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<v Speaker 1>Nicole is on the phone and apparently she paid for

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<v Speaker 1>everything on her first date and now she's not getting

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<v Speaker 1>a call back. So I guess my question to you,

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<v Speaker 1>Nicole is are you calling because you want another date

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<v Speaker 1>with this dude or is this more of like a

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<v Speaker 1>bill collector type situation for money? Well, I really want

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<v Speaker 1>the second date. Actually, Okay, Well, we'll see if we

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<v Speaker 1>can get you another date. If not, we'll figure out

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<v Speaker 1>how to garnish his wages. So we're cool. We got

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<v Speaker 1>you covered. Tell us a little bit about the guy.

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<v Speaker 1>What's his name? His name is Andy? Andy? All right,

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<v Speaker 1>and what did you do with Andy? Well? We met

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<v Speaker 1>on a dating app and you seem really really cute

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<v Speaker 1>and like funny and stuff on his profile. Um, and

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<v Speaker 1>we sigh to meet at a restaurant. Oh it sounds

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<v Speaker 1>very novel so far. Yeah, yeah, you know, like what

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<v Speaker 1>could possibly go wrong? But they were just like from

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<v Speaker 1>the get go. He didn't open the door for me.

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<v Speaker 1>In fact, it was like a little bit awkward because

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I was like, oh, do you want me

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<v Speaker 1>to get the door for you? And he was like what,

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<v Speaker 1>and so like I opened the door for him and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, welcome inside, and it was like super awkward.

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<v Speaker 1>So wait, did he seem clueless about the door opening

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<v Speaker 1>or was it something where he was kind of taking

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<v Speaker 1>a stand at the time. He seemed like he didn't

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<v Speaker 1>really know that he was supposed to do that, and oh,

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<v Speaker 1>like I mind opening the door, right right, Okay, but

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<v Speaker 1>you would have preferred that he opened the door for you.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, yeah, I would have preferred he opened the

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<v Speaker 1>door for me. It's a polite thing to do. Yeah, So,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I kind of forgot about it at the time,

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<v Speaker 1>but I was really excited to learn about him and

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<v Speaker 1>see what his interests were. So person didn't like really mind,

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<v Speaker 1>but he didn't really ask me any questions about me.

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<v Speaker 1>He Nicole, I hate to stop you, but you want

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<v Speaker 1>to call this guy for another date? Right? I think

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<v Speaker 1>exactly what I'm thinking. Yeah, sounds horrible. No, he's super hot, Nicole.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that what it is? He's super hot and you

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<v Speaker 1>don't care? Is I'm being honest, Like, is that where

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<v Speaker 1>you're at? Okay? Yeah, I mean he's really hot, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but I think he's just a little rough around the edges,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, And I think if you were with somebody

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<v Speaker 1>who was really ingenuinely into him, he could like soften

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<v Speaker 1>up a bit. Oh no, oh nice. So you're hoping

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<v Speaker 1>to change his edges a little softer. You turn on

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<v Speaker 1>a project and change the guy that you want to date.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't work. I know how that sounds. I know that,

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<v Speaker 1>I know that, But people change all the time, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, who you who you hang out with? You

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<v Speaker 1>know what, Nicole, you tell yourself anything you need to

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<v Speaker 1>tell yourself to convince yourself that this is going to

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<v Speaker 1>work out. Well, no, no, I promise it's not as

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<v Speaker 1>bad as it sounds. I'm serious. So what was the

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<v Speaker 1>highlight of the date since so far? I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>we've heard a lot of low lights. Well, when he

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<v Speaker 1>started talking about fantasy sports. That was something that I

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<v Speaker 1>had no idea really what that was. You're not into it?

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<v Speaker 1>He even talking about that. I mean I thought it

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<v Speaker 1>was kind of cool, you know, I didn't know that

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't like a real team or you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>he just sticking from the description of your date so far,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm imagining you're not even really talking about fantasy sports.

