WEBVTT - Breaking big goals into small steps, with Lisa Bilyeu 0:00:03.000 --> 0:00:06.600 Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:09.240 Good Morning. 0:00:09.840 --> 0:00:14.440 This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:17.040 episode is going to be a longer one part of 0:00:17.040 --> 0:00:19.880 the series where I interview fascinating people about how they 0:00:19.920 --> 0:00:22.919 take their days from great to awesome and any advice 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:26.439 they might have for the rest of us. So today 0:00:26.600 --> 0:00:29.400 I am delighted to welcome Lisa Billu to the show. 0:00:29.880 --> 0:00:32.760 Lisa is the co founder of Quest Nutrition, the president 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:36.080 of Impact Theory, and creator of Women of Impact. She 0:00:36.120 --> 0:00:38.760 has built up a huge social media following sharing her 0:00:38.800 --> 0:00:42.560 message of confidence and resilience. So, Lisa, welcome to the show. 0:00:42.880 --> 0:00:45.199 Thanks so much for having me. I'm super excited. 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:47.400 Yeah, So, why don't you tell our listeners just a 0:00:47.440 --> 0:00:50.680 little bit more about yourself? What's you're up to these days? Oh? 0:00:50.840 --> 0:00:52.240 Up to these days? Is great? 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:56.280 This as a So Lisa is Los Angeles based, So 0:00:56.360 --> 0:00:58.120 that's a loaded question, isn't it? 0:00:58.520 --> 0:00:59.200 Yeah? It is. 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:02.160 But what's inch thing though, is as we talk about, 0:01:02.200 --> 0:01:04.119 you know, kind of like what we do in the mornings, 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:06.000 and you know, how we live our lives and the 0:01:06.040 --> 0:01:09.360 habits that really serve us. I think that any time 0:01:09.440 --> 0:01:11.440 if you've done the practice, and you've really put in 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:15.319 habits and systems to help you navigate situations. Even with 0:01:15.400 --> 0:01:18.280 the fires, those systems and those skill sets really do 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:21.280 come in handy. And so just now, like you said, 0:01:21.319 --> 0:01:24.479 we're dealing with all the fires and there's so much anxiety. 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:25.920 Friends have lost their houses. 0:01:26.160 --> 0:01:28.880 How do you keep showing up positive with a strong, 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:32.560 confident mindset no matter what happened? And so that is 0:01:32.600 --> 0:01:33.920 actually really what I'm focused on. 0:01:33.959 --> 0:01:34.160 Now. 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:36.400 What's my morning habits? How am I serving myself? 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:39.480 And how am I setting myself up for success every day? 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:42.160 That's wonderful. Yeah, we've got to be resilient, I mean, 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:44.800 because what other choice do we really have in life? Right? 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:48.480 I mean, so from what I understand, you know, you 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:51.720 guys have this huge business, but you didn't necessarily set 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:55.080 out to have a big entrepreneurial career. This was not 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:57.960 what you dreamed of growing up necessarily. Can you talk 0:01:58.000 --> 0:01:58.760 a little bit about that. 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:03.520 Yeahoute, So I grew up really wanting to be in Hollywood. 0:02:03.600 --> 0:02:05.880 My dream was to be a female movie director, the 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:07.760 first one that ever won an Academy Award. 0:02:07.800 --> 0:02:10.080 Like, I was so excited. I went to film school. 0:02:10.360 --> 0:02:13.040 But I'm Greek Orthodox and every step of the way 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:15.440 in my entire journey as a young girl, I was 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:17.359 told that my future was going to be me being 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:19.440 a wife and a mother, and that was my purpose 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:21.920 in life. So I meet the man of my dreams, 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:24.800 and then I fall into the pattern and the life 0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:27.400 that everybody else had painted for me. And before I 0:02:27.480 --> 0:02:30.280 knew it, I felt like I blinked. And eight years 0:02:30.320 --> 0:02:32.080 went by and I was cooking and cleaning for my 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:35.880 husband and I was the best freaking housewife you know around, 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:38.240 but I just didn't enjoy it. It felt like it 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:41.680 