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Speaker 1: This is the EDS with Eddie Judge and Edwin Aroyave.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to the EDS podcast.

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Speaker 2: We are on location at Bottle Rock Festival and today's

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Speaker 2: special guest, Oh, I can't wait to share with this

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Speaker 2: our very first podcast.

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Speaker 1: Guest, Shane Helloa Soudent. Welcome back, and of course.

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Speaker 2: You know we got Polly Connell, sorry about that here

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Speaker 2: with us and we are going to talk about Father's Day.

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Speaker 1: You guys have any experience with that? Okay? Now, Father's

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Speaker 1: Day is a special day for us.

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Speaker 2: You know, it's the one day year that you know,

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Speaker 2: the kids get to opportunity to learn to celebrate the

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Speaker 2: us as fathers, like everything we've done for them equally

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Speaker 2: important as you know, Mother's Day.

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Speaker 1: They get there one day. I'm not a big holiday guy.

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Speaker 2: I think Father's Day, Mother's Day, Thanksgiving and all especially

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Speaker 2: Valentine's Day, this should be every day. You should celebrate

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Speaker 2: each other every day. It just makes a better relationship

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Speaker 2: and better life. You know, to leave it to one

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Speaker 2: day years, I don't think it's that important. So let's

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Speaker 2: just say Father's Day coming up being celebrated. We are

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Speaker 2: going to talk about your experience growing up. Paulli, who

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Speaker 2: was your father figure growing up and what kind of

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Speaker 2: impact did he have on you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's uh, you know, well my dad's past, so

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Speaker 3: it's always a tough conversation to be honest. Well, my

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Speaker 3: dad was the guy that I never taught would be gone. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I always would expected him to be there to the end,

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Speaker 3: no matter what.

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Speaker 4: And ask how old you were when to pass?

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Speaker 3: Yeah I was forty two. Yeah, so he just passed

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Speaker 3: eight years ago. And you know he was He was

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Speaker 3: a very strong demeanor man. Moral code was always on point.

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Speaker 3: Taught me right from wrong, and taught me how to

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Speaker 3: be nice to people. And we can't. We grew up

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Speaker 3: in a place in our end, not not a lot

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Speaker 3: of a lot of money, not a lot of things

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Speaker 3: going on, but he always made it feel right, and

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Speaker 3: I guess you know, he always taught me how to

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Speaker 3: be above even when you fell below. And that's something

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Speaker 3: that I always took away, like, no matter what you have,

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Speaker 3: you can you can you can make yourself and everybody

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Speaker 3: around you feel like this. And that's what he kind

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Speaker 3: of gave to me. It's not about you know, what

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Speaker 3: you bring to the tables, what you have at that moment.

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Speaker 3: So I guess for me as being a dad. Now

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Speaker 3: I reflect that and I can see that with my kids.

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Speaker 3: So as you know, I'm trying to teach what I

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Speaker 3: learned from my father to them. But obviously my kids

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Speaker 3: are you know, younger compared to things have changed. But

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Speaker 3: he was a very big, yeah, very big statement in

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Speaker 3: my life. He made made a lot of made a

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Speaker 3: lot of impressions that last till today.

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Speaker 2: What's a favorite memory that you remember from your dad,

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Speaker 2: like that one, maybe that talk or that moment where

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Speaker 2: he just made a huge impact in your life My

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Speaker 2: life up yea.

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Speaker 3: And he would tell me it was going to be okay.

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Speaker 3: After he would absolutely make sure I wouldn't understand everything

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Speaker 3: that I did was so wrong. Yeah, but he always

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Speaker 3: gave me an out and made me realize that mistakes

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Speaker 3: And you know, matured me in somewhat somewhat of a way.

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Speaker 3: And you know, back in the day, the fist was

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Speaker 3: the ruler when you were growing up in Ireland, that's

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Speaker 3: you were always afraid of it. And it was kind

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Speaker 3: of like, you know, learning to like watch my dad

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Speaker 3: because I was the youngest child in the house, so

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Speaker 3: he's already dealt with two of my brothers, and he

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Speaker 3: had the changes of dad because times have changed. So

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Speaker 3: I was watching I didn't even know from my dad.

