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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 2: Hey guys, welcome to the Almost Famous Podcast. Today, we

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Speaker 2: have a man that you will remember from last season

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Speaker 2: a Bachelor in Paradise on the show. His name is

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Speaker 2: John Henry, John Henry. I have a question for you.

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Speaker 2: Is Henry the last name or is it like a

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Speaker 2: combined first name.

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Speaker 3: It's actually my middle name.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So my family, they're kind of old school growing up.

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Speaker 4: John Henry is like what everybody called me my family,

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Speaker 4: A lot of my like my hometown friends growing up,

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Speaker 4: you know, it was always John Henry.

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Speaker 3: And then like my sister, she's Kate Marie. My other

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Speaker 3: sister is Lauren Ann. So I've kind of gone by

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Speaker 3: John Henry pretty much like my whole life. But then,

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Speaker 3: I mean, I go by John two. Like, I don't

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Speaker 3: introduce myself as John Henry. I'll just say John. But

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Speaker 3: then once they get to know me, it's John Henry.

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Speaker 5: And this is one of the worst phenomenons in the

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Speaker 5: United States. And I'll tell you why. I'm married a

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Speaker 5: girl from the South and all of her friends have

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Speaker 5: two first names, and so when I first met her,

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Speaker 5: it was hard enough to know the one name, then

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Speaker 5: I have to know the two names, and all of

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Speaker 5: them are like Anna, Lie, Anna, Kate, Anna, Meredith, like

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Speaker 5: they all have two names.

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Speaker 4: It's hard, yeah, but with a name like John, everybody's John,

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Speaker 4: so it makes it easy. You know, if someone just

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Speaker 4: sells John, everybody looks. But then you know, if they

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Speaker 4: say John Henry, it's like, okay, that's me. So it

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Speaker 4: just makes it easier. What's your last name, Spurlock?

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, John Henry Spurlock. Well, we wanted to

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Speaker 2: have you here today, of course to talk about your

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Speaker 2: experience in Bachelor in Paradise. You are one of the

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Speaker 2: engaged couples this season, season nine, and it's how do

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Speaker 2: you feel about the reputation that like season nine ruined

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Speaker 2: the whole thing because because so many failed relationships that

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Speaker 2: came from it and that's why we're not getting another paradise.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't bother me. I mean, I I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I just I did it.

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Speaker 4: I had fun, found somebody, you know, gave it a shot,

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Speaker 4: and I'm happy about like my experience.

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Speaker 3: You know, I wouldn't change it for anything.

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Speaker 4: But as far as the rest of the season goes

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Speaker 4: and how people view it, I mean, I don't really care.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't bother me.

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Speaker 5: The interesting thing, I think from your perspective would be

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Speaker 5: why did so many relationships look like they could work

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Speaker 5: coming off the show and ended up not working, you know,

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Speaker 5: a very in a very short time from the show.

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Speaker 3: I don't really know.

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Speaker 4: It's kind of hard for me to talk about that

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Speaker 4: because I'm not really too focused on the other relationships.

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Speaker 4: You know, Obviously, me and Kat we ended up getting engaged,

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Speaker 4: and I know our story, and I don't really want

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Speaker 4: to talk about the other couple's stories because you know,

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Speaker 4: that's I feel like that's kind of for them to

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Speaker 4: touch on. But you know, as far as me and

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Speaker 4: Kat go, like, you know, I gave it my all

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Speaker 4: and we tried it and it didn't work out, but

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Speaker 4: that's okay.

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Speaker 2: And uh, I mean, yeah, you and Kat seems like

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Speaker 2: an odd couple right off the bat. You seem like

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Speaker 2: a very salt of the earth, grounded type of guy,

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Speaker 2: sweet southern and she and I think Kat is hilarious

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Speaker 2: and I like loved her personality for TV and I

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Speaker 2: think she has a good heart, stunning, but like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: you guys are definitely an odd couple. And how did

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Speaker 2: that work out in your favor, and how did it

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Speaker 2: ultimately not?

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Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, like we couldn't be any more different.

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Speaker 4: You know, I knew that, she knew that. Everybody else

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Speaker 4: at the beach, you know, everybody said like we were

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Speaker 4: probably like the last couple.

