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Speaker 1: I just met the girl my husband is mentoring at work.

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Speaker 1: Now I feel insecure.

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Speaker 2: Uh, I'm just a girl being mentored by your husband.

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Speaker 1: Hello all, my husband works in a law firm and

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Speaker 1: recently started mentoring.

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Speaker 3: No, oh no, it disconnected.

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Speaker 2: I can connect it to wait a second, Okay, here

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Speaker 2: we go. Let's be riley. I'm going to share my

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Speaker 2: screen and I'm going to start now casting. Let's casting. See,

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Speaker 2: let's see. We don't see ladies and gentlemen. It's connected.

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Speaker 2: And then go ahead and pull up the story.

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Speaker 1: So then I'm going to pull up the story and

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Speaker 1: then I'm going to click on s story and it's up.

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Speaker 2: Ah, we got a boys and girls. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: yeah yeah. Sorry, I'm shaking up my burrita ball.

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Speaker 1: He's a shaker, quick, you are what I say, shaker

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Speaker 1: and a mover.

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Speaker 2: Oh god.

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Speaker 1: Anyways, yes, let's get back this story. Hello all, my

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Speaker 1: husband works in a law firm and recently started mentoring

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Speaker 1: a fresh new hire. He's an open book with me,

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Speaker 1: so he tells me everything that goes on in his

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Speaker 1: work life and asked if he can invite his mentee

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Speaker 1: over for dinner to meet our family. By the way,

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Speaker 1: this comes from No Information seventy nine to fifty nine

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Speaker 1: on the ars. Hush, okay, story time, celebrate it. So

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Speaker 1: I said, yes, he's done this a couple of times

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Speaker 1: in the past and brought to dinner a fresh some

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Speaker 1: freshly graduated guys and girls, and we always had pleasant evenings.

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Speaker 1: We organized a date and I meet this girl. First thing,

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Speaker 1: she is gorgeous, like drop dead gorgeous.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: Second, I learn she's a Harvard graduate and her father

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Speaker 1: is a senator. She was very polite and glad to

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Speaker 1: meet me. But the more the evening went on, the

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Speaker 1: more I started feeling insecure. She couldn't up gushing about

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Speaker 1: my husband, how much he's learning from him, how awesome

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Speaker 1: he is, et cetera, et cetera, which, to be honest,

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Speaker 1: I agree with and feel proud. But she also said

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Speaker 2: Every great man, there's a great woman.

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Speaker 1: That my husband always says great things about me, and

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Speaker 1: that I'm even more beautiful than in the pictures my

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Speaker 1: husband showed her.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so seems like a good seems good?

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Speaker 1: Is this some like backward? Is she suggesting some backwards

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Speaker 1: psychology is going on?

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Speaker 2: Like you know Harvard father's a senator. You know this

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Speaker 2: person might secretly be like one of the most cutthroat

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Speaker 2: people on earth, and but that remains to be seen.

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Speaker 2: To be seen, we shall see. So far it sounds good.

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Speaker 1: At the end of the evening, she said that we

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Speaker 1: are exquisite people and that she would like to meet again.

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Speaker 1: I begin stewing on this for days. I don't know why,

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Speaker 1: but the first thing, I feel very insecure. But first thing,

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Speaker 1: I feel very insecure with this girl being around. Not

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Speaker 1: that I think my husband would cheat on me.

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Speaker 2: I trust him whoheartedly.

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Speaker 1: Second phase, I catch her looking at my husband in

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Speaker 1: a way I don't know I can describe an expression that,

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Speaker 1: in my opinion, screamed desire. That said. She gazed at

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Speaker 1: me like that a couple of times too. She has

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Speaker 1: those icy blue eyes, and the intensity of our stare

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Speaker 1: was something that really put me off.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's got the senator gaze, she's got the political hi.

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Speaker 2: Oh hey, hi.

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Speaker 3: You're giving me the crazy next girlfriend or the crazy

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Speaker 3: girlfriend from YouTube.

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Speaker 2: Well maybe she knows how to do it better, but

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Speaker 2: the point remains the same. John over her like an animatronic.

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Speaker 2: You are exquisite, good to me too.

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Speaker 1: It's a hot New York slash that's still business.

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Speaker 2: Oh just give me a hot New York slash slash. God.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what to make of it.

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Speaker 1: My husband noticed I am a bit off and inquired

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Speaker 2: I'm flagging this for later. We're going to talk about

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Speaker 1: I thought this sensation would pass, but it's still there,

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Speaker 1: and I hope I don't come off as crazy or paranoid.