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<v Speaker 1>He's just checking his fantasy scores while you're talking to

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<v Speaker 1>I think he was on his phone, like maybe once

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<v Speaker 1>that was it, which, you know, okay. I'm just glad

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<v Speaker 1>that he didn't want drink very much and he says

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<v Speaker 1>he's a non smoker, and I don't think he gambled.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm glad he's not that. Okay, So there's some positive Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, we get married tomorrow. It's fine. And so

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<v Speaker 1>what you said that you paid? What happened when the

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<v Speaker 1>bill came? How did that work? Um? You know, I

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<v Speaker 1>think maybe I just jumped the gun because I was

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<v Speaker 1>a little nervous and the bill came and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't mind paying if you want to go half

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<v Speaker 1>or I was I was a little bit like forthcoming

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<v Speaker 1>about it. Um, but he did. He did pay the tip.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that's good. Oh cool? And tips on the bill

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<v Speaker 1>probably well, I don't know. I just as simped he

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<v Speaker 1>gave a really good tip. I don't know. Okay, So wait,

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<v Speaker 1>I do think it's totally fine for a woman to pay,

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<v Speaker 1>especially if the woman is the one who asked him out,

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<v Speaker 1>are you the one that initiated it on the dating mapp? No? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so now I think that's not good. I mean, it

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't really refreshing, like I felt a little bit liberating.

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<v Speaker 1>I also felt a bit broker. All right, So was

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<v Speaker 1>that all you guys? Did go out to dinner? Or

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<v Speaker 1>did you do more? Nope? That's all we did. We

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<v Speaker 1>went out to dinner and then um, he said that

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<v Speaker 1>he had to take off. I think he had an

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<v Speaker 1>early morning. Really, I'm sorry. Okay, anything right? Listen. He

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<v Speaker 1>didn't hold doors open, he didn't ask any questions about you.

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<v Speaker 1>He talked about fantasy football that you're not even into

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<v Speaker 1>the whole time. And then when you asked to split

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<v Speaker 1>the tab, he picked up the tip. Like do when

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<v Speaker 1>you hear that back, do you realize that maybe your

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<v Speaker 1>standards aren't high enough? I know it sounds bad, but

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<v Speaker 1>the truth is he is really confident and bright, and

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<v Speaker 1>the only problem we have right now is that he's

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<v Speaker 1>not texting me back. It's been about a week and

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<v Speaker 1>he hasn't texted me back. Okay, Well, he sounds like

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<v Speaker 1>a really communicative guy, so that's weird for him. I'm sure.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm sure he's really busy, you know, but

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<v Speaker 1>before he was texting me a bunch. Okay, well, we'll

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<v Speaker 1>play a song come back, and then see if we

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<v Speaker 1>can get him on the phone and get your second

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<v Speaker 1>date update. Okay, yay, thank you, I'm going to the

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<v Speaker 1>next thing up looking jubil in the morning dates. If

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<v Speaker 1>you're just joining us for today's second day update. Nicole

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<v Speaker 1>is on the phone and she wants to call a

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<v Speaker 1>dude name Andy, and Andy can really only be described

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<v Speaker 1>as a modern day gentleman a night and shining armor.

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<v Speaker 1>They went out for dinner and Andy didn't open a

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<v Speaker 1>single door, didn't even ask her any questions, and just

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<v Speaker 1>talked about his fantasy football team the whole time. And

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of the lovely evening he made her

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<v Speaker 1>pay the bill, but he did offer to leave the

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<v Speaker 1>tip for the server. Yes, Andy, sounds like an amazing date.

