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Speaker 1: Freends show is on its stay or go a little

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Speaker 1: group therapy here, guys, poorschaw, good morning, welcome to the program.

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Speaker 2: How are you?

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Speaker 3: I'm good?

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Speaker 2: How are you doing? Okay?

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Speaker 1: What's going on with this this boyfriend of yours? Why

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Speaker 1: don't you tell us everything? And then we're gonna talk

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Speaker 1: about you behind your back?

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Speaker 2: Go ahead? Please?

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Speaker 4: Sure.

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Speaker 3: Well you didn't do anything for Valentine's Day? He didn't

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Speaker 3: even acknowledge it.

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Speaker 2: Well, he pretended like the day didn't happen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, he didn't do it. Thing he didn't say

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Speaker 3: Happy Valentine's then no car, no flower or nothing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, what's the backstory here? Like, how long you guys

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Speaker 1: been together? I mean, were you fighting? Has he has

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Speaker 1: he gone over the top in the past? Is he

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Speaker 1: a holiday guy? I mean, what you tell us everything here?

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Speaker 3: No, No, we haven't been fighting. We've been danger years

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Speaker 3: and yeah that's kind of the thing. The first the

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Speaker 3: first Valentine, he went all out, but he didn't. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they said what you said last week, six years

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Speaker 1: is when you're supposed to start when you get client.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the decline starts after six years, not three. So

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Speaker 1: he's a little early on that. So you went all

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Speaker 1: out year one? How about year two? A little bit

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Speaker 1: less but still.

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Speaker 5: No.

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Speaker 6: I mean, he didn't really do anything last year, but

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Speaker 6: I kind of said to him that it's important to me.

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Speaker 6: That's what I sent to him last year, so it

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Speaker 6: felt even more. Wow was either they didn't do anything

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Speaker 6: this year?

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Speaker 1: So what did you want? Like you wanted a card

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Speaker 1: or flowers or something?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I just something? I mean, yeah, would have you know?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, looking at social media and everybody has, you know,

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Speaker 6: like sinners and flowers.

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Speaker 3: At least you know something.

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Speaker 7: Have you got him anything from Valentine's Day? Ever, that's

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Speaker 7: not important?

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Speaker 2: But what do you mean it? No? I mean I

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Speaker 2: don't know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think that he needs to be

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Speaker 1: doing something if if we're expecting her to do anything honestly,

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Speaker 1: and maybe that's a double standard, but so be it.

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Speaker 1: I think he needs I don't think she should be

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Speaker 1: coming to the table with stuff when he's not doing anything.

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Speaker 7: I agree, And she told him it was important her.

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Speaker 1: And that's the other thing is you can argue like

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Speaker 1: that's a dumb holiday, it's a commercial holiday, it's whatever, whatever,

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Speaker 1: But she said to her boyfriend of three years, I

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Speaker 1: want something for Valentine's Day. I want you to show

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Speaker 1: me you love me. This is what I want you

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Speaker 1: to do. And he didn't do it, and he just

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Speaker 1: said forget about it. And it's not like it was

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Speaker 1: a random Tuesday and she's like, go buy me flowers

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Speaker 1: right now, it's a holiday that is widely accepted to

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Speaker 1: be a gift giving holiday for romantic partners. And he

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Speaker 1: did nothing, and you asked him to do something and

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Speaker 1: he still did nothing. Right, is this Is he like

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Speaker 1: this in other ways? Or is this kind of it?

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Speaker 1: Like are you guys happy otherwise? But for whatever reason,

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Speaker 1: he's just anti Valentine's Say, I mean, what's the story.

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean he's never said that he was anti

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Speaker 3: Valentine's Day, And yeah, I don't see how.

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Speaker 8: He forgot it, but yeah, I guess it's just it's

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Speaker 8: making me feel that the fact that I did something

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Speaker 8: and he just decided to ignore it.

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Speaker 4: It just it.

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Speaker 3: Feels like he doesn't care.

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Speaker 1: But if we're talking about say or go, I mean,

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Speaker 1: we're talking about ending your relationship potentially, then is he

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Speaker 1: is this? Is he does he have a propensity to

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Speaker 1: just ignore you? Or is it just on this particular thing,

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Speaker 1: Like does he forget birthdays and other holidays. Is he

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Speaker 1: acknowledge you in other ways?

