WEBVTT - Dig Deep with XYZ: Sex Surrogates 0:00:01.080 --> 0:00:04.880 Hi, I'm Terry, I'm Andrea, and I'm Emerson And this 0:00:05.040 --> 0:00:10.119 is our x y Z bonus episode of desperately Devoted Congratulations. 0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:10.360 You made it to the bonus. 0:00:10.840 --> 0:00:14.240 We like to pick out something that felt like we 0:00:14.520 --> 0:00:16.479 should pay it a little bit more attention. A theme 0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:18.880 that came up in this week's episode that we want 0:00:18.880 --> 0:00:20.920 to discuss a little bit more that might have been 0:00:20.920 --> 0:00:21.800 a little bit juicy. 0:00:22.200 --> 0:00:25.320 And in this X y Z we are talking about 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:27.480 sexual surrogacy. 0:00:28.000 --> 0:00:28.920 And is it a thing? 0:00:29.200 --> 0:00:29.880 What the hell is that? 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:30.200 Even? 0:00:30.240 --> 0:00:30.440 Wait? 0:00:30.560 --> 0:00:31.080 Does that mean? 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:33.479 Because I needed a sexual surrogate to explain to me 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:34.879 what a sexual surrogate is. 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:39.479 But basically this, this is a real job where people 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:43.360 come in and teach couples that need help with their 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:47.440 sexuality together how to do it. And so it makes 0:00:47.479 --> 0:00:48.520 me how to do it right? 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:49.480 How to do it right? 0:00:49.520 --> 0:00:50.240 How to do it well? 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:53.400 I feel like I've just lowered my voice for this 0:00:53.560 --> 0:00:57.560 for this bonus sexy juicy episode. But in this episode, 0:00:57.640 --> 0:01:02.040 it was Bri and Rex that or exploring the idea 0:01:02.240 --> 0:01:04.800 of if they needed help to improve their sex life. So, 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:11.560 I mean, somebody start, how has everybody whoever needed help 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:12.600 with their sex life? 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:13.199 In this room. 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:17.399 Gotten it well, I think, I mean, thanks mom for 0:01:17.600 --> 0:01:18.240 kicking that. 0:01:18.160 --> 0:01:19.360 Question over way. 0:01:19.720 --> 0:01:22.360 Is this even legal to have this conversation with your 0:01:22.400 --> 0:01:23.000 own child. 0:01:23.360 --> 0:01:24.800 It's great. I think it's great. 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:27.399 It's great. I'm sorry, we'll find out. 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:30.720 I think it's important to have an open line of 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:34.120 dialogue with If you have that kind of relationship with 0:01:34.120 --> 0:01:35.840 your mom, which you guys do. You know, you have 0:01:35.880 --> 0:01:37.800 a lot of respect for each other, and you probably 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:40.720 feel like safe spaces for one another. And I always 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:44.640 appreciated my mom was very open minded with me with 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:47.400 having conversations. I think it's different. I hear my sisters, 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:49.760 my older sister's perspectives, and I think she got increasingly 0:01:49.800 --> 0:01:53.000 open minded. And I was the I benefited from being. 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:55.960 The youngest, and my mom never said anything. I mean, 0:01:56.040 --> 0:01:56.880 honestly like it. 0:01:57.800 --> 0:01:59.960 You have any idea what happen when you lost your virginity? 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:01.320 How did you learn that? No? 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:04.720 In fact, I think I didn't know what a condom was. 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:07.120 In fact, I think the first time I was going 0:02:07.200 --> 0:02:13.160 to have sex as a high school student in my parents' house, 0:02:13.760 --> 0:02:14.560 in their waterbed. 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:17.960 I love that you went to their bedroom. Well, it's 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:18.840 a bold move. 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:20.240 Yeah, I don't know what, Emerson. 0:02:20.280 --> 0:02:21.440 It was a waterbed, it was. 