1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:03,320 Speaker 1: I love when you get here and you're like filming today, right, 2 00:00:03,400 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: It's like so rude. It's truly the rudest thing we're filming. Um, 3 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:13,640 Speaker 1: I can't post about this on Instagram if we don't 4 00:00:13,640 --> 00:00:17,640 Speaker 1: get any content. Yeah, we got a likes and we 5 00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: need our likes and our shares. Speaking of content, the 6 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:22,720 Speaker 1: best thing that ever happened a week and a half 7 00:00:22,720 --> 00:00:24,800 Speaker 1: ago was one of a friend of ours. Boyfriend who 8 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:30,320 Speaker 1: was in a different city, was at work. Don't this 9 00:00:30,360 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 1: is okay? So we had a friend we I'm just 10 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: gonna be honest with the people. Last week, I was 11 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:38,600 Speaker 1: at the beach. Chip had a slammed week with work, 12 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: and we just could not get a time to record. 13 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:43,159 Speaker 1: I was like, it was just and so that we 14 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:47,000 Speaker 1: reposted one of my favorite episodes, which is the one 15 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:52,560 Speaker 1: where we talked to Britta girl. She she not still 16 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 1: keep in touch, by the way, Um, but Brittany had 17 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: the experience of giving a guy a blow job too 18 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: hard and dislocating her jaw and then having to go 19 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:05,480 Speaker 1: to the dentist. What the next day right throat? Yeah? 20 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:08,000 Speaker 1: And her daughter Dennis was like, have you experienced any 21 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:10,400 Speaker 1: mouth trauma? And she was like knew exactly what he 22 00:01:10,440 --> 00:01:13,960 Speaker 1: was talking about, was like, no, what do you mean 23 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 1: by that? He could see it. The moral of that 24 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: story for anyone who has not listened to that episode, 25 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:23,360 Speaker 1: which I do highly recommend if you haven't, But if 26 00:01:23,400 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 1: you haven't, the moral of the story is your dentist 27 00:01:25,840 --> 00:01:29,119 Speaker 1: and your dental hygienist know if you have been giving 28 00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:33,319 Speaker 1: blow jobs. And we've we've had this confirmed by multiple 29 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 1: dental people, people in the in the dental field, um, 30 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:41,480 Speaker 1: that that they can tell if you've had trauma to 31 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:43,319 Speaker 1: the back of your throat or there's like bruising in 32 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:45,000 Speaker 1: girls mouths a lot of times. I guess it doesn't 33 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:46,880 Speaker 1: have to be a girl people's mouth, you're sucking a 34 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 1: little dick, it doesn't happen. Oh my god, everyone, what's that? 35 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:58,680 Speaker 1: It's just about when people go duck? Do you know anyway? Um, So, 36 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 1: it was that episode. We had a friend listening in 37 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 1: his office and someone goes, hey, dude, I think you're 38 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:05,280 Speaker 1: listening to a podcast because you turn it down a 39 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:07,000 Speaker 1: little bit, and he said, that's what we were talking about, 40 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 1: and he was dead. I'm like, that is not something 41 00:02:09,639 --> 00:02:11,760 Speaker 1: you should listen to in public. Listening to it in 42 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: the privacy of your car. He was, well, I think 43 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:17,440 Speaker 1: the person that his coworkers said something like, all I 44 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: know is I heard something about a dislocated job from seconds. Yes, 45 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:27,120 Speaker 1: I'll turn that down anyway. That was That was a 46 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:29,080 Speaker 1: very but it was also really sweet to know that 47 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:31,040 Speaker 1: he was listening. I loved it. I'm like, oh my god, 48 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:33,519 Speaker 1: you're listening to me. I'm sorry about the content and 49 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:36,240 Speaker 1: you're listening. This is amazing. Thank you so much. It's 50 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:38,640 Speaker 1: it's like something different when your friends listen, you know, 51 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:42,239 Speaker 1: it feels it feels very My friend Sarah listens every week. 52 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 1: Hey Sarah, shout out Sarah. What's up, Sarah? Sara in 53 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 1: the house. I love Sarah. Um, okay, what's your update? 54 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:56,480 Speaker 1: Well my update is I hate dating apps. It's just 55 00:02:56,880 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 1: I mean, it's depressing, Like tell us more. It's another 56 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 1: there are good people on there, because I know that 57 00:03:01,760 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 1: there are, Like you're like, look, I'm not tooting my 58 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:09,800 Speaker 1: own horn. I'm just saying that, like I have to 59 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 1: believe that. Um, if you're on there, there's other good people. Sure. 60 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 1: So I just remembered I didn't put my phone on 61 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:20,960 Speaker 1: so if it rings, it might anyway. Um. Wow, thank you. 62 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 1: Sorry everybodys brain. I'm thinking about apps, and then it 63 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:28,560 Speaker 1: made me think about my phone. No, I just like, 64 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 1: I feel like people don't know how to communicate. People 65 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 1: don't seem interesting, and I'm also like, I hate filling 66 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: the things out too, so I probably don't come across 67 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 1: as interesting. Yeah, so it just feels like a fucking waste. 68 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 1: Should I do it for you? Maybe? I almost feel 69 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 1: like that's one of those things. I personally am not 70 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:50,560 Speaker 1: a good salesperson of myself ever, you know and say, 71 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 1: sometimes my friends will point out things like qualities that 72 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I do do that, but I would 73 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 1: never think maybe I should have you fill it out. 74 00:03:58,640 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: I'll pick the photos, of course. Well what I'll do, 75 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 1: I'll give you. I'll give you the photos that I 76 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:07,120 Speaker 1: like and then you can Because I feel like we 77 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: also don't see ourselves how other people see us too, 78 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 1: So what I think might be the best photo of me, 79 00:04:12,840 --> 00:04:14,840 Speaker 1: you might be like, no, don't use that, because you're 80 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:17,480 Speaker 1: looking at something totally different, Like you have this insecurity 81 00:04:17,520 --> 00:04:19,480 Speaker 1: that none of us see. It's the only thing you 82 00:04:19,520 --> 00:04:23,920 Speaker 1: can focus on. Also, are your pictures, Like I've thought 83 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:25,160 Speaker 1: about this. If I ever have to be on a 84 00:04:25,240 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 1: dating app. Like I'd take a lot of pictures from 85 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 1: my Instagram and they're very like almost stagey or you know, 86 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:34,240 Speaker 1: it's like a lot of mine are like they just 87 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:36,480 Speaker 1: need to be approachable, That's what I'm saying. And they 88 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 1: need to be authentic to you, not professional. Look like 89 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 1: you just got your first camera because so many people 90 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:48,279 Speaker 1: I'm like, that's the photo that I mean, it's I 91 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 1: just think a lot of people don't have any sort 92 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 1: of self awareness at all. Um, And look, we're all 93 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: trying our best. So have you had any good conversation? 