Speaker 1: From Hollywood. See you, thank you for listening to us.
Speaker 1: With Ryan Seacrest. I had one of those nights where
Speaker 1: I thought I was sleeping well, but then I woke
Speaker 1: up this morning. And usually after I make my coffee,
Speaker 1: and you know, I grind my beans because I like
Speaker 1: how fresh they taste. I can tell the difference. But
Speaker 1: after I grind my beans and make my first pot
Speaker 1: of coffee and have my first cup, usually I get
Speaker 1: like this energy, this kick and the reason that's nothing today.
Speaker 1: I don't know if, like what what cycle of of
Speaker 1: like vibe I'm in, but it's like not happening as
Speaker 1: it kicked in today's you verb. Maybe is your body
Speaker 1: just doesn't receive it the same way I mean for me, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I like hormones could be different depending on what
Speaker 1: time of the month it is. All that stuff matters.
Speaker 1: But also I'm thinking more like the moon and the
Speaker 1: stars and like mercury and retrograde, like maybe that's affect.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just I hold you responsible, Tony
Speaker 1: for this retrograding all the time, like NonStop perpetual retrograde.
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, I don't know, but I get bombed. It's funny.
Speaker 1: I get bummed when I don't get the coffee buzz
Speaker 1: that I want. Wouldn't make it strong enough. I make
Speaker 1: it really strong, like I bowled that, and I make
Speaker 1: a I take a twelve cut pot and make it
Speaker 1: for four. In other words, yeah, it's really strong. I'm
Speaker 1: saying I want to taste that. I have it your
Speaker 1: one bean less this morning. I don't know you'd like
Speaker 1: to taste my coffee. Yeah, I would love. I would know.
Speaker 1: I would have a heart attack. Look up patcha, Mama,
Speaker 1: that's the coffee bean I use. Pacha Mama. Oh, I
Speaker 1: know I saw in your video. Oh you follow me? Yes,
Speaker 1: I double tap. I comment on all your stuff. She
Speaker 1: knows you? What is your what is your code name?
Speaker 1: I never I know you. I don't see you. I
Speaker 1: don't see you come up. I know you never see
Speaker 1: our stuff. We always like tag you and don't do
Speaker 1: all these things. They were like, oh did you see you?
Speaker 1: I put you in my stories and you're like, I
Speaker 1: didn't see it. You don't. I don't need you to
Speaker 1: put me in my stories and put your stories. I'm
Speaker 1: right here every day in your life. You tag your friend?
Speaker 1: Can we go? Yeah? Tag your friends? Can we go back?
Speaker 1: To the dream I had about you. Yes, you're scared. No,
Speaker 1: good you got you were engaged in my dream dreams
Speaker 1: about you, bean and and she says, that's good. I've
Speaker 1: been actually having I've been having a lot of nightmares
Speaker 1: the last couple of nights. I think when you're sick
Speaker 1: you get nightmares. I don't know, but it's been like
Speaker 1: really intense. So your dream that I had about you
Speaker 1: was the last one I had that was good. And
Speaker 1: why did I get engaged? I don't know why, but
Speaker 1: you got engaged. And um, Sisty was there when we
Speaker 1: were out to lunch and um, people were saying congrats.
Speaker 1: It was still kind of under wraps. But somebody was
Speaker 1: like there was like somebody on a boat, a very
Speaker 1: like old woman on a boat and it was a
Speaker 1: small boat. It was like like a the rowers, you know,
Speaker 1: like a robot like a canoe. Yeah, and she was
Speaker 1: yelling at you and she was like, congrats on the engagement.
Speaker 1: She was beautiful. No, it wasn't your mom. It was
Speaker 1: someone else and you were like, oh, no, it's not her,
Speaker 1: and then uh, but you didn't want to say who
Speaker 1: it was out loud because it was somebody specific and
Speaker 1: I'm not going to blow you up here. I can
Speaker 1: text you the initials and not real. This is a dream.
Speaker 1: No I know, but still I know who you were
Speaker 1: dreaming about. I'll put it in our group chat. But yeah,
Speaker 1: so the woman thought that you were engaged to one
Speaker 1: of us because you were having lunch and you were
Speaker 1: like she was like, she's beautiful, and you were like, no, actually,
Speaker 1: thank you. But is this like you projecting that you
Speaker 1: are ready to be engaged. I think that's what it sounds,
Speaker 1: that's what it is. Yeah, I think the guys confused. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is all about you being receptive to the moment.
Speaker 1: And the woman she was, you know, she was out
Speaker 1: on the boat. She couldn't tell who zoo obviously she
Speaker 1: gets at actually reason, she's like so energetic. She canoes
Speaker 1: every day at three o'clock, you know, right around the
Speaker 1: rap of our long lunch. She's ripped and jack and
Speaker 1: a lovely woman right out of the valley. But Santa Monica,
Speaker 1: just because she air, I'm glad that you have these dreams.
Speaker 1: It could be the medication you're taking. I don't know,
Speaker 1: but but it says you're ready for something. All right,
Speaker 1: Good morning, Alyssa, you're on with us? How are you?