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Speaker 2: Some quick relevant comments.

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Speaker 1: Live Fuzzy thirty six to thirty three says, the first

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Speaker 1: issue I'd like to point out is you lying to

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Speaker 1: That is why I said flag this to discuss later, indeed,

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Speaker 1: which we will discuss in two seconds. I'm sure if

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Speaker 1: you explain yourself, i'd hope your husband would respect that

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Speaker 1: and not bring her over to your home anymore. However,

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Speaker 1: as far as harboring any hopes of him discontinuing his

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Speaker 2: Hmm.

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Speaker 1: I think it would be incredibly unfair for her to

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Speaker 1: new workplace. I don't know why, but tutelage just seems

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Speaker 2: I don't know why. I don't know why either.

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Speaker 1: It's giving something to me that it shouldn't. But I digress.

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Speaker 1: I do think the feelings you are feeling are very

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Speaker 1: natural and valid. But I also think they are coming

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Speaker 1: from a place of deep insecurity, and I think that's

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Speaker 1: something you should work on inside of yourself and not

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Speaker 1: put it on those around you. I hope this doesn't

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Speaker 1: best of luck with this. Also, your husband is married

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Speaker 1: to you and not anyone else. I'm sure he believes

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Speaker 1: you're the most beautiful woman on earth.

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Speaker 2: Smiley face.

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Speaker 1: Before I get to the next this next comment, I

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Speaker 1: do want to talk to you with you, Dakota, and

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Speaker 1: get your perspective. Yeah, so the comments are flagged. What

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Speaker 1: I was thinking of flagging as well. When he asked her, Hey,

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Speaker 1: what's wrong, She's like, Oh no, I'm just a bit tired.

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Speaker 1: What do you think at that moment would have been

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Speaker 1: like the right approach to say, well, if you.

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Speaker 2: Already like fully trust your husband, I think the right

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Speaker 2: approach is just being like, I mean, you said, what's wrong,

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Speaker 2: like low key, I don't know why I'm getting weird

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Speaker 2: vibes from that girl? I don't know, and then you

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Speaker 2: talk about it. It's crazy what a conversation can accomplish

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Speaker 1: And honestly, like, I feel literally the way you broke

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Speaker 1: it down for us in the story where you say, hey,

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Speaker 1: I'm probably being really insecure here, or I'm being insecure.

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Speaker 1: I don't know where it's from what's going on, but

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Speaker 1: the way she was looking at him, all these things,

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Speaker 1: I feel like if you just break it down like that,

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Speaker 1: you are being fair. I think by prefacing it with hey,

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Speaker 1: I might be being very insecure here. I'm just trying

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you'd be like, I might just be

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Speaker 2: insecure from your absurdly hot, Harvard educated US senator connected mentee. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: who was looking at you like she wants to marry you.

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Speaker 2: Maybe she also looked at me like that too, So

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I just want to talk about it.

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Speaker 2: That's why you could have done that. That probably would

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Speaker 2: have been fine. What if she plots to us.

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Speaker 1: What if she's really into op because remember she was like, Oh,

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Speaker 1: you're so beautiful, You're such a beautiful wife.

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Speaker 2: I've been seeing comments that are like, uh, she wants

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Speaker 2: the anajutois she wants the party of three? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: She might just be like trained, like by a politician

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Speaker 2: like usually I guess if you're a Harvard grad and

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Speaker 2: your dad's a senator, like you're probably trained to be perfect.

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Speaker 1: I would assume you're very good at making people feel

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Speaker 1: like like, you're so good at making people feel paid

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Speaker 1: attention to an important and amazing Yeah, that it could

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Speaker 1: come off as like, oh, you're like romantically interested in

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Speaker 2: Schmooz them. You're just so locked in yeah on the

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Speaker 2: on the way that you need to quote unquote be.

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Speaker 1: Yeah anyway, Yeah, well, Opie response to that, thank you

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Speaker 1: for your opinion. I agreed that it would be unfair.

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Speaker 1: If my husband stopped mentoring her if I asked him,

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Speaker 2: Would if I did.

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Speaker 1: But I still feel this uneasiness, and you are right.

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Speaker 1: I shouldn't have lied about it and hit my feelings.

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Speaker 1: And there is an update. We're gonna dive right in.

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Speaker 1: Hello guys, Hello again. I wanted to update you all

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Speaker 1: on my situation. Turned out that my husband and this

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Speaker 1: woman were really having an affair and we are getting divorced.

