1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:04,680 Speaker 1: The order of it's a fresh show. It's all right, 2 00:00:04,960 --> 00:00:10,160 Speaker 1: The honorable Kikiliki is here. Judge Kiki eight, take it away. 3 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:12,320 Speaker 2: Wow, all right, let's step into the courtroom. 4 00:00:12,680 --> 00:00:14,040 Speaker 3: The gabble has been hit. 5 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:16,160 Speaker 2: All right, it says Hei ki key. 6 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 3: Am I wrong for refusing to let my ex husband 7 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 3: bring his former mistress to our child's birthday party. I've 8 00:00:23,880 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 3: been divorced for three years and since the divorce, my 9 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:29,720 Speaker 3: ex and I have always celebrated our kids' birthdays together 10 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:32,600 Speaker 3: as a family. It's the only day of the year 11 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 3: that we keep it cordial for our kids. Well, my 12 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:39,160 Speaker 3: ex decided to marry his former mistress at the beginning 13 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:42,560 Speaker 3: of the year, and now his new wife is demanding 14 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 3: to attend my daughter's birthday party, and Kiki, it was 15 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:50,159 Speaker 3: an absolute no for me. However, my ex decided to 16 00:00:50,159 --> 00:00:53,720 Speaker 3: bring her to the party anyway, and it completely ruined 17 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 3: my daughter's party. I had to have both of them 18 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 3: removed from the party and it costs a big scene. 19 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 3: Now some of my family is saying that I overreacted, 20 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:05,119 Speaker 3: but I don't think I deserve to have to eat 21 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:07,760 Speaker 3: cake with the woman that ruined my family. 22 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:13,120 Speaker 2: Am I wrong? Judge Kiki, all right, I say you. 23 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:14,920 Speaker 3: You know, at first, you know, I always want to 24 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 3: take the woman's side, this is what I do. But 25 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:19,160 Speaker 3: I had to really think about this, and I think 26 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 3: both of you are selfish, the ex husband and the 27 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 3: and you. You know, I feel like you are selfish 28 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:28,640 Speaker 3: as well, because in that moment, I told my ex 29 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:30,640 Speaker 3: not to bring the lady to the party. So he's 30 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:33,400 Speaker 3: selfish for bringing her because he should have just suggested 31 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:35,199 Speaker 3: in that moment, Okay, well we need to start having 32 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:36,199 Speaker 3: separate birthday parties. 33 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:37,479 Speaker 2: I'm not going to ask this man. 34 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 3: To disrespect his new wife, you know what I'm saying. 35 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:42,679 Speaker 3: I can understand him wanting her to be there whatever. 36 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 3: Then if he if he was a mature I feel 37 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:47,040 Speaker 3: like he would have said, okay, well we need to 38 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 3: start having separate birthday parties if you're not. 39 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:50,639 Speaker 2: Going to allow my wife to attend boom. 40 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: This is especially precarious though, because of the of the 41 00:01:54,200 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 1: cheating element. 42 00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 2: Exactly. 43 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:57,760 Speaker 1: This isn't like they broke up and then went their 44 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:00,480 Speaker 1: separate ways and met different people and then those people 45 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 1: aren't allowed to be there. I mean this, he was 46 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:05,080 Speaker 1: cheating with this woman, So it's a slap in the face. 47 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:08,760 Speaker 1: It's alas to have this woman to run. However, Judge Kiki, 48 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:11,440 Speaker 1: it is not about them. It is about the kid 49 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 1: exactly so that one needs to behave. 50 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 3: In my opinion, when she arrived to my daughter's birthday party, 51 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 3: I would have tried to keep my coup until after 52 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:21,880 Speaker 3: the party, like I wouldn't have caused the scene had 53 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 3: them removed. I would have be like, you know what, 54 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:26,040 Speaker 3: I'm gonna eat this today for my kid, but after this, 55 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:27,240 Speaker 3: I'm gonna deal with both of y'all. 56 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 2: You know. 57 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:30,320 Speaker 3: That would have been my mentality towards it. But I 58 00:02:30,360 --> 00:02:32,360 Speaker 3: feel like he could have also just suggested that they 59 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,080 Speaker 3: have separate birthday parties because he knew how she felt 60 00:02:35,080 --> 00:02:36,040 Speaker 3: about this before the party. 