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Speaker 3: They ever would have imagined getting together.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but like you said, like, I don't know, it

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Speaker 4: just worked, like because she's you know, she's really vocal.

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Speaker 4: She's like loud, and she's always all over the place.

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Speaker 4: And then like I'm a little more grounded, So like,

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Speaker 4: I don't know, it just it worked like we couldn't

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Speaker 4: be any more different, but at the same time it fit,

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Speaker 2: So yeah, it's like one of those situations where it's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, like you know that in meme.

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Speaker 4: I don't know if it's like a meme, but like

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Speaker 4: it's like if I order French fries at a restaurant

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Speaker 4: and they give me tater tots, like you need to

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Speaker 4: find a girl that's gonna tell the server like he

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Speaker 4: didn't order, you know, tater tots. So it's like, I'm

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Speaker 4: not gonna complain. You know, I'll eat the tater tots.

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Speaker 4: I don't care. But like, you know, Kat's a kind

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Speaker 4: of girl like she's gonna speak up. She's gonna be like, no,

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Speaker 4: he didn't order that, he ordered for us.

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Speaker 2: That's hilarious. Both Jared and I are not going to

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Speaker 2: complain about the tator tosts though we're right there.

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Speaker 3: I'll eat them. It's not the end of the world.

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Speaker 5: But you know, stand up for your man, Ashley.

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Speaker 2: Wait then then what what you and Jess? Who's going

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Speaker 2: to tell the waiter that you guys.

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Speaker 5: Didn't know about? Not a single soul. But it's an

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Speaker 5: interesting concept, John Henry, because you know, I'm from Indiana

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Speaker 5: originally and from an incredible agriculture town, and we have

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Speaker 5: some very like prominent, really successful farmers. And these farmers

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Speaker 5: are oftentimes from farming families, you know, third four generation farmers,

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Speaker 5: and their life is hard, right, wake up at five am,

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Speaker 5: you close the barn door at eight pm. But you're

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Speaker 5: you're very wealthy. Typically these farmers are very wealthy. And

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Speaker 5: we had this thing in town wet It kind of

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Speaker 5: called it farming princesses, where you'd have the farmers who

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Speaker 5: are as simple as simple can be. They could ask

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Speaker 5: But they'd have their wives who would kind of push

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Speaker 5: them and stretch them to experience the world in a

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Speaker 5: different way. Right, maybe, Hey, I want to go to

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Speaker 5: a fancier dinner tonight. So can you throw on your

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Speaker 5: nice jeans and your nice shirt and your boots and

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Speaker 5: take me to a fancy dinner. Is that kind of

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Speaker 5: what you're talking about where it felt like kat might

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Speaker 5: just be that enough of a difference for you to

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Speaker 5: push you into a realm that you would never go

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Speaker 5: into on your own.

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Speaker 1: Uh.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And you know, that's one of the big things

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Speaker 4: that really call my attention from the beginning with her,

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Speaker 4: is like, you know, I want somebody different than me.

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Speaker 4: I don't want someone exactly like me with the same hobbies.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 4: I like having my hobbies and doing my own thing,

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Speaker 4: and she has her hobbies and does her own thing,

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Speaker 4: and I don't know like that. That's that's always kind

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Speaker 4: of what I liked and like knowing Kad is totally

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Speaker 4: different than me, Like she can show me a lot

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Speaker 4: and at the same time, you know, I can show

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Speaker 4: her a lot. So I like change, I like doing

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Speaker 4: different things, So like, yeah, I mean that I really

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Speaker 4: liked the idea of that with her. You know, that

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Speaker 4: was like, okay, like, you know, it's kind of what

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Speaker 4: I'm looking for.

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Speaker 5: I think my follow up to that would be what

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Speaker 5: do you look? I mean, I don't want to skip

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Speaker 5: too far ahead here, but what are you looking for now?

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Speaker 5: Now that you've experienced a cat in your life and

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Speaker 5: seeing kind of that difference, are you now as you

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Speaker 5: focus on what you're into now in the future, is

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Speaker 5: it back to kind of comfort and somebody that will

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Speaker 5: just like ride along with you and you guys can

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Speaker 5: do what you do or is it still that kind

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Speaker 5: of more cat style that will push you outside of it?

