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Speaker 1: today's second date update, we got an awesome email and
Speaker 1: I don't really know the full story, but from reading it,
Speaker 1: it seems like this dude, Ronald took a girl named
Speaker 1: Carrie to a PTA meeting and they got hammered. That's
Speaker 1: what I'm talking about. Yeah, I had no idea they
Speaker 1: did that at PTA meetings and I don't have a kid,
Speaker 1: but I think I need to start going to more
Speaker 1: PTA meetings. Sounds fun. Ronald looks up. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: he does sound like a drunk dad. You're right, geez. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I didn't really understand the full story from your email.
Speaker 1: All I got was PTA meeting and drinks, and I
Speaker 1: was like, dude, I'm in, when's the next one? Well? No,
Speaker 1: I mean maybe we should actual star of bringing alcohol
Speaker 1: to some PTA meetings. Doing it kind of boring, but
Speaker 1: it's not quite exactly what happened. Are you going to
Speaker 1: tell us that you went to the PTA meeting and
Speaker 1: then you went to drinks after. Yes, that's the normal
Speaker 1: course of events. Yeah, geez, that's lame. At least go
Speaker 1: to drinks before the PCA meeting. That's not a bad idea. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so what happened? What is the story with your email? Okay?
Speaker 1: So I met this woman, her name's Carry That part
Speaker 1: is right. Um, we both have children, we're both single parents, okay,
Speaker 1: our kids both go to the same school. And I
Speaker 1: met her at a PCA function. We were put in
Speaker 1: charge of a portion of an event, a fundraising event
Speaker 1: for the school. So we got paired up. We're handling
Speaker 1: our portion of the event, and so of course now
Speaker 1: we're working together for a few hours. Isn't like really
Speaker 1: get to know each other. So after the event was over,
Speaker 1: I decided to ask her out for like a celebratory
Speaker 1: drink kind of like that like kind of a day
Speaker 1: but not really right Okay, okay, right, if she didn't
Speaker 1: like you, you could pull out and be like, oh,
Speaker 1: I just met his friends exactly. I didn't want to
Speaker 1: put too much pressure on her, you know, okay, but
Speaker 1: we did. She said yes, So we went out to
Speaker 1: a nearby bar where they supplied alcohol. I didn't have
Speaker 1: to bring it myself. Thank you. Did it turn into
Speaker 1: a date or was it more of just an actual
Speaker 1: celebratory drink. From my perspective, I thought it turned into
Speaker 1: a date. Uh. It was away from all your other parents,
Speaker 1: away from two kids, just being on our own, two
Speaker 1: adults people in an adult establishment. I mean the bar
Speaker 1: that could have gone the wrong way. Yeah, hey, let's
Speaker 1: leave this pta meeting and go to an adult club.
Speaker 1: What are you getting? Adults do what adults do, well, Ronald,
Speaker 1: But no, what are the bar? We had, you know,
Speaker 1: like more in depth conversation, and she was really witty.
Speaker 1: She was very queer oriented. She loved her job, she
Speaker 1: works fully heart like. She was like a really good mom.
Speaker 1: She's a good person, and it was like a lot
Speaker 1: of fun to be around. My gosh, Ronald, you should
Speaker 1: write her resume. Yeah. I really think she's great. Um, yes,
Speaker 1: except for her communication skills, because she's not calling you back.
Speaker 1: Well yes, I mean we have spoken since the date
Speaker 1: um at other meetings and around the school, and I've
Speaker 1: asked her out, but I did that only through text.
Speaker 1: She hasn't said no, and she's not giving me any
Speaker 1: vibes that she's you know, is definitely not interested. But
Speaker 1: I can I feel like she's hesitant to actually say yeah. Wait,
Speaker 1: what did she respond to you when you texted her
Speaker 1: asking her out on a real date? What was her
Speaker 1: text response? She didn't really forthrightly answer my text question. Um,
Speaker 1: she said that she would look forward to seeing me
Speaker 1: at the next PPA function, but she never like directly
Speaker 1: answered my question. Yeah, yea, sounds like she's saying no
Speaker 1: without those words. I mean, I can, I can understand that,
Speaker 1: you know, why, why she's trying to be nice to me,
Speaker 1: maybe a nice brush off, but we had such a
Speaker 1: good time and it seemed like we did kind of
Speaker 1: connect a little bit. And I know it's hard for
Speaker 1: you know, divorced parents to you know, behind the connection
Speaker 1: and like an adult connection with another person. And I
Speaker 1: don't want this one to slip away. Like I really
Speaker 1: feel like Carrie and I have at least a shot
Speaker 1: at something that we both you know, haven't had in
Speaker 1: a while. Have you tried showering her kid with gifts?