61 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 2: So I think they're both selfish. 62 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 1: Eight five five five three five context the same number 63 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: you guys are the jury. 64 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. 65 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:46,520 Speaker 1: Yeah. I think if the family dynamic is such that 66 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 1: everybody can't get along and the guy married the mistress, 67 00:02:49,960 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 1: which means she's the stepmom now and she's going to 68 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:54,960 Speaker 1: be around for the foreseeable future, then they either have 69 00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:58,920 Speaker 1: to agree to cooperate or they have to have separate events, 70 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 1: because I mean, for how long can you mean, the 71 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:04,520 Speaker 1: mistress part and the cheating part is unfortunate. But for 72 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:07,520 Speaker 1: how long can you say this woman you married cannot 73 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:10,520 Speaker 1: be a part of this little unit over here, right, Like, 74 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:11,280 Speaker 1: how long can. 75 00:03:11,160 --> 00:03:14,240 Speaker 2: You keep her out? You know, what's done is done? 76 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 1: M hm. 77 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:16,919 Speaker 3: And you want to say, you know, be the bigger 78 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 3: person for your kids, but like you said, it's a 79 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:22,640 Speaker 3: sensitive situation. She was the mistress. She you know, she 80 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 3: played a part in my family falling apart. You're entitled 81 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:28,640 Speaker 3: to that. But when you're at your kid's birthday party, like, 82 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:31,079 Speaker 3: come on, let's all be adults until this is over 83 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 3: with and then we can fight in the parking lot. 84 00:03:32,919 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 2: You know, like adults. Yeah, like civilized, like normal people. Yeah, 85 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 2: take it outside, well, because the kid's. 86 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:44,800 Speaker 1: Gonna remember this now, you know, the kids, people getting 87 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: drug out of parties and all this stuff. 88 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:48,040 Speaker 2: You don't forget stuff like that. 89 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, And I mean you expressed that to your ex 90 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 3: before you told him no. 91 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:54,240 Speaker 2: He clearly doesn't listen. 92 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:56,600 Speaker 3: But I feel like he's selfish because he could have 93 00:03:56,640 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 3: just said, Okay, well, my wife wants to be there, 94 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 3: so we will celebrate another time. 95 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 4: Right, But at some point too, like when can he 96 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:06,280 Speaker 4: take responsibility for like what he's done in the past, 97 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 4: and maybe oblige his act a little bit, like you 98 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:11,600 Speaker 4: messed up, but at least you know, you're supposedly happy 99 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 4: now you're with the mistress, like you can go on 100 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:16,800 Speaker 4: and live your life, but like for your acts, like 101 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 4: maybe the mother of your kids, like maybe just oblige 102 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:20,960 Speaker 4: her because you were a dirty dog. 103 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:21,480 Speaker 2: Right, you know. 104 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:23,280 Speaker 3: But then he has to go home to the new 105 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 3: wife and she's like you telling me, I can't come 106 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:26,479 Speaker 3: somewhere with you. 107 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 2: I'm your wife. 108 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:29,600 Speaker 3: You know that can be a whole thing. So, yeah, 109 00:04:29,600 --> 00:04:31,040 Speaker 3: it's messy. 110 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:35,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, I did it is Hey Michelle, Hey, hey, so 111 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 1: do you you've lived this? 112 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 2: You know these stories? 113 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:37,560 Speaker 5: I lived it? 114 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:40,000 Speaker 2: Yes, I lived this story. What happened? 