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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Riley and this is Dakota, your favorite

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Speaker 2: I discovered my bio dad's name by accident after my

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Speaker 2: mom hid it from me. Why she hiding it? This

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Speaker 2: happened years ago now, when I was thirteen years old.

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Speaker 2: I am now twenty nine female. Oh, but it's still

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Speaker 2: an amusing story. For lack of a better word, When

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Speaker 2: I was growing up, I was raised by a guy

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Speaker 2: we'll call Jack, alongside my mother. He had a daughter

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Speaker 2: four years older than me from a previous marriage. Jack

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Speaker 2: gets around. I have vague memories from when he and

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Speaker 2: my mom got married, as I was two at the time.

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Speaker 2: He was initially an incredible father. They always told me

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Speaker 2: he was my bio father, but there were some inconsistencies.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from deleted on the r

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Speaker 2: slash Okay Storytime subreddit, and if you want to submit

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Speaker 2: your own stories, go to that same sub reddit. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and we're here to give good advice. Goofley,

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Speaker 2: but we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 2: what we'd do, so let us know what you would

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Speaker 2: do in the comments. Boom Jack and my mother ended

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Speaker 2: up having two actual children together, my younger sister who

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Speaker 2: is four years younger than me, and my brother, who

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Speaker 2: is six years younger than me. Wow, I was the

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Speaker 2: redheaded stepchild in both the literal and figurative sense. What's

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Speaker 2: the figurative sense?

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Speaker 3: I always think of fictional sense like Cinderella.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's not redhead, though she's well in her world

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Speaker 2: she is. Yeah, she's the figurative redhead. Which what is

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Speaker 2: the figurative redhead?

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Speaker 1: Or?

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Speaker 2: Wait?

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Speaker 3: Is figurative and fictional is the same thing.

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Speaker 2: Figurative is more of like a not she's not actually redhead,

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Speaker 2: but it's it means something else. But I'm trying to

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Speaker 2: figure out what a figurative redhead means.

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Speaker 3: Why not just say black sheep?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Why do we want? Why red? Are you saying

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Speaker 2: you don't have a soul? Is that what they figures?

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Speaker 3: Are you saying you're a type of spice your ginger?

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Speaker 2: I naturally have red Oh? Okay, no you said that. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I naturally have red and strawberry blonde hair, depending on

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Speaker 2: who you ask and the lighting, along with green eyes, freckles,

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Speaker 2: and fairly pale skin. Jack, my mother, and my older sister,

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Speaker 2: and both younger siblings have naturally dark brown and black

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Speaker 2: hair and brown eyes except my mom, who was blue eyes,

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Speaker 2: and they are tan enough that my siblings and Jack

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Speaker 2: are often mistaken as either Native American or his Panic.

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Speaker 2: They all have the same last name, whereas mine, I

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Speaker 2: was always told was my mom's maiden name hyphenated with

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Speaker 2: Jack's last name. The other kids were just Jack's last name.

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Speaker 2: It made sense for my older half sister in my head,

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Speaker 2: but not for the younger two siblings. Yeah. I remember

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Speaker 2: when I was younger, my older sister and I were

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Speaker 2: having a sisterly fight and she blurted out that I

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Speaker 2: was adopted and didn't belong to the family. That's movie

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Speaker 2: classic move. Usually it's a lie. Yeah seems like maybe

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Speaker 2: not sorry, proceeding to point out all my differences and

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Speaker 2: my lack of resemblance to Jack. H she won that fight.

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Speaker 2: Oh pusly, she was right. It made me think. I

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Speaker 2: ended up breaking down sobbing and asking my mom if

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Speaker 2: I was adopted, to which she promptly assured me that

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Speaker 2: she was one hundred percent positive. She had carried me

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Speaker 2: for nine months and given birth to me without a

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Speaker 2: doubt in her mind. Okay, so she skirted around that,

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Speaker 2: didn't really tell you who your dad is? Who said

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Speaker 2: I gave birth to you. That's all you need to know.

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Speaker 3: When it comes to birthing, there's two people.

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Speaker 2: Involved, and she's like, no, no, no, I gave birth

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Speaker 2: to you. I It's just me. No one else matters.

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Speaker 2: That's it.

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Speaker 3: So this is Jurassic Park two.

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Speaker 2: I got some mosquito. Your father is mosquito.

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Speaker 3: Wait, the premise of that is there were only female

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Speaker 3: dinosaurs on the island. Yeah, and they still made neck.

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Speaker 3: Means nature will always find a way.

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Speaker 2: Or your dad's mosquito. She also took this as an

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Speaker 2: opportunity to explain to me what recessive genes were and

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Speaker 2: how they work. She used a story about one of

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Speaker 2: her coworkers who had recently given birth to a set

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Speaker 2: of twins. And this is a true story, as they

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Speaker 2: even did a DNA test to confirm the mother was

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Speaker 2: and they had fraternal twins where one came out black

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Speaker 2: can so that you don't find out that Jack is

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Speaker 2: not your dad. She's like, no, no, no, let's not focus

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Speaker 3: So with this wild thing I read online, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: She's like, have you ever heard of recessive genes? It's

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Speaker 2: not what you have, but it could have.

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Speaker 3: I have a question about those twins. Yeah, because they're

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Speaker 3: both black. What we're both thinking the same thing? And

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Speaker 3: no we aren't as wonder if the white one could

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Wow, that is a question for a lunch table.

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Speaker 2: Well, usually it's like, mixed kids only say it around

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Speaker 2: people who like they feel are like I feel like

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Speaker 2: a lot of mixed people that I know are like.

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Speaker 2: I don't really typically say it because people see me

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Speaker 2: as white. So that's actually a whole other conversation.

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Speaker 3: Wow, that's not lunch This is a great like plain

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Speaker 2: I've had a bit of piece in that and thought

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Speaker 2: I was simply a product of genetic chants. The other

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Speaker 2: huge thing that was particularly odd growing up was the

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Speaker 2: fact that my younger siblings and I would often enjoy

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Speaker 2: going through our baby books and talking about the different

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Speaker 2: things my mom had written about us in them. My

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Speaker 2: siblings were allowed to hold their own baby books and

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Speaker 2: came to my baby book, however, I was never allowed

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Speaker 2: would just show me certain pages and then would lock

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Speaker 2: all the books in a filing cabinet in our closet. Girl,

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Speaker 2: if you had something to hide in those books, maybe

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Speaker 2: just take that stuff out. Yeah, really, you don't have

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Speaker 3: If we're gonna play this game, just make a custom

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Speaker 2: Four op. I gotta keep the memes. Yikes. This really

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Speaker 2: bothered me. When I would ask her why it wasn't

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Speaker 2: just take them out. What which bothered me even more

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Speaker 2: because if that were the case, why would my much

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Speaker 2: than you, Yeah, She's like, they're just, I don't know,

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Speaker 2: One day when I was thirteen. I went into my

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Speaker 2: sticking out enough for me to bum been to it

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Speaker 2: so bad. What have I done? What my genealogy? So

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Speaker 2: The first page had my full name, which is simply

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Speaker 2: my first middle and mother's maide a name. The second

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Speaker 2: I reread that page probably one hundred times. I had

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Speaker 2: Then my mom sat me down and told me all

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Speaker 2: she had dated briefly when her and Jack split up

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Speaker 2: She explained that he had been given two options, get

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Speaker 2: walk away before I was born. Stay gone, and she

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Speaker 3: No, dang, how many stories We've read, so many stories

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'm just like, imagine wanting to take this

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Speaker 2: Well no, it's like if you put it into the newspaper,

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Speaker 2: but you're like, don't go to page six, don't repay. No,

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Speaker 3: They're like no, and the reverse psychology is making them

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she didn't know where he was, or even if

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Speaker 2: Jack knew that she was pregnant with Alan's kid, and

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Speaker 2: a whole different story. The unconditional love ran out. He's like,

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Speaker 2: I don't know now I have actual kids of my own,

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Speaker 2: so you're just.

