WEBVTT - Musical Memories 0:00:01.800 --> 0:00:06.319 Find Downey and Michael and I have her radio podcast. 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:09.520 Sarah looks real cute right now. I don't know if 0:00:09.560 --> 0:00:11.520 you guys are joking or not practicing to be a 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:13.880 mom already? You really are? You got like the cute 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:17.400 like Beverly Hills Hotel, like cute little white hat on. No, 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:20.680 this is what happens with your Nike easy little leggings 0:00:20.720 --> 0:00:23.599 and your oversized sweater kind of like mom already over 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:28.560 the shoulders. So this is what mom like. It's ties. 0:00:29.200 --> 0:00:32.159 This is ties a b I woke up five minutes 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:35.440 before I was. I'm not a morning person, so this 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:38.279 was just a happy month. Thanks for the Starbucks by 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:40.280 the way, Oh yeah, thank you. Okay, you guys do 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:43.159 this every time, like you did? You are you not 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:46.839 near a Starbucks? You know what I mean? But I 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:49.800 live an hour away, so if I bring you a Starbucks, 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:52.040 it's melted. So why would you want to Starbucks from 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:56.400 an hour away time? Because Janna will wake up at 0:00:56.400 --> 0:00:58.400 the very last minute that she can, so there's no 0:00:58.520 --> 0:01:02.319 time for any extra curriculars in between getting to where 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:05.160 we need to be. Our day every day, like today 0:01:05.560 --> 0:01:08.120 is we leave here. We have a couple of therapy 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:10.920 right after, like ten minutes later. Then we have another 0:01:10.959 --> 0:01:13.880 meeting ten minutes after that in Los Angeles, which it 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:18.880 takes thirty minutes to get anyone. So food in drinks, 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:22.080 in beverage. That's why Janna has a purse full of 0:01:22.080 --> 0:01:24.560 bars and one water me on in the hand. Who 0:01:24.600 --> 0:01:28.840 eats normal person food? But yesterday, he goes, man, we 0:01:28.880 --> 0:01:31.280 didn't really have lunch yesterday. I go, you mean those 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:33.920 two burgers you ate at twelve o'clock wasn't lunch. I 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:35.480 did see you eat those burgers, So I don't know 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:37.640 why you're saying. I was just like, what else did 0:01:37.680 --> 0:01:47.800 you need? More subsistence? More so, in the midst of 0:01:47.800 --> 0:01:49.360 our busy day to day, I do have like a 0:01:49.400 --> 0:01:54.000 six hour tattoo session, which Jane and I classic conversation 0:01:54.000 --> 0:01:56.520 where we're like save it. We started talking about something 0:01:56.880 --> 0:02:00.360 naturally coming into the studio today and asked you and 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:02.680 I was like, do you like chess tattoos? I don't. 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:04.760 I personally don't. She was like, no, I don't. And 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:06.120 she was like, but I will say this, I like 0:02:06.240 --> 0:02:09.920 chess tattoos more than back tattoos. And I'm like, my 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:14.680 whole type, my whole back is tattoos. I'm like, you've 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:17.720 never told me this. She was like yeah when we 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:19.520 first met. That was the one thing I didn't like 0:02:19.639 --> 0:02:23.000 it that you was like it. I thought, I remember 0:02:23.400 --> 0:02:27.120 seeing it and the like, I've never liked it. But 0:02:27.120 --> 0:02:28.560 I never wanted to tell him, like how good would 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:30.840 that be? Well, it's a little permanent, you know what 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:32.440 I mean. So it's one of those things where I'm 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:34.040 like okay, and he's like, well and he stayed with me. 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:35.880 I'm like, well, I'm not gonna not be with you. 0:02:35.960 --> 0:02:37.880 But it was. It was the first date. It was 0:02:37.880 --> 0:02:39.680 when I went and met her in Chicago. Was when 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:43.840 she you pulled it out. Remember the back of the bus. 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:47.480 You literally you're asking me like what tattoos? Did you 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:49.400 have any other tattoos? Like did you have your arms? 0:02:49.560 --> 0:02:52.160 I had my arms, So you were like, oh, he's 0:02:52.160 --> 0:02:54.560 tadded Like he didn't have he didn't have all that. 0:02:55.400 --> 0:02:56.799 But I had the back of my arms, I had 0:02:56.840 --> 0:02:59.119 my side, my ribs done. And she wanted to see 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:00.800 what else she was signing up for. Yeah, and she 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:02.600 like we're in the back of her bus and she 0:03:02.680 --> 0:03:04.880 like pulled my shirt up over my head to see 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:08.440 my back and I didn't see her face a little. Know. 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:11.839 She's like, I just don't like back tattoos at all. 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:15.840 I mean, you never never liked it. I love you, 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:17.960 but you know what I mean. It's nothing we do 0:03:18.000 --> 0:03:20.679 about now. But it's just he's like, that's funny because 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:23.480 because I don't like that, I don't like girls with 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:28.880 brown eyes either, So actually this works out well. Brown 0:03:28.960 --> 0:03:30.840 eyes are my least favorite. I call it for girls. 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:35.000 But it's okay, that's what I mean. I love you, 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:37.800 you know, that's all. It's also funny is Mike's covering 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:40.800 up my face today. Oh god, it's the sore subject. 0:03:40.840 --> 0:03:43.200 We've been waiting for this. I mean we haven't been waiting, 0:03:43.200 --> 0:03:45.360 but we've been talking about how he's fixing. So he wanted, 0:03:45.520 --> 0:03:48.160 you know, this sleeve tattoo, and you know, we had 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:50.080 a conversation around it. I'm like, you do whatever you want, 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:51.960 but like I just want you to be happy. It's 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:56.680 your thing. You're a sleeve. But he's like, it's really pretty. 0:03:57.040 --> 0:03:59.680 He's like, he's like, he's all about his his thing. 0:03:59.720 --> 0:04:01.920 If you let's talk about it, he can. But you know, 0:04:02.040 --> 0:04:03.560 one of the things on there, he's like, I really 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:06.160 want to put your face on my arm. And I 0:04:06.200 --> 0:04:08.720 was just like wow, like that's pretty cool, you know, 0:04:11.200 --> 0:04:15.480 you know so, But now he came home a couple 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:18.240 of weeks ago from the tattoos. This is like a month, 0:04:18.600 --> 0:04:22.600 like two months ago when we talked about two months. 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:26.600 It's all relative. He goes, so I'm going to cover 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:30.480 your face up. First of all, I did it on 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:33.480 the plane and Los Angeles going back to Nashville like 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:36.520 a month or so ago, like six weeks ago. Strategically, 0:04:36.520 --> 0:04:39.320 so I had witnesses around me, so she she could 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:43.000 she had to stay somewhat calm about what I was 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:46.359 proposing to her, like so because she asked me earlier 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:47.960 that day before we left, because I was like hey, 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:51.040 because he had one session of the face that he 0:04:51.120 --> 0:04:53.279 wasn't done yet, So I was like, hey, so, like 0:04:53.320 --> 0:04:54.880 what does he say. He's gonna like help do to 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:57.200 like shade it to look a little, you know, more 0:04:57.320 --> 0:04:59.599 like the INSMA photo you wanted. And he's like yeah, yeah, 0:04:59.680 --> 0:05:01.920 He's like yeah, I actually didn't get a chance to 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:04.039 talk to about it. But then he drops it on 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:06.880 the plane and their whole conversation was him covering it 0:05:06.920 --> 0:05:11.359 with a Spartan. What a Spartan. You're a badass Spartan helmet. 