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Speaker 1: This is the almost famous podcast with iHeart Radio. Hi Bob,

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Speaker 1: how are you? Hi, Trista, I'm fantastic. How are you today?

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Speaker 1: I'm doing okay even though it's a blizzard outside, but

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Speaker 1: you know, yeah, that's Colorado for you, at least in

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Speaker 1: slight and fluffy snow like I think powder when I

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Speaker 1: think of Colorado. When I think of Michigan stell lately,

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Speaker 1: I think of like an ice, like black ice. Yeah. Well,

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Speaker 1: one thing to brighten our day is the fact that

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Speaker 1: we both get to talk to Ashley today. I'm so excited.

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Speaker 1: I'm excited too. I can't wait to have her on

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Speaker 1: talk about an og, talk about Yeah, I'm excited. Hi

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Speaker 1: are hi? Beautiful Trista, I kind of feel like you

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Speaker 1: and I look at like a little bit like maybe. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so seriously, I feel like when You're a Bachelor and

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Speaker 1: Bachelorette came out, so many people wrote me saying that

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Speaker 1: we were twins. Oh yeah, so many people. And I

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Speaker 1: take it as a huge compliment obviously, but yes, I've

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Speaker 1: always thought we look alike. I feel yes, it's like

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Speaker 1: maybe the shape of horse name, I don't know, and

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Speaker 1: we're just teeny, just teeny little pocket size mind size people.

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Speaker 1: I love it. How are you? Ye? Work great? How

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Speaker 1: are you? I'm so excited. So Bob doesn't know this,

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Speaker 1: but I am going to Miami tomorrow, Bob with Blakeslee

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Speaker 1: because we're having a Miami Dancer alumni reunion. Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: how I mean, I'm so freaking nervous because I'm going

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Speaker 1: to be dancing on the court at halftime at the

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Speaker 1: next game. But yes, I know. Actually I'm done. I'm done.

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Speaker 1: But I'm beautiful too. It's like summer's coming. You can

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Speaker 1: feel it. The sun's just PERI actually so excited to

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Speaker 1: not be in New York right now, given the way

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Speaker 1: the weather's hit in New York for so many years.

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Speaker 1: Like I feel like my childhood and my previous life

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Speaker 1: never You know something about Florida that's just so beautiful,

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Speaker 1: And I think it's important for people to just find

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Speaker 1: a place that makes them feel happy every day. Like

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Speaker 1: look outside. There's so much beauty, There's so much just

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Speaker 1: like once you find a place where, no matter what's

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Speaker 1: It just brings me so much happiness. I know, it's

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Speaker 1: really important to me. So I love that. I like

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Speaker 1: hearing that too. That's very lovely. Well, the reason I

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Speaker 1: brought up the heat thing is because I might get

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Speaker 1: to see Ashley in person. I know, um, so hopefully

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Speaker 1: it works out, but if not, it's business schedule yours too.

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Speaker 1: You know, we're just busy, like non stop. Soccer and

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Speaker 1: dance and basketball. Are those the things? Soccer in basketball

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Speaker 1: for forty and he's a dancer, acro yes, tell us,

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Speaker 1: tell us all the things about the kiddos. Okay, so well,

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Speaker 1: you know Ford is very athletic. So Ford is a

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Speaker 1: lot of things. He's very athletic. He likes to move around,

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Speaker 1: really great at every sport. I have to say, amazing.

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Speaker 1: games every weekend sometimes both days. It was too much.

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Speaker 1: And that's I'll speak for myself. Sometimes I feel like

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Speaker 1: we have to fill our kids' schedules with saving things.

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Speaker 1: To me, feel like we're amazing parents for doing all

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Speaker 1: But also I think the kids need a freaking break. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the stages. It's just once they find what they love,

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Speaker 1: it's intense. So those moments of relaxation and just chilling out,

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Speaker 1: I was like, that is awesome. We would be such

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Speaker 1: great friends with Ashley if we live near her. Well,

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Speaker 1: you know, I try to be cool and normal. They

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Speaker 1: can do they do? They know about the show? The kids? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: But I just don't think they've never watched this show.

