Speaker 1: Talk.
Speaker 2: Let's talk, talk to We're just two unapologetically black women
Speaker 2: with an opinion to talks.
Speaker 1: What's something, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a
Speaker 1: new episode and we talked back. The show dedicated to
Speaker 1: you dreamers and you chasers, and I like that so
Speaker 1: much as AJ.
Speaker 2: It's tam Bama. I love y'all once again. I love y'all.
Speaker 2: Thank y'all for tuning in. Hey girl, what's going on?
Speaker 1: Were still friends, girl? We ain't gonna never not be
Speaker 1: my fucking friends now, but you and these my fucking listeners. Girl, y'all,
Speaker 1: please understand that episode was recorded three weeks ago, but
Speaker 1: we did just have another conversation about it, okay, after
Speaker 1: the comments and right right before we recorded, right, so, uh,
Speaker 1: going forward, I ain't talking to nobody no more. How
Speaker 1: about that? That's how we're gonna solve all the issues.
Speaker 1: The ain't we talked back no more? We we just
Speaker 1: stopped talk get back. Fuck you. That's where I'm at.
Speaker 1: How about that that to solve all the issues? She lying, y'all,
Speaker 1: She's still gonna talk her. I've been being quiet, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm being quiet.
Speaker 2: Contractually required to talk every week, okay.
Speaker 1: I've been being quiet. It's gonna be the only time
Speaker 1: I talk every week. Motherfucker sign language me if you're
Speaker 1: trying to talk. What you had going on this weekend?
Speaker 1: You know what? I did some.
Speaker 2: D I war work on. I finally took my Christmas
Speaker 2: Street down.
Speaker 1: Everybody, Yeah she must he left that ship up and
Speaker 1: just added some sunflowers to that bitch for the summer.
Speaker 2: And then I did some little decorations in my bedroom
Speaker 2: and now I'm working on my patio. So that's what
Speaker 2: I did this weekend. I just kind of like it
Speaker 2: was in my house, and I cleaned out my closet.
Speaker 2: If you can look right now, I got somebody on
Speaker 2: the way to come get.
Speaker 1: Four trash bags full of shit? Is it like good shit?
Speaker 1: Maybe you could just do like a h An Instagram
Speaker 1: Uh story sell it's.
Speaker 2: You know what, Maybe I should do that because a
Speaker 2: lot of some of this stuff got tags on it.
Speaker 2: I just be up at night, high order and ship.
Speaker 2: I'm done with that.
Speaker 1: Like I seen people do that in motherfucker's bike, send
Speaker 1: them a PayPal invoice and mail ay shit, why not?
Speaker 2: Well, maybe I'll do that instead of just like.
Speaker 1: Doing poschmark and stuff like I hate Poshmark, like they
Speaker 1: take too much of a percentage off your ship. Like God,
Speaker 1: damn man, I paid five dollars for this, Now I'm
Speaker 1: getting two or one fitting?
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, I'm gonna I'm gonna look into that because
Speaker 2: it is a lot of good stuff in there. Y'all
Speaker 2: hit me up here. Y'all want some of my clothes.
Speaker 2: If you're a think girl, you gotta be a size twelve.
Speaker 2: You know you can't be No, you little bitch, keep
Speaker 2: scab jump.
Speaker 1: Put jeans on, baby, You'll feel my pain. Let's task.
Speaker 1: But I said, what about your we cant do shit.
Speaker 1: I was very much so in zen mode. I went
Speaker 1: to the gym both Saturday and Sunday.
Speaker 2: They did it have the African American Museum opening this week,
Speaker 2: which I wanted to attend.
Speaker 1: All the festivities. But I'm a little bit indifferent about
Speaker 1: the African American Museum, not about it opening, but just
Speaker 1: you know, I want to go down there. One day.
Speaker 2: I'll go.
Speaker 1: I think the actual opening is on Tuesday. I might
Speaker 1: go sometimes. We just did actually check it out see
Speaker 1: for myself, see what they got in there.
Speaker 2: But you know, I saw I want to go to
Speaker 2: that that looks like it might be. You know, you
Speaker 2: got to see it because sometimes African American history museums
Speaker 2: make me sad. When I was in Memphis, I was like, damn, yeah, man,
Speaker 2: I left. I came in happy and I left. You
Speaker 2: know that Martin Luther King where you go to the
Speaker 2: place he got shot?
Speaker 1: Why is this still?
Speaker 2: I don't know. Is this how we want to memorialize
Speaker 2: someone's If you look over there, that's the window he
Speaker 2: got shot.
Speaker 1: That tour was too much, man, Like, let me off
Speaker 1: the fucking bus already. I'm sa man, come on, I'm
Speaker 1: sick of it already.
Speaker 2: So I know, I guess I would have to experience it.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Then it was like a little place where you could
Speaker 2: sit down on the ground and be like you was
Speaker 2: in it. It was like these statues and slaves and
Speaker 2: they were chained together and you could get them.
Speaker 1: That is the energy harvesting. See, that's that's why I
Speaker 1: don't like these places. Like like you said, you went
Speaker 1: and happy and you came out side. If y'all ain't
Speaker 1: got some shit in this museum where were showing how
Speaker 1: black people are great and have been great from the
Speaker 1: beginning of the time, I really can support it, so
Speaker 1: before I before I make any assumptions about it, I
Speaker 1: need to go see it. Our good brother Charlamagna God
Speaker 1: is on the board for the museum. He actually spoke
Speaker 1: at a couple events this weekend down here. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go check it out this coming week.
Speaker 2: Uh. Charleston is also getting the Soho House. Did you
Speaker 2: see that? What is that?
Speaker 1: What's the Soho House?
Speaker 2: Soho House is like all right, Dumbo House in New York.
Speaker 1: Oh, you mean a home over? But is it a hotel?
Speaker 2: It is a hotel, but it's also like a member's
Speaker 2: only kind of situation. And you know they get They're
Speaker 2: also building four seasons here Chausta.
Speaker 1: Got that check. Okay. When I think about getting where
Speaker 1: I want to live at like, I love being back home,
Speaker 1: I love being in Charleston. I don't really want to
Speaker 1: move any place else because I mean, I know y'all
Speaker 1: wanted to listen. It's got on me because I said,
Speaker 1: ain't no ocean in Houston, and I stand by that too.
Speaker 1: We got the ocean.
Speaker 2: Well, there's definitely no ocean in Houston. I think it's
Speaker 2: like maybe thirty minutes out you can get to some
Speaker 2: water or something like that.
Speaker 1: No, it's longer than that. It's an hour some change.
Speaker 1: If you got to drive that far, girl, I'm going
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes at the beach.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's like saying eight there's an ocean in Charlotte.
Speaker 2: There's not. I don't know.
Speaker 1: So it's beautiful, hair man, and they got all of
Speaker 1: where I don't know who is affording to live in
Speaker 1: Charleston at this point, Girl, you really got to be
Speaker 1: a millionaire to purchase a home here or look me
Speaker 1: or old them, excuse me, owner, the owners.
Speaker 2: Let's let's be clear.
Speaker 1: Period.
Speaker 2: So getting another museum for symbolism, where cut me the check?
Speaker 1: Where's the money? And aside from the museum stuff? Because
Speaker 1: I didn't actually partake in those things, I just you know,
Speaker 1: worked out, went to the river, put my feet. There's
Speaker 1: a lot did I did a lot of grounding this weekend.
Speaker 1: I suggest everybody to walk around barefoot. Sometimes we are
Speaker 1: literally walking around two inches off the ground. You're not
Speaker 1: grounding when you have shoes on, like you're not getting that.
Speaker 2: Connection to the earth energy.
Speaker 1: Yes, you need it.
Speaker 2: I left something out. My sister, my older sister, Tanisha,
Speaker 2: drove down from DC. They're on their way to Alabama.
Speaker 2: They're moving there, I know. And uh, she was supposed
Speaker 2: to teach me that. To me, a man, I can't
Speaker 2: learn that ship to save my life.
Speaker 1: The dance, yeah, man, how many? Wasn't so many fucking steps?
Speaker 2: Like get somebody else?
Speaker 1: But why why? I didn't know that there was a
Speaker 1: whole dance for Remember Lloyd Young Lloyd's song, the song
Speaker 1: he had with lo Wayne I Want You.
Speaker 2: It's a dance for that. Like where was I dance?
Speaker 2: Where did you get the nigga memo? I don't get it.
Speaker 2: I didn't get it to me a memo they need
Speaker 2: to put like somebody need to do an instruction on that,
Speaker 2: motherfucker because.
