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Speaker 1: From Hollywood. See you, thank you for listening to us.

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Speaker 1: With Ryan Seacrest. I had one of those nights where

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Speaker 1: I thought I was sleeping well, but then I woke

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Speaker 1: up this morning. And usually after I make my coffee,

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Speaker 1: and you know, I grind my beans because I like

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Speaker 1: how fresh they taste. I can tell the difference. But

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Speaker 1: after I grind my beans and make my first pot

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Speaker 1: of coffee and have my first cup, usually I get

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Speaker 1: like this energy, this kick and the reason that's nothing today.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if, like what what cycle of of

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Speaker 1: like vibe I'm in, but it's like not happening as

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Speaker 1: it kicked in today's you verb. Maybe is your body

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Speaker 1: just doesn't receive it the same way I mean for me, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because I like hormones could be different depending on what

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Speaker 1: time of the month it is. All that stuff matters.

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Speaker 1: But also I'm thinking more like the moon and the

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Speaker 1: stars and like mercury and retrograde, like maybe that's affect.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just I hold you responsible, Tony

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Speaker 1: for this retrograding all the time, like NonStop perpetual retrograde.

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Speaker 1: Uh yeah, I don't know, but I get bombed. It's funny.

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Speaker 1: I get bummed when I don't get the coffee buzz

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Speaker 1: that I want. Wouldn't make it strong enough. I make

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Speaker 1: it really strong, like I bowled that, and I make

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Speaker 1: a I take a twelve cut pot and make it

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Speaker 1: for four. In other words, yeah, it's really strong. I'm

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Speaker 1: saying I want to taste that. I have it your

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Speaker 1: one bean less this morning. I don't know you'd like

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Speaker 1: to taste my coffee. Yeah, I would love. I would know.

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Speaker 1: I would have a heart attack. Look up patcha, Mama,

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Speaker 1: that's the coffee bean I use. Pacha Mama. Oh, I

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Speaker 1: know I saw in your video. Oh you follow me? Yes,

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Speaker 1: I double tap. I comment on all your stuff. She

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Speaker 1: knows you? What is your what is your code name?

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Speaker 1: I never I know you. I don't see you. I

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Speaker 1: don't see you come up. I know you never see

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Speaker 1: our stuff. We always like tag you and don't do

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Speaker 1: all these things. They were like, oh did you see you?

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Speaker 1: I put you in my stories and you're like, I

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Speaker 1: didn't see it. You don't. I don't need you to

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Speaker 1: put me in my stories and put your stories. I'm

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Speaker 1: right here every day in your life. You tag your friend?

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Speaker 1: Can we go? Yeah? Tag your friends? Can we go back?

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Speaker 1: To the dream I had about you. Yes, you're scared. No,

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Speaker 1: good you got you were engaged in my dream dreams

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Speaker 1: about you, bean and and she says, that's good. I've

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Speaker 1: been actually having I've been having a lot of nightmares

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Speaker 1: the last couple of nights. I think when you're sick

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Speaker 1: you get nightmares. I don't know, but it's been like

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Speaker 1: really intense. So your dream that I had about you

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Speaker 1: was the last one I had that was good. And

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Speaker 1: why did I get engaged? I don't know why, but

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Speaker 1: you got engaged. And um, Sisty was there when we

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Speaker 1: were out to lunch and um, people were saying congrats.

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Speaker 1: It was still kind of under wraps. But somebody was

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Speaker 1: like there was like somebody on a boat, a very

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Speaker 1: small boat. It was like like a the rowers, you know,

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Speaker 1: like a robot like a canoe. Yeah, and she was

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Speaker 1: yelling at you and she was like, congrats on the engagement.

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Speaker 1: She was beautiful. No, it wasn't your mom. It was

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Speaker 1: someone else and you were like, oh, no, it's not her,

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Speaker 1: and then uh, but you didn't want to say who

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to blow you up here. I can

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Speaker 1: text you the initials and not real. This is a dream.

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Speaker 1: No I know, but still I know who you were

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Speaker 1: dreaming about. I'll put it in our group chat. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: so the woman thought that you were engaged to one

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Speaker 1: like she was like, she's beautiful, and you were like, no, actually,

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Speaker 1: thank you. But is this like you projecting that you

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Speaker 1: are ready to be engaged. I think that's what it sounds,

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Speaker 1: that's what it is. Yeah, I think the guys confused. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this is all about you being receptive to the moment.

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Speaker 1: And the woman she was, you know, she was out

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Speaker 1: gets at actually reason, she's like so energetic. She canoes

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Speaker 1: rap of our long lunch. She's ripped and jack and

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Speaker 1: a lovely woman right out of the valley. But Santa Monica,

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Speaker 1: just because she air, I'm glad that you have these dreams.