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Speaker 3: I was watching changes a dad as I was growing

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Speaker 3: up from what I seen how he reacted with my brothers.

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Speaker 3: So that was an impressible thing. And I guess that

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Speaker 3: maybe matured me, is it, dad?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well yeah.

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Speaker 5: It sound like he had a pretty big impact on

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Respectful. He told me to respect

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think that's a generation thing because that's

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Speaker 2: how I grew up. Respect your elders. Doesn't matter what

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Speaker 2: to respect them because just because they're older.

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Speaker 3: Right, Like you said to your dad's eighty years old, right,

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Speaker 3: Like it's it's great. Like at this age, he's like,

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Speaker 5: You certainly got a lot more experience than I did, so,

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Speaker 5: I mean, being twice my age. Yeah yeah, I mean

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Speaker 5: of course, you know, And the same with my kids.

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Speaker 5: My kids, you know, I have as young as ten

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Speaker 5: and it's like, it's because I have experience I made.

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Speaker 4: I was twelve too, I made mistakes.

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Speaker 5: I'm telling you so you can have a better experience

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Speaker 5: they respected your elders, right, I think that term comes

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Speaker 5: with respect their experience, that they're looking out for you,

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Speaker 5: that they have something that you know they can pass

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Speaker 4: You, whether it be a neighbor or a relative.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but I think it kind of gets I don't know,

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Speaker 5: it feels like it gets lost.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes it does.

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Speaker 3: Get lost, but you have to keep on it. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and you have the transition it in. I think as

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Speaker 3: I think maybe that's why our parents, our fathers have

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Speaker 3: taught us that over the years, is not to give

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Speaker 3: to some much generation that gets skipped.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So tell me about your father figure.

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Speaker 5: Oh, well, it would be my father. I was fortunate

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Speaker 5: enough to have him in the house. Him and my

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Speaker 5: mother are still married and he's eighty two now. He

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Speaker 5: was he worked a lot, though he wasn't I wouldn't

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Speaker 5: say he was a workaholic, but he did work and

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Speaker 5: he'd come home and he was very He'd come home,

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Speaker 5: he'd make a screwdriver and he would grab the newspaper

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Speaker 5: and he would read and that was the evening.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 5: So I didn't really we didn't play sports together, we

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Speaker 4: But he wasn't negative.

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Speaker 5: In any way or like, you know, it wasn't like

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Speaker 5: where kind of like they don't have time for the

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Speaker 5: When we got older, when I was in my twenties,

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Speaker 5: I started to get more connected with him. And then

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Speaker 5: I would say, in my early thirties is when I

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Speaker 5: started to listen to him, okay, And he would always

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Speaker 5: give me my dad doesn't attend a religion or anything,

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Speaker 5: but he does read a lot, read a lot of

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Speaker 5: spirituality things, and he would always try to share things

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Speaker 4: Didn't care for it.

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Speaker 5: Then when I hit early thirties, I started to listen

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Speaker 5: to him. Someone gave me advice about basically listening to

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Speaker 4: So a lot of times, I know, I share a

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Speaker 4: lot of stories.

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Speaker 5: With you about my father, and it's always later in life,

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Speaker 5: like in my thirties and forties, that I heard those

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Speaker 4: It's never from when I was a kid.

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Speaker 5: One because we didn't connect very well, but two because

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Speaker 4: Was older, late twenties and early thirties, because you matured. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and then I had kids, and I also had

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Speaker 5: circumstances that caused me to have more of an open mind,

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Speaker 5: he had to say. Anyway, I get lots of little

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Speaker 5: tidbits for my father that I still carry with me today.

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Speaker 5: And one is that comes to mind right now is

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Speaker 5: I remember one time I was saying, oh, yeah, you know,

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Speaker 5: he goes, no, no, And I said, but it's not, and

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Speaker 5: he goes, no, no, no, it is until you get there

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Speaker 5: and then it's no longer.

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Speaker 4: So that made me that day forward.

