WEBVTT - Second Date Update UPDATE: Run Away with Me 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:02.760 Now for your second date update. About a year ago, 0:00:02.800 --> 0:00:05.000 we had two people on the phone for what turned 0:00:05.040 --> 0:00:06.760 out to be one of the most dramatic second date 0:00:06.800 --> 0:00:09.080 updates we've ever done. I featured a guy named Andrew 0:00:09.320 --> 0:00:12.280 and a woman named Kate. If you haven't heard it before, 0:00:12.280 --> 0:00:15.000 we're about to replay it for you, and afterwards we'll 0:00:15.040 --> 0:00:18.319 get a second date update update from them to find 0:00:18.320 --> 0:00:21.440 out what's happened since their call and where they are 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:26.760 at today. So keep listening, because that's happening right now, 0:00:28.720 --> 0:00:33.560 Brooking Jewels Second Date Update. Today's second date update is 0:00:33.600 --> 0:00:35.920 a little different from the others because the girl that's 0:00:35.920 --> 0:00:37.920 on the phone to do a second date update today 0:00:38.360 --> 0:00:40.920 has actually had three dates with the guy that she 0:00:41.000 --> 0:00:45.920 wants to call in and come on. Normally, the rule 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:50.040 is one date and that's it, not three dates, because 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:52.280 that's kind of more of a relationship type band and 0:00:52.360 --> 0:00:54.360 that's not a second date update. That'd be a fourth 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:57.800 date update. But I went ahead and I talked to 0:00:57.840 --> 0:01:01.080 the girl and she offered me a thousand dollars cash 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:03.480 if we would do the second date update for her anyway. 0:01:03.760 --> 0:01:06.520 And you know what rules are meant to be broken sometimes, 0:01:06.920 --> 0:01:09.960 So Kate you will have my PayPal request in just 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:13.319 a little while. Okay, yes, I'll get it right out. 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:15.320 You didn't know the second day update was going to 0:01:15.360 --> 0:01:17.600 cost you a thousand dollars, did you Kate? Well? I didn't, 0:01:17.680 --> 0:01:19.520 but I mean I hope it's worth it. I swear 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:22.200 when you hear the story, you're going to understand why. Okay, 0:01:22.240 --> 0:01:24.520 so your email said that you've been out on three 0:01:24.600 --> 0:01:26.760 dates with this guy and now he's just stopped calling you. 0:01:26.800 --> 0:01:29.880 Tell us a little bit about him. Okay, So his 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:32.520 name is Andrew h It sounds really cheesy, but we 0:01:32.520 --> 0:01:35.240 were doing like a volunteered charity event and we met 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:37.960 there and we were working together, so we just had 0:01:37.959 --> 0:01:39.800 a lot of time, you know, like hang out and 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:42.120 talk and stuff, and you know, we had a connection 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:45.640 and he asked me out on a date and since 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:47.760 then it's just kind of been like a whirlwind, you 0:01:47.800 --> 0:01:50.400 know what I mean, Like you're super into him and 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:53.760 you see this going into like relationship status. Yeah, I 0:01:53.760 --> 0:01:56.880 mean obviously not like right now at this moment, because 0:01:56.960 --> 0:01:59.280 I'm I'm calling you for a reason, but no, it 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:01.680 was definitely like it was I felt like it was 0:02:01.720 --> 0:02:03.800 headed in that direction. Yet, what did you guys do 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:08.960 for your date dates plural. So my first date, it 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:11.519 was actually really romantic when I'm one of those dinner cruises, 0:02:11.560 --> 0:02:14.120 which I probably would have hated if it was someone 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:15.920 that I had turned out not to be attractive you, 0:02:16.040 --> 0:02:18.480 But we had We had so much fun, you know, 0:02:18.639 --> 0:02:20.720 like if I needed speech dropped on the boat with anyone, 0:02:20.760 --> 0:02:22.359 that would be the person that I would want to 0:02:22.360 --> 0:02:24.720 be some kind of that's actually a good idea for 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:26.640 guys to take girls on a dinner cruise date for 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:30.080 the first date, because there's nowhere to go. Yeah, but 0:02:30.160 --> 0:02:32.360 it does say it does say that he was like 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:35.160 really into you, because if a guy is gonna devote 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:37.480 that much time and energy into a first date, he's 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:40.800 obviously wanting to impress you. Yeah. Screw time and energy, 0:02:40.840 --> 0:02:45.200 just cash. That's not a cheap date at all. Okay, 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:47.360 so you went on a