Speaker 1: Hi'm good? How are you doing well? Thank you? So
Speaker 1: what's up with your friend? Okay, so I'm assuming you
Speaker 1: have a little bit of the background already. I just
Speaker 1: know that your friend is an influencer. That's all they've
Speaker 1: told me. Okay, so my friend is not an influencer,
Speaker 1: but they want to be an influencer. And it's gotten
Speaker 1: to the point that my friends social media personality, which
Speaker 1: is very different than their real life personality, has made
Speaker 1: myself and a lot of our friends not want to
Speaker 1: be friends with this person anymore. What is it that's
Speaker 1: really driving you away? So when social media influencing started
Speaker 1: becoming a thing, he just became really obsessed with needing
Speaker 1: to be in the public eye, just posting weird like
Speaker 1: self quotes all the time, tagging everyone under the sun.
Speaker 1: And he just starts stopped like nurturing his actual friendships
Speaker 1: and just was like attached to his phone all the time.
Speaker 1: And it's just gotten continually worse, to the point everything
Speaker 1: he does it needs to be filmed on Instagram. He'll
Speaker 1: set up his phone like in the background somewhere and
Speaker 1: just do like a live feed of literally everything for attention,
Speaker 1: and it's just it's very bizarre. There's no like real
Speaker 1: point to anything. It's just like he needs people to
Speaker 1: see what he's doing instead of spending time with his friends.
Speaker 1: It's kind of embarrassing and I don't I feel like
Speaker 1: I would want someone to tell me, but I don't
Speaker 1: know how to bring it up. It's it's gotten to
Speaker 1: the point where like if you don't react to his contents,
Speaker 1: he'll forward you what you didn't see and just keep
Speaker 1: asking you what you think he's I think, Okay. First
Speaker 1: of all, you're right, it's totally annoying. You need to
Speaker 1: keep the human connection. Second of all, he's got to
Speaker 1: slow down on that stuff. I'm not holding a ring
Speaker 1: light right now. Why are you holding a ring light?
Speaker 1: Because also, you know there are people around here. All
Speaker 1: they want to do is capture everything. All of a sudden,
Speaker 1: you're doing something a ring light. Whats so what their job?
Speaker 1: But they always want to capture and they're always they're
Speaker 1: bringing a there's a ring light floating through the room.
Speaker 1: All yeah, I wish I had that ringle Amazon Amazon Amazon, Um,
Speaker 1: this is a big one. There's a huge ring But
Speaker 1: that's why it's like all of a sudden, you're just
Speaker 1: doing something. You're opening a box and then hey, let
Speaker 1: me get the ring lights. We can unbox it. Listen,
Speaker 1: I don't think that it is a you don't need
Speaker 1: to kill the relationship here. I think you just talk
Speaker 1: to your friend and say, we need to set some boundaries.
Speaker 1: So like when we hang out, let's just put the
Speaker 1: phone down. Let's, you know, give me an hour and
Speaker 1: then go on and do whatever they want to do.
Speaker 1: So your friend's gonna lose a little interest in this.
Speaker 1: It just seems like that it's a moment, but that
Speaker 1: will bring up But yeah, I think Sinney's advice is right.
Speaker 1: Just be honest. Yeah, I just I don't really know
Speaker 1: how to approach it. It just seems just like you
Speaker 1: did with us. Yeah, Or do you just not want
Speaker 1: to be friends with them anymore? It sounds like you're done.
Speaker 1: It might be a better option. It's just his personality
Speaker 1: has really changed. Sometimes friend friend, just keep a distance
Speaker 1: and then it'll just work out on its own. All right. Listen,
Speaker 1: good luck on your mission. I get what she's saying.
Speaker 1: You know, there are friends of mine when we eat
Speaker 1: plates are down. Oh wait wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,
Speaker 1: hold on, let me move. Let me move the candle here,
Speaker 1: move the salt and pepper there, there's a little Let
Speaker 1: me put the flower there. I'm like, guys, are you serious?
Speaker 1: Can we have no? There's a pot of oliver put
Speaker 1: there in the background like that and then the light. No.
Speaker 1: I didn't get it. It's so true. I'm like, are
Speaker 1: you what are you doing? A Sears photo shooting an
Speaker 1: influencer event the other day and they brought out the
Speaker 1: food right, so I went to go grab it because
Speaker 1: I was hungry. So I wanted Sorry, you went to
Speaker 1: the influencer event, You're not. It's not gonna be a
Speaker 1: story where they I'm sure they influenced a lot there.
Speaker 1: Well no, but what I'm saying is I couldn't. They
Speaker 1: didn't want me to touch the food until everybody was
Speaker 1: able to take photos. But influencer event, it's appropriate. You
Speaker 1: know what you're getting into. I should have expected it,
Speaker 1: but I just didn't. I was like, oh, sorry, But
Speaker 1: like when I have friends over at my house and
Speaker 1: we're having launched like wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, hold on,
Speaker 1: could you move that? When I get getting some of
Speaker 1: the ugly stuff out of the way, like if there's
Speaker 1: like a water bottle or something, you know, to put
Speaker 1: props into it. No, but I mean, you know, if
Speaker 1: you're a food influencer, you got to get the shot. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna defriend him, all right. So of the issues
Speaker 1: you have with your devices can be solved by rebooting
Speaker 1: them times you figure out that solution. Yeah, just rebooted it.
Speaker 1: So am I good? No? Do you need this? Yeah?
Speaker 1: You can't. You can't reboot it without the phone in
Speaker 1: your hand. I mean, see that's when he's just spinning
Speaker 1: things over there. Somehow, somehow on my homepage, I erased
Speaker 1: WhatsApp and I can't get it back into my screen.
