Speaker 1: The Nicky Glazer Podcast. Yes here I am. Hey guys,
Speaker 1: welcome to the show Fresh Week of the Nicki Glazer Podcast.
Speaker 1: For you guys, it's Monday. You know, you get a
Speaker 1: little discombobulated when there was a week. Uh, last Monday
Speaker 1: was a holiday, and then this Sunday felt like we
Speaker 1: should be raging tonight. Last night I was like, I
Speaker 1: really got used to last week being Sunday being God,
Speaker 1: I love a Sunday that's a Saturday. Oh it feels good.
Speaker 1: It's like the adult version of a snow day. Um. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I I had a great weekend. I worked all weekend,
Speaker 1: but it doesn't feel like work, you know. Um, I've
Speaker 1: said that before about this podcast. I've made it so
Speaker 1: that it never feels like a burden or like um.
Speaker 1: And this week weekend I was in Charlotte or I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I was in Orlando on on Friday and then Charlotte
Speaker 1: on Saturday. One show Orlando, two shows in Charlotte, Orlando.
Speaker 1: I was at the hard Rock Live, which was just
Speaker 1: a giant venue. Um, and the crowd was just so
Speaker 1: excited and drunk, and they were blowing up the condoms
Speaker 1: that we hand out and like, you know, tossing them
Speaker 1: in the air like it was you were at like
Speaker 1: a I don't know a b C Boys concert. I
Speaker 1: don't know who does the That was just just a
Speaker 1: show that I picked in my head. I'm sure at
Speaker 1: BC Boys shows they've blown up beach balls and pass
Speaker 1: them around. That's a gentle fun thing at a at
Speaker 1: a concert, and it is embarrassing to get hit on
Speaker 1: the head with a beach ball. You don't know what's coming.
Speaker 1: So but there's no harm, Like, no one gets hurt
Speaker 1: with that. Um. But it was really fun. Uh, it
Speaker 1: was you know me Anya, Anya does the theme song
Speaker 1: for the show of course on your Marina Uh, Andrew
Speaker 1: Emil Joachim, Uh, my assistant Gen and my uh tour
Speaker 1: manager Matt, and we just had it was just fun.
Speaker 1: Even though we traveled on Saturday and then had two
Speaker 1: shows on Saturday night. Charlotte was like so beautiful and
Speaker 1: the shows there were so fun and two shows my
Speaker 1: feet hurt so bad though. It's weird, like my feet
Speaker 1: are numb on stage, I can't feel them, and then
Speaker 1: as soon as I walk off stage, it's like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I have numbness in one of my toes
Speaker 1: from heels, but that's the price you gotta pay. And
Speaker 1: for heels it is like, oh, for sure, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean my feet are all jacked up, but if I'm
Speaker 1: not wearing heels, they're fine, you know, Like I'm never
Speaker 1: gonna get bunion surgery because I think it would just
Speaker 1: be purely for esthetic reasons. But yeah, I mean, you
Speaker 1: know the pain of heels, Noah, and you don't have bunions,
Speaker 1: Like heels are fucking awful. Do you remember when you
Speaker 1: first started wearing heels and why it was? I think
Speaker 1: it was when I did um the MTV show you know,
Speaker 1: Nikki and Sarah Alive. Was the first time that I
Speaker 1: was regularly in heels for extended amounts of time. I
Speaker 1: guess what about you, like, do you remember? Because I
Speaker 1: don't think I. I was always doing stand up. It
Speaker 1: seemed foolish to wear heels because I didn't know what
Speaker 1: they would even go with. It seemed like it just
Speaker 1: I never maybe I put on a little like kitten
Speaker 1: heel for like a funeral after if my mom was
Speaker 1: like taking us to pay Less to get something to
Speaker 1: wear two grandma's funeral or something. But no, never like
Speaker 1: a over an inch ever before um, before I was
Speaker 1: on TV, what about you? I I was always kind
Speaker 1: of like a tomboy. But I guess the first heel
Speaker 1: that I remember wearing is a jelly Do you remember those? Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: a chunky jelly heel. I was gonna say that that's
Speaker 1: probably my first heel as well. But to me, those
Speaker 1: don't cause the pain because there's such a sturdy base,
Speaker 1: you know, the chunkier the the heel. This is for
Speaker 1: men that don't know, um, the the less foot pain
Speaker 1: because you have more support on that heel. But when
Speaker 1: you have a tiny little um, you know, just a
Speaker 1: little rod that your whole heel is being put on
Speaker 1: your body puts all the weight into your toes too,
Speaker 1: because it's you know, I don't know. I don't know
Speaker 1: the you know, physics of it or the physics of anything,
Speaker 1: to be honest with you, but that's when it starts
Speaker 1: to hurt. Is the tinier the um the heel, and
Speaker 1: it's you know, I don't know if I thought of
Speaker 1: this originally or someone else said it, but men have
Speaker 1: never had to call it a night early or not
Speaker 1: stay somewhere that was fun because their feet hurt, you know,
Speaker 1: And and maybe you know if you have plan or
Speaker 1: fasciitis or you broke your foot, that's aside from the thing.
Speaker 1: But you know, footwear for women in order to look
Speaker 1: and they do look good. They make look good. Like
Speaker 1: when I wear a heel, my leg is flexed. It
Speaker 1: looks fantastic in a heel and boots really like step
Speaker 1: up an outfit. They can take it an outfit that
Speaker 1: would otherwise be you know, kind of plain and boring,
Speaker 1: and they make it like pop and they're fun. You know.
Speaker 1: I used to really hate them and be like, why
Speaker 1: does anyone do it? But it's because it It makes
Speaker 1: you look cool and great and and it gives me confidence.
Speaker 1: When I'm really tall, I think I feel more like
Speaker 1: Um confident, and I feel dressed up and you know,
Speaker 1: you dressed for the job that you want. And I
Speaker 1: want to be Um, a child bride in the Ming dynasty.
Speaker 1: Apparently because my feet, my toes. No, do you have
Speaker 1: a hammer toes? I have? Um? No, I do not
Speaker 1: have hammer toes. I do have like a small little
Speaker 1: bunyan that is from people always think bunyans are genetic,
Speaker 1: Like I probably know more about bunyans than most podiatrists too.
Speaker 1: I have probably researched them. I'm close to ten thousand hours.
Speaker 1: I'm looking Bunyan footage, looking at surgery methods. I could
Speaker 1: probably you know, I could probably surgically take out a
Speaker 1: Bunyon because I've watched all like the instructional videos that
Speaker 1: people in med school watch, like they're on YouTube. Um,
Speaker 1: I know pretty much everything about them. And they're not genetic.
Speaker 1: Do you know what is genetic? Everyone goes their hereditary,
Speaker 1: which I don't know the difference between genetic and hereditary.
Speaker 1: That's why I probably shouldn't be a surgeon at any point.
Speaker 1: But they're not passed down. The thing that's passed down
Speaker 1: it might be the structure of your foot, which lends
Speaker 1: itself to be more prone to bone modification. Like maybe
Speaker 1: you have a wide foot that um, you now your
Speaker 1: dad has bunyans, and my dad and I have the
Speaker 1: same feet. My dad has bunyans, I have bunyans. We
Speaker 1: have the same legs, everything. But what causes bunyans is footwear.
Speaker 1: If your foot, your foot is taking the shape of
Speaker 1: shoes that you wear. So my dad wore UM had
Speaker 1: a lift in his shoe for most of his life
Speaker 1: because one of his legs was longer than the other,
Speaker 1: and some doctor was like, yeah, you gotta get a
Speaker 1: lift in your foot in your shoe. And then it
Speaker 1: came out that it was like he didn't need it,
Speaker 1: but his lift and his foot and his shoe caused
Speaker 1: his foot to slam harder into the toe bed, which
Speaker 1: made it into eight. And you know he worked for
Speaker 1: years wearing those shoes that men wore, like the that
Speaker 1: make your feet into a triangle. And so I have
Speaker 1: the hammer toes. So can I see your bunyon? No? Yeah, sure,
Speaker 1: I'm actually on the photo of us from Mexico. Someone
Speaker 1: had to very conveniently pointed out, Oh really, can you
Speaker 1: see it? Is it on your Is it on your wait? No, no, no,
Speaker 1: well you do it a little bit towards your Yeah,
Speaker 1: there we go. Oh so it's on that side. I
Speaker 1: can't get a good look at it from my perspective,
Speaker 1: but I know that all our foot guys are enjoying
Speaker 1: that video if if it ever surfaces. Um, yeah, it's
Speaker 1: only going to get worse unless you make sure to
Speaker 1: You can do exercises, you can do different things to
Speaker 1: help it. But bunyans are not from It's it's because
Speaker 1: of your foot wear, you guys. I got bunyans. On
Speaker 1: one trip. My feet took a different shape. After one
Speaker 1: trip to New York two thousand six, I wore flats
Speaker 1: from Old Navy that were too small because I was
Speaker 1: trying to slip into smaller shoes because it's probably, you know,
Speaker 1: made me feel daintier. And my feet just took the
Speaker 1: shape of this little ballet flat. And so I have
Speaker 1: hammer toes, which makes your toe normally lays straight, and
Speaker 1: mine are now clawed and they look like they're just
Speaker 1: curled up like a little scared snail um, and there's
Speaker 1: nothing you can do about them. And I'm I'm so
Speaker 1: grateful now though, that I have no shame about my feet.
Speaker 1: I was recently talking to someone about bunyans, and I
Speaker 1: was like, you know, Megan Marcole has bunyans, Oprah has bunyans,
Speaker 1: Paras Shilton has bunyans. Um, I don't feel bad about it.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna wear it. And I think Carrie Washington like,
Speaker 1: there you know a lots, even Jennifer Hanston I think
Speaker 1: has a little bit of a bun. But then I
Speaker 1: went and googled Megan Markle's onion to show someone, and
Speaker 1: the bitch got it fixed. She got it fixed. And
Speaker 1: I don't think it was for medical reasons, like it's
Speaker 1: I think it was probably for ascetic reasons. It's like, girls,
Speaker 1: who cares about your feet? That is such an intense surgery.
Speaker 1: You gotta be off your feet for twelve weeks if
Speaker 1: you get them both done. I think it's six for each,
Speaker 1: and you can't do them both at the same time.
Speaker 1: And don't write to me about lap of lasty and
Speaker 1: all the different kinds that you can get that are
Speaker 1: less invasive. And when you mess with your feet, you
Speaker 1: mess with everything, so you're taking a huge risk. I've
Speaker 1: heard just a lot of horror stories, but I like
Speaker 1: mine now, and I'm like, if someone is grossed out
Speaker 1: by them, I'm just like, that's your problem, not mine.
Speaker 1: I love my bunyan, so I'm gonna let him. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna let him breathe. But you know, there are times
Speaker 1: where I like like a guy, or like I'm around
Speaker 1: a guy that I'm like attracted to, and there's a
Speaker 1: little bit of me hiding my feet, um just in
Speaker 1: case he like is he doesn't love me enough yet?
Speaker 1: To see that side of me, because some people aren't
Speaker 1: just like grossed out by feet, and you know you,
Speaker 1: I could argue, like, I don't want to be with
Speaker 1: a guy that wouldn't be turned off by my feet,
Speaker 1: but like people off their things, like I don't like mayonnaise,
Speaker 1: and if a guy is like eating a mayonnaise sandwich,
Speaker 1: I would on a first date I would be like,
Speaker 1: you're disgusting, I'll never love you. But if I already
Speaker 1: love that person he likes mayonnaise, then and he keeps
Speaker 1: that thing from me until I love him, I can
Speaker 1: accept it. You know what I'm saying, thoughts Um, Yes,
Speaker 1: I think so. I used to pay a lot of
Speaker 1: attention to my feet as well, which is why I
Speaker 1: stopped wearing heels, because I wanted the bunyon to not
Speaker 1: get any worse. And I realized that unless guys are
Speaker 1: really into feet, and even if they are into feet,
Speaker 1: they like all the you know, like weird shapes and
Speaker 1: forms and stuff, so it really just didn't matter when
Speaker 1: I can't. I love the pain that I get from
Speaker 1: my feet that I can let later have massaged out.
