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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Jesse is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a girl named Danica.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see

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Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe

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Speaker 2: get him another date. But first, Jesse, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from her.

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Speaker 1: I've been about a week now, Okay.

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Speaker 2: What was your last interaction with her?

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Speaker 3: We went on a date to a baseball game, and

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Speaker 3: it's then we hugged for a pretty long period of

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Speaker 3: time and did the French things on each cheek, and

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Speaker 3: she said that she was going to call me a

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Speaker 3: little bit later that night. And when I messaged her

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Speaker 3: the next day, because I just assumed, you know, she

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Speaker 3: got on with her friends, had a good time and

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Speaker 3: and tried again, and a bit confused because I really

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Speaker 3: dig spending time with her, and I'm a bit shy

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Speaker 3: and I didn't feel that way around her specifically, So

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Speaker 3: that's that's always nice.

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Speaker 2: Well, why don't you tell us about the date then?

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Speaker 2: How did you guys meet and what happened.

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Speaker 3: So originally we met on the app, I think trying

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Speaker 3: to find the right person and what app was it?

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Speaker 2: It was tender, okay, So.

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Speaker 3: We had like a good banter for a couple of weeks.

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Speaker 3: We both really liked baseball, so we thought, hey, how

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Speaker 3: about a low pressure day, we'll catch a game. We

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Speaker 3: get there, hot dogs beer.

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Speaker 1: We ran into some of our.

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Speaker 3: Coworkers, which is a little bit of a bummer, but

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Speaker 3: I didn't say anything because you know, this is our

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Speaker 3: first time hanging out. We don't really know each other

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Speaker 3: that well. We spent a decent amount of time with

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Speaker 3: them at the game down by the bar.

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Speaker 1: I was really just interested in.

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Speaker 3: Getting to know her, not really her friends, just because

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Speaker 3: you know, it's the first thing. And I don't want to,

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Speaker 3: you know, be your friend. I want to be something

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Speaker 3: a little bit more than that. I kind of ended

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Speaker 3: And I hope that she didn't take it that like

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Speaker 3: I don't like her friends or I feel entitled to

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Speaker 2: It's just I get nervous.

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Speaker 3: In my group settings like that where everybody knows each other,

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Speaker 3: and I'm a guy that's on a day with your friend.

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Speaker 3: So that's the only thing that I'm thinking that might

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Speaker 3: have gone wrong. Because we went back to our sheet.

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Speaker 3: We had a good time. At the end, she invited

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Speaker 3: I said I'd rather just spend some more time with her.

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Speaker 3: So we had an extra drink and then she said, hey,

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Speaker 3: I really should get going to my friends because it's

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Speaker 3: good for work. And I find that remarkably attractive in

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Speaker 3: a woman that like cares about her goals and what

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Speaker 3: she's working on, because that just makes a great partner

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Speaker 2: I was all for that.

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Speaker 3: I even stuck around that area for a bit longer,

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Speaker 3: hoping that's her. After she got a chance to meet

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Speaker 2: So that's when she was supposed to call you again.

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Speaker 2: After that, Yeah, she said.

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Speaker 3: She's gonna call me after she hung out with her

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Speaker 3: friends if I was still in the area. Yet I

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's a lot of pressure on the first

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Speaker 2: time meeting anybody to have friends around. Yeah, you know

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Speaker 2: you're being judge, So why do you think you're getting ghosted?

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Speaker 3: I think it might have just been the fact that

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Speaker 3: obviously not an attractive thing to say when you're trying

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Speaker 2: I mean I can see not wanting to share that

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Speaker 2: right away. All right, well, we'll see if we can

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Speaker 2: figure it out for you. We'll play a song come Back,

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Speaker 2: and then call her and see what she'll tell us

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Speaker 2: why she's ghosting you, and then get you another date

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Speaker 2: if you're still wanting Okay, all right, all right, we'll

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Speaker 2: play a song come Back, get your first day follow

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Speaker 2: up if you're just joining us, Jesse is on the

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Speaker 2: phone and he's getting ghosted by Danica. So in a

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Speaker 2: another date. But before we do that, Jesse, why don't

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Speaker 2: you refresh everybody's memory on your date with Danica.