94 00:04:57,000 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: And it's like people will respond to things and then 95 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: like they don't. It's like they don't really leave the 96 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:08,839 Speaker 1: door open for the conversation to flow for more engagement. Yeah, 97 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:10,680 Speaker 1: and I know it doesn't always have to like end 98 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:12,839 Speaker 1: in the question like how is your weekend great? How 99 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:16,839 Speaker 1: is yours? Like it doesn't have to be that is 100 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:18,960 Speaker 1: how It's like you have to like throw the ball 101 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 1: back across the net, right, And I just don't feel 102 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: like we'll do and maybe they're just not interested in 103 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 1: me and that's fine, but then don't have a conversation 104 00:05:26,920 --> 00:05:29,680 Speaker 1: with me. Also, if you can't have a conversation via 105 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 1: a dating app that first day. It sounds terrible, like 106 00:05:32,279 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 1: I'm not going on that first right, you can't even 107 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:38,840 Speaker 1: ask me a question about myself. Yeah, I think my 108 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:40,840 Speaker 1: last one it ended with like that sounds like a 109 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 1: nice weekend, and I'm like, yeah it was. And I 110 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:46,839 Speaker 1: just explained my nice weekend to you and that was 111 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: your response, like right, And they didn't have to say that. See, 112 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 1: that's always difficult because like I'm not again, I'm not 113 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:55,520 Speaker 1: good at being like, well here's what I did. You know, 114 00:05:55,680 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 1: I want to be asked a question. Um, but you 115 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 1: could ask another question like that person could have yeah, 116 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:06,120 Speaker 1: change the subject, like let it flow, right. But it's 117 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:07,719 Speaker 1: just like I don't know if it feels like a 118 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 1: dead stop a lot of times, and I'm just like 119 00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:14,279 Speaker 1: I'm not interested in like begging, you know. So it's exhausting. Yeah, 120 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:18,120 Speaker 1: so I don't know. Slutter is still underway. Whoa whoa 121 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:20,600 Speaker 1: whoa who? I need to like they need to take 122 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 1: to set back there because you're talking about two different 123 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:25,520 Speaker 1: things in my opinion, But I have to meet that. 124 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:27,160 Speaker 1: I have to find I have to have a way 125 00:06:27,200 --> 00:06:30,560 Speaker 1: to find people to participate. Finder a dating app though, 126 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 1: I mean to me, that is like straight up now 127 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:34,600 Speaker 1: that one is a hook up one, Like I'm specifically 128 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 1: talking about hinge right now. Well, so right, so we 129 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:40,479 Speaker 1: I think we need to clarify there's a different thing 130 00:06:40,560 --> 00:06:42,800 Speaker 1: here because we have the dating app and that's what 131 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:44,560 Speaker 1: you're complaining about, and maybe that a lot of the 132 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 1: same people are on it though, you know, so it's 133 00:06:47,080 --> 00:06:54,760 Speaker 1: like yeah, totally, um. But I mean, even Grinder's exhausting 134 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 1: and it feels like a waste of time because it's 135 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 1: literally the same people all the time. That's why I 136 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:02,800 Speaker 1: kind of like when I'm traveling because it's like everyone's 137 00:07:02,839 --> 00:07:07,320 Speaker 1: fresh meat. Also, the Nashville gay community's small. Yeah, it's 138 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: really small, and it's just maybe not the best place 139 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:15,200 Speaker 1: for you to find your match. Maybe I've had some 140 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 1: people be like saying, you're in Chicago, Like, okay for 141 00:07:18,880 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: Chicago is happening for my birthday by the way, because 142 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 1: I have to work up there with Dirks and so 143 00:07:22,400 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 1: you're amazing. I guess I gotta put it on travel 144 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:31,400 Speaker 1: mode on Bubble. It's not until July, but it's like 145 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:34,000 Speaker 1: I can prep Yeah, so okay, so we're going to 146 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:36,520 Speaker 1: really really put the focus for sled a Paluza on 147 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 1: your traveling, which is great news because I feel like 148 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:43,200 Speaker 1: the world is opening back up and shows are starting 149 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 1: to happen. There is going to be a lot of 150 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:50,440 Speaker 1: opportunity for you to spread your wings and sled a Paluso. Fly. 151 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:55,960 Speaker 1: There we go, slut you flap flap. Oh my god, 152 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 1: it's like a wop wop wop. So what's your update? 153 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: I mean, I feel really boring. I did go to 154 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 1: the beach last week, and um, that was just so great. 155 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:09,320 Speaker 1: Like us, I know, I wish you could have been there, 156 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:12,560 Speaker 1: but and not to sound like, oh, I haven't got 157 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:14,040 Speaker 1: to do anything, because I have gotten to do some 158 00:08:14,080 --> 00:08:16,480 Speaker 1: trips and a beach trip was one of them. But 159 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:20,360 Speaker 1: it's just so nice to get to do normal things now, 160 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:23,400 Speaker 1: you know, Like I'm double vaxed, I've had COVID. I'm 161 00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:25,680 Speaker 1: still being as safe as I can. But I just 162 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 1: feel like life is back opening up, back to what 163 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 1: I remember it being, and I feel safer doing things 164 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 1: and being around more people, experiencing the things that I 165 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 1: used to experience, and I just feel like I'm finding 166 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 1: my strat again. I think the last two years I 167 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 1: felt almost lost of just like who am on right? 168 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: And I mean that was like multiple different things happened, 169 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 1: and I think, you know, like all the reality TV 170 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 1: shit happened and that was terrible, and then that affected 171 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 1: me in a way I didn't expect. And then I 172 00:08:55,600 --> 00:08:57,960 Speaker 1: had all my infertility stuff that was tough, and then 173 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 1: fucking COVID and it was just like, seriously, like I 174 00:09:01,720 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 1: don't because usually when I go through a hard time, 175 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:06,040 Speaker 1: I just throw myself into my work, and I didn't 176 00:09:06,040 --> 00:09:08,160 Speaker 1: have it to throw myself to the universe was like, 177 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:10,480 Speaker 1: oh no, no, honey, we're really going to work on 178 00:09:10,520 --> 00:09:13,040 Speaker 1: true healing and like put the focus back on you. 179 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:15,280 Speaker 1: And usually I can do that too, and I just 180 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:17,199 Speaker 1: couldn't do it for a minute and it was too 181 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:20,440 Speaker 1: painful or something. And so it was like a nice 182 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:27,559 Speaker 1: little cocoon for you, your butterfly. Butterfly started as a 183 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:31,000 Speaker 1: caterpillar in two thousand nineteen. And then it's just like, yeah, 184 00:09:31,040 --> 00:09:33,839 Speaker 1: I built my cocaoon. And I don't feel like I'm 185 00:09:33,880 --> 00:09:36,000 Speaker 1: fully there yet, Like I don't feel like, oh, I've 186 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:38,120 Speaker 1: got ship figured out and life is so perfect or 187 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:41,080 Speaker 1: back to normal completely, and but I don't know that 188 00:09:41,120 --> 00:09:42,560 Speaker 1: it's ever going to go back to what it was, 189 00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:44,200 Speaker 1: And so I'm starting to kind of look in this 190 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 1: new way of like what's next, what is what? Who 191 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 1: do I want to be moving forward? What did I learn? 