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Speaker 1: Jewels Second date up date for today's second date update.
Speaker 1: Nicole is on the phone and apparently she paid for
Speaker 1: everything on her first date and now she's not getting
Speaker 1: a call back. So I guess my question to you,
Speaker 1: Nicole is are you calling because you want another date
Speaker 1: with this dude or is this more of like a
Speaker 1: bill collector type situation for money? Well, I really want
Speaker 1: the second date. Actually, Okay, Well, we'll see if we
Speaker 1: can get you another date. If not, we'll figure out
Speaker 1: how to garnish his wages. So we're cool. We got
Speaker 1: you covered. Tell us a little bit about the guy.
Speaker 1: What's his name? His name is Andy? Andy? All right,
Speaker 1: and what did you do with Andy? Well? We met
Speaker 1: on a dating app and you seem really really cute
Speaker 1: and like funny and stuff on his profile. Um, and
Speaker 1: we sigh to meet at a restaurant. Oh it sounds
Speaker 1: very novel so far. Yeah, yeah, you know, like what
Speaker 1: could possibly go wrong? But they were just like from
Speaker 1: the get go. He didn't open the door for me.
Speaker 1: In fact, it was like a little bit awkward because
Speaker 1: you know, I was like, oh, do you want me
Speaker 1: to get the door for you? And he was like what,
Speaker 1: and so like I opened the door for him and
Speaker 1: I was like, welcome inside, and it was like super awkward.
Speaker 1: So wait, did he seem clueless about the door opening
Speaker 1: or was it something where he was kind of taking
Speaker 1: a stand at the time. He seemed like he didn't
Speaker 1: really know that he was supposed to do that, and oh,
Speaker 1: like I mind opening the door, right right, Okay, but
Speaker 1: you would have preferred that he opened the door for you.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I would have preferred he opened the
Speaker 1: door for me. It's a polite thing to do. Yeah, So,
Speaker 1: you know, I kind of forgot about it at the time,
Speaker 1: but I was really excited to learn about him and
Speaker 1: see what his interests were. So person didn't like really mind,
Speaker 1: but he didn't really ask me any questions about me.
Speaker 1: He Nicole, I hate to stop you, but you want
Speaker 1: to call this guy for another date? Right? I think
Speaker 1: exactly what I'm thinking. Yeah, sounds horrible. No, he's super hot, Nicole.
Speaker 1: Is that what it is? He's super hot and you
Speaker 1: don't care? Is I'm being honest, Like, is that where
Speaker 1: you're at? Okay? Yeah, I mean he's really hot, Okay,
Speaker 1: but I think he's just a little rough around the edges,
Speaker 1: you know, And I think if you were with somebody
Speaker 1: who was really ingenuinely into him, he could like soften
Speaker 1: up a bit. Oh no, oh nice. So you're hoping
Speaker 1: to change his edges a little softer. You turn on
Speaker 1: a project and change the guy that you want to date.
Speaker 1: I don't work. I know how that sounds. I know that,
Speaker 1: I know that, But people change all the time, you know.
Speaker 1: I'm like, who you who you hang out with? You
Speaker 1: know what, Nicole, you tell yourself anything you need to
Speaker 1: tell yourself to convince yourself that this is going to
Speaker 1: work out. Well, no, no, I promise it's not as
Speaker 1: bad as it sounds. I'm serious. So what was the
Speaker 1: highlight of the date since so far? I feel like
Speaker 1: we've heard a lot of low lights. Well, when he
Speaker 1: started talking about fantasy sports. That was something that I
Speaker 1: had no idea really what that was. You're not into it?
Speaker 1: He even talking about that. I mean I thought it
Speaker 1: was kind of cool, you know, I didn't know that
Speaker 1: it wasn't like a real team or you know, like
Speaker 1: he just sticking from the description of your date so far,
Speaker 1: I'm imagining you're not even really talking about fantasy sports.
