WEBVTT - Presidential Pardons and Other Family Gift-Giving Strategies

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<v Speaker 1>Pushkin. Just a reminder for all of our Risky Business

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. The Belagio, by the way, is in Las Vegas, Nevada,

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<v Speaker 2>actually technically in like Paradise. I think Paradise, but you

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<v Speaker 2>fucking know what the Belagio is. If you're if you're

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<v Speaker 2>a poker player who listens to this show.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes you do.

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<v Speaker 2>Not the one in Italy. I'd been to the one in.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to Risky Business, a show about making better decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Maria Kannakova.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm Nate Silver.

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<v Speaker 1>What are we going to be talking about on the

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<v Speaker 1>show today.

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<v Speaker 2>Night, Well, today we'll be talking about Hunter Biden and

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<v Speaker 2>the failure of Joe Biden's presidency, which you disagree probably

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<v Speaker 2>on that characterization as well as the particulars.

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<v Speaker 1>No, actually, you'll be surprised to hear that I do

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<v Speaker 1>not disagree on that particular thing. But we'll be talking

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<v Speaker 1>about that and then we'll do something a little bit lighter,

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<v Speaker 1>the GTO Guide to Gift giving, our game theory, optimal

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<v Speaker 1>guide to giving presents, and also broader question can there

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<v Speaker 1>even be such a thing as gto gift giving? Or

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<v Speaker 1>does that go against the whole spirit of the enterprise. So,

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<v Speaker 1>without further ado, let's get to it. Hunter Biden, Nate,

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<v Speaker 1>do you want to give just the quick summary of

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<v Speaker 1>what happened? What breaking news alert I got this weekend?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So Sunday, we're coming out of the end of

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<v Speaker 2>a holiday weekend, people watch a little bit of NFL,

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<v Speaker 2>and then President Biden says, I am pardoning my fail

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<v Speaker 2>son for a blanket eleven year period that goes from

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<v Speaker 2>twenty fourteen through through November twenty twenty four. There was

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<v Speaker 2>actually like a six hour window on which Hunter Biden

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<v Speaker 2>basically had the purge he could commit any crimes because

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<v Speaker 2>he was like pre pardoned for that day. But Biden,

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<v Speaker 2>despite repeated promises on the campaign trail not to pardon

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<v Speaker 2>his son, including promises made by the White House Press

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<v Speaker 2>secretary after the campaign was lost to Donald Trump. After

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<v Speaker 2>Harris's campaign was decided to issue the pardon anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>He did. Indeed, And as we've talked about on the

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<v Speaker 1>show before, because there's been a lot of breaking news

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<v Speaker 1>that happens in these kinds of periods. Whenever you want

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<v Speaker 1>to bury news, when do you do it? Exactly? You

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<v Speaker 1>do it on holidays, on.

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<v Speaker 2>Weekendriday, Sundays and people are traveling, right exactly. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>often these pardons are made at the very end of

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<v Speaker 2>an administration, but this was not.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep. Now, this one was made during Thanksgiving, after President

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<v Speaker 1>Biden spent time with his family. I think that timing

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<v Speaker 1>is actually probably meaningful, especially given the kind of moblin

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<v Speaker 1>wording of his Yeah, yeah, I'm pardoning him as a father. Nate,

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<v Speaker 1>you said in the introduction that you thought that I

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<v Speaker 1>was going to really disagree with you. I thought when

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<v Speaker 1>I saw that breaking news headline, I was like, what

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<v Speaker 1>the actual fuck? For a few different reasons. Reason number one, Repeatedly,

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<v Speaker 1>he said he was not going to pardon Hunter and

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<v Speaker 1>members of his administration repeated that up until like November fourteenth, Right,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the last time that I heard it, but maybe

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<v Speaker 1>it was even later. But just like recently, right a

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<v Speaker 1>few weeks ago, they were saying absolutely no pardon. So

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<v Speaker 1>that was just a blatant lie if he knew that

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<v Speaker 1>this was going to happen. And second, like the way

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<v Speaker 1>he did it, Oh, as a father, dude, you are

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<v Speaker 1>the president of the United States of America, right, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I get that you're a dad and you have other obligations,

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<v Speaker 1>but you do not get to make decisions based on

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<v Speaker 1>those things. You have to make decisions as the most

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<v Speaker 1>powerful leader in the world, right as the president of

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<v Speaker 1>the United States. And you don't just get to do

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<v Speaker 1>things because you know your a dad or your family

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<v Speaker 1>member does this, And that's something that should you know,

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<v Speaker 1>apply to everyone. That's one of the reasons that we

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<v Speaker 1>have a democracy and not you know, a kleptoocracy or

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<v Speaker 1>a monarchy or you know, any for a dictatorship or

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<v Speaker 1>any form of government where a nepotism is kind of

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<v Speaker 1>a thing, right, and where you get to do whatever

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<v Speaker 1>you want to those close to you. Now people have said, oh, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you're holding democrats to a higher standard. No, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to hold everyone to this standard. And I think that

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<v Speaker 1>how what Biden did right now really shoots Democrats not

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<v Speaker 1>just in the foot, like in the face. This was

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<v Speaker 1>like such a fuck you to the Democratic Party because

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<v Speaker 1>now when Trump comes into office, he gets to point

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<v Speaker 1>to this and be like, you don't get to judge me.

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<v Speaker 1>This dude pardon his son. And that is such I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you do not want to give him like he'll do

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<v Speaker 1>whatever the fuck he wants anyway, but like you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to give him that ammunition, Like don't you want

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<v Speaker 1>to try to save the country instead of make it

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<v Speaker 1>more and more Trumpian?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, look, I mean there are a couple of things here.

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<v Speaker 2>One is that you know, Democrats are the party that

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<v Speaker 2>holds themselves to a higher standard, and so we are

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<v Speaker 2>the defendanive of democracy, right whereas Trump says, you're all

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<v Speaker 2>a bunch of hypocrites. And so if you agree that

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<v Speaker 2>they're a bunch of hypocrites, then built Republican because we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to have more fun and lower your taxes and

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<v Speaker 2>deport all these illegals and things like that. And so

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<v Speaker 2>there is an asymmetry number one, number two, like if

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<v Speaker 2>Biden had gone on TV and said, oh, I'm really

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<v Speaker 2>feel for my son, then that would be one thing,

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<v Speaker 2>and said it's a personal decision, a family decision. I

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<v Speaker 2>just can't help myself. I lost my first son, and

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<v Speaker 2>what can I do here? Right? But instead he issues

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<v Speaker 2>a very Trumpian statement where he says, there has been

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<v Speaker 2>an effort to break Hunter, who has been five and

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<v Speaker 2>a half years sober, in the face of unberlenting attacks

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<v Speaker 2>and selective prosecution in trying to break Hunter, they've tried

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<v Speaker 2>to break me, and there's no reason to believe it

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<v Speaker 2>will stop here. Enough is enough. So it's dressed up

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<v Speaker 2>in this very paranoid Trumpian language, and like, I'm using

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<v Speaker 2>the term paranoid deliberately because I don't think Joe Biden's

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<v Speaker 2>mental health is very good, you know, I don't think.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean. There was also a whole series of interviews

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<v Speaker 2>that the podcast pod Save America did with former Harris staffers,

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<v Speaker 2>and apparently when he chose to drop out, and then

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<v Speaker 2>forty minutes later whatever it was, or fifteen minutes later,

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<v Speaker 2>I forget shortlier after issued a tweet saying, oh, and

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<v Speaker 2>by the way, I'm nominating Harris. Apparently, no one had

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<v Speaker 2>been tipped that. Now I don't know if one hundred

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<v Speaker 2>percent believe that, but the staffer's official story is that, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>Biden just kind of like dropped this bombshell. We knew

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<v Speaker 2>obviously that there's pressure on him to drop out, but

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<v Speaker 2>then he just kind of dropped this bombshell that, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>by the way, it's going to have to be Harris.