192 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:52,720 Speaker 1: How can I take those experiences and grow and evolve 193 00:09:53,240 --> 00:09:56,120 Speaker 1: into a better version of myself even you know? And 194 00:09:56,160 --> 00:09:59,199 Speaker 1: so that's sort of what the beach was last week. 195 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:01,559 Speaker 1: That was a really deep explanation of a vag And 196 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:04,240 Speaker 1: did you were you there by yourself at any point 197 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:07,559 Speaker 1: for one day? Can I tell you what happened to me? 198 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:11,880 Speaker 1: I go, I planned to do one day, like just 199 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: the day part by myself before a couple of our 200 00:10:14,120 --> 00:10:16,760 Speaker 1: friends got there, and I was really going to go 201 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:19,360 Speaker 1: on the beach and meditate and then like also just 202 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:21,640 Speaker 1: get settled, get groceries, get all the stuff, so that 203 00:10:21,679 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: when everyone rolled in, we were like ready to go, 204 00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:30,079 Speaker 1: and I land, it's beautiful. I am tired. But I 205 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 1: had also gotten my second backs a couple of days before, 206 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:34,640 Speaker 1: and I think I was still like brain foggy. That 207 00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:36,840 Speaker 1: was like one of the main symptoms I've had from 208 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 1: COVID and from the backs, and so I was just 209 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:41,480 Speaker 1: just kind of out of it. My flight was maybe 210 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 1: or I don't know, I just was out of it. 211 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:45,400 Speaker 1: I had gotten up early or something. Well, I'm also 212 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:48,680 Speaker 1: out of travel experience, so like carrying bags and she like, 213 00:10:48,840 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 1: wait what, I used to haul these like hundred pound 214 00:10:51,360 --> 00:10:54,560 Speaker 1: clothing bags, like they weigh more than me even maybe, 215 00:10:54,840 --> 00:10:56,840 Speaker 1: And I'm like hauling two of them at a time, 216 00:10:56,960 --> 00:10:59,240 Speaker 1: like flying through the airport, like I had that shipped down. 217 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:02,600 Speaker 1: I am so out of practice going out. I'm like, wait, oh, 218 00:11:02,679 --> 00:11:04,840 Speaker 1: t s a right, Like I just can't even figure 219 00:11:04,840 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 1: out how to get through with security. And so I 220 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:10,360 Speaker 1: get in my uber and I was going to ask 221 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:11,600 Speaker 1: you if you had run in the car, because you 222 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 1: hear what's going on with rental cars right now. Now 223 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:15,760 Speaker 1: there's all these things happening where there's not enough rental cars. 224 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:17,959 Speaker 1: There's not enough ubers. Like our friends had a really 225 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:20,040 Speaker 1: hard day, waited like an hour for an uber. Listen 226 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:21,960 Speaker 1: to us like divas, but that we're so used to 227 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:24,959 Speaker 1: the like getting convenient we want at the exact time 228 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:27,520 Speaker 1: we want it. Um, But I did get an uber fast. 229 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 1: Well you know what it says in the profile known 230 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:33,440 Speaker 1: for great conversation. I'm always like, that's when you change 231 00:11:33,440 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 1: your profile to death. Yeah, I mean that's not funny. 232 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 1: That's not like a laughing matter, but like, yeah, Like 233 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:42,120 Speaker 1: I had just got off the plane where I had 234 00:11:42,280 --> 00:11:44,120 Speaker 1: didn't turn on my WiFi, and so I needed to 235 00:11:44,160 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 1: catch up on emails and stuff before I had my 236 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:49,000 Speaker 1: meditation time on the beach. So it's like a forty 237 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 1: five minute drive from the reports of our friend's house, 238 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 1: and so I was like, okay, perfect, I'll knock it 239 00:11:53,040 --> 00:11:56,920 Speaker 1: out in the uber. That dude was so chatty, but okay, 240 00:11:56,960 --> 00:11:59,440 Speaker 1: the worst part is is I wasn't really engaged. I 241 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:01,199 Speaker 1: was kind of like, oh, yeah, I'm trying to catch 242 00:12:01,280 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 1: up in these emails. Sorry, I'm not that chatty, like hint, hint, 243 00:12:04,720 --> 00:12:07,960 Speaker 1: stopped talking to me, so kind of vitchy. I mean, 244 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:10,400 Speaker 1: it's not like the nicest thing. Well, so I get 245 00:12:10,400 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 1: out of the car, get get my bags. I'm like, 246 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:16,200 Speaker 1: peace out, thanks dude, go up the stairs. I'm like 247 00:12:16,320 --> 00:12:18,559 Speaker 1: unpacking my stuff and I'm like, okay, get my little 248 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:20,760 Speaker 1: looking for my purse to go, get on the bike 249 00:12:20,880 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 1: to go grab a couple of things from the convenience 250 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 1: store right down the street. Realize I can't find my purse. 251 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:31,120 Speaker 1: Well I didn't know yet, So I'm like running up 252 00:12:31,160 --> 00:12:33,880 Speaker 1: and down the stairs, going around the house like, oh 253 00:12:33,920 --> 00:12:35,959 Speaker 1: my god, maybe it's in the bathroom, Like I literally 254 00:12:36,160 --> 00:12:39,760 Speaker 1: turned her house upside down. Finally realized, yeah, it's in 255 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:43,360 Speaker 1: the uber. And I have no idea. I have no cards, 256 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:48,280 Speaker 1: no cash, like zero money, and I'm fucking starving at 257 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 1: this point because it was like one third. Well I 258 00:12:51,960 --> 00:12:54,400 Speaker 1: guess I don't even really how can you check out 259 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:57,719 Speaker 1: places at that? Okay, Well I wish that I had. Yeah, 260 00:12:57,760 --> 00:12:59,360 Speaker 1: I wish I had a chip in my wrist that 261 00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:03,200 Speaker 1: like I could scared to pay places. But anyway, so 262 00:13:03,480 --> 00:13:07,040 Speaker 1: but I'm panicky. Also, where we were doesn't have like Postmates. 263 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:09,000 Speaker 1: I did figure out they have door dashed. I got 264 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:11,800 Speaker 1: some food, but I'm just like, oh, this is not 265 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:15,920 Speaker 1: the day I wanted, Like I'm still out of travel experience. Finally, 266 00:13:16,120 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 1: after like thirty minutes, got in touch with the uber 267 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:19,520 Speaker 1: and he was so kind and brought it back. But 268 00:13:19,559 --> 00:13:20,800 Speaker 1: I was like, of course the day that I was 269 00:13:20,840 --> 00:13:23,240 Speaker 1: sort of bitchy and the uber like I'm never getting 270 00:13:23,280 --> 00:13:25,800 Speaker 1: that purse back that dude's gonna steal from me. He didn't. 271 00:13:25,840 --> 00:13:28,240 Speaker 1: He wouldn't even take a tip. He was like so nice. 272 00:13:28,440 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 1: I know, I just I know, I don't know, but anyway, 273 00:13:31,960 --> 00:13:34,160 Speaker 1: that was how the trip started. Wasn't off to the 274 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:37,360 Speaker 1: best start, but that was um also the reminder to me, 275 00:13:37,440 --> 00:13:40,000 Speaker 1: like everything is figured out herble, we can do this, 276 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 1: Like I'm just out of practice with all the figuring 277 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:45,720 Speaker 1: out life, rolling with the punches. I mean, that's how 278 00:13:45,760 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 1: we lived. I used to live my entire life. Something 279 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 1: was always going wrong. So you're just like, all right, 280 00:13:50,679 --> 00:13:57,000 Speaker 1: it's a problem, solving one problem after exactly. So the 281 00:13:57,080 --> 00:13:59,280 Speaker 1: problem was solved. I was able to go to the 282 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:02,320 Speaker 1: convenius oring everyone beer want a bike, there you go. 283 00:14:02,640 --> 00:14:06,080 Speaker 1: If that's not some Louisiana did not go to the 284 00:14:06,080 --> 00:14:09,280 Speaker 1: doughnut hut um. But anyway, it was a great trip. 285 00:14:09,360 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: It was a good little reset for me of having 286 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 1: a moment to remember the important things, like at any 287 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:18,199 Speaker 1: time i'm by the ocean, I just feel so small, 288 00:14:18,200 --> 00:14:20,120 Speaker 1: and so you just really kind of reset your brain 289 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:23,600 Speaker 1: on life and goals and all of that stuff, and 290 00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:26,240 Speaker 1: just spending fun time with friends was amazing. Well, I 291 00:14:26,280 --> 00:14:27,760 Speaker 1: hate to break it to you, but you were by 292 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:32,440 Speaker 1: the golf, not the ocean, right. It's so funny. Everyone's 293 00:14:32,440 --> 00:14:43,200 Speaker 1: guilty of listen, Like every time I'm by the golf. 294 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:47,960 Speaker 1: It's also like the golf sounds so brown, right it 295 00:14:48,040 --> 00:14:50,600 Speaker 1: is in Louisiana, Like I forget, that's the same water, 296 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 1: literally the most beautiful well even like like Michigan looks 297 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:03,280 Speaker 1: like ocean, you know, I mean it feels like the ocean. 