12:10.000 --> 0:12:10.920 You have for your kid. 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:11.480 No. 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:13.960 Absolutely, that's how it's supposed to be. You want your 0:12:14.040 --> 0:12:17.360 child to be better than you. Absolutely. But as a 0:12:17.400 --> 0:12:21.480 public figure, you have this social responsibility that a lot 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:23.360 of people don't like to take on, but you do. 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:23.760 Yeah. 0:12:24.120 --> 0:12:26.640 Right, So you know one thing I agree with a 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:29.160 lot of people don't be agreeing with Kanye. Kanye was 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:31.720 reading the rap lyrics. He was like, this is anti black. 0:12:32.840 --> 0:12:35.640 Nothing I do is anti black. These the rap lyrics 0:12:35.640 --> 0:12:39.040 be anti black as funk. Also at the BT Awards, 0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:41.400 did you see sexy. 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:45.120 Red, Poundtown, pound Town. Now, I like Poundtown. I like 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:48.120 going to Poundtown often. Okay, it should it be a 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:50.400 song about your booty. Holy a pussy being paid. 0:12:50.440 --> 0:12:53.440 I don't know. I don't know. And they're a pregnant 0:12:53.440 --> 0:12:56.560 woman's working on you. Krishan Rock was working on her 0:12:56.600 --> 0:12:59.319 pregnant on one of the owls at the BT Awards 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:01.840 on Sexy rerad. It's just I don't know. 0:13:01.920 --> 0:13:03.560 I just you know what. I just chopped it up. 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:04.840 As it's twenty twenty three. 0:13:05.600 --> 0:13:07.400 This shit getting wild at hell out here? 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:10.400 Man, this is real stupid internet news. Well all of 0:13:10.440 --> 0:13:11.400 this shit was today in it. 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:15.559 So did you see that Elon Musk is trying to 0:13:15.600 --> 0:13:17.679 ban the words CIS and cis gender from Twitter. This 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:19.439 is actually not super in that news because I actually 0:13:19.480 --> 0:13:22.840 agree with that one thousand percent. I did not sign 0:13:22.920 --> 0:13:25.200 up to be called cis CIS. I signed up. 0:13:25.240 --> 0:13:27.440 I gotta say it before when I was listening to 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:29.040 y'all in the meet and I was like, well, I came, 0:13:29.360 --> 0:13:31.680 I say sis all the time, Hey Suz, not to 0:13:31.760 --> 0:13:35.360 a man, but I didn't know what sis? Can you 0:13:35.400 --> 0:13:36.960 define cis gender? 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:42.199 So sis gender is essentially the opposite of trans. So 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:46.320 it's the opposite. Yeah, So it's a heterosexual person and 0:13:46.360 --> 0:13:49.920 we're heterosexual. Where does CIS come from? This is the 0:13:49.920 --> 0:13:52.199 opposite of trans is what SIS is? 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:53.800 It's so much to keep up with. 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:59.640 Yeah, so I agree, man, I feel like there has 0:13:59.679 --> 0:14:01.760 to be them. Is the stuff that I feel like 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:05.760 something is some changes on the way, right, the things 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:08.240 that these the initiatives that these people have been pushing 0:14:08.600 --> 0:14:11.599 may not be aligned with the LGBT community, and a 0:14:11.640 --> 0:14:13.839 lot of people in that community are now speaking out 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:16.160 against it. Right, I'm talking about as far as with 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:20.040 the children and all the name changes and the pronouns 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:22.160 all that stuff. It's cool, it's fine, do what you 0:14:22.240 --> 0:14:24.960 do at your house, yeah, right, but it should not 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:26.720 be You should not be chang trying to change the 0:14:26.720 --> 0:14:29.680 culture of everybody to accommodate you. So that's what we're 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:32.240 seeing now on Twitter. People don't want to be called that. 0:14:32.960 --> 0:14:35.240 You know, I don't want to be called SIS. It's 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:39.000 heterosexual s I is, but not cis, right, Yeah, you 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:41.840 can call me SIS. Yeah. To add on to this 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:45.680 particular superd Internet news, so Mark Zecklelerberg and Elon Musk 0:14:45.760 --> 0:14:47.880 is supposed to be doing a fucking cage fight, bitch, 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:53.160 You you got Elon fifty nine? Mark Zecklerberg is thirty nine? Uh, 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:55.480 but Elon is from South Africa? Who you got? 0:14:55.880 --> 0:14:57.440 I think I might have to go with Elon? 0:14:57.720 --> 0:14:59.400 Honestly, Yeah, I'm with Elon. 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:03.280 Yeah. I just feel like he's gonna karate chop that 0:15:03.360 --> 0:15:04.479 nigga inside. 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:06.800 Of the bitch. I don't even think either one of 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:09.320 them actually exists. I think they're both AI. So let 0:15:09.320 --> 0:15:10.400 the computers fight, right. 0:15:12.480 --> 0:15:14.840 What movie was that where like they both punched each 0:15:14.880 --> 0:15:16.840 other in the face and they both like passed out. 0:15:16.880 --> 0:15:19.720 I would love for that to happen. Just knock each 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:20.880 other out at the same time. 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:24.680 Then Twitter go down and Facebook go down. 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:28.560 Boom. 0:15:28.680 --> 0:15:32.280 Well, listen, y'all, it is summertime, and what y'all doing 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:34.680 for y'all vacations? I'm sick of going to the beach 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:37.240 with bitches. I need to be when I get off 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:41.000 the beach. Why you whisper it? I need to be 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:46.640 That's what I want to be doing when I get 0:15:46.640 --> 0:15:48.080 off the beach. I do not want to be in 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:50.280 a room full of drunk ass bitches or a villa 0:15:50.400 --> 0:15:51.680 full of drunk ass women. 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:55.000 Eat each other on vacations sometimes. 0:15:54.680 --> 0:15:56.400 Bitch, that's the trips you be on. 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:05.680 There ain't no trip I've never I've never done that. Honestly, 0:16:05.760 --> 0:16:07.880 I've never done that. I promise y'all. I've never done that. 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:09.000 But it does happen. 0:16:10.320 --> 0:16:12.640 Wait, you never ate you never did on a trip. 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:16.200 Y'all will be back from a commercial. It's just a moment. 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:26.280 Let's get into the show. What's up, y'all. We black 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:29.360 at it again. It's AJ here with weed talk back. 0:16:29.400 --> 0:16:29.800 What's up? 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:30.040 Tim? 0:16:30.160 --> 0:16:30.920 Okay, y'all. 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:32.400 Hey y'all, it's BTM ban. 0:16:32.560 --> 0:16:33.360 I love y'all. 0:16:33.360 --> 0:16:34.720 Thank y'all for coming back again. 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:35.840 We talked back TV. 0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:39.640 What's going on the ship. 0:16:40.520 --> 0:16:46.160 I'm hungover again, bitch, get again? You are not practicing 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:46.880 self love? 0:16:46.920 --> 0:16:49.800 Okay? And I can't drink no more. 0:16:50.000 --> 0:16:52.720 Don't bitch our body. Don't process. Alcoholics are like. 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:55.040 The smallest amount because I didn't drink a lot, but 0:16:55.080 --> 0:16:56.680 I just feel bad the next day. 0:16:56.680 --> 0:17:00.800 I put them a little ass five percent simply lemonades. 0:17:01.320 --> 0:17:04.600 I love those, and not just because they give us 0:17:04.600 --> 0:17:04.960 a check. 