1 00:00:02,840 --> 00:00:06,920 Speaker 1: Welcome back, chip Ah, Hi, Happy new Year. 2 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:09,760 Speaker 2: We're not allowed to say it after January seventh, right, 3 00:00:09,760 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 2: I feel like I saw a meme that said you're 4 00:00:11,640 --> 00:00:12,200 Speaker 2: not allowed. 5 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:12,800 Speaker 3: To say Happy New Year. 6 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:13,920 Speaker 1: Who makes that rule? 7 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 3: I don't know, I don't know. 8 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:17,560 Speaker 2: But this is the first time that we're saying Happy 9 00:00:17,560 --> 00:00:19,639 Speaker 2: New Year to our listeners, So I think. 10 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:22,120 Speaker 1: Yes, I do too. This is the first week back 11 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 1: of new episodes on the Photo Sutche podcast, and you 12 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 1: just got back to town. I haven't even seen him 13 00:00:26,520 --> 00:00:27,400 Speaker 1: in person yet, so. 14 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:28,320 Speaker 3: I feel like it's wild. 15 00:00:28,680 --> 00:00:31,520 Speaker 1: Happy New Year's is fine to say, Yeah. 16 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:34,279 Speaker 3: It's still fine. Yeah, it's been a year already. 17 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:36,440 Speaker 1: To say, is it a happy new Year? 18 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:37,960 Speaker 3: I mean, it's a new year. 19 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:40,720 Speaker 1: It is a new year, you know. I think like, 20 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:44,479 Speaker 1: as we say this, obviously there's so much happening in 21 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: our world, but the thing that happen is going on 22 00:00:47,159 --> 00:00:49,840 Speaker 1: mostly right now is that La is just completely under 23 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,680 Speaker 1: fire and it is terrible to watch. I know, you 24 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 1: and I both have so many friends there. You lived 25 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: there for many years, we both go there often for work, 26 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 1: and so it's devastating. I mean, because we know these streets, 27 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:03,240 Speaker 1: we know these places. I know so many people who 28 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 1: have been evacuated who have now lost their homes. And 29 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: I said this to you yesterday, but unless you've gone 30 00:01:08,560 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 1: through something like that where you're losing your house completely 31 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:16,520 Speaker 1: in a flood and a hurricane in a fire like this, 32 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 1: I don't know that you can fully comprehend the depth 33 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:21,800 Speaker 1: of what it means to lose everything. 34 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:25,080 Speaker 2: Yeah what I'm saying, Yeah, I mean I can't wrap 35 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:27,480 Speaker 2: my head around it. And you know, I think you know, 36 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 2: you see the stories and it's like there's different reasons 37 00:01:31,319 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 2: why it's catastrophic for people. I mean, you have like 38 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:36,720 Speaker 2: one of one of the people that I know that 39 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:41,200 Speaker 2: lost everything. I think got her now, children and dogs 40 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 2: were she was there, everyone was fine, but like she 41 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 2: just got married and moved into this house in October 42 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 2: and everything's gone, like her wedding dress, like things that 43 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:54,000 Speaker 2: are like new memories, the sentimental stuff. And then you 44 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:57,240 Speaker 2: have the eighty five year old person who's been living 45 00:01:57,240 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 2: in that house for fifty years and they don't have 46 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 2: a bill to pay anymore except for their power bill, 47 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 2: and they thought they were going to die in this house, 48 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 2: and now everything that they've known forever is gone, and 49 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 2: it's just It's unfathomable to me, and I feel really 50 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 2: helpless because I'm, you know, halfway across the country and 51 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 2: there's nothing that I can really do. And I'm like, 52 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:22,120 Speaker 2: what's my one hundred dollars donation to your GoFundMe going 53 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 2: to do for your three million dollar house to just. 54 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 3: Pump in flames? Because these are the. 55 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 2: I mean not to say that everyone that's being affected 56 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:31,079 Speaker 2: by this is living in a three million dollar home, 57 00:02:31,120 --> 00:02:34,919 Speaker 2: but the Pacific Palisades, I read today the average house 58 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 2: price there is three point one million dollars. 59 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:39,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I want to say something about that, actually, 60 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 1: because this is one of the things I see on 61 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:44,720 Speaker 1: social media that really makes me sick. But just because 62 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 1: someone is rich doesn't mean that losing everything is easy 63 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:51,280 Speaker 1: and not a big deal. And I see that all 64 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:53,320 Speaker 1: the time, where people are like, who cares about these 65 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:56,639 Speaker 1: celebrities and who cares about these rich people? They can 66 00:02:56,760 --> 00:03:00,960 Speaker 1: just buy a new house or whatever. Fine, maybe they can. However, 67 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:03,959 Speaker 1: going through something like this is extremely traumatic, no matter 68 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:07,960 Speaker 1: if you have money or don't have money. And I think, well, 69 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 1: and you know, like my grandparents were like what you said. 70 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:12,800 Speaker 1: I think I've told the story in the podcast before, 71 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:15,400 Speaker 1: but many years ago, after a hurricane, there was a 72 00:03:15,400 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 1: flood in my grandparents neighborhood. It wasn't actually completely related 73 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 1: to the hurricane. It was just that the river, like 74 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 1: the dam broke and so it flooded their entire neighborhood 75 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: and my grandparents had up to I think it was 76 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:27,240 Speaker 1: almost six feet of water in their house. And so 77 00:03:27,280 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 1: that ruins everything. It lose everything, And my mom and 78 00:03:31,480 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: I went down and we were helping sort through everything 79 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 1: and watching my grandparents sit in their living room and 80 00:03:35,920 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 1: it was this living room that they had lived in 81 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 1: this house for forty years, so I had grown up 82 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,200 Speaker 1: in this house. And it's like all of the memories. 83 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:44,840 Speaker 1: This is before the digital era too, so pictures and 84 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:48,240 Speaker 1: all these things that cannot be replaced are lost. And 85 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 1: I remember them coming up to Nashville, we moved them 86 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: up here and having to buy them things like toothbrushes 87 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 1: and sweatsuits at Walmart because they didn't have anything, and 88 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:00,480 Speaker 1: he didn't have nothing anything like. That's what I'm saying. 89 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 1: It's like, you know, we go travel and you think 90 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 1: about all the things you forgot in your suitcase, but 91 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:09,120 Speaker 1: what about that feeling for good? Like there is no 92 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:11,760 Speaker 1: home to go back to. And I know a lot 93 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 1: of people in La their retirement is in real estate. 94 00:04:15,800 --> 00:04:18,120 Speaker 1: It's in the real estate that they own that is 95 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:22,039 Speaker 1: their nest egg for the future. Like you're saying, if 96 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:24,240 Speaker 1: someone had a three point five million dollar house, maybe 97 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:26,159 Speaker 1: that's what they're going to sell to then live on 98 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 1: for the rest of their life or whatever it is. 99 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:30,279 Speaker 1: I just don't think that it's I think it's so 100 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:33,039 Speaker 1: flagrant to just be like, well, so what they have money. 101 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 2: That's also too it needs to be put into context. 102 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 2: The places that are writing about the celebrities who have 103 00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:42,680 Speaker 2: lost their houses, that is what they do. Their whole 104 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 2: business is built on reporting about celebrities. So you're if 105 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 2: your opinion is who cares, then don't fucking read page six, 106 00:04:51,880 --> 00:04:54,719 Speaker 2: don't read People magazine. Like the whole thing is built 107 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 2: on that. So that's what they're going to write about. 