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Speaker 5: Really, it made me step back and not be so

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Speaker 5: quick to chase the next thing, usually something materialistic, chase

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Speaker 5: I mean, it's not so much trying to teach myself

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Speaker 4: But that's but it's going to go away pretty soon,

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Speaker 2: So that's a true statement for almost anything in life. Right,

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Speaker 2: There's there's nothing materialistic that will last any longer than

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Speaker 2: your memories. So I'd rather make a memory of something

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Speaker 1: Like what we're doing today.

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Speaker 2: This is going to be an awesome experience at Bottle

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Speaker 2: Rock together and enjoying this awesome event that we can

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Speaker 2: talk about for the rest of our lives, versus let's

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Speaker 5: I know you're right because you asked the question of

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Speaker 5: what you know a memory you have from your your

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Speaker 5: father figure and neither of us, And I assume most

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Speaker 5: people wouldn't say, oh, it's when.

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Speaker 4: He bought me this, or he gave me this, but

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Speaker 4: it would rather.

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Speaker 5: Be experiences what you got from your father and so on.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, what kind of experiences have you done, Polly

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Speaker 2: with your kids that you know this is a memory

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Speaker 3: I mean, I like doing road trips. I love road trips.

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Speaker 3: A couple of years ago, we flew out the Vegas,

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Speaker 3: drove over to Vegas, went to a UFC fight. We

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Speaker 3: just drove and we just hung out, booked the hotels.

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Speaker 3: We didn't didn't do any planning, and it was just

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Speaker 3: We're just going to go. We're just going to keep

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Speaker 3: on happening. And I want them to experience that, like

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Speaker 3: one on one, that like it's okay to like not

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Speaker 3: know where you're going sometimes and when you get there,

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Speaker 3: you make the best, You make the best of what

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Speaker 3: it is. And it was really They still talk about

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Speaker 3: the trip saying like it was so cool and it

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Speaker 3: really was like the driver your two kids in the

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Speaker 3: car across the country and like you're doing all this

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Speaker 3: cool stuff that to me is probably like it was

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Speaker 3: I was like, you know, they're enjoying this as much

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Speaker 5: Yeah, well, it sounds like it was a trip with

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Speaker 3: And I always remember it. We we knew that we

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Speaker 1: What about you?

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Speaker 5: Oh gosh, Well, Paul is a very good storyteller.

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Speaker 4: It just that's the end of it. Yeah, And all

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Speaker 5: I'm always with kids. It just takes a while for

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Speaker 5: I don't say, I just, I just I've never grew

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I mean today Emily can't say enough

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Speaker 5: But I do let me clarify thank you in the beginning.

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Speaker 5: I'm not lovey dovey and I'm not hugging and kissing yet. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: That's okay. So we're hugging now, right, that's my story.

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Speaker 2: But okay, Paully, speaking of kids, was it I think

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Speaker 3: What goes on on the TV and the world doesn't matter.

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Speaker 3: This is what really matters. Where a family were together.

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Speaker 4: That's rare. You know, that's rare. That's great that.

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Speaker 5: to a movie, or let's do this or that, something

439
00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:44,640
Speaker 5: more structured that costs a few bucks, but she would

440
00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:47,959
Speaker 5: make it more like a family experience. And so and

441
00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:53,080
Speaker 5: then she's given me lots of advice raising them, because

442
00:20:53,080 --> 00:20:54,240
Speaker 5: she was always like, I'm not going to be that

443
00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:56,560
Speaker 5: stepmother just comes in and starts dictating, and they're gonna

444
00:20:56,600 --> 00:20:58,639
Speaker 5: hate me. Even though I think there can be some

445
00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:02,879
Speaker 5: balance of that. She always instills the stake, gives me advice.

446
00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:06,159
Speaker 5: I can bounce things off of her, she repackages it

447
00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:07,560
Speaker 5: and gives it back to me and says, this is

448
00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:11,119
Speaker 5: how you handle it, and so very very helpful. I

449
00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:13,040
Speaker 5: don't have time for it, but I know there's very

450
00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:15,520
Speaker 5: specific lessons that she's taught me that I still use

451
00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:16,480
Speaker 5: today with my kids.

452
00:21:16,600 --> 00:21:20,760
Speaker 4: That's awesome. Sounds like the perfect partner sometimes.

453
00:21:23,119 --> 00:21:23,840
Speaker 1: Sometimes.