115 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 6: Dad cheated on my mom. Mom found out and gave 116 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 6: him ultimatum. Dad chose to leave, and so at that 117 00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:53,720 Speaker 6: point then there was they separated, and then he's been 118 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:58,159 Speaker 6: with her now for thirty years, and so she's the 119 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:01,719 Speaker 6: first probably five years a little bit hectic. But then 120 00:05:02,080 --> 00:05:04,279 Speaker 6: Mom received and she's like, I'm not going to, you know, 121 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 6: ruin my children's birthdays and holidays because this. 122 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:09,480 Speaker 7: Woman ruined stuff. 123 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:13,799 Speaker 6: I'm going to be a bigger person, and mom didn't 124 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 6: talk to her, but everybody was invited to everything. 125 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, no one's asking anyone to be friends here, you know, 126 00:05:21,080 --> 00:05:23,440 Speaker 1: And I realize that when you're not involved, it's easy 127 00:05:23,440 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 1: to say. But at some point it's about the kid 128 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:29,200 Speaker 1: or kids or whatever. And so you know, either you 129 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:31,840 Speaker 1: have to choose to accept it and just keep your 130 00:05:31,839 --> 00:05:34,840 Speaker 1: distance and cooperate, or or I don't know what the 131 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:39,440 Speaker 1: alternative is. Everything's divisive and and there's never any semblance 132 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:41,239 Speaker 1: of mom and dad getting along ever again. 133 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:43,560 Speaker 2: And I don't know. I mean, maybe that's better than this, 134 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:45,240 Speaker 2: but yeah, what are you saying? 135 00:05:45,320 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 6: I see that the past thing was was my parents 136 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 6: still got along, but the new. 137 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:52,679 Speaker 5: Wife didn't like the fact that they got along. 138 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:56,760 Speaker 1: You had a mistress, You had a mistress, and that 139 00:05:56,920 --> 00:06:00,800 Speaker 1: you complaining about the di Nah, you don't get a vote. No, 140 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 1: you don't get a voted in the functionality of a 141 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:05,279 Speaker 1: relationship that failed because there was infidelity. 142 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 2: You don't get a vote in this. Exactly who are 143 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 2: you talking about? 144 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:12,600 Speaker 3: I mean, those little meta little mistresses. Oh I's got 145 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:13,120 Speaker 3: something to say. 146 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 2: No, no, now you're insecure. 147 00:06:14,640 --> 00:06:16,400 Speaker 1: Oh wait a minute, so you weren't insecure when you were, 148 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:19,040 Speaker 1: when you were part of the demise of a relationship. 149 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 1: But now they're insecure because they get along. Because you 150 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:23,480 Speaker 1: know that your little flusy. 151 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:28,080 Speaker 2: If she knew right, we'll carry out it to give it. 152 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: A bit of another day. Thank you, Michelle, A good day, 153 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you for sure. Now I want to 154 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 1: go live to Hadley now. Now Hadley is eleven, Hadley, Hadley, Yes, 155 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:41,120 Speaker 1: you are a little young to be chiming in on this, 156 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:43,760 Speaker 1: but I'd still like to hear what you have to say. 157 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 8: Okay, so I agree with Kicky. I think that even 158 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:55,000 Speaker 8: though so ex wife said don't bring her and he 159 00:06:55,160 --> 00:07:00,719 Speaker 8: decided to bring her in, shelfish but also them out 160 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:04,480 Speaker 8: is also selfish. But it shouldn't matter what the parents want. 161 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:07,039 Speaker 8: It should matter what the kids want, because it's the 162 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:08,560 Speaker 8: kids party, not the parents' party. 163 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:08,840 Speaker 7: Thank you. 164 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:12,640 Speaker 1: That is a very mature perspective of a situation. I 165 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 1: hope that you do not fully understand at eleven years old. Okay, 166 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 1: yeah you are Hey, you are welcome here anytime. Handley, 167 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:23,520 Speaker 1: have a good day. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you 168 00:07:23,560 --> 00:07:26,560 Speaker 1: so much. That teachable moment right there. Okay, we gotta 169 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:29,720 Speaker 1: we talk about how adults do stupid things and kids 170 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:32,520 Speaker 1: oftentimes have to play the stupid games and get the 171 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:34,720 Speaker 1: stupid prizes because the adults did stupid stuff. 