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Speaker 3: Here people look more like me, so I'm going to

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Speaker 3: take more care of them.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he was like, you were just kind of like

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Speaker 2: The craziest part is when I went to school the

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Speaker 2: next day, I began telling my best friend, Allison, who

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Speaker 2: I had met in fifth grade on the bus after

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Speaker 2: she moved there from a different state about the entire

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Speaker 2: situation that had happened the night before.

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Speaker 3: Allison is, her dad is Alan. What do you bet

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Speaker 3: twenty five dollars on it?

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Speaker 2: Alan is her father? She was mind blown by the

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Speaker 2: whole thing. When I told her my biological father's name,

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Speaker 2: I thought maybe she was just blown away when I

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Speaker 2: dropped the bombshell that it was some guy named Alan

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Speaker 2: and aunt Jack. Oh dude, I should have put more

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Speaker 2: He shouldn't you chose option be? Alan should go through

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Speaker 3: I got every single bit of that little confused with

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Speaker 2: But you figured it out and I understand it. Well, Well,

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Speaker 2: Truly, that's no fun. I wonder how I am wondering

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Speaker 3: Could they sense the favoritism and they also treat you

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Speaker 3: My wife refused to cook for my daughter and made

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Live for Aunt fifteen.

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Speaker 3: And if you want to spain your old stories.

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Speaker 2: You know where to go.

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Speaker 3: We gotta picky eat her on her hands. When she

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Speaker 3: I didn't like beans. I'm a big bean guy.

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Speaker 3: She ignored me a whole week and didn't eat anything

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Speaker 2: Something's wrong here. It's like a where's waldough book? He's like,

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Speaker 2: Hmmm, I don't love that response from you.

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Speaker 2: Sophia, your thoughts. I got multiple thoughts. Tell me number

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like, is there any nerdivergency divergency going on here?

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Speaker 2: That's my first thought. Second thought. My second thought is,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because she's a mom. Yeah, it seemed like everything

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Speaker 2: I would probably start teaching my daughter how to cook,

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Speaker 2: and then I would say like, hey, like, if you

439
00:19:33,560 --> 00:19:35,400
Speaker 2: want to you know you don't want to eat these meals,

440
00:19:35,520 --> 00:19:37,520
Speaker 2: I'll teach you about it, and maybe like even work

441
00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:39,600
Speaker 2: with the mom and say hey, like, can we can

442
00:19:39,640 --> 00:19:41,160
Speaker 2: we teach her how to cook? Because I know it's

443
00:19:41,160 --> 00:19:43,439
Speaker 2: putting stress on you. I know I come home late

444
00:19:43,680 --> 00:19:45,760
Speaker 2: and I'm expecting you to cook all these different meals

445
00:19:45,760 --> 00:19:47,000
Speaker 2: and stuff. Let's teach her.

446
00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:49,359
Speaker 3: And you're probably working taking care of the kids. You

447
00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:52,000
Speaker 3: got a lot on your plate. We can't accommodate everyone.

448
00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:54,960
Speaker 2: Maybe that's the solution. Absolutely, at the end of the day,

449
00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:57,720
Speaker 2: she needs to eat and whatever it is she's eaten.

450
00:19:58,000 --> 00:19:59,560
Speaker 2: If it's not going to be stuff with the garlic,

451
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Speaker 2: then that's a okay. But she needs to eat something.

452
00:20:01,520 --> 00:20:03,800
Speaker 3: At fourteen, my mom taught me how to cook a

453
00:20:03,840 --> 00:20:06,359
Speaker 3: grilled cheese sandwich and there we go, and a peanut

454
00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:11,240
Speaker 3: butter sandwich perfect. Also, around fourteen thirteen, she went more

455
00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:13,479
Speaker 3: into a healthier we got we're gonna eat healthier.

456
00:20:13,560 --> 00:20:15,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, didn't like a lot of the foods, sure, so

457
00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:15,880
Speaker 2: a lot.

458
00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:18,679
Speaker 3: Sometimes my meals was just a peanut butter sandwich, or

459
00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:20,840
Speaker 3: I'd get hungry enough where I'd eat that. My brother

460
00:20:21,240 --> 00:20:23,560
Speaker 3: live off of peanut butter sandwiches for a while. Yeah,

461
00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:26,160
Speaker 3: that's how my mom did it. I'm the parent. This

462
00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:29,520
Speaker 3: kid is not Neurodoe vergin or has any sensitivities like that.

463
00:20:29,600 --> 00:20:31,439
Speaker 2: In this case, they're not. Is what I'm doing. I'm

464
00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:32,760
Speaker 2: not going to stress out my wife.

465
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Speaker 3: Also, I don't appreciate how nobody's on a united front here,

466
00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:37,080
Speaker 3: you and the wife.

467
00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:39,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not like, hey, can we work this out?

468
00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:40,560
Speaker 2: I'm going to ignore you.

469
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Speaker 3: Yeah, And I don't love that whatever I say. When

470
00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:45,760
Speaker 3: you're a family, you have to prioritize your wife first.

471
00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:48,440
Speaker 3: This is where you prioritize where you're like, hey, notice this,

472
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Speaker 3: I see.

473
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Speaker 2: What you're saying. I've actually thought about that, and I

474
00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:53,520
Speaker 2: understand what you were saying more.

475
00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:56,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, cause it's like, hey, this isn't happening.

476
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Speaker 2: What do we do? Yeah?

477
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Speaker 3: Instead of I'm gonna go behind your back and give

478
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Speaker 3: her sweets and yeah, no, no, no, we can talk

479
00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:02,280
Speaker 3: with your.

480
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Speaker 2: Daughter and have that conversation without necessarily undermining your So

481
00:21:07,119 --> 00:21:08,000
Speaker 2: we're at the update.

482
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Speaker 3: OP got a lot of comments, Oh bully. I got

483
00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:13,520
Speaker 3: home about an hour ago and was reading the comments

484
00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:16,399
Speaker 3: for about fifteen minutes. I'll be answering questions at the

485
00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:18,800
Speaker 3: end of this post. Why not at the beginning? Yeah,

486
00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:21,399
Speaker 3: give us the context, we are asking for it right now.