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Speaker 1: It could be the medication you're taking. I don't know,

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Speaker 1: but but it says you're ready for something. All right,

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Speaker 1: Good morning, Alyssa, you're on with us? How are you?

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Speaker 1: Hi'm good? How are you doing well? Thank you? So

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Speaker 1: what's up with your friend? Okay, so I'm assuming you

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Speaker 1: have a little bit of the background already. I just

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Speaker 1: know that your friend is an influencer. That's all they've

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Speaker 1: told me. Okay, so my friend is not an influencer,

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Speaker 1: but they want to be an influencer. And it's gotten

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Speaker 1: to the point that my friends social media personality, which

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Speaker 1: is very different than their real life personality, has made

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Speaker 1: myself and a lot of our friends not want to

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Speaker 1: be friends with this person anymore. What is it that's

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Speaker 1: really driving you away? So when social media influencing started

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Speaker 1: becoming a thing, he just became really obsessed with needing

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Speaker 1: to be in the public eye, just posting weird like

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Speaker 1: self quotes all the time, tagging everyone under the sun.

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Speaker 1: And he just starts stopped like nurturing his actual friendships

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Speaker 1: and just was like attached to his phone all the time.

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Speaker 1: And it's just gotten continually worse, to the point everything

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Speaker 1: he does it needs to be filmed on Instagram. He'll

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Speaker 1: just do like a live feed of literally everything for attention,

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Speaker 1: and it's just it's very bizarre. There's no like real

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Speaker 1: point to anything. It's just like he needs people to

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Speaker 1: see what he's doing instead of spending time with his friends.

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Speaker 1: It's kind of embarrassing and I don't I feel like

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Speaker 1: I would want someone to tell me, but I don't

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Speaker 1: know how to bring it up. It's it's gotten to

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Speaker 1: the point where like if you don't react to his contents,

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Speaker 1: he'll forward you what you didn't see and just keep

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Speaker 1: asking you what you think he's I think, Okay. First

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Speaker 1: of all, you're right, it's totally annoying. You need to

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Speaker 1: keep the human connection. Second of all, he's got to

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Speaker 1: slow down on that stuff. I'm not holding a ring

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Speaker 1: light right now. Why are you holding a ring light?

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Speaker 1: Because also, you know there are people around here. All

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Speaker 1: they want to do is capture everything. All of a sudden,

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Speaker 1: you're doing something a ring light. Whats so what their job?

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Speaker 1: But they always want to capture and they're always they're

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Speaker 1: bringing a there's a ring light floating through the room.

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Speaker 1: All yeah, I wish I had that ringle Amazon Amazon Amazon, Um,

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Speaker 1: this is a big one. There's a huge ring But

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Speaker 1: that's why it's like all of a sudden, you're just

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Speaker 1: doing something. You're opening a box and then hey, let

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Speaker 1: me get the ring lights. We can unbox it. Listen,

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Speaker 1: I don't think that it is a you don't need

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Speaker 1: to kill the relationship here. I think you just talk

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Speaker 1: to your friend and say, we need to set some boundaries.

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Speaker 1: So like when we hang out, let's just put the

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Speaker 1: phone down. Let's, you know, give me an hour and

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Speaker 1: then go on and do whatever they want to do.

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Speaker 1: So your friend's gonna lose a little interest in this.

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Speaker 1: It just seems like that it's a moment, but that

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Speaker 1: will bring up But yeah, I think Sinney's advice is right.

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Speaker 1: Just be honest. Yeah, I just I don't really know

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Speaker 1: how to approach it. It just seems just like you

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Speaker 1: did with us. Yeah, Or do you just not want

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Speaker 1: to be friends with them anymore? It sounds like you're done.

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Speaker 1: It might be a better option. It's just his personality

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Speaker 1: has really changed. Sometimes friend friend, just keep a distance

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Speaker 1: and then it'll just work out on its own. All right. Listen,

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Speaker 1: good luck on your mission. I get what she's saying.

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Speaker 1: You know, there are friends of mine when we eat

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Speaker 1: plates are down. Oh wait wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,

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Speaker 1: hold on, let me move. Let me move the candle here,

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Speaker 1: move the salt and pepper there, there's a little Let

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Speaker 1: me put the flower there. I'm like, guys, are you serious?

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Speaker 1: Can we have no? There's a pot of oliver put

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Speaker 1: there in the background like that and then the light. No.