298 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:07,480 Speaker 1: I saw dolphins. Anyway, it was a great trip that 299 00:15:07,520 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 1: I came back to work and work it's like full 300 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:12,920 Speaker 1: blown back. So life feels good. I hope everyone out 301 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:14,920 Speaker 1: there is starting to feel a little bit of relief 302 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 1: from this COVID stuff. I know it's not over, and 303 00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:20,480 Speaker 1: like we can't just be idiots about it, but it 304 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:24,000 Speaker 1: does seem that they don't. You feel things have started 305 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:25,760 Speaker 1: to open up. I had a cult workers are the 306 00:15:25,840 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 1: other day. I forgot how to be busy, and I 307 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:30,360 Speaker 1: was like, fuck you, Like I've been busy the whole time. 308 00:15:30,640 --> 00:15:33,320 Speaker 1: I went through that stage though, like I forgot how 309 00:15:33,320 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 1: to work long days for sure. I still like my 310 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:40,480 Speaker 1: shoot yesterday was nine hours and I'm like, I'm so 311 00:15:40,520 --> 00:15:43,080 Speaker 1: tuckered out by then, Like we used to work so 312 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:46,400 Speaker 1: much more than that, you know. But yeah, I don't know. 313 00:15:46,720 --> 00:15:48,760 Speaker 1: I think I think a funder shot. I also don't 314 00:15:48,840 --> 00:15:53,000 Speaker 1: want to completely forget, not being so busy and like 315 00:15:53,120 --> 00:15:55,720 Speaker 1: make myself so busy again. I hope it's like a 316 00:15:55,840 --> 00:15:57,920 Speaker 1: nice balance of the two somewhere in the mid I 317 00:15:57,960 --> 00:15:59,680 Speaker 1: think it's going I think it's going to be because 318 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:03,480 Speaker 1: I do think that people the slowdown forced us all 319 00:16:03,640 --> 00:16:10,000 Speaker 1: to appreciate ourselves and quality time with I mean obviously 320 00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:12,680 Speaker 1: when we were like really hunger down, but like quality 321 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:15,440 Speaker 1: time with the people that matter the most to you, UM, 322 00:16:15,520 --> 00:16:18,160 Speaker 1: and some people had to learn that through being forced 323 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 1: to not be with them, you know. But I think 324 00:16:21,520 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 1: it's gonna be. We're gonna it's gonna be somewhere in 325 00:16:23,640 --> 00:16:27,040 Speaker 1: the middle. Yeah. Maybe maybe we just set better boundaries 326 00:16:27,040 --> 00:16:31,160 Speaker 1: for ourselves or something is to be like somewhere in 327 00:16:31,160 --> 00:16:33,360 Speaker 1: the middle. Not say us to everything. You and I've 328 00:16:33,360 --> 00:16:34,760 Speaker 1: talked about this the time. That was sort of why 329 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:36,400 Speaker 1: you didn't come to the because you were like, I 330 00:16:36,440 --> 00:16:38,480 Speaker 1: say us to everything, and I really can't this week, 331 00:16:38,520 --> 00:16:40,320 Speaker 1: and that was such. That was the first time I've 332 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:43,000 Speaker 1: really seen you hold a boundary because we all really 333 00:16:43,000 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 1: tried to get you to come and trust me, I 334 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:48,360 Speaker 1: woke up on UM Sunday morning and I knew I 335 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:51,480 Speaker 1: was late, but I was like I'd gotten everything because 336 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:53,280 Speaker 1: I had an event on Saturday that I had to 337 00:16:53,280 --> 00:16:55,200 Speaker 1: be at, and I was like, I should just get 338 00:16:55,200 --> 00:16:58,040 Speaker 1: on the first flight and like surprise them. But I 339 00:16:58,040 --> 00:16:59,800 Speaker 1: would have been pissed because I left Sunday. I would 340 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:07,960 Speaker 1: have you there, but then I heard that Saturday was 341 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:11,000 Speaker 1: actually the day. It was the day. Whatever, I'll be 342 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:12,720 Speaker 1: there next time. Of course you will. There will be 343 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 1: a million times, million times. Yeah, Well, do you want 344 00:17:15,280 --> 00:17:17,240 Speaker 1: to tell the story that you sent me earlier today? 345 00:17:17,240 --> 00:17:19,160 Speaker 1: Because we were shook by this and I just want 346 00:17:19,160 --> 00:17:20,840 Speaker 1: to know. I kind of want to know if anyone 347 00:17:20,840 --> 00:17:23,159 Speaker 1: out there has ever experienced as I wish sometimes this 348 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:25,200 Speaker 1: was interactive. I mean, I really hope that no one 349 00:17:25,200 --> 00:17:30,080 Speaker 1: else has ever This is in Nashville. You know, we 350 00:17:30,200 --> 00:17:34,320 Speaker 1: talked about the big Golden dick, right, yeah, transportainment like 351 00:17:34,760 --> 00:17:36,960 Speaker 1: yet to find it. Yeah, we've yet to find it 352 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:40,680 Speaker 1: and maybe hopefully it is just a photoshop job and 353 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:43,040 Speaker 1: that we were tricked by. But oh my god, if 354 00:17:43,080 --> 00:17:44,920 Speaker 1: I can't ride that dick, at the point, I'm gonna 355 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:47,920 Speaker 1: be so upset. The point that I'm like I want 356 00:17:47,960 --> 00:17:51,080 Speaker 1: to make is that like people when you come to Nashville, 357 00:17:52,680 --> 00:17:54,560 Speaker 1: or people if you live in Nashville and you got 358 00:17:54,560 --> 00:17:57,359 Speaker 1: down to Broadway, like show some fucking respect for our town. 359 00:17:57,480 --> 00:18:02,000 Speaker 1: Like it's becoming like a a worse version. I don't 360 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:04,320 Speaker 1: even think, like the ship that people do in Vegas 361 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:06,760 Speaker 1: they do here, you know, like the people, the things 362 00:18:06,760 --> 00:18:09,959 Speaker 1: that people do here, they would do in Vegas. Um, 363 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:11,720 Speaker 1: maybe it's because you just can't get away with it 364 00:18:11,720 --> 00:18:14,240 Speaker 1: in Vegas because the security is so tight at casinos 365 00:18:14,280 --> 00:18:17,320 Speaker 1: and stuff. I mean maybe off strips, crazy shit happens. 366 00:18:17,359 --> 00:18:20,560 Speaker 1: But someone I'm gonna say his name, Can I say 367 00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:24,840 Speaker 1: his name? I mean it's it's printed, Um, his name 368 00:18:25,600 --> 00:18:29,159 Speaker 1: is Nicholas Adam new Heart the middle Yeah, I mean 369 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:32,600 Speaker 1: in the New York Post. I had seen it on Facebook. 370 00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:34,680 Speaker 1: In the New York Post. Yeah, this is in the 371 00:18:34,720 --> 00:18:39,360 Speaker 1: New York Post like it's national news. So on Saturday night, 372 00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:45,600 Speaker 1: a man named Nicholas Adam new Heart was incredibly intoxicated, 373 00:18:45,800 --> 00:18:49,520 Speaker 1: and he took off his colostomy bag and started flinging 374 00:18:49,960 --> 00:18:52,800 Speaker 1: his full bag at people. I literally just got the worst, 375 00:18:53,160 --> 00:18:56,720 Speaker 1: like swinging over his head like bartenders got hit with 376 00:18:56,960 --> 00:19:01,720 Speaker 1: stuff from it. He flung it at cops. I mean, 377 00:19:02,680 --> 00:19:08,520 Speaker 1: who does this? Nicholas Adam whatever they called it they 378 00:19:08,560 --> 00:19:12,240 Speaker 1: called it a crappy situation. Wow, that's like the understatement 379 00:19:12,280 --> 00:19:19,080 Speaker 1: of the public intoxication. He got He got arrested for 380 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:23,480 Speaker 1: assault on an officer, offensive contact, as well as public 381 00:19:23,480 --> 00:19:27,479 Speaker 1: intoxication and disorderly conduct. They file it under offensive contact. 382 00:19:27,520 --> 00:19:29,320 Speaker 1: I was wondering, like, where do you what do you 383 00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 1: right up about that? Like you flung your colostomy bag around. 