487
00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:24,359
Speaker 3: The talk with my wife went okay, ish. I asked

488
00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:26,840
Speaker 3: her what's going on. My wife was hesitant, as she

489
00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:29,600
Speaker 3: didn't want to have this talk at all, but finally

490
00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:32,359
Speaker 3: she said she hates cooking for my daughter. She said

491
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Speaker 3: that it was too much to go out of her

492
00:21:34,680 --> 00:21:38,119
Speaker 3: way to constantly accommodate her, and how annoying it was

493
00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:40,080
Speaker 3: to always make sure the food is cooked to a

494
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Speaker 3: certain texture and seas into a certain kind of way

495
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Speaker 3: for my daughter's liking.

496
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Speaker 2: That's so honestly reasonable. If I wasn't allowed to use

497
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Speaker 2: any garlic or like all of the list of things

498
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Speaker 2: in the food that I ate.

499
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Speaker 3: Too, that's pretty hard, dude. Garlic powder goes on everything everything.

500
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Speaker 2: I love garlic so much.

501
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Speaker 3: Salt pepper garlet, pepper, yeah, powder, onion powder, It's either

502
00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:05,800
Speaker 3: chili or paprika. M I still want your potatoes. I

503
00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:07,000
Speaker 3: haven't had your sweet totoes and so.

504
00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:09,360
Speaker 2: Long make sweet potatoes. I can make sweet potatoes.

505
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Speaker 3: Soood I would. I still don't know how to make

506
00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 3: them like you. I don't know how you do it.

507
00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:16,960
Speaker 3: She then revealed that she stopped cooking food the way

508
00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 3: my daughter liked because our son didn't like it.

509
00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:24,680
Speaker 2: No, which is another whole freaking can of worms, because

510
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:27,280
Speaker 2: now she's trying to cater to two different kids. And

511
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:30,119
Speaker 2: which kid do we prioritize your daughter or her son

512
00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:32,080
Speaker 2: and the food that we're cooking.

513
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:35,399
Speaker 3: Which one's healthier too. She then proceeded to say that

514
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:38,159
Speaker 3: my daughter just needs to grow up, as it was

515
00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:41,960
Speaker 3: only food and what unlive her and her being picky

516
00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:43,760
Speaker 3: was just too draining.

517
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Speaker 2: I mean, like, I understand where both people are coming

518
00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:50,159
Speaker 2: from in this situation, but I think that you're before,

519
00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:52,960
Speaker 2: at least hopefully now, you weren't really listening to your wife.

520
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:54,800
Speaker 2: You were listening to your daughter, which is good. We

521
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:56,159
Speaker 2: got to hear where the wife is coming from.

522
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Speaker 3: Um, yeah, I could see like the daughter doesn't growing up,

523
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Speaker 3: but she can go grow up on her own time

524
00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:01,439
Speaker 3: and still give.

525
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,040
Speaker 2: Her the needs to cook. On do you try to cook?

526
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:05,480
Speaker 3: I asked why she didn't have a sit down with

527
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 3: our kids to make some sort of compromise, and she

528
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:11,680
Speaker 3: said her son's needs came before my daughter's.

529
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Speaker 2: Oo ooh oh, that's not good.

530
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:17,680
Speaker 3: Makes sense, But you don't say that way. You're mad.

531
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,960
Speaker 2: You don't say that part out loud. Oh oh.

532
00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:25,200
Speaker 3: She also revealed that she had straight up stopped buying

533
00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:28,400
Speaker 3: more than half of my daughter's personalized grocery list because

534
00:23:28,680 --> 00:23:30,840
Speaker 3: it was a waste of money. And then her son

535
00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:32,719
Speaker 3: wanted snacks that he wanted.

536
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:35,400
Speaker 2: Dang. I was really hoping that this would come out

537
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 2: in some sort of compromise, healthy conversation.

538
00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:43,120
Speaker 3: No, no, Stacey, we can't get that pound of rice.

539
00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:44,640
Speaker 2: My son wants meat sticks.

540
00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 3: Brinley wants meat sticks. Brintley wants Las potato chips.

541
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Speaker 2: That's all we're getting. We're not gonna we're getting the

542
00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 2: extra garlic he want.

543
00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 3: I was dumbfound in and asked her if she was

544
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Speaker 3: going to let my daughter go hungry. She responded by saying,

545
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:00,600
Speaker 3: all my daughters had to.

546
00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 2: Do was eat the food. She cooked.

547
00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:04,720
Speaker 3: I asked her what was so training about putting one

548
00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:07,439
Speaker 3: or two pieces of plain chicken aside. She said that

549
00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 3: I wouldn't get it because I didn't cook for my

550
00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:13,400
Speaker 3: daughter like she does, which was true, as I am

551
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:15,800
Speaker 3: at work from five am to nine pm and I

552
00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:19,399
Speaker 3: only cook dinner on the weekends, holidays and holiday breaks.

553
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:22,800
Speaker 3: She apologized to me, but suggested that I should convince

554
00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:25,520
Speaker 3: my daughter to eat the food she doesn't like because

555
00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:29,479
Speaker 3: it would make everyone's life easier. I then asked her

556
00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 3: if she would think the same thing if it were our.

557
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:35,720
Speaker 2: Son, if you've courted her.

558
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:38,840
Speaker 3: She didn't respond, which was enough of an answer. I

559
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 3: don't know what to do now. If she's willing to

560
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:43,399
Speaker 3: let my daughter go hungry, how else would she be

561
00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:44,920
Speaker 3: willing to neglect my daughter?

562
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 2: What should I do? Now? The Q and A bart do?

563
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 3: Yay, we have more questions than answers right now.

564
00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:54,080
Speaker 2: Oh boy, Q and eight.

565
00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 3: My daughter is no way overweight, and she doesn't only

566
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:01,639
Speaker 3: eat junk food vegetables. She eats carrot, lettuce, corn, asparagus,

567
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:02,359
Speaker 3: and cucumbers.

568
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:04,320
Speaker 2: Okay, we got some veggies in there for food.

569
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:07,840
Speaker 3: She eats watermelon, dragon fruit, apples, and mangoes.

570
00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:09,920
Speaker 2: Ah Dragon food adventurous.

571
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 3: My daughter can, in fact cook. The only reason she

572
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:15,400
Speaker 3: did not is because her fall break is coming up,

573
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:18,680
Speaker 3: and my wife didn't buy her entire grocery list, so

574
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:19,520
Speaker 3: she's saving it.

575
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 2: Okay o, No, So it really is the mom's fault.

576
00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:26,760
Speaker 3: We should have had this context at the beginning. Yeah,

577
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:29,639
Speaker 3: she has all the tools to cook for herself. Yeah,

578
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:34,040
Speaker 3: she just didn't have the groceries. Your wife suspended resources

579
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:34,320
Speaker 3: from her.

580
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:36,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's crazy for her to be like, well, it's

581
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:39,960
Speaker 2: too hard, and then she's like, I also made it

582
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 2: impossible for her to do it herself with groceries being

583
00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 2: delivered to her house.

584
00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:46,640
Speaker 3: I would immediately set up here's this, here's an account,

585
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:50,080
Speaker 3: here's your money, boom perfect. My daughter told her bio mom,

586
00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:53,480
Speaker 3: and she is upset and is suggesting that my daughter.