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:25.799 Yes, But I was looking for a condom because I had, 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:28.240 you know, I guess i'd been told from I don't know, 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:31.480 high school that you should have a condom, but I 0:02:31.520 --> 0:02:33.440 didn't know what they were or what they looked like. 0:02:33.480 --> 0:02:35.720 And so I was looking in my parents' drawers like 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:38.239 to see if there was anything. And still to this day, 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:41.200 I've never told this story to anyone. I found this 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:45.600 thing that was like a white like almost like a 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:48.600 band aid, like a like a like but like thicker 0:02:48.639 --> 0:02:51.120 than a band aid, but like about like I'm putting 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:52.840 my two fingers like. It was like maybe three or 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:55.920 four inches long, and it looked like and came in plastic, 0:02:56.040 --> 0:02:58.640 you know, like you would unwrap it. And I had it. 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:00.880 I had that you. I had it in my head 0:03:00.880 --> 0:03:03.160 that maybe you put it over the tip of the 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:06.440 penis like to keep the like you guys, this is 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:11.160 out inexperienced sex. So of course I didn't use that. 0:03:11.480 --> 0:03:13.880 And no, I didn't get a condom, so I didn't 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:14.560 use one. 0:03:14.720 --> 0:03:17.760 Oh my god, yeah, he didn't bring a condom. No, 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:20.640 you invited him into your parents' waterbud and he didn't 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:21.320 bring a condom. 0:03:21.960 --> 0:03:24.440 I don't remember parable. I just know that I'm lucky 0:03:24.520 --> 0:03:25.320 I got out alive. 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:29.239 That's all lucky. I'm here today to talk about any 0:03:29.280 --> 0:03:29.520 of it. 0:03:29.600 --> 0:03:32.720 If we're really going to examine my sexual history, it's 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:36.400 just you know, yeah, it's filled with error. 0:03:37.320 --> 0:03:37.520 Wow. 0:03:38.240 --> 0:03:39.440 Yeah. 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:43.560 Did you feel comfortable? Did you have conversations growing up 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:47.280 Emerson freely openly about sex and being curious about sex, 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:49.240 or did you feel any shame about talking about it 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:49.920 or embarrassment? 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:54.720 You know, I mean a combination of both of those things. 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:55.440 I think. 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:59.560 I feel like I did grow up generally between both 0:03:59.600 --> 0:04:04.840 my mom and dad, like in pretty sex positive, like 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:09.800 households that you know, didn't attach a lot of shame 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:12.320 to you know, even when even when you think about, 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:14.520 you know, parents who are uncomfortable, like sitting through a 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:17.800 sex scene in a movie with their kids, I feel 0:04:17.800 --> 0:04:21.760 like I always felt slightly more like that wasn't something 0:04:21.800 --> 0:04:24.839 that was horrible or abnormal, or like you couldn't, you know, 0:04:24.920 --> 0:04:26.640 do if that came up in a movie or something. 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:30.359 And I mean when I was really little, before any 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:34.960 feelings of sexuality really start to emerge, I feel like 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:38.599 I lived in a very naked positive house. I was like, 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:41.599 definitely the kid running around naked all the time. 0:04:41.880 --> 0:04:43.760 My parents actually did rend this song. 0:04:43.960 --> 0:04:46.320 Oh my god, I think I started at it and 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.600 beautiful and full of inspiration. 0:04:49.560 --> 0:04:50.080 Wow. 0:04:50.680 --> 0:04:53.520 So we we lived in New York at the time, 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:56.599 and she was like a little toddler and and she 0:04:56.720 --> 0:04:59.520 would run around and we would sing that. I think 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:00.080 I made that. 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:01.440 I'm pretty sure what a banger. 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:05.400 Yeah, pretty sure that came from me, and I do 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:07.279 I still sing that to myself. And I have to say, 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:10.960 I think that level of openness just around like body 0:05:11.120 --> 0:05:12.560 and you know, asking. 0:05:12.279 --> 0:05:14.440 Questions of like what is a vagina? Like what is 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:14.960 a penie? 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:15.080 Like? 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:19.120 I feel like those things were always talked about. That said, 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:23.640 I do think when I started to explore feel like 0:05:23.760 --> 0:05:26.719 more sexual feelings, you know when you're a preteen or 0:05:26.720 --> 0:05:28.920 whatever and you're like having your first kiss or whatever. 