WEBVTT - More Money, More Problems | Golden Hour 0:00:07.280 --> 0:00:08.480 Welcome back, everybody. 0:00:08.560 --> 0:00:12.559 We're back Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks again for 0:00:12.680 --> 0:00:15.520 joining us today. Kathy and I just love coming back 0:00:15.560 --> 0:00:17.000 and chatting with you guys. 0:00:17.400 --> 0:00:21.599 So so excited to be back today. Like many other days, 0:00:21.600 --> 0:00:24.119 we're going to be answering some more of your fan questions. 0:00:24.600 --> 0:00:27.320 Make sure you're submitting those. We love reading them. 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My garage 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:08.280 doraw which weighs like six hundred pounds because it's solid 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:11.560 wood with metal backing, crashes into the hood of my 0:01:11.680 --> 0:01:16.400 Mercedes Dens. It it looks like you know it looks 0:01:16.440 --> 0:01:18.800 like I don't know, monkeys were jumping all over. 0:01:19.000 --> 0:01:21.520 They usually like bounce off and stop and they go, no, 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:25.520 this bounced and didn't and stop. It hit it. 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:29.399 And what happened was the handle in like several places, 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:31.840 the handle like the release handle you know for an 0:01:31.840 --> 0:01:36.520 automatic garage. Somehow it came loose because the string was whatever, 0:01:36.600 --> 0:01:39.959 it doesn't matter, Can I just tell you. I called 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:43.319 the company that installed it, because the guy that was 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:47.680 here who installed it the first time to now fix it, said, yeah, 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:50.800 we made a mistake, Like we're supposed to keep those 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:54.040 ropes tied shorter so they don't catch on your car 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:56.840 because if they do, it catches the metal and it 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:58.720 releases the thing and hits your car. 0:01:58.880 --> 0:01:59.880 So it's their fault. 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:03.520 Yeah, So I called up the manager and I said, well, 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:06.120 I said, your your workman said, you know, we have 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:09.760 to do better, and he goes, not we, and I said, exactly, 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:12.840 your worker needs to do better, And would you like 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:15.600 the name of my my uh, you. 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:19.040 Know, collision repair company. So my car. Really it looks 0:02:19.080 --> 0:02:22.480 like someone just pounded it. That was my fun. 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:27.520 Nobody got hurt, nobody got the car. It's just but 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:30.760 you know what it's the only car I have. Did 0:02:30.800 --> 0:02:32.160 you have a good day, You're having a good week. 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:33.760 Yeah, it's been a crazy week. 0:02:33.840 --> 0:02:37.560 Actually, yes, it's it's always crazy, but I'm enjoying it. 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:39.959 Okay, been crazy. 0:02:42.000 --> 0:02:44.560 Yeah, but you know what that's that's that's summer in Austin. 0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:45.120 That's the way. 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:47.200 That's what it is here all the time. So you know, 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:50.680 welcome to my world. All right, you're ready to get 0:02:50.720 --> 0:02:53.240 in the episode. We're going to start with the question 0:02:53.480 --> 0:02:53.840 of the day. 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:54.320 Here we go. 0:02:55.200 --> 0:03:01.560 How does money play a factor in adult friendships? You know, 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:05.120 what are some faux pas regarding money that you wish 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:10.840 more people were aware of? Can I just say, now 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:12.840 that you've been studying French, you know what a faux 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:13.400 pas is. 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:16.320 Let's just say. 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:23.200 Let me just say people are clueless sometimes about about money. 0:03:25.080 --> 0:03:29.680 Well, like for my friendships, I think friendships are just enjentships. 0:03:29.080 --> 0:03:31.400 Like when the girls all go out to dinner, Like 0:03:31.520 --> 0:03:33.360 after work, we go out to dinner and the one 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:36.040 girl doesn't drink at all, and the other girl has 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:39.840 to have three espresso martinis afterwards, and that gets added 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:40.320 to the bill. 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:41.440 Like, think about it. 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:44.320 This girl doesn't work or doesn't have as much as 0:03:44.360 --> 0:03:46.400 you have, like think about it. 