587
00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:55,680
Speaker 2: Go live with her. My daughter chooses who she.

588
00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 3: Spends the year with herself, and if she wants to go,

589
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 3: I won't stop her. I don't want my daughter in

590
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 3: a house where she's being neglected. Also, I do not

591
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:07,000
Speaker 3: in any way force my wife to cook for my daughter.

592
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:09,840
Speaker 3: In fact, she insists on cooking for her, and if

593
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:11,679
Speaker 3: she came to me and said she didn't want to

594
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:14,120
Speaker 3: cook for my daughter. I would understand and wake up

595
00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:16,480
Speaker 3: early to fix our food for the next day or

596
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 3: switch my schedule around. My wife goes on one grocery

597
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 3: run for the entire.

598
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:21,920
Speaker 2: Month, the entire month, so.

599
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 3: If she isn't getting everything on my daughter's grocery list,

600
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:26,880
Speaker 3: of course my daughter's mills will be limited.

601
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:29,720
Speaker 2: Well, one girl, that's impressive. How do you get everything

602
00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:30,400
Speaker 2: I go?

603
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,640
Speaker 3: Maybe it's coming to the point where I go every

604
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Speaker 3: ten days.

605
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 2: I go twice a month, and that's just for one

606
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:38,120
Speaker 2: person every month. I've seen people meal prep for a month.

607
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:40,520
Speaker 2: I'm really not on wife side now. And also hope

608
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,119
Speaker 2: if you had given us all of this context, everyone

609
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:45,560
Speaker 2: would have been on your side from the start. These

610
00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:48,320
Speaker 2: are the questions we're asking. This is your fault.

611
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:51,080
Speaker 3: I talked to my daughter and she isn't mad at

612
00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:53,439
Speaker 3: my wife at all and is even pushing for me

613
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:56,280
Speaker 3: to forgive her. It's frustrating because my sixteen year old

614
00:26:56,320 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 3: daughter is trying to fix our marriage while my wife

615
00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:02,320
Speaker 3: basically said you could care less about my daughter. I

616
00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:04,919
Speaker 3: gotta wait to say this, but dude, we're talking about

617
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:05,679
Speaker 3: your wife.

618
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 2: We're talking about practice here. I was exactly like I

619
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 2: was about to say, we're talking about practice, Jamie, We're

620
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 2: talking about practice.

621
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:18,399
Speaker 3: My daughter is also willing to go grocery shopping with

622
00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 3: my wife and pay for her own food, so there

623
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:24,640
Speaker 3: isn't any more conflict. Some people were saying she might

624
00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:29,439
Speaker 3: have a RFID disorder. Yeah, and I'm definitely looking into it.

625
00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:31,880
Speaker 3: Any advice of what courts of action I should take

626
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 3: with my wife, Afred, Yeah.

627
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:35,199
Speaker 2: It's basically what we were saying. A food sense it.

628
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 2: I don't know exactly what it stands forward, but like

629
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 2: it's like food rejection or something, you.

630
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:42,000
Speaker 3: Know, commoners put this at the top. On one hand,

631
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 3: I love her, and on the other hand, I cannot

632
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:47,119
Speaker 3: fathom the idea of being with someone who is willing

633
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:48,720
Speaker 3: to neglect my daughter.

634
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:50,359
Speaker 2: Update two, super Fair.

635
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:52,000
Speaker 3: I don't know where you live. I don't know if

636
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:54,760
Speaker 3: you get services delivered to you. That seems like the

637
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:55,400
Speaker 3: easiest thing.

638
00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:58,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, It's just a little crazy to me that you

639
00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 2: have to go through all of these steps when there's

640
00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:02,920
Speaker 2: so many easy answers that you and your daughter are

641
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:06,160
Speaker 2: both willing to do to make it easier on your wife.

642
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 2: And your wife's like n Nah, she's not my daughter.

643
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:12,159
Speaker 2: What weird?

644
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:15,200
Speaker 3: I am a big proponent in a marriage. Whenever you

645
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:18,520
Speaker 3: wed someone and they come with extra people, those are

646
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 3: your people.

647
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 2: Those are your people. Now those extra people part of

648
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 2: your squad.

649
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:25,240
Speaker 3: I understand where you may have favorites because you actually

650
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:28,399
Speaker 3: born another person, but you you have to put that

651
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:30,879
Speaker 3: to the side. You can't pick favorites anymore because those

652
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 3: are your children. You have decided to go on this

653
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 3: journey together as a family.

654
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:39,520
Speaker 2: If you do have some favoriteism going on, it shouldn't

655
00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:43,160
Speaker 2: get to the level where you're not feeding one of

656
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 2: the kids.

657
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 3: No, even worse, it shouldn't get to the level or

658
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 3: you're buying one of them potato chips and not feeding

659
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Speaker 3: the other one.

660
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:51,840
Speaker 2: Like, come on, keep your favoritism under wraps.

661
00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 3: It's like if I win a million dollars, I wouldn't

662
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 3: tell what there'd be signs if I had favorites, I

663
00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:57,440
Speaker 3: wouldn't tell.

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Speaker 2: I don't feed one of them? Which one's my favorite? Yeah?

665
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 3: Oh, probably the one that's pushing three hundred pounds.

666
00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:04,680
Speaker 2: Go Lee.

667
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 3: Update two, Hey, this is Riley the new Californian.

668
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Speaker 2: Here.

669
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Speaker 3: We're gonna get back to these stories. But here's three

670
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:13,520
Speaker 3: minutes of ads from our sponsors. And also, I don't

671
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 3: know what your financial situation is, but it shouldn't be

672
00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:16,680
Speaker 3: at the point too.

673
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, well you can't buy her foot.

674
00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 3: What come on, I'm going to clarify some things and

675
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 3: answer the most asked questions everyone's asking.

676
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:27,280
Speaker 2: When are you getting a divorce lawyer? When is this ending?

677
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:30,160
Speaker 2: Do I intend to stay with my wife? No?

678
00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:33,640
Speaker 3: Oh, I've already decided on divorce.

679
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 2: Show I was quick. This guy's efficient. Can we not

680
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 2: pumped up breaks here? Nah? We're done, she's gone.

681
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:44,240
Speaker 3: Why do I refer to my wife's son as our

682
00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 3: son and my daughter as my daughter? My daughter doesn't

683
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 3: call my wife mom. She calls her by name, which

684
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 3: makes sense since her mom is still very involved in

685
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 3: her life. Naturally, I refer to my daughter as my daughter.

686
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 2: As for my.

687
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 3: eXess son, I've known him since he was seven and

688
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 3: he didn't have a father figure in his life. He

689
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:02,960
Speaker 3: calls me dad, and I treat him like my own.

690
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 3: Nice I thought it would be easier to understand throughout

691
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 3: the story it is. It's just sad that you refer

692
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:10,640
Speaker 3: to him as hour and just the divide man.

693
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:12,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, it seems like this was a thing that was

694
00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:14,880
Speaker 2: going on from the beginning, which is tough. Why won't

695
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 2: my daughter just cook her own food?