dinner cruise, that's cool. Would 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:49.600 you do for your other days? The next date, we 0:02:49.680 --> 0:02:52.120 went on one of those like wine and tasting events 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:54.920 at a bar, which was you know, like super casual, 0:02:55.000 --> 0:02:56.520 and it was fine because there were other people there 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:58.640 and so we got to sort of like spend more 0:02:58.680 --> 0:03:00.560 time than in a group of people and see what 0:03:00.600 --> 0:03:02.680 that dynamic is like. And it was really fun. And 0:03:02.720 --> 0:03:06.560 then my third one was so sweet because I had 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:08.400 just I was really stressed out at work and I 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:10.480 think I had mentioned it like a couple of times 0:03:10.480 --> 0:03:13.560 in conversation, and so he booked up a couple of massage. 0:03:13.919 --> 0:03:18.720 What that's like relationship status stuck. Yeah, So we definitely 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:21.840 like took our relationship to the next level after that, 0:03:22.000 --> 0:03:25.880 and I'm you know, like starting to feel emotionally connected 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:29.240 to him and putting in you know, feelings and effort 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:33.400 and time. And since then it has been complete radio silence. 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:37.000 That's weird time to put that much effort into all 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:40.320 those dates, I know. And by effort, you still mean money, 0:03:40.320 --> 0:03:44.320 don't you pretty much? But I mean you don't buy 0:03:44.360 --> 0:03:47.720 somebody a couple's massage if you don't care about absolutely No. 0:03:47.840 --> 0:03:49.720 I mean, I wouldn't spend that much money, and I can't. 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:52.440 I just can't believe he'd like spent that much money 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:54.400 for just to hook up like that. Seems laid a 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:56.200 lot of work. That was the first night you guys 0:03:56.200 --> 0:03:59.600 hooked up after the couple's massage. Yeah, so he stopped 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:02.600 calling you after the first night that you hooked up. Yes, 0:04:02.920 --> 0:04:06.200 I know, I know, but the lead up is so 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:09.240 confusing because you know, everyone's been in the hook up 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:11.720 situation before, whether they like intended to or not, you 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:13.600 know what I mean, And it usually doesn't have that 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:15.640 much build up. Usually someone doesn't put in that much 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:18.799 time and effort and then go completely obsecret. It sounds 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:20.760 like he was doing all that just to get in 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:23.560 your pants. If I'm being honest, Well it does. If 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:26.960 he's doing all Yes, would you do that much? I wouldn't. 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:28.839 I wouldn't know, but a lot of guys would. I mean, 0:04:28.839 --> 0:04:30.520 if he's putting in all that effort and then stops 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:33.240 calling you the moment that you guys hook up, sounds 0:04:33.240 --> 0:04:35.680 like that's all he wanted. Yeah, I don't know. I 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:37.760 also like, in my head, I'm kind of like wondering, 0:04:38.279 --> 0:04:40.200 was he like just getting out of a relationship and 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:42.400 did he fixed things? Did he did he go back 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:44.680 to me? And like all of it is totally like 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:46.919 if that were the kid. You know, life happens. I 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:50.680 just some kind of answer, just some kind of conversation 0:04:50.760 --> 0:04:54.120 telling you what happened. Actually, my mind goes to I think, 0:04:54.279 --> 0:04:57.000 did you stay the night at his house. Yeah, what 0:04:57.040 --> 0:04:59.479 was it like in the morning. It was really nice. 0:04:59.520 --> 0:05:01.160 It wasn't like hook up, you know what I mean. 0:05:01.279 --> 0:05:03.200 If you know when it's a hook up, you're a woman, 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:06.000 you know, like you've been there. You know. No, most 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:07.880 women don't know when it's a hook up. I'll tell 0:05:07.880 --> 0:05:10.960 you that much. Totally disagree with that. No, I disagree 0:05:11.000 --> 0:05:13.960 to No, most don't know. That's why there's clingy women 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:15.480 who will text you after and think that they're in 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:17.479 a relationship when they're not. It happens all the time. 