Speaker 1: So I enjoy the pain like I'm thinking about going
Speaker 1: to get a foot rub like or a you know,
Speaker 1: foot leg kind of massage. Later and I go, you
Speaker 1: know what, I gotta go for a run in some
Speaker 1: shitty shoes because I really want my shins wants to
Speaker 1: be raging when I go get it because I wanted
Speaker 1: to be painful. It's just like so fucked, but I
Speaker 1: love I like pain. I don't know what's the problem
Speaker 1: with me? Um, Let's talk about your cat. Does it
Speaker 1: have a name yet? Yes? Do you want like the
Speaker 1: story with my dad or do you want me just
Speaker 1: tell you the name? No, let's get the story because
Speaker 1: you were hesitant to name the cat and you wanted
Speaker 1: your dad to name the cat and tell me why. Okay,
Speaker 1: So my dad, um, as I told you, is the
Speaker 1: least creative person that I know he has. And what
Speaker 1: is that mean? It means that he's just like very
Speaker 1: simple and he's very regimented. He's like a product on
Speaker 1: an assembly line. Nothing in his day ever changes. He's
Speaker 1: very plain and Okay, what brings him joy his job?
Speaker 1: That's a great question. I don't know, Like does he
Speaker 1: do things for fun? Does he have guilty pleasures? He
Speaker 1: likes to uh buy a lot of crap, like like
Speaker 1: mechanical things, which is him. He's very mechanical. He likes
Speaker 1: buying himself, yes, physical representations of himself, thank you, Yes exactly.
Speaker 1: But sometimes like he's so like not creative that he
Speaker 1: has these like strokes of like creative genius. So, um,
Speaker 1: you know. So we get this little black kitten and
Speaker 1: I'm like, Dad, we're taking suggestions for names, um, and
Speaker 1: I want you to name the cat. And also I
Speaker 1: want to let everyone know that my English is my
Speaker 1: dad's third language. And he goes, yeah, um, Romanian first,
Speaker 1: then Hebrew, and he learned English like thirty years ago
Speaker 1: when he came to this country. Very cool. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: so you and him learned it to other like English together.
Speaker 1: Um no, I learned it in school and he like,
Speaker 1: I'm not sure how he learned it. I think he
Speaker 1: was just forced to learn it on the job. Do
Speaker 1: you speak to him in English now? Yeah? And I
Speaker 1: always did. Do you speak Romanian at all? I understand Romanian.
Speaker 1: I speak a little bit of it, but it's go understand.
Speaker 1: Clean your room? And I got a new machine today, yes,
Speaker 1: And work makes me feel good about myself as I'm
Speaker 1: going to work early and coming home very late. So
Speaker 1: you'll never see me. Oh did we just learn everything
Speaker 1: we need to know? Okay, everything that Noah was tiptoeing
Speaker 1: around in the description of her father just came out
Speaker 1: in that sentence. All right, So your dad's a hard
Speaker 1: working man. English is his third language. He's the least
Speaker 1: creative person, you know, which is a hilarious way to
Speaker 1: describe someone. Um, all right, and you said name this cat, yes,
Speaker 1: and he goes, Ah, I don't know, why don't you
Speaker 1: call him blackie? I was just gonna say blackie, but
Speaker 1: like that sounds I know, I'm like, Dad, I have
Speaker 1: I can I cannot call my dad my my cat that, Like, no, no,
Speaker 1: I don't think it's it's not that citically incorrect. And
Speaker 1: he but he had no idea. Like I literally was
Speaker 1: going to say, did he say blackie? But I didn't
Speaker 1: even want to say that to even put the you know,
Speaker 1: but you know the cat is black and it's it's
Speaker 1: like it's cute and you add any to things that
Speaker 1: are cute. Yes, So I was so I like explained
Speaker 1: to him, like why we're not we're not calling the
Speaker 1: cat that. But what we did decide to call him.
Speaker 1: He purs so much you start petting him and he
Speaker 1: purs like a little motor. So we're calling him Buzzy
Speaker 1: because he buzzes when he's good. That's a great name, Buzzy.
Speaker 1: I love it. That's a great I mean, honestly, did
Speaker 1: you come up with that though, or did your dad? No, No,
Speaker 1: we came up with it because we're like, we have
Speaker 1: to name something. We have to name him something around
Speaker 1: his purse because it's just so cute. I love Buzzy.
Speaker 1: I was thinking you about to call him purry or
Speaker 1: persian or per um per capita. Uh No, that's so
Speaker 1: cute Buzzy. I've never heard that for and it reminds
Speaker 1: you of buzz Aldrin, who was you know, was he
Speaker 1: the second person? Yeah, Neil arms Strung and then buzz
Speaker 1: Aldron he was the second man on the moon. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And buzz Aldren is a little cookie, which is just
Speaker 1: like the cat, a little cookie. But he's a little cook.
Speaker 1: Is he a cook buzz Aldrin? Yeah? Oh yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: he's like known for that. He's a little off. But
Speaker 1: I mean, the guy has been an outer space and
Speaker 1: then he's come back to earth, so oh damn. You know,
Speaker 1: he made a cameo on thirty Rock that I have
Speaker 1: to play because it was so funny. I put it
Speaker 1: on my story. The other day, buzz Aldrin was on
Speaker 1: thirty Rock. I did not remember this episode, but um
Speaker 1: uh Tina Phay's character is talking about She's like, you know,
Speaker 1: thirty two in the show, and everyone's saying like you
Speaker 1: need to be married, like you're an old maid, and
Speaker 1: she's just like feeling so sad about it, and she's like,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm just waiting for my astronaut, like I
Speaker 1: want to marry a guy who's she has this like
Speaker 1: vision of what her man is and then you're like,
Speaker 1: that's never gonna happen. And then she's talking to her
Speaker 1: mom who comes to visit, who was kind of giving
Speaker 1: her ship, and she finds out her. She's like, well,
Speaker 1: you mom, you found the man of your dreams and
Speaker 1: she's like I did, and she's like, and you love
Speaker 1: dad and she goes, it's not your dad. It was
Speaker 1: a man that I met that we couldn't be together.
Speaker 1: It turns out her mom could have been with buzz Aldren,
Speaker 1: but she settled for someone else, and Liz doesn't know
Speaker 1: how to handle that, so she goes to visit buzz
Speaker 1: Aldren and he's in this weird kind of like, um uh,
Speaker 1: what's the movie where the guy murders people and everything's
Speaker 1: white in that loft American Psycho. He's in like one
Speaker 1: of those like kind of lofts in New York. And
Speaker 1: she walks in to meet him. And I don't really
Speaker 1: know the context of her going to meet him, but
Speaker 1: she finds out a way to meet him, and he
Speaker 1: I wondered if you've got the fact that he's Kookie
Speaker 1: from this kind of representation of him on thirty Rocks.
Speaker 1: So she walks in, Dr Aldrin, I'm sorry there wasn't
Speaker 1: a door. So I just I don't believe in barriers
Speaker 1: because I always break them. About my mother, Margaret Lemon, well,
Speaker 1: you would have known her as Margaret Freeman, Maggie Freeman,
Speaker 1: of course I remember her. Well. I'm sorry to bother you,
Speaker 1: but I can't help but wonder what my mom lost
Speaker 1: by giving up on you her perfect man perfect Sure,
Speaker 1: I'm a famous astronaut, decorated fighter pilot. It looks good too.
Speaker 1: He's a good actor. I see you now, Okay, So
Speaker 1: this is he goes, sir, I'm all these great things
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, he looks to the side.
Speaker 1: He gets distracted, and he looks out the window. I
Speaker 1: see what you're doing, and he starts screaming at the window.
Speaker 1: Return to the night. Are you yelling at the moon?
Speaker 1: I'm sorry? She and I just okay, I get mad.
Speaker 1: Sometimes he starts shouting at the moon, returned to the night.
Speaker 1: I think one of the funniest lines I've ever heard, though,
Speaker 1: that I boasted on my story was, um, I'm I'm
Speaker 1: the breaking barriers line. What. I don't even know how
Speaker 1: he said that, But it's just seeing someone who's not
Speaker 1: meant to do comedy like doing a joke like that
Speaker 1: makes me laugh so hard. I think that's why Martha
Speaker 1: Stewart always really got me on the roast. She had
Speaker 1: great delivery. Um, wasn't trying to be anything other than
Speaker 1: what she was like. Wasn't trying to be a comic,
Speaker 1: you know. Um yeah that I I talked about that
Speaker 1: on stage a lot, about the settling thing, um about
Speaker 1: you know how everyone goes never settle, don't just like,
Speaker 1: you know, if this guy is not good enough, don't
Speaker 1: put up with it and and look for someone better. Um,
Speaker 1: you know, never settle like keep going. The book that
Speaker 1: you know I talked about a lot called Getting Too
Speaker 1: I Do, says that if a guy is fifty one
Speaker 1: percent good, keep him, do anything you can to make
Speaker 1: it work before you give up, unless he's physically abusive,
Speaker 1: which that even he shouldn't be fifty one. Um. However,
Speaker 1: people always go I found my soul mate, and I
Speaker 1: tell the audience, I go, you all have settled, by
Speaker 1: the way, don't tell me you didn't, and everyone goes no,
Speaker 1: and I see them all kind of reach for each
Speaker 1: other's hands, like I didn't settle, that's not that's not us,
Speaker 1: and I go, yes, you did settling. Settling it gets
Speaker 1: a bad connotation. But no matter what who you're with,
Speaker 1: you settled because guess what, you didn't meet everyone you
Speaker 1: could have been with, and you could have kept going.
Speaker 1: But at some point you just go, this is probably
Speaker 1: as good as it's gonna get. And for me, I
Speaker 1: feel like I just I never want to I always
Speaker 1: want to leave the option open for something better. And
Speaker 1: I think that's why Bumble and all these apps are
Speaker 1: like there's an endless supply and so no one wants
Speaker 1: to like actually choose someone and stick to it um.
Speaker 1: But I also feel like even if you choose someone
Speaker 1: and you do find someone better, you could go be
Speaker 1: with that person if the person you're with doesn't keep
Speaker 1: up their end of the bargain. I don't know, that's
Speaker 1: just my thought. Let's get into the Yello yellow, Hello, yellow,
Speaker 1: mellow yellow. We got a Neon sign up in this bitch.
Speaker 1: That is the when we go to video, you'll see it.
Speaker 1: But Andrew, your shirt is just as bright as the
Speaker 1: yellow sign. I honestly don't. I didn't know they could
Speaker 1: get cotton to pop this much, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: when you wash it a little bit, but maybe in
Speaker 1: an um dark dark black light. Well, I think we're
Speaker 1: both wearing badass outfits. You got the Cheetah, I got
Speaker 1: the It was so annoyed that you made a comment
Speaker 1: on my office today, And I didn't need to be,
Speaker 1: but I do. I'm wearing like a romper that's like
Speaker 1: has a snake skin print, and it's just like I'm
Speaker 1: only wearing this because I ran out of T shirts,
Speaker 1: Like I just had to grab up a rumber. It's
Speaker 1: it's the thing that annoys me when when you're a
Speaker 1: girl and you run your laundry goes like you run
Speaker 1: out of things to wear that you normally you have
Speaker 1: to pick a dress and people go, oh, someone's dressed up.
Speaker 1: It's like no, someone's depressed and um can't do their
Speaker 1: laundry and it's all enough, you know, mess on my
Speaker 1: bed and it's kind of half wet and smells like
Speaker 1: well because I left it in the start. You start
Speaker 1: to get into the walk of shame category of your
Speaker 1: of your closet. You're like, oh, funk, this is gonna
Speaker 1: look like I wore it last night and I got
Speaker 1: fucked and I haven't showered yet. No, it's just it's
Speaker 1: people a tribute. I mean, I know what you're saying,
Speaker 1: but like people a tribute you wearing a dress to
Speaker 1: like do you like someone in the office? Oh, do
Speaker 1: you have a date later today? And it's like no,
Speaker 1: it's like I just have a dress on and and
Speaker 1: you and the effort. That's why I don't like wearing
Speaker 1: makeup and like doing my hair and looking like better
Speaker 1: than usual because people go oh, and then it makes
Speaker 1: me feel God, I must look like ship all the
Speaker 1: other times. And also the effort that went into this
Speaker 1: was like nothing like I resent when they credit my effort. Actually,
Speaker 1: I like when when I put a lot of effort
Speaker 1: in and I get attention for it, because then I go,
Speaker 1: it makes sense I put an effort. But when I
Speaker 1: just put on something that is easier honestly than putting
Speaker 1: on two separates and you go, okay, someone, it's like,
Speaker 1: my my thing is like like it's an innocuous comment,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like I'm just seeing it.
Speaker 1: I come out of my room and you're in Cheetah
Speaker 1: and usually you're in Lulu Lemon or some kind of
Speaker 1: workout outfit or like something like it's something different. It's
Speaker 1: going to catch my eye. Maybe I shouldn't mention it.
Speaker 1: But you know what, there's a cheating in my living room.