696
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 3: Well, if you all read through the story, you would

697
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 3: see where I said that my wife admitted to not

698
00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:24,800
Speaker 3: buying most of my daughter's grocery list. This of course

699
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:28,200
Speaker 3: limits the food my daughter can cook and eat for herself. Also,

700
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 3: she only orders food once a month. My wife believes

701
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 3: that this is a waste of money and should be

702
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 3: used on snacks. Her son prefers an extra food.

703
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:42,040
Speaker 2: It's crazy to say the daughter's main source of food

704
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 2: is a waste and we should spend it on snacks

705
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 2: and extra items that we don't need.

706
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:50,400
Speaker 3: This is a weird parallel and we're halfway through, but

707
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 3: I have been thinking this the whole story. The wife's

708
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 3: cooking is like a radio station. Huh, all kind of

709
00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 3: different songs and you know, develop your music taste, while

710
00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 3: the daughter is on one streaming service and she's just

711
00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:03,560
Speaker 3: listening to Taylor Swift and Billie.

712
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 2: Eilish on repeat. Yeah, that's her food. There we go.

713
00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:08,800
Speaker 3: How bad is my daughter's relationship with her bio mom?

714
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,720
Speaker 3: My daughter and her bio mom relationship is very good,

715
00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 3: and she's never been neglectful towards her. From what I know,

716
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 3: she live with her bio mom from ages twelve to fifteen.

717
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 3: I think she's keen on staying with me to try

718
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 3: a different arrangement and to get a break from her

719
00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 3: bio mom. As I know, she can be a little crisy,

720
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 3: and I mean that in a good way.

721
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 2: Maybe, how strong?

722
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Speaker 3: Why does all my daughter eat the food my wife

723
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:33,680
Speaker 3: makes instead of throwing a fit. It's not as simple

724
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 3: as just eating the food. She gets physically ill. Seriously,

725
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:40,200
Speaker 3: we try every now and then to expand her palette,

726
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:40,920
Speaker 3: with no luck.

727
00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 2: She literally will gag and vomit the food. It's a

728
00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:45,840
Speaker 2: pretty good sign that maybe we need to make her

729
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:46,440
Speaker 2: something else.

730
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Speaker 3: I mean, my little brother does this, but he just

731
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 3: does it because he's a third He's like, sawry stop,

732
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 3: just eat it, you would need it. That wasn't even chicken,

733
00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:56,440
Speaker 3: that was breading. Am I gonna let her pay for

734
00:31:56,440 --> 00:32:00,160
Speaker 3: her own groceries? Absolutely not. My child shouldn't have to

735
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:02,840
Speaker 3: worry about making sure they can eat no matter what

736
00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 3: age they are. That is the parent's job.

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00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:05,600
Speaker 2: How is my.

738
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 3: Wife only going grocery shopping once a month? That's what

739
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 3: we're interesting Yeah, on the first of every month, my

740
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 3: wife goes grocery shopping. With our budget being one thousand

741
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 3: dollars to fifteen hundred dollars, why not.

742
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Speaker 2: Just go twice a month, dude, that's a crazy that's

743
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 2: a huge budget too.

744
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 3: How much money do you spend whenever you go grocery shopping?

745
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 2: Like, well, okay, per month, probably about one hundred per

746
00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:33,000
Speaker 2: month to like one hundred to one fifty per month.

747
00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:36,360
Speaker 2: Just feed yourself a whole month? Yeah, how like actually

748
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 2: how I don't know?

749
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Speaker 3: In la Yeah, I don't believe this, it's true.

750
00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 2: I don't believe it all right. You know how much

751
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 2: I spend per month? Four hundred dollars, like pushing five

752
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 2: hundred five to fifty eighty. It's all that meat you're buying.

753
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 2: It's expensive.

754
00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I also need it. You know how many chickpeas

755
00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 3: I'd have to eat? I'd have to eat ten dollars

756
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:54,640
Speaker 3: of chickspeas every day, and that's cheaper.

757
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 2: A pack of meat per day is like ten bucks

758
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 2: per day, not per day.

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Speaker 3: I get like a pack of meat, so I get like,

760
00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 3: for example, the coconut chicken curry that I'm made, I

761
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:05,480
Speaker 3: cooked for six that whole thing. The meat costs like

762
00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 3: twelve bucks and I've been eating of the course of

763
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 3: light four days.

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Speaker 2: Well, that's that's your own prerogative.

765
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Speaker 3: My work schedule is five am to nine pm, and

766
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 3: I'm off on weekends and holidays. Why am I letting

767
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:18,360
Speaker 3: my daughter leave instead of my wife. My daughter has

768
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 3: a choice to stay with me or her mother, and

769
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 3: she's choosing to stay with me. My wife will be

770
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Speaker 3: the one leaving once the divorce is finalized. Have I

771
00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 3: told my wife or the kid that I decided on divorce.

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00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 2: No, we're the first to know. Insane. It's like, yeah,

773
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:33,680
Speaker 2: I haven't told my wife I'm a divorcing her, but

774
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 2: it's happening. Watch out, you'll find it in the commons. No,

775
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:38,000
Speaker 2: not tonight.

776
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Speaker 3: I will be having a sit down with both my

777
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:44,120
Speaker 3: kids separately and one with everyone together. I do teach

778
00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 3: my daughter how to manage her money. My daughter is

779
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 3: a junior, so she is usually busy with a lot,

780
00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:51,760
Speaker 3: and she also plays soccer, volleyball and is on the

781
00:33:51,800 --> 00:33:54,640
Speaker 3: student council at her school. She shouldn't have to worry

782
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 3: about having a meal to eat when she gets home.

783
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 3: My daughter isn't upset with my wife, and it's still

784
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 3: insisting that I get my wife another chance, which is

785
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:05,120
Speaker 3: heartbreaking because my wife openly admitted to putting her own

786
00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:08,279
Speaker 3: son's need before my daughter's. I'm not mad at that.

787
00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:11,400
Speaker 3: Protect yours right, but still I don't play favorites with

788
00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:14,440
Speaker 3: her son and my daughter, and if our roles were reversed,

789
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:17,160
Speaker 3: I'd bend over backwards to accommodate him. I mean, I'd

790
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 3: give it another shot.

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00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:19,759
Speaker 2: I don't know if we should divorce real quick.

792
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 3: I get where she's coming from, and that might not

793
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:25,759
Speaker 3: be something you can change. Yeah, dude, we're a unit here.

794
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 2: I do feel like he's had a couple conversations that

795
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 2: have revealed, you know, her feeling or it's the daughter. However,

796
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 2: I also would understand maybe saying hey, let's separate. You know,

797
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:41,319
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have my daughter in a separate household so

798
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:43,800
Speaker 2: that I can keep her safe because I feel like

799
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,319
Speaker 2: this is not a great environment for her. Or you know,

800
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 2: if the daughter wants to go and move to her

801
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 2: mom's and then they continue to try and go to

802
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:52,759
Speaker 2: therapy and see if they could work it out, maybe

803
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 2: that would be the solution. Yeah, I agree, I agree,

804
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:58,240
Speaker 2: but I think he's trying to prioritize his daughter's safety,

805
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:00,160
Speaker 2: and I feel like trying to work it out out

806
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:03,480
Speaker 2: while she's still in the household with her would cause tension.

