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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcasts Hell Love everyone.

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Speaker 2: We are scrubbing it.

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Speaker 3: I like it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't see, but it's spear of fingers hello everyone.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: By the way, here's a fun fact about Tanya. When

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Speaker 3: she records commercials for Kiss, she waves because then now

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Speaker 3: I start with hi everyone, it's Tanya, right, Tanya, And

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Speaker 3: she waves to get into the hey, the headspace of

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Speaker 3: actually someone actually saying hello to you.

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Speaker 4: I want to smile too.

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Speaker 1: I want the inflection and ffliction of my boys to

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Speaker 1: sound like I'm saying hey, I'm waving, not.

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Speaker 3: Acting like actually saying hi to you. So she waves,

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Speaker 3: No one, I will help if I'm in the studio,

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Speaker 3: and I will wait, wait back.

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Speaker 2: It's just partnership right there.

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Speaker 3: It makes your smile more, which makes it a better commercial.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well it's beautiful. Thank you for sharing that. And

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Speaker 2: now the when I hear her on.

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Speaker 1: The radio, but I'll do it now on the podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hey everyone, scrubbing anything, I'll wave every time.

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Speaker 3: Great love that you remember back in the day when

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Speaker 3: we were to like rehearse your commercials, Yes, yeah, that's crazy.

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Speaker 3: When she first started doing commercials, she had like she

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Speaker 3: was nervous about it. You know, we had to run

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Speaker 3: it a few times them like one hundred the tone right, yeah.

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Speaker 1: I know, like a little duck like learning how to walk.

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Speaker 2: They do Okay, did that sound okay?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeahould say that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, especially the news too. The news was like

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Speaker 1: a whole.

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Speaker 2: No new intimidate Meal Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 3: There's like an inflection that you have to have, like

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Speaker 3: ending a story going into the next story. It's like

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Speaker 3: if you want to keep the train going clear.

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Speaker 1: Don't act like there's a set period, just keep it going.

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, there's a period, so I can't keep it. Guy,

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Speaker 1: I talk, Yeah, that's how I read your text messages.

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Speaker 2: That's funny. I don't think that's how you talk. Well, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I really have been.

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Speaker 6: It's interesting, you know, I forget that you're just y'all

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Speaker 6: are all on just a national radio station, and like

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Speaker 6: my cousins and people text me and be like it's

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Speaker 6: so crazy hearing you know, them talk, and then your

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Speaker 6: name's mentioned or like Ryan will mention your name.

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Speaker 4: I feel like we mentioned your name.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you come up quite a bit.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, honored truly, but it's so crazy because I'm just

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Speaker 6: you know, y'all are my friends.

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Speaker 2: Y'all are a big, big deal in this world, big

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Speaker 2: deal in this radio world, national, nationally.

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Speaker 4: That's right, that's right.

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Speaker 2: And don't you forget it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, don't you forget it?

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Speaker 6: Speaking of coworkers, are first, dear bomb. Your question leads

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Speaker 6: right into.

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Speaker 3: It, sure does. It's from an anonymous scrubber who says,

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Speaker 3: dear beca Tanya Mark. Andi's the longtime listener here. I

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Speaker 3: never miss an episode and I look forward to it

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Speaker 3: twice a week. I need help. I'm falling hard for

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Speaker 3: a close friend I've worked with for about a year

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Speaker 3: and a half, and for the past year our roles

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Speaker 3: at work, texting daily, hanging out outside of work. I'm

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Speaker 3: openly out and a few months ago she told me

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Speaker 3: she's by Our conversations have gotten deeper, more personal, and

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Speaker 3: honestly flirty. She often compliments me, saying things like you

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Speaker 3: look beautiful, well, you always do. Recently, ad a tough

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Speaker 3: week and when I saw her, she gave me the

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Speaker 3: both in our late thirties with kids who now hang

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Speaker 3: out to which makes me fall even harder. The tricky part,

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Speaker 3: I feel like we both avoid being alone together for

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Speaker 3: too long, almost like we're keeping a buffer. Her divorce

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Speaker 4: Make your move, Yeah, make the move.

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Speaker 2: I also.

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Speaker 6: I will compliment someone like I'll be like, oh, you know, Tanya, you.