172 00:07:35,320 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 2: Hey, Chrizly, Chris, what's up? Bred are you doing? Hey? 173 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:42,240 Speaker 2: What's going on? Brother? What do you think in Kiki's court? 174 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 7: Well, listen, I feel for the lady. 175 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:49,200 Speaker 9: I feel for the mom who's hosting the party, But 176 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 9: it's trying to be a control freak the man. 177 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 2: Look, the past is the past. 178 00:07:53,640 --> 00:07:54,400 Speaker 7: When you get. 179 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:55,560 Speaker 2: Married, that person's won. 180 00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:57,040 Speaker 7: It's a package deal. 181 00:07:57,440 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 9: We see a lot of times where people try to 182 00:07:59,480 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 9: control situation because they don't like the result. And further, 183 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:05,800 Speaker 9: if it were reversed or if she were married at 184 00:08:05,840 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 9: the time as well, she wouldn't have a problem. 185 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 2: Yeah. 186 00:08:11,120 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it's easier said than done, man, because 187 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:14,480 Speaker 1: you know, now you've got to look this woman in 188 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 1: the eye who was part of the demise of your family. 189 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:20,800 Speaker 1: And again, I don't know the whole situation here. It's 190 00:08:20,840 --> 00:08:22,960 Speaker 1: never really as cut and dry as one person just 191 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:25,320 Speaker 1: teaches it. It's very rare and dry. 192 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:30,240 Speaker 9: Yeah, but they're always listen, it's a divorce, so you know, 193 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 9: somebody's not going to be happy. 194 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:33,280 Speaker 2: But at the end of the day. 195 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:36,720 Speaker 7: You cannot control the other person when you're that's half 196 00:08:36,720 --> 00:08:39,400 Speaker 7: this kid, when you're no longer married to them. It's 197 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 7: just that's how it is. 198 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 10: Yeah, So you know that's that's the type of thing 199 00:08:46,320 --> 00:08:49,200 Speaker 10: that does the kid wrong. How does your child learn 200 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:52,520 Speaker 10: how to manage conflict if that's what they see? 201 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:55,679 Speaker 2: No, you're you're right, No, you're right. Thank you. Man, 202 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 2: have a good day. I'm glad you called them all right, No, 203 00:08:59,120 --> 00:09:01,720 Speaker 2: it's true. I mean, it is true. Get over it. 204 00:09:01,760 --> 00:09:03,680 Speaker 1: Well, it's like the adult's got to be adults, and 205 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:05,680 Speaker 1: it's it's so hard to do. Like no one's saying 206 00:09:05,720 --> 00:09:08,640 Speaker 1: that's easy. No, but the adults got to be adults, right, 207 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:12,840 Speaker 1: Hey aldough, Hey, hey, how you do a man Kiki score? 208 00:09:12,920 --> 00:09:14,720 Speaker 1: So just just to recap here and make sure I 209 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 1: get this right, judge Kiki. But basically, a woman and 210 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:21,839 Speaker 1: her ex husband, they were in a relationship ahead a kid. 211 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 2: He cheated. 212 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 1: Now he's married to the woman with whom he cheated, 213 00:09:26,520 --> 00:09:29,680 Speaker 1: and they have birthday parties every year and the former 214 00:09:29,840 --> 00:09:32,240 Speaker 1: husband and wife get together, you know, to celebrate the 215 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 1: kid's birthday, and they're cordial. Now the mistress showing up 216 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 1: who's the actually it was now the wife. Yeah, now 217 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: she's showing up too. It's making a whole thing uncomfortable. 218 00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 1: And there was an altercation and people were drug out 219 00:09:41,160 --> 00:09:41,920 Speaker 1: and it was a whole thing. 220 00:09:42,760 --> 00:09:43,440 Speaker 2: What do you think. 221 00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 7: I think that the new wife, who has nothing to 222 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:52,000 Speaker 7: do with the kid, shouldn't come now that it happened 223 00:09:52,040 --> 00:09:56,480 Speaker 7: once that sort of it's already happened, And I agree 224 00:09:56,559 --> 00:10:00,520 Speaker 7: the kid wasn't thought of by either parent and that issue. 225 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:03,920 Speaker 7: But going forward, Hey, look, if you want your new 226 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:08,360 Speaker 7: wife to have a party with your daughter, fine, but 227 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:11,840 Speaker 7: not with me. You know, it's that simple. And it's 228 00:10:11,840 --> 00:10:16,000 Speaker 7: simply because I think mom's a little warm right now. 229 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:19,839 Speaker 7: A couple of years down the road, she'd probably calmed down. 230 00:10:20,679 --> 00:10:25,400 Speaker 7: It's not like the daughter doesn't see this new woman 231 00:10:25,679 --> 00:10:28,080 Speaker 7: when she goes visit her father. We're just talking about 232 00:10:28,080 --> 00:10:28,680 Speaker 7: the birthday. 