WEBVTT - Mothers Part 2 0:00:01.040 --> 0:00:04.440 Welcome to Part two of our Mother's Day episode. There 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:06.480 was so much to discuss, we had to do part two. 0:00:06.840 --> 0:00:08.920 We did, and since our premiere episodes, so we wanted 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:11.320 to give people something a little extra. So we have 0:00:11.400 --> 0:00:13.520 people calling in with advice about their children, which is 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:15.440 obviously going to be my wheelhouse, and you can pick 0:00:15.440 --> 0:00:17.200 your own wheelhouse because that's mine. I picked it. It's 0:00:17.239 --> 0:00:19.599 just like a monopoly figure is as we keep going, 0:00:19.760 --> 0:00:22.560 I think your's is gay. That would make sense. Yeah, 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:24.680 so these are women, they've got some kids that are 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:26.880 kind of sucked up. Well, we don't want to say 0:00:26.880 --> 0:00:30.280 fucked up. You know, just because there's a situation happening 0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:32.760 doesn't mean your kid is fucked up. It means your 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:35.400 kids might be behaving in a fucked up way. We 0:00:35.440 --> 0:00:38.040 don't want to say you're fucked up. Nobody's fucked up. 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:41.400 That's a permanent description of somebody. And everything's temporary. So 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:44.760 that's the first thing to remember, everybody. Everything is temporary. 0:00:44.840 --> 0:00:48.120 Even if you're an asshole, that can be temporary. Even 0:00:48.159 --> 0:00:49.839 if a kid is an asshole, that can be a 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:52.560 temporaries asshole kid. And that's what I call attacked t 0:00:52.840 --> 0:00:56.200 A k temporary asshole kid. Okay, Well, then today we 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:58.680 have a couple T a k S temporary asshole kids. 0:00:59.080 --> 0:01:02.319 These kids are up to okay, okay. Laura is our 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:05.160 first submission. She is in her thirties. She's a newly 0:01:05.200 --> 0:01:08.280 stay at home mom, and she says, Dear Chelsea, how 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:10.960 do I get my toddler to stop swearing? I don't 0:01:10.959 --> 0:01:13.560 know what sort of advice you're going to give? Well, 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:17.040 I mean, I personally like when toddler swears, why so 0:01:17.200 --> 0:01:19.600 I don't mind it, And I as far as parenting 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:21.520 goes like, they're going to find out what fuck and 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:26.240 you know in all these word because I've been saying 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:28.280 that word a lot later for some reason. But you know, 0:01:28.280 --> 0:01:32.000 they're gonna find out fun ship, piss, whatever, pussy. They're 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:34.120 going to hear these words. Yeah, they shouldn't be throwing 0:01:34.120 --> 0:01:36.600 them around, but it is entertaining, and I feel like 0:01:36.640 --> 0:01:41.800 the entertainment value aspect of it outweighs the moral one 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:44.479 because it's not really a moral argument. It's just like, 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:47.279 do you want your kids cursing or not? Obviously you don't, 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:50.400 but I think from like until they're five, it's fun. Well, 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:53.000 so she goes on to say. He typically says oh 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:55.960 ship with conviction and in perfect context. He's almost three, 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:57.640 so he's old enough to understand that he shouldn't be 0:01:57.720 --> 0:02:00.640 saying these words. I've explained to him that he shouldn't, 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:04.840 and later that day he said, what the hell any advice? Hi? Laura, 0:02:05.720 --> 0:02:10.680 Hi Chelsea? Hi? Is it funny? Him cursing, Yeah, it 0:02:10.760 --> 0:02:13.680 sounds funny, It is funny. My husband and I usually 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:16.320 look at each other and kind of do a little 0:02:16.320 --> 0:02:19.240 giggle and decide whether or not we're going to say 0:02:19.280 --> 0:02:22.760 something to him or just trying to ignore it, and 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:26.040 it's just kind of a we never really know what 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:29.560 to do. Yeah, I think just go with it. I 0:02:29.600 --> 0:02:33.040 had a friend who had a similar situation and she 0:02:33.840 --> 0:02:35.720 told the kid, you can only say those words at home. 