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Speaker 1: I didn't get it. It's so true. I'm like, are

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Speaker 1: you what are you doing? A Sears photo shooting an

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Speaker 1: influencer event the other day and they brought out the

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Speaker 1: food right, so I went to go grab it because

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Speaker 1: I was hungry. So I wanted Sorry, you went to

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Speaker 1: the influencer event, You're not. It's not gonna be a

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Speaker 1: story where they I'm sure they influenced a lot there.

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Speaker 1: Well no, but what I'm saying is I couldn't. They

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Speaker 1: didn't want me to touch the food until everybody was

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Speaker 1: able to take photos. But influencer event, it's appropriate. You

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Speaker 1: know what you're getting into. I should have expected it,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna defriend him, all right. So of the issues

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Speaker 1: them times you figure out that solution. Yeah, just rebooted it.

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Speaker 1: So am I good? No? Do you need this? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: You can't. You can't reboot it without the phone in

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Speaker 1: your hand. I mean, see that's when he's just spinning

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Speaker 1: things over there. Somehow, somehow on my homepage, I erased

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Speaker 1: Open and then into What'sapp. But you just redownload it,

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Speaker 1: guys with your quick solutions. Okay, yeah, you think Ryan

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Speaker 1: knows how to do that app store. Well, I've been

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Speaker 1: couldn't do all that. I'd not do that anyway. The

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Speaker 1: tubbs just told you he rebooted something, But I'm like,

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Speaker 1: you didn't reboot you holding it? I'm a holding my

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Speaker 1: phone anyway. If you're rebooting them regularly. Your phones, you

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Speaker 1: can avoid issues like uh, smartphones and tablets once a week,

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Speaker 1: is accused of harassing and stalking her since I guess

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Speaker 1: she was seventeen. The restraining order was recress was filed

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Speaker 1: for about ten days and we'll still need to receive

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Speaker 1: the seventeen of all time. On aired with Ryan Secrets,

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Speaker 1: let me grab Brian in Riverside Morning, Brian, how you

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Speaker 1: doing there? On good? How are you today? Ryan? I'm

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Speaker 1: doing fine, Thank you. So it says here your ex

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Speaker 1: started reaching out to some of your friends. Yes, what

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Speaker 1: then what we haven't talked since then? This was about

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Speaker 1: And I've just been wondering, you know what, what is

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Speaker 1: always the difficult thing with a break up. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: of I'm having mutual friends type of thing. I mean,

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I mean looked in a breakup, there is

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Speaker 1: You kind of just need, you know, if they if

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Speaker 1: to stay connected to your friend group, Yeah, she's putting

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Speaker 1: off dealers. You just put off feelers to go back

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Speaker 1: with each other for about two years. Uh past it. Well,

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Speaker 1: there's gonna be a slippery slope then if she's still

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Speaker 1: Good luck, Brian, Thank you for reaching out. Yeah, you

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Speaker 1: We're calling about I think they told you this on hold.

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Speaker 1: We're calling about a guy named Ethan. Did that sound familiar? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Ethan sounds familiar? Uh yeah, yeah. What happened? And how

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Speaker 1: he's all right. She should just say whatever was really

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Speaker 1: going on? That was harsh? Sorry, goot Audrey holding on

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Speaker 1: How's it going? Hey? Ryan? Thanks so much for taking

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Speaker 1: my call. Wow, I'm so excited for you guys to

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Speaker 1: what can we do for you? Okay? So I've been

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Speaker 1: Some of my friends say it's it's good because guys

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Speaker 1: and respect the relationship that we can have after having

422
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Speaker 1: a relationship together. And when you think about all the

423
00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:16,040
Speaker 1: things that people teach you in your lives, there's so

424
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Speaker 1: much admiration to what they can bring into your life.

425
00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:21,080
Speaker 1: And when you look back they you know they they've

426
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:23,440
Speaker 1: had an impact that's made you better or think differently

427
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:28,280
Speaker 1: than That's such a great thing. So I clearly don't

428
00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:30,200
Speaker 1: mind not I don't know, but the ex wife part

429
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:33,960
Speaker 1: of it. I really like it when people can remain

430
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 1: friends with people who have been a part of their lives.

