Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect
Speaker 1: Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Welcome to another episode
Speaker 1: of Reasonably Shaky. I am just a Bryant's what's so?
Speaker 1: What's up? My people's this is robbing Dixon. It's so
Speaker 1: good to talk to you should just say it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's so good to see you know, let's go put
Speaker 1: you talk to you. Yes it is, Yes it is.
Speaker 1: And thank you all so much for like continuing to
Speaker 1: like listen to us talk every Monday, because we're just
Speaker 1: talking crazy over here. We talked about random stuff. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm eating a cookie. It's going to be gone in
Speaker 1: a second. Yeah, I mean, and she's she's killing the cookie.
Speaker 1: She's like eating a cookie. She's the Wagman's chocolate chip
Speaker 1: cookies the best ever. They don't have a crunch to it.
Speaker 1: I need a little crunch crunch. I need a little
Speaker 1: crunch on the edges. Yes, how do y'all like y'all
Speaker 1: chocolate chip cookies? Do you need a little crunch on
Speaker 1: the edges or you just need it soft? Mm? I
Speaker 1: don't want to crunch. I want to crunch. Anyway. We
Speaker 1: have a reasonably Shady moment of the week. Okay, So
Speaker 1: I want to go first, all right, because I'm a
Speaker 1: little perturbed what happened? Okay. So I have a daughter
Speaker 1: named Angel, and Angel now, for the first time ever,
Speaker 1: is running track. Okay. I'm very happy for her. She
Speaker 1: even came home the other day and said she wanted
Speaker 1: to run hurdles. I'm like, what the world? What in
Speaker 1: the world? Yes, what in the flow Jackson is happening
Speaker 1: over here? Okay. So anyway, I was like, this is
Speaker 1: this is amazing. So the coach sends out maybe like
Speaker 1: a seven paragraph email, which is very long an email world, okay,
Speaker 1: actually for a coach, yes, about like this season, what
Speaker 1: was going to be happening the dudes, and don't the
Speaker 1: schedule everything. I was like cool, and I read the
Speaker 1: whole thing because you know, normally I check out sentence
Speaker 1: number two and at the end of this sixth paragraph email,
Speaker 1: it says at the bottom there will be a parent
Speaker 1: meeting next Tuesday at six o'clock. So I was like, wow, like,
Speaker 1: you know, this is this is my child's first year
Speaker 1: doing this. I don't know what track moms do. I
Speaker 1: don't know nothing about a track mom. So I gotta
Speaker 1: go to this dumbass meeting. Okay, I get to the meeting.
Speaker 1: It's six o'clock and like, they already had a two
Speaker 1: hour track practice. So the girls are tired. They want
Speaker 1: to go home, and a door is there because she
Speaker 1: plays the cross so she finished her practice. We're all
Speaker 1: sitting there waiting for this man. He comes in. Can
Speaker 1: I tell you what he does? He goes over to
Speaker 1: email that he sent us. The email. Are you serious?
Speaker 1: He goes over the email and nothing more, nothing more, nothings.
Speaker 1: I was living what so? And then he says at
Speaker 1: the end, So I say to Angel, it's a packed room.
Speaker 1: I say to Angel, and we're sitting not near the door.
Speaker 1: I said, Angel, were out of here. Come on. She
Speaker 1: was like, Mommy, we can't leave. That would be like crazy.
Speaker 1: We just walked out and left. We can't do You're
Speaker 1: out the door win while he's reading the email. Yes
Speaker 1: I want to leave. He printed out his own email.
Speaker 1: Yes he's read. I was pissed. So long story short,
Speaker 1: I don't leave because then I would have been like
Speaker 1: that mom that left in the middle of the meeting
Speaker 1: that I already read, and so I stayed. Um And
Speaker 1: then at the end he was like, well, guys, you know,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for coming. I just want you
Speaker 1: to know, you all to know that I'm a rambler.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I ramble, and um, if you never catch me
Speaker 1: in the parking lot and I stop you, you know,
Speaker 1: just before warned I'm a rambler, I'm like you never
Speaker 1: you will never stop me. Forget you met me, dude.
Speaker 1: So I got my children and we got the hell
Speaker 1: out of there. But sir, I don't even know what
Speaker 1: your name is. Track coach. You are shady, oh my god,
Speaker 1: and you are the shady man of the week. Yes, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: that's annoying. Yes, okay, I'm sorry. It's gonna be real
Speaker 1: quick and simple. The dad gonna shaker bottle that I
Speaker 1: told you about, the shaker two weeks ago, shaker bottle,
Speaker 1: the shaker bottle that's in my sink, that's still in
Speaker 1: my sink, the shaker bottle. Who has the shaker want? Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I remember I told you one so first it went
Speaker 1: from my my brother in law with the baby. But
Speaker 1: remember that the shaker bottle that I talked about, that's
Speaker 1: his like his prochein shake. But the same one, yes,
Speaker 1: the same one from a few weeks it's still in
Speaker 1: the same still there. This is disgusting. Yeah, who's gonna
Speaker 1: rent this thing out? Who's gonna clean it? It's going
Speaker 1: in the trash at some point. Wait a minute, wait
Speaker 1: a minute, okay. And I know this because I know
Speaker 1: why he has missed a clean okay, and he has
Speaker 1: not cleaned this bottle. No, No, he's just forgotten about.
Speaker 1: It's just there and he wants you to do it.
Speaker 1: I don't know it's going in the trash. I don't know.