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Speaker 4: Not totally?

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Speaker 6: I mean that might be another, like little thing, but

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Speaker 6: this is kind of the biggest one. I don't know

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Speaker 6: you think, do you think I'm overreacting?

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Speaker 1: I think if you had expressed that you wanted him

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Speaker 1: to acknowledge you in Valentine's that he should do that.

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Speaker 1: But I also think, like looking bigger picture is what

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Speaker 1: I mean, what else is going on? Does he ignore

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Speaker 1: you in all kinds of other ways or is this

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Speaker 1: just kind of it? Is he just kind of like

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Speaker 1: I don't want to hear about Valentine's Day anymore?

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Speaker 2: You know, I don't.

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe he feels like you're nagging him about it.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he feels like he wanted to maybe, And this

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Speaker 1: is why I'm asking if it's like a wider issue.

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Speaker 1: Is you know, maybe it's one of those things where,

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Speaker 1: let's say, hypothetically, you've been saying for months, Valentine's Day

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Speaker 1: is coming to Valentine's and finally he says, I don't

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Speaker 1: want to do this because you're basically telling me what

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Speaker 1: I have to do, and now it's not fun for

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Speaker 1: me anymore. Now I'm not saying that's the excuse not

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Speaker 1: to do it, but I mean it's kind of the

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Speaker 1: same thing when somebody rites somebody about a proposal. I

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Speaker 1: want to get I want to get married. Why are

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Speaker 1: you proposing? Why are you proposing when you're proposing? And

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Speaker 1: at some point then when the guy finally does propose,

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Speaker 1: aren't you all kind of left wondering did he really

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Speaker 1: want to do this? Or is he doing this because

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Speaker 1: you told me I had to do it? And so

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Speaker 1: I guess that's why I wonder if he ignores you

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Speaker 1: in other ways.

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Speaker 3: I mean a little the time. I mean that's sure.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes you forgets things here and there.

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Speaker 6: You know, like hey, do you take out the garbage

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Speaker 6: before it gets really full.

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Speaker 3: And things like that. But I don't know. I think

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Speaker 3: I just see what you're saying.

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Speaker 7: But he did he celebrate presidency yesterday? Did he do

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Speaker 7: anything special? Did he celebrate George Washington? Not important.

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Speaker 2: Holidays? Like what that's not that's not a gift giving holiday.

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Speaker 7: But I'm just saying, did he celebrate presidents that? You

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Speaker 7: know what I'm saying, maybe why do you do that?

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Speaker 1: I don't know, like throw a fireworks?

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Speaker 2: Trying to see he just doesn't care about many.

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Speaker 1: A birthday card for George Washington's birthday.

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Speaker 2: What an a hole America forgot that?

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Speaker 1: How dare you let me take some phone calls on

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Speaker 1: this portion. We'll see what people have to say. But

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Speaker 1: I'm curious. Look, I have the radio on. I wish

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Speaker 1: you lucked Portia. Someone texted, if you're thinking about breaking

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Speaker 1: up over this, then there are bigger issues and I

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Speaker 1: kind of have to think the same thing if you're

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Speaker 1: actually calling us about I'm not minimizing that you wanted

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Speaker 1: to be acknowledged on Valentine's Day and he didn't. But

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Speaker 1: if that's the reason after three years that you're breaking up,

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Speaker 1: I guess my question would be what else is going on?

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Speaker 7: But anyway, three years, man, you can't get me flowers.

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Speaker 9: And even if I am, you know, walking around parading

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Speaker 9: like it's Valentine's Day this weekend, like hope to get

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Speaker 9: some flowers, get your girl some flowers, or two dollars

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Speaker 9: at the gas station for a single rose.

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Speaker 7: I looked, But even Avalanche of the day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I know I'm not saying that he

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Speaker 2: did this right, but does it matter though?

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Speaker 7: If you come to someone and say this is important

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Speaker 10: Does it matter the level of importance or you know

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Speaker 10: what I mean, who are we to say.