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<v Speaker 2>And so this is not somebody who I'm sure is

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<v Speaker 2>operating at the very least not in a highly conscientious way,

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<v Speaker 2>and maybe not with the full deck. I'm not sure.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well, and it did. I mean, like I said

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<v Speaker 1>when when I mentioned that it seemed like a fuck

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<v Speaker 1>you two Democrats, it actually kind of did seem that

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<v Speaker 1>way that he was doing it, like for personal reasons,

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<v Speaker 1>but also because he's still mad, right, He's still mad

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<v Speaker 1>that he had had that he'd been cast aside. He's

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<v Speaker 1>still mad that he's a one term president. He's pissed,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is much more Trumpian than, you know, what

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<v Speaker 1>I would expect of Biden. And you know, if you

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<v Speaker 1>put it, I was actually thinking about this, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm working on a book about cheating and kind

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<v Speaker 1>of thinking in those terms. If you think about it,

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<v Speaker 1>like as a poker thing, right, and there's someone who's

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<v Speaker 1>like cheats, right or angle shoots like consistently, right, what

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<v Speaker 1>do you what do you do? Right? Do you start

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<v Speaker 1>being like, oh, well he's doing it, so I get

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<v Speaker 1>to cheat too, No, the game's going to evolve, right,

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<v Speaker 1>like there'll be no game left to play. Instead, you

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<v Speaker 1>call that person out, you make sure that they get

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<v Speaker 1>penalized for it. And you don't do that right, like

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<v Speaker 1>you you actually try to uphold the game. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>what democrats in this analogy. You know, Trump is kind

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<v Speaker 1>of the constant angle shooter, the constant person like pushing

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<v Speaker 1>the pushing the boundaries, pushing the rules. And what we

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<v Speaker 1>want to see is, you know, they're being pushed back.

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<v Speaker 1>And yeah, of course we want to see that he

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't get away with it. We want to see democracy

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<v Speaker 1>standing up to him. We want to see institutions being resilient.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't want people to get away with angle shooting.

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<v Speaker 1>But what you don't start doing is doing it yourself

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<v Speaker 1>and adopting those exact that exact same language. Like it's

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<v Speaker 1>just a really bad look. And I was incredibly INCREDI disappointed.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing I disagreed with you on was when you said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, anyone who doesn't condemn this within forty eight hours.

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<v Speaker 2>Like a made him being a little bit of a

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<v Speaker 2>drama queen potentially, But like like a couple of Democrats did.

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<v Speaker 2>Jared Polus, the governor of Colorado did. Jared Golden, the

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<v Speaker 2>Democrat up in northern Maine who has really overperformed benchmarks

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<v Speaker 2>in his district, condemned it. But like, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you have to have Biden's not very popular.

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<v Speaker 2>People just rejected his vice president after basically having rejected him.

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<v Speaker 2>They basically lost this race twice. As far as I'm concerned,

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<v Speaker 2>like when are you going to break with Biden? Right?

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<v Speaker 2>Like what's what's the cost of doing that? And saying

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<v Speaker 2>we are going to hold ourselves to like a higher

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<v Speaker 2>standard potentially, But like I look, I know, Maria, this

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<v Speaker 2>whole thing about like how you enable bad behavior when

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<v Speaker 2>you don't call it out and the fact that the

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<v Speaker 2>GOP has lots of problems. I mean, Trump has lost

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<v Speaker 2>the problems. I would never vote, never did, never would

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<v Speaker 2>vote for Donald try, right, But like you kind of

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<v Speaker 2>are reducing things to like the lowest common denominator and

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<v Speaker 2>like as a voter then look, I don't know how

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<v Speaker 2>to put it, but like I am done with as

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<v Speaker 2>a default voting for the Democratic Party, right, it doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>change my values as a voter. And you kind of know,

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<v Speaker 2>if you follow me, I'm kind of center left, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>center center left, with like a dose of libertarianism and

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<v Speaker 2>a dose of I don't know, contrarianism whatever else. But like,

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<v Speaker 2>I think this party has behaved badly, and I think

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<v Speaker 2>like it's managed a lot of crises badly. I thought

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<v Speaker 2>the way Democrats handled COVID and Republicans was was poor.

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<v Speaker 2>For example, you know, I don't know about its decision

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<v Speaker 2>to spend so much money in terms of stimulating the economy.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, they did catch up with them in terms

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<v Speaker 2>of inflation and so forth. I think, you know, the

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<v Speaker 2>institutions of the left and the center left, I think

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<v Speaker 2>are failing to perform as well as they could, in

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<v Speaker 2>part because of hypocrisy and politicization. And like, I just

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<v Speaker 2>think the game theory is such that like you have

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<v Speaker 2>to be willing to like look at alternatives. I guess,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm not optimistic that I'll get an alternative.

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<v Speaker 2>I like, on the GOP side, and then I'll probably

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<v Speaker 2>default and vote for the Democrat. I don't know. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>certainly I look at independent candidacies more seriously, but like

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<v Speaker 2>you know, everyone's a point where they kind of get

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<v Speaker 2>fit up and says enough and like because again I

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<v Speaker 2>think kind of like on the micro argument, if you're

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<v Speaker 2>trying to calculate the expected value these choices, and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>at least in terms of expected utility for the world

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<v Speaker 2>we've talked about before, probably Democrats are better. I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>as sure about for me personally, but I can afford

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<v Speaker 2>to be unselfish about this. But like in a macro sense,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, the critique that the system is rotten

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<v Speaker 2>and we have to blow things up. I mean I'm

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<v Speaker 2>more and more sympathetic to that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I just I totally agree that. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>as I said, you need to call out bad behavior

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<v Speaker 1>and you can't shy away from calling it out within

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<v Speaker 1>your own party as well, Like you have to hold

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<v Speaker 1>people to standards. What I don't want to do is

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<v Speaker 1>equate the bad behavior of what's happening in the Democratic

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<v Speaker 1>Party with the Republican Party. And I don't think you

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<v Speaker 1>want to either. Rite like, but I think it's a

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<v Speaker 1>false equivalency, right, I think that what I think, I

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<v Speaker 1>think that what have done. I think that the party

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<v Speaker 1>of Trump is worse.

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<v Speaker 2>I think. I think when you think everything's a false equivalent, say,

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<v Speaker 2>then you then you get away with not all. I

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<v Speaker 2>mean Biden. I think Biden being president now is a scandal. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>We shouldn't we have these medical records, right, we don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if he's fit for office. Like, to me, that's

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<v Speaker 2>really bad. That's it. That's an existentially bad thing because

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<v Speaker 2>we live in a world of like existential risk. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that's very very bad, right. I think the pardon

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<v Speaker 2>is medium bad. But you know, on a scale with

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<v Speaker 2>the medium bad things that that Trump has done, and

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<v Speaker 2>if you kind of like zoom out the lens and

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<v Speaker 2>look toward institutional decisions, I mean things like school closures

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<v Speaker 2>under COVID one of the most consequential events of like

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<v Speaker 2>the past several decades, right, I mean, it's it's almost

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<v Speaker 2>like a if you look at the impact of learning loss.

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<v Speaker 2>There's some dispute about it, but it's really quite bad.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I still, you know, I agree that

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<v Speaker 1>there have been mistakes and there have been bad things,

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<v Speaker 1>but I do not think that they're equivalently bad, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think that we have you know, sure, Biden being

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<v Speaker 1>president right now is not ideal. But Trump, what he

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<v Speaker 1>has done, what he has pledged to do, what he

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<v Speaker 1>has shown himself capable of doing, is like a constant

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<v Speaker 1>existential threat, right like his appointees to the judicial system,

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<v Speaker 1>his appointees to the cabinet, which we've talked about, and

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<v Speaker 1>continue it continuing, you know, continuing that trend, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like the the cashpitels of the world. You know, all

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<v Speaker 1>all of these things are a big fuck you to democracy,

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<v Speaker 1>constantly over and over and over, saying he's going to

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<v Speaker 1>shut down media, you know, fake news, anything, he who

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<v Speaker 1>anyone who criticizes him, and a lot of his you know,

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<v Speaker 1>policies are aimed at basically trying to you know, trying

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<v Speaker 1>to weaken democracy as much as possible. And he has

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<v Speaker 1>also you know, doled out pardons too less than ideal people. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, this does not excuse the fact, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not trying to excuse Biden, right, I think he

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<v Speaker 1>needs to be held to account. But I think this

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<v Speaker 1>was an awful decision executed in an awful way. As

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<v Speaker 1>you said, this pardon could have been much better, right

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<v Speaker 1>had he not constantly said I'm not going to pardon

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<v Speaker 1>a hunter, had he just not lied about it, and

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<v Speaker 1>had he like just owned it and been like, look like,

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<v Speaker 1>I understand that I shouldn't be doing this, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>doing it anyway, Like I'm sorry, right, Like, that would

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<v Speaker 1>have been very different. The way he did it was Trumpian.