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Speaker 3: Uh? Both.

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Speaker 4: I still I still like the idea of having, you know,

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Speaker 4: somebody that's totally different than me. But it kind of

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Speaker 4: made me realize too. It's like like the like down

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Speaker 4: to the core, like you have to be similar, you

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Speaker 4: have to you know, there's a lot of things that

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Speaker 4: you have to be similar on. But then like all

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Speaker 4: the things that don't matter, like that's what I want

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Speaker 4: to be different, But like when it comes to all

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Speaker 4: the deep stuff, you know that has to be on track.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that makes sense.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So when you propose, it was kind of hilarious

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Speaker 2: because you said, my head is telling me not to

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Speaker 2: do this, but my heart is telling me to go

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Speaker 2: for it. To your future self proposing one other day,

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Speaker 2: do you want both your heart and your head to

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Speaker 2: be at the same place.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean obviously.

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Speaker 4: But Paradise is such a a not like a normal

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Speaker 4: way of getting engaged, Like you know, it's such a

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Speaker 4: short period of time, and going on the show, like

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Speaker 4: I knew that, Like I knew it was going to

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Speaker 4: be a lot different than like every day dating. And

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Speaker 4: like in everyday dating, you know, I think two three

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Speaker 4: years then I'll be, you know ready.

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Speaker 3: But going to.

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Speaker 4: Paradise, it's like I know how it works, you know,

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Speaker 4: I know the end goal, and like in order to

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Speaker 3: So I was, you know, in my head.

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Speaker 4: Like we got along really well, and you know, things

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Speaker 4: couldn't have been any better at Paradise, So you know,

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Speaker 4: it's getting down to the end and I have to

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Speaker 4: make up a decision, and I was all in but

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Speaker 4: like it was such a short period of time, So

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Speaker 4: it's like I was thinking back on like just normal

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Speaker 4: everyday dating, Like, yeah, it's absolutely insane to get engaged

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Speaker 4: after just a couple of weeks. But knowing that that,

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Speaker 4: you know, that's what I signed up for, I had

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Speaker 4: to be open to it. And uh, you know, I

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Speaker 4: was leaving the beach and I was thinking myself, well,

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Speaker 4: I mean, it couldn't go any better with Kat, so

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Speaker 4: it was like, let's let's just do it, you know,

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Speaker 4: let's give it a shot.

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Speaker 5: You just don't seem like the type of guy to me.

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Speaker 5: Out of anybody maybe I've ever seen from the show

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Speaker 5: Chris Souls would be a close second, but you don't

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Speaker 5: seem like a guy that would ever have any interest

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Speaker 5: in doing this thing.

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Speaker 3: I didn't. I didn't. You're absolutely right.

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Speaker 5: So two questions here that you have to answer, probably

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Speaker 5: in one response, okay, would be why did you do it?

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Speaker 5: And then how did you get yourself? Because you just

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Speaker 5: said that you were going onto the beach with the

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Speaker 5: right intention, like what everybody else there says they're doing.

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Speaker 5: I believe that you went with the right intention because

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Speaker 5: I don't believe you to be a man trying to

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Speaker 5: make up something that's not true, So why did you go?

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Speaker 5: And then how in the world did you get your

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Speaker 5: mind in the right place to even do it without

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Speaker 5: wanting to do it at all?

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Speaker 4: So I guess I have to kind of go back

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Speaker 4: to the Bachelorette because that's where the whole decision came

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Speaker 4: to do it all.

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Speaker 3: transition so hard for me? Like this should be easy, you.

438
00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:56,600
Speaker 4: Know, like I'm in love, I'm with someone that I

439
00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:59,440
Speaker 4: really like. This should be no problem for me to

440
00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:02,160
Speaker 4: switch career years and find something else. But that wasn't

441
00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:05,119
Speaker 4: the case. So then I started thinking to myself, like,

442
00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:07,520
Speaker 4: is this is this really it?

443
00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:09,320
Speaker 3: Like? Is this is this really what?

444
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:13,439
Speaker 4: I want, and I guess once I started kind of

445
00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:16,679
Speaker 4: thinking that, it just kind of started spiraling for me

446
00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:20,679
Speaker 4: and everything else. Everything just started to get more stressful.