wasn't the life that I wanted. And then my husband 0:02:41.760 --> 0:02:44.200 one day came home. We were both miserable living our 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:47.280 daily lives, and we said something has to change, and 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:50.320 in that something has to change the idea of building 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:53.840 a protein bar came about. And I had no idea 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:55.639 what I was doing. I had no idea how to 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:59.119 build a business. All I knew was I was incredibly insecure, 0:02:59.639 --> 0:03:01.840 and I didn't know how to show up every day 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:04.960 and actually execute on what the business needs. And so 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:07.920 every day was a struggle of figuring out what habits 0:03:07.960 --> 0:03:10.000 do I need to adopt, what skill sets do I need? 0:03:10.040 --> 0:03:10.600 To improve on. 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:13.840 What inadequacies do I need to stare nakedly at and 0:03:13.919 --> 0:03:16.320 admit so that I can improve on it. And that 0:03:16.480 --> 0:03:18.840 was such a deep dive from the exterior of the 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:22.160 skill sets all the way to the interior intern of 0:03:22.200 --> 0:03:24.440 what belief systems do I have that are really holding 0:03:24.480 --> 0:03:27.760 me back? And so that journey was just it was 0:03:27.960 --> 0:03:30.680 very hard, very difficult, but allowed me to build skill 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:34.000 sets that I can take into any avenue that I 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:35.920 choose to. Now if I want to start a new business, 0:03:35.960 --> 0:03:37.440 I can take that into it. If I want to, 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:40.440 you know, focus on my family. All of the skill 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:42.560 sets that I have built have allowed me now to 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:46.360 navigate anything that I really want to focus on, which 0:03:46.400 --> 0:03:47.160 is amazing. 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:50.080 But I'm sure that is a process. And so you know, 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:52.320 on this show, we always like to give people some 0:03:52.400 --> 0:03:55.120 practical tips. So people are listening to this and it's like, Lisa, 0:03:55.160 --> 0:03:57.920 that sounds great. I want that sort of confidence and 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:00.440 that ability to walk in and navigate new some situations. 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:03.920 What are some practical things people could start doing to 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:05.080 increase their confidence. 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:08.680 Yeah, this is so important because I completely agree. People 0:04:08.680 --> 0:04:09.920 may look at me and be like, oh my god, 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:12.240 I want your confidence. But The truth is I had 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:14.920 to build my confidence. It is like a muscle. If 0:04:14.960 --> 0:04:17.159 you say you want six pack abs, you have to 0:04:17.160 --> 0:04:18.919 go to the gym, you have to do crunches, you 0:04:18.960 --> 0:04:20.800 have to look at your diet. And so when you 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:23.000 think about confidence, it is a skill set that you 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:26.719 will build over time, and confidence ends up being the 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:30.320 byproduct of taking action. So the question is how do 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:31.520 you take action. 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:33.960 To build the confidence? So this comes to you have 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:35.400 to know what you're moving towards. 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:39.200 What goal have you set for yourself? And it can't 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:42.120 be a lot of us, including me, will go inwards emotional. 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:45.279 I want to be happy. Happiness isn't a goal. Happiness 0:04:45.360 --> 0:04:48.919 is a state of being temporarily, So what is that goal. 0:04:49.040 --> 0:04:51.200 If you're looking to build a business, let's say what 0:04:51.360 --> 0:04:53.719 is the goal. So let's say, for instance, you're my 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:57.600 goal is to build a YouTube channel that can reach 0:04:57.960 --> 0:05:00.640 one hundred thousand people within a year. Just say that's 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:03.080 your goal. Okay, what are you doing every single day 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:04.200 to work towards that goal? 