0:17:05.080 --> 0:17:07.560 It's a little buzz. You got a little buzz. You 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:10.280 better stick to that ship. I know for sure. I 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:12.760 can't drink certain liquors, so I try to stick to 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:16.160 what I know. Don leo, I might can do uh 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:19.240 some douce say that's about it. 0:17:19.240 --> 0:17:21.880 It's a I'm a tequila girl, and I'll like I can. 0:17:22.040 --> 0:17:26.440 I'll start real bougie in nineteen forty two, but by 0:17:26.480 --> 0:17:27.920 the end of the night, I'll be like, what y'all 0:17:27.960 --> 0:17:28.520 gotta left? 0:17:29.200 --> 0:17:30.240 Then, MO, fuck up? 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:31.040 Give me. 0:17:31.800 --> 0:17:37.760 I returned to my uncle Kloyd bitch the hose quirbled. 0:17:41.480 --> 0:17:46.320 Yeah, so I just gotta do better. It's it's hot outside, 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:49.480 though it's hard, it's weird wintertime. I'll be like, Okay, 0:17:49.480 --> 0:17:51.680 it's just weird for me. But when it's. 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:56.600 Hot, it's both. Yeah, I'll be having a pick now. 0:17:56.760 --> 0:17:59.359 I don't understand how people can smoke and drink like 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:01.880 I got to pick. And I don't smoke outside either 0:18:02.480 --> 0:18:04.359 when I'm about to get some dick. No. 0:18:05.240 --> 0:18:07.560 I smoke when I read. I smoke when I'm watching TV. 0:18:08.240 --> 0:18:08.520 I can. 0:18:08.880 --> 0:18:13.520 I will even smoke before I go to bedside Baptist church. 0:18:16.440 --> 0:18:17.640 I just feel closer to God. 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:21.119 So I don't know. 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:26.399 Hi, Yeah, there's actually a church in Louisiana. It's an 0:18:26.400 --> 0:18:30.880 outdoor black church where they smoke weed during the sermon. 0:18:30.960 --> 0:18:32.480 See if I can get some shit like that with 0:18:32.560 --> 0:18:35.840 a nigga like Reverend Ike preaching, I would definitely go 0:18:35.880 --> 0:18:36.920 to church every Sunday. 0:18:37.440 --> 0:18:39.359 Reverend Ike, I don't know, y'all know who. 0:18:39.240 --> 0:18:43.560 Reverend Ike is passed away now, No, Reverend Ike is 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:46.240 an old reverend like you can find his videos on YouTube. 0:18:46.240 --> 0:18:48.720 But this niggas actually from Ridgeville, South Carolina, I think. 0:18:49.000 --> 0:18:51.760 But he was a big minister. But he preached about 0:18:51.800 --> 0:18:54.919 like manifestation and shit like that, like the God and you. 0:18:55.640 --> 0:18:57.919 He was not lying to the congregation. He talked a 0:18:57.920 --> 0:19:00.439 lot about money too, and how you get it. Like 0:19:00.560 --> 0:19:03.080 one thing I took from Reverend I he said, stop 0:19:03.160 --> 0:19:06.640 saying spend be could spend this final like I need. 0:19:06.840 --> 0:19:08.679 I just spent this. I just bought this and I 0:19:08.680 --> 0:19:11.160 didn't spend my money. He said, to use the word 0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:15.879 circulate so it comes back. So, bitch, I'm circulating money 0:19:15.920 --> 0:19:24.919 going forward, the circulator. I ain't spending pussy. Well, you 0:19:25.000 --> 0:19:28.160 can't get it back. What's this gone? You can't see 0:19:28.520 --> 0:19:30.840 it's so final. You can't get your pussy back from 0:19:30.840 --> 0:19:33.440 a fucking fun boy, And like it's overweight. 0:19:33.160 --> 0:19:36.400 And that's what when Drake said one time, that's fine 0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:38.680 with me. The different I was like, I was mad 0:19:38.720 --> 0:19:40.080 on the cellular level. 0:19:39.880 --> 0:19:48.359 Like not a cellular level, because you know, we can't 0:19:48.359 --> 0:19:51.199 get that pussy bag gave it out, girl, it'd be 0:19:51.200 --> 0:19:53.600 the worst women be talking about. Oh his dick. 0:19:53.800 --> 0:19:56.280 You he still got the pussy, right, even if it's small, 0:19:56.400 --> 0:19:58.399 Like he hit that pussy with that little dick and. 0:19:58.400 --> 0:20:04.639 You loved it. You was loving it. He still pleased 0:20:04.680 --> 0:20:05.720 you with that day, right. 0:20:12.359 --> 0:20:13.400 That takes us to our top. 0:20:13.440 --> 0:20:15.399 All right, yeah, bitch, No, you're drinking takes us to 0:20:15.440 --> 0:20:18.280 the topic. Okay, self love is what we want to 0:20:18.280 --> 0:20:21.040 talk about today. I'd be loving myself out there. Take 0:20:21.119 --> 0:20:24.879 me too, man, go go go. I don't like drinking 0:20:24.920 --> 0:20:26.439 at home, so I'm not one of them people. So 0:20:26.560 --> 0:20:28.399 it has to be social drinking from me. If I'm 0:20:28.440 --> 0:20:32.119 an outside, I gotta drink outside. I'm not about to 0:20:32.200 --> 0:20:34.399 when I'm outside sober, everybody else drunk I want to. 0:20:34.680 --> 0:20:37.240 It's weird, Yeah, like you just sitting there looking stupid 0:20:37.240 --> 0:20:38.879 in the face, Like if you don't get drunk and 0:20:38.920 --> 0:20:41.560 get on this damn bar with me, right, Yeah, I 0:20:41.560 --> 0:20:44.520 feel the same. I have gone out like, oh, I'm detoxing. 0:20:45.000 --> 0:20:47.520 I can't drink with y'all, and everybody's like, boo, you're 0:20:47.680 --> 0:20:51.040 fucking lame right now, and it feels lame. It does. 0:20:51.359 --> 0:20:53.200 So I just trying to know if I'm detoxing. I 0:20:53.320 --> 0:20:56.280 just won't go who is like, you know, like, why 0:20:56.280 --> 0:20:58.520 are you here? Right? You're looking up self? 0:20:58.600 --> 0:20:58.840 Okay? 0:20:58.920 --> 0:20:59.120 Yeah? 0:21:00.160 --> 0:21:03.920 Definitions I like to read, like you know, yeah, so anyway, 0:21:04.040 --> 0:21:07.760 So self love is defined as love of self for 0:21:07.920 --> 0:21:12.120 duh right, or regard for one's own happiness or advantage. 0:21:13.760 --> 0:21:17.119 And it's been conceptualized both as a basic human necessity 0:21:17.600 --> 0:21:23.399 and as a moral flaw to have self love. You know, 0:21:23.440 --> 0:21:25.040 I was just having a conversation. 0:21:24.720 --> 0:21:29.560 Self love might be perceived as being narcisseded. 0:21:29.960 --> 0:21:31.720 I was just having a conversation with my mom the 0:21:31.720 --> 0:21:35.040 other day because my nephew, he's amazing, right the niggas 0:21:35.040 --> 0:21:38.520 a genius. He'll probably go to the NFL if he doesn't. 0:21:38.680 --> 0:21:40.960 He could do anything he wants to do in his world. 0:21:40.960 --> 0:21:42.880 He's like one of the top students in South Carolina. 0:21:43.359 --> 0:21:47.240 And they were home for a Memorial Day and he asked, 0:21:47.480 --> 0:21:50.080 my mom, you know, we just had standardized tests, and 0:21:50.119 --> 0:21:51.919 which you think I made on my tests, and my 0:21:51.920 --> 0:21:54.720 mom was like, well, eighty five something, and he looked 0:21:54.760 --> 0:21:55.200 at her. 0:21:55.080 --> 0:21:58.560 Like, like, girl, you don't know who I am? 0:21:58.640 --> 0:22:00.679 He was. She was like, what what you make a hundred? 0:22:00.720 --> 0:22:02.679 He was like yes, Like why would you think I 0:22:02.720 --> 0:22:05.040 made it eighty five? Like who you thought I was? 0:22:05.680 --> 0:22:10.080 And she she didn't perceive that conversation like I did. 0:22:10.119 --> 0:22:12.320 I'm like, he the shit, like why would you think 0:22:12.359 --> 0:22:14.760 he made eighty five? Why would you think less than 0:22:14.760 --> 0:22:17.320 a hundred? So she said that he needed to be 0:22:17.359 --> 0:22:20.440 more humble. So I proceeded to pull up the definitions 0:22:20.480 --> 0:22:24.320 of those words like humble. Let's look at it right quick, 0:22:24.600 --> 0:22:26.280 because I'm not gonna teach my I want to teach 0:22:26.280 --> 0:22:28.280 my kids to be respectful and stuff like that, but 0:22:28.359 --> 0:22:29.800 I don't know that I'm gonna teach them to be 0:22:29.880 --> 0:22:33.760 humble for real. So humble it says having or showing 0:22:33.800 --> 0:22:39.119 a modest or low estimate of one's own importance. He 0:22:39.200 --> 0:22:42.520 was humble about it about his stature. That's the like 0:22:42.560 --> 0:22:43.960 the you know the well. 0:22:44.000 --> 0:22:46.320 I think it's important to teach people to be humble 0:22:46.359 --> 0:22:49.400 and have some humility, right, It's okay to like. 0:22:49.520 --> 0:22:55.000 Lower in importance. That's another one lower like lower you're important, 0:22:55.040 --> 0:22:57.360 like you're lower than other people, and then. 0:22:57.240 --> 0:23:01.760 You being humble, it's being lower than others. Yeah, I 0:23:01.760 --> 0:23:03.040 don't know. I think. 0:23:04.320 --> 0:23:08.600 That's the definition. That's the definition of being humble. 0:23:10.880 --> 0:23:13.560 To your own horn. But I also think it's okay 0:23:13.600 --> 0:23:16.120 to realize that we're all going in the grave. So 0:23:16.400 --> 0:23:19.880 nobody's better than anybody else. Right, We're all the same. 0:23:19.920 --> 0:23:21.320 At the end of the day week, I feel like 0:23:21.400 --> 0:23:23.080 I'm better than a lot of the people who be 0:23:23.119 --> 0:23:24.960 comming and nasty shit in our Instagram. 