447
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:25,120
Speaker 4: And then I started to see our differences a lot

448
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 4: more so things just really got hard for me. And

449
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:33,439
Speaker 4: then at the same time, like you know, at this point,

450
00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:37,479
Speaker 4: the show's airing, and you know, Kat is just getting

451
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:41,399
Speaker 4: so much hate and it was really hard for her too,

452
00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:46,159
Speaker 4: just dealing dealing with that. So now you have this

453
00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:49,399
Speaker 4: like she's all she's really stressed out, and she's just

454
00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:52,600
Speaker 4: everyone's coming at her on a day to day basis.

455
00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:56,560
Speaker 4: And then I'm stressed out trying to make my move,

456
00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:59,280
Speaker 4: you know, trying to make this work, figuring out careers,

457
00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:02,159
Speaker 4: and then I'm getting stressed and now I'm having doubts,

458
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:05,520
Speaker 4: so I'm trying to It's just it got to a

459
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:07,520
Speaker 4: point where it was just extremely hard for the.

460
00:23:07,440 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 3: Both of us.

461
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:12,680
Speaker 4: And then basically I just I, you know, I called

462
00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:16,120
Speaker 4: it quits. I said, I just this doesn't feel right.

463
00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:18,800
Speaker 4: I think this should be a lot easier than what

464
00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:20,919
Speaker 4: it is, and it just it wasn't the case. So

465
00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:22,879
Speaker 4: then I was like, well, why isn't the case, Like,

466
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:26,080
Speaker 4: what's what's wrong, and then I just started thinking to myself,

467
00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:28,320
Speaker 4: like maybe this just isn't for me. And then once

468
00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:30,359
Speaker 4: I got that in my head, you know, it just

469
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:31,800
Speaker 4: kind of spiraled from there.

470
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 5: Was she shocked.

471
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:34,240
Speaker 3: She was shocked.

472
00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:39,359
Speaker 4: I think that uh, you know, it wasn't wasn't really

473
00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:44,520
Speaker 4: fair to her because at the time, you know, I

474
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:47,760
Speaker 4: was her you know, I was her fiance. You know,

475
00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 4: I'm supposed to be her rock. I'm supposed to be

476
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:53,639
Speaker 4: there for her. And I think the hardest thing for

477
00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:57,000
Speaker 4: her was like, you know, so I don't I don't know,

478
00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 4: but like I had, you know, a thing about like depression,

479
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:01,560
Speaker 4: and I made a post about it and I had

480
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 4: a walk for depression, and you know, this is kind

481
00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:07,560
Speaker 4: of new to me. Well at first started you know,

482
00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:10,119
Speaker 4: I started dealing with it like seven eight years ago,

483
00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:14,479
Speaker 4: but this was my first relationship that I was in

484
00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 4: where I dealt with depression. So I'm getting stressed out

485
00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:22,840
Speaker 4: about everything. And then you know, I definitely got in

486
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:25,520
Speaker 4: like a loaf from it. And then now Kat, you know,

487
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:30,080
Speaker 4: she's just she she really needed that support for me.

488
00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:33,720
Speaker 4: But now I got all this all this anxiety and

489
00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 4: I'm dealing with depression and then I shut down, So

490
00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 4: I definitely wasn't there for her like I should have been.

491
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:45,160
Speaker 4: So I think that was the hardest thing for her,

492
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:48,120
Speaker 4: was like you know the fact that like I'm supposed

493
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 4: to be her guy, I'm supposed to be there for her,

494
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:52,439
Speaker 4: and I was struggling with that because of all the

495
00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:56,199
Speaker 4: issues that I was dealing with myself. So that was

496
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:59,200
Speaker 4: that was the hardest thing for her, I think for sure.

497
00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,080
Speaker 2: And it was all happening while the show was airing,

498
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:05,919
Speaker 2: and then you guys basically broke up like the last

499
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 2: week that it was airing.

500
00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:12,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, we actually broke up right before the finale.

501
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:15,679
Speaker 5: Actually, I'm curious, though, would you say, I mean you

502
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 5: were engaged from the show? Is Kat to date the

503
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:23,120
Speaker 5: greatest love that you've had?