431
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:41,120
Speaker 1: Sissany has a different opinion. Major, major no. For me,

432
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Speaker 1: that would be feeling all the emotions that you're feeling

433
00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 1: right now, which is probably a little jealousy, a little confusion,

434
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:51,640
Speaker 1: and I don't like it. Here's the thing, I think

435
00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:55,640
Speaker 1: there's a really good balance between having a friendly relationship

436
00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:58,960
Speaker 1: and having somebody cut your hair, like he can find

437
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:01,639
Speaker 1: somebody else to cut his hair, exactly. He can be

438
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:04,199
Speaker 1: friendly with her and have a cordial relationship, which I

439
00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:06,520
Speaker 1: do think is lovely and fine. But he does not

440
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:08,760
Speaker 1: need to be having her cut his hair. That's a

441
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:11,720
Speaker 1: good point. That's a good point. So we don't. Sonny

442
00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:14,200
Speaker 1: is saying she does not mind the fact that there's

443
00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:17,720
Speaker 1: an amicable break up and that they have a friendship,

444
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 1: which is okay because when you've had someone close to

445
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: you for a long time, they become your friend, they

446
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:25,520
Speaker 1: become your best friend, and so I think that's fair

447
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:26,879
Speaker 1: to say, Look, you don't need to cut her out

448
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:29,440
Speaker 1: of your life, but maybe he doesn't cut your hair. Audrey,

449
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:34,560
Speaker 1: that's that's actually finally some good advice from this show.

450
00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:39,960
Speaker 1: All right, I'll keep us post alright. That's that's a

451
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 1: good happy medium. Sure, Sissony has brought up when it

452
00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 1: comes to failed dates, did you get I like the

453
00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:51,880
Speaker 1: ick or was it your own intuition? So what exactly

454
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:55,879
Speaker 1: is the ick? So it's all over TikTok again, a

455
00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,959
Speaker 1: little refresher. It's you're on the first day, and you

456
00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 1: can probably relate the precise moment that your date goes

457
00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:07,000
Speaker 1: from desirable to repulsive, like it could just be the

458
00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 1: slightest thing that they did, or you saw something, or

459
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:11,719
Speaker 1: maybe it's their mannerisms, or maybe it was the way

460
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,399
Speaker 1: they spoke to the raider or whatever, and that was that.

461
00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:16,560
Speaker 1: It's called the ick. And then at that moment you

462
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:19,400
Speaker 1: cannot shake it. You're done, like there's no coming back

463
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:21,159
Speaker 1: from it, that there's nothing that they can do to

464
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:26,239
Speaker 1: convince you. You're just I think maybe there have been

465
00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:33,240
Speaker 1: situations where little like lower case X, like a dribble,

466
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Speaker 1: like drops from the sink, you know, like the flawcet

467
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:39,439
Speaker 1: dripping x uh huh. And then at the end you're like,

468
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:42,720
Speaker 1: all of these drips from the sink don't seem like

469
00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:48,200
Speaker 1: a good idea. I just didn't wasn't weren't feeling it right, Like, well,

470
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:50,520
Speaker 1: I bring this up because it's all over TikTok again

471
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 1: and they're using Will I AM's song Bang Bang. Do

472
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Speaker 1: you remember this song? Yes? Back always? And why they're

473
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 1: using that song? I have no who knows why the

474
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:14,879
Speaker 1: song is getting used for these TikTok videos, But basically,

475
00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:16,760
Speaker 1: right when he starts singing is when they start listening.

476
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:18,920
Speaker 1: All people, all of the ix that they don't like

477
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 1: in men or women vice versa. It could be anything

478
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,240
Speaker 1: like his ear wax, or he makes a joke that

479
00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:28,160
Speaker 1: no one laughs or his family calls him been ACKed

480
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:30,440
Speaker 1: by a voice? Have you all ever had that where

481
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:37,199
Speaker 1: you're itcked by the way someone speaks. Maybe if I

482
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:40,440
Speaker 1: can't understand you, then that might be an not not.

483
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:46,800
Speaker 1: It's just like there are patterns I don't know, like

484
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:50,240
Speaker 1: the cadence of how they Maybe it's just like we

485
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:53,120
Speaker 1: used to say tan asan and we lived together. We

486
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 1: I think we try to go out with the same girl,

487
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 1: which is like all bad when your roommates. And we

488
00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 1: were both competitive because she was interesting to both of

489
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:07,480
Speaker 1: us and we were we were competitive like a competition.

490
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:10,679
Speaker 1: I was accompetition. Yeah, okay, it was like like like

491
00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 1: a written competition. But every time he was around her,

492
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:16,840
Speaker 1: he try and charmer. When I was around I try

493
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 1: and charmer, just to spoil the plot. Neither of us

494
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:23,439
Speaker 1: ended up dating her, but when we met her and

495
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 1: we were one on one with her, it took us

496
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:27,119
Speaker 1: a while to realize she kind of trails off like

497
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,400
Speaker 1: she would speak, but it would trail. It didn't really

498
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:32,200
Speaker 1: finish and I know what you're talking about, Like I know,

499
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 1: I yeah, And I was like, can I ask you

500
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 1: a question? I know we're both like fine, but neither

501
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:39,960
Speaker 1: of us are going out with her. But she didn't

502
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 1: know that like sound just trails off sentence and with volume,

503
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:47,680
Speaker 1: there was no decable level to the end of a sentence.

