1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,000 Speaker 1: Let's go. Let's go. Buckle up a hole on tight. 2 00:00:02,080 --> 00:00:05,280 Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. 3 00:00:05,480 --> 00:00:09,200 Speaker 1: Oh lord, subject A father should never have to see that. 4 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:12,480 Speaker 1: Dear mister Harvey and miss Strawberry. I am a twenty 5 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: two year old guy and my girlfriend is twenty one. 6 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:18,640 Speaker 1: She still lives at home, and she's a virgin, so 7 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:21,960 Speaker 1: we've been taking it slow in the sex department. I 8 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:24,880 Speaker 1: am falling in love with this girl, and I think 9 00:00:24,960 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 1: she loves me. My birthday was two weeks ago and 10 00:00:28,240 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: she treated me to dinner. As I was dropping her 11 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 1: off at home, she told me to pull over before 12 00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:36,400 Speaker 1: I got to her house so she could give me 13 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: a surprise for my birthday. I pulled over a block 14 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 1: away from her house. We started making out in the car, 15 00:00:43,320 --> 00:00:46,600 Speaker 1: and then she leaned in and gave me a very 16 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:51,680 Speaker 1: special birthday present. It was something I had never received before, 17 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:56,920 Speaker 1: if you know what I mean. While this was happening, 18 00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 1: listen to this though. While this was happening, I wasn't 19 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:03,360 Speaker 1: paying attention to what was going on around me, and 20 00:01:03,400 --> 00:01:06,880 Speaker 1: I certainly didn't notice that her dad had pulled up 21 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:16,520 Speaker 1: behind my card. Yes, yeah, yes, okay, I'll read it again. Okay, 22 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:25,840 Speaker 1: yeah right here, yeah, no, all right. So, like he said, 23 00:01:25,920 --> 00:01:29,199 Speaker 1: he wasn't paying attention to what was going around going 24 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:31,440 Speaker 1: on around him, and he certainly didn't notice that her 25 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:33,960 Speaker 1: dad had pulled up behind the car, and at the 26 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:40,400 Speaker 1: worst possible moment, at the worst possible moment, her dad 27 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:45,920 Speaker 1: was right there looking through my car window. I screamed, 28 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 1: I need a scream from you right here, Steve. Please. 29 00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: Oh you can't scream right here too much. I love 30 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: the way you scream. Come on, I can't do this show, 31 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:01,920 Speaker 1: I screamed. My girl, all friends screamed, and her dad 32 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:04,920 Speaker 1: yelled for her to get out of the car. He 33 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: told me if he ever saw me again, he would 34 00:02:08,360 --> 00:02:16,120 Speaker 1: put his boot in my white ass. Excuse me, but 35 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:19,080 Speaker 1: that's what he said. I'm a white guy and my 36 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:23,119 Speaker 1: girlfriend is black. So do you so? Do you think 37 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:25,799 Speaker 1: he had a problem with the fact that I'm white? 38 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 1: Or was he just mad about what his daughter was 39 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:32,040 Speaker 1: doing to me. I have been dating her for a 40 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:35,200 Speaker 1: few months and race has never been an issue. We 41 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:38,959 Speaker 1: have snucked to see each other once. We have snucked 42 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:41,080 Speaker 1: to see each other once since this happened. But I 43 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:43,840 Speaker 1: don't want to get hurt because my girl said her 44 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:46,919 Speaker 1: dad was very serious about what he said. She won't 45 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:49,480 Speaker 1: admit to her dad that it was her idea. And 46 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 1: I don't blame her, but I don't want to look 47 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:54,320 Speaker 1: like the bad guy here. How can I fix things 48 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:58,960 Speaker 1: with her dad? Or should I just stay away from her? Please? Help? Well? 49 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:01,359 Speaker 1: You ask what is he mad about? Is he mad 50 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 1: about the fact that you're white? Or was it what 51 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:07,560 Speaker 1: she was doing to you? And I say to you 52 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:12,440 Speaker 1: all of the above. He's mad at everything. He's mad 53 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:14,200 Speaker 1: at the fact that you were white. He's mad at 54 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:16,560 Speaker 1: the fact of what she was doing to you. You 55 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:19,240 Speaker 1: gotta put yourself in her dad's shoes, if you can. 56 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:22,840 Speaker 1: You roll up on your daughter and she's pleasuring some 57 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 1: guy okay, in her car. I guarantee you you would 58 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:31,920 Speaker 1: feel some