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<v Speaker 1>But the fact that we have this adjective Trumpian means

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<v Speaker 1>that right that there is I think that we can't

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<v Speaker 1>say like A equals B like these are two different things.

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<v Speaker 1>And the Republican Party has repeatedly shown itself unwilling to

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<v Speaker 1>stand up to Trump and basically trying to go into

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<v Speaker 1>his mold instead, and I think that that's very frightening. Again,

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<v Speaker 1>this does not mean we do not hold the Democratic

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<v Speaker 1>Party to account. As you said at the beginning of

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<v Speaker 1>this segment, they are held to a higher standard. They

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<v Speaker 1>should be because they are trying to preserve democracy. But

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<v Speaker 1>I do think we just want to be careful not

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<v Speaker 1>to paint a false equivalency here.

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<v Speaker 2>Are they trying to preserve democracy or is that like

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<v Speaker 2>a sloganeering. I mean, they tried to get.

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<v Speaker 1>What you said Okay, I'm giving you back your quote.

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<v Speaker 2>I think intellectuals generally care about democracy, although there's also

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<v Speaker 2>things like, you know, Democrats don't really talk very much

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<v Speaker 2>about free speech anymore, Republicans talk about it hypocritically. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, I mean some of the COVID stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you had decisions that were made by public

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<v Speaker 2>health agencies that had a lot of power that were

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<v Speaker 2>not democratically elected, for example, And like, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>I think that branding doesn't work particularly well if you

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<v Speaker 2>look actually talked to swing voters and say who is

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<v Speaker 2>a party of democracy? Then look, look what Trump did

0:16:11.084 --> 0:16:14.524
<v Speaker 2>and trying to overturn the election in twenty twenty was

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<v Speaker 2>very bad, and the fact that it's kind of been

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<v Speaker 2>memory hold is really really bad. Right. But I just

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<v Speaker 2>think the equilibrium where anything you do is held to

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<v Speaker 2>this benchmark of like January sixth, and therefore anything you

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<v Speaker 2>do is false equivalents, Like, I just where's that end?

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<v Speaker 2>It ends in the Democratic Party behaving really badly and

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<v Speaker 2>also losing elections.

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<v Speaker 1>Frankly, well, well that's not what I'm trying to say.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying there is you are trying to draw

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<v Speaker 1>false equivalence. That does not mean we don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>hold Democrats to a high standard. Right, there needs to

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<v Speaker 1>be changed. Both parties are rotting and there are there's

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<v Speaker 1>horrible stuff happening right, Like our two party system is

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<v Speaker 1>not working very well. And as you know, as I've

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<v Speaker 1>said on this podcast before, I'm not a fan of

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<v Speaker 1>the two party system. I never have been. I think

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<v Speaker 1>that that is not a good way going about things.

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<v Speaker 1>So I am all for you know, holding them to account, reforming,

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<v Speaker 1>like trying to really question what's going what's going wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to make sure that we're not saying, oh, well,

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<v Speaker 1>Biden's now just as bad as Trump. He is not,

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<v Speaker 1>and like, do not say that, I know you know

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<v Speaker 1>that he is not. Don't don't do this for rhetorical purposes,

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<v Speaker 1>like this is too important for like we're not doing

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<v Speaker 1>a high school debate like this is this is actually

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<v Speaker 1>like this is actually too important for rhetorical flourishes. I

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<v Speaker 1>was a champion debate or I can rhetorically flourish too,

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm choosing not to.

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<v Speaker 2>Where's Biden ranked historically among the presidents? Let me bring

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<v Speaker 2>up some historically.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, Yeah, I don't know, not very high

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<v Speaker 1>now in my mind, because I think that he has

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<v Speaker 1>done made certain decisions. I think I would have ranked

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<v Speaker 1>him much higher a year ago, right, I think that

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<v Speaker 1>this last.

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<v Speaker 2>Yer, he's a lot done. In the first two years

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<v Speaker 2>Democrats had a relatively good mid term.

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<v Speaker 1>I would have ranked Biden a lot higher just a

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<v Speaker 1>year ago, because I think he got a lot done

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<v Speaker 1>and he you know, he was he had a good

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<v Speaker 1>presidency and then he made such shitty decisions in the

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<v Speaker 1>last year that it's really my my ranking has plummeted.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't give a ranking right now. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>always very it's ill advised to try to rank people

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<v Speaker 1>in the moment, right You need you need a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of time, like you need you need a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of a of a window, a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>perspective to just kind of see how things play out,

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<v Speaker 1>because you also can't see kind of the tail end

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<v Speaker 1>of some decisions. Right Like, maybe this Hunter Biden pardon

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<v Speaker 1>will end up like not really mattering, and maybe it

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<v Speaker 1>will end up mattering a lot. Maybe the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>he hasn't stepped down right now and hasn't made Kamayers

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<v Speaker 1>the next president, first female president. Maybe it won't matter.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it will end up mattering a lot, right, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe something is going to happen in the next four

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<v Speaker 1>weeks that's going to make that really consequential. Maybe the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that the Democrats lost is going to end up

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<v Speaker 1>mattering a lot. Maybe it's going to end up mattering

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit less. So I think that before we

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<v Speaker 1>rank him, we just need to see how some of

0:19:11.164 --> 0:19:15.084
<v Speaker 1>these things shake out and how they know not be

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<v Speaker 1>in the emotional moment heat of the moment. But right now,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really pissed at Biden, and I you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>think he's made some really really poor choices running for reelection.

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<v Speaker 1>What he's doing right now, the Biden, the Hunter, Biden pardon.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not a very happy camper right now when it

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<v Speaker 1>comes to Biden.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, this was not the expected outcome, right

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<v Speaker 2>If you looked at polymarket, I think there was like

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<v Speaker 2>a twenty five percent chance or something that Hunter was

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<v Speaker 2>going to be pardon, and so this was like not

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<v Speaker 2>like priced in. People kind of took the White House

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<v Speaker 2>at its word. I don't know, I don't envy the

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<v Speaker 2>job of the White House Press Secretary.

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<v Speaker 1>No neither do I. Neither do I This is this

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<v Speaker 1>is quite the mess that he's now embroiled everyone in right,

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<v Speaker 1>because he's made a lot of people look like liars

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<v Speaker 1>because a lot of people have said, no, we were

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<v Speaker 1>this pardon is not happening. So on that lovely note,

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<v Speaker 1>let's potentially take a let's take a break and uh

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<v Speaker 1>and switch over to a much lighter topic of gift

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<v Speaker 1>giving during the holidays. I'm so curious about this. I

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<v Speaker 1>just I'm so interested in what your general approach to

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<v Speaker 1>gift giving is. This is something I don't actually know

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<v Speaker 1>about you. I've known you for a long time, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's not like we constantly engage in gift exchanges. So

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<v Speaker 1>how do you think about it?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I'm a very good gift giver, Maria.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you your partner is. So for my birthday, your

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<v Speaker 1>partner has given me incredibly thoughtful gifts from the two

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<v Speaker 1>of you. So so thank you to.