108 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:59,640 Speaker 2: They think their audience cares, and right, I would venture 109 00:04:59,680 --> 00:05:02,880 Speaker 2: to say their audience cares. So maybe it does not 110 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 2: apply to you, But it doesn't mean that you get 111 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:08,040 Speaker 2: to be an asshole because people are. I mean, there's 112 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 2: still human beings and right, and it's not like they're 113 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:14,200 Speaker 2: the majority of the people that are being affected here, 114 00:05:14,360 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 2: you know well. 115 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 1: And I also just think that this is just one 116 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 1: of those situations where even reporting on the celebrities or 117 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:22,679 Speaker 1: the super rich or whatever, it just has to show 118 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:26,320 Speaker 1: these kind of things impact everyone. There is no one 119 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:29,239 Speaker 1: that can get out of this, like there's a free 120 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 1: ride just because you have money. You don't get to 121 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 1: not lose your house, like if you were in a 122 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 1: certain area. And the hard part about this specific situation 123 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 1: is there's so many different fires happening in so many 124 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:43,920 Speaker 1: different areas. Like I think we've seen in La really 125 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:46,920 Speaker 1: bad fires in one area, and this is like since 126 00:05:47,120 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: across the board, so it feels like the entire city 127 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:51,680 Speaker 1: is burning down truly. 128 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:53,679 Speaker 2: Well, I mean, on the first night of the fires, 129 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 2: there were one hundred mile an hour wind gusts, right, 130 00:05:56,640 --> 00:05:59,839 Speaker 2: So I've seen a few videos where it's like it's 131 00:05:59,880 --> 00:06:02,279 Speaker 2: like you wonder how a fire can spread quickly, And 132 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:04,920 Speaker 2: it just showed the wind just blowing the umbers off 133 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:10,119 Speaker 2: of these palm trees. And you know, the lifeguard stands 134 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:13,600 Speaker 2: in Malibu were burning like they're by the water, across 135 00:06:13,640 --> 00:06:16,559 Speaker 2: the sand. You know, there's no path for the fire 136 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 2: other than via air to get to this. Yeah, So 137 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 2: I mean, and it's burning. When you've got wind blowing 138 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 2: fire like that, it's burning. It's such a degree that 139 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:28,760 Speaker 2: it's just devastating. There's no stopping it. 140 00:06:29,400 --> 00:06:31,960 Speaker 1: Yes, And so I'm going to put obviously I always 141 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:34,440 Speaker 1: want to do this where I put places if you 142 00:06:34,480 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 1: do want to go donate, if that if you feel helpless, 143 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:38,360 Speaker 1: like Chip was saying, and you want to go donate 144 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:41,120 Speaker 1: or try to contribute something. I'll put a couple of 145 00:06:41,160 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: links in the description of this podcast for you guys. 146 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:46,000 Speaker 1: If you can't find them. Also, just get on social media. 147 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:48,040 Speaker 1: I feel like there's so many posts about it right now. 148 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: And I know that's obviously like in my feed because 149 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:52,440 Speaker 1: I'm very connected to LA, but I think you can 150 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:55,360 Speaker 1: pretty much find it anywhere. There's a lot of people 151 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:58,160 Speaker 1: posting about different places and ways to go help. One 152 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 1: of the things I want to say, though, is because 153 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:03,400 Speaker 1: this podcast, like because of the nature of this podcast 154 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:05,039 Speaker 1: and the things that we talk about and on a 155 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:08,120 Speaker 1: spiritual level, and I talk a lot about like energy 156 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: and if you're a very energy sensitive person like I am, 157 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 1: I actually think all of us are, but you know, 158 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 1: some of us are willing to maybe tap into that 159 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:18,559 Speaker 1: a little bit more at the moment, but I don't 160 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 1: know that any of us cannot at this point, like 161 00:07:21,400 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 1: it's so overwhelming and so all encompassing, because it feels 162 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:29,559 Speaker 1: like it's everywhere the CEC, you open, social media, the news, 163 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: whatever it is. And so I do want to, like 164 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 1: also just say take care of yourself through this kind 165 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:37,880 Speaker 1: of stuff, because it feels like in this moment, and 166 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 1: I think for the last couple of years, we've just 167 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:44,239 Speaker 1: been getting hit from every different angle with all kinds 168 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 1: of news, and so pay attention to how it's impacting you. 169 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:50,720 Speaker 1: I did see one of the like healers that I 170 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 1: follow from LA post this, and I thought it was 171 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 1: very very smart of her. But she said, if you're 172 00:07:56,320 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: a very like if you're an energy sensitive person, or 173 00:07:58,360 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 1: if you just want to do this in general, like 174 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 1: you want to try to tap in a little bit more, 175 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:06,680 Speaker 1: don't overwhelm yourself with social media or taking on what's 176 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:08,640 Speaker 1: happening to the people in LA. And this is something 177 00:08:08,640 --> 00:08:10,360 Speaker 1: I'm very guilty of. I was doing it last night. 178 00:08:10,360 --> 00:08:13,640 Speaker 1: I was sobbing all morning actually, like watching videos of 179 00:08:13,640 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 1: people I know in their neighborhoods. Also because I can relate. 180 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:19,000 Speaker 1: I can very much empathize with this, but she said, 181 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: don't take that on as a way to help us. 182 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:24,960 Speaker 1: What you can do is get quiet with yourself and 183 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: really focus on bringing your energy back to a place 184 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:32,520 Speaker 1: of peace and gratitude and sending that energy out into 185 00:08:32,559 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 1: the world. And I thought that was really smart and 186 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:39,840 Speaker 1: a positive way that you can help You're not only yourself, 187 00:08:39,920 --> 00:08:42,680 Speaker 1: but also like, isn't that more of what we need 188 00:08:42,720 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 1: to stop focusing on the fear, to stop focusing on 189 00:08:46,120 --> 00:08:49,439 Speaker 1: the sadness, the tragedy, the fighting, the anger, and start 190 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:51,600 Speaker 1: sending each other more love? Do you know what I mean? 191 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:52,280 Speaker 3: Yeah? 192 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:55,000 Speaker 2: I saw I saw someone share a post and I 193 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:58,200 Speaker 2: think this was an energy thing. It wasn't as eloquently written, 194 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 2: but it was basically like envision rain, look at photos 195 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 2: of rain and just envision it and try to cleanse 196 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:09,680 Speaker 2: all these like horrific images that we've been seeing because 197 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 2: they're just being thrust upon us. 198 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:11,560 Speaker 3: Now. 199 00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:13,600 Speaker 2: It's like you cannot get on social media. I can't 200 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:16,679 Speaker 2: get on social media either seeing it, and so it's 201 00:09:16,679 --> 00:09:18,360 Speaker 2: being thrust upon us. And then of course it's like 202 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:20,280 Speaker 2: if you look at any new site, it's the major 203 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:22,960 Speaker 2: headline in the US, and so it was just like 204 00:09:23,520 --> 00:09:26,840 Speaker 2: to sort of recenter yourself in a peaceful place, imagine 205 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:28,760 Speaker 2: rain and look at pictures of rain. 206 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:31,160 Speaker 3: So I thought that was interesting. 207 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:34,319 Speaker 1: And also I think there's a there's so much. Whether 208 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:36,559 Speaker 1: you believe in this or not, I'm going to talk 209 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:38,480 Speaker 1: about it because I fully believe in it. But I 210 00:09:38,520 --> 00:09:40,839 Speaker 1: do believe energy is everything. I've said this a million 211 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:46,160 Speaker 1: times on this podcast, and that visually visually wow visualization, 212 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 1: that was a tough one for me today. Process that 213 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:52,440 Speaker 1: you just talked about can be very powerful because what 214 00:09:52,559 --> 00:09:55,920 Speaker 1: we are, like, what we feel, is what we put out. 215 00:09:56,040 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: And so we're if we're feeling that piece, if we're 216 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:01,960 Speaker 1: cleansing our own se with that water, that's also sending 217 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:08,160 Speaker 1: that energy of cleansing water, positivity, all of that out 218 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:10,680 Speaker 1: into the universe. And so it's not gonna be bad 219 00:10:10,720 --> 00:10:13,560 Speaker 1: for la Let's just say it that way. The other 220 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:15,840 Speaker 1: thing I wanted to say is, as we move into 221 00:10:15,840 --> 00:10:19,640 Speaker 1: this new year, it's just interesting because I think, for like, 222 00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:22,719 Speaker 1: what is this since twenty twenty, this is twenty twenty five, 223 00:10:22,760 --> 00:10:24,360 Speaker 1: which first of all, is was oar to me because 224 00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:28,199 Speaker 1: doesn't twenty twenty still feel in some weird way like yesterday. 