Speaker 1: She's just out of the blue, get the kid to
Speaker 1: like you. Then she's forced to deal with you probably,
Speaker 1: you know. I mean, I have a hard enough time
Speaker 1: showering my kid with gifts. I can afford a second
Speaker 1: shot already. Well, you only have to buy gifts long
Speaker 1: enough until she sleeps with you, and then you're fine,
Speaker 1: you know, a month or two. Maybe that is horrible. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't think rolls that way, man. Okay, now, Ronald,
Speaker 1: I forgot to ask, did she give you any indication
Speaker 1: other than just your guys? Is great conversation that she
Speaker 1: was romantically interested in you while you guys were out
Speaker 1: to drinks. Actually, while we were at the bar drinking,
Speaker 1: the bartender at one point came up to us and said, um,
Speaker 1: excuse me, sir, but would you and your wife like
Speaker 1: to order? And she said no, no, no, no, we're
Speaker 1: not married. But then I quickly kind of said, like, oh,
Speaker 1: but this is our dating anniversary, uh, and she laughed. Well,
Speaker 1: then we got like, you know, we got some free
Speaker 1: drinks and stuff um for the rest of the night. Hey,
Speaker 1: that's nice. Yeah, which technically is true. You know, it
Speaker 1: was an anniversary of the first night, so it was
Speaker 1: the first night. But okay, yeah, there we go. So
Speaker 1: we had a really good connection. We had a great
Speaker 1: conversation and I just I feel like there is something
Speaker 1: more there. Okay, well we'll play a song and then
Speaker 1: come back and get your second date update. All right, great? Thanky, yeah, man,
Speaker 1: hang on broking Cuble in the morning, right in the
Speaker 1: middle of a second date update, and Ronald is on
Speaker 1: the phone and he wants to call Carrie and Ronald
Speaker 1: before I give a recap of the date and everything else.
Speaker 1: I'm getting messages lately on social media from people who go, hey, ju, well,
Speaker 1: you never say that you like anybody. You always sound
Speaker 1: like such a jerk. So Ronald, yeah, out of obligation,
Speaker 1: I want to tell you I like you. That sounded
Speaker 1: so sincere, and I hope this is really successful second
Speaker 1: date for you. There? That was hard, wasn't it, buddy?
Speaker 1: It was a little difficult, but good I did it.
Speaker 1: And Ronald, you're probably pretty pumped too. Oh, thank you.
Speaker 1: Just to recap, Ronald met Carrie at a PTA meeting.
Speaker 1: They actually worked on a project together, and then after
Speaker 1: he invited her out for a celebratory drink. They had fun,
Speaker 1: but now she's not committing to another date with him,
Speaker 1: and he wants to know why Ronald, Now, it does
Speaker 1: sound like maybe Carrie isn't romantically interested in you yet.
Speaker 1: Do you think you can convince her on a second
Speaker 1: date that you are I don't know, sexy, I hope. So,
Speaker 1: I mean, I think we're attracted to each other. I
Speaker 1: mean it's just a matter of I guess, being comfortable
Speaker 1: with the idea of dating another parents at the school
Speaker 1: your kid goes to. Yeah, I could see that it'd
Speaker 1: be risky. Man. Plus, how do you go to a
Speaker 1: PTA meeting with your significant other and not make out
Speaker 1: the whole time? You know? I never thought about that. Yes,
Speaker 1: I look at all the angles. All right, Well, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna dial her number right now and see if we
Speaker 1: can get her on the phone and find out what's
Speaker 1: going on. Okay, all right, hell well all right, can
Speaker 1: I speak to carry please? This is she Carrie? How
Speaker 1: are you? This is Jewil from brook and Jewil in
Speaker 1: the Morning. It's a radio show in the morning. Okay,
Speaker 1: have you ever heard of it? I don't know how
Speaker 1: you want my number? But yeah, no, sorry, I'm just
Speaker 1: a little like I have heard of it. I just
Speaker 1: I don't listen to the radio all that much. So okay, Well, congratulations,
Speaker 1: you're about to be on it because we do a
Speaker 1: segment on our show called the Second Date Update. And Ronald,
Speaker 1: he's a dude that you met in your PTA meetings,
Speaker 1: said that he really enjoyed going out to drinks with
Speaker 1: you the other night. But it seems like you don't
Speaker 1: want to see him again. Um no, I mean I
Speaker 1: had it. I had a nice time with him when
Speaker 1: we went out, but um, I don't know. You know,
Speaker 1: I don't know. He sounds like a really nice guy
Speaker 1: and he emailed us, you know, because he feels like
Speaker 1: maybe he did something wrong or you don't feel the
Speaker 1: same about him, but he really liked you. So is
Speaker 1: there a reason you don't want to see him? I
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just don't know that it's a
Speaker 1: it's a good idea to data another parents from my
Speaker 1: kids school, so I could see how that's valid that
Speaker 1: you don't want to complicate things at your child's school.