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:13.240 I don't know what. So basically he's covering my health 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:18.760 with a helmet. What do you say? Well, I'm just curious, 0:05:20.560 --> 0:05:25.240 thank you. So now my face is like that, Okay, 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:28.679 I didn't tell jam full story. I'm actually just putting 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:31.040 a Spartan helmet. Are you keeping her face and then 0:05:31.440 --> 0:05:35.440 her face behind the spart It's like, I don't know, 0:05:36.400 --> 0:05:38.440 so but to me, I was like, again, it's your arm. 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:40.719 You do whatever you want. It's just how it feels, 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:43.920 very like I changed my mind. I don't want you 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:47.040 to my room anymore. But that's not it. That's what 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:48.880 she and I told her. I explained. I said, look, 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:52.279 and this is the God's on the truth, the tattoo. 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:54.640 The first artist I went to did a terrible job, 0:05:55.080 --> 0:05:58.600 and I trusted him too much. It wasn't at all 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:00.479 what I wanted. And so I told and I was like, 0:06:00.520 --> 0:06:02.680 look for me to be proud of a piece of 0:06:02.720 --> 0:06:05.080 your portrait on me. I wanted to. I wanted it 0:06:05.120 --> 0:06:07.440 to be like this beautiful, Like people see it and 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:10.920 they're like, damn, that is stunning. This guy did not 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:14.359 do that. So my new artist. I've seen his portfolio. 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:17.279 He's he can do portraits, like it's like the best 0:06:17.320 --> 0:06:19.760 thing he does. So I told her, I was like, look, 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:23.000 here's the deal. I want to be proud of your 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:25.240 face on me right now. I'm not. It's not it 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:27.440 doesn't look like I wanted to. I don't know what 0:06:27.560 --> 0:06:29.760 I'm laughing. I think she looks pretty, but I get 0:06:29.760 --> 0:06:32.559 how you don't. It's not what I wanted. I wanted 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:34.919 to be this like just breathtaking peace. And so I 0:06:34.960 --> 0:06:38.960 was like, she's it doesn't know like it doesn't. I'm 0:06:38.960 --> 0:06:41.000 just like imagining myself on Tie's arm and it's just 0:06:41.080 --> 0:06:44.400 not there. I'm just like, it's just kind of face 0:06:44.480 --> 0:06:46.640 you would have on Tim. I don't even want to know. 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:48.520 So that's what I'm just like laughing. But I get 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:51.880 what you're saying, Um, you're you're pretty. I would want 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:54.520 to look at myself if I was like on someone's own. 0:06:54.520 --> 0:06:57.200 Here's the deal. I never I never even said I 0:06:57.240 --> 0:06:59.000 was like you do with everyone on that arm. So 0:06:59.040 --> 0:07:01.440 it's the fact that he said he wanted to, which 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:03.600 I never would have ever said, like put my face 0:07:03.640 --> 0:07:06.320 on your arm, you know, But he had this image, 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:08.279 and I was like, wow, that's really cool that he 0:07:08.320 --> 0:07:12.720 even wanted to. But now I'm like, like bad part 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:15.800 of me is like is he covering up? Oh? I know, 0:07:16.080 --> 0:07:18.440 I know, I know you know her name. I'm going 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:23.280 to say, even though you're fully branded up from like 0:07:23.720 --> 0:07:28.320 this by anything, I'm just saying, it just feels like 0:07:28.360 --> 0:07:31.360 a you know, you put me on there. Now You're like, well, 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:32.760 it's about it for me to have tie wear a 0:07:32.800 --> 0:07:34.240 wedding rings. So if that makes you feel like he 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:35.760 doesn't want to wear wedding well, he's just he's never 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:37.680 warning jewelry. He's just like is it gonna feel weird? 0:07:37.720 --> 0:07:39.800 Is it going to be clush? You know my buddy Drew. 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:43.200 My buddy Drew's like that, does he not wear rings seldom? 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:46.200 I don't like that. No, ties, like I'm gonna wear it, 0:07:46.240 --> 0:07:48.120 but like he'll always like pull my rings and he's 0:07:48.120 --> 0:07:49.880 like they don't come off, Like isn't that crush? And 0:07:49.880 --> 0:07:51.720 I'm like, no, I know that's what I told him. 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:53.120 I was like, I sleep in mind. Let him not 0:07:53.160 --> 0:07:57.760 wear a ring. No, No, He's like I'll get a 0:07:57.760 --> 0:07:59.360 tattoo and I'm like, no, I don't want you to 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:02.000 get tattooed. I don't know. First of all, you like 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:06.280 back tattootes, don't. I don't really like like I'm not 0:08:06.320 --> 0:08:09.200 a tattoo kind of gal for guys, Like I don't know. 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:11.560 But anyways, I was like, just wear a ring. It's 0:08:11.640 --> 0:08:13.400 very simple, it's very easy. So you need to get 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:15.840 like a rubber black one. He'll be fine. I'm not concerned, 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:17.440 but I do get what you're saying. You're like, oh, 0:08:17.520 --> 0:08:20.320 you don't want And even as much as I I've 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:24.440 explained it to Janna very delicately, it's not doing that. 0:08:24.480 --> 0:08:27.640 I'm going to put you elsewhere on my body. But 0:08:27.640 --> 0:08:29.520 but I'm like, you don't have to. It's just I 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:31.640 just feel like now you're like trying to like it's 0:08:31.640 --> 0:08:33.640 okay if you don't. But now I feel like you're 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:35.560 trying to be like this is a trap. It's not 0:08:35.600 --> 0:08:37.280 okay if you don't put it on your body. No. 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:40.040 I do agree, because Janna is like, so are you 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:42.160 going to say no? You even said the other day 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:43.800 at the appointment, So are you going to talk about 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:45.640 like you know, when you're gonna when you're gonna make 0:08:45.679 --> 0:08:47.760 the appointment to put me on you? No? No, No, 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:50.319 I'm just saying because you that's what you said, So like, 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:52.720 it's what do you want if you don't want to 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:55.640 just be honest because you did it first and then 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:57.640 you changed your mind because now I'm becoming a spartan. 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:01.080 So I just get when this wait, So is that 0:09:01.080 --> 0:09:03.400 what the appointment is today? Sorry to go, So you're 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:05.520 going to fix her today or put her somewhere else. 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:10.280 I'm going to cover her sus This is like harsh, 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:12.080 but no, I'm just saying, like, do you not want 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:14.240 like being totally honest, Like no, I do. I want 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:17.240 the piece that I wanted originally, but you wanted it 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:19.480 on that arm though, so it'll change because my whole 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:21.320 thing is like the reason he got the arm is 0:09:21.320 --> 0:09:23.160 because of the meaning of the thing. So I'm like, well, 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:25.559 it not me. You're just you're making this more complicated 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:30.000 than it is. Really, yes, it's not that complicated, but 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:32.800 you wanted your sleeve that like right, but it's still 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:36.440 it being army, It's still meaningful. Okay, whatever. I mean again, 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:38.400 it's like whatever, I know what I'm trying to tell 0:09:38.440 --> 0:09:41.040 you that, but you're just not accepting what I'm telling you. 