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:37.840 So I don't know what sort of impact that had, 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:40.280 but set it up that like, hey, you know, there 0:02:40.280 --> 0:02:42.520 are certain things that you do and don't say in public, 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:45.600 and those were if you're going to say those words, 0:02:45.600 --> 0:02:47.799 you only say them at home, like you don't say 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:50.120 them at school, you don't say them to another kid. 0:02:50.919 --> 0:02:52.239 I don't know how that worked out for them, but 0:02:52.240 --> 0:02:54.760 I would just like to provide you that sort of insight, 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:57.079 it's what another parents is doing. And also I would 0:02:57.200 --> 0:03:01.359 enjoy the comic relief of it. Yes, it is very funny. However, 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:03.880 one time he did it when we had family members 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:06.440 over and they kind of shot us some weird looks, 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:09.079 so we were like, well, we're just trying to ignore 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:12.160 it right now. Yeah, but you know what fun people 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:14.840 like when family members how are so judgy about like 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:18.200 your toddler and about other people how they raise their children. 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:20.200 That is reason enough for your kid to be cursing. 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:23.120 In my opinion, there's more serious ship going on, Like 0:03:23.200 --> 0:03:25.280 you guys have bigger fish to fry when you have 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:28.000 a kid. This is the thing, Chelsea is not ever 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:30.240 going to have kids. I'm on the fence. I really 0:03:30.240 --> 0:03:32.679 wanted them, and now I can't imagine having to deal 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:35.040 with them. So I give like the utmost kudos to 0:03:35.080 --> 0:03:38.600 anyone who is willing to give of themselves to raise children. 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:42.080 That is the least of your fucking worries. Is this 0:03:42.160 --> 0:03:45.280 kid swearing? Like is he kind? That's something? Is he 0:03:45.360 --> 0:03:48.600 pushing kids down on a playground? If the answer is no, 0:03:49.040 --> 0:03:51.440 then like who the fun let him say funk? If 0:03:51.440 --> 0:03:54.320 that's the worst thing this kid is doing, it's probably 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:56.600 not that bad. He'll grow out of it. He'll be 0:03:56.640 --> 0:04:00.000 able to understand later. That's like not appropriate in certain settings. 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:02.800 But I would think also the less attention you draw 0:04:02.880 --> 0:04:06.600 to it, the less it's going to have impact. Right, Yeah, 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:09.240 Like if you're laughing at him, like he sees he's 0:04:09.240 --> 0:04:11.040 getting your attention, then of course he's going to want 0:04:11.120 --> 0:04:14.440 more of it. So if you're laughing, which I you know, encourage, 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:16.880 I would look away and laugh with your husband, and then, 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:19.560 you know, just appreciate those little moments. Use it as 0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:24.480 for play. Sounds good. Okay, thanks for calling in, Laura, 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:28.000 Thank you so much. If I had a kid, he 0:04:28.040 --> 0:04:30.680 would be such a dick. Yeah, but not a dick 0:04:30.800 --> 0:04:35.800 in like a celebrity. He would order cocktails at dinner 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:37.520 and stuff like that. He'd be a dick to me. 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:39.279 You would have one of those kids though, that people 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:42.240 want to be around. They engage an adult conversation, like 0:04:42.279 --> 0:04:45.000 they know what the funk is up. I'm just so 0:04:45.000 --> 0:04:48.159 so glad that I don't have children. I know, I'm 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:52.560 so grateful that that never happened to me. I'm so 0:04:52.600 --> 0:04:55.719 grateful that I don't have someone at home when I 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:59.160 get home except for you and my bell and and 0:04:59.200 --> 0:05:03.440 even my belt. I really don't want to get home 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:05.640 all the time. This is something that everyone should know. 0:05:05.760 --> 0:05:08.800 When Chelsea comes home from a trip, she hates if 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:10.440 anyone to say She's like, I don't want to see 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:12.159 people when I come back. Mind you, I always have 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:13.800 to be there to make sure like things are on. 0:05:13.839 --> 0:05:16.360 You can help me turn the lights on. Usually what 0:05:16.400 --> 0:05:19.200 it is is, I'm bloated and tired. You want to decompress, 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:21.320 and I want to get in bed and sleep. I'm 0:05:21.360 --> 0:05:24.320 so glad that I, like, there's no accidental pregnancies in 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:27.240 a gay relationship. But I thought for sure I was 0:05:27.279 --> 0:05:28.640 going to have kids by the time I was twenty. 