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<v Speaker 1>And we're all not sure why Nicole wants to call

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<v Speaker 1>him back, really, but we're about to do it either way. Nicole,

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<v Speaker 1>are you ready to give Andy a call? Yeah, you're ready.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's give him a call. I mean, have you told

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<v Speaker 1>this story to any of your girlfriends. Yes, I just

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<v Speaker 1>don't feel like people really understand, like the good part. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So they had the same advice we did, like maybe

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<v Speaker 1>just let this one go. Oh yeah, all right, But

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<v Speaker 1>they don't understand. They weren't there, Nicole. They didn't get

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<v Speaker 1>to see the look on his face when he was

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<v Speaker 1>ignoring you to talk about his fantasy. You guys don't

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<v Speaker 1>get it. I can change him, I really can, if

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<v Speaker 1>we just had some time together and famous last words.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Well, I'm gonna dallas on him right now

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<v Speaker 1>and see if we can get him on the phone. Okay, awesome.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm excited me too. Can't wait to talk to Andy

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<v Speaker 1>and see if I can feel exactly what you feel

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<v Speaker 1>about him, because I'm still not getting it, Nicole. You'll

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<v Speaker 1>get it, trust me, Okay you say so? Here we go. Hello. Hi?

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<v Speaker 1>Is this Andy? Yes? This is him Andy. What's up? Dude?

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<v Speaker 1>This is Jewel from Brooke and Jewel in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, how can I help you? Well, I'm calling

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<v Speaker 1>you today because we got an email about you from

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<v Speaker 1>somebody who listens to the show this show meaning what now,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't understand the radio show Brook and Jewel in

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<v Speaker 1>the Morning. The one that you're currently on. Oh I'm sorry, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm getting ready for work right now. I really I

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<v Speaker 1>can't see this right now. Okay, well, if you just

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<v Speaker 1>give us a few minutes, just to like a minute

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<v Speaker 1>of your time, I promise, fine, but I don't have

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of time. Okay, Well, I'll get to straight

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<v Speaker 1>to the point then. Okay, you went out on a

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<v Speaker 1>date the other day with somebody named Nicole, and she

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<v Speaker 1>emailed us because she says you're not texting her back

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<v Speaker 1>anymore and she wants to know why. Well, not all

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<v Speaker 1>first dates in the world need another date, you know

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<v Speaker 1>WHOA can I go? Said? Okay, well, can you give

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<v Speaker 1>us just like another second? We want to know why,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like I said, some dates don't need another

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<v Speaker 1>one in the world, right, Like I said, that's all

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<v Speaker 1>really it is. Well, but that's not really like an

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<v Speaker 1>explanation of why. Can you just tell us why? I

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<v Speaker 1>know you gotta go. I mean, you know, I'll tell

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<v Speaker 1>you completely honest. I wasn't physically attracted her off the bat. Okay, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>hold on, because the way she described your date, like

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<v Speaker 1>that's fine, that happens, but it sounds like you're like

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<v Speaker 1>kind of rude to her man on the date, I mean, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I was. Why would you be rude to her? I mean, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not attracted to her, maybe you don't want another date,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever that happens, we get it, but like, why would

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<v Speaker 1>you be rude to her? I don't know, she looks

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<v Speaker 1>totally different. I'm tender. You know, you get one of

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<v Speaker 1>those profiles and it's like, oh, she's beautiful, but then

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<v Speaker 1>you see her in person and you're like, no, I can't,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't do this. She looked exactly like my sister. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm glad you're not attracted to your sister,

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<v Speaker 1>but we've had second dates where people have been like, dude,

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<v Speaker 1>it was awesome. She looked like my sister. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>good to hear that you're kind of not going that

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<v Speaker 1>way with it. But why be rude though? Why not

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<v Speaker 1>just sit there at least have a good time. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to waste anybody's time. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to go on a date with somebody who looks like

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<v Speaker 1>my sibling. I don't know, Man, that just still feels

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<v Speaker 1>kind of weird, like that you would like make her

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<v Speaker 1>pay and everything. Look, I tried everything to turn her off,

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<v Speaker 1>talked about my fantasy football all the time. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>I could go on for like a half an hour

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<v Speaker 1>black fantasy football and she wouldn't want to like talk

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<v Speaker 1>to me any more, you know. Oh, so you were

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<v Speaker 1>purposely doing those things. Hell yeah, I did that. And

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<v Speaker 1>after the meal, I belt this just huge belt and

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<v Speaker 1>she thought that was cute. She didn't tell us about

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<v Speaker 1>that part, no, and like, and we get out to

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<v Speaker 1>the parking lot and I'm and we're standing there in

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<v Speaker 1>the parking lot and I'm like, I parked in a

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<v Speaker 1>like a handicap spot for like two hours, and she

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<v Speaker 1>thought that was funny. She didn't think that was like

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<v Speaker 1>a jerk thing to do. So I mean, at this point, like,

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<v Speaker 1>are you I mean, I'm almost even questioning her. I am.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, is there anything that can turn you off?