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Speaker 2: Well, thank you, Portia, good luck. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean again, if you're in a relationship and someone says, hey,

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Speaker 1: this is important to me eight five, five, five, nine,

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Speaker 1: one one o three five. By the way, you can

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Speaker 1: call it text the same number eight, then I think

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Speaker 1: you should probably do it. But again, if for the

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Speaker 1: last thirty days all I heard was Valentine's Valentine's Valentin's Valentine,

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Speaker 1: I'll be honest, I'm less likely to go overboard about

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Speaker 1: it because I'm annoyed because can I Okay, you said it,

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Speaker 1: and I'm listening to you. Now let me now, let

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Speaker 1: me take it from here, you know what I mean, Like,

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Speaker 1: let me let me do something for you now. But

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Speaker 1: if every day it's Valentin's Day's coming to melidays, well,

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Speaker 1: we don't know that.

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Speaker 7: She said that she talked to him about it last

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Speaker 7: year when he didn't do anything.

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Speaker 2: But I have no idea what she'd been doing in

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Speaker 2: the meantime.

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Speaker 1: I mean, maybe she's said maybe she rides his ass

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Speaker 1: about it, and maybe maybe it's maybe he's standing up

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Speaker 1: for himself and going Look, either let me do this

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Speaker 1: on my own, or or look, I don't know these people,

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Speaker 1: it's just a hypothetical. Hey Katie morning, Hi. So what

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Speaker 1: do you think stay or go on Valentine's Day? Mishap.

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Speaker 5: I honestly think that if you're going to use this

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Speaker 5: as an excuse to break up, there are probably other

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Speaker 5: things going on in your relationship that now you're just

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Speaker 5: kind of looking for the straw that broke the camel's back,

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Speaker 5: so to speak, and this is your reason to break up.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it does sound like there's there's got to be

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Speaker 1: more going on. I mean again, yeah, is it a theme?

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Speaker 1: And I try to get it out of her and

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Speaker 1: she wouldn't really say it. But is it a theme

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Speaker 1: in the relationship for her to express her needs and

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Speaker 1: for him to ignore them? Or is it simply he

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Speaker 1: just didn't want to hear about Valentine's Day anymore, which again,

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Speaker 1: not a reason not to do something.

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Speaker 2: But also sometimes it's.

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Speaker 1: Like, let me let me try it, Like let's see

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Speaker 1: if I do it as opposed to whatever whatever that

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Speaker 1: thing is, Like, why don't you let me figure that

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Speaker 1: out on my own, as opposed to you telling me

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Speaker 2: Because that takes the fun out of.

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Speaker 1: It, right, well sort of yeah.

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Speaker 5: But then there's also from a girl's perspective this thing,

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Speaker 5: where like if you've been talking for years like, oh,

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Speaker 5: so and so my dad maybe got me this special

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Speaker 5: candy on Valentine's Day for my whole life, and you've

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Speaker 5: been saying this and it's so special to you, I

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Speaker 5: feel like that's kind of like, come on, it's so obvious,

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Speaker 5: get her the damn candy, right. But if if it's

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Speaker 5: just like, oh, Valentine's Day, you know, you're supposed to

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Speaker 5: get me these extensive flowers that cost one hundred dollars,

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Speaker 5: then he's going to be like, all right, I'm over

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Speaker 5: the one hundred dollars flowers that are going to die

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Speaker 5: in two days.

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Speaker 3: Can you leave me.

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Speaker 6: Alone about it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, fair enough, Thank you, Katie. Have a good day.

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Speaker 1: Mike is very work Mike. Are you there?

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Speaker 2: Mike?

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Speaker 1: Hey, Hey, good morning mate. You're very concerned about rufio.

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Speaker 1: Go ahead, yeah, man, I.

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Speaker 2: Mean, how do you celebrate?

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Speaker 1: President, I was just I was just saying like that

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Speaker 1: was a dumb example.

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Speaker 2: What do you mean it was? It was a holiday,

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Speaker 2: this happened. She wasn't sure what's what he celebrated.

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Speaker 1: There is no there is no handy flowers card component

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Speaker 1: to presidents. Everybody knows it. You either don't. Hopefully it

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Speaker 1: didn't have to work and you slept in. That's how

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, there is a president. Thank

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Speaker 7: Another card maybe for George himself. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: You guys haven't heard about the praline she's supposed to

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm pretty sure there's places that do parades.

