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Speaker 1: episode with your Girl just hilarious. Now I'm fixing mess
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Speaker 1: we're just gonna jump right in. We have a voice memo,
Speaker 1: I say. Somebody took advantage of that to Yes, I
Speaker 1: love it. What you got to say. Me and my boyfriend,
Speaker 1: we've kind of been dealing with each other since I
Speaker 1: was sixteen, he was eighteen. He got a baby. We're
Speaker 1: dealing with each other for three years, had a baby,
Speaker 1: and then we fell out and didn't talk for a year,
Speaker 1: and now we've been back together for a year and
Speaker 1: then had another baby at all. When we got back
Speaker 1: together a year ago, he told me that he was
Speaker 1: done with the bullshit. He wanted to be with me
Speaker 1: and only and he loved me. He was in love
Speaker 1: with me. He was gonna trying his hardest, trying his
Speaker 1: best to get me and keep me. So he got me,
Speaker 1: and I felt super secure at first, but lately, since
Speaker 1: this one situation happened, everything he does has me side
Speaker 1: eying him, and it's not comfortable because we lived together,
Speaker 1: we're raising the family together, and I feel like I
Speaker 1: don't even trust the man that I'm sleeping next to.
Speaker 1: So I told you I had a baby. When the
Speaker 1: baby was around one or two months, his phone was
Speaker 1: in the in the kitchen and lit up, and I've
Speaker 1: seen that he had missed a call from D. So
Speaker 1: I'm like, who is D? Because I know everybody that
Speaker 1: he talks to, and I don't know who the D is.
Speaker 1: So I look at the call log and I've seen
Speaker 1: that they had been on the phone the night before
Speaker 1: for about an hour and the text messages were super dry.
Speaker 1: So I just asked him, I said, who is D?
Speaker 1: Like who is this? And he's like, oh, it's just
Speaker 1: a girl that I used to work with because he
Speaker 1: used to have this job. He got fired after Christmas.
Speaker 1: So he said that the girl was a co worker
Speaker 1: and that you know, it was just talking on the phone,
Speaker 1: like they had never met up or done anything outside
Speaker 1: of work for real. So I believed him because, like
Speaker 1: I said, he made me feel secure and I trusted him,
Speaker 1: and YadA, YadA, YadA. Come to find out that was
Speaker 1: all a big, that juicy fucking a lie. When I
Speaker 1: saw his phone, I was around two months ago. Fast
Speaker 1: forward to three weeks ago, I lost my debit card.
Speaker 1: I'm looking at my car and for my debit card,
Speaker 1: and I opened a little I called the sunglass hatch
Speaker 1: in the front. Opened the sunglass hatch and I see
Speaker 1: a piece of paper with a phone number and an
Speaker 1: address on it. So I'm like, whatse information is this
Speaker 1: because it wasn't my handwriting, it wasn't my piece of paper.
Speaker 1: So I put the phone number in cash act and
Speaker 1: the name comes up and it's the d girl. So
Speaker 1: I'm like, why does he have her address? If they
Speaker 1: never did anything outside of work, why would you need
Speaker 1: her address? So I'm like, okay, I'm to hit her
Speaker 1: up because if I go to him, he's just gonna
Speaker 1: keep sucking lying. So I hit her up and I said,
Speaker 1: this is his girlfriend. You know what's going on with y'all?
Speaker 1: So she was like, oh, yeah, he's real cool. That
Speaker 1: was my dog, but we don't We haven't talked in
Speaker 1: a while, and he used to come over and we
Speaker 1: were smoking talk so I'm like, come over and smoking
Speaker 1: talk because I told her, like he said that you
Speaker 1: were a coworkers sol, what's up? And she was like
Speaker 1: and um, we never worked together. So I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: where did you meet him? And she stopped responding, which
Speaker 1: is fine. So I'm pissed, right, I go up to
Speaker 1: his job. I get my car. He's like, what's wrong
Speaker 1: with you? And I basically told him I'm not working
Speaker 1: with you right now, like you're what was wrong with me?