Speaker 1: But this was like weeks ago that I mentioned this
Speaker 1: shaker bottle. This isn't shady. This is disgusting. Okay, for
Speaker 1: the record, this is disgusting. And by the way, guys,
Speaker 1: if you guys hear a bunch of like noise in
Speaker 1: the back. We're at Robin's house. She has construction going on.
Speaker 1: I know. We went from Gazelle's house with all the
Speaker 1: construction to my house with all the constructions. Yes, so
Speaker 1: just bear with us. And it's so crazy because I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, Jael, now I know how you felt,
Speaker 1: yes when you had all those people in your house
Speaker 1: all the time, people in my house noise. I was
Speaker 1: just dust everywhere it's just bad. It is, and I'm
Speaker 1: so like, oh my gosh, I feel like I'm like
Speaker 1: like like I'm hot. I'm trying to like hide in
Speaker 1: my house. Yes, you're right now, y'all don't know this,
Speaker 1: but there's a construction all over Robin's house, whereas mine
Speaker 1: was kind of like in areas, so when they weren't
Speaker 1: in that area, I was like able to live right. Um.
Speaker 1: But yeah, it's just a whole lot going on in
Speaker 1: Robin's house that you might may or may not see
Speaker 1: on season seven of The Real Housewine, which may or
Speaker 1: may not be coming on. Okay, fine, that was a teaser,
Speaker 1: all right. So I do want to talk about Russell
Speaker 1: Wilson really quickly before we get into some other things,
Speaker 1: because he said he spends a million dollars on his body,
Speaker 1: oh nutrition, just in total, just because his body is
Speaker 1: a machine and he needs to be ready to perform.
Speaker 1: But it's a million dollars a bit much. That sounds extreme?
Speaker 1: What what how much money does he make a year?
Speaker 1: Because he's a good and he's probably you know, he's
Speaker 1: got to be like he's a quarterback. Um, he's a
Speaker 1: he's a very good quarterback. He's probably at least fifteen millions. Okay,
Speaker 1: so he's fifteen mates, So this is what this is?
Speaker 1: What what's one million? What's the percentage? So that's fifteen million.
Speaker 1: That's more than ten percent? No, no, no, one million
Speaker 1: is not not more than ten percent. It's not more
Speaker 1: in t percent. Okay, So that's fine, that's but I
Speaker 1: just made a number up. Let's let's let's google. That's
Speaker 1: just some fact checking. But I'm telling you he makes
Speaker 1: lot of money, yeah, because I mean, you know, I
Speaker 1: mean it's probably similar to um, like Tom Brady. Tom
Speaker 1: Brady probably spend that much money on himself. Okay, so
Speaker 1: we're finding out how much wrestle. So all right, so
Speaker 1: if if he made um fifteen million, now is it okay?
Speaker 1: If he's making fifteen oh even better? Well, see football
Speaker 1: is so confusing. But he's got some something. This thing
Speaker 1: said thirty two million. Oh yeah, go on, spend million
Speaker 1: on your body, sir, but at two But I don't
Speaker 1: know if that's okay, I don't know if that's right,
Speaker 1: just because football, you know, and they have all these
Speaker 1: like bonuses and R Wilson has a one cap charge
Speaker 1: of eight okay, he has a nineteen million dollars salary
Speaker 1: this year. This was last year with another thirteen million
Speaker 1: flowing from So yes, if he's making that much money,
Speaker 1: thirty something million, yes, and he wants to continue making
Speaker 1: that much money. Yeah, he's gotta he's gotta put in
Speaker 1: one million on his body. I'm not mad at that.
Speaker 1: So I'm assuming that one million is trainers, Yes, that's
Speaker 1: um nutritionist, diet Yeah, that's chefs, Toby, yeah, yeah, maybe
Speaker 1: even surgery therapists. Like that's that's a lot. That stuff
Speaker 1: adds up. And that's why like being a professional, Like
Speaker 1: people don't really realize what goes into being a professional athlete.
Speaker 1: Your body is texting. Yes, yes, I wonder if he
Speaker 1: hasn't insured maybe probably Yeah, that insurance probably be really high,
Speaker 1: like really really high. Right, Okay, alright, So Russell, I
Speaker 1: was gonna trash you, but I'm not because Robin has
Speaker 1: broken it down and now that I know the numbers,
Speaker 1: going to spend spending money, think he was spending that
Speaker 1: on like pedicures and stuff, haircre stuff, a haircut, Yes,
Speaker 1: I would. Would you just see a headline? I did?
Speaker 1: I did, said Russell because someone he was in an
Speaker 1: interview and someone asked him if that was true, because
Speaker 1: that was a rumor, and he was like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: and at his age, especially because he's like a little
Speaker 1: older than me, he's playing for a long time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I believe it. I mean, I don't like if
Speaker 1: I didn't read the article, but I assume that's what
Speaker 1: he's implying on his training and health and nutrition. And
Speaker 1: if I'm Sierra, I'm like, well, if you're gonna spend
Speaker 1: a million on your body, I must spend five million
Speaker 1: on mine because I can drop it like a hat
Speaker 1: and twirk that thing. You don't need to spend nothing
Speaker 1: on her body. Her body has always been amazing. Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: she's she's a beautiful woman for sure. I mean her
Speaker 1: like like she she just has nice, lean, trim, muscular tone, secure,
Speaker 1: And it's always been like I heard that she got
Speaker 1: the muscles like injected into her body. You heard that.
