1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:04,440 Speaker 1: Welcome to Part two of our Mother's Day episode. There 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:06,480 Speaker 1: was so much to discuss, we had to do part two. 3 00:00:06,840 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 1: We did, and since our premiere episodes, so we wanted 4 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:11,320 Speaker 1: to give people something a little extra. So we have 5 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:13,520 Speaker 1: people calling in with advice about their children, which is 6 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: obviously going to be my wheelhouse, and you can pick 7 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 1: your own wheelhouse because that's mine. I picked it. It's 8 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:19,599 Speaker 1: just like a monopoly figure is as we keep going, 9 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:22,560 Speaker 1: I think your's is gay. That would make sense. Yeah, 10 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:24,680 Speaker 1: so these are women, they've got some kids that are 11 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:26,880 Speaker 1: kind of sucked up. Well, we don't want to say 12 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:30,280 Speaker 1: fucked up. You know, just because there's a situation happening 13 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:32,760 Speaker 1: doesn't mean your kid is fucked up. It means your 14 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 1: kids might be behaving in a fucked up way. We 15 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:38,040 Speaker 1: don't want to say you're fucked up. Nobody's fucked up. 16 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 1: That's a permanent description of somebody. And everything's temporary. So 17 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:44,760 Speaker 1: that's the first thing to remember, everybody. Everything is temporary. 18 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 1: Even if you're an asshole, that can be temporary. Even 19 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: if a kid is an asshole, that can be a 20 00:00:49,840 --> 00:00:52,560 Speaker 1: temporaries asshole kid. And that's what I call attacked t 21 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:56,200 Speaker 1: A k temporary asshole kid. Okay, Well, then today we 22 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 1: have a couple T a k S temporary asshole kids. 23 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:02,319 Speaker 1: These kids are up to okay, okay. Laura is our 24 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: first submission. She is in her thirties. She's a newly 25 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 1: stay at home mom, and she says, Dear Chelsea, how 26 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:10,960 Speaker 1: do I get my toddler to stop swearing? I don't 27 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: know what sort of advice you're going to give? Well, 28 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:17,040 Speaker 1: I mean, I personally like when toddler swears, why so 29 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:19,600 Speaker 1: I don't mind it, And I as far as parenting 30 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:21,520 Speaker 1: goes like, they're going to find out what fuck and 31 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: you know in all these word because I've been saying 32 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 1: that word a lot later for some reason. But you know, 33 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:32,000 Speaker 1: they're gonna find out fun ship, piss, whatever, pussy. They're 34 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:34,120 Speaker 1: going to hear these words. Yeah, they shouldn't be throwing 35 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:36,600 Speaker 1: them around, but it is entertaining, and I feel like 36 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 1: the entertainment value aspect of it outweighs the moral one 37 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:44,479 Speaker 1: because it's not really a moral argument. It's just like, 38 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:47,279 Speaker 1: do you want your kids cursing or not? Obviously you don't, 39 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 1: but I think from like until they're five, it's fun. Well, 40 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: so she goes on to say. He typically says oh 41 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 1: ship with conviction and in perfect context. He's almost three, 42 00:01:56,000 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: so he's old enough to understand that he shouldn't be 43 00:01:57,720 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 1: saying these words. I've explained to him that he shouldn't, 44 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:04,840 Speaker 1: and later that day he said, what the hell any advice? Hi? Laura, 45 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:10,680 Speaker 1: Hi Chelsea? Hi? Is it funny? Him cursing, Yeah, it 46 00:02:10,760 --> 00:02:13,680 Speaker 1: sounds funny, It is funny. My husband and I usually 47 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 1: look at each other and kind of do a little 48 00:02:16,320 --> 00:02:19,240 Speaker 1: giggle and decide whether or not we're going to say 49 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 1: something to him or just trying to ignore it, and 50 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:26,040 Speaker 1: it's just kind of a we never really know what 51 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:29,560 Speaker 1: to do. Yeah, I think just go with it. I 52 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 1: had a friend who had a similar situation and she 53 00:02:33,840 --> 00:02:35,720 Speaker 1: told the kid, you can only say those words at home. 54 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 1: So I don't know what sort of impact that had, 55 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:40,280 Speaker 1: but set it up that like, hey, you know, there 56 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:42,520 Speaker 1: are certain things that you do and don't say in public, 57 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 1: and those were if you're going to say those words, 58 00:02:45,600 --> 00:02:47,799 Speaker 1: you only say them at home, like you don't say 59 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:50,120 Speaker 1: them at school, you don't say them to another kid. 60 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:52,239 Speaker 1: I don't know how that worked out for them, but 61 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 1: I would just like to provide you that sort of insight, 62 00:02:54,840 --> 00:02:57,079 Speaker 1: it's what another parents is doing. And also I would 63 00:02:57,200 --> 00:03:01,359 Speaker 1: enjoy the comic relief of it. Yes, it is very funny. However, 64 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 1: one time he did it when we had family members 65 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 1: over and they kind of shot us some weird looks, 66 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,079 Speaker 1: so we were like, well, we're just trying to ignore 67 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 1: it right now. Yeah, but you know what fun people 68 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: like when family members how are so judgy about like 69 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 1: your toddler and about other people how they raise their children. 70 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 1: That is reason enough for your kid to be cursing. 71 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:23,120 Speaker 1: In my opinion, there's more serious ship going on, Like 72 00:03:23,200 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: you guys have bigger fish to fry when you have 73 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: a kid. This is the thing, Chelsea is not ever 74 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:30,240 Speaker 1: going to have kids. I'm on the fence. I really 75 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:32,679 Speaker 1: wanted them, and now I can't imagine having to deal 76 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: with them. So I give like the utmost kudos to 77 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 1: anyone who is willing to give of themselves to raise children. 78 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 1: That is the least of your fucking worries. Is this 79 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:45,280 Speaker 1: kid swearing? Like is he kind? That's something? Is he 80 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: pushing kids down on a playground? If the answer is no, 81 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:51,440 Speaker 1: then like who the fun let him say funk? If 82 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 1: that's the worst thing this kid is doing, it's probably 83 00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:56,600 Speaker 1: not that bad. He'll grow out of it. He'll be 84 00:03:56,640 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 1: able to understand later. That's like not appropriate in certain settings. 85 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 1: But I would think also the less attention you draw 86 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 1: to it, the less it's going to have impact. Right, Yeah, 87 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 1: Like if you're laughing at him, like he sees he's 88 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:11,040 Speaker 1: getting your attention, then of course he's going to want 89 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 1: more of it. So if you're laughing, which I you know, encourage, 90 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:16,880 Speaker 1: I would look away and laugh with your husband, and then, 91 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:19,560 Speaker 1: you know, just appreciate those little moments. Use it as 92 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:24,480 Speaker 1: for play. Sounds good. Okay, thanks for calling in, Laura, 93 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. If I had a kid, he 94 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:30,680 Speaker 1: would be such a dick. Yeah, but not a dick 95 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:35,800 Speaker 1: in like a celebrity. He would order cocktails at dinner 96 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:37,520 Speaker 1: and stuff like that. He'd be a dick to me. 97 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:39,279 Speaker 1: You would have one of those kids though, that people 98 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:42,240 Speaker 1: want to be around. They engage an adult conversation, like 99 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: they know what the funk is up. I'm just so 100 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:48,159 Speaker 1: so glad that I don't have children. I know, I'm 101 00:04:48,279 --> 00:04:52,560 Speaker 1: so grateful that that never happened to me. I'm so 102 00:04:52,600 --> 00:04:55,719 Speaker 1: grateful that I don't have someone at home when I 103 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:59,160 Speaker 1: get home except for you and my bell and and 104 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: even my belt. I really don't want to get home 105 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 1: all the time. This is something that everyone should know. 106 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:08,800 Speaker 1: When Chelsea comes home from a trip, she hates if 107 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 1: anyone to say She's like, I don't want to see 108 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:12,159 Speaker 1: people when I come back. Mind you, I always have 109 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:13,800 Speaker 1: to be there to make sure like things are on. 110 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:16,360 Speaker 1: You can help me turn the lights on. Usually what 111 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 1: it is is, I'm bloated and tired. You want to decompress, 112 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:21,320 Speaker 1: and I want to get in bed and sleep. I'm 113 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: so glad that I, like, there's no accidental pregnancies in 114 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 1: a gay relationship. But I thought for sure I was 115 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 1: going to have kids by the time I was twenty. 