Speaker 1: You're my problem, you lie, you cheated, blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: I'm going off. So I go home. He gets home
Speaker 1: from work and we're talking about it and he's like,
Speaker 1: this is what happened. You made me feel this way.
Speaker 1: So this is what I did. I created the plenty
Speaker 1: of fishing can because you wouldn't talk to me, and
Speaker 1: I wanted somebody to talk to me and give me
Speaker 1: some attention. I'm like, how am I supposed to trust
Speaker 1: that you want physically cheat on me? Would have one
Speaker 1: day I decided not to have sex with you for
Speaker 1: a month or two, You're gonna go out and cheat,
Speaker 1: Like that's what you're gonna do. Because if that's the case,
Speaker 1: if we were going out and getting things from other
Speaker 1: people who were lacking at each other. Then I would
Speaker 1: have been gone a long time ago, because you it's
Speaker 1: there plenty of things that's wrong with you, and I
Speaker 1: stuck with you and learned to love you how you
Speaker 1: shouldn't want to be loved anyways. So that was one situation,
Speaker 1: and then ever since then, I'm just been a side
Speaker 1: eying him. Like today he left to go to the
Speaker 1: store and I hear somebody yell out hey, and they
Speaker 1: said his name was just saying his name is Joe, Hey, Joe.
Speaker 1: I hear somebody y'all hey Joe from my bedroom window,
Speaker 1: and I didn't know you were back. So I went
Speaker 1: out on the balcony and I Loki was looking for
Speaker 1: his mom because she said she was on the way,
Speaker 1: so I thought that was her. So I go out
Speaker 1: on the patio to look and and nobody's there. But
Speaker 1: he's getting out his brother's car, so I'm like, okay.
Speaker 1: So he get in the house and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: who's that that saying hey to you? And he gasped
Speaker 1: at me. He was like, I don't know what you're
Speaker 1: talking about. You sound crazy, You're tripping, and nobody saying
Speaker 1: my name. There was a girl here for door dash
Speaker 1: and I held the door open for her and she
Speaker 1: said thank you. I'm like, I definitely heard somebody saying
Speaker 1: hey Joe, but okay, and he's just like, na, no,
Speaker 1: you're tripping. I'm like, oh, you didn't see me walk
Speaker 1: out on the balcony. He's like, nah, I didn't even
Speaker 1: see you. So that his brother comes over and he's
Speaker 1: like you he told me about you was mad because
Speaker 1: he thought I was mad at him, like, oh, you
Speaker 1: got holes walking around the neighborhood and saying hey, because
Speaker 1: we just moved here last Wednesday. We've been here. I
Speaker 1: don't even know what it is, but we just got here.
Speaker 1: So no, I don't think you got holes all around
Speaker 1: the neighborhood. That's not what I was thinking. My problem
Speaker 1: is you gaspling me, trying to make me feel like
Speaker 1: I'm crazy, that I'm hearing ship when that's not the case.
Speaker 1: I heard what the funk I heard. You didn't hear it,
Speaker 1: so all you had to say was I didn't hear
Speaker 1: that and left it at that. But you wanted to
Speaker 1: make me feel like I'm crazy, So he told his
Speaker 1: brother that I was mad, So his brother is like, yeah,
Speaker 1: he told more you were mad, Um, I saw you
Speaker 1: come out on the balcony. So I'm like, oh, so,
Speaker 1: y'all did see me come out on the balcony because
Speaker 1: he said he didn't see me. He's like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: we've definitely see you because I said, look at day shure.
Speaker 1: So I'm like like, just I don't know what to
Speaker 1: do because I want to be with him, and like,
Speaker 1: I don't see us ending. But it's like, um started
Speaker 1: to get the fucking vibes that I did when I
Speaker 1: was a teenager dealing with this nigga like and all
Speaker 1: his bullshit, and I don't like it. It's not comfortable.