0:05:29.839 --> 0:05:31.160 I did feel a little. 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:33.440 Bit uncomfortable talking about that at home, not because anyone 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:36.120 said you can't talk about that, but because I think 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:38.919 it's a I empathize with the tightrope it is to 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:43.960 walk as a parent of what do you normalize and 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:46.760 how do you want to protect, you know, your kid 0:05:46.800 --> 0:05:49.360 from things you think that they're doing too soon. 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:50.679 It's totally a balance. 0:05:50.880 --> 0:05:53.480 Yeah, it's totally abalance if someone's too hyped, Like if 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:56.200 someone if my mom or my dad was like too positive, 0:05:56.560 --> 0:05:58.560 I would shut down for sure. I'd be like, this 0:05:58.600 --> 0:06:00.880 is mortifying. I don't but it's a if they were 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:03.840 they if they were totally closed door on it, then 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:06.360 I would I would hate that, right, So I do 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:07.359 think there's a balance. 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:10.480 Does do you remember I know, Okay, In our episode 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:14.839 of Desperately Devoted, I talked about a memory of being 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:17.640 in my early twenties and having a friend at some 0:06:17.720 --> 0:06:21.040 big party out in Malibu, being on the sand at 0:06:21.080 --> 0:06:24.359 a table and teaching a bunch of girls how to 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:26.240 give a blowjob on a beer bottle. 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:28.840 And how many men were standing next to the table 0:06:28.920 --> 0:06:29.800 watching this down. 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:32.520 No, I don't have a recollection of any men being around, 0:06:32.520 --> 0:06:35.040 but maybe that I think I was just with girls. 0:06:35.400 --> 0:06:38.839 Actually, we were filming it for this site called only. 0:06:38.680 --> 0:06:43.640 Fans, which didn't exist then, so we were not anyway, 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:46.159 And I think that made us think about, oh, there's 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:49.160 a there's a broader conversation here, but do you recall 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:51.719 how you learned how to have sex? Other than the 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:53.680 book that I bought you when you turned eighteen. 0:06:53.720 --> 0:06:58.520 Yes, which I had had sex before that book arrived. 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:00.840 What's the book? 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:01.240 The book? 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:03.320 Okay, the book my mom got me when I was eighteen, 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:05.359 which I think was like a year going off to college. 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:06.760 You know what. Empowered? 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:09.720 Be empowered, you're beautiful, naked and inspired or whatever. 0:07:09.960 --> 0:07:13.080 Yeah, full of inspiration. The book was called The Art of. 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:16.400 Sexual Ecstasy, and honestly it was a very like Comma 0:07:16.480 --> 0:07:22.120 Sutra inspired a book. I think it's highly ambitious. I 0:07:22.160 --> 0:07:25.720 did not really crack that book open in earnest until 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:28.200 I was in my twenties and like kind of out 0:07:28.280 --> 0:07:31.840 of college, although I think I definitely leafed through it 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:36.160 a bit. I think it's very vulnerable to you know, 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:39.320 pull out a textbook when you're with a partner and go, 0:07:39.480 --> 0:07:42.520 do you want to try page you know, sixty nine, and. 0:07:42.800 --> 0:07:46.720 It's why that one spring that one? 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:48.240 You don't need it really a book for that one's 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:52.360 pretty self explanatory. They're much more complex positions in the book. 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:04.360 I think another book that I have found actually like 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:07.320 just recently in my life that is less although it 0:08:07.360 --> 0:08:10.000 does get into I think more and it's very hetero. 