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:44.360 What am I not accepting because you keep going to it. Well, 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:46.840 if it's not on that same mornument doesn't mean as much. Well, 0:09:46.880 --> 0:09:48.560 if you don't do me at all. If I'm just 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:52.000 like I'm telling you, I'm just asking, I think once 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:54.320 she sees it somewhere else, then it all kind of 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:57.000 like again, I don't care, I'm just asking. Like he 0:09:57.040 --> 0:10:00.400 gets so defensive and I'm like, I'm not I'm not defensive. Well, 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:02.320 I'm just like you're saying, like all these things. I'm like, 0:10:02.320 --> 0:10:05.160 I'm just asking questions. I'm allowed to ask questions, right, 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:08.040 But you've asked the same questions and I've answered them, 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:10.400 but you still have the same feelings around it, and 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:14.600 I've tried to I'm just trying to reassure you. I'm like, 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:16.960 I'm telling you that's not the case, but you keep 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:19.079 saying but I feel like you're covering me up. You 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:20.480 don't want me on there. I'm like, I'm that's not 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:21.960 the cay. How many times you have to tell you 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:24.240 that is not the case. I just know that sometimes 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:30.160 you say things to like sugarcoat it where it's like, 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:32.839 but maybe it's not what you actually want because you're 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:35.560 like trying to make me happy, and you know, I 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:37.280 feel like in this instance, he really does want the 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:39.560 tat like, I think he really does want you something. 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:41.280 If I didn't want it, I wouldn't have gotten it 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:42.960 on me to begin with. I know. But now you're 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:45.200 like it's being covered up. So now I'm like, because 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:47.440 it doesn't want to just take a look at it. 0:10:47.440 --> 0:10:50.240 Can I get a look at it? It doesn't matter, 0:10:50.280 --> 0:10:52.560 it's going away. I don't feel like it's going away. 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:57.280 It doesn't matter. It's going away. All right, let's take 0:10:57.280 --> 0:11:05.520 a break. If you're in southern California and love Cheryl Crow, 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:08.079 well we have something special for you. Cheryl is doing 0:11:08.080 --> 0:11:10.720 a private performance at the I Heart Radio Theater Monday, 0:11:10.760 --> 0:11:14.080 December two at seven pm. It's free. So you just 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:15.840 need to email us to r s up and we 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:18.319 will email you back to confirm. So email Janna Kramer 0:11:18.360 --> 0:11:20.199 and I Heart Media dot com. That's Janna Kramer and 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:22.440 I Heart Media dot com if you would like tickets 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:27.360 to see Cheryl Crow in l A. I'm from like 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:30.840 a healthy conversation. I start off the morning. You know what, 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:32.440 I'm excited about it. I was in my car for 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:34.800 like an hour, just like solo, Miss so I'm excited 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:36.560 to be around. I was listening to the same song 0:11:36.640 --> 0:11:39.360 over and over. Right now, it's stuck in my head. 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:41.320 I'm not gonna sing it even though, okay, you want 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:44.680 me to sing, you know. The new Celina Gomes song 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:49.000 is up. I love it when she says I needed 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:53.040 to hate you to love me. Yeah dead. I wish 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:56.360 I was going through a breakup hate you. I needed 0:11:56.559 --> 0:12:00.920 to Hey, you love me? You love so good? Everyone 0:12:01.000 --> 0:12:04.240 just like turned. Everyone whoever was driving just crashed. Lindsay 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:05.839 All has a really good new song too. I heard 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:10.280 it yesterday on the way here. I heard it yesterday 0:12:10.320 --> 0:12:11.559 all my way here. I was going to take a pick, 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:13.559 but I was It's like, I'm gonna give you a 0:12:13.559 --> 0:12:15.600 little bit right now on Spotify. It's so good. I 0:12:15.600 --> 0:12:18.920 Don't Love You by Lindsay Ella Jam. She played its 0:12:19.080 --> 0:12:42.360 like before they released it, and it's unbelievable. Yeah, I mean, 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:44.839 if you want to go through a breakfast on Missy 0:12:45.000 --> 0:12:50.920 sometime like I'm like, I have Goosey's again. It's so good. 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:53.040 So you guys, dreams of a favorite, get that song, 0:12:54.480 --> 0:12:57.040 roll your windows up, crank up the tunes, sit in 0:12:57.080 --> 0:13:01.000 your car and jam jams wry about whoever you want 0:13:01.000 --> 0:13:03.760 to cry about, like still have the children about whoever 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:06.040 you want? Is there a song that you guys have Like, 0:13:06.120 --> 0:13:10.719 I'm like that, I'm so excited for this conversation. I 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:13.320 don't know where I know that you still think of 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:17.520 that one person even every time you sing it. Please, 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:20.480 Joanna started thought, we wait, we need we need to 0:13:20.600 --> 0:13:24.839 know that this is a safe space. So you no, no, no, no, 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:28.200 I'm just I'm just asking questions like is there someone 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:30.600 that you still think about? Like it could be a friend. 0:13:31.120 --> 0:13:34.720 She needs to totally lead this af It could be 0:13:34.760 --> 0:13:39.240 a friend, it could be a parent. Could know for example, 0:13:39.320 --> 0:13:42.000 like I can't listen to Amazed by Lone Star because 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:46.199 it broke up my parents marriage. Wait, baby, I'm amazed 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:48.680 by I love that. Wait, that song broke up your parents. 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:52.480 My mom goes, do you feel this way about me? 0:13:52.760 --> 0:13:54.920 And my dad said no and they got divorced. Oh. 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:57.120 I just almost all out of my chair. Yeah. I 0:13:57.160 --> 0:14:02.960 mean granted, I mean things, but yeah, do I make you? Yeah? 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:04.920 My mom was do you do you feel this way 0:14:04.920 --> 0:14:06.640 about me? And my dad said no. Into this day, 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:08.320 my mom cannot listen to that song. And I know 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:10.920 the stories, so now I can't the best part of 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:13.200 it is I went to I went to Lone Star 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:14.840 because I did a few songs with them. I was like, 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:23.160 y'all broke my parents up. Thanks Dick, Thanks. Wow, all right, 0:14:23.200 --> 0:14:25.920 I have a I have a jam and it doesn't 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:31.200 affect me today, but about Trish, so it did, it 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:33.360 did for a long time. It's okay, this is a 0:14:33.400 --> 0:14:39.040 safe zone safe yeah. He's like, yeah, yeah, sure, sure bitches. Yeah, 0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:46.280 which we never have. Okay, so we never have. He's 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:50.160 getting ready to okay, everyone, okay, we're just about don't laugh. 