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Speaker 1: So they don't understand the complexity. They don't understand that

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Speaker 1: they don't will they don't care. They don't know. If

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Speaker 1: if it has to happen, I mean, you know the

423
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,720
Speaker 1: way you handled it. I mean I probably couldn't have

424
00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:18,760
Speaker 1: been handled any better. I'm sure. Yeah, I mean we're

425
00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:21,199
Speaker 1: not perfect, but I feel like we really did a

426
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 1: pretty good job. Yeah, yeah, it seems like it. So

427
00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:29,200
Speaker 1: do you feel like Ford was able to process it

428
00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:35,120
Speaker 1: because he saw the way you guys were treating each other.

429
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:38,200
Speaker 1: So that's what everybody, you know, if I ever tell

430
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:41,080
Speaker 1: that story, that's pretty much what the tailor day they observed.

431
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 1: And kids are very smart, So maybe the answer is yes.

432
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:46,280
Speaker 1: But one thing about JP and I is like we're

433
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:50,640
Speaker 1: not fighters, Like we're behind closed doors. We just would

434
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:54,240
Speaker 1: have conversations and it would be tense, but we were

435
00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 1: never like me. Yeah, no, I totally get that mentioned too.

436
00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:02,920
Speaker 1: There's a possibility about you know that you're right about that.

437
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 1: Maybe he sensed it, Yeah, because I feel like when

438
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:09,880
Speaker 1: Ryan and I argue we're not fighters either, Like, especially

439
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 1: in front of the kids. If we're going to have

440
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:14,200
Speaker 1: a conversation and we know it's going to be you know,

441
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 1: it's going to get heated a little bit. Then we'll

442
00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:20,160
Speaker 1: make sure we're private in a bathroom with the door

443
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: closed and the fan on or something. You know. Um,

444
00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:26,760
Speaker 1: but I feel like anytime I wear it on my face,

445
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 1: like you can see if I'm upset on my face,

446
00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:34,720
Speaker 1: Like Blakesley especially is very part of me in tune

447
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,760
Speaker 1: with that, and she'll be like, Mom, are you okay? Mom?

448
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 1: What's right? Like? Mom, are you okay? Um? Yeah, yeah,

449
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:46,120
Speaker 1: I get it. I think they can sense that you're right,

450
00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:49,640
Speaker 1: like kids just sense what's going on. So maybe he

451
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 1: understood that. I remember when my parents got divorced and

452
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 1: they sat me down and you know the same thing.

453
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:59,919
Speaker 1: You know, we're It's just it's better for everybody involved.

454
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:04,440
Speaker 1: And I think you're right, Like, divorce happens, and you

455
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 1: can still live a happy life after divorce. And obviously

456
00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 1: it was an incredible thing that you and JP met

457
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 1: on the show and were able to have, you know,

458
00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 1: these two beautiful kids and they have a super happy life.

459
00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 1: It seems like so you know, I am all. I

460
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:25,840
Speaker 1: am always of the belief that everything happens for a reason.

461
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:28,400
Speaker 1: And I don't know if you feel that way, but

462
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:32,679
Speaker 1: I you know, like I don't failure. People are like

463
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 1: oh it's a failure and success stories yeah, well does

464
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:40,880
Speaker 1: not mean you're still together like that to get out

465
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 1: of our heads, because the success story is spending time

466
00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:47,359
Speaker 1: with someone that brings out the best in you, somebody

467
00:26:47,359 --> 00:26:50,239
Speaker 1: that teaches you things about life, somebody that you know

468
00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 1: creates another life with you like that success. So I

469
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:58,960
Speaker 1: threw story. Yeah, yeah, I was gonna say you're a

470
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: success ready for Florida and see, you know what it's

471
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:04,879
Speaker 1: like that in and of itself, those two beautiful kids

472
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:07,479
Speaker 1: who are just having a blast and you know, enjoying

473
00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:10,119
Speaker 1: their life and at the beach while my kids are

474
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:16,119
Speaker 1: fighting off an ice storm. You know, my kids I

475
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:18,399
Speaker 1: think would feel like much more successful if they were

476
00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:23,280
Speaker 1: hanging out in Miami right now. Hemmy everybody else's not

477
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 1: as well, right, But so much has happened to you

478
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 1: recently too. Now you obviously moved to Miami, but then

479
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:31,400
Speaker 1: you start your own business, you start your own practice

480
00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:34,639
Speaker 1: and go next level there too. So that's going to

481
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 1: be exciting, very exciting. So that has been so I. Yeah.