Speaker 1: I'm being a hater. I'm just being a hater. Never
Speaker 1: I've never heard that. Okay, there's a show on that
Speaker 1: I want to talk about called The Courtship. Okay, because
Speaker 1: I haven't seen it yet, but I've seen so many
Speaker 1: um ads for it and teasers for it and all
Speaker 1: that kind of good stuff and um, the show is
Speaker 1: uh okay. So we just had a guest appear and
Speaker 1: his miss Carter haboo hey, and Carter has is that
Speaker 1: marker on your head? Is that blood? When Carter came
Speaker 1: home from school with a busted lip and marker on
Speaker 1: his forehead? Confused, we need an explanation, Okay, hit me
Speaker 1: with their head, was going back, Oh wow, this is today.
Speaker 1: You got busted today. Recess Okay, oh my gosh, recess. Okay,
Speaker 1: but he's still cute, y'all even with a busted lip.
Speaker 1: He you okay, sticking out though. Oh yeah. And then
Speaker 1: but you have marker on your forehead. We did an explanation.
Speaker 1: What happened? Like red marker guys on his forehead? What happened?
Speaker 1: My brother? He drew marker on my forehead at the
Speaker 1: bus on the bus and away I've got falling like
Speaker 1: like like right in a little little bus. Okay, So
Speaker 1: the marker on your head came from Corey, your brother.
Speaker 1: This is amazing. So no one hurt you at school,
Speaker 1: but she was leaving school trying to get on the
Speaker 1: bus and your brother came for you with a red
Speaker 1: marker like for no reason, he just out here, he he,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna mark Carter's face up. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay,
Speaker 1: but I just want for the record, I want everybody know,
Speaker 1: red marker on your forehead and busted up you still cute,
Speaker 1: Still a CUTEI pie, still very cute. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: hopefully it comes out, but it's a rough day. Chow. Alright. So,
Speaker 1: as we were saying before, we were um giving this
Speaker 1: full forehead explanation the courtship. Okay, so it is about
Speaker 1: a black woman who is transported back into medieval times,
Speaker 1: right or back into the long one time ago, a
Speaker 1: long time ago when they wore poopy dresses, which, by
Speaker 1: the way, I'm a little jealous because I think that's like,
Speaker 1: you know, when people cared about really what they wore
Speaker 1: for toe and they had all gloves and all this stuff. Anyway,
Speaker 1: and she is courted yes, yes, like can I give
Speaker 1: you some great yes with like etiquette, and they have
Speaker 1: to write letters, yes, write me a ladder. Yes, that's
Speaker 1: how you're gonna get me. So it's like it's similar
Speaker 1: to the Bachelor or bachelorette. So it's a she's a
Speaker 1: beautiful girl, yes, um, young black girl named Nicole. That
Speaker 1: is the I don't even know what you would call her,
Speaker 1: like not, I'm sure they're not. You know, she's the bachelorette. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but like what are they what the terminology are they're
Speaker 1: using for her? Yes? And then she has like a group,
Speaker 1: a large group of suitors yes, that are courting her.
Speaker 1: So it's like the bachelorette where you know, all these
Speaker 1: guys have to prove their love and she got them.
Speaker 1: It's and then I believe her parents are involved because
Speaker 1: her parents need to make sure that the courtship, however
Speaker 1: these guys according her, is done properly to approve and
Speaker 1: like it's all like you know, meet me, like have
Speaker 1: a picnic and bring some grapes and some cheese, like
Speaker 1: what it's That's how I want to be courting. It's
Speaker 1: so cute though, It's like really cool and I'm like
Speaker 1: I feel like, um, every man needs to watch this
Speaker 1: show and like because we step up on your game. Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm not out here in the streets, but I know
Speaker 1: how it is where these men are just you know,
Speaker 1: hitting you in your d M. Yes exactly, And that's
Speaker 1: just like not cool. And I think there's something to
Speaker 1: be said about just like keeping your clothes on and
Speaker 1: getting to know people and taking the whole like um,
Speaker 1: sex out of it, taking just not only sex, but
Speaker 1: like anything that's touching, physical out of it. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: I love it. It's so awesome. So yeah, that's that's
Speaker 1: that's on NBC. I'm gonna send Grace to um have
Speaker 1: this donehould like to be the Grace my daughter. She's
Speaker 1: the best, right, Yes, I would approve of men corching
Speaker 1: her in this way, but imagine how hard it will be,
Speaker 1: maybe for this young lady Nicole to go from this
Speaker 1: show where they have all this you know, the kid
Speaker 1: and all of this stuff, the circumstance, and then back
Speaker 1: to real world, back to like going home, and and
Speaker 1: a dude is like, what up? Meet your feet? I
Speaker 1: like you, you like me. Let's go, let's get it.
Speaker 1: Do you want to do half on a baby? Marry me? What?
Speaker 1: Get out of here? Busters? All right, we have a
Speaker 1: new segment for the recently shady. Okay, yeah, I'm coming
Speaker 1: up with new segments every five minutes. I mean yeah,
Speaker 1: we got a new segment on time. It's just we're
Speaker 1: just reading. We're just talking, y'all. We just talking. Robin
Speaker 1: does not like when I say we have a new segment,
Speaker 1: because it technically gives the segment itself is it's like,
Speaker 1: let's okay, you know what, we have a new segment.
Speaker 1: It's cold. Which one is it? Do we have a segment? Yes?
Speaker 1: The new segment is called call and response. Okay, because
Speaker 1: we called we asked everyone a question, right and the okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: So that's going to go. You know, we the question
Speaker 1: is going to change. That's true. I don't really like this,
Speaker 1: but you don't like quote a record. I want everyone
Speaker 1: to know between me and Robin, Robin is very organized.