Speaker 1: I say something that's a good one. Um, but you
Speaker 1: were in your room and I just wanted company while
Speaker 1: I eat my breakfast, and I wanted to like talk
Speaker 1: about like stuff that we don't talk about on the
Speaker 1: podcast and stuff. So, um, you like sneaking in your
Speaker 1: room and I go, are you are you going to
Speaker 1: take a ship? And you go no, And I go
Speaker 1: what's going? Can you come out here? And you were
Speaker 1: just like um, and I go, what are you doing,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to have to be like, are
Speaker 1: you masturbating or whatever? Jerk off in the morning. And
Speaker 1: I knew that too, Like I just I know your
Speaker 1: sketch for some reason on that and did a minute.
Speaker 1: I just know you're not a morning jerk off. Guy.
Speaker 1: It just doesn't strike me as someone the thing you
Speaker 1: do a morning person would jerk off in the morning.
Speaker 1: You were just kind of peeking in your room and
Speaker 1: like it was because you were hiding this this the
Speaker 1: highlighter shirt. See, I you like getting attention of very close.
Speaker 1: I hate it, and that's why I never liked getting
Speaker 1: attention for my clothes. Would why would you hide it?
Speaker 1: Last time I dressed like a crayon? I dressed. I
Speaker 1: had a green hat and a purple shirt. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: mentioned it, so I thought it would be fun to
Speaker 1: come in with this thing, which is by far the
Speaker 1: highest colored thing I've ever worn in my life. Like you,
Speaker 1: like like you cut your hair something, you'll kind of
Speaker 1: like kind of hover around me, like kind of like
Speaker 1: giggle a little bit, like waiting for me to say something.
Speaker 1: And I'm always just like, you did something different with
Speaker 1: your looks? What is it? Or you'll be like, but
Speaker 1: when you're digging for it, it's just I don't dig
Speaker 1: get Addie here, Oh Andrew, you're a digger. No, I'm not. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't dig it all. I really don't
Speaker 1: like I I don't you dig at night when you
Speaker 1: want to look good, you want to look good? No,
Speaker 1: but I don't. I don't go like like guys, like,
Speaker 1: when are you gonna say something like I don't do
Speaker 1: that and that's not me because I'm better than you
Speaker 1: or something that's not that's not what it's about. Like, I, um,
Speaker 1: and I'm into. Maybe I want a compliment, but I
Speaker 1: would never ask for it because I would feel like
Speaker 1: it would be forcing someone to give me one. You
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I don't think I've ever asked
Speaker 1: for a compliment. Oh my god, you did? I have?
Speaker 1: I have one? When do you mind? I don't care.
Speaker 1: We went. I love that you have one ready to go.
Speaker 1: But it was just so cute because it was like
Speaker 1: it just it was really just well, this is why
Speaker 1: I never wanted to go see you go golfing, because
Speaker 1: I just knew that I wasn't going to give you
Speaker 1: the amount of compliments that you wanted for your golfing,
Speaker 1: like you keep going, like come to the come to
Speaker 1: the range, come see me. Maybe I have come out
Speaker 1: of my room a few times and ask you. But
Speaker 1: you're the only friend I have in St. Louis. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: you go. So I run. I run in Forest Park,
Speaker 1: I run, and sometimes we go out at the same
Speaker 1: time at night, and he goes to the golf rage
Speaker 1: and Forest Park is gigantic, and I'll sometimes go run
Speaker 1: to the range and meet him on my third mile
Speaker 1: and then we drive home and go to Whole Foods.
Speaker 1: So I ran up and and I was watching his
Speaker 1: swing and like trying to be like, wow, that's far,
Speaker 1: Like I don't know what, like you look strong when
Speaker 1: you do that, Like I don't know anything about golf,
Speaker 1: so I don't know what I could like. I don't
Speaker 1: have any thing to base it off of. Really, So
Speaker 1: I don't like you looking for any kind of feedback
Speaker 1: from me. I don't know what you're looking to get.
Speaker 1: And I I'm not saying that like what do you want?
Speaker 1: I just I actually want to know, Like what could
Speaker 1: I say that you would feel like, oh, she knows
Speaker 1: what she's talking because I don't know what. No, it's
Speaker 1: not about how you're dressed so that we're driving home,
Speaker 1: and I tried to compliment him as much as possible.
Speaker 1: But I also really hate when people are waiting for
Speaker 1: you to say something like I know that I do
Speaker 1: it with guitar, like with your dad. You do it
Speaker 1: with your dad with guitar. But I tell my dad,
Speaker 1: why don't you ever say anything? I just want to
Speaker 1: know the reason. And I'm telling you, I don't say
Speaker 1: anything because I don't know anything about golf. That's why
Speaker 1: I don't say anything about your swing, and because the
Speaker 1: I am it's an ugly part of myself. But me
Speaker 1: and my friend Robin, she has this to where she
Speaker 1: feels like sometimes uh, someone that she knows will be
Speaker 1: looking for like we'll do something kind of wait for
Speaker 1: them to say like thank you or like like you're
Speaker 1: the best, and she's just like, God, I would say it,
Speaker 1: but the fact that they want it makes me not
Speaker 1: want to say it. It's like, what do you relate
Speaker 1: to that at all? Like when people want something, you
Speaker 1: don't want to give it to them as much as
Speaker 1: if you just like yeah. It's like when a comic
Speaker 1: gets off stage and they do well, but they have
Speaker 1: this look like, who's gonna say, I supposed to just
Speaker 1: like walk normally, and we know you want it, But
Speaker 1: there's a way to not look so desperate. Here's the
Speaker 1: thing I've I've worked very hard on my golf, like
Speaker 1: a ton. You've never seen me hit a golf ball ever,
Speaker 1: I think, and I, and I don't know, part of
Speaker 1: me was like, wow, look at this work I've done.
Speaker 1: And I value your opinion even though you don't know
Speaker 1: about it. You could say, hey, wow, it looks like
Speaker 1: you've worked without it's not even like no, But I
Speaker 1: do that all the time when you come and tell me,
Speaker 1: like scores, so I can understand scores like I went
Speaker 1: from this to this, Yeah, whoa, that ball just fucking
Speaker 1: explode off my club like a like a rocket. But
Speaker 1: the only golf I've seen is professional golf, so that
Speaker 1: just looks like it looks professional. I could say that
Speaker 1: that's and I gave you some of those like I
Speaker 1: was like whoa, like damn, like I would give you
Speaker 1: like holy sh it. And then I don't have good eyes,
Speaker 1: so I don't know where and I don't know where
Speaker 1: you're aiming, so I don't know if it's and I
Speaker 1: don't know how close you're supposed to get to it
Speaker 1: that is going to be successful. So like, if it's so,
Speaker 1: I don't, I don't know that kind of and oh,
Speaker 1: admit I used to have that energy getting off stage
Speaker 1: or that, and I honestly feel like and it's not
Speaker 1: just because it's just like it's maturing and I really
Speaker 1: don't like I could go and serf on my own
Speaker 1: without having someone yeah, you did good, you did good boy,
Speaker 1: Although it does feel nice like there's nothing wrong with
Speaker 1: like wanting compliments, are wanting to be reassured what you're doing.
Speaker 1: That's why people pay trainers, That's why they pay coaches,
Speaker 1: that's why you pay a guitar teacher, because you need
Speaker 1: someone to lie to you. I was talking to someone
Speaker 1: about going back for my I know, well, not lie
Speaker 1: to you. I hate when people lie to me. But yes,
Speaker 1: I know, but but you're you're right though, like I
Speaker 1: there's nothing I mean, I did a special about it.
Speaker 1: Like I love compliments. They they direct me in every
Speaker 1: course of my life, but they have to come from
Speaker 1: someone who's opinion I actually value. Where I just didn't
Speaker 1: know that. I just it it didn't make sense to
Speaker 1: me that you wanted my validation for golf because I
Speaker 1: don't know anything about golf, but I could have. I
Speaker 1: did say the things that I thought I could give you,
Speaker 1: and then we were driving to pull foods and you go,
Speaker 1: so I'm getting pretty good, aren't I? Like you said
Speaker 1: something like that that I was just like, oh, like,
Speaker 1: I guess I didn't give enough like you need. Maybe
Speaker 1: it just felt good because how many people watch me.
Speaker 1: I have my friend Jordan's and I have a golf
Speaker 1: pro sometimes and at the time, I was any feel
Speaker 1: less good when you've asked for it, like I would
Speaker 1: never like. There are a lot of comics I was
Speaker 1: talking at least a last week where comics when I
Speaker 1: worked with her, I would never go, will you watch
Speaker 1: my set? Because the comics aren't looking for criticism, They're
Speaker 1: looking for you to say you're great this, I love this.
Speaker 1: There's something. I would never ask a comic to do
Speaker 1: that because I would feel That's why I don't look
Speaker 1: people in the eyes, because I it's tricking them into
Speaker 1: laughing when they don't want to laugh. But you do
Speaker 1: like when people say you're great because when they do
Speaker 1: it without me asking, because if I ask, then they're
Speaker 1: doing it because I asked, and then you get the upset.
Speaker 1: Sometimes people say that I'm good in front of you. Oh,
Speaker 1: everyone hates that, every every comic case that we talked
Speaker 1: about that all the time. But do you like it
Speaker 1: when someone goes to you about a meal, like I
Speaker 1: think it was great? I honestly would take no offense
Speaker 1: to it. If he walked right past me and said
Speaker 1: a meal you were fantastic, it wouldn't hurt you at all.
Speaker 1: You're a stronger person than I'm not trying to I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to like, I'm just saying, it's like interesting
Speaker 1: because compliments, I don't know, compliments are weird. I I
Speaker 1: do like I remember like that, not because they like
Speaker 1: you or I'm like I'm not as good as him.
Speaker 1: It's that's so rude because you know I'm standing right
Speaker 1: here and you could do that in a way where
Speaker 1: I don't have to hear it, and it's not done.
Speaker 1: It's done to hurt me. And I hate when people
Speaker 1: do it. It's not like I'm like, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So you hate it, so you acknowledge that it's a
Speaker 1: rude thing. No, No, I hate when people say it
Speaker 1: to me and know exactly, so you know my feelings.
Speaker 1: I tell him to blog about it later though, but
Speaker 1: it's just it's just as it makes me disappointed in humans.
Speaker 1: I think because I used to think I took took
Speaker 1: it personally. Now I take it probably ten percent personally,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I suck. I should be more like
Speaker 1: Andrew to get that person to like me. And then
Speaker 1: the other nine percent of me has all the other
Speaker 1: reasonings for it, like they're just a rude person. Something
Speaker 1: I said triggered them they wanted to it off. Often
Speaker 1: happens with women where they're like, there there's something they
Speaker 1: didn't like about me, and they go like this girl
Speaker 1: this weekend. She goes, can I be honest? Can I
Speaker 1: be like? She goes, I'm just gonna tell the truth.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna Can I just tell the truth. It
Speaker 1: was one of the girls we met in UM Orlando,
Speaker 1: and she was like lovely to us up into this point.
Speaker 1: She was like, I stayed for your show. I'm a
Speaker 1: huge fan. I was like, oh my god, I found
Speaker 1: ot Nicky Glaisher was going to be here. I'm staying
Speaker 1: for the show. She works there. If you're listening, z
Speaker 1: shout out you were beautiful, and I wanted to approval
Speaker 1: so much, falling apart. Who knows how long you'll be here? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's and she was like very lovely, and she was like,
Speaker 1: you know, I work at this venue. I never stay
Speaker 1: for shows, but when I found out Nicky Glacier was here,
Speaker 1: I was like, I love her. I'm staying. She was
Speaker 1: very complimentary, and then she said to a meal in
Speaker 1: the elevator like you were Oh, he was great, And
Speaker 1: I thought that was kind of rude because you were there,
Speaker 1: and I was like, that sucks, but I don't think
Speaker 1: you heard it because you were talking to someone. Then
Speaker 1: we get to the meet and greet and she's standing
Speaker 1: there too, and then she kind of goes, wait, can
Speaker 1: I just be honest? Can I just like, no, lie,
Speaker 1: like you were? She says to me, like you were great,
Speaker 1: but like you And then she pointed out she was
Speaker 1: like he was funny, Like he was funny, and it
Speaker 1: was like, why we don't need that, Like why can't
Speaker 1: everyone be I think I feel empathy, Like if you
Speaker 1: were in a position where you were, like, you know,
Speaker 1: your co workers, and someone said that to you, like
Speaker 1: people just don't think It's just like with accepting compliments,
Speaker 1: humility has something to do with it. Um well, the
Speaker 1: recipient is kind of like, not a part of this
Speaker 1: complaint that I have, Like, it's it doesn't it's what
Speaker 1: do you say? So I'm sorry? So, going back to
Speaker 1: receiving compliments and giving compliments, a person who's humble would
Speaker 1: not be expecting the compliment but would probably receive it well.