116 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:31,920 Speaker 1: That's all I wanted. I ever even thought about that, 117 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 1: that you guys don't have to deal with the threat 118 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:37,040 Speaker 1: of an accidental pregnancy. No, so it's you know, it 119 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:40,159 Speaker 1: has to be much more organized if you're going to 120 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:42,720 Speaker 1: have kids. But even then, yeah, like you have to 121 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:47,839 Speaker 1: do not I cannot imagine having kids and just have 122 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:51,440 Speaker 1: to to sacrifice yourself and your time and the questions 123 00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:55,040 Speaker 1: that they ask, repeated questions about the sun and the 124 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 1: moon and answers. I don't have, and I don't want 125 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:00,280 Speaker 1: to pretend to know ship that I don't. That is 126 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:02,279 Speaker 1: so funny. My nephew called the other night and asking 127 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 1: me how the moon got its glow, and so then 128 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:06,800 Speaker 1: I had to figure that out. I'm like Sun from 129 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:09,559 Speaker 1: the Sun. Yeah, I am way late on the fucking 130 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 1: moon and Sunda from Google about three weeks ago, and 131 00:06:12,520 --> 00:06:14,320 Speaker 1: I got the moon and the sun were the same 132 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:17,520 Speaker 1: fucking thing until like late in life. I thought Chicago 133 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:20,000 Speaker 1: was a state until I was like nineteen, So that's 134 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:23,000 Speaker 1: not saying much. But this seems to be a common problem, 135 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:26,000 Speaker 1: these kids swearing. But guys, like, there's so much else 136 00:06:26,040 --> 00:06:29,040 Speaker 1: to worry about in life than your child saying shit, 137 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:34,359 Speaker 1: So sweet, keep exposing yourself. My breasts are exposed and 138 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:37,599 Speaker 1: I didn't even know stopped out and they're fucking huge 139 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:41,280 Speaker 1: right now. I mean they're always big period. Okay, Well, 140 00:06:41,279 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 1: speaking of parenting styles, this next emission comes from Lindsay 141 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:49,520 Speaker 1: A out of California. She writes, Dear Chelsea, my goddamn 142 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 1: four year old says some crazy shit. Usually I can 143 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 1: respond to him and help him understand. I speak to 144 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 1: him like an adult. He's allowed to use swear words, 145 00:06:57,360 --> 00:07:00,480 Speaker 1: which many think is fucked up. But whatever, the issue 146 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 1: that I'm having is he now tells me and anyone 147 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:04,880 Speaker 1: who will listen, I feel like I want to suck 148 00:07:04,920 --> 00:07:08,760 Speaker 1: my penis. Now. If he's into penises, that's cool, but 149 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 1: I don't believe he is. I asked him why he 150 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:12,880 Speaker 1: thought that, and he said that he wanted to see 151 00:07:12,880 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 1: what it tastes like. Please help, What the fund do 152 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 1: I say to this little weirdo, Well, it sounds like 153 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:20,520 Speaker 1: you created this weirdo probably, And I want to suck 154 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:22,960 Speaker 1: my penis isn't okay to say? Even if he is 155 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 1: into penises, like, who wants That's like me sitting there, 156 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 1: I want to suck my own beaver in nursery school. No, 157 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:31,720 Speaker 1: kids aren't supposed to be talking like that for a reason, 158 00:07:31,840 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 1: so you can have your kid cursed all the time. 159 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 1: I also think kids cursing is funny. But I mean, 160 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:40,720 Speaker 1: you've made your bed, now you have to lie in it, right, 161 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:43,120 Speaker 1: I guess? So? I mean, this isn't a situation i'd 162 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 1: ever want to encounter. I don't. I don't know what 163 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:46,800 Speaker 1: you're seeing A kids saying I want to suck my 164 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 1: own you can just shut up? Yeah, exactly who are 165 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 1: the moms in your life that you know that, like 166 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 1: you watch their parenting style and think like that's a 167 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:57,280 Speaker 1: good fucking mom or that's someone like that's the mom 168 00:07:57,320 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 1: I wish I had. Yeah, it's like long term, right, 169 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 1: I mean I like kids who behave so I like 170 00:08:02,520 --> 00:08:06,120 Speaker 1: their parents, like kids who aren't like throwing iPads at 171 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 1: their mother's faces like that. You know, you could see 172 00:08:09,080 --> 00:08:11,600 Speaker 1: the difference in parenting and the effect on the child, 173 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:15,040 Speaker 1: like children who say hello, goodbye, please, thank you, or 174 00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 1: even more exciting as children that engage in conversation, you know, 175 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:22,040 Speaker 1: where you can connect with a kid instead of them 176 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:24,520 Speaker 1: just like looking at you as an adult and like, okay, 177 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:27,120 Speaker 1: you know. So which of your friends do you feel 178 00:08:27,120 --> 00:08:29,800 Speaker 1: like their parenting style is close as to how you 179 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:33,840 Speaker 1: would parent I don't think about that, ever, there has 180 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 1: to be one of your friends. I just I like 181 00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:39,559 Speaker 1: the way Charlie's parents. Charlie's there on she's like fun 182 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 1: and cool. But again I'm not there all the time, 183 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:45,040 Speaker 1: so I don't know. Like Charlie's just has that attitude 184 00:08:45,080 --> 00:08:47,120 Speaker 1: that I would want from my parents, Like you know, 185 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:51,160 Speaker 1: she's strict, but she's totally real. Like yeah, like if 186 00:08:51,200 --> 00:08:54,600 Speaker 1: it's really funny. It's really funny, you know, like she's 187 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:57,000 Speaker 1: not going to be in front of you doing that. 188 00:08:57,160 --> 00:08:59,600 Speaker 1: Like she's very she's more private about it, like when 189 00:08:59,600 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 1: she has to have real talks with her kids. She's 190 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:04,360 Speaker 1: just like she's a real person all around. So I 191 00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:08,160 Speaker 1: respect how she behaves in general, but related to the kids, Yeah, 192 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:10,760 Speaker 1: I like those two kids a lot, and I think 193 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:13,559 Speaker 1: that's a direct result of her and her mom's parenting. Okay, 194 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:17,319 Speaker 1: well we can call her right to get her on 195 00:09:17,360 --> 00:09:20,720 Speaker 1: the phone. Well, okay, we're gonna take a quick break, 196 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 1: and then we're gonna see if Charlie's their own or throne. Yeah, 197 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:31,679 Speaker 1: is around and throne Charlie's They're wrong throne. We'll find 198 00:09:31,720 --> 00:09:38,240 Speaker 1: out when we get her on the phone. Hi, we're 199 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:40,319 Speaker 1: back and guess what we do have Charlie's their own 200 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:42,720 Speaker 1: on the phone. Sweetheart. Are you ready to speak to 201 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:46,440 Speaker 1: our friend since we just discussed her parenting style, Yeah, 202 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:48,959 Speaker 1: we should wish her, Yeah, a happy Mother's day. Hi, 203 00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: Charlie's Hi, chicken. Oh, we were talking about you and 204 00:09:55,720 --> 00:09:57,720 Speaker 1: we've decided to call you to wish you a happy 205 00:09:57,800 --> 00:10:03,280 Speaker 1: Mother's Day. What you're so cute? How many Mother's Day 206 00:10:03,600 --> 00:10:06,960 Speaker 1: I had asked Chelsea, who amongst her friends has a 207 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:11,400 Speaker 1: parenting style that would be most aligned with how Chelsea 208 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 1: would parent should she have kids, and she said that 209 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:17,160 Speaker 1: your parenting style was the one she appreciated the most. Well, 210 00:10:17,360 --> 00:10:19,800 Speaker 1: just given that we all know how little she wants 211 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:23,840 Speaker 1: to do with kids, like for herself, I take that 212 00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 1: as a real compliment because you really just don't want 213 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:29,200 Speaker 1: your own kids. So I mean that's like a really 214 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:32,080 Speaker 1: high compliment to get from you. Thank you. It means 215 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 1: you're doing something right with those two. What is it 216 00:10:35,000 --> 00:10:37,200 Speaker 1: is specifically that you think that I'm so good at 217 00:10:37,240 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 1: because it's probably if it comes from you, it probably 218 00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 1: means I'm doing it raw. It's a good note Charley's 219 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:46,640 Speaker 1: I would say, like, I like that when you get mad, 220 00:10:46,679 --> 00:10:49,440 Speaker 1: like you have long, serious talks with them, almost like 221 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:52,679 Speaker 1: they're you're equal, like they're adults. That's how I would 222 00:10:52,720 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: describe it. I feel like we do parents a little 223 00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:58,760 Speaker 1: bit like we were parented and then we also I 224 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:01,200 Speaker 1: don't know whether it's trauma or what it is that 225 00:11:01,280 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 1: makes us kind of a race some of that stuff, 226 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:06,960 Speaker 1: but I do know that my mom brought that into 227 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:09,760 Speaker 1: her parenting and I always appreciated it because it always 228 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: that was my first introduction to respect was my mother 229 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:16,280 Speaker 1: treating me that way, and it felt very respectful. And 230 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:18,920 Speaker 1: I remember being a young girl and you're like, wow, 231 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:21,199 Speaker 1: my mom has so much respect for me, Like she's 232 00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:24,080 Speaker 1: sitting me down, she's having this discussion with me. And 233 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:25,880 Speaker 1: so I try to do that with my kids and 234 00:11:25,920 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 1: they respond to it. I only do what works, and 235 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:34,240 Speaker 1: this seems to work. I think your dryers is done 236 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:37,600 Speaker 1: and your laundry is ready. Well, I'm doing laundry. Okay, 237 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:39,920 Speaker 1: this motherfucker over here cleans your house. You don't have 238 00:11:39,960 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: to try and prove yourself to be real and down 239 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:44,480 Speaker 1: to earth. Okay, Chirley's nobody has any time for that. 240 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:48,600 Speaker 1: We need your advice. We had a caller call in 241 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:51,320 Speaker 1: and she has a little boy that curses and says, 242 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 1: we had a couple of submissions children who are cursing incessantly, 243 00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:58,480 Speaker 1: and then one child who is like getting to know 244 00:11:58,559 --> 00:12:01,880 Speaker 1: his own anatomy and is very fascinated with his own 245 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 1: dick and he really wants to suck his own dick. 246 00:12:04,280 --> 00:12:05,679 Speaker 1: He says it. He says, I want to suck in 247 00:12:05,760 --> 00:12:07,440 Speaker 1: my own dick and I was like, well, I really 248 00:12:07,440 --> 00:12:09,800 Speaker 1: don't know what to say about that, because that's actual 249 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:13,760 Speaker 1: real parenting. So do you have any advice for them? 250 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:16,440 Speaker 1: Both of them? There were two? How old are these kids? 251 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:20,240 Speaker 1: One I think was three and the other was four. 252 00:12:20,360 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 1: They were like old enough to kind of know what 253 00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:24,439 Speaker 1: was going on, like one who was swearing knew how 254 00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:27,120 Speaker 1: to use it in context with the three year old 255 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:29,760 Speaker 1: or four there. So they're both like really young, right, 256 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:32,880 Speaker 1: So they're off to a strong start, is our point. 