kind of way to see your daughter in 59 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:34,840 Speaker 1: that way. But it just produces all kind of shock 60 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:37,720 Speaker 1: and hurt and disappointment from a parent that you can't 61 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 1: even imagine. So I can't say that it's just one 62 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:43,960 Speaker 1: thing that her pops was upset about. Again, I think 63 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 1: he's mad about everything. The fact that you're white. I'm 64 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 1: sure Adam shook. And I'm not gonna lie to you 65 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 1: about that, because I'm sure that played a part. But again, 66 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:57,320 Speaker 1: all of this is just something you know, you don't 67 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 1: want to see your child doing this, just like children 68 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 1: say that don't ever want to see their parents getting busy. Well, 69 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:05,200 Speaker 1: their parents certainly don't want to see it from their 70 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:09,880 Speaker 1: kids busting up in the dodey. Excuse me, I'm sorry, Okay, 71 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:14,720 Speaker 1: a little personal for you, didn't a nephew. I do suggest, 72 00:04:14,920 --> 00:04:18,080 Speaker 1: I do suggest, though, young man, that you stay away, 73 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:21,320 Speaker 1: especially until things calm down, and I don't know that 74 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: they ever will because of the lie that the daughter 75 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:27,839 Speaker 1: told the father that it was not her fault. So 76 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:32,360 Speaker 1: you know, her dad is just really angry and upset 77 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:35,599 Speaker 1: right now, and you're the last person he wants to see. 78 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: So there's nothing you can do now. You know, there's 79 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 1: a saying that says time heals all wounds. Maybe sometime 80 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 1: in the future you can call if you really love her, 81 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 1: because you said you love her, so you know, maybe 82 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:49,960 Speaker 1: you can call and talk to the father at some point. 83 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:53,039 Speaker 1: But right now, my suggestion, my advice to you, is 84 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 1: to stay away from that situation because you will get hurt. Steve, 85 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:09,679 Speaker 1: oh boy, this is boy, boy boy, We got daughters. 86 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 1: I understand everybody in this letter. I understand the boy, 87 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:29,080 Speaker 1: I understand the father. We have a situation here. The 88 00:05:29,240 --> 00:05:33,839 Speaker 1: girl gave you a birthday surprise a block away from 89 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 1: her house. Now y'all making out in the car. Then 90 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:40,279 Speaker 1: she leaned in and get you a very special birthday present. 91 00:05:41,360 --> 00:05:45,240 Speaker 1: And it was something I had never received before. If 92 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:48,560 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, I'm going back in my 93 00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 1: mind right now. Boy, I know exactly what you mean. 94 00:05:52,440 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 1: While this was happening, I wasn't paying much attention to 95 00:05:54,960 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 1: what's going on around. You can't. You can't focus, ship focus. 96 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:03,560 Speaker 1: The shot your guys are is open but to shut 97 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:06,719 Speaker 1: because pure facing the back of your head, you're actually 98 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:08,600 Speaker 1: looking at your brain with your eyes and you ain't 99 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:11,280 Speaker 1: never seen that before, so you don't even realize it. 100 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:13,680 Speaker 1: But your eyes is wide open, but you can't see 101 00:06:13,760 --> 00:06:18,240 Speaker 1: nothing but your day. I'm praying. I knew you were 102 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:23,000 Speaker 1: gonna Something is happening. This boy been dating this girl. 103 00:06:24,160 --> 00:06:27,680 Speaker 1: He twenty two, twenty one, She a virgin. They've been 104 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: taking this slow for sex, respectful, but he say falling 105 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:34,640 Speaker 1: in love with this girl things she fallen in love 106 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:37,800 Speaker 1: with you. Your birthday was two weeks ago. She treated 107 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 1: me to dinner. I was dropping off at home and 108 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:41,960 Speaker 1: she told me to pull over for I got to 109 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:43,800 Speaker 1: the house so she could give me a surprise from 110 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 1: my birthday. I pulled over about block away from the crib, 111 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:49,080 Speaker 1: were in a car. We started making out, and here 112 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:54,560 Speaker 1: this way all hell broke loose. She started, Oh, leaned 113 00:06:54,680 --> 00:06:58,000 Speaker 1: in and gave me a very special birthday present. You 114 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: keep reading that over and over, very very very special, 115 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:08,360 Speaker 1: and it was something that I had never received before. 