WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: The Influencer 0:00:00.680 --> 0:00:04.960 From Hollywood. See you, thank you for listening to us. 0:00:06.440 --> 0:00:11.600 With Ryan Seacrest. I had one of those nights where 0:00:11.600 --> 0:00:13.560 I thought I was sleeping well, but then I woke 0:00:13.640 --> 0:00:17.840 up this morning. And usually after I make my coffee, 0:00:18.079 --> 0:00:20.479 and you know, I grind my beans because I like 0:00:20.560 --> 0:00:23.599 how fresh they taste. I can tell the difference. But 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:26.160 after I grind my beans and make my first pot 0:00:26.200 --> 0:00:28.400 of coffee and have my first cup, usually I get 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:33.200 like this energy, this kick and the reason that's nothing today. 0:00:33.520 --> 0:00:35.560 I don't know if, like what what cycle of of 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:38.360 like vibe I'm in, but it's like not happening as 0:00:38.360 --> 0:00:40.200 it kicked in today's you verb. Maybe is your body 0:00:40.240 --> 0:00:42.879 just doesn't receive it the same way I mean for me, Yeah, 0:00:42.920 --> 0:00:45.080 because I like hormones could be different depending on what 0:00:45.120 --> 0:00:47.000 time of the month it is. All that stuff matters. 0:00:47.080 --> 0:00:49.159 But also I'm thinking more like the moon and the 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:52.040 stars and like mercury and retrograde, like maybe that's affect. 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:57.680 I don't know. I'm just I hold you responsible, Tony 0:00:57.960 --> 0:01:02.640 for this retrograding all the time, like NonStop perpetual retrograde. 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:06.800 Uh yeah, I don't know, but I get bombed. It's funny. 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:09.480 I get bummed when I don't get the coffee buzz 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:12.720 that I want. Wouldn't make it strong enough. I make 0:01:12.760 --> 0:01:16.240 it really strong, like I bowled that, and I make 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:20.360 a I take a twelve cut pot and make it 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:25.240 for four. In other words, yeah, it's really strong. I'm 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:27.759 saying I want to taste that. I have it your 0:01:27.800 --> 0:01:30.440 one bean less this morning. I don't know you'd like 0:01:30.480 --> 0:01:33.440 to taste my coffee. Yeah, I would love. I would know. 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:36.160 I would have a heart attack. Look up patcha, Mama, 0:01:36.520 --> 0:01:39.039 that's the coffee bean I use. Pacha Mama. Oh, I 0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:43.440 know I saw in your video. Oh you follow me? Yes, 0:01:43.520 --> 0:01:47.800 I double tap. I comment on all your stuff. She 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:50.480 knows you? What is your what is your code name? 0:01:51.000 --> 0:01:55.560 I never I know you. I don't see you. I 0:01:55.560 --> 0:01:57.480 don't see you come up. I know you never see 0:01:57.480 --> 0:02:00.440 our stuff. We always like tag you and don't do 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:02.040 all these things. They were like, oh did you see you? 0:02:02.080 --> 0:02:03.320 I put you in my stories and you're like, I 0:02:03.360 --> 0:02:05.600 didn't see it. You don't. I don't need you to 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:07.360 put me in my stories and put your stories. I'm 0:02:07.400 --> 0:02:10.600 right here every day in your life. You tag your friend? 0:02:10.760 --> 0:02:13.160 Can we go? Yeah? Tag your friends? Can we go back? 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:18.160 To the dream I had about you. Yes, you're scared. No, 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:23.639 good you got you were engaged in my dream dreams 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:28.760 about you, bean and and she says, that's good. I've 0:02:28.760 --> 0:02:30.840 been actually having I've been having a lot of nightmares 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:32.600 the last couple of nights. I think when you're sick 0:02:32.639 --> 0:02:34.360 you get nightmares. I don't know, but it's been like 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:36.640 really intense. So your dream that I had about you 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:39.639 was the last one I had that was good. And 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:43.760 why did I get engaged? I don't know why, but 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:47.840 you got engaged. And um, Sisty was there when we 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:52.080 were out to lunch and um, people were saying congrats. 