504
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 1: I know what you're talking about. It's like it's gonna

505
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:55,640
Speaker 1: be a bran yeah, everything. And I'm like, you're like, yeah,

506
00:28:55,920 --> 00:29:01,320
Speaker 1: so I was gonna, you know, my friend like wait,

507
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:05,320
Speaker 1: you're a trailer. That's a trailers. That's trailer's talk like

508
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 1: with her why it was both of us realizing eureka.

509
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 1: But it's like the sentence trails coming up, coming up today,

510
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 1: it's gonna be yeah, and you're like, what, oh my gosh.

511
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 1: You a walk to follow her to hear the end

512
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:26,479
Speaker 1: of the sentence. This one guy that I went on

513
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 1: a date with, um he actually I didn't want to

514
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 1: date with him, but like we were friends and like

515
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 1: there was a potential nous like we could maybe start dating.

516
00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: But he one day he wore shorts and I saw

517
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 1: his legs and that was it for me. That was

518
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 1: the what was what did you see? In his legs.

519
00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 1: His legs reminded me of my brother's legs. Okay that

520
00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: that was the egg. It could just be the craziest

521
00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:55,240
Speaker 1: things that just like I had the IgG by a

522
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 1: guy data that had an Instagram account for his dog,

523
00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 1: and now I'm that person and now like, wow, how

524
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:04,560
Speaker 1: times have changed? So I don't recognize who's in that

525
00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:11,080
Speaker 1: zoom box. Sometimes people grow, people change, you change, We

526
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 1: all change our minds. We learned we you now have

527
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 1: the dogs? M hyeah? Ben? How are you man? How

528
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 1: you doing Ben? I'm good? How are you doing doing well? Ben?

529
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 1: So you're calling about a woman at work? Yeah? What happened?

530
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 1: So there was a I'm a teacher, and there was

531
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 1: this teacher that was hired probably a few months ago,

532
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 1: and we've become closer friends than any other coworker I've had.

533
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:41,640
Speaker 1: And we've been texting and we talked on the phone

534
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:43,320
Speaker 1: a lot, and I'm like, I don't know if I

535
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 1: should go for this because we worked so closely together,

536
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:49,640
Speaker 1: and so I just keeping the conversation going. And then

537
00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 1: I heard have a conversation with our boss the other

538
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 1: day of what she's doing this weekend, and she was like, yeah,

539
00:30:57,480 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 1: I'm hanging out with my boyfriend and we're doing this,

540
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 1: and like, wait, we've been talking for months and there's

541
00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 1: been no conversation of a boyfriend, and she's been super

542
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 1: flirty with me. Now, all of a sudden, I find out,

543
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:15,560
Speaker 1: not through her, that there's a guy involved. So do

544
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 1: I go for it? No, she has a boyfriend. What

545
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 1: do you want to say? Yeah, go ahead and break

546
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 1: up the relationship. Well, clearly she's confused, but not on Ben.

547
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 1: I don't want to put things into perspective, but I'm

548
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:36,080
Speaker 1: gonna try. Do you really want to be with someone

549
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 1: that flirts with you and has a boyfriend? Means that

550
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:41,640
Speaker 1: really you want to live with that anxiety every single

551
00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:46,840
Speaker 1: Monday night? Well, I don't have to be in a

552
00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:51,720
Speaker 1: relationship with her. I'm just saying, Look, Ben, obviously you're

553
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 1: gonna do what you want to do. I'm just saying,

554
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 1: if you really want to be around somebody and cultivate

555
00:31:56,760 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 1: a relationship, then you probably don't want to start it

556
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 1: off with some that's already footing with you while she's

557
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 1: got a significant other. Just seems like the wrong character

558
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 1: trait to me. Mm hmmm. I just think it's weird

559
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 1: that she's never brought up the boyfriend, and then clearly

560
00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:13,040
Speaker 1: she didn't want you to know she had a boyfriend,

561
00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 1: So maybe she doesn't want to copy. Maybe it's new.