454
00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:28,680
Speaker 2: All right, let's talk about the funniest dad moment you

455
00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:32,920
Speaker 2: as a father versus the hardest dad moment. Polly, you

456
00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:36,879
Speaker 2: go first, the funniest, funniest dad moment, Like fun, It's like,

457
00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:39,439
Speaker 2: what's the funny? And my daughter, me and my kids,

458
00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:40,359
Speaker 2: you and your kids.

459
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Speaker 3: I mean, I used to tell my kids I was

460
00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:48,399
Speaker 3: a semi celebrity. I used to break their chops all

461
00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:50,560
Speaker 3: the time. They're like, I'll be like, yo, I'm a

462
00:21:50,560 --> 00:21:52,080
Speaker 3: semi celebrity. They were like, yo, Dad, what are you

463
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:53,800
Speaker 3: talking about. I'm like, just trust me go with this

464
00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:56,000
Speaker 3: this for years, so said, when there were small I

465
00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:58,280
Speaker 3: used to shave lines in their hair and do Ronaldo

466
00:21:58,359 --> 00:22:00,960
Speaker 3: hair cuts and tell them they were fit. We do

467
00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:04,400
Speaker 3: all this. I remember when I was on the first

468
00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:06,000
Speaker 3: time I was on The Housewives. My kids see me

469
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:11,080
Speaker 3: on TV. They're like that, you're a semi slept That

470
00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:11,800
Speaker 3: was kind.

471
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Speaker 1: Of yeah, you manifested. Yeah, I kind of manifest the

472
00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:20,280
Speaker 1: hardest time as a as a dad moment, the hardest time.

473
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Speaker 3: I mean when my kids get sick. Yeah, honestly. Yeah,

474
00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:29,440
Speaker 3: my one of my my camera and got sick one time.

475
00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:35,440
Speaker 3: He was like fifteen. He had some stomach issues and

476
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:36,800
Speaker 3: I could just think about what happened to when he

477
00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 3: was born. That was a that was a tough time. Yeah.

478
00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:43,639
Speaker 3: Or even seeing him getting defeated in like in something

479
00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:46,320
Speaker 3: that happens on a on a sport or a school

480
00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:51,360
Speaker 3: or friend friends, that's like, because I want to tell them,

481
00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:55,480
Speaker 3: fucking this guy's no good. You know, dad knows better,

482
00:22:55,520 --> 00:22:59,280
Speaker 3: but they're so invested as friends. Yeah, they feel bad

483
00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:01,199
Speaker 3: because they're not getting I asked to go somewhere. That

484
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 3: kind of that kind of cuts me up a little bit.

485
00:23:03,440 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you kind of like I got to let

486
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:07,040
Speaker 1: him learn.

487
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:10,199
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like you gotta let him get boring, Like

488
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:12,200
Speaker 3: you just see the pain, but you just can't thrown

489
00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:12,639
Speaker 3: about it.

490
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, Shane funniest dead moment.

491
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:19,119
Speaker 4: The funniest Yeah, oh gosh.

492
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 1: You have a funny daughter. She's she's a lot like

493
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:22,880
Speaker 1: your wife, Annabel.

494
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:27,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, she's a minnie Emily Funniest dead moment.

495
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:31,480
Speaker 5: Uh, that puts me on the spot.

496
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Speaker 1: What was the other part the hardest, hardest dead moment?

497
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Speaker 5: Hardest would be, well, you know, one, I don't know hardest.

498
00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:41,600
Speaker 4: But one of the hard.

499
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:44,359
Speaker 5: Things was when my oldest got married. It wasn't the

500
00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:49,120
Speaker 5: it was partially the letting go, but it and trusting

501
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 5: this man that's now you know, she's going to go

502
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:51,440
Speaker 5: to him.

503
00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:53,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, right, and she should go.

504
00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:56,560
Speaker 5: To him, you know, for for certain things. But it

505
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:59,199
Speaker 5: was like, how do I transition to that? And then

506
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:02,800
Speaker 5: do I just cut off the funds immediately car insurance

507
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:06,280
Speaker 5: like and then I didn't know how to transition that.