482
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:41,119
Speaker 1: So I worked as a pediatric dentist here in Miami

483
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,439
Speaker 1: for almost seven years at an office and then I

484
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:47,240
Speaker 1: decided to open up my own office, and it has been,

485
00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:51,160
Speaker 1: first off, such a blessing, the greatest blessing of my

486
00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 1: life really, besides the kids obviously, but yeah, right, really right, yeah,

487
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 1: you got it, yes, but just such a great blessing.

488
00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 1: It's taught me so much. Being a business owner is

489
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 1: very challenging, and there's a lot more. You know, it's

490
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 1: very stressful because I'm a perfectionist, so I like everything

491
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:18,879
Speaker 1: to be perfect, everything to be running a specific way. Everything, Like,

492
00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:22,840
Speaker 1: I'm very hands on. I'm very hands on a perfection

493
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:25,960
Speaker 1: So that's been the most challenging part is just being

494
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 1: able to control my obsession with perfection. I hear that.

495
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 1: But it's been I mean, it's been a blessing. I'm

496
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 1: so happy that I First off, I'm happy that I

497
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 1: was able to open up my own office because not

498
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:44,560
Speaker 1: everybody is able to. So so yeah, it's been great.

499
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:48,959
Speaker 1: It's been awesome. Question always texts me, call me whatever.

500
00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 1: Here's Oh my gosh, Actually I do I mean, seriously,

501
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,800
Speaker 1: I don't know. Okay, what is the one tip to

502
00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 1: get your kids to brush their teeth? Motivation is very hard, right,

503
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 1: I think that's the most challenging thing. So, first off,

504
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 1: for kids, for people that have little kids is to

505
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 1: spit them off early and be very consistent with the

506
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:19,040
Speaker 1: brushing in their routine. Well, they're especially just to your

507
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:23,880
Speaker 1: kids kids ages, it's more challenging, but I think it's

508
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 1: all about first off, reminding them right, making access to

509
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 1: the supply is easy, and all about routine. It's all

510
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 1: about routine, Like kids love routine. I don't know if

511
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:37,719
Speaker 1: your kids do specific things every night, mind do in

512
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 1: a specific order and brushing in there so as we

513
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:44,320
Speaker 1: can as they get older, I'm just going to continue that.

514
00:29:44,480 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 1: Sure things can change, the order can change, but for

515
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: my kids, it's a non negotiable, Like it's a non negotiable.

516
00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:54,800
Speaker 1: They have to brush, they have to philosophy times a week,

517
00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 1: like at nine time, absolutely morning and night. Like I'm

518
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:01,400
Speaker 1: kind of crazy about that. It's like taking a shower. Yeah,

519
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 1: I think enforcing it, reminding, making as access easy, and

520
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 1: trying to be really consistent and regimented with them. Yeah.

521
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 1: So I have a specific one. So I have a

522
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 1: four year old who I got it pretty good with

523
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 1: the brushing. I used a little pop patrol, the little

524
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 1: pop Patrol battery operating toothbrush. But is it too early

525
00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:32,720
Speaker 1: to flow, and he's never too early to floss, right.

526
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:34,760
Speaker 1: I can't get him to do the floss, so I

527
00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 1: do the little tooth picky thingis yeah, okay, okay. So

528
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:42,520
Speaker 1: let me tell you so, usually kids under the age

529
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:45,120
Speaker 1: of four, all of their teeth are spaced out. There's

530
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:48,040
Speaker 1: a space in between all their teeth where the toothbrush

531
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 1: reaches in there. So honestly, technically you don't have to

532
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:54,280
Speaker 1: at that point. But at the age of four, the

533
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:57,600
Speaker 1: back two molars in all four corners of the mouth

534
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: they start to touch. That's just developed. The adult teothy're

535
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 1: pushing in pushing forward, so they push them together. As

536
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: soon as they're touching, you need to floss in there,

537
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 1: so check it's the back four. If anything touching in