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:12.000 It's much more it was written at a time it's 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:14.840 much more focused on male and female relationships, but I 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:19.040 think it can apply to all types of relationships. Is 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:22.800 a book called Passionate Marriage, which makes a really interesting 0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:28.560 argument for the idea that real intimacy and ultimately super 0:08:28.680 --> 0:08:36.480 free and invigorating sex comes from emotional intimacy first. And 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:40.520 I think that is something that we don't teach. I 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:44.640 feel like we teach the mechanics maybe of this is 0:08:44.679 --> 0:08:48.240 how you give a blowjob, this is how you know 0:08:48.720 --> 0:08:50.760 you have penetrative. 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:52.040 Sex, this is what a condom looks like. 0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:55.280 I remember, not a band aid. 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:59.960 I remember googling, like in like reading a Cosmo art 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:04.560 about like how I actually remember this when I was 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:08.040 dating men, googling a Cosmo article about how to give 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:11.000 a woman head because I wanted to be able to 0:09:11.040 --> 0:09:14.839 more clearly ask for what I wanted from a guy 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:18.680 going down on me. And then that article has been 0:09:18.720 --> 0:09:21.560 immensely helpful in other ways now in my life dating women. 0:09:22.360 --> 0:09:25.400 But I think it is interesting to name. I think 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:28.080 there's much more research done on naming the mechanics of 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:30.520 things that can feel good or do feel good, or 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:32.840 this is how you do it, but I think not 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:35.960 a lot. And I'm enjoying this book Passionate Marriage right now, 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:40.679 there's not a lot of emphasis put on sex really 0:09:40.760 --> 0:09:47.640 as an outcome of merging emotional intimacy and starting with 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:52.400 even if it's like talking through your sexual fantasies, not 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:55.040 even touching each other, just being in an intimate setting 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:58.400 and being vulnerable enough to say what really turns you 0:09:58.480 --> 0:10:01.960 on or what you would like and letting that conversation 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:04.960 evolve into a desire to be close to someone you 0:10:05.040 --> 0:10:08.080 have a deep emotional connection with, and then that segueing 0:10:08.120 --> 0:10:13.200 into sex with orgasm even like an additional outcome after that. 0:10:13.280 --> 0:10:17.480 I think we're so orgasm centric, so much so, and 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:21.360 it's so you know, great, but like not at all 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:23.040 the main act. 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:26.400 I think of sex, and I feel like I'm still. 0:10:26.720 --> 0:10:29.280 Well, I only have a relationship with a machine at 0:10:29.280 --> 0:10:33.439 this point, it is the main act and it is 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:34.160 all that matters. 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:35.120 Wait, let's talk. 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:36.520 About that a little bit, because I do think that, 0:10:36.880 --> 0:10:39.560 you know, we're focusing a lot on partnered sex, but 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:44.600 I think that often people's first experiences by themselves, you know, 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:48.760 they're exploring their sexual side with masturbating, with masturbating. Yeah, 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:51.920 and so when you mentioned a machine, is that, yeah, mubating. 0:10:52.000 --> 0:10:54.520 It's also not a pleasant word, like can we I mean. 0:10:54.440 --> 0:10:58.760 Do I've had I've had disturbating it's your Yeah, I've 0:10:58.760 --> 0:11:02.199 had many vibrators of the many years. But I have 0:11:02.280 --> 0:11:05.280 one that I've had for many many years, like too 0:11:05.280 --> 0:11:07.640 many years, loyal and I'm loyal to this one. 0:11:07.720 --> 0:11:08.440 They still make it. 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:12.400 No, it's from Sharper Image and it actually has a plug. 0:11:12.280 --> 0:11:13.439 Like Sharper Image. 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:14.640 Yeah, you know the store with. 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:17.359 The back stuff. Yeah, and they made like vibrators. 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:21.160 Well no, they made like shoulder massages that were in 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:22.640 the shape of something you liked. 