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Speaker 2: Look so beautiful today. But if I was like you

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Speaker 4: I would definitely think you're flirting.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, there's just like it's different giving a compliment, but then.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like it's like, oh, I love your outfit, I'd

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Speaker 7: Onto That definitely is a tall tale sign of flirting. Yeah,

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Speaker 7: but I think y'all both are feeling it. I I

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Speaker 7: don't know if it's a I mean, I think you

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Speaker 7: she's waiting for that thing, keeping keeping y'alls alone, time limited,

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Speaker 7: Maybe the vanish is final.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but like these paperwork and stuff, this stuff takes

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Speaker 1: so much longer PaperWorks work. I say, you dig in now,

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Speaker 1: there's no time.

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Speaker 4: If not now.

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Speaker 2: When?

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Speaker 1: If not you, who, if not her?

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Speaker 2: Who?

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Speaker 4: If it's not now, it's not if it's.

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Speaker 2: Not why no? Not here?

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Speaker 4: Not here? Where?

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Speaker 2: Here's my here's my thing?

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Speaker 1: Though?

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Speaker 2: When when you're going through it?

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Speaker 3: Because that's why?

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Speaker 6: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Is it like one of those things where there might

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Speaker 2: is final in terms of child support.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's involved. I think wait for them. It's only

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Speaker 3: a month. Keep keep flirting, keep establishing a foundation. Divorce

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Speaker 3: is final, we move in.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is a month, a month away.

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Speaker 4: I don't think it's gonna be a month.

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Speaker 1: I think it's gonna be more well what we have.

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Speaker 4: But I'm just saying she might.

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Speaker 3: Think, you know, what's in a month? The fourth of

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Speaker 3: July is a month from today.

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Speaker 6: That's cra Also, no one wished me Happy Pride as

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Speaker 4: I mon, it's your your month only.

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Speaker 2: No, it's not just my month, correct, it's everyone's month.

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Speaker 1: Yes, happy Pride month. Are you offended that we didn't

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Speaker 7: No?

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Speaker 2: No, no, But he was just saying, you know what's

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Speaker 8: So I just skipped Rainbow flag?

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Speaker 2: Why are you rushing Pride month?

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Speaker 1: Mark?

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Speaker 4: Are you going to the Pride Pride?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Haley wanted to do something for Pride,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but it was a little late for me personally.

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Speaker 6: I don't have a big crowd, yeah, and I don't

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Speaker 2: So yeah, but we'll probably do something. Okay, I'll let

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Speaker 1: Love me not because I might be there as well.

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Speaker 2: You might be roaming the streets.

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Speaker 1: Yeah on Sunday?

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Speaker 2: Oh really?

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Speaker 4: With whom wouldn't you like to know. Yeah, my husband.

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Speaker 3: The way, I haven't eat pride story. I thought this

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Speaker 3: But whatever, so Utah did. They said, you can no

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Speaker 3: What do you mean?

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Speaker 2: How did they do that?

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Speaker 3: They read they made you can have multiple city flags.

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Speaker 1: Sol has a logo on I don't know the Salt

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Speaker 3: We have red and white stripes on the American flag.

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Speaker 2: Another day, spread and white red and white stripes.

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Speaker 3: Are they put You're not to mess with the American flag.

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Speaker 3: That's not like they're fine flat and city flags are

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Speaker 10: The there's a Salt Lake city flag and then the

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Speaker 1: Thank you for the visuals, because that's what I was

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Speaker 1: really needing.

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Speaker 8: Okay, this is this is the one.

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Speaker 6: Oh cute picturing the blue and white of the that's

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Speaker 6: what you were thinking.

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Speaker 10: Yes, yes, they have like it looks like a flower

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Speaker 8: They just put that on top of the rain.

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Speaker 3: I thought that was neat for you know.

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Speaker 6: What's interesting is a lot of people are like, oh, like,

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Speaker 6: don't shove that in our face and blah blah blah,

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Speaker 6: like you don't have to have it on everything. But

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Speaker 6: I saw there's this commercial and like, a it's a

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Speaker 6: different country, I think Sweden or something, and they were

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Speaker 6: it's they were talking about pride, and it's this gay

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Speaker 2: It's this other guy that like looks like would.