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:54.680 It was my like college girlfriends, Daniel Daniel. I actually 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:56.840 love her. We actually have a great conversation. We're friends. 0:14:57.760 --> 0:15:00.880 It's probably a Mike Fashion conversation totally, but I love 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:03.760 her and I think she's so sweet. She's very sweet. 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:07.960 She deserved a lot better than me, so didn't we 0:15:08.000 --> 0:15:16.680 all Yeah, okay, let's hear it. Let's hear it all 0:15:16.760 --> 0:15:33.400 right here it is Oh yeah, hey, hey, Daniel, did 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:43.120 you call it boo boo? That was a jam? Oh well, 0:15:43.160 --> 0:15:46.000 that's like that's like cute. But I feel like, like, 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:48.760 what about you? You didn't tell us yours? Oh your 0:15:48.760 --> 0:15:53.800 parents yeah, she has another one. That's that's I just 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:56.520 put myself out there. Okay, I can think of okay, 0:15:56.520 --> 0:15:58.520 like the chair by George Straits, my parents wedding song 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:01.200 that makes me think of them. No, no, okay, well 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:03.400 what about like another boy though? Since we're going there 0:16:03.680 --> 0:16:06.440 but you didn't go there, I will. Okay, she makes 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:10.480 us go first. I know, I'm just gonna like throw 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:11.920 one out there because her is gonna take the cake. 0:16:12.560 --> 0:16:16.560 Um you mean like not about Thyler Wells to be 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:22.440 like honestly, like, I'm trying to think it's funny because 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:28.520 I feel like, come on you before I have five thousand. 0:16:28.760 --> 0:16:31.160 That's why I'm trying to think if I put you 0:16:31.200 --> 0:16:35.440 on to show what the Arizona state, because like like 0:16:36.040 --> 0:16:38.760 the one, the one before Tye, it's all like hate, 0:16:38.800 --> 0:16:41.520 like any hate songs. I'm just trying to think, totally 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:43.640 make me think of him. But then the one from 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:46.400 high school I would probably see, like any Taylor Swift song. 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:48.440 Oh my god, I know what song? Okay there? Oh 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:51.880 my god? How did I just remember this? This is crazy? Okay, there, 0:16:51.920 --> 0:16:54.080 I can't remember what song Tory? What song is it? 0:16:54.680 --> 0:16:57.720 I remember driving to your house in the middle of 0:16:57.840 --> 0:17:05.600 the not on Yeah, yeah, okay, you belong with me? Maybe? 0:17:05.960 --> 0:17:12.040 Is that okay? Right? Yeah, okay, yeah, because that every 0:17:12.160 --> 0:17:14.760 and she sings out at every concert, and every time 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:16.200 she sings it, it makes me think of my high 0:17:16.240 --> 0:17:20.800 school boyfriend because he one. Because it's just me. You know, 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:22.679 I love Taylor Sliff so much. So every boyfriend I've 0:17:22.680 --> 0:17:25.320 ever had loves her too. And one time he was like, 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:27.080 we were listening to that song and he was like, 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:30.040 this song literally makes me think of you every time 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:31.320 I hear it, because he used to drive to my 0:17:31.359 --> 0:17:33.080 house like every night in the middle of the night, 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:35.160 like he would sneak in and he would sneak out, 0:17:35.160 --> 0:17:36.600 and he was like, every time I hear this, I 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:39.880 think of you because she says, what does she say, 0:17:40.200 --> 0:17:44.919 I remember you driving? Yeah, yeah, the nut I'm the 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:50.679 one who makes you laugh. Yeah that one. And now 0:17:50.720 --> 0:17:55.560 we're singing again, so yeah that one actually, So here's 0:17:55.600 --> 0:18:00.720 my question. But here's my question. So when this conversation, 0:18:00.840 --> 0:18:03.640 is it something where like, is it okay to have 0:18:03.680 --> 0:18:07.119 that memory? Is it okay? That's the time, It's a 0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:09.560 different time, and it's it's because here's the thing I'm like, 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:12.560 is this disrespectful to each other that we're like, no, 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:16.120 because none of us existed when this happened, and it's 0:18:16.119 --> 0:18:21.000 not you know what I mean, Like like we all 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:23.440 were in each other in that moment we thought that 0:18:23.600 --> 0:18:27.159 was it. Yeah for sure, but right, but like, so 0:18:27.240 --> 0:18:29.520 let's say that song comes out, your song the Taylor, 0:18:29.560 --> 0:18:32.119 So like that song comes on and it's like, I 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:34.280 don't feel thinking about Danielle, you know what I mean? 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:35.879 Or that's the thing. It's like, and you're going to 0:18:35.960 --> 0:18:38.040 think the same thing, like are you thinking about this person? 0:18:38.600 --> 0:18:40.400 Because well, if you would tell us, we would know who. 0:18:40.840 --> 0:18:43.400 It goes back to that, like some thing. It depends though, 0:18:43.480 --> 0:18:46.040 because it depends on how recent they're in your life. 0:18:46.080 --> 0:18:48.000 If you get with somebody and it's like, hey, we 0:18:48.080 --> 0:18:51.119 just started dating, you know, six months ago, an a 0:18:51.200 --> 0:18:53.960 year ago, you're with this person and that's the song 0:18:54.119 --> 0:18:56.320 you tell me, then I'm a little too soon. But 0:18:56.359 --> 0:19:00.800 it's been eight years or something to how many songs 0:19:00.840 --> 0:19:05.760 now that I think like you're like missing No, I 0:19:05.840 --> 0:19:08.879 just I'm like, but then, but then why do it's? Um? 0:19:08.920 --> 0:19:10.720 I think it depends. You could definitely be sent down 0:19:10.720 --> 0:19:12.879 a web spiral like feeling now there was different. Like 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:14.280 when I just heard that, I was like, it's a snap. 0:19:15.359 --> 0:19:17.760 I was like, man, I remember well because almost like 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:19.680 when I think of that, I actually feel like I 0:19:19.720 --> 0:19:21.359 remember when he told me this story and we were 0:19:21.400 --> 0:19:23.320 like driving. It just takes me back. I'm like, who 0:19:23.359 --> 0:19:25.840 is that? Like I remember her? She was like such 0:19:25.880 --> 0:19:29.919 a little girl, like not so much like. So I 0:19:29.960 --> 0:19:33.080 don't think I can say, oh no, no, no no, no no, 0:19:33.160 --> 0:19:35.399 I'm gonna play you this song. Okay, well I wouldn't 0:19:35.440 --> 0:19:40.159 play enough to see as a known person, So just 0:19:40.160 --> 0:19:41.560 go with the song first and let us try and 0:19:41.800 --> 0:19:46.440 just called one moment more. Why Mindy Smith? Who many Smith? 0:19:46.520 --> 0:19:54.160 She's amazing? Oh of course, if y'all gonna just see 0:19:54.240 --> 0:19:58.280 Mike's I rolled to the back of this. Of course. 0:19:58.320 --> 0:20:01.320 It's like borderline love s I'm Gonna kill myself type 0:20:01.359 --> 0:20:06.840 of song. Like it's a multipurpose song. It's like Levin 0:20:07.000 --> 0:20:13.600 or Janet in a bathtub like one. This is it. 0:20:13.600 --> 0:20:16.119 It's all about them not not being able to be together, 0:20:16.440 --> 0:20:20.320 and why weren't y'all able to beat together? Because our 0:20:20.400 --> 0:20:24.640 families did not get along Romeo Juliette. It's just about 0:20:24.640 --> 0:20:27.760 like the one woman more Okay, well, how old were 0:20:27.760 --> 0:20:37.680 you twenty six? Was he a future suitor? What engaged 0:20:38.160 --> 0:20:42.720 were you engaged to this person? Yeah, I'm trying to 0:20:42.760 --> 0:20:48.600 think of Jane's I was he's a singer. Yeah, he knows. 0:20:49.480 --> 0:20:54.919 Can we see off their first sure? Yeah? Got it? 0:20:55.960 --> 0:21:07.119 Called it crickets. Crickets you say crickets. I like how 0:21:07.240 --> 0:21:10.200 me and Mike songs were like une boo and it's 0:21:10.200 --> 0:21:13.000 like a tailor swift Bob and Jamie is like if 0:21:13.040 --> 0:21:19.879 you could just come back so dramatic and just arms reaching. 