Speaker 1: And then a person like the person that you interacted
Speaker 1: with at the show is someone also who could use
Speaker 1: a little bit more humility to not say something like that.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. I think it's I don't because I gave
Speaker 1: her compliments too, because I was like, you look like
Speaker 1: Jamie Lindzigler. Do you ever get that meadow from the Sopranos?
Speaker 1: And she was like, I do get that. It hasn't
Speaker 1: happened in a while. Then she revealed to us that
Speaker 1: she was like, I actually I got to get home
Speaker 1: to my She was like, I have kids, and she goes,
Speaker 1: I have a twenty four year old, and I go boyfriend,
Speaker 1: she goes son and I was like, what the fox
Speaker 1: did you have a baby when you were too? And
Speaker 1: then we joked that she tells everyone that so because
Speaker 1: everyone has that reaction yeah, I mean old. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think we started being like my son is older than me,
Speaker 1: my son died of old age. And because this woman
Speaker 1: was so young looking that it is no one would
Speaker 1: ever respond to her having a two year old son
Speaker 1: and go, oh that makes sense. They don't go what
Speaker 1: because she was beautiful. But it's more about just have empathy,
Speaker 1: like do unto others. I guess, like, how would you
Speaker 1: feel if you imagine that you were in and maybe
Speaker 1: you can't imagine being a commune what it is. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I do think that I just didn't get it from
Speaker 1: my parents at all growing up, like when I did
Speaker 1: well in sports because they weren't at the game or whatever.
Speaker 1: I remember, like in like ninth grade, I I made
Speaker 1: a great hit on it. There was a punt return
Speaker 1: and I destroyed this kid, like destroyed, like unbelievable hit.
Speaker 1: And one of my friends dad's was driving us home
Speaker 1: and he goes, hey, man, hey, Andrew, I saw that hit.
Speaker 1: That was great, And it just felt so amazing to
Speaker 1: get like a parent to say I was good. And
Speaker 1: so then the whole car ride, I kept having him
Speaker 1: explain how it looks like yeah, like I was like,
Speaker 1: so what did he look like? How did I hit him? Like?
Speaker 1: How did he fly? Did he fly? Like? Far did
Speaker 1: he fly? I know? But that's like that, so I
Speaker 1: think I obviously still have that because I want someone
Speaker 1: to say I'm good. Yeah. I love compliments too, and
Speaker 1: I got too many of them from my parents and
Speaker 1: I didn't didn't think deserve well. My therapist Donna, when
Speaker 1: I was like felt really ugly, my dad would always
Speaker 1: say it was like beautiful, breathtaking, Oh my god. The
Speaker 1: thing I hated more about myself than anything was that
Speaker 1: my hair was frizzy and BacT when you know, straight
Speaker 1: sleek Jennifer Aniston like bone straight hair was in Like
Speaker 1: I hated having cow licks and like when I put
Speaker 1: up my hair, I just wanted to be all slick
Speaker 1: like Kursten's. I didn't want these like little pieces that
Speaker 1: never grow to be coming out like I hated it.
Speaker 1: And my dad was always just like, you're so beautiful,
Speaker 1: you could be a model, and I just it just
Speaker 1: wasn't it wasn't on. Yeah. My my Therapistona was like,
Speaker 1: you just you were lied to. You weren't cute, and
Speaker 1: like your parents lied to you so you don't trust
Speaker 1: anyone when they actually give you compliments because you think
Speaker 1: it's just they're they're trying to be nice or or
Speaker 1: they The thing is, my dad did think I was beautiful,
Speaker 1: but it's because I was his daughter. You know. It's
Speaker 1: like it you and you can go, no, Nikki, you
Speaker 1: were beautiful, but it's like not in the way. My
Speaker 1: feelings weren't validated that I felt ugly, and like you
Speaker 1: can tell a child they're beautiful at the time, but
Speaker 1: if a child feels ugly, you don't need to say, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're ugly, that's valid, but you can say I've you know,
Speaker 1: it's it's so sad to feel that way about yourself.
Speaker 1: Let's talk about it as opposed to like, just stop it.
Speaker 1: You're beautiful, and it's just like that doesn't that doesn't
Speaker 1: change when people feel like I feel like, they take
Speaker 1: it in and they go they go through life thinking
Speaker 1: they're beautiful because everyone is beautiful. As a great joke
Speaker 1: about it that her parents told her she was so beautiful,
Speaker 1: and then she went into kindergarten and she was like, hey, guys,
Speaker 1: and she liked, like everyone get in line to meet me,
Speaker 1: and she had like curly bangs and the cats the
Speaker 1: musical sweatshirt and she's like you're welcome, I'm here, and
Speaker 1: they're like gross, and it was like yeah, like it
Speaker 1: can it can go either way. I just want to say,
Speaker 1: like there's no judgment of the cheetah outfit, like if
Speaker 1: you want to rock you know, Leopard tomorrow or like
Speaker 1: there's never like I don't want to I don't judgment
Speaker 1: I look amazing, but it's like it just I just
Speaker 1: think it's a funny thing when guys compliment the thing
Speaker 1: that you're doing because you ran out of underwear. Like
Speaker 1: it feel like if I was wearing a batsuit and
Speaker 1: you're like hello, and I'm like no, I ship and
Speaker 1: everything else, Like it doesn't mean that I'm not like
Speaker 1: a fancier woman today. I'm actually, ironically so much more
Speaker 1: gross than you think I am because I'm wearing a ballgount.
Speaker 1: It's all I have laughed. Because it's fashion week. Yeah,
Speaker 1: oh my god. Fashion Let's get to the news. I
Speaker 1: had so much more to get to, but um, I
Speaker 1: feel like that was a good segment talking about um,
Speaker 1: let's get to the newsstt you boy, I hope you
Speaker 1: had a great weekend out there. Apparently we did. If
Speaker 1: you look at our pictures on Instagram there, uh, we
Speaker 1: took a lot of um, there's a lot of on Instagram.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of jugs of water. Yeah, pictures, pictures.
Speaker 1: I think you said callix. I think he said calix wrong. Calx.
Speaker 1: How do you say it calix? How do you say noah? Oh?
Speaker 1: I think I say colic cox. Yeah. I think it
Speaker 1: could be pronounced that way too. I think it's like
Speaker 1: caramel and caramel. How do you say you have caramel
Speaker 1: in your hair those days? I say cow cowlic? How
Speaker 1: do you say caramel, caramel, carmel? Really? Yeah, I say carmela, caramel,
Speaker 1: caramel corn weird, You're gonna have bad carmel for How
Speaker 1: you say that? Okay, so here we go the way.
Speaker 1: This one's really small, alright. A twenty one year old
Speaker 1: creates a seventeen page relationship contract for her boyfriend to
Speaker 1: weeks after the first date. How did she get him
Speaker 1: to be your boyfriend? Cont did he sign it? How
Speaker 1: did this get us? She say? He brought it up.
Speaker 1: According to the article, he said he wanted to he
Speaker 1: wanted a contract. No, they wanted he wanted to be
Speaker 1: boyfriend and girlfriends. She was the one. Okay, well no,
Speaker 1: well no, she got burnt a lot in her past relationship.
Speaker 1: I'm sure she told the guy he said, I want
Speaker 1: to be your boyfriend. She goes, okay, well, now you're
Speaker 1: gonna have to let's hear let's hear what this one
Speaker 1: year old um hasn't her contract? Well, it came with
Speaker 1: four objectives honesty, awareness of your partner's needs, clear communication,
Speaker 1: and alignment in both parties and tentions. I mean, no, uh,
Speaker 1: these these these little gen z e ars, what's up?
Speaker 1: I mean, this girl, I'm not I don't disagree with
Speaker 1: any of this yet, go on. I mean, essentially, she
Speaker 1: wants her boyfriend to be romantic, give romantic jesters at
Speaker 1: least once every two weeks, not crazy, and to work
Speaker 1: out at least five times. And then you're asking for
Speaker 1: the compliment. You're asking for the thing if you ask
Speaker 1: for it, If you tell your boyfriend you're not being
Speaker 1: romantic enough, and then he comes home with flowers that day,
Speaker 1: there's a little bit of you that's like, you only
Speaker 1: do this because I told you too, And there's like,
Speaker 1: I don't you know it's that Jennifer Anderston line in
Speaker 1: the breakup or it's like he's like, I'll do the dishes.
Speaker 1: I'll do the dishes. And she's like, I want you
Speaker 1: to want to do the dishes. And he's like, why
Speaker 1: would I want to do the dishes? And it's like,
Speaker 1: because you think of me beyond, you think of what
Speaker 1: might make me happy before Like, it's not about wanting
Speaker 1: to do the dishes, not about wanting to get flowers.
Speaker 1: Like he likes buying flowers, he likes making doing something
Speaker 1: that will make me feel good. I do think, though,
Speaker 1: if you get a lot of compliments in your life,
Speaker 1: you tend to stop needing them, or some people still need.
Speaker 1: You know, sometimes models are the most insecure people ever,
Speaker 1: and a lot of times models don't get any compliments
Speaker 1: because people think they get compliments all the time. It's
Speaker 1: the bystander effect, which someone had written to me, The
Speaker 1: Kitty Genevie story is completely um false and like not
Speaker 1: what but it was, but you know the Kitty genev story,
Speaker 1: that girl that was all the people witnessed, apparently all
Speaker 1: or the old story goes all these people witnessed it.
Speaker 1: No one called the cops because everyone said someone else
Speaker 1: is doing it. It happens to me all the time.
Speaker 1: When I that's a good point, she was very yeah,
Speaker 1: but um she uh know. Whenever I'm on TV for something,
Speaker 1: and sometimes it's the things air that I don't know
Speaker 1: are on, or someone will bring me up, like you know,
Speaker 1: Rogan will talk about me on a podcast, or Bert Chryser,
Speaker 1: someone will mention me to say something nice. I get
Speaker 1: one person going, I'm sure a million people have written
Speaker 1: to you about this, but you were on blah blah blah,
Speaker 1: and I go, you're the only one because everyone else
Speaker 1: thought that everyone was bothering me about it. So I
Speaker 1: get so. So just if you do see me on something,
Speaker 1: please tell me because I will. But she's not asking. No,
Speaker 1: I am asking otherwise. And it's not about a compliment.
Speaker 1: You don't have to say I looked pretty. Just tell
Speaker 1: me I'm on it so I can post about it.
Speaker 1: You know, Now, do you think this contract a mean
Speaker 1: romance should not have I mean, granted, when you get married,
Speaker 1: you get the government involved. It is a contract eventually,
Speaker 1: but this early on it just feels like it takes
Speaker 1: away that. That's what I'm saying. It's like that, So
Speaker 1: you leave the business at home. At word, the word
Speaker 1: contract does suck some of the romance out of it.
Speaker 1: But let me say, like, these are things that you need.
Speaker 1: You need to actually have these things figured out before
Speaker 1: you enter into a relationship, and you should. You should
Speaker 1: know that a relationship is a lot to ask of
Speaker 1: both parties. You're going to close yourself off to other opportunities,
Speaker 1: shut down a portion of your life where you could
Speaker 1: be open to meeting someone. If you're looking to get
Speaker 1: married and have kids. You know, time is of the essence,
Speaker 1: especially as a woman, and if you're going to devote
Speaker 1: your time to one person in cultivating a relationship, you
Speaker 1: better know for damn sure that that person at least
Speaker 1: has the things in mind that are going to make
Speaker 1: you happy. So having a contract is a little much,
Speaker 1: But I think it's more for clicks than anything. And
Speaker 1: I think that you know, the fact that we know
Speaker 1: about this means this person knows how to work social
Speaker 1: media in a in a way that it makes things
Speaker 1: sticky and pages. I mean, I hope it was courier
Speaker 1: new and yeah, I mean that that's but all the
Speaker 1: things she's asking for, like I don't know when I
Speaker 1: go on dates now or or look into dat someone.
Speaker 1: I want to know what are they? What are their
Speaker 1: thoughts on marriage? What are there? Uh? Do you have
Speaker 1: five five questions that you would what are your top
Speaker 1: five or top three? I really like asking someone if
Speaker 1: I asked your ex girlfriends what would be the number
Speaker 1: one thing that they would complain about you in a relationship?