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Speaker 6: Be someone who wouldn't agree with this man's lifestyle or

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Speaker 6: would say he wouldn't agree with it, sits down in

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Speaker 6: he gets uncomfortable and like uncrosses his legs and tries

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Speaker 6: I think that dipping your toe in and going on

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Speaker 1: I think that's wrong. I feel like that's where it

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Speaker 6: Yeah, Like there was no doubt in my mind when

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Speaker 2: It sounds like there are no teas, but the tingles

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Speaker 6: I think this is a good practice, though, for you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would say it's toxic. Remember Charlie Pooth wrote

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Speaker 6: You just want attention, Yeah, I mean, I think it's

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Speaker 1: to drop. And that's also like a mindset thing too,

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Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? So I think therapy

446
00:20:38,920 --> 00:20:41,960
Speaker 1: would definitely help. I also think too, don't weigh out.

447
00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:44,000
Speaker 1: I don't know, you know, medication I think can be

448
00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:45,720
Speaker 1: very helpful in these things. But also it is like

449
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Speaker 1: I think therapy can help because it is like a

450
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Speaker 1: mind it's like a mind shift because you're in this

451
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Speaker 1: dark hole and it's very like understandable why you're in it,

452
00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:02,840
Speaker 1: but now you just have to climb out of it.

453
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Speaker 3: And also there's the mentality can be and this may

454
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Speaker 3: be naive, is to focus on the positives, like the

455
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Speaker 3: fact that he's doing so much better now that he

456
00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:14,760
Speaker 3: laughed at whatever he laughed at today. I guess there's

457
00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:17,000
Speaker 3: got to be a way that is, focus on whatever

458
00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:19,640
Speaker 3: good there is in your life, or like, look at.

459
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Speaker 1: How we handled this. If we can handle this, we

460
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Speaker 1: can do anything right.

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Speaker 6: I also think finding moms and parents who have been

462
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Speaker 6: to the same things, like finding a community, because no

463
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Speaker 6: one who hasn't experienced something like that will ever be

464
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Speaker 6: able to comfort you. Because it's so easy to have

465
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Speaker 6: a perspective on it when you're not going through it,

466
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Speaker 6: and so I think finding people who are going through

467
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Speaker 6: it or who have been through it or on the

468
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Speaker 6: other side would be really comforting for you. Yeah, just

469
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Speaker 6: to have a community of people who have experienced the

470
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Speaker 6: same feelings of heaviness and grief and darkness. I think

471
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Speaker 6: there's something about community in that, and it's probably a

472
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Speaker 6: community that no one wants to be a part of,

473
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Speaker 6: but I think think each other would be something that

474
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Speaker 6: would probably make you feel seen and understood during this.

475
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Speaker 2: I agree, And maybe.

476
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Speaker 6: They're scrubbers who have also experienced this with their kids.

477
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Speaker 6: Are were the kid, you know? Yeah, So I would

478
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Speaker 6: just seek community and know that we're thinking of you

479
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Speaker 6: and your family and praying for complete health.

480
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Speaker 2: And a win for your family.

481
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and thank you for listening to our podcast.

482
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Speaker 2: Yeah. Should we take a break?

483
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Speaker 3: I think that's good.

484
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Speaker 5: Okay, all right, we are back with a few.

485
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Speaker 2: More or.

486
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Speaker 3: De Yeah, a lighter note here, Hello, scrub Team. Day

487
00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:08,639
Speaker 3: one listener, first time or advice.

488
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Speaker 4: Asked her not the tongue twistern.

489
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Speaker 3: It was Molly. By the way, I'm a new mom

490
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Speaker 3: to a baby girl. My daughter's three months old and

491
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:16,720
Speaker 3: is as cute as can be. A few people have

492
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:19,280
Speaker 3: asked me about the topic of getting her ears pierced.

493
00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 3: I didn't have mine done until I was around twelve.

494
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:23,640
Speaker 3: I was jealous of the girls who hadn't be done

495
00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:25,200
Speaker 3: when they were a little because they have no memory

496
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Speaker 3: of it. At the same time, it was cool that

497
00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:29,280
Speaker 3: I got to choose whether I wanted to have my

498
00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 3: ears pierced or not, though I haven't met anyone who

499
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Speaker 3: had them done as an infant who was mad at

500
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Speaker 3: their parents for having them done, and honestly, if they were,

501
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:37,840
Speaker 3: they could just take them out. My question to Becca

502
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Speaker 3: and Tanya is when did you get your ears pierced?

503
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Speaker 3: Should I get my daughter's pierced at six months? Should

504
00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:44,639
Speaker 3: I wait and let her decide when she's older? Mark,

505
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:46,879
Speaker 3: when did your girls have their ears pierced? For the record,

506
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:49,200
Speaker 3: my husband doesn't care. It's fine with whatever I choose

507
00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:50,359
Speaker 3: for my daughter. Thanks so much.