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:53.920 It was still kind of under wraps. But somebody was 0:02:53.960 --> 0:02:56.200 like there was like somebody on a boat, a very 0:02:56.320 --> 0:02:59.040 like old woman on a boat and it was a 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:01.880 small boat. It was like like a the rowers, you know, 0:03:01.960 --> 0:03:06.200 like a robot like a canoe. Yeah, and she was 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:09.720 yelling at you and she was like, congrats on the engagement. 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:13.960 She was beautiful. No, it wasn't your mom. It was 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:16.960 someone else and you were like, oh, no, it's not her, 0:03:17.480 --> 0:03:19.600 and then uh, but you didn't want to say who 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:22.440 it was out loud because it was somebody specific and 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:23.880 I'm not going to blow you up here. I can 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:29.519 text you the initials and not real. This is a dream. 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:33.760 No I know, but still I know who you were 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:39.480 dreaming about. I'll put it in our group chat. But yeah, 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:41.360 so the woman thought that you were engaged to one 0:03:41.400 --> 0:03:43.280 of us because you were having lunch and you were 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:46.280 like she was like, she's beautiful, and you were like, no, actually, 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:49.400 thank you. But is this like you projecting that you 0:03:49.480 --> 0:03:51.480 are ready to be engaged. I think that's what it sounds, 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:55.280 that's what it is. Yeah, I think the guys confused. Yeah, 0:03:57.360 --> 0:04:00.480 this is all about you being receptive to the moment. 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:02.839 And the woman she was, you know, she was out 0:04:02.880 --> 0:04:05.960 on the boat. She couldn't tell who zoo obviously she 0:04:06.080 --> 0:04:08.800 gets at actually reason, she's like so energetic. She canoes 0:04:08.840 --> 0:04:11.200 every day at three o'clock, you know, right around the 0:04:11.240 --> 0:04:14.680 rap of our long lunch. She's ripped and jack and 0:04:15.160 --> 0:04:17.880 a lovely woman right out of the valley. But Santa Monica, 0:04:18.240 --> 0:04:21.640 just because she air, I'm glad that you have these dreams. 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:23.960 It could be the medication you're taking. I don't know, 0:04:24.520 --> 0:04:29.520 but but it says you're ready for something. All right, 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:32.640 Good morning, Alyssa, you're on with us? How are you? 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:36.920 Hi'm good? How are you doing well? Thank you? So 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:40.839 what's up with your friend? Okay, so I'm assuming you 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:43.520 have a little bit of the background already. I just 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:45.560 know that your friend is an influencer. That's all they've 0:04:45.560 --> 0:04:50.480 told me. Okay, so my friend is not an influencer, 0:04:50.760 --> 0:04:54.960 but they want to be an influencer. And it's gotten 0:04:55.000 --> 0:04:58.640 to the point that my friends social media personality, which 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:01.720 is very different than their real life personality, has made 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:04.320 myself and a lot of our friends not want to 0:05:04.320 --> 0:05:08.560 be friends with this person anymore. What is it that's 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:13.760 really driving you away? So when social media influencing started 0:05:13.800 --> 0:05:18.160 becoming a thing, he just became really obsessed with needing 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:21.400 to be in the public eye, just posting weird like 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:25.440 self quotes all the time, tagging everyone under the sun. 