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:31.920 That's all I wanted. I ever even thought about that, 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:34.280 that you guys don't have to deal with the threat 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:37.040 of an accidental pregnancy. No, so it's you know, it 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:40.159 has to be much more organized if you're going to 0:05:40.200 --> 0:05:42.720 have kids. But even then, yeah, like you have to 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:47.839 do not I cannot imagine having kids and just have 0:05:48.000 --> 0:05:51.440 to to sacrifice yourself and your time and the questions 0:05:51.520 --> 0:05:55.040 that they ask, repeated questions about the sun and the 0:05:55.080 --> 0:05:57.920 moon and answers. I don't have, and I don't want 0:05:57.920 --> 0:06:00.280 to pretend to know ship that I don't. That is 0:06:00.440 --> 0:06:02.279 so funny. My nephew called the other night and asking 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:04.120 me how the moon got its glow, and so then 0:06:04.120 --> 0:06:06.800 I had to figure that out. I'm like Sun from 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:09.559 the Sun. Yeah, I am way late on the fucking 0:06:09.560 --> 0:06:12.520 moon and Sunda from Google about three weeks ago, and 0:06:12.520 --> 0:06:14.320 I got the moon and the sun were the same 0:06:14.520 --> 0:06:17.520 fucking thing until like late in life. I thought Chicago 0:06:17.600 --> 0:06:20.000 was a state until I was like nineteen, So that's 0:06:20.839 --> 0:06:23.000 not saying much. But this seems to be a common problem, 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:26.000 these kids swearing. But guys, like, there's so much else 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:29.040 to worry about in life than your child saying shit, 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:34.359 So sweet, keep exposing yourself. My breasts are exposed and 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:37.599 I didn't even know stopped out and they're fucking huge 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:41.280 right now. I mean they're always big period. Okay, Well, 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:45.520 speaking of parenting styles, this next emission comes from Lindsay 0:06:45.560 --> 0:06:49.520 A out of California. She writes, Dear Chelsea, my goddamn 0:06:49.560 --> 0:06:51.880 four year old says some crazy shit. Usually I can 0:06:52.000 --> 0:06:54.520 respond to him and help him understand. I speak to 0:06:54.600 --> 0:06:57.320 him like an adult. He's allowed to use swear words, 0:06:57.360 --> 0:07:00.480 which many think is fucked up. But whatever, the issue 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:02.880 that I'm having is he now tells me and anyone 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:04.880 who will listen, I feel like I want to suck 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:08.760 my penis. Now. If he's into penises, that's cool, but 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:11.080 I don't believe he is. I asked him why he 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:12.880 thought that, and he said that he wanted to see 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:14.920 what it tastes like. Please help, What the fund do 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:17.560 I say to this little weirdo, Well, it sounds like 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:20.520 you created this weirdo probably, And I want to suck 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:22.960 my penis isn't okay to say? Even if he is 0:07:23.000 --> 0:07:25.720 into penises, like, who wants That's like me sitting there, 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:28.080 I want to suck my own beaver in nursery school. No, 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:31.720 kids aren't supposed to be talking like that for a reason, 0:07:31.840 --> 0:07:33.720 so you can have your kid cursed all the time. 0:07:33.760 --> 0:07:36.880 I also think kids cursing is funny. But I mean, 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:40.720 you've made your bed, now you have to lie in it, right, 0:07:40.920 --> 0:07:43.120 I guess? So? I mean, this isn't a situation i'd 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:45.000 ever want to encounter. I don't. I don't know what 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:46.800 you're seeing A kids saying I want to suck my 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:49.840 own you can just shut up? Yeah, exactly who are 0:07:49.840 --> 0:07:52.480 the moms in your life that you know that, like 0:07:52.640 --> 0:07:54.880 you watch their parenting style and think like that's a 0:07:54.880 --> 0:07:57.280 good fucking mom or that's someone like that's the mom 0:07:57.320 --> 0:07:59.800 I wish I had. Yeah, it's like long term, right, 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:02.400 I mean I like kids who behave so I like 0:08:02.520 --> 0:08:06.120 their parents, like kids who aren't like throwing iPads at 0:08:06.160 --> 0:08:09.080 their mother's faces like that. You know, you could see 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:11.600 the difference in parenting and the effect on the child, 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:15.040 like children who say hello, goodbye, please, thank you, or 0:08:15.320 --> 0:08:19.160 even more exciting as children that engage in conversation, you know, 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:22.040 where you can connect with a kid instead of them 0:08:22.080 --> 0:08:24.520 just like looking at you as an adult and like, okay, 0:08:25.000 --> 0:08:27.120 you know. So which of your friends do you feel 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:29.800 like their parenting style is close as to how you 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:33.840 would parent I don't think about that, ever, there has 0:08:33.880 --> 0:08:35.880 to be one of your friends. I just I like 0:08:35.960 --> 0:08:39.559 the way Charlie's parents. Charlie's there on she's like fun 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:41.640 and cool. But again I'm not there all the time, 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:45.040 so I don't know. Like Charlie's just has that attitude 0:08:45.080 --> 0:08:47.120 that I would want from my parents, Like you know, 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:51.160 she's strict, but she's totally real. Like yeah, like if 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:54.600 it's really funny. It's really funny, you know, like she's 0:08:54.600 --> 0:08:57.000 not going to be in front of you doing that. 0:08:57.160 --> 0:08:59.600 Like she's very she's more private about it, like when 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:01.600 she has to have real talks with her kids. She's 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:04.360 just like she's a real person all around. So I 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:08.160 respect how she behaves in general, but related to the kids, Yeah, 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:10.760 I like those two kids a lot, and I think 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:13.559 that's a direct result of her and her mom's parenting. Okay, 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:17.319 well we can call her right to get her on 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:20.720 the phone. Well, okay, we're gonna take a quick break, 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:25.600 and then we're gonna see if Charlie's their own or throne. Yeah, 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:31.679 is around and throne Charlie's They're wrong throne. We'll find 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:38.240 out when we get her on the phone. Hi, we're 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:40.319 back and guess what we do have Charlie's their own 0:09:40.360 --> 0:09:42.720 on the phone. Sweetheart. Are you ready to speak to 0:09:42.880 --> 0:09:46.440 our friend since we just discussed her parenting style, Yeah, 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:48.959 we should wish her, Yeah, a happy Mother's day. Hi, 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:55.640 Charlie's Hi, chicken. Oh, we were talking about you and 0:09:55.720 --> 0:09:57.720 we've decided to call you to wish you a happy 0:09:57.800 --> 0:10:03.280 Mother's Day. What you're so cute? How many Mother's Day 0:10:03.600 --> 0:10:06.960 I had asked Chelsea, who amongst her friends has a 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:11.400 parenting style that would be most aligned with how Chelsea 0:10:11.400 --> 0:10:13.760 would parent should she have kids, and she said that 0:10:13.800 --> 0:10:17.160 your parenting style was the one she appreciated the most. Well, 0:10:17.360 --> 0:10:19.800 just given that we all know how little she wants 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:23.840 to do with kids, like for herself, I take that 0:10:23.920 --> 0:10:26.240 as a real compliment because you really just don't want 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:29.200 your own kids. So I mean that's like a really 0:10:29.280 --> 0:10:32.080 high compliment to get from you. Thank you. It means 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:35.000 you're doing something right with those two. What is it 0:10:35.000 --> 0:10:37.200 is specifically that you think that I'm so good at 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:39.960 because it's probably if it comes from you, it probably 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:43.160 means I'm doing it raw. It's a good note Charley's 0:10:43.840 --> 0:10:46.640 I would say, like, I like that when you get mad, 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:49.440 like you have long, serious talks with them, almost like 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:52.679 they're you're equal, like they're adults. That's how I would 0:10:52.720 --> 0:10:55.360 describe it. I feel like we do parents a little 0:10:55.400 --> 0:10:58.760 bit like we were parented and then we also I 0:10:58.800 --> 0:11:01.200 don't know whether it's trauma or what it is that 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:03.360 makes us kind of a race some of that stuff, 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:06.960 but I do know that