508
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Speaker 2: I think I was. I feel like I was around nine.

509
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Speaker 6: I got them piers and then they closed up because

510
00:23:59,880 --> 00:24:02,359
Speaker 6: I didn't keep the earrings in, and.

511
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:04,000
Speaker 4: Then I went back at like twelve.

512
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Speaker 6: Maybe I think after the first time, my MOLM was like,

513
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 6: we are not doing this again until you are older.

514
00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:14,000
Speaker 6: But I loved like the sticker ear rings and the

515
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 6: magnet ear rings, but you can't really do those on

516
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:18,560
Speaker 6: a child because that's dangerous.

517
00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 4: So yeah, I.

518
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Speaker 2: Mean my thing.

519
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Speaker 6: I'm torn on this because it is like a process.

520
00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:27,320
Speaker 6: You have to keep them clean and like, you know,

521
00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 6: it's a little more work that you add onto already

522
00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,760
Speaker 6: being a mom to a baby. But I do think

523
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Speaker 6: people who got their ear spears at a young age

524
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:40,000
Speaker 6: don't really have any resentment about it. Yeah, but I

525
00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:42,280
Speaker 6: guess they could grow up and be like I did

526
00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:44,000
Speaker 6: not want I didn't want my ear.

527
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Speaker 1: Spear, So I think it's like a mutilation thing, right, mutilation. Yeah,

528
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,320
Speaker 1: I think that's like the whole thing is like how.

529
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Speaker 4: Could you do that to like a baby? Yeah, I

530
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:56,440
Speaker 4: think it's fun.

531
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Speaker 2: I mean, here's the thing. Do I remember the pain

532
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Speaker 2: of it?

533
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:02,120
Speaker 6: I remember the shock of it, and then I got

534
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:04,120
Speaker 6: them as I was older, and I remember that pain

535
00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:06,040
Speaker 6: more because it's more recent on my mind.

536
00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 2: But also I don't have any trauma from it.

537
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,679
Speaker 1: Right, Like I got mine older, Like I think I

538
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:15,440
Speaker 1: was like twelve or fifteen, and I was like sad

539
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 1: that I didn't have like my years pierced when I

540
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 1: was younger.

541
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Speaker 4: Oh really, I say go for it.

542
00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 2: Oh you say do it?

543
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:21,040
Speaker 4: Yeah?

544
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:27,360
Speaker 2: Interesting. I think I'm more on just like not doing it, like.

545
00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:29,440
Speaker 4: Not poking holes in their ears.

546
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 6: And a side letting them just choose if they want

547
00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:35,520
Speaker 6: to do it when they're older. I had a friend

548
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:39,280
Speaker 6: whose daughter went and got them. She's six, and she

549
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:41,480
Speaker 6: got one pierce and it hurts. She didn't know it

550
00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:43,679
Speaker 6: was gonna hurt as bad as it did, and she

551
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:44,960
Speaker 6: only she left with just one.

552
00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, they at the same time. I feel like when

553
00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:50,680
Speaker 1: I went to Claire's, they just like did it the.

554
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:52,840
Speaker 2: Same im same and that was jarring.

555
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:58,719
Speaker 6: Yeah, but it was done, and so I Yeah, I

556
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:01,480
Speaker 6: don't think there's a I personally don't know if there's

557
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:02,760
Speaker 6: a right or wrong answer.

558
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 1: But arms when you ears is like a baby.

559
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Speaker 4: Especially online and social media.

560
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:11,199
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you can't do anything right on.

561
00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 4: Hillary Duff was like piercing her daughter's ears. It was

562
00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 4: like the end of the world. She was like, get

563
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:17,119
Speaker 4: over it.

564
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:20,920
Speaker 3: Then the like the Latino community, it's extremely common. Yeah,

565
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 3: babies under a year old almost standard write a passage.

566
00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:29,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. My thing is just but.

567
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:30,439
Speaker 4: It's like same with your guys.

568
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 1: And what do you guys getting circumcision.

569
00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:37,960
Speaker 3: That's not really the same thing. It's not the same thing.

570
00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna let you have that one. Why why

571
00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 3: now the mutilation argument, there's something very similar. But I

572
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 3: think it's just this is decorative where the other one

573
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:50,640
Speaker 3: is more of a that's a deep one, that's a whole.

574
00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:52,080
Speaker 4: It's no, it's cosmetic.