0:21:20.119 --> 0:21:21.920 I know That's what I'm saying. That's why I rolled 0:21:21.960 --> 0:21:24.320 my eyes. I was like, of course this is is 0:21:24.359 --> 0:21:28.679 here that or like it's seven o'clock. I'm then dropped up, 0:21:28.760 --> 0:21:30.360 like if you want to go back there there was 0:21:30.080 --> 0:21:37.000 it was like the high schools, even like Tye n 0:21:37.000 --> 0:21:38.720 I right now, I'm like, we can't even decide on 0:21:38.720 --> 0:21:41.160 the song because I'm like, there's just if you think 0:21:41.160 --> 0:21:43.200 about it every day, you're like, oh this song, this song, 0:21:43.359 --> 0:21:47.160 and especially you know ten years ago that was our 0:21:47.280 --> 0:21:49.639 song like when we left each other. That was just 0:21:49.680 --> 0:21:51.520 like we played were like He's like I can't listen 0:21:51.520 --> 0:21:58.240 to the song anymore. Oh now I'm thinking you can't okay, 0:21:58.400 --> 0:22:04.480 So like I didn't get okay. If we're doing mutual songs, 0:22:04.520 --> 0:22:07.400 the game, this changes the game because that was their 0:22:07.520 --> 0:22:12.720 mutual song? Was that? I mean? For me? Oh my god? 0:22:12.920 --> 0:22:15.080 High school boyfriend and George straight song he would send 0:22:15.080 --> 0:22:17.600 me three years later, drunkn mill and night. He'd send 0:22:17.640 --> 0:22:19.600 me George trade lyrics And I'm like, George is just 0:22:19.600 --> 0:22:24.600 going to casually be at your wedding school. Why can't 0:22:24.600 --> 0:22:28.440 we say who it is? Because he's very private? Aren't 0:22:28.480 --> 0:22:34.199 we all felt the same? But here we are. I 0:22:34.200 --> 0:22:37.760 don't think you guys all know him. You don't listen 0:22:37.800 --> 0:22:41.199 to country to you? Is she kidding? She looking at me. 0:22:41.600 --> 0:22:44.359 I don't listen to country Texas. I don't know. I 0:22:44.400 --> 0:22:49.080 just I you think I understand respect. We'll let people 0:22:49.080 --> 0:22:52.240 do their guesses. Yeah, they'll figure it out. In the comments, 0:22:52.400 --> 0:22:55.280 did he see would he sing it to you? Mike 0:22:55.440 --> 0:22:58.040 is going, but you're really going down a rabbitable here? 0:22:58.680 --> 0:23:00.040 See this is what I said. You can either I 0:23:00.119 --> 0:23:03.240 think of a song where you could just go, We're 0:23:03.240 --> 0:23:06.200 going down a rabbit hole. I'm here for a rabb hole. Yeah, 0:23:06.320 --> 0:23:12.440 I just would yeah, because he's Yeah, yeah, we got her. 0:23:16.000 --> 0:23:22.320 Normally you're never suspecting, like you know because big country artist. 0:23:23.400 --> 0:23:28.480 Oh she nearrowed it down. God, and it's not Brentley 0:23:28.480 --> 0:23:33.600 All okay, it's not start digging people anyhoo. Oh that 0:23:33.720 --> 0:23:36.159 was a please change the topic. That was funny. That 0:23:36.240 --> 0:23:38.600 was such a that was a good all right, Let's 0:23:38.640 --> 0:23:48.640 take it one more break and then we'll do an email. Okay, 0:23:49.640 --> 0:23:51.600 So during that commercial break, no, we don't need to 0:23:51.600 --> 0:23:56.000 get in. That's so good. Okay, So we have an 0:23:56.040 --> 0:24:04.600 email from Ashley discovery a second little sister that like 0:24:04.760 --> 0:24:06.760 doing that little commercial break. Chams like, so do you 0:24:06.800 --> 0:24:12.000 miss her? Kidding? I'm sure you know what they say, like, 0:24:12.440 --> 0:24:14.600 you know, you'll always have a piece of my heart. 0:24:15.800 --> 0:24:18.160 Maybe people always do have a little piece of your heart. 0:24:19.400 --> 0:24:23.000 Let's just go onto the email. This email is from 0:24:23.040 --> 0:24:28.080 Ashley Janna, Okay, I reading that. Let's have Sarah read 0:24:28.119 --> 0:24:33.840 it since she's neutral to this. After the discovery of 0:24:33.880 --> 0:24:36.439 my husband's sex addiction three weeks ago, my friend basically 0:24:36.480 --> 0:24:39.439 forced me to listen to you. Thank you, Janna, you 0:24:39.480 --> 0:24:41.560 have kept me alive. I have a I have a 0:24:41.640 --> 0:24:43.879 terrible question though, would there have been a limit or 0:24:43.960 --> 0:24:46.560 line you would have drawn to the addiction, like if 0:24:46.600 --> 0:24:48.600 he would have slept with X amount of people or 0:24:48.600 --> 0:24:51.240 did any specific thing that would have been too much 0:24:51.280 --> 0:24:55.520 to bear. That's a really good question because we don't 0:24:55.520 --> 0:25:00.320 get into the specifics of numbers and things. But I 0:25:00.359 --> 0:25:04.000 do remember mm hmm when he was in treatment and 0:25:04.040 --> 0:25:06.600 I just wanted to know. I wanted to know how many. 0:25:07.119 --> 0:25:09.160 I just like you wanted to know everything. I wanted 0:25:09.160 --> 0:25:11.000 to know everything, but I wanted to know how many. 0:25:11.160 --> 0:25:12.520 And then in my head I'd be like, Okay, if 0:25:12.520 --> 0:25:14.680 it's this many, I'm leaving. If it's this many, I'm leaving. 0:25:14.760 --> 0:25:17.720 If it's or if it's this then I'm leaving, Like 0:25:17.800 --> 0:25:21.600 you would justify things. Yeah, But what I realized was 0:25:21.600 --> 0:25:24.160 was whether it was one or a thousand, it's all bad. 0:25:24.720 --> 0:25:30.520 It all sucks, it all feels deceitful in bad. Um. So, 0:25:30.720 --> 0:25:33.639 first of all, Ashley, I'm I'm glad that this show 0:25:33.720 --> 0:25:40.360 is helping you very Yeah. So sorry, UM, here's the deal. 0:25:40.359 --> 0:25:42.720 When someone's an addiction, it doesn't make sense. And that's 0:25:42.720 --> 0:25:44.879 something that I've had to learn because I'd be like, well, 0:25:44.880 --> 0:25:46.480 I don't understand how you could do this and how 0:25:46.680 --> 0:25:49.120 this this person, and like it doesn't make sense when 0:25:49.119 --> 0:25:51.640 you say, like any specific thing, it's all too much 0:25:51.680 --> 0:25:54.479 to bear. It all doesn't make sense. But that's the 0:25:54.480 --> 0:25:58.119 thing we're not it's when you're in an addiction. It 0:25:58.200 --> 0:26:02.040 doesn't make sense to the addict either, right, No, it doesn't. 0:26:02.200 --> 0:26:04.639 So it's like they in their rational mind, now, I 0:26:04.680 --> 0:26:07.720 hope you know, Mike and recovery can be like, yeah, 0:26:07.760 --> 0:26:10.680 that that's just it's out of control behavior when you're 0:26:10.680 --> 0:26:15.440 an addict. So it's it's actually it's up to you 0:26:15.480 --> 0:26:20.680 to determine that for yourself. And it's and like Janna said, 0:26:20.800 --> 0:26:23.280 you know, early on, Janna would be questioning why, like 0:26:23.359 --> 0:26:26.919 how this, and a lot of times my answer is 0:26:27.040 --> 0:26:30.000 I don't know, And that was the truth and the 0:26:30.040 --> 0:26:32.560 honest answer because and I think that's the hardest thing 0:26:32.560 --> 0:26:35.560 for these it is to not have an answer exactly, 0:26:35.640 --> 0:26:37.600 to not have an answer. It took Janna a long 0:26:37.640 --> 0:26:40.440 time to accept that kind of as an answer and 0:26:40.520 --> 0:26:47.159 too respect the addictive aspect of this, because it was 0:26:47.600 --> 0:26:50.200 we you know, at the time, especially when Jana was 0:26:50.200 --> 0:26:52.119 asking all those questions, I didn't know because I was 0:26:52.880 --> 0:26:54.880 figuring it all out. I was figuring out where things 0:26:54.920 --> 0:26:57.399 came from what behaviors and when it started and how 0:26:57.440 --> 0:27:00.639 it started and how it manifested and of grew into 0:27:00.680 --> 0:27:03.560 and all of that. So it's it's up to you 0:27:03.600 --> 0:27:08.400 to determine, you know, what you can handle and withstand, 0:27:09.080 --> 0:27:12.240 and the only way you can determine that is over 0:27:12.280 --> 0:27:14.000 a period of time. And the biggest thing, one of 0:27:14.000 --> 0:27:16.359 the biggest things that jan and I've talked about and 0:27:16.400 --> 0:27:18.719 that our couple of therapists told us, and that Janet's 0:27:18.720 --> 0:27:22.679 individual therapist told us or told her, it was set 0:27:22.720 --> 0:27:25.720 yourself a timeline. So it's don't make wasn't no major 0:27:25.760 --> 0:27:29.639 decisions in the first year, which to me sounded crazy. 0:27:29.640 --> 0:27:31.520 I'm like, are you kidding me? I want to be like, no, 0:27:31.600 --> 0:27:34.600 I need to understand all this and but with but 0:27:34.760 --> 0:27:38.480 within that, within that year, you can make other smaller 0:27:38.560 --> 0:27:42.040 timelines of all right, we're not going to live in 0:27:42.040 --> 0:27:44.440 the same house for the first three months, we're gonna 0:27:44.440 --> 0:27:48.040 be separated or something like that. Um, you can take 0:27:48.080 --> 0:27:50.760 whatever you can take steps to to reconnect so it 0:27:50.800 --> 0:27:53.120 doesn't feel like you have to be thrusted and forced 0:27:53.640 --> 0:27:57.440 into staying together or sleeping in the same room or 0:27:57.480 --> 0:28:00.280 being under the same roof. Right away, because you're hurt, 0:28:00.680 --> 0:28:03.639 you're traumatized, So do what you need to have the 0:28:03.680 --> 0:28:06.560 space that you need. But just take a year or 0:28:06.600 --> 0:28:08.119 even if you if a year just sounds too much, 0:28:08.119 --> 0:28:12.320 to six months, don't make any major decisions and live 0:28:12.400 --> 0:28:18.520 with and sit with everything as you process. And great. 