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:19.960 I'm sorry. I think she's right. I think the majority 0:05:20.000 --> 0:05:22.080 of women know when a hook up is just a 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:24.559 hook up. I completely agree. Okay, well, maybe the guy's 0:05:24.600 --> 0:05:26.560 a player and he's really good at it, and you 0:05:26.600 --> 0:05:28.760 don't know if that's what he's doing. He's really good, 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:30.840 so I'm sure you've thought about it a ton. Then 0:05:30.839 --> 0:05:32.320 if you don't think it's just a hook up thing 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:33.680 and he was just kind of using you, then what 0:05:33.720 --> 0:05:36.400 do you think it is. I'm trying to think of 0:05:36.400 --> 0:05:38.360 anything at this point. I mean, that's why that's why 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:40.440 I need your help. I'm really interested to see why 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:42.799 he would stop calling you after all those elaborate dates. 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:45.479 And leaving his house. That was the last time you've 0:05:45.480 --> 0:05:48.200 talked to him. No, there've been like texts, like little 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:50.839 texts like you know, I've been busy, like, oh, you're 0:05:50.880 --> 0:05:56.800 justly so yeah, he's like scheduling cruises and massages and 0:05:56.800 --> 0:05:59.120 then all of a sudden, his schedule just got so packed. 0:06:00.000 --> 0:06:01.920 All right, well we'll play a song, come back, call 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:04.440 him and get your second date update. Okay, okay, all right, 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:13.880 hang up. You're looking jubil in the morning second, Kate. Yeah, seriously, 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:15.560 I can't even believe that you want to call this 0:06:15.800 --> 0:06:20.279 dog back. Like, seriously, girl, you need to move on 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:24.880 to greener pastures. Okay, because he totally used you and 0:06:24.960 --> 0:06:27.200 now he's not calling you back and I wouldn't even 0:06:27.200 --> 0:06:29.120 give him the time of day. You should not be 0:06:29.200 --> 0:06:32.480 doing a second date update. You need to move the along, 0:06:32.640 --> 0:06:35.600 all right, Snap out of it. Girlfriend. Let's you and 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:40.360 I go get some cosmos and talk about this in 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:42.800 your mind. This is how female conversations go, isn't it 0:06:42.839 --> 0:06:45.480 that that was my conversation with Kate about moving on? Kate? 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:49.480 Are you about ready to call Andrew for your second 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:55.120 date update? Well? After that, I'm feeling really inspired I'm 0:06:55.200 --> 0:06:58.040 sure the reason that I said that is Kate actually 0:06:58.040 --> 0:07:00.000 wants to call a guy that she has gone out 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:02.640 on three dates with. They've all been pretty elaborate. The 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:04.720 last one was a couple's massage. There was like a dinner, 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:07.960 cruise and stuff in there. Anyway, after they hooked up. 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:11.040 After the third date, he stopped calling her hasn't responded 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:13.440 to anything. So my first thought is that he just 0:07:13.680 --> 0:07:15.920 used her and just wanted to hook up with her, 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:17.360 and now he's not calling her at all. That's why 0:07:17.440 --> 0:07:20.880 he's a dog girl, Kate, what if that is the reason, 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:23.280 Are you just gonna let him have it? I'm gonna 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:27.000 be really passed. I'm gonna dial this phone uber right 0:07:27.000 --> 0:07:29.080 now and see we're gonna mo the phone. Okay, okay, 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:39.080 I'm dialing the phone number. Hello, Hi, I was looking 0:07:39.120 --> 0:07:42.400 for Andrew. Yeah, let's to see Andrew. How are you. 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:46.960 This is Jewil from brook and Jewil in the Morning. Okay, 0:07:47.440 --> 0:07:50.800 I'm calling you because we recently got an email about 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:54.040 you from one of our listeners. I didn't submit for 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:56.960 any contest or anything. Guys, Yeah, no, I know this 0:07:57.040 --> 0:07:58.920 is not about a contest. Actually, I just need a 0:07:58.960 --> 0:08:02.960 few minutes of your time in regards to in regards 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:05.240 to a date that you went on, actually a few 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:08.600 dates that you went on. What Yeah, we do a 0:08:08.640 --> 0:08:10.840 segment on our show. It's called the second Date Update. 