538
00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 1: the front, I would flos in there too. I love

539
00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 1: the little floss sticks, but you have to do it

540
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 1: for them because at four they just don't have that

541
00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 1: deck stery. They can probably do it. Yeah, you really

542
00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:22,960
Speaker 1: do need to do the back and what I recommend

543
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:26,720
Speaker 1: doing is dipping your floster in toothpaste and flossing the

544
00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: toothpaste in between. Because toothpaste has something that they have

545
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 1: to bacterial. It helps a strengthen in between your teeth

546
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 1: and believe it or not, that's where kids in my experience,

547
00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:39,920
Speaker 1: especially like six, seven, eight years old, get cavities. It's

548
00:31:39,960 --> 00:31:43,800
Speaker 1: in between those baby molars. Yes, I love you at it.

549
00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:47,960
Speaker 1: Thank you. I have never heard that before. Love it.

550
00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 1: We're doing We're going crazy. We're helping people, helping people

551
00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 1: want tooth at a time. Here, I you need guys, anything, Okay, Well,

552
00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 1: what I want to know is tell me about the

553
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 1: new love. Tell me about is it Yannie or is

554
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:07,320
Speaker 1: that how you pronounce his name? Yeah, so I knew.

555
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 1: It's just that you're just waiting. You're like, I'm just waiting.

556
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 1: Scoop in there. Okay, this isn't fun. I mean to

557
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 1: know to know. So I love this story because it's

558
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:29,440
Speaker 1: so funny. Okay, I get divorced. It's a year after JP,

559
00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:33,640
Speaker 1: a year and a few months after JP and I separate. Okay, Okay,

560
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 1: it's my birthday. My friend plans a dinner for me, okay.

561
00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 1: Looking to make a reservation. She knows this guy from

562
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:46,959
Speaker 1: from the hospital. He's a pharmaceutical ren so she knows him.

563
00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:50,360
Speaker 1: He's also kind of like a food influencer on the side,

564
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 1: so she kind of kind of big time. It iswallowing.

565
00:32:57,680 --> 00:33:01,080
Speaker 1: He's very dedicated to that. So anyway, so she's like, hey,

566
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:03,560
Speaker 1: let me see if I can get he can help

567
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:06,240
Speaker 1: me get a reservation or give recommendation. So they are

568
00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:09,320
Speaker 1: talking and whatever. He helps her get a reservation or

569
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:13,160
Speaker 1: something as a thank you, like, hey, thanks for helping me.

570
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:15,240
Speaker 1: Why don't you drop by at the dinner? It's me

571
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 1: and like nine girls. Yes, she's like where she's showing

572
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 1: me the guy, and I don't even think because I

573
00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:26,680
Speaker 1: look at him and I'm like, oh, like not really

574
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 1: doesn't seem like physically my type. I was not even

575
00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:33,120
Speaker 1: thinking there wasn't in that mindset at all, like at all. Yeah,

576
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 1: we're talking about hooking up with like hooking him up

577
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:38,360
Speaker 1: maybe with one of our other friends who single. Like

578
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 1: we're just like whatever. So we're sitting at the table,

579
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:45,719
Speaker 1: the night's almost over, and then I see this very handsome, tall,

580
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:49,640
Speaker 1: beautiful man walking. I swear it was like slow motion,

581
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 1: like I've never had you just gave me too. That's

582
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 1: not the guy. That's not the guy. And he sits

583
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 1: down and I'm like and I look at my friend.

584
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 1: Why was I not in the running roo? I know

585
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:10,319
Speaker 1: I knew divorce, but like, I don't get why you

586
00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:13,040
Speaker 1: didn't even think about Oh, Ashley, no, he's not your type,

587
00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:15,200
Speaker 1: like no, no, no, no, She's just like I never

588
00:34:15,239 --> 00:34:18,000
Speaker 1: would think of you with him, Like I never would.

589
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 1: So whatever, the night goes on. We finished dinner, we

590
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:23,359
Speaker 1: go to the bar, most of the girls leave. There's

591
00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 1: five drols that stick stick around four or five and

592
00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:30,319
Speaker 1: we're at the bar talking, drinking and we start, you know,

593
00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 1: like maybe I was being a little bit of a flirt.