575
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:53,679
Speaker 3: It's not cosmetic.

576
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 4: You would have that flop and be fine, but.

577
00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:58,920
Speaker 3: That's not why people do it. It's not for cosmetic

578
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:01,840
Speaker 3: r it's for religious reason or it's for sanitary reasons.

579
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:04,359
Speaker 3: I mean, it could be a cosmetic reason too, that

580
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:06,440
Speaker 3: could be one of the options, but it's just one

581
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:11,880
Speaker 3: of many. But that's another thing. People have very strong

582
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 3: opinions about it totally. Yeah. Yeah, Yeah, Honestly I was

583
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 3: thinking just a couple of days ago, I was like, ah,

584
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:19,399
Speaker 3: I'm so I have girls, so I didn't have to

585
00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:20,120
Speaker 3: make that decision.

586
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like it would be a hard decision.

587
00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:23,399
Speaker 3: I think it's a really hard decision.

588
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:23,640
Speaker 7: Yeah.

589
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:25,199
Speaker 3: And as far as earrings ago, I was able to

590
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 3: say that's your department, and so they and they waited

591
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 3: till that. I would say they were probably nine and six,

592
00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:33,040
Speaker 3: maybe ten and seven, something like that. But they got

593
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 3: them done together in Wisconsin with their cousin and it

594
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:37,119
Speaker 3: was a great day.

595
00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:38,879
Speaker 8: I got my experience when I was eighteen.

596
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:42,879
Speaker 10: Wow, but I got like plugs put in because I

597
00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:43,560
Speaker 10: was a badass.

598
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:45,280
Speaker 8: And yeah, never never closed up.

599
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:49,520
Speaker 3: So did you really get plugs? Yeah? Wide were they?

600
00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:52,720
Speaker 10: The biggest they were was a double zero, which is

601
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:53,680
Speaker 10: like the width of a pencil.

602
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:55,440
Speaker 8: Okay, and you see them.

603
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:56,200
Speaker 3: That's not crazy.

604
00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:56,959
Speaker 8: Yeah.

605
00:27:57,359 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 10: I stretched him so slowly too, because they told me

606
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 10: put in a little you know, wait and then when

607
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 10: you're done, they'll close up all the way if you

608
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:06,159
Speaker 10: do it slowly.

609
00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:07,920
Speaker 8: So that's what I did. And then when I took

610
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 8: them out, they never closed up.

611
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:13,640
Speaker 10: They lied to me at staircase tattoo And yeah, I almost.

612
00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:14,440
Speaker 1: Got those plugs.

613
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 8: They look cool.

614
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:21,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, I wanted to make my holes bigger when I

615
00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 1: was like in my surfer girl era era in high school,

616
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:33,520
Speaker 1: like maybe sophomore year, sophomore junior year, you were surfing.

617
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Speaker 4: I wasn't surfing. I was dating surfer.

618
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 2: Oh you were cosplaying? Yes, yes, I see.

619
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, rainbow sandals, you know a pair rainbows here It is.

620
00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 3: Summer of fifteen, so about I was nine and six. Yeah,

621
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:49,640
Speaker 3: I got that right there you go.

622
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 6: Yeah, there's something fun about remembering it because you can

623
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 6: go and you go with your friend or your sister,

624
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:58,400
Speaker 6: whoever you're with, and it's like, oh, we got our

625
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 6: ears pier So there's a fun something with that, whereas

626
00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 6: when their baby they won't remember it, Like what.

627
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 10: About piercing at home with the apple and the needles.

628
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 4: A couple of friends.

629
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 2: Really, Yeah, my god, you're just like you've lived.

630
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:19,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was a risk taker ottle breaker.

631
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's just like of all the things I've heard,

632
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 6: just hearing that for the first time surper Girl era.

633
00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 6: But Molly, I think you should do what your mom

634
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 6: instinct feels and she will be fine either way.

635
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 2: That's what I think.

636
00:29:38,040 --> 00:29:40,240
Speaker 6: But it's so true, like on social media, anything you

637
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:42,360
Speaker 6: post as a parent, it is just.

638
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 4: People with ears pierced to forget it.

639
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 6: They always have something to say, truly, people always have

640
00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:52,520
Speaker 6: something to say. I would I don't think i'd ever

641
00:29:52,560 --> 00:29:55,960
Speaker 6: post my child on social media just out of being like, yeah,

642
00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 6: fifty people are gonna have an issue with this.