0:23:25.400 --> 0:23:29.359 Yeah, but we all of us gotta die, so we are. 0:23:30.119 --> 0:23:32.040 A couple of times, I'm coming to tell you one thing. 0:23:32.119 --> 0:23:34.639 It makes me realize that we are all the same. 0:23:35.400 --> 0:23:38.359 The most vulnerable anybody is is when they're taking the ship. 0:23:38.440 --> 0:23:41.439 Right when you're in there taking a ship, you're just 0:23:41.480 --> 0:23:43.679 a regular human being trying living. 0:23:43.760 --> 0:23:45.800 That's Beyonce, ta shit, she takes a ship. 0:23:45.960 --> 0:23:47.640 Yo, she takes a ship. 0:23:48.600 --> 0:23:49.600 Women don't take ships. 0:23:49.800 --> 0:23:52.440 We're all the same. We're all the same. We all dying. 0:23:52.480 --> 0:23:55.360 We all ship, And if you're not shipping, you're dying already, so. 0:23:58.240 --> 0:23:59.240 Should or died trying. 0:24:01.359 --> 0:24:03.520 So we all have the same. So that just makes me, 0:24:03.680 --> 0:24:06.359 remind me not to look down on anybody. 0:24:05.840 --> 0:24:07.920 And not I don't really look down on people, but 0:24:08.760 --> 0:24:13.800 abody else Nah, absolutely not, I don't nobody, Yes, walking 0:24:13.840 --> 0:24:19.040 around like telling people having that that that you know. No, 0:24:19.720 --> 0:24:24.560 but narcissist has a positive definition. Really, yeah, that's reading 0:24:24.720 --> 0:24:30.960 to me, it does. Maybe I have a little let's 0:24:30.960 --> 0:24:39.640 see it's perception. Let's see what narcissists narcissists. Uh. Personality 0:24:40.200 --> 0:24:45.720 qualities include thinking very highly of oneself, needing admiration, and 0:24:45.840 --> 0:24:49.400 that could be considered negative, right, Believing others are inferior. Yes, 0:24:49.440 --> 0:24:50.080 that's negative. 0:24:50.080 --> 0:24:53.560 But the first sentence, like thinking highly of yourself, you 0:24:53.600 --> 0:24:56.199 could be seen as a narcissist. So that's to me, 0:24:56.320 --> 0:24:59.920 that's a positive definition. But in society, being a narcissist 0:25:00.160 --> 0:25:03.919 very negative, right, you know what I'm saying. Definitely a 0:25:03.960 --> 0:25:05.359 negative to be narcissists. 0:25:06.600 --> 0:25:09.560 I think everybody has a little bit of narcissism. I 0:25:09.600 --> 0:25:11.040 think the same thing with ego. 0:25:11.119 --> 0:25:11.960 It's about balance. 0:25:12.400 --> 0:25:15.560 Yeah, but some people can be diagnosed as a narcissist. 0:25:15.560 --> 0:25:18.600 That's a little bit different when you clinically diagnosed as 0:25:18.880 --> 0:25:22.680 a fucking narc It's two different things. But let's get 0:25:22.720 --> 0:25:25.520 back on topic. So we're talking about self love. So 0:25:25.880 --> 0:25:27.639 there's a lot of things in media right now, a 0:25:27.680 --> 0:25:32.720 lot of things going on. You know, it's summertime, it's June. 0:25:33.160 --> 0:25:37.400 People trying to get their body together, mommy makeovers, all 0:25:37.440 --> 0:25:39.960 the good stuff. You know, you want to do a 0:25:39.960 --> 0:25:44.440 little nip snuck. I'm not against that niptuck. Yeah, I'm 0:25:44.440 --> 0:25:45.040 not against that. 0:25:45.280 --> 0:25:48.400 Whatever you need to do neither to just make sure 0:25:48.400 --> 0:25:50.080 you're doing it for the right reasons, right because I 0:25:50.080 --> 0:25:51.280 know oftentimes women say. 0:25:51.200 --> 0:25:52.560 Oh, I'm doing it for me. I'm not doing it 0:25:52.600 --> 0:25:55.240 for men. But a lot of women get that ass 0:25:55.320 --> 0:25:56.640 so they can show it to niggas. 0:25:56.640 --> 0:25:59.800 Like niggas like ass. 0:26:00.119 --> 0:26:02.479 I mean, like they like it, but are they wifing it. 0:26:03.440 --> 0:26:05.640 Yeah, there's a lot of asses that got wiped up. 0:26:07.080 --> 0:26:08.800 It's a lot of I'm single though, it's a lot 0:26:08.800 --> 0:26:09.680 of single asses. 0:26:09.760 --> 0:26:12.439 I'm sitting on the fant one right now. 0:26:13.119 --> 0:26:15.120 You don't buy it though, That's what I'm saying, Like, 0:26:15.480 --> 0:26:19.040 we didn't buy the ass, so it's just different. 0:26:19.280 --> 0:26:19.520 Yeah. 0:26:20.240 --> 0:26:22.680 So now I noticed some women like when they get 0:26:22.680 --> 0:26:25.200 that new ass, they cannot take any more pictures from 0:26:25.200 --> 0:26:25.840 the front. 0:26:26.560 --> 0:26:29.080 Oh yeah, well why I did even used to that 0:26:29.119 --> 0:26:33.040 as if you invested that much money. My profile pictures 0:26:34.040 --> 0:26:37.640 that ass right, they taking one hundred and forty seven 0:26:37.680 --> 0:26:38.400 dollars every moore. 0:26:39.000 --> 0:26:41.399 Some people may perceive that as someone who doesn't have 0:26:41.480 --> 0:26:45.560 self love. I don't think so, though, when they start 0:26:45.600 --> 0:26:47.399 doing like too many surgeries, Like I know, there's this 0:26:47.400 --> 0:26:50.240 one girl she's like being in Atlanta. I thought she 0:26:50.359 --> 0:26:52.359 was a guy, but she's a woman because she has children. 0:26:53.280 --> 0:26:56.120 But she has had like a hundred surgeries, and at 0:26:56.119 --> 0:27:00.880 this point, to me, she looks botched. But and it 0:27:00.880 --> 0:27:03.080 doesn't look like self love. Once you change your whole 0:27:03.119 --> 0:27:04.400 shit up, you know, you. 0:27:04.359 --> 0:27:07.680 Know somewhat call that body dysmorphia when you start doing 0:27:07.760 --> 0:27:10.800 so much to yourself and then and then you know, 0:27:10.960 --> 0:27:13.760 going under the knife that many times, it's dangerous. I 0:27:13.760 --> 0:27:16.000 mean every time you put your body through that, right, 0:27:16.520 --> 0:27:19.800 you take a level of danger for yourself. Right, So 0:27:20.440 --> 0:27:25.560 I mean at one hundred surgeries, obviously she's doing it 0:27:25.560 --> 0:27:28.159 for her at this point. I mean, it's about what 0:27:28.359 --> 0:27:30.560 make her happy. And if she happy and she ain't dead. 0:27:30.480 --> 0:27:34.680 Then about But it's the way you perceive yourself because 0:27:34.680 --> 0:27:37.040 you're not practicing self love. So when you look in 0:27:37.040 --> 0:27:39.359 the mirror like somebody else. And I mean, like somebody 0:27:39.359 --> 0:27:41.600 can tell you, girl, you look good, but we know 0:27:41.760 --> 0:27:44.080 that if I don't feel good, it has nothing to 0:27:44.119 --> 0:27:46.000 do with what you think I look like, right, and 0:27:46.080 --> 0:27:49.320 it's all to do with how I perceive myself. So now, 0:27:49.320 --> 0:27:52.679 if your brain is like tricking you to say you 0:27:52.720 --> 0:27:55.399 don't look good, you need to fix this. You need 0:27:55.440 --> 0:27:55.960 to do that. 0:27:56.560 --> 0:27:59.600 I think social media really plays a huge part in 0:27:59.680 --> 0:28:04.840 our images as women, Like I mean, people are you know, 0:28:05.280 --> 0:28:08.399 want everybody they making their body all look the exact 0:28:08.480 --> 0:28:09.200 same way. 0:28:10.080 --> 0:28:12.000 Like what was the name of that? Damn Okay, it 0:28:12.080 --> 0:28:14.640 was an episode on the Twilight Zone and I think 0:28:14.640 --> 0:28:17.520 it was the episode was like number eleven or everybody 0:28:17.560 --> 0:28:21.280 wants to look like number eleven. But it's exactly what 0:28:21.280 --> 0:28:24.520 we're seeing right now. It's like, just imagine Kim Kardashian 0:28:24.600 --> 0:28:27.679 being number eleven and everybody going to the factory and 0:28:27.720 --> 0:28:30.000 they want number eleven. That's what we're seeing now. 0:28:30.160 --> 0:28:30.440 Yeah. 0:28:31.480 --> 0:28:34.439 Yeah, and a natural like natural women's bodies, like we 0:28:34.520 --> 0:28:36.840 have hip tips and stuff like that, and you shit 0:28:36.920 --> 0:28:40.440 just super rounded out like that's not it's not natural. 0:28:41.080 --> 0:28:44.120 No, But I don't think people, I mean men don't care. 0:28:44.520 --> 0:28:46.400 I meet a lot of men out asking them like, 0:28:46.400 --> 0:28:49.280 do you like fake booties? I'm like, shit, I don't 0:28:49.320 --> 0:28:52.000 give a fuck what kind of booty, long as it's bouncing. 0:28:52.120 --> 0:28:53.040 Like niggas don't care. 0:28:53.200 --> 0:28:54.479 Some of them things don't bounce. 0:28:54.680 --> 0:28:57.240 I heard right, some of them known, but they said 0:28:57.240 --> 0:28:59.960 as long as they bouncing, they haven't. So I mean, 0:29:00.200 --> 0:29:02.440 I don't think men really care if it's real or not. 0:29:02.680 --> 0:29:04.400 You know, so that's not true. 0:29:04.440 --> 0:29:06.520 I think ment because we can just look on social 0:29:06.560 --> 0:29:10.000 media a lot of the things that women do. Men 0:29:10.040 --> 0:29:13.840 don't give a fuck about them, like we are. We 0:29:13.880 --> 0:29:22.440 got the stretch marks some niggas love, they love the 0:29:22.480 --> 0:29:25.200 tiger stripes like they don't care nothing about half the 0:29:25.240 --> 0:29:28.440 ship we give a fuck about. But I also say this, now, now, 0:29:28.520 --> 0:29:30.680 let me just be looking fucked up like too many 0:29:30.720 --> 0:29:32.680 days in a row. Now you're saying some shit to me, 0:29:32.760 --> 0:29:35.120 Like all right now, bitch, while you look like that, 0:29:35.200 --> 0:29:37.160 when you will get your hair done. That's happened too 0:29:37.480 --> 0:29:40.800 with the natural hair shit. I know that it takes. 