594
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 1: I don't know, and then that's this history we have

595
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:43,080
Speaker 1: been together for like I guess April will be two years,

596
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:47,440
Speaker 1: so almost that's amazing. I'm looking at his post right

597
00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 1: now of like this incredible seafood ensemble and I'm like,

598
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 1: I just got to eat lunch today and I'm super

599
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:59,799
Speaker 1: hungry right now. The funnies. I've never met someone that's

600
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:03,000
Speaker 1: so dedicated to something like that. Like last night he

601
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 1: was over. He was posting from like seven thirty until

602
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 1: one in the morning. What Just like it's a lot

603
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:19,759
Speaker 1: of work, Like people think, yeah it is, Yeah, it's fun,

604
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:22,160
Speaker 1: but it's also a lot of work. And he's so

605
00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 1: so dedicated to I love that. Yeah, he's got three

606
00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:31,680
Speaker 1: million followers. That doesn't happen by accident, you know, and

607
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:35,240
Speaker 1: they're all authentic, Like he build it from one one followers.

608
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 1: That's amazing stuff. He's like authentically grew that account himself,

609
00:35:41,120 --> 00:35:43,759
Speaker 1: buying hand from one follower, So I think that's yeah.

610
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:48,040
Speaker 1: I love it so on all the restaurants and all

611
00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 1: the trips, that's amazing. I mean the trips, the trips

612
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 1: like old account couple, Italy trips here and there, right,

613
00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:02,760
Speaker 1: I remember Greece. Yeah, has to do it. Yeah, someone

614
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:04,520
Speaker 1: has to do it, and someone has to go along.

615
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:08,520
Speaker 1: I'll be your post one. I'll be sitting like by

616
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 1: cool eating my you know Glacamolean chip, having on and

617
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:20,600
Speaker 1: he's like, You're like, but it's so fun. I really

618
00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 1: it's It's been such a wonderful two years and I

619
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 1: can talk a lot. I could talk. I won't bore

620
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 1: you guys with this, but about like dating after marriage

621
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:32,920
Speaker 1: is so interesting, Yeah, because you're going into a relationship

622
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 1: with a completely different perspective. I like what you're right,

623
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 1: Because when you're young, you're like, whant you get married

624
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:40,760
Speaker 1: and don't have kids? What is he going to propose

625
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 1: going into a relationship without those types of expectations is

626
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:48,400
Speaker 1: such a thing because you really get to enjoy the

627
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:51,720
Speaker 1: moments and accept people who they are and the speed

628
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:54,359
Speaker 1: that they want to work at, and it's like it's

629
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:58,840
Speaker 1: so wonderful, it's really cool. It's really was he married

630
00:36:58,920 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 1: before he was actually for one year or around one year?

631
00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:09,000
Speaker 1: And is his wife still? Like? Are they they don't

632
00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:11,600
Speaker 1: have kids? Right, he doesn't have any kids. I'd be honest,

633
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:15,480
Speaker 1: I know nothing about her, Like I don't really name. Yeah,

634
00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:18,520
Speaker 1: you don't know her name. I don't know her name.

635
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:21,200
Speaker 1: I don't know anything because he's never told you or

636
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:24,640
Speaker 1: because you just don't remember. I'm just like, I don't know.

637
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,840
Speaker 1: Oh my god. It's different when you get divorced without kids.

638
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:31,680
Speaker 1: I mean I can speak to this because I've done it,

639
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 1: and other than other than if you are going to

640
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:37,319
Speaker 1: be moving in the same circles. Yeah, my ex wife

641
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:39,680
Speaker 1: and I, you know, are still very friendly because we

642
00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 1: have moved in a lot of the same circles. But

643
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:45,000
Speaker 1: it's like, there really isn't a reason to stay connected

644
00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:46,839
Speaker 1: to that person other than you know what I mean.

645
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:49,799
Speaker 1: With kids, there's definitely a reason. But when you don't

646
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:51,879
Speaker 1: have children, it's like if you choose to, that's great,

647
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:56,239
Speaker 1: but you know, right, yeah, yeah, yeah, I get that

648
00:37:56,600 --> 00:38:00,759
Speaker 1: because she's not like I don't know. I honestly don't know.