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<v Speaker 2>Him for Yeah, be in a long term relationship with

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<v Speaker 2>someone who is good at giving gifts. Although with my

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<v Speaker 2>can I say this, I'm kind of trying to predictive

0:21:17.844 --> 0:21:21.444
<v Speaker 2>they'll be like relationship stress out of this. With with

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<v Speaker 2>my partner, we tend not to give each other a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of gifts. I'm not sure how we got into

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<v Speaker 2>that equilibrium. I guess the gift of being with each

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<v Speaker 2>other every day is a gift enough, and so we

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<v Speaker 2>just kind of got out of the habit of like

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<v Speaker 2>giving gifts. And yeah, I don't know, how about you

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<v Speaker 2>and how about you and your husband.

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<v Speaker 1>We do give gifts to each other, but we you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we're not we're not big on like we don't celebrate

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<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Day and kind of bullshit like that, Like, but

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<v Speaker 1>we will give gifts to each other for you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the holidays and for our birthdays. Those are basically the

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<v Speaker 1>two times when we give gifts. And otherwise, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we like to do experiential things together, so like instead

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<v Speaker 1>of like for an anniversary, instead of giving gifts, like

0:22:09.484 --> 0:22:11.444
<v Speaker 1>will either like we'll do a trip, or we'll do

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<v Speaker 1>a nice dinner or open a really nice bottle of wine,

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<v Speaker 1>something that we can enjoy together. And sometimes we've agreed

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<v Speaker 1>in the past not to give each other gifts and

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<v Speaker 1>instead of a gift, we'll do X or Y, So

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<v Speaker 1>we talk about that in advance. So I think that

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<v Speaker 1>that's really nice and I actually think that experiences often

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<v Speaker 1>make the best gifts.

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<v Speaker 2>The other philosophical point I have is that I think

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<v Speaker 2>if you're not giving an experience or something and one

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<v Speaker 2>of their important qualification, you're not dealing with the person

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<v Speaker 2>where they could really use like the extra income. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you should give a gift that's like a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit something they wouldn't get for themselves. Right, it's

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit in the offbeat or like slightly impractical zone. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, a couple of years ago, we bought my

0:23:01.404 --> 0:23:04.244
<v Speaker 2>dad like a really nice new watch. It was like

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit more on a watch that and these

0:23:05.844 --> 0:23:08.044
<v Speaker 2>guy who's always worn to watch, right then he would

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<v Speaker 2>spend on himself, right. Or even things like we bought

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<v Speaker 2>my mom like a iPhone a couple of years ago.

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<v Speaker 2>She's getting older and like you know, actually has lots

0:23:19.004 --> 0:23:21.124
<v Speaker 2>of use for an iPhone if something bad happens or

0:23:21.124 --> 0:23:24.644
<v Speaker 2>whatever else is cell phone, but she probably was not

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<v Speaker 2>going to buy it for herself because it was too

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<v Speaker 2>expensive and too much riham or roll to go to

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<v Speaker 2>this tour and whatever else, and so things like that.

0:23:30.364 --> 0:23:33.404
<v Speaker 2>I mean it's a little paternalistic, I guess ironically giving no.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I actually I think that the well let

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<v Speaker 1>me before I say that, like, what's one of the

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<v Speaker 1>most memorable, Like, what are the memorable memorable gifts that

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<v Speaker 1>you've gotten other than experiences?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not sure I have it. I mean my when

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<v Speaker 2>I was in Seattle for a book tour event, right,

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<v Speaker 2>my like cousin gave me like a customized deck of

0:23:56.484 --> 0:23:59.244
<v Speaker 2>like playing cards with family photos. Like that was a

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<v Speaker 2>really thoughtful gift.

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<v Speaker 1>It's amazing, Right, Yeah, that's amazing, and that I think

0:24:04.244 --> 0:24:08.964
<v Speaker 1>shows something incredibly important. Right That gift shows thought, right,

0:24:09.044 --> 0:24:12.884
<v Speaker 1>shows forethought, shows an interest and an understanding of what

0:24:12.924 --> 0:24:15.724
<v Speaker 1>you do, of what you like, and doesn't cost a

0:24:15.724 --> 0:24:19.004
<v Speaker 1>lot of money, right, Like don't give people cash, right, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>if you think about this is why I like said

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<v Speaker 1>the premise of gto Like you might think that, like

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<v Speaker 1>optimally like just give people money and they can get

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<v Speaker 1>exactly what they want. But I think that that actually

0:24:29.284 --> 0:24:32.324
<v Speaker 1>goes against the spirit of like what what gift giving

0:24:32.404 --> 0:24:35.084
<v Speaker 1>is all about, which is about paying attention to people,

0:24:35.244 --> 0:24:37.764
<v Speaker 1>knowing people, kind of being thoughtful and as you said,

0:24:37.804 --> 0:24:40.364
<v Speaker 1>something they wouldn't get for themselves, like something they don't

0:24:40.404 --> 0:24:43.724
<v Speaker 1>know they want. I'm also very against gift lists, where

0:24:43.764 --> 0:24:46.524
<v Speaker 1>like people you know, you ask people to tell you

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<v Speaker 1>what they want, because like, you know, then then what's

0:24:50.604 --> 0:24:53.524
<v Speaker 1>the point, right, Like I'd rather just not even exchange gifts.

0:24:53.804 --> 0:24:57.324
<v Speaker 2>Might need to tell you I'm because I mean, no,

0:24:57.644 --> 0:24:59.604
<v Speaker 2>you basically give people money, but with restrictions on how

0:24:59.604 --> 0:25:01.324
<v Speaker 2>you can use it. You know, I guess there's some

0:25:01.364 --> 0:25:04.164
<v Speaker 2>thoughtfulness put in, maybe if it's like some promotion or something,

0:25:04.204 --> 0:25:05.604
<v Speaker 2>but for sure, Yeah.

0:25:05.964 --> 0:25:08.644
<v Speaker 1>The one exception that I will give gift certificates to

0:25:08.644 --> 0:25:11.564
<v Speaker 1>people too, is like I will give a get certificate

0:25:11.644 --> 0:25:13.924
<v Speaker 1>to a massage at a spot where I know that

0:25:14.004 --> 0:25:16.924
<v Speaker 1>they will never treat themselves to it, And I'm like, Okay,

0:25:17.004 --> 0:25:19.244
<v Speaker 1>I want you to go and get a fucking two

0:25:19.284 --> 0:25:22.884
<v Speaker 1>hour hotstone massage at this place that is amazing. You

0:25:22.924 --> 0:25:25.284
<v Speaker 1>would never pay this amount of money like you deserve it,

0:25:25.404 --> 0:25:27.524
<v Speaker 1>like you need a rest here you go. But that's

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<v Speaker 1>also I think goes along with what you were saying.

0:25:29.804 --> 0:25:32.924
<v Speaker 1>It's not something that they would give for themselves. And

0:25:32.964 --> 0:25:37.684
<v Speaker 1>there's actually a lot of psychological study of gift giving

0:25:38.004 --> 0:25:40.324
<v Speaker 1>and of how it works, like how it activates different

0:25:40.324 --> 0:25:43.924
<v Speaker 1>parts of the brain, and it turns out that like

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<v Speaker 1>we are, actually we get a lot more satisfaction out

0:25:48.364 --> 0:25:51.884
<v Speaker 1>of kind of these acts of generosity than Russet prosody.

0:25:51.924 --> 0:25:55.564
<v Speaker 1>It's not like a homoeconomicus type of thing, right. It

0:25:55.724 --> 0:26:00.004
<v Speaker 1>actually like gives us more pleasure to give a gift

0:26:00.044 --> 0:26:03.484
<v Speaker 1>that's someone you know that might not have the material

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<v Speaker 1>value but that actually has kind of that attention spent

0:26:06.284 --> 0:26:08.764
<v Speaker 1>to it. And we can even be generous too, straight

0:26:08.844 --> 0:26:11.044
<v Speaker 1>Like we get a kick out of being generous.