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:49.320 So I think that's one of the faux pas that 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:52.480 people will order the most expensive thing on the menu 0:03:52.640 --> 0:03:56.000 and fifteen drinks and then go, hey, Kathy, let's just 0:03:56.040 --> 0:03:59.320 split the bill. And I'm looking even but I have 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:02.440 been and it cuts both ways. I think another faux 0:04:02.440 --> 0:04:07.240 pas that one is to order expensive food, lots of drinks, appetizers, 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:09.800 and then Kathy rolls in, you know, orders a salad 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:12.440 and a glass of water, and my bills one hundred bucks. 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:15.480 Like what, So that's a faux pop. Be mindful of 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:19.480 other people. But I think another one is and equally bad, 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:25.719 is when you go out to a restaurant and you'll say, 0:04:25.720 --> 0:04:28.120 can we have separate checks? And that is a lot 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:31.680 of work for a server and women I'm going to 0:04:31.720 --> 0:04:35.800 get hammered for saying this are notoriously bad tempers. That 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:38.680 has been my experience. S They're like, well, I'm not 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:41.400 going to give them twenty percent because I just ordered 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:45.840 this or I just ordered that. So I'm just telling 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:49.320 you what people say. So I feel like if you 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:52.200 if you if you pay your own bill, grade but 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:57.440 make sure you're tipping appropriately. I think if you borrow money, 0:04:58.760 --> 0:05:01.440 you know, neither a borrow nor lender. B I'm sure 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:05.000 it says that in the Bible somewhere. I think I 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:08.080 think too many people borrow money and then you know. 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:11.839 What happened Susan, Oh, I do they get amnesia? I've 0:05:11.920 --> 0:05:15.400 lent money out, I borrowed money from you. I'm remember 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:19.919 a good friend. It always hurts a friendship, Yeah, it 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:22.680 always does. I mean I've had this situation quite a 0:05:22.680 --> 0:05:24.680 few times that I've lent money and I had to 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:27.640 call every your text every pay day. 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:30.359 Oh, I can't do it this week. My rent is 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:31.240 to excuse me. 0:05:31.760 --> 0:05:34.400 Yeah, you know what happened to me with a very 0:05:34.400 --> 0:05:37.240 good friend. I think I've told this story before. And 0:05:37.320 --> 0:05:40.800 I lent the money and she said she'd paid back 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:43.200 when she was a nurse. She said she would pay 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:44.480 it back when she got paid in. 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:47.279 Six weeks now and still hasn't paid it or no. 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:51.839 She finally it was ugly and she said she finally 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:54.880 fessed up and said, you have more money than I do. 0:05:55.080 --> 0:05:57.400 You you don't you have you can afford it? And 0:05:57.440 --> 0:06:00.520 I said, oh, no, nothing I know. So so that's 0:06:00.520 --> 0:06:03.320 another faux PAP thinking that when you borrow money, you 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:07.400 don't have to pay it back big No. 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:09.520 Well no, I mean like when you and I are 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:10.160 on our cruise. 0:06:10.200 --> 0:06:11.919 I've paid for a couple of things, You've paid for 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:13.520 a couple of things, and we'll straighten out. 0:06:13.880 --> 0:06:14.840 But you and I are like. 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:18.320 That, We'll say, yeah, well it's still money and it's 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:19.359 still with a friendship. 0:06:20.680 --> 0:06:22.839 But not when you're both doing it and you're going 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:25.080 away together and you're splitting. 0:06:24.640 --> 0:06:27.159 It, you know what I mean. But I'm just saying, 0:06:27.200 --> 0:06:29.039 it's like it's you have borrow. 0:06:30.560 --> 0:06:33.159 That's different than when we're doing something together. 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:35.080 Yeah. I think anyway. 