233 00:10:28,960 --> 00:10:29,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree with that. 234 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:32,839 Speaker 1: I think this is a situation where maybe that woman 235 00:10:32,840 --> 00:10:35,720 Speaker 1: doesn't need to be included in this particular event. You know, 236 00:10:36,240 --> 00:10:38,120 Speaker 1: you're not saying you can't have a relationship with her, 237 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:40,240 Speaker 1: because you're right when you go over to his house, 238 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:42,319 Speaker 1: you're going to meet this woman and develop a relationship 239 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:46,040 Speaker 1: hopefully or whatever. But for this particular thing, maybe she 240 00:10:46,120 --> 00:10:48,640 Speaker 1: doesn't need to be there. Maybe this is just mom 241 00:10:48,679 --> 00:10:52,840 Speaker 1: and dad handling this so that there's everyone's comfortable. I agree, although, 242 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: thank you. Have a good day, you too, Glad you called. 243 00:10:56,080 --> 00:10:57,880 Speaker 1: Thank you for listening. A lot of people have lived this. 244 00:10:58,120 --> 00:11:03,040 Speaker 1: Hey Lindsey, she is, hey, good morning. What do you think? 245 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 5: Well, so, being someone that has sort of lived this, 246 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:09,360 Speaker 5: my ex husband and I would do the same thing 247 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:12,599 Speaker 5: for the kids, celebrate their birthdays together. But once I 248 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 5: started dating someone who I'm now currently married to. I 249 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 5: just got married last Friday. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 250 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 5: I we start, we've just stopped. You like, once someone 251 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:30,359 Speaker 5: else is involved, I mean, regardless of cheating or cordially separating, 252 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:33,599 Speaker 5: whatever it is, once you have a significant other or 253 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:36,800 Speaker 5: another spouse or I don't feel there's any reason to 254 00:11:36,920 --> 00:11:40,040 Speaker 5: have to blend all of it together. Sure in passing, kids, 255 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:43,719 Speaker 5: pick up, switching weekends, whatever it is, great, be cordial, Hi, 256 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 5: how are you see you later? But families say there's 257 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:49,800 Speaker 5: no reason for it out of respect for everyone involved. 258 00:11:49,800 --> 00:11:53,160 Speaker 5: That's uncomfortable. Some people can do it great, but given 259 00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:56,760 Speaker 5: the circumstances that he cheated at and she now the 260 00:11:56,880 --> 00:12:02,920 Speaker 5: little mistress homewrecker wants to don't like the white set 261 00:12:03,040 --> 00:12:05,120 Speaker 5: or the mom's set, eat cake with the girl that 262 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 5: ruined their family. Absolutely unacceptable. So everyone needs to be 263 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:13,480 Speaker 5: an adult, do the thing separately, and the kids can 264 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 5: have three freaking birthday parties. Yeah, you don't have to 265 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:18,720 Speaker 5: sit face to face with the person that stirred your 266 00:12:18,760 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 5: whole world up. 267 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, because as a kid, I lived a thing where 268 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:24,719 Speaker 1: people were trying to force the family unit. It's like, 269 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 1: well these you know, this is your step mom now, 270 00:12:26,520 --> 00:12:28,400 Speaker 1: and this is your these are your step brothers. And 271 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 1: it's like, no, no, no, I why do I have 272 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:31,439 Speaker 1: to accept I don't have to accept this? 273 00:12:31,559 --> 00:12:34,400 Speaker 2: Like I don't. I don't. I didn't want any of this. 274 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:36,360 Speaker 2: I don't have. Why do I have to like this lady? 275 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 7: Like I didn't. 276 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:38,960 Speaker 1: I didn't pick her. You did, and you picked her 277 00:12:38,960 --> 00:12:42,079 Speaker 1: with your pecker. Yeah, so so there, get her out 278 00:12:42,080 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 1: of here and she'll. 279 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:45,880 Speaker 2: Be gone soon anyway. And she was, thank you, Lidsey, 280 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:46,520 Speaker 2: you have a good day. 281 00:12:47,400 --> 00:12:47,720 Speaker 7: You did. 282 00:12:47,800 --> 00:12:48,720 Speaker 2: Yeah I don't. I don't. 283 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:51,120 Speaker 1: I don't like the whole forced family unit thing. It's like, well, 284 00:12:51,200 --> 00:12:52,880 Speaker 1: but she's here now, so you have to accept that 285 00:12:52,920 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 1: I know, I don't. I got a mom and I 286 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:55,480 Speaker 1: got a dad.