Speaker 1: It's almost like line dancing.
Speaker 2: You know it is line dancing. It's not like it
Speaker 2: is exactly line dancing. Yeah, that's why white people be
Speaker 2: so good at I see so many white people doing it.
Speaker 2: To me a dance online like boy to white people
Speaker 2: know they can line dance.
Speaker 1: I got brown skin, but it bitch, don't have no
Speaker 1: coordination to be doing all that shit. Man, Listen, I'm black,
Speaker 1: but with the rhythm. I got it in the bedroom though,
Speaker 1: but not on the dance floor. But you can't do it.
Speaker 2: Light that with a dicky.
Speaker 1: Hey, let's get into the stupid internet, dudes.
Speaker 2: BNCH.
Speaker 1: Did y'all watch the BET Awards?
Speaker 2: This is the one piece we probably didn't see on
Speaker 2: the awards, but it's all over social media today.
Speaker 1: Jt and low Luzy vert getting into an argument at
Speaker 1: the twenty twenty three b to Bet Awards that resulted
Speaker 1: in her throwing her phone at the Philly Rapper in
Speaker 1: the middle of the awards. She said, you fucking groopy
Speaker 1: jt Yl's at the Just one a rock rapper before
Speaker 1: throwing herself on a hit nowsy with it. Bitch, don't
Speaker 1: ever try me like that, bitch ass nigga like abuse. Yes, abused.
Speaker 1: I don't never condone abuse me neither.
Speaker 2: I mean, I get there, I've been there, but I
Speaker 2: do not condone. We hear and we talk back. Do
Speaker 2: not condone abuse. But I get why she was upset
Speaker 2: because it says the other speculation that she might have
Speaker 2: been upset because in his song that he performed, which
Speaker 2: is a new song off the Pink Tape. At the
Speaker 2: Pink Tape out Boom, he mentions the munch Rapper saying, uh,
Speaker 2: he won a wife look like Ice Spice.
Speaker 1: So the larycs didn't actually say say that. The lyric says,
Speaker 1: fucking on these sluts. I got a nice wife. I'm
Speaker 1: fucking the dog shit out this bitch. Her weight came
Speaker 1: off twice. She had a low fro, look like Ice Spice.
Speaker 1: That's actually the way.
Speaker 2: That bad, I mean hip hop.
Speaker 1: I've been needing all the details, the details. No, that
Speaker 1: wasn't that bad. And I guess he performed this song
Speaker 1: at the BET Awards right before, excuse me, right before
Speaker 1: she threw the phone at him. She ain't like that.
Speaker 1: And then he has a picture with Ice Spice, So
Speaker 1: I guess all the boys are on Ice Spice, I
Speaker 1: mean Ice Spice JT. I wouldn't even I would have
Speaker 1: just left the awards alone, like you're not about to
Speaker 1: play with me over this, right, I'm out because j
Speaker 1: C JT is fine. She's beautiful, right, so, I mean
Speaker 1: a lot of times like men are very visual, right,
Speaker 1: so he's looking a fat ass, whatever the case may be. Girl,
Speaker 1: I would not have let him get the best of
Speaker 1: me in front of.
Speaker 2: All the world awards, the world, everybody. You heard the EVT.
Speaker 1: Awards, because listen, that shit was a little ratchet.
Speaker 2: It was a lot of ratchet. The whole thing was
Speaker 2: I loved every minute of it. Speaking of city girls,
Speaker 2: Young Miami did Jason Lee show recently and there's clips
Speaker 2: going around of her speaking about her daughter, and Jason
Speaker 2: Lee asked her, did how she felt about her daughter,
Speaker 2: who's three years old right now, being a city girl,
Speaker 2: and her response, and I quote this, I want her
Speaker 2: race totally different. I don't even want her to see
Speaker 2: the light of day like that, Like I just really
Speaker 2: want her to be like level headed, a schoolgirl, and
Speaker 2: just on a whole other way. She doesn't want her
Speaker 2: daughter to be a city girl. What is a city
Speaker 2: girl anyway? Although there isn't a definition, for the most part,
Speaker 2: it seems to be a woman who prioritizes her bag,
Speaker 2: is sexually empowered, and only deals with men who can
Speaker 2: help up level her financially. Some people compare them The
Speaker 2: gold Diggers and the other season as empowered women throwing
Speaker 2: duces to the patriarchy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I see both. Right. We know that
Speaker 1: Young Miami is not throwing duces to the patriarchy because
Speaker 1: she is in a harem right now, right and she
Speaker 1: doesn't want that same life for her daughter. The thing
Speaker 1: is in the black community, we always be like, oh,
Speaker 1: do as I say, not as I do, which is
Speaker 1: very stupid because children and most people learn from action
Speaker 1: what you're actually doing.
Speaker 2: Now what you to say?
Speaker 1: What are you doing? What are you showing so you
Speaker 1: can't that's a hypocrite, And I mean we do it
Speaker 1: all the time. You always see hypocrites. You want one
Speaker 1: thing for your kid. Meanwhile you're on as a city girl.
Speaker 2: And these other women is giving their baby city girl
Speaker 2: birthday parties, you know.
Speaker 1: So you know, I don't know, man, but I.
Speaker 2: Can understand wanting different for your kid, you know, wanting
Speaker 2: better than what.
Speaker 1: You have for your kid.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, that's how it's supposed to be. You want your
Speaker 1: child to be better than you. Absolutely. But as a
Speaker 1: public figure, you have this social responsibility that a lot
Speaker 1: of people don't like to take on, but you do.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Right, So you know one thing I agree with a
Speaker 1: lot of people don't be agreeing with Kanye. Kanye was
Speaker 1: reading the rap lyrics. He was like, this is anti black.
Speaker 1: Nothing I do is anti black. These the rap lyrics
Speaker 1: be anti black as funk. Also at the BT Awards,
Speaker 1: did you see sexy.
Speaker 2: Red, Poundtown, pound Town. Now, I like Poundtown. I like
Speaker 2: going to Poundtown often. Okay, it should it be a
Speaker 2: song about your booty. Holy a pussy being paid.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. And they're a pregnant
Speaker 1: woman's working on you. Krishan Rock was working on her
Speaker 1: pregnant on one of the owls at the BT Awards
Speaker 1: on Sexy rerad. It's just I don't know.
Speaker 2: I just you know what. I just chopped it up.
Speaker 2: As it's twenty twenty three.
Speaker 1: This shit getting wild at hell out here?
Speaker 2: Man, this is real stupid internet news. Well all of
Speaker 2: this shit was today in it.
Speaker 1: So did you see that Elon Musk is trying to
Speaker 1: ban the words CIS and cis gender from Twitter. This
Speaker 1: is actually not super in that news because I actually
Speaker 1: agree with that one thousand percent. I did not sign
Speaker 1: up to be called cis CIS. I signed up.
Speaker 2: I gotta say it before when I was listening to
Speaker 2: y'all in the meet and I was like, well, I came,
Speaker 2: I say sis all the time, Hey Suz, not to
Speaker 2: a man, but I didn't know what sis? Can you
Speaker 2: define cis gender?
Speaker 1: So sis gender is essentially the opposite of trans. So
Speaker 1: it's the opposite. Yeah, So it's a heterosexual person and
Speaker 1: we're heterosexual. Where does CIS come from? This is the
Speaker 1: opposite of trans is what SIS is?
Speaker 2: It's so much to keep up with.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I agree, man, I feel like there has
Speaker 1: to be them. Is the stuff that I feel like
Speaker 1: something is some changes on the way, right, the things
Speaker 1: that these the initiatives that these people have been pushing
Speaker 1: may not be aligned with the LGBT community, and a
Speaker 1: lot of people in that community are now speaking out
Speaker 1: against it. Right, I'm talking about as far as with
Speaker 1: the children and all the name changes and the pronouns
Speaker 1: all that stuff. It's cool, it's fine, do what you
Speaker 1: do at your house, yeah, right, but it should not
Speaker 1: be You should not be chang trying to change the
Speaker 1: culture of everybody to accommodate you. So that's what we're
Speaker 1: seeing now on Twitter. People don't want to be called that.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't want to be called SIS. It's
Speaker 1: heterosexual s I is, but not cis, right, Yeah, you
Speaker 1: can call me SIS. Yeah. To add on to this
Speaker 1: particular superd Internet news, so Mark Zecklelerberg and Elon Musk
Speaker 1: is supposed to be doing a fucking cage fight, bitch,
Speaker 1: You you got Elon fifty nine? Mark Zecklerberg is thirty nine? Uh,
Speaker 1: but Elon is from South Africa? Who you got?