Speaker 1: I don't want to walk around with the attitude because
Speaker 1: you're pissing me off, Like I don't like that ship.
Speaker 1: And then we just moved to his hometown, so it's
Speaker 1: like he knows everybody here and I don't know nobody.
Speaker 1: I don't talk to my family, I don't talk to
Speaker 1: my moms. I talked to you with my brother, and
Speaker 1: I have one friend that lives in Georgia and my
Speaker 1: brother lives in Charlotte and I'm in Michigan. So it's
Speaker 1: like I don't have nobody. All I have is him,
Speaker 1: and he's letting me down big time, like he is
Speaker 1: letting me down right now. And I don't think he
Speaker 1: understands that because everything he does needs a justification. He
Speaker 1: can never just admit I was wrong for that and
Speaker 1: leave it at that. It has to be justified. So
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do, Like do I break
Speaker 1: up with him? Just say fuck it? Because I can't
Speaker 1: keep living like this. I don't know what to do.
Speaker 1: Tell me what? Okay? So I definitely understand, baby girl.
Speaker 1: I want you to calm down because I know, even
Speaker 1: with you telling me that you were getting worked up,
Speaker 1: you're very frustrated. You are. I'm not gonna say walk away.
Speaker 1: I'm still not. I'm still not. Y'all have been together
Speaker 1: for a while, since y'all were teenagers. Y'all been on
Speaker 1: and off. I'll say more so on then off. So
Speaker 1: that's why I'm not telling you just to walk away
Speaker 1: and just to give up. It's just that you two
Speaker 1: have known each other and have dealt with each other
Speaker 1: for so long that I'm not gonna say you guys
Speaker 1: are growing apart. But sometimes people can mistake growing pains
Speaker 1: for growing apart. It just seems like that you two
Speaker 1: may need some time away from each other. Now these days,
Speaker 1: you can't say that to somebody, you know, a younger couple,
Speaker 1: they'll automatically think that someone is going to be with
Speaker 1: someone else when they say, oh, we need to take
Speaker 1: a break, or you know, the person who initiates the
Speaker 1: brick has to just be going to funk with somebody else. No,
Speaker 1: that's still true. That's very valid. Self peace, self joy,
Speaker 1: self love. Those are three things that are necessary in
Speaker 1: a relationship because you're still your own individual person. No,
Speaker 1: you should not be having to walk around with an attitude.
Speaker 1: But let's figure out what he's going through to you know,
Speaker 1: I know, I understand. You move to another city for him,
Speaker 1: another city and state you don't have nobody, so that
Speaker 1: also plays a part in your frustration as well, on
Speaker 1: top of dealing with this bumpy road that y'all are
Speaker 1: on right now. Then you'll have kids together too, so
Speaker 1: that can also play a part. You have to figure
Speaker 1: out what's going on with him. Where's his head at?
Speaker 1: He has friends, he has family, he has a foundation there. Okay,
Speaker 1: but that doesn't mean he's happy either. That doesn't mean
Speaker 1: it's not something going on with him mentally? Where is
Speaker 1: he mentally? Where is he? You have to figure it out.
Speaker 1: That's just the conversation. But if he's going to sit
Speaker 1: there and act like you crazy and try to flip
Speaker 1: everything on you, then that's when you fall all the
Speaker 1: way the funk back. Even with having children, that's when
Speaker 1: you fall all the way the funk back. I don't
Speaker 1: know what your financial status is. I don't know if
Speaker 1: you have a job or you know whatever, if you
Speaker 1: are financially stable enough to go get your own place,
Speaker 1: just to create space between you two to see if
Speaker 1: this is really meant to be, just to see it's
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with that. You can't lose anything that you
Speaker 1: wouldn't have already lost anyway, You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You can't lose anything by taking a step back from
Speaker 1: this relationship if you weren't already supposed to lose it.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's not supposed to be there, Maybe you're not
Speaker 1: supposed to be there, And I get it. Sometimes you
Speaker 1: just don't know what to do. I understand. But that's
Speaker 1: why there has to be solid communication between you and him,
Speaker 1: and he cannot play these games. He can't. It has
Speaker 1: to be a reason why. But he can't play these games.