my mom brought that into 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:09.760 her parenting and I always appreciated it because it always 0:11:09.800 --> 0:11:13.280 that was my first introduction to respect was my mother 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:16.280 treating me that way, and it felt very respectful. And 0:11:16.320 --> 0:11:18.920 I remember being a young girl and you're like, wow, 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:21.199 my mom has so much respect for me, Like she's 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:24.080 sitting me down, she's having this discussion with me. And 0:11:24.160 --> 0:11:25.880 so I try to do that with my kids and 0:11:25.920 --> 0:11:29.160 they respond to it. I only do what works, and 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:34.240 this seems to work. I think your dryers is done 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:37.600 and your laundry is ready. Well, I'm doing laundry. Okay, 0:11:37.640 --> 0:11:39.920 this motherfucker over here cleans your house. You don't have 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:42.000 to try and prove yourself to be real and down 0:11:42.080 --> 0:11:44.480 to earth. Okay, Chirley's nobody has any time for that. 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:48.600 We need your advice. We had a caller call in 0:11:48.640 --> 0:11:51.320 and she has a little boy that curses and says, 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:55.920 we had a couple of submissions children who are cursing incessantly, 0:11:55.960 --> 0:11:58.480 and then one child who is like getting to know 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:01.880 his own anatomy and is very fascinated with his own 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:04.120 dick and he really wants to suck his own dick. 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:05.679 He says it. He says, I want to suck in 0:12:05.760 --> 0:12:07.440 my own dick and I was like, well, I really 0:12:07.440 --> 0:12:09.800 don't know what to say about that, because that's actual 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:13.760 real parenting. So do you have any advice for them? 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:16.440 Both of them? There were two? How old are these kids? 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:20.240 One I think was three and the other was four. 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:22.200 They were like old enough to kind of know what 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:24.439 was going on, like one who was swearing knew how 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:27.120 to use it in context with the three year old 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:29.760 or four there. So they're both like really young, right, 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:32.880 So they're off to a strong start, is our point. 0:12:33.640 --> 0:12:35.520 And then I guess my other question it would just 0:12:35.640 --> 0:12:38.959 for contacts. Do they have siblings? Were the only children? 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:42.240 Do you guys know? They did not preface a great question, 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:44.240 and if we were actually good at this, we would 0:12:44.280 --> 0:12:47.400 have asked it. I would say that with young kids, 0:12:47.480 --> 0:12:50.640 I think to lean into anything too much as a mistake. 0:12:50.760 --> 0:12:53.560 I think, you know, sometimes we worry when they say 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:56.760 inappropriate things or when they touched themselves in and I 0:12:56.800 --> 0:13:00.960 think it's purely just innocent to them. It's spluratory. They're 0:13:01.040 --> 0:13:04.800 just they're figuring shut out, and some of it is 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:08.360 uncomfortable for us to watch, but you have to always 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:11.160 remind yourself at that age they're not hurting anybody and I, 0:13:12.040 --> 0:13:15.079 you know, not to embarrass my children, but there was 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:19.679 definitely one of my kids who loved like just the 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:24.280 feeling of things touching down there. So there's a lot 0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:27.760 of like grinding on pillows and she would say blatantly 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:32.040 says she's like that feels so good, and it made 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:34.760 me so uncomfortable. And I knew that she was doing 0:13:34.760 --> 0:13:38.960 it a little bit of preschool, and so my conversation 0:13:39.000 --> 0:13:42.079 with her was just like, that's awesome, Like I want 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:46.080 her to have like really just love how good things 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:48.800 feel on her body, but to know that maybe she 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:51.080 should just keep it in our house and not you know, 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:53.439 there are certain things that we maybe we don't take 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:57.480 to preschool. So I and then it