225 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:29,959 Speaker 1: When I say it, I'm like. 226 00:10:29,920 --> 00:10:33,280 Speaker 3: Sure, we do not feel that far ago, yes. 227 00:10:33,080 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 1: And so it's just interesting because I think that was 228 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:40,439 Speaker 1: maybe the first period of time as a collective that 229 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 1: we have felt this oh my god energy of you know, 230 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:47,199 Speaker 1: I don't know. Then there was all the like Black 231 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:50,559 Speaker 1: Lives Matters, all the things that started during that time too, 232 00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:54,199 Speaker 1: where it was just so much divisiveness, so much volatility, 233 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:57,920 Speaker 1: so much trauma, all happening at once. And I don't 234 00:10:57,960 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 1: know that we have felt a reprieve from that full 235 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:03,400 Speaker 1: of yet, Like I know it's gotten better, but I 236 00:11:03,400 --> 00:11:06,200 Speaker 1: don't think that I've talked to anyone that feels just 237 00:11:06,240 --> 00:11:09,440 Speaker 1: like life has just been this easy ride since then? 238 00:11:09,559 --> 00:11:12,960 Speaker 1: Would you say that for you? I mean, oh, we've 239 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:16,200 Speaker 1: definitely gotten a lot back. It's not twenty twenty anymore, 240 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:19,680 Speaker 1: but nothing has felt the same, nor do I ever 241 00:11:19,720 --> 00:11:21,440 Speaker 1: think it really will. And I wanted to kind of 242 00:11:21,679 --> 00:11:23,760 Speaker 1: tell you guys a story about this experience I had 243 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 1: when I went to Bali in twenty twenty. It was 244 00:11:26,400 --> 00:11:29,040 Speaker 1: my birthday, it was my fortieth birthday, and I met 245 00:11:29,120 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 1: with I had my palm read and this woman does 246 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:36,320 Speaker 1: numerology Taro and then she reads your palm as well, 247 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:38,320 Speaker 1: and so she kind of incorporates all of it into 248 00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 1: your reading. And we did this amazing reading. She was 249 00:11:41,160 --> 00:11:43,080 Speaker 1: very spot on and helping me with some stuff, and 250 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:45,880 Speaker 1: then we got to the end and I was saying 251 00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:48,920 Speaker 1: something to her about I was just like, you know, 252 00:11:49,040 --> 00:11:51,320 Speaker 1: I just have to be honest. I don't really know 253 00:11:51,360 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 1: what this is, but I just feel this like energy 254 00:11:55,000 --> 00:11:57,880 Speaker 1: of I don't know that I even want to start 255 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:02,959 Speaker 1: anything work wise, because I don't feel like we're done yet. 256 00:12:03,160 --> 00:12:04,680 Speaker 1: And she was like, what do you mean? And I said, 257 00:12:04,720 --> 00:12:08,480 Speaker 1: I just feel like there's so much change coming that 258 00:12:08,600 --> 00:12:11,360 Speaker 1: I don't really feel like I personally know which direction 259 00:12:11,559 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 1: to go because I don't think that anything's going to stick. 260 00:12:15,000 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 1: And she was like, well, it's not. And I said, 261 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:21,080 Speaker 1: what do you mean? And she said, we are undergoing's 262 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:25,599 Speaker 1: I'm summarizing by the way, she basically said, we're undergoing 263 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 1: a massive deconstruction to reconstruction phase. She goes, this is 264 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:33,560 Speaker 1: a spiritual awakening for our world. Like our world is 265 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:37,440 Speaker 1: undergoing a spiritual awakening. And if you've heard some of 266 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 1: my stories and like I even posted a video a 267 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago on my Instagram where I was 268 00:12:43,480 --> 00:12:46,120 Speaker 1: meeting with a person talking about spiritual awakening and she 269 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 1: I told her about this story where I had been 270 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:52,000 Speaker 1: cheated on and canceled my wedding and it was very traumatic, 271 00:12:52,320 --> 00:12:54,400 Speaker 1: but it was honestly the biggest gift in my life 272 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:58,520 Speaker 1: because it started my journey of spirituality. And she said, well, 273 00:12:58,520 --> 00:13:01,320 Speaker 1: that's because when we get in those painful places, they're 274 00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:04,920 Speaker 1: often the catalyst for a spiritual awakening. That soul crushing 275 00:13:05,000 --> 00:13:08,000 Speaker 1: pain is the beginning of an awakening. And I think, 276 00:13:08,040 --> 00:13:13,199 Speaker 1: what's happening now, And this palm reader really predicted actually 277 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:15,640 Speaker 1: a lot of this, which is wild to look back 278 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:18,880 Speaker 1: at now, but is a bigger it's a bigger thing. 279 00:13:18,920 --> 00:13:22,679 Speaker 1: It's a spiritual awakening. So as we're being innundated with 280 00:13:22,920 --> 00:13:25,160 Speaker 1: this thing after thing after thing, you know, it feels 281 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:26,800 Speaker 1: like we're playing a game of whack a mole. It's 282 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:29,120 Speaker 1: like one thing happens, you put that out, and then 283 00:13:29,160 --> 00:13:32,360 Speaker 1: another tragedy happens. And she said that's going to continue 284 00:13:32,679 --> 00:13:34,559 Speaker 1: until twenty thirty if I'm being honest. 285 00:13:34,760 --> 00:13:35,520 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. 286 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:38,440 Speaker 1: Well, but I don't think it'll always be like this. 287 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:42,040 Speaker 1: But when we're seeing this stuff, what's helping me is 288 00:13:42,559 --> 00:13:45,920 Speaker 1: obviously I want to help all the people who've lost 289 00:13:45,920 --> 00:13:49,080 Speaker 1: everything and who are in pain. And it feels overwhelming 290 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:52,520 Speaker 1: because there's so many different thing things happening that it 291 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:55,200 Speaker 1: feels like I can't help them all, you know, But 292 00:13:55,240 --> 00:13:58,840 Speaker 1: I'm hoping what's going to happen, and I think this 293 00:13:58,880 --> 00:14:02,520 Speaker 1: will happen in LA I really do. Is that because 294 00:14:02,520 --> 00:14:05,120 Speaker 1: there's so much loss on such a big scale, we 295 00:14:05,240 --> 00:14:08,040 Speaker 1: have no other choice but to come together and work 296 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 1: as a community, right And I think that's probably one 297 00:14:11,679 --> 00:14:15,360 Speaker 1: of the bigger picture things that's happening here is for 298 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:18,400 Speaker 1: us to remember what really matters, what truly matters, for 299 00:14:18,480 --> 00:14:22,640 Speaker 1: us to redefine our values and look in the mirror 300 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:25,160 Speaker 1: and say, are the things that I'm focusing on or 301 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:28,000 Speaker 1: giving energy to the things that ultimately matter in life? 302 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:32,840 Speaker 1: Or if I've lost everything, how do I stay still standing? 303 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 1: What is this making me? 304 00:14:34,280 --> 00:14:34,360 Speaker 3: Like? 305 00:14:34,640 --> 00:14:36,160 Speaker 1: Look at and all of that stuff. And I'm not 306 00:14:36,200 --> 00:14:38,880 Speaker 1: saying any of this stuff to be insensitive to the 307 00:14:38,920 --> 00:14:42,440 Speaker 1: pain that must be felt first or the loss, like 308 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:45,200 Speaker 1: I understand, I'm not at all trying to skip over that, 309 00:14:45,760 --> 00:14:49,440 Speaker 1: but I'm just asking what are we supposed to be 310 00:14:49,520 --> 00:14:52,920 Speaker 1: learning here because I think that on a bigger scale, 311 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:56,960 Speaker 1: we've gotten a little bit off and we can't keep 312 00:14:57,000 --> 00:14:59,840 Speaker 1: going the way that we are. And what she said, 313 00:14:59,840 --> 00:15:01,800 Speaker 1: like I wrote down a quote, she said, nature cannot 314 00:15:01,840 --> 00:15:06,040 Speaker 1: stand anymore. So let nature work for itself. We call 315 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:09,160 Speaker 1: it natural disaster, but what it really is is healing. 316 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:12,280 Speaker 1: You know. They always give the metaphor of like when 317 00:15:12,320 --> 00:15:14,840 Speaker 1: you're going into remodel a house, like you have to 318 00:15:14,960 --> 00:15:17,320 Speaker 1: tear down before you can build back up. And so 319 00:15:17,400 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 1: I think on a bigger scale, that's just what's happening. 320 00:15:20,360 --> 00:15:23,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, mother nature will always win. Yeah, And 321 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:27,040 Speaker 2: sadly these things are cyclical. I mean, but you know, 322 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:30,840 Speaker 2: especially obviously, there's plenty of natural disasters that we can 323 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:33,360 Speaker 2: talk about, but the one that's you know, the hot 324 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 2: topic right now, it's pardon my pun. People are living 325 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:40,840 Speaker 2: in a desert like that landscape probably wasn't meant to 326 00:15:40,880 --> 00:15:42,880 Speaker 2: be inhabited the way that it is. And you've got 327 00:15:42,920 --> 00:15:45,680 Speaker 2: a city of I forget how big LA is, twelve 328 00:15:45,680 --> 00:15:49,360 Speaker 2: to fifteen million people. You know, it's so the way 329 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:52,600 Speaker 2: that the resources are sort of divvied up amongst people's 330 00:15:52,920 --> 00:15:55,440 Speaker 2: you know, they're reading stories about them running out of water. 331 00:15:56,280 --> 00:15:59,160 Speaker 2: I mean, that's not a surprise to me. Like there's 332 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:03,120 Speaker 2: not supposed to be many people living in that arid 333 00:16:04,160 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 2: desert area that they've developed into a place where a 334 00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:08,720 Speaker 2: lot of people want to live, and it's beautiful, and 335 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:11,520 Speaker 2: I understand why people want to live there, But you know, 336 00:16:11,880 --> 00:16:14,440 Speaker 2: I think the earth is always going to sort of 337 00:16:14,520 --> 00:16:18,760 Speaker 2: overcorrect and it's a sad reality of being a human 338 00:16:18,800 --> 00:16:21,640 Speaker 2: that is inhabiting this thing that's much bigger than us. 339 00:16:22,080 --> 00:16:26,360 Speaker 1: Well, it would be very difficult to me if I 340 00:16:26,480 --> 00:16:29,720 Speaker 1: wasn't a spiritual person at all and I was watching 341 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:31,920 Speaker 1: all of the things happening. It's like, how do you 342 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:35,520 Speaker 1: not look at things like what's happened in Asheville where 343 00:16:35,920 --> 00:16:39,320 Speaker 1: they've never had a hurricane situation like that, or this 344 00:16:39,560 --> 00:16:42,680 Speaker 1: level of fire, Like how do you just turn a 345 00:16:42,720 --> 00:16:45,640 Speaker 1: blind eye to it and say, oh, what's crazy, it's 346 00:16:45,680 --> 00:16:49,640 Speaker 1: crazy times or whatever? Like how are we not noticing 347 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:53,800 Speaker 1: there is something happening? Whether you want to talk about politics, 348 00:16:53,840 --> 00:16:56,960 Speaker 1: whether you want to talk about even this revolutionary energy 349 00:16:57,320 --> 00:17:01,120 Speaker 1: that I feel amongst the people where we're questioning the government, 350 00:17:01,240 --> 00:17:05,560 Speaker 1: our food supply system, like gun control, all of these things, 351 00:17:05,600 --> 00:17:08,560 Speaker 1: Like the reason all of it's happening all at once 352 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:12,800 Speaker 1: in such an overwhelming manner is to get our attention, 353 00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:16,120 Speaker 1: and we can't just keep not paying attention and think 354 00:17:16,119 --> 00:17:19,040 Speaker 1: that it's going to go away. It's asking us to grow, 355 00:17:19,119 --> 00:17:22,040 Speaker 1: it's asking us to change, it's asking us to evolve. 