807
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:05,239
Speaker 2: I see, that's my thought on that.

808
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 3: People are also confused about how I didn't notice before

809
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:11,960
Speaker 3: My wife always told me that she made a separate

810
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:14,920
Speaker 3: meal for my daughter, which I believed. I mean, I

811
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:17,279
Speaker 3: had no reason not to, and my daughter is a

812
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:20,760
Speaker 3: huge people pleaser, so of course she didn't say anything,

813
00:35:20,840 --> 00:35:23,560
Speaker 3: probably because she was scared to drive a wedge.

814
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:24,680
Speaker 2: Between me and my wife.

815
00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:27,600
Speaker 3: And for the narrow minded people saying that my daughter

816
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 3: is being dramatic, think of it as you being forced

817
00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:33,400
Speaker 3: to eat something you are extremely allergic to. You wouldn't

818
00:35:33,400 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 3: want to and you shouldn't be forced to. I'm going

819
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 3: to put my daughter in therapy because I know she

820
00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:41,880
Speaker 3: won't just come out and say what other issues she

821
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 3: and my wife are having. My daughter isn't literally going

822
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:47,760
Speaker 3: hungry since she has a job, but still she shouldn't

823
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:49,799
Speaker 3: be spending money on takeout every night.

824
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 2: True.

825
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:52,800
Speaker 3: I feel extremely guilty as a parent for not seeing

826
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:55,880
Speaker 3: my daughter was being neglected sooner, and I hope my

827
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:58,200
Speaker 3: relationship with her can be fixed. I'm also going to

828
00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:00,359
Speaker 3: be looking into all the conditions you were all are

829
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:03,279
Speaker 3: saying that my daughter might have. Feel free to ask

830
00:36:03,400 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 3: anything in the comments if you're still confused.

831
00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 2: Update three. Oh boy, I feel pretty clear here. I

832
00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:11,280
Speaker 2: do too. I feel like my my thoughts have not changed.

833
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 2: I think this is the right decision for everyone. I

834
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:16,960
Speaker 2: love the way you're stepping up here. Yeah, that's incredible.

835
00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:19,560
Speaker 3: You see an issue, you're taking accountability as a father,

836
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:22,400
Speaker 3: and you're making it happen. Oh yeah, Honestly, if divorce

837
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,839
Speaker 3: is on is what you wanted to go for, I

838
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:26,960
Speaker 3: support you did. Yeah, I'm supporting you. I like the

839
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:28,279
Speaker 3: way you're going about it. Go for it.

840
00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:30,760
Speaker 2: Need I want to move like this father of a three.

841
00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:34,000
Speaker 3: First, I want to address the comments saying I'm divorcing

842
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:37,319
Speaker 3: my wife because of a dietary issue. Those people need

843
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:39,239
Speaker 3: to wake up, Sophia. Is it more than just a

844
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:41,640
Speaker 3: dietary issuelp so Fia. Is it much deeper than just

845
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:44,839
Speaker 3: a dietary issue. It is a subconscious decision your wife

846
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:47,000
Speaker 3: is making to do let your daughter every day.

847
00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:49,759
Speaker 2: And sometimes a very conscious decision. Was she's like my

848
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 2: son hosstime chips.

849
00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's become so conscious that it's not a subconscious

850
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:55,760
Speaker 3: thing that she doesn't even think about it anymore.

851
00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 2: And also, if you have a fifteen hundred dollars grocery

852
00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 2: budget every month's issue one thousand dollars of chips, let's

853
00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:04,880
Speaker 2: do the math here, all right. Yeah, for a family

854
00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:06,440
Speaker 2: of four, I'm doing fifteen.

855
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:09,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, even if we did twelve hundred, it's three

856
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 3: hundred dollars a month per person.

857
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 2: That's more than enough. I do five point fifty.

858
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:16,000
Speaker 3: If I think Angie and I could live together and

859
00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:17,840
Speaker 3: be fine because of how much food I make, Yeah,

860
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 3: we could live off of money salary and be fine.

861
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:21,759
Speaker 2: Absolutely, that's what we were saying. No, I was just

862
00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:23,759
Speaker 2: gonna say, like, we only we have a seven year

863
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,520
Speaker 2: old boy, sixteen year old girl, like the wife, and

864
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:27,360
Speaker 2: that's one person.

865
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:29,160
Speaker 3: Man, the seven year old and the fourteen year old.

866
00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:29,800
Speaker 3: That's a one person.

867
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 2: That's one person. Yeah, in terms of cost, so you

868
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:34,160
Speaker 2: cook it for three. Yeah.

869
00:37:34,360 --> 00:37:37,880
Speaker 3: The issue runs far deeper. My wife purposely neglected to

870
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 3: buy my daughter's groceries list after insisting every time to

871
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 3: do the groceries and food organization on her own. She

872
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:49,080
Speaker 3: purposefully neglected my daughter and disrespected her. There was literally

873
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 3: no telling what else she is willing to do to

874
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 3: my daughter.

875
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:54,200
Speaker 2: Therefore, I was like, is there a way to go

876
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 2: to therapy and fix it?

877
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 3: But there therefore I am no longer trusting her. I'm

878
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:02,200
Speaker 3: honestly disappointed to my wife. Just to clarify, my daughter

879
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 3: is not spoiled. I don't think she is anymore.

880
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, she knows that to cook. She's spending her own money.

881
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 2: It seems like she's pretty got a pretty good head

882
00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:10,240
Speaker 2: on her shoulders.

883
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, she just has a diagnosis we don't know about yet. Yeah,

884
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:15,680
Speaker 3: she works for half of the things she owns. She

885
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:18,600
Speaker 3: pays for her own school books and her own phone bill.

886
00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:20,560
Speaker 3: Why and that's her choice.

887
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, all right, that's why spoke too soon?

888
00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 3: Wow, look at her misogynists. She doesn't think women should

889
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 3: pay for their own.

890
00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:29,600
Speaker 2: Things think children should pay for their own things. She's

891
00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:32,879
Speaker 2: a woman child. Look, she's also age just tew dare

892
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:35,080
Speaker 2: you right? And I'm sorry, Get that seven year old

893
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:36,920
Speaker 2: paying for his own chips If he wants.

894
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:38,480
Speaker 3: He's gotta work for That's what I had to do

895
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:42,640
Speaker 3: in the minds. She also is a stray a and

896
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:45,280
Speaker 3: b student. She is literally one of the biggest people

897
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:46,719
Speaker 3: pleasers you'll probably ever meet.

898
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 2: This feels like me. I really to her so much.

899
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:52,240
Speaker 3: She is also a very calm natured person and doesn't

900
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:54,560
Speaker 3: hash out her problems by fighting and yelling.

901
00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:55,520
Speaker 2: She's very mature.

902
00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:57,360
Speaker 3: So what happens when you're the oldest in kind of

903
00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 3: a broken household? As stated in my second date, I

904
00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:03,720
Speaker 3: had a talk with my son, my daughter, and my wife.