Speaker 1: And I'll share mine too, as honestly as I can
Speaker 1: and write down their number for references. UM, I like
Speaker 1: to um. You know, you can't really ask someone do
Speaker 1: you lie? But you can get a sense of their
Speaker 1: how honest they are? Um, just by kind of observing
Speaker 1: how um. Like I was out with someone recently and
Speaker 1: they had told a story and this is just like
Speaker 1: a friend, but it just showed me who they told
Speaker 1: a story where they lied to someone just to get
Speaker 1: out of a thing that they didn't want to do
Speaker 1: with this person. But it was just an innocuous like
Speaker 1: I'm not feeling well, But it was really about they
Speaker 1: didn't want to go, and I'm like, just say you
Speaker 1: don't want to go, like you don't have to. Now
Speaker 1: you lied and said you're sick, So then they're going
Speaker 1: to follow up and ask how you're feeling and then
Speaker 1: this and the person eventually revealed to me. I got
Speaker 1: busted up for lying like about it, Like later on
Speaker 1: it came back this thing that I thought they'd never
Speaker 1: check up on, it came back that I lied. And
Speaker 1: it's just you're entitled to not want to go do
Speaker 1: something like it doesn't mean that you hate the person.
Speaker 1: The person if they take it personally, that's their problem,
Speaker 1: and you could say it in a gentle way. So
Speaker 1: things like that I test for, like honesty, kids, Do
Speaker 1: you want kids? Is a deal break up for you?
Speaker 1: Because I'm not sure? Now. That's when I kind of
Speaker 1: push because I feel, yeah, I feel scared that I
Speaker 1: get so scared, Like well, it's it wouldn't be if
Speaker 1: you really knew you wanted kids death, Like for sure,
Speaker 1: you should know that a girl that you are seeing
Speaker 1: doesn't want that. Ever, No, I feel bad too, because
Speaker 1: I want someone to be inquisitive and ask me questions
Speaker 1: and try to figure out like what they're kind of
Speaker 1: getting into. But at the same time, you just don't
Speaker 1: want to feel like there's a there's a like a
Speaker 1: checklist going on of like you know what you're doing,
Speaker 1: how well are you doing it? It just feels very
Speaker 1: like what do you think about the kids question? Because
Speaker 1: for me, I am on the fence about it, which
Speaker 1: is a perfect answer because I could go either way
Speaker 1: someone doesn't want them or wants them. However, I am
Speaker 1: thirty seven. Yeah, I think it's cool to be totally
Speaker 1: fluid with that, and you know, to not even have
Speaker 1: a set answer because I was always like, I don't
Speaker 1: want kids. I don't want kids, and then I met
Speaker 1: a person who I really love and care about, and
Speaker 1: then I was like, oh, okay, I think I really
Speaker 1: wanted kids. Know this is weird, So I think it's however,
Speaker 1: that's you. Though there are some people that know they
Speaker 1: don't want kids, like very defendant, I didn't. I didn't
Speaker 1: want kids up until like, okay, that's a good point,
Speaker 1: all right. Did it change too when you moved to
Speaker 1: I'm not like from Arizona from New York. I feel
Speaker 1: like when people live in New York, the feeling of
Speaker 1: wanting it's like dad to get yeah, get him in school.
Speaker 1: I gotta paid nine million just so they get one
Speaker 1: of those women like on the train who like, if
Speaker 1: you're not cute enough, no one will help you with
Speaker 1: your fucking baby. Thing and then the baby's crying and
Speaker 1: everyone hates you and like, oh god, yeah, how am
Speaker 1: I going to get through the turnstile with the baby
Speaker 1: carriage everything? It's just times a million in a big city. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a good point. Did it change for you, Noah,
Speaker 1: moving out to the West. I think it definitely encouraged
Speaker 1: me to m absolutely. Yeah. I couldn't imagine having dogs
Speaker 1: when I was in l A. I mean, I don't
Speaker 1: mean to make it, but it was just so it
Speaker 1: was a non starter. I mean it was not a
Speaker 1: non start, it was a it was a no brainer.
Speaker 1: Was like, of course, get a dog. I want a dog.
Speaker 1: I have a yard, it's nice outside all the time.
Speaker 1: And then moving to New York, I was like, this
Speaker 1: is fucking hell you lived. Transportation is when Nikki lives
Speaker 1: in that five flight walk up and having to take
Speaker 1: Mary and it was brutal and it and it never
Speaker 1: occurred to me in getting a dog out West that
Speaker 1: that would ever be there would be a scenario where
Speaker 1: the dog would be such a burden. But now that's
Speaker 1: my husbitancy with kids is like I don't with COVID,
Speaker 1: no one knew, no parents knew that they would have
Speaker 1: to be around their kids twenty four hours a day,
Speaker 1: like we didn't know that. They're sure they were like
Speaker 1: war and like apocalyptic things that could happen, but nothing
Speaker 1: like COVID. No parents signed up for having to do that.
Speaker 1: And I really my heart goes out to so many
Speaker 1: parents that had to homeschool their kids and be around
Speaker 1: them so much, especially moms that you know, the dad
Speaker 1: was able to be out and like, you know, just
Speaker 1: working from home with kids. It's I mean, no one
Speaker 1: knew that when they signed up for kids and that
Speaker 1: was me moving to New York. Was my COVID kind
Speaker 1: of like shit? My brother I asked him about that.
Speaker 1: I was like, does it suck that you can't go
Speaker 1: to the and he actually, I don't know. I mean,
Speaker 1: who knows if he's lying or not, but no, I'm
Speaker 1: just kidding. But like he said, he liked the fact
Speaker 1: that he got to spend more time like some people
Speaker 1: but they have names, but they have names. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: but a lot of people have nanny's that you still
Speaker 1: have to be with the kids. I understand that, but yes,
Speaker 1: if you don't have any help and you live in
Speaker 1: a two better room apartment and you have three kids,
Speaker 1: and you have a husband, you're already making a minimum
Speaker 1: wage and now you're both out of work, Like fuck, dude.
Speaker 1: The kids are supposed to usually be in school, all
Speaker 1: Like school is a huge it's a babysitter school. Um
Speaker 1: so yeah, I I don't know, um, but deal breakers
Speaker 1: in terms of stuff, there's it's it's interesting. I I'm
Speaker 1: you know, in dating and realizing like is it worth
Speaker 1: it to me to put up with the stuff that
Speaker 1: I don't want to put up with in order to
Speaker 1: have someone who will be around and be like my person?
Speaker 1: Like relationships? Is it worth it? Because it's a huge
Speaker 1: sacrifice to be in a relationship. There's you lose so much,
Speaker 1: you have to give so much. There's kids are just
Speaker 1: no in a relationship. I think it's just everyone thinks
Speaker 1: I always just wanted a boyfriend and thought that's an
Speaker 1: your life. But it isn't always. I really now going
Speaker 1: into it realized, I am, I've been fine single most
Speaker 1: of my life. I'm really happy, and so you really
Speaker 1: got to make my life better in order for me
Speaker 1: to put up with all the bullshit that comes along
Speaker 1: with a relationship. Because no relationships are going to be perfect.
Speaker 1: You're gonna hate that person. At times, you're gonna want
Speaker 1: to scream and yell at that person. You're not gonna
Speaker 1: want to go to the thing that that person has
Speaker 1: to bring their spouse or their partner to, because you
Speaker 1: want to go do your thing, but you have to
Speaker 1: put them first. It's like there's a lot of sacrifice
Speaker 1: to regularly fuck someone and have someone be there to
Speaker 1: like call the electrician or whatever you need a partner for.
Speaker 1: You could always add an addendum to the contract. I
Speaker 1: guess yeah, you know, like, Oh, I didn't even know
Speaker 1: I was gonna hate this about you. I bet that
Speaker 1: girl is going to add some stuff. What's the next story.
Speaker 1: Research reveals that anxiety makes people more attractive because anxious
Speaker 1: individuals appear nicer, more engaging, more interesting, more conversational, having
Speaker 1: a learned royal royal tone, all of which increased desirability.
Speaker 1: What does that word? Oh yeah, left like a idiot? Um, okay,
Speaker 1: that makes sense. Like, but I would say that stupid
Speaker 1: people are more attracted to people with anxiety because if
Speaker 1: you're anxious and a people pleaser and like want everyone
Speaker 1: to like you, and you're like constantly like worried about things,
Speaker 1: so you're like, I'm more engaging and I'll tell a
Speaker 1: funny story and ask you about your day because I'm
Speaker 1: so nervous about this and you it's done from a
Speaker 1: place if you don't like yourself, and the people that
Speaker 1: are just like can keep to themselves and just know
Speaker 1: that they're okay. Alone are maybe less attractive because they
Speaker 1: seem standoffish, but it's because they don't desperately need approval
Speaker 1: from others or you know, they're complete already. A partner
Speaker 1: might like increase their life, but like they're not going
Speaker 1: to attract as many people. I would guess because I think,
Speaker 1: I mean, we know the general public is easily duped.
Speaker 1: We'veing it with like you know politics, uh, just you
Speaker 1: know social media, how it's made people like people can
Speaker 1: Fox news, people can be brainwashed so easily. So of course,
Speaker 1: someone who suffers with anxiety and has learned to put
Speaker 1: on a mask um and and kind of mask mask
Speaker 1: their anxiety with friendliness is going to be more attractive.
Speaker 1: I guess it is nice to know, Like if I'm
Speaker 1: going out on a first date, I don't go because
Speaker 1: I'm too nervous. I get too nervous, Like it's a
Speaker 1: negative thing, Like it is kind of nice to see
Speaker 1: it as a positive, you know, you kind of flip
Speaker 1: the script. It's like when I have a d D
Speaker 1: and you read a book on a d D and
Speaker 1: you're like, well, you're not good at this, but this
Speaker 1: is good. Or like when you have anxiety before you
Speaker 1: go on the stage, and maybe it makes you more
Speaker 1: magnetic because there's more energy inside of you. So if
Speaker 1: you go to dinner, just like, essentially, I hope this
Speaker 1: article you'll read it and you won't avoid things because
Speaker 1: you get nervous, you know what I mean? Right, Like
Speaker 1: I don't know. That's the thing about dating that you know,
Speaker 1: most people will suffer with anxiety. It's like more common
Speaker 1: than not having anxiety. Anxious about the end of the date.
Speaker 1: I was, I am. I'm anxious the whole thing because
Speaker 1: like it's just I feel like I um, I will
Speaker 1: want to get away from that person and I will
Speaker 1: feel I will start resenting them because now they've wasted
Speaker 1: my time and I'm sitting across from this person who
Speaker 1: duped me into being here and I could be doing
Speaker 1: anything else and now I have to be like and
Speaker 1: then I get mad at them, and then at the end,
Speaker 1: I feel like they want to do something physically with
Speaker 1: me that I don't want to do, but they bought
Speaker 1: me dinner, so they'll be mad at me and they'll
Speaker 1: think I'm a tease and that's just it. So I
Speaker 1: just wouldn't go on dates. And then I watched that
Speaker 1: show Dating Around, which I've ret ferenced before on this show,
Speaker 1: and that the show really changed my perception of dating.
Speaker 1: Of like the thing I've said before, you're not unique, Nikki,
Speaker 1: that you don't like dating. It's awkward, it's not fun.
Speaker 1: It's like it's nerve wracking, it's it's scary less. So
Speaker 1: I just don't. I'm I'm tired of telling myself this narrative,
Speaker 1: like you're special, you don't like dating. I don't like dating,
Speaker 1: so I'm not gonna do it. It's like you're not special.
Speaker 1: Stop it with this, Like, no, it's not for me.
Speaker 1: I'm like different than most people. I can't dat. No,
Speaker 1: everyone doesn't like it. Just do it, bitch. It's like
Speaker 1: it's and and find something you like about it? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, do you find doing it more though? That
Speaker 1: you find that you you can? Oh? Yeah, Whenever I
Speaker 1: go on one, I go I could do this again
Speaker 1: and again and against. It's on so many things. It's
Speaker 1: many things. I will say now that, like I, what
Speaker 1: you just said has completely changed how I've um yesterday
Speaker 1: an epiphany that I want to share. Um. I uh
Speaker 1: so I've been wanting to, like, I quit smoking pot
Speaker 1: about a month a little over a month ago, and
Speaker 1: there's times where I just like have this voice that's like, goes,
Speaker 1: I want to smoke pot, like, I just like, oh,
Speaker 1: I want to feel something. I want to feel high
Speaker 1: like I like, and I don't do it. Last night
Speaker 1: I said it to you. I would go, god, I
Speaker 1: want to smoke pot, and you go, don't do it,
Speaker 1: and I go, no, I'm not gonna do it. I
Speaker 1: just want to say that that feeling. I need to
Speaker 1: mark those feelings when it goes, Nikki, go grab a bowl, like,
Speaker 1: because that that used to happen to me, you know,
Speaker 1: a hundred times a day, and I would like smoke
Speaker 1: take a hundred hits a day, probably sometimes on a
Speaker 1: bad day, sometimes a good day. Um. But so I'm
Speaker 1: verbalizing it now. It happened on Saturday night too, after
Speaker 1: the second show, I was just like, I want to
Speaker 1: smoke pot now, and I used to think that feeling
Speaker 1: was truly like I want to feel high, like I
Speaker 1: want to get I want to like loosen enough, I
Speaker 1: want to feel good like it was me desiring feeling
Speaker 1: a fun feeling right which there's something to that, but
Speaker 1: what it really is And I realized this yesterday. Even
Speaker 1: though I have dealt with so many addictions, read so
Speaker 1: many things about recovery, I've never put this these two together,
Speaker 1: is that the I'm I know that it's trying to
Speaker 1: escape a feeling. I've always known that, but I really
Speaker 1: yesterday when I said it and you go, don't but don't,
Speaker 1: and I go, no, I'm not going to. I just
Speaker 1: want to acknowledge that there's something about this moment that
Speaker 1: makes I'm feeling something right now that I want to
Speaker 1: get away from. What am I feeling? What is it?