Speaker 1: She is very um. She needs to know what's going on.
Speaker 1: She needs to you know, everything needs to be It's
Speaker 1: weird you're talking about like that. Sounds like you too, though,
Speaker 1: But I'm not really like that when it comes to this. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm just like, what we're talking about, Okay, let's talk right,
Speaker 1: and I want to plan. Yes, Robin's a planner, that's
Speaker 1: what she is. I'm kind of organized. I'm organized in
Speaker 1: my own way. Robin is a planner. So because I
Speaker 1: did not tell her in advance that this is a
Speaker 1: new segment, she's like, oh, this ain't a new segment.
Speaker 1: This is this segment is not happened. Okay. So guess
Speaker 1: what guys were just talking we're talking about forever when
Speaker 1: you know they weren't the one, right, Okay? So we
Speaker 1: asked y'all to let us know when you knew this
Speaker 1: dude to this woman, this whoever was just not the one.
Speaker 1: I have so many of them. Oh yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: meaning me personally. Yes, we want to hear yours too, well.
Speaker 1: I mean, I I don't, I don't. I did know
Speaker 1: when this guy picked me up and his car stunk,
Speaker 1: he was not the one. Okay, there's there's that. I mean,
Speaker 1: if the car stunt, imagine what else stunk his balls?
Speaker 1: No question about it. Just no question about that, okay.
Speaker 1: And I mean, over my, you know, dating life, it's
Speaker 1: just just so many things and so many times I'm like, yo,
Speaker 1: I will not see you further than this date right here,
Speaker 1: and how fast can I get out of here? You
Speaker 1: have stories for days, oh my gosh, for days. But
Speaker 1: I won't bore y'all with that because you all have
Speaker 1: sent us you are. If I if I think of
Speaker 1: something as we go through these, um, I'll let you know. Um. Okay,
Speaker 1: So this one in particular. It's just plain and simple. Okay,
Speaker 1: and this has this happens a lot and it's plain
Speaker 1: a simple thing. Okay. So I knew he wasn't the
Speaker 1: one when he didn't consider my needs during sexual interactions.
Speaker 1: Everything was always about him. Okay, guys, for the record, like,
Speaker 1: don't do that. Don't just have sex so that you
Speaker 1: can get off. And I'm sure that is so common, Yes,
Speaker 1: so common. That is. Yeah, if the man is not
Speaker 1: satisfying you sexually, no, he is not the one. If
Speaker 1: he doesn't even ask you, are you enjoying this or whatever,
Speaker 1: if you don't check in right, he is not the one. Yes,
Speaker 1: this one woman said she knew he wasn't the one.
Speaker 1: Day one what what? What does that mean? That day
Speaker 1: one usually is when they she knows that they're not. Oh,
Speaker 1: she's just saying like, it doesn't take much, like so,
Speaker 1: so she's not going down the road and then finding
Speaker 1: out they're not the one. She's like, okay, as soon
Speaker 1: as she meets them, she knows you're not the one,
Speaker 1: You're not the one. Okay, that's good. That's like her
Speaker 1: spidy senses are up, yes, yes, so for you. Okay,
Speaker 1: So how long does it take you to figure out
Speaker 1: they're not the one? Um? I guess it depends because
Speaker 1: it depends depends on the car. It was like, it
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, can he drove me back home? Um?
Speaker 1: It just depends on the guy. Okay. So what if
Speaker 1: the guy with the stinky car had a great personality
Speaker 1: and like, you really enjoyed the date? Okay? So so
Speaker 1: I got until he picked me up. So I got
Speaker 1: into the stinky car to go to the restaurant. At
Speaker 1: the restaurant, he had a nice personality. Okay, but then
Speaker 1: I had to get back in the stinky car to
Speaker 1: go home. So the lasting impression, remember, was the stinky car.
Speaker 1: I don't want to ever get in that car again.
Speaker 1: So you're out of here. Yes, So okay, I knew
Speaker 1: this is actually he's actually uh, I can't say who is.
Speaker 1: He's a celebrity kinda, but anyway, I knew he wasn't
Speaker 1: the one. We went out of town and I forgot
Speaker 1: my underwear right for whatever reason, I just like all
Speaker 1: my underwear that I was gonna wear for the weekend
Speaker 1: I forgot. So he was like, all right, you can
Speaker 1: just wear mine, And he didn't have like cute boxers.
Speaker 1: He had like what do you call him? T white? Yes,
Speaker 1: he had tighty. Instead of like him being like okay, okay,
Speaker 1: let's go to he was like, oh, you can just
Speaker 1: wear mine? What? But my dumbass was like okay, thanks,
Speaker 1: and I warm. But later I realized no, I was,
Speaker 1: I was out of college. I was um, I was
Speaker 1: out of college like I was in my twenties, and
Speaker 1: this should not have been had. That should not have
Speaker 1: gone down like it went town. That is ill. First
Speaker 1: of all, okay, was this was that brand new underwear
Speaker 1: you were wearing it? I don't know, I can't remember,
Speaker 1: but I did wear his underwear, and I might even
Speaker 1: giving him back when I was you know him very well? No,
Speaker 1: not at all, and why were we even going out
Speaker 1: of town together? Right? Yeah? But he was kind of
Speaker 1: like your lying, you didn't forget your underwear? Yeah? Why
Speaker 1: would I even make that up? So I was just like,
Speaker 1: yeah I did, I said, you know, and I even
Speaker 1: said kind of like can we stop at the store
Speaker 1: or something. He's like, oh, you could just wear mine.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something done with him, I'll tell
Speaker 1: you who he was later robbing. Okay, yes, okay, so
Speaker 1: I have one. Um, when we watched my favorite movie
Speaker 1: and he laughed at all the wrong parts. Oh I
Speaker 1: hate that. Yeah, that's like if your sense of humor
Speaker 1: is not in line, yes, together, it can't work. And
Speaker 1: then and like, like I have a goofy sense of humor,
Speaker 1: so I might find like every like little stupid things funny.