Speaker 1: He's just checking his fantasy scores while you're talking to
Speaker 1: I think he was on his phone, like maybe once
Speaker 1: that was it, which, you know, okay. I'm just glad
Speaker 1: that he didn't want drink very much and he says
Speaker 1: he's a non smoker, and I don't think he gambled.
Speaker 1: I'm glad he's not that. Okay, So there's some positive Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, we get married tomorrow. It's fine. And so
Speaker 1: what you said that you paid? What happened when the
Speaker 1: bill came? How did that work? Um? You know, I
Speaker 1: think maybe I just jumped the gun because I was
Speaker 1: a little nervous and the bill came and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't mind paying if you want to go half
Speaker 1: or I was I was a little bit like forthcoming
Speaker 1: about it. Um, but he did. He did pay the tip.
Speaker 1: Oh that's good. Oh cool? And tips on the bill
Speaker 1: probably well, I don't know. I just as simped he
Speaker 1: gave a really good tip. I don't know. Okay, So wait,
Speaker 1: I do think it's totally fine for a woman to pay,
Speaker 1: especially if the woman is the one who asked him out,
Speaker 1: are you the one that initiated it on the dating mapp? No? Okay,
Speaker 1: so now I think that's not good. I mean, it
Speaker 1: wasn't really refreshing, like I felt a little bit liberating.
Speaker 1: I also felt a bit broker. All right, So was
Speaker 1: that all you guys? Did go out to dinner? Or
Speaker 1: did you do more? Nope? That's all we did. We
Speaker 1: went out to dinner and then um, he said that
Speaker 1: he had to take off. I think he had an
Speaker 1: early morning. Really, I'm sorry. Okay, anything right? Listen. He
Speaker 1: didn't hold doors open, he didn't ask any questions about you.
Speaker 1: He talked about fantasy football that you're not even into
Speaker 1: the whole time. And then when you asked to split
Speaker 1: the tab, he picked up the tip. Like do when
Speaker 1: you hear that back, do you realize that maybe your
Speaker 1: standards aren't high enough? I know it sounds bad, but
Speaker 1: the truth is he is really confident and bright, and
Speaker 1: the only problem we have right now is that he's
Speaker 1: not texting me back. It's been about a week and
Speaker 1: he hasn't texted me back. Okay, Well, he sounds like
Speaker 1: a really communicative guy, so that's weird for him. I'm sure.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sure he's really busy, you know, but
Speaker 1: before he was texting me a bunch. Okay, well, we'll
Speaker 1: play a song come back, and then see if we
Speaker 1: can get him on the phone and get your second
Speaker 1: date update. Okay, yay, thank you, I'm going to the
Speaker 1: next thing up looking jubil in the morning dates. If
Speaker 1: you're just joining us for today's second day update. Nicole
Speaker 1: is on the phone and she wants to call a
Speaker 1: dude name Andy, and Andy can really only be described
Speaker 1: as a modern day gentleman a night and shining armor.
Speaker 1: They went out for dinner and Andy didn't open a
Speaker 1: single door, didn't even ask her any questions, and just
Speaker 1: talked about his fantasy football team the whole time. And
Speaker 1: at the end of the lovely evening he made her
Speaker 1: pay the bill, but he did offer to leave the
Speaker 1: tip for the server. Yes, Andy, sounds like an amazing date.
Speaker 1: And we're all not sure why Nicole wants to call
Speaker 1: him back, really, but we're about to do it either way. Nicole,
Speaker 1: are you ready to give Andy a call? Yeah, you're ready.
Speaker 1: Let's give him a call. I mean, have you told
Speaker 1: this story to any of your girlfriends. Yes, I just
Speaker 1: don't feel like people really understand, like the good part. Okay,
Speaker 1: So they had the same advice we did, like maybe
Speaker 1: just let this one go. Oh yeah, all right, But
Speaker 1: they don't understand. They weren't there, Nicole. They didn't get
Speaker 1: to see the look on his face when he was
Speaker 1: ignoring you to talk about his fantasy. You guys don't
Speaker 1: get it. I can change him, I really can, if
Speaker 1: we just had some time together and famous last words.