Speaker 1: So I kind of like sat with it and I'm like,
Speaker 1: holy sh it, wait a second. What what if being
Speaker 1: high like the excitement of being high? Of like, what's
Speaker 1: this gonna be like? Am I gonna like feel paranoid?
Speaker 1: Am I gonna like our sound's gonna sound cooler? Is
Speaker 1: it gonna like when you get high? You kind of
Speaker 1: don't know what's going to happen, And that's kind of
Speaker 1: the fun of it. It's like, yeah, so I thought
Speaker 1: about that for whatever feeling that was coming through, I'm like,
Speaker 1: wait a second, get high off this feeling, Like, get
Speaker 1: excited about the mystery that is this feeling that you're
Speaker 1: trying to subdue. So get high off your own supply.
Speaker 1: Like I've never gotten high on my feelings. I think
Speaker 1: that feelings for me are like a d m T,
Speaker 1: like a drug that I want to try but I'm
Speaker 1: too scared to do, or like coke or like drugs
Speaker 1: i've avoid. Yeah, I've just been like I don't want
Speaker 1: to try that drug, like and not for me yet,
Speaker 1: I'm too scared. Like d m T. I might like
Speaker 1: meet the devil and he'll like tell me that, you know,
Speaker 1: Like I just don't want to feel like whatever Megan
Speaker 1: Fox said about doing d m T, like she died
Speaker 1: and was being tortured for eternity, but then it was
Speaker 1: like freed her. I'm like that sounds great, but I
Speaker 1: don't I'm scared of it even though I want to
Speaker 1: do it. So anyway, I've decided now that like the
Speaker 1: feeling is my drug, and I have never done those
Speaker 1: drugs before. I've never like gone on the roller coaster.
Speaker 1: That might be like a wave of sadness or a
Speaker 1: wave of anxiety, or a wave of like fuck. And
Speaker 1: so I just like went in this room and like
Speaker 1: played some songs that would help me like get into
Speaker 1: those feelings. And I kind of just like I just
Speaker 1: like felt it, and I didn't get I didn't like
Speaker 1: get high, but I like micro dose that feeling. So
Speaker 1: now I'm very excited about when I want to get stoned.
Speaker 1: Those things come up to not do it, because then
Speaker 1: I get to try the Now I get to I'm
Speaker 1: restructuring it in my brain where it's like my feelings
Speaker 1: are the drug. Now that I've never done that drug,
Speaker 1: I get a new drug that I've never done. Would
Speaker 1: you get to see what's behind that door that you've
Speaker 1: been closing with we? And it could be an awesome
Speaker 1: fucking drug or cable and it might be both. You know,
Speaker 1: some people do llest and they have the worst trip
Speaker 1: and sometimes they have great ones. So like the feelings
Speaker 1: might lead to something so cool. So now I'm getting
Speaker 1: high off my own supply, Like I I'm not sober,
Speaker 1: Like I don't like the idea of being like I
Speaker 1: do nothing, Like my feelings can take me on a
Speaker 1: fucking trip if I let them. And I want to
Speaker 1: try to do those drugs now. So if that helps
Speaker 1: anyone out there when you want to grab the bag
Speaker 1: of food, or you want to uh cut yourself, or
Speaker 1: you want to go take a nap to avoid your
Speaker 1: feelings or whatever you do to escape, like, maybe look
Speaker 1: at the feeling as the drug or the exciting unknown
Speaker 1: and and maybe that'll work for you too, because it
Speaker 1: worked for me yesterday. Let's take a quick break and
Speaker 1: we'll get back to why do I care? Why do
Speaker 1: I care? All right, Andrew? Why do I care? I
Speaker 1: asked myself that every day, even when we don't do
Speaker 1: the show. Know you asked me, Am I getting pretty
Speaker 1: good at golf? Nick, Look, it was one time. Okay.
Speaker 1: Billie Eilish apparently shades Jennifer Lopez at MS and a
Speaker 1: disc caught on camera as Jenny from the Block made
Speaker 1: an appearance at Sunday Nights VM as she received cheers
Speaker 1: and claps from the audience. As Billie Eilis sat still,
Speaker 1: Billy was in her own head. Billy is very anxious.
Speaker 1: There's no way Billy is thrown shade at anyone if
Speaker 1: you saw her documentary. She is a sweet girl. She
Speaker 1: is a huge Justin Bieber from She doesn't think she's
Speaker 1: cooler than anyone we heard nightmares about. Um uh, we've
Speaker 1: heard that she can know. I've heard both great things
Speaker 1: and bad things, so I don't trust either of them.
Speaker 1: And I'm guessing she's just a person that has different
Speaker 1: sides to herself. But I've heard she can be really
Speaker 1: lovely to people, and likely they've met each other before.
Speaker 1: So what happened with everyone's clapping and Billy just goes
Speaker 1: like this, Yeah, I mean, I mean, it's obviously ridiculous
Speaker 1: that we're even talking about it, but it's no I mean,
Speaker 1: I actually do care about this. Okay. So it's a
Speaker 1: reaction shot and she's not applauding. Um, I can't really
Speaker 1: see it that well, smiling, very stiff. You know, when
Speaker 1: you're when you got a camera in your face for
Speaker 1: a two and a half three hour show and your
Speaker 1: reaction is being recorded to everything, there comes a point
Speaker 1: where you are exhausted from clapping and smiling and you're
Speaker 1: maybe thinking about the fact that you didn't just win
Speaker 1: an award. Or the fact that you just perfore and
Speaker 1: you forgot one of the lines, like that's the face
Speaker 1: you make. There's a there's a story about a comedian.
Speaker 1: It's just I mean, what if it comes out that
Speaker 1: j Lo, like, you know, talk shit or like what's
Speaker 1: mean to her in the past, well then good she
Speaker 1: should sit there stoically. But I just don't think that
Speaker 1: that was what was happening. And I think people want
Speaker 1: to read into stuff. Um. I do think though that
Speaker 1: there's this to give you an example of when this
Speaker 1: has happened before. There Um there's uh like with not
Speaker 1: even within the common community. I just know about it
Speaker 1: as a roaster that I learned. When you get done
Speaker 1: with your set, no matter how it goes, be animated
Speaker 1: the rest of the show, because they're gonna edit your
Speaker 1: set to look like you killed no matter what. So
Speaker 1: just look like you killed, like, have a good time
Speaker 1: afterwards you're sitting there, you're still on stage, have good reactions.
Speaker 1: Because there's someone who bombed their set and you would
Speaker 1: never know it because they made it look like this
Speaker 1: person killed. So but you can tell that they bombed
Speaker 1: because the rest of the show you can see them
Speaker 1: in the background. Just like this, you look so much
Speaker 1: like the person that I already know you're talking about.
Speaker 1: And that's why it's such a good impression. Is darting around, um,
Speaker 1: you know, leg the leg shaking, all the things you
Speaker 1: do when you're filling out, and and I've been that person.
Speaker 1: I when I did I would always go first on
Speaker 1: the roads on the Alcalde Rods. I forgot two of
Speaker 1: the jokes that I wanted to do so badly, and
Speaker 1: I was sobbing after the show. But during the show,
Speaker 1: I tucked that away and I looked like I was
Speaker 1: having the best time. But there were moments where I
Speaker 1: did catch myself. I do it on to tell the
Speaker 1: truth that TV show. Sometimes I'll see that and I'll
Speaker 1: forget there's I'll forget I'm on camera and I'll just
Speaker 1: look like my face like it's been like that where
Speaker 1: I'm just like thinking about like what am I gonna
Speaker 1: eat later? Or like, oh, I wonder if I'm going
Speaker 1: to get out of here in time to like go
Speaker 1: to that set, and like you know, your mind wonders.
Speaker 1: You forget there's a camera on you. It's reality TV
Speaker 1: almost because you just you no matter how much you
Speaker 1: know what cameras on you. You can't keep it up.
Speaker 1: It's exhausting to there's her behavior of being like okay,
Speaker 1: like um, I don't need to give it up fifty times,
Speaker 1: where she doesn't need the compliments that maybe I need,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like, listen, she's getting a
Speaker 1: lot more pressed today because she didn't clap than if
Speaker 1: she did, so. I will say I am so over
Speaker 1: j Lo and Ben Affleck. I. I think it is
Speaker 1: when they like appeared together at whatever the funk they
Speaker 1: got on the crowd for and there's slow motion like
Speaker 1: you know, drone shots of them embracing and it's like
Speaker 1: they're back together, and just her walking down a hallway
Speaker 1: thinking she looks like badass before there's a video today
Speaker 1: of her like looking just amazing and she's just like
Speaker 1: kind of cat walking backstage. It's just like, I'm so
Speaker 1: tired of people thinking they're cool, Like, I know, you
Speaker 1: look amazing, and it's hard not to like walk like
Speaker 1: that when you're wearing these shoes with this amazing outfit
Speaker 1: and and sometimes I feel that way to where I'm
Speaker 1: like I look fucking great. It's it'd be embarrassing to
Speaker 1: walk like a normal person. But just I think j
Speaker 1: Loo's care. Yeah, I think everyone's. When you see the
Speaker 1: outfits what everyone's wearing, they're the most absurd outfits ever me.
Speaker 1: So that's fighter, that's fun. But if you think you're
Speaker 1: cool and you like have this air of like per
Speaker 1: slip and like you're better than people and you're so serious,
Speaker 1: you're wearing an outfit that was made for you because
Speaker 1: you're famous, and because that person not because they like you,
Speaker 1: but because you are famous, and that person wants to
Speaker 1: be famous too. It's all based on bullshit. And I'm
Speaker 1: just like I'm as much as I you know, and
Speaker 1: the things Jo's care, Yeah, well maybe she's right. And
Speaker 1: by the way, Jaylo's ben Affleckska. Everyone who thinks they're
Speaker 1: sweet because they're famous is and I have been I
Speaker 1: have been that person before too. I have been cut too.
Speaker 1: But celebrities are not more special than you. They just aren't.
Speaker 1: They were talented at a thing that they just have
Speaker 1: one talent and some of them don't even have that.
Speaker 1: They're just beautiful and it's like it's just this. The
Speaker 1: met Gala is my biggest, my biggest people. No, we
Speaker 1: would never I'll never get to go. Um, I would go.
Speaker 1: If I got invited and I do the whole thing
Speaker 1: on the red carpet, I would like, you know, look
Speaker 1: like very like serious and like my lips would be
Speaker 1: puckered like I was, like, you know, I would look
Speaker 1: I would take it very seriously and stand in a
Speaker 1: way that's like I'm I. You know, we all act
Speaker 1: like we're like sucking a mall clooney when we put
Speaker 1: on an outfit that's tight, it's like you've done nothing
Speaker 1: for the world. Angeline Jolie, she's actually done stuff that
Speaker 1: she deserves to stand on a red carpet and we
Speaker 1: should all praise her. She does. She does meet movies
Speaker 1: just for the money, do you know that? Which I
Speaker 1: actually respect, just so that she can do more work
Speaker 1: with on refugee missions and go to places and like
Speaker 1: get the word out. She just wrote a book, like
Speaker 1: she's actually a good fucking person. And everyone else in Hollywood,
Speaker 1: including myself, at times you're all sad and what what's
Speaker 1: important to you unless is mostly yourself And I still
Speaker 1: worship celebrities, but the j LO thing, it kind of
Speaker 1: that really all I could think of was, like, why
Speaker 1: does anyone care about this? Do you? And the things
Speaker 1: I do. I do. I care because it's bullshit and
Speaker 1: I see it so clearly now. But I'm still if
Speaker 1: I met Ben and jay Loo would be like it
Speaker 1: was amazing and I would give them everything they wanted.