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:05.279 Number one? 0:05:05.360 --> 0:05:08.000 It is going to be do steps of how you're 0:05:08.000 --> 0:05:09.760 going to build that skill set. So if you've never 0:05:09.760 --> 0:05:11.719 been in front of the camera, you can understand that 0:05:11.960 --> 0:05:14.080 step Number one is you have to get comfortable in 0:05:14.080 --> 0:05:17.080 front of the camera. Then you take that one step 0:05:17.120 --> 0:05:20.159 and you make it into micro steps. The microstep is 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:22.640 I get my iPhone out and I feel myself for 0:05:22.680 --> 0:05:27.359 a minute. Right, So I take big audacious goal, break 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:30.280 it down into steps, and then break those down into microsteps. 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:32.720 Those are the skill sets for you to then approach 0:05:32.760 --> 0:05:36.240 and take action. The second part is your emotions and 0:05:36.279 --> 0:05:39.320 your hormones are going to get in your way? So 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:41.560 how do you make sure that your emotions and your 0:05:41.560 --> 0:05:43.760 hormones don't get in your way? And anyone that may 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:45.440 be like, what do you mean by that, Lisa, Let's 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:48.720 just take a certain scenario where I call it how 0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:52.479 do you become emotionally sober? So imagine if you've had 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:54.560 do you drink? Have you ever had like cocktails? 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:55.279 Laura? 0:05:55.480 --> 0:05:58.360 I may have had a cocktail at life, Okay. 0:05:58.240 --> 0:06:00.400 So now let's take a scenario where have you ever 0:06:00.440 --> 0:06:02.560 had a few more cocktails than maybe you should have? 0:06:03.120 --> 0:06:05.560 And then maybe you're a bit more jolly than normal. 0:06:05.839 --> 0:06:07.760 Maybe you kiss the bouncer on the way out of 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:10.680 a club, right, Like, there are things that you're going 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:13.320 to do that are slightly out of character, if you've 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:16.520 had too many shots of vodka or alcohol, emotions are 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:19.320 the same, You're going to act out of accordance, if 0:06:19.360 --> 0:06:21.599 you have too many failures that are going to rock 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:23.960 you to your core, if you believe that you're not 0:06:24.000 --> 0:06:26.680 good enough. All of these things will have an effect 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:30.159 of how you show up every single day. So now 0:06:30.240 --> 0:06:35.200 understanding hormones, emotions will impact how you show up for me, 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:37.640 Now I go, how do I make sure that how 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:39.599 I show up every day and how my hormones and 0:06:40.000 --> 0:06:42.760 my emotions are will serve the goal I'm trying to 0:06:42.839 --> 0:06:46.039 get to. So that's where you stated the goal, you 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:48.840 stated the strategy, and then this is where you have 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:50.919 to take a hard look at yourself and go, what 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:54.520 are the things in my behavior, in my habits that 0:06:54.640 --> 0:06:58.279 hold me back. So let's say, for instance, some people 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:00.560 are like, I just don't find there's an enough hours 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:02.360 in the day to reach my goal. So look at 0:07:02.400 --> 0:07:04.880 your habits, look at your behavior, and maybe you realize 0:07:04.880 --> 0:07:06.920 you scroll on your phone for an hour in the morning. 0:07:07.320 --> 0:07:11.480 Maybe you realize that you uh mess about online and 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:14.800 you go online shopping before you get to work. No judgment, 0:07:15.240 --> 0:07:18.400 no shame, does that help you move towards your goal. 0:07:18.520 --> 0:07:21.040 Yes or no, It has to be binary. If the 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:24.560 answer is no, now you've identified something in your behavior 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:26.960 and your world that actually is holding you back from 0:07:27.000 --> 0:07:27.360 your goal. 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:28.560 That's the second step. 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:31.800 After that, you then come up with a strategy of 0:07:31.840 --> 0:07:35.320 what you're going to do to bypass. 0:07:34.880 --> 0:07:35.800 Your normal habit. 