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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her.

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Speaker 2: Space, the clean space equals a clear mind that to me,

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Speaker 2: what I know from personal experience is that when my

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Speaker 1: Today's episode is sure to provides you with motivation, inspiration,

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Speaker 2: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting

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Speaker 2: women like you. We're your hosts doctor Dominique Broussard, a

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Speaker 2: college professor and psychologist.

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Speaker 3: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 3: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood, please

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Speaker 3: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from

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Speaker 3: fibroids to fake friends, and create a safe space where

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Speaker 3: black women can just be.

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Speaker 2: All Right, lady, our quote of the day your homes

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Speaker 2: should tell a story of who you are and be

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Speaker 2: a collection of the things you love. All right, I'm

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Speaker 2: going to mention that one more time. Your homes should

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Speaker 2: tell a story of who you are and be a

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Speaker 2: collection of the things you love. That quote comes to

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Speaker 2: us from Michelle and Steph, the founders of Black and Home.

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Speaker 3: All Right, you're ready, all right, girl, I'm ready. I

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, tell us what you think about it.

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Speaker 3: So I will say, don when I hear this quote,

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Speaker 3: it kind of gives me like those y'all. Don't laugh

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Speaker 3: can be a luxury. In general, like many people don't

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Speaker 3: that they love. Right, So I'm excited for us to

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Speaker 2: So there are a couple of things that it came

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Speaker 2: I personally strive to make sure that my home feels

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Speaker 2: But then it also tapped into this this fear or

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Speaker 3: But how did growing up impact your ideal about living

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Speaker 2: you know that old adage home is where the heart is,

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Speaker 3: Okay, that was good and definitely very similar to what

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Speaker 2: Stuff and everything, all of God, it got cleaned up.

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Speaker 3: Yes, So I have no shame in putting my hands

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Speaker 3: in a toilet. That was just something we did growing up.

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Speaker 3: Whether I have on gloves or not. I know that

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Speaker 2: Y'all anymore, just make it happen.

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Speaker 3: Let me just say, there's nothing in the toilet when

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Speaker 2: I'm choosing gloves. We not know we choosing gloves every time.

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Speaker 3: All right, lady, we'll hop right back into the conversation.

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Speaker 3: Should we dive into the next question time? Or should

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Speaker 2: more energized in and more likely to tackle the things

438
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 2: on my to do list in an efficient manner.

439
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 3: Mm hmm. Amen to that. Amen to that. I would

440
00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 3: say that when oftentimes, if I'm stressed or overwhelmed there's

441
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:17,920
Speaker 3: a lot going on in life, the first thing I

442
00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:19,600
Speaker 3: would do if I feel like I don't have control

443
00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:21,879
Speaker 3: over anything else and I'm gonna clean my space, I'm

444
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 3: gonna clean that thing real good. I'm gonna lie some

445
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:26,719
Speaker 3: incense and some candles, I'm gonna get the whole vibe vibing,

446
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 3: and then I feel like it brings me a level

447
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:31,639
Speaker 3: of peace. And then after that I typically will do

448
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:33,600
Speaker 3: like a brain dump. So okay, let me clean out

449
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:34,119
Speaker 3: this mind.

450
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:34,440
Speaker 2: Now.

451
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 3: After my space is clean, let me clean out the mind,

452
00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:38,520
Speaker 3: and then I'll probably take a bath and you know,

453
00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:41,280
Speaker 3: smoke a little something, get some wine, something like that.

454
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 3: So that is I totally agree with the increased productivity

455
00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:46,480
Speaker 3: for that. And then lady, we're gonna move on to

456
00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:49,439
Speaker 3: number three, which is enhanced relationships, which we kind of

457
00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:52,360
Speaker 3: just talked about before. And basically, when you think about

458
00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:56,520
Speaker 3: a welcoming home, right, it encourages gatherings and connections with

459
00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:59,760
Speaker 3: loved ones and it strengthens relationships new real quick. Before

460
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:01,080
Speaker 3: we get to this, let me tell you. Let me

461
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 3: let's share the inverse. I had a friend we ain't

462
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:07,159
Speaker 3: gonna say no names years ago, and me and my

463
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:09,040
Speaker 3: family went to this friend's house and when I tell you,

464
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:12,760
Speaker 3: we were scared to sit down anywhere. Okay, it was

465
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:15,120
Speaker 3: just so dirty. It was trifling, y'all. It was dirty,

466
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:16,760
Speaker 3: and I'm like, y'all knew it was coming over your

467
00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:19,439
Speaker 3: bathroom dirty, the house dirty. It told me to go

468
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:21,040
Speaker 3: in the frish I could get something out. The first

469
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:22,479
Speaker 3: I didn't want to eat nothing out the fresh They

470
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,160
Speaker 3: had stuff in there that wasn't wrapped. Everything was just open.