0:28:18.840 --> 0:28:22.440 I love that. And also again I just want because 0:28:22.440 --> 0:28:23.960 it's I think it's hard to because when you're in 0:28:24.000 --> 0:28:28.119 that position, the addict is not your husband. The husband 0:28:28.160 --> 0:28:30.240 is not an addict. So with Mike, I'd be like, 0:28:30.320 --> 0:28:33.639 you're that person. He's not that person. It's the addiction 0:28:34.600 --> 0:28:37.800 that made him that person, and he if he's willing 0:28:37.840 --> 0:28:40.960 to do the work and become his version of himself, 0:28:41.960 --> 0:28:46.400 which yes, absolutely to clarify, is not an excuse, it's 0:28:46.440 --> 0:28:51.040 an explanation. So there's that's completely different. Remember that it's 0:28:51.040 --> 0:28:54.840 not an excuse. It's an explanation to his behaviors. And 0:28:55.000 --> 0:28:57.200 it's his job to dig deep and figure out where 0:28:57.240 --> 0:28:59.920 this came from and how to handle them moving forward. 0:29:00.080 --> 0:29:03.400 And it's your job to take care of your good boundaries, 0:29:03.440 --> 0:29:05.360 but take care of yourself and figure out what you 0:29:05.400 --> 0:29:12.000 need moving forward. Lovely girl hanging there, would you leave tie? 0:29:11.520 --> 0:29:14.720 Do you like I don't see tie everything on you. 0:29:14.800 --> 0:29:16.760 But I mean god, I never I mean yeah, I've 0:29:16.800 --> 0:29:19.400 always said like I don't know, like even to you, 0:29:19.440 --> 0:29:21.120 I was like, I don't know how you're so strong. 0:29:21.480 --> 0:29:23.520 I'm just not that strong and I'm not that forgiving. 0:29:23.520 --> 0:29:27.840 And you know me, I'm very like I'm really which 0:29:27.880 --> 0:29:30.880 is not I'm not proud of it. But I can drop, stop, 0:29:30.960 --> 0:29:34.840 drop and roll and leave real quick like relationships. Where 0:29:34.800 --> 0:29:37.400 do you think that? Is that any family of origin 0:29:37.760 --> 0:29:41.200 with you or is that just something I think that 0:29:41.320 --> 0:29:44.320 because I'm one of five, I've just been like something 0:29:44.320 --> 0:29:47.160 that people probably don't realize. I'm really independent, Like I 0:29:47.200 --> 0:29:50.000 love being alone when I try travel so much, I 0:29:50.080 --> 0:29:52.280 like to be alone. And I think that just comes 0:29:52.280 --> 0:29:54.719 from a big family and taking care of myself and 0:29:54.760 --> 0:29:58.080 just you know, doing it myself and not worrying about 0:29:58.080 --> 0:30:03.720 anyone but myself. A And I'm sure i got burned somewhere, 0:30:04.040 --> 0:30:07.400 you know, I'm sure kindergarten or something. I'm sure I 0:30:07.440 --> 0:30:11.800 got burned somewhere along the way. M hmmm. Actually I know, 0:30:12.000 --> 0:30:14.440 actually I know, I know, I know why I am 0:30:14.440 --> 0:30:20.560 the way I am. Um, I think that go there, girl, 0:30:21.480 --> 0:30:24.280 Well I feel now we're like just totally keep So 0:30:24.360 --> 0:30:26.120 in high school with my boyfriend broke up with me. 0:30:26.320 --> 0:30:27.560 He broke up with me and never talked to me 0:30:27.600 --> 0:30:30.800 again for a year, and I didn't understand why. I 0:30:30.800 --> 0:30:34.440 didn't understand how. I was seventeen, and I was like, 0:30:34.720 --> 0:30:36.440 how how do you do that? Like you know? And 0:30:36.480 --> 0:30:38.800 this is also how do you just shut it off? 0:30:39.400 --> 0:30:44.040 And I literally, oh my god, I cried all the time, 0:30:44.120 --> 0:30:46.400 not a crier. And I remember saying, I will never 0:30:46.640 --> 0:30:49.719 let someone hurt. I will never let someone do this 0:30:49.760 --> 0:30:52.920 to me again. And I'd never have let anyone do 0:30:52.960 --> 0:30:56.520 it to me again ever. And I think that's why 0:30:56.560 --> 0:30:58.520 I just kind of when I'm done, I'm done, and 0:30:58.520 --> 0:31:00.280 I just go because I don't want to feel it again. 0:31:00.320 --> 0:31:03.880 I don't want to go back there, and I don't. 0:31:04.120 --> 0:31:06.040 It's so I can't even imagine hi, But I know 0:31:06.080 --> 0:31:08.680 you're right, you don't ever imagine it. But I don't 0:31:08.680 --> 0:31:11.320 know that would be so. I think kids is different, 0:31:11.800 --> 0:31:14.960 you know, but that would be so that would be 0:31:15.000 --> 0:31:18.480 so hard for me. It amazes me how impactful um 0:31:18.520 --> 0:31:23.080 experiences in high school and the adolescence, how it shapes 0:31:23.120 --> 0:31:26.560 you because you're so impressionable and everything. I was just 0:31:26.560 --> 0:31:29.680 talking to somebody recently, like Nick and Parker and stuff, 0:31:29.680 --> 0:31:31.800 some of my buddies back in Nashville. We're talking about football, 0:31:31.840 --> 0:31:34.160 and it's funny when we had talked about high school 0:31:34.200 --> 0:31:36.960 football memories. Everything in high school seemed larger than life, 0:31:37.720 --> 0:31:39.280 like even people you played with, oh, I remember that, 0:31:39.320 --> 0:31:42.160 they seemed larger than like in my memory. They seem 0:31:42.200 --> 0:31:44.680 bigger than gods I played in the NFL with. And 0:31:44.760 --> 0:31:47.280 it's just everything, it's more pactful and bigger, because that's 0:31:47.320 --> 0:31:49.640 what you think your entire life is is high school 0:31:49.880 --> 0:31:53.920 and emotions are just heightened. I don't know because and 0:31:53.960 --> 0:31:55.959 it's interesting because like as you said that, I'm like, 0:31:56.120 --> 0:31:59.320 I'm I was the opposite. So he left me too. 0:32:00.120 --> 0:32:03.360 But I then became why don't you love me? Why 0:32:03.400 --> 0:32:05.640 am I not enough? And then that is that is 0:32:05.680 --> 0:32:08.040 the moment in my life when I started. And it 0:32:08.080 --> 0:32:10.680 was also during my parents divorced, so it wasn't good 0:32:10.680 --> 0:32:14.400 to have, like to God, and then my Grandpather died, 0:32:14.440 --> 0:32:17.320 so it's all like boom boom bam, and that was 0:32:17.720 --> 0:32:19.800 like wow, Like here, just hearing you say that, I'm like, yep, 0:32:19.920 --> 0:32:23.040 that's that's also maybe why. I was just like, love me, 0:32:23.080 --> 0:32:25.120 love me, love me? Why are you leaving me? No, 0:32:25.240 --> 0:32:28.800 don't leave me? It's crazy. Yeah, And I'll at this 0:32:28.840 --> 0:32:31.880 on top of it with along with y'all. The first 0:32:31.920 --> 0:32:34.960 I think I touched on this before the first girl 0:32:35.000 --> 0:32:36.960 I can say I ever truly felt I was in 0:32:37.000 --> 0:32:39.120 love with. I was like sixteen, she went to a 0:32:39.120 --> 0:32:41.719 different high school. We had like a summer fling in 0:32:41.760 --> 0:32:42.960 my head. I'm like in my heart, I'm like, I 0:32:43.000 --> 0:32:45.280 love this is the first person I've ever loved. She 0:32:45.760 --> 0:32:48.360 left me, cheat on me with her ex boyfriend, got 0:32:48.360 --> 0:32:51.040 back together together with him, and it's like that moment, 0:32:51.080 --> 0:32:53.760 I felt like I'm never gonna be hurt again, Like 0:32:54.200 --> 0:32:56.640 I'm not gonna let someone leave me, like I'm going 0:32:56.680 --> 0:33:00.760 to leave them. That was me I left. It's interesting 0:33:00.800 --> 0:33:04.320 how that shapes you, Isn't it crazy? That just one thing. 0:33:06.400 --> 0:33:08.480 And I think because in that moment, like you probably 0:33:08.480 --> 0:33:11.920 had never hurt that way. You probably had never at 0:33:11.960 --> 0:33:14.120 that time, I had never been hurt that way, and 0:33:14.120 --> 0:33:16.360 I didn't understand it, and so you kind of are 0:33:16.400 --> 0:33:18.280 just like, Okay, how do I make you know? Your 0:33:18.320 --> 0:33:19.680 little mind is like, how do I make sure this 0:33:19.760 --> 0:33:23.600 never happens never you know, always be the strong hand, 0:33:23.640 --> 0:33:25.360 never let you know. And you were probably like, how 0:33:25.400 --> 0:33:27.000 do I make sure this? I just love just I 0:33:27.040 --> 0:33:31.000 just want love crazy insane. Imagine if we were all 0:33:31.000 --> 0:33:32.800 in high school together. I thought we'd all be friends 0:33:34.880 --> 0:33:39.239 each other susan not like that way each other up. 0:33:40.440 --> 0:33:43.040 But yeah, I mean, god, that's just crazy. Do you 0:33:43.120 --> 0:33:48.000 like mostly most voted for something? Because I was remember 0:33:48.040 --> 0:33:51.520 that time Janna cried because Matthew made me cry all 0:33:51.560 --> 0:33:55.239 the time. Wait, so I was always crying? And then um, 0:33:55.400 --> 0:33:58.720 most like then the cover of Glamour, So that's so cute. 0:34:00.200 --> 0:34:04.040 Um okay, I was, we'll see we did it in 0:34:04.080 --> 0:34:05.680 eighth grade, and then we did it. I think my 0:34:05.720 --> 0:34:07.960 senior year. Oh, senior year, I was voted most likely 0:34:08.000 --> 0:34:11.200 to be mistaken for a celebrity. Okay, that's absolutely is 0:34:11.280 --> 0:34:13.120 not random. That's great. But then in eighth grade I 0:34:13.160 --> 0:34:19.600 got like class clown and like the most athletics just 0:34:19.719 --> 0:34:22.880 charmed everybody. I just I kind of worry for our 0:34:22.960 --> 0:34:27.320 kids though, because I know now impressionable that high school age. 0:34:27.400 --> 0:34:30.640 I think about that too anymore. What's that? Oh? I 0:34:30.680 --> 0:34:34.080 think so like best smile Probably not because they don't 0:34:34.080 --> 0:34:36.359 want to just like everyone gets a trophy, so