went away, Like 0:13:57.520 --> 0:13:59.680 I think when you make a big deal out of it, 0:13:59.679 --> 0:14:02.040 it may it becomes a bigger thing. And with her, 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:04.559 as soon as I told her that it was fine 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:06.480 to do it, it's almost like she lost interest and 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:09.120 then she stopped doing it. The swearing thing is is 0:14:09.160 --> 0:14:11.679 interesting because I think my youngest one struggles with that 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:13.280 more than my older one. So that's why I was 0:14:13.280 --> 0:14:16.640 asking if there was siblings, and like, if there's a sibling, 0:14:16.840 --> 0:14:18.600 and I don't know, maybe I'm like a little bit 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:21.360 more lenient with my older kid, Jackson, and so the 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:25.280 little one really wants to join the coolness. I mean, 0:14:25.320 --> 0:14:27.440 I let Jackson. Every once in a while, I'll be like, 0:14:27.480 --> 0:14:30.240 I'm okay with you saying there's certain words that people 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:32.560 think are swearing that I'm just like, that's not swearing. 0:14:32.760 --> 0:14:35.440 I don't know, like, but you can say, but you 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:37.840 can say like they're just they're like the S word. 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:40.320 I'm like, what's the S word? Ship? And they're like, no, stupid, 0:14:40.360 --> 0:14:43.040 And I'm like, it's like we're just getting a little 0:14:43.080 --> 0:14:46.080 too like just speak normal. And then every once in 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:50.320 a while, because we are very big Route Paul fans 0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:54.120 in this house, there's a lot of exectives. And the 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:58.120 one reason the rule that I have is like when 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:01.120 you get your swear license when you're older, you can 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:03.400 talk like this, but up until then, you're you're not 0:15:03.480 --> 0:15:05.760 going to talk like that. And so every once in 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:07.720 a while when we watch it, they'll say like, can 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:09.760 I just say the B work just once? Can I 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:12.240 just say it once? And also they're surrounded by you 0:15:12.320 --> 0:15:14.080 and Gerda, so I mean, where do you think they're 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:16.120 picking this up in the first place? From you guys 0:15:16.560 --> 0:15:18.880 and Gerda just so you know, as Charlie's mom, and 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:22.360 they basically copare it together. I'm gonna blame it on 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:27.480 Rue and I'm gonna say it's not us. The swearing 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:29.960 thing goes a little far right. It's like I've had 0:15:30.040 --> 0:15:31.680 kids say to me like, you can't play that song 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:34.960 because there's it's not the clean version. You guys won't 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:37.080 know this because you don't have kids, but literally kids 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:39.040 will talk like that, be like, no, we can't listen 0:15:39.040 --> 0:15:40.960 to this, it's not the clean version. And I'm like, 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:43.480 we're listening to this. It's playing in my car, We're 0:15:43.560 --> 0:15:46.760 listening to it. So do you think it's like an 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:49.240 over correction? Is it about teaching your kids how to 0:15:49.240 --> 0:15:52.320 like just respectfully communicate that, Like these are all words 0:15:52.360 --> 0:15:54.600 that we're all going to use at some point, and 0:15:54.640 --> 0:15:56.520 it's just about how you're using them, Like you're not 0:15:56.520 --> 0:15:58.400 going to go out and call another kid on a 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:02.000 playground a bit no listen. I am probably not the 0:16:02.120 --> 0:16:05.200 right person any advice like when it comes to swearing, 0:16:05.240 --> 0:16:09.400 because like Chelsea said, I really I really love to 0:16:09.480 --> 0:16:12.000 swear and I learned it from my mother, and my 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:15.400 mother is Ton times worse than I am. So I'm 0:16:15.440 --> 0:16:18.600 sure my kids are either gonna go the complete opposite 0:16:18.640 --> 0:16:21.000 and not swear at all, or they're gonna totally lean 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:24.080 in and like, you know, stop their flak jackets. But 0:16:24.280 --> 0:16:27.560 I feel like it's language that when you're older you 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:31.040 can just like I don't feel comfortable with my kids 0:16:31.360 --> 0:16:35.000 up until, like way into their teens, you know, saying 0:16:35.000 --> 0:16:37.200 bitch every once in a while, Like I do think 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:39.120 it's funny, and I have to watch myself. Like the 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:41.640 little one will say it with like she's just lost 0:16:41.640 --> 0:16:43.680 her upper two so she's got this big cap and 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:48.480 she'd be like based every group, Paul, she gets one 0:16:48.760 --> 0:16:51.120 try at just one chance, like and then she knows 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:52.960 she can't say it again. She's like, can I say it? 