0:05:25.520 --> 0:05:29.160 And he just starts stopped like nurturing his actual friendships 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:32.159 and just was like attached to his phone all the time. 0:05:32.600 --> 0:05:37.360 And it's just gotten continually worse, to the point everything 0:05:37.400 --> 0:05:40.080 he does it needs to be filmed on Instagram. He'll 0:05:40.120 --> 0:05:43.440 set up his phone like in the background somewhere and 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:47.960 just do like a live feed of literally everything for attention, 0:05:48.040 --> 0:05:51.520 and it's just it's very bizarre. There's no like real 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:55.240 point to anything. It's just like he needs people to 0:05:55.279 --> 0:05:58.880 see what he's doing instead of spending time with his friends. 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:04.400 It's kind of embarrassing and I don't I feel like 0:06:04.400 --> 0:06:06.480 I would want someone to tell me, but I don't 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:10.279 know how to bring it up. It's it's gotten to 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:13.359 the point where like if you don't react to his contents, 0:06:13.400 --> 0:06:16.360 he'll forward you what you didn't see and just keep 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:19.320 asking you what you think he's I think, Okay. First 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:21.960 of all, you're right, it's totally annoying. You need to 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:24.000 keep the human connection. Second of all, he's got to 0:06:24.040 --> 0:06:25.880 slow down on that stuff. I'm not holding a ring 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:27.760 light right now. Why are you holding a ring light? 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:30.440 Because also, you know there are people around here. All 0:06:30.480 --> 0:06:32.440 they want to do is capture everything. All of a sudden, 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:36.680 you're doing something a ring light. Whats so what their job? 0:06:37.000 --> 0:06:38.920 But they always want to capture and they're always they're 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:41.480 bringing a there's a ring light floating through the room. 0:06:41.520 --> 0:06:47.000 All yeah, I wish I had that ringle Amazon Amazon Amazon, Um, 0:06:47.000 --> 0:06:48.640 this is a big one. There's a huge ring But 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:51.440 that's why it's like all of a sudden, you're just 0:06:51.520 --> 0:06:54.320 doing something. You're opening a box and then hey, let 0:06:54.320 --> 0:06:56.279 me get the ring lights. We can unbox it. Listen, 0:06:56.360 --> 0:06:58.400 I don't think that it is a you don't need 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:00.880 to kill the relationship here. I think you just talk 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:04.080 to your friend and say, we need to set some boundaries. 0:07:04.120 --> 0:07:06.159 So like when we hang out, let's just put the 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:08.520 phone down. Let's, you know, give me an hour and 0:07:08.560 --> 0:07:11.320 then go on and do whatever they want to do. 0:07:11.960 --> 0:07:13.880 So your friend's gonna lose a little interest in this. 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:15.920 It just seems like that it's a moment, but that 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:17.880 will bring up But yeah, I think Sinney's advice is right. 0:07:17.960 --> 0:07:23.000 Just be honest. Yeah, I just I don't really know 0:07:23.000 --> 0:07:26.600 how to approach it. It just seems just like you 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:32.520 did with us. Yeah, Or do you just not want 0:07:32.560 --> 0:07:34.640 to be friends with them anymore? It sounds like you're done. 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:38.880 It might be a better option. It's just his personality 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:48.320 has really changed. Sometimes friend friend, just keep a distance 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:50.920 and then it'll just work out on its own. All right. Listen, 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:53.680 good luck on your mission. I get what she's saying. 0:07:54.920 --> 0:07:57.520 You know, there are friends of mine when we eat 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:03.040 plates are down. Oh wait wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:05.520 hold on, let me move. Let me move the candle here, 0:08:06.400 --> 0:08:09.080 move the salt and pepper there, there's a little Let 0:08:09.120 --> 0:08:11.400 me put the flower there. I'm like, guys, are you serious? 