562
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:18,400
Speaker 1: Maybe they just established it, became boyfriend from maybe they

563
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: were in the Great Territory for a while and they

564
00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:22,720
Speaker 1: just established it. Or Ben, maybe she didn't want you

565
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 1: to know about her personal life. You do work with her,

566
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 1: Maybe she wanted to keep that sacred. But I think

567
00:32:28,680 --> 00:32:32,560
Speaker 1: what bensk. I think what Benn is asking is do

568
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:34,440
Speaker 1: I just continue to hook up with her but not

569
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 1: really try to create those relationship type emotions. Well, the

570
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 1: answers again, no still no, no, no, no still. I

571
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 1: mean I'm still out of know and we've been talking

572
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 1: for two minutes and twenty seven seconds. Ben, Um, But

573
00:32:46,080 --> 00:32:48,120
Speaker 1: I do think that if you just want to hang

574
00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:50,440
Speaker 1: out with somebody, then find someone hang out with that

575
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 1: doesn't have a significant other. It makes life a lot easier,

576
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 1: you'll sleep better. Then yeah, you're gonna get hurt in

577
00:32:56,880 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 1: the end. I thought I found someone and then surprise, boyfriend,

578
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:04,640
Speaker 1: move on. Time to move on? Then, thanks for calling.

579
00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 1: I like I like Ben. You know, Ben is trying

580
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 1: to figure out the right thing to do. But he

581
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:12,120
Speaker 1: calls and he asked for advice and we give it

582
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 1: to him. Then he wants to argue with the advice.

583
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 1: I just still hook up with it well known circles.

584
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 1: I know that feeling though. It's like you know it's wrong,

585
00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 1: you know it's wrong, but you want to just trick

586
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 1: your brain. Yeah, men want what they can't have. We

587
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 1: all want what we can't have. It's not just men.

588
00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 1: M m ok chanya just generalizing entire gender. Tired genders

589
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:48,920
Speaker 1: do generalized there, I'm not totally true. Ever since she's

590
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 1: gotten back with Socrates, she's become the be all normal

591
00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 1: of all relationships. Get your hand off your hip. Kickball

592
00:33:56,680 --> 00:34:04,440
Speaker 1: change all right, we can all kickball change one or two? Seven? Hello,

593
00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 1: good morning? How are you good? Hey? Ryan, how are you?

594
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:09,799
Speaker 1: I'm doing well, Stevie, Thanks for asking. How can we

595
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:14,680
Speaker 1: help you? Um? I just had Oh so I go

596
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 1: on this weekend trip right uh with this girl kind

597
00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:20,719
Speaker 1: of seeing each other for about a week or two.

598
00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:24,799
Speaker 1: And you know, my whole mindset is that I'm gonna

599
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:26,880
Speaker 1: have a nice weekend, pay for this hotel when it,

600
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:28,920
Speaker 1: spend some time together, get close to each other, and

601
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:32,280
Speaker 1: I'm going in knowing that she's dealing with some family stuff,

602
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 1: some emotional stuff with work. So my you know, expectations are, well,

603
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:38,759
Speaker 1: I'm gonna, you know, have I'm a helper, I'm gonna

604
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:41,839
Speaker 1: be there for her, and everything's gonna be really copathetic,

605
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:44,120
Speaker 1: and she's been like fall in love with me, when

606
00:34:44,120 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 1: in reality it was like the complete opposite. So she

607
00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:50,640
Speaker 1: gets overwhelmed with everything. We end up fighting all weekend. Um,

608
00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 1: she's dealing with just a bunch of stuff, and instead

609
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:56,840
Speaker 1: of us getting closer, we kind of like move apart

610
00:34:56,880 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 1: from each other. And I didn't know if it was

611
00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 1: like my ex spectations, you know what I mean, that

612
00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 1: we're that were wrong, or if it was just like

613
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:07,360
Speaker 1: the wrong weekend, because now we're not talking anymore. So

614
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:09,560
Speaker 1: we went from like hanging out every day, seeing each other,

615
00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:12,759
Speaker 1: spending times together, pulling on this nice little weekend to

616
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:16,360
Speaker 1: like absolutely nothing. Now she's like, I need to spend

617
00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:19,759
Speaker 1: my time and my energy focusing on work, focusing on

618
00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 1: my family, and I'm sitting here over here, like, well,

619
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:25,360
Speaker 1: I just spent like six hundred dollars for like this hotel,

620
00:35:25,520 --> 00:35:27,800
Speaker 1: and now I don't know what to do. So yeah,

621
00:35:27,960 --> 00:35:29,880
Speaker 1: so I don't know. It was kind of it's just

622
00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:33,200
Speaker 1: kind of crappy, little crappy situation and weekend. But you know,

623
00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:36,320
Speaker 1: love is hard, and so did you. I apparently so

624
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 1: did you. You fought the whole time? Then No, it

625
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 1: was just like what, Yeah, there was like moments, like