356 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:24,880 Speaker 1: And on a smaller scale, when I look through my life, 357 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:29,200 Speaker 1: when I'm feeling like I'm just getting annihilated and it's 358 00:17:29,200 --> 00:17:32,240 Speaker 1: coming from every area, it's because the universe is like, yo, bitch, 359 00:17:32,359 --> 00:17:32,960 Speaker 1: pay attention. 360 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:34,840 Speaker 3: We try to all this to you. 361 00:17:35,359 --> 00:17:37,560 Speaker 1: This with this small little lesson, you were like, nope, 362 00:17:37,640 --> 00:17:40,320 Speaker 1: I'm going to go this way anyway. And so here's one, 363 00:17:40,440 --> 00:17:43,280 Speaker 1: here's another, here's another, and they're all the same lesson. 364 00:17:43,359 --> 00:17:46,600 Speaker 1: It's like all the same thing. And I really truly 365 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:51,000 Speaker 1: believe that we're being asked to somehow find a way 366 00:17:51,040 --> 00:17:54,800 Speaker 1: to come together. And this community piece keeps coming into 367 00:17:54,840 --> 00:17:59,160 Speaker 1: my brain of just and also like because like I said, 368 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:01,399 Speaker 1: the twenty thirty, like you can buy into that or 369 00:18:01,440 --> 00:18:04,520 Speaker 1: you don't have to. But I think we'll probably see 370 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:06,440 Speaker 1: some more. I think I don't think this is going 371 00:18:06,480 --> 00:18:08,359 Speaker 1: away right now. Like I think we're going to go 372 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:10,399 Speaker 1: through a lot of more transition. We even have a 373 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:13,120 Speaker 1: new president coming in, so we'll see what comes up 374 00:18:13,119 --> 00:18:16,919 Speaker 1: with that. But I think that you have to find 375 00:18:17,040 --> 00:18:20,680 Speaker 1: something to help yourself feel grounded and find peace because 376 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:23,040 Speaker 1: we're only going to be living in chaos longer. So 377 00:18:23,080 --> 00:18:26,000 Speaker 1: how do you find peace among the chaos? And how 378 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:29,639 Speaker 1: do you be kind to your neighbor throughout a time 379 00:18:29,680 --> 00:18:33,080 Speaker 1: where we're all struggling. There isn't just one person going 380 00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 1: through something, There's everyone going through something, so we have 381 00:18:36,600 --> 00:18:38,680 Speaker 1: to come together and help support each other and hold 382 00:18:38,680 --> 00:18:39,280 Speaker 1: each other up. 383 00:18:39,760 --> 00:18:40,320 Speaker 3: Well said. 384 00:18:40,760 --> 00:18:43,840 Speaker 1: Anyway, with all of that said, I you know I 385 00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:46,399 Speaker 1: would love an open conversation about that too. So if 386 00:18:46,400 --> 00:18:48,800 Speaker 1: you guys have thoughts or you want to talk with 387 00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:51,359 Speaker 1: us about that, you know we always give you the 388 00:18:51,520 --> 00:18:53,320 Speaker 1: edge at velvesedge dot com or you can slide into 389 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:54,879 Speaker 1: either of Chips and I DMS and I'll put that 390 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:57,040 Speaker 1: in the description of this podcast, and we'll obviously also 391 00:18:57,080 --> 00:18:59,399 Speaker 1: mention like we always do at the end. But this 392 00:18:59,440 --> 00:19:02,080 Speaker 1: is an open conversation, Like I'm just telling you my thoughts, 393 00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:04,240 Speaker 1: take what you like, leave the rest. If you want 394 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:08,600 Speaker 1: to buy into Palm Readers, psychic type person, buy in. 395 00:19:08,920 --> 00:19:11,119 Speaker 1: I believe her because a lot of the things she 396 00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:16,320 Speaker 1: predicted happened after I left, so it was interesting. But yeah, 397 00:19:16,440 --> 00:19:18,320 Speaker 1: I think this is just a time really to like 398 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:21,320 Speaker 1: try to get quiet with yourself and take care of 399 00:19:21,359 --> 00:19:23,480 Speaker 1: yourself and the people around you, and be kind to 400 00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:35,320 Speaker 1: others truly, and like send love out with all of that. Though, 401 00:19:35,480 --> 00:19:37,639 Speaker 1: it is the first podcast of the year, which we 402 00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:40,400 Speaker 1: always do, this thing where Ship and I set an intention, 403 00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:43,920 Speaker 1: and this kind of ties into even like developing a 404 00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:46,639 Speaker 1: spiritual practice, because it's really tied into tapping into your 405 00:19:46,640 --> 00:19:49,360 Speaker 1: own intuition and like what kind of energy you want 406 00:19:49,359 --> 00:19:51,639 Speaker 1: to bring into the new year. I don't really do resolutions. 407 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:52,440 Speaker 1: Do you do that, Chip? 408 00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:56,359 Speaker 3: I mean I used to and would fail at them, 409 00:19:56,440 --> 00:19:57,360 Speaker 3: so I stopped. 410 00:19:57,640 --> 00:20:00,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't find resolutions to be helpful, but what 411 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:02,960 Speaker 1: I do find to be helpful is intention setting. And 412 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:06,480 Speaker 1: so last year we each set words. I kind of 413 00:20:07,200 --> 00:20:08,879 Speaker 1: grappled with mine a bit. I know you had some 414 00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:11,159 Speaker 1: interesting experiences with yours, and I want to touch on 415 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:13,320 Speaker 1: that for a second. And then this year my word 416 00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:16,879 Speaker 1: is completely different, and I want to talk about why 417 00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:18,679 Speaker 1: we picked each of our words too, So. 418 00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:21,760 Speaker 2: I'm excited to hear your word for the listeners. We 419 00:20:21,840 --> 00:20:23,200 Speaker 2: seriously don't know what each other's wants. 420 00:20:23,280 --> 00:20:24,200 Speaker 1: No, we haven't talked about it. 421 00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:26,560 Speaker 3: I feel like we talked about it in advance. Last year. 422 00:20:26,760 --> 00:20:30,600 Speaker 3: We're going in blind Well, let's last it. 423 00:20:30,640 --> 00:20:35,359 Speaker 1: Oh, curveful, wild wild times on the wild. We're getting 424 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:39,320 Speaker 1: really rowdy. Let's talk about last year's words. First, mine 425 00:20:39,400 --> 00:20:42,560 Speaker 1: was discipline, and that was because I felt like I 426 00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:45,040 Speaker 1: was coming out of a season of grief. If I'm 427 00:20:45,080 --> 00:20:47,800 Speaker 1: being really honest and just resetting, like I had had 428 00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:49,600 Speaker 1: so many things. It was one of those times in 429 00:20:49,640 --> 00:20:51,440 Speaker 1: life that I was just describing where I was getting 430 00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:55,120 Speaker 1: hit from every avenue it felt like. But it did 431 00:20:55,119 --> 00:20:58,120 Speaker 1: get my attention, and I truly feel like, as I've 432 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:01,159 Speaker 1: come out of it, it was such a gift. And 433 00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:03,400 Speaker 1: that's always a weird thing to look back on pain 434 00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:07,000 Speaker 1: and say, but I changed, and I grew a lot, 435 00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:09,239 Speaker 1: and I'm still changing and I'm still growing from some 436 00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:12,960 Speaker 1: of these lessons. And I know that I would not 437 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:17,159 Speaker 1: have been able to be where I'm at within myself 438 00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:21,640 Speaker 1: and within my relationships without all of that stuff happening. 439 00:21:21,720 --> 00:21:24,840 Speaker 1: So I wanted to go into last year's with discipline 440 00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:27,200 Speaker 1: because I felt like for me as such a big 441 00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:30,199 Speaker 1: feeler sometimes my emotions take me out, like I'm not 442 00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:33,639 Speaker 1: able to actually show up in life in a way 443 00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:37,119 Speaker 1: where I feel productive or like I'm functioning. And so 444 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:40,600 Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, I'm done with this kind of 445 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:43,920 Speaker 1: letting the emotions or writing my emotional waves, and I'm 446 00:21:43,920 --> 00:21:47,760 Speaker 1: ready to get back to some structure. And this, honestly 447 00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:50,520 Speaker 1: was the hardest word for me since we've started doing this. 448 00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:54,240 Speaker 1: I don't know that I feel like I fully fulfilled it, 449 00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:58,679 Speaker 1: but I do feel like the theme was there throughout 450 00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:02,359 Speaker 1: my life, like the theme of wanting to change some 451 00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:05,920 Speaker 1: of my daily habits and routines, and anytime I wasn't 452 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:09,200 Speaker 1: doing that, I would get sick, I would injure my back, 453 00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:13,040 Speaker 1: like something would come up where I paid a consequence 454 00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:18,600 Speaker 1: of us for not paying attention to taking care of myself. 455 00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:21,840 Speaker 1: And so that was where the discipline ended up being 456 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:27,320 Speaker 1: in like sort of staying stoically structured through some chaos 457 00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:30,199 Speaker 1: and then still showing up and kind of trying to 458 00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:33,520 Speaker 1: be a little more methodical in some of my actions. 459 00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:36,200 Speaker 1: So it was a I don't know, like, I don't 460 00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:38,320 Speaker 1: know that I feel like I'm looking back going. Man, 461 00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:42,200 Speaker 1: I really nailed that word but sometimes you know, it 462 00:22:42,359 --> 00:22:45,080 Speaker 1: just it's it's a foundation to build upon. And so 463 00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:48,000 Speaker 1: I'm taking that one kind of with me into this 464 00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:54,240 Speaker 1: year as well. But your word was adventure, Okay, explore 465 00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:55,520 Speaker 1: tell us about that. 466 00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:58,760 Speaker 2: You know, when I chose it, I'm just a naturally 467 00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:03,720 Speaker 2: curious person anyway, So I didn't know if it meant 468 00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:12,720 Speaker 2: physical exploration, educational exploration, just simply like keep yourself open 469 00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:16,560 Speaker 2: and curious, yeah, and those sorts of things. And I 470 00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:19,280 Speaker 2: will say I kind of like, looking back on the year, 471 00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:24,439 Speaker 2: I feel like there's the obvious, like I traveled a ton, 472 00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:27,639 Speaker 2: a ton, and some of it was for work, some 473 00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:31,480 Speaker 2: of it was by choice, for fun with friends, with family, 474 00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:35,720 Speaker 2: and so I think I nailed that piece of it. 475 00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:40,399 Speaker 3: And I also like I definitely felt like I dated 476 00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:41,120 Speaker 3: more this year. 477 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:44,359 Speaker 2: So yeah, and I saw I was more open to 478 00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:48,840 Speaker 2: the possibilities of different people, and I don't know, I 479 00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:50,560 Speaker 2: just felt like I explored a lot of things. 