0:29:41.000 --> 0:29:43.280 I don't think men realize how long it takes to 0:29:43.320 --> 0:29:45.680 do your natural hair. I don't think they realize a 0:29:45.840 --> 0:29:50.040 process it takes for black women to actually tage. 0:29:51.160 --> 0:29:54.040 But we're talking self love, then we should just let 0:29:54.120 --> 0:29:56.320 our hair do what it does, and it wouldn't take 0:29:56.360 --> 0:29:57.280 long if we just approach. 0:29:57.320 --> 0:29:58.959 We can say the same thing with wolf pussy down. 0:29:59.000 --> 0:30:00.800 So you want me to walk around this wolf pussy 0:30:00.840 --> 0:30:02.160 out the side of this damn panty. 0:30:03.520 --> 0:30:07.200 I mean, if we're talking about self loves, God wanted 0:30:07.240 --> 0:30:09.800 your pussy to be hairless. He would have made it hairless, 0:30:09.920 --> 0:30:12.120 right right, But. 0:30:11.760 --> 0:30:13.840 But we can't look it'd be looking like that little 0:30:13.840 --> 0:30:14.960 thing on the camera. 0:30:17.840 --> 0:30:20.360 In summertime. Remember that little girl was getting her hair 0:30:20.360 --> 0:30:22.120 braided about her mom and she's like, what's wrong with you? 0:30:22.200 --> 0:30:29.120 She like, I probably I promised that pussy was hairy. 0:30:30.280 --> 0:30:33.600 Sometimes people have her mono and balances like it may 0:30:33.640 --> 0:30:35.600 not even be that the ship is Harry Harry. They 0:30:35.600 --> 0:30:37.760 may need to change their diets. Some of you eat 0:30:37.800 --> 0:30:40.240 and making it spunge at your pores a little bit 0:30:40.240 --> 0:30:46.640 more asparagus girl. One time is the worst y ever. 0:30:46.760 --> 0:30:48.840 One time I had I was thinking, like, wait, what 0:30:48.880 --> 0:30:52.840 the fuck did I do? Listen, I'm gonna be honest 0:30:52.840 --> 0:30:55.040 with y'all, And I thought I was tripping until Oprah 0:30:55.040 --> 0:30:56.840 talked about the ship. One day on the show, I 0:30:56.880 --> 0:31:04.000 eat crab legs very sparingly because yeah, like I literally 0:31:04.120 --> 0:31:08.800 only eat crab legs with my period on crusty krab 0:31:12.040 --> 0:31:15.480 Like when I know I'm not pussy, eat some crab 0:31:15.560 --> 0:31:18.280 legs and it's still like only occasionally because I already 0:31:18.320 --> 0:31:20.480 know what time it is. It's like almost immediately, but 0:31:20.520 --> 0:31:22.880 I can get it back right because our juice, you 0:31:22.880 --> 0:31:24.880 know what I'm saying, our juice after eating the crab legs. 0:31:24.880 --> 0:31:26.920 That's really what it balls down to. You literally are 0:31:26.960 --> 0:31:33.560 what you eat. But bitch, I'm a mermaid. Okay, that 0:31:33.760 --> 0:31:35.800 lets you know, like women like we eat from the sea. 0:31:36.040 --> 0:31:39.760 Like you don't think so, like why why does that happen? 0:31:40.800 --> 0:31:41.040 Why? 0:31:41.200 --> 0:31:44.120 Why problem when you eat fish? Never know? 0:31:44.200 --> 0:31:46.440 But asparagus really does mean. 0:31:46.600 --> 0:31:49.320 I just think I know that I'm leaning more towards NAIs. 0:31:49.440 --> 0:31:50.200 I love seafood. 0:31:50.240 --> 0:31:52.880 Y'all would make my pussies spell, like I need to 0:31:52.880 --> 0:31:53.680 go to the hospital. 0:31:53.760 --> 0:31:55.760 But it's not really a pussy though. It's when I 0:31:55.800 --> 0:32:03.280 pee your pee. Yeah, everybody right, Nigga's not crab flags 0:32:03.320 --> 0:32:05.600 do a number, That's what I'm saying. Men eat asparagus 0:32:05.640 --> 0:32:07.040 and they gonna it's gonna smell like. 0:32:07.080 --> 0:32:09.920 Okay, that's for everybody. Okay, yeah, I thought it was 0:32:09.960 --> 0:32:12.760 just like my body just do not agree with what's 0:32:12.800 --> 0:32:13.400 your blood type? 0:32:13.400 --> 0:32:13.640 You know it? 0:32:15.040 --> 0:32:16.600 Oh I don't know it. Yeah. 0:32:16.680 --> 0:32:18.280 See, you're supposed to eat for your blood types, and 0:32:18.320 --> 0:32:21.760 my blood type calls for fruits, vegetable and light fish. 0:32:22.080 --> 0:32:24.719 And just without even knowing that, like without even studying, 0:32:24.720 --> 0:32:26.360 like what I need to eat for my blood type, 0:32:27.040 --> 0:32:29.000 your body was telling me, yes, that's what I need 0:32:29.040 --> 0:32:30.760 to be doing. So when I eat fish, like it 0:32:30.840 --> 0:32:33.520 literally comes out of me. So I have to limit 0:32:33.640 --> 0:32:35.640 the fish and take listen, y'all. I don't just be 0:32:35.680 --> 0:32:38.560 walking around with sink pussy, I promise, Okay. I pride 0:32:38.600 --> 0:32:42.160 myself a good hygiene. If you ever see sometime I 0:32:42.200 --> 0:32:46.360 have a bad fucking day, you got a yummy crab today. 0:32:47.440 --> 0:32:50.120 I'm just asking you know what kills me? My niggas 0:32:50.120 --> 0:32:52.320 on the internet, like people not even on the Internet, 0:32:52.360 --> 0:32:54.640 and just in real life, like Menn'll talk shit about 0:32:54.680 --> 0:32:56.520 women and like how they smell and all that shit, 0:32:56.640 --> 0:32:59.360 But you still hit that pussy like you still hit it. 0:32:59.400 --> 0:33:02.120 Like we talk about little dick, they'll hit the pussy 0:33:02.120 --> 0:33:04.920 and talk about it afterwards like, oh, she didn't did 0:33:04.960 --> 0:33:06.760 you hit Yeah? I did. Well. 0:33:06.800 --> 0:33:08.520 I know a lot of men that will turn down 0:33:09.640 --> 0:33:11.640 as you should have some self respect. 0:33:13.200 --> 0:33:15.840 Yes, I have some self love, but it. 0:33:15.880 --> 0:33:17.520 Is niggas who will hit her from the back of 0:33:17.520 --> 0:33:17.720 the hole. 0:33:17.760 --> 0:33:24.160 They brother, I'm going in, I'm going in. I didn't 0:33:24.160 --> 0:33:28.920 even get hard for that. You're nasty, nigga, Right, you're nasty. 0:33:29.040 --> 0:33:31.520 And that doesn't mean the woman is actually a nasty woman. 0:33:31.560 --> 0:33:33.920 I feel you have a bad Yeah, pH might be 0:33:33.960 --> 0:33:34.480 off for whatever. 0:33:34.560 --> 0:33:36.080 I remember one of my home girls, she was like, man, 0:33:36.080 --> 0:33:38.560 I looks so good today. Man, my pussy is stink 0:33:39.880 --> 0:33:42.600 fucking with a like messed up. 0:33:42.760 --> 0:33:43.680 Knock her phr. 0:33:43.800 --> 0:33:49.200 Yes, you can literally be allergic to a man biscuits 0:33:49.600 --> 0:33:51.680 and that's not self love. Get away from that, nigga. 0:33:52.080 --> 0:33:54.960 If if he's causing you have it like mentally and 0:33:55.320 --> 0:33:57.680 giving you stinkuchie, Like, why are you what? I do? 0:33:57.680 --> 0:34:00.440 Feel like when you first start like sleeping a man, 0:34:00.600 --> 0:34:04.000 it'll knock your pH off. No, just I feel like 0:34:04.120 --> 0:34:05.640 anytime the first time. 0:34:05.600 --> 0:34:07.240 And that's like a signal to me that I shouldn't 0:34:07.240 --> 0:34:08.440 be fucking with you. You mean the first time you 0:34:08.480 --> 0:34:09.200 smashed raw. 0:34:09.640 --> 0:34:12.239 Right, anytime you have like raw sex with someone, I 0:34:12.280 --> 0:34:12.840 don't think so. 0:34:13.040 --> 0:34:16.360 I feel like because there's there's been men that I, 0:34:16.680 --> 0:34:20.480 you know, was intimate with, and I feel like, shit, 0:34:20.560 --> 0:34:22.200 that's my mate. We match. 0:34:22.760 --> 0:34:26.439 Maybe I don't have like raw sex enough that when 0:34:26.480 --> 0:34:27.640 I do, my body. 0:34:27.400 --> 0:34:31.239 Is like where is the plastic? Or maybe because that 0:34:31.360 --> 0:34:35.400 dick been someplace else in between time and every dick. 0:34:35.680 --> 0:34:38.600 That I do that to you, that's not the first 0:34:38.600 --> 0:34:45.640 time I have raw sex. Yeah, knocked off on top, 0:34:45.760 --> 0:34:50.080 knocked off my square already know right away. But that's 0:34:50.080 --> 0:34:51.320 why I don't do it though. 0:34:51.880 --> 0:34:57.440 You whack bitch, live a little love a lettle. There's 0:34:57.480 --> 0:35:00.560 somebody else to do it. Do it, bitch a little 0:35:00.680 --> 0:35:03.200 like let me tell y'all, tell me be lying that bitch, 0:35:03.280 --> 0:35:03.919 be fucking raw. 0:35:06.880 --> 0:35:07.640 Give me that skin. 0:35:08.000 --> 0:35:11.000 I could literally be like all those skin condoms actually 0:35:11.040 --> 0:35:13.120 are very good and add a little lube to it. 0:35:14.000 --> 0:35:14.680 It feels like. 0:35:14.640 --> 0:35:16.040 Nothinglub to it. 0:35:16.200 --> 0:35:21.120 Yeah, on the outside, Yeah, my couchie does not stay 0:35:21.160 --> 0:35:24.840 wet the entire time with a condem Yeah. 0:35:24.640 --> 0:35:28.160 Because you can do on the outside it could break. Yeah, 0:35:28.200 --> 0:35:31.759 I don't like even I could be super aroused, like 0:35:31.800 --> 0:35:34.200 I gotta do a lot of extra ship to stay wet. 0:35:34.000 --> 0:35:35.879 With the condom I do. 0:35:36.920 --> 0:35:40.520 Maybe my body is just used to condem Yeah, plastic pussy. 