257 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 1: And then I guess my other question it would just 258 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:38,959 Speaker 1: for contacts. Do they have siblings? Were the only children? 259 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:42,240 Speaker 1: Do you guys know? They did not preface a great question, 260 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:44,240 Speaker 1: and if we were actually good at this, we would 261 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:47,400 Speaker 1: have asked it. I would say that with young kids, 262 00:12:47,480 --> 00:12:50,640 Speaker 1: I think to lean into anything too much as a mistake. 263 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:53,560 Speaker 1: I think, you know, sometimes we worry when they say 264 00:12:53,559 --> 00:12:56,760 Speaker 1: inappropriate things or when they touched themselves in and I 265 00:12:56,800 --> 00:13:00,960 Speaker 1: think it's purely just innocent to them. It's spluratory. They're 266 00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: just they're figuring shut out, and some of it is 267 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:08,360 Speaker 1: uncomfortable for us to watch, but you have to always 268 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:11,160 Speaker 1: remind yourself at that age they're not hurting anybody and I, 269 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:15,079 Speaker 1: you know, not to embarrass my children, but there was 270 00:13:15,120 --> 00:13:19,679 Speaker 1: definitely one of my kids who loved like just the 271 00:13:19,720 --> 00:13:24,280 Speaker 1: feeling of things touching down there. So there's a lot 272 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:27,760 Speaker 1: of like grinding on pillows and she would say blatantly 273 00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:32,040 Speaker 1: says she's like that feels so good, and it made 274 00:13:32,040 --> 00:13:34,760 Speaker 1: me so uncomfortable. And I knew that she was doing 275 00:13:34,760 --> 00:13:38,960 Speaker 1: it a little bit of preschool, and so my conversation 276 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:42,079 Speaker 1: with her was just like, that's awesome, Like I want 277 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:46,080 Speaker 1: her to have like really just love how good things 278 00:13:46,120 --> 00:13:48,800 Speaker 1: feel on her body, but to know that maybe she 279 00:13:48,800 --> 00:13:51,080 Speaker 1: should just keep it in our house and not you know, 280 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:53,439 Speaker 1: there are certain things that we maybe we don't take 281 00:13:53,480 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 1: to preschool. So I and then it went away, Like 282 00:13:57,520 --> 00:13:59,680 Speaker 1: I think when you make a big deal out of it, 283 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:02,040 Speaker 1: it may it becomes a bigger thing. And with her, 284 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:04,559 Speaker 1: as soon as I told her that it was fine 285 00:14:04,600 --> 00:14:06,480 Speaker 1: to do it, it's almost like she lost interest and 286 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:09,120 Speaker 1: then she stopped doing it. The swearing thing is is 287 00:14:09,160 --> 00:14:11,679 Speaker 1: interesting because I think my youngest one struggles with that 288 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:13,280 Speaker 1: more than my older one. So that's why I was 289 00:14:13,280 --> 00:14:16,640 Speaker 1: asking if there was siblings, and like, if there's a sibling, 290 00:14:16,840 --> 00:14:18,600 Speaker 1: and I don't know, maybe I'm like a little bit 291 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:21,360 Speaker 1: more lenient with my older kid, Jackson, and so the 292 00:14:21,400 --> 00:14:25,280 Speaker 1: little one really wants to join the coolness. I mean, 293 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:27,440 Speaker 1: I let Jackson. Every once in a while, I'll be like, 294 00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:30,240 Speaker 1: I'm okay with you saying there's certain words that people 295 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:32,560 Speaker 1: think are swearing that I'm just like, that's not swearing. 296 00:14:32,760 --> 00:14:35,440 Speaker 1: I don't know, like, but you can say, but you 297 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 1: can say like they're just they're like the S word. 298 00:14:37,840 --> 00:14:40,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, what's the S word? Ship? And they're like, no, stupid, 299 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:43,040 Speaker 1: And I'm like, it's like we're just getting a little 300 00:14:43,080 --> 00:14:46,080 Speaker 1: too like just speak normal. And then every once in 301 00:14:46,080 --> 00:14:50,320 Speaker 1: a while, because we are very big Route Paul fans 302 00:14:50,400 --> 00:14:54,120 Speaker 1: in this house, there's a lot of exectives. And the 303 00:14:54,280 --> 00:14:58,120 Speaker 1: one reason the rule that I have is like when 304 00:14:58,160 --> 00:15:01,120 Speaker 1: you get your swear license when you're older, you can 305 00:15:01,160 --> 00:15:03,400 Speaker 1: talk like this, but up until then, you're you're not 306 00:15:03,480 --> 00:15:05,760 Speaker 1: going to talk like that. And so every once in 307 00:15:05,840 --> 00:15:07,720 Speaker 1: a while when we watch it, they'll say like, can 308 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:09,760 Speaker 1: I just say the B work just once? Can I 309 00:15:09,840 --> 00:15:12,240 Speaker 1: just say it once? And also they're surrounded by you 310 00:15:12,320 --> 00:15:14,080 Speaker 1: and Gerda, so I mean, where do you think they're 311 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 1: picking this up in the first place? From you guys 312 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:18,880 Speaker 1: and Gerda just so you know, as Charlie's mom, and 313 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:22,360 Speaker 1: they basically copare it together. I'm gonna blame it on 314 00:15:22,520 --> 00:15:27,480 Speaker 1: Rue and I'm gonna say it's not us. The swearing 315 00:15:27,520 --> 00:15:29,960 Speaker 1: thing goes a little far right. It's like I've had 316 00:15:30,040 --> 00:15:31,680 Speaker 1: kids say to me like, you can't play that song 317 00:15:31,680 --> 00:15:34,960 Speaker 1: because there's it's not the clean version. You guys won't 318 00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 1: know this because you don't have kids, but literally kids 319 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:39,040 Speaker 1: will talk like that, be like, no, we can't listen 320 00:15:39,040 --> 00:15:40,960 Speaker 1: to this, it's not the clean version. And I'm like, 321 00:15:41,360 --> 00:15:43,480 Speaker 1: we're listening to this. It's playing in my car, We're 322 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:46,760 Speaker 1: listening to it. So do you think it's like an 323 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:49,240 Speaker 1: over correction? Is it about teaching your kids how to 324 00:15:49,240 --> 00:15:52,320 Speaker 1: like just respectfully communicate that, Like these are all words 325 00:15:52,360 --> 00:15:54,600 Speaker 1: that we're all going to use at some point, and 326 00:15:54,640 --> 00:15:56,520 Speaker 1: it's just about how you're using them, Like you're not 327 00:15:56,520 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 1: going to go out and call another kid on a 328 00:15:58,440 --> 00:16:02,000 Speaker 1: playground a bit no listen. I am probably not the 329 00:16:02,120 --> 00:16:05,200 Speaker 1: right person any advice like when it comes to swearing, 330 00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:09,400 Speaker 1: because like Chelsea said, I really I really love to 331 00:16:09,480 --> 00:16:12,000 Speaker 1: swear and I learned it from my mother, and my 332 00:16:12,080 --> 00:16:15,400 Speaker 1: mother is Ton times worse than I am. So I'm 333 00:16:15,440 --> 00:16:18,600 Speaker 1: sure my kids are either gonna go the complete opposite 334 00:16:18,640 --> 00:16:21,000 Speaker 1: and not swear at all, or they're gonna totally lean 335 00:16:21,080 --> 00:16:24,080 Speaker 1: in and like, you know, stop their flak jackets. But 336 00:16:24,280 --> 00:16:27,560 Speaker 1: I feel like it's language that when you're older you 337 00:16:27,600 --> 00:16:31,040 Speaker 1: can just like I don't feel comfortable with my kids 338 00:16:31,360 --> 00:16:35,000 Speaker 1: up until, like way into their teens, you know, saying 339 00:16:35,000 --> 00:16:37,200 Speaker 1: bitch every once in a while, Like I do think 340 00:16:37,240 --> 00:16:39,120 Speaker 1: it's funny, and I have to watch myself. Like the 341 00:16:39,160 --> 00:16:41,640 Speaker 1: little one will say it with like she's just lost 342 00:16:41,640 --> 00:16:43,680 Speaker 1: her upper two so she's got this big cap and 343 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:48,480 Speaker 1: she'd be like based every group, Paul, she gets one 344 00:16:48,760 --> 00:16:51,120 Speaker 1: try at just one chance, like and then she knows 345 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:52,960 Speaker 1: she can't say it again. She's like, can I say it? 346 00:16:53,000 --> 00:16:54,600 Speaker 1: Can I say it? I'm like, all right, go for it. 347 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:57,600 Speaker 1: She's like, bits, Hey. You know what I was talking 348 00:16:57,640 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 1: to Brandon about the other day that made me want 349 00:16:59,880 --> 00:17:02,200 Speaker 1: to talk to you is we were talking about apologizing 350 00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:04,000 Speaker 1: and how like one of the first times I learned 351 00:17:04,000 --> 00:17:06,199 Speaker 1: to apologize was after you and I got in that 352 00:17:06,280 --> 00:17:09,440 Speaker 1: really stupid fight in South Africa. We went to South 353 00:17:09,480 --> 00:17:11,560 Speaker 1: Africa for your charity A C. T. A o P. 354 00:17:11,920 --> 00:17:14,920 Speaker 1: Charlie's they're in African outreach program, which everybody should know about. 