God, 0:34:36.440 --> 0:34:39.560 here we go. But someone's feelings are going to get hurt. Really, 0:34:39.560 --> 0:34:42.759 they're taking away the likes on Instagram. Oh yeah, which 0:34:42.800 --> 0:34:45.399 I'm totally cool with, see because your analytics are still 0:34:45.400 --> 0:34:46.920 going to be there for like, but you know what's 0:34:46.960 --> 0:34:48.880 funny is they're taking away the likes. But it's like 0:34:49.120 --> 0:34:52.839 the likes aren't the trolls are in the comments. So 0:34:52.920 --> 0:34:55.560 you think there are things that there are pictures that 0:34:55.600 --> 0:34:57.279 I don't put on my Instagram because I know they're 0:34:57.280 --> 0:34:58.680 not going to have a good but I would like to, 0:34:58.800 --> 0:35:00.120 but I know they're not going to have a it 0:35:00.840 --> 0:35:04.000 it hurts and that hurts me, like it messes with 0:35:04.040 --> 0:35:06.400 my head when that's why this one's only gonna get 0:35:06.440 --> 0:35:10.400 ten and it's like a hundred thousand. I didn't understand why, 0:35:10.680 --> 0:35:12.520 but now I guess that makes sense. I was like, 0:35:12.560 --> 0:35:16.520 if you like, you can still go to analytics sure 0:35:16.640 --> 0:35:19.080 for like this, you know, sponsored stuff, and they got it. 0:35:19.320 --> 0:35:21.080 Are you heeling your nails on? I just peeled off 0:35:21.080 --> 0:35:22.640 all my jels. Sorry, I was getting like nervous talking 0:35:22.640 --> 0:35:24.640 about my high school self. Clearly. I was just like, 0:35:25.160 --> 0:35:28.560 you are well and they were peeling off some like, no, 0:35:30.239 --> 0:35:34.400 are you kidding? I feel like we had we had 0:35:34.400 --> 0:35:36.560 a nostalgia episode a few weeks ago. I feel like 0:35:36.560 --> 0:35:40.160 this is that that should have been this title. I know, No, 0:35:40.719 --> 0:35:42.120 I don't know. I'll tell you mind if you tell 0:35:42.120 --> 0:35:45.359 me yours? I know, wait, tell you tell me you're what. 0:35:45.520 --> 0:35:47.799 The other one who the song was about, his name 0:35:47.840 --> 0:35:55.160 is John. Oh, good job real, tell us Brian's with rip. Okay, 0:35:55.239 --> 0:35:58.000 we'll do that. John's very common names. Thoughts always said it, 0:35:58.719 --> 0:36:04.359 you're dick. What? Oh my god, I said it, Tricia John? 0:36:05.560 --> 0:36:07.880 You know the other one, the high school girl. Now 0:36:08.000 --> 0:36:10.480 she's just making you say any name. We're talking about 0:36:10.480 --> 0:36:12.239 the song. I thought you were talking about the high 0:36:12.239 --> 0:36:17.640 school girl. His high Yeah, we're talking about two so 0:36:17.680 --> 0:36:20.400 many times, guys. Funny. Now look at all of us. 0:36:20.440 --> 0:36:23.879 We're all just married and I know happy. I can't 0:36:23.880 --> 0:36:27.680 wait till Julie Ho's our first boyfriend. M M, like, 0:36:27.680 --> 0:36:30.200 how are you going to handle that? It's I'll be 0:36:30.200 --> 0:36:32.520 better than when Jay says his first girlfriend. We're watching 0:36:32.880 --> 0:36:35.880 it made me. We're watching Crazy Stupid Love Yesterday, I 0:36:36.200 --> 0:36:40.120 love and even It's We're like we started ten minutes 0:36:40.120 --> 0:36:42.160 in and Janna was like, is this what we're gonna watch? 0:36:42.560 --> 0:36:45.799 I'm like, yeah, I'm not writing in a truck. Ten 0:36:46.200 --> 0:36:48.319 more minutes. Ten more minutes later, she was just like 0:36:48.360 --> 0:36:50.640 I love this movie. I was like, I know, that's 0:36:50.640 --> 0:36:53.600 why we're watching it, but like with his son and 0:36:53.680 --> 0:36:55.960 like being in love at eighth grade and so I'm like, 0:36:56.120 --> 0:36:59.440 I can't imagine, like Janna, I mean Jolie and Jay 0:36:59.600 --> 0:37:03.320 and Ace and like when he said whole a million 0:37:03.400 --> 0:37:06.680 times when they're doing start like Julian Moore had to 0:37:06.680 --> 0:37:08.120 go in to give him. I was like, I'm almost 0:37:08.120 --> 0:37:11.279 excited that for those moments, just to be like on 0:37:11.360 --> 0:37:13.600 the receiving it, because I was just always in trouble life. 0:37:13.640 --> 0:37:15.840 You're like, so just to be the parent to be 0:37:15.960 --> 0:37:18.319 like but it's like do you get attached, Like if 0:37:18.400 --> 0:37:20.200 Julie has a boyfriend and you don't like him, or 0:37:20.239 --> 0:37:22.120 what if you love him so much? And like she's 0:37:22.160 --> 0:37:28.040 heartbroken first heartbreak that dad, that's like, why are you 0:37:28.040 --> 0:37:31.400 going to break up with him? I remember when my 0:37:31.480 --> 0:37:34.120 dad start with me. I was so because it's your dad, 0:37:34.160 --> 0:37:35.640 you don't want to like talk about it. I feel 0:37:35.640 --> 0:37:37.560 like you're going to be like that, like, Jolie, what's 0:37:37.600 --> 0:37:41.440 what's going on? I'm gonna be I'm gonna be like 0:37:41.600 --> 0:37:44.080 this other girl did in high school when I broke 0:37:44.160 --> 0:37:49.399 up with her, her parents, her parents, her parents left 0:37:49.400 --> 0:37:51.640 me so much, and they're kind of like they kind 0:37:51.640 --> 0:37:53.440 of looked at their daughter and they're like, well, you know, 0:37:53.480 --> 0:37:55.960 Mike's a really nice boy and he probably had a reason, 0:37:56.080 --> 0:37:59.880 and you know, but you're sending the fact that I 0:38:00.040 --> 0:38:03.920 did that that's funny. Um so I had. I was 0:38:04.200 --> 0:38:06.719 looking at the reviews of the show. I used to 0:38:06.760 --> 0:38:08.799 love Janna, love her music, but when she talks about 0:38:08.840 --> 0:38:11.440 how much money she spends, I finally had to stop listening. 0:38:12.160 --> 0:38:15.360 I mean, like which episode which was too because I'm 0:38:15.400 --> 0:38:19.120 the most frugal person in the world. At first, I 0:38:19.160 --> 0:38:21.239 was like, what we're discussing what her husband spent on 0:38:21.280 --> 0:38:23.040 video games? Was in poor taste. I don't even make 0:38:23.080 --> 0:38:26.560 that in a year. I'm very sorry, and somehow it's 0:38:26.560 --> 0:38:28.399 not your fault. Society is like this, but please don't 0:38:28.440 --> 0:38:31.880 add to this. I think, look what you did, you 0:38:31.920 --> 0:38:34.040 a little. Janna is ruden all around nasty human. I 0:38:34.080 --> 0:38:40.319 just want to say thank you, mission accomplished. Wait, what 0:38:40.360 --> 0:38:44.080 are you reading yea this podcast reviews um. The last 0:38:44.120 --> 0:38:46.040 few episodes have been very uncomfortable. It seems like the 0:38:46.040 --> 0:38:48.840 episodes are filled pasive aggressive comments towards Mike. It's uncomfortable 0:38:48.840 --> 0:38:50.680 to hear Janet bash Mike so much. Well, listen to 0:38:50.760 --> 0:38:52.640 this episode because we were having fun, and also last 0:38:52.640 --> 0:38:55.640 week's episode we had a lot of fun. So tune in. 0:38:56.040 --> 0:38:59.160 That's so funny. Wait, what I just want to say. 0:38:59.520 --> 0:39:01.920 I'm sorry of the people to think I'm passive aggressive. 0:39:02.000 --> 0:39:03.680 I know that that's something that I'm working on, and 0:39:03.719 --> 0:39:06.080 I love my husband and sometimes for the show we 0:39:06.160 --> 0:39:09.920 have to have, um, we have to have disagreements, because 0:39:09.960 --> 0:39:12.080 that's it would be boring. I think they got All 0:39:12.120 --> 0:39:14.720 they do is agree. All they do is be happy 0:39:14.760 --> 0:39:19.440 and in love. Yeah, this is us. Take her to 0:39:19.520 --> 0:39:24.000 leave it, damn bo. But thanks for having my back 0:39:24.040 --> 0:39:32.840 out there. Oh god, Oh my gosh, it's funny. Because 0:39:32.880 --> 0:39:36.800 we were having this conversation, I was just like, because 0:39:37.200 --> 0:39:39.920 what are you laughing? Are right now? Why are you loving? 0:39:42.040 --> 0:39:45.280 Who just sent that to you? Do you think who's listen? Oh? 0:39:45.400 --> 0:39:50.759 Eastern onlievable. Eastern just sent a photo to Mike of 0:39:50.800 --> 0:39:53.359 my face being covered up with a spartan head. It's 0:39:53.440 --> 0:39:54.920 very funny. Can you just save that because I'm going 0:39:54.920 --> 0:39:58.399 to post it next. That's exactly what I had money 0:39:58.400 --> 0:40:00.440 east than I can take this to my art today. 0:40:00.800 --> 0:40:02.600 I just can we just wrap that up though, because 0:40:02.640 --> 0:40:04.839 I really do want to say, and this is from 0:40:04.920 --> 0:40:08.400 my absolutely, I'm not playing games. I'm not I you 0:40:08.480 --> 0:40:10.719 know I've always and why I'm so sensitive to that 0:40:10.840 --> 0:40:14.000 arm is because you said I want to look down 0:40:14.000 --> 0:40:17.040 in this arm and know that you know this is 0:40:17.040 --> 0:40:18.920 my recovery arm, and this is what this means, and 0:40:18.960 --> 0:40:20.480 this is what this means. So I just want you 0:40:20.520 --> 0:40:22.799 to know. I just want you to be happy with 0:40:22.840 --> 0:40:24.719 whatever you're doing. And I've always said that with your 0:40:24.800 --> 0:40:27.000 with your arm, like it is your arm, you do 0:40:27.080 --> 0:40:30.399 what you want to do. So I just don't want 0:40:30.440 --> 0:40:31.680 you to feel like you had to be like, but 0:40:31.719 --> 0:40:34.160 I'm going to put it on something else or whatever, like, 0:40:34.239 --> 0:40:35.719 don't feel like you have to, because I feel like 0:40:35.760 --> 0:40:38.840 you do that a lot to like save face and 0:40:38.880 --> 0:40:40.680 to be codependent, and like you don't have to say 0:40:40.680 --> 0:40:43.759 that if you don't truly want to, because then it 0:40:43.760 --> 0:40:46.000 makes me feel like you're just doing it to like 0:40:46.320 --> 0:40:48.480 appease me. And I don't. I don't like, I don't 0:40:48.520 --> 0:40:49.839 want that because then I feel like that comes back 0:40:49.880 --> 0:40:53.760 at me and I'm like, but I didn't even say anything. Okay, 0:40:54.200 --> 0:41:02.040 thank you. 