0:35:40.760 --> 0:35:49.480 Yeah, got that peep that pepp Okay, So listen, let's 0:35:49.560 --> 0:35:52.520 let's talk about let's actually talk about sound self love. 0:35:52.600 --> 0:35:54.880 So we talked about and we're gonna have a whole episode, 0:35:54.960 --> 0:35:57.120 y'all and bring on some guests, some friends of mine. 0:35:57.280 --> 0:35:58.719 And I said this a couple of times. We just 0:35:58.760 --> 0:36:02.080 haven't organized, but I think it's really important. You know 0:36:02.120 --> 0:36:03.719 what I'm saying, because again I want to make sure 0:36:03.960 --> 0:36:06.400 are you getting the surgery for you? Tell me and 0:36:06.520 --> 0:36:09.960 I are two organic ass women, right, So while y'all 0:36:09.960 --> 0:36:12.120 on the internet talking all ship, this is what women 0:36:12.160 --> 0:36:16.680 look like. We have minimal enhancements. I wear fucking weave lashes. 0:36:16.840 --> 0:36:19.719 Weave lashes. That's it right, that's it right. So you 0:36:19.800 --> 0:36:23.440 got to be like some girl. There's nothing wrong with 0:36:23.520 --> 0:36:25.520 them titties, y'all. Look at tam titty. Is anything wrong 0:36:25.520 --> 0:36:27.319 with them titties? I'll give you some of these on 0:36:27.480 --> 0:36:30.719 somebo that I had these cities. My titty to arm 0:36:30.840 --> 0:36:35.120 ratio is just not right. Ain't nothing wrong with them 0:36:35.120 --> 0:36:37.839 titties man. One of my homegirls had added some titties man, 0:36:37.880 --> 0:36:40.640 and she didn't she didn't appreciate it. Afterwards, she had 0:36:40.640 --> 0:36:44.160 a lot of like buyer's remorse after getting them tasty here. Yes, 0:36:44.239 --> 0:36:46.000 you don't want to feel like that. She's into them now. 0:36:46.000 --> 0:36:48.319 She's good with him, but initially. And then I have 0:36:48.360 --> 0:36:51.120 another friend who love her titties. Girl, she bitch cannot 0:36:51.200 --> 0:36:52.520 not show people them titties. 0:36:52.560 --> 0:36:55.000 I just feel like a nigga, Like if I don't 0:36:55.000 --> 0:36:58.200 do something by the time of my fifty to go 0:36:58.320 --> 0:36:59.120 up like this. 0:36:59.360 --> 0:37:00.000 Niggas already have. 0:37:00.320 --> 0:37:03.640 Listen, I loot it out them here baby, Like, if 0:37:03.680 --> 0:37:05.840 I see they struggling next stretched a little bit too 0:37:05.920 --> 0:37:07.600 much trying to get that titty, I just pull it 0:37:07.600 --> 0:37:08.440 over for them, Like. 0:37:10.040 --> 0:37:11.920 What is that not normal? 0:37:12.880 --> 0:37:14.919 And I guess you're right. I guess you by that time, 0:37:14.960 --> 0:37:20.920 I'll be like by that time, so I guess that's 0:37:21.000 --> 0:37:22.680 normal for a thirty five year old tits. 0:37:22.760 --> 0:37:25.879 So girl, my mom at is seventy and she still 0:37:25.880 --> 0:37:28.080 walking around bunks and her titties because she got really 0:37:28.160 --> 0:37:31.840 nice titties and she will talk shit, isn't yeah, because' 0:37:32.040 --> 0:37:34.399 y'all be letting boys pull on your titties. She got 0:37:34.440 --> 0:37:37.600 like the best titties. Yes, And she always say, you know, 0:37:37.640 --> 0:37:39.840 if you could fit, if you can hold a pencil 0:37:39.840 --> 0:37:43.160 on your titties, they too big. She was shaming us 0:37:43.840 --> 0:37:45.400 me and all messes got big titties. 0:37:45.440 --> 0:37:47.319 My mom won't hold no pencil. Inn there it yet. 0:37:47.840 --> 0:37:49.920 Yeah, she like, your titties is too big if you 0:37:49.920 --> 0:37:50.760 can hold a pencil. 0:37:51.040 --> 0:37:54.640 When I like back my titties just like, it's like 0:37:54.719 --> 0:37:55.680 your eggs over. 0:37:55.600 --> 0:38:04.680 Easy, they don't. Yeah, I don't know, but has any 0:38:04.719 --> 0:38:07.880 man ever complained about them titties? That's what I'm saying. 0:38:07.960 --> 0:38:09.880 Like we'd be so hard on ourselves. One of my 0:38:09.920 --> 0:38:12.759 homegirls said I was hard on myself because I wore stockings. 0:38:14.280 --> 0:38:16.160 She was like, well, I would never even think to 0:38:16.200 --> 0:38:16.440 wear it. 0:38:16.440 --> 0:38:19.600 I don't feel like you need those because I saw 0:38:19.600 --> 0:38:21.000 your legs yesterday and I was like, do you have 0:38:21.040 --> 0:38:23.359 the stockings? And you were like no. I was like, 0:38:23.600 --> 0:38:26.320 they look exactly the same with the stockers. 0:38:26.280 --> 0:38:28.319 But there's a little bit. But then I showed you right, 0:38:28.360 --> 0:38:30.760 I had like a little scar right here on my knee. 0:38:32.120 --> 0:38:34.440 Nobody could even see that fucking scar. 0:38:34.280 --> 0:38:38.680 And I scratched my knee. Yeah, people can, I can 0:38:38.719 --> 0:38:42.280 see it. And that to me, doing a ten dollars 0:38:42.400 --> 0:38:47.920 adjustment is self love as opposed to going and trying 0:38:47.920 --> 0:38:51.799 to do some bleaching and everything. To me, that's when 0:38:51.840 --> 0:38:55.960 you are getting in a dangerous space. Multibody. 0:38:56.600 --> 0:39:00.719 Everybody heard their thing right, Because I got like varicose 0:39:00.920 --> 0:39:04.400 veins from standing from doing hair for all these years 0:39:04.719 --> 0:39:06.680 on the side of my leg and like on my chin. 0:39:07.000 --> 0:39:08.959 I don't give a fuck about that. I'm not gonna 0:39:09.000 --> 0:39:12.400 eat that's my white blood. I'm not gonna do that 0:39:12.600 --> 0:39:17.240 like surgery, yeah, or put like foundation on my legs. 0:39:17.360 --> 0:39:20.319 I don't care about that. But what I do is 0:39:20.600 --> 0:39:24.120 I do care about my chin. Sometimes I have two. 0:39:24.200 --> 0:39:27.040 Sometimes I have one. Summer time, I try to have one, 0:39:27.120 --> 0:39:30.319 you know, typically just one for the summer months, two 0:39:30.680 --> 0:39:33.960 extra one. It's more of me to love. But when 0:39:34.000 --> 0:39:36.560 I do have the second one, baby, I'm in there 0:39:36.560 --> 0:39:40.600 with that contour stick. I have done all the chin surgeries, 0:39:40.719 --> 0:39:42.520 like not even the surgery like the. 0:39:42.560 --> 0:39:43.960 Cop bell evasive things. 0:39:44.080 --> 0:39:45.839 Yeah, I did coy Bella on my chin one time. 0:39:45.960 --> 0:39:49.759 Shit didn't work. I tried pdo threads that didn't work. 0:39:49.800 --> 0:39:51.279 That was the two things that I've done, and I 0:39:51.320 --> 0:39:53.319 was like, you know what, this is just the chin. 0:39:53.400 --> 0:39:54.279 God want to be thed. 0:39:59.000 --> 0:40:05.560 I love the chin, your bitch. Yeah, real man, we 0:40:05.640 --> 0:40:07.399 gotta just be like you know, I fuck it man, 0:40:07.480 --> 0:40:10.439 it's me. It's me. And you know they men talk 0:40:10.480 --> 0:40:14.680 about us doing the small enhancements or big enhancement. They 0:40:14.680 --> 0:40:17.120 talk shit about both of them. They talk shit about 0:40:17.200 --> 0:40:21.520 natural they talk shit about surgery. Women too. Yeah, women 0:40:21.600 --> 0:40:24.600 are very hard. I don't. I don't what what the 0:40:24.600 --> 0:40:25.919 fuck is wrong with humans? Dog? 0:40:26.440 --> 0:40:26.680 Mean? 0:40:26.800 --> 0:40:27.720 Let me just get more. 0:40:27.600 --> 0:40:30.080 Dogs in the world. We are very mean. No them dogs, 0:40:30.400 --> 0:40:32.680 I tell you about them. Dollars on my elevator. They 0:40:32.800 --> 0:40:34.320 don't fuck with each other like that either. 0:40:40.880 --> 0:40:43.759 So let's talk about some ways to cultivate self love. 0:40:44.400 --> 0:40:46.640 So I was able to find a couple of things. 0:40:46.640 --> 0:40:50.359 So there's this is six ways to cultivate self love. 0:40:51.200 --> 0:40:56.080 So practicing self love doesn't have to mean expensive activities 0:40:56.200 --> 0:40:59.319 like booking your weeking at a resort. The focus is 0:40:59.320 --> 0:41:02.120 paying attention and caring for your knees and could be 0:41:02.160 --> 0:41:06.239 as simple as a five minute break to disconnect. So 0:41:06.400 --> 0:41:08.960 just meditation right quick. I feel like I meditate all 0:41:09.040 --> 0:41:11.680 day long, especially when I'm driving. People may not consider 0:41:11.680 --> 0:41:13.960 that meditation because they have their eyes open. 0:41:15.000 --> 0:41:15.600 Nod. 0:41:15.880 --> 0:41:18.640 Yeah, I turn the radio off, and that's that's really 0:41:18.640 --> 0:41:21.759 when I between that and the shower is when I 0:41:21.800 --> 0:41:24.560 have my most intimate deep thoughts. 0:41:24.960 --> 0:41:28.160 Water is a good kinduit for meditation. Yes, ooh, baths. 0:41:28.200 --> 0:41:31.480 I like to do seaweed baths out and I bitch that. 0:41:31.600 --> 0:41:34.239 Listen y'all trying to lose five pounds right quick? Do 0:41:34.320 --> 0:41:37.279 a hot ass seaweed bath. That detox really will knock 0:41:37.320 --> 0:41:37.960 five pounds off. 0:41:38.000 --> 0:41:39.920 R oh, I have to try that. I eat seaweed, 0:41:39.960 --> 0:41:40.640 but I've never based. 0:41:40.719 --> 0:41:42.680 So if you go to the Asian markets, they sell 0:41:42.760 --> 0:41:48.799 like they sell like like big sheets of seaweed. They 0:41:48.880 --> 0:41:51.040 kind of like, you know, plastic, but once you put 0:41:51.080 --> 0:41:54.080 them in the water, they swell so by like a 0:41:54.120 --> 0:41:55.560 pack of them, and I don't know how many it's 0:41:55.560 --> 0:41:57.480 a bunch of sheets in one little pack, like five 0:41:57.520 --> 0:41:59.359 to ten dollars or something like that. I'm gonna try 0:41:59.360 --> 0:42:00.279 to put in a bath so we. 0:42:00.320 --> 0:42:02.320 I'm gonna put on the little Mary Mary. 0:42:02.120 --> 0:42:03.560 Bitch, Yes, I put candles run. 0:42:03.520 --> 0:42:04.560 The bathtub smoking. 