Speaker 1: And it's funny because like one he'll he'll literally watch
Speaker 1: like the same scene over again, over and over again
Speaker 1: and find something different to laugh about, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So it's like, okay, like as long as
Speaker 1: you can like laugh, but if you're laughing at like
Speaker 1: stuff that's not even funny, or if you're not laughing
Speaker 1: at the funny stuff. Yeah, Um, so this one, this
Speaker 1: woman knew knew that he's not the one when he
Speaker 1: viciously screamed at my dog. Okay, yeah, everybody knows you
Speaker 1: gotta treat the animals really nicely. Like if, right, if
Speaker 1: you're trying to date somebody and they have a dog,
Speaker 1: you gotta treat that dog like that's your child or something,
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, And I'm not even a dog person,
Speaker 1: but I do know because like my sister has a
Speaker 1: dog and I won't even call the dog by the
Speaker 1: dog's name. I make up a name for the dog.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I guess I just have disrespectful us.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know. You do that to annoy
Speaker 1: your sister. Okay, Robin, you're asking me too many questions, right, Hi,
Speaker 1: can I'm not gonna say your name, yes, okay, my sister, yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: I can say this and Giselle. Okay. My sister's dog's
Speaker 1: name is Aretha, so okay, right, Okay, it's like along
Speaker 1: and it's like Aretha Franko, Yes, I call the dog
Speaker 1: and she gets really mad at me, gets upset. She''re
Speaker 1: going to confuse the dog. She's like, my dog's name
Speaker 1: is Aretha, and I'm like, okay, alright, I take it back.
Speaker 1: I will call her Reming, right, And that's like a
Speaker 1: term of endearment, right, So I did. I for sure
Speaker 1: would not yell at the dog, because I get yelled
Speaker 1: at when I even give her a nickname. Yes, so word,
Speaker 1: that's just because it's you. Like y'all, y'all have that
Speaker 1: like sibling relationship where it's like it don't matter what
Speaker 1: you do when you say you're the worst person in
Speaker 1: the world, does your brother treat you that way, I
Speaker 1: treat him like that. Okay, who's older by okay, okay, alright,
Speaker 1: Well I treat my brother like that because when we
Speaker 1: were younger, he's three years older than me. When we
Speaker 1: were younger, he used to like wrestle me and beat
Speaker 1: me up all the time. Now that explains why Robin
Speaker 1: Dixon is Robin Dixon and why she peas standing up.
Speaker 1: That explain say that's another episode. Um okay, I get
Speaker 1: it now yea. So now I'm like, like, you know,
Speaker 1: it's just like whenever I like talked to him, seeing
Speaker 1: I was like, what do you want? Right right? Right right? Okay,
Speaker 1: what you got? All right? Um? So let's see this
Speaker 1: is a we got a long one. Okay. So greetings.
Speaker 1: My name is Angelica. I met my boyfriend during the
Speaker 1: start of the pandemic in He finally came to visit
Speaker 1: me on my birthday, which was September four. He is
Speaker 1: from North Carolina and knew we would be in a
Speaker 1: long distance relationship since I live in Maryland. Also, him
Speaker 1: coming to my birthday was a first date. He had
Speaker 1: to get a hotel. He stayed there for three days.
Speaker 1: He also paid for all meals. When he took me
Speaker 1: out before Christmas, I got him a gift and I
Speaker 1: really wasn't expecting anything in return because I did it
Speaker 1: from the kindness of my heart. However, on Christmas, he
Speaker 1: made a sarcastic comment, he said, did you get me
Speaker 1: a gift? I found the comment strange because I got
Speaker 1: him a gift three days before Christmas to make sure
Speaker 1: he would get it at a decent time. At that point,
Speaker 1: after he made his comment, I felt unappreciated because he
Speaker 1: also complained about how much money he spent when he
Speaker 1: came to Maryland, and because of that, I knew why
Speaker 1: I didn't received a gift from him. I decided to
Speaker 1: text him and told him that we need to just
Speaker 1: be friends. I just didn't think he would make a
Speaker 1: good boyfriend. Well, he's mad because he spent money coming
Speaker 1: to see her. Yeah, right, he came to see her,
Speaker 1: and he figured all that money he spent to come
Speaker 1: see her was her gift, was her gift, and then
Speaker 1: didn't get her a gift. And when she got him
Speaker 1: a gift, he's like, oh, like, did you give me
Speaker 1: a gift? Now, boy, by that that's not a good boyfriend. Okay, Yeah,
Speaker 1: he got to go. No, he got to go. Okay,
Speaker 1: this one, this one right here, says I knew you
Speaker 1: weren't the one when he stole my credit card and
Speaker 1: tried to use to pay to get his car out
Speaker 1: of the towing o. No he's not. Not only he's
Speaker 1: not the one, he's a criminal. He's a thing. Yeah. Okay,
Speaker 1: has any has that ever happened to you? No? I
Speaker 1: mean okay, so I knew this guy wasn't the one.
Speaker 1: Let me tell what he did. He this is me personally.
