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Speaker 1: Now for your second date update. About a year ago,

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Speaker 1: we had two people on the phone for what turned

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Speaker 1: and a woman named Kate. If you haven't heard it before,

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Speaker 1: we're about to replay it for you, and afterwards we'll

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Speaker 1: get a second date update update from them to find

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Speaker 1: out what's happened since their call and where they are

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Speaker 1: at today. So keep listening, because that's happening right now,

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Speaker 1: Brooking Jewels Second Date Update. Today's second date update is

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Speaker 1: a little different from the others because the girl that's

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Speaker 1: has actually had three dates with the guy that she

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Speaker 1: wants to call in and come on. Normally, the rule

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Speaker 1: is one date and that's it, not three dates, because

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Speaker 1: that's kind of more of a relationship type band and

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Speaker 1: that's not a second date update. That'd be a fourth

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Speaker 1: date update. But I went ahead and I talked to

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Speaker 1: And you know what rules are meant to be broken sometimes,

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Speaker 1: So Kate you will have my PayPal request in just

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Speaker 1: a little while. Okay, yes, I'll get it right out.

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Speaker 1: You didn't know the second day update was going to

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Speaker 1: cost you a thousand dollars, did you Kate? Well? I didn't,

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Speaker 1: but I mean I hope it's worth it. I swear

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Speaker 1: when you hear the story, you're going to understand why. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so your email said that you've been out on three

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Speaker 1: Tell us a little bit about him. Okay, So his

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Speaker 1: name is Andrew h It sounds really cheesy, but we

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Speaker 1: were doing like a volunteered charity event and we met

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Speaker 1: a lot of time, you know, like hang out and

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Speaker 1: and he asked me out on a date and since

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Speaker 1: then it's just kind of been like a whirlwind, you

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Speaker 1: mean obviously not like right now at this moment, because

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm calling you for a reason, but no, it

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Speaker 1: was definitely like it was I felt like it was

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Speaker 1: for your date dates plural. So my first date, it

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Speaker 1: was actually really romantic when I'm one of those dinner cruises,

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Speaker 1: But we had We had so much fun, you know,

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Speaker 1: guys to take girls on a dinner cruise date for

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Speaker 1: the first date, because there's nowhere to go. Yeah, but

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Speaker 1: so you went on a dinner cruise, that's cool. Would

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Speaker 1: you do for your other days? The next date, we

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Speaker 1: That's weird time to put that much effort into all

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Speaker 1: All right, well we'll play a song, come back, call

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Speaker 1: hang up. You're looking jubil in the morning second, Kate. Yeah, seriously,

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Speaker 1: I can't even believe that you want to call this

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Speaker 1: that that was my conversation with Kate about moving on? Kate?

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Speaker 1: Are you about ready to call Andrew for your second

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Speaker 1: Are you just gonna let him have it? I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: be really passed. I'm gonna dial this phone uber right

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Speaker 1: now and see we're gonna mo the phone. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm dialing the phone number. Hello, Hi, I was looking

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Speaker 1: for Andrew. Yeah, let's to see Andrew. How are you.

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Speaker 1: This is Jewil from brook and Jewil in the Morning. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm calling you because we recently got an email about

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Speaker 1: you from one of our listeners. I didn't submit for

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Speaker 1: any contest or anything. Guys, Yeah, no, I know this

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Speaker 1: is not about a contest. Actually, I just need a

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Speaker 1: dates that you went on. What Yeah, we do a

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Speaker 1: You recently took a girl named Kate out. She told

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Speaker 1: us a little bit about your dates. They were all

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Speaker 1: very elaborate and very romantic. But now you're not calling

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Speaker 1: her back, and she's very confused. I'm just I'm not

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Speaker 1: us why you would blow her off after three dates.

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Speaker 1: It's not as simple as that. Okay, Yeah, I'm not

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Speaker 1: trying to sound confrontational with you like it's I mean,

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Speaker 1: I just want to know what happened. And more than anything,

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Speaker 1: to figure this stuff out. Does that mean that you

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Speaker 1: are actually maybe in a relationship with somebody else? No? No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: certainly not. No. Okay, I wish it was that simple.

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Speaker 1: It's it's complicated in that. Let me ask you a question,

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Speaker 1: Very much? So you did? I didn't still do? Okay,

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Speaker 1: so you still do? Well? Then why not offer her

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Speaker 1: her back? Well? I just, uh, I accepted a job

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Speaker 1: offer in Germany that I just I couldn't turn it down.

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Speaker 1: You what, I leaven a couple of weeks actually for Germany? WHOA?

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Speaker 1: And that's why you're not calling her back? Well, I

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Speaker 1: Are you disappear? That's like the coward way out. You

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Speaker 1: going on. Like I said, this is not an easy situation.

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm struggling as far as how to deal with

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Speaker 1: three days. It's not like you've been dating for months

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Speaker 1: and months and months and you're leaving, why not just

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Speaker 1: food in Germany is terrible, so really, so much sausage

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Speaker 1: and crowd before you have to head back home. Kate,

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Speaker 1: were you were you worried about him choosing you over

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Speaker 1: his career, like you could be a regret at some point. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean it's a lot of pressure. I feel like

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Speaker 1: I was sort of playing the devil's advocate and trying

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Speaker 1: to tell him that he didn't have to do that,

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Speaker 1: and I was just ask him, are you sure you

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Speaker 1: want to come back? And his answer was always yes,

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Speaker 1: Well all right, And it sounds like you did it. Congratulations.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't expecting that. It sounded like you guys broke up. No,

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Speaker 1: you saved that to the last minute. Andrew, Yeah, you

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Speaker 1: gotta keep you in suspense, little way. I had to

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Speaker 1: wait six months, man, you can wait like five minutes. Sleven,

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Speaker 1: nineteen two point five