355 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:18,000 Speaker 1: I was just being crabby or bitchy, and everyone kept 356 00:17:18,119 --> 00:17:21,359 Speaker 1: using that phrase a hundred percent, and you and Mary 357 00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:24,480 Speaker 1: kept saying a hundred percent, a hundred hundred percent, And 358 00:17:24,640 --> 00:17:26,560 Speaker 1: finally I was like, can you flee stop fucking saying 359 00:17:26,600 --> 00:17:30,000 Speaker 1: a hundred percent? And Charlie's was like, whoa, whoa, whoa, 360 00:17:30,400 --> 00:17:34,359 Speaker 1: what's your problem, dude? And we got into like this 361 00:17:34,560 --> 00:17:37,280 Speaker 1: fight because of because of that, because you guys have 362 00:17:37,359 --> 00:17:38,920 Speaker 1: been friends for a long time, was this your first 363 00:17:39,160 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 1: fight or disagreement? Pretty much? Yeah, sure, definitely. Yeah. I 364 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:45,480 Speaker 1: feel like that was the first time that we spent 365 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:47,840 Speaker 1: like we were together for close to two weeks. I 366 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:50,000 Speaker 1: feel like, right we were traveling, and I feel like 367 00:17:50,119 --> 00:17:52,399 Speaker 1: the old thing is true, like you really get to 368 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:55,160 Speaker 1: know somebody when you travel with them like that. That's 369 00:17:55,200 --> 00:17:58,280 Speaker 1: when you see them not just in an hourly period 370 00:17:58,480 --> 00:18:01,879 Speaker 1: in a weekly schedule, like you see them every single day, 371 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:04,399 Speaker 1: and especially on those trips, we do everything together. We 372 00:18:04,480 --> 00:18:07,359 Speaker 1: have breakfast together, we eat dinner together, we write in 373 00:18:07,480 --> 00:18:10,359 Speaker 1: bands together, you know, for five hours and then we 374 00:18:10,440 --> 00:18:13,439 Speaker 1: get on a plane and so the whole. It's intense travel, 375 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:18,080 Speaker 1: it's exhausting, and there's so many moving parts to it. 376 00:18:18,240 --> 00:18:21,200 Speaker 1: So so then you're on this trip and this like, 377 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:24,399 Speaker 1: even though it seems a minor conflict or conversation, what 378 00:18:24,560 --> 00:18:27,320 Speaker 1: happens does it escalate? Who addresses it? Well, we left 379 00:18:27,359 --> 00:18:29,119 Speaker 1: the trip and we were like, I had bad vibes 380 00:18:29,200 --> 00:18:31,000 Speaker 1: going at the end of the trip, Like I kind 381 00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:32,960 Speaker 1: of blew up at dinner, and then I like went 382 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:35,400 Speaker 1: up to my room and then we just all kind 383 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:36,960 Speaker 1: of like played nice for the rest of the trip, 384 00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:39,440 Speaker 1: but we didn't really talk about it. So we flew home, 385 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:41,280 Speaker 1: and then when we got home after a few days 386 00:18:41,320 --> 00:18:43,480 Speaker 1: had passed, I was like one of us said, let's 387 00:18:43,520 --> 00:18:45,560 Speaker 1: talk about it, and I went over to Charlie's and 388 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:47,920 Speaker 1: we had that really nice long talk. And you know, 389 00:18:48,240 --> 00:18:51,200 Speaker 1: that's saying about being able to apologize is so liberating, 390 00:18:51,400 --> 00:18:54,480 Speaker 1: is cheesy, but it's so true. Being able to apologize 391 00:18:54,600 --> 00:18:58,399 Speaker 1: is like such a friendship builder. Also because you end 392 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:01,520 Speaker 1: up do you do become closer because you're you're more honest. 393 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:03,600 Speaker 1: You know, you can say I fucked up and I'm 394 00:19:03,680 --> 00:19:05,600 Speaker 1: sorry and I won't do it again, or I hope 395 00:19:05,640 --> 00:19:08,040 Speaker 1: I'm not doing it again, you know that sort of thing. 396 00:19:08,160 --> 00:19:09,560 Speaker 1: So we were talking about that the other day and 397 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:11,080 Speaker 1: I just thought that was a sweet memory and I 398 00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:13,520 Speaker 1: wanted to issue a happy Mother's Day, so I thought, 399 00:19:13,600 --> 00:19:16,480 Speaker 1: let's call my baby. You know. The thing that I 400 00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:19,960 Speaker 1: remember the most was listening your role. I hate this word, 401 00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:23,399 Speaker 1: but your journey with Dan is really inspiring my therapist Dan, 402 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:27,960 Speaker 1: and was then even to me because you were just 403 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:32,920 Speaker 1: the evidence of whatever he was sharing with you information wise. 404 00:19:32,960 --> 00:19:36,919 Speaker 1: That was just I thought, really powerful because you change. 405 00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:39,120 Speaker 1: It was a deeper thing with you, and I think 406 00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:40,920 Speaker 1: that was the thing that freaked me out a little 407 00:19:40,960 --> 00:19:44,160 Speaker 1: bit was because nobody gets that upset about anybody saying 408 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:47,240 Speaker 1: a hundred percent, maybe way too much like I did 409 00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:52,520 Speaker 1: on that trip, but you know, and having some perspective 410 00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:54,840 Speaker 1: on like what we were doing there, and like the 411 00:19:54,920 --> 00:19:57,000 Speaker 1: conversations that we were having. Part of me was like, 412 00:19:57,040 --> 00:19:59,040 Speaker 1: who gets the funk if I say a hundred percent 413 00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:02,840 Speaker 1: a thousand times we're talking about investing in use here 414 00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:06,280 Speaker 1: and like future leaders of Africa, Like fuck you. So 415 00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:08,359 Speaker 1: when we came back and you reached out to me, 416 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:13,359 Speaker 1: it just I think the thing about good friends is 417 00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:20,000 Speaker 1: that you reached out came over, was not defensive at all, 418 00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:22,840 Speaker 1: told me a little bit about Dan, but didn't say 419 00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:25,439 Speaker 1: it in a way that felt like you were justifying 420 00:20:25,520 --> 00:20:29,159 Speaker 1: your behavior. And then I just remember you being so 421 00:20:29,359 --> 00:20:33,679 Speaker 1: sincerely sorry, and I was like, fuck, Like that's great 422 00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:37,639 Speaker 1: right there, and deep down inside I thought thank you 423 00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:40,960 Speaker 1: because I don't say a thousand times now and I'm 424 00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:43,680 Speaker 1: sure I sound way more intelligent, but I didn't want 425 00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:46,840 Speaker 1: to let you know that in the moment. But yeah, 426 00:20:46,880 --> 00:20:50,200 Speaker 1: I mean I think of you almost like Chelsea pre 427 00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:54,120 Speaker 1: our Africa trip and then Chelsea after our Africa trip, 428 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:56,800 Speaker 1: Like it's really like, that's how I think of you. 429 00:20:57,119 --> 00:21:02,280 Speaker 1: You've really changed so more than anybody in my life. Actually, 430 00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:04,640 Speaker 1: you are the person in my life that has definitely 431 00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:09,119 Speaker 1: made the biggest changes. So now, looking back on this, 432 00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:13,200 Speaker 1: do you think that you would have apologized immediately after, 433 00:21:13,359 --> 00:21:14,960 Speaker 1: like or do you think you still would have needed 434 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:18,080 Speaker 1: some time to decompress from it. If I know, if 435 00:21:18,119 --> 00:21:20,760 Speaker 1: I hadn't been in therapy, I would have been defensive still, 436 00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:22,760 Speaker 1: like I would have just been you know, but now 437 00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:25,960 Speaker 1: with your knowledge and your experience, like, was that something 438 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:29,480 Speaker 1: you would have had this altercation at dinner? Yeah, we 439 00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:32,520 Speaker 1: never get upset at dinner for somebody saying a would 440 00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:36,119 Speaker 1: you apologize quicker? Yes? And of course, of course yes, yes. 441 00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:37,680 Speaker 1: I wouldn't have held on to it. I would have 442 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:40,600 Speaker 1: been like, I'm so sorry about my outburst. That's the 443 00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 1: best type of relationship, the ones that you can and 444 00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:45,480 Speaker 1: want to apologize for. Yes, you know what, what you 445 00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:48,360 Speaker 1: just brought up was my bigger problem with her when 446 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:52,000 Speaker 1: she eventually came over, because remember Chelsea, I said to you. 447 00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,919 Speaker 1: I was like, it's the fact that you just stayed 448 00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:57,480 Speaker 1: there and like never addressed it, and I felt like 449 00:21:57,520 --> 00:21:59,840 Speaker 1: the rest of the trip was destroyed. I was like, 450 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:02,479 Speaker 1: we were like so weird with each other and then 451 00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:04,159 Speaker 1: we just sit on planes with each other and it 452 00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:06,440 Speaker 1: was so fucking awkward, and there were other people there, 453 00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:08,800 Speaker 1: and I was like, I love that she calls me 454 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:10,639 Speaker 1: out on ship. I love that that's who she is. 455 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:13,280 Speaker 1: I hope she never loses that. I don't mind her 456 00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:15,760 Speaker 1: calling me out and be like, you sound like an idiot, 457 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:18,639 Speaker 1: don't say that. But there was this aggression behind it, 458 00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:22,119 Speaker 1: and then she hung onto it. And I now know 459 00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:24,920 Speaker 1: for a fact that that's not Chelsea anymore. Like I 460 00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,440 Speaker 1: know that if something came up between us, Chelsea would 461 00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:31,359 Speaker 1: address it. She wouldn't be defensive, she'd be sincere and 462 00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:33,680 Speaker 1: wanting to know what the funk it is. It's really 463 00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:38,120 Speaker 1: it's incredible, it's really inspiring. Okay. So can I ask, 464 00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:40,520 Speaker 1: for other people who are listening, what was the reasoning 465 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:43,920 Speaker 1: behind Charley's you not addressing it, like giving her the 466 00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:45,560 Speaker 1: day and then being like, hey, we can't go on 467 00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:47,320 Speaker 1: the rest of the trip like this. So for people 468 00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:49,200 Speaker 1: who have that dynamic with a friend or a family 469 00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:51,600 Speaker 1: member where one of them responds differently, like you know, 470 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:54,440 Speaker 1: they need either more time or they hold onto things longer, 471 00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:57,480 Speaker 1: I don't feel like maybe it's always the person's responsibility 472 00:22:57,520 --> 00:23:00,640 Speaker 1: who isn't holding onto it. But in that since, why 473 00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:02,480 Speaker 1: didn't you just address it, knowing that you had these 474 00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:06,159 Speaker 1: extra days? All right, listen, I should have, Yes, I 475 00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:07,880 Speaker 1: should have. I know, I think you did. You came 476 00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:09,719 Speaker 1: up to my hotel room the next morning. I went 477 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:12,640 Speaker 1: to her room and and I tried. But I would 478 00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:14,720 Speaker 1: also be very honest in saying that I was really 479 00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:18,880 Speaker 1: pissed and I felt like there wasn't there was so much. 480 00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:21,440 Speaker 1: And this is again, you know, you have to watch 481 00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:23,120 Speaker 1: yourself when you talk about this stuff because I don't 482 00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:26,000 Speaker 1: want to sound like I'm making excuses, but like part 483 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:27,679 Speaker 1: of me was so pissed that I went to her 484 00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:30,119 Speaker 1: room and I was like, instead of going to her 485 00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:32,040 Speaker 1: room and be like, what's going I did say what's 486 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,400 Speaker 1: going on? And I knew we weren't going to get there. 