116 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:14,840 Speaker 1: If you know what I mean, I know exactly exactly 117 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:18,360 Speaker 1: what you mean, because when it first happened, you don't 118 00:07:18,400 --> 00:07:22,520 Speaker 1: know what to call it. So you are in here 119 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 1: and it like you're being ravaged. It's like, oh, all 120 00:07:30,240 --> 00:07:37,880 Speaker 1: your senses have been taken away. You have drifted off 121 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:46,520 Speaker 1: in two an abyss. The world doesn't stop turning for you. 122 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:53,440 Speaker 1: The car engine ain't o no more. You ain't in 123 00:07:53,520 --> 00:08:02,000 Speaker 1: the car, You in heaven as the process continue. Your eyes, 124 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 1: you say in the letter, when this was happening, I 125 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:11,920 Speaker 1: wasn't paying attention to what was going on around me. 126 00:08:13,880 --> 00:08:20,440 Speaker 1: Boy boy, we know exactly what you. You can't pay attention, 127 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 1: You can't pay too much of nothing right now, you 128 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 1: don't know where your hands are. You don't know why 129 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:34,440 Speaker 1: your teeth is gritting the way they are. You can't 130 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:38,679 Speaker 1: understand why your eyes is open but you can't see 131 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:45,560 Speaker 1: because your pupils are pointed the other way. You're looking 132 00:08:45,600 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: at your brain and you've never seen it before. Uh. 133 00:08:51,400 --> 00:08:57,280 Speaker 1: You just saying things that you speaking in a language 134 00:08:57,440 --> 00:09:06,680 Speaker 1: similar to what church folks do back digit careful, liberally, 135 00:09:06,800 --> 00:09:22,280 Speaker 1: good to all of this is going on. And then 136 00:09:23,200 --> 00:09:28,360 Speaker 1: while you wasn't paying attention, you notice that her dad, 137 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 1: You didn't notice that her dad had pulled up behind 138 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 1: your car at the worst possible moment. Her dad was 139 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:43,880 Speaker 1: right down looking through my mind. What is the worst 140 00:09:44,360 --> 00:09:51,240 Speaker 1: possible moment? M h, Well, let me remind you, for 141 00:09:51,320 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 1: those that have forgotten, the worst possible moment is to 142 00:09:58,120 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 1: try to clamp the water holes. Why are you washing 143 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 1: the car? But the first yeah, yeah, see you when 144 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 1: you washing the car and you ain't got no niles 145 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 1: alone it and you need to stop that stream of 146 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:19,720 Speaker 1: water from going on your car. You got the clamping shut. 147 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: Now you could run the risk of putting a hole 148 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:30,520 Speaker 1: in that hole. Really, it's what I'm saying about washing cars. Yeah, 149 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:33,560 Speaker 1: so you are now at the wash the car moment, 150 00:10:35,000 --> 00:10:38,760 Speaker 1: and her damn daddy is looking dead in the window. 151 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:43,800 Speaker 1: I would imagine at this point your head was facing 152 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:49,720 Speaker 1: the ceiling, your foot was nothing but in Adam's apple. 153 00:10:50,520 --> 00:11:02,120 Speaker 1: But the words that's coming out am these incoherent nomad. 154 00:11:02,280 --> 00:11:06,640 Speaker 1: Her daddy wants to bust that damn car window. And 155 00:11:06,679 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 1: then her dad was right there looking through my car window. 156 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:14,040 Speaker 1: You notice it because it's somebody having a big black 157 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:17,320 Speaker 1: man looking at you. Why are you at the worst 158 00:11:17,400 --> 00:11:21,800 Speaker 1: possible moment, and all of a sudden you scream. The 159 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:24,839 Speaker 1: girl scream and her dad yelled her to get out, 160 00:11:24,920 --> 00:11:26,800 Speaker 1: caught told me if he ever saw me again, he 161 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:30,600 Speaker 1: gonna put his boot in my white ass. Now excuse me, 162 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 1: that's what he said, because I'm a white guy, my 163 00:11:32,880 --> 00:11:34,880 Speaker 1: girlfriend black. Do you think he had a problem with 164 00:11:34,920 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 1: the fact that I'm white? Yes, he had a problem 165 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:39,320 Speaker 1: with the fact white right then. And now if you 166 00:11:39,360 --> 00:11:43,760 Speaker 1: didn't know it before, you know it now ever can 167 00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:46,640 Speaker 1: see you again, I'm gonna put my foot in your 168 00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:50,760 Speaker 1: white ass because yes, he's got a problem with you 169 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:53,200 Speaker 1: being white right now. He didn't have to bring it 170 00:11:53,280 --> 00:11:55,760 Speaker 1: up before, but now to you down here with his daughter, 171 00:11:55,800 --> 00:11:58,120 Speaker 1: he didn't bought it up. I've been dating for a 172 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 1: few months. Out of race has never been in there. 173 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:05,680 Speaker 1: What us? Why not? Damn it? Listen? 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