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:38.880 So if you wake up and you scroll, which is 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:40.720 what I used to do, and it used to mess 0:07:40.800 --> 0:07:44.000 with my mind, I wasn't starting the day strong confident focus. 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:46.640 I identified it and I said, what am I going 0:07:46.680 --> 0:07:49.480 to do differently? And this now comes to the fun part, 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:51.000 which I love, is like, now I come up with 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:54.320 strategies and a plan. Day one, I'm going to try 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:56.480 switching off my phone and putting it in another room, 0:07:56.880 --> 0:07:58.720 and I'm going to go downstairs and I'm going to 0:07:58.760 --> 0:08:01.880 kiss my puppies. It has to be like that obvious 0:08:02.000 --> 0:08:05.520 of actions. So I'll try it for a few days 0:08:05.920 --> 0:08:07.720 and then I go back inwards and I'm like, how 0:08:07.720 --> 0:08:10.160 did that feel? Did I feel more motivated? Did I 0:08:10.160 --> 0:08:14.160 feel less motivated? Did I feel distracted? Did I feel focused? 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:15.440 And if the. 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:17.800 Answer is moving towards my goal? Oh my god, I 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:20.960 actually feel more focused. Switching off my phone, leaving another room, 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:23.440 kissing my puppies. I'm going to now do that the 0:08:23.480 --> 0:08:25.720 second day. I'm now going to do that the third day. 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:30.360 Over time, you reinforce that behavior and then it becomes 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:30.840 a habit. 0:08:31.400 --> 0:08:34.000 Absolutely absolutely, And after there it's just we're onto the 0:08:34.000 --> 0:08:36.959 one hundred thousand YouTube subscribers right after that. Right. 0:08:37.320 --> 0:08:39.720 But that's the thing is that now you focus, Now 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:41.280 you show up. Now you get in front of that 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:44.520 can get there, and now you've practiced enough to get 0:08:44.600 --> 0:08:47.360 to the point where you can now confidently put videos 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:50.400 out every single day and then obviously focus on your 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:51.120 YouTube channel. 0:08:51.280 --> 0:08:53.240 Absolutely. All right, Well, we're going to take a quick 0:08:53.280 --> 0:09:02.480 ad break and we will be right back. So I 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:06.600 am back talking with Lisa Billu, who teaches people about 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:10.240 radical confidence and how to show up in your life 0:09:10.280 --> 0:09:13.400 to achieve all your goals. So we were just talking 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:15.760 there briefly about how people spend their mornings, and on 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:18.760 this show, we love to talk about morning routines, you know, 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:21.200 with the show called Before Breakfast, as you can imagine, 0:09:21.320 --> 0:09:24.360 we have a lot of people with intense morning routines. 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.800 From what I understand, you're a go to the gym, 0:09:27.840 --> 0:09:30.480 in the morning kind of person. Although I just saw, 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:33.640 and maybe you just posted this this week, that you 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:37.000 were modifying your morning routine just slightly, so maybe you 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:37.800 can talk about that. 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:38.880 Absolutely. 0:09:39.000 --> 0:09:41.640 So the strategy that I just broke down is how 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:44.080 I start to look at my routines, look at what 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:46.200 I'm doing, and seeing if I'm moving towards my goal, 0:09:46.520 --> 0:09:49.079 but understanding that I am a human being who's always 0:09:49.120 --> 0:09:51.600 looking to grow and evolve, So the thing that worked 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:53.720 for me last year, two years ago may not be 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.840 the thing that's working for me now. So almost every 0:09:57.000 --> 0:10:00.679 quarter I do an assessment and an analysis my life 0:10:00.840 --> 0:10:03.480 and my habits and my strategies to see if they're 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:05.800 still aligned with how I want to show up and 0:10:05.840 --> 0:10:09.280 what I'm trying to achieve. So recently, going back to 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:12.080 the hormones of the emotions, I'm a female, I'm forty 0:10:12.120 --> 0:10:15.200 five years old. I'm going through perimenopause. I can't ignore that. 