Speaker 1: He came over and um, he was like, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: make you a lobster dinner. So I was like, okay.
Speaker 1: So he he brought legitimately live lobsters to my house. Okay,
Speaker 1: and he he got a pot, he cooked up the lobsters,
Speaker 1: he cracked it open. He did his thing right. It
Speaker 1: was amazing. We had lobster in my house. Got the
Speaker 1: butter all that, so we ate afterwards. He was like
Speaker 1: thinking he was gonna gonna get some booty and I
Speaker 1: was like, so all I'm good for is a lobster.
Speaker 1: It was a lobster tail and some drawing butter I
Speaker 1: got and he was mad. He like I was like,
Speaker 1: wait a minute. And he even said it out of
Speaker 1: his money. He's like, wait a minute, So you mean
Speaker 1: like you ain't gonna get me note, I mean I
Speaker 1: brought lobster over here. I was like, bro, if you
Speaker 1: don't get the hell out of my house, the hell
Speaker 1: out of my house. Okay. So that's when I knew
Speaker 1: he wasn't the one. But the food was good. The
Speaker 1: food was good, Okay, but yes, he wasn't worth the lobster.
Speaker 1: Don like, who does that? Well, I guess he thought
Speaker 1: he was like charming you and he was winding and died.
Speaker 1: He he charmed my stomach, not my panties coming off. Okay,
Speaker 1: there's two different things the effort. Now, look he made lobster.
Speaker 1: Who says that, though who says I did? This is
Speaker 1: not transaction actual, so he was basically making it transactional.
Speaker 1: And that's I didn't like, Look, how long were you
Speaker 1: dating him? Okay? So this was not long, maybe like
Speaker 1: two weeks. I was like, buddy, get out of here.
Speaker 1: And this is when I was like a straight up
Speaker 1: hot girl. I had like men's from everywhere, Like like
Speaker 1: back in the day, it was good if you had
Speaker 1: a millionaire, not a billionaire. Okay, I had all kinds
Speaker 1: of millionaires coming at me, and all you can bring
Speaker 1: me is a lobster Like, no, you weren't impressed. No,
Speaker 1: I was not impressed, and you were not getting you
Speaker 1: were not getting the booty? All right? You got one
Speaker 1: that is Oh wait a minute, where this is a
Speaker 1: good one. He wasn't the one. This girl knew he
Speaker 1: wasn't the one when he called out mom during sex?
Speaker 1: What what her ears weren't clean? Ain't no mom, ain't
Speaker 1: no it. Okay, w have you ever called out somebody's
Speaker 1: the wrong name? I have? Really? Yes? Okay, So what happened?
Speaker 1: I was bad? It was so bad. So was it
Speaker 1: like a person that you were like in a relationship
Speaker 1: with kind of sort of and so okay, we were
Speaker 1: done right. We were just like into bed chilling and
Speaker 1: I called him, I like looked him dead in his face.
Speaker 1: I'm the worst. So I was like, oh shit, so
Speaker 1: you know how you know? You you messed up like
Speaker 1: a name that he was like familiar with. H God.
Speaker 1: So he got up and he left the bed, and
Speaker 1: he like went and tinkered around in the kitchen or
Speaker 1: something and came back. And then I was just I
Speaker 1: didn't say anything right, And I remember the next day
Speaker 1: I had to get on the flight and come and
Speaker 1: come home. So I sat down on my little flight
Speaker 1: and there was a white guy sitting next to me.
Speaker 1: I said, let me ask you a question. So I
Speaker 1: called the dude the wrong name. Should I bring it
Speaker 1: up and apologize? He said no, really, He told me,
Speaker 1: do not bring it up. If he's mad about it,
Speaker 1: he will bring it up and don't say nothing. And
Speaker 1: I did that, and then like a week later he
Speaker 1: brought he brought it up. Yes, he was like, don't
Speaker 1: you ever call me that name again? Oh my god.
Speaker 1: But he didn't bring it up in that moment. I
Speaker 1: would think he would have just no, He like, let
Speaker 1: it go. I think he didn't know how to respond.
Speaker 1: So yeah, So thank you, miss Lane's white man on
Speaker 1: the plane who helped me out in that. Why do
Speaker 1: I have too many stories about this? You have time
Speaker 1: because you because you do with lots today eating. Yes,
Speaker 1: I do, and I know when they're not right. You
Speaker 1: do lots of dating. Okay, Okay, let's say, um, I
Speaker 1: remember read this one. She starts off with some praise
Speaker 1: for us. I'm gonna read that too, because we appreciate.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, high ladies. I just want to start off
Speaker 1: by saying, I'm a huge fan of you two and
Speaker 1: I just beend your podcast. I love both of you all,
Speaker 1: but I really relate to robbing. She's so chill, cater No,
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. Yes, Robin is amazing.
Speaker 1: She's so chill, but pops off when her chill energy
Speaker 1: and peace is disturbed. I am very much like that,
Speaker 1: but Giselle has my mouth piece. She's very blunt, honest
Speaker 1: and opinionated and stands on it every time. She says
Speaker 1: what people are afraid to say. Yeah, she's saying what
Speaker 1: y'all thinking in y'all head chicken to say it right?
Speaker 1: All right? We love you, Thank you Nissy for that.
Speaker 1: So she tells me that I knew my person was
Speaker 1: not the one when I realized they were a narcissist
Speaker 1: and manipulating me to think I wasn't valuable and couldn't
Speaker 1: do anything right. So I left and divorced them nine
Speaker 1: years ago rediscovered my value to know the new men
Speaker 1: have peace again. So Nisy, congratulations to you. You know
Speaker 1: it's never too late, you know. So it sounds like
Speaker 1: you were married to this person. They did not value you.