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:24.200 Why vibrators, But I. 0:11:24.480 --> 0:11:26.600 Think everyone used them for that. I don't think people 0:11:26.679 --> 0:11:27.640 use them for back massaging. 0:11:27.800 --> 0:11:30.840 Yeah, No, they were. They they people pretended to buy 0:11:30.840 --> 0:11:32.440 them for their shoulders and then they used them on 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:34.960 other parts. But the thing that's funny about it is 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:38.360 like most vibrators these days are all like come, they 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:41.600 charge in a USB and they and they you know, 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:44.400 they have batteries or whatever. Mine still has a plug 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:48.880 like I'm I'm tethered to the electric outlet by with 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:51.800 my with my uh hot so hot. 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:53.840 So this is a bad idea for us to be 0:11:53.880 --> 0:11:56.520 doing this bonus episode. 0:11:57.160 --> 0:12:00.439 And not only am I tethered to the electric outlet. 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:05.280 I you know, after I've I've enjoyed the part of 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:07.920 it that I need to enjoy, then the whole point 0:12:07.920 --> 0:12:11.240 of masturbating for me anyway, is to have the release 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:14.080 that makes you allowed to relax, you know, like you're 0:12:14.080 --> 0:12:17.200 in that sort of that that bliss that everybody blissed 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:21.120 out place. But I am so afraid that I might 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:23.120 like drop dead in the middle of the night that 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:25.880 I have to then get up and take the vibrator 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:28.200 across the room and hide it in a drawer, because 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:30.800 I don't want to be found dead with an electric 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:31.760 plug vibrator. 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:33.559 It looks like it's just a back massager. 0:12:34.080 --> 0:12:36.080 Also, I have to say, I think that's what anybody 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:37.040 would think I was doing. 0:12:37.320 --> 0:12:40.240 I think that's an iconic way to go, Like, I 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:43.160 hope that's not how you go. But I do think 0:12:43.160 --> 0:12:46.920 that if one discovered someone some lady and she's there 0:12:47.200 --> 0:12:50.000 with her vibrator and they're like, and now that's how 0:12:50.040 --> 0:12:52.760 she died, I'd go kudos, Okay for. 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:55.640 Maybe I won't get up and put it in. 0:12:55.559 --> 0:12:56.200 The drawer anymore. 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:57.400 I want to say, I want to add to. 0:12:57.400 --> 0:12:59.720 This conversation because how do you get off Andrew? 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:01.560 Well, that's not where I was going to go with that, 0:13:01.600 --> 0:13:03.960 but I was going to say that I don't have 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:07.800 that many interesting stories that I feel like, are that 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:11.040 scandalous about growing up as a teen in Hollywood? Because 0:13:11.040 --> 0:13:12.800 I was pretty tame, right, I tried to be a 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:15.720 pretty good girl. But I will say the first vibrator 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:20.640 that I ever saw owned had was given to me 0:13:20.760 --> 0:13:24.520 at a gifting suite while you were doing Desperate house 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:26.040 while I was doing Desperate Housewives, was. 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:28.360 One of those platinum ones, those like kind of they. 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:30.720 Just look like they gave you the good ship. 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:36.120 This was just like me. 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:38.880 Because I do want to say this. I so these 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:41.400 these gifting suites are things that happen around award season 0:13:41.559 --> 0:13:44.719 usually where you can go to these rooms at a 0:13:44.760 --> 0:13:49.160 hotel or a conference space and then they fill you 0:13:49.280 --> 0:13:52.240 up with bags of free stuff and you take pictures 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:55.439 with it and it helps them promote you know, their products, 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:57.559 and then you get free stuff for being on a 0:13:57.600 --> 0:14:00.240 show that is popular. It's kind of a weird them, 0:14:00.280 --> 0:14:02.560 but anyway, I went to one of these gifting suites, 0:14:03.120 --> 0:14:07.080 sometimes they gave you things in bags where you didn't 0:14:07.080 --> 0:14:09.920 even see them necessarily, So this was one of those times. 