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:17.800 I can't pretend I'm that twenty five year old that 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:20.520 likes to wake up crush in the GMR like go, 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:23.200 I'll go Go. I'm feeling a little differently now. So 0:10:23.320 --> 0:10:26.240 while my habits and my routines absolutely served me, That 0:10:26.400 --> 0:10:30.240 is what allowed me for ten years to keep going 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:32.560 in business when I didn't have the confidence. That's what 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:35.280 allowed me to keep going and take Quest Nutrition that 0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:37.320 started at zero and we went from zero to a 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:42.040 billion dollar company in five years. That was part of 0:10:42.080 --> 0:10:46.600 it was intense focus of every single part of where 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:49.440 you put your energy, what you focus on. So now 0:10:49.480 --> 0:10:51.520 going back to what I do now, what I did 0:10:51.600 --> 0:10:53.920 in my twenties, is it working for me? And what 0:10:53.960 --> 0:10:57.080 I realized was I went from the gym was motivating, 0:10:57.120 --> 0:11:00.080 the gym was actually filling my cup, to now I 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.000 feel like it's a bird and I was going to 0:11:02.080 --> 0:11:04.080 the gym, I was lifting weights like I normally do, 0:11:04.160 --> 0:11:06.760 and I felt differently about it. So it was important 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:09.840 for me to recognize it. Now none longer serves me, 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:13.160 but I understand the importance of moving your body. So 0:11:13.160 --> 0:11:14.720 I'm like, I'm not just going to quit the gym. 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:18.120 I need to modify it. What does that modification look like? 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:20.520 So I wrote a couple of ideas. I was like, 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:22.680 number one, I'm going to go cuddle my husband. But 0:11:22.800 --> 0:11:24.880 sometimes it's busy, sometimes in the middle of works. So 0:11:24.920 --> 0:11:28.280 that strategy didn't work because now it's dependent on him again, 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:30.560 how do you be dependent on yourself? I realized that 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:33.200 wasn't working, so I tried another struds, like what if 0:11:33.200 --> 0:11:36.560 I go and pet my puppies. So my idea was soften, 0:11:37.240 --> 0:11:41.280 bring in joy to my heart, allow myself the joy 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:44.640 that then may motivate me to go out into the 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:47.720 world and metaphorically crush it in the gym and in business. 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:49.560 So I was like, let me try it. 0:11:49.960 --> 0:11:52.560 And so I go and I pet my puppies. I'm like, okay, 0:11:52.559 --> 0:11:53.960 I feel like I need to spend some more time 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:55.640 with them. And I would just like let them walk 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:58.880 and sniff, and I was like, this really fills my cup. 0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:02.120 Like weirdly, I never would have thought twenty years ago 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:03.760 or ten years ago you would tell me to be 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:06.880 soft in the mornings, but now it actually is serving me. 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:09.800 So I've just adapted my morning routine. I take the 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:14.200 puppies out first, I give them cuddles. I've nurtured my heart, 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:16.400 and then I go to the gym and I freaking 0:12:16.520 --> 0:12:17.520 nurture my body. 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:20.960 Awesome, and she really has. If anyone wants to watch 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.640 her videos, I've seen her doing lots of push ups. 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:24.240 Thank you. 0:12:24.760 --> 0:12:27.040 I am not quite I cannot do the non knee 0:12:27.040 --> 0:12:28.760 push up yet, but I'm working on it. 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:32.520 So but that's again they yeah, like the goal, So 0:12:32.559 --> 0:12:34.160 it's a goal. What do you have to do every 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:36.079 day to get to the goal? And are you willing 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:37.520 to do it exactly? 