471
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 3: It was just it was gross and I did not

472
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,840
Speaker 3: want to be there. So I'm just saying it can

473
00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:33,000
Speaker 3: help with enhancing relationships, just like Dom and I were sharing,

474
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:35,680
Speaker 3: when you have a space that people loved to be

475
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 3: in or it's comfortable for you first, That's what I realized.

476
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 3: My space is often comfortable for me and I filip

477
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:44,199
Speaker 3: piece and when I do have friends over, they often like,

478
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:46,199
Speaker 3: I remember, Don, you sat down the couch and were like,

479
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:48,639
Speaker 3: I see the vibes. I see what you're doing in here,

480
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 3: and I'll say, you.

481
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 2: Tell me, girl, you see me.

482
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 3: You still be over here and you get the vibes.

483
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:54,720
Speaker 3: That feels good to when other people can catch the

484
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 3: vibe when they come into your space, which I did

485
00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:59,440
Speaker 3: when I came to yours as well. So that's number three.

486
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 2: Yes, I you know, I appreciate when people have come

487
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 2: into my home and they say, I feel comfortable, I

488
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 2: feel a sense of peace, and this feels like you.

489
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:16,840
Speaker 2: M h like I feel it. I feel you, like

490
00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:20,640
Speaker 2: through all up and through this place, this is you, right, Yeah,

491
00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:24,119
Speaker 2: And that makes me feel good. And I also want

492
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:28,920
Speaker 2: to know that for some people, because of the messaging,

493
00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:32,000
Speaker 2: and I like reflect back to the messaging that I

494
00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 2: receive growing up about what makes a home, that for

495
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 2: some people there may be some shame around their home

496
00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 2: not living up to certain standards, right, And so for me,

497
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:54,200
Speaker 2: what I think about is when I visit other people's homes,

498
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 2: it's not there. There is a certain we all know,

499
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 2: I'm about how I am about germs and whatever, yeah,

500
00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 2: but there is a certain level of it's about how

501
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 2: I feel in the home, right, So I'm not necessarily

502
00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:17,280
Speaker 2: expecting people to be I'm not expecting people to be

503
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:20,480
Speaker 2: to my level of friendliness when you know, for sure, yeah,

504
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 2: I'm expecting to feel comfortable and so and for me,

505
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:35,080
Speaker 2: if I'm comfortable in your home, then that is a

506
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 2: thing that enhances the relationship, right, Like how you make

507
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 2: the people feel when they come into your home. Yeah,

508
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:46,400
Speaker 2: Because I've gone to friends homes and they've been like,

509
00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:49,000
Speaker 2: all right, girl, hold on, excuse the mess excuse me.

510
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 2: You know it's messy in here today. Yes, And depending

511
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 2: on the friend, I might get in and help them

512
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 2: clean up, right, But really, if I keep coming back

513
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 2: to your house, then that is to me, that means

514
00:30:09,160 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 2: that I feel warm, I feel safe, I feel comfortable

515
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:18,080
Speaker 2: and welcomed in your home, even if it's not up

516
00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 2: to your standard of cleanliness when.

517
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 3: I arrived, because I feel that.

518
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:29,120
Speaker 2: And so then that takes us to the fourth reason

519
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 2: of the importance of having a comfortable home, and that's

520
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 2: about your own personal reflection, right, your like the quote

521
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:45,040
Speaker 2: of the day said, like, your living space is a

522
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 2: reflection of you. And when you take the time and

523
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 2: energy and effort to make your home what you want

524
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 2: it to be, then it allows you that opportunity to

525
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 2: really kind of express who you are. And lady, as

526
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 2: you're listening, whether this is your college dorm room or

527
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 2: your three thousand square foot home, right, no matter what

528
00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 2: stage you're in in life, no matter what your finances

529
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 2: look like, there are ways in which you can truly

530
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:35,640
Speaker 2: make your home a personal reflection of you.