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:14.240 You recently took a girl named Kate out. She told 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:16.000 us a little bit about your dates. They were all 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:19.640 very elaborate and very romantic. But now you're not calling 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:24.560 her back, and she's very confused. I'm just I'm not 0:08:24.600 --> 0:08:27.360 sure what to say. Well, you could start by telling 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:31.200 us why you would blow her off after three dates. 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:33.280 It's not as simple as that. Okay, Yeah, I'm not 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:35.640 trying to sound confrontational with you like it's I mean, 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:38.400 I just want to know what happened. And more than anything, 0:08:38.400 --> 0:08:40.280 she wants to know what happened because you guys went 0:08:40.280 --> 0:08:41.840 out on so many dates and she said that they 0:08:41.880 --> 0:08:44.000 were all pretty romantic, and you seem like you guys 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:47.360 really liked each other. Just a weird situation. I'm trying 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:49.319 to It's been in my head and I'm just trying 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:51.760 to figure this stuff out. Does that mean that you 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:56.320 are actually maybe in a relationship with somebody else? No? No, no, no, 0:08:56.440 --> 0:08:59.000 certainly not. No. Okay, I wish it was that simple. 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:02.040 It's it's complicated in that. Let me ask you a question, 0:09:02.120 --> 0:09:05.480 just an easy question to answer. Did you like Kate? Yes? 0:09:05.960 --> 0:09:10.480 Very much? So you did? I didn't still do? Okay, 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:13.480 so you still do? Well? Then why not offer her 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:15.360 the respect of letting her know why you're not calling 0:09:15.360 --> 0:09:21.160 her back? Well? I just, uh, I accepted a job 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:24.200 offer in Germany that I just I couldn't turn it down. 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:30.199 You what, I leaven a couple of weeks actually for Germany? WHOA? 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:33.320 And that's why you're not calling her back? Well, I 0:09:33.320 --> 0:09:35.319 feel strongly before. I just don't know how to tell her, 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:37.360 you know, I mean, yeah, I don't know what to 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:39.800 say to her. I just I just figured the easiest 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:43.120 thing would be just to you know, disappear, fade away. 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:46.840 Are you disappear? That's like the coward way out. You 0:09:46.920 --> 0:09:49.640 owe it to her to talk to her about what's 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:52.600 going on. Like I said, this is not an easy situation. 0:09:52.679 --> 0:09:55.120 I'm I'm struggling as far as how to deal with 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:57.520 this and what to do. Why are you struggling so 0:09:57.600 --> 0:09:58.719 much with I mean, you guys have been out on 0:09:58.720 --> 0:10:00.760 three days. It's not like you've been dating for months 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:02.760 and months and months and you're leaving, why not just 0:10:02.800 --> 0:10:04.480 call her and say, hey, I'm moving. Sorry, we can't 0:10:04.480 --> 0:10:07.000 see each other anymore, you know, I mean, I really 0:10:07.000 --> 0:10:10.240 like her a lot. But okay, so you see a 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:12.760 future with her. If if you were going to stay 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:15.440 here and Germany wasn't in the picture, there's no question 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:18.160 in your mind that you guys would continue this if 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:20.520 I was going to stay here, definitely, no question in 0:10:20.559 --> 0:10:23.960 my mind. But now that the reality is Germany, there's 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:26.120 just no chance of that. Because you know I'm moving. 