0:42:04.600 --> 0:42:07.480 That is self love first. Okay, you're gonna lose a 0:42:07.480 --> 0:42:09.879 couple of pounds. You on detox, You're gonna feel good 0:42:09.920 --> 0:42:12.520 after a bad a You're gonna sleep good. That's self 0:42:12.520 --> 0:42:16.840 love and without having to go to a spot keeping 0:42:16.840 --> 0:42:18.960 a journal, a gratitude journal. 0:42:19.000 --> 0:42:21.640 It says, I bought you one of those. Remember did 0:42:21.640 --> 0:42:24.759 you use it? Did you use it? 0:42:25.120 --> 0:42:28.160 I just found it again, okay, and I have started 0:42:28.200 --> 0:42:31.080 using it. Okay, good within the last week. Y'all bought 0:42:31.080 --> 0:42:38.560 that for her, Like that book. It's a book. It's 0:42:38.640 --> 0:42:41.799 just you know, every time I do certain things now, 0:42:41.840 --> 0:42:44.480 I think back to childhood in school and how they 0:42:44.480 --> 0:42:46.880 try to teach you certain things because we had journaling 0:42:46.920 --> 0:42:50.359 in school. We had the lower vocabulary book that all 0:42:50.400 --> 0:42:52.480 of us used to cheat off each other, Like you 0:42:52.520 --> 0:42:54.520 did your vocabulary last night. Now you tried to fill 0:42:54.520 --> 0:42:56.840 in the blinks with another nigga work like they cheated 0:42:56.840 --> 0:42:57.880 off me. I was. 0:42:58.000 --> 0:42:59.160 I was always the girl who. 0:42:59.040 --> 0:43:02.880 Had done the thing. Like those things we didn't understand 0:43:02.880 --> 0:43:04.640 the importance of. And I think if we kind of 0:43:04.640 --> 0:43:07.000 take the time to explain to kids, like why it's important. 0:43:07.080 --> 0:43:09.000 Let me tell you, girl, when you get thirty, you're 0:43:09.000 --> 0:43:11.880 gonna wish you were journaling right now right because it 0:43:11.960 --> 0:43:15.080 just helps you keep a clear mind when you write 0:43:15.120 --> 0:43:17.759 down your thoughts right, and then you can revisit it. 0:43:17.880 --> 0:43:20.160 When you write your goals down, you can see, you know, 0:43:20.280 --> 0:43:21.600 measure that. 0:43:22.200 --> 0:43:25.080 But I don't think you should use your social media 0:43:25.160 --> 0:43:27.239 as your journal. And I find that some people do 0:43:27.320 --> 0:43:29.680 that because. 0:43:29.360 --> 0:43:31.000 You might want to raise some shit and that is 0:43:31.040 --> 0:43:32.640 ink you can't. 0:43:32.640 --> 0:43:34.759 And then it's people on there. Some people have your 0:43:34.760 --> 0:43:37.160 best interests at her, but then there are those that don't. 0:43:37.360 --> 0:43:39.200 So you just have to be mindful of that when 0:43:39.239 --> 0:43:41.800 you use social media, especially young millennials. I feel like 0:43:41.840 --> 0:43:44.239 it's mostly them that do that, you know. 0:43:44.960 --> 0:43:48.239 I had comment on something on a page and it 0:43:48.320 --> 0:43:49.920 had a whole bunch of likes, but it also had 0:43:49.960 --> 0:43:52.759 a whole bunch of some positive some negative comments, and 0:43:52.800 --> 0:43:54.560 I went back and I tried to delete it. Don't 0:43:54.560 --> 0:43:57.040 you know, Instagram wouldn't let me delete it. It has 0:43:57.120 --> 0:43:59.680 like one hundred two hundred something comments on it, and 0:44:00.320 --> 0:44:01.719 let me delete it. As if I don't own that 0:44:01.760 --> 0:44:02.960 comment anymore. 0:44:02.640 --> 0:44:04.880 Oh, it may no longer be your intellectual property. 0:44:06.160 --> 0:44:08.200 I'm just thought, I don't want to get that alerts anymore. 0:44:08.640 --> 0:44:11.959 I don't want that alerts no more. Yeah, So I'm like, man, 0:44:12.000 --> 0:44:12.600 what the fuck? 0:44:13.719 --> 0:44:15.279 So you have to be mindful there. But I do 0:44:15.320 --> 0:44:18.239 think journaling is good. You know what I like to 0:44:18.280 --> 0:44:21.560 write down and I do it three six nine times. 0:44:22.440 --> 0:44:24.760 That's the magic number. That's actually the number that unlock 0:44:24.800 --> 0:44:26.200 the matrix. Three six nine. 0:44:26.239 --> 0:44:28.440 Oh really, I do like So I'll do it three times, 0:44:28.480 --> 0:44:29.840 then I'll do it six times, and I do it 0:44:29.920 --> 0:44:30.319 nine times. 0:44:30.320 --> 0:44:31.520 Did you learn that in elementary? 0:44:31.880 --> 0:44:34.560 Uh? Uh, Well, I don't know. I don't remember where 0:44:34.560 --> 0:44:38.719 I got it from, but I'll say It'll say I 0:44:38.760 --> 0:44:43.520 am rich, happy, and wealthy. No, I am rich, happy, 0:44:43.560 --> 0:44:46.640 and fit something like. I can't I can't think of it. 0:44:46.680 --> 0:44:48.560 But then I'll just write it down. I type it 0:44:48.600 --> 0:44:50.200 in my phone three times, and then I'll do it 0:44:50.239 --> 0:44:52.120 six times the next time, and nine times the next time, 0:44:52.239 --> 0:44:54.040 and I just keep doing it whenever I remember to 0:44:54.080 --> 0:44:54.920 do it, and I'll do it. 0:44:55.280 --> 0:44:57.799 Yeah, that's a good practice. You know. If you want 0:44:57.800 --> 0:44:59.359 to be fit, you can also just you know, write 0:44:59.400 --> 0:45:01.480 the number down how much you want to weigh, and 0:45:01.560 --> 0:45:02.680 put it on your ski. 0:45:02.880 --> 0:45:06.600 Tell y'all wins the amount she wants to weigh, and 0:45:06.640 --> 0:45:08.200 it's all like a little piece of paper and. 0:45:08.160 --> 0:45:12.319 It's take over with the actual same time I weigh myself. Bitch, 0:45:12.360 --> 0:45:14.960 that's how much I weigh my goal. Wait, that's how 0:45:15.000 --> 0:45:19.200 you manifest like it's not real until you write it down, bitch. 0:45:19.600 --> 0:45:22.200 I mean I wrote that two years ago and I 0:45:22.239 --> 0:45:25.960 was like, bitch, what is this? Bitch? Is how much 0:45:26.000 --> 0:45:27.000 I wait? Mind your business? 0:45:27.040 --> 0:45:27.320 Okay? 0:45:28.040 --> 0:45:32.960 Who checking on sevent I feel my best at one seventy. 0:45:33.040 --> 0:45:35.319 So what it says about the gratitude journal, It says 0:45:35.320 --> 0:45:39.080 a big part of self love is staying present. Dwelling 0:45:39.120 --> 0:45:42.680 over things out of your control can raise feelings and hopelessness, stress, 0:45:42.719 --> 0:45:47.080 and anxiety. Maintaining a gratitude journal can help you stay 0:45:47.120 --> 0:45:50.680 grounded by reminding yourself of what you have to feel 0:45:50.680 --> 0:45:51.920 thankful for right now. 0:45:52.400 --> 0:45:55.879 That's our greatest tool in life, honestly, is gratitude. 0:45:56.120 --> 0:46:00.960 Research suggests remembering that you're thankful kept promote healthy and 0:46:01.000 --> 0:46:05.000 it's linked to self esteem and increases overall happiness. 0:46:05.480 --> 0:46:07.839 I definitely agree with that one. I definitely agree with 0:46:07.840 --> 0:46:10.800 that one. Have y'all ever read The Secret? Yeah? 0:46:10.920 --> 0:46:13.760 Okay, So in The Secret they talk about one lady. 0:46:13.800 --> 0:46:16.640 She was saying how she says thank you a lot 0:46:16.640 --> 0:46:19.000 of times per day, Like from the time I wake up, 0:46:19.040 --> 0:46:21.040 I say thank you. I say thank you when I 0:46:21.040 --> 0:46:22.560 got a shower. I say thank you when I get 0:46:22.600 --> 0:46:25.000 in a shower. Bitch I dodn'et told my car thank you, 0:46:25.040 --> 0:46:26.520 but that bitch broke down the next day, so I 0:46:26.600 --> 0:46:29.319 was like, bitch, fuck you. But yeah, I say thank 0:46:29.360 --> 0:46:31.920 you a lot during the day because even when you 0:46:32.000 --> 0:46:35.279 think your situation is like fucked up, you don't see 0:46:35.280 --> 0:46:37.279 a way out, and somebody else got it worse. So 0:46:37.400 --> 0:46:39.400 show gratitude for what you have. 0:46:39.800 --> 0:46:42.799 And I think the older you get, the more gratitude 0:46:42.880 --> 0:46:46.759 you possessed. I think, honestly, like I literally going to 0:46:46.800 --> 0:46:49.360 bed at like at night, like yes, did it again? 