531
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Speaker 3: Yes, Dom, I'm so happy you said that because and

532
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:40,800
Speaker 3: down you know this as well. I've had several sins

533
00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 3: where I, you know, may have spent some time living

534
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:47,800
Speaker 3: in the hood. Okay, and it happens, right, we all

535
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:50,520
Speaker 3: have our journey. Yesterday, I remember now when I was

536
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 3: living in the hood and I was like, girl, the

537
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 3: outside is bad, but when you come in side, I

538
00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 3: was like, we're not going to park the car off front,

539
00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 3: but when you come inside, it's real nice. So I

540
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 3: want to emphasize like, Lady, sometimes we're in a space

541
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 3: where we're in transition. This is just where we are

542
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 3: in our journey, and you can love and create safety

543
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 3: and comfort where you are and even as you are

544
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 3: manifesting where you want to be, because that's definitely what

545
00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 3: I did and I love for me personally, the aesthetic

546
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 3: is everything, So even if I'm in the hood, inside,

547
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:24,120
Speaker 3: I'm going to do my best with what I can

548
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 3: and make it esthetically pleasing, because there were plenty of

549
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 3: times where I would wake up and I would just

550
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:31,840
Speaker 3: look around my space, like this is so beautiful. And

551
00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:33,880
Speaker 3: it doesn't have to be expensive, lady. It's all about

552
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:37,120
Speaker 3: what works for you, right, whatever your brand of comfort

553
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 3: looks like. And speaking of comfort, we're going to move

554
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 3: on to number five and then Domino are going to

555
00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:44,160
Speaker 3: share with you some of the things that we put

556
00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:47,480
Speaker 3: in our home. They'll be absolutely live. So number five

557
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 3: is physical comfort, right, so simple changes like better lighting

558
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 3: or ergonomic furniture, It can really improve the physical comfort

559
00:32:56,520 --> 00:32:58,920
Speaker 3: and also lead to a healthier lifestyle. So if you

560
00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:00,520
Speaker 3: want to, you know, you might have here. What does

561
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:03,720
Speaker 3: that thing called a little exercise bike? What's that thing called?

562
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:09,560
Speaker 2: Oh a spin bike? Or yeah bike or sponsorship?

563
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:12,240
Speaker 3: Oh girl, girl, thank you for stopping me. Thanks.

564
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 2: Don't know if you know the personal you know, yes,

565
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:20,040
Speaker 2: you know you said.

566
00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 3: I remember the name now, but we're not going to

567
00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 3: say it. So spin bikes, whatever it is, Like, I

568
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 3: have my yoga mat and my yoga blocks. I like

569
00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 3: to stretch and all that physical comfort is also important. Yes,

570
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 3: yes it is. And I think really.

571
00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 2: As you, no matter what your age, identifying what are

572
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 2: the physical comforts that you need at the space and

573
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:49,680
Speaker 2: time that you're in? All right, So you know, I

574
00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:52,840
Speaker 2: think about our listeners who are on college campuses, and

575
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:56,120
Speaker 2: I know, at least in California, they're trying to get

576
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 2: as many students into these rooms as possible and sometimes

577
00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 2: you're three, so room that was only meant for two,

578
00:34:02,160 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 2: and so thinking about what it is that you need

579
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:10,840
Speaker 2: to navigate that space that will make you feel comfortable,

580
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 2: you know, for those who I'm trying to think of

581
00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:18,799
Speaker 2: the way how to phrase this. So like I think

582
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:23,879
Speaker 2: about people who have really high beds, right, okay, And

583
00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:26,840
Speaker 2: so it may mean that even though that bed itself

584
00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 2: is super comfortable, nobody wants to have to jump to

585
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 2: get up on that bed. Maybe that means finding like

586
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 2: a cute stool that you that you step on to

587
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:42,640
Speaker 2: get on and off of that bed in a way

588
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 2: that doesn't cause you any pain or make it feel

589
00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 2: like it's a job just to go to sleep. So

590
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:57,839
Speaker 2: really being intentional, paying attention and sometimes and honestly this

591
00:34:58,080 --> 00:34:59,920
Speaker 2: takes a little bit of time when you're in an

592
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:04,359
Speaker 2: new space, and so I want to emphasize that you

593
00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:08,200
Speaker 2: don't have to have it all set up right away.