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<v Speaker 2>This is one thing that women are much better about

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<v Speaker 2>than men, right, Like they send follow ups after you

0:26:17.964 --> 0:26:19.204
<v Speaker 2>hang out. Right, I had a little hang out with

0:26:19.244 --> 0:26:21.484
<v Speaker 2>my mail friend. You say, you send like a like

0:26:21.524 --> 0:26:23.244
<v Speaker 2>a no saying, hey, a good time tonight. I'm like, wow,

0:26:23.244 --> 0:26:27.324
<v Speaker 2>that's rare for that's rare for heterosexual men to do that.

0:26:27.364 --> 0:26:27.964
<v Speaker 2>I'm prompted.

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't gonna ask, but you mentioned it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, that's nice.

0:26:32.244 --> 0:26:35.404
<v Speaker 1>But no, those gestures actually they do matter, and I

0:26:35.444 --> 0:26:38.404
<v Speaker 1>think that that does underpin a lot of kind of

0:26:38.444 --> 0:26:42.524
<v Speaker 1>the psychological satisfaction and that sort of gift giving interaction.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got your classic story, like I think, oh, Henry

0:26:46.444 --> 0:26:48.084
<v Speaker 1>got the spirit of the thing, you know, the gift

0:26:48.124 --> 0:26:51.284
<v Speaker 1>of the of the magic, his most famous story. You've

0:26:51.284 --> 0:26:55.644
<v Speaker 1>read it. I'm assuming m oh, sorry, not trying to

0:26:55.644 --> 0:26:56.564
<v Speaker 1>put you on the spot.

0:26:57.084 --> 0:26:59.764
<v Speaker 2>When you assume, you make an ass of you and me.

0:27:00.924 --> 0:27:03.004
<v Speaker 1>So I made an ass of you and me. It's

0:27:03.044 --> 0:27:05.524
<v Speaker 1>a very famous story, very short. I think it's three

0:27:05.524 --> 0:27:09.084
<v Speaker 1>pages long, something like that, three or four pages about

0:27:09.604 --> 0:27:13.164
<v Speaker 1>young couple don't have a lot of money. He has

0:27:13.444 --> 0:27:16.444
<v Speaker 1>a beautiful gold watch. It's his only good, nice possession.

0:27:17.124 --> 0:27:22.244
<v Speaker 1>She has just this beautiful, luxurious hair, and so they

0:27:22.284 --> 0:27:25.364
<v Speaker 1>want to give each other a gift, and she sells

0:27:25.404 --> 0:27:28.804
<v Speaker 1>her hair to buy a chain for his watch, and

0:27:28.844 --> 0:27:33.364
<v Speaker 1>he sells his watch to buy you know, these combs

0:27:33.404 --> 0:27:36.804
<v Speaker 1>for her hair that she had admired that were beautiful,

0:27:37.484 --> 0:27:40.044
<v Speaker 1>and so it's, you know, the gift of the magi.

0:27:40.204 --> 0:27:42.724
<v Speaker 1>They can't actually neither one of them will ever be

0:27:42.804 --> 0:27:44.644
<v Speaker 1>able to use their gifts. Well, she will because hair

0:27:44.644 --> 0:27:49.164
<v Speaker 1>grows back. But it's kind of this beautiful story about

0:27:49.244 --> 0:27:52.004
<v Speaker 1>kind of the intent of gift giving. All right, So

0:27:52.164 --> 0:27:56.244
<v Speaker 1>let's just close with a gift giving lightning round. What's

0:27:56.244 --> 0:27:58.964
<v Speaker 1>the best gift you've ever received from another poker player?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, the one that comes to mind. I was

0:28:00.404 --> 0:28:04.804
<v Speaker 2>doing like a charitable event poker tournament, right, and like

0:28:05.324 --> 0:28:08.444
<v Speaker 2>I busted out and then Annie Duke had made the

0:28:08.444 --> 0:28:10.924
<v Speaker 2>final table and she had to leave, so she's like, Nate,

0:28:11.084 --> 0:28:12.604
<v Speaker 2>you got my seat now. So it was kind of

0:28:12.924 --> 0:28:14.364
<v Speaker 2>it was kind of in the range between a gift,

0:28:14.364 --> 0:28:16.804
<v Speaker 2>but it was a very nice gesture to do both

0:28:16.844 --> 0:28:20.324
<v Speaker 2>because it showed she had some respect that I'd hopefully

0:28:20.364 --> 0:28:22.684
<v Speaker 2>play my hand with honor. And you know, I tried

0:28:22.684 --> 0:28:26.284
<v Speaker 2>to play aggressively. I tried to like play well, you know,

0:28:26.364 --> 0:28:30.404
<v Speaker 2>had a huge I had a huge chip lead and

0:28:29.844 --> 0:28:33.084
<v Speaker 2>then and then just ran really bad on all ends.

0:28:33.924 --> 0:28:36.484
<v Speaker 2>So I finished third, and there was some threshold where

0:28:36.484 --> 0:28:39.764
<v Speaker 2>you got some actually cool prize first and second, so

0:28:39.884 --> 0:28:42.204
<v Speaker 2>I should have been looking at the bubble or poker

0:28:42.244 --> 0:28:43.804
<v Speaker 2>player fans will know, right, basically, there was like a

0:28:44.484 --> 0:28:46.564
<v Speaker 2>bubble for second place where you get like a cool

0:28:46.684 --> 0:28:49.324
<v Speaker 2>award a gift. In the top two positions are like

0:28:49.364 --> 0:28:51.324
<v Speaker 2>the same thing. I forget what it was, a plaque,

0:28:51.404 --> 0:28:52.924
<v Speaker 2>r I know, but something that was worth playing for.

0:28:53.004 --> 0:28:55.644
<v Speaker 2>And then third place you get like a gift bag,

0:28:55.684 --> 0:28:57.844
<v Speaker 2>and like I should have played for second place. Basically

0:28:58.644 --> 0:28:59.324
<v Speaker 2>that's a good gift.

0:28:59.484 --> 0:29:01.364
<v Speaker 1>All the best gifts I've gotten from poker players have

0:29:01.404 --> 0:29:05.204
<v Speaker 1>been experiences right where someone has treated me to a

0:29:05.244 --> 0:29:07.884
<v Speaker 1>really memorable meal that I would never have otherwise been

0:29:07.924 --> 0:29:11.084
<v Speaker 1>able to go to. Those are the things that I

0:29:11.164 --> 0:29:13.324
<v Speaker 1>really you know, cherish and remember.

0:29:14.084 --> 0:29:16.724
<v Speaker 2>Best gift for the raveriance. So if you've read my book,

0:29:16.764 --> 0:29:18.684
<v Speaker 2>you know that the two typologies the village, which is

0:29:18.724 --> 0:29:21.804
<v Speaker 2>like the East Coast establishment, and the river which is

0:29:21.844 --> 0:29:24.284
<v Speaker 2>poker and gambling and VC and all these things. So

0:29:25.564 --> 0:29:27.364
<v Speaker 2>the best gift for ravarian This is where I wish

0:29:27.404 --> 0:29:30.524
<v Speaker 2>we had, like a sponsor from like a poker training

0:29:30.564 --> 0:29:34.124
<v Speaker 2>company'd be like get twenty percent off on gto express

0:29:34.204 --> 0:29:37.804
<v Speaker 2>dot com with Pasco Maria and Nate twenty twenty four.

0:29:38.924 --> 0:29:41.164
<v Speaker 1>That was a great pivot Nate to a company that

0:29:41.204 --> 0:29:45.924
<v Speaker 1>does not actually exist. Well done. No free promotion if

0:29:45.964 --> 0:29:48.524
<v Speaker 1>you want if you want free, if you want free promotion,

0:29:48.604 --> 0:29:49.484
<v Speaker 1>this is not the place.

0:29:49.844 --> 0:29:52.564
<v Speaker 2>Hey, I'll give you a free sports bin on Fanduels Shure,

0:29:52.644 --> 0:29:54.564
<v Speaker 2>you probably don't want to. I'm not sure you want

0:29:54.564 --> 0:29:58.884
<v Speaker 2>to do something like that and potentially hook somebody or whatever.