0:46:50.160 --> 0:46:54.799 You know? Like that another one. 0:46:55.719 --> 0:46:58.120 So it says a daily dose of gratitude can improve 0:46:58.120 --> 0:47:00.000 your mood and it is a great way to start 0:47:00.040 --> 0:47:01.920 at your morning. Like I said, say thank y'all in 0:47:01.960 --> 0:47:05.319 the morning. Y'all. You can download a app on gratitude, 0:47:05.440 --> 0:47:08.200 or keep a small list on your phone, or write 0:47:08.200 --> 0:47:10.560 what you what you're thankful for in a notebook. So 0:47:10.600 --> 0:47:12.680 that's what the Gratitude book that Tana got. 0:47:12.800 --> 0:47:14.400 Yeah, you can get it for Amazon. It's only a 0:47:14.480 --> 0:47:16.520 couple of dollars and it's a cute little book and 0:47:16.560 --> 0:47:18.840 it just says I'm thankful for and you can write 0:47:18.840 --> 0:47:21.080 in it and it has a daily log. Yeah, so 0:47:21.120 --> 0:47:21.560 I do that. 0:47:24.360 --> 0:47:27.839 I think also, when you are experiencing hate from people, right, 0:47:28.400 --> 0:47:31.960 just realize that they don't realize that they too have 0:47:32.080 --> 0:47:35.080 things to be thankful for. Right, That's why they just 0:47:35.200 --> 0:47:40.160 displaying this mean behavior. They don't they don't they don't 0:47:40.160 --> 0:47:42.319 feel like they they're not thankful for what they have, 0:47:42.440 --> 0:47:45.279 so they're hating. I feel like that's where hate for 0:47:45.320 --> 0:47:48.480 other people comes from. When you're not showing gratitude for 0:47:48.520 --> 0:47:52.080 the things that you have, you're either gonna be inspired 0:47:52.320 --> 0:47:54.839 or you're gonna be a fucking hater. It's just that's 0:47:54.880 --> 0:47:58.000 just what it is. Give yourself a compliment is the 0:47:58.000 --> 0:47:58.720 next one, y'all. 0:47:59.160 --> 0:47:59.759 So this is. 0:47:59.719 --> 0:48:05.200 The next way to show yourself to cultivate self love. Actually, 0:48:05.840 --> 0:48:08.919 so give yourself a compliment. A small but effective way 0:48:08.960 --> 0:48:12.000 to make yourself feel good and ultimately ultimately boost self 0:48:12.080 --> 0:48:15.800 esteem and confidence is giving yourself a compliment. By compliment, 0:48:16.160 --> 0:48:20.920 by complimenting ourselves regularly, it starts to shift the relationship 0:48:20.960 --> 0:48:24.160 we have with ourselves as as well as our mindset. 0:48:24.680 --> 0:48:28.680 We are essentially training ourselves to focus on positives which 0:48:28.760 --> 0:48:30.200 create positive feelings. 0:48:31.920 --> 0:48:34.080 I like that, but I also would like to add 0:48:34.120 --> 0:48:37.560 to that that you should also learn how to take 0:48:37.600 --> 0:48:40.799 a compliment. People. I got a problem with that, I know, girl. 0:48:40.840 --> 0:48:44.640 That's why I said, bitch, i'd be like you love 0:48:44.680 --> 0:48:45.280 pretty today. 0:48:45.440 --> 0:48:48.040 This whole thing I had, this thing I am learning. 0:48:48.120 --> 0:48:49.880 I think I got there. It's a lot of things 0:48:49.960 --> 0:48:52.399 being around my mom or now I realize I got 0:48:52.400 --> 0:48:55.440 from her. The other day she was expressing how pessimestic 0:48:55.520 --> 0:48:58.480 she is, and she was saying it so proudly. Meanwhile, 0:48:58.520 --> 0:49:01.640 on a daily basis, in my mind, I'm like, dog, bitch, 0:49:02.160 --> 0:49:04.600 like I feel like you can do this, like be 0:49:04.640 --> 0:49:06.719 a little bit more optimistic. But it's a lot of 0:49:06.719 --> 0:49:09.440 things stem from your childhood and the people that raise you. 0:49:09.880 --> 0:49:13.200 Now Here, I am an adult trying to figure out, like, 0:49:13.320 --> 0:49:17.160 how can I be more optimistic about things as opposed 0:49:17.160 --> 0:49:19.359 to I am a realist. So if it is what 0:49:19.400 --> 0:49:21.600 it is, it is what it is, right, But sometimes 0:49:21.600 --> 0:49:22.759 you can psych yourself out. 0:49:22.920 --> 0:49:26.279 Absolutely m h. If you change the way you see 0:49:26.280 --> 0:49:28.240 the world, the way you see the world will change 0:49:28.440 --> 0:49:31.800 exactly it really is, yep. So give yourself a compliment 0:49:31.880 --> 0:49:36.320 y'all say bid you a bad bitch? Okay you not 0:49:36.600 --> 0:49:37.920 just say it anyway until you do. 0:49:38.480 --> 0:49:48.440 Period, And tell a nigga on the Instagram tell you ain't. 0:49:46.760 --> 0:49:48.799 Go to this page and call his son ugly. No, 0:49:48.840 --> 0:49:52.319 don't do that. Don't do that, Guys, the kids out 0:49:52.360 --> 0:49:52.640 of it. 0:49:53.320 --> 0:49:56.000 Okay, I'm ugly, And then say your son looks like you. 0:49:56.400 --> 0:49:59.279 That's not dang that ever was a woman? Be like girl, 0:49:59.320 --> 0:50:01.400 you look just like your daddy. Your daddy, sir. 0:50:04.280 --> 0:50:07.319 Kids are off limits you all. 0:50:07.280 --> 0:50:10.800 Right, y'all? Okay, So speak to yourself as you would 0:50:10.840 --> 0:50:14.640 with a friend. Negative self talk is something we all 0:50:14.680 --> 0:50:18.200 engage in. Try imagining your friend making the same mistake 0:50:18.320 --> 0:50:21.160 or failure and think about what you would say to them. 0:50:21.800 --> 0:50:24.000 A big part of self love is finding that little 0:50:24.040 --> 0:50:27.520 voice inside of your head, and by noticing how we 0:50:27.600 --> 0:50:32.279 talk to ourselves, we can show ourselves compassion when interaction 0:50:32.640 --> 0:50:36.640 or assignment doesn't go as planned. Engaging in positive self 0:50:36.640 --> 0:50:41.840 talk helps you move towards acceptance and eventually loving yourself. 0:50:42.680 --> 0:50:45.200 Get them negative thoughts, you replace it with a positive one. 0:50:45.239 --> 0:50:47.279 So the minute you start thinking about so negative shit, 0:50:47.719 --> 0:50:51.000 you have to literally think about that negative thought going 0:50:51.040 --> 0:50:54.319 into a fucking box, right, you putting a lock on 0:50:54.360 --> 0:50:57.359 that box and throwing a box in the fucking trash 0:50:57.440 --> 0:51:00.000 and replace it with something positive to think about it. 0:51:00.239 --> 0:51:04.120 That's how that works. This is all manifestation, that's all 0:51:04.120 --> 0:51:04.360 it is. 0:51:04.360 --> 0:51:07.279 It'd be like, damn, my feet stink, but somebody likes 0:51:07.280 --> 0:51:14.120 stink feet, bitch, I hate you, right, that's about right, 0:51:14.600 --> 0:51:15.000 not stink. 0:51:15.080 --> 0:51:16.040 But I mean that was. 0:51:17.760 --> 0:51:20.600 Because I know that, because anybody told you the stink 0:51:20.719 --> 0:51:23.680 yet I don't know, bitch. 0:51:23.680 --> 0:51:25.759 I never tried to smell them my feet. Don't think 0:51:25.840 --> 0:51:30.960 I was just giving it an example. They'd be sucking them. Yeah, okay, 0:51:30.960 --> 0:51:37.480 they don't stink. That's how that work, all right. Practice 0:51:37.560 --> 0:51:41.120 mindfulness This is my favorite. Being mindful is a strategy 0:51:41.160 --> 0:51:43.880 to boost self love as it can help you identify 0:51:44.000 --> 0:51:49.000 what you feel, think, and want. Mindfulness encompasses being fully present, 0:51:49.160 --> 0:51:53.239 non judgmental, aware of what's going on around us. There 0:51:53.239 --> 0:51:56.360 are popular meditation apps that you can teach that you 0:51:56.400 --> 0:51:59.040 can download and teach you how to practice deep breathing 0:51:59.160 --> 0:52:02.560 and other mindful as tech techniques. I use a couple 0:52:02.640 --> 0:52:05.680 of them, my favorite, y'all, and I would love to 0:52:05.880 --> 0:52:11.279 do some ads for them as sink Tuition. That's the 0:52:11.320 --> 0:52:12.160 app that I used. 0:52:12.800 --> 0:52:13.720 Tell us about it. 0:52:13.719 --> 0:52:17.359 It's really good. So it's really just sounds right. But 0:52:17.400 --> 0:52:19.640 for whatever reason, bitch, if you use this app and 0:52:19.640 --> 0:52:22.200 put on some headphones, it takes you someplace else. Now, 0:52:22.280 --> 0:52:26.200 sometimes it was like frequencies yea, so you know they hurts. 0:52:26.280 --> 0:52:27.120 That stuff matters. 0:52:27.520 --> 0:52:29.760 Let me, can I just say this. I was talking 0:52:29.760 --> 0:52:32.319 to this man in Jamaica at one point and he 0:52:32.440 --> 0:52:35.160 had like this frequency in the background and he was 0:52:35.160 --> 0:52:36.920 talking to me and I was like, what is he? 0:52:37.120 --> 0:52:40.240 What is my pussy? And we weren't even talking about 0:52:40.280 --> 0:52:44.279 nothing like crazy, but he had this playing in the 0:52:44.320 --> 0:52:47.480 back the whole world Jamaica accident. He was telling me, 0:52:47.480 --> 0:52:48.400 how yes. 0:52:48.280 --> 0:52:50.000 Girl, that waspnosis. 0:52:50.360 --> 0:52:53.239 You're so amazing, Mommy, I just want you to know. 0:52:53.440 --> 0:52:59.239 And I was like, it was so I felt like 0:52:59.280 --> 0:53:00.759 he was in the room with me. Girl. 0:53:01.280 --> 0:53:03.040 Wait wait, wait, you weren't in Jamaica. 0:53:03.400 --> 0:53:08.120 I was here. He called me early in the morning 0:53:08.160 --> 0:53:10.960 with that sound playing in the back and just affirming 0:53:11.040 --> 0:53:14.280 me in so many different ways, and I almost orgasm 0:53:14.480 --> 0:53:15.520 without touching myself. 0:53:16.080 --> 0:53:19.279 Girl, he's a warlock. Okay, Yetta, be careful tell us 0:53:19.280 --> 0:53:22.120 about that. He probably. He probably would have been like, yeah, 0:53:22.440 --> 0:53:23.759 can you cash at me? 0:53:25.400 --> 0:53:31.040 Yes, right now, I feel like I owe you that. 0:53:30.960 --> 0:53:34.680 That's next level pimping. Let's be clear, if he would. 0:53:34.520 --> 0:53:36.160 Have asked for some money in that minute, he would 0:53:36.160 --> 0:53:36.680 have got it. 0:53:38.880 --> 0:53:40.319 Sure, what's your cash? Hey, y'all? 0:53:40.320 --> 0:53:40.560 Tell me? 0:53:40.600 --> 0:53:42.080 Don't got nothing on these damn things? 