594
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:10,520
Speaker 3: Yes, it's surprossible that.

595
00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:14,360
Speaker 2: Like I know for me, when I move into a space,

596
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 2: like I need everything unpacked as soon as possible so

597
00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 2: that I can see the layout and then start to

598
00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:24,719
Speaker 2: get a feel for Okay, what are the things that

599
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 2: I need? What adjustments do I need to make so

600
00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:35,360
Speaker 2: that it feels comfortable? And then over time, certain life

601
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:40,600
Speaker 2: changes may require that even if you've been in that

602
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:45,160
Speaker 2: same space for years, that you make some adjustments so

603
00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 2: that it continues to be physically comfortable.

604
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:53,799
Speaker 3: Ooh, that was good. Okay, y'all. So that was five right.

605
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:56,840
Speaker 3: Those are the five reasons why it's important to upgrade

606
00:35:56,800 --> 00:35:58,520
Speaker 3: your living space. I'm going to run thro them really

607
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 3: quickly and then Domini are going to give you the tea. Okay.

608
00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:07,800
Speaker 3: Number one is mental well being. Number two is increased productivity,

609
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:14,040
Speaker 3: Number three enhanced relationships, Number four personal reflection, and number

610
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:18,960
Speaker 3: five is physical comfort. Okay, dom are you ready to

611
00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:23,080
Speaker 3: dive in? Let's do it. So I'm ready to do this, lady.

612
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 3: These are the ways that Domini have upgraded our living space.

613
00:36:25,960 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 3: And what we've done is we've categorized them to make

614
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:30,760
Speaker 3: it easier for us to cover all the things. So

615
00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:35,920
Speaker 3: the first category here is soft furnishings.

616
00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 2: Yes, so this one, I think for me, soft things

617
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 2: just make me feel good. It makes me feel warm

618
00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:48,000
Speaker 2: and fuzzy, like you said earlier, right, yes, And so

619
00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 2: for me that means that when you come into my home,

620
00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 2: you know that there are going to be lots of

621
00:36:54,880 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 2: pillows and also lots of blankets because get cold easily. Yeah,

622
00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 2: even when I'm just like laughing at myself because I'm

623
00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:11,759
Speaker 2: even thinking about recently when we were going through a

624
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:15,279
Speaker 2: heat wave, and you know, it's California. I don't in

625
00:37:15,320 --> 00:37:19,239
Speaker 2: my particular apartment, I don't have air conditioning right, which

626
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:23,719
Speaker 2: is which is a number of spaces in California. I

627
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:26,880
Speaker 2: don't have air conditioning. And we're dealing with a heat wave,

628
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:30,080
Speaker 2: so I have lots of fans to keep me cool.

629
00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:32,920
Speaker 2: And there was one point in the middle of this

630
00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:36,280
Speaker 2: heat wave where I'm sitting on a sofa watching TV

631
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:41,239
Speaker 2: and I'm covered in a blanket and I was like,

632
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 2: oh wait, but it is how to shit outside, and okay,

633
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:49,400
Speaker 2: but I'm in. But the blanket, the softness of the

634
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:53,880
Speaker 2: blanket is a provides me with the level of comfort.

635
00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 2: And so even if it's like ninety degrees outside and

636
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:02,960
Speaker 2: probably almost any degrees in my apartment, I'm going to

637
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 2: have you will always find a cozy blanket. Now, one

638
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:12,200
Speaker 2: thing I will add to that too is that in

639
00:38:12,239 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 2: my for my decorative pillows on my sofa, I have

640
00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:21,640
Speaker 2: a couple of pillows that are have satin line covers

641
00:38:21,680 --> 00:38:23,439
Speaker 2: on them because I like to take a good nap

642
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:29,279
Speaker 2: on my couch and that satin line cover allows me

643
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:34,000
Speaker 2: to lay my head down without worrying about messing up

644
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:39,400
Speaker 2: my edges or causing any friends so I think for me,

645
00:38:39,600 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 2: it's about that's something new that I added recently, like

646
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:50,200
Speaker 2: within the last couple of years, to up level my

647
00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:51,560
Speaker 2: naps on my couch.