504
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:29,680
Speaker 4: Kat is amazing? You know, she really is something special,

505
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 4: Like she's not my longest relationship, but but cat Cat's

506
00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:39,960
Speaker 4: Cat's a catch. Like you know, I'll tell you, Like,

507
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 4: she she definitely did her part, you know, because like.

508
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:49,199
Speaker 3: Distance is hard, distance is hard for everybody. But she did.

509
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 4: You know, she when she loves you know, she gives

510
00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 4: it her all. And uh, she did everything that she

511
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 4: needed to do and then some in order to try

512
00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:03,080
Speaker 4: to make our relationship work. And uh, you know even

513
00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:06,159
Speaker 4: after even after we ended up breaking up, you know

514
00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 4: it was it was hard at first for sure, but

515
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:11,199
Speaker 4: we definitely kept in touch and like, you know, dealing

516
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:14,639
Speaker 4: with all my depression stuff. Like she's reached out several times,

517
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,520
Speaker 4: like she's always checking in. Uh, she's sent me a

518
00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:19,879
Speaker 4: lot of podcasts and stuff to listen to and like

519
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:22,359
Speaker 4: some books and stuff to read just to help, and

520
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:25,640
Speaker 4: like she's been nothing but supportive, you know, after.

521
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:31,160
Speaker 3: The breakup, and so like she's Cat's Cat's a good one.

522
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:35,440
Speaker 4: You know, it didn't work out with us, but someone's

523
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 4: definitely going to be very lucky.

524
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 3: To have her.

525
00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 2: Would you say that you were in love with her?

526
00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:43,639
Speaker 3: Or maybe absolutely? Yeah, yeah I would, I would.

527
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:56,080
Speaker 5: Thanks for sharing all that, I mean, it makes things

528
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:59,480
Speaker 5: make more sense too. And you are taking a lot

529
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 5: of the ownership and in this relationship and why it

530
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:06,159
Speaker 5: ended the way it did and I and all and

531
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 5: it all makes sense. Like none of this is nobody's

532
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 5: hearing any of this and be like what are you

533
00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:13,240
Speaker 5: talking about? Longest relationships are easy and you know mental

534
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 5: health struggles, Yeah, you just move on. No, those are

535
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 5: real things that were going on and The hope here

536
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:22,399
Speaker 5: is that you know your future is bright, and we

537
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:24,879
Speaker 5: know cats will be bright, and that things you know,

538
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:29,240
Speaker 5: new loves will come into your life. But today your

539
00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:34,040
Speaker 5: relationship the only It's funny, one of the only markets

540
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 5: we have people are still getting along is social media.

541
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:38,879
Speaker 5: And you still follow Cat on social media, but we

542
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:42,360
Speaker 5: noticed that Cat doesn't follow you any longer, which made

543
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,199
Speaker 5: us think that there was, you know, a more of

544
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 5: a divide here than what we understood it to be.

545
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:49,959
Speaker 5: Can you speak to that a little bit?

546
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:55,439
Speaker 4: Yeah, So, like I said, we kept in touch for

547
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 4: a while even after the breakup, and she moved to

548
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:02,160
Speaker 4: Sandy because that was her dream, that's what she wanted

549
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 4: to do. So she made that happen. And you know,

550
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:09,639
Speaker 4: she would always call me and show me all the

551
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:12,120
Speaker 4: sunsets and stuff, and she was talking about her new

552
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:14,239
Speaker 4: place and how excited she was and how much she

553
00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 4: was loving it. And then you know, at the end

554
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 4: of the day, I'm the one who cut it off

555
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:24,959
Speaker 4: with her, and we stayed civil, we stayed friends, and

556
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 4: I think it was definitely it was hard for her

557
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:31,400
Speaker 4: because it's not what she wanted. She was still fully invested.

558
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:33,520
Speaker 4: She wanted to make you know, make it last and

559
00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:35,640
Speaker 4: do everything that she could and try.

560
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:36,159
Speaker 3: To make it work.