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Yeah, 0:44:12.520 --> 0:44:14.480 And when I was a kid, I remember my mom 0:44:14.520 --> 0:44:16.239 always telling me I don't remember what age I was, 0:44:16.280 --> 0:44:18.680 but she was just like, stay this age forever, like 0:44:19.040 --> 0:44:23.600 stay four, stay seven, whatever age I was. No, I'm 0:44:23.600 --> 0:44:25.880 growing up, mom. And now with Jason, I'm like, I 0:44:25.920 --> 0:44:31.080 want him to stay like eleven months for like six 0:44:31.120 --> 0:44:34.520 more months. Believe he's almost one. I wanted to stay 0:44:34.600 --> 0:44:38.360 that age for like six more months, like crawling and 0:44:38.520 --> 0:44:42.879 just he's just he's the most intentional little kid. He's 0:44:43.000 --> 0:44:47.759 very kind. He is a kind, kind soul, such a 0:44:47.840 --> 0:44:50.239 good little boy. He's yeah, he's like I can't even 0:44:50.239 --> 0:44:51.840 talk about hi, I'm gonna cry because he's just like 0:44:52.200 --> 0:44:54.680 he's my boy. The way the way he even plays cars. 0:44:54.880 --> 0:44:56.799 You'all can't see it listening, but he'll just be like this, 0:44:57.600 --> 0:45:01.080 like very delicate, very he's his two fingers and he pushes. 0:45:01.120 --> 0:45:05.279 It's so solid. He's just like staring at it with 0:45:05.360 --> 0:45:07.799 such intent, and that's how he is when he stares 0:45:07.840 --> 0:45:10.399 at people. He's just like intentionally. He just I feel 0:45:10.400 --> 0:45:12.960 like you can feel his kind soul, Like I don't 0:45:12.960 --> 0:45:15.280 want to have a boy unless he's like that. Honestly, sorry, 0:45:15.480 --> 0:45:17.880 he's the best because I just want like a sweet 0:45:18.040 --> 0:45:21.080 little like like imagine if he was like a wild 0:45:22.120 --> 0:45:24.200 I mean, maybe he will get he'll have he'll have 0:45:24.239 --> 0:45:27.480 those moments. But now that he is standing and like walking, 0:45:28.120 --> 0:45:30.719 Janna is just foaming at the mouth because now she 0:45:30.719 --> 0:45:36.800 can start dressing him in like super spat, like drop crotch, camo, 0:45:37.640 --> 0:45:41.200 you know, Beanie half on, like all of that and 0:45:41.320 --> 0:45:44.840 Jolie um. I got an email from her speech therapist 0:45:45.320 --> 0:45:47.880 her speech sound skills are now with the normal limits 0:45:47.960 --> 0:45:50.560 for her age, so she might be able to graduate 0:45:50.600 --> 0:45:55.920 by the end of the year or beginning. I know 0:45:56.120 --> 0:45:59.520 she's she's so sweet. It's a crazy, crazy age. I 0:45:59.520 --> 0:46:02.719 feel like one and I feel like four. Hopefully we'll 0:46:02.760 --> 0:46:06.120 get easier because three was really challenging with her, and 0:46:06.160 --> 0:46:08.719 I feel like it was like three new babies because 0:46:08.760 --> 0:46:11.080 they're so close. You had Jason then her birthday was 0:46:11.080 --> 0:46:15.840 a month later. She's such, she's a good she's so cute. 0:46:16.040 --> 0:46:22.319 Nobody can entertain Jace like Jolie. Yeah best. I know. 0:46:22.880 --> 0:46:25.040 He's getting to the age now where if she takes 0:46:25.040 --> 0:46:28.279 his toy, she he he doesn't cry, but when she 0:46:28.800 --> 0:46:31.920 he when she grabs his truck, it's like it sounds 0:46:31.920 --> 0:46:35.239 like he is in so much pain. Like he's understanding now, 0:46:35.320 --> 0:46:37.360 like like when you take something away from it. But 0:46:37.400 --> 0:46:39.600 maybe when he's like when he can walk and he 0:46:39.600 --> 0:46:42.520 can follow her around and he can like he's going 0:46:42.560 --> 0:46:44.239 to be her little doll, like she's going to dress 0:46:44.280 --> 0:46:48.080 him up. Ty has traumatizing stories. He's like plenty used 0:46:48.080 --> 0:46:50.800 to dress me up as snow Why and Cinderella. But 0:46:50.840 --> 0:46:52.920 they were like best friends. They are they That's what 0:46:52.960 --> 0:46:54.440 I loved most when I met Ty. I loved talk. 0:46:54.520 --> 0:46:56.760 I was like, oh my god, you guys are best friends. 0:46:56.760 --> 0:46:58.000 And I love how close there. And I feel like 0:46:58.000 --> 0:46:59.319 that would be good for Jay's to have like a 0:46:59.360 --> 0:47:01.759 big sister who's really close to because then it's like 0:47:02.520 --> 0:47:07.600 he's going to try and date all her friends. Oh yeah, 0:47:07.680 --> 0:47:11.000 they're close enough in the age, Yeah, they're all they're 0:47:11.120 --> 0:47:15.520 so cute. So get this real quick though, So for 0:47:15.600 --> 0:47:18.360 all those out there maybe in the Chicago area that 0:47:18.400 --> 0:47:21.319 are going to our Chicago show. So you know how 0:47:21.360 --> 0:47:24.080 like comedians do like a special and they have filmed 0:47:24.360 --> 0:47:27.040 documented We're going to do that for the Chicago show. No, well, 0:47:27.040 --> 0:47:29.960 that's what we want to try to do. We're gonna 0:47:30.000 --> 0:47:32.680 make it happen because now I've just started sweating. No, 0:47:33.000 --> 0:47:37.160 I'm ready rang. Oh yeah, like documentary style, like during 0:47:37.200 --> 0:47:39.880 the day for all of us and then during the 0:47:39.920 --> 0:47:43.120 show walk out. There's gonna be one the audience. So Chicago, 0:47:43.800 --> 0:47:45.680 We're gonna make it happen. Y'all got to bring it. 0:47:46.200 --> 0:47:50.319 Chicago is going to be I don't care if me 0:47:50.520 --> 0:47:53.759 and all however many hundred of you, we need to 0:47:53.800 --> 0:47:57.120 take shots together some wait, how many hundreds are there? 0:47:57.640 --> 0:48:01.719 Several sold out? I know I already have the nervous piece. 0:48:01.719 --> 0:48:03.879 I get the nervous in Michigan is the next day. 0:48:04.200 --> 0:48:08.000 Tickets are still available, and so is UM Louisville. Go 0:48:08.080 --> 0:48:10.600 to UM continue Well, yeah, you go to Jane Cramer 0:48:10.600 --> 0:48:12.799 dot com for the tickets or UM just go to 0:48:13.000 --> 0:48:16.800 like UM Royal Oac Theater for Michigan tickets. So Chicago, 0:48:16.840 --> 0:48:18.480 I know it's sold out, but you guys can easily 0:48:18.480 --> 0:48:21.399 just drive it just easily, just a couple of hours 0:48:21.560 --> 0:48:25.440 drive to Michigan. Is um? Is this your hometown in Michigan? 0:48:25.600 --> 0:48:28.080 Very close? It's not like home hometown, but it's quarters. 0:48:28.160 --> 0:48:30.560 Like like a bunch of people from like high school 0:48:30.600 --> 0:48:31.719 going to be there. I would be all my high 0:48:31.760 --> 0:48:34.040 school girlfriends are coming, which I'm really excited about because 0:48:34.040 --> 0:48:35.320 I haven't seen them in a long time. Do some 0:48:35.400 --> 0:48:40.000 high school enemies? Uh, friend of God, Yeah, I really 0:48:40.040 --> 0:48:41.440 would love to talk to the girl that put me 0:48:41.480 --> 0:48:43.560 at the UM. I was one of the targets for 0:48:43.600 --> 0:48:45.279 the what are those things called when we used to 0:48:45.320 --> 0:48:49.000 play football? But it wasn't called Potter, prof it was 0:48:49.040 --> 0:48:51.960 called UM. I don't know what you'll do. I don't 0:48:51.960 --> 0:48:53.920 remember what was called, but it it wasn't called Potter. But 0:48:54.040 --> 0:48:55.480 I found out there was a list. It was like 0:48:55.480 --> 0:48:57.400 a kill list basically, and I was on it. I 0:48:57.440 --> 0:48:59.880 was on it because you were ready, Okay, you were, 0:49:00.560 --> 0:49:02.080 but I wasn't. I wasn't the pretty girl. I was 0:49:02.120 --> 0:49:04.640 like Lisa and Ashley, those are the pretty girls. There 0:49:04.640 --> 0:49:06.400 are gonna be so many people from your high school. 0:49:06.480 --> 0:49:08.200 I just need you to know. I know you don't 0:49:08.200 --> 0:49:11.839 think so what there are. I don't know. It's gonna 0:49:11.840 --> 0:49:14.800 be fun. And it's going to be my brother's coming, 0:49:14.920 --> 0:49:20.120 my aunt's, uncle's like dad, mom of them. So fun. Yeah, 0:49:20.239 --> 0:49:24.359 look at me now, which is that is? It's gonna 0:49:24.360 --> 0:49:26.720 be wild. I'm so excited. Um, and you just turned 0:49:27.560 --> 0:49:33.360 twenty nine. How does it feel. I'm just happy. I 0:49:33.400 --> 0:49:37.920 have a ring. To be honest, thirties the best thirties 0:49:37.920 --> 0:49:40.319 are the best. So I'm so chin to keep saying 0:49:40.320 --> 0:49:43.520 like we're so excited for because like we're getting married, 0:49:43.560 --> 0:49:47.040 We're both going to be turning thirty next year, hopefully 0:49:47.080 --> 0:49:50.040 I'll be working on a baby, and I just feel 0:49:50.040 --> 0:49:52.560 like it's gonna be the best year ever, and I 0:49:52.640 --> 0:49:58.200 like for everyone. Yeah, it's good. And nine is our 0:49:58.280 --> 0:50:01.319 number this year for sure. I'm excited. All right, guys, 0:50:01.440 --> 0:50:06.080 good show show. This is fine. Um, we will wind 0:50:06.080 --> 0:50:09.920 down with you guys later. I need to boom boo, 0:50:09.960 --> 0:50:18.200 boo boo. We have a few minutes. Funny, that's funny.