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Speaker 2: My god, wow, we got We got schmoozed by Harvard

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Speaker 2: and the Senator. We got schmoozed. Normally we would have

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Speaker 2: been like, yeah, no, that's suspicious, but we got schmoozed. Guys.

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Speaker 1: We none of us saw this coming. Zero ice hues

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Speaker 1: in the chat, No way.

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Speaker 2: Wow, we got schmoozed by Harvard, Senator, Lady Day Oh

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Speaker 2: everyone time said. She's You're even more beautiful than the

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Speaker 2: pictures I've seen. What a scumbag. You can't trust a

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Speaker 2: never trust a politician or their daughter that you know.

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Speaker 1: You know now looking back, what it's giving is she's

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Speaker 1: now that the three of them are in the same room,

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Speaker 1: she's trying to like expose it with the husband right there,

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Speaker 1: but like in a very like, you know, Sly smart

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Speaker 2: And the husband just like, you know, like, hey, don't

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Speaker 2: do that. But she's like, no, no, I'm gonna do it.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna expose them all. The husband's sweating bullets. Just

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Speaker 2: be like, why is she looking at me like that?

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Speaker 2: I can't look back, I can't look at her. Why

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Speaker 2: is she looking at me right? Why she look at

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Speaker 2: my wife like that? Oh my god, this girl's crazy. Wait,

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Speaker 2: Sly looks at me like that? Dude, No, just kidding.

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Speaker 1: Sorry you got double smooths, you got doubles smooze.

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Speaker 2: Bro, Wait, what happened? She's not just kidding? Sorry, she

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Speaker 2: just said JK bro, not just kidding.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, Bro, I knew it was gonna happen.

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Speaker 2: Siana T Said, bruh, keep reading, Lol, y'all are missing.

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Speaker 2: The next part is this Are we gonna learn our lesson? Now?

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Speaker 2: This is crazy.

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Speaker 1: We are failing right now, We're gonna learn This is

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Speaker 1: the goblin stream.

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Speaker 2: We are golden goblins. This is we're so old and

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Speaker 2: our brains are so dusty and wrinkly. We can't no, guys, Okay,

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Speaker 2: we're okay, We're gonna read. We're learning our lesson right

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Speaker 2: now we're gonna read.

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Speaker 1: So what really happened was that after I read and

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Speaker 1: reread all the responses I had gotten, I thought on

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Speaker 1: all of it. Took some steps back, and I took

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Speaker 1: a big breath. I didn't talk about this with my husband,

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Speaker 1: but I took some time to self care. I picked

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Speaker 1: up yoga and painting while considering my next course of action.

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Speaker 1: Wo hope he went through got two new hobbies to

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Speaker 1: figure it out. I concluded that this issue was all

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Speaker 1: in my head and thank god it wasn't Harvard girl

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Speaker 1: giving it. And perhaps I felt like I did because

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Speaker 1: I wasn't tending to my marriage like I should have.

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Speaker 1: I started putting in this little extra, getting more engaged

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Speaker 1: about his going ons, taking him out on dinner dates,

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Speaker 1: So to have those conversations end, yeah, it will. Clearly

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but important to call out in those moments. Sure. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And it's not even I think Opie even said like,

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Speaker 1: Great, Hey, guys, put some claps in the chat for

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Speaker 1: Dakota because that was a great freaking can we can

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Speaker 2: Huh? Can we show some appreciation for the young God?

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Speaker 1: You are not alone. I was just about to go

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Speaker 2: It's a beautiful sentiment. Of course, I guess your self

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Speaker 2: worth is always there. I'm glad that came out. If

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Speaker 1: That part, yes, that part. I hope you have a

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Speaker 2: Great. Love it, love it, love it, love it, love it. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm not mad.

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Speaker 1: No, I I agree with Dakota's earlier sentiment again in

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Speaker 2: He's calling you. It's my cousin because on the stream

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Speaker 2: do have to go. I'm gonna put your speaker say hi, Okay.

434
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Speaker 2: I'm pulling you. We have to read this story. My

435
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 2: cousin has been watching this show since the very beginning.

436
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:37,159
Speaker 2: So here we go to the stream. Okay, go hello, cousin.

437
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Speaker 2: What is your name? My name's Logan.