626
00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:45,600
Speaker 1: little spats here and there where I definitely saw little

627
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:48,440
Speaker 1: aspects of her personality that came out, and I just

628
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:52,040
Speaker 1: I attributed it to her being like overwhelmed. I'm very patient,

629
00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 1: so me, I was just trying to be there for

630
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:55,840
Speaker 1: her and do all these things, and it just became

631
00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 1: a point of contention. And then there was other aspects

632
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Speaker 1: of it near the tail end, where it was like

633
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Speaker 1: booking another trip on to like booking a trip with

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Speaker 1: her friends, like in front of me on the phone

635
00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 1: after like this trip was so wrong, and I was like,

636
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Speaker 1: well that's kind of messed up too. I don't know,

637
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Speaker 1: and again I don't know my own stuff. Yeah, but

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Speaker 1: here's the thing, Stevie, I have to think of it

639
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Speaker 1: this way. Maybe all of that happens so you could

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Speaker 1: see her true self, because she sounds to me like

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00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 1: the sounds like little tiny potential buds of red flags. Right,

642
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:29,000
Speaker 1: So if you think about it. Maybe this all happened

643
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:33,760
Speaker 1: early so you could see the unvarnished side of somebody

644
00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:36,480
Speaker 1: because we're often on a performance mode first week, week

645
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Speaker 1: and a half. I mean, you're like your best behavior,

646
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:44,840
Speaker 1: but those candid moments might be very very telling about

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Speaker 1: who she is once things go a different way or

648
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Speaker 1: go longer with her, you know, Steve, I might look

649
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 1: at it that. Yeah. Sure. For me, I just was like,

650
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:55,320
Speaker 1: you know it as part of myself, thinking that was

651
00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 1: my fault for setting certain expectations and when they were met,

652
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Speaker 1: I put it on I put on this on me.

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Speaker 1: You know, why don't you do if I want you

654
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Speaker 1: to do this? You me, I would file that and

655
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:09,799
Speaker 1: and really file that, okay, as important information to see

656
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Speaker 1: if it's consistent with other things that happened along the way,

657
00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 1: because let's forgive, let's forgive once, and let's file it away.

658
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:19,359
Speaker 1: But let's see if there's a theme. Let's see if

659
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 1: there's a consistency, and then you need to, like, I

660
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:26,839
Speaker 1: need look inside of myself introspectively and figure out that's

661
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:28,759
Speaker 1: something that I need to work on. You mean, no,

662
00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:30,320
Speaker 1: I don't think it's about you. I think it's about

663
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 1: much how she responded to certain things. I would file

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Speaker 1: a lot of way and see how things go. See

665
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 1: her again and see how things go. And if you

666
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:43,480
Speaker 1: see any sort of consistent themes in how she's handling

667
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 1: certain things that you don't feel all right, then you've

668
00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:49,920
Speaker 1: then you've got to address it. I think, gras, I

669
00:37:49,960 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 1: think she needs to make you more of a priority.

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Speaker 1: And I know that she's got her own stuff going on. Whatever,

671
00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 1: K fine, but it just sounded like we weren't but

672
00:37:58,200 --> 00:37:59,760
Speaker 1: it wouldn't sound like there are way in this weekend

673
00:37:59,760 --> 00:38:02,480
Speaker 1: and he wasn't like top priority per se. And then

674
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:04,759
Speaker 1: she started to book a trip with her friends. So

675
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:06,640
Speaker 1: so just like I think we all want to be

676
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Speaker 1: someone's top priority, and I get that sometimes you don't

677
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 1: have to, you can't be, but you just got to

678
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:15,799
Speaker 1: look for that as well. Define I definitely felt like

679
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:18,319
Speaker 1: I wasn't, you know, considering everything I did. I wasn't

680
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 1: like it, you know, a priority at all. So I

681
00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:24,759
Speaker 1: was trying to understand her situation to with work and

682
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:26,839
Speaker 1: family stuff. But she's good. You sound like you're doing

683
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:29,080
Speaker 1: handling it pretty well, Steve. As you said, the beginning,

684
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:33,880
Speaker 1: love is tough, alright, So take that advice as you can. Appreciated, guys.

685
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Speaker 1: Thank you all. On Air with Ryan Seacrest Caitlyn, good morning.

686
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 1: How you doing good? Hi, I'm doing good. Good. So

687
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 1: tell me your fiance. What what's going with your fiance? Yeah,

688
00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:52,919
Speaker 1: So you guys have heard about like the great resignation thing, right,

689
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:55,400
Speaker 1: So like everybody's quitting their job it's like they're not

690
00:38:55,440 --> 00:39:00,279
Speaker 1: being treated fairly or if they're not getting paid enough. Well,

691
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 1: my fiance is talking about quitting his job, and like,

692
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:04,759
Speaker 1: I know, he doesn't make a lot. I make more

693
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:06,960
Speaker 1: than him, and he says it's not a big deal,

694
00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:09,440
Speaker 1: but I know it seems to like bug him sometimes.