0:29:59.444 --> 0:30:02.924
<v Speaker 2>But no, yeah, I do think like a poker train

0:30:03.084 --> 0:30:04.924
<v Speaker 2>Like I think most of the best poker training materials

0:30:04.964 --> 0:30:07.764
<v Speaker 2>now are are online. We're not going to go about

0:30:08.084 --> 0:30:11.244
<v Speaker 2>recommending particular sites, but like, yeah, I mean giving someone

0:30:11.284 --> 0:30:12.964
<v Speaker 2>because those training sites aren't cheap either, So if you

0:30:13.004 --> 0:30:16.644
<v Speaker 2>can afford it, maybe something people wouldn't think about buying themselves,

0:30:16.764 --> 0:30:18.484
<v Speaker 2>like a poker training course could be a good gift

0:30:18.564 --> 0:30:18.924
<v Speaker 2>for sure.

0:30:19.804 --> 0:30:24.164
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I totally agree with that. How about best gift

0:30:24.244 --> 0:30:27.564
<v Speaker 1>for the villager? So you know, listeners of our show

0:30:27.644 --> 0:30:30.284
<v Speaker 1>probably know at this point what the villages, But the

0:30:30.364 --> 0:30:34.764
<v Speaker 1>villages you are your answer to the river, the kind

0:30:34.764 --> 0:30:41.044
<v Speaker 1>of the establishment, right, the kind of the collegiate types

0:30:41.284 --> 0:30:41.964
<v Speaker 1>of the world.

0:30:42.884 --> 0:30:44.684
<v Speaker 2>Maybe like a gift certificate to sub stack. I don't

0:30:44.724 --> 0:30:48.124
<v Speaker 2>think those things exist yet, but like, go read outside

0:30:48.164 --> 0:30:52.764
<v Speaker 2>the village, read some heterodox yeah yeah, yeah, or maybe

0:30:52.844 --> 0:30:55.684
<v Speaker 2>or maybe they're the one that needs, like to learn

0:30:55.724 --> 0:30:57.244
<v Speaker 2>how to take risks. Maybe you just give them, Okay,

0:30:58.324 --> 0:31:00.244
<v Speaker 2>you get I guess you can't like comp the casino

0:31:00.804 --> 0:31:02.364
<v Speaker 2>or maybe you can't, right, Can you like give someone

0:31:02.404 --> 0:31:05.564
<v Speaker 2>here's one hundred dollars to spend it Caesars or something?

0:31:05.564 --> 0:31:09.604
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Maybe yeah, well, but if you're doing that,

0:31:09.684 --> 0:31:11.644
<v Speaker 1>and I think the best gift for a ribeian would

0:31:11.684 --> 0:31:14.284
<v Speaker 1>be not a poker course, but something that would that

0:31:14.324 --> 0:31:17.244
<v Speaker 1>would actually like even them out. I would give them

0:31:17.284 --> 0:31:20.404
<v Speaker 1>the like the Paris Review Interviews, which is one of

0:31:20.404 --> 0:31:22.924
<v Speaker 1>my favorite gifts for people. It's a four volume set

0:31:23.084 --> 0:31:26.164
<v Speaker 1>of interviews with some of the best writers and thinkers

0:31:26.244 --> 0:31:29.284
<v Speaker 1>of the twentieth century. I think they learned a lot

0:31:29.324 --> 0:31:32.764
<v Speaker 1>from that, so I would go in that direction. Let's

0:31:32.804 --> 0:31:33.604
<v Speaker 1>even everyone out.

0:31:34.924 --> 0:31:36.724
<v Speaker 2>How much time should you spend picking out a gift

0:31:36.764 --> 0:31:38.124
<v Speaker 2>before you buy something and move on?

0:31:40.204 --> 0:31:44.044
<v Speaker 1>I think it really depends, because you know, for the

0:31:44.084 --> 0:31:46.524
<v Speaker 1>people who are kind of the closest to me, like I,

0:31:47.364 --> 0:31:50.444
<v Speaker 1>it's one of these things where I'm constantly thinking about gifts,

0:31:50.484 --> 0:31:53.004
<v Speaker 1>not on any conscious level, but like you pay attention

0:31:53.124 --> 0:31:55.364
<v Speaker 1>to them, right, You pay attention to what they like,

0:31:55.484 --> 0:31:58.124
<v Speaker 1>what they don't like, and so you kind of have ideas.

0:31:58.164 --> 0:31:59.804
<v Speaker 1>It's not like all of a sudden I sit down

0:31:59.844 --> 0:32:02.484
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, Okay, this is what I want to get.

0:32:02.684 --> 0:32:05.564
<v Speaker 1>But some people are really really difficult to shop for.

0:32:06.004 --> 0:32:09.244
<v Speaker 1>Like my dad is. He'll appreciate everything, like he's always,

0:32:09.644 --> 0:32:12.084
<v Speaker 1>you know, really grateful, but like he's a hard person

0:32:12.164 --> 0:32:14.644
<v Speaker 1>to think of gifts for because he's someone who is

0:32:14.684 --> 0:32:18.524
<v Speaker 1>not at all materialistic, and like, you know, he he

0:32:18.604 --> 0:32:22.964
<v Speaker 1>appreciates things, but like he doesn't want anything, and he

0:32:23.004 --> 0:32:26.644
<v Speaker 1>can be you know, it can be hard because I

0:32:26.684 --> 0:32:29.164
<v Speaker 1>think everyone loves him very very much and wants to

0:32:29.164 --> 0:32:32.044
<v Speaker 1>give him gifts that he'll really appreciate, and so you

0:32:32.084 --> 0:32:35.164
<v Speaker 1>have to just kind of think, like, okay, what is something?

0:32:35.204 --> 0:32:37.684
<v Speaker 1>So Like recently it was his seventieth birthday and we

0:32:37.844 --> 0:32:41.484
<v Speaker 1>ended up kind of all of the kids got him

0:32:43.284 --> 0:32:46.044
<v Speaker 1>a number of bottles of vintage port because he's a

0:32:46.084 --> 0:32:50.164
<v Speaker 1>big port drinker from all the decades, and that was,

0:32:50.204 --> 0:32:53.204
<v Speaker 1>you know, that was something that we had to we

0:32:53.284 --> 0:32:56.164
<v Speaker 1>had to think for a while before we came up with.

0:32:56.364 --> 0:33:00.164
<v Speaker 1>But you know, it's people who are not materialistic can

0:33:00.244 --> 0:33:02.684
<v Speaker 1>be can be hard to shop for. All Right, Nate,

0:33:02.724 --> 0:33:04.964
<v Speaker 1>I have another question for you. Who is the most

0:33:05.004 --> 0:33:08.284
<v Speaker 1>important non obvious person to get a gift for, Like

0:33:08.444 --> 0:33:13.604
<v Speaker 1>you're building super office gossip, the least scrupulous dealer at

0:33:13.644 --> 0:33:16.484
<v Speaker 1>the wind Like, who's that? Who's someone who you think

0:33:16.604 --> 0:33:18.964
<v Speaker 1>is not someone who you'd immediately think about.

0:33:19.164 --> 0:33:20.804
<v Speaker 2>I was hoping you'd have a better I mean, we

0:33:21.044 --> 0:33:25.324
<v Speaker 2>give we you know, we treat our door guy pretty

0:33:25.324 --> 0:33:27.964
<v Speaker 2>well usually apart from that, Like, I don't know, maybe

0:33:28.004 --> 0:33:31.204
<v Speaker 2>I'm inconsiderate and don't like tim No.