649
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 1: I've never even we've talked about it briefly, but like

650
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:07,400
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't even know her name. Like that,

651
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:10,839
Speaker 1: I need crazy met. You don't need to let me

652
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:15,279
Speaker 1: text him. I think that says a lot about the

653
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 1: confidence you have in your relationship, yet the type of

654
00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:19,600
Speaker 1: person to be like, well, I need to know all

655
00:38:19,640 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 1: of this and I need to be you know who's

656
00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 1: texting you. It's like, no, that's why I could text

657
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:25,000
Speaker 1: him and it's no big deal. You'd be like, oh,

658
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:27,800
Speaker 1: you guys are really funny story though on that topic,

659
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:30,520
Speaker 1: because I am very confident, Like that's one thing about

660
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:34,160
Speaker 1: him is he makes me feel like he's not. This

661
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 1: is really I don't know. I explained this. He's the

662
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:38,520
Speaker 1: type of guy he's not. He's not very woman focused,

663
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 1: Like I feel like he doesn't go out and like

664
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 1: look for women. Yeah, kind of to himself. And like

665
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 1: I once was at an event with him. I saw

666
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 1: this girl like kind of like looking at him, going

667
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 1: up to him, talking to him, and he just he

668
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:53,960
Speaker 1: doesn't even like it was or is it. But it's

669
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:56,239
Speaker 1: really funny. So I've always felt very confident. But when

670
00:38:56,239 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 1: we first started dating, he was on his phone all

671
00:39:00,640 --> 00:39:04,200
Speaker 1: the time in the middle of the night, and I'm

672
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:09,080
Speaker 1: because he was doing the foodye stuff, yes, and I'm like,

673
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 1: like I did have questions at that time, like why

674
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 1: are is three in the morning and you're on like

675
00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:16,759
Speaker 1: look up and he's on his phone like kind of

676
00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 1: turned it and I'm like like, is there something you

677
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:22,799
Speaker 1: need to tell me? Just to light in your eyes

678
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:26,440
Speaker 1: because I'm I'm posting, you know, And I'm don't really

679
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 1: sad because I would like think something was not all

680
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:34,160
Speaker 1: the time you'd be like, no, I'm just posting. I'm

681
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 1: sorry about it. And that was funny because he's on

682
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:41,640
Speaker 1: his phone all the time. So I was thinking like

683
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 1: maybe something but right, So, because both of you have

684
00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:49,240
Speaker 1: been divorced, have you thought about what are your thoughts

685
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 1: on marriage in the future. Okay, So when I first

686
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 1: got divorced, I was like, no, I'll never get married

687
00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:57,320
Speaker 1: again because I don't have to really. Yeah, totally, we

688
00:39:57,560 --> 00:40:01,000
Speaker 1: didn't feel like it didn't makes sense for me. I

689
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 1: think with having kids already and like having a business

690
00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 1: and like maybe more assets, Like I felt like it

691
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 1: was going to be complicated, okay, But so I was

692
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 1: very like, oh, I'll never get married again, Noah, girl powers,

693
00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 1: sing over whatever whatever in a relationship. And people didn't

694
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:22,680
Speaker 1: agree with me. But I understand because I think people

695
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 1: when they're in a relationship, they want that commitment. It's

696
00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:27,440
Speaker 1: not so much about the marriage, but they want that

697
00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:31,960
Speaker 1: level of commitment. So for me, I don't want to

698
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 1: get married as long as we're both at the same

699
00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 1: level of commitment for now, I think I'm very happy

700
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:41,400
Speaker 1: with as long as we stay committed and you know,

701
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:44,120
Speaker 1: things are going well. I don't think that that'll ever change.

702
00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:47,640
Speaker 1: But yeah, you know, I mean I don't know. I

703
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:49,799
Speaker 1: don't know. You're not opposed to it, which is nice,

704
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:52,399
Speaker 1: and you're open to the relationship element, which is she's

705
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 1: opposed to look at that face I learn about marriage.

