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Speaker 1: for the Strawberry Letter with my good friend Shirley straw Perry.

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Speaker 1: Thank you my good friends. Junior subject one of my

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Speaker 1: homies is my side piece. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a

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Speaker 1: thirty two year old single man and I started a

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Speaker 1: and my boys. She's like one of the boys, and

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Speaker 1: we party together, work out together, and she travels with

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Speaker 1: us on our annual guys trips. She is a good

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Speaker 1: friend and we respect her and her sexual preference. We've

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Speaker 1: never dated a man before. We've been friends since middle

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Speaker 1: school and she has always been a pretty girl. She's

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Speaker 1: She's a woman by all means, but she hangs out

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Speaker 1: with all of us dudes. Four months ago, we all

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Speaker 2: What.

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Speaker 1: I got up and offered her my bed. She said

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Speaker 1: the next morning, and she was with it. We have

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Speaker 1: be her secret side piece anymore. Should I have a

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Speaker 1: talk with her and see where she stands on dating

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Speaker 1: the great sex.

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Speaker 3: He said.

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Speaker 1: Hmm, okay, I think you know you like her way

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Speaker 1: more than a friend. Now, otherwise you wouldn't care if

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Speaker 1: you've got to talk to her, and if she feels

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Speaker 1: that for three months, you guys haven't talked about it

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Speaker 1: the other hand, don't want to cut off the great

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Speaker 1: But you're making the sacrifice for the great sex. Okay,

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Speaker 1: But it's time. It is time. Now it's been three

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Speaker 1: months or ninety days, and you know how we feel

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Speaker 1: about ninety days around here. Steve taught us all about

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Speaker 1: the ninety day rule. Okay, so again I say it's time.

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Speaker 1: It's risky, you know, but if you really want her,

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Speaker 2: It's thirty two year old dude, got this woman that's

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Speaker 2: She said she'd take the bed only if he stayed

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Speaker 2: Got nice legs, six pack, pretty feet, I got your dog.

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Speaker 3: Hell, I don't help. I've learned in my life. I've

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Speaker 2: You know, they don't need to ask them somebody to

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Speaker 2: Now, she started taking her clothes off and walked into

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Speaker 3: I wanted to make sure we did.

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Speaker 2: Not have sex just because we was drunk, so I

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Speaker 2: tried it again the next morning, and Lord have mercy,

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Speaker 2: she was with it. Yeah. We have been secretly having

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Speaker 3: So Shirley right there. They have discussed it to a degree.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, how the other friends will react if they knew it? Now,

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Speaker 2: the problem we got now is he wants more. And

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Speaker 2: when we come back, I'm gonna tell you what your

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Speaker 1: All right, thank you, Steve. We'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: Subject of today's letter, one of my homies is my

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Speaker 1: You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right, come on

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Speaker 1: Steve Let's recap Today's Strawberry Letter, subject to one of

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Speaker 1: my homies is my side piece.

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Speaker 2: Well, this guy's been friends with this girl for a

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Speaker 2: number of years, since middle school. She's very pretty, tall,

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Speaker 2: nice leg, six packs, pretty feet, but she has relationship

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Speaker 2: she assumes with just women, and so she's days. But

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Speaker 2: she's best been one of the guys traveling with him. Well,

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Speaker 2: they all went to a strip club one time, they

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Speaker 3: He went upstairs to bed.

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Speaker 2: She slept on the couch like she has done many times,

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Speaker 2: but in this drunken state, he claims, he could not

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Speaker 2: be like. Well, I don't you can't just lay as

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Speaker 2: only if he stayed in it.

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Speaker 3: Lord Lord heimber.

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Speaker 2: Let the church say Amen, Hallelujah, glow red. So she

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Speaker 2: I can only imagine what he's thinking, Oh, my lord,

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Speaker 2: And they did it so to make sure that they

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Speaker 3: The next morning, she was with it again.

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Speaker 2: Now they've been secretly having sex for three months now

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Speaker 2: other friends will react, which I'm telling you now means

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Speaker 2: that they've discussed what they would think if the other

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Speaker 2: to be her secret side piece anymore. That's going on

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Speaker 2: the past three months been good? All this side he's saying,

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Speaker 2: ain't working for me. No more.

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Speaker 3: Man needs to go public.

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Speaker 2: Now should I have a talk with her and see

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Speaker 3: Well, here we go. I'm glad you called me.

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Speaker 2: See, as far as I'm concerned with that proposal that

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Speaker 2: you're putting forward, you have absolutely nothing to lose.

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Speaker 3: Let's say you ask her how she feels.

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Speaker 2: The only thing you have to be prepared for is

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Speaker 2: the great sex. Now supposed she says she prefers women.

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Speaker 2: What you have to be prepared for that, yep, because

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Speaker 2: she may say I prefer women, which puts you right

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Speaker 2: back where you at.

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Speaker 2: She gonna keep her girl for any of y'all just

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Speaker 2: a rabbit. You reach in the hat, you get a rabbit.

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Speaker 2: You get a rabbit. Everybody get a damn rabbit out

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Speaker 2: of this trick. So now I don't see what the

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Speaker 2: But you want more. And now the part that you

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Speaker 2: All of them then thought the same thingt it. Every

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Speaker 3: They just been trying to play the game. Because y'all

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Speaker 2: I'd have been an ass or something time ago. Hey,

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Speaker 2: I know how you roll, but we we I mean,

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Speaker 2: All way way back my early thirties. M I've been

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Speaker 3: And well it's no big deal. It ain't really nothing.

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Speaker 2: They thought it was a very cute joke, but but I.

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Speaker 3: So you know, it didn't work out. They were gorgeous. Uh.

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Speaker 2: One of them had a girlfriend who was more masculine,

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Speaker 3: You know, I mean, why we ain't got to fight

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Speaker 2: Well. It was not gonna be a fight right here

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