Speaker 1: So I'm having to go into Google and then into
Speaker 1: Open and then into What'sapp. But you just redownload it,
Speaker 1: guys with your quick solutions. Okay, yeah, you think Ryan
Speaker 1: knows how to do that app store. Well, I've been
Speaker 1: on the air. I've been on the air, so I
Speaker 1: couldn't do all that. I'd not do that anyway. The
Speaker 1: tubbs just told you he rebooted something, But I'm like,
Speaker 1: you didn't reboot you holding it? I'm a holding my
Speaker 1: phone anyway. If you're rebooting them regularly. Your phones, you
Speaker 1: can avoid issues like uh, smartphones and tablets once a week,
Speaker 1: desktops and laptops only when new software is installed. Wi
Speaker 1: Fi routers once a month. I don't do any never
Speaker 1: do that. Smart watches only if you have an issue. Uh. So,
Speaker 1: there you have it. Those are the things she's putting
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Speaker 1: let me grab Brian in Riverside Morning, Brian, how you
Speaker 1: doing there? On good? How are you today? Ryan? I'm
Speaker 1: doing fine, Thank you. So it says here your ex
Speaker 1: started reaching out to some of your friends. Yes, what
Speaker 1: do you mean? You broke up with your ax? And
Speaker 1: then what we haven't talked since then? This was about
Speaker 1: a couple of months ago, and just recently I found
Speaker 1: out that she's been having lunch with a few of
Speaker 1: my girlfriends. Who are you know, just actually just friends?
Speaker 1: And I've just been wondering, you know what, what is
Speaker 1: kind of the reason, because they weren't normally the type
Speaker 1: to kind of talk and go out like that, so,
Speaker 1: you know, it's trying to get back together, Like, I
Speaker 1: don't know how, I don't know to what extent, But
Speaker 1: are these friends of yours? Friends she normally what you
Speaker 1: actually normally would not hang out with. I mean, what
Speaker 1: if she has a friendship with them too? This is
Speaker 1: always the difficult thing with a break up. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: of I'm having mutual friends type of thing. I mean,
Speaker 1: go ahead, Well, I want to expect them to kind
Speaker 1: of go out regularly like that they were more just like, well,
Speaker 1: when we see each other, we're kind of just warm,
Speaker 1: warm enough to each other. Uh, like mutile friends rather
Speaker 1: than the ones who would really interact with each other.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I mean looked in a breakup, there is
Speaker 1: a category of mutual shared friends that just part of it.
Speaker 1: You kind of just need, you know, if they if
Speaker 1: they are friends of yours and friends of hers during
Speaker 1: and you split up, then you can't expect them to
Speaker 1: two sides and that's difficult. But if these are friends
Speaker 1: or women that she's hanging out with, it she normally
Speaker 1: wouldn't even talk to then trying to make an effort
Speaker 1: to stay connected to your friend group, Yeah, she's putting
Speaker 1: off dealers. You just put off feelers to go back
Speaker 1: to Fels. I think so, sir, you want nothing to
Speaker 1: do with his friends. If you want nothing to do
Speaker 1: with him, right, you're reaching out and trying to like
Speaker 1: meet up and have lunch or coffee with one of
Speaker 1: his girlfriends from his Are you with someone else now, Brian? No,
Speaker 1: I am still simple at this moment. Okay, Well then
Speaker 1: let's see. I think let's see what happens. Let's see
Speaker 1: if if you know, messages start coming to you, and
Speaker 1: how would you feel if she continues to be in
Speaker 1: your circle? Like if she starts building off of this
Speaker 1: relationship with these girlfriends and now she's like coming around
Speaker 1: at parties and dinners and things like that, I would
Speaker 1: it become a weird uh, because if it became kind
Speaker 1: of a more frequent thing, it would kind of be
Speaker 1: and it's kind of like, well, what is what is
Speaker 1: behind this? I would probably take if it really got
Speaker 1: into the point where it was it was more frequent,
Speaker 1: I would probably take the just asking like, hey, what
Speaker 1: is what is kind of going on? But yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: well Brett, have you We're gonna let you go now.
Speaker 1: But have you moved past her? Are you? Have you
Speaker 1: moved on? Uh? It's still it's still pretty fresh. We're
Speaker 1: with each other for about two years. Uh past it. Well,
Speaker 1: there's gonna be a slippery slope then if she's still
Speaker 1: hanging out with your tight group. But let's let play out.
Speaker 1: Good luck, Brian, Thank you for reaching out. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: know there are there is a shared friends group when
Speaker 1: you have a breakup, and you can't expect anybody to
Speaker 1: choose sides when they're good friends of both. You can't, no,
Speaker 1: but it just kind of happens naturally. Ethan is on
Speaker 1: the line of this. Hey, Ethan, we are gonna get
Speaker 1: into a second date update with you. How are you from? Hey,
Speaker 1: what's up? I'm pretty good? Thanks? How are you guys?
Speaker 1: Good man? Thank you. So I'm curious you went out
Speaker 1: with this girl and her name is Laura, and you guys,
Speaker 1: in your mind you hit it off and now she's
Speaker 1: not responding. Yeah, we went out last week. Um been
Speaker 1: a few days. Uh, Like the day went great? And
Speaker 1: are you worried about her or are you wanting to
Speaker 1: go out with her? Like what's in your mind? Yeah,
Speaker 1: a little bit. It's like I felt like on the day,
Speaker 1: like I don't know, we had like a really good
Speaker 1: time and we had actually like planned on going back out.