384 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:38,280 Speaker 1: It's fucking disgusting. This man looks like he sleeps in 385 00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:44,320 Speaker 1: his own colostomy bag. Wow, as a pillow. I hope 386 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:46,520 Speaker 1: he goes to prison and that's all he has for 387 00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:49,480 Speaker 1: his pillow. I think I think that that he's had 388 00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:52,720 Speaker 1: other charges, so he's in some pretty big trouble right now. 389 00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:57,800 Speaker 1: But imagine just like this is where my head immediately went. 390 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:01,400 Speaker 1: Like anytime I'm down on Broadway, I'm pretty intoxicated myself 391 00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:03,119 Speaker 1: because it's the only kind of way I can go 392 00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:05,440 Speaker 1: down there, and I want to dance, like because it's 393 00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:08,800 Speaker 1: literally the only area of Nashville that you can really dance, 394 00:20:08,800 --> 00:20:11,520 Speaker 1: which is really sad for our city. Like nobody opens 395 00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:13,959 Speaker 1: a dance bar so you can go to play. Okay, 396 00:20:14,040 --> 00:20:17,080 Speaker 1: it's either the gay bars or I don't even know 397 00:20:17,080 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: if plays like open yet again? So um so who knows? 398 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:29,080 Speaker 1: I am? Um? So yeah, didn't you go downtown? You're like, 399 00:20:29,200 --> 00:20:31,639 Speaker 1: you want to dance? Imagine being on the dance floor, 400 00:20:31,760 --> 00:20:33,280 Speaker 1: or like even just like ordering a drink at the 401 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:35,200 Speaker 1: bartle the time you get smacked in the face with 402 00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:39,919 Speaker 1: something with something, you're like, what do you think? And 403 00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:43,760 Speaker 1: you you touch your face and it's ship. Could you imagine? 404 00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:48,240 Speaker 1: And it's not like a sorry if anybody's like eating 405 00:20:48,240 --> 00:20:50,280 Speaker 1: while listening, like, it's not like it was like a 406 00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:54,000 Speaker 1: fresh turn. This is a colosophy bag that have been 407 00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:56,760 Speaker 1: collecting stuff. I literally keep getting chills up my spine 408 00:20:58,240 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 1: collecting stuff like dust. What do you what do you mean? 409 00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:10,160 Speaker 1: I mean it's just like turn the soup. The Nationville 410 00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:12,360 Speaker 1: Scanner tweeted, don't think I want to be the transperret 411 00:21:12,440 --> 00:21:14,840 Speaker 1: car for this arrest. Some officers may need to take 412 00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:19,200 Speaker 1: a quick bath then. Um. Somebody replied, if you don't 413 00:21:19,200 --> 00:21:21,440 Speaker 1: want to be exposed to ship, stay away from kid Rock. 414 00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:24,760 Speaker 1: A lot of ship goes down at kid Rocks Bar. 415 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:28,200 Speaker 1: I feel like it's called the most that's that's the 416 00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:30,760 Speaker 1: one I see an articles all the time because he's 417 00:21:30,800 --> 00:21:33,080 Speaker 1: just such a hoodlum well, and I think it's like 418 00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:35,800 Speaker 1: it helps with the headline that he's associated with it, 419 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:40,640 Speaker 1: Like nobody's associated with rippies, you know. But I'm sure 420 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:44,080 Speaker 1: some ship goes down in there, but like this takeship 421 00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:47,400 Speaker 1: goes down. It's just like it like three times now. 422 00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:50,960 Speaker 1: He took his colossomy back from inside of his pants 423 00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:54,600 Speaker 1: and began to swing it around wildly, hitting two officers wildly. 424 00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:56,680 Speaker 1: I mean, I will say, you know when you're drunk 425 00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:58,920 Speaker 1: and like you don't have this issue, but like sometimes 426 00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:00,600 Speaker 1: if I have a brawl on which because I don't 427 00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:03,400 Speaker 1: really wear bras that much, I'm like, get this off 428 00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:06,440 Speaker 1: on me. It's like that feeling. He's like I need 429 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:09,639 Speaker 1: my freedom, But I just never imagined it with a bag, 430 00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:14,720 Speaker 1: Like it's so gross. It's so gross. When we were 431 00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:16,720 Speaker 1: at the beach um and I think this is actually 432 00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:18,720 Speaker 1: supposed to be good luck, but we were sitting at 433 00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:20,719 Speaker 1: lunch one day. This is actually right before we went 434 00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:22,959 Speaker 1: to the airport, and a bird flew ever head and 435 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:27,240 Speaker 1: shipped on two referens. It bounced off the table. I 436 00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:30,080 Speaker 1: felt the splatter. But that's the closest I think I've 437 00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:35,359 Speaker 1: ever been to like publicly publicly being that became like, oh, 438 00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:39,120 Speaker 1: that's good luck. That's what people tell themselves because it sucks. 439 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:40,879 Speaker 1: It's the same thing as like it rains on your 440 00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:42,840 Speaker 1: wedding day, that's supposed to be good luck for the marriage, 441 00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:45,479 Speaker 1: and it's like, no, it's not. Who says it's just 442 00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:47,480 Speaker 1: like it's a pain in the ass if it rains 443 00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:48,920 Speaker 1: on your wedding day and it's a bummers that people 444 00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:51,639 Speaker 1: try to be like, oh, this will make the marriage better. Yeah. No, 445 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:54,680 Speaker 1: I think it's just like someone kid that one day 446 00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:57,360 Speaker 1: when they were losing their mind totally. I'm gonna see 447 00:22:57,400 --> 00:23:02,800 Speaker 1: if I can find the origin of that. Um. Okay. Well, 448 00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:04,399 Speaker 1: the other thing I wanted to talk about was the 449 00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:06,639 Speaker 1: Josh is it Dugger? I don't even know how to 450 00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:08,080 Speaker 1: say this guy's name because this is how out of 451 00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:09,639 Speaker 1: the life. I never watched the show, but I think 452 00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:12,640 Speaker 1: it's dugger. So the Duggers, Yeah, they had a reality 453 00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:16,240 Speaker 1: TV show, right, there's a bunch of them. It was 454 00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:20,720 Speaker 1: called nineteen in Counting, is what I read to nineteen kids? Yeah, 455 00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:24,040 Speaker 1: let me see. Okay, I should have really researched the 456 00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:26,440 Speaker 1: family more before we talked about this topic, because I 457 00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:28,960 Speaker 1: can't say I like I've heard their name obviously, because 458 00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:30,720 Speaker 1: I feel like they're always in some sort of scandal 459 00:23:30,760 --> 00:23:33,159 Speaker 1: in the news, but sort of how you are with 460 00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:35,080 Speaker 1: the Kardashians, Like you know who they are, but you 461 00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:37,199 Speaker 1: don't really know the details. And I'm like, oh my god, well, 462 00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 1: I know what Chris had for breakfast this Yeah, he 463 00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:44,120 Speaker 1: was a real real estate agent and um, yeah, nineteen 464 00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:46,560 Speaker 1: kids in counting and it aired from two thousand and eight, 465 00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:52,919 Speaker 1: and Josh is the oldest child. Um, he's one of 466 00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:55,600 Speaker 1: the older ones. I don't know if the old Well, 467 00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 1: he's been in and out of trouble for sexual issues 468 00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:02,199 Speaker 1: and like he just arrested this week because they found 469 00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:07,399 Speaker 1: apparently child pornography on his computer. Yeah, I read somewhere 470 00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:11,320 Speaker 1: that it was as young as eighteen months old. Oh 471 00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:14,200 Speaker 1: my god, I went down a rabbit hole of reading 472 00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:16,440 Speaker 1: articles about I didn't see that part. But if you 473 00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:20,560 Speaker 1: open up this like this conversation in your computer, basically 474 00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:23,359 Speaker 1: it brings up a bunch of stuff about like people 475 00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:25,880 Speaker 1: with sexual addictions and yes, a lot of like two 476 00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:28,600 Speaker 1: year old That is so devastating to me that that 477 00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:32,280 Speaker 1: happens in our culture or just I even wrapped my 478 00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:38,000 Speaker 1: head around that desire, but that's when you know something 479 00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:40,800 Speaker 1: is fucked up, like in their head. I think that, 480 00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:45,320 Speaker 1: like any it would seem that anyone who goes to 481 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:48,480 Speaker 1: your mouth, anyone that does a pcast sorry, I'm like 482 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:53,840 Speaker 1: holding it like Whitney Houston. Your vocals aren't quite there yet, 483 00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:59,480 Speaker 1: like Whitney did. Um. I think that feels like anyone 484 00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:04,360 Speaker 1: that goes to about porn site could theoretically watch something 485 00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:09,720 Speaker 1: without realizing that someone's under eighteen, Yes, but an eighteen 486 00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:14,679 Speaker 1: month old. You know, if you're looking at a child. Um, 487 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:20,560 Speaker 1: And I am just like it's disgusting. It's unfathomable to me. 488 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:25,919 Speaker 1: And you know, he like he was charged with sexually 489 00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:29,320 Speaker 1: assaulting his sisters, right, so he's had a lot of 490 00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:31,840 Speaker 1: ship like that. He also has like six kids of 491 00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:34,520 Speaker 1: his own, and his wife is pregnant right now. Something 492 00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:37,080 Speaker 1: about I will say, there is some trigger in me 493 00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:41,120 Speaker 1: about when I hear stories about men doing some sort 494 00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:44,439 Speaker 1: of sexually explicit activity when their wife is pregnant, Like 495 00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:47,000 Speaker 1: I find that so offensive And I don't know what 496 00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,960 Speaker 1: it is specifically about that, but maybe it's like she 497 00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:54,520 Speaker 1: is literally giving her body completely over to growing y'all's 498 00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,560 Speaker 1: child and you're going to be the ass Like when 499 00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:00,879 Speaker 1: when men cheat when their wife is going and I'm like, seriously, 500 00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:04,120 Speaker 1: are the biggest douche back? Well, I mean this will 501 00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:06,639 Speaker 1: be their seventh child. It's not like she's not having 502 00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:10,000 Speaker 1: sex with him, you know what I mean? Like, I look, 503 00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:13,840 Speaker 1: I think that if you come from a family where 504 00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:19,240 Speaker 1: your parents have nineteen children, there's something wrong there. There 505 00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:22,359 Speaker 1: is there is a sexual addiction that nobody needs that 506 00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:25,440 Speaker 1: many kids, like they're there are there are more people 507 00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:27,240 Speaker 1: in the Dugger family than there are in the town 508 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:32,720 Speaker 1: I grew up in. Like it's crazy, um and it's there. 509 00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:35,720 Speaker 1: I feel like it's a there's got to be something 510 00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:45,400 Speaker 1: that is biological that's not right with these people. Well, 511 00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:48,400 Speaker 1: I said to you earlier that the story is interesting 512 00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:52,760 Speaker 1: to me in the same capacity that like Colden Underwood betraying, 513 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:56,240 Speaker 1: or like being gay and getting engaged to that girl Cassie, 514 00:26:56,960 --> 00:27:01,200 Speaker 1: like that that's that secret life deal. Like there's something 515 00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:04,119 Speaker 1: in our society that we're not talking about that I 516 00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:06,280 Speaker 1: feel like we need to start talking about with these 517 00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:08,320 Speaker 1: underlying issues. Like we could sit here all day and 518 00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:11,560 Speaker 1: be like a Josh Dugger, what an asshole? But like 519 00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,520 Speaker 1: why is nobody talking about the stories like what you're 520 00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:17,120 Speaker 1: talking about behind it? Like how did he get here? 521 00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,919 Speaker 1: What's actually happening to him? That he would have this 522 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:23,000 Speaker 1: sort of addiction in his head gets so twisted that 523 00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:26,680 Speaker 1: an eighteen month old or whatever that kid is looks 524 00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:30,159 Speaker 1: sexually attractive to him, Like something is off, And I 525 00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:32,920 Speaker 1: agree with you, maybe there was sexual addiction in their 526 00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:36,359 Speaker 1: family or severe neglect, like if you're if you have 527 00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:38,879 Speaker 1: nineteen kids, there's no chance you're getting the sort of 528 00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:43,040 Speaker 1: love or anything that you need from your parents, you know. 529 00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:46,040 Speaker 1: And so I did it opened this whole thing up 530 00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:48,240 Speaker 1: to me because I'm like, why do we not talk 531 00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:52,240 Speaker 1: about this so openly about like like we we just 532 00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:56,240 Speaker 1: so easily villainized people and it's like we all have ship, 533 00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:58,879 Speaker 1: so lett's get off it. Of sure, this is like 534 00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:01,640 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to play what's happening here? He's got 535 00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:04,800 Speaker 1: some serious issues, right, but like instead of making him 536 00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:07,840 Speaker 1: into this monster this like cancel culture. Why aren't we 537 00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:10,639 Speaker 1: doing the things to be like hey, buddy, like what's 538 00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:13,240 Speaker 1: fucking going on here? Like let's look at the roots here. 539 00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:15,639 Speaker 1: Why is this happening? When I said it to you, you 540 00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:17,000 Speaker 1: you were like, oh, I think that's so sweet that 541 00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:20,640 Speaker 1: you think though, that you think that that he's that deep. Well, 542 00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:25,800 Speaker 1: I read today that his wife had um installed something 543 00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:29,440 Speaker 1: on his computer called the Covenant something UM that's supposed 544 00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:33,280 Speaker 1: to that was meant to alert her if he was 545 00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:36,880 Speaker 1: looking at porn psyche Covenant Eyes, Covenant Eyes. But he 546 00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:40,640 Speaker 1: had he had installed something that was a work around that, 547 00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:46,040 Speaker 1: so he knew about. So he's obviously had a porn addiction. Yeah, So, um, 548 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:50,520 Speaker 1: why why didn't when when the ship went down with 549 00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:53,320 Speaker 1: his family, there were six girls that he apparently had 550 00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:58,440 Speaker 1: touched um inappropriately, two of which were his sisters, UM 551 00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:00,840 Speaker 1: while the show was on the air. I think so 552 00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:04,240 Speaker 1: it's like it was more valuable to get him out 553 00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:08,560 Speaker 1: of trouble than to get him help to save the show. 554 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:14,480 Speaker 1: Like what kind of fucking world, That's what I'm trying 555 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:17,760 Speaker 1: to say, inappropriately touching his sisters. And granted, when you've 556 00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:22,320 Speaker 1: got nineteen siblings, like they're probably kind of strangers, you know, 557 00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:25,800 Speaker 1: if your age differences enough, like you don't know them 558 00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:28,440 Speaker 1: that well. I mean, I don't think that's an excuse, 559 00:29:28,480 --> 00:29:35,600 Speaker 1: because it's still horrific, Um, but like, why, yeah, why 560 00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:38,200 Speaker 1: wasn't he forced to get the help, like maybe he 561 00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:40,280 Speaker 1: was maybe that was a part of it, and we 562 00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:47,600 Speaker 1: don't know. I mean, there's so much I literally, um, 563 00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:50,400 Speaker 1: I think I've had this conversation. You know, there has 564 00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:54,120 Speaker 1: I've had people in my past with this kind of addiction, 565 00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:55,920 Speaker 1: and like other people have been like that's not a 566 00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:59,240 Speaker 1: real addiction. Or like when Tiger Woods um came out 567 00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:01,720 Speaker 1: with all that stuff, I remember thinking, is he an 568 00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:03,960 Speaker 1: is he an addict? Or is he just an asshole? 