695
00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 1: Um but and I also know like his boss is

696
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:15,920
Speaker 1: hard on him. But I just think him quitting is

697
00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:22,359
Speaker 1: kind of dramatic. Like these a lot of these moves

698
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:26,760
Speaker 1: are dramatic, and I think that's the power in them. Yeah,

699
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,160
Speaker 1: but like my problem is like with with him quitting,

700
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:30,919
Speaker 1: like he doesn't have anything else lined up to even

701
00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:34,080
Speaker 1: go to. And then the problem is is it's like

702
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:38,360
Speaker 1: we're getting married soon, and I just I'm concerned because,

703
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:40,480
Speaker 1: like like I said, like I'm we're getting married, So

704
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Speaker 1: what will he do if he does resign. I don't know.

705
00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: That's the thing. Like that's why I'm concerned. And he

706
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:49,360
Speaker 1: doesn't have a plan to be doesn't He doesn't have

707
00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:54,360
Speaker 1: a plan to pay the bills, not really. But he's like,

708
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:57,479
Speaker 1: I'll just find something. You need to set some sort

709
00:39:57,520 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 1: of I don't know, like a goal, you know, Okay, fine,

710
00:40:00,719 --> 00:40:02,360
Speaker 1: Like I want you to be happy if you're miserable

711
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Speaker 1: at your job. I don't want you like hating life

712
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:08,439
Speaker 1: every day. So but we also have to be responsible, right, yes,

713
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Speaker 1: but like give him three months, you know, like you

714
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:12,880
Speaker 1: have to really find a job within two months or

715
00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:16,040
Speaker 1: three months because this is our life. I mean, I

716
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 1: can't just go be an influencer, you know. It's like, hey,

717
00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 1: here I am. And if he wants to do that

718
00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:24,800
Speaker 1: and succeed and more, Right, but it doesn't just happen

719
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:28,359
Speaker 1: like that. You need a plan, don't you. Yeah, you do, well,

720
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Speaker 1: I think there's no Look, you're you're getting married, you're

721
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 1: gonna be together. This is a partnership. Then you need

722
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Speaker 1: to have an honest conversation about your concern of his

723
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 1: next step and what that responsibility looks like. Right, Yeah,

724
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Speaker 1: like I said, we've just we've he's talked about this

725
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:48,319
Speaker 1: for the past month, but he's now bringing it up

726
00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:50,279
Speaker 1: more often. I just keep trying to be like, hey,

727
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:51,799
Speaker 1: like what are you gonna do though, And he just

728
00:40:51,840 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 1: doesn't seem to respond to that. He needs He's like, oh,

729
00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 1: I'll just quit and figure it out. Mm hmm. He

730
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 1: needs to line something up at least. Yeah. Yeah, I

731
00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:07,080
Speaker 1: can talk to him, will tell him he need's a

732
00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 1: line something up before he quit. Yeah, they have like

733
00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:15,120
Speaker 1: job recruiters. But if it makes you this uncomfortable, maybe

734
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 1: you need to postpone getting married. You need to see

735
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:22,840
Speaker 1: this through. Can't relax. You don't have to go that far. Wow,

736
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Speaker 1: all right, well, I'll be over here in the corner

737
00:41:24,840 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 1: with my cold coffee. Postpone the wedding. Yeah, I feel

738
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:34,399
Speaker 1: like that might be more drastic. Well, I wouldn't take

739
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:36,720
Speaker 1: this lightly. I think you've got to continue to approach

740
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:38,799
Speaker 1: this and look it right in the eye. All right,

741
00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 1: good luck and congratulations. I think I don't understand how

742
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 1: right if you if you're gonna quit, how are you

743
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:51,360
Speaker 1: gonna pay your bills? Yeah? But you just but I

744
00:41:51,400 --> 00:41:54,640
Speaker 1: mean some people can can do that because but we're

745
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:57,520
Speaker 1: also planners. Like I'm such a planner. I have to

746
00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 1: maybe on air on Air with Ryan Seacrest. Okay, that's it.

747
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Speaker 1: One or two point seven Kiss FM. The morning show portion, well,

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Speaker 1: I guess this portion of the day of the morning

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Speaker 1: show has concluded. Um, you can check on a podcast

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00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:23,799
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