Speaker 1: If you feel like a man is cheating on you,
Speaker 1: if you're not an insecure person, most of the time,
Speaker 1: you're fucking right. Even if you are an insecure person,
Speaker 1: something had to make you that way. But most of
Speaker 1: the time, well, a lot of times women get in
Speaker 1: our heads. We get in our heads and we'll create
Speaker 1: scenarios that aren't even remotely close to being true just
Speaker 1: because we haven't caught a person cheating, just because things
Speaker 1: saying fishy. But I've been wrong many of times. I've
Speaker 1: been right many of times. And I'm not saying whether
Speaker 1: you're wrong or right, I'm saying, most of the time,
Speaker 1: when you feel a person is cheating on you, they are.
Speaker 1: You've started to give your everything, You even utrooted your
Speaker 1: life and move to a total different state to be
Speaker 1: with this man. You don't have friends, you don't have family.
Speaker 1: That can also be a thing that he's taking advantage
Speaker 1: of as well, because totally picked up and moved to
Speaker 1: where he is so he can feel like he's controlling
Speaker 1: the situation. It's easy for a guy to feel that way.
Speaker 1: He knows you have no one there but him, and
Speaker 1: I guess your one friend. But he knows that it's
Speaker 1: for him solely that you moved, so he already has
Speaker 1: in his mind that he has controlled you to a
Speaker 1: certain extent. That's why he does things and say things like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's because of you. You were doing this, that's why
Speaker 1: I went to get her number. It was it was
Speaker 1: that's why you were lacking this. That's why I went
Speaker 1: here to get it. That's where And you made a
Speaker 1: valid point. Well, if it was all about what we lack,
Speaker 1: I would have been left your ass. I stuck with you.
Speaker 1: You're lacking a lot even now. You've lacked in the past,
Speaker 1: and I still I still never stepped out on you.
Speaker 1: I gave you my all, I'm giving you my all,
Speaker 1: but it's it's draining me now. I'm tired of this ship.
Speaker 1: So y'all two need to sit down and talk. If
Speaker 1: you feel like you're not getting any thing, yes you
Speaker 1: need to up and leave. Yes you do. And I
Speaker 1: trust that you can do that, and I trust that
Speaker 1: you will because of the type of woman I feel
Speaker 1: that you are. Just the way you speak, just the
Speaker 1: way you tell me your story, I can tell yeah,
Speaker 1: you have a backbone. You're just in love with a man,
Speaker 1: that's all. And we can same week for men a
Speaker 1: lot of times. But no, it's just that we give
Speaker 1: you are all we expect the same thing. We don't
Speaker 1: get it. Now we have to act the fucking donkey. Okay,
Speaker 1: before I move on, I want to ask you something
Speaker 1: real quick, girl, What fucking year are we in? Why
Speaker 1: the fuck is bitches right in their numbers and the
Speaker 1: addresses on papers and sticky notes and they is still
Speaker 1: leaving them in the car. That's how my father got
Speaker 1: caught you one time. How the fuck it what from
Speaker 1: back end? And I'm talking about back in the day?
Speaker 1: Who is still writing down numbers and addresses? Any fucking
Speaker 1: lied about that? Girl? Bend as motherfucking co workers two.
Speaker 1: So keep this ship in the back of your mind.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say leave. It could be a bumpy
Speaker 1: road right now. It could be something that he's going through.
Speaker 1: But don't ignore ship. Don't forget ship. Motherfucker's lie all
Speaker 1: the time. They lie all the time. That doesn't make
Speaker 1: it right. But maybe he wasn't sleeping with her. Maybe
Speaker 1: he wasn't. Maybe that was just somebody that he was
Speaker 1: getting attention from. Because you were lacking with giving him attention.