487 00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:37,080 Speaker 1: There was a lot we were basically packing to get 488 00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:40,200 Speaker 1: onto another plane. But you're right, brind And like, the 489 00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:44,560 Speaker 1: thing that I learned was that I am a little 490 00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:47,400 Speaker 1: bit scared of conflict. I'm scared of rocking the boat, right. 491 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,960 Speaker 1: And there was some stuff going on with my mom. 492 00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:53,399 Speaker 1: We were home, we were kind of reminiscing about our 493 00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:56,560 Speaker 1: family lives, and like there was just some deeper issue 494 00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:59,520 Speaker 1: stuff going on with me as well. So part of 495 00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:01,919 Speaker 1: me and going into that room, I wish I went 496 00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:03,960 Speaker 1: to that room and just said I'm not leaving here 497 00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:07,240 Speaker 1: until you can actually just sit down, be quiet, look 498 00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:10,440 Speaker 1: me in the eye, don't move, make eye contact, and 499 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:12,760 Speaker 1: be fucking a us. Since your moment with me where 500 00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:14,639 Speaker 1: we look at each other and we're like, what are 501 00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:17,120 Speaker 1: we doing? This is ridiculous? Well, because when I think 502 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,399 Speaker 1: of you two, that's how I see you in your 503 00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:22,879 Speaker 1: dynamic together like I always compartmentalize her friends into her 504 00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:27,400 Speaker 1: celebrity friends and then her real friends, and you are 505 00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:31,040 Speaker 1: like that center piece. You are a real friend who 506 00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:33,880 Speaker 1: happens to be a celebrity, and a lot of times 507 00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:35,920 Speaker 1: that wouldn't be a conversation that you have with another 508 00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:37,960 Speaker 1: person who's just in the industry. You're on this trip 509 00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:39,880 Speaker 1: and like you come and go and you never speak again. 510 00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:43,520 Speaker 1: I think our connection is very We became really good 511 00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:48,000 Speaker 1: friends because I think we appreciate that directness. I think 512 00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:51,439 Speaker 1: we appreciate that directness that no bullshit, like a lot 513 00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:53,720 Speaker 1: of people are scared by that. I think Chelsea would 514 00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:55,760 Speaker 1: speak that too, Like I've met women in my life 515 00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:58,600 Speaker 1: we're like, I'm just scared, Like you're too direct, you're 516 00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:00,840 Speaker 1: too honest, Like I don't know what's gonna come out 517 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:02,760 Speaker 1: of your mouth. And I think when you meet a 518 00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:05,560 Speaker 1: like minded person the way Chelsea and I met each other, 519 00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:07,480 Speaker 1: we're like, funk, Okay, I'm not scared of you, and 520 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:09,440 Speaker 1: she's like, I'm not scared of you, bitch. As a 521 00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:11,920 Speaker 1: matter of fact, stop saying because you sound like a 522 00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:15,560 Speaker 1: fucking yeah, that's not our problem. But I think in 523 00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:17,639 Speaker 1: that moment, I also realized like if we were going 524 00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:20,600 Speaker 1: to fight, we were going to be both stubborn, right, 525 00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:23,280 Speaker 1: And like, that's my problem. I have to work with that. 526 00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:27,239 Speaker 1: Like I find that sometimes I'm expecting wig too much 527 00:25:27,320 --> 00:25:30,320 Speaker 1: from the other person instead of just like bringing my 528 00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:32,840 Speaker 1: end to it, my part and then like letting it 529 00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:35,440 Speaker 1: be and like then going Okay, I did what I 530 00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,159 Speaker 1: was supposed to do. Instead I'm like, what are you 531 00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:39,760 Speaker 1: gonna do? How are you going to fix this? But again, 532 00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:41,439 Speaker 1: that's kind of like the perfect way to wrap this up, 533 00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:44,399 Speaker 1: because that is you always go into these things with 534 00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:48,440 Speaker 1: the intention to fix your part, Like you can't fix 535 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:51,680 Speaker 1: the other person and you can't make them respond to 536 00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:53,000 Speaker 1: what you want them too. So you just have to 537 00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 1: operate in the best way for yourself, knowing that you're 538 00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,840 Speaker 1: doing what you can in that relationship. And so you 539 00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:00,920 Speaker 1: can't always expect the other gonna meet you halfways. You 540 00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:03,119 Speaker 1: kind of have to go yourself and if they end 541 00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:04,720 Speaker 1: up meeting you, great, and if not, like you know, 542 00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:08,000 Speaker 1: you've done your part. What a beautiful wrap up, sweetheart. 543 00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:09,240 Speaker 1: I don't know what I would have done if you 544 00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:11,560 Speaker 1: and Churet least would have broken up. Am I going 545 00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:15,320 Speaker 1: to see you later tonight. Yeah, oh awesome, I can't wait. 546 00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:18,120 Speaker 1: You guys, I'm so proud of you for doing this podcast. 547 00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:22,800 Speaker 1: This is so thank you for taking the call. You 548 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:25,119 Speaker 1: never know who's going to pick up, so we are 549 00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,680 Speaker 1: Do people just call in like the like people just 550 00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:30,879 Speaker 1: call in and ask questions and stuff. People call it 551 00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:33,080 Speaker 1: for advice on stuff and we either talk to them 552 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:36,000 Speaker 1: or we read their question and then we chime in. Yeah, 553 00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:38,320 Speaker 1: sometimes you have to bring an expert in. Yeah, sometimes 554 00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:40,280 Speaker 1: we have to bring an expert in. A celebrity guest, 555 00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,600 Speaker 1: you know that kind of thing. You guys should probably 556 00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:45,320 Speaker 1: make them sign some kind of a liability like I mean, 557 00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:51,440 Speaker 1: trying to preface to take all the advice and nondisclosure agreement. Well, 558 00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:54,879 Speaker 1: happy Mother's Day. Tell gird a happy Mother's Day. Happy 559 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:57,159 Speaker 1: Mother's Day baby, thank you, and don't take any of 560 00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:02,840 Speaker 1: my kid advice please all right, bye, thank you, I 561 00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:06,480 Speaker 1: see you later. I just love her. Let's tell people 562 00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:10,040 Speaker 1: about Charlie's charity please. Yeah, So it's Charlie's. They're an 563 00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:13,960 Speaker 1: African outreach program. They provide schooling and education for people. 564 00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,440 Speaker 1: They provide scholarships for young girls to go to college, 565 00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:20,439 Speaker 1: and they do a lot of HIV prevention and they 566 00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:23,520 Speaker 1: serve tons of adolescence in all of Africa, so it's 567 00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:26,960 Speaker 1: really really important work anything else, sweetheart, Well, they can 568 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:30,240 Speaker 1: donate online if they want to go to Charlie's Africa 569 00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:33,639 Speaker 1: Charley's Africa Outreach dot org. Yeah, they can donate right 570 00:27:33,720 --> 00:27:35,440 Speaker 1: on the home screen. It's really easy in the money's 571 00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:38,280 Speaker 1: actually going to And we donate, sweetheart, as a family, 572 00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:40,840 Speaker 1: we donate every year. Do your part. Donate. That would 573 00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:43,440 Speaker 1: be a very good Mother's Day donation For anybody who's 574 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:45,880 Speaker 1: listening that's a mother, and for anybody who's listening that's 575 00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:48,479 Speaker 1: not a mother. We should all donate for Mother's Day. 576 00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:50,960 Speaker 1: I'll make a donation in your name, sweetheart. Oh, sweetheart, 577 00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:53,600 Speaker 1: thank you. You're not a mother and that's for the best. Yes, well, 578 00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:56,800 Speaker 1: it seems like you and Shirley's had very similar parenting styles. Yeah, 579 00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,600 Speaker 1: very similar takes on the swearing and not drawing attention 580 00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:02,280 Speaker 1: to it, keeping it in the home. So I mean, 581 00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:05,040 Speaker 1: maybe you're honestly, maybe you could be a mother. I 582 00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:06,719 Speaker 1: just know if I had a kid, I'd want them 583 00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:08,680 Speaker 1: to be cool, like I want them to be cool. 584 00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:11,120 Speaker 1: Don't be a dick, don't be an asshole. Don't throw 585 00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:14,280 Speaker 1: your iPad ever at anybody or even I wouldn't want 586 00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:15,879 Speaker 1: a kid like that, so I would have to be 587 00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:18,920 Speaker 1: really diligent. You want your kid to have a childhood 588 00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:21,040 Speaker 1: and experience that and enjoy it, but you also want 589 00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,880 Speaker 1: them to operate a certain way around adults, like don't 590 00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:26,560 Speaker 1: be a fucking asshole. Yeah, I mean I was a 591 00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:29,600 Speaker 1: real fucking asshole growing up, Like I was the worst 592 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:32,399 Speaker 1: that you could possibly be. I was. I put my 593 00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:37,959 Speaker 1: parents through hell pregnancies. You know, I read I can 594 00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:40,760 Speaker 1: have a kid to break that cycle. What cycle? I mean, 595 00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:43,800 Speaker 1: asshole cycle? Oh oh right, I thought you met my 596 00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:47,400 Speaker 1: menstrual cycle. No, your period is coming, though it's coming, 597 