Speaker 2: I think I might have to go with Elon?
Speaker 1: Honestly, Yeah, I'm with Elon.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I just feel like he's gonna karate chop that
Speaker 2: nigga inside.
Speaker 1: Of the bitch. I don't even think either one of
Speaker 1: them actually exists. I think they're both AI. So let
Speaker 1: the computers fight, right.
Speaker 2: What movie was that where like they both punched each
Speaker 2: other in the face and they both like passed out.
Speaker 2: I would love for that to happen. Just knock each
Speaker 2: other out at the same time.
Speaker 1: Then Twitter go down and Facebook go down.
Speaker 2: Boom.
Speaker 1: Well, listen, y'all, it is summertime, and what y'all doing
Speaker 1: for y'all vacations? I'm sick of going to the beach
Speaker 1: with bitches. I need to be when I get off
Speaker 1: the beach. Why you whisper it? I need to be
Speaker 1: That's what I want to be doing when I get
Speaker 1: off the beach. I do not want to be in
Speaker 1: a room full of drunk ass bitches or a villa
Speaker 1: full of drunk ass women.
Speaker 2: Eat each other on vacations sometimes.
Speaker 1: Bitch, that's the trips you be on.
Speaker 2: There ain't no trip I've never I've never done that. Honestly,
Speaker 2: I've never done that. I promise y'all. I've never done that.
Speaker 2: But it does happen.
Speaker 1: Wait, you never ate you never did on a trip.
Speaker 1: Y'all will be back from a commercial. It's just a moment.
Speaker 1: Let's get into the show. What's up, y'all. We black
Speaker 1: at it again. It's AJ here with weed talk back.
Speaker 1: What's up?
Speaker 2: Tim?
Speaker 1: Okay, y'all.
Speaker 2: Hey y'all, it's BTM ban.
Speaker 1: I love y'all.
Speaker 2: Thank y'all for coming back again.
Speaker 1: We talked back TV.
Speaker 2: What's going on the ship.
Speaker 1: I'm hungover again, bitch, get again? You are not practicing
Speaker 1: self love?
Speaker 2: Okay? And I can't drink no more.
Speaker 1: Don't bitch our body. Don't process. Alcoholics are like.
Speaker 2: The smallest amount because I didn't drink a lot, but
Speaker 2: I just feel bad the next day.
Speaker 1: I put them a little ass five percent simply lemonades.
Speaker 2: I love those, and not just because they give us
Speaker 2: a check.
Speaker 1: It's a little buzz. You got a little buzz. You
Speaker 1: better stick to that ship. I know for sure. I
Speaker 1: can't drink certain liquors, so I try to stick to
Speaker 1: what I know. Don leo, I might can do uh
Speaker 1: some douce say that's about it.
Speaker 2: It's a I'm a tequila girl, and I'll like I can.
Speaker 2: I'll start real bougie in nineteen forty two, but by
Speaker 2: the end of the night, I'll be like, what y'all
Speaker 2: gotta left?
Speaker 1: Then, MO, fuck up?
Speaker 2: Give me.
Speaker 1: I returned to my uncle Kloyd bitch the hose quirbled.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I just gotta do better. It's it's hot outside,
Speaker 2: though it's hard, it's weird wintertime. I'll be like, Okay,
Speaker 2: it's just weird for me. But when it's.
Speaker 1: Hot, it's both. Yeah, I'll be having a pick now.
Speaker 1: I don't understand how people can smoke and drink like
Speaker 1: I got to pick. And I don't smoke outside either
Speaker 1: when I'm about to get some dick. No.
Speaker 2: I smoke when I read. I smoke when I'm watching TV.
Speaker 1: I can.
Speaker 2: I will even smoke before I go to bedside Baptist church.
Speaker 2: I just feel closer to God.
Speaker 1: So I don't know.
Speaker 2: Hi, Yeah, there's actually a church in Louisiana. It's an
Speaker 2: outdoor black church where they smoke weed during the sermon.
Speaker 1: See if I can get some shit like that with
Speaker 1: a nigga like Reverend Ike preaching, I would definitely go
Speaker 1: to church every Sunday.
Speaker 2: Reverend Ike, I don't know, y'all know who.
Speaker 1: Reverend Ike is passed away now, No, Reverend Ike is
Speaker 1: an old reverend like you can find his videos on YouTube.
Speaker 1: But this niggas actually from Ridgeville, South Carolina, I think.
Speaker 1: But he was a big minister. But he preached about
Speaker 1: like manifestation and shit like that, like the God and you.
Speaker 1: He was not lying to the congregation. He talked a
Speaker 1: lot about money too, and how you get it. Like
Speaker 1: one thing I took from Reverend I he said, stop
Speaker 1: saying spend be could spend this final like I need.
Speaker 1: I just spent this. I just bought this and I
Speaker 1: didn't spend my money. He said, to use the word
Speaker 1: circulate so it comes back. So, bitch, I'm circulating money
Speaker 1: going forward, the circulator. I ain't spending pussy. Well, you
Speaker 1: can't get it back. What's this gone? You can't see
Speaker 1: it's so final. You can't get your pussy back from
Speaker 1: a fucking fun boy, And like it's overweight.
Speaker 2: And that's what when Drake said one time, that's fine
Speaker 2: with me. The different I was like, I was mad
Speaker 2: on the cellular level.
Speaker 1: Like not a cellular level, because you know, we can't
Speaker 1: get that pussy bag gave it out, girl, it'd be
Speaker 1: the worst women be talking about. Oh his dick.
Speaker 2: You he still got the pussy, right, even if it's small,
Speaker 2: Like he hit that pussy with that little dick and.
Speaker 1: You loved it. You was loving it. He still pleased
Speaker 1: you with that day, right.
Speaker 2: That takes us to our top.
Speaker 1: All right, yeah, bitch, No, you're drinking takes us to
Speaker 1: the topic. Okay, self love is what we want to
Speaker 1: talk about today. I'd be loving myself out there. Take
Speaker 1: me too, man, go go go. I don't like drinking
Speaker 1: at home, so I'm not one of them people. So
Speaker 1: it has to be social drinking from me. If I'm
Speaker 1: an outside, I gotta drink outside. I'm not about to
Speaker 1: when I'm outside sober, everybody else drunk I want to.
Speaker 2: It's weird, Yeah, like you just sitting there looking stupid
Speaker 2: in the face, Like if you don't get drunk and
Speaker 2: get on this damn bar with me, right, Yeah, I
Speaker 2: feel the same. I have gone out like, oh, I'm detoxing.
Speaker 2: I can't drink with y'all, and everybody's like, boo, you're
Speaker 2: fucking lame right now, and it feels lame. It does.
Speaker 2: So I just trying to know if I'm detoxing. I
Speaker 2: just won't go who is like, you know, like, why
Speaker 2: are you here? Right? You're looking up self?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Definitions I like to read, like you know, yeah, so anyway,
Speaker 1: So self love is defined as love of self for
Speaker 1: duh right, or regard for one's own happiness or advantage.
Speaker 1: And it's been conceptualized both as a basic human necessity
Speaker 1: and as a moral flaw to have self love. You know,
Speaker 1: I was just having a conversation.
Speaker 2: Self love might be perceived as being narcisseded.
Speaker 1: I was just having a conversation with my mom the
Speaker 1: other day because my nephew, he's amazing, right the niggas
Speaker 1: a genius. He'll probably go to the NFL if he doesn't.
Speaker 1: He could do anything he wants to do in his world.
Speaker 1: He's like one of the top students in South Carolina.
Speaker 1: And they were home for a Memorial Day and he asked,
Speaker 1: my mom, you know, we just had standardized tests, and
Speaker 1: which you think I made on my tests, and my
Speaker 1: mom was like, well, eighty five something, and he looked
Speaker 1: at her.
Speaker 2: Like, like, girl, you don't know who I am?
Speaker 1: He was. She was like, what what you make a hundred?
Speaker 1: He was like yes, Like why would you think I
Speaker 1: made it eighty five? Like who you thought I was?
Speaker 1: And she she didn't perceive that conversation like I did.
Speaker 1: I'm like, he the shit, like why would you think
Speaker 1: he made eighty five? Why would you think less than
Speaker 1: a hundred? So she said that he needed to be
Speaker 1: more humble. So I proceeded to pull up the definitions
Speaker 1: of those words like humble. Let's look at it right quick,
Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna teach my I want to teach
Speaker 1: my kids to be respectful and stuff like that, but
Speaker 1: I don't know that I'm gonna teach them to be
Speaker 1: humble for real. So humble it says having or showing
Speaker 1: a modest or low estimate of one's own importance. He
Speaker 1: was humble about it about his stature. That's the like
Speaker 1: the you know the well.