569 00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:07,040 Speaker 1: Because like it's confusing when there's other women involved. I 570 00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:10,239 Speaker 1: fully believe in sexual addiction now, like I've seen it, 571 00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:15,479 Speaker 1: I've witnessed it. It is truly an addiction. Um. So 572 00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:17,200 Speaker 1: I just think we need to start talking about like 573 00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:22,080 Speaker 1: people talk about alcoholism, like it's like fully normalized now 574 00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,880 Speaker 1: in some way like oh he's an alcohol Oh okay, 575 00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:27,000 Speaker 1: you know, Like but like we need to start start 576 00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:29,160 Speaker 1: talking about other addictions in the same way because it's 577 00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:33,440 Speaker 1: just a different drug of choice. And it's like porn 578 00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:38,440 Speaker 1: is at our fingertips. Oh absolutely, yeah, it's but there's 579 00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:41,560 Speaker 1: no parameters, like people this is it's again. We've talked 580 00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:45,000 Speaker 1: about this on with that sex therapist, Like there's no parameters. 581 00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:47,960 Speaker 1: That are put around that, so then you're given these opportunities. 582 00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:51,520 Speaker 1: And like, if you're not a self aware of person 583 00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:54,720 Speaker 1: that is looking at oh am, I is this too much? 584 00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:56,920 Speaker 1: Or and you're just trying to feel better. I think 585 00:30:56,960 --> 00:30:58,200 Speaker 1: most of us are just trying to get out of 586 00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,560 Speaker 1: pain on most days. Or like you feel anxiety, you 587 00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:02,200 Speaker 1: don't want to feel it, so you do something. You 588 00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:06,080 Speaker 1: start these habits that become addictions or whatever. But like, 589 00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:08,520 Speaker 1: we got to start talking about it, and we've got 590 00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:10,360 Speaker 1: to start talking about what I said to you earlier 591 00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:15,200 Speaker 1: is true intimacy within our relationships and our connections with people, 592 00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:19,600 Speaker 1: because the more we keep just throwing ship at our 593 00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:22,000 Speaker 1: pain and not dealing with it, the more stuff like 594 00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:25,240 Speaker 1: this keeps happening. I think. But people just don't know, 595 00:31:25,440 --> 00:31:27,120 Speaker 1: Like you don't know where to go, You don't know 596 00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:29,760 Speaker 1: that what you're doing is fucked up. And I think, 597 00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:31,560 Speaker 1: like you said, a lot of people just don't want 598 00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:35,400 Speaker 1: to go that deep. Well, and it's I mean, look, 599 00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:38,800 Speaker 1: I just googled it. He apparently has been to to 600 00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:42,040 Speaker 1: rehab and has gone back. Yeah, I mean these things 601 00:31:42,040 --> 00:31:44,360 Speaker 1: that he's never not going to have this issue. It's 602 00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:46,920 Speaker 1: just you learn different tools to Yeah, you can't be 603 00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:49,000 Speaker 1: You can't go to rehab and then come back and 604 00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:52,560 Speaker 1: watch porn again like an alcoholic having a drink. Totally. Yeah, 605 00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:55,440 Speaker 1: you can't dabble on it. Yeah, he also is a cheater. 606 00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:58,320 Speaker 1: Remember he was caught up in the whole Ashley Madison scandal. 607 00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:01,840 Speaker 1: Was he I didn't I don't know anything about this family. 608 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:06,120 Speaker 1: It's not surprising though it's the same thing. Well, I 609 00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:09,480 Speaker 1: just hope that they I don't know. I hope that, 610 00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:11,680 Speaker 1: like you said, it doesn't just get brushed under the 611 00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:13,960 Speaker 1: rug of let's figure out how to get him out 612 00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:16,880 Speaker 1: of trouble because he's in the public eye. Although it 613 00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:20,160 Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily seem like they're really trying to dig deep here. 614 00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:24,040 Speaker 1: I don't understand how he could be allowed around his children. 615 00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:29,720 Speaker 1: He's not right now without supervision. What a sad day. 616 00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:34,760 Speaker 1: I mean, it's sat on so many levels. Well, I 617 00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:37,080 Speaker 1: wanted to say one thing because I was in UM. 618 00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:39,240 Speaker 1: I work with this guy, Jake Woodard. He's been on 619 00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:42,280 Speaker 1: the podcast on the Velvet Side of Things, and he 620 00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:44,800 Speaker 1: does a lot about like masculine and feminine energy, and 621 00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:47,240 Speaker 1: he's doing a new course about intimacy and so you 622 00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:49,000 Speaker 1: can take it. Like if you're a single person, you 623 00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:51,960 Speaker 1: just want to have deeper connections in general, you want 624 00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:55,080 Speaker 1: to learn how to set boundaries or whatever. Um or 625 00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:57,120 Speaker 1: if you're in a relationship, like you and your partner 626 00:32:57,160 --> 00:32:58,560 Speaker 1: could take it. And I just think we have to 627 00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:01,920 Speaker 1: start doing this work. Like it's really where where people take. 628 00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:04,120 Speaker 1: People can find it on Jake witterd dot com. This 629 00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:07,000 Speaker 1: is not some plug like I'm getting no no kickbacks 630 00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:10,280 Speaker 1: on this. I just I'm really starting to really fully 631 00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:13,600 Speaker 1: believe in this kind of energy work. I mean, I've 632 00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:15,960 Speaker 1: been doing therapy and all those things for so many years, 633 00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:18,840 Speaker 1: but this is even a deeper dive into like being 634 00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:21,040 Speaker 1: so in touch with your own body and your own 635 00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:25,800 Speaker 1: energy and understanding why you do what you do um 636 00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:28,320 Speaker 1: or what your motivations would be, like your wounds, your 637 00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:30,160 Speaker 1: trauma from your past. And I just think it's like, 638 00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:33,480 Speaker 1: let's just like normalize this ship. This is this is 639 00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:36,320 Speaker 1: the next thing. As humans, we are not perfect, and 640 00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:40,400 Speaker 1: I think that like we're so often meant to feel 641 00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:43,640 Speaker 1: as if we need to portray ourselves in the world 642 00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:47,000 Speaker 1: as perfect. Yes, um, we all fell that way. Yeah, 643 00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:51,880 Speaker 1: So issues like porn addiction and and those things like 644 00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:54,000 Speaker 1: they do get pushed down, they get swept under the 645 00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:58,880 Speaker 1: rug and um, you know, and look, he's a public 646 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:03,280 Speaker 1: at some point was a public figure, and it's the 647 00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:06,040 Speaker 1: media is going to tear you down to so you 648 00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:10,919 Speaker 1: can't you know, it's so where do you go? Right? 