480 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:53,359 Speaker 3: I even like, I've always wanted this funny. 481 00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:55,040 Speaker 2: I don't know why I am like laughing about it 482 00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:58,320 Speaker 2: because it's not really that humorous, but I've always wanted 483 00:23:58,359 --> 00:23:59,720 Speaker 2: to learn to play the flute, and I bought a 484 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:06,560 Speaker 2: flute last year. But because of yeah, I bought a flute. 485 00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:09,000 Speaker 2: I ordered it from Amazon and it's sitting in my room. 486 00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:12,800 Speaker 2: And but I didn't do anything to learn to play it. 487 00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:14,720 Speaker 2: So but it's a step. 488 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:15,560 Speaker 3: I have it now. 489 00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:18,320 Speaker 2: It's a physical reminder of something that I want to do. 490 00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:22,240 Speaker 2: And I do think once I say what my word 491 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:24,360 Speaker 2: is coming up, there is a way that it can. 492 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:27,320 Speaker 3: Like you said, last year was foundational, and I'm going 493 00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:28,159 Speaker 3: to build upon it. 494 00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:31,880 Speaker 2: And maybe the flute is one of the things that 495 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:34,320 Speaker 2: sort of threads the needle there for me. 496 00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:38,560 Speaker 1: Ask questions about the flute. Sure, yeah, have you ever 497 00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:39,360 Speaker 1: played a flute? 498 00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:41,720 Speaker 3: Yes? But not well. 499 00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:43,480 Speaker 2: I mean I I know how to I can make 500 00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:45,919 Speaker 2: the sounds. I just don't know the finger like I 501 00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:48,280 Speaker 2: can make it makes a noise. 502 00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:52,320 Speaker 1: Like I played in high school? Oddly did I No? 503 00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:54,679 Speaker 3: I didn't know that. Maybe you can be my flute teacher. 504 00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:57,840 Speaker 1: Would you die? 505 00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:02,520 Speaker 3: So we should write a flute sound track for a podcast? Yeah? 506 00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:05,040 Speaker 1: That would die? I mean we So basically in my 507 00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:08,880 Speaker 1: high school, your freshman year you had you was required 508 00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:11,960 Speaker 1: that you played an instrument, and so I played flute. 509 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:14,119 Speaker 1: I guess I did it freshman sophomore. Maybe I don't know. 510 00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:15,760 Speaker 1: I'll have to ask my mom. She probably remembers more 511 00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:19,000 Speaker 1: than me. But I was not very good. But it's fun. 512 00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:20,679 Speaker 1: I mean, I guess it's fun. I just also like, 513 00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:22,920 Speaker 1: what drew you to the flute? Like what inspired? 514 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:28,119 Speaker 2: So when I was in elementary even prior to elementary school, 515 00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:31,439 Speaker 2: for some reason, my grandparents gave me a trumpet one year, Like, 516 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:32,919 Speaker 2: I didn't ask for a trumpet and I so I 517 00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:35,280 Speaker 2: just had a trumpet. So when I got to the age, 518 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:37,840 Speaker 2: which was elementary school where we could start taking band, 519 00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:41,359 Speaker 2: I wanted to join the band. And my mom was like, well, 520 00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:43,760 Speaker 2: you have a trumpet, and you know, my mom's kind 521 00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:45,560 Speaker 2: of cheap, and she was like, not gonna buy me 522 00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:47,720 Speaker 2: anything else when I had an instrument that could be played. 523 00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,520 Speaker 2: So I was a trumpet player and I was actually 524 00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:52,119 Speaker 2: really good, and I was first, you know, I was 525 00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:55,440 Speaker 2: first seed and stuff and first seat I think it 526 00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:58,680 Speaker 2: is first seat, Yeah, first seat, and yeah, isn't that. 527 00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:00,480 Speaker 1: Kind of fucked up? Though they make you sit in 528 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:02,560 Speaker 1: the order in your scene of how. 529 00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:08,679 Speaker 2: Good and yeah, you're like more on display too, closer 530 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:11,800 Speaker 2: to the front of the stage. But I was really 531 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:13,960 Speaker 2: good at it. But I loved My sister had a 532 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:16,119 Speaker 2: friend who was a flute player, and I would be like, 533 00:26:16,160 --> 00:26:18,280 Speaker 2: can I play your flute? And I just love the 534 00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:23,159 Speaker 2: sound of it. It's so whimsical. Yeah, it's like a 535 00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:25,960 Speaker 2: and it's not easy to do just to make the sound. 536 00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,639 Speaker 2: It's a very hard thing to do. And I just 537 00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:31,000 Speaker 2: don't think. Like I was laughing. One day, I was 538 00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:33,879 Speaker 2: probably stoned, and I was like, there needs to be 539 00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:36,439 Speaker 2: more flute and popular music. I'm gonna learn the flute. 540 00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:38,240 Speaker 2: And I told Elle. I was like, if I learned 541 00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:39,639 Speaker 2: the flute, you're gonna let me play it all one 542 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:42,159 Speaker 2: of my songs, didn't you? And then I was like, 543 00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:46,600 Speaker 2: I ordered my flute. Yeah she probably would. So, you know, 544 00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:48,520 Speaker 2: one of my goals this year is to find a 545 00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:51,159 Speaker 2: teacher so I can start learning, because it's there's a 546 00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:53,040 Speaker 2: lot of buttons on you know. I played an instrument 547 00:26:53,080 --> 00:26:53,920 Speaker 2: that had three buttons. 548 00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:56,119 Speaker 1: Is it called buttons? 549 00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:57,200 Speaker 3: I don't know what they're called. 550 00:26:57,240 --> 00:27:00,800 Speaker 2: The keys their keys maybe, I mean, I don't know 551 00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:03,760 Speaker 2: what any of it's called. So I'm sure there's like 552 00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:05,600 Speaker 2: a ninety five year old woman out here somewhere in 553 00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:07,040 Speaker 2: Nashville that'll teach you how to play. 554 00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:10,119 Speaker 1: I'm sure there is someone in Nashville, of all this city, 555 00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,359 Speaker 1: this huge city of musicians, that can teach you how 556 00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:15,600 Speaker 1: to play the flute. I just picture you body rolling. 557 00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:18,240 Speaker 1: Chip is a really good body roller for anyone who doesn't. 558 00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:20,320 Speaker 3: Know Broadway playing. 559 00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:24,119 Speaker 2: Yes, I mean I could do that for those of 560 00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:26,920 Speaker 2: you big alas, only when they can see me. Yeah, 561 00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:29,080 Speaker 2: I'm gonna bring that Lizzo energy to my flip. He's 562 00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,760 Speaker 2: body went to Juilliard for the flip, so. 563 00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:35,440 Speaker 1: I know, I actually have always loved that she incorporates 564 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,640 Speaker 1: it because it's such a mix of classical with this 565 00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:43,000 Speaker 1: whatever pop r and b rap vibe that she does 566 00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:44,120 Speaker 1: so well. 567 00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:46,919 Speaker 3: It was also, I mean, for early on in her career, 568 00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:49,199 Speaker 3: it was a good sort of attention getter. You know. 569 00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:53,080 Speaker 2: It's because she's like this big woman that's like you 570 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:57,800 Speaker 2: just don't expect it, and then she just fucking yeah, 571 00:27:58,000 --> 00:27:58,720 Speaker 2: she's really good. 572 00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:01,960 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, Okay, Well, do you want to go 573 00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:03,760 Speaker 1: into your word? Since we're kind of letting you flow 574 00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:05,240 Speaker 1: right now, do you want to go into the word. 575 00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:06,520 Speaker 1: I want to know now how the fleets go. 576 00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:08,720 Speaker 3: I hook. I mean, I'm kind of bending the rule here. 577 00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:22,040 Speaker 2: My word for the year is no slash no, and 578 00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:25,160 Speaker 2: it's the word no as an no o slash k 579 00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:26,080 Speaker 2: n ow. 580 00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:30,359 Speaker 3: Oh, and I landed on that. 581 00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:33,199 Speaker 2: I've been thinking about no for like n for a 582 00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:36,119 Speaker 2: long time because I am a yes person, I'm a 583 00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:39,240 Speaker 2: people pleaser, and I need to be better about saying 584 00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:42,880 Speaker 2: no to things that don't serve me. And that can 585 00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:44,880 Speaker 2: be a night out, you know, as simple as that, 586 00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:46,560 Speaker 2: Like I just want to stay home, you know. I 587 00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:50,200 Speaker 2: want to read more this year, and I definitely like 588 00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:53,080 Speaker 2: I got my you know, I had my fun last year. 589 00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:56,120 Speaker 2: I explored, I did a lot of fun shit, and 590 00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:58,200 Speaker 2: I spent a lot of money, and I think this year, 591 00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,600 Speaker 2: I want to spend more time with myself and getting 592 00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:04,720 Speaker 2: to know things and getting to know people better. 