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Speaker 1: Say again, Logan, Logan, Logan, how long you've been watching

439
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:52,120
Speaker 1: the show? That's crazy, dude, heck yeah did you? How

440
00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 1: did you when when you found out that Dakota was

441
00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:57,359
Speaker 1: on the show? Was it like, oh wait a second,

442
00:23:57,640 --> 00:23:58,200
Speaker 1: that show?

443
00:23:58,359 --> 00:24:06,240
Speaker 2: Was it like that? Yes? You got blamed again. Ah.

444
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:11,120
Speaker 2: Dakota's mom is so amazing. I had no idea that

445
00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:12,159
Speaker 2: she knew about the show.

446
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:15,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, I had already started, and she's like, you're on

447
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:16,800
Speaker 1: that dude?

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Speaker 2: All right? Well I love you, Logan. I gotta go

449
00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:24,840
Speaker 2: and bye, you rock. Yes, and you right there we go.

450
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Speaker 2: Everyone's saying hi to Logan, thank you everybody for entertaining. Yeah,

451
00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 2: say what's up to Logan in the chat? Y'all? Yes,

452
00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 2: that's also. That's so great. I love that. Oh good stuff, amazing.

453
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:39,160
Speaker 2: You never know who watches the show.

454
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Speaker 1: You never do, You never know what's gonna rhyme. Alrighty,

455
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Speaker 1: let me pull up this S two right through seventeen

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Speaker 1: S two.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's thirteen seventeen us to my husband. He's kruel

458
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Speaker 2: Ooh my husband band oohs kuela Daville more like.

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Speaker 1: Huz not band. Yes, damn dude, that's that's that's cue.

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00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 1: That's cruel. That's cruel, dude, Kean, that was evil.

461
00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:05,680
Speaker 2: No, it was his.

462
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:09,840
Speaker 1: I guacamoli man bro. I didn't even see it. I

463
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 1: went back to the car. Let's let's let this man

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Speaker 1: recover in peace. Okay, put the camera on means torturing

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Speaker 1: this poor guy.

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Speaker 2: Jesus. All right, boys and girls, let's dive right in.

467
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,600
Speaker 1: My husband is cruel, and I finally snapped out of it.

468
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:32,360
Speaker 1: Give it to him, girl. So my husband twenty nine

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Speaker 1: mal and I twenty three female, have not spoken in

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Speaker 1: two days now for.

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Speaker 2: The past year.

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Speaker 1: For the past year that we've been married, my husband

473
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Speaker 1: threatens to divorce me and calls me cruel names on

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Speaker 1: a weekly basis.

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Speaker 2: Dump him immediately. This comes from the user deleted on

476
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Speaker 2: the arsage. Okay, story time sebr it.

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Speaker 1: So over the last twelve months, I've been called punt

478
00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 1: and more or at least ten times a week. This

479
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 1: is unacceptable. Shannis Moore says, huzz must be banned.

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00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:13,879
Speaker 2: Yes that part.

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Speaker 1: Are you Are you Australian though, No no, no no

482
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:21,880
Speaker 1: no no no no no no no.

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Speaker 2: Shudamble shut up, shsh shsh.

484
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:31,480
Speaker 1: When he threatens divorce, it always is followed up by

485
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Speaker 1: him convincing me that he is one done with the marriage,

486
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 1: telling me he wishes he could have cheated, that he

487
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 1: doesn't love me anymore, and that he hates me. What

488
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 1: a great guy. This uh this is always later apologized for.

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00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:49,680
Speaker 1: He tells me he loves me and he was just

490
00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:52,919
Speaker 1: saying hurtful things because I just made him angry, but

491
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:54,199
Speaker 1: he didn't mean any of it.

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Speaker 2: I always forgive him, but this time something in me snapped.

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00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 1: Good Good Thursday, Friday and Saturday I was met with

494
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:10,400
Speaker 1: the same cruelty I am all too familiar with Thursday night.

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00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 1: He accused me of cheating because I sent a frowning

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Speaker 1: emoji to my boss after he informed me I made

497
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:19,919
Speaker 1: a mistake at work. Yeah yeah, yeah, the most the

498
00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 1: most telltale time of cheating. You send a frowning emoji.

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00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 2: That's not even a positive emoji, that's not.

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00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:31,439
Speaker 1: Even like there's nothing even close to like Now what

501
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:35,639
Speaker 1: this is insanity to be to be very clear, because

502
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 1: now I see some people misunderstanding me in the chat.

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Speaker 2: First of all, this guy's getting the number fourteen right away.