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:13.640 Can we have no? There's a pot of oliver put 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:15.800 there in the background like that and then the light. No. 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:18.600 I didn't get it. It's so true. I'm like, are 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:24.720 you what are you doing? A Sears photo shooting an 0:08:24.760 --> 0:08:27.360 influencer event the other day and they brought out the 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:29.840 food right, so I went to go grab it because 0:08:29.880 --> 0:08:31.520 I was hungry. So I wanted Sorry, you went to 0:08:31.560 --> 0:08:34.160 the influencer event, You're not. It's not gonna be a 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:37.040 story where they I'm sure they influenced a lot there. 0:08:37.160 --> 0:08:39.200 Well no, but what I'm saying is I couldn't. They 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:41.640 didn't want me to touch the food until everybody was 0:08:41.679 --> 0:08:46.440 able to take photos. But influencer event, it's appropriate. You 0:08:46.480 --> 0:08:48.880 know what you're getting into. I should have expected it, 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:51.520 but I just didn't. I was like, oh, sorry, But 0:08:51.559 --> 0:08:53.280 like when I have friends over at my house and 0:08:53.280 --> 0:08:55.679 we're having launched like wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, hold on, 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:59.160 could you move that? When I get getting some of 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:00.839 the ugly stuff out of the way, like if there's 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:03.000 like a water bottle or something, you know, to put 0:09:03.080 --> 0:09:06.040 props into it. No, but I mean, you know, if 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:08.680 you're a food influencer, you got to get the shot. Well, 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:13.400 I'm gonna defriend him, all right. So of the issues 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:17.320 you have with your devices can be solved by rebooting 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:20.120 them times you figure out that solution. Yeah, just rebooted it. 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:23.880 So am I good? No? Do you need this? Yeah? 0:09:23.920 --> 0:09:25.599 You can't. You can't reboot it without the phone in 0:09:25.640 --> 0:09:27.800 your hand. I mean, see that's when he's just spinning 0:09:27.840 --> 0:09:34.960 things over there. Somehow, somehow on my homepage, I erased 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:37.840 WhatsApp and I can't get it back into my screen. 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:40.559 So I'm having to go into Google and then into 0:09:40.800 --> 0:09:44.120 Open and then into What'sapp. But you just redownload it, 0:09:44.840 --> 0:09:48.000 guys with your quick solutions. Okay, yeah, you think Ryan 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:51.480 knows how to do that app store. Well, I've been 0:09:51.520 --> 0:09:53.199 on the air. I've been on the air, so I 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:55.600 couldn't do all that. I'd not do that anyway. The 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:58.200 tubbs just told you he rebooted something, But I'm like, 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:00.400 you didn't reboot you holding it? I'm a holding my 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:05.160 phone anyway. If you're rebooting them regularly. Your phones, you 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:09.480 can avoid issues like uh, smartphones and tablets once a week, 0:10:09.920 --> 0:10:14.800 desktops and laptops only when new software is installed. Wi 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:19.040 Fi routers once a month. I don't do any never 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:24.120 do that. Smart watches only if you have an issue. Uh. So, 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:26.520 there you have it. Those are the things she's putting 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:30.360 a check, the smartphones, in tablets, desktop laptops, WiFi routers, 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:34.000 and smart watches. Today's quote. Time comes to those who 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:38.360 make it, not those who try to find it. Headlines. 