905
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:05,840
Speaker 3: I talked with my daughter first and told her I

906
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:09,000
Speaker 3: was divorcing my wife. She was shocked and kept persisting

907
00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 3: that I give her another chance and that she isn't

908
00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:16,080
Speaker 3: in any way upset. I believe that's just the people

909
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 3: pleaser in her.

910
00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:18,840
Speaker 2: I think it's a people pleaser. She's like, please, no,

911
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 2: I love her. I love her so much.

912
00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:25,960
Speaker 3: I told her I understand, but I was upset for

913
00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 3: her and assured her that this wasn't her fault and

914
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:30,279
Speaker 3: I just wanted what was best for her.

915
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:31,120
Speaker 2: She got very.

916
00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:33,640
Speaker 3: Defensive and said, you need to be worried about your

917
00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 3: own happiness. I'm leaving for the military or college in

918
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:37,400
Speaker 3: a few years.

919
00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 2: You're gonna be an old man with no one to

920
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 2: be there for you. Damn isn't it be like sixteen

921
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:46,319
Speaker 2: forty thirty nine. Yeah, yeah, geez's gonna be an old

922
00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:49,399
Speaker 2: man in two years, you're gonna be forty two. Who's

923
00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:51,800
Speaker 2: gonna look after you? I'll be in the military. What

924
00:39:52,080 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 2: you're going to the military? Girl? She's like, they feed

925
00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 2: me the same thing every day, and I'm gonna love it.

926
00:39:57,640 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 3: I laughed and said that I could be one hundred

927
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 3: and thirty and still make the best out.

928
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 2: Of being alone.

929
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 3: After that, we laughed, we cried, she apologized, and we

930
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 3: comforted each other.

931
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 2: I think she was just trying to scare you down. Yeah,

932
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:12,239
Speaker 2: she was like, what can I do? How can I

933
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:15,200
Speaker 2: stop this? I'm gonna try being mean now, I'll be

934
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:18,279
Speaker 2: bad cop. I'm gonna shoot that was really I'm sorry.

935
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:20,719
Speaker 3: Next it was time to talk to my son. Are

936
00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 3: you talking to the son before the Yeah.

937
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 2: She's like, He's like, You're not gonna be able to

938
00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 2: afford those chips anymore, my son, not your dad anymore. Sorry.

939
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 3: He looks so taken aback and then started full on crying.

940
00:40:33,719 --> 00:40:36,920
Speaker 3: I'm comforted him, telling that it wasn't his fault, and

941
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 3: continually apologized to him. After he calmed down. I explained

942
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:44,360
Speaker 3: the entire situation to him. He looked embarrassed and tired,

943
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:47,800
Speaker 3: and he started apologizing for his mother's action. After a while,

944
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:50,400
Speaker 3: he cleared his throat and said, so, does this mean.

945
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 2: You won't be my dad anymore? Just imagine the seven

946
00:40:52,520 --> 00:40:54,319
Speaker 2: year old going, So it's me and you're not my

947
00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:56,439
Speaker 2: dad anymore? What's going on here? I think he's nine

948
00:40:56,480 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 2: actually now yet nine, ten eleven? Somebody that Yeah, excuse me, Yeah,

949
00:41:00,280 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 2: you not my dad anymore.

950
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 3: No, you're gonna have to work as a newsies for

951
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 3: the rest of your life.

952
00:41:04,080 --> 00:41:06,760
Speaker 2: Am no extra, sir? My dad's kidding at divorce.

953
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 3: I was heartbroken by that sentence and started shedding a

954
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:10,600
Speaker 3: few tears.

955
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:13,759
Speaker 2: No, I don't look at page nine. Don't look at

956
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 2: page nine. Don't worry. You're gonna get him a job

957
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:17,880
Speaker 2: lined up like your daughter the name Alan.

958
00:41:18,160 --> 00:41:19,879
Speaker 3: I told him that he would always be his son

959
00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 3: to me, and I would still financially support him even

960
00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 3: if he cut contact with me.

961
00:41:24,719 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 2: Wow, we'll still be able to get those chips. I

962
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 2: could still get the chips even if you're not my

963
00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:32,000
Speaker 2: dad anymore. Oh key, what this was the Sun's fault? Yeah,

964
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:34,360
Speaker 2: it was all for his chips. This was all he mentioned.

965
00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 3: He wanted a certain snack, and the mom looked at

966
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 3: the grocery bill and said, hmmm, I'll get it for yourself.

967
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:42,240
Speaker 2: I got to make some sacrifices. Oh my god. Oh.

968
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:45,040
Speaker 3: He cried and assured me that he wanted me as

969
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:47,439
Speaker 3: a dad, and expressed that he knew that his mother

970
00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:51,080
Speaker 3: wouldn't let me see him. I assured him and comforted him,

971
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:53,920
Speaker 3: there's probably a way. About two hours later, it was

972
00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:56,440
Speaker 3: finally time to break the news to my wife.

973
00:41:56,600 --> 00:41:59,720
Speaker 2: I didn't realize that you went to your kids first.

974
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:03,240
Speaker 2: You told your kids you were divorcing your wife before

975
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 2: you told your wife. He went by his favorites first.

976
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:08,000
Speaker 3: That's crazy, my daughter.

977
00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 2: My son that my wife actually crazy. Oh my god.

978
00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:14,360
Speaker 2: Imagine getting divorced and you're the last one to know

979
00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:19,640
Speaker 2: about it in your house. Oh my god. No one

980
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:23,000
Speaker 2: else is shocked. I would be. I would never get

981
00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 2: over this if I was the wife.

982
00:42:24,640 --> 00:42:26,879
Speaker 3: Well you, it doesn't matter because you get divorced now.

983
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Wow, devious.

984
00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 3: I'm just a little pissed you didn't give it a

985
00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:34,120
Speaker 3: second shot. I support you, but a little pissed by that.

986
00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:36,480
Speaker 2: I'm just shocked. That you did it this way. I

987
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:40,919
Speaker 2: had both kids present, wife. I brought my kids here today.

988
00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:43,440
Speaker 2: We have to have a family meeting because we're getting divorced,

989
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:44,440
Speaker 2: and they already know.

990
00:42:44,520 --> 00:42:48,240
Speaker 3: And most of you suggested getting evidence. So my phone

991
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 3: was in my pocket recording the entire conversation.

992
00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:55,440
Speaker 2: I've called my witnesses. Seven year old son, please approach

993
00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:55,879
Speaker 2: the best.

994
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 3: I started the conversation off by asking what he had

995
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:04,200
Speaker 3: against my daughter. She was dead silent before I finally

996
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:08,120
Speaker 3: spoke again, saying, I'm divorcing you, so you should start

997
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:10,919
Speaker 3: looking for a lawyer. I asked her to explain why

998
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:14,280
Speaker 3: she was neglecting and disrespecting my child. At this point,

999
00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:17,359
Speaker 3: she was crying but not making any sound. My daughter

1000
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:20,120
Speaker 3: spoke up and suggested we have this conversation later. I

1001
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:22,800
Speaker 3: argued against the idea with my daughter until my wife's

1002
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:25,400
Speaker 3: spoken up, and she said she did it because my

1003
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 3: daughter is the spitting image of her mother.