Speaker 1: All right, Well, I'm gonna dallas on him right now
Speaker 1: and see if we can get him on the phone. Okay, awesome.
Speaker 1: I'm excited me too. Can't wait to talk to Andy
Speaker 1: and see if I can feel exactly what you feel
Speaker 1: about him, because I'm still not getting it, Nicole. You'll
Speaker 1: get it, trust me, Okay you say so? Here we go. Hello. Hi?
Speaker 1: Is this Andy? Yes? This is him Andy. What's up? Dude?
Speaker 1: This is Jewel from Brooke and Jewel in the Morning.
Speaker 1: All right, how can I help you? Well, I'm calling
Speaker 1: you today because we got an email about you from
Speaker 1: somebody who listens to the show this show meaning what now,
Speaker 1: I don't understand the radio show Brook and Jewel in
Speaker 1: the Morning. The one that you're currently on. Oh I'm sorry, man,
Speaker 1: I'm getting ready for work right now. I really I
Speaker 1: can't see this right now. Okay, well, if you just
Speaker 1: give us a few minutes, just to like a minute
Speaker 1: of your time, I promise, fine, but I don't have
Speaker 1: a lot of time. Okay, Well, I'll get to straight
Speaker 1: to the point then. Okay, you went out on a
Speaker 1: date the other day with somebody named Nicole, and she
Speaker 1: emailed us because she says you're not texting her back
Speaker 1: anymore and she wants to know why. Well, not all
Speaker 1: first dates in the world need another date, you know
Speaker 1: WHOA can I go? Said? Okay, well, can you give
Speaker 1: us just like another second? We want to know why,
Speaker 1: you know, like I said, some dates don't need another
Speaker 1: one in the world, right, Like I said, that's all
Speaker 1: really it is. Well, but that's not really like an
Speaker 1: explanation of why. Can you just tell us why? I
Speaker 1: know you gotta go. I mean, you know, I'll tell
Speaker 1: you completely honest. I wasn't physically attracted her off the bat. Okay, wait,
Speaker 1: hold on, because the way she described your date, like
Speaker 1: that's fine, that happens, but it sounds like you're like
Speaker 1: kind of rude to her man on the date, I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was. Why would you be rude to her? I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're not attracted to her, maybe you don't want another date,
Speaker 1: whatever that happens, we get it, but like, why would
Speaker 1: you be rude to her? I don't know, she looks
Speaker 1: totally different. I'm tender. You know, you get one of
Speaker 1: those profiles and it's like, oh, she's beautiful, but then
Speaker 1: you see her in person and you're like, no, I can't,
Speaker 1: I can't do this. She looked exactly like my sister. Okay,
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm glad you're not attracted to your sister,
Speaker 1: but we've had second dates where people have been like, dude,
Speaker 1: it was awesome. She looked like my sister. So it's
Speaker 1: good to hear that you're kind of not going that
Speaker 1: way with it. But why be rude though? Why not
Speaker 1: just sit there at least have a good time. Look,
Speaker 1: I don't want to waste anybody's time. I don't want
Speaker 1: to go on a date with somebody who looks like
Speaker 1: my sibling. I don't know, Man, that just still feels
Speaker 1: kind of weird, like that you would like make her
Speaker 1: pay and everything. Look, I tried everything to turn her off,
Speaker 1: talked about my fantasy football all the time. I thought
Speaker 1: I could go on for like a half an hour
Speaker 1: black fantasy football and she wouldn't want to like talk
Speaker 1: to me any more, you know. Oh, so you were
Speaker 1: purposely doing those things. Hell yeah, I did that. And
Speaker 1: after the meal, I belt this just huge belt and
Speaker 1: she thought that was cute. She didn't tell us about
Speaker 1: that part, no, and like, and we get out to
Speaker 1: the parking lot and I'm and we're standing there in
Speaker 1: the parking lot and I'm like, I parked in a
Speaker 1: like a handicap spot for like two hours, and she
Speaker 1: thought that was funny. She didn't think that was like
Speaker 1: a jerk thing to do. So I mean, at this point, like,
Speaker 1: are you I mean, I'm almost even questioning her. I am.