Speaker 1: That still don't make it the funk right. And if
Speaker 1: he's gonna play around with you and try to flip
Speaker 1: shit on you and ship like that, then maybe it
Speaker 1: is time for you to take a step back. That
Speaker 1: maybe what you need to do check back in with me.
Speaker 1: Like I said, I don't know you're living situation. I
Speaker 1: don't know if you are stabilized enough financially to go
Speaker 1: get your own place just to see what happens with him,
Speaker 1: you know you. I don't think you need to be
Speaker 1: in a situation where he feels that you need him
Speaker 1: so he can do whatever the funk you want to
Speaker 1: do because you need him. You're not gonna leave him
Speaker 1: because you're in a whole another city. I don't want
Speaker 1: him to feel like that. You're a little cripple, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. And you can't go and fly
Speaker 1: on your fucking own because you all away in Michigan.
Speaker 1: You can make a life anywhere for yourself if you're
Speaker 1: strong enough to do it. You don't need no friends,
Speaker 1: no family, no nothing. You don't okay, but you need
Speaker 1: to be in your right mind. You can't let him
Speaker 1: have everything to do with your mind. You can't okay,
Speaker 1: so check back in with me. Girl. Now we got
Speaker 1: a commercial, and if you click off of this podcast,
Speaker 1: I swear I'm gonna beat your ass. Listen. Moving on,
Speaker 1: we have another voice note. What's up, Jess. My name
Speaker 1: is Lamisia Patterson. I'm from the West Side of Chicago.
Speaker 1: I am twenty nine years old. I don't have a
Speaker 1: just fix my mass situation. I just really wanted to
Speaker 1: get on here and applied you for your work. I
Speaker 1: am a big fan since your Instagram videos, like since
Speaker 1: your oh YouTube videos like I'm a real, just larious fan.
Speaker 1: I love you. You're funny as hell, and I just
Speaker 1: want to be a part of your podcast like shot
Speaker 1: me out, I love you, put me on an episode
Speaker 1: to say what that you love me? I love you too.
Speaker 1: Lamisia not get the funk on ship making me mad?
Speaker 1: I thought she had something to say. I love you too, girl.
Speaker 1: Do that ship no more? Now? All right, my bad, y'all,
Speaker 1: We're moving on to some real ship. Okay, So nobody
Speaker 1: else sent any voice notes in, but they did write
Speaker 1: me large paragraphs. So here we go. Hey, jas, my
Speaker 1: name is John. I am a transgender male female to male.
Speaker 1: I have known this girl for about two and a
Speaker 1: half years, and we dated for a bit at the beginning,
Speaker 1: but she flipped out and started tripping because she didn't
Speaker 1: believe I was on the phone with my mom. We
Speaker 1: went back and forth as friends after the fallout, and
Speaker 1: recently started talking again. I let it be known that
Speaker 1: we were just friends from the beginning, but she still
Speaker 1: tried to press a relationship, introduced me as her boyfriend,
Speaker 1: and called me bay, babe, baby, et cetera. I usually
Speaker 1: nip it in the bud, but it still happens fast forward.
Speaker 1: I told her I didn't want to be with her
Speaker 1: relationship wise, and that she was a great friend and
Speaker 1: I wanted to keep her as a friend. She got
Speaker 1: upset and started making it as if I was the
Speaker 1: bad guy and that I let her on when I
Speaker 1: made it clear that we were just friends. I want
Speaker 1: to keep her as a friend, but I don't think
Speaker 1: she can respect my boundaries. But she is a good
Speaker 1: goddamn person and I like her dot dot dot as
Speaker 1: a friend. Oh. I mentioned I was trans because during
Speaker 1: the argument, after telling her I wanted to be friends,
Speaker 1: she started addressing me using feminine terms instead of masculine,
Speaker 1: and that is kind of why I am in a
Speaker 1: bind because we always make up, But disrespecting my transition
Speaker 1: just ain't it. I definitely understand. First of all, I'm
Speaker 1: going to tell you that I'm absolutely proud and I
Speaker 1: give you the utmost respect just for telling me that
Speaker 1: you know you are transgendered. You went from female to male.