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:37.839 I think when you go out to dinner, they'll My 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:40.839 experience again has been men are like, let's just split 0:06:40.880 --> 0:06:44.760 the bill. Women are either what we said initially, like 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:47.640 you know, they'll order the most expensive thing and then 0:06:47.680 --> 0:06:52.560 say let's split the bill, or they're very vocal, I 0:06:52.600 --> 0:06:54.840 only want to pay for my bill, oh, or someone 0:06:54.839 --> 0:06:57.080 says I forgot my wallet, you know, can you put 0:06:57.120 --> 0:06:59.719 it on I'll pay you back later a long time. 0:06:59.720 --> 0:07:02.640 But I also some people if we're going to split, 0:07:03.000 --> 0:07:05.400 and one person because you and I have been in 0:07:05.440 --> 0:07:08.080 this situation, and the one person says, no, no, no, 0:07:08.120 --> 0:07:10.320 I only had this, this, and this, and they want 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:11.440 to pay exactly that. 0:07:11.560 --> 0:07:16.160 No, no gratuity, no tax tax no. I'm like, whoa, whoa, wow. 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:19.960 I don't If it's a difference of twenty bucks, I'd 0:07:20.040 --> 0:07:20.520 rather not. 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:21.680 Great. 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:24.720 Well, I'm glad well on this criticism. Thank you so much. 0:07:24.760 --> 0:07:26.360 I'll be letting you it's only. 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:28.560 Twenty twenty bucks until I don't worry about it, Susan, 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:32.760 it's on you. I do think money though it can, it. 0:07:32.720 --> 0:07:34.400 Can cause a lot of problems. 0:07:34.440 --> 0:07:34.760 It can. 0:07:34.880 --> 0:07:38.120 I think it's been self aware, as many things in 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:41.920 life are. It's oh, you know what, I went to 0:07:41.960 --> 0:07:44.520 the spa. SU's gave me one hundred dollars because I 0:07:44.600 --> 0:07:46.960 forgot whatever. I need to go back to my room 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:49.160 and catch you the hundred bucks like it just it's 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:52.320 just being self aware. And Susan, I don't have the 0:07:52.400 --> 0:07:54.440 hundred bucks to pay you back. So thanks so much. 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:58.880 I really appreciate me, Kathy, I do know on my phone. 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:08.000 Oh my gosh. 0:08:08.040 --> 0:08:11.600 Alright, we're going to start our fan questions. 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:18.680 Okay, Anonymous here from Delco my area, got. 0:08:18.480 --> 0:08:19.040 The Old Boy. 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:21.800 I can't wait to read this one. I need some advice. 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:25.120 I recently moved in with my boyfriend of two years. 0:08:25.440 --> 0:08:29.280 I couldn't wait to start this next chapter. Let me 0:08:29.480 --> 0:08:33.480 start by saying I lived on my own very comfortably, 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:38.760 within my means. He lives in a more expensive area 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:42.600 and his rent is expensive. Now he makes more than 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:46.920 two times my salary, but he expects me to pay 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:50.720 half of everything. I give him half of his rent 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:54.640 every month, and I think he appreciates it, but he 0:08:54.720 --> 0:08:59.320 will make little comments about other expenses. I really try 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:02.920 to buy growth things for the house, et cetera. When 0:09:02.920 --> 0:09:06.080 we go out, he will make comments about him paying 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:10.439 for the bill. I just feel uncomfortable. I'm struggling as 0:09:10.480 --> 0:09:13.800 a lot of my money goes to him. Now, Oh boy, 0:09:14.280 --> 0:09:18.720 I have zero disposable income. Sometimes I feel as if 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:21.640 it would be better going back on my own, living 0:09:21.679 --> 0:09:25.680 within my means. I want to don't know what to do, 0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:28.680 as I do love him, but I feel as if 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:31.559 I am his roommate now and not his girlfriend. 0:09:31.600 --> 0:09:34.160 Any advice will be greatly appreciated. 0:09:34.360 --> 0:09:38.880 Oh yes, delco, delco, delco, We love you, Kathy. What's 0:09:38.920 --> 0:09:42.240 the first word that comes to mind with the sea curb? 0:09:42.400 --> 0:09:46.360 Hit him, send him to the curb, communicate you need 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:48.520 to sit him down and freaking tell him exactly what 0:09:48.559 --> 0:09:49.559 you told us. 0:09:50.120 --> 0:09:53.040 You make more, you live in a more expensive place. 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.000 Yes, I like the idea of send him to the curb. 0:09:56.320 --> 0:10:00.920 This is a red flag. She's right to tell you, Delco. 0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:05.920 But I think he's earning twice the money. He's looking 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:08.959 to have a nice situation where he listened in a 0:10:09.040 --> 0:10:11.480 nice place and you're paying half the rent if you 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:17.160 This is why. By the way, again, listen, miss s Delco. 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:19.559 I'm sure you're a lovely girl. I bet you are 0:10:19.640 --> 0:10:22.760 because I know people from Delco and they are all 0:10:22.880 --> 0:10:23.640 lovely people. 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:26.920 So here's the thing, though, if. 0:10:27.520 --> 0:10:31.040 You moved in with him and you didn't have these 0:10:31.080 --> 0:10:35.080 conversations first, and maybe they did, maybe he earned less money. 