0:12:37.600 --> 0:12:41.840 Exactly? Well, hopefully I am. But let's talk a little 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:44.240 bit more about some of your other routines that you have, 0:12:44.280 --> 0:12:47.440 because obviously, you know you guys running a big business, 0:12:47.840 --> 0:12:51.240 this takes time. You've i'm sure had to learn to 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:54.480 be incredibly productive given that we all have limited hours 0:12:54.480 --> 0:12:57.679 in the day. I wonder if you have any strategies 0:12:57.679 --> 0:12:59.520 that have been very helpful for you that you might 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:00.760 share with though listeners. 0:13:01.240 --> 0:13:02.480 Yeah. Absolutely so. 0:13:02.960 --> 0:13:04.720 I think it was Steve Jobs that I very first 0:13:04.720 --> 0:13:07.080 heard this from years and years ago, but he said, 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:09.560 you can only have a certain amount of decision making 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:12.199 with clarity, and the more decisions you make, the more 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:15.559 decision fatigued you get. In just taking that as fat 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:17.400 I then looked at my life and I said, what 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:20.560 can I systematize that literally makes me not have to 0:13:20.600 --> 0:13:23.800 think about it? So food, for instance, I have health 0:13:23.880 --> 0:13:26.160 is very important to me because for me, being able 0:13:26.200 --> 0:13:28.920 to nurture my body in order to bring the energy 0:13:29.000 --> 0:13:32.080 that I need to business. Food is very important. So 0:13:32.200 --> 0:13:34.800 I go, how can I systematize my healthy foods that 0:13:34.880 --> 0:13:37.160 I never get to the point where I'm hungry. I 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:39.439 never get to the point where I'm eating bad food 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:42.839 that doesn't serve my brain. And so I systematize my food, 0:13:42.920 --> 0:13:45.520 and that meant I got a I am very fortunate 0:13:45.520 --> 0:13:47.880 now to have a private chef that comes in and prepared, 0:13:47.960 --> 0:13:49.960 so I don't want to assume that everybody does. But 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:52.760 before I was wealthy, before I had I was doing 0:13:52.800 --> 0:13:55.880 everything myself, and so that meant bulk cooking. And so 0:13:56.040 --> 0:13:58.319 every Sunday I would take the whole day and I 0:13:58.360 --> 0:14:01.880 would take chicken, breast and burger and whatever food vegetables, 0:14:01.880 --> 0:14:04.280 and I would bolt cook everything. I would then put 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:06.480 everything in packages. I would put it in the freezer. 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:08.920 And now every day I literally don't think about it. 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:11.439 I don't make a decision on food. I don't make 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:13.440 a decision of how I eat. When I eat, I 0:14:13.440 --> 0:14:16.560 set an alarm in my phone that reminds me to eat. 0:14:16.840 --> 0:14:19.680 I've got my food ready, And so you can see 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:22.280 how that one thing is now one thing less I 0:14:22.360 --> 0:14:24.680 think about. So that's one big thing that I do 0:14:24.800 --> 0:14:26.960 in my daily life. Second of what I just look 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:29.440 at where I'm wasting my time and it has to 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:32.560 be Unfortunately, when you're building a business, sometimes you do 0:14:32.680 --> 0:14:35.200 have to be cutthroat in your time, and that means 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:37.760 I have to be very honest about where my energy 0:14:37.760 --> 0:14:40.800 and time should go, and with grace and politeness. 0:14:40.800 --> 0:14:41.760 I'm always trying to. 0:14:41.920 --> 0:14:44.360 Make sure that people don't feel ever dismissed or anything 0:14:44.440 --> 0:14:46.760 like that. But sometimes when you're running a business, people 0:14:46.760 --> 0:14:49.120 will come to you for the smallest questions, and it's 0:14:49.200 --> 0:14:52.360 questions they can solve themselves. And so I have learned 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:54.840 to empower my team to answer their own questions. I'm 0:14:54.880 --> 0:14:57.240 always here for them, but now I don't get nitpicked 0:14:57.600 --> 0:15:01.200 every two seconds on a thousand questions. Lastly, the very 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:03.160 thing that I think is the most important thing is 0:15:03.240 --> 0:15:06.480 making sure you have time for yourself every Saturday. And 0:15:06.520 --> 0:15:09.200 this was because my health got so bad. I spent 0:15:09.280 --> 0:15:12.000 ten years of quest nutrition, not paying attention to my 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:15.240 health or my body on my life. That ended up 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:18.200 being disastrous for me. So now I go, how do 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:20.920 I make sure I'm always giving myself moments of peace 0:15:20.960 --> 0:15:23.119 so that I can come back and crush it in business, 0:15:23.360 --> 0:15:26.680 and I got so much pushback. But every Saturday, without fail, 0:15:26.720 --> 0:15:27.840 I switched my phone off. 