Speaker 1: But let's just start even before we get to her
Speaker 1: disrespecting your transition. She seems like a very secure female.
Speaker 1: Off the rip. You told her you were on the
Speaker 1: phone with your mother, and she didn't believe you that
Speaker 1: she were on the phone with your mother, So something
Speaker 1: they're just that's a red flag that she thinks that
Speaker 1: you would have to lie about being on the phone
Speaker 1: with your mom. Maybe she's been through some ship and
Speaker 1: shanet able to trust no damn body. I understand when
Speaker 1: people get into arguments, people feel like they have to win.
Speaker 1: Some people just have to have the last word. Some
Speaker 1: people just gotta win. Some people just have to hit
Speaker 1: below the belt at times and sometimes every time. And
Speaker 1: that was wrong for her to do. But that's the
Speaker 1: reason I feel that she was doing that. She wanted
Speaker 1: you to hurt, and that is the only way that
Speaker 1: you could hurt because what other reason would she have
Speaker 1: to say that she's trying to hurt you, Because I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you how she feels. Even knowing that you
Speaker 1: were born a female and you have transitioned into a male,
Speaker 1: she still is in love with you. She is in
Speaker 1: love with you, knowing every part of you. She's accepting
Speaker 1: of you, know your transition, and and she just really
Speaker 1: fell in love with a good person. Because I can
Speaker 1: see that you are a good person from what I
Speaker 1: can gather from reading what you sent me. You know,
Speaker 1: you seem like a really, really good person, and those
Speaker 1: are hard to come by. She's taking the fact that
Speaker 1: you only want to be friends with her as rejection,
Speaker 1: when she shouldn't even look at it that way. She
Speaker 1: should look, Okay, this man still wants me in his
Speaker 1: life as a friend, because I obviously I'm still somewhat
Speaker 1: good of a fucking person. He doesn't want to be
Speaker 1: with me, But that doesn't mean that I'm not a
Speaker 1: good person. You're looking at all her attributes, her traits
Speaker 1: as a person, her personality, her character, and that says
Speaker 1: a lot about her that you even still want to
Speaker 1: remain friends with her. You said she was a good person,
Speaker 1: but that hurts when you want to be with someone
Speaker 1: and they're telling you know, I just want you as
Speaker 1: a friend, you know, because she probably can't figure out
Speaker 1: why the funk she's not good enough. So these are
Speaker 1: just motions that she's probably going through. I've been in
Speaker 1: that predicament as well. And if right, that's what it is,
Speaker 1: she's just focusing on the negative part of it because
Speaker 1: she wants to be in your life, but not as
Speaker 1: a friend. And and she sounds like the type of
Speaker 1: person that if she can't have you, no one can.
Speaker 1: That's very toxic and very dangerous. But yeah, this girl
Speaker 1: is madly in love with you, and that person is
Speaker 1: also dangerous as well. If you can use something against
Speaker 1: me that I told you or that you know it's
Speaker 1: a sensitive spot for me, then you're a malicious person.
Speaker 1: You're vindictive. That says a lot about you. You're very
Speaker 1: selfish as well. Why are you trying to hurt me?
Speaker 1: What does my my sex change? What does my transition
Speaker 1: have to do with me not wanting to be with you?
Speaker 1: Why is that even coming up with a negative connotation
Speaker 1: behind it? If you love me, why would you use
Speaker 1: that against me? So I definitely do understand that part
Speaker 1: of it as well, and that hurts you. I imagine
Speaker 1: that hurts you because this is a woman that you love.
Speaker 1: So I never ever ever tell people to sever ties
Speaker 1: with friends or lovers and ship like that, but I
Speaker 1: would say take a step back from her because she
Speaker 1: need to deal with her own hurt her own way.