593 00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,120 Speaker 3: So that's where the k and ow came in. 594 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:11,000 Speaker 2: So I think one of like the no o scratches 595 00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:13,080 Speaker 2: the back of the k and ow, Like by me 596 00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:16,920 Speaker 2: setting boundaries and saying no and being very intentional about 597 00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:19,320 Speaker 2: the things that I say yes to and where I 598 00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 2: give my time and energy will open the door for 599 00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:25,920 Speaker 2: me to learn more and learn more about the people 600 00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:28,240 Speaker 2: that I love, because I mean even like not my 601 00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:30,840 Speaker 2: closest friends, because obviously know a ton about them, but like, 602 00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:33,880 Speaker 2: there are people in town that I know and I 603 00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:36,240 Speaker 2: really like them, but like I couldn't tell you their husband. 604 00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:37,360 Speaker 3: Or wife's name or their kids name. 605 00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:39,920 Speaker 2: It's like I just cut like I know them, and 606 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:42,160 Speaker 2: but like I want to know them. 607 00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:44,960 Speaker 3: And you know, I just joined. I mean, I'm doing 608 00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:45,560 Speaker 3: a trial thing. 609 00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:49,080 Speaker 2: There's a new thing in Nashville called LOLU and it's 610 00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:53,880 Speaker 2: a sauna cold plunge place. Oh yes, and they have 611 00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:57,280 Speaker 2: it's yeah, it's it's kind of amazing and if they 612 00:29:57,280 --> 00:29:59,600 Speaker 2: want to sponsor us, please give me a membership. 613 00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:01,200 Speaker 3: I'll talk about it every fucking day. 614 00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:05,640 Speaker 2: But they it's a thirty person sauna, yeah, and then 615 00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:08,400 Speaker 2: like a ten person cold plunge. It's like the biggest 616 00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:12,400 Speaker 2: hot tub slot but it's cold you've ever seen. And 617 00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:15,840 Speaker 2: then in between them, there's a shower, like a communal 618 00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:17,760 Speaker 2: shower room because they want you to shower in between. 619 00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:21,239 Speaker 2: And then there's this like other room where there's like 620 00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:24,479 Speaker 2: tea cold water, hot water for tea, and you're supposed 621 00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:26,960 Speaker 2: to mingle and chat. And then there's an outside area 622 00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:29,360 Speaker 2: that's useful when it's nice out. Part of it is 623 00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:32,160 Speaker 2: that they want you to communicate, and I'm so used 624 00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:33,640 Speaker 2: to like, when I go in the sauna, I don't 625 00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:35,479 Speaker 2: want to be anybody talking to me, Like I just 626 00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:38,120 Speaker 2: want to sit there in sweat and meditate and do whatever. 627 00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:41,280 Speaker 2: But like everyone's chit chatting. And today I went this 628 00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:45,840 Speaker 2: morning and I met like this girl named Serena and 629 00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:48,680 Speaker 2: her friend was visiting from Dallas. His name was Terence, 630 00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:51,040 Speaker 2: and I oh, and when I walked into the locker room, 631 00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:52,719 Speaker 2: this guy pops in. He goes, are you the other 632 00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:55,440 Speaker 2: chip that's here? He had heard me check in and 633 00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:57,520 Speaker 2: when he checked in, they had said my name, and 634 00:30:57,560 --> 00:30:59,400 Speaker 2: he was like, it's so rare that I would get 635 00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:01,080 Speaker 2: to meet a chip, So he wanted to meet me. 636 00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:05,440 Speaker 2: And I, like, my natural like reaction to that is 637 00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:07,600 Speaker 2: like shut up, leave me alone, Like I'm not here 638 00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:10,440 Speaker 2: for this, Like you know, I'm shirtless, I don't want 639 00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:12,600 Speaker 2: to talk to you, right, And then I was like, no, 640 00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:16,000 Speaker 2: lean in, like there might be somebody here that's really 641 00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:18,000 Speaker 2: fucking cool that you want to know. And I'm like, 642 00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:21,360 Speaker 2: and I just reminded myself the word is no. So 643 00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:22,760 Speaker 2: I was like, I'm going to lean in. I'm gonna 644 00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:25,160 Speaker 2: talk to these people. The way that the flute comes 645 00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:27,080 Speaker 2: in is maybe by the end of this year, I 646 00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:28,560 Speaker 2: will know how to play it. 647 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:32,840 Speaker 1: I love this. Also, what's pinging me about what you 648 00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:35,480 Speaker 1: just said about that place is what you just described 649 00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:38,760 Speaker 1: as community. So it's literally I don't know why that 650 00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:40,880 Speaker 1: is such a sense that I have, but I really 651 00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:44,040 Speaker 1: do feel like we are supposed to stop isolating, We're 652 00:31:44,040 --> 00:31:47,000 Speaker 1: supposed to stop being mean to each other. We're supposed 653 00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:48,800 Speaker 1: to look to each other for each of our skill 654 00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:52,840 Speaker 1: sets and like lean into our own authentic selves. And 655 00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:54,800 Speaker 1: I love that that you're I love the way you're 656 00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:57,920 Speaker 1: doing no and no with the two different definitions because 657 00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:01,440 Speaker 1: it's first of all very you, but it's also because 658 00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:04,560 Speaker 1: but they both work, like the knowledge piece of the 659 00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:07,360 Speaker 1: no with the K and then the no to know 660 00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:10,720 Speaker 1: where you need to set boundaries and also spend time 661 00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:14,960 Speaker 1: with yourself. I love that. Wow. Good for you. 662 00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:18,520 Speaker 3: Thanks. 663 00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:24,000 Speaker 1: Mine is a little bit simpler, maybe, but I just 664 00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:27,760 Speaker 1: keep you know. I think I have this overriding sense, 665 00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:30,840 Speaker 1: like I said earlier, that we're going to continue on 666 00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:35,160 Speaker 1: in through this cycle. And typically what I've started learning 667 00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:38,040 Speaker 1: is that whatever's happening on a macro level, like in 668 00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:40,720 Speaker 1: the big scale of things, when I really scale down 669 00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:44,080 Speaker 1: to just my life. There are similar lessons happening on 670 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:48,520 Speaker 1: a micro level. And so for me, the word that 671 00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:51,920 Speaker 1: I really want to lean into is just to trust. 672 00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:55,920 Speaker 1: It's trust. That's my word this year. And that sounds 673 00:32:55,960 --> 00:33:03,960 Speaker 1: really simple, but for me, that would involve detaching more, yeah, 674 00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:08,520 Speaker 1: stopping trying to control things, stopping trying to micromanage and 675 00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:10,560 Speaker 1: make things go the way that I want, and to 676 00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:14,520 Speaker 1: trust the process. And when I do those things, my 677 00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:17,720 Speaker 1: life is so much better. It's much more peaceful. I 678 00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:21,720 Speaker 1: find myself experiencing things that I wouldn't have ever even 679 00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:25,080 Speaker 1: dreamed up, you know, because I think sometimes our brains 680 00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:27,600 Speaker 1: are actually a lot smaller than we think, and the 681 00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:30,760 Speaker 1: universe is so much more powerful than we think. And 682 00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:34,080 Speaker 1: so when I'm trusting and I just trust the process, 683 00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:35,960 Speaker 1: I show up and I do the next right thing, 684 00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:39,360 Speaker 1: My life seems to go a lot better. Things seem 685 00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:42,960 Speaker 1: to work out in magnificent ways, and I'm shown such 686 00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:47,360 Speaker 1: beauty from so many different levels that my experience has 687 00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:51,720 Speaker 1: become grander, and I just feel like that's maybe what's 688 00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:54,960 Speaker 1: going to be happening on a bigger scale. You're smiling 689 00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:56,640 