00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:51,560 Speaker 1: it's always around the corner. I thought we were going 598 00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:54,000 Speaker 1: to try and get me to get early onset menopause 599 00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:57,440 Speaker 1: or is it outset? Is it outset? Well, when you're 600 00:28:57,640 --> 00:28:59,680 Speaker 1: on the beginning, on the precipice of something, you're on 601 00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:03,720 Speaker 1: the said of it, though, aren't you. You're you're the human, 602 00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:05,920 Speaker 1: the source and dictionary. I don't know. You tell me 603 00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:09,280 Speaker 1: I have to look into it, all right? Well, thank 604 00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:11,360 Speaker 1: you Shirley's but we should probably thinking Gerda her mom 605 00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:15,640 Speaker 1: because whatever. Yeah, thanks bitch, that's what she calls me. 606 00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:17,920 Speaker 1: Gerda calls me bitch, and I call her bitch. Well, 607 00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:20,840 Speaker 1: thank you bitch, and thank you Shirleys for calling it. 608 00:29:20,960 --> 00:29:27,840 Speaker 1: Taking the time to do this, we learned a lot well. 609 00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:31,040 Speaker 1: Our last submission comes from a Gabby. Is it my 610 00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:32,960 Speaker 1: aunt Gabby? Because that's like her to write it and 611 00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:37,960 Speaker 1: propose as somebody else, although I posing as else? Okay, 612 00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:41,240 Speaker 1: read it? Okay, Dear Chelsea. My girlfriend wants kids, not 613 00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:43,560 Speaker 1: now necessarily, but in the next few years, which, as 614 00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 1: a lesbian couple, would require some effort. I love kids, 615 00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:48,840 Speaker 1: and she's always wanted them and I didn't, so it's 616 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:52,240 Speaker 1: a bit of an adjustment for me. My girlfriend's suggestion 617 00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,800 Speaker 1: is using my eighteen year old brothers sperm to make 618 00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:59,240 Speaker 1: this hypothetical child, causing my anxiety to quadruple. I bought 619 00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:01,280 Speaker 1: a book on the said jacked, and honestly, it covers 620 00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:05,000 Speaker 1: too many batship scenarios. My mom had the same idea 621 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:07,320 Speaker 1: as my girlfriend and offered up my brother's sperm. My 622 00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:09,400 Speaker 1: mom recognized that my brother is too young to make 623 00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:12,040 Speaker 1: that call and shared some of her own concerns. How 624 00:30:12,120 --> 00:30:14,880 Speaker 1: old is her brother's eighteen why is he too young? Oh? 625 00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:19,160 Speaker 1: Too young? My girlfriend is worried about picking some random 626 00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:21,080 Speaker 1: sperm from a bank. So I guess the question is, 627 00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:23,920 Speaker 1: how the fund do you pick sperm? I don't know, 628 00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:26,040 Speaker 1: but I find the brother thing to be weird too, 629 00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:28,600 Speaker 1: But that's something people go through. No, I well, I 630 00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:30,800 Speaker 1: get it, and I get it. It's your genes, but like, 631 00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,120 Speaker 1: are you that married to having your own? It's like, 632 00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:35,720 Speaker 1: how important are those genes to you? I'm fine with 633 00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:40,120 Speaker 1: someone else's jeans. I prefer it. Actually, just break that side. Yeah, 634 00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,600 Speaker 1: I mean she doesn't. She hasn't thought about that much 635 00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:45,360 Speaker 1: about having a child in the first place. And to 636 00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:48,440 Speaker 1: have your brother's child, I mean, the brother's eighteen. That's 637 00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:51,440 Speaker 1: really not fair to him either. Well, Gabby's on the phone, 638 00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:54,880 Speaker 1: so let's see what sort of movement they've had on this. Hi, Gabby, 639 00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:59,040 Speaker 1: how you doing. I'm doing well in yourself. Um, well, 640 00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:01,320 Speaker 1: we're just sitting here driving as a couple. Thank you 641 00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:04,520 Speaker 1: for asking what's going on with you? So I just yeah, 642 00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:07,560 Speaker 1: he ran and just read me your submission. So you're 643 00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:10,040 Speaker 1: a lesbian who wants to have a baby while your 644 00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,960 Speaker 1: partner wants to have a baby. Right, More so, than 645 00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:16,480 Speaker 1: you do. But there everyone's contemplating now using your eighteen 646 00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:20,360 Speaker 1: year old brother sperm. Is that right? Yeah, that's what's 647 00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:26,520 Speaker 1: going on. Does that creep you out a little bit? Oh? Yeah, First, 648 00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:29,120 Speaker 1: we haven't even like talked to him. I think it's 649 00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,680 Speaker 1: way too soon to talk to him. Yeah. Yeah. And 650 00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:33,760 Speaker 1: the fact that he's eighteen, it's like it's almost not 651 00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:37,080 Speaker 1: fair to even ask him it's inappropriate. Yeah. I would 652 00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:40,360 Speaker 1: say it's inappropriate too. And even in a couple of years, 653 00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:43,920 Speaker 1: even if he is twenty one, I still think that's 654 00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:48,040 Speaker 1: way too young to make a decision like that. Yeah. 655 00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:49,840 Speaker 1: I mean, first of all, it's way too young. You're 656 00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,520 Speaker 1: not even sold on. Okay, so you've been convinced to 657 00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:54,360 Speaker 1: have a child, and all of a sudden, now your 658 00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:57,440 Speaker 1: whole family is being roped into having the child, like 659 00:31:57,880 --> 00:32:00,440 Speaker 1: using a sperm donor. People do that all the time. 660 00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:03,560 Speaker 1: Lesbian women do it all the time, with or without partners. 661 00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:06,480 Speaker 1: They use sperm donors so that it's not that difficult 662 00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:10,080 Speaker 1: to find something that someone who sperm will measure up 663 00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:12,640 Speaker 1: to what you guys are looking for. Well, I don't 664 00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:15,400 Speaker 1: think I'm being roped into it, Like I do want 665 00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:18,200 Speaker 1: to have a kid. I just wasn't it wasn't necessarily 666 00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:21,000 Speaker 1: something on my mind right now. I think it is 667 00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:24,719 Speaker 1: a little early to be having that conversation. But as 668 00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:27,680 Speaker 1: far as having using a sperm donor, I think I'm 669 00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:32,160 Speaker 1: more comfortable with that idea because it is it just 670 00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:35,680 Speaker 1: makes more sense. It's also your baby, so you get 671 00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:38,640 Speaker 1: to decide if you're going to use your brother's sperm 672 00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:42,000 Speaker 1: or a sperm donors, right, I mean, this is your 673 00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:44,280 Speaker 1: baby with your partner. So it's not like they can, 674 00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,280 Speaker 1: you know, just go and steal your brother's sperm unless 675 00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:51,880 Speaker 1: you have a jar of it somewhere. No, No, of course. 676 00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:55,160 Speaker 1: And yeah, it's a conversation that we're having. I just 677 00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:58,400 Speaker 1: think that her concern or the reason she feels that 678 00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:02,880 Speaker 1: way is because she is that to be biologically both 679 00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:04,960 Speaker 1: of ours. You know, she wants to see our traits 680 00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:07,240 Speaker 1: and both of our traits and the kids, and it 681 00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:10,720 Speaker 1: just happens to be as a gay couple. That that's 682 00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:13,800 Speaker 1: that's not a thing. That's not real. Um. But like 683 00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:16,640 Speaker 1: I understand where she's coming from with that. I think 684 00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:20,760 Speaker 1: that's fair. But I also think for me, having a 685 00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:23,880 Speaker 1: kid does not need to be biologically mine. For me 686 00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:26,520 Speaker 1: to love it, like, I don't even necessarily think it 687 00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:30,000 Speaker 1: has to be biologically my partners. For me to love 688 00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,000 Speaker 1: the child, I could adopt and I could be content 689 00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:36,040 Speaker 1: with that. And does she feel the same way. No, 690 00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:38,200 Speaker 1: she could not adopt. She said they would have to 691 00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:41,880 Speaker 1: be at least half ours. Yeah, I don't understand that. 692 00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:45,720 Speaker 1: I don't understand what this is. Again, it is just 693 00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:50,040 Speaker 1: such a gift. You are saving a life, you know. 694 00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:52,560 Speaker 1: Why Why are people so against it? And why are 695 00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:57,280 Speaker 1: people so attached to seeing their biological reproduction? Why? Though, 696 00:33:57,440 --> 00:33:59,680 Speaker 1: what is that? I don't know what it is? I mean, 697 00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:02,920 Speaker 1: get surprised by a brand new personality that has nothing 698 00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:06,080 Speaker 1: to do with you. Yeah, live why of course, listen, 699 00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:08,840 Speaker 1: you can love any baby, obviously, that's what adoption is, 700 00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:11,239 Speaker 1: you know. I mean, how could you not love a baby? 701 00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:13,239 Speaker 1: Even I could love a baby. If someone dropped one 702 00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:14,880 Speaker 1: off at my doorstep and I had to take care 703 00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:17,520 Speaker 1: of it, I mean I wouldn't I would hire someone, 704 00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:20,160 Speaker 1: but I would take care of it financially, make sure 705 00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:22,320 Speaker 1: that it was clothed and you've fed, and you know 706 00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:24,279 Speaker 1: I would do the right thing. I would have a baby. 707 00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:27,200 Speaker 1: You would have a baby, Brandon, if somebody, yes, but 708 00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:30,399 Speaker 1: I don't understand the tie that people have to seeing 709 00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:33,600 Speaker 1: by their own biological reproduction. You know, what I think 710 00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:36,200 Speaker 1: it is is that there is an element of wanting 711 00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:40,920 Speaker 1: to correct issues that people had as children, and by 712 00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,800 Speaker 1: having their own, they feel like, oh, I can redo 713 00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:45,960 Speaker 1: all of these things that went wrong in my childhood. 