1004
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 2: My ex that's the whole reason. That's so obvious. Come on,

1005
00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:39,320
Speaker 2: that's been done, that's been done so many times to

1006
00:43:39,480 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 2: something new.

1007
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 3: I need an original plot here, boring, long answer, what's

1008
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 3: the real reason?

1009
00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:46,320
Speaker 2: Obviously, my kids.

1010
00:43:46,160 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 3: And I were confused wondering what her looking like her

1011
00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 3: mom had to do with anything. I asked her to

1012
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 3: explain further, and she started crying. See, why can't we

1013
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:56,320
Speaker 3: get to this before we decided divorce?

1014
00:43:56,520 --> 00:43:58,640
Speaker 2: Yeah? Well actually, well why couldn't we have gotten to

1015
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 2: this before we de said marriage? Hey?

1016
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:04,440
Speaker 3: I could barely understand her, but apparently she believed I

1017
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:08,280
Speaker 3: was cheating on her with my ex, which is not true.

1018
00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 3: She said, I would flirt with her on the phone

1019
00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:12,680
Speaker 3: while laying right next to my wife.

1020
00:44:12,719 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 2: Why are we doing this in front of the seven No, sorry,

1021
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:17,360
Speaker 2: in front of the ten year old and the sixteen

1022
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 2: year old. This is weird. Yeah, which also is not true.

1023
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 2: Who in the right mind would even do such a thing.

1024
00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 2: She said that the relationship I have with my ex

1025
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:28,759
Speaker 2: isn't normal. This probably goes her relationship with her ex.

1026
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 3: It looks very different than Opie's relationship.

1027
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:32,920
Speaker 2: With her Their ex could be that makes sense.

1028
00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 3: I do not in any way condone cheating, and I

1029
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 3: haven't cheated on my wife once.

1030
00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:38,880
Speaker 2: I haven't done it once.

1031
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:41,280
Speaker 3: Hey, it's Smiley rde of the Year from Okay, storytime,

1032
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:43,759
Speaker 3: we're going to get back to these stories, but here's

1033
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:47,320
Speaker 3: three minutes worth of ads from our sponsors. After saying

1034
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:51,120
Speaker 3: that our relationship was normal, she started a full on

1035
00:44:51,680 --> 00:44:53,400
Speaker 3: berating my ex.

1036
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 2: Sophia.

1037
00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:55,239
Speaker 3: We got a little bit left here. What are we

1038
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:56,239
Speaker 3: thinking of the wife? Hai?

1039
00:44:56,960 --> 00:45:00,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is over, this is over, so far off

1040
00:45:00,840 --> 00:45:03,959
Speaker 2: in the deep ending. Yeah, but we've also I'd like, yes,

1041
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 2: your wife is in the a hole for how she's

1042
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 2: treated your daughter and how she's you know, treated the family.

1043
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 2: But you are so weird on how you approached this divorce,

1044
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:19,000
Speaker 2: so strange, like why are the kids so involved? This

1045
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 2: is so weird. Kind of weaponize them, Yeah, he's like,

1046
00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 2: I brought my lawyers here today. You'll need to get

1047
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:27,399
Speaker 2: your own lorm These ones are mine.

1048
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:29,760
Speaker 3: Can't take mine, can't take them. The bag of potato

1049
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:30,839
Speaker 3: chips you can use over there.

1050
00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:33,319
Speaker 2: I've been bribing them with potato chip and this one

1051
00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 2: with food. You don't feed her. She's just hungry, so

1052
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:40,080
Speaker 2: she'll do anything. I had to read the whole freaking

1053
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 2: lob code. Whatever. Weird dude, it like tick the bar exam.

1054
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:46,760
Speaker 3: I mean I kind of get it because your wife

1055
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:50,319
Speaker 3: put her kid in before your marriage, and then you

1056
00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:53,439
Speaker 3: kind of at the beginning he put his kid before her.

1057
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:55,520
Speaker 3: I didn't like at first where you took your daughter

1058
00:45:55,560 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 3: out to eat instead of talking to your wife. I

1059
00:45:57,080 --> 00:46:00,120
Speaker 3: didn't like how you talked to your wife last. It

1060
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:02,400
Speaker 3: seems like this pattern shows up in different areas in

1061
00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:02,840
Speaker 3: your marriage.

1062
00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 2: It seems like it's just not a good good marriage.

1063
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:09,360
Speaker 3: Now, Like I said before, my daughter is a naturally

1064
00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:12,840
Speaker 3: laid back and calm person. But she did not condone

1065
00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:15,759
Speaker 3: any type of disrespect towards her mother. She left my

1066
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:18,919
Speaker 3: wife with a verbal harmful act so fould that Mike

1067
00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:22,640
Speaker 3: Tyson wouldn't recover from it before stomping off to her room.

1068
00:46:22,760 --> 00:46:22,960
Speaker 1: Dang.

1069
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:25,239
Speaker 2: So she finally spuck up. She's like, you will not

1070
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:27,120
Speaker 2: talk about my mother that way.

1071
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:30,319
Speaker 3: If you're wondering if I stepped in, the answer is no,

1072
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:33,120
Speaker 3: I'm not sorry either. I won't repeat what she said

1073
00:46:33,200 --> 00:46:36,280
Speaker 3: here because I don't want anyone attacking my daughter.

1074
00:46:36,480 --> 00:46:38,680
Speaker 2: It must have been bad. Yeah, like that.

1075
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 3: One dude's name is Harry Butter unspeakable. Conversation basically ended there.

1076
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:45,759
Speaker 3: I went upstairs to calm down my daughter, and my

1077
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 3: son stayed downstairs to console his mother.

1078
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:50,600
Speaker 2: Now they're doing damage control. This is why we don't

1079
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:54,200
Speaker 2: have our kids in the conversation while we divorce our

1080
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:57,719
Speaker 2: wife so that our ten year old son doesn't have

1081
00:46:57,800 --> 00:47:01,400
Speaker 2: to emotionally coddle his mom. Like, that was such a

1082
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:02,759
Speaker 2: bad move on your part.

1083
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 3: I'll be taking my wife to court for visitation rights

1084
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:06,239
Speaker 3: with my son.

1085
00:47:06,280 --> 00:47:08,359
Speaker 2: Oh you're bringing into right, Yeah, he's like, I'm taking

1086
00:47:08,360 --> 00:47:08,759
Speaker 2: this one.

1087
00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:11,239
Speaker 3: What do you think about how this went down? I

1088
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:14,399
Speaker 3: would love to see people's comments on this. I'm giving

1089
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:15,280
Speaker 3: this a D minus.

1090
00:47:15,360 --> 00:47:19,080
Speaker 2: Bad approach reasoning me for a divorce, doing the divorce.

1091
00:47:19,280 --> 00:47:20,120
Speaker 2: You didn't do it right.

1092
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Speaker 3: You missed a few steps, you went out of order. Guys,

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Speaker 3: that's the end of that episode, that crazy wacky one.

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