Speaker 2: I think it's important to teach people to be humble
Speaker 2: and have some humility, right, It's okay to like.
Speaker 1: Lower in importance. That's another one lower like lower you're important,
Speaker 1: like you're lower than other people, and then.
Speaker 2: You being humble, it's being lower than others. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: don't know. I think.
Speaker 1: That's the definition. That's the definition of being humble.
Speaker 2: To your own horn. But I also think it's okay
Speaker 2: to realize that we're all going in the grave. So
Speaker 2: nobody's better than anybody else. Right, We're all the same.
Speaker 1: At the end of the day week, I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm better than a lot of the people who be
Speaker 1: comming and nasty shit in our Instagram.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but we all of us gotta die, so we are.
Speaker 1: A couple of times, I'm coming to tell you one thing.
Speaker 2: It makes me realize that we are all the same.
Speaker 2: The most vulnerable anybody is is when they're taking the ship.
Speaker 2: Right when you're in there taking a ship, you're just
Speaker 2: a regular human being trying living.
Speaker 1: That's Beyonce, ta shit, she takes a ship.
Speaker 2: Yo, she takes a ship.
Speaker 1: Women don't take ships.
Speaker 2: We're all the same. We're all the same. We all dying.
Speaker 2: We all ship, And if you're not shipping, you're dying already, so.
Speaker 1: Should or died trying.
Speaker 2: So we all have the same. So that just makes me,
Speaker 2: remind me not to look down on anybody.
Speaker 1: And not I don't really look down on people, but
Speaker 1: abody else Nah, absolutely not, I don't nobody, Yes, walking
Speaker 1: around like telling people having that that that you know. No,
Speaker 1: but narcissist has a positive definition. Really, yeah, that's reading
Speaker 1: to me, it does. Maybe I have a little let's
Speaker 1: see it's perception. Let's see what narcissists narcissists. Uh. Personality
Speaker 1: qualities include thinking very highly of oneself, needing admiration, and
Speaker 1: that could be considered negative, right, Believing others are inferior. Yes,
Speaker 1: that's negative.
Speaker 2: But the first sentence, like thinking highly of yourself, you
Speaker 2: could be seen as a narcissist. So that's to me,
Speaker 2: that's a positive definition. But in society, being a narcissist
Speaker 2: very negative, right, you know what I'm saying. Definitely a
Speaker 2: negative to be narcissists.
Speaker 1: I think everybody has a little bit of narcissism. I
Speaker 1: think the same thing with ego.
Speaker 2: It's about balance.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but some people can be diagnosed as a narcissist.
Speaker 1: That's a little bit different when you clinically diagnosed as
Speaker 1: a fucking narc It's two different things. But let's get
Speaker 1: back on topic. So we're talking about self love. So
Speaker 1: there's a lot of things in media right now, a
Speaker 1: lot of things going on. You know, it's summertime, it's June.
Speaker 1: People trying to get their body together, mommy makeovers, all
Speaker 1: the good stuff. You know, you want to do a
Speaker 1: little nip snuck. I'm not against that niptuck. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: not against that.
Speaker 2: Whatever you need to do neither to just make sure
Speaker 2: you're doing it for the right reasons, right because I
Speaker 2: know oftentimes women say.
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm doing it for me. I'm not doing it
Speaker 1: for men. But a lot of women get that ass
Speaker 1: so they can show it to niggas.
Speaker 2: Like niggas like ass.
Speaker 1: I mean, like they like it, but are they wifing it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a lot of asses that got wiped up.
Speaker 1: It's a lot of I'm single though, it's a lot
Speaker 1: of single asses.
Speaker 2: I'm sitting on the fant one right now.
Speaker 1: You don't buy it though, That's what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 1: we didn't buy the ass, so it's just different.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So now I noticed some women like when they get
Speaker 1: that new ass, they cannot take any more pictures from
Speaker 1: the front.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, well why I did even used to that
Speaker 2: as if you invested that much money. My profile pictures
Speaker 2: that ass right, they taking one hundred and forty seven
Speaker 2: dollars every moore.
Speaker 1: Some people may perceive that as someone who doesn't have
Speaker 1: self love. I don't think so, though, when they start
Speaker 1: doing like too many surgeries, Like I know, there's this
Speaker 1: one girl she's like being in Atlanta. I thought she
Speaker 1: was a guy, but she's a woman because she has children.
Speaker 1: But she has had like a hundred surgeries, and at
Speaker 1: this point, to me, she looks botched. But and it
Speaker 1: doesn't look like self love. Once you change your whole
Speaker 1: shit up, you know, you.
Speaker 2: Know somewhat call that body dysmorphia when you start doing
Speaker 2: so much to yourself and then and then you know,
Speaker 2: going under the knife that many times, it's dangerous. I
Speaker 2: mean every time you put your body through that, right,
Speaker 2: you take a level of danger for yourself. Right, So
Speaker 2: I mean at one hundred surgeries, obviously she's doing it
Speaker 2: for her at this point. I mean, it's about what
Speaker 2: make her happy. And if she happy and she ain't dead.
Speaker 1: Then about But it's the way you perceive yourself because
Speaker 1: you're not practicing self love. So when you look in
Speaker 1: the mirror like somebody else. And I mean, like somebody
Speaker 1: can tell you, girl, you look good, but we know
Speaker 1: that if I don't feel good, it has nothing to
Speaker 1: do with what you think I look like, right, and
Speaker 1: it's all to do with how I perceive myself. So now,
Speaker 1: if your brain is like tricking you to say you
Speaker 1: don't look good, you need to fix this. You need
Speaker 1: to do that.
Speaker 2: I think social media really plays a huge part in
Speaker 2: our images as women, Like I mean, people are you know,
Speaker 2: want everybody they making their body all look the exact
Speaker 2: same way.
Speaker 1: Like what was the name of that? Damn Okay, it
Speaker 1: was an episode on the Twilight Zone and I think
Speaker 1: it was the episode was like number eleven or everybody
Speaker 1: wants to look like number eleven. But it's exactly what
Speaker 1: we're seeing right now. It's like, just imagine Kim Kardashian
Speaker 1: being number eleven and everybody going to the factory and
Speaker 1: they want number eleven. That's what we're seeing now.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and a natural like natural women's bodies, like we
Speaker 1: have hip tips and stuff like that, and you shit
Speaker 1: just super rounded out like that's not it's not natural.
Speaker 2: No, But I don't think people, I mean men don't care.
Speaker 2: I meet a lot of men out asking them like,
Speaker 2: do you like fake booties? I'm like, shit, I don't
Speaker 2: give a fuck what kind of booty, long as it's bouncing.
Speaker 2: Like niggas don't care.
Speaker 1: Some of them things don't bounce.
Speaker 2: I heard right, some of them known, but they said
Speaker 2: as long as they bouncing, they haven't. So I mean,
Speaker 2: I don't think men really care if it's real or not.
Speaker 2: You know, so that's not true.
Speaker 1: I think ment because we can just look on social
Speaker 1: media a lot of the things that women do. Men
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck about them, like we are. We
Speaker 1: got the stretch marks some niggas love, they love the
Speaker 1: tiger stripes like they don't care nothing about half the
Speaker 1: ship we give a fuck about. But I also say this, now, now,
Speaker 1: let me just be looking fucked up like too many
Speaker 1: days in a row. Now you're saying some shit to me,
Speaker 1: Like all right now, bitch, while you look like that,
Speaker 1: when you will get your hair done. That's happened too
Speaker 1: with the natural hair shit. I know that it takes.
Speaker 1: I don't think men realize how long it takes to
Speaker 1: do your natural hair. I don't think they realize a
Speaker 1: process it takes for black women to actually tage.
Speaker 2: But we're talking self love, then we should just let
Speaker 2: our hair do what it does, and it wouldn't take
Speaker 2: long if we just approach.
Speaker 1: We can say the same thing with wolf pussy down.
Speaker 1: So you want me to walk around this wolf pussy
Speaker 1: out the side of this damn panty.
Speaker 2: I mean, if we're talking about self loves, God wanted
Speaker 2: your pussy to be hairless. He would have made it hairless,
Speaker 2: right right, But.
Speaker 1: But we can't look it'd be looking like that little
Speaker 1: thing on the camera.