504
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 2: Second of all, I did Australia. I know you guys

505
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 2: don't move like that in Australia. I know the Australians

506
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 2: are good, wonderful people, and clearly this person is not

507
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:54,080
Speaker 2: using that word in the way that a positive Australian would.

508
00:27:55,240 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 2: Let's make that very perfectly thank you. Now I go

509
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 2: back to my bowl. Back to your bowl. Son.

510
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 1: So which my husband took me as flirting again sending

511
00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:14,760
Speaker 1: a frowning emoji with my boss, I wasn't and wouldn't.

512
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 1: He instantly claimed that he wanted a divorce. He didn't

513
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:21,640
Speaker 1: try to discuss anything, left me no room for elaboration.

514
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:26,040
Speaker 1: I tried explaining that it's an emoji. There's nothing spicy

515
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:30,480
Speaker 1: or flirty about it, just a simple response to the mistake.

516
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 1: My boss informed me of He said that there was

517
00:28:34,320 --> 00:28:37,359
Speaker 1: a three strike apology, that there was a three strike

518
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 1: policy in our marriage, and that was my third strike.

519
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 1: What oh what was the first one? You said thank

520
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 1: you to a barista giving you a coffee?

521
00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:49,560
Speaker 2: Oh? Oh my god? Oh oh no.

522
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 1: The other two were things from when before him and

523
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 1: I were even dating, let alone married.

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Speaker 2: Ha. Okay, not even gonna go there. I try.

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00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:03,959
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I would do if the red flags were

526
00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 1: before you were dating.

527
00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 3: Why are you dating here?

528
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 2: Is that right? It happens, It happened. It's the rose

529
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 2: colored tinted glass, rose tinted glasses. The best of us,

530
00:29:15,840 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 2: the best of us, get hit with it.

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00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:20,920
Speaker 1: I tried arguing and telling him that this wasn't making sense,

532
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:24,719
Speaker 1: but he stayed silent and just held up three fingers,

533
00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 1: implying my strikes what I I'm sorry. I don't know

534
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 1: what this man's face look like looks like, but I

535
00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:36,440
Speaker 1: know it's punishable.

536
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 2: Yes, it is kean. Can we we can? We can

537
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 2: agree on that, right, brother strikable? My god?

538
00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, strikable, I see what you did there. I

539
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: ended up going to my mom's house for the night.

540
00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 1: I couldn't mentally handle much more because we both knew

541
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:56,160
Speaker 1: I wasn't flirting or cheating, and him using things UH

542
00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:59,720
Speaker 1: with other men from before we were even together did

543
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 1: no makes sense. These were also things that he has

544
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 1: long known about. I started to have a painting attack,

545
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 1: oh no, ended up vomiting and I felt like I

546
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:13,720
Speaker 1: couldn't breathe. Also, let's put a really quick trigger warning

547
00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 1: at the beginning of this rafter the title quick trigger Warning,

548
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 1: there could be emotional abuse and some more possibly worse

549
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 1: subjects in the story. If you want to avoid best

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Speaker 1: skip to the next one. Let's get into it, yea,

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Speaker 1: I'll put in the notes there we go.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, sir. This has been happening lately, every single

553
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:31,920
Speaker 2: time we argue like this.

554
00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:34,920
Speaker 1: He told me I was a regret right before I

555
00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 1: walked out of the house, and that was the last

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00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:41,280
Speaker 1: I heard from him until Friday morning. At three am.

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Speaker 1: I saw him leave the house on our ring camera

558
00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: and tried to ask him where he was going. I

559
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 1: got no response, so I tried calling. The many calls

560
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:53,200
Speaker 1: I made to him. He ignored every single one, and

561
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:56,360
Speaker 1: I ended up texting multiple times. By the time I

562
00:30:56,560 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 1: gave up, I had called him over one hundred times.

563
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 2: I went to work. Am I reading this wrong? Started

564
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 2: at four four hundred. That's oh, yeah for it. That's

565
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 2: four am.

566
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 1: Wow.

567
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 2: Okay it's military time baby wow. So ope, he's got

568
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:13,560
Speaker 2: early work. I went to work.

569
00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 1: I started at four am and saw him come back

570
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:17,280
Speaker 1: on the ring camera.

571
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 2: All he ended up doing was.

572
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:23,080
Speaker 1: Going for snacks, but with him saying our marriage was

573
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:25,480
Speaker 1: over the night before, I was worried he is going

574
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: to see a woman and panicked. Yeah this he says, snacks,

575
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:31,800
Speaker 1: but I don't trust him. I think he might have.