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:29.640 You guys could maybe try a long distance thing. That's 0:10:30.280 --> 0:10:32.920 not fair for me to ask her to do something 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:36.160 like that. You know, she's super sweet, gorgeous, that's not yeah, 0:10:36.200 --> 0:10:37.600 but how do you know? You don't know? I mean, 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:39.880 you're putting your feelings on her, like you don't know 0:10:39.880 --> 0:10:42.200 how she would react to me. I am putting her 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:44.280 needs first. She doesn't deserve to be in a long 0:10:44.280 --> 0:10:46.520 distance relationship like that with someone. She deserves someone's going 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:49.520 to be there with her, contributing to her life. I'm 0:10:49.559 --> 0:10:52.400 putting her needs way above mine. I still't know what 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:56.080 to say. It sounds like you really like her a lot, Yeah, yeah, 0:10:56.120 --> 0:10:58.520 I do. Man, that sucks I honestly, if I were 0:10:58.559 --> 0:11:01.120 in your position, that would be hard to meet somebody 0:11:01.120 --> 0:11:03.160 that you're I mean, I guess it sounds like you're 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:06.440 falling for and then you're like, man, now I gotta move. Yeah, 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:09.040 it sucks, but some consolation, German chicks can be kind 0:11:09.040 --> 0:11:12.160 of hot. Okay, Okay, that's where we're going in the 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:15.680 making more money obviously. Can I ask one question though, 0:11:15.720 --> 0:11:18.000 Did you know that you were going to Germany before 0:11:18.360 --> 0:11:21.800 that last couple's massage slept together night? No? No, no. 0:11:21.880 --> 0:11:24.320 In fact, this is from a previous situation I had 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:26.199 that developed over the course of three or four months, 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:28.719 so I thought that the opportunity had kind of fizzled out. 0:11:28.720 --> 0:11:30.600 But it turns out it was just taking a little 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:32.640 bit more time and then they may be an offer. 0:11:32.679 --> 0:11:34.480 I just had to have to jump on this. Wow. 0:11:34.640 --> 0:11:36.360 You know, I'm just really excited about this Germany thing. 0:11:36.400 --> 0:11:38.960 It's it's the dream job I've always always wanted. But 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:41.040 at the same time, you know, I feel like I 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:42.560 could be missing out and not being able to share 0:11:42.600 --> 0:11:45.720 something like that with someone like her. Well, then why 0:11:45.720 --> 0:11:47.959 not just talk to her about it? I agree. I 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:50.439 know it's early on in your relationship, But why not 0:11:50.559 --> 0:11:53.600 just talk to her? Man Easier said than done, Guys, 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:58.560 Not really, she's actually on the line listing. Excuse me, 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:01.160 I said, she saw on the other line and listening 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:04.679 to this conversation and wants to talk to you take 0:12:04.720 --> 0:12:14.560 on the phone. Yes she is. Yeah, Hi, Um, I 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:18.320 don't really know what this is a lot. You've been 0:12:18.320 --> 0:12:23.160 on the phone the whole time, the whole time. I'm 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:27.080 I'm sorry, I I'm sorry I stopped calling you. I 0:12:27.080 --> 0:12:29.440 just it was the only way that I saw to 0:12:29.520 --> 0:12:34.160 handle this. It's okay, I'm um. I don't really know 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:36.440 what I would have what I would have done in 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:39.599 the situation either. I just I just I wish you 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:43.480 would have told me. Um, But what I don't even 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:46.199 like mentioned that you a lot. I know, you just 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:49.000 like I didn't even know they don't even like applied, 0:12:49.160 --> 0:12:51.719 you know if you didn't even that wasn't mentioned. Just 0:12:52.120 --> 0:12:54.400 it's in regular conversation, you know what I mean? It 0:12:54.480 --> 0:12:57.880 was if so, it's like really out of left field. Well, 0:12:57.880 --> 0:12:59.880 I yeah, I honestly I thought that that I thought 0:12:59.880 --> 0:13:01.760 that that prospect had kind of just fizzled out long, 0:13:01.800 --> 0:13:04.400 you know, long before I even met you. So it 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:07.480 just kind of popped out of nowhere again. It just 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:11.040 really sucks because I like have really, I mean, I 0:13:11.040 --> 0:13:14.840 I have strong feelings for you. I have strong feelings 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:17.439 for you too. It's just not fair for you. It's 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:19.600 not it's not fair for us. You know, life is 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:23.200 just not on our side. It seems um well, Andrew, 0:13:23.240 --> 0:13:25.199 maybe maybe life is on your side and that's why 0:13:25.200 --> 0:13:27.160 you guys are being connected. In a second date update 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:34.160 to talk about it, I guess, I mean, I think 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:36.160 about you every day and I want you know. I mean, 0:13:36.160 --> 0:13:39.240 the long distance relationship is really really hard, and it's 0:13:39.280 --> 0:13:41.040 not fair me to even imply something like that. I 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:43.840 even asked that it's only been three dates, but you know, 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:47.079 I can't stop thinking about you, So my heart says something, 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:50.079 in my mind says something different, you know, Okay, I mean, 0:13:50.520 --> 0:13:52.400 I'm just gonna ask for you, would you do a 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:55.600 long distance relationship? I don't know. I mean, somebody's going 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:58.280 to step in and ask her what is on that 0:13:58.320 --> 0:14:03.240 whole matter? I don't, I don't know. I don't know. 