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Speaker 1: Hey guys, I'm Kaylee Shore, and this is too much

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Speaker 1: to say in question it out of you. On this

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Speaker 1: week's episode, we're going to talk about dating in Nashville.

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Speaker 1: I mean, the crazy thing is, Nashville is a big city.

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Speaker 1: Nashville Metro has like a million people in it. But

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Speaker 1: when you're dating, it feels like there's twenty people and

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Speaker 1: everybody knows each other and everybody's everyone's ex and it

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Speaker 1: feels a lot like a small town. And I grew

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Speaker 1: up in a small city. I mean felt really really

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Speaker 1: like a small town. Um. I grew up in Portland, Maine,

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Speaker 1: and dating was weird there. I mean, anytime we're dating

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Speaker 1: in high school, you're pulling from the same pool of people,

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Speaker 1: you know. So it's just insane to me how much

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Speaker 1: Nashville feels like that. So I wasn't single as an

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Speaker 1: adult until four and that was weird for sure, because

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Speaker 1: all of my experience was as a high schooler. And like,

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, you like learn in high school and

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Speaker 1: that's your first love and whatever, but like, it's so

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Speaker 1: different when you're in your twenties, and so online dating

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Speaker 1: and dating apps weren't even like a thing when I

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Speaker 1: was in high school. I mean you had like e

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Speaker 1: harmony for like, you know, divorces, but like you didn't

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Speaker 1: have Bumble and Tender and all of that stuff. I mean,

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Speaker 1: we didn't even have Uber. I feel so old saying this,

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Speaker 1: but wow, So at twenty four, like that was the

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Speaker 1: first time I ever used a dating app, and I

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Speaker 1: don't think anything could have prepared me for that. Let's see. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So my first time using Tender was summer of I

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Speaker 1: had just gone through my breakup and I was like,

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Speaker 1: let's meet somebody, and I have an affinity for musician,

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Speaker 1: and so I met a guy in a band and

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Speaker 1: we talked for a while before he went on a date.

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Speaker 1: But like, this was literally the first guy I talked

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Speaker 1: to after my six year relationship, and um, we talked

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Speaker 1: a little bit, we had a lot in common, he

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Speaker 1: seems super cool. We went on one day and like

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Speaker 1: definitely like hit it off. I felt like it was

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Speaker 1: a good time. And then we went on a second

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Speaker 1: one and he ended up like freaking out and being

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Speaker 1: like I'm just I'm just trying to get married one

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Speaker 1: day and I feel like you can't even commit to anything,

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Speaker 1: and blah blah blah blah, blah. I was like, dude,

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Speaker 1: I told you I just stopped dating somebody after like

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Speaker 1: six years, Like what do you want for me? And

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Speaker 1: it was it was very intense. And after that conversation,

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Speaker 1: he literally like he was putting his shoes on at

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Speaker 1: my house and I was like, oh, that's weird, and

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Speaker 1: then he just walked out. But he literally just left.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, Okay, Tinder, Tinder one, Kaylee zero.

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Speaker 1: But I didn't realize that Tinder isn't just on Tinder,

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Speaker 1: that it actually like bleeds into your real life. And

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Speaker 1: so it was during cmafest and I was on there,

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Speaker 1: and I like, people can see you on there even

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Speaker 1: if you don't match with them, so it's like you're

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Speaker 1: very like exposed. And this table of guys yells, oh

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Speaker 1: my god, that's Kaylee from Tinder. And like in my

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Speaker 1: Tinder picture, I was wearing these black and white beetle

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Speaker 1: juice pants I wear, and like on this particular night,

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Speaker 1: I was wearing like checkered overall, so I feel like

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Speaker 1: I was giving off a similar vibe. So I was

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Speaker 1: definitely not subtle um just being on brand, you know,

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Speaker 1: But I was so mortified and I'm like literally ducked

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Speaker 1: like talking to my friends. I'm like, we have to leave,

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Speaker 1: and they're like, Kaylee, that's just like how it works.

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, I don't like this. I don't like that.

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Speaker 1: This is that what works. And so I definitely I

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Speaker 1: think I was not Tinder much longer after that. I

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Speaker 1: but that is not ideal. Also, the inspiration for this

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Speaker 1: episode came from the fact that my roommates and I

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Speaker 1: discovered something uncompany the other day. We're all sitting on

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Speaker 1: and my roommates Avanna, looked at each other and we're like, uh, wait,

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Speaker 1: did you And She's like, yeah, did you? And I

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Speaker 1: then we started comparing notes and um, her and her

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Speaker 1: fun fact, actually not so fun fact, but the term

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Speaker 1: And it is lumberjack sisters because you shared the same

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Speaker 1: So there's this bar in Nashville called Red Door and

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Speaker 1: it is where everybody goes. I mean, it's it feels

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Speaker 1: like Cheers but for the music industry. And I personally

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Speaker 1: So I try to like, you know, stay outside of that,

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Speaker 1: But um, I obviously ended up breaking that rule because

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Speaker 1: was miserable because Okay, so when this whole thing with

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Speaker 1: while and when we like finally started hanging out like that,

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Speaker 1: then I would run into him there and be like

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Speaker 1: going to be fucking weird. And I don't know why

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Speaker 1: or why I can't shake it at twenty six years old,

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Speaker 1: but it's just like I just turned into like like

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Speaker 1: It was being natural and I'm just not. The interesting

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Speaker 1: like very just and then like a couple of months later,

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Speaker 1: around October I realized that I think I was into him.

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Speaker 1: so I'd see him and I would like, you know,

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Speaker 1: I will say it. I was desperate. I was I

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Speaker 1: was being a fucking weirdo about it. And all of

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Speaker 1: And then I wanted to go that bar so I

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Speaker 1: because like there was one time, there was one time

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