576
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:35,040
Speaker 2: Been using it. Yeah, yes, this could have been way

577
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 2: more malicious.

578
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 1: Even if he's just making you think it's something more malicious,

579
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 1: it's it's he's using it for he's a bad boy.

580
00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:44,160
Speaker 2: He's not getting the snacks that you eat, absolutely nice.

581
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:49,320
Speaker 1: He's getting the snacks that you meet ooh.

582
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 2: And back to my ball nice.

583
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 1: Since he kept ignoring me, I provided proof of how

584
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 1: I talked to female coworkers versus.

585
00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 2: My male boss.

586
00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:59,160
Speaker 1: I sent him multiple screenshots of the many emojis I

587
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:01,200
Speaker 1: send a female co work that I am friendly with

588
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 1: and how I respond a lot more frequently and with

589
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:07,200
Speaker 1: much more than a simple emoji to women. I also

590
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 1: provided times that employees of mine have straight crossed a

591
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 1: boundary and I set them straight. He didn't reply to

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00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:17,240
Speaker 1: any of my messages. Still, I went home after work

593
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: Friday and tried to talk with him. He was still

594
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:23,680
Speaker 1: sticking to telling me our marriage was over and kept

595
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:28,080
Speaker 1: on calling me a punt. I did get pushy. I

596
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:30,720
Speaker 1: kept trying to talk with him. I tried to slap

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00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 1: him for the way he was speaking to me, which

598
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:35,680
Speaker 1: he easily dodged. I went back to work later on

599
00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 1: that night to pick up some overtime. I still hadn't

600
00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:40,880
Speaker 1: heard word from him.

601
00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 2: By what is that? Nine pm? Eight eight? Thank you?

602
00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:53,080
Speaker 1: By eight pm, so I gave up. I texted him,

603
00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:55,560
Speaker 1: telling him that I wish him the best and that

604
00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 1: if this is what he really wanted, then I'd signed

605
00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:02,000
Speaker 1: the divorce papers and we could have a divorce boom love.

606
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:04,760
Speaker 1: That I would take what's mine and he would keep

607
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:08,080
Speaker 1: what's his. He bought the house, so I'd simply move out,

608
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 1: as I have the means to well. He replied an

609
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:16,080
Speaker 1: hour later, telling me that I betrayed him, but he

610
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 1: doesn't want a divorce.

611
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:24,160
Speaker 3: How this guy's the worst number fourteen, number four You

612
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:28,760
Speaker 3: get a number fourteen through the moon, through the arc cloud,

613
00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 3: through the black hole, straight to the most evil dungeons,

614
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:34,520
Speaker 3: where he's locked away as ethereal spaghetti for.

615
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 2: The rest of his just a big pileoss spaghetti.

616
00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:40,240
Speaker 1: Eternal torture. He replied an hour later, telling me that

617
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:42,200
Speaker 1: I betrayed him, but he doesn't want a divorce. We

618
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:44,600
Speaker 1: got into an argument about it, and in summary, it

619
00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:46,719
Speaker 1: was me doing most of the talking and him replying

620
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:50,440
Speaker 1: with cool or okay to the paragraphs that I sent.

621
00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 2: Now you still believe this guy. You leave this guy,

622
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:59,480
Speaker 2: You leave this creature in the pits that you pulled

623
00:33:59,520 --> 00:33:59,920
Speaker 2: him out of.

624
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 1: Eventually he gave me the actual response, but it felt

625
00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:07,720
Speaker 1: to me like he played games with me until the

626
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 1: very end. He eventually did admit that he was being

627
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 1: toxic in his own words, Okay.

628
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:17,400
Speaker 2: That's not enough. I'm glad he sees the light. Now, wow,

629
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 2: that is not enough.

630
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:21,640
Speaker 1: We talked it out, and I reassured him many times

631
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:24,479
Speaker 1: that he knows me better and I love him very much.

632
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 2: I told him also.

633
00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:28,799
Speaker 1: That I'd be going back to my mom Saturday, but

634
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:31,440
Speaker 1: it was for a visit since I had just slept

635
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:34,760
Speaker 1: at our house and I wasn't leaving because I was angry.

636
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:37,719
Speaker 1: I was feeling bad about it still, so when we

637
00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:40,240
Speaker 1: were both home from work the next morning, I tried

638
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:43,120
Speaker 1: to talk to him about it all. I told him

639
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 1: I felt unloved and disrespected. I felt as if I

640
00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:49,520
Speaker 1: am constantly walking on eggshells because I know that if

641
00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:52,399
Speaker 1: he gets angry, it is always the same response from him.