561
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 4: But you know, I just started to see our differences

562
00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 4: and I was just really struggling with you know, making

563
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 4: it work on my end. So when I cut it off,

564
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 4: I mean, she's doing great. She's living her life in

565
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 4: San Diego. She's a nurse practitioner now, she's got a

566
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 4: really good job. She's doing her own thing, having a blast,

567
00:28:57,120 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 4: and like I'm you know, I'm still working on my

568
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:00,880
Speaker 4: stuff here. I got a lot to you know, to

569
00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:05,240
Speaker 4: figure out on my end. But it's just it became

570
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 4: clear to me that I think this was the right decision.

571
00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:14,160
Speaker 4: But when it comes to, you know, us talking, we

572
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:18,280
Speaker 4: don't really talk much anymore. Now we're civil. If she

573
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:20,160
Speaker 4: called me, I'd be there in a heartbeat if she

574
00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:22,840
Speaker 4: you know, if I needed her, I know she'd answer

575
00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 4: the phone and she'd do anything she couldn't help. But

576
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 4: from like a relationship standpoint, I think, you know, after

577
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:32,360
Speaker 4: a little while, she told me, she was like, I

578
00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:36,240
Speaker 4: don't think we should talk anymore because it's just it's difficult,

579
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,560
Speaker 4: and I think she did it just to kind of

580
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 4: focus on herself and try to move on. She said,

581
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 4: just keeping in touch and always talking all the time.

582
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 4: It just wasn't helping her. So she made the decision

583
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:51,200
Speaker 4: we just weren't gonna you know, really talk and keep

584
00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 4: in touch like we're civil we're friends, but also it

585
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 4: was time for us just to totally separate. Yeah, so

586
00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 4: I she unfollowed me, but you know, it doesn't bother me.

587
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 4: But I mean I still follow her because I still, like,

588
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:09,960
Speaker 4: you know, seeing what she's doing and everything that, you know, all.

589
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,280
Speaker 3: Her goals that she always talked about. It's nice. It's

590
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 3: nice for me to see you know, her getting everything

591
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 3: done that she wanted to get done. So that's why

592
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 3: I still follow her, just because I'm I'm proud of her.

593
00:30:20,840 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 2: That's sweet. How's your mental health now doing good?

594
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 4: I'm getting definitely getting a lot better. But you know,

595
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 4: just like I said, being in a relationship while dealing

596
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 4: with it, this was my first time, so it definitely

597
00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:40,280
Speaker 4: opened my eyes to a lot of things that I.

598
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 3: Didn't really know before that.

599
00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:44,640
Speaker 4: It took me getting in a relationship to realize, like

600
00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 4: I got some things that I got to get figured out.

601
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:50,800
Speaker 4: But after getting rid of, you know, getting out of

602
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:53,800
Speaker 4: that relationship, and like I'm done trying to figure out,

603
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:56,240
Speaker 4: you know, trying to make everything happen and move in

604
00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 4: such a short period of time. You know, I'm just

605
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 4: back on a normal I'm going to make it happen

606
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:04,720
Speaker 4: when it's meant to you know, meant to be, and

607
00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 4: it's just way less weight off my shoulders. I just,

608
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 4: you know, I can. I can just make this transition

609
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:14,719
Speaker 4: like I originally thought, you know, without it being so stressful.

610
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 5: Are you going to continue to dive then?

611
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 4: I mean for now, because yeah, now I'm back to

612
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:25,440
Speaker 4: being single, and you know, I I definitely I don't

613
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 4: see myself getting into another relationship for a little while.

614
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:30,560
Speaker 4: Like I said, I've got some things that you've got

615
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:31,239
Speaker 4: to get figured out.

616
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 3: But I'm getting there. You know, I'm definitely getting better.

617
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:39,720
Speaker 4: But you know, I'm just gonna get myself right because

618
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:42,680
Speaker 4: I know I hurt Cat, and you know that's the

619
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:44,000
Speaker 4: last thing I want to do is.

620
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 3: Hurt somebody else.

621
00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 4: So before I get into another relationship, I have to

622
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 4: make sure that you know I'm mentally ready for it.

623
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

624
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 5: Well, since so you haven't been out there dating, you're

625
00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 5: kind of focused on yourself.

626
00:31:57,960 --> 00:32:00,680
Speaker 3: Not really, No, I just I took new job.