Speaker 1: They made you feel less than But congrats, hats off
Speaker 1: to you for knowing your worth, knowing who you are,
Speaker 1: making that change, and and putting one ft in front
Speaker 1: of the other. Okay, so let I want to talk.
Speaker 1: Everybody uses the word narcissist, like what is exactly? Like?
Speaker 1: I do understand that it means like you can only
Speaker 1: think of yourself, right, but I mean, hey, why are
Speaker 1: we're on the topic. Let me just let me Okay, good,
Speaker 1: I don't want to speak out of you know, I
Speaker 1: don't want to be incorey, yes, but because I mean
Speaker 1: I feel like a little narcissism and everyone isn't bad, right,
Speaker 1: Like you do need to think about yourself and think
Speaker 1: about what makes you happy and make sure that you
Speaker 1: think about like yeah, but it's more like these are
Speaker 1: more toxic traits. So yeah, so narcissism um personality qualities
Speaker 1: include thinking very highly of oneself, needing admiration, believing others
Speaker 1: are inferior, and lacking empathy for others. Okay, so the
Speaker 1: first two things I'm not mad at thinking highly of
Speaker 1: oneself and needing admiration. Well, every now and again, give
Speaker 1: me a little clap plan. But the third one, right,
Speaker 1: believing others are inferiors, that's the problem. And lacking empathy
Speaker 1: for others. Yeah, those two, those last two are a problem.
Speaker 1: They also are self centered. They have arrogant thinking and behavior.
Speaker 1: I don't like that. Um again, a lack of empathy
Speaker 1: and consideration for other people, and and excessive need for admiration. Okay, yeah.
Speaker 1: Others often describe people with narcissistic personality disorder as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing,
Speaker 1: and demanding. So do we know anyone like that? Um? Yeah,
Speaker 1: we know. Yeah, problem, but she just caught herself real quick. No, no,
Speaker 1: but no, Like, so a narcissist, it's really like the
Speaker 1: world revolves around them and they think that they are
Speaker 1: They either think that they're like the best thing on
Speaker 1: earth or they want to be perceived as the best
Speaker 1: thing on earth. And I believe that they feel like
Speaker 1: if it's not their way, it ain't right. Right. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's unfortunate. So being with a narcissist someone and
Speaker 1: it's just like it's just it's like an extreme personality
Speaker 1: where they're like so stubborn you can't even like, you know,
Speaker 1: rationalize with that person because they think so highly of
Speaker 1: themselves and they think the world like when they think
Speaker 1: the world revolves around them. Right, Okay, So one thing
Speaker 1: I knew side note two things. One, I knew that
Speaker 1: this dude was not for me when we would get
Speaker 1: on elevators and he would talk to people just I
Speaker 1: think you said this one I mentioned that before he
Speaker 1: would like have conversations with other people an elevator. That
Speaker 1: drove me crazy. That's because you're a narcissist and you
Speaker 1: wanted the only talk to you. Yes, talk to me,
Speaker 1: all right, all right, we got another one. Okay, so
Speaker 1: this woman said she knew he wasn't the one when
Speaker 1: he bought me a kid's meal. Listen, if, first of all,
Speaker 1: if you're taking my to McDonald's and we want to
Speaker 1: drive through right once we get there, if you don't
Speaker 1: even ask me if I want from a meal from
Speaker 1: the grown folks section, that's a problem. Now. Was that
Speaker 1: because he was trying to send a message and say
Speaker 1: you only need to eat a kid's meal, you don't
Speaker 1: need all this value big meal or is it because
Speaker 1: he was cheap? I don't know. She did not give
Speaker 1: that information, but either one is not good. If either
Speaker 1: one you you were not a friend of mine, You've
Speaker 1: got to go behind you fast food. Yes, yes, okay,
Speaker 1: So this one, she says, she's told this dude, I
Speaker 1: lost my aunt. She had just passed away. She said,
Speaker 1: I lost my aunt. And he said, I hope you
Speaker 1: found her. He said, I hope you find her. Listen,
Speaker 1: some people are just air heads. He didn't really mean that.
Speaker 1: He just was confused to the terminology. He's dumbest ship. No,
Speaker 1: that there's like, you don't have to be a rocket scientists,
Speaker 1: you don't have to be you know, lawyer, nothing, but
Speaker 1: that dude was dumb as ship. Oh my god. Now
Speaker 1: I hope you find her. Unless he's like, you know,
Speaker 1: not from America, and that's like our terminology. I don't know, Yes,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. But that's definitely like,
Speaker 1: oh no, you can't be with me anymore. You're out
Speaker 1: of here, buddy, You're out of here. Okay, who child? Okay,
Speaker 1: I have I had one more? Do you have any more?
Speaker 1: You keep going okay, So this is this is okay?
Speaker 1: The one I have is just he cheated on me.