648
00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 3: I know that's right, girl, I love it. I'm with

649
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:57,760
Speaker 3: you on the cozy, cozy everything, cozy blankets. I'm looking

650
00:38:57,760 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 3: over here at the living room and for me it's

651
00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:03,360
Speaker 3: like textures as well. Right, So I have a fuzzy

652
00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 3: couch with fuzzy pillows and rugs and blankets like you said.

653
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 3: But I'm also thinking about like my slippers and my

654
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:13,719
Speaker 3: robe all that, Like it's getting a rich, fitched luxury

655
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 3: you know, luxury Black women like I just that whole vibe. Yes,

656
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 3: we got to have the soft, fuzzy things. I'm just

657
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:23,440
Speaker 3: looking around trying to get more inspirations, like what else

658
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 3: do I have? So those those will be the things

659
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:29,920
Speaker 3: under soft furnishings. I think. The next one, what do

660
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 3: we have here?

661
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:37,960
Speaker 2: M the bathroom experience. So let me let me tell you.

662
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:38,560
Speaker 3: Tell me health.

663
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Speaker 2: So there's there are a few things that I appreciate you. No,

664
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Speaker 2: we love taking bubble baths. We love soaking in the tub. Right,

665
00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:55,600
Speaker 2: So one having a bathroom having that stray, then you

666
00:39:55,640 --> 00:39:58,240
Speaker 2: can put over your tubs so that you can maybe

667
00:39:58,560 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 2: hold your glass of wine. It'll hold your glass of wine,

668
00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:05,840
Speaker 2: It'll hold up your book or your kindle, and or

669
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:08,319
Speaker 2: maybe your iPads so you can watch TV. Whatever it

670
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:10,080
Speaker 2: is that you're doing that you need to have in

671
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:14,279
Speaker 2: the tub with you. That tray gives you the opportunity

672
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:18,520
Speaker 2: to prove to have all that you need at your fingertips. Yes,

673
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 2: also maybe having a pillow so that you can as

674
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Speaker 2: you are luxuriating in the tub, you can rest your head.

675
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Speaker 2: One of the things that I've been wanting for a

676
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Speaker 2: while was a biday. Okay, now I'll say I don't

677
00:40:39,040 --> 00:40:41,480
Speaker 2: I live in an apartment. I am renting my space,

678
00:40:42,040 --> 00:40:46,880
Speaker 2: so I am not in a position to bring in

679
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:51,160
Speaker 2: a whole new toilet. That's not where I'm at in life. Lady,

680
00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 2: If you own your home, this might be having a

681
00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 2: full on bday may be the thing that you are

682
00:40:57,320 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 2: able to do because you own your space. And for

683
00:41:01,040 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 2: a while, for years, actually I was like, man, all right,

684
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:06,880
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess you know, my bathroom experience is

685
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:10,800
Speaker 2: going to be my bathroom experience. But when I recently

686
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:15,319
Speaker 2: visited Terry, she put me on game that there are

687
00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:18,120
Speaker 2: now the day attachments that you can add to the

688
00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:22,719
Speaker 2: existing toilet that you have in your space, and so

689
00:41:22,840 --> 00:41:28,279
Speaker 2: it doesn't have to cost you three hundred dollars or

690
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:31,319
Speaker 2: requiring that you replace your toilet if you are not

691
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:35,239
Speaker 2: in a position to do that. And so I think

692
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Speaker 2: I want to put that out there to also emphasize

693
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Speaker 2: that no matter what your budget, there are things that

694
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Speaker 2: you can add based on what we're talking about, at

695
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Speaker 2: every budget.

696
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Speaker 3: Yes, indeed, indeed. And I want to shout out to Juwan,

697
00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:54,480
Speaker 3: my homeboy in San Diego who put me on him

698
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 3: and Luke because that was clutch for me. That's what

699
00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:57,799
Speaker 3: I saw when I went down and I said, oh

700
00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:01,480
Speaker 3: I got a bidet. Yes, So here's the thing, lady,

701
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:04,399
Speaker 3: when it comes to the bathroom comforts, right as Dom said,

702
00:42:04,440 --> 00:42:07,040
Speaker 3: the trade, I like to have the candles and incense

703
00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 3: as well, where I have like a whole meal on

704
00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 3: my trade in the tub with the glass of wine. Okay.