Speaker 2: In summertime. Remember that little girl was getting her hair
Speaker 2: braided about her mom and she's like, what's wrong with you?
Speaker 2: She like, I probably I promised that pussy was hairy.
Speaker 1: Sometimes people have her mono and balances like it may
Speaker 1: not even be that the ship is Harry Harry. They
Speaker 1: may need to change their diets. Some of you eat
Speaker 1: and making it spunge at your pores a little bit
Speaker 1: more asparagus girl. One time is the worst y ever.
Speaker 1: One time I had I was thinking, like, wait, what
Speaker 1: the fuck did I do? Listen, I'm gonna be honest
Speaker 1: with y'all, And I thought I was tripping until Oprah
Speaker 1: talked about the ship. One day on the show, I
Speaker 1: eat crab legs very sparingly because yeah, like I literally
Speaker 1: only eat crab legs with my period on crusty krab
Speaker 1: Like when I know I'm not pussy, eat some crab
Speaker 1: legs and it's still like only occasionally because I already
Speaker 1: know what time it is. It's like almost immediately, but
Speaker 1: I can get it back right because our juice, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, our juice after eating the crab legs.
Speaker 1: That's really what it balls down to. You literally are
Speaker 1: what you eat. But bitch, I'm a mermaid. Okay, that
Speaker 1: lets you know, like women like we eat from the sea.
Speaker 1: Like you don't think so, like why why does that happen?
Speaker 2: Why?
Speaker 1: Why problem when you eat fish? Never know?
Speaker 2: But asparagus really does mean.
Speaker 1: I just think I know that I'm leaning more towards NAIs.
Speaker 1: I love seafood.
Speaker 2: Y'all would make my pussies spell, like I need to
Speaker 2: go to the hospital.
Speaker 1: But it's not really a pussy though. It's when I
Speaker 1: pee your pee. Yeah, everybody right, Nigga's not crab flags
Speaker 1: do a number, That's what I'm saying. Men eat asparagus
Speaker 1: and they gonna it's gonna smell like.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's for everybody. Okay, yeah, I thought it was
Speaker 2: just like my body just do not agree with what's
Speaker 2: your blood type?
Speaker 1: You know it?
Speaker 2: Oh I don't know it. Yeah.
Speaker 1: See, you're supposed to eat for your blood types, and
Speaker 1: my blood type calls for fruits, vegetable and light fish.
Speaker 1: And just without even knowing that, like without even studying,
Speaker 1: like what I need to eat for my blood type,
Speaker 1: your body was telling me, yes, that's what I need
Speaker 1: to be doing. So when I eat fish, like it
Speaker 1: literally comes out of me. So I have to limit
Speaker 1: the fish and take listen, y'all. I don't just be
Speaker 1: walking around with sink pussy, I promise, Okay. I pride
Speaker 1: myself a good hygiene. If you ever see sometime I
Speaker 1: have a bad fucking day, you got a yummy crab today.
Speaker 1: I'm just asking you know what kills me? My niggas
Speaker 1: on the internet, like people not even on the Internet,
Speaker 1: and just in real life, like Menn'll talk shit about
Speaker 1: women and like how they smell and all that shit,
Speaker 1: But you still hit that pussy like you still hit it.
Speaker 1: Like we talk about little dick, they'll hit the pussy
Speaker 1: and talk about it afterwards like, oh, she didn't did
Speaker 1: you hit Yeah? I did. Well.
Speaker 2: I know a lot of men that will turn down
Speaker 2: as you should have some self respect.
Speaker 1: Yes, I have some self love, but it.
Speaker 2: Is niggas who will hit her from the back of
Speaker 2: the hole.
Speaker 1: They brother, I'm going in, I'm going in. I didn't
Speaker 1: even get hard for that. You're nasty, nigga, Right, you're nasty.
Speaker 2: And that doesn't mean the woman is actually a nasty woman.
Speaker 2: I feel you have a bad Yeah, pH might be
Speaker 2: off for whatever.
Speaker 1: I remember one of my home girls, she was like, man,
Speaker 1: I looks so good today. Man, my pussy is stink
Speaker 1: fucking with a like messed up.
Speaker 2: Knock her phr.
Speaker 1: Yes, you can literally be allergic to a man biscuits
Speaker 1: and that's not self love. Get away from that, nigga.
Speaker 2: If if he's causing you have it like mentally and
Speaker 2: giving you stinkuchie, Like, why are you what? I do?
Speaker 2: Feel like when you first start like sleeping a man,
Speaker 2: it'll knock your pH off. No, just I feel like
Speaker 2: anytime the first time.
Speaker 1: And that's like a signal to me that I shouldn't
Speaker 1: be fucking with you. You mean the first time you
Speaker 1: smashed raw.
Speaker 2: Right, anytime you have like raw sex with someone, I
Speaker 2: don't think so.
Speaker 1: I feel like because there's there's been men that I,
Speaker 1: you know, was intimate with, and I feel like, shit,
Speaker 1: that's my mate. We match.
Speaker 2: Maybe I don't have like raw sex enough that when
Speaker 2: I do, my body.
Speaker 1: Is like where is the plastic? Or maybe because that
Speaker 1: dick been someplace else in between time and every dick.
Speaker 2: That I do that to you, that's not the first
Speaker 2: time I have raw sex. Yeah, knocked off on top,
Speaker 2: knocked off my square already know right away. But that's
Speaker 2: why I don't do it though.
Speaker 1: You whack bitch, live a little love a lettle. There's
Speaker 1: somebody else to do it. Do it, bitch a little
Speaker 1: like let me tell y'all, tell me be lying that bitch,
Speaker 1: be fucking raw.
Speaker 2: Give me that skin.
Speaker 1: I could literally be like all those skin condoms actually
Speaker 1: are very good and add a little lube to it.
Speaker 1: It feels like.
Speaker 2: Nothinglub to it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, on the outside, Yeah, my couchie does not stay
Speaker 1: wet the entire time with a condem Yeah.
Speaker 2: Because you can do on the outside it could break. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I don't like even I could be super aroused, like
Speaker 2: I gotta do a lot of extra ship to stay wet.
Speaker 1: With the condom I do.
Speaker 2: Maybe my body is just used to condem Yeah, plastic pussy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, got that peep that pepp Okay, So listen, let's
Speaker 1: let's talk about let's actually talk about sound self love.
Speaker 1: So we talked about and we're gonna have a whole episode,
Speaker 1: y'all and bring on some guests, some friends of mine.
Speaker 1: And I said this a couple of times. We just
Speaker 1: haven't organized, but I think it's really important. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because again I want to make sure
Speaker 1: are you getting the surgery for you? Tell me and
Speaker 1: I are two organic ass women, right, So while y'all
Speaker 1: on the internet talking all ship, this is what women
Speaker 1: look like. We have minimal enhancements. I wear fucking weave lashes.
Speaker 1: Weave lashes. That's it right, that's it right. So you
Speaker 1: got to be like some girl. There's nothing wrong with
Speaker 1: them titties, y'all. Look at tam titty. Is anything wrong
Speaker 1: with them titties? I'll give you some of these on
Speaker 1: somebo that I had these cities. My titty to arm
Speaker 1: ratio is just not right. Ain't nothing wrong with them
Speaker 1: titties man. One of my homegirls had added some titties man,
Speaker 1: and she didn't she didn't appreciate it. Afterwards, she had
Speaker 1: a lot of like buyer's remorse after getting them tasty here. Yes,
Speaker 1: you don't want to feel like that. She's into them now.
Speaker 1: She's good with him, but initially. And then I have
Speaker 1: another friend who love her titties. Girl, she bitch cannot
Speaker 1: not show people them titties.
Speaker 2: I just feel like a nigga, Like if I don't
Speaker 2: do something by the time of my fifty to go
Speaker 2: up like this.
Speaker 1: Niggas already have.
Speaker 2: Listen, I loot it out them here baby, Like, if
Speaker 2: I see they struggling next stretched a little bit too
Speaker 2: much trying to get that titty, I just pull it
Speaker 2: over for them, Like.
Speaker 1: What is that not normal?
Speaker 2: And I guess you're right. I guess you by that time,
Speaker 2: I'll be like by that time, so I guess that's
Speaker 2: normal for a thirty five year old tits.
Speaker 1: So girl, my mom at is seventy and she still
Speaker 1: walking around bunks and her titties because she got really
Speaker 1: nice titties and she will talk shit, isn't yeah, because'
Speaker 1: y'all be letting boys pull on your titties. She got
Speaker 1: like the best titties. Yes, And she always say, you know,
Speaker 1: if you could fit, if you can hold a pencil
Speaker 1: on your titties, they too big. She was shaming us
Speaker 1: me and all messes got big titties.