714 00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:47,719 Speaker 1: Because now that I'm thinking about it in my own terms, 715 00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:49,919 Speaker 1: that would be why I want one of my own 716 00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:53,040 Speaker 1: that I'm like, no, no, no, We're going to to 717 00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:56,600 Speaker 1: amend all the issues that I went through and give 718 00:34:56,680 --> 00:34:59,239 Speaker 1: you the childhood I wish I had. Right, But I 719 00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:02,360 Speaker 1: see it from both It's because my mom's adopted terrible 720 00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:05,120 Speaker 1: scenario her. She had the best parents who adopted her, 721 00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:07,320 Speaker 1: but she did not She was not happy with the 722 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,399 Speaker 1: adoption process like she did not. She does not feel 723 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:13,120 Speaker 1: good about that, your mother. But you've already explained that 724 00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:17,239 Speaker 1: your mother doesn't feel good about most things, Gabby. This 725 00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:19,880 Speaker 1: is we cover this earlier, but so for from your 726 00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:21,759 Speaker 1: partner's perspective, a lot of times people do ever reason 727 00:35:21,840 --> 00:35:24,080 Speaker 1: why they they saw something, to watch something, talk to 728 00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:26,800 Speaker 1: someone and they don't want to adopt for that reason, 729 00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:29,759 Speaker 1: or you know, there's a more specific reason why they 730 00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:32,319 Speaker 1: want a biological child of their own. But so many 731 00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:34,880 Speaker 1: gay couples go through this. I mean, I've had this 732 00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:37,840 Speaker 1: conversation with my partner and I actually pulled an article 733 00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:41,719 Speaker 1: up from online of another lesbian couple who did this 734 00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:45,239 Speaker 1: with their brother's sperm, and so the process that they 735 00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:48,840 Speaker 1: went through, she says, for instance, it enabled us to 736 00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:51,200 Speaker 1: have a child that was biologically related to both of us, 737 00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:53,399 Speaker 1: and it was an amazing and unique way to keep 738 00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:55,480 Speaker 1: our donor involved, which is an issue for a lot 739 00:35:55,520 --> 00:35:58,239 Speaker 1: of people, as do we have an open situation? Is it? 740 00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:01,840 Speaker 1: Are you close with your brother? No? Not really. I 741 00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:03,919 Speaker 1: mean I'm not not close with him, but and he's 742 00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:08,840 Speaker 1: eighteen years old. I'm nine. There's a big gap. We 743 00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:12,719 Speaker 1: kind of grew up differently, um, and so I'm not 744 00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:15,120 Speaker 1: that close to them. And I also, like I've read, 745 00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:17,080 Speaker 1: I bought a bunch of books. I've read a little 746 00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:20,440 Speaker 1: bit say skim over, you know, using a relative spirm. 747 00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:24,480 Speaker 1: I wonder why, because it's weird. Yeah, And it's just 748 00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:27,600 Speaker 1: like I don't think I would ever want the donor involved, 749 00:36:28,160 --> 00:36:30,880 Speaker 1: Like I wouldn't see them as a parents, like after that, 750 00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:32,840 Speaker 1: when the kid's eighteen years old, if they want to 751 00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:36,239 Speaker 1: connect with the donor, Okay, that's your decision, but I 752 00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:38,880 Speaker 1: wouldn't want to like use a friends firm and so 753 00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:42,040 Speaker 1: like to be like at Thanksgiving dinner and it's like, oh, yeah, 754 00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:45,879 Speaker 1: there's your uncle Dad, Like yeah, yeah, Well it sounds like, okay, 755 00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:48,400 Speaker 1: So your partner is the one that wants a biological 756 00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,239 Speaker 1: child of her own, so she can accomplish that with 757 00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:54,040 Speaker 1: a sperm donor, And it seems like you're pretty cool 758 00:36:54,120 --> 00:36:57,000 Speaker 1: without having a biological child of your own. So it 759 00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:59,320 Speaker 1: seems like the right thing. Just get a sperm donor, 760 00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:00,960 Speaker 1: and you're just gonna agree to love the baby that 761 00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:04,640 Speaker 1: has no biological relationship to you. Well her qualms with that, 762 00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:07,960 Speaker 1: And I'm starting to agree a little bit. I've been 763 00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:12,839 Speaker 1: reading on like sperm donors is um that you don't 764 00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:14,840 Speaker 1: really know what you're getting a lot of these guys 765 00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:17,759 Speaker 1: donate when they're young and they need cash, and so 766 00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:20,040 Speaker 1: it's not like, you know, I'm doing this necessarily out 767 00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:21,560 Speaker 1: of the goodness of my heart. I'm doing it for 768 00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:24,719 Speaker 1: fifty bucks because I'm broke. And so even if you 769 00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:27,080 Speaker 1: have a medical history, like you have a medical history 770 00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:28,920 Speaker 1: of a kid up to the age of twenty, and 771 00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:31,920 Speaker 1: he's not necessarily going to contact the sperm bank and say, oh, 772 00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:34,160 Speaker 1: by the way, I found out like I have this 773 00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:38,840 Speaker 1: medical issue or this medical issue. And then also you 774 00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:42,560 Speaker 1: have these sperm donors who wind up helping a lot 775 00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:45,360 Speaker 1: of couples have kids. So then if your kid is 776 00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,400 Speaker 1: eighteen years old and they want to connect with the 777 00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:50,759 Speaker 1: donor dad, then they find out that they have, you know, 778 00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:54,759 Speaker 1: a hundred five hundred half siblings, especially now when you're 779 00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:58,360 Speaker 1: doing those like little DNA tests you send in that 780 00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:00,920 Speaker 1: she found out she has a son of another. Like 781 00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:04,160 Speaker 1: this guy donated all the sperm and was really popular 782 00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:07,000 Speaker 1: because he was tall, handsome, and very bright. So all 783 00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:09,000 Speaker 1: these women picked his sperm and they all have his 784 00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:11,520 Speaker 1: babies and they're all starting to connect with each other. 785 00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:15,799 Speaker 1: Talk about fucking futuristic and weird? Does that I need? 786 00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:17,400 Speaker 1: And will that creep out a kid? Like, I mean, 787 00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:19,120 Speaker 1: I get all kids are going to have some sort 788 00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:23,040 Speaker 1: of trauma, Like that's just unavoidable, but it's why, I mean, 789 00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:25,000 Speaker 1: why why not get the trauma? I think you have 790 00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:26,719 Speaker 1: to lean into the fact that he's going to grow 791 00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:30,200 Speaker 1: up in a diverse household anyway, Yeah, and why not 792 00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:32,000 Speaker 1: get the trauma out of the way right away, Like 793 00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:33,480 Speaker 1: this is what you can be mad at for the 794 00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:36,200 Speaker 1: rest of your life. Okay, you have to find anything 795 00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:38,520 Speaker 1: normal as long as you frame it that way to them, like, hey, 796 00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:42,879 Speaker 1: sometimes moms need help. They get help from Tom Dicker 797 00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:44,920 Speaker 1: Harry down at the Spurm Bank. Like it's all how 798 00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:48,200 Speaker 1: you present it to kids. So if you presented as 799 00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:51,320 Speaker 1: this is the option that this man helped this many people, 800 00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:54,040 Speaker 1: he's gonna have a much different response to that than 801 00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:56,160 Speaker 1: like this is what you've missed out on to a 802 00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:58,480 Speaker 1: certain degree, Like oh, you have all these siblings. No, no, No, 803 00:38:58,560 --> 00:38:59,759 Speaker 1: that's not how you frame it, Like look at how 804 00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:03,040 Speaker 1: many kids this man was able to provide these families 805 00:39:03,040 --> 00:39:06,440 Speaker 1: who really wanted one. Yeah, And I've read what I 806 00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:11,200 Speaker 1: read says that kids of gay couples do seem more 807 00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:16,400 Speaker 1: receptive and understanding of the sperm donor process versus straight 808 00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:19,480 Speaker 1: couples who had fertility issues and then had to go 809 00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:23,279 Speaker 1: with the donor just because children of gay couples are 810 00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:27,480 Speaker 1: cooler as soon as understand how children are made. Realized 811 00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:30,520 Speaker 1: that you know this, Yeah, I think I also think 812 00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:32,399 Speaker 1: fighting like one, people who want to get in touch 813 00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:35,160 Speaker 1: with their sperm donor. I mean that is a real stretch. 