Speaker 1: And that's like the part that I guess is kind
Speaker 1: of confusing to me. You know, it's interesting, you think,
Speaker 1: because I think we've all been in this situation where
Speaker 1: someone doesn't respond to a text, and then I follow
Speaker 1: up with another one, and then they don't respond to
Speaker 1: that one, and you do one more because you doubt
Speaker 1: what you said in the middle one. Yeah, you're one
Speaker 1: away from looking nuts. It eats you up, and either
Speaker 1: they never respond or finally they do and you feel
Speaker 1: like an idiot for sending too many. So it's a
Speaker 1: slippery slope, but you really want us to call her
Speaker 1: and try and find you. Have you gotten to the
Speaker 1: point where you've sent two or three outgoings with no response? Yeah?
Speaker 1: The last text I sent was the upside down smiley
Speaker 1: faced emoji, which I don't know if you guys know
Speaker 1: what that one is. But I felt like that one
Speaker 1: was kind of like, hey, I'm still here, like what's
Speaker 1: going on? And yeah, I just I don't know what
Speaker 1: the difference between a little desperation and interest, Right, it's
Speaker 1: kind of like sometimes very fine raiser thing. It's like
Speaker 1: she's going to react to this. It's like you want
Speaker 1: to show detail and thoughtfulness and thinking and listening and interest.
Speaker 1: But you don't want to look desperate, right, And we've
Speaker 1: we've screwed that up. We've screwed that up. I say
Speaker 1: we because I wanted to. Well, fortunately she's agreed to
Speaker 1: come on. She does not know you're with us, So
Speaker 1: hold on one second, be very quiet, I'm gonna talk
Speaker 1: to her now, Okay, okay, hold on. Hi Laura. Hi,
Speaker 1: that's right in Seacrest. How are you? And well? Great?
Speaker 1: What's nice to meet you. I've got sis me and
Speaker 1: telling you with me here. Hi, good morning, Hi, good morning.
Speaker 1: We're calling about I think they told you this on hold.
Speaker 1: We're calling about a guy named Ethan. Did that sound familiar? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Ethan sounds familiar? Uh yeah, yeah. What happened? And how
Speaker 1: was that? I don't I don't know. We had happy
Speaker 1: hour and apps and talked and that was it. But um,
Speaker 1: all right, I'm just curious obviously, we're trying to understand
Speaker 1: a little bit. Uh what why weren't there sparks or
Speaker 1: why no connection? You think she's not for me? I'm
Speaker 1: really I'm really good. Um. I just feel like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm done. And have you told him that no, I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't think I you'll figure it out. It's not
Speaker 1: my job. That's the put myself in the situation for
Speaker 1: a second, like that's the thing on either side, if
Speaker 1: it or you, or if it or a ton of
Speaker 1: if or me or Tobb's not hearing and not knowing
Speaker 1: back gives you this anxiety, this anxious feeling of not knowing,
Speaker 1: did I do something? Is she okay? All those things.
Speaker 1: It seems like it's just easier, maybe more considerate, I
Speaker 1: think too, to say, hey, man, grateful for the time. Um,
Speaker 1: but I think it's I don't like the words it's
Speaker 1: not gonna work out because I've heard that before and
Speaker 1: they hurt. So there's gotta be a better way to
Speaker 1: say basically that, Yeah, but you don't want a ghost.
Speaker 1: You know, you have to say I don't think you
Speaker 1: want to ghost Laura. It's not my job though to
Speaker 1: do that. And it's also not some type of job
Speaker 1: interview where I need to follow up with fees that
Speaker 1: we've been out once. You know, it's like I don't
Speaker 1: dating karma. I believe in dating karma. Me too. Nice
Speaker 1: guys get interested. He's on the phone now, so I
Speaker 1: just heard his voice. I'm gonna bring him in Ethan. Uh,
Speaker 1: he's been listening Laura to this. Laura, why don't you
Speaker 1: take this opportunity to just say it, just be transparent
Speaker 1: with him now? I mean, I just I've done the
Speaker 1: whole I'm not feeling it Texas guys, and they all
Speaker 1: generally try to talk me into it and present their
Speaker 1: case like there's some sort of lawyer and it's exhausting
Speaker 1: and I just don't want to go through that again.
Speaker 1: And it's honestly a waste of my time and energy.
Speaker 1: And I I don't know what else to tell you.
Speaker 1: She's not honey, all right. I mean I guess, like
Speaker 1: I I know you don't like owe me anything, but
Speaker 1: you gotta at least just like text me back, just
Speaker 1: like send something. I guess. But you received the message,
Speaker 1: did you not? You receive a message that, okay, she's
Speaker 1: not text me back. I'm just I should just leave
Speaker 1: it there. I should move on. It was when one
Speaker 1: happy hour and the typers of the of the date,
Speaker 1: all right, all right, I guess I'm not interested. I
Speaker 1: thought we had a good time, but I guess whatever.
Speaker 1: God all right, Uh, Laura, thank you for you green
Speaker 1: to come on in your honesty, Ethan, good luck to you, bro,
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. No, I beat myself up at
Speaker 1: this moment. Why is she not interested? Like? What? What? Right?
Speaker 1: I mean? Of course there's a list, but why and
Speaker 1: I self torture and self low and all that. So
Speaker 1: that I that opened up, like did that help him?