706
00:40:56,600 --> 00:40:59,440
Speaker 1: I feel like it's weird that, like the dad walks

707
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:02,160
Speaker 1: the woman in down the aisle and then he gives

708
00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:06,960
Speaker 1: the woman to the man. It feels uncome So yeah,

709
00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:10,440
Speaker 1: my personal opinion, I don't need a man panting, like

710
00:41:10,600 --> 00:41:12,839
Speaker 1: going from one man to another man, Like I'm all

711
00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:18,840
Speaker 1: set that I like them all set. I'm all set.

712
00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 1: I respect everybody's beliefs totally, culture and tradition. It just

713
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:28,319
Speaker 1: is probably not for me. Yeah, I hear that, so

714
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 1: would you. Well, I guess it doesn't even matter. I'm

715
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 1: not even gonna ask it. But I feel like when

716
00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:36,839
Speaker 1: I got married, the tradition part was really important to me.

717
00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:41,920
Speaker 1: And you're right, like after we got married, I still

718
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:45,600
Speaker 1: have this regret that I didn't involve my mom as

719
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:50,239
Speaker 1: much because of the tradition. So, like you know, like

720
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:52,840
Speaker 1: you said, it's tradition for the dad to walk the

721
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:56,319
Speaker 1: bride down the aisle, and I had my dad do that,

722
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 1: and then I had my dad gave like the speech

723
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:03,399
Speaker 1: at the reception and my mom and I. I mean

724
00:42:03,680 --> 00:42:07,600
Speaker 1: when my parents divorced in fifth grade, so I lived

725
00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 1: with my mom, so I saw my dad like every

726
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 1: other weekend. Um. But I mean, I for I was

727
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 1: really being raised by my mom, you know, just because

728
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:22,320
Speaker 1: we lived together. And I really it's a big regret

729
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:24,560
Speaker 1: of mine to not have involved my mom as much.

730
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 1: So I get that. I totally understand. Every time I

731
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:30,360
Speaker 1: got married, I did it better and better. It's like

732
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 1: my last one. Every time I got married. I gotta

733
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: do it every show. Trista, No, I was gonna say,

734
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:43,960
Speaker 1: I don't know your history. So you were married, divorced, remarried.

735
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 1: So here's my history in a nutshell. Everything comes back

736
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:53,479
Speaker 1: to Trista basically for handing me. Hear this, she kicked

737
00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:58,040
Speaker 1: me to the curb, so im so. I actually so,

738
00:42:58,239 --> 00:43:02,319
Speaker 1: I was a well twenty three year old touring music.

739
00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:04,359
Speaker 1: I sent a record deal right on college and I

740
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 1: did the cliche she cliche thing where you marry a model, okay,

741
00:43:08,320 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 1: and we were married and divorced within a year because

742
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:12,680
Speaker 1: I went on tour with Matchbox twenty as the opener,

743
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:15,080
Speaker 1: and I basically by the time I came home, I

744
00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 1: realized that I really wasn't married anymore. So that was awesome.

745
00:43:18,120 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 1: And then and then a few years later, I end

746
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:25,480
Speaker 1: up on Tristmas season right, and then she, you know,

747
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:31,040
Speaker 1: she rolled the dice with this Ryan character, and thankfully,

748
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:33,799
Speaker 1: you know, because of me endorsing him, they worked out.

749
00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:37,920
Speaker 1: I actually really did. I think it's one of my

750
00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 1: favorite memories of talking to Tristo about how much I

751
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 1: loved Ryan. But while I was still on the show,

752
00:43:42,040 --> 00:43:44,880
Speaker 1: pus um and then um, you know, but it was

753
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 1: one of those things where you know, that was just

754
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 1: such an awesome couple. And then I got married after

755
00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 1: being on the show, and that one lasted it's like

756
00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:55,120
Speaker 1: six years, and then then we Splepp and now I've

757
00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:57,800
Speaker 1: been married every since. So yeah, so technically I should

758
00:43:57,800 --> 00:44:00,880
Speaker 1: have gotten annulment probably the first time, but um, I

759
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 1: was too busy traveling around and doing you know the history. Yeah,

760
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:09,319
Speaker 1: so anyway, but I will say to what you were to.