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:38.640 But the fact is, if you didn't have these conversations 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:42.440 to begin with, you know, Joe, I don't earn a 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:45.040 lot of money, and you know I'm a whatever you 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:47.520 know whatever she does, And I don't have a lot 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:50.000 of money. I don't have a lot of disposable income. 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:53.320 So how are we going to work this out? Because 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:56.040 if his life is a fair yeah, well what's fair 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:57.960 is splitting everything down the middle? 0:10:58.280 --> 0:11:00.800 And is she totaling up the food bill because I 0:11:00.880 --> 0:11:03.000 know grocery store are expensive. 0:11:03.120 --> 0:11:05.400 No, but she's saying, I try to buy groceries. 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:08.760 The fact is, it sounds like he wants to split 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:11.280 everything down the middle. And that's fair in the legal 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:13.760 you know, most finite definition of the word. 0:11:13.800 --> 0:11:14.240 It's fair. 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:17.439 She moved into his place, which was way more expensive 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:18.280 than her place. 0:11:18.360 --> 0:11:19.760 Well, and that's where she went. 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:20.800 We're going in. You're right. 0:11:20.840 --> 0:11:23.559 Before going in, I would have said, Babe, my rent 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:25.480 is not like this, So how do you want to 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:25.840 work this? 0:11:25.880 --> 0:11:27.839 Because I cannot afford. 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:32.520 Or susan, I got a really simple solution for Hey, buddy, 0:11:32.720 --> 0:11:34.760 you tell him you want sex, money on the table, 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:35.960 charge him every time. 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:38.440 You'll be telling you money. 0:11:39.240 --> 0:11:41.439 You'll be moving. You'll be moving to the penthouse here 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:42.000 pretty soon. 0:11:43.080 --> 0:11:45.440 I know you're thinking it'd be better to go back 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:48.160 on your own, living within your means. But before you 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:50.600 do that, if you really do love him, and if 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:54.000 he loves you, he will make the time sit down 0:11:54.120 --> 0:11:59.240 and communicate and share exactly the truth always sets you free, 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:02.200 tell him exactly how you're feeling. This okay, but I 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:04.440 don't feel like I could keep up here. I moved 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:07.880 into your place and he's collecting half, so he's on 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:11.199 scott Free and makes more than two times more than you. 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:12.520 Then that's not fair. 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:15.960 I wouldn't present it like an ultimatum, but I would 0:12:16.280 --> 0:12:20.000 definitely at the end of your conversation, because if we 0:12:20.080 --> 0:12:22.199 can't work something out, I'm going to have to go, 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:23.400 and that's an ultimatum. 0:12:23.440 --> 0:12:27.079 Susan, Well, if we can't work, that's still an ultimatum. 0:12:27.320 --> 0:12:28.199 I'm telling you. 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:32.280 I would say, Delco, you need to back up and 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:36.480 say to him, let's test. Let's test how you know 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:38.360 how much you are his roommate and how much you're 0:12:38.400 --> 0:12:42.160 his girlfriend. If you say to him, hey, Joe, I 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:45.719 really do love you, but this is too much for me. 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:48.679 I don't have any disposal income. I can't go out 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:50.600 with my friends. I can't buy the new pair of 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:53.720 shoes I want because you know, you earn twice what 0:12:53.800 --> 0:12:56.240 I do, sweetie, and and good on you. You've got 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:59.040 lots of raises, but this is what I earn and 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:04.080 I can't do that. So if if so, I'm I 0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:07.320 think the best thing for me to do is move back. 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:10.600 We'll still be boyfriend girlfriend, but you know you live here. 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:14.960 Watch him change his tone because I'm guessing. 