705
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 3: The other thing is the stool. So they also had

706
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:19,400
Speaker 3: a stool with their bidets. So now I just feel like, no,

707
00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 3: we already friends, We're already close on the podcast. You know,

708
00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:24,839
Speaker 3: there's no TMI here when you go on number two,

709
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:26,359
Speaker 3: and you got the stool and it kind of puts

710
00:42:26,360 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 3: you in that squatting position. It makes it a lot better.

711
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:31,440
Speaker 3: And then you've got the bideta come in after. Listen,

712
00:42:31,840 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 3: no pun intended on that coming after, but it's a

713
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 3: very good experience. Okay. So that's that. Don don't encourage

714
00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:41,439
Speaker 3: my sillyness. So we got that. And then the other

715
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:44,840
Speaker 3: thing dom you actually had this on your list, towe warmers.

716
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Speaker 3: I don't have that. Get what is the what is

717
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:49,200
Speaker 3: the contraction? Looks? Give me the tens.

718
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:51,719
Speaker 2: So I don't have a towel warmer either, because I

719
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 2: don't my space doesn't get out of my space, doesn't

720
00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:58,359
Speaker 2: get cold enough to me. But if you live in

721
00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:01,439
Speaker 2: colder climates or you have a bathroom situation where it

722
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:04,760
Speaker 2: gets cold in your back, like your bathroom space gets cold,

723
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 2: you can go online and get you order you some

724
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 2: towel warmers so that when you step out of the shower,

725
00:43:12,800 --> 00:43:16,800
Speaker 2: that towel is right there and it's nice and warm

726
00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 2: and you're not stepping out into some freezing air.

727
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Speaker 3: Right.

728
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Speaker 2: The other thing too, that I think you know again,

729
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Speaker 2: this one, this one in particulars for the ladies who

730
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Speaker 2: own their own home and are able to make upgrades.

731
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Speaker 2: Heated floors in your bathroom. Yes, that is just in

732
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:41,160
Speaker 2: the colder months, particularly if you live in colder environments.

733
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Speaker 2: That is clutched to be able to walk on warm floor,

734
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Speaker 2: the warm floor on a cold winter day.

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Speaker 3: That sounds amazing. I actually have a friend that has

736
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Speaker 3: I don't have the heated floors, but I have a

737
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 3: friend that has a heated toilet seat and that's clutched

738
00:43:58,040 --> 00:44:01,520
Speaker 3: as well. Like incredible. We're gonna move along. We have

739
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Speaker 3: a couple more and then we're gonna jump into the

740
00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:07,799
Speaker 3: after show. So the next one kitchen organization. So one

741
00:44:07,880 --> 00:44:10,040
Speaker 3: of my favorite things again I got this from my

742
00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:14,839
Speaker 3: homeboy in San Diego, is organizers like the spice organizer. Now,

743
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:16,920
Speaker 3: for I don't know, years and years, like I've always

744
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 3: just like threw all my spices. You know, we have

745
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:20,799
Speaker 3: a billion on one spices in there. I just threw

746
00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:22,319
Speaker 3: them all in the cabinet. And so when I went

747
00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:25,360
Speaker 3: down there and they had their spices stacked, it was

748
00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:29,200
Speaker 3: just this little purchase that was so it was so

749
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 3: flat because game changer, right, it allows in the safe space,

750
00:44:32,320 --> 00:44:34,400
Speaker 3: So now I'm able to have more spices. They're stacked

751
00:44:34,400 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 3: so I can kind of see which spices are aware

752
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:38,880
Speaker 3: without having them all in front of one another on

753
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:41,520
Speaker 3: one level where you can't see like where's the peperriko,

754
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 3: where's that garlic saw or the lowries? You know what

755
00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:46,080
Speaker 3: I mean. So now everything's stacked. So I love that.

756
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:49,640
Speaker 3: I love to have organizers as well, like just organizers

757
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:52,719
Speaker 3: under the sink to keep things organized. And then I'm

758
00:44:52,760 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 3: trying to think of what else.

759
00:44:53,920 --> 00:44:57,240
Speaker 2: The containers in the pantry for like con for rice,

760
00:44:57,360 --> 00:45:00,839
Speaker 2: for sugar flour, and you have it labeled like that

761
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:05,400
Speaker 2: level of organization, I will own that. Like my pantry,

762
00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 2: I do need to get in there and organize that

763
00:45:07,280 --> 00:45:11,760
Speaker 2: on that level. I haven't done that, but I think

764
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:15,800
Speaker 2: when you do that, it changes the game in terms

765
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:18,320
Speaker 2: of being able to how you are able to function

766
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:21,719
Speaker 2: in your kitchen. It actually saves so much time. And

767
00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:25,000
Speaker 2: then the other piece in terms of organization in the kitchen,

768
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:27,720
Speaker 2: and I also use this in my bathroom as well.