0:53:42.080 --> 0:53:42.200 Hey? 0:53:42.239 --> 0:53:44.319 You got them upside down? Bitch turned right side up? 0:53:44.360 --> 0:53:50.640 At least thank you? Shut the fuck up, and don't 0:53:50.640 --> 0:53:54.160 say ship y'all Like I was at a live show 0:53:54.239 --> 0:53:57.319 like that with nothing on the car. Really, I said that, 0:53:57.400 --> 0:53:59.200 you ain't say I was like, ain't nothing on these y'all. 0:53:59.239 --> 0:54:03.720 I'm just up here. Mm hmm. Anyway, we celebrating small wins. Okay, 0:54:04.040 --> 0:54:08.000 celebrate how to tell y'all like that? Like the next 0:54:08.080 --> 0:54:11.920 one that celebrating small wins. People can set harsh expectations 0:54:11.960 --> 0:54:15.400 for themselves or get caught up with what society demands 0:54:15.880 --> 0:54:21.480 of them. But settling but excuse me, but setting realistic 0:54:21.640 --> 0:54:26.920 expectations aligned with our needs, wants, and values are more important. 0:54:27.160 --> 0:54:30.960 We're more likely to complete these tasks, feel more accomplished 0:54:30.960 --> 0:54:34.160 and motivated to complete the next task, which contributes to 0:54:34.239 --> 0:54:35.439 feelings of self love. 0:54:35.560 --> 0:54:36.440 Bitch, I don't even know. 0:54:36.960 --> 0:54:41.920 Then. This is celebrating small winds. 0:54:41.920 --> 0:54:45.080 So it says the minor accomplishments add up and create 0:54:45.239 --> 0:54:47.600 momentum to reach the end goal. 0:54:48.160 --> 0:54:51.959 So it's the journey. It's not the end goal, right, 0:54:52.120 --> 0:54:54.360 it's not the big thing. It's not the big prize 0:54:54.360 --> 0:54:57.319 of the end. It's the journey. So along the way 0:54:57.440 --> 0:55:00.759 to where whatever the goal is, celebrate those small that's 0:55:00.760 --> 0:55:01.320 what it's saying. 0:55:01.360 --> 0:55:05.800 Okay. I like that when you say you look the 0:55:05.880 --> 0:55:08.520 writing is so small, girl, and I got good eyesight. 0:55:08.600 --> 0:55:12.680 But and look the last one, y'all, because we got 0:55:12.680 --> 0:55:13.600 to get the Okay. 0:55:13.640 --> 0:55:16.840 But it's important to I feel like we don't do 0:55:17.000 --> 0:55:17.480 enough of that. 0:55:17.680 --> 0:55:18.120 We don't. 0:55:18.320 --> 0:55:22.040 We haven't because we have not had like a two years, 0:55:22.080 --> 0:55:22.640 a three year. 0:55:23.840 --> 0:55:25.040 Right, we should go milestone. 0:55:26.160 --> 0:55:28.520 You might do it in your episodes like we should have. 0:55:28.600 --> 0:55:29.680 We should celebrate those. 0:55:29.840 --> 0:55:33.279 Yeah, I agree, all right, y'all, So limit time on 0:55:33.440 --> 0:55:37.400 social media, bitch, you said that, right. A core component 0:55:37.440 --> 0:55:40.560 of self love is refraining from self judgment and comparing 0:55:40.600 --> 0:55:43.520 yourself to others, an easy trap to fall into if 0:55:43.560 --> 0:55:48.200 you're consistently scrolling through social media. Research find that many 0:55:48.239 --> 0:55:51.680 people make social comparisons based on what they see on 0:55:51.719 --> 0:55:55.160 social media, and that there is a strong relationship between 0:55:55.160 --> 0:55:58.799 social media usage and self esteem. Now, I listen to 0:55:58.840 --> 0:56:00.959 Conservative radio and they have. 0:56:00.880 --> 0:56:05.360 Commercials on Conservative radio for parents if their children have 0:56:06.040 --> 0:56:11.880 harmed themselves. Like they're actually having class action lawsuits against Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, 0:56:11.960 --> 0:56:15.360 social media sites right now, because these things are socially 0:56:15.840 --> 0:56:18.759 engineered to make you feel that way, so you can 0:56:18.800 --> 0:56:22.000 consume more shit that you don't fucking need while you're 0:56:22.000 --> 0:56:25.160 comparing yourself to people who are living in debt, who 0:56:25.200 --> 0:56:26.600 really don't have the fucking lives. 0:56:26.600 --> 0:56:28.319 They don't have the relationships that you see. 0:56:28.360 --> 0:56:31.640 It's all entertainment, so you got to be and especially 0:56:31.840 --> 0:56:32.920 younger minds, they can't. 0:56:33.040 --> 0:56:36.160 They don't know that though. They can't differentiate even adults, 0:56:36.960 --> 0:56:39.400 you know what I'm saying. Like we was in the 0:56:39.400 --> 0:56:41.399 club last night and I swear to guy, every single 0:56:41.480 --> 0:56:43.680 nigga and there was estyle, but I know some ig 0:56:43.840 --> 0:56:46.520 jewelry was in there, absolutely, And the guys who not 0:56:46.600 --> 0:56:49.239 wearing jewry who don't feel like they need that thing 0:56:49.560 --> 0:56:52.240 to be who they are, because that we can compare 0:56:52.320 --> 0:56:54.719 that to doing makeup and hearing all that stuff, like 0:56:54.800 --> 0:56:56.880 men can you leave home without your ma, without your 0:56:56.920 --> 0:56:59.800 jewry on. The guys who wear all that shit. 0:57:00.160 --> 0:57:02.400 Of the niggas in there needed that shit, That's. 0:57:02.280 --> 0:57:04.279 What I'm saying. Like, see now we can't even your 0:57:04.320 --> 0:57:07.239 face because the diamonds is shining. We can't even really 0:57:07.280 --> 0:57:08.960 see what you look like. Were just looking at the 0:57:09.000 --> 0:57:11.160 diamonds and you hop in whatever whip you in Like 0:57:11.239 --> 0:57:14.480 it's all a mask and a facade to validate for 0:57:14.520 --> 0:57:18.560 self valid exactly because of lack of lack of self love. 0:57:18.600 --> 0:57:20.760 They can say they can live it out it, but 0:57:20.880 --> 0:57:22.720 can you really can we have a party when nobody 0:57:22.800 --> 0:57:25.720 show up with juelry on, don't asks us to come 0:57:25.720 --> 0:57:27.440 and the weave on you push it, But that's the 0:57:27.480 --> 0:57:33.600 same thing. No hats even work that night, so I 0:57:33.640 --> 0:57:38.440 can't come to that. But y'all, that's six ways to 0:57:38.480 --> 0:57:41.800 cultivate self love and ship. The main one get you 0:57:41.840 --> 0:57:43.720 all stay off social media so much if you ain't 0:57:43.760 --> 0:57:46.000 really making money on there. I said this last, social. 0:57:45.720 --> 0:57:48.080 Media would just trap you. I will find myself just 0:57:48.120 --> 0:57:50.320 three in the morning watching the nigga clean a rug, 0:57:50.880 --> 0:57:53.200 like just cleaning a dirty ass rug, and I just 0:57:53.600 --> 0:57:55.600 can't wait to see what it looks like in the end, 0:57:55.760 --> 0:57:56.240 I need to. 0:57:56.160 --> 0:57:57.280 Go to fuck the bed. 0:57:57.520 --> 0:58:01.080 Like so, I like social media is a beautiful tool, 0:58:01.080 --> 0:58:02.080 but it's also the devil. 0:58:02.120 --> 0:58:04.680 I turn it off, go to sleep, train you Wi 0:58:04.680 --> 0:58:05.640 Fi off, put a timer. 0:58:06.280 --> 0:58:12.240 I've been watching also pressure washing driveways and patios. That 0:58:12.320 --> 0:58:16.080 shit had me stuck all night long? What will this 0:58:16.120 --> 0:58:16.880 patio look like? 0:58:19.280 --> 0:58:21.400 Shame? What else we have to say about self? Love? 0:58:21.480 --> 0:58:28.560 Child, Let's challenge all our listeners to say something really 0:58:28.640 --> 0:58:32.400 nice about theirself every day this week, no, fuck it, 0:58:32.600 --> 0:58:35.080 every day this month. We want you to look in 0:58:35.120 --> 0:58:38.840 the mirror and say something good to your fucking self. 0:58:39.640 --> 0:58:41.280 I challenge you, and I challenge you to do it 0:58:41.320 --> 0:58:43.760 as well, because I feel like anything you do routinely, 0:58:43.800 --> 0:58:46.440 because they say what thirty days and twenty days, If 0:58:46.480 --> 0:58:49.560 you do something every day, it becomes a part of you. 0:58:50.120 --> 0:58:52.080 And also that that might be one of the things 0:58:52.080 --> 0:58:53.760 that should be added to the list, like just creating 0:58:53.760 --> 0:58:56.360 a routine, you know what I'm saying, Like when you 0:58:56.480 --> 0:58:59.320 just don't have a set thing, set things to do, 0:58:59.840 --> 0:59:01.600 you just just running. 0:59:01.960 --> 0:59:05.200 It's just a straight your whole life, you know. 0:59:05.440 --> 0:59:08.240 Go on Amazon and get that gratitude journal and then 0:59:08.280 --> 0:59:10.720 start writing down the things that you're grateful for. And 0:59:10.760 --> 0:59:13.680 then also I would challenge you all to start going 0:59:13.720 --> 0:59:16.480 in your notes doing that three six ' nine other 0:59:16.560 --> 0:59:18.959 things you're trying to manifest for your life. And don't 0:59:18.960 --> 0:59:22.520 say I want to be or I'm going to be. 0:59:22.840 --> 0:59:23.640 Say I am. 0:59:23.840 --> 0:59:27.520 I am a current you know I am. 0:59:27.120 --> 0:59:29.360 So I challenge. That's my challenge for all of us. 0:59:29.440 --> 0:59:32.040 I am. I am about to get the fuck up 0:59:32.040 --> 0:59:33.600 out of the head. Second, go see a man by 0:59:33.600 --> 0:59:38.360 the horse. So listen, y'all. If you enjoyed this episode, 0:59:38.400 --> 0:59:41.360 please tune in every Thursday on the iHeartRadio app or 0:59:41.360 --> 0:59:44.080 wherever the fuck you get your podcasts at. This is 0:59:44.120 --> 0:59:47.680 your co host AJ Holiday practicing self love all the 0:59:47.720 --> 0:59:50.400 way from Charlotte, North Carolina. Go ahead, tam K. 0:59:50.640 --> 0:59:53.680 It's official tam Bam. Even if you don't love yourself, 0:59:53.720 --> 0:59:56.479 I love y'all. Okay, until you do, you got my love. 0:59:56.760 --> 0:59:59.280 Remember to follow me on Instagram official tam bam and 0:59:59.320 --> 1:00:00.280 remember to speak. 1:00:00.200 --> 1:00:02.120 Now and never hold your peace. 1:00:02.880 --> 1:00:10.720 Deuces m