Speaker 1: Or did that hard? What? Did it make it worse
Speaker 1: for me? It made everything worse? Helps him? Hopefully it
Speaker 1: helps Laura realized that you should just say I don't
Speaker 1: know what's what are the right words to say? Hey,
Speaker 1: thanks for the apps or whatever they did? But but
Speaker 1: what like I never I don't I don't think this
Speaker 1: is a match. I don't think we're right match. I'm
Speaker 1: not feeling it. That hurts too. Explain obviously, I don't
Speaker 1: think the timing. The timing that's a good one. Timing
Speaker 1: is good, Tanya. Timing is not right for me right now.
Speaker 1: I was just giving it some thought and the time
Speaker 1: he's all right. She should just say whatever was really
Speaker 1: going on? That was harsh? Sorry, goot Audrey holding on
Speaker 1: during that song, Aredrey, how are you? It's Ryan? Everybody?
Speaker 1: How's it going? Hey? Ryan? Thanks so much for taking
Speaker 1: my call. Wow, I'm so excited for you guys to
Speaker 1: give me some advice. Well, thank you for listening. How
Speaker 1: are you doing this morning? I'm okay, I'm okay. It's
Speaker 1: a beautiful day. You know. Yes, I can't complain. Well,
Speaker 1: here to ruin it with our advice. We are, Um,
Speaker 1: what can we do for you? Okay? So I've been
Speaker 1: going out with this guy. It's pretty new. He's gone
Speaker 1: out like four times. I think, Um, so it's been
Speaker 1: going well, But I feel like there's this little red flag.
Speaker 1: He's um, he's divorced, which is fine. I get it. Um,
Speaker 1: it's totally fine. I am too, um, but his ex
Speaker 1: wife cuts his hair, and and they've only been divorced
Speaker 1: for about a year year and a half, I think, um,
Speaker 1: and I just don't know if I'm comfortable with that.
Speaker 1: Some of my friends say it's it's good because guys
Speaker 1: who have good relationships with their exes are good guys,
Speaker 1: and it's good that they have like a friendship, which
Speaker 1: means that like they there wasn't anything talkic going on,
Speaker 1: or he didn't cheat because like she wouldn't be cutting
Speaker 1: his hair. Still, but I kind of feel in my
Speaker 1: gut like it's it means he's too connected to her,
Speaker 1: um he might have feelings for her. You know, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna give you very specific reactions to this because I
Speaker 1: have never had an ex wife, but I had that girlfriends,
Speaker 1: and I like the nose of being friends with anyone
Speaker 1: that I've dated after I've dated them, and I appreciate
Speaker 1: and respect the relationship that we can have after having
Speaker 1: a relationship together. And when you think about all the
Speaker 1: things that people teach you in your lives, there's so
Speaker 1: much admiration to what they can bring into your life.
Speaker 1: And when you look back they you know they they've
Speaker 1: had an impact that's made you better or think differently
Speaker 1: than That's such a great thing. So I clearly don't
Speaker 1: mind not I don't know, but the ex wife part
Speaker 1: of it. I really like it when people can remain
Speaker 1: friends with people who have been a part of their lives.
Speaker 1: Sissany has a different opinion. Major, major no. For me,
Speaker 1: that would be feeling all the emotions that you're feeling
Speaker 1: right now, which is probably a little jealousy, a little confusion,
Speaker 1: and I don't like it. Here's the thing, I think
Speaker 1: there's a really good balance between having a friendly relationship
Speaker 1: and having somebody cut your hair, like he can find
Speaker 1: somebody else to cut his hair, exactly. He can be
Speaker 1: friendly with her and have a cordial relationship, which I
Speaker 1: do think is lovely and fine. But he does not
Speaker 1: need to be having her cut his hair. That's a
Speaker 1: good point. That's a good point. So we don't. Sonny
Speaker 1: is saying she does not mind the fact that there's
Speaker 1: an amicable break up and that they have a friendship,
Speaker 1: which is okay because when you've had someone close to
Speaker 1: you for a long time, they become your friend, they
Speaker 1: become your best friend, and so I think that's fair
Speaker 1: to say, Look, you don't need to cut her out
Speaker 1: of your life, but maybe he doesn't cut your hair. Audrey,
Speaker 1: that's that's actually finally some good advice from this show.
Speaker 1: All right, I'll keep us post alright. That's that's a
Speaker 1: good happy medium. Sure, Sissony has brought up when it
Speaker 1: comes to failed dates, did you get I like the
Speaker 1: ick or was it your own intuition? So what exactly
Speaker 1: is the ick? So it's all over TikTok again, a
Speaker 1: little refresher. It's you're on the first day, and you
Speaker 1: can probably relate the precise moment that your date goes
Speaker 1: from desirable to repulsive, like it could just be the
Speaker 1: slightest thing that they did, or you saw something, or
Speaker 1: maybe it's their mannerisms, or maybe it was the way
Speaker 1: they spoke to the raider or whatever, and that was that.
Speaker 1: It's called the ick. And then at that moment you
Speaker 1: cannot shake it. You're done, like there's no coming back
Speaker 1: from it, that there's nothing that they can do to
Speaker 1: convince you. You're just I think maybe there have been
Speaker 1: situations where little like lower case X, like a dribble,
Speaker 1: like drops from the sink, you know, like the flawcet
Speaker 1: dripping x uh huh. And then at the end you're like,
Speaker 1: all of these drips from the sink don't seem like
Speaker 1: a good idea. I just didn't wasn't weren't feeling it right, Like, well,
Speaker 1: I bring this up because it's all over TikTok again
Speaker 1: and they're using Will I AM's song Bang Bang. Do
Speaker 1: you remember this song? Yes? Back always? And why they're
Speaker 1: using that song? I have no who knows why the
Speaker 1: song is getting used for these TikTok videos, But basically,
Speaker 1: right when he starts singing is when they start listening.