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:17.200 Well, that's the same thing I said. 0:13:17.320 --> 0:13:19.920 No, no, no, don't don't, I will give I will 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:24.359 move out. I would move out, and I would say, 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:28.120 you know, if things change, we become engaged, whatever. But 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:31.520 right now, this take I guess what I'm saying to 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:35.440 her is take charge of your life, be responsible for 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:39.920 who you are, for your expenses, and you know, don't 0:13:40.240 --> 0:13:44.319 expect him to say, oh, that's okay, sweetie, I'll cover everything. 0:13:44.920 --> 0:13:46.520 Yeah, well, you know, what is that how she wants 0:13:46.600 --> 0:13:47.000 to live? 0:13:47.960 --> 0:13:52.040 What he may say it's okay to move out? No, no, no, no, 0:13:52.080 --> 0:13:53.240 that he'll pay more. 0:13:53.320 --> 0:13:55.600 I say it. Does she want to be a kept woman? 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:58.240 I don't know. I think these are things women. She's 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:01.080 still going to pay her way, but just not right. 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:05.760 I think the I think the lesson here is miss Scalco, 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:09.240 lovely woman that you are, and to everyone else listening, 0:14:09.400 --> 0:14:11.400 have these conversations. 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:11.920 Before you move in. 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:15.640 Don't wait until you're knee deep in it, and it's 0:14:15.640 --> 0:14:16.400 going to get ugly. 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:18.280 I mean that that was a simple question. 0:14:18.400 --> 0:14:22.320 So let's talk about what you expect from me. 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:24.320 Like if I move into your house with you, Susan, 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:27.080 I mean I can't because Frederick is probably going to 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:27.360 be there. 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:30.000 But let's just say, you know you have the master. 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:30.960 I'm being serious. 0:14:31.040 --> 0:14:34.240 Let's just say we were two girlfriends, friends that we are, 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:37.120 and I decided to move to Philly. And yeah, I'm 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:38.320 making this all up obviously. 0:14:39.560 --> 0:14:43.360 Would you expect me to pay half of everything because 0:14:43.400 --> 0:14:44.520 you have the mask paid for? 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:48.000 But I expect you to pay rent? Yes, yes, but 0:14:48.080 --> 0:14:50.600 I'm sayingbody that lives here with pay rent? Right. 0:14:51.160 --> 0:14:55.200 Yeah, But here's the thing. When you're young and they 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:58.000 all have expenses, then you have to sit and do 0:14:58.080 --> 0:14:58.520 a budget. 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:01.320 I bet they against Can I afford it? 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:01.760 Yes? 0:15:02.120 --> 0:15:04.960 She so, Delco. You should have done that. You should 0:15:04.960 --> 0:15:09.440 have seen if she didn't. But she is now she 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:12.120 is let us know, let us know how the conversation. 0:15:12.240 --> 0:15:14.440 Susan's right, how the conversation rent? 0:15:15.000 --> 0:15:15.960 Right, nast and so. 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:18.960 Yeah, Susan listened, Delko, you know you might want to 0:15:18.960 --> 0:15:19.440 move over there? 0:15:19.560 --> 0:15:21.880 Well, let me tell you the pool you get. 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:23.120 But here's the thing. 0:15:23.320 --> 0:15:26.720 When she's home, she'll cook for you, she'll grocery shop, 0:15:27.120 --> 0:15:28.480 she'll straighten your hair for you. 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:30.920 It's really just have to be really neat. 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:33.800 Oh god, no, you have to beyond really neat. I 0:15:33.800 --> 0:15:35.760 hope you don't mind. While you're eating, she's going to 0:15:35.840 --> 0:15:38.400 be sweeping the floor underneath your chair. But other than that, 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:41.320 thank you so much for writing in and we good luck. 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:43.600 And you know what, I hope that the love with 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:46.920 that you have for this man, I hope it, you know, continues. 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:49.320 But work it out. Try to work it out, all right, 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:51.760 Let's move on to question number two. 0:15:52.360 --> 0:15:54.560 Hi, ladies, I need some advice. 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:58.400 My friends and I are all recent college graduates, all 0:15:58.480 --> 0:16:02.000 working our first full time jobs. Most of us make 0:16:02.040 --> 0:16:05.720 stable money, while our friend Tilly makes well over six 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:07.680 figures as she works in finance. 0:16:08.160 --> 0:16:10.479 Here's the deal. Tilly is the. 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:13.760 Only person in our group that nickels and dimes us 0:16:13.840 --> 0:16:15.360 for everything, and there. 