Speaker 1: But also as a woman, if you really like someone,
Speaker 1: you wouldn't care that much. I feel, um, yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't know, a little bit of a nervous laugh there, though.
Speaker 1: I think it makes you feel like there's something else.
Speaker 1: Um okay, So honestly, Um, the real reason is, I mean,
Speaker 1: he was a nice guy, but another parent had warned
Speaker 1: me sort of about him, and yeah, you warned you
Speaker 1: about what? Well, she kind of warned me, or this
Speaker 1: person warned me about about him. And then I found
Speaker 1: out that the other parents at the PTA were talking
Speaker 1: about us like he was telling them. Huh, he was
Speaker 1: telling them what what do you mean? It just the
Speaker 1: stuff that she was telling me. It didn't make sense
Speaker 1: to me at the time, but now now it sort
Speaker 1: of does, Like, well, we weren't in on that conversation,
Speaker 1: so we have no idea what the stuff is. Can
Speaker 1: you tell us what the stuff is? I really just
Speaker 1: don't want to embarrass him. Okay, well, I mean that's valid.
Speaker 1: But Ronald, by the way, is a good friend of
Speaker 1: mine and he doesn't mind being embarrassed. He also is
Speaker 1: the one that asked for us to do this, And
Speaker 1: we tell everybody, if you're gonna do a second at update,
Speaker 1: you might hear something that you don't want to hear.
Speaker 1: So he's prepared. Yeah, and I'm sure he wants to
Speaker 1: know what other parents are saying about him at the
Speaker 1: PTA meeting. I know I would want to know okay, well,
Speaker 1: well we got drinks. He was really interested in my work,
Speaker 1: and I at the time great, but yeah, he was
Speaker 1: just really interested. He was overly interested in my work
Speaker 1: and asking me a lot of questions about my job.
Speaker 1: And he said that you were like an awesome career
Speaker 1: woman and that was something that was really attractive to him. Right,
Speaker 1: but there's more to that, Like the person told me
Speaker 1: that he's mainly interested in the benefits of my work.
Speaker 1: What do you do, Um, I work, Okay, I'm not
Speaker 1: trying to brag. I worked a really a really well
Speaker 1: known company, okay, and I do really well for myself.
Speaker 1: I'm very fortunate. And it was basically told me that
Speaker 1: he's using me for my benefits, Like I get one
Speaker 1: hundred percent medical and dental, I get free vision like
Speaker 1: those kind of benefits. Actual benefits, Yeah, not sextual, not
Speaker 1: anything like that. Yeah, Like he wants better health coverage
Speaker 1: for his family and he's willing to date someone to
Speaker 1: get it. Well yeah, basically, yeah, that's exactly how it
Speaker 1: was put to me. And right, like, all of those
Speaker 1: questions on the date made sense because I was like,
Speaker 1: I've never been out with somebody that's just excited about
Speaker 1: what I do. Like, as soon as I said, the
Speaker 1: company was like all over it really so so they
Speaker 1: get they give you dental and vision there, Like, how
Speaker 1: does the what's the percentage? Is? That's crazy? Right? I
Speaker 1: know they choot us really really well. So, Um yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's that must be a huge
Speaker 1: issue for him, But I really don't want to be
Speaker 1: somebody who's benefit wagon, you know what I mean? Okay,
Speaker 1: but what if though, he just really really liked you
Speaker 1: and then that was just kind of a bonus to him.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I prefer it's he thought I was
Speaker 1: really charming, really beautiful, Like this shouldn't even be a
Speaker 1: should be sort of like a bonus. It shouldn't it
Speaker 1: be a priority. Yeah. I think that he does feel
Speaker 1: that way, but you know, we should just ask him. Hey, Ronald,
Speaker 1: do you think that she's also beautiful and has a
Speaker 1: great personality? Ronald? Yeah, Ronald's on the other line listening
Speaker 1: to this conversation. Don't want to talk to you. Hi, Hi,
Speaker 1: it's Ronald. Hello. Um, oh my god, guys, No, I
Speaker 1: mean I apologize if that's how everything came off, and
Speaker 1: that that's what you were hearing about. Me. I mean
Speaker 1: I do like the benefits. It's I don't see the
Speaker 1: huge issue is about it because, uh, you know, as
Speaker 1: Brooke said, like that your benefits package is a part
Speaker 1: of who you are as a person, is like where
Speaker 1: you are in life, taking your whole deep I'm supposed
Speaker 1: to be saying to recover right now. Man, So you're