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:29.160 You cannot reach me. 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:31.920 I am very unless it's the fires. I was on 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:34.560 social media for the fires. Unless it's something urgent, I 0:15:34.640 --> 0:15:37.960 don't answer anything. I told my family if you text me, 0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:40.360 I'm not gonna answer. If there's an emergency, I'm not 0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:43.160 gonna answer. And the amount of pushback I had, and 0:15:43.200 --> 0:15:45.240 so I said, okay, what's the pushback? But Lisa, what 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:47.080 if we need to reach you? That was one of 0:15:47.320 --> 0:15:50.760 cool ping my husband. The follow up thing was what 0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:53.960 if someone doesn't have your husband's phone number? My answer is, 0:15:54.200 --> 0:15:56.240 then I'm sorry. You are not close enough to me 0:15:56.320 --> 0:16:00.960 to warrant disturbing my self care time. And that's a 0:16:01.000 --> 0:16:04.840 boundary I put in. I was religious on I stuck 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:07.640 to and over time people started to respect it because 0:16:07.680 --> 0:16:10.360 they started to realize how important it was for me 0:16:10.400 --> 0:16:12.600 to be able to show up. So without that, you 0:16:12.600 --> 0:16:13.720 can't show up for other people. 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:15.360 I love that. Yeah, if you're not, if I don't 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:17.120 know you well enough to give you my husband's number, 0:16:17.120 --> 0:16:19.280 then probably you don't have an emergency. 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:20.240 I need to hear about it. 0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:23.600 Exactly on Saturday, So what are you doing with that time? 0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:23.760 Then? 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:25.520 On Saturday, I'd love to hear what the self care 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:26.640 and day looks like for you. 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:27.720 Absolutely so. 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:29.640 Me and my husband has been together for almost twenty 0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:32.160 five years. We've built multiple companies together. I met him 0:16:32.200 --> 0:16:34.560 when I was twenty one, and so self care time 0:16:34.680 --> 0:16:37.520 really is number one. Me and my husband every Saturday 0:16:37.520 --> 0:16:40.840 morning we sit down and we say something called selfish desires. 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:43.560 So selfish desires means you just tell me exactly what 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:45.400 you want to do. You're not thinking about my emotions, 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:47.000 you're not thinking about your wife, you're not thinking about 0:16:47.000 --> 0:16:48.920 I'm not thinking about him. What do you actually want 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:51.240 to do? And we lay out everything we want to 0:16:51.240 --> 0:16:53.320 do on a Saturday. And I lay out everything I 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:55.200 want to do on a Saturday. So I like to 0:16:55.200 --> 0:16:57.040 do the sauna. I like to do cold plunging. 0:16:57.120 --> 0:16:59.640 I like to draw. I'm an artist. I like to draw. 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:02.120 I'm I'm a purist if you will, So I like 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:05.680 paper and pen sorry, paper and pencil, And I lay 0:17:05.720 --> 0:17:07.200 out this is all I want to do. And my 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:09.880 husband's like, great, I don't want to do the hot 0:17:09.880 --> 0:17:12.679 tub and the sauna and cold plunch because that sounds 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:13.200 like work. 0:17:13.480 --> 0:17:17.200 So while you do that, I'm gonna go play video games. Amazing. Okay, 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:18.880 what else are we going to do? I really want 0:17:18.920 --> 0:17:20.000 to draw. Great. 0:17:20.080 --> 0:17:23.359 While I'm drawing, he's gonna go and fill in the gap. 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:26.480 And then at two pm, Babe, are you core? I 0:17:26.480 --> 0:17:28.600 really want to spend time with your honors to communicate 0:17:28.600 --> 0:17:29.760 and nurture our relationship. 0:17:29.960 --> 0:17:31.399 So how do you feel about two o'clock? 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:33.080 We come together and we have lunch together, and then 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:35.720 we watch a movie and then we communicate and. 0:17:35.680 --> 0:17:38.199