Speaker 1: So I take I'm a hypocrite through and through. But
Speaker 1: they just aren't better than us. I know that, even
Speaker 1: though they just have better um doctors that give them,
Speaker 1: you know, things that you and I cannot. Okay, let's
Speaker 1: get to our Monday segment. It's top one, bottom one.
Speaker 1: Today's category is guilty Pleasures. Guilty pleasures, your favorite guilty
Speaker 1: pleasure and your least favorite. I'm reluctant to even share
Speaker 1: my least favorite because I don't believe that you should
Speaker 1: be guilty about anything that brings you pleasure unless it
Speaker 1: hurts someone. Um. But you know, let's let's go in Andrew,
Speaker 1: Do you have yours ready? I mean, mine's pretty simple.
Speaker 1: And your least favorite guilty pleasure, I know it's it's
Speaker 1: almost hack this point, biting my nails. I'm forty one,
Speaker 1: it's I've done it for thirty thirty years. Probably I
Speaker 1: just need to stop. And every time I get done,
Speaker 1: and I don't even know where I'm in a trance,
Speaker 1: said that HI have not doing it, which I did
Speaker 1: feel when COVID first came out, I didn't buy my nails,
Speaker 1: and I was so proud of when cod first dropped you,
Speaker 1: when COVID came out of the closet and said hey,
Speaker 1: I'm yeah, Oh my god. Okay. So so when came out,
Speaker 1: why why you weren't biting your nails? Because I was
Speaker 1: in Brooklyn, people were like there was there was drive
Speaker 1: up truck Morgues. I was worried were gonna get it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So I didn't buy my nails because they said, it's
Speaker 1: on your hands. Tell me the feeling you have right
Speaker 1: before you go for a bite, like it's it's anxiety
Speaker 1: for sure. A lot of times I'll bite three fingers
Speaker 1: and still didn't even know I bad them. So I
Speaker 1: look at them and they're bleeding, and I'm like, what
Speaker 1: the funk am I doing? Yeah? When I see you
Speaker 1: doing it, the thing is going on, um like you're
Speaker 1: trying and you catch me picking like that's I mean,
Speaker 1: I'll do my note right now to my guilty pleasure
Speaker 1: is picking at this thing on my knee, which I've
Speaker 1: been picking out all day today. Because it just and
Speaker 1: the other day Andrew goes, you're picking and I go,
Speaker 1: I know, and he goes, do you want to be?
Speaker 1: And I go, yeah, I do want to be, Like
Speaker 1: I need to do this, Like why don't we try
Speaker 1: this this week? No picking the knee, no biting, and
Speaker 1: we'll check in next week and see how we do.
Speaker 1: I need to put a band aid on it. Then
Speaker 1: I got I got maderna maderma. It's not I got
Speaker 1: the maderna. No, I got the maderma, which is the
Speaker 1: scar because I have a huge scar from this picking this.
Speaker 1: But it just there's something about taking away and my
Speaker 1: my cuticles too, dude, I read this one is just
Speaker 1: when they get dry. I want to just peeling, peeling
Speaker 1: them off when they're dry. I hate blood. I don't
Speaker 1: want to make blood. I always just wanted to be
Speaker 1: dry underneath. And it's you know, on redd it. I
Speaker 1: just came across the thing about this girl posted it
Speaker 1: before and after she stopped picking her face, and she
Speaker 1: said that she was able to do it by um
Speaker 1: not looking in the mirror, getting rid of all her
Speaker 1: picking tools. Um, so you need to get rid of
Speaker 1: your teeth, uh, trying there's Um, there's a lot of
Speaker 1: there's a supplement that you can take that will help
Speaker 1: you with your picking problems. And um, I'll say I'll
Speaker 1: save it for Reddit dump tomorrow, but I screenshot at
Speaker 1: it to send it to Carlisle because Carlos talked about
Speaker 1: her tricky to Lamania, which is you pull out your
Speaker 1: hair and you twist it and you like do different
Speaker 1: things with it, and so many people have that. Soval
Speaker 1: Miley Cyrus is headlining trickt to Lemania two one. It's
Speaker 1: where would it be underneath? Yeah? Um, oh my god
Speaker 1: Ham Group. Okay, so yeah, that's my guilty pleasure is
Speaker 1: picking things I love. Um, I love picking dry so
Speaker 1: let's try. Yeah, I'll do it. If you do, okay,
Speaker 1: besties busties who pickstick bite nails or when you want
Speaker 1: to go do it, Like if you catch yourself doing it,
Speaker 1: it's okay, but just see what happens if you try
Speaker 1: to stop, or you like put gloves on, do something
Speaker 1: that will because I gotta I'm gonna put a band
Speaker 1: aid on this, because if I have a band aid
Speaker 1: on it or pants, I don't. I can't. You know. However,
Speaker 1: I do think that is just putting a band aid
Speaker 1: on the problem literally and figuratively, like it's it's more
Speaker 1: than that, but it is going to feel the feeling
Speaker 1: that comes up. What what is it your clear nail
Speaker 1: polish to put on? You have clear nail polish. I
Speaker 1: would love to paint your nails, not clear nail polish.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, maybe I will. Maybe that will make
Speaker 1: me not bite them. Okay, surely. Savorite guilty pleasure. Uh well,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I would say it's Miley's favorite
Speaker 1: guilty pleasure, but it's very like a misunderstood guilty pleasure.
Speaker 1: And it's my love of wrestling and watching wrestling. That's
Speaker 1: what sounds like? Yeah that does That's so funny. Just
Speaker 1: trick each other. So your love of wrestling um like
Speaker 1: um like wwww. There's other like organizations that have just
Speaker 1: like the like sports entertainment theater. I love it so much,
Speaker 1: it makes me so happy. Who in your life doesn't understand?
Speaker 1: Like is it something you you feel like embarrassed about,
Speaker 1: because it's just like this is why she moved. It's yeah,
Speaker 1: isolating does like it. He doesn't mind it, but he
Speaker 1: doesn't get as excited. I mean, I'm like jumping up
Speaker 1: and down on the couch like I I get really
Speaker 1: really into it. Yeah, I love that though. I love
Speaker 1: that like finding someone the thing that you love so
Speaker 1: much that brings out a childlike enthusiasm and you that
Speaker 1: you know, most adults don't enjoy as much as you like.
Speaker 1: And I started watching thirty five like age thirty five. Whoa,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I didn't know that. So you got
Speaker 1: into it late? So late. I just what got you
Speaker 1: into it? I think it was just like um So
Speaker 1: there was this tag team or actually it was like
Speaker 1: a three like three guys called UM You Day, and
Speaker 1: they were all about like the power of positivity and
Speaker 1: they did like these dances and everything. I just I
Speaker 1: love the whole gimmick. And I was watching Summer Slam.
Speaker 1: There was this like romantic storyline and I was just like,
Speaker 1: this is so entertaining. I need to find out what
Speaker 1: happens next. So I just watched it. I kept watching
Speaker 1: and I got so into it. And then going to
Speaker 1: wrestling shows, there's just this like very welcoming and accepting
Speaker 1: environment of all sorts of people, and UM love it.
Speaker 1: What's what's different than UM watching? Like being into going
Speaker 1: to see musicals or any kind of live traumatic. I
Speaker 1: would similar violence. I would is people try to say
Speaker 1: it's real, and then people don't. Don't people do. I
Speaker 1: don't think people do. See Okay, that's what irks me.
Speaker 1: That's that's the rob is that everyone thinks that they
Speaker 1: are claiming it to be real when no one's ever
Speaker 1: claimed it. People that don't know don't assume that the
Speaker 1: people that like it think it's real. But the people
Speaker 1: that like it know that. These people are children think
Speaker 1: it's real just like children think. I think we put
Speaker 1: a poll. I think more adults go. They might not
Speaker 1: say it's real fighting, but they'll say the pain's real
Speaker 1: because it is real. But as much as Kiana really
Speaker 1: reeves is really neo like. He does train and does
Speaker 1: know how to do a lot of things that most
Speaker 1: people don't know how to do, stunts wise, but he's
Speaker 1: not neo like, and I think you know what you're
Speaker 1: This is the thing about wrestling that I always rolled
Speaker 1: my eyes at is I assumed wrestling fans thought it
Speaker 1: was real. The truth is, people who aren't wrestling fans
Speaker 1: think that the wrestling fans think it's real. They are
Speaker 1: in on the joke too. Is that correct? Yes, I mean,
Speaker 1: for me personally, I just appreciate the fact that they
Speaker 1: can um like last for these matches for like almost
Speaker 1: an hour. They have to be like funny on the
Speaker 1: fly and like or like or like improvise these promos
Speaker 1: and stuff. So it's just like I just appreciate the
Speaker 1: effort that it takes to be UM a good wrestler,
Speaker 1: and it's a lot more than a script. I would
Speaker 1: almost go back to the j Lo thing and say
Speaker 1: that like that is theatrical as well, Like this person
Speaker 1: is clearly like a mom who wears sweatpants and works
Speaker 1: out to have that body, and there's so much behind
Speaker 1: the scenes that you don't see, and then she's on
Speaker 1: a red carpet and it's all like, you know, it's
Speaker 1: it's it's improvising that you're a queen, and we don't
Speaker 1: We can say she's a queen, but she's not royalty,
Speaker 1: but we're treating these people Ben and her like. And
Speaker 1: I don't even think that, you know, royalty is really anything.
Speaker 1: It's just a but every ms act. I feel the
Speaker 1: same way, like I really almost everyone. They're all wearing
Speaker 1: like the most absurd things. Fun though that's why them know,
Speaker 1: But I'm saying, is doing that same if she wasn't
Speaker 1: doing anything absurd, or to me at least, it wasn't.
Speaker 1: It's not about her outfits, about the way she walks,
Speaker 1: and like just the like there's just the just the
Speaker 1: way that they move where it's just like you think
Speaker 1: you're a princess, like you're just a person. Yeah, persona
Speaker 1: and you know what, I take on that as well sometimes,
Speaker 1: but I just want you to admit it, you know,
Speaker 1: Like it's like the comedians we talked about that they'll
Speaker 1: be off stage and they're talking normally, and then they
Speaker 1: get on stage and they're doing this voice, and it's
Speaker 1: just like, just admit you do a voice. It's okay,
Speaker 1: it's you're performing. But j Lo, you admit don't. Maybe
Speaker 1: she would admit it if you talk to her. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm just saying I'm not trying to play
Speaker 1: Devil's out, but maybe she's aware. I mean a lot
Speaker 1: of these people, remember we were talking about on Instagram,
Speaker 1: when they make these the most cheesy, most absurd Instagram
Speaker 1: posts where they're squatting down and they're looking and then
Speaker 1: if you ask them, they go, yeah, I know, I
Speaker 1: look like a dickhead. But this is I Yeah, but
Speaker 1: that to me playing off of people. But you're putting
Speaker 1: that out there because you think that people are going
Speaker 1: to perceive that as your cool. So that's whereas if
Speaker 1: you just go, I'm doing this thing because it obviously
Speaker 1: makes my leg look better. That's why you know, Bo
Speaker 1: Burnham is the anti you know, like and I I
Speaker 1: kind of float more into his direction, where like, if
Speaker 1: I do something self serving, I need to call it out.
Speaker 1: I need to be like, guys, my legs are painted tonight,
Speaker 1: that's why they look good. I have to tell you,
Speaker 1: like I have makeup on, That's why I look hot.
Speaker 1: I learned to stand this way that like I'm not
Speaker 1: actually anything that you think. Uh you know I have
Speaker 1: way Island season two. That doesn't make you the compliment. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I want to tell them you take away the
Speaker 1: smoking mirrors, but they're still but you look hot, like
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It's a weird balance. That's
Speaker 1: like telling me that a mask I'm wearing is hot,
Speaker 1: Like I just want to I take it away from myself.