761
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 1: My point three is why even brought that up. Was

762
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:14,320
Speaker 1: my my wife and I got married in twenty sixteen,

763
00:44:15,360 --> 00:44:18,320
Speaker 1: and we got it right, you know, like our moms

764
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:25,719
Speaker 1: were our flower girls. My dad was my best man. Yeah,

765
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:28,880
Speaker 1: my sister was the matron of honor. My brother in

766
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 1: law was our reverend you know. Um, so it was

767
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:37,000
Speaker 1: like we really kind of invested in the in those things. Yeah,

768
00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 1: that's why I lost it. Yeah, so far, I'm just kidding.

769
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. I love you and Jess. You guys

770
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:53,320
Speaker 1: were just fine. Thank you. You're all set, as Ashley says,

771
00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:59,279
Speaker 1: you're all yes, I'm all set. I'm all well, Ashley.

772
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 1: We I've loved having you hear me, especially, love you

773
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:05,600
Speaker 1: so much. I just feel like whenever we get together,

774
00:45:06,640 --> 00:45:11,280
Speaker 1: I just I connect with you so so much. Anytime,

775
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:15,560
Speaker 1: I just actually adore you. Thank you so much for

776
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:18,640
Speaker 1: coming you, Tristo. I feel really connected to you. I

777
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,680
Speaker 1: always have thanks for coming. Hopefully I get to see

778
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:24,880
Speaker 1: you in a couple of days, so your schedule so

779
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:32,360
Speaker 1: we can, Okay, I will than I. She is so sweet. Ah,

780
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 1: she's the best. Love her, like, definitely one of my favorite.

781
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:39,520
Speaker 1: I hate that question, like who are your favorite Bachelor

782
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:42,319
Speaker 1: Nation people, because I feel like they're all children, you know,

783
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:46,319
Speaker 1: I can't pick a favorite, but she's definitely one of

784
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:48,600
Speaker 1: my favorites. I mean, one of my favorite memories. We

785
00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:54,080
Speaker 1: did this thing in New York um for we TV Bridezillas.

786
00:45:54,120 --> 00:45:55,719
Speaker 1: They used to have a show called Bridezillas and it

787
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:59,959
Speaker 1: was me, Yeah, me and her and Dez and Dianna

788
00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:03,319
Speaker 1: and I will never forget. We were at this bar

789
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:07,880
Speaker 1: and they started playing um like a Bruno Mars song Finesse,

790
00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:10,319
Speaker 1: and we were just in the It seemed like it

791
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 1: was like a like a pub. It wasn't like a club,

792
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:15,880
Speaker 1: it was like a pub. And we were just like

793
00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 1: We're just going to get out there and dance. And

794
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:20,839
Speaker 1: one of my favorite memories. Well, especially you being so

795
00:46:21,160 --> 00:46:23,840
Speaker 1: like such good dancers. I can only imagine you probably

796
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:26,239
Speaker 1: had some routines in common you'd throw out there in

797
00:46:26,239 --> 00:46:28,960
Speaker 1: the dais right. Oh. The thing is, I don't remember

798
00:46:29,000 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 1: stuff like I literally started learning these routines for this

799
00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:38,720
Speaker 1: weekend two days ago, and I Bob, I, I'm so old.

800
00:46:38,760 --> 00:46:41,040
Speaker 1: I go to bed like so sort of like rickety,

801
00:46:41,200 --> 00:46:49,520
Speaker 1: like my neck is killing me. I know, yeah, Blakeslee

802
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 1: should probably take a video. I'm sure Blakesley will be there.

803
00:46:55,239 --> 00:46:57,399
Speaker 1: I don't know, because she came to like the dance

804
00:46:57,400 --> 00:47:00,320
Speaker 1: studio that I'm rehearsing at, and she was a lively me.

805
00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:03,480
Speaker 1: I'm like, pleasly, Grace, you cannot laugh at your mother

806
00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:07,359
Speaker 1: back of the day, I could do this move right now.

807
00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:09,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take a slower row, like when I do

808
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 1: exercises at home, and they're like for those of you

809
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:13,719
Speaker 1: who can't keep up, you know, I'm like, that's me

810
00:47:13,920 --> 00:47:16,440
Speaker 1: because I cannot keep up what I need to totally

811
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:22,800
Speaker 1: all right, Thanks Bob, Thanks everybody, good right, everybody