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Speaker 2: Supposed to roll on a constitution and read it to them.

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Speaker 9: Have Yeah, your man celebrating President's today?

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Speaker 7: He doesn't remember Valentine's Day, but he celebrates President's you.

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Speaker 2: Know That's what I was trying to say. Okay, but

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Speaker 1: I didn't buy anything for anyone for Valentine's Day, and

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Speaker 1: how you doing? Jesus see what I have to put

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Speaker 1: Portia says that she Valentine's Day is important to her.

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Speaker 11: I mean I was telling the guy to answer the phone.

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Speaker 11: I've been with my girlfriend for three Valentine's Days now,

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Speaker 2: Four foot Teddy Bear, Ye, the whole bar.

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Speaker 7: Hello, yeah, three more years if he would Yes, I'm just.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not going to do this and that with

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Speaker 7: I agree.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy. Now I agree with you, Jackie.

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Speaker 4: Hey, what's up guys.

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Speaker 2: Jackie there, good morning, Good morning.

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Speaker 4: I would say, stay slowly on the fact that, Okay,

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Speaker 4: got a little bit more holiday like, it does not

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Speaker 4: hurt to ask. So what this girl did by asking

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Speaker 4: last year, bring me roses to my job. That's what

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Speaker 4: I want. I want him to bring me roses to

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Speaker 4: a job. He didn't last year, asked him this year.

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Speaker 4: He went out at his comfortability level and did it

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean the fact that he's just flat out

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Speaker 2: But no, absolutely, we've probably all been in that situation

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Speaker 4: Do it? Do it? Do it?

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Speaker 1: Do it? And you're like, you know what, maybe I

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Speaker 1: would if you chuck the hell up about it, you

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Speaker 1: know what I mean? Thank you, Jackie, you have a

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Speaker 1: good day. A good day, guys, or like, the more

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Speaker 1: to be my idea. So now I don't want to

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Speaker 2: I don't want it then, right, Well, then that's another

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Speaker 1: She wants it, you know, she wants whatever she wants,

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Speaker 1: but do you want it badly enough to have to

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Speaker 2: Is it that fulfilling? You know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Like, maybe just stop talking about it and then if

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Speaker 1: Hey Sarah, Yes, hi, Sarah, stare go what do.

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Speaker 10: You think I think she should stay? But I definitely

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Speaker 2: Okay, so how many? Okay?

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Speaker 1: So if you say to it, it's tricky because we

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Speaker 2: We never do. We only hear one side of the story.

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Speaker 10: But I don't think that you need to. It's the

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Speaker 4: Like it's.

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Speaker 10: It's February fourteenth, I mean, does he not he goes

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Speaker 1: I like, It's like, no, I agree, you got to

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Speaker 10: Yeah, last, yeah, like to get her one thing or

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Speaker 10: just tell her that day I love like I love

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Speaker 3: That day when she told you.

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Speaker 3: She would be upset.

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Speaker 10: It didn't matter that she even if she nagged him

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, Sarah, thank you. Yeah, No, thanks for

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Speaker 1: can't get out of here. Okay, why are you texting

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Speaker 7: If she who loves Valentine's As so much, why doesn't

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Speaker 9: You don't say, Oh, then she'll go buy him something

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Speaker 7: But that's that's more proof to the shows that he

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Speaker 1: See.

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Speaker 9: The problem is she's asking the wrong man. That's the problem.

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Speaker 9: And I have to keep asking you for something and

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Speaker 9: the wrong man. But I gotta go find a like Friday.

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Speaker 7: You shouldn't be you should have to ask for I

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Speaker 4: That's not what she did.

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Speaker 7: She just said it's important to me, could you acknowledge it?

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Speaker 7: And the next year he ignored that.

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Speaker 2: And by the way, someone texted, why are we blaming

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Speaker 1: Now? I'm not blaming the woman in any way. I'm

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Speaker 7: She asking the wrong man.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, there's a lot of men out here.

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Speaker 2: Brom asking entertainer reporting his native