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:54.600 Can I say it? I'm like, all right, go for it. 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:57.600 She's like, bits, Hey. You know what I was talking 0:16:57.640 --> 0:17:00.000 to Brandon about the other day that made me want 0:16:59.880 --> 0:17:02.200 to talk to you is we were talking about apologizing 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:04.000 and how like one of the first times I learned 0:17:04.000 --> 0:17:06.199 to apologize was after you and I got in that 0:17:06.280 --> 0:17:09.440 really stupid fight in South Africa. We went to South 0:17:09.480 --> 0:17:11.560 Africa for your charity A C. T. A o P. 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:14.920 Charlie's they're in African outreach program, which everybody should know about. 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:18.000 I was just being crabby or bitchy, and everyone kept 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:21.359 using that phrase a hundred percent, and you and Mary 0:17:21.480 --> 0:17:24.480 kept saying a hundred percent, a hundred hundred percent, And 0:17:24.640 --> 0:17:26.560 finally I was like, can you flee stop fucking saying 0:17:26.600 --> 0:17:30.000 a hundred percent? And Charlie's was like, whoa, whoa, whoa, 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:34.359 what's your problem, dude? And we got into like this 0:17:34.560 --> 0:17:37.280 fight because of because of that, because you guys have 0:17:37.359 --> 0:17:38.920 been friends for a long time, was this your first 0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:43.760 fight or disagreement? Pretty much? Yeah, sure, definitely. Yeah. I 0:17:43.840 --> 0:17:45.480 feel like that was the first time that we spent 0:17:45.600 --> 0:17:47.840 like we were together for close to two weeks. I 0:17:48.000 --> 0:17:50.000 feel like, right we were traveling, and I feel like 0:17:50.119 --> 0:17:52.399 the old thing is true, like you really get to 0:17:52.480 --> 0:17:55.160 know somebody when you travel with them like that. That's 0:17:55.200 --> 0:17:58.280 when you see them not just in an hourly period 0:17:58.480 --> 0:18:01.879 in a weekly schedule, like you see them every single day, 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:04.399 and especially on those trips, we do everything together. We 0:18:04.480 --> 0:18:07.359 have breakfast together, we eat dinner together, we write in 0:18:07.480 --> 0:18:10.359 bands together, you know, for five hours and then we 0:18:10.440 --> 0:18:13.439 get on a plane and so the whole. It's intense travel, 0:18:13.600 --> 0:18:18.080 it's exhausting, and there's so many moving parts to it. 0:18:18.240 --> 0:18:21.200 So so then you're on this trip and this like, 0:18:21.280 --> 0:18:24.399 even though it seems a minor conflict or conversation, what 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:27.320 happens does it escalate? Who addresses it? Well, we left 0:18:27.359 --> 0:18:29.119 the trip and we were like, I had bad vibes 0:18:29.200 --> 0:18:31.000 going at the end of the trip, Like I kind 0:18:31.040 --> 0:18:32.960 of blew up at dinner, and then I like went 0:18:33.080 --> 0:18:35.400 up to my room and then we just all kind 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:36.960 of like played nice for the rest of the trip, 0:18:37.000 --> 0:18:39.440 but we didn't really talk about it. So we flew home, 0:18:39.520 --> 0:18:41.280 and then when we got home after a few days 0:18:41.320 --> 0:18:43.480 had passed, I was like one of us said, let's 0:18:43.520 --> 0:18:45.560 talk about it, and I went over to Charlie's and 0:18:45.600 --> 0:18:47.920 we had that really nice long talk. And you know, 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:51.200 that's saying about being able to apologize is so liberating, 0:18:51.400 --> 0:18:54.480 is cheesy, but it's so true. Being able to apologize 0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:58.399 is like such a friendship builder. Also because you end 0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:01.520 up do you do become closer because you're you're more honest. 0:19:01.680 --> 0:19:03.600 You know, you can say I fucked up and I'm 0:19:03.680 --> 0:19:05.600 sorry and I won't do it again, or I hope 0:19:05.640 --> 0:19:08.040 I'm not doing it again, you know that sort of thing. 0:19:08.160 --> 0:19:09.560 So we were talking about that the other day and 0:19:09.560 --> 0:19:11.080 I just thought that was a sweet memory and I 0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:13.520 wanted to issue a happy Mother's Day, so I thought, 0:19:13.600 --> 0:19:16.480 let's call my baby. You know. The thing that I 0:19:16.600 --> 0:19:19.960 remember the most was listening your role. I hate this word, 0:19:20.040 --> 0:19:23.399