814 00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,440 Speaker 1: It's like, that is somebody who got paid for their sperm, 815 00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:39,120 Speaker 1: like and you want to contact them and get to 816 00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:42,120 Speaker 1: know them better. It's like, that's really then that's people 817 00:39:42,120 --> 00:39:44,040 Speaker 1: who did a bad job of parenting if your kid 818 00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:46,640 Speaker 1: is that desperate to meet his sperm donor. But I 819 00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:48,920 Speaker 1: would agree with you that gaik. I mean children of 820 00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:50,640 Speaker 1: gay couples do see him a little bit cooler and 821 00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:53,600 Speaker 1: a little bit more progressive and with it. So, but 822 00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:56,000 Speaker 1: I still would stick to the original plan, which is 823 00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:59,080 Speaker 1: you get a sperm donor, and in this day and age, 824 00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:03,919 Speaker 1: you can get background information about sperm donors that is available. Okay, 825 00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:05,279 Speaker 1: I have one, I have a question. I have a 826 00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:07,520 Speaker 1: follow up or I would say suggestion. Maybe they should 827 00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:10,800 Speaker 1: use your sperm you would have before. I'll tell you 828 00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:14,719 Speaker 1: about that. Yeah, So, Gaby, what about having your egg 829 00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:18,200 Speaker 1: and her egg, her being the carrier inserted with the 830 00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:20,560 Speaker 1: sperm from the same donors. That way the kids look 831 00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:24,240 Speaker 1: alike and also looked like both of you to some degree. 832 00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:26,919 Speaker 1: So now she has to have twins, well you would. 833 00:40:27,160 --> 00:40:30,080 Speaker 1: I'm just I'm offering options. But if you use both 834 00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:32,160 Speaker 1: eggs and you just didn't tell each you just didn't 835 00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:36,200 Speaker 1: know which one which egg actually ended up being waste. No, 836 00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:37,720 Speaker 1: but I think you can only do that with sperm, 837 00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:40,279 Speaker 1: not not eggs. You have to use one egg, right 838 00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:42,920 Speaker 1: or no? No, you put in a bunch of eggs 839 00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:46,560 Speaker 1: and a bunch of sperm and then whatever fertilizes. So 840 00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:51,919 Speaker 1: you could I D S or I C or I UI. 841 00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:55,080 Speaker 1: You could do that, And that's something she's brought up. 842 00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:56,920 Speaker 1: She thinks she'd said, like, you know, if we go 843 00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:59,640 Speaker 1: the sperm down or route, then you know, use her 844 00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:01,920 Speaker 1: a E and the sperm and have a kid, and 845 00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:04,200 Speaker 1: then if we have a second kid, use my egg 846 00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:06,680 Speaker 1: and the same sperm. That way you can kind of 847 00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:11,360 Speaker 1: differentiate what are the characteristic you know, like our characteristics 848 00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:14,280 Speaker 1: and the children, and what are the sperm donor's characteristics 849 00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:17,760 Speaker 1: being that you used the same sperm for each child. 850 00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:23,120 Speaker 1: So it's just so multifaceted with and I'm a lot 851 00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:27,359 Speaker 1: more comfortable with that. Yeah, you you are with that idea? Yeah, okay, 852 00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:30,400 Speaker 1: well then that's yeah, yeah, then do that. I think 853 00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:32,279 Speaker 1: you have the answer that you came in with, which 854 00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:34,880 Speaker 1: is get a sperm donor and do that what you 855 00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:39,160 Speaker 1: just described is sounds perfect. Okay, okay, thank you. Do 856 00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:42,480 Speaker 1: you feel confident about your decision now? Well? Yeah, yeah, 857 00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:45,840 Speaker 1: I mean I've always felt pretty confident with my decision. 858 00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:50,200 Speaker 1: It's just the fact that it's not solely my decision. Yeah, 859 00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:52,640 Speaker 1: but you're doing I mean, I think you're contributing pretty 860 00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:56,240 Speaker 1: much all that you're able to contribute, right right without 861 00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:59,160 Speaker 1: your brother. Leave your brother out of it. Yeah. No, 862 00:41:59,360 --> 00:42:01,960 Speaker 1: the only reason and I even considered that, which I 863 00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:06,600 Speaker 1: didn't consider it very highly, just because I think it 864 00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:09,560 Speaker 1: was important to her, um, you know, to my girlfriend 865 00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:12,120 Speaker 1: to have both of our characteristics and obviously, like I 866 00:42:12,160 --> 00:42:15,640 Speaker 1: want her to be happy. And also, you know, there's 867 00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:19,080 Speaker 1: a cost associated with like sperm donation. So if you 868 00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:22,160 Speaker 1: do it like at home, like at home insemination, they 869 00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:25,440 Speaker 1: say to do like two vials every month, and like 870 00:42:25,600 --> 00:42:29,920 Speaker 1: frozen sperm for like healthy woman in our early thirties, 871 00:42:30,120 --> 00:42:33,360 Speaker 1: no fertility issues. There's like a ten percent chance of conception, 872 00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:36,120 Speaker 1: and they suggestions in two vials, so it's like two 873 00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:40,399 Speaker 1: grand a month, so like ten chance. Let's say after 874 00:42:40,480 --> 00:42:43,520 Speaker 1: like six seven months you finally get pregnant, you're talking 875 00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:47,160 Speaker 1: like fourteen grand and sperm and like, I don't know, 876 00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:49,279 Speaker 1: that's just a it's a lot of money, and it's 877 00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:52,720 Speaker 1: a lot of money. For the idea that sperm isn't 878 00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:58,439 Speaker 1: free is absurd. It is. That's one of the things 879 00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:01,839 Speaker 1: where I was leaning towards, you know, my brother. I'm like, yeah, 880 00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:05,359 Speaker 1: I'll make her happy and also me from a cost perspective, 881 00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:11,200 Speaker 1: rationally economic decision really with no regard for your brother's 882 00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:15,359 Speaker 1: feelings at all in the situation. Can keep us posted 883 00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:19,439 Speaker 1: If you find sperm downers, I would love to review 884 00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:22,279 Speaker 1: those with you to see what's going on and help 885 00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:24,800 Speaker 1: help give you some direction that way. Yeah, and for 886 00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:28,359 Speaker 1: next Mother's Day, I'm going to start donating sperm. Mine. 887 00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:32,880 Speaker 1: You're gonna pick me out. Thank you, Gabby. Thank you, Gabby. 888 00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:37,319 Speaker 1: Have a great Mother's Day when you're a mother you Yeah. 889 00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:40,880 Speaker 1: So I had a professor of mine after I graduated. 890 00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:43,160 Speaker 1: I'd probably been graduated from college for two or three years, 891 00:43:43,960 --> 00:43:46,800 Speaker 1: and she reached out asking you if she was with 892 00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:49,040 Speaker 1: a girlfriend. I think they have been long term at 893 00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:51,400 Speaker 1: the time. And she reached out and she said, Hey, 894 00:43:51,520 --> 00:43:53,279 Speaker 1: this is gonna be a really strange question, but would 895 00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:58,880 Speaker 1: you ever consider being our sperm downer? And I was 896 00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:00,840 Speaker 1: about to start for you had so much going on, 897 00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:03,000 Speaker 1: and we had talked about I can't have a baby. 898 00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:04,960 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not prepared for this. I'm about 899 00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:07,600 Speaker 1: to start on my new life. Adventure was sweetheart, I'm 900 00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:10,600 Speaker 1: not ready to be a dad, even a distant ad um. 901 00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:14,120 Speaker 1: But the conversation never ended up really going anywhere. I 902 00:44:14,160 --> 00:44:16,720 Speaker 1: think they've broken up so well. I tried to donate 903 00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:19,840 Speaker 1: my eggs when I was broke and I was in 904 00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:22,480 Speaker 1: my twenties and I was waitressing, and I went in 905 00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:25,359 Speaker 1: and donated my eggs. I filled out a questionnaire, did 906 00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:29,160 Speaker 1: an hour interview, and they rejected me and said that 907 00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:33,279 Speaker 1: I should seek a psychiatric evaluation. And did you No, 908 00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:36,080 Speaker 1: I just just I was so excited to make like 909 00:44:36,160 --> 00:44:39,360 Speaker 1: thet so I was crestfallen when I didn't when I 910 00:44:39,400 --> 00:44:41,560 Speaker 1: found out that I was psychotic. We'll schedule it for 911 00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:44,239 Speaker 1: this week. Yeah, maybe I could donate my eggs now. 912 00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:47,440 Speaker 1: I have a girlfriend who donates eggs regularly, and you 913 00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:50,440 Speaker 1: get more and more as you do it. You get 914 00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:52,920 Speaker 1: more and more eggs, you get more money. So it 915 00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:54,520 Speaker 1: seems like a pyramid scheme to me. I don't know 916 00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:57,840 Speaker 1: how it works, but an egg an egg pyramid scheme. 917 00:44:58,000 --> 00:44:59,799 Speaker 1: It sounds like something I want to stay away from. 918 00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:04,439 Speaker 1: I don't blame you. Okay, Well that was part two 919 00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:08,560 Speaker 1: of our debut episode. We did it, sweetheart. We launched 920 00:45:08,600 --> 00:45:11,600 Speaker 1: a podcast. We did it. We have a podcast. Dear Chelsea. 921 00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:13,919 Speaker 1: I look forward to this little new home of ours 922 00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:17,080 Speaker 1: and I will see and here, well you'll hear me 923 00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:19,960 Speaker 1: and I will see you. Do you get the gist. 924 00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:22,160 Speaker 1: We'll be back every week on Thursdays, all right. For 925 00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:24,800 Speaker 1: anyone who does want to write in, they can do 926 00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:28,480 Speaker 1: that at Dear Chelsea Project d E A R C 927 00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:31,759 Speaker 1: h E L S e A P R O j 928 00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:34,960 Speaker 1: E C T at gmail dot com. Dear Chelsea Project 929 00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:38,480 Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. That's wonderful, Okay, thanks for listening. 930 00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:42,360 Speaker 1: Happy Mother's Day, everybody, Happy Mother's Day. Happy Mother's Day. Brandon, 931 00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:44,160 Speaker 1: Not anytime soon, sweetheart,