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<v Speaker 1>You know? I like, can I can? I literally say

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<v Speaker 1>I'm on work relief right now. I have to go

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<v Speaker 1>back to prison tomorrow, and she'll think that's cute, that

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<v Speaker 1>is sexy. I like him. He's committed to his job,

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<v Speaker 1>has to be. But whatever, Yeah, So I don't even

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<v Speaker 1>know what's up with this chick. I'm just happy that

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have to talk with her again. That's all

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<v Speaker 1>that really matters to me. So okay, well you kind

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<v Speaker 1>of do because she's on the line listening, wants to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to you. You're joking. Nope, not at all, Nicole.

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<v Speaker 1>You there, Yeah, Hi, hi Andy? Oh god, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay. It's okay. Are you laughing? Nicole? Why it's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>You're the most positive person I think we've ever had

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<v Speaker 1>on this show. Well, no, I mean, I appreciate the honesty.

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<v Speaker 1>Appreciate it. I do. I now I understand why, why

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<v Speaker 1>the thing with the door, and why the fantasy sports

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<v Speaker 1>and everything. Like, I knew you weren't a really you know,

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<v Speaker 1>disrespectful person. I knew that there was probably a reason behind.

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<v Speaker 1>And I thought maybe I don't know, your hand was

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<v Speaker 1>hurt or or you were, you know, low on money

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<v Speaker 1>or something. And I know, like we felt it sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>it just means that you like the food. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I'll just you know, like not a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people were very genuine. I I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>can see why you would do that. Look, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>good at rejecting people in their faces. So this is

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<v Speaker 1>like the second best thing that I can think about,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, makes sense. Yeah, I mean I'm not I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not very good at rejecting people either. I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're just like, I am so glad we talked

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<v Speaker 1>that out. You were injerkeding me on your first date

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<v Speaker 1>because he didn't think I was attractive, thank you? Well, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't say that he didn't think I was attractive.

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<v Speaker 1>He said that he wasn't attracted to me because I

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<v Speaker 1>might have a sister. Yeah, you kind of do, and

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<v Speaker 1>that kind of freaks me out a little bit. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that's better than the other way around, you know, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but it doesn't change the fact that you look like

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<v Speaker 1>at my sister. No. Yeah, I mean I totally get it.

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<v Speaker 1>I totally I totally get it, and I'm glad to know. Now. Wait, Nicole,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean he doesn't even apologize for his rude behavior, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>at least Andy, can you give her like some apology? Man,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, You're right. I'm so sorry, Nicole. I

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<v Speaker 1>am so sorry that I didn't reject you right way.

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<v Speaker 1>That that was the right thing to do. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>right thing to do, you know. Yeah, you guys, what

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<v Speaker 1>about human decency and dating? I mean, Nicole get mad? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, why would Why would I get mad when

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<v Speaker 1>he's actually, you know, telling me the truth. Most guys

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<v Speaker 1>don't do that. You know, at least he's not lying

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<v Speaker 1>to get in my pants or anything. You like. There's

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<v Speaker 1>a way to deliver the truth, Nicole, that doesn't end

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<v Speaker 1>up with like you footing the whole bill when you

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<v Speaker 1>asked to split the bill. It like, without him being

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<v Speaker 1>rude and parking in handicapped parking lots, like you can

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<v Speaker 1>be honest and still be respectful of people. Excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>I paid the tip? Oh my god, he didn't pay

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<v Speaker 1>the tip, and I didn't mind paying for the dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>And I mean, I thought you were cute and fawn,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's well worth it to me. All right, Nicole,

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<v Speaker 1>you're the most understanding person, yes whatever. I have been

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<v Speaker 1>told that. But you do look like Andy's sister. That

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<v Speaker 1>is a problem, I guess. Yeah, But I still have

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<v Speaker 1>to ask Andy, Andy, would you like to go out

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<v Speaker 1>with Nicole on another date? We'll pay for it. Oh man,

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<v Speaker 1>it's I have really hard time saying no. I have

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<v Speaker 1>just clearly I have an extremely difficult time saying no.