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:42.760 Natalia Brian, the oldest daughter of Vanessa and the late 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:46.160 Kobe Bryant, has asked a judge for a restrain order 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:49.800 against a thirty two year old son valley Man, who 0:10:49.880 --> 0:10:53.160 is accused of harassing and stalking her since I guess 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:56.920 she was seventeen. The restraining order was recress was filed 0:10:57.000 --> 0:11:00.120 Monday in Los Angeles County Superior Court a here and 0:11:00.240 --> 0:11:04.480 is set for December four. Jay Leno was released yesterday 0:11:04.520 --> 0:11:07.280 from a Los Angeles burn center where he was treated 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:11.240 for injuries suffered from a garage fire. He was there 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:13.920 for about ten days and we'll still need to receive 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:17.280 follow up care, but for burns to his face, chest, 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:21.520 and hands. A free watch party for Mexico's opening game 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:25.280 of the World Cup will be held this morning at 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:29.000 Bank of California Stadium. The stadium doors will open at 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:33.880 seven thirty this morning, with Fox's English language and Telemundo 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:38.080 Spanish language broadcast of the Group C game against Poland 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:42.240 beginning at eight am. Drink and food specials will be available. 0:11:42.600 --> 0:11:45.920 This is the eighth consecutive World Cup for Mexico and 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:51.040 the seventeen of all time. On aired with Ryan Secrets, 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:57.560 let me grab Brian in Riverside Morning, Brian, how you 0:11:57.559 --> 0:12:02.080 doing there? On good? How are you today? Ryan? I'm 0:12:02.080 --> 0:12:04.839 doing fine, Thank you. So it says here your ex 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:09.760 started reaching out to some of your friends. Yes, what 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:11.840 do you mean? You broke up with your ax? And 0:12:11.840 --> 0:12:16.760 then what we haven't talked since then? This was about 0:12:16.800 --> 0:12:20.000 a couple of months ago, and just recently I found 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:24.439 out that she's been having lunch with a few of 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:27.400 my girlfriends. Who are you know, just actually just friends? 0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:30.920 And I've just been wondering, you know what, what is 0:12:30.960 --> 0:12:33.600 kind of the reason, because they weren't normally the type 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:36.880 to kind of talk and go out like that, so, 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:41.320 you know, it's trying to get back together, Like, I 0:12:41.320 --> 0:12:43.240 don't know how, I don't know to what extent, But 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:46.920 are these friends of yours? Friends she normally what you 0:12:47.000 --> 0:12:48.880 actually normally would not hang out with. I mean, what 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:50.600 if she has a friendship with them too? This is 0:12:50.600 --> 0:12:54.319 always the difficult thing with a break up. Yeah, yeah, 0:12:54.800 --> 0:12:58.600 of I'm having mutual friends type of thing. I mean, 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:03.920 go ahead, Well, I want to expect them to kind 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:06.439 of go out regularly like that they were more just like, well, 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:08.640 when we see each other, we're kind of just warm, 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:13.360 warm enough to each other. Uh, like mutile friends rather 0:13:13.400 --> 0:13:16.120 than the ones who would really interact with each other. 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:19.760 So yeah, I mean looked in a breakup, there is 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:22.720 a category of mutual shared friends that just part of it. 