643
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 1: A lot of people are leaning that way now.

644
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:04,280
Speaker 6: Well yeah, mostly for just like protecting because it's scary.

645
00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:05,440
Speaker 6: It's a scary world out there.

646
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:07,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, they're like taking Yeah, Yeah.

647
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 3: It's from Maddie. We'll leave you with this. An encouraging

648
00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 3: note for single scrubbers. Hello, beca Tanya market easton day one,

649
00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 3: scrubber here. Ever since I moved a few hours away

650
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,200
Speaker 3: from my family about eight years ago, scrubbing in has

651
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:24,240
Speaker 3: been my constant companion on those long drives back and forth.

652
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:26,960
Speaker 3: So much has changed since I first moved, but one

653
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 3: thing that stayed the same is my struggle to find

654
00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:31,840
Speaker 3: my person. I dated here and there, but nothing ever

655
00:30:31,880 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 3: really felt right. I took breaks from dating, trying to reset,

656
00:30:35,200 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 3: but I was always inspired by Tanya's story of finding Robbie.

657
00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 3: It gave me hope that maybe one day my time

658
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 3: would come to Recently, I tried to give hinge another try,

659
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 3: and that's when I matched with a guy named Michael.

660
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Speaker 3: From the start, I felt an instant connection. A few

661
00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 3: days after we matched, he messaged me asking if I

662
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:54,440
Speaker 3: had been walking down his street with my dog. The

663
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 3: strange thing.

664
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Speaker 2: Is I was.

665
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Speaker 3: I walked that exact loop twice a day and half

666
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Speaker 3: for eight years, and somehow we'd never crossed paths before.

667
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 3: That street now feels like our invisible String. Michael is

668
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 3: the kindest, most thoughtful, loving man I've ever met, unlike

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00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 3: anyone I've dated before. And get this, he lives two

670
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,360
Speaker 3: minutes down the street from me. I truly think I've

671
00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 3: found my person. I wanted to share this story because

672
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:20,480
Speaker 3: as a perpetually single friend going to what felt like

673
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 3: a never ending stream of weddings, bridal showers, and baby showers,

674
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 3: it was easy to lose hope. But to any fellow

675
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:29,479
Speaker 3: scrubbers still waiting for their person, don't give up. They

676
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 3: might be closer than you think. I love you, guys

677
00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 3: and look forward to the podcast every week. I hope

678
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 3: you are proud of the community you've built within scrubbing in.

679
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 4: That's so sweet.

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Speaker 1: I'm so happy for you, mabousible String. If you guys

681
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 1: get married, you should have your first dance Invisible String.

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00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, Sophia, come and sing it it.

683
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 2: No, We're very happy for you.

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Speaker 6: I think that there's a lot of people who have

685
00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 6: resonated with your story of staying hopeful finding your person.

686
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: I was like, I have to come up with something clever,

687
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:13,520
Speaker 1: but like a million dates, million first dates, no seconds

688
00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:17,920
Speaker 1: it's not really rolling and I'm very tired today.

689
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 4: It's not really I.

690
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 2: Don't know true. What's is that your tagline?

691
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Speaker 1: But like people who are like in the dating scene

692
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 1: and they just keep trying, they're just trying chronically online.

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Speaker 1: You know you're saying chronically online like I was chronically

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Speaker 1: on the dating apps.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and it really encouraging.

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00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 6: You met probably is like the second guy you went

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00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 6: out with from the dataps you were chronic also.

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Speaker 1: But I wouldn't go out on dates with the people.

699
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 1: I would just like talk in peruse.

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00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 4: And you know it goes them.

701
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 1: The minute they said want to get a drink, I'd be.

702
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:55,480
Speaker 2: Like, bye, oh yeah, you wanted dinner like a lady,

703
00:32:56,280 --> 00:32:58,560
Speaker 2: you wanted to be courted? Yes, yes, but.

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Speaker 4: Yeah it sucks.

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00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 1: I ever forget flying back from Texas for one of

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00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 1: my friends. I think it was a baby shower and

707
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: I was like, I'd gone to some many bridal showers

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00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 1: and weddings and I was like, when's my time?

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Speaker 4: And it came, and it will come for you too.

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Speaker 2: That's true, that's true. I believe you. With that Happy Thursday, everybody.

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Speaker 4: Have a happy till fourth of July. We love you, guy,

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Speaker 4: love you, bye,