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<v Speaker 1>It's I guess I'll reluctantly. So yeah, sure, yeah, what

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna go out with her again? I thought you

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<v Speaker 1>were to trant it to her. Look, I'm really bad

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<v Speaker 1>at rejecting people to the faces. So yeah, I'll take

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<v Speaker 1>the date. We can go out as friends. You guys

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<v Speaker 1>pay for it. That's great, Nicole, So a friend date? Nicole?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you still down to go out with Andy? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I want to go. You're gonna turn You're turning yourself

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<v Speaker 1>into a doormat YEA. Well no, no, no, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I can see you'd do it that way, but I

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<v Speaker 1>see it differently. You know, you hear about people starting

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<v Speaker 1>off as friends all the time and then you know,

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<v Speaker 1>blossomed into something more you don't know. Nope, not happening.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going out as friends. Sorry, I'm sure you're a

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<v Speaker 1>great friend too. I mean, yeah, sounds like it. Well, Nicole,

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<v Speaker 1>congratulations you got a second date. And Andy, congratulations on

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<v Speaker 1>getting a second date with your sister. The text in

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<v Speaker 1>at seven eight five nine two says that second date

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<v Speaker 1>update is so sad. I feel like I'm listening to

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<v Speaker 1>my twenty two year old self before I watched. He's

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<v Speaker 1>just not that into you. Yeah, it's broken Jewel in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning talking about today's second date update. If you

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<v Speaker 1>missed it, Nicole wanted to call a dude named Andy.

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<v Speaker 1>Andy was kind of a jerk on the date. That's

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<v Speaker 1>an understatement. Yeah, and Andy was a jerk because she

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want to go out with her, but she still

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<v Speaker 1>thought she could change him, Oh and make Andy like her.

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<v Speaker 1>No one can. We just established no one ever changes, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, and if they do, it has nothing to

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<v Speaker 1>do with you. It has to come from within. They

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<v Speaker 1>have to want to change. And if you're causing somebody

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<v Speaker 1>else to change, they might change a little bit for

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<v Speaker 1>a little while, and then they get very angry that

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<v Speaker 1>you're not allowing them to be themselves. Yeah, it doesn't work.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, it's usually pretty bad. And then also you

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<v Speaker 1>tell someone to change and then you're like you've changed,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's like, yeah, you wanted me to change. This

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<v Speaker 1>is so common because I know girls that like jerks,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't think it's a reverse psychology thing. Guys

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<v Speaker 1>are honestly pretty blunt, pretty like the ill ignore you.

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<v Speaker 1>They'll tell you a know things, and some chicks love that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just because they're a doormat and they don't have

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<v Speaker 1>the self esteem to realize that they're better than that

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<v Speaker 1>because they've they're treating themselves that way, or they're in

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<v Speaker 1>love and they know that if that person would just

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<v Speaker 1>change their behavior a little bit, they could be together forever.

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<v Speaker 1>They did decide to go out again, but Andy said,

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<v Speaker 1>not romantically. We can go out as friends, and she's like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>But in her mind she's like, we'll go out one

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<v Speaker 1>more time his friends. Yeah, we'll have a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>drinks and he's gonna realize that he loves me, and

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<v Speaker 1>they're gonna make a movie about this one day, a

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<v Speaker 1>Hollywood movie based on this romance, and then she's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be single at forty five and be like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what happened. Why I keep I don't get it. Remember,

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to do a second date update, all

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<v Speaker 1>you have to do is email the show and we

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<v Speaker 1>will call the person who didn't call you back by

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<v Speaker 1>ninety two point five