0:33:31.244 --> 0:33:33.804
<v Speaker 1>I think that I think that we we definitely. We

0:33:33.964 --> 0:33:37.684
<v Speaker 1>leave tips for everyone who works at the building, and

0:33:37.844 --> 0:33:41.844
<v Speaker 1>we actually give a gift. So there's a guy who's

0:33:41.884 --> 0:33:44.804
<v Speaker 1>in charge of like the receiving area that's like where

0:33:44.804 --> 0:33:47.684
<v Speaker 1>all the packages go. And he's a very very important

0:33:47.724 --> 0:33:51.044
<v Speaker 1>person because he could like bar entry for people, or

0:33:51.124 --> 0:33:53.644
<v Speaker 1>he can like facilitate things for you a little bit,

0:33:53.844 --> 0:33:56.684
<v Speaker 1>like you know, letting you use the service elevator, like

0:33:56.764 --> 0:34:00.084
<v Speaker 1>slightly later than he's supposed to or slightly earlier, and like,

0:34:00.444 --> 0:34:03.204
<v Speaker 1>you know, facilitate all of that process because like you know,

0:34:03.284 --> 0:34:06.644
<v Speaker 1>everyone all of the contractors, like all deliveries, everything has

0:34:06.684 --> 0:34:09.124
<v Speaker 1>to go through that service entry. Not food deliveries but

0:34:09.204 --> 0:34:13.884
<v Speaker 1>like appliance deliveries or like big deliveries. And you know,

0:34:14.164 --> 0:34:18.924
<v Speaker 1>so we know that he loves nuts because he had

0:34:19.004 --> 0:34:21.284
<v Speaker 1>mentioned it at some point, so we give him like

0:34:21.324 --> 0:34:25.004
<v Speaker 1>one of those huge baskets of like fruit and nut assortments,

0:34:25.004 --> 0:34:27.444
<v Speaker 1>and he really appreciates that, And I think that he

0:34:27.884 --> 0:34:30.724
<v Speaker 1>likes us more because of that. So I think that that's,

0:34:31.164 --> 0:34:34.444
<v Speaker 1>you know, we we like to give him something that's

0:34:34.484 --> 0:34:37.324
<v Speaker 1>not money to make him know that we that we

0:34:37.364 --> 0:34:39.684
<v Speaker 1>appreciate him. So I think that, you know, those those

0:34:39.724 --> 0:34:43.044
<v Speaker 1>types of people are really important and you want to

0:34:43.084 --> 0:34:48.084
<v Speaker 1>give them special acknowledgment. After a quick break, we're going

0:34:48.164 --> 0:34:48.684
<v Speaker 1>to be back.

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<v Speaker 2>Regifting, yeah or nah?

0:35:07.604 --> 0:35:11.004
<v Speaker 1>I absolutely I think that re gifting is totally fine

0:35:11.604 --> 0:35:14.204
<v Speaker 1>depending on what it is, right Like, if someone gives

0:35:14.244 --> 0:35:17.324
<v Speaker 1>you a gift that's like nice but not something you'll

0:35:17.364 --> 0:35:20.644
<v Speaker 1>ever use, right, then give it to someone who will

0:35:20.764 --> 0:35:21.044
<v Speaker 1>use it.

0:35:21.324 --> 0:35:21.524
<v Speaker 2>Now.

0:35:21.604 --> 0:35:25.124
<v Speaker 1>If it's like a personal gift, then don't regift obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>And if it's something like I've gotten things that are

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<v Speaker 1>just like these are usually from like sort of family members,

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, extended family, where you're like, oh my god,

0:35:35.764 --> 0:35:39.244
<v Speaker 1>this is just so ugly. It's not even funny, right, Like,

0:35:39.324 --> 0:35:41.004
<v Speaker 1>what am I going to do with this? Like, or

0:35:41.084 --> 0:35:42.724
<v Speaker 1>it might not be ugly, but it's just so not

0:35:42.884 --> 0:35:46.204
<v Speaker 1>my taste, right, Like, it's just not something that I

0:35:46.204 --> 0:35:48.924
<v Speaker 1>would ever want anywhere in my house? What do I

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<v Speaker 1>do with it? I don't want to give it to

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<v Speaker 1>someone else because it's not reflective of my taste or

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<v Speaker 1>what I would want. But I can't throw it out

0:35:56.764 --> 0:35:59.204
<v Speaker 1>because I feel bad. And then I feel like there's

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<v Speaker 1>like a statute of limitations on like how long you

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<v Speaker 1>have to keep a thing before you can toss it,

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<v Speaker 1>and I always I still feel a little bit bad

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<v Speaker 1>throwing it out, but I have thrown out in the

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<v Speaker 1>past because at some point you're like, okay, when does

0:36:12.124 --> 0:36:15.244
<v Speaker 1>this just like that, there's a statute of limitations right

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<v Speaker 1>on on how long you have to keep that gift.

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<v Speaker 1>But I've definitely, especially if I'm open about it, I've

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<v Speaker 1>regifted things like you know, if someone gives me something

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<v Speaker 1>nice and I'm like, hey, like this is amazing, I

0:36:25.524 --> 0:36:27.644
<v Speaker 1>already have one. Do you mind if I give it

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<v Speaker 1>to my sister?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, that is difficult, right because like in some sense

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<v Speaker 2>of things that people will like, they probably have you know,

0:36:36.364 --> 0:36:38.084
<v Speaker 2>s's tricky if you don't know somebody that will to

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<v Speaker 2>avoid Like yeah, I mean, what's that there's fungible versus

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<v Speaker 2>non fungible. I mean like if someone likes whiskey, then

0:36:44.324 --> 0:36:47.804
<v Speaker 2>they're never going to complain about getting more whiskey, right

0:36:47.844 --> 0:36:50.804
<v Speaker 2>Whereas like if they have a certain book, if they've

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<v Speaker 2>already have a copy of On the Edge, The Order

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<v Speaker 2>Risking Everything or The Biggest Bluff? Did that have a subtitle?

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<v Speaker 2>What it's the.

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<v Speaker 1>Subtitle How I Learned to pay attention, master myself and

0:37:02.004 --> 0:37:06.044
<v Speaker 1>win good subtitle? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>And although the author of those books might be happy

0:37:07.844 --> 0:37:09.364
<v Speaker 2>if they already have a copy, then that can be

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<v Speaker 2>tricky if you're trying to guess what's in their library.

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<v Speaker 2>Books are probably in a tricky category there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and there are some books that I have various

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<v Speaker 1>copies of and various editions. But there are also books that,

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<v Speaker 1>like I will gift to someone else, and I think

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<v Speaker 1>that that's totally fine, and you never want to be

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<v Speaker 1>that person. By the way, if you're listening to the show,

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<v Speaker 1>don't be the gift giver who's like, hey, I haven't

0:37:31.444 --> 0:37:34.964
<v Speaker 1>seen gift X around, Like what'd you do with? Like

0:37:35.564 --> 0:37:38.724
<v Speaker 1>do not ask about your gifts? That is not the point,

0:37:38.764 --> 0:37:42.284
<v Speaker 1>Like you have given the gift, Like that's it, right,

0:37:42.404 --> 0:37:48.084
<v Speaker 1>Like do if someone offers feedback amazing if they don't, like,

0:37:49.324 --> 0:37:51.844
<v Speaker 1>this is not the reason you gave a gift, right,

0:37:52.284 --> 0:37:55.084
<v Speaker 1>That's why I also like get I get Matt when

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<v Speaker 1>people are like when people expect thank you notes, like

0:37:58.604 --> 0:38:01.124
<v Speaker 1>you know what, like thank you notes are really really nice,

0:38:01.404 --> 0:38:05.644
<v Speaker 1>but like, don't put obligations on people, like, you know,

0:38:06.044 --> 0:38:08.564
<v Speaker 1>I don't expect a thank you note, like, but there

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<v Speaker 1>are people who just feel like everything needs a thank

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<v Speaker 1>you note. I know someone who writes a thank you

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<v Speaker 1>note to a thank you note, and I'm like, dude,

0:38:16.084 --> 0:38:18.964
<v Speaker 1>like that, when does this end? Like when do we

0:38:19.004 --> 0:38:25.644
<v Speaker 1>stop banking each other? You know, just just like smile Nate,

0:38:25.684 --> 0:38:27.444
<v Speaker 1>do you ever engage in any sort of like a

0:38:27.484 --> 0:38:30.764
<v Speaker 1>tit for tat strategy when you come for when when

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<v Speaker 1>it comes to gift giving, like you know, with basically.