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, is that a deal breaker? I have
Speaker 1: we talked. We've talked about that and we said, oh lifestyle,
Speaker 1: we we I mean it was it's like you said
Speaker 1: you would give them a second chance, right, And it
Speaker 1: depends on like, okay, is it like just physical as
Speaker 1: an emotional is it whatever? Blah blah blah. There's a
Speaker 1: lot of factors involved. But it's funny. I'll just say
Speaker 1: this one I read so this person was pledging for
Speaker 1: her sorority and he was cheating. And I'm just tell
Speaker 1: you this that happened to me too. Uh not robbing
Speaker 1: was pledged. Doubts the wines, I get the streets because
Speaker 1: but it was because all of a sudden, like he's
Speaker 1: used to just having me, you know, to himself, and
Speaker 1: I'm there all the time. And when you pledge, like
Speaker 1: you gone, they don't you. First of all, you have
Speaker 1: to be so discreet, you're not telling them what's going on,
Speaker 1: and you're gone, and they're like, oh, come, you can
Speaker 1: come over, and you're like, oh, I can't. I don't
Speaker 1: know when I can come. I mean it was just
Speaker 1: like you know, like for him, it was a lot
Speaker 1: to adjust to andy lonely and I'm not making expenses,
Speaker 1: but I was pledging it. He cheated. That ain't new listen,
Speaker 1: Robin said, that's what they all do. Okay, so you
Speaker 1: should have kept it. They can't handle it. They can't Okay,
Speaker 1: the new found the time. All this time you have
Speaker 1: you spending away from him, right, okay, this this is
Speaker 1: my last one. When she knew he was not the one,
Speaker 1: when he got mad because I cooked my bacon in
Speaker 1: the oven instead it on the stove. Mad. He was hot,
Speaker 1: he said, he said, I want my bakon, I want
Speaker 1: my baking. I want to I want to cook. Right
Speaker 1: he wanted. He wanted it on the stove. We didn't
Speaker 1: want it in the oven. Now, mind you, I cooked
Speaker 1: my bacon in the oven. Yeah, I'll do it both ways.
Speaker 1: It just takes so long in the oven because well,
Speaker 1: first of all, it takes long for the oven to
Speaker 1: heat up. That's the part. Like I don't feel like
Speaker 1: waiting for the oven. Okay, but I mean I feel
Speaker 1: like bacon on the stove it like smokes up the
Speaker 1: whole house. But I feel like the oven can smoke
Speaker 1: up the house too. No, it's like contained to the oven. Okay,
Speaker 1: maybe you got a bad oven. It's like I don't
Speaker 1: have a bad oven. One time I cooked bacon in
Speaker 1: the oven and my whole house was smoky. Oh, I
Speaker 1: get something wrong. Something something happened right, Okay, But I
Speaker 1: like it both ways. I just don't like waiting for
Speaker 1: the oven to heat up. I kind of put it
Speaker 1: in there. Okay. So let's say I put the oven
Speaker 1: on fift. The oven could be on two hundred. I'm
Speaker 1: throwing that bacon in and it's just gonna heat up
Speaker 1: as the You know it's gonna cook as the oven
Speaker 1: heats up. Yes, um, But but I get it like
Speaker 1: little things I remember, um. So I would make waffles
Speaker 1: or pancakes all the time, and I can't say this
Speaker 1: about this Jamal Bryant. We do love Jamal Bran for
Speaker 1: who he is. But he was like, where where the meat?
Speaker 1: He was like, I can't eat pancakes with i't meat?
Speaker 1: Oh God. I'm like, well I don't. I didn't cook
Speaker 1: any meat that because if you don't cook the bacon
Speaker 1: way before, like the pancakes on the waffles, it's the timing.
Speaker 1: So I had forgotten. So I was like, well, we
Speaker 1: don't have no meat today. It's me. It's meatless. So
Speaker 1: he felt he felt he felt like the pancakes weren't
Speaker 1: gonna be good. That's why they're right. But some people
Speaker 1: are like they have to have certain things with certain things.
Speaker 1: That is true. But but yeah, I mean the he
Speaker 1: but he got mad. I mean like, oh, but you know,
Speaker 1: it's expand your horizons. Horizons. Yes, for the love of God,
Speaker 1: you know. I had a UM dude and he remember
Speaker 1: back in the day when UM guys started like twisting
Speaker 1: the top of their hair. Yeah, I didn't like that.
Speaker 1: He had to go, wait, do you have a grown man?
Speaker 1: What's doing that? Like what Corey does? Wait? Wait not no, now,
Speaker 1: now the kids do the sponge thing, right, This was
Speaker 1: like it was like glue and not glue. It was um,
Speaker 1: what do you call Gael? It was Jael, You're just
Speaker 1: sitting in the dry air. It was. It was a
Speaker 1: whole lot going on. I said, no, that's like that
Speaker 1: was too much. Yeah, that's just just cut it, just
Speaker 1: keep it low, just keep it like this is in
Speaker 1: my twenties. I was I was all over the place
Speaker 1: this one dude. Okay, never mind, I'm done. I'm really okay. Fine,
Speaker 1: So I get to the club. He's in there with
Speaker 1: his um, his boys and he knew I was coming.
Speaker 1: That's you had the story be from. He knew I
Speaker 1: was coming with my girlfriend. I walk in and he's like,
Speaker 1: has a girl like on his lap, and so I
Speaker 1: was like, hi, Gezelle's here, and he was like, no,
Speaker 1: that's just my friend, Like she's not anybody. So I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, well you can date her now because
Speaker 1: you're not dating me because somebody was sitting on your
Speaker 1: lap when I walked into the WASO. Yes, yes, he's
Speaker 1: still apiologizing to that, to this. Really, he regrets it.
Speaker 1: He regrets the one that got away. I'm oh, I
Speaker 1: have famously the one that got away from like so
Speaker 1: many dudes because I broke up with them too fast. Wait,
Speaker 1: all right, we gotta go ro look at dr episode
Speaker 1: is over. Okay, okay, listen. We truly appreciate y'all listening
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