642
00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 1: I told him that even though we argue, we're married

643
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:57,480
Speaker 1: and the love is supposed to come, and that love

644
00:34:57,560 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 1: is supposed to come is supposed to above all else.

645
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 1: I told him that I can't trust that he won't

646
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 1: act like this again, since we've had this same argument

647
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:11,280
Speaker 1: many times before. Lastly, I told him that I can't

648
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 1: take him threatening divorce anymore. He told me he's simple

649
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:18,520
Speaker 1: and I know what does and doesn't anger him. So

650
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:20,800
Speaker 1: I just need to stop doing those things.

651
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Speaker 2: No no, no no no no no no no no

652
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Speaker 2: no no no.

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Speaker 1: We need to do the thing that is kicking your

654
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Speaker 1: butt to the curb. That is exactly what we need

655
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Speaker 1: to do.

656
00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:36,359
Speaker 2: This absolute sweety pie is living in an idealized like

657
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Speaker 2: reality where she sees this the perfect version of her

658
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Speaker 2: relationship with this guy, which she might have had at

659
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Speaker 2: one point, and it's not there anymore, and it's not

660
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Speaker 2: coming back. And even if he could bring it back,

661
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Speaker 2: he doesn't deserve the second chance after the way that

662
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:52,080
Speaker 2: you've described him treating you.

663
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Speaker 1: Not at all the rose tinted glasses and he was

664
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:57,920
Speaker 1: probably he probably knew he had the rose tinted glasses

665
00:35:57,960 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 1: and you know, ramped it up up and twisted it

666
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:04,759
Speaker 1: to keep it there too, and just oh.

667
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:08,359
Speaker 2: Into all of our beautiful, perfect baby Viewers, if this

668
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Speaker 2: story is at all like reminiscent to a situation, you

669
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Speaker 2: may think that, oh, this kind of sounds familiar. Get

670
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Speaker 2: out of that, please, Or.

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Speaker 3: If you know someone in this similar situation, tell him

672
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Speaker 3: to get out of.

673
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:23,279
Speaker 2: It too, tell him to run. Sometimes people who are

674
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:25,960
Speaker 2: in these situations they just straight up don't know how

675
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:26,799
Speaker 2: to recognize it.

676
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 1: Something about human nature. Sometimes we just we just get

677
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Speaker 1: the glasses we got and.

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Speaker 2: It's big complicated primate brains that sometimes don't work in

679
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Speaker 2: our best interest. Yeah, to make a steel So with

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Speaker 2: all that being said, sorry, had you got to get

681
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Speaker 2: that out there, tell a friend, send him this, send

682
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Speaker 2: him the story. There you go.

683
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Speaker 1: So I told him that I told him that I

684
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Speaker 1: don't know uh, and I bluntly told him that he

685
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:55,919
Speaker 1: is not simple talk about that. There's been so many

686
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 1: instances of me pissing him off without intending to at all,

687
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:01,799
Speaker 1: and he snaps all the same. It could be over

688
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,920
Speaker 1: vape juice or me hearing something he says over the

689
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Speaker 1: phone incorrectly. He then got angry with me because I

690
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 1: said I wanted to talk, but all I do is

691
00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:12,840
Speaker 1: argue with anything he says, which I guess is true.

692
00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:15,480
Speaker 1: But I didn't agree with what he said and was

693
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Speaker 1: trying to openly express how is feeling and why. I

694
00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:22,719
Speaker 1: tried to leave it as opinionated as little as possible

695
00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 1: and just provided examples to him. He ended up telling

696
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Speaker 1: me to shut the f up, so we got into

697
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:31,640
Speaker 1: a heated argument. I was yelling at this point, and

698
00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:34,959
Speaker 1: I told him he's just doing the same disrespectful crap

699
00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:39,680
Speaker 1: that he just apologized for. He responded by calling me names.

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Speaker 1: He ended up telling me I'm the world's biggest punt

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Speaker 1: YEP fourteen. Send him through all the layers of hell.

702
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Speaker 1: Number fourteen, told me he wanted again a divorce, which

703
00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 1: again he just apologized for my God, I ended up

704
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Speaker 1: leaving for my moms and didn't text or call him.

705
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Speaker 1: Good Yes Saturday night he texted me saying for the

706
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Speaker 1: sake of both of us, he hopes I can get

707
00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 1: my head right and told me that he can't deal

708
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 1: with the emotional flashbacks.