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:06.880 I don't. I don't know because it's not it's not 0:14:06.920 --> 0:14:08.720 really being put on the table. It's not like a 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:12.240 real question so I don't. I don't know. It's also 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:16.079 it's so soon and it's so new, and in general, 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:18.640 would I would I do along distance relationships, like in 0:14:18.679 --> 0:14:21.360 general in life, what I consider it? Well, yeah, I would, 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:26.000 but it's not really, it's not really what's being asking now, Well, 0:14:26.000 --> 0:14:27.640 the simple fact of the matter is, you know, long 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:31.040 distance relationships suck. You know, I mean, this is really hard. 0:14:31.080 --> 0:14:33.520 I mean, my heart says something, in my mind says 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:35.800 something different. You know, I'm thinking that I just need 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:37.920 to sever this, cut this off, but I can't stop 0:14:37.960 --> 0:14:40.280 thinking about you. So I'm feeling like I need to 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:43.880 ask you to go with me. You know. I know 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:47.560 that's crazy. I shouldn't have even said that. I'm sorry. 0:14:46.240 --> 0:14:52.320 I feel like I just you know, you don't want 0:14:52.360 --> 0:14:54.080 me to go with I really've been on three dates. 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:58.040 You can't. It's not that's not like a real Is 0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:00.000 that a real question? Well, I don't. I don't think. 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:02.000 I don't want to put words in your mouth, Andrew, 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:03.480 but I don't think you were actually asking her to 0:15:03.480 --> 0:15:04.600 go with you. I think you were saying that's the 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:07.040 way you feel, you know. I'm just not sure at 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:09.840 this point, this phone calls really it's even more confusing now, 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:12.760 it seems like, but it sounds like to me that 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:15.360 if she would say yes, that that is exactly what 0:15:15.400 --> 0:15:17.520 you're asking, I wouldn't want to ask her that. You know, 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:20.120 that's that's just a huge bombshell to drop on somebody. 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:22.200 You know, it's a lot of pressure to put on her. 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:25.080 Let's let's play a game, Andrew. Let's put this relationship 0:15:25.360 --> 0:15:27.000 seven months down the road. If you guys have been 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:28.520 dating for seven months, would you ask her to go 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:33.360 with you to Germany? Yes? Wow? Okay, what do you 0:15:33.360 --> 0:15:35.520 think about that? If you were dating seven months, would 0:15:35.520 --> 0:15:41.880 you go This is like, oh, like anypathetical situation. I mean, 0:15:42.000 --> 0:15:45.080 if if we have been dating in the same way 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:49.160 that it's been, if we just continued down the same 0:15:49.200 --> 0:15:52.360 path that we started, I don't see why I wouldn't 0:15:52.880 --> 0:15:56.040 consider it. But you guys, have a couple of weeks 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:57.880 or whatever till you leave. I mean, you could bomb, 0:15:57.920 --> 0:15:59.960 you could spend every day together, you could see how 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:02.560 it goes up until then, and then maybe in six 0:16:02.640 --> 0:16:05.800 months you could come join you you got it off 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:11.560 figured out, Brook, This whole thing is it's just crazy. No, 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:14.880 So let's just step back and let Kate processed this. Well, 0:16:14.920 --> 0:16:17.240 how about you guys process together. Would you like to 0:16:17.240 --> 0:16:19.720 go out in a second, well fourth date with Kate? 