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Speaker 3: I met Danica Tinder and we amandam meeting up at

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Speaker 3: a baseball game. We hung out with her and some

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Speaker 3: had some great quality time by herself. I was supposed

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Speaker 3: to hear from her later that day, but it's been

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Speaker 2: All right, you ready to call her?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I'm hoping you guys can help me out because she's

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Speaker 2: All right, here we go. Are you ready? I'm going

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Speaker 2: to call her right now. Hello, Hi, I speak to Danica. Please. Yes,

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Speaker 2: this is hi Danica.

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Speaker 4: How are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called The Jebel Show. Whole show is here, Danica. Hi,

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Speaker 2: my name's Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 4: Oh hi, how are you?

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Speaker 2: Not much? Just chilling? Second in? Do you listen to

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Speaker 2: the show ever?

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Speaker 1: I have? Actually?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you very much for that. I appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Wow, what can I do for you? Guys?

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Speaker 2: We actually have a question for you because I don't

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Speaker 2: know if you've heard a first date follow up before?

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Speaker 2: Have you?

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Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah? I have? Actually?

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Speaker 2: Okay, so that's the segment where if you go on

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Speaker 2: a date with someone and then you end up ghosting them,

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Speaker 2: they can email us to get you on the phone

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Speaker 2: and ask why you're ghosting.

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Speaker 1: Got it? Okay?

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Speaker 2: Right? Hey, so we got an email about you from somebody? Huh? Okay,

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Speaker 2: do you know who you're ghosting?

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Speaker 1: I mean, no one intentionally.

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Speaker 2: Really have you gone on a lot of dates, Stanica.

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Speaker 1: I mean I've gone on a few here in the

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Speaker 1: past a couple of months. But who is this regarding?

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Speaker 2: He says, it's been a week since your date and

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Speaker 1: Got it? Okay, we're talking about Jesse, Yes we are, Okay, Okay.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I didn't want to follow up with

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Speaker 1: him because Jesse actually got one of my coworker's numbers.

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Speaker 2: And while on your date.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and my co worker told me that they had

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Speaker 2: So, wait, were you there? Did you go somewhere like

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Speaker 1: I guess I like, you know, went to the bathroom. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I went to the bathroom. I got a coke, you know,

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Speaker 1: and I really loved the date actually, but he didn't

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Speaker 2: Like boy, but oh that's so disappointing.

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Speaker 2: Did he talk to your coworker, like, is he trying

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I kind of I kind of like

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Speaker 1: just let it lie like since then. So that's all

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Speaker 1: I know is that like a number was exchange. I

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Speaker 1: guess I could ask her. I just kind of wanted

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Speaker 2: You know, you could ask well him because he's actually

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Speaker 4: Oh hi, Jessy, Hey Danica, Oh my god, you heard

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Speaker 1: This is what happened.

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Speaker 3: Your coworker when I was just watching the game, came

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Speaker 3: I was raised. I was into you, And the reason

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Speaker 3: I didn't bring it up is I don't really know

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Speaker 1: Huh Okay, so wait, let me get this straight. You're

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say, you don't you didn't sound like

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry that like happened to you, and I like

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Speaker 2: How close of a friend is your coworker, Danica.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, we're not like best friends, but

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Speaker 1: That's just so weird.

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Speaker 2: It is very Yeah, I mean you want to talk

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, she put her number on a paper, put it

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Speaker 4: I jumped, you know, out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, my gosh, I just have my wallet. I was nervous.

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Speaker 2: Would you like to go on another date with Jesse?

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Speaker 2: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I somehow find you very like endearing. I believe

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Speaker 1: you for telling.

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Speaker 2: Me what happened, Danica. If you need backup, Victoria and

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Speaker 2: I are here.

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Speaker 1: Thanks y'all.

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Speaker 3: Well, Danica, I'm excited to see you, Sara, because I

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Speaker 3: really did have a great time with you, and that

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Speaker 3: this time, let's avoid both of our co workers and

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Speaker 3: get to know more about each other.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no coworkers this time, promise. Kay, Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: Jule's first day follow up