Speaker 1: at me right now, and it's throwing me. 690 00:33:58,240 --> 00:34:00,400 Speaker 3: I just like I love this, I love you, like 691 00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:01,240 Speaker 3: letting go. 692 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:05,240 Speaker 1: Oh, the letting go. Yes, It's just I just think 693 00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:08,279 Speaker 1: I'm to this place where I'm like, I don't really 694 00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:11,120 Speaker 1: know what else I could do with that, like without 695 00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:15,719 Speaker 1: just leaning into that. And you know, I've practiced it 696 00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:18,480 Speaker 1: a lot over the years in different areas of my life, 697 00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:23,799 Speaker 1: but I just really feel like, yeah, I just want 698 00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:28,200 Speaker 1: to stop absorbing so much negativity that's happening in our 699 00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:30,960 Speaker 1: world and looking at it as good or bad and 700 00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:34,799 Speaker 1: staying curious and just going I know this is going 701 00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:38,480 Speaker 1: to lead us somewhere good, just that being the overriding sense, 702 00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:40,919 Speaker 1: like I know this is going to lead somewhere good, 703 00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:46,759 Speaker 1: whether it's super painful right now or not. Ultimately, everything 704 00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:49,600 Speaker 1: is always for my highest good, always for your highest good, 705 00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:52,000 Speaker 1: always for all of our highest good, And so how 706 00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:55,280 Speaker 1: do we lean more into that energy of it rather 707 00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,479 Speaker 1: than being like this is so bad, Oh my god, 708 00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:00,560 Speaker 1: this is so you know, like I don't know, we 709 00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:03,239 Speaker 1: just label things like that. I really do believe that, 710 00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:05,480 Speaker 1: and I really do, and so I really want to 711 00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:08,280 Speaker 1: just trust and trust the process. 712 00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:13,160 Speaker 3: So yeah, I mean, look, it's humanity. 713 00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:18,359 Speaker 2: Even our generation, we've all experienced fucking awful things and 714 00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:22,759 Speaker 2: lived through awful things, and if you're lucky, you come 715 00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:25,560 Speaker 2: out on the other side of it still alive, you know, 716 00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:32,120 Speaker 2: and you realize how little control you have over anything, 717 00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:39,480 Speaker 2: and actually, oftentimes how little most things matter other than love. 718 00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:42,640 Speaker 2: And if you can sort of let go of the 719 00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:46,960 Speaker 2: trappings of thinking that you can control and you I mean, 720 00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:50,239 Speaker 2: it's funny because you know, I do believe that you 721 00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:52,520 Speaker 2: can create the life that you want, but I don't 722 00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,560 Speaker 2: think that you can control everything in that life. 723 00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, if that makes sense. So if you if you 724 00:35:57,640 --> 00:35:58,560 Speaker 3: can let go of the. 725 00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:03,520 Speaker 2: Idea of being in control, it makes for a much 726 00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:07,080 Speaker 2: more peaceful existence as long as you are willing and 727 00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:09,560 Speaker 2: able to accept the fact that bad things happen, like 728 00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:14,200 Speaker 2: car accidents are called car accidents, Like very few people 729 00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:17,319 Speaker 2: go out and try to run someone over, wreck their 730 00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:20,480 Speaker 2: car or whatever. But bad things happen and hopefully you 731 00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:22,920 Speaker 2: live through them and you become a better driver or whatever. 732 00:36:23,320 --> 00:36:26,279 Speaker 2: So I mean, I think most people don't trust. That's 733 00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:28,239 Speaker 2: why there is so much hate in the world. And 734 00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:31,359 Speaker 2: I know that your word's not specifically about like I'm 735 00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:33,719 Speaker 2: just going to be willy nilly and just trust everybody 736 00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:35,440 Speaker 2: you're more trusting the process. 737 00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:37,400 Speaker 1: Well, I've trust very few people at this. 738 00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:40,160 Speaker 2: Seat, right, right, But I mean, oh, look, I think 739 00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:42,319 Speaker 2: in leaning into trust, you also have to trust that 740 00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:43,160 Speaker 2: most people. 741 00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:46,400 Speaker 3: Are good, you know, like in general most people are good. 742 00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:50,520 Speaker 1: Yeah. For me, it's more trust my own intuition. And 743 00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:54,040 Speaker 1: I'll talk about a specific experience. So I'm in a 744 00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:56,600 Speaker 1: relationship now, I've talked about that for a while, and 745 00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:58,759 Speaker 1: you know, I think as human beings we go through 746 00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:00,800 Speaker 1: certain experiences in our life. And the reason I'm telling 747 00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:03,319 Speaker 1: this story is just specifically because I've been talking about 748 00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:04,960 Speaker 1: it a little more on the podcast, and so it's 749 00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:08,200 Speaker 1: kind of relevant at the time. But you know, I 750 00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:12,120 Speaker 1: have had a lot of betrayal in relationship on a 751 00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:15,360 Speaker 1: lot of scales, in you know, the public eye with 752 00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:21,360 Speaker 1: a friendship. In romantic relationships. Yeah, I was in a 753 00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:25,120 Speaker 1: very very bad pattern of dating people that were not 754 00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:28,799 Speaker 1: trustworthy for me, and it was just toxic situations. And 755 00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:31,200 Speaker 1: I don't say any of that to say any like, 756 00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:35,440 Speaker 1: I'm so sick of Oh, I you know, fuck them. 757 00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:38,479 Speaker 1: They fucked me over whatever. They taught me things, big 758 00:37:38,520 --> 00:37:46,759 Speaker 1: things right, and for me, that came with really damaging 759 00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:49,520 Speaker 1: my ability to trust people because there were a lot 760 00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:52,440 Speaker 1: of things that happened over the years where I was 761 00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:56,000 Speaker 1: how I mean, I felt very betrayed, and then I 762 00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:58,439 Speaker 1: got into this relationship. And of course when you get 763 00:37:58,440 --> 00:38:02,160 Speaker 1: into a relationship, it doesn't mean all your shit goes away, 764 00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:04,239 Speaker 1: right like where we are, all of our shit comes 765 00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:07,600 Speaker 1: to and so as much work as I've done around 766 00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:10,480 Speaker 1: all of those things, at the beginning of my relationship, 767 00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:14,879 Speaker 1: I struggled with certain things coming up about me having 768 00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:18,439 Speaker 1: a hard time trusting or immediately if I get hit 769 00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:21,319 Speaker 1: with a trigger, my head goes to what happened to 770 00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:24,680 Speaker 1: me in the past. And one of the most healing 771 00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:29,880 Speaker 1: experiences for me has been learning to assume that my 772 00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:36,000 Speaker 1: partner's intention is good and that he is not who 773 00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:39,760 Speaker 1: I've dated in the past, and immediately when I change, 774 00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:44,719 Speaker 1: looking at his intention differently and staying curious. We have 775 00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:47,239 Speaker 1: had the most healing conversations I've ever had with the 776 00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:49,600 Speaker 1: man in my life. We have been able to go 777 00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:53,160 Speaker 1: deeper than I've ever gone in a another relationship. Our 778 00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:57,360 Speaker 1: intimacy feels higher, and that's not because our relationship is perfect, 779 00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:01,359 Speaker 1: but it's because we go in looking at each other 780 00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:03,960 Speaker 1: as they are coming from a place of good and 781 00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:07,200 Speaker 1: with good intention and not I need to defend myself. 