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<v Speaker 2>The sterioration where basically we kind of very sporadic if

0:38:38.244 --> 0:38:41.084
<v Speaker 2>we'll give gifts and things like and there's probably some

0:38:41.124 --> 0:38:42.964
<v Speaker 2>tit for tat em.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Oh, you didn't give me a gift, So that's

0:38:45.724 --> 0:38:49.764
<v Speaker 1>the opposite tip for test. What about what about like,

0:38:50.124 --> 0:38:53.404
<v Speaker 1>you know, do you because I have like some of

0:38:53.444 --> 0:38:57.364
<v Speaker 1>my closest friends, like I always exchange gifts with like

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<v Speaker 1>material gifts, and then others like we we don't do that,

0:39:00.964 --> 0:39:03.564
<v Speaker 1>and we'll like go out for dinner, right, like, well

0:39:03.684 --> 0:39:05.244
<v Speaker 1>we'll do something like that as a gift.

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<v Speaker 2>That's just a lot of regular platonic dinner dates. And

0:39:08.844 --> 0:39:12.044
<v Speaker 2>there's certainly some conscientiousness about like the whole strategy about

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<v Speaker 2>like who pays because you're trying to like assess, you know,

0:39:16.364 --> 0:39:22.644
<v Speaker 2>if someone is way wealthier then but sometimes people want

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<v Speaker 2>to pay, especially men, feel like if if you always

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<v Speaker 2>pay right, so you kind of have some like equilibrium

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<v Speaker 2>ware of like if you're the wealthier person and you're

0:39:31.564 --> 0:39:36.124
<v Speaker 2>not like family or you're not like someone's former boss

0:39:36.244 --> 0:39:38.844
<v Speaker 2>or something, right, then the equilibrium is like the richer

0:39:38.844 --> 0:39:40.964
<v Speaker 2>person pays like eighty percent of the time, I think,

0:39:41.044 --> 0:39:44.124
<v Speaker 2>or something like that. Probably, Yeah, well.

0:39:44.124 --> 0:39:47.044
<v Speaker 1>I think that also, you know, I like exchanging dinners too,

0:39:47.724 --> 0:39:51.044
<v Speaker 1>Like I think that there are lots of different ways

0:39:50.724 --> 0:39:53.964
<v Speaker 1>for doing that. But yeah, it is interesting how different

0:39:54.004 --> 0:39:57.324
<v Speaker 1>equilibriums will establish themselves in different situations. And I don't

0:39:57.324 --> 0:39:59.484
<v Speaker 1>think that that's like a conscious tit for tat, even

0:39:59.484 --> 0:40:02.484
<v Speaker 1>though with you and your partner maybe.

0:40:01.844 --> 0:40:04.164
<v Speaker 2>There's a lot of strategy and relationships by the way.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, there's a book I read by I believe

0:40:06.684 --> 0:40:12.004
<v Speaker 2>Kevin Zolman about like a gto guy to parenting basically huh,

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<v Speaker 2>where it's like, yeah, kids are quite strategic and you know,

0:40:16.324 --> 0:40:18.564
<v Speaker 2>you have to bargain and it's repeated game and things

0:40:18.644 --> 0:40:20.324
<v Speaker 2>like that, and I think there's I think there's something

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<v Speaker 2>to that for many dimensions of relationship. Are there particularly

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<v Speaker 2>nitty or degenerate gifts that you've ever received.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's see, I don't know that those are hard questions

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<v Speaker 1>for me to answer, Like what even is a nitty gift?

0:40:38.124 --> 0:40:39.764
<v Speaker 1>Is a nitty gift? Like, how do we define that?

0:40:39.844 --> 0:40:43.164
<v Speaker 1>Is it a cheap gift? Or is it or is

0:40:43.204 --> 0:40:46.764
<v Speaker 1>it a like play it safe gift like a gift certificate? Right? Like,

0:40:46.804 --> 0:40:48.564
<v Speaker 1>I think that both of those things are nitty.

0:40:49.124 --> 0:40:52.164
<v Speaker 2>But like, I mean my family one time they gave

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<v Speaker 2>out gifts of like the Iraq study Group report. I

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<v Speaker 2>thought that was kind of a nitty gift.

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<v Speaker 1>That's amazing.

0:41:02.524 --> 0:41:05.244
<v Speaker 2>I love it, Yeah, I love it. Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>What about the most degen gift? Once again, how do

0:41:09.004 --> 0:41:13.084
<v Speaker 1>we define that? Is it like ridiculously expensive splurgy or

0:41:13.524 --> 0:41:16.724
<v Speaker 1>is it like one hundred bucks to spend at Caesar's,

0:41:16.724 --> 0:41:19.844
<v Speaker 1>which is a very deja gift by the way, where

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<v Speaker 1>here's like some slot credit again very You know.

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<v Speaker 2>In college, I had a rave phase, and I think

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<v Speaker 2>the statute of limitations on this has passed, so I

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<v Speaker 2>can so anyway, So my friends and I went to

0:41:35.604 --> 0:41:38.684
<v Speaker 2>like a rave called even further. I think it was

0:41:38.684 --> 0:41:42.484
<v Speaker 2>in either Roal, Illinois maybe Wisconsin. Drive to get there.

0:41:42.524 --> 0:41:44.524
<v Speaker 2>It's outdoors for a couple of days, right, and like.

0:41:45.364 --> 0:41:48.004
<v Speaker 1>That seems like a good location for a rave And.

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<v Speaker 2>My friend was going around trying to get drugs and uh,

0:41:56.124 --> 0:41:57.364
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if sheould be telling the story, but

0:41:57.364 --> 0:41:59.244
<v Speaker 2>I guess I'm halfway through, so I have to continue now.

0:42:01.524 --> 0:42:04.084
<v Speaker 2>And this guy was tripping his balls off and gave

0:42:04.164 --> 0:42:08.324
<v Speaker 2>my friend an entire sheet one hundred tabs of acid

0:42:08.404 --> 0:42:12.764
<v Speaker 2>of LSD. WHOA, So that's pretty that's pretty degenerate. I

0:42:12.804 --> 0:42:21.044
<v Speaker 2>would say, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>He probably regretted that once he was no longer tripping

0:42:21.364 --> 0:42:21.924
<v Speaker 1>his balls off.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I know, I know, with the retail value in

0:42:24.044 --> 0:42:28.204
<v Speaker 2>nineteen ninety eight or whatever is kind of my little yeah,

0:42:28.524 --> 0:42:30.604
<v Speaker 2>but but yeah, that's that's kind of be the top

0:42:30.684 --> 0:42:32.004
<v Speaker 2>d GM category for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't top that night, I cannot top that. And

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<v Speaker 1>on that note, may you all have a very pleasant

0:42:41.124 --> 0:42:45.724
<v Speaker 1>gift giving experience this holiday season. And remember it's I

0:42:45.804 --> 0:42:47.924
<v Speaker 1>know this is a cliche, but we've talked about in

0:42:47.964 --> 0:42:50.924
<v Speaker 1>the past some cliches are good cliches and their cliches

0:42:50.964 --> 0:42:53.364
<v Speaker 1>for a reason. And it's the thought that counts. Really

0:42:53.404 --> 0:42:55.604
<v Speaker 1>is a good cliche, right, Like, it really is the

0:42:55.604 --> 0:42:58.524
<v Speaker 1>thought that counts, And that would be my gto way

0:42:58.564 --> 0:42:59.324
<v Speaker 1>of giving gifts.

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<v Speaker 2>Maria, you and I will see each other next week

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<v Speaker 2>and we'll literally see hopefully some of the listeners at

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<v Speaker 2>the poker meetup, which again, Maria, what's the date.

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<v Speaker 1>December eleventh, which is a Wednesday at noon.

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<v Speaker 2>It's twenty twenty four, that's this year.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, yes, at noon at Bellaggio Poker Room. Really excited

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<v Speaker 1>and hope to see and meet some of you there.

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<v Speaker 1>Let us know what you think of the show. Reach

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