Speaker 1: All people, all of the ix that they don't like
Speaker 1: in men or women vice versa. It could be anything
Speaker 1: like his ear wax, or he makes a joke that
Speaker 1: no one laughs or his family calls him been ACKed
Speaker 1: by a voice? Have you all ever had that where
Speaker 1: you're itcked by the way someone speaks. Maybe if I
Speaker 1: can't understand you, then that might be an not not.
Speaker 1: It's just like there are patterns I don't know, like
Speaker 1: the cadence of how they Maybe it's just like we
Speaker 1: used to say tan asan and we lived together. We
Speaker 1: I think we try to go out with the same girl,
Speaker 1: which is like all bad when your roommates. And we
Speaker 1: were both competitive because she was interesting to both of
Speaker 1: us and we were we were competitive like a competition.
Speaker 1: I was accompetition. Yeah, okay, it was like like like
Speaker 1: a written competition. But every time he was around her,
Speaker 1: he try and charmer. When I was around I try
Speaker 1: and charmer, just to spoil the plot. Neither of us
Speaker 1: ended up dating her, but when we met her and
Speaker 1: we were one on one with her, it took us
Speaker 1: a while to realize she kind of trails off like
Speaker 1: she would speak, but it would trail. It didn't really
Speaker 1: finish and I know what you're talking about, Like I know,
Speaker 1: I yeah, And I was like, can I ask you
Speaker 1: a question? I know we're both like fine, but neither
Speaker 1: of us are going out with her. But she didn't
Speaker 1: know that like sound just trails off sentence and with volume,
Speaker 1: there was no decable level to the end of a sentence.
Speaker 1: I know what you're talking about. It's like it's gonna
Speaker 1: be a bran yeah, everything. And I'm like, you're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: so I was gonna, you know, my friend like wait,
Speaker 1: you're a trailer. That's a trailers. That's trailer's talk like
Speaker 1: with her why it was both of us realizing eureka.
Speaker 1: But it's like the sentence trails coming up, coming up today,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be yeah, and you're like, what, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: You a walk to follow her to hear the end
Speaker 1: of the sentence. This one guy that I went on
Speaker 1: a date with, um he actually I didn't want to
Speaker 1: date with him, but like we were friends and like
Speaker 1: there was a potential nous like we could maybe start dating.
Speaker 1: But he one day he wore shorts and I saw
Speaker 1: his legs and that was it for me. That was
Speaker 1: the what was what did you see? In his legs.
Speaker 1: His legs reminded me of my brother's legs. Okay that
Speaker 1: that was the egg. It could just be the craziest
Speaker 1: things that just like I had the IgG by a
Speaker 1: guy data that had an Instagram account for his dog,
Speaker 1: and now I'm that person and now like, wow, how
Speaker 1: times have changed? So I don't recognize who's in that
Speaker 1: zoom box. Sometimes people grow, people change, you change, We
Speaker 1: all change our minds. We learned we you now have
Speaker 1: the dogs? M hyeah? Ben? How are you man? How
Speaker 1: you doing Ben? I'm good? How are you doing doing well? Ben?
Speaker 1: So you're calling about a woman at work? Yeah? What happened?
Speaker 1: So there was a I'm a teacher, and there was
Speaker 1: this teacher that was hired probably a few months ago,
Speaker 1: and we've become closer friends than any other coworker I've had.
Speaker 1: And we've been texting and we talked on the phone
Speaker 1: a lot, and I'm like, I don't know if I
Speaker 1: should go for this because we worked so closely together,
Speaker 1: and so I just keeping the conversation going. And then
Speaker 1: I heard have a conversation with our boss the other
Speaker 1: day of what she's doing this weekend, and she was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm hanging out with my boyfriend and we're doing this,
Speaker 1: and like, wait, we've been talking for months and there's
Speaker 1: been no conversation of a boyfriend, and she's been super
Speaker 1: flirty with me. Now, all of a sudden, I find out,
Speaker 1: not through her, that there's a guy involved. So do
Speaker 1: I go for it? No, she has a boyfriend. What
Speaker 1: do you want to say? Yeah, go ahead and break
Speaker 1: up the relationship. Well, clearly she's confused, but not on Ben.
Speaker 1: I don't want to put things into perspective, but I'm
Speaker 1: gonna try. Do you really want to be with someone
Speaker 1: that flirts with you and has a boyfriend? Means that
Speaker 1: really you want to live with that anxiety every single
Speaker 1: Monday night? Well, I don't have to be in a
Speaker 1: relationship with her. I'm just saying, Look, Ben, obviously you're
Speaker 1: gonna do what you want to do. I'm just saying,
Speaker 1: if you really want to be around somebody and cultivate
Speaker 1: a relationship, then you probably don't want to start it
Speaker 1: off with some that's already footing with you while she's
Speaker 1: got a significant other. Just seems like the wrong character
Speaker 1: trait to me. Mm hmmm. I just think it's weird
Speaker 1: that she's never brought up the boyfriend, and then clearly
Speaker 1: she didn't want you to know she had a boyfriend,
Speaker 1: So maybe she doesn't want to copy. Maybe it's new.