769
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Speaker 2: Clear containers and organizers in the kitchen drawers right, so

770
00:45:33,719 --> 00:45:38,000
Speaker 2: that and in your bathroom so that it's easy you're

771
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:41,320
Speaker 2: not fumbling around in the drawers trying to find things.

772
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:46,360
Speaker 2: Everything is where you can easily see it, yeah again,

773
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:50,399
Speaker 2: saving you so much time and money. Because I don't

774
00:45:50,400 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 2: know about y'all, but there have been multiple times where

775
00:45:54,800 --> 00:45:59,280
Speaker 2: I needed something I knew I hadn't, but I couldn't

776
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:05,719
Speaker 2: find it, and so I'm like looking around, like I

777
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 2: know I have it, I'm fumbling the drawers, can't figure

778
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 2: out where it is. Go to the store, buy buy

779
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:16,759
Speaker 2: it only two maybe a month later, sometime maybe even

780
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 2: later that same day, open another drawer and like, oh,

781
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:24,799
Speaker 2: why did I put this here? That's not where it's

782
00:46:24,800 --> 00:46:30,320
Speaker 2: supposed to be. So giving yourself that opportunity for literally

783
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:35,560
Speaker 2: everything to have its place, all right. And so the

784
00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 2: next thing are what we call our functional comforts, the

785
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:45,640
Speaker 2: things that just generally like make life easier. Right, So

786
00:46:46,160 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 2: that's your strategically placed items for easy access for me

787
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:57,880
Speaker 2: and Terry. I observed this at your place too, having charger,

788
00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:02,719
Speaker 2: multiple chargers, and extent cords in the places that you

789
00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:08,359
Speaker 2: most frequent. Right. So for me at my desk, by

790
00:47:08,400 --> 00:47:14,799
Speaker 2: my sofa, by my bed, I have chargers in each

791
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:20,600
Speaker 2: of those locations because I don't and I keep a charger,

792
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:25,640
Speaker 2: a separate charger in my car, and another charger in

793
00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:28,480
Speaker 2: my travel bag. So when I travel, I don't have

794
00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:31,359
Speaker 2: to worry about, oh do I have do I have

795
00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:34,400
Speaker 2: my chargers? You know, I have a special set just

796
00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 2: for travel, so I don't even have to think about

797
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:39,839
Speaker 2: it if I for if I happen to forget it,

798
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:46,480
Speaker 2: there's always a charger somewhere in here, and it saves

799
00:47:46,640 --> 00:47:48,080
Speaker 2: It just makes life easier.

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Speaker 3: It really does. Domind. I think these these tips that

801
00:47:51,520 --> 00:47:54,200
Speaker 3: we're sharing, they're like low key slept on sometimes, like

802
00:47:54,239 --> 00:47:57,600
Speaker 3: I didn't realize how And this was probably until recently

803
00:47:57,640 --> 00:48:00,200
Speaker 3: that I was the person who was, oh, let me, oh,

804
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:03,240
Speaker 3: I don't have the charger. It's not my my oh gosh,

805
00:48:03,320 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 3: by my bed. I need to go, you know, get

806
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:07,440
Speaker 3: the one from out the living room and bring it

807
00:48:07,440 --> 00:48:10,200
Speaker 3: in here. And just as flustered as that can be

808
00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:12,160
Speaker 3: if you're like in a rush, I'm just like, I'm

809
00:48:12,200 --> 00:48:16,400
Speaker 3: over that. So that's really approach it having chargers strategically placed.

810
00:48:16,480 --> 00:48:19,840
Speaker 3: Lady also, and my tub, I have a pillow like

811
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 3: a back pillow, but then I like to also have

812
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:23,640
Speaker 3: an extra pillow for my head, so I have a

813
00:48:23,640 --> 00:48:25,839
Speaker 3: pillow that just lives in the bathroom so I don't

814
00:48:25,880 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 3: have to move stuff. I just want to be flowing

815
00:48:28,160 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 3: and easing into all the things in my life. Also

816
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:33,680
Speaker 3: a stool for like reaching for things if you have

817
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:37,359
Speaker 3: to get a you know, stand up and step stool.