0:16:15.240 --> 0:16:16.560 It is always the way. 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:21.120 For instance, everyone else pays for drinks, calls cars, et cetera, 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:24.520 and never requests money because we all know it's a 0:16:24.560 --> 0:16:26.840 constant flow of us getting things for each other. 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:28.720 Well that's a mistake anyway. 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:34.120 However, anytime Tilly buys anything, she charges us for it immediately. 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:36.600 Some of the girls have tried to talk to her, 0:16:36.640 --> 0:16:40.120 but she always just says, just request me and I'll 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:43.000 pay you back. It hit a breaking point when she 0:16:43.240 --> 0:16:48.560 Venma requested us each one dollar and thirty seven cents 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:52.920 exactly for uber to go to someone's house for dinner. 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:56.920 It was an uber to our friend's birthday dinner, and 0:16:57.000 --> 0:17:01.440 she also requested the money from the birthday girl. Is 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:04.360 this friendship break up worthy since we've tried to talk 0:17:04.400 --> 0:17:08.320 to her or are we overreacting? Money is the only 0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:11.280 issue we have with Tilly and we love her otherwise, 0:17:11.600 --> 0:17:12.400 thanks so much? 0:17:12.440 --> 0:17:14.480 Okay, Susan, can we answer this one in unison? 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:21.000 Man a dollar thirty seven? I would give her pennies? 0:17:23.400 --> 0:17:28.160 Susan would so No, Susan would venmo you a Nickela day, 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:32.240 a nicola day for the next Oh jeez, let me 0:17:32.400 --> 0:17:36.680 just say there is something wrong. It's ridiculous. There's something wrong. 0:17:36.760 --> 0:17:38.080 First of all, yay, Tilly. 0:17:38.320 --> 0:17:39.480 That was my grandmother's name. 0:17:39.520 --> 0:17:41.080 By the way, she's making great money. 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:44.600 Yeah, six figures right out of college. It's the name Tilly. 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:50.560 I love it tight, whatever it is, she said. Some 0:17:50.640 --> 0:17:52.439 of the girls have tried to talk to her, but 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:56.480 she always says, just request me and I'll pay you back. 0:17:56.760 --> 0:17:59.239 Here's where the problem is. Remember I said earlier day, 0:17:59.359 --> 0:18:03.199 not request, no, no, no, Remember neither a borrower nor 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:06.399 a lender. Be Remember I said that. Here's what she said. 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:10.320 She said, for instance, everyone else pays for drinks blah 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:13.560 blah blah and never requests money because we all know 0:18:13.600 --> 0:18:16.320 it's a constant flow of us getting things for each other. 0:18:16.520 --> 0:18:18.120 There's your problem right there. 0:18:18.240 --> 0:18:18.719 Yeah, it is. 0:18:18.960 --> 0:18:19.960 That's your problem. 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:23.760 Because if you don't have a kiddy, if you're all 0:18:23.800 --> 0:18:26.480 going out for dinner and you don't put the money 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:30.400 in the kitty to pay for the ubers and the drinks, whatever, 0:18:31.000 --> 0:18:32.040 you got a problem. 0:18:32.280 --> 0:18:34.240 You got a problem if you if. 0:18:34.080 --> 0:18:36.200 You say, oh, it all comes out in the wash, 0:18:36.240 --> 0:18:39.480 well to Tilly, apparently it doesn't come out in the wash. 0:18:40.119 --> 0:18:43.320 And so so what do you think, Kathy? Is it 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:45.119 something that you you know? 0:18:45.200 --> 0:18:47.560 Wait, since wait, some people don't know what a kidd is. 0:18:47.760 --> 0:18:49.640 We got to tell what a kidd is. A kiddie 0:18:49.880 --> 0:18:52.399 is you put your money together, you put it in 0:18:52.440 --> 0:18:55.639 a wallet, and it's where like a group of girls 0:18:55.680 --> 0:18:58.400 are going out, you say, let's each put fifty Yeah, 0:18:58.800 --> 0:19:02.440 let's each put fifty dollars in the kiddy. And that's 0:19:02.520 --> 0:19:06.200 what everyone pays that night for. So one person's responsible 0:19:06.280 --> 0:19:09.679 for managing the money, and that way, nobody is quote 0:19:10.240 --> 0:19:12.560 paying for things and it all comes out. 0:19:12.400 --> 0:19:12.920 In the wash. 0:19:13.080 --> 0:19:15.679 Everyone's paying and equal share. That's the right way to 0:19:15.720 --> 0:19:19.120 do it. So I would I would tell people that 0:19:19.800 --> 0:19:22.520 try that would kill it. Yeah, before you break up 0:19:22.520 --> 0:19:24.360 and say, you know what, we're gonna do it differently. 0:19:24.400 --> 0:19:26.520 Now when we all go out, we're gonna have a 0:19:26.600 --> 0:19:28.960 kiddie and everyone's going to put in and decide what 0:19:29.000 --> 0:19:31.960 the number is, and none of this venomoulater stuff. 0:19:32.280 --> 0:19:35.560 Cash on the bare head, right, cash. 0:19:35.960 --> 0:19:38.119 Pennies a dollar thirty seven. 0:19:38.200 --> 0:19:40.160 It's going to be heavy, and I give her one 0:19:40.200 --> 0:19:42.440 at a time because that is bullshit. 0:19:43.000 --> 0:19:46.880 She is being an ass. If you ask me, I mean, 0:19:47.520 --> 0:19:52.240