Speaker 1: Maybe they just established it, became boyfriend from maybe they
Speaker 1: were in the Great Territory for a while and they
Speaker 1: just established it. Or Ben, maybe she didn't want you
Speaker 1: to know about her personal life. You do work with her,
Speaker 1: Maybe she wanted to keep that sacred. But I think
Speaker 1: what bensk. I think what Benn is asking is do
Speaker 1: I just continue to hook up with her but not
Speaker 1: really try to create those relationship type emotions. Well, the
Speaker 1: answers again, no still no, no, no, no still. I
Speaker 1: mean I'm still out of know and we've been talking
Speaker 1: for two minutes and twenty seven seconds. Ben, Um, But
Speaker 1: I do think that if you just want to hang
Speaker 1: out with somebody, then find someone hang out with that
Speaker 1: doesn't have a significant other. It makes life a lot easier,
Speaker 1: you'll sleep better. Then yeah, you're gonna get hurt in
Speaker 1: the end. I thought I found someone and then surprise, boyfriend,
Speaker 1: move on. Time to move on? Then, thanks for calling.
Speaker 1: I like I like Ben. You know, Ben is trying
Speaker 1: to figure out the right thing to do. But he
Speaker 1: calls and he asked for advice and we give it
Speaker 1: to him. Then he wants to argue with the advice.
Speaker 1: I just still hook up with it well known circles.
Speaker 1: I know that feeling though. It's like you know it's wrong,
Speaker 1: you know it's wrong, but you want to just trick
Speaker 1: your brain. Yeah, men want what they can't have. We
Speaker 1: all want what we can't have. It's not just men.
Speaker 1: M m ok chanya just generalizing entire gender. Tired genders
Speaker 1: do generalized there, I'm not totally true. Ever since she's
Speaker 1: gotten back with Socrates, she's become the be all normal
Speaker 1: of all relationships. Get your hand off your hip. Kickball
Speaker 1: change all right, we can all kickball change one or two? Seven? Hello,
Speaker 1: good morning? How are you good? Hey? Ryan, how are you?
Speaker 1: I'm doing well, Stevie, Thanks for asking. How can we
Speaker 1: help you? Um? I just had Oh so I go
Speaker 1: on this weekend trip right uh with this girl kind
Speaker 1: of seeing each other for about a week or two.
Speaker 1: And you know, my whole mindset is that I'm gonna
Speaker 1: have a nice weekend, pay for this hotel when it,
Speaker 1: spend some time together, get close to each other, and
Speaker 1: I'm going in knowing that she's dealing with some family stuff,
Speaker 1: some emotional stuff with work. So my you know, expectations are, well,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna, you know, have I'm a helper, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be there for her, and everything's gonna be really copathetic,
Speaker 1: and she's been like fall in love with me, when
Speaker 1: in reality it was like the complete opposite. So she
Speaker 1: gets overwhelmed with everything. We end up fighting all weekend. Um,
Speaker 1: she's dealing with just a bunch of stuff, and instead
Speaker 1: of us getting closer, we kind of like move apart
Speaker 1: from each other. And I didn't know if it was
Speaker 1: like my ex spectations, you know what I mean, that
Speaker 1: we're that were wrong, or if it was just like
Speaker 1: the wrong weekend, because now we're not talking anymore. So
Speaker 1: we went from like hanging out every day, seeing each other,
Speaker 1: spending times together, pulling on this nice little weekend to
Speaker 1: like absolutely nothing. Now she's like, I need to spend
Speaker 1: my time and my energy focusing on work, focusing on
Speaker 1: my family, and I'm sitting here over here, like, well,
Speaker 1: I just spent like six hundred dollars for like this hotel,
Speaker 1: and now I don't know what to do. So yeah,
Speaker 1: so I don't know. It was kind of it's just
Speaker 1: kind of crappy, little crappy situation and weekend. But you know,
Speaker 1: love is hard, and so did you. I apparently so
Speaker 1: did you. You fought the whole time? Then No, it
Speaker 1: was just like what, Yeah, there was like moments, like
Speaker 1: little spats here and there where I definitely saw little
Speaker 1: aspects of her personality that came out, and I just
Speaker 1: I attributed it to her being like overwhelmed. I'm very patient,
Speaker 1: so me, I was just trying to be there for
Speaker 1: her and do all these things, and it just became
Speaker 1: a point of contention. And then there was other aspects
Speaker 1: of it near the tail end, where it was like
Speaker 1: booking another trip on to like booking a trip with
Speaker 1: her friends, like in front of me on the phone
Speaker 1: after like this trip was so wrong, and I was like,
Speaker 1: well that's kind of messed up too. I don't know,
Speaker 1: and again I don't know my own stuff. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: here's the thing, Stevie, I have to think of it
Speaker 1: this way. Maybe all of that happens so you could
Speaker 1: see her true self, because she sounds to me like
Speaker 1: the sounds like little tiny potential buds of red flags. Right,
Speaker 1: So if you think about it. Maybe this all happened
Speaker 1: early so you could see the unvarnished side of somebody
Speaker 1: because we're often on a performance mode first week, week
Speaker 1: and a half. I mean, you're like your best behavior,
Speaker 1: but those candid moments might be very very telling about
Speaker 1: who she is once things go a different way or
Speaker 1: go longer with her, you know, Steve, I might look
Speaker 1: at it that. Yeah. Sure. For me, I just was like,
Speaker 1: you know it as part of myself, thinking that was
Speaker 1: my fault for setting certain expectations and when they were met,
Speaker 1: I put it on I put on this on me.
Speaker 1: You know, why don't you do if I want you
Speaker 1: to do this? You me, I would file that and
Speaker 1: and really file that, okay, as important information to see
Speaker 1: if it's consistent with other things that happened along the way,
Speaker 1: because let's forgive, let's forgive once, and let's file it away.