508
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:09,720
Speaker 5: So I was very, very nervous, probably about six months

509
00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:17,160
Speaker 5: in trying to figure that out and that that was difficult. Well,

510
00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:21,479
Speaker 5: you know, when they were younger toddlers, we just wrestle

511
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:24,480
Speaker 5: all the time. Like literally, it sounds silly, but we

512
00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:28,200
Speaker 5: all the time. And then when you know, I had

513
00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 5: three of them at that age, and we would wrestle

514
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,960
Speaker 5: and just it'd be it feels like hours, but it

515
00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:35,959
Speaker 5: was probably just an hour, all all over the place

516
00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 5: and you know, chasing each other being monster.

517
00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:39,960
Speaker 4: And stuff like that.

518
00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 5: And then it got to a point where it was

519
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:46,280
Speaker 5: getting it was getting kind of out of control, and

520
00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 5: Luke ran into a chair, busted his tooth, pushed it in,

521
00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:54,360
Speaker 5: pushed his tooth in, and then now I'm getting off topic.

522
00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:55,640
Speaker 5: But then I was telling Emily, I'm like, we got

523
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:56,960
Speaker 5: to pull it out. We got to pull it out,

524
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,679
Speaker 5: and I cannot stand the dentist say anything to do

525
00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 5: with teeth.

526
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:03,040
Speaker 4: So I'm closing my eyes, going just do Its no

527
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:04,440
Speaker 4: big deal, it's no big deal, it's no big deal.

528
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 5: Anyway, she pulls the tooth out, and Emily is like,

529
00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:10,399
Speaker 5: no more monsters, no more monster because we were getting

530
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 5: injured all the time and stuff. So then like a

531
00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 5: week or two went by and they begged and begged

532
00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,399
Speaker 5: and begged, and I thought, nope, nope, nope, and then

533
00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:19,480
Speaker 5: finally cave did it.

534
00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 4: Keller lost a tooth.

535
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:23,680
Speaker 3: So the monster came back.

536
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 4: So that's just something that was a little bit more recent.

537
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Speaker 1: That's funny.

538
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:29,159
Speaker 4: So we always have that memory.

539
00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:32,719
Speaker 5: They always yeah, so they always reference that you know,

540
00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:35,880
Speaker 5: that's kind of an ongoing memory of theirs. That's kind

541
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:36,560
Speaker 5: of fun to tell.

542
00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:48,240
Speaker 2: I have a question for you guys, is it I

543
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 2: did a chat to roast us?

544
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 1: Dads? Are you familiar with chet?

545
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 3: I did one on you tonight on the airplane on

546
00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:57,399
Speaker 3: the way here.

547
00:25:57,800 --> 00:25:59,640
Speaker 1: I did one on all three of us.

548
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:01,120
Speaker 4: Want to hear? Are you okay?

549
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:04,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna start with mine. I think it's hilarious.

550
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:08,880
Speaker 2: Wait, what's the question you asked, Eddie Judge? Yeah, roast,

551
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 2: Eddie Judge, roast. It's funny, it's amazing, is hilarious. So

552
00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:18,400
Speaker 2: Eddie Judge the only man who went on a reality

553
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:21,120
Speaker 2: show and somehow still managed to have less screen time

554
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 2: than Tamra's implants.

555
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 4: That's a pretty good right there.

556
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:30,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, he left law to open a gym Cut Fitness.

557
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:33,480
Speaker 2: Bold choice for business name, considering the only thing that

558
00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:36,640
Speaker 2: got cut was the check when Brabo canceled cameras.

559
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:39,640
Speaker 4: Wow, that's pretty sophisticated, right.

560
00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:43,080
Speaker 2: Eddie is known for his for two things, abs and

561
00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:47,040
Speaker 2: absolute silence during the Real Housewife of Orange County drama

562
00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:50,880
Speaker 2: blink twice. If you ever finished a sentence on your own, Eddie.

563
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:53,440
Speaker 4: I don't know if I want you to read mine now.

564
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:55,080
Speaker 4: I thought it was gonna be like a one liner.