Speaker 2: My mom won't hold no pencil. Inn there it yet.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she like, your titties is too big if you
Speaker 1: can hold a pencil.
Speaker 2: When I like back my titties just like, it's like
Speaker 2: your eggs over.
Speaker 1: Easy, they don't. Yeah, I don't know, but has any
Speaker 1: man ever complained about them titties? That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Like we'd be so hard on ourselves. One of my
Speaker 1: homegirls said I was hard on myself because I wore stockings.
Speaker 1: She was like, well, I would never even think to
Speaker 1: wear it.
Speaker 2: I don't feel like you need those because I saw
Speaker 2: your legs yesterday and I was like, do you have
Speaker 2: the stockings? And you were like no. I was like,
Speaker 2: they look exactly the same with the stockers.
Speaker 1: But there's a little bit. But then I showed you right,
Speaker 1: I had like a little scar right here on my knee.
Speaker 2: Nobody could even see that fucking scar.
Speaker 1: And I scratched my knee. Yeah, people can, I can
Speaker 1: see it. And that to me, doing a ten dollars
Speaker 1: adjustment is self love as opposed to going and trying
Speaker 1: to do some bleaching and everything. To me, that's when
Speaker 1: you are getting in a dangerous space. Multibody.
Speaker 2: Everybody heard their thing right, Because I got like varicose
Speaker 2: veins from standing from doing hair for all these years
Speaker 2: on the side of my leg and like on my chin.
Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck about that. I'm not gonna
Speaker 2: eat that's my white blood. I'm not gonna do that
Speaker 2: like surgery, yeah, or put like foundation on my legs.
Speaker 2: I don't care about that. But what I do is
Speaker 2: I do care about my chin. Sometimes I have two.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I have one. Summer time, I try to have one,
Speaker 2: you know, typically just one for the summer months, two
Speaker 2: extra one. It's more of me to love. But when
Speaker 2: I do have the second one, baby, I'm in there
Speaker 2: with that contour stick. I have done all the chin surgeries,
Speaker 2: like not even the surgery like the.
Speaker 1: Cop bell evasive things.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I did coy Bella on my chin one time.
Speaker 2: Shit didn't work. I tried pdo threads that didn't work.
Speaker 2: That was the two things that I've done, and I
Speaker 2: was like, you know what, this is just the chin.
Speaker 2: God want to be thed.
Speaker 1: I love the chin, your bitch. Yeah, real man, we
Speaker 1: gotta just be like you know, I fuck it man,
Speaker 1: it's me. It's me. And you know they men talk
Speaker 1: about us doing the small enhancements or big enhancement. They
Speaker 1: talk shit about both of them. They talk shit about
Speaker 1: natural they talk shit about surgery. Women too. Yeah, women
Speaker 1: are very hard. I don't. I don't what what the
Speaker 1: fuck is wrong with humans? Dog?
Speaker 2: Mean?
Speaker 1: Let me just get more.
Speaker 2: Dogs in the world. We are very mean. No them dogs,
Speaker 2: I tell you about them. Dollars on my elevator. They
Speaker 2: don't fuck with each other like that either.
Speaker 1: So let's talk about some ways to cultivate self love.
Speaker 1: So I was able to find a couple of things.
Speaker 1: So there's this is six ways to cultivate self love.
Speaker 1: So practicing self love doesn't have to mean expensive activities
Speaker 1: like booking your weeking at a resort. The focus is
Speaker 1: paying attention and caring for your knees and could be
Speaker 1: as simple as a five minute break to disconnect. So
Speaker 1: just meditation right quick. I feel like I meditate all
Speaker 1: day long, especially when I'm driving. People may not consider
Speaker 1: that meditation because they have their eyes open.
Speaker 2: Nod.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I turn the radio off, and that's that's really
Speaker 1: when I between that and the shower is when I
Speaker 1: have my most intimate deep thoughts.
Speaker 2: Water is a good kinduit for meditation. Yes, ooh, baths.
Speaker 1: I like to do seaweed baths out and I bitch that.
Speaker 1: Listen y'all trying to lose five pounds right quick? Do
Speaker 1: a hot ass seaweed bath. That detox really will knock
Speaker 1: five pounds off.
Speaker 2: R oh, I have to try that. I eat seaweed,
Speaker 2: but I've never based.
Speaker 1: So if you go to the Asian markets, they sell
Speaker 1: like they sell like like big sheets of seaweed. They
Speaker 1: kind of like, you know, plastic, but once you put
Speaker 1: them in the water, they swell so by like a
Speaker 1: pack of them, and I don't know how many it's
Speaker 1: a bunch of sheets in one little pack, like five
Speaker 1: to ten dollars or something like that. I'm gonna try
Speaker 1: to put in a bath so we.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna put on the little Mary Mary.
Speaker 1: Bitch, Yes, I put candles run.
Speaker 2: The bathtub smoking.
Speaker 1: That is self love first. Okay, you're gonna lose a
Speaker 1: couple of pounds. You on detox, You're gonna feel good
Speaker 1: after a bad a You're gonna sleep good. That's self
Speaker 1: love and without having to go to a spot keeping
Speaker 1: a journal, a gratitude journal.
Speaker 2: It says, I bought you one of those. Remember did
Speaker 2: you use it? Did you use it?
Speaker 1: I just found it again, okay, and I have started
Speaker 1: using it. Okay, good within the last week. Y'all bought
Speaker 1: that for her, Like that book. It's a book. It's
Speaker 1: just you know, every time I do certain things now,
Speaker 1: I think back to childhood in school and how they
Speaker 1: try to teach you certain things because we had journaling
Speaker 1: in school. We had the lower vocabulary book that all
Speaker 1: of us used to cheat off each other, Like you
Speaker 1: did your vocabulary last night. Now you tried to fill
Speaker 1: in the blinks with another nigga work like they cheated
Speaker 1: off me. I was.
Speaker 2: I was always the girl who.
Speaker 1: Had done the thing. Like those things we didn't understand
Speaker 1: the importance of. And I think if we kind of
Speaker 1: take the time to explain to kids, like why it's important.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, girl, when you get thirty, you're
Speaker 1: gonna wish you were journaling right now right because it
Speaker 1: just helps you keep a clear mind when you write
Speaker 1: down your thoughts right, and then you can revisit it.
Speaker 1: When you write your goals down, you can see, you know,
Speaker 1: measure that.
Speaker 2: But I don't think you should use your social media
Speaker 2: as your journal. And I find that some people do
Speaker 2: that because.
Speaker 1: You might want to raise some shit and that is
Speaker 1: ink you can't.
Speaker 2: And then it's people on there. Some people have your
Speaker 2: best interests at her, but then there are those that don't.
Speaker 2: So you just have to be mindful of that when
Speaker 2: you use social media, especially young millennials. I feel like
Speaker 2: it's mostly them that do that, you know.
Speaker 1: I had comment on something on a page and it
Speaker 1: had a whole bunch of likes, but it also had
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of some positive some negative comments, and
Speaker 1: I went back and I tried to delete it. Don't
Speaker 1: you know, Instagram wouldn't let me delete it. It has
Speaker 1: like one hundred two hundred something comments on it, and
Speaker 1: let me delete it. As if I don't own that
Speaker 1: comment anymore.
Speaker 2: Oh, it may no longer be your intellectual property.
Speaker 1: I'm just thought, I don't want to get that alerts anymore.
Speaker 1: I don't want that alerts no more. Yeah, So I'm like, man,
Speaker 1: what the fuck?
Speaker 2: So you have to be mindful there. But I do
Speaker 2: think journaling is good. You know what I like to
Speaker 2: write down and I do it three six nine times.
Speaker 1: That's the magic number. That's actually the number that unlock
Speaker 1: the matrix. Three six nine.
Speaker 2: Oh really, I do like So I'll do it three times,
Speaker 2: then I'll do it six times, and I do it
Speaker 2: nine times.
Speaker 1: Did you learn that in elementary?
Speaker 2: Uh? Uh, Well, I don't know. I don't remember where
Speaker 2: I got it from, but I'll say It'll say I
Speaker 2: am rich, happy, and wealthy. No, I am rich, happy,
Speaker 2: and fit something like. I can't I can't think of it.
Speaker 2: But then I'll just write it down. I type it
Speaker 2: in my phone three times, and then I'll do it
Speaker 2: six times the next time, and nine times the next time,
Speaker 2: and I just keep doing it whenever I remember to
Speaker 2: do it, and I'll do it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good practice. You know. If you want
Speaker 1: to be fit, you can also just you know, write
Speaker 1: the number down how much you want to weigh, and
Speaker 1: put it on your ski.