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:25.320 You kind of just need, you know, if they if 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:27.400 they are friends of yours and friends of hers during 0:13:27.559 --> 0:13:29.640 and you split up, then you can't expect them to 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:34.240 two sides and that's difficult. But if these are friends 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:36.120 or women that she's hanging out with, it she normally 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:39.400 wouldn't even talk to then trying to make an effort 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:42.120 to stay connected to your friend group, Yeah, she's putting 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:44.600 off dealers. You just put off feelers to go back 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:49.520 to Fels. I think so, sir, you want nothing to 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:51.240 do with his friends. If you want nothing to do 0:13:51.280 --> 0:13:54.080 with him, right, you're reaching out and trying to like 0:13:54.200 --> 0:13:56.640 meet up and have lunch or coffee with one of 0:13:56.760 --> 0:14:02.400 his girlfriends from his Are you with someone else now, Brian? No, 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:06.440 I am still simple at this moment. Okay, Well then 0:14:07.240 --> 0:14:09.280 let's see. I think let's see what happens. Let's see 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:11.880 if if you know, messages start coming to you, and 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:14.040 how would you feel if she continues to be in 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:16.600 your circle? Like if she starts building off of this 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:18.839 relationship with these girlfriends and now she's like coming around 0:14:18.840 --> 0:14:23.240 at parties and dinners and things like that, I would 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:27.760 it become a weird uh, because if it became kind 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:29.960 of a more frequent thing, it would kind of be 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:32.520 and it's kind of like, well, what is what is 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:36.040 behind this? I would probably take if it really got 0:14:36.040 --> 0:14:38.040 into the point where it was it was more frequent, 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:42.000 I would probably take the just asking like, hey, what 0:14:42.200 --> 0:14:44.960 is what is kind of going on? But yeah, yeah, 0:14:45.520 --> 0:14:47.120 well Brett, have you We're gonna let you go now. 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:49.040 But have you moved past her? Are you? Have you 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:54.640 moved on? Uh? It's still it's still pretty fresh. We're 0:14:54.680 --> 0:14:59.880 with each other for about two years. Uh past it. Well, 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:02.480 there's gonna be a slippery slope then if she's still 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:05.040 hanging out with your tight group. But let's let play out. 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:09.840 Good luck, Brian, Thank you for reaching out. Yeah, you 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:13.480 know there are there is a shared friends group when 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:16.160 you have a breakup, and you can't expect anybody to 0:15:16.240 --> 0:15:19.920 choose sides when they're good friends of both. You can't, no, 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:23.920 but it just kind of happens naturally. Ethan is on 0:15:23.960 --> 0:15:26.280 the line of this. Hey, Ethan, we are gonna get 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:29.560 into a second date update with you. How are you from? Hey, 0:15:29.640 --> 0:15:31.840 what's up? I'm pretty good? Thanks? How are you guys? 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:36.640 Good man? Thank you. So I'm curious you went out 0:15:36.880 --> 0:15:41.120 with this girl and her name is Laura, and you guys, 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:42.920 in your mind you hit it off and now she's 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:48.240 not responding. Yeah, we went out last week. Um been 0:15:48.320 --> 0:15:51.680 a few days. Uh, Like the day went great? And 0:15:51.720 --> 0:15:54.520 are you worried about her or are you wanting to 0:15:54.560 --> 0:15:57.920 go out with her? Like what's in your mind? Yeah, 0:15:57.960 --> 0:16:00.000 a little bit. It's like I felt like on the day, 0:16:00.360 --> 0:16:02.760 like I don't know, we had like a really good 0:16:02.800 --> 0:16:06.400 time and we had actually like planned on going back out. 