649 00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:13,080 Speaker 1: You know, It's like, well, it's like this is like 650 00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:16,359 Speaker 1: case in point what Morgan Walland did do. Right, Like 651 00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:19,560 Speaker 1: he had a huge meltdown with his racial slur and 652 00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:21,880 Speaker 1: then he went to rehab. I think he try. I 653 00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:23,879 Speaker 1: think he's sober as long as far as we know, 654 00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:25,719 Speaker 1: but he's trying to do the work and he keeps 655 00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:28,239 Speaker 1: releasing statements of like ways he can change. And I 656 00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:31,399 Speaker 1: do believe somewhere inside of most of us you want 657 00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:34,800 Speaker 1: to be able to forgive people, and like especially people 658 00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:37,240 Speaker 1: who maybe you like their music or you know, anyone 659 00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:40,120 Speaker 1: who owns their humanity. To me, I'm like, okay, like 660 00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:42,600 Speaker 1: a funk up too, Like let's find let's make that 661 00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:46,879 Speaker 1: the common ground versus let's villainize someone and cancel them, 662 00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:50,240 Speaker 1: you know, like let's all try to own our humanity. 663 00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:52,320 Speaker 1: And it doesn't mean like let's go funk up even 664 00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:54,560 Speaker 1: more or like like you've got to learn a lesson 665 00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:57,120 Speaker 1: and grow or else it does. That's the problem that 666 00:34:57,160 --> 00:35:00,800 Speaker 1: I have with h He's not learning the lesson. Yeah, 667 00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:06,400 Speaker 1: and the bottom yet I mean, what what is the bottom? 668 00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:09,200 Speaker 1: That's not it feels like the bottom to me. But 669 00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:12,920 Speaker 1: he's pleading not guilty, So I don't know. Well, I 670 00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:15,480 Speaker 1: hope those I hope he never gets custody those children 671 00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:19,080 Speaker 1: if and I hope she has the courage to leave him, 672 00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:23,520 Speaker 1: because how do you trust somebody that does that. Well, 673 00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:26,719 Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying about intimacy. Yeah, we're not being 674 00:35:26,760 --> 00:35:29,280 Speaker 1: honest with each other, well and probably not being honest 675 00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:31,560 Speaker 1: with ourselves. I'm talking a little out of both sides 676 00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:34,160 Speaker 1: of my mouth too, because she clearly knew about some 677 00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:37,080 Speaker 1: of the problem. Was just probably trying to work, and 678 00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:39,320 Speaker 1: she was probably trying to do the bare minimum too, 679 00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:42,640 Speaker 1: you know, like because that's probably a really painful thing 680 00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:46,239 Speaker 1: for she's got six and now seven children with him. 681 00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:49,800 Speaker 1: How do you unravel that when we don't know her story, 682 00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:53,000 Speaker 1: because there's all these other like attachment wounds and why 683 00:35:53,040 --> 00:36:01,520 Speaker 1: why we have broken pickers? I mean talking about myself anyway, Um, 684 00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:04,080 Speaker 1: that whole thing, I think our whole point is on 685 00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:06,800 Speaker 1: the edge because usually we're like really light and funny, 686 00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:08,920 Speaker 1: but like sometimes you have to talk about hard topics, 687 00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:12,160 Speaker 1: and I just like really, really really have a passion 688 00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:16,480 Speaker 1: for normalizing these topics, like the topics of diving deeper 689 00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:20,880 Speaker 1: within ourselves, of intimacy within our relationships, learning why we 690 00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:23,480 Speaker 1: do what we do. And if you're one of those 691 00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:26,400 Speaker 1: people who's like, yeah, that's not for me, well maybe 692 00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:29,520 Speaker 1: this podcast is not for you. I mean, I just 693 00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:31,640 Speaker 1: think it's like time. I think the universe this last 694 00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:35,080 Speaker 1: year is really asking that of us. Level up, bitches. 695 00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:43,160 Speaker 1: Can you say level up bitches after something like up? Anyway? 696 00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:46,040 Speaker 1: Do anything else you want to add? Chip? No, I 697 00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:50,759 Speaker 1: couldn't find. Um. Well, it's a Turkish it's a Turkish 698 00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:53,200 Speaker 1: superstition that says it's good to get popped on by 699 00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:56,480 Speaker 1: a bird. We're back to that. But I don't I 700 00:36:56,480 --> 00:37:00,359 Speaker 1: don't know true edge fashion. Yeah, I haven't been able 701 00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:03,080 Speaker 1: to really properly read. So I'm just giving you. I'm 702 00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:10,800 Speaker 1: actually glad because you're engaged in growing. You really are evolving, truly. 703 00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:17,280 Speaker 1: This is a new me, the evolution of chip doorsh Um. Okay, Well, anyway, 704 00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:19,320 Speaker 1: I want emails from you guys on topics that you 705 00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:21,719 Speaker 1: want us to discuss in this next season of the 706 00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,600 Speaker 1: Edge on the Velvet Edge podcast. You can email us 707 00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:27,000 Speaker 1: so we really need to switch this, but you can 708 00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:32,160 Speaker 1: email us at at casual at Velvet's Edge what dot com? 709 00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:40,439 Speaker 1: That's wrong? Is it dot com? Oh my god? Yes? 710 00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:42,360 Speaker 1: Okay that's why does that sound so wrong to me? Right? 711 00:37:42,320 --> 00:37:44,120 Speaker 1: Why does it feel like it's literally been three years 712 00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:46,640 Speaker 1: since we recorded because we took a week off and 713 00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:50,160 Speaker 1: obviously out of prist so long ago. Because now I'm 714 00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:52,680 Speaker 1: like starting to sweat because we have to do our ending. 715 00:37:52,880 --> 00:38:01,640 Speaker 1: I don't remember the ending. One always remembers wore practice. 716 00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:06,880 Speaker 1: Wait wait, when you're living on the edge, always remember too. Yeah. 717 00:38:07,000 --> 00:38:10,240 Speaker 1: Um so anyway, email us at at casual at Velvet 718 00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:12,680 Speaker 1: Sedge dot com. I'm seriously gonna work on changeing that 719 00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:15,400 Speaker 1: email this week. Or you can message me on Instagram 720 00:38:15,440 --> 00:38:18,239 Speaker 1: at Velvet Edge, Chip is at chip Doors to send 721 00:38:18,239 --> 00:38:20,080 Speaker 1: as any ideas or stories that are going on in 722 00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:25,440 Speaker 1: your life. We'll talk about anything that's the whole as 723 00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:29,680 Speaker 1: light as but we're also happy to dig a little deep. Yeah, 724 00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:33,440 Speaker 1: we can dig deep and um make a light of 725 00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:37,439 Speaker 1: heart situations. Okay. Anyway, Um, we gotta go because we 726 00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:44,200 Speaker 1: need to practice. Anyway. When you guys are out there 727 00:38:44,239 --> 00:38:47,920 Speaker 1: just living on the edge, always remembered to a casual 728 00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:50,280 Speaker 1: all right, bye bye