Speaker 1: I'm like, is there anything that can turn you off?
Speaker 1: You know? I like, can I can? I literally say
Speaker 1: I'm on work relief right now. I have to go
Speaker 1: back to prison tomorrow, and she'll think that's cute, that
Speaker 1: is sexy. I like him. He's committed to his job,
Speaker 1: has to be. But whatever, Yeah, So I don't even
Speaker 1: know what's up with this chick. I'm just happy that
Speaker 1: I don't have to talk with her again. That's all
Speaker 1: that really matters to me. So okay, well you kind
Speaker 1: of do because she's on the line listening, wants to
Speaker 1: talk to you. You're joking. Nope, not at all, Nicole.
Speaker 1: You there, Yeah, Hi, hi Andy? Oh god, oh my god,
Speaker 1: it's okay. It's okay. Are you laughing? Nicole? Why it's okay.
Speaker 1: You're the most positive person I think we've ever had
Speaker 1: on this show. Well, no, I mean, I appreciate the honesty.
Speaker 1: Appreciate it. I do. I now I understand why, why
Speaker 1: the thing with the door, and why the fantasy sports
Speaker 1: and everything. Like, I knew you weren't a really you know,
Speaker 1: disrespectful person. I knew that there was probably a reason behind.
Speaker 1: And I thought maybe I don't know, your hand was
Speaker 1: hurt or or you were, you know, low on money
Speaker 1: or something. And I know, like we felt it sometimes
Speaker 1: it just means that you like the food. I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I'll just you know, like not a
Speaker 1: lot of people were very genuine. I I mean, I
Speaker 1: can see why you would do that. Look, I'm not
Speaker 1: good at rejecting people in their faces. So this is
Speaker 1: like the second best thing that I can think about,
Speaker 1: you know, makes sense. Yeah, I mean I'm not I'm
Speaker 1: not very good at rejecting people either. I get it.
Speaker 1: So you're just like, I am so glad we talked
Speaker 1: that out. You were injerkeding me on your first date
Speaker 1: because he didn't think I was attractive, thank you? Well, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: he didn't say that he didn't think I was attractive.
Speaker 1: He said that he wasn't attracted to me because I
Speaker 1: might have a sister. Yeah, you kind of do, and
Speaker 1: that kind of freaks me out a little bit. Well,
Speaker 1: I mean that's better than the other way around, you know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it doesn't change the fact that you look like
Speaker 1: at my sister. No. Yeah, I mean I totally get it.
Speaker 1: I totally I totally get it, and I'm glad to know. Now. Wait, Nicole,
Speaker 1: I mean he doesn't even apologize for his rude behavior, Like,
Speaker 1: at least Andy, can you give her like some apology? Man,
Speaker 1: you know what, You're right. I'm so sorry, Nicole. I
Speaker 1: am so sorry that I didn't reject you right way.
Speaker 1: That that was the right thing to do. That's the
Speaker 1: right thing to do, you know. Yeah, you guys, what
Speaker 1: about human decency and dating? I mean, Nicole get mad? No,
Speaker 1: I mean, why would Why would I get mad when
Speaker 1: he's actually, you know, telling me the truth. Most guys
Speaker 1: don't do that. You know, at least he's not lying
Speaker 1: to get in my pants or anything. You like. There's
Speaker 1: a way to deliver the truth, Nicole, that doesn't end
Speaker 1: up with like you footing the whole bill when you
Speaker 1: asked to split the bill. It like, without him being
Speaker 1: rude and parking in handicapped parking lots, like you can
Speaker 1: be honest and still be respectful of people. Excuse me,
Speaker 1: I paid the tip? Oh my god, he didn't pay
Speaker 1: the tip, and I didn't mind paying for the dinner.