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:08.760 And that's like the part that I guess is kind 0:16:08.760 --> 0:16:13.600 of confusing to me. You know, it's interesting, you think, 0:16:13.600 --> 0:16:16.520 because I think we've all been in this situation where 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:23.280 someone doesn't respond to a text, and then I follow 0:16:23.320 --> 0:16:26.720 up with another one, and then they don't respond to 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:28.920 that one, and you do one more because you doubt 0:16:28.920 --> 0:16:32.160 what you said in the middle one. Yeah, you're one 0:16:32.200 --> 0:16:37.120 away from looking nuts. It eats you up, and either 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:39.760 they never respond or finally they do and you feel 0:16:39.760 --> 0:16:43.880 like an idiot for sending too many. So it's a 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:46.880 slippery slope, but you really want us to call her 0:16:47.120 --> 0:16:49.520 and try and find you. Have you gotten to the 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:54.560 point where you've sent two or three outgoings with no response? Yeah? 0:16:54.800 --> 0:16:58.200 The last text I sent was the upside down smiley 0:16:58.240 --> 0:17:00.400 faced emoji, which I don't know if you guys know 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:02.000 what that one is. But I felt like that one 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:04.200 was kind of like, hey, I'm still here, like what's 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:07.600 going on? And yeah, I just I don't know what 0:17:07.720 --> 0:17:11.360 the difference between a little desperation and interest, Right, it's 0:17:11.400 --> 0:17:16.919 kind of like sometimes very fine raiser thing. It's like 0:17:17.160 --> 0:17:20.120 she's going to react to this. It's like you want 0:17:20.119 --> 0:17:24.040 to show detail and thoughtfulness and thinking and listening and interest. 0:17:24.480 --> 0:17:30.760 But you don't want to look desperate, right, And we've 0:17:31.000 --> 0:17:33.360 we've screwed that up. We've screwed that up. I say 0:17:33.400 --> 0:17:40.240 we because I wanted to. Well, fortunately she's agreed to 0:17:40.280 --> 0:17:42.239 come on. She does not know you're with us, So 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:44.040 hold on one second, be very quiet, I'm gonna talk 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:51.160 to her now, Okay, okay, hold on. Hi Laura. Hi, 0:17:51.880 --> 0:17:57.280 that's right in Seacrest. How are you? And well? Great? 0:17:57.400 --> 0:18:00.560 What's nice to meet you. I've got sis me and 0:18:01.119 --> 0:18:05.159 telling you with me here. Hi, good morning, Hi, good morning. 0:18:06.359 --> 0:18:08.680 We're calling about I think they told you this on hold. 0:18:08.680 --> 0:18:13.160 We're calling about a guy named Ethan. Did that sound familiar? Yeah? 0:18:13.200 --> 0:18:20.680 Ethan sounds familiar? Uh yeah, yeah. What happened? And how 0:18:20.760 --> 0:18:26.440 was that? I don't I don't know. We had happy 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:31.640 hour and apps and talked and that was it. But um, 0:18:31.680 --> 0:18:35.280 all right, I'm just curious obviously, we're trying to understand 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:40.840 a little bit. Uh what why weren't there sparks or 0:18:40.840 --> 0:18:47.400 why no connection? You think she's not for me? I'm 0:18:47.480 --> 0:18:53.160 really I'm really good. Um. I just feel like, yeah, 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:58.160 I'm done. And have you told him that no, I mean, 0:18:58.560 --> 0:19:02.040 I don't think I you'll figure it out. It's not 0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:06.199 my job. That's the put myself in the situation for 0:19:06.200 --> 0:19:08.479 a second, like that's the thing on either side, if 0:19:08.480 --> 0:19:09.840 it or you, or if it or a ton of 0:19:09.840 --> 0:19:12.840 if or me or Tobb's not hearing and not knowing 0:19:13.040 --> 0:19:18.399 back gives you this anxiety, this anxious feeling of not knowing, 0:19:18.440 --> 0:19:20.960 did I do something? Is she okay? All those things. 