Speaker 2: Tell y'all wins the amount she wants to weigh, and
Speaker 2: it's all like a little piece of paper and.
Speaker 1: It's take over with the actual same time I weigh myself. Bitch,
Speaker 1: that's how much I weigh my goal. Wait, that's how
Speaker 1: you manifest like it's not real until you write it down, bitch.
Speaker 1: I mean I wrote that two years ago and I
Speaker 1: was like, bitch, what is this? Bitch? Is how much
Speaker 1: I wait? Mind your business?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: Who checking on sevent I feel my best at one seventy.
Speaker 1: So what it says about the gratitude journal, It says
Speaker 1: a big part of self love is staying present. Dwelling
Speaker 1: over things out of your control can raise feelings and hopelessness, stress,
Speaker 1: and anxiety. Maintaining a gratitude journal can help you stay
Speaker 1: grounded by reminding yourself of what you have to feel
Speaker 1: thankful for right now.
Speaker 2: That's our greatest tool in life, honestly, is gratitude.
Speaker 1: Research suggests remembering that you're thankful kept promote healthy and
Speaker 1: it's linked to self esteem and increases overall happiness.
Speaker 2: I definitely agree with that one. I definitely agree with
Speaker 2: that one. Have y'all ever read The Secret? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Okay, So in The Secret they talk about one lady.
Speaker 1: She was saying how she says thank you a lot
Speaker 1: of times per day, Like from the time I wake up,
Speaker 1: I say thank you. I say thank you when I
Speaker 1: got a shower. I say thank you when I get
Speaker 1: in a shower. Bitch I dodn'et told my car thank you,
Speaker 1: but that bitch broke down the next day, so I
Speaker 1: was like, bitch, fuck you. But yeah, I say thank
Speaker 1: you a lot during the day because even when you
Speaker 1: think your situation is like fucked up, you don't see
Speaker 1: a way out, and somebody else got it worse. So
Speaker 1: show gratitude for what you have.
Speaker 2: And I think the older you get, the more gratitude
Speaker 2: you possessed. I think, honestly, like I literally going to
Speaker 2: bed at like at night, like yes, did it again?
Speaker 2: You know? Like that another one.
Speaker 1: So it says a daily dose of gratitude can improve
Speaker 1: your mood and it is a great way to start
Speaker 1: at your morning. Like I said, say thank y'all in
Speaker 1: the morning. Y'all. You can download a app on gratitude,
Speaker 1: or keep a small list on your phone, or write
Speaker 1: what you what you're thankful for in a notebook. So
Speaker 1: that's what the Gratitude book that Tana got.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can get it for Amazon. It's only a
Speaker 2: couple of dollars and it's a cute little book and
Speaker 2: it just says I'm thankful for and you can write
Speaker 2: in it and it has a daily log. Yeah, so
Speaker 2: I do that.
Speaker 1: I think also, when you are experiencing hate from people, right,
Speaker 1: just realize that they don't realize that they too have
Speaker 1: things to be thankful for. Right, That's why they just
Speaker 1: displaying this mean behavior. They don't they don't they don't
Speaker 1: feel like they they're not thankful for what they have,
Speaker 1: so they're hating. I feel like that's where hate for
Speaker 1: other people comes from. When you're not showing gratitude for
Speaker 1: the things that you have, you're either gonna be inspired
Speaker 1: or you're gonna be a fucking hater. It's just that's
Speaker 1: just what it is. Give yourself a compliment is the
Speaker 1: next one, y'all.
Speaker 2: So this is.
Speaker 1: The next way to show yourself to cultivate self love. Actually,
Speaker 1: so give yourself a compliment. A small but effective way
Speaker 1: to make yourself feel good and ultimately ultimately boost self
Speaker 1: esteem and confidence is giving yourself a compliment. By compliment,
Speaker 1: by complimenting ourselves regularly, it starts to shift the relationship
Speaker 1: we have with ourselves as as well as our mindset.
Speaker 1: We are essentially training ourselves to focus on positives which
Speaker 1: create positive feelings.
Speaker 2: I like that, but I also would like to add
Speaker 2: to that that you should also learn how to take
Speaker 2: a compliment. People. I got a problem with that, I know, girl.
Speaker 2: That's why I said, bitch, i'd be like you love
Speaker 2: pretty today.
Speaker 1: This whole thing I had, this thing I am learning.
Speaker 1: I think I got there. It's a lot of things
Speaker 1: being around my mom or now I realize I got
Speaker 1: from her. The other day she was expressing how pessimestic
Speaker 1: she is, and she was saying it so proudly. Meanwhile,
Speaker 1: on a daily basis, in my mind, I'm like, dog, bitch,
Speaker 1: like I feel like you can do this, like be
Speaker 1: a little bit more optimistic. But it's a lot of
Speaker 1: things stem from your childhood and the people that raise you.
Speaker 1: Now Here, I am an adult trying to figure out, like,
Speaker 1: how can I be more optimistic about things as opposed
Speaker 1: to I am a realist. So if it is what
Speaker 1: it is, it is what it is, right, But sometimes
Speaker 1: you can psych yourself out.
Speaker 2: Absolutely m h. If you change the way you see
Speaker 2: the world, the way you see the world will change
Speaker 2: exactly it really is, yep. So give yourself a compliment
Speaker 2: y'all say bid you a bad bitch? Okay you not
Speaker 2: just say it anyway until you do.
Speaker 1: Period, And tell a nigga on the Instagram tell you ain't.
Speaker 2: Go to this page and call his son ugly. No,
Speaker 2: don't do that. Don't do that, Guys, the kids out
Speaker 2: of it.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm ugly, And then say your son looks like you.
Speaker 1: That's not dang that ever was a woman? Be like girl,
Speaker 1: you look just like your daddy. Your daddy, sir.
Speaker 2: Kids are off limits you all.
Speaker 1: Right, y'all? Okay, So speak to yourself as you would
Speaker 1: with a friend. Negative self talk is something we all
Speaker 1: engage in. Try imagining your friend making the same mistake
Speaker 1: or failure and think about what you would say to them.
Speaker 1: A big part of self love is finding that little
Speaker 1: voice inside of your head, and by noticing how we
Speaker 1: talk to ourselves, we can show ourselves compassion when interaction
Speaker 1: or assignment doesn't go as planned. Engaging in positive self
Speaker 1: talk helps you move towards acceptance and eventually loving yourself.
Speaker 1: Get them negative thoughts, you replace it with a positive one.
Speaker 1: So the minute you start thinking about so negative shit,
Speaker 1: you have to literally think about that negative thought going
Speaker 1: into a fucking box, right, you putting a lock on
Speaker 1: that box and throwing a box in the fucking trash
Speaker 1: and replace it with something positive to think about it.
Speaker 1: That's how that works. This is all manifestation, that's all
Speaker 1: it is.
Speaker 2: It'd be like, damn, my feet stink, but somebody likes
Speaker 2: stink feet, bitch, I hate you, right, that's about right,
Speaker 2: not stink.
Speaker 1: But I mean that was.
Speaker 2: Because I know that, because anybody told you the stink
Speaker 2: yet I don't know, bitch.
Speaker 1: I never tried to smell them my feet. Don't think
Speaker 1: I was just giving it an example. They'd be sucking them. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: they don't stink. That's how that work, all right. Practice
Speaker 1: mindfulness This is my favorite. Being mindful is a strategy
Speaker 1: to boost self love as it can help you identify
Speaker 1: what you feel, think, and want. Mindfulness encompasses being fully present,
Speaker 1: non judgmental, aware of what's going on around us. There
Speaker 1: are popular meditation apps that you can teach that you
Speaker 1: can download and teach you how to practice deep breathing
Speaker 1: and other mindful as tech techniques. I use a couple
Speaker 1: of them, my favorite, y'all, and I would love to
Speaker 1: do some ads for them as sink Tuition. That's the
Speaker 1: app that I used.
Speaker 2: Tell us about it.
Speaker 1: It's really good. So it's really just sounds right. But
Speaker 1: for whatever reason, bitch, if you use this app and
Speaker 1: put on some headphones, it takes you someplace else. Now,
Speaker 1: sometimes it was like frequencies yea, so you know they hurts.
Speaker 1: That stuff matters.
Speaker 2: Let me, can I just say this. I was talking
Speaker 2: to this man in Jamaica at one point and he
Speaker 2: had like this frequency in the background and he was
Speaker 2: talking to me and I was like, what is he?