Speaker 1: You can't be a punching bag for her just because
Speaker 1: you don't want to be with her. Thank you for
Speaker 1: submitting your story. I know that there are even some
Speaker 1: things that you left out about her because you don't
Speaker 1: even want me to judge her because you still love her.
Speaker 1: But I know your relationship wasn't all peaches and cream.
Speaker 1: I can tell that her mouth get a little slick
Speaker 1: and that she may have an attitude problem as well
Speaker 1: as need anger management. But you didn't tell me all
Speaker 1: that you know, and that's because you still love and
Speaker 1: respect her so much that you ain't even gonna try
Speaker 1: to throw no dirt on our name. But that's one
Speaker 1: thing that you can't get past. I can tell I
Speaker 1: know it because you did bring that up, that she'll
Speaker 1: even refer to you as a female that's her own
Speaker 1: and secure self. She needs to deal with that, Yes,
Speaker 1: you should take a step back from that, honey. You
Speaker 1: should and let her come around, because nine times out
Speaker 1: of tense, she's gonna need you before you need her.
Speaker 1: And moving on. Hey, Jess, please help me. I'm twenty
Speaker 1: four and my boyfriend is forty two. We've known each
Speaker 1: other for six years and we've been dating almost three years.
Speaker 1: Since we've beneficial, he's had a stroke, a heart attack, flatline,
Speaker 1: lost his job and home. Goddamn. I stopped going to
Speaker 1: school to get a second job to support us. Right now,
Speaker 1: we're working at waffle house and the pace sucks. I'm
Speaker 1: mentally exhausted and physically drained. He pressures me to give
Speaker 1: him a baby, but his daughter doesn't even funk with me.
Speaker 1: Every time I try to leave, he plays mind games
Speaker 1: about how I'm giving up on him, and he doesn't
Speaker 1: want to end up on first forty eight or snapped.
Speaker 1: All right, I'm afraid and I'm close to giving up. Okay, sweetheart. Wow,
Speaker 1: So you're twenty four and this man is forty fucking two.
Speaker 1: Okay for one, that's already a problem. Now. I know
Speaker 1: that I date older guys. I know I do, but
Speaker 1: that's now you're twenty four, I'm thirty. I'm just starting
Speaker 1: to step into these older niggas, okay, and I'm loving it.
Speaker 1: But back on you, twenty four years old. This man
Speaker 1: is forty two years old. Already too big of a
Speaker 1: fucking age game. You said you've known him for six years,
Speaker 1: and y'all been dating for almost three years. Okay, since
Speaker 1: y'all beneficial. This man has had more health issues than
Speaker 1: a little bit. Now, I'm not coming at him for that.
Speaker 1: That's something that he can't change, and I understand that. However,
Speaker 1: that's what happened when you get up there in age, okay.
Speaker 1: And that's also what happens when you live a hard
Speaker 1: fucking life. And that's also what happens when Carma catch
Speaker 1: up to that ass. All Right, I'm just gonna say that,
Speaker 1: and we're gonna move on. He'd lost his job, he flatlined,
Speaker 1: he had a heart attack, a fucking stroke. All this,
Speaker 1: you stopped going to school. You a baby young enough
Speaker 1: to be his daughter. You'll stop going to school to
Speaker 1: support y'all. What man in his right mind gonna let
Speaker 1: his girlfriend do that? What real fucking man, man, I
Speaker 1: put a d on end with real fucking man gonna
Speaker 1: let you do that. What real man gonna let you
Speaker 1: drop out of school? Baby, let's just start here. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna help you realize you're worth like this. Who in
Speaker 1: the right mind gonna let their girlfriend drop out of
Speaker 1: school to help them? Now, this niggna went from all
Speaker 1: that he was and you don't went from school. So
Speaker 1: now both of y'all working at the motherfucking wifele house,
Speaker 1: and the pace sucks. You goddamn right, it sucks for
Speaker 1: a forty two year old, it better suck. You're twenty four.