0:19:20.960 --> 0:19:23.520 It seems like it's just easier, maybe more considerate, I 0:19:23.520 --> 0:19:27.360 think too, to say, hey, man, grateful for the time. Um, 0:19:27.400 --> 0:19:29.840 but I think it's I don't like the words it's 0:19:29.840 --> 0:19:31.600 not gonna work out because I've heard that before and 0:19:31.640 --> 0:19:33.520 they hurt. So there's gotta be a better way to 0:19:33.560 --> 0:19:36.199 say basically that, Yeah, but you don't want a ghost. 0:19:36.480 --> 0:19:38.600 You know, you have to say I don't think you 0:19:38.640 --> 0:19:43.000 want to ghost Laura. It's not my job though to 0:19:43.119 --> 0:19:45.520 do that. And it's also not some type of job 0:19:45.560 --> 0:19:47.560 interview where I need to follow up with fees that 0:19:48.040 --> 0:19:51.879 we've been out once. You know, it's like I don't 0:19:52.320 --> 0:19:58.880 dating karma. I believe in dating karma. Me too. Nice 0:19:58.880 --> 0:20:02.679 guys get interested. He's on the phone now, so I 0:20:02.760 --> 0:20:06.399 just heard his voice. I'm gonna bring him in Ethan. Uh, 0:20:06.400 --> 0:20:09.119 he's been listening Laura to this. Laura, why don't you 0:20:09.119 --> 0:20:12.200 take this opportunity to just say it, just be transparent 0:20:12.240 --> 0:20:18.639 with him now? I mean, I just I've done the 0:20:18.680 --> 0:20:22.320 whole I'm not feeling it Texas guys, and they all 0:20:22.359 --> 0:20:25.440 generally try to talk me into it and present their 0:20:25.480 --> 0:20:28.480 case like there's some sort of lawyer and it's exhausting 0:20:29.200 --> 0:20:31.320 and I just don't want to go through that again. 0:20:31.480 --> 0:20:33.879 And it's honestly a waste of my time and energy. 0:20:33.880 --> 0:20:36.280 And I I don't know what else to tell you. 0:20:36.400 --> 0:20:40.679 She's not honey, all right. I mean I guess, like 0:20:40.760 --> 0:20:42.560 I I know you don't like owe me anything, but 0:20:42.600 --> 0:20:45.439 you gotta at least just like text me back, just 0:20:45.480 --> 0:20:49.640 like send something. I guess. But you received the message, 0:20:49.640 --> 0:20:52.640 did you not? You receive a message that, okay, she's 0:20:52.680 --> 0:20:55.160 not text me back. I'm just I should just leave 0:20:55.200 --> 0:20:58.320 it there. I should move on. It was when one 0:20:58.640 --> 0:21:02.040 happy hour and the typers of the of the date, 0:21:03.720 --> 0:21:07.119 all right, all right, I guess I'm not interested. I 0:21:07.400 --> 0:21:09.639 thought we had a good time, but I guess whatever. 0:21:10.359 --> 0:21:13.840 God all right, Uh, Laura, thank you for you green 0:21:13.880 --> 0:21:15.960 to come on in your honesty, Ethan, good luck to you, bro, 0:21:17.200 --> 0:21:24.320 thank you, thank you. No, I beat myself up at 0:21:24.359 --> 0:21:28.239 this moment. Why is she not interested? Like? What? What? Right? 0:21:28.280 --> 0:21:30.520 I mean? Of course there's a list, but why and 0:21:30.680 --> 0:21:33.280 I self torture and self low and all that. So 0:21:33.320 --> 0:21:36.320 that I that opened up, like did that help him? 0:21:36.440 --> 0:21:38.879 Or did that hard? What? Did it make it worse 0:21:40.080 --> 0:21:45.520 for me? It made everything worse? Helps him? Hopefully it 0:21:45.520 --> 0:21:48.640 helps Laura realized that you should just say I don't 0:21:48.640 --> 0:21:53.280 know what's what are the right words to say? Hey, 0:21:53.320 --> 0:21:59.000 thanks for the apps or whatever they did? But but 0:21:59.119 --> 0:22:00.760 what like I never I don't I don't think this 0:22:00.840 --> 0:22:03.600 is a match. I don't think we're right match. I'm 0:22:03.640 --> 0:22:08.000 not feeling it. That hurts too. Explain obviously, I don't 0:22:08.000 --> 0:22:12.800 think the timing. The timing that's a good one. Timing 0:22:12.880 --> 0:22:15.320 is good, Tanya. Timing is not right for me right now. 0:22:16.040 --> 0:22:17.440 I was just giving it some thought and the time 0:22:17.480 --> 0:22:19.760 he's all right. She should just say whatever was really 0:22:19.760 --> 0:22:31.520 going on? That was harsh? Sorry, goot Audrey holding on 0:22:31.600 --> 0:22:34.160 during that song, Aredrey, how are you? It's Ryan? Everybody? 0:22:34.280 --> 0:22:38.160 How's it going? Hey? Ryan? Thanks so much for taking 0:22:38.200 --> 0:22:41.000 my call. Wow, I'm so excited for you guys to 0:22:41.000 --> 0:22:43.399 give me some advice. Well, thank you for listening. How 0:22:43.440 --> 0:22:46.719 are you doing this morning? I'm okay, I'm okay. It's 0:22:46.720 --> 0:22:50.280 a beautiful day. You know. Yes, I can't complain. Well, 0:22:50.359 --> 0:22:53.240 here to ruin it with our advice. We are, Um, 0:22:53.320 --> 0:22:57.679 what can we do for you? Okay? So I've been 0:22:57.680 --> 0:22:59.920