Speaker 1: But let's see if there's a theme. Let's see if
Speaker 1: there's a consistency, and then you need to, like, I
Speaker 1: need look inside of myself introspectively and figure out that's
Speaker 1: something that I need to work on. You mean, no,
Speaker 1: I don't think it's about you. I think it's about
Speaker 1: much how she responded to certain things. I would file
Speaker 1: a lot of way and see how things go. See
Speaker 1: her again and see how things go. And if you
Speaker 1: see any sort of consistent themes in how she's handling
Speaker 1: certain things that you don't feel all right, then you've
Speaker 1: then you've got to address it. I think, gras, I
Speaker 1: think she needs to make you more of a priority.
Speaker 1: And I know that she's got her own stuff going on. Whatever,
Speaker 1: K fine, but it just sounded like we weren't but
Speaker 1: it wouldn't sound like there are way in this weekend
Speaker 1: and he wasn't like top priority per se. And then
Speaker 1: she started to book a trip with her friends. So
Speaker 1: so just like I think we all want to be
Speaker 1: someone's top priority, and I get that sometimes you don't
Speaker 1: have to, you can't be, but you just got to
Speaker 1: look for that as well. Define I definitely felt like
Speaker 1: I wasn't, you know, considering everything I did. I wasn't
Speaker 1: like it, you know, a priority at all. So I
Speaker 1: was trying to understand her situation to with work and
Speaker 1: family stuff. But she's good. You sound like you're doing
Speaker 1: handling it pretty well, Steve. As you said, the beginning,
Speaker 1: love is tough, alright, So take that advice as you can. Appreciated, guys.
Speaker 1: Thank you all. On Air with Ryan Seacrest Caitlyn, good morning.
Speaker 1: How you doing good? Hi, I'm doing good. Good. So
Speaker 1: tell me your fiance. What what's going with your fiance? Yeah,
Speaker 1: So you guys have heard about like the great resignation thing, right,
Speaker 1: So like everybody's quitting their job it's like they're not
Speaker 1: being treated fairly or if they're not getting paid enough. Well,
Speaker 1: my fiance is talking about quitting his job, and like,
Speaker 1: I know, he doesn't make a lot. I make more
Speaker 1: than him, and he says it's not a big deal,
Speaker 1: but I know it seems to like bug him sometimes.
Speaker 1: Um but and I also know like his boss is
Speaker 1: hard on him. But I just think him quitting is
Speaker 1: kind of dramatic. Like these a lot of these moves
Speaker 1: are dramatic, and I think that's the power in them. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but like my problem is like with with him quitting,
Speaker 1: like he doesn't have anything else lined up to even
Speaker 1: go to. And then the problem is is it's like
Speaker 1: we're getting married soon, and I just I'm concerned because,
Speaker 1: like like I said, like I'm we're getting married, So
Speaker 1: what will he do if he does resign. I don't know.
Speaker 1: That's the thing. Like that's why I'm concerned. And he
Speaker 1: doesn't have a plan to be doesn't He doesn't have
Speaker 1: a plan to pay the bills, not really. But he's like,
Speaker 1: I'll just find something. You need to set some sort
Speaker 1: of I don't know, like a goal, you know, Okay, fine,
Speaker 1: Like I want you to be happy if you're miserable
Speaker 1: at your job. I don't want you like hating life
Speaker 1: every day. So but we also have to be responsible, right, yes,
Speaker 1: but like give him three months, you know, like you
Speaker 1: have to really find a job within two months or
Speaker 1: three months because this is our life. I mean, I
Speaker 1: can't just go be an influencer, you know. It's like, hey,
Speaker 1: here I am. And if he wants to do that
Speaker 1: and succeed and more, Right, but it doesn't just happen
Speaker 1: like that. You need a plan, don't you. Yeah, you do, well,
Speaker 1: I think there's no Look, you're you're getting married, you're
Speaker 1: gonna be together. This is a partnership. Then you need
Speaker 1: to have an honest conversation about your concern of his
Speaker 1: next step and what that responsibility looks like. Right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: like I said, we've just we've he's talked about this
Speaker 1: for the past month, but he's now bringing it up
Speaker 1: more often. I just keep trying to be like, hey,
Speaker 1: like what are you gonna do though, And he just
Speaker 1: doesn't seem to respond to that. He needs He's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'll just quit and figure it out. Mm hmm. He
Speaker 1: needs to line something up at least. Yeah. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: can talk to him, will tell him he need's a
Speaker 1: line something up before he quit. Yeah, they have like
Speaker 1: job recruiters. But if it makes you this uncomfortable, maybe
Speaker 1: you need to postpone getting married. You need to see
Speaker 1: this through. Can't relax. You don't have to go that far. Wow,
Speaker 1: all right, well, I'll be over here in the corner
Speaker 1: with my cold coffee. Postpone the wedding. Yeah, I feel
Speaker 1: like that might be more drastic. Well, I wouldn't take
Speaker 1: this lightly. I think you've got to continue to approach
Speaker 1: this and look it right in the eye. All right,
Speaker 1: good luck and congratulations. I think I don't understand how
Speaker 1: right if you if you're gonna quit, how are you
Speaker 1: gonna pay your bills? Yeah? But you just but I
Speaker 1: mean some people can can do that because but we're
Speaker 1: also planners. Like I'm such a planner. I have to
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