627
00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:06,080
Speaker 4: I can't really speak on it right now, but I

628
00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:07,560
Speaker 4: am making a move.

629
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 3: I'm really excited. It's gonna be super good for me.

630
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 4: It's gonna be a super fun job that I'm going

631
00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 4: to and uh yeah, so I'm just gonna I'm gonna

632
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 4: go and then I'm gonna enjoy this for my last

633
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 4: couple of years and then you know, I'll be ready

634
00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:26,960
Speaker 4: to figure out my next move after that. But for now,

635
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 4: this was something that I couldn't pass up and I'm

636
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:30,160
Speaker 4: super excited about it.

637
00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:32,080
Speaker 5: We do as a favor and at least share on

638
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:34,200
Speaker 5: social media what this new job is. In a week,

639
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:36,440
Speaker 5: then when you can't talk about it, so everybody can.

640
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 3: I will.

641
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 4: It's it's still diving, okay. I'm just building something really

642
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:44,640
Speaker 4: cool and a really cool location.

643
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 5: Oh, super fun. Good for you, man, that's awesome. Now,

644
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:53,720
Speaker 5: speaking of diving, total change is subject this week on

645
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:59,640
Speaker 5: National News, the largest tagged great white was found on

646
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:04,400
Speaker 5: the shelf of Jupiter, Florida. There was a free diver

647
00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 5: and people are down there filming the free diver, and

648
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 5: out from the depths of the ocean came the biggest

649
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:12,120
Speaker 5: great white I've ever seen in my life. Did you

650
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:16,760
Speaker 5: see this? Picture yet No, I actually have not. Okay,

651
00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 5: you got to look at it. And then the second

652
00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:20,720
Speaker 5: question is have you had anything similar happen to you?

653
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:23,840
Speaker 5: Have you had any massive sharks come up while you've

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Speaker 5: been diving.

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Speaker 4: I was actually cutting a big steel pipe underwater, and

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Speaker 4: it's a pretty wild concept of how we cut steel

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Speaker 4: underwater because we actually cut it with like electricity and fire,

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Speaker 4: but underwater. Yeah, so it's a pretty wild you know,

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Speaker 4: you say, like cutting stuff with fire underwater, Like people think,

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Speaker 4: like how does that even work?

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Speaker 3: But it's like it does because of electricity. But so anyways,

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Speaker 3: I'm down there and uh.

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Speaker 4: It's pitch black, it's muddy, I can't see anything, and

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Speaker 4: I'm just cutting this pipe and then and all of

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Speaker 4: a sudden, something just smokes me from my back and

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Speaker 4: it just throws me like eight feet and h It

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Speaker 4: was in the area where there's you know, there's a

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Speaker 4: lot of shark all the time, and you know, just

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Speaker 4: with how how it hit me, how hard it hit me,

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Speaker 4: and like I could tell like this thing's huge, whatever

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Speaker 4: it is, it is way bigger than me.

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Speaker 3: But I you know, I'm.

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Speaker 4: Cutting with fire, so like this thing hits me and

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Speaker 4: I just turn around. I get up and I can't

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Speaker 4: see anything, but I point this thing at him and

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Speaker 4: I just start shooting fireworks at him. And he didn't

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Speaker 4: come back, but you know, it was it was there,

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Speaker 4: but uh, after a little while, it just it didn't

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Speaker 4: come back.

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Speaker 3: So I just had to go back to work.

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Speaker 2: How many feet deep do you go?

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Speaker 3: Furthest The deepest I've been is one hundred and seventy

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Speaker 3: five feet rap, which actually, you know, in the diving

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Speaker 3: world is actually not even that bad at all.

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Speaker 5: Still in the in the recreational scuba diving world, that's

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Speaker 5: a lot.

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Speaker 2: I can only imagine the pressure on your body hole

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Speaker 2: and molly.

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Speaker 3: But it's fun. I mean, I love it.

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Speaker 4: It's every day is a thrill. Every day's something new.

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Speaker 4: Things happen all the time that like just it keeps

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Speaker 4: things interesting. And it's just it's one of those jobs.

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Speaker 4: Like at the end of the day, like you know,

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Speaker 4: I come home and I kick my boots off and

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Speaker 4: I just think to myself, like, like what a day

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Speaker 4: that was, And then going tomorrow and it's it's something different,

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Speaker 4: something else happens. You know, it's not always good things,

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Speaker 4: but you know.