782 00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:11,080 Speaker 1: I'm in threat, you know, Like it's just it's crazy 783 00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:13,200 Speaker 1: what our brains do to keep us in safety. And 784 00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:16,000 Speaker 1: so you immediately go to your old things, like I 785 00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:18,040 Speaker 1: don't trust because of all these things that happened. But 786 00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:20,880 Speaker 1: what if I go into this situation and look at 787 00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:22,960 Speaker 1: it and go, there's nothing this person has done to 788 00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:25,799 Speaker 1: break my trust. So what if I ask him what's 789 00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:29,000 Speaker 1: going on and we talk about it and it's healing 790 00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:31,439 Speaker 1: or whatever. I guess all I'm saying is I don't 791 00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:35,640 Speaker 1: know that I trust people necessarily because people are human 792 00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:38,680 Speaker 1: and we all make mistakes. But I do think there's 793 00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:42,040 Speaker 1: a reframe to trust myself and I trust the universe, 794 00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:45,000 Speaker 1: and I do think there are a lot of people 795 00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:47,520 Speaker 1: in the most people in my life at this point, 796 00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:49,759 Speaker 1: I do trust, you know, I wouldn't have them in 797 00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:50,360 Speaker 1: my life. 798 00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:53,279 Speaker 2: So I think that was a great example too. I'm 799 00:39:53,320 --> 00:39:54,320 Speaker 2: MNSA set its name. 800 00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:59,160 Speaker 1: No no, no, we keep those beings load down around 801 00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:02,480 Speaker 1: here these days. Learn my lesson the hard way on 802 00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:08,080 Speaker 1: that shit speaking of not trusting people anyway. So that's yeah, 803 00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:11,000 Speaker 1: and I just again it's like I think that it's 804 00:40:11,080 --> 00:40:13,640 Speaker 1: by twenty twenty five, you know, five years later. And 805 00:40:13,719 --> 00:40:15,919 Speaker 1: for me, kind of my shit started hitting the fan 806 00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:20,040 Speaker 1: in twenty nineteen, and I'm just tired. And so it's like, 807 00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:22,520 Speaker 1: if I keep trying to fucking figure this out, I'm 808 00:40:22,560 --> 00:40:24,400 Speaker 1: going to tucker myself out. 809 00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:26,840 Speaker 3: Right, So what if some things aren't meant to be 810 00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:27,479 Speaker 3: figured out? 811 00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:29,600 Speaker 1: No, they just are. 812 00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:30,120 Speaker 3: No. 813 00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:32,280 Speaker 1: In one of my twelve step programs, the woman says, 814 00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:34,640 Speaker 1: figure it out is not one of our slogans, which 815 00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:37,400 Speaker 1: like there's all these slogans in twelve steps, you know, 816 00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:39,200 Speaker 1: but it figure it out isn't one of them. And 817 00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:41,480 Speaker 1: that's one of the things that I've always wanted to do, 818 00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:43,279 Speaker 1: Like I want to know all the information. I want 819 00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:45,000 Speaker 1: to figure out why people are doing what they're doing. 820 00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:46,359 Speaker 1: And it doesn't give me. 821 00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:48,120 Speaker 2: When people are like, well I love that you've got 822 00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:52,200 Speaker 2: life figured out. You know, it's like such like impossibility, 823 00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,520 Speaker 2: which makes it such like a cutting statement. 824 00:40:54,760 --> 00:41:01,240 Speaker 1: Yeah of course nobody figure out, well, right, nobody, it's impossible, right, yeah, 825 00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:03,560 Speaker 1: But just stop trying to figure it out too, and 826 00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:06,359 Speaker 1: just going there is a bigger plan. I really do 827 00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:09,640 Speaker 1: believe that, whether it's it takes until twenty thirty or not. 828 00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:13,399 Speaker 1: But like, there is a new era dawning. And if 829 00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:15,319 Speaker 1: you don't feel that, I don't know what world you're 830 00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:17,560 Speaker 1: living in, because shit feels like it's changing to me 831 00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:20,960 Speaker 1: every day, and I feel like people are waking up. 832 00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:23,480 Speaker 1: We're on a different journey than we've been on in 833 00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:26,200 Speaker 1: the past, and so I don't know the way to 834 00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:28,640 Speaker 1: go on that journey. That's all I know. I'm learning 835 00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:30,520 Speaker 1: as I go, and I think the rest of us are, 836 00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:33,800 Speaker 1: or most of us are, and so we have to 837 00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:36,640 Speaker 1: trust in something and that's where your spiritual practice or 838 00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:39,520 Speaker 1: whatever comes in. But yeah, if I keep trying to 839 00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:42,880 Speaker 1: go especially the same ways that I've done in the past, 840 00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:44,280 Speaker 1: it's not gonna work anymore. 841 00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:47,040 Speaker 3: Definition of insanity exactly exactly. 842 00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:49,360 Speaker 1: So I'm going to keep showing up. I'm going to 843 00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:51,920 Speaker 1: keep doing my work. I'm going to keep doing my part, 844 00:41:52,480 --> 00:41:54,880 Speaker 1: and I'm going to trust that there's a point to 845 00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:58,479 Speaker 1: everything happening and that it's always for my highest good. 846 00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:01,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, I look it. I mean, you can't question things, 847 00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:01,880 Speaker 3: you know. 848 00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:04,000 Speaker 1: I like, this is on a good day, I'll have 849 00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:05,719 Speaker 1: this kind of trust it. On a bad day, I'm 850 00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:06,640 Speaker 1: gonna be like, fuck, it. 851 00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:11,640 Speaker 3: I don't trust anybody us. I trust that this is 852 00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:13,680 Speaker 3: real fucked up, you know. 853 00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:16,319 Speaker 1: The universal slap me back down and I'll go all right, 854 00:42:16,360 --> 00:42:18,879 Speaker 1: I gotta go back to that mentality. It's just it's 855 00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:21,040 Speaker 1: a cycle, right like you do the was you can 856 00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:23,799 Speaker 1: And that's just my intention for the year to bring 857 00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:27,120 Speaker 1: myself back to that. Even when I like get off course, 858 00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:29,799 Speaker 1: I want to come back to you can trust, you 859 00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:32,640 Speaker 1: can trust the process, take it day by day. What's 860 00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:33,520 Speaker 1: your next right step? 861 00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:37,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm curious if any listeners have words of the year, 862 00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:41,120 Speaker 2: if this inspire even if you don't, if this inspires 863 00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:43,600 Speaker 2: you to have one, yeah, to post antag us or 864 00:42:43,640 --> 00:42:44,640 Speaker 2: something so that we know. 865 00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:47,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that. I feel like last year a 866 00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:49,160 Speaker 1: lot of people did that. You can always do me. 867 00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:51,840 Speaker 1: But I love that about also sharing it with your followers. 868 00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:54,640 Speaker 1: If you're a listener and you have a word, that's 869 00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:57,000 Speaker 1: a great idea to put it in your story of 870 00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:58,799 Speaker 1: like your intention for the year, because you don't know 871 00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:01,359 Speaker 1: who you'll inspire to do this same and then tag 872 00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:02,479 Speaker 1: us so we can see it too. 873 00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:06,480 Speaker 2: Because it is a lot easier I think than resolutions. 874 00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:10,279 Speaker 1: Well, resolutions come from a place of shame. Someone taught 875 00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:11,799 Speaker 1: me that a long time ago. It comes from a 876 00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:14,400 Speaker 1: place of black, like you're telling yourself you don't, you 877 00:43:14,560 --> 00:43:18,160 Speaker 1: aren't doing something, you're not good at something, you're overweight, 878 00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:21,640 Speaker 1: you're you're not good enough at work. Like it's all 879 00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:26,000 Speaker 1: shame based, and so it really is more punishing than inspiring. 880 00:43:26,719 --> 00:43:29,279 Speaker 1: So if you said a word, it's putting positivity and 881 00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:33,040 Speaker 1: positive energy into something and just setting an intention, and 882 00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:36,000 Speaker 1: those those are important for us. I do believe like 883 00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:38,839 Speaker 1: our hearts need to feel centered into something. We need 884 00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:43,880 Speaker 1: to have a higher purpose. So know and no and. 885 00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:47,080 Speaker 3: Trust h I love it. 886 00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:50,480 Speaker 1: You can hit us up at the edge of velvetsedge 887 00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:52,239 Speaker 1: dot com if you do want to hit us up 888 00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:55,160 Speaker 1: on Instagram. I am at Velvet's Edge. I have been 889 00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:58,000 Speaker 1: a little absent. That was because I needed a break 890 00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:01,040 Speaker 1: for the holidays and then also these fires. I just 891 00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:04,359 Speaker 1: feel weird posting about stuff when tragedy is happening. I'm like, 892 00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:07,760 Speaker 1: I can't, I can't focus on Hey, let me plug 893 00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:12,480 Speaker 1: my podcast, like it just right so insensitive. So we'll 894 00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:15,080 Speaker 1: be back to posting once this la stuff kind of 895 00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:18,000 Speaker 1: gets contained and people are safe and things like that. 896 00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:20,560 Speaker 1: But you can always hit me up on there. It's 897 00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:22,000 Speaker 1: at Velvet's Edge. 898 00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:25,040 Speaker 3: Chip, I'm at Chip DOORSH. It's c H I P 899 00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:27,120 Speaker 3: D O R S CCH. 900 00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:28,759 Speaker 1: Well you're not rusty at all. 901 00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:30,600 Speaker 3: Look at that, oh ma'am. 902 00:44:30,840 --> 00:44:33,200 Speaker 1: As you guys go into the weekend and you're living 903 00:44:33,239 --> 00:44:36,360 Speaker 1: on the edge and setting your intentions, I hope you 904 00:44:36,360 --> 00:44:38,239 Speaker 1: always remember too. 905 00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:40,160 Speaker 3: Casual. 906 00:44:40,560 --> 00:44:44,319 Speaker 1: It's a very trust like thing to act, it really is. 907 00:44:44,840 --> 00:44:45,600 Speaker 1: I love that. 908 00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:51,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, trust trust trust no no no, all right, bye 909 00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:51,839 Speaker 3: bye