Speaker 1: I need to still get compliments for the mask, I know,
Speaker 1: but I wouldn't a compliment on my mask would never
Speaker 1: I bought a mask. It was like, it's a compliment
Speaker 1: on good job picking out that mask, as opposed to
Speaker 1: this is who you are. Whereas when people write into
Speaker 1: the podcast and say, you made it so I could
Speaker 1: go on a boat in my bikini in front of
Speaker 1: girls whose bodies I envied and I didn't care how
Speaker 1: I looked that ship that I don't have to Oh,
Speaker 1: you only did that because I lied to you. That
Speaker 1: ship you did because I was I was me, and
Speaker 1: I can let that. Those compliments in much easier than
Speaker 1: oh my god, you're waste. Well, I'm sucking in so
Speaker 1: much and I'm dehydrated. That's why my waist looks like that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's talk about the real facts. Okay. So Number one
Speaker 1: guilty pleasure your favorite thing you never want to give
Speaker 1: up you're not embarrassed about. Uh, I guess my obsession
Speaker 1: with high school football, Like it just feels like laying
Speaker 1: in the dark at one am watching a bunch of
Speaker 1: high schoolers play sports. If it makes you feel good, Oh,
Speaker 1: I love it. I love it, But I could see
Speaker 1: how it could be something like that. That's why I
Speaker 1: want to like sports. Someone wrote in wrote into the
Speaker 1: to our podcast to the Instagram saying, you know, Andrew
Speaker 1: would think this is cud. But pro athletes if they
Speaker 1: go what college did you go to? And people start
Speaker 1: saying they're high school instead of our college? And she
Speaker 1: thought that I would think that's kuld. But I think
Speaker 1: that's cool. I love the high school shout out. I
Speaker 1: love high school sports because it's not tainted yet. Also,
Speaker 1: the kid that isn't the best athlete can maybe get
Speaker 1: on the field and there's just a pureness to it
Speaker 1: that just goes as far as you went. I mean
Speaker 1: that might have something to do with it, for sure,
Speaker 1: Like I didn't experience heird if I loved high school
Speaker 1: musical theater, you know what I mean? No, No, they're
Speaker 1: they're trash. They're not good. I mean some of them
Speaker 1: are good, but like their standouts, but most of it
Speaker 1: is bad. And there's some I guess humor in that.
Speaker 1: But um, but don't you like that. Don't you think
Speaker 1: about the fact that, like, oh wow, this person got
Speaker 1: to be the understudy or tree number nine or whatever
Speaker 1: who people didn't believe in. And I want to know that,
Speaker 1: like in retrospect, I don't want to know it in
Speaker 1: the moment because I'm not going to be paying attention
Speaker 1: to Twishtown's person. I'm gonna be at tainting attention to
Speaker 1: the lead and going, God, she's probably gonna get everything
Speaker 1: in life, and like I'm gonna be I would be
Speaker 1: too jealous of watching Younger. There's just something pureness about it,
Speaker 1: I think with with drama and stuff. Yeah, if you
Speaker 1: get on Broadway, I mean that's a whole another that's
Speaker 1: the pros, right, but anything in between that, it's just
Speaker 1: the higher up you go, the more it's done just
Speaker 1: for money. And and I can't wrap my head around
Speaker 1: these people carrying I just don't think I've talked to
Speaker 1: We talked to our friend Joe Buck and he's like,
Speaker 1: you know, baseball players, they'll go over five and then
Speaker 1: they're in the locker room like laughing, like they made
Speaker 1: a hundred million dollars, Like, yeah, we could take out
Speaker 1: to it. Yeah, no, we don't need to. I think
Speaker 1: he would be fine saying that. Um. I love Choe Buck.
Speaker 1: We it's so nice to be friends with someone who's
Speaker 1: voice here here, I wanted to do a meditation app. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I love his voice. It's so confident. He just he
Speaker 1: just has a swagger. I'm just like, I hate to say,
Speaker 1: I'm like horny for his voice. I said that Andrew
Speaker 1: was watching football in his room yesterday and I wanted company,
Speaker 1: and I go, you can watch in the living room,
Speaker 1: and I go with this Joe Buck because I was
Speaker 1: listening and I was like, God, it's just like I
Speaker 1: love it. Maybe it's because it's just familiar, but I
Speaker 1: was just like, I want this on because I just
Speaker 1: love hearing someone who's so good and comfortable at doing
Speaker 1: something that to me is he's so good at not
Speaker 1: having like announcer voice and not having two series of
Speaker 1: a voice where it's like, I don't know St. Louis
Speaker 1: man STI was friendly, like real, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just love it. Okay, let's go into a final thought. Um,
Speaker 1: and no, what is your your number one is? Wait?
Speaker 1: What's your number one one? Nikki? My number one is
Speaker 1: obviously Taylor Swift. Like I, I used to have a
Speaker 1: lot of guilt around it, and there's still a little
Speaker 1: bit of that for me because it people areca and
Speaker 1: think that she isn't as great as she is. But um,
Speaker 1: I just you know. I I said it on Busy
Speaker 1: Phillips podcast and I posted a quote that they like
Speaker 1: kind of highlighted her kid Bertie, Um, they love Taylor
Speaker 1: Swift as much as I do. And she was like,
Speaker 1: you would really get along with Bertie and I was like,
Speaker 1: Bertie and I are so I feel so lucky that
Speaker 1: I love something that so many people are just like,
Speaker 1: why do you like that? And that's why I like
Speaker 1: to hear about wrestling and about your high school football
Speaker 1: thing like imagining you in your room, like loving watching
Speaker 1: this thing that like brings you so much joy and
Speaker 1: you're not there's nothing, you don't have anything writing on it,
Speaker 1: you know, like like Taylor Swift, Like I'm there was
Speaker 1: something that someone sent me recently that said, um, like
Speaker 1: sometimes I want to kill myself. It was like a
Speaker 1: really dark thing, but it was like sometimes I want
Speaker 1: to kill myself. And then I realized, like I might
Speaker 1: miss Taylor's like next album, and I truly I did
Speaker 1: a joke about it, and um, the show that we
Speaker 1: shot where I was I was going to do this
Speaker 1: E show called Obsessed with Nicki Glazer and it was
Speaker 1: like all things I'm obsessed with in our pilot episode
Speaker 1: was about Taylor Swift, and I made the joke but
Speaker 1: this was inspired by real events where I was crossing
Speaker 1: the street and I saw my life flash like like
Speaker 1: a car almost hit me a truck like like seconds,
Speaker 1: and I was like, my first thought was, thank god
Speaker 1: I didn't miss like lover is coming out this week
Speaker 1: or something like I don't want to miss the ten
Speaker 1: minute version of um all too Well, because it's gonna
Speaker 1: be it's just gonna feel so good. It's gonna feel
Speaker 1: like it's got so many people had feeling with the
Speaker 1: Beatles or like so many bands that just stopped performing together. Oh,
Speaker 1: when John Lennon died, like I can't imagine the sorrow
Speaker 1: people felt, and like I understand now, like if something
Speaker 1: happens to her, it will be it'll be just as
Speaker 1: bad as losing a friend to me, and people might
Speaker 1: like joke and be like, you know, if something ever
Speaker 1: does happen to her, and like people should reach out
Speaker 1: to me, like it will be like a very bad time.
Speaker 1: And you know I was affected by sucking Anthony Bourdaine
Speaker 1: dying or like there's there's a lot of people that
Speaker 1: could die and I would be very petty got me
Speaker 1: pretty good even though he was older, but he wasn't
Speaker 1: old enough, you know, Yeah, No, it's just it makes
Speaker 1: you so sad. Um No, what is your number one?
Speaker 1: All right? Well, I am a sucker for a good
Speaker 1: pep talk, so like all those like videos of like
Speaker 1: motivational speakers and you know, so funny you say that
Speaker 1: because Nikki just started doing it before that we go
Speaker 1: on stage. Yeah, I started doing like a circle where
Speaker 1: we just like hold hands, well not COVID, we watch
Speaker 1: elbows and we just kind of do a pep talk
Speaker 1: of like awesome before we start performing. You know, they
Speaker 1: kind of do it on every music documentary I've seen,
Speaker 1: like you know usually remember Amy used to do it
Speaker 1: before her like theater shows when she started just like
Speaker 1: getting everyone on the same page, like reminding everyone nothing
Speaker 1: matters and like just have fun kind of thing. What
Speaker 1: kind of um? Who's your favorite pep talker? You're you
Speaker 1: Goggins girl? I don't mind Goggins, I do. I do
Speaker 1: really like him. I like that guy Ed my Let.
Speaker 1: I didn't know him until you were on his podcast. Yes,
Speaker 1: Ed's great. And then there's a guy he's like very
Speaker 1: New York. He's from like a New York hardcore band.
Speaker 1: His name is John Joseph. He does these like pep
Speaker 1: talks and like the Bronx or something where he lives
Speaker 1: when he's walking his dog, and they're always like so
Speaker 1: like motivating, and he's just like, go out there and
Speaker 1: do something, and it's just put a little pep in
Speaker 1: my step. Do you like it when you're already in
Speaker 1: the mood to be pep talk or do you like
Speaker 1: it any of you're feeling like I okay, because sometimes
Speaker 1: I don't in a pep talk when I'm feeling low,
Speaker 1: like that's the last thing I want. I was reading
Speaker 1: a lot about Oh I should have said nine eleven
Speaker 1: is my guilty pleasure that I'm ashamed of. I love nine.
Speaker 1: I don't love nine eleven, but I like every nine eleven,
Speaker 1: especially on these big you know, the five year, ten year,
Speaker 1: fifteen year, twenty I got I go hard, and I
Speaker 1: gotta say, there is a there is an article in
Speaker 1: the Atlantic that you've got to read about nine eleven
Speaker 1: and um it's uh I posted on my story yesterday.
Speaker 1: Um it's it's not gonna be available by the time
Speaker 1: you get this, but I just want to direct you
Speaker 1: guys to it. Um that you know. I sent it
Speaker 1: to Ony and she goes, I don't want to read
Speaker 1: this because I'm I'm not in the mood to read
Speaker 1: something sad. But it's like it's like a set. It's
Speaker 1: like reading the best documentary you've ever read, and it's um,
Speaker 1: it's The Atlantic. You can go on their Instagram and
Speaker 1: it's uh, it's called What eleven, nine eleven Did to
Speaker 1: One Family, and it's it took me a half hour
Speaker 1: to read. It's a really long read, but it's made
Speaker 1: me cry of happiness, sadness. It's beautiful. So watching footage
Speaker 1: of nine eleven watching the Waving Woman, if you've ever
Speaker 1: seen that footage, that's a new one to me. There's
Speaker 1: always something new that's like, oh my cons something the
Speaker 1: thing that I love about nine eleven and I say
Speaker 1: love being like why I'm fascinated by and Sam Harris
Speaker 1: did at the No, maybe it wasn't Sam Harris. Someone
Speaker 1: was talking about how where I read that. Um, we
Speaker 1: don't as much as we know about it, we don't
Speaker 1: know the individual struggle of people who died, Like we'll
Speaker 1: never know what they saw, what they witnessed, will never
Speaker 1: all those people died. We don't know what what killed them,
Speaker 1: what they what they thought what they felt like. There
Speaker 1: was no survivors really that have the story of standing
Speaker 1: next to someone who died next to them, like you
Speaker 1: either died or you did it. There was no one
Speaker 1: between really. On sixty minutes, there was a nine eleven
Speaker 1: phone call. So I've heard them all. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: there's one that you listen to and he's just like,
Speaker 1: we're in the tower and then it cuts out and
Speaker 1: it's like the worst thing you've ever heard. But I
Speaker 1: don't know why. I I don't like that stuff, but
Speaker 1: I why you like murder documentary or why people do
Speaker 1: it's morbidity video. I watched the the the other thing
Speaker 1: you posted. Oh yeah, that was amazing right with the
Speaker 1: Eventsio in Virginia and Mike Attendant. Oh how good was
Speaker 1: that video? I really choked up. I did think of
Speaker 1: a really funny thing though. We gotta we gotta post
Speaker 1: it on our story. We should try to that video. Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's talk about it tomorrow. Go watch that video. It
Speaker 1: is something that I think if they made mandatory in
Speaker 1: schools to watch or like man, mandatory for human beings
Speaker 1: to watch it once a year. It just made me
Speaker 1: be so much nicer to strangers. Yesterday, and to have
Speaker 1: so much more empathy for a situation that I normally
Speaker 1: be like funk, like annoyed. It's just it was we
Speaker 1: should all be like Mike, Mike. Yeah, when he was like,
Speaker 1: what can we do to help you? It was like
Speaker 1: that that question he goes, you don't need to say
Speaker 1: sorry to me. Yeah, but I hate to tell you,
Speaker 1: but Mike lost his life. And when he was at
Speaker 1: the age of like fifty something, I know he's gone.
Speaker 1: We don't know what he died of. It was a
Speaker 1: reddit like I read the reddit thread and it was
Speaker 1: like Mike's Mike's dad. But what a lovely man when
Speaker 1: he was around. And I'm so glad we have that
Speaker 1: memory of him. And like I want to asseminate. I
Speaker 1: want to put it out there. I want everyone to
Speaker 1: see it. Spread this video, go watch it, and we'll
Speaker 1: talk about it tomorrow. See you on the podcast. What
Speaker 1: a fun show today, even though we went to some
Speaker 1: dark places at the end. I have a good one
Speaker 1: out there to be kind to each other. And I
Speaker 1: mean that not in an Ellen way. Um and uh,
Speaker 1: we'll see tomorrow, don't And