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Speaker 3: It keeps it keeps my drolling up, So I love it.

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Speaker 5: For now, have you seen the Instagram trend or the

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Speaker 5: TikTok trend right now where boyfriends are telling their girlfriends

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Speaker 5: that they're getting into underwater diving as a career.

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Speaker 3: Now, I did see that.

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Speaker 5: What do you think of it?

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Speaker 3: It's it's pretty funny. I actually wanted to do one.

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Speaker 4: I wanted to like, are you talking about the one

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Speaker 4: like where you got the job an Excellon mobile down

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Speaker 4: in the golf and like all their reactions are like no,

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Speaker 4: like you know, they flip out.

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Speaker 3: It's so dangerous. Well, I was thinking about.

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Speaker 4: Doing one, but like calling my mom and telling her

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Speaker 4: because she would just be like, oh cool, like yeah,

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Speaker 4: we'll have fun. But I'm not a big social media guy.

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Speaker 4: So it was like I just never got to it.

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Speaker 4: So I probably never will.

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Speaker 2: Your parents worry about you. It's like it's a dangerous job, right,

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Speaker 2: yeah it is.

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Speaker 4: But you know, I just just got to be safe.

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Speaker 4: It's one of those jobs that you know, you really

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Speaker 4: have to take serious and you can't cut corners and

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Speaker 4: you have to do it the right way, and uh,

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Speaker 4: you know, it's just I just make sure that everything

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Speaker 4: I do on my end, I do it right and

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Speaker 4: the way I'm supposed to do it. And then so,

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Speaker 4: I mean, I can only control so much, but I

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Speaker 4: just you know, I just have to make sure everything

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Speaker 4: that I can control, I do it the right way.

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Speaker 2: You say that you want your future spouse to be

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Speaker 2: adventures enough to dive with you. What if you find

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Speaker 2: a girl that's scared of water? Is as a deal brigger?

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Speaker 3: No, I'll talk her into it one day.

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Speaker 5: It just start small, start small. I have no concerns

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Speaker 5: for you, John Henry. You're a good looking man who

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Speaker 5: can go to any bar or any place and they

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Speaker 5: say what do you do for a living? You say,

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Speaker 5: I am an underwater diver, and everybody is going to

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Speaker 5: be intrigued.

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Speaker 1: You have.

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Speaker 5: A lot going for you, and we appreciate you coming on.

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Speaker 5: I wish we could celebrate you because of this next

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Speaker 5: season of your life and this next job that sounds

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Speaker 5: super fun and exciting, and you get a smile on

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Speaker 5: your face when you talk about it, so obviously you're

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Speaker 5: pumped about it. But you know we will respect that

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Speaker 5: you can't talk about it now, so please share it

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Speaker 5: when you can talk about it, so that we can

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Speaker 5: celebrate you from a distance.

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Speaker 4: I'll let everybody know. But yeah, I am super excited

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Speaker 4: and I can't wait to share it. It's just it's

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Speaker 4: it's a weird story right now, so I can't, okay,

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Speaker 4: but when I can, When I can, I will tell

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Speaker 4: everybody and you know, make it known.

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Speaker 2: He's going to build Atlantis.

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Speaker 3: I wish, but it's it's just as cool, honestly.

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Speaker 2: Like it's gonna be like something in Dubai. Anyway, John Henry,

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Speaker 2: thank you so much for opening up to us. It

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Speaker 2: really means a lot sharing this story and well we

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Speaker 2: hope yeah the very best for you and can't wait

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Speaker 2: to find out all right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you guys for having me. This was fun.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we'll talk to you soon. Thanks John Henry, see

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Speaker 5: you all later. That's been John Henry, great guy, a

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Speaker 5: lot of good things coming in his way. Wish him

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Speaker 5: and Kat the best clarity on the breakup, which is

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Speaker 5: good to have because obviously so many of these breakups

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Speaker 5: leave so many unanswered questions. We got the questions answer

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Speaker 5: today and so until next time. I've been Ben and.

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Speaker 2: I've been Ashley. Bye.

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