Speaker 1: you're admitting that it is for the benefits. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: it's I'm saying that. It's like like you said, it was,
Speaker 1: like it's a bonus. I mean, I really enjoyed spending
Speaker 1: time with you, but like you know, we have kids,
Speaker 1: you know, we have responsibilities and stuff, and the fact
Speaker 1: that you are very well taken care of at your
Speaker 1: job it is a wonderful bonus to who you are
Speaker 1: as a person, all right, besides all of the other
Speaker 1: awesome stuff about you. God, I don't know I feel
Speaker 1: about a guy telling me like basically like I'm going
Speaker 1: to be taken care of from Like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I want to be taken care of. Well, the good
Speaker 1: news is with your benefits from your company, we'll both
Speaker 1: be taken care of. That is true, And so Carrie,
Speaker 1: I think you should think about it. Would you like
Speaker 1: to go out with Ronald again on a second date,
Speaker 1: we will pay for it again. Something else you guys
Speaker 1: are getting for free. And then you can see if
Speaker 1: Ronald is really only interested in your wait before you
Speaker 1: went after Like, I know, everyone gets obsessed with love
Speaker 1: and people really want to focus on that and that,
Speaker 1: and that's great and that's part of it. But the
Speaker 1: thing is, like, eventually love's not going to pay the bills,
Speaker 1: like like look full fade and stuff like that, but
Speaker 1: like benefits are forever, Okay, okay, Ronald, Yeah, Um, I
Speaker 1: appreciate what you're you know, trying to do, and um
Speaker 1: think you're a nice guy. And I well, I'm sure
Speaker 1: we'll continue to have fun at the PTA meetings, but
Speaker 1: I feel like that's where maybe it needs to end.
Speaker 1: He didn't get Yeah, he didn't get you with your
Speaker 1: dental coverage is sexy. He didn't. And I'm sure there's
Speaker 1: some girl out there that will love that. But for me,
Speaker 1: I yeah, it's a little too practical maybe right, you know,
Speaker 1: I would prefer my lips or something like but Carrie,
Speaker 1: all the other stuff, you know, we can do that.
Speaker 1: That's something we can grow and learn and and and
Speaker 1: and it can happen naturally. I'm not saying I wouldn't
Speaker 1: be a part of that. I do think you're beautiful
Speaker 1: and we can stay beautiful together with all of the
Speaker 1: health benefits you have. All right, Ronald, I don't think
Speaker 1: he's gonna work for you. Man, I don't think Carry
Speaker 1: wants to go out with you again. But I was
Speaker 1: just trying to be practical and honest. I mean, that's all.
Speaker 1: It's all I'm trying to do. I appreciate your honesty.
Speaker 1: I don't think Carry wants to date you though now,
Speaker 1: and I at the end of the day, do you
Speaker 1: appreciate it as well? But it's a definite note for me. Okay,
Speaker 1: there it is. So I wish you all the basket
Speaker 1: luck with everything. Um, I'm sure you'll find your your
Speaker 1: benefit sugar mama. All right, thanks Carrie. Well, Ronald, looks
Speaker 1: like you didn't get a second date. And also more
Speaker 1: bad news for your second date. Updates aren't covered under
Speaker 1: your insurance plants, or you're gonna have to pay out
Speaker 1: a pocket for this your bill. Okay, Wow, way to
Speaker 1: kick a man while it's down. Don't get too hurt
Speaker 1: when you're down there, because again the insurance broken jewel
Speaker 1: in the morning text in at seven eight five nine
Speaker 1: two that says my company offers terrible health benefits. I
Speaker 1: guess what I need to do is just start looking
Speaker 1: for somebody to date who has good ones. The guy
Speaker 1: in today's second date update if you missed it, Ronald
Speaker 1: wanted to call Carry. They met at a PTA meeting.
Speaker 1: She wasn't calling him back. He was confused. We got
Speaker 1: her on the phone and it turns out that Ronald
Speaker 1: was actually more interested in her health benefits that she
Speaker 1: gets at her job than her No. He said that
Speaker 1: it was an added bonus, right. He wouldn't stop talking
Speaker 1: about her health benefits. So it makes me think he's
Speaker 1: just trying to find somebody to take care of him,
Speaker 1: not really necessarily a gold digger healthcare digger. Yeah, something
Speaker 1: like that. I don't know. Remember, if you want to
Speaker 1: do a second day up date, all you have to
Speaker 1: do an email of the show. We will call the
Speaker 1: person who didn't call you back.