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:21.640 We will pay for you guys to go out again 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:27.680 at least before you leave. Talk about it, I mean, yeah, yes, yes, 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:31.800 all right, Well, keep us cut, keep us updated on 0:16:32.000 --> 0:16:37.480 what happens. Ok okay, all right, we'll try all right, 0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:39.960 and until you leave, Andrew, I want you guys to 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:45.840 process as much as possible. Just keep processing every night 0:16:46.040 --> 0:16:50.080 until you leave. Okay, broken jewel in the morning. What 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:52.600 you just heard was a second date update with Kate 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:56.080 and Andrew from over a year ago, and now they're 0:16:56.080 --> 0:16:58.600 back on the phone for a second date update update. 0:16:59.000 --> 0:17:01.560 I'm so excited you guys, welcome back to the show. 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:05.040 Thanks for no problem. So you guys had a lot 0:17:05.080 --> 0:17:07.960 of options on the table, like a lot to process 0:17:08.000 --> 0:17:09.240 at the end of that phone call. I know it 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:11.240 was about a year ago now, but what did you 0:17:11.240 --> 0:17:14.479 guys decide to do. We decided to hang out as 0:17:14.560 --> 0:17:16.639 much as we could up until the last second. UM. 0:17:16.680 --> 0:17:19.160 I think we had three more dates, um and they 0:17:19.160 --> 0:17:21.199 were really great. It was awesome, but it felt like 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:23.760 way too much to kind of move to Germany after 0:17:24.280 --> 0:17:26.639 a month of datings. Okay, so you didn't move to 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:29.280 Germany with him after just three more dates? No, I 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:33.080 did not know. Probably a wise decision. So what did 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:36.200 you guys decide to do? Just call it quits altogether. Yeah, 0:17:36.200 --> 0:17:38.840 that's the update. They're just over. They haven't talked to 0:17:38.880 --> 0:17:40.680 each other for a year. Yeah, we text once in 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:43.520 a while. That yeah. Well, actually, you know, I mean, 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:45.360 it was a bit too much for her to join 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:48.080 me in Germany, so we decided we would try it out, 0:17:48.119 --> 0:17:49.879 you know, try the long distance thing if we could. 0:17:49.880 --> 0:17:53.439 And really yeah, hey, we decided we would meet as 0:17:53.480 --> 0:17:57.720 often as possible. Um, but it was challenging for sure. 0:17:58.000 --> 0:18:01.040 So how long did you guys go after you left 0:18:01.080 --> 0:18:04.000 for Germany without seeing each other. I was like four 0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:06.040 weeks from when I left when I saw again, almost 0:18:06.040 --> 0:18:08.520 a month. Okay. What was that like the first time 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:10.360 you guys saw each other after not seeing each other 0:18:10.359 --> 0:18:13.359 for a month. Oh, it was great, great. I was 0:18:13.400 --> 0:18:16.000 so excited to see her. I didn't want to let 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:18.720 her out of my site, so okay, and then obviously 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:21.639 you had to go back to Germany though, Yeah, so yeah, 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:27.960 you let her out of your side. Has the long 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:31.080 distance thing been hard. I mean, it's exciting when you 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:33.040 see each other again, but the time in between is 0:18:33.400 --> 0:18:39.120 it's almost impossible. Did you guys skype a lot? Oh yeah, yeah, 0:18:39.160 --> 0:18:47.359 all right, thank you? Oh my god, yeah, I bet so. 0:18:47.560 --> 0:18:50.399 Did you feel like your relationship grew or did you 0:18:50.440 --> 0:18:53.520 just grow apart? You know, it was it was really complicated, 0:18:53.560 --> 0:18:55.560 and then it just started to feel weird. You know, 0:18:55.840 --> 0:18:57.439 like I don't know what it was, but it just 0:18:57.480 --> 0:18:59.880 wasn't working. Um, not being able to see each other, 0:19:00.000 --> 0:19:02.359 not to build that foundation just made a really you know, 0:19:02.880 --> 0:19:06.720 a trial after trial, you're rooting my romantic comedy in 0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:08.919 my head. You know. There's just all those day to 0:19:09.000 --> 0:19:10.840 day things that you want to share with someone, and 0:19:11.080 --> 0:19:12.919 you know, we'd try to fill each other in, but 0:19:13.000 --> 0:19:14.920 sometimes you only have a few minutes or I'd only 0:19:14.920 --> 0:19:17.159 have a few minutes, so we always kind of felt 0:19:17.160 --> 0:19:19.560 short changed, you know. Yeah, that'd be hard to date 0:19:19.600 --> 0:19:22.639 somebody who's halfway around the world. Yeah. Every time we 0:19:22.640 --> 0:19:24.800 were skyping, you the one person was middle to night. 0:19:24.800 --> 0:19:26.520 It was hard to get cut up on sleep or 0:19:26.560 --> 0:19:28.680