0:14:09.960 --> 0:14:12.040 I got home and I was unpacking the gifting suite 0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:16.680 bag and there was this little item and I didn't 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:19.080 know what it was, you know, because like I said, 0:14:19.080 --> 0:14:21.000 it didn't look like a penis or anything. It was 0:14:21.080 --> 0:14:25.080 just like this little pink thing, and and I was 0:14:25.160 --> 0:14:26.760 looking at it and I was like, huh, what is this? 0:14:26.840 --> 0:14:29.040 And I touched it and it started vibrating, and then 0:14:29.080 --> 0:14:32.000 I realized what it was, and I. 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:34.320 Oh, come on, you. 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:36.800 Too young? Too young. 0:14:36.880 --> 0:14:39.920 I was so embarrassed by myself, going like what do 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:41.360 I do with this thing? And do I how do 0:14:41.400 --> 0:14:43.880 I get rid of it? And and you know, I 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:49.160 kept thinking like did I poseiler? Yeah, that was your 0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:52.640 that was your Season one rap gift, don't you remember, Terry. No, 0:14:52.720 --> 0:14:54.040 But I didn't know what to do with it. And 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:56.400 then I was horrified that me I might like I 0:14:56.440 --> 0:14:58.040 forgot that somehow I posed with it, because you know 0:14:58.040 --> 0:15:01.600 how you have to like sometimes pose with the shampoo 0:15:01.600 --> 0:15:03.280 that they give you or this or that that, And 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:05.320 I was like, did I pose with this weird thing? 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:06.800 But no, I don't think I ever did. It never 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:09.040 got out there, and but you know, that's kind of 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:11.000 a weird side of growing up in Hollywood. 0:15:11.520 --> 0:15:13.880 Crazy. I'm so sad you didn't use it. 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:17.120 I'm sad you didn't keep it until a time where 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:18.440 you arrived at a point in your life where you 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:20.040 would have wanted to keep it. I think that was 0:15:20.320 --> 0:15:22.600 Is that like the hot bunny or what's the hot? 0:15:23.080 --> 0:15:26.000 Like the little the rabbit? The rabbit? No, it didn't 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:28.920 have an interesting shape at all. There was nothing exciting 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:30.360 about it. 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:31.480 It was just crazy. 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:34.000 It was just crazy that they didn't realize they were 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:34.920 giving that to a miner. 0:15:35.040 --> 0:15:35.720 That's insane. 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:37.720 I know, I'm you know, have the things that miners 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:40.720 were slipped at these parties. It's probably not that bad, 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:43.000 you know, in hindsight, Like people tried to serve me 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:45.360 alcohol all the time, things like that, and I would 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:47.440 have to, at my own discretion be like, yeah, no, 0:15:47.480 --> 0:15:48.080 I'm not interested. 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:50.360 I keep telling everybody it's so amazing that she turned 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:52.800 out to be such a lovely human being. It is 0:15:52.880 --> 0:15:55.960 hard to be raised as a child actor in Hollywood. 0:15:56.040 --> 0:15:58.560 So okay, well I'm just going to say I loved 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:02.240 our first X y Z episode, and I find that 0:16:02.240 --> 0:16:04.680 that you and I were I'm happy to go down 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:06.480 this awkward road with you. I think we're going to 0:16:06.560 --> 0:16:07.400 learn a lot here we go. 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:11.440 Let's link arms and skip down the road of uncomfortable conversations. 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:15.200 You can't wait because I'm so desperately devoted to you, listeners. 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:17.560 I'm going to do this with my mother. God help 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:19.040 us all. 0:16:20.640 --> 0:16:21.960 We're blushing, but we're happy. 0:16:22.600 --> 0:16:25.040 We're blushing and happy and we hope that we hope 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:27.720 you enjoyed it. So we'll see you next week. 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:30.360 Thanks for coming to our Blowness episode, I mean bonus episode, 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:33.720 our Blowness episode.