818
00:48:37,640 --> 00:48:39,920
Speaker 3: The other thing, I have sunglasses by the door with

819
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 3: my key wreck, so that if I'm heading out the door,

820
00:48:42,360 --> 00:48:43,799
Speaker 3: I could just put on the shades. I don't have

821
00:48:43,840 --> 00:48:46,359
Speaker 3: to go search for them. I have sunglasses for the car,

822
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:49,359
Speaker 3: for my purse, and by the door. And these are

823
00:48:49,360 --> 00:48:51,400
Speaker 3: not like expensive items, right, These are all things that

824
00:48:51,440 --> 00:48:54,759
Speaker 3: you can buy multiples of and place them strategically. The

825
00:48:54,840 --> 00:48:57,080
Speaker 3: other one I would say is having gum because I

826
00:48:57,160 --> 00:49:00,000
Speaker 3: love the chew gum gum and lip loss and perfume

827
00:49:00,320 --> 00:49:03,319
Speaker 3: by the door so that it's like right by my

828
00:49:03,360 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 3: shoe rack, so that as soon as I'm leaving, I

829
00:49:05,040 --> 00:49:07,359
Speaker 3: can just do my little spray lipgloss and all that,

830
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:09,880
Speaker 3: and it's just so much easier. The other thing I

831
00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:12,160
Speaker 3: want to say too, dom is I have a blender

832
00:49:12,239 --> 00:49:15,440
Speaker 3: in an airfier, and I have limited outlets in my

833
00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:17,600
Speaker 3: little corner of the kitchen, and so when I first

834
00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:20,880
Speaker 3: moved here, I was like constantly unplugging and plugging the

835
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:22,600
Speaker 3: thing back in, and so I was like, that's just

836
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:26,000
Speaker 3: too much ease that is not bringing me ease right

837
00:49:26,360 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 3: and functionality, And so I just got another extension cord

838
00:49:29,400 --> 00:49:31,120
Speaker 3: that lives there so I can keep it plugged in

839
00:49:31,520 --> 00:49:34,120
Speaker 3: and those little things. It really does make a difference, lady,

840
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:37,040
Speaker 3: it really does. So, yes, we hope you enjoyed.

841
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:41,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, we hope you enjoyed this episode. And lady, as

842
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:46,360
Speaker 2: you are listening to this, and there are certain hacks

843
00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:49,440
Speaker 2: that you have in your home that make it easier

844
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:51,960
Speaker 2: for you that you're like, I can't believe they mentioned that.

845
00:49:52,560 --> 00:49:55,840
Speaker 2: Let us know, let the community know, because all of

846
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:58,120
Speaker 2: us are trying to live a life of ease.

847
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:02,440
Speaker 3: Into that. We're actually going to put something on Instagram, lady,

848
00:50:02,480 --> 00:50:04,919
Speaker 3: So just scro to our Instagram, go to our Instagram

849
00:50:05,320 --> 00:50:08,520
Speaker 3: at her Space podcast, and then look for the image.

850
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 3: Whatever color that image is going to be, it's gonna

851
00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:12,640
Speaker 3: say like house hacks or something. Go to that image

852
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:15,759
Speaker 3: and drop in the comments because you know we most

853
00:50:15,760 --> 00:50:18,080
Speaker 3: of us be shopping too much on that platform, So

854
00:50:18,480 --> 00:50:20,080
Speaker 3: just give us more items that we can go look

855
00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:22,600
Speaker 3: for because we're gonna be shopping anyway. The lady, We're

856
00:50:22,600 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 3: going to hop into the after show and discuss some

857
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:27,960
Speaker 3: reflection questions from this episode, So go to our website

858
00:50:28,000 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 3: herspacepodcast dot com, click on Patreon anywhere you see on

859
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:34,120
Speaker 3: the page, and you can support us on Patreon and

860
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:37,439
Speaker 3: watch this video and tune into the after show. We'll

861
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Speaker 3: see you on the other side.

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Speaker 2: Lady, Hey, lady, it's doctor dom here from the Cultivating

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Speaker 2: her Space podcast. Are you currently a resident of the

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