Speaker 2: What is my pussy? And we weren't even talking about
Speaker 2: nothing like crazy, but he had this playing in the
Speaker 2: back the whole world Jamaica accident. He was telling me,
Speaker 2: how yes.
Speaker 1: Girl, that waspnosis.
Speaker 2: You're so amazing, Mommy, I just want you to know.
Speaker 2: And I was like, it was so I felt like
Speaker 2: he was in the room with me. Girl.
Speaker 1: Wait wait, wait, you weren't in Jamaica.
Speaker 2: I was here. He called me early in the morning
Speaker 2: with that sound playing in the back and just affirming
Speaker 2: me in so many different ways, and I almost orgasm
Speaker 2: without touching myself.
Speaker 1: Girl, he's a warlock. Okay, Yetta, be careful tell us
Speaker 1: about that. He probably. He probably would have been like, yeah,
Speaker 1: can you cash at me?
Speaker 2: Yes, right now, I feel like I owe you that.
Speaker 1: That's next level pimping. Let's be clear, if he would.
Speaker 2: Have asked for some money in that minute, he would
Speaker 2: have got it.
Speaker 1: Sure, what's your cash? Hey, y'all?
Speaker 2: Tell me?
Speaker 1: Don't got nothing on these damn things?
Speaker 2: Hey?
Speaker 1: You got them upside down? Bitch turned right side up?
Speaker 1: At least thank you? Shut the fuck up, and don't
Speaker 1: say ship y'all Like I was at a live show
Speaker 1: like that with nothing on the car. Really, I said that,
Speaker 1: you ain't say I was like, ain't nothing on these y'all.
Speaker 1: I'm just up here. Mm hmm. Anyway, we celebrating small wins. Okay,
Speaker 1: celebrate how to tell y'all like that? Like the next
Speaker 1: one that celebrating small wins. People can set harsh expectations
Speaker 1: for themselves or get caught up with what society demands
Speaker 1: of them. But settling but excuse me, but setting realistic
Speaker 1: expectations aligned with our needs, wants, and values are more important.
Speaker 1: We're more likely to complete these tasks, feel more accomplished
Speaker 1: and motivated to complete the next task, which contributes to
Speaker 1: feelings of self love.
Speaker 2: Bitch, I don't even know.
Speaker 1: Then. This is celebrating small winds.
Speaker 2: So it says the minor accomplishments add up and create
Speaker 2: momentum to reach the end goal.
Speaker 1: So it's the journey. It's not the end goal, right,
Speaker 1: it's not the big thing. It's not the big prize
Speaker 1: of the end. It's the journey. So along the way
Speaker 1: to where whatever the goal is, celebrate those small that's
Speaker 1: what it's saying.
Speaker 2: Okay. I like that when you say you look the
Speaker 2: writing is so small, girl, and I got good eyesight.
Speaker 1: But and look the last one, y'all, because we got
Speaker 1: to get the Okay.
Speaker 2: But it's important to I feel like we don't do
Speaker 2: enough of that.
Speaker 1: We don't.
Speaker 2: We haven't because we have not had like a two years,
Speaker 2: a three year.
Speaker 1: Right, we should go milestone.
Speaker 2: You might do it in your episodes like we should have.
Speaker 2: We should celebrate those.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, all right, y'all, So limit time on
Speaker 1: social media, bitch, you said that, right. A core component
Speaker 1: of self love is refraining from self judgment and comparing
Speaker 1: yourself to others, an easy trap to fall into if
Speaker 1: you're consistently scrolling through social media. Research find that many
Speaker 1: people make social comparisons based on what they see on
Speaker 1: social media, and that there is a strong relationship between
Speaker 1: social media usage and self esteem. Now, I listen to
Speaker 1: Conservative radio and they have.
Speaker 2: Commercials on Conservative radio for parents if their children have
Speaker 2: harmed themselves. Like they're actually having class action lawsuits against Instagram, Facebook, Twitter,
Speaker 2: social media sites right now, because these things are socially
Speaker 2: engineered to make you feel that way, so you can
Speaker 2: consume more shit that you don't fucking need while you're
Speaker 2: comparing yourself to people who are living in debt, who
Speaker 2: really don't have the fucking lives.
Speaker 1: They don't have the relationships that you see.
Speaker 2: It's all entertainment, so you got to be and especially
Speaker 2: younger minds, they can't.
Speaker 1: They don't know that though. They can't differentiate even adults,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like we was in the
Speaker 1: club last night and I swear to guy, every single
Speaker 1: nigga and there was estyle, but I know some ig
Speaker 1: jewelry was in there, absolutely, And the guys who not
Speaker 1: wearing jewry who don't feel like they need that thing
Speaker 1: to be who they are, because that we can compare
Speaker 1: that to doing makeup and hearing all that stuff, like
Speaker 1: men can you leave home without your ma, without your
Speaker 1: jewry on. The guys who wear all that shit.
Speaker 2: Of the niggas in there needed that shit, That's.
Speaker 1: What I'm saying. Like, see now we can't even your
Speaker 1: face because the diamonds is shining. We can't even really
Speaker 1: see what you look like. Were just looking at the
Speaker 1: diamonds and you hop in whatever whip you in Like
Speaker 1: it's all a mask and a facade to validate for
Speaker 1: self valid exactly because of lack of lack of self love.
Speaker 1: They can say they can live it out it, but
Speaker 1: can you really can we have a party when nobody
Speaker 1: show up with juelry on, don't asks us to come
Speaker 1: and the weave on you push it, But that's the
Speaker 1: same thing. No hats even work that night, so I
Speaker 1: can't come to that. But y'all, that's six ways to
Speaker 1: cultivate self love and ship. The main one get you
Speaker 1: all stay off social media so much if you ain't
Speaker 1: really making money on there. I said this last, social.
Speaker 2: Media would just trap you. I will find myself just
Speaker 2: three in the morning watching the nigga clean a rug,
Speaker 2: like just cleaning a dirty ass rug, and I just
Speaker 2: can't wait to see what it looks like in the end,
Speaker 2: I need to.
Speaker 1: Go to fuck the bed.
Speaker 2: Like so, I like social media is a beautiful tool,
Speaker 2: but it's also the devil.
Speaker 1: I turn it off, go to sleep, train you Wi
Speaker 1: Fi off, put a timer.
Speaker 2: I've been watching also pressure washing driveways and patios. That
Speaker 2: shit had me stuck all night long? What will this
Speaker 2: patio look like?
Speaker 1: Shame? What else we have to say about self? Love?
Speaker 2: Child, Let's challenge all our listeners to say something really
Speaker 2: nice about theirself every day this week, no, fuck it,
Speaker 2: every day this month. We want you to look in
Speaker 2: the mirror and say something good to your fucking self.
Speaker 2: I challenge you, and I challenge you to do it
Speaker 2: as well, because I feel like anything you do routinely,
Speaker 2: because they say what thirty days and twenty days, If
Speaker 2: you do something every day, it becomes a part of you.
Speaker 2: And also that that might be one of the things
Speaker 2: that should be added to the list, like just creating
Speaker 2: a routine, you know what I'm saying, Like when you
Speaker 2: just don't have a set thing, set things to do,
Speaker 2: you just just running.
Speaker 1: It's just a straight your whole life, you know.
Speaker 2: Go on Amazon and get that gratitude journal and then
Speaker 2: start writing down the things that you're grateful for. And
Speaker 2: then also I would challenge you all to start going
Speaker 2: in your notes doing that three six ' nine other
Speaker 2: things you're trying to manifest for your life. And don't
Speaker 2: say I want to be or I'm going to be.
Speaker 2: Say I am.
Speaker 1: I am a current you know I am.
Speaker 2: So I challenge. That's my challenge for all of us.
Speaker 1: I am. I am about to get the fuck up
Speaker 1: out of the head. Second, go see a man by
Speaker 1: the horse. So listen, y'all. If you enjoyed this episode,
Speaker 1: please tune in every Thursday on the iHeartRadio app or
Speaker 1: wherever the fuck you get your podcasts at. This is
Speaker 1: your co host AJ Holiday practicing self love all the
Speaker 1: way from Charlotte, North Carolina. Go ahead, tam K.
Speaker 2: It's official tam Bam. Even if you don't love yourself,
Speaker 2: I love y'all. Okay, until you do, you got my love.
Speaker 2: Remember to follow me on Instagram official tam bam and
Speaker 2: remember to speak.
Speaker 1: Now and never hold your peace.
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