565
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:58,880
Speaker 2: Oh, it's hilarious. He married Tamra and thought he could

566
00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:02,440
Speaker 2: avoid drama. That's like jumping into a volcano and being

567
00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 2: shocked that you got burned. Gosh, if Come Fitness had

568
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:11,680
Speaker 2: half the SMA stamina of Tamera's Instagram story, it might

569
00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:12,399
Speaker 2: still be open.

570
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:13,959
Speaker 4: My gosh.

571
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:18,320
Speaker 1: Man still credit where credit is due.

572
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:21,680
Speaker 2: Eddie just might be the least douchiest husband to ever

573
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:25,840
Speaker 2: grace a Housewight franchise. He minds his business, loves his wife,

574
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:29,520
Speaker 2: and somehow manages to survive Reality TV without launching a

575
00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:32,120
Speaker 2: tequila bran or some midlife crisis.

576
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:34,680
Speaker 1: Impressive, right, Wow, that's pretty cool.

577
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 5: That was pretty entertaining, though annoying, it came from chat

578
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:40,760
Speaker 5: GBT makes it kind.

579
00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:43,680
Speaker 3: Of cool to well, that's real.

580
00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 2: It's so all right, Chane, your next Okay, go ahead.

581
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 2: Jane Simpson, the man, the myth, the human eye roll.

582
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 2: He's basically a walking shrug with a law degree that

583
00:27:55,960 --> 00:28:00,359
Speaker 2: took a few tries to get. But hey, they're times

584
00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 2: a charm right. He's not the loudest guy in the room,

585
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 2: mostly because Emily's already doing all the talking for both

586
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:12,199
Speaker 2: of them. Honestly, the marriage works because she loves a

587
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:17,360
Speaker 2: challenge and Shane is one. While most house husbands are

588
00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 2: chasing cloud, Shane's out there chasing peace and quiet and

589
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:25,160
Speaker 2: probably wondering how he ended up married to someone who

590
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 2: lives in full glam and full chaos.

591
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:29,640
Speaker 1: At the end of the day.

592
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:33,160
Speaker 2: Shane's dry humor might not be for everyone, but clearly

593
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 2: it's Emily's love language, and if she's happy, we are

594
00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 2: all just politely pretending to understand why. That's pretty good,

595
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:48,840
Speaker 2: all right, Polly Polly should be thanking his lucky stars.

596
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 2: He joined the Real houseves in New Jersey the same

597
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 2: time as Louis. Because Louis hoarded all the red flags

598
00:28:57,240 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 2: like it was a clearance sale.

599
00:28:59,200 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 4: Shout out the lot.

600
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:05,400
Speaker 2: Compared to him, Paulie's fifteen year separation and procrastination proposal

601
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:08,520
Speaker 2: seems quaint guilty.

602
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:10,640
Speaker 1: Let's be Let's be real.

603
00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 2: The man met the lures at an apple store, which

604
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 2: is fitting because he's been buffering ever since he's got

605
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:23,000
Speaker 2: electrician energy, but he can't seem to generate a spark

606
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:24,800
Speaker 2: when it comes to locking down things.

607
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 1: Man, busting your chops here and can we talk about

608
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 1: how he looks like.

609
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:36,520
Speaker 2: Buzz Lightyer if bus light Year traded in space mission

610
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 2: for protein shakes and bags, adventures.

611
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 1: To infinity, and eventually commitments.

612
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:46,800
Speaker 3: Oh yes, Wow, I like that. That's pretty good.

613
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 2: Oh joking aside, what do you think the best part

614
00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:50,760
Speaker 2: of being dad is.

615
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 3: Just being a dad?

616
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 1: Jane?

617
00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 4: Oh?

618
00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 5: I think it's uh you get to lift through their

619
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:01,680
Speaker 5: eyes again. Yeah, you know, holidays are more special because

620
00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:03,960
Speaker 5: you live through them and see it through them.

621
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,480
Speaker 1: I see that here is too.

622
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:09,520
Speaker 2: Dads who taught us everything we know and half the

623
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:13,280
Speaker 2: stuff we probably shouldn't. Thank you guys so much for

624
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 2: being on the podcast.

625
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 1: This is awesome.

626
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:19,920
Speaker 2: And to all the fathers out there, keep being great dads.

627
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:21,960
Speaker 2: Teach your kids respect