Speaker 1: You still need to be in school. You know, ain't
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with you work in a wiffle house, but
Speaker 1: not with your forty two year old boyfriend who ain't
Speaker 1: doing ship but depending on you. You're mentally exhausted and
Speaker 1: you're too fucking young to be. You're physically drained, and
Speaker 1: you're too fucking young to be. You're letting this man
Speaker 1: physically drain you. And now he talked about he want
Speaker 1: to fucking baby. You dropped out of school. You work
Speaker 1: at the waffle house with him, and he's pressuring you
Speaker 1: for a baby, but his other grown ass daughter don't
Speaker 1: even funk with. Oh, I'm getting it. Now you're saying
Speaker 1: his daughter don't even funk with him? Not you. Okay,
Speaker 1: So we got one child that don't even funk with him,
Speaker 1: but he's pressuring another child. Who was you to give
Speaker 1: him a baby? Okay? All Kelly, Damn. He plays mind
Speaker 1: games with you because he knows he can control you.
Speaker 1: You've been letting him do this. He got you to
Speaker 1: quit school to help support him, so he already know
Speaker 1: he has control over you. He controls you. Where is
Speaker 1: your father? I would love to know? Where's your mom?
Speaker 1: Do you have older brothers? I want to know more
Speaker 1: about you, because how did you get here? And them
Speaker 1: little jokes that he says, You know, I ain't trying
Speaker 1: to end up on first forty eight or snap. Sometimes
Speaker 1: they ain't playing about that. Sometimes they ain't jokes. He
Speaker 1: might be dead as serious about that. And now you're afraid,
Speaker 1: but you're close to giving up. Oh my god, I'm
Speaker 1: afraid that nothing that I can say will even help you.
Speaker 1: It won't even get through to you. I'm afraid of that.
Speaker 1: I really hope it does, though. I feel like you
Speaker 1: need to get the funk out. I don't care how
Speaker 1: you do it, but you need to get out. Has
Speaker 1: he ever put his hands on you before or are
Speaker 1: these just a little harmless threats that he says when
Speaker 1: you say you're gonna leave. I don't know, but I
Speaker 1: know you're smart, and I feel like you can figure
Speaker 1: out a way to get the funk out without ending
Speaker 1: up dead or ending up a victim of domestic abuse.
Speaker 1: I feel that you can get out. You're young, and
Speaker 1: with all these strokes and all the attacks and flatlines,
Speaker 1: that motherfucker might not be able to catch you, so
Speaker 1: you might can leave while he's looking ship. Let me know,
Speaker 1: because this pisces me off. This pisses me to funk off,
Speaker 1: and I want to ask you. Are you from New Orleans?
Speaker 1: And is that where you live? Just reading your Instagram name,
Speaker 1: I think that's where you may be, but let me know.
Speaker 1: Check back in with me, because no young girl deserves this,
Speaker 1: but I want to know more about you and how
Speaker 1: the funk did you even get here? And we're gonna
Speaker 1: end the episode on that note, y'all, thank you for
Speaker 1: tuning in. These three stories got me and my goddamn feelings.
Speaker 1: Um again, feel free to send in voice notes telling
Speaker 1: me your story so I don't have to read it
Speaker 1: or get it wrong or I would love to hear
Speaker 1: your your voices. Guys. When y'are telling me these stories,
Speaker 1: it means so much more to me. Again, you never
Speaker 1: have to say your name, you never have to tell
Speaker 1: me your significant other's name. You don't even have to
Speaker 1: tell me how old you are and where you're from.
Speaker 1: This is a safe space. I want everybody to feel
Speaker 1: that they are safe telling just their mess. And I
Speaker 1: want you all to feel like I can help you.
Speaker 1: And when I can't, I'm gonna let you know. But
Speaker 1: until then, make sure you send in all of your feedback.
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Speaker 1: I ended up not having COVID or monkey pox. I
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