Speaker 1: And I mean, I thought you were cute and fawn,
Speaker 1: so it's well worth it to me. All right, Nicole,
Speaker 1: you're the most understanding person, yes whatever. I have been
Speaker 1: told that. But you do look like Andy's sister. That
Speaker 1: is a problem, I guess. Yeah, But I still have
Speaker 1: to ask Andy, Andy, would you like to go out
Speaker 1: with Nicole on another date? We'll pay for it. Oh man,
Speaker 1: it's I have really hard time saying no. I have
Speaker 1: just clearly I have an extremely difficult time saying no.
Speaker 1: It's I guess I'll reluctantly. So yeah, sure, yeah, what
Speaker 1: you're gonna go out with her again? I thought you
Speaker 1: were to trant it to her. Look, I'm really bad
Speaker 1: at rejecting people to the faces. So yeah, I'll take
Speaker 1: the date. We can go out as friends. You guys
Speaker 1: pay for it. That's great, Nicole, So a friend date? Nicole?
Speaker 1: Are you still down to go out with Andy? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I want to go. You're gonna turn You're turning yourself
Speaker 1: into a doormat YEA. Well no, no, no, I mean
Speaker 1: I can see you'd do it that way, but I
Speaker 1: see it differently. You know, you hear about people starting
Speaker 1: off as friends all the time and then you know,
Speaker 1: blossomed into something more you don't know. Nope, not happening.
Speaker 1: We're going out as friends. Sorry, I'm sure you're a
Speaker 1: great friend too. I mean, yeah, sounds like it. Well, Nicole,
Speaker 1: congratulations you got a second date. And Andy, congratulations on
Speaker 1: getting a second date with your sister. The text in
Speaker 1: at seven eight five nine two says that second date
Speaker 1: update is so sad. I feel like I'm listening to
Speaker 1: my twenty two year old self before I watched. He's
Speaker 1: just not that into you. Yeah, it's broken Jewel in
Speaker 1: the morning talking about today's second date update. If you
Speaker 1: missed it, Nicole wanted to call a dude named Andy.
Speaker 1: Andy was kind of a jerk on the date. That's
Speaker 1: an understatement. Yeah, and Andy was a jerk because she
Speaker 1: didn't want to go out with her, but she still
Speaker 1: thought she could change him, Oh and make Andy like her.
Speaker 1: No one can. We just established no one ever changes, Okay,
Speaker 1: I mean, and if they do, it has nothing to
Speaker 1: do with you. It has to come from within. They
Speaker 1: have to want to change. And if you're causing somebody
Speaker 1: else to change, they might change a little bit for
Speaker 1: a little while, and then they get very angry that
Speaker 1: you're not allowing them to be themselves. Yeah, it doesn't work.
Speaker 1: So yeah, it's usually pretty bad. And then also you
Speaker 1: tell someone to change and then you're like you've changed,
Speaker 1: and it's like, yeah, you wanted me to change. This
Speaker 1: is so common because I know girls that like jerks,
Speaker 1: and I don't think it's a reverse psychology thing. Guys
Speaker 1: are honestly pretty blunt, pretty like the ill ignore you.
Speaker 1: They'll tell you a know things, and some chicks love that.
Speaker 1: It's just because they're a doormat and they don't have
Speaker 1: the self esteem to realize that they're better than that
Speaker 1: because they've they're treating themselves that way, or they're in
Speaker 1: love and they know that if that person would just
Speaker 1: change their behavior a little bit, they could be together forever.
Speaker 1: They did decide to go out again, but Andy said,
Speaker 1: not romantically. We can go out as friends, and she's like, okay,
Speaker 1: But in her mind she's like, we'll go out one
Speaker 1: more time his friends. Yeah, we'll have a couple of
Speaker 1: drinks and he's gonna realize that he loves me, and
Speaker 1: they're gonna make a movie about this one day, a
Speaker 1: Hollywood movie based on this romance, and then she's gonna
Speaker 1: be single at forty five and be like, I don't
Speaker 1: know what happened. Why I keep I don't get it. Remember,
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