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Speaker 2: I keep having.

710
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 1: You mean emotional flashbacks, idiot. You just you had the flashback.

711
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:15,480
Speaker 1: You flashed back to the guy you were ten minutes.

712
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:18,600
Speaker 2: Ago, ten seconds again? Like what like you?

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Speaker 1: You are the flashback, sir, you are the flashback. He

714
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Speaker 1: told me he loved me with everything and that he

715
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Speaker 1: was wrong for how he spoke to me. But I

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00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 1: have to stop. The text made me so sick reading it.

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00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 1: I never responded, by the way. We want to never

718
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:38,040
Speaker 1: respond to this guy, as much as we want you

719
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Speaker 1: to always respond to our invitation to join our lives.

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Speaker 2: Every weekday at three pm PST.

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Speaker 1: Just tap her profile were alive on YouTube and Facebook

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Speaker 1: and TikTok.

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Speaker 2: Guys, come on it, let's hang out. Let's talk.

724
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Speaker 1: Speaking of hanging and talking, I want to hang in

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Speaker 1: talk with you to go to Yeah, yeah, I mean

726
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Speaker 1: I think we've basically said this in many different versions,

727
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:02,920
Speaker 1: but it's like this man worth the the scum of

728
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Speaker 1: the feces of the bottom of the depths of hell.

729
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 2: Like just just this guy saying this guy sucks.

730
00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 1: It's just there's just no English words that can be

731
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:16,280
Speaker 1: combined to communicate the level of how hard this man sucks.

732
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Speaker 1: And OPI is an angel and deserves the best guy

733
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Speaker 1: ever who's the antithesis of this.

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Speaker 2: Indeed, what else? I mean that? Right, anyone who finds

735
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 2: himself in a relationship and they feel like I won't

736
00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:34,359
Speaker 2: I'll never find another person, or I won't find someone

737
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:38,200
Speaker 2: as good as this person, and like they're actively treating

738
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:42,720
Speaker 2: you like this guy, get out immediately. I mean, Also,

739
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:46,200
Speaker 2: the thing is this guy when you leave him, because

740
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Speaker 2: remember as he was like, I want a divorce, you're this,

741
00:39:48,719 --> 00:39:50,560
Speaker 2: you're that, blah blah blah blah blah blah. And then

742
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Speaker 2: as soon as she went all right, let's do the divorce,

743
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 2: he goes, no, no, no, wait, wait wait wait, actually no,

744
00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 2: I don't want the divorce. So as soon as you

745
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:58,800
Speaker 2: actually do commit to breaking this guy off, he's gonna

746
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:01,719
Speaker 2: go full blow, like he's gonna blow up your phone.

747
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 2: He's gonna do this, he's gonna do that. So you

748
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:06,319
Speaker 2: need to cut all means of communication with this guy

749
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:10,920
Speaker 2: instantaneously and disappear from the face of his stinky earth.

750
00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:14,799
Speaker 2: He literally deserves nothing. He deserves. He deserves to have

751
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:18,280
Speaker 2: you no longer in his life permanently. That's what he deserves.

752
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:21,000
Speaker 2: I like that, And you gotta you gotta be aware

753
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:23,840
Speaker 2: that even after he's been calling you all this bad stuff,

754
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:26,799
Speaker 2: he's gonna come knocking. And you gotta, you know, don't

755
00:40:26,920 --> 00:40:28,880
Speaker 2: just don't listen to a word this guy says.

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Speaker 1: I Literally, Opie, she was like trying to be empathetic,

757
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:36,520
Speaker 1: and oh here's the breakdown. Imagine when she actually has

758
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Speaker 1: a partner that's like actually a decent human being. It's like,

759
00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:45,279
Speaker 1: it's gonna be so beautiful, yea, because Opi has the

760
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:48,440
Speaker 1: heart and the empathy and is we we can tell

761
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:51,120
Speaker 1: that Opi is a great person. But it's but it's

762
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:55,960
Speaker 1: her own kindness that this man just like so disrespected.

763
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:56,960
Speaker 2: And and and used her for.

764
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Speaker 1: Yeah, disgusting, disgusting, yes, but we have a little bit

765
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:03,560
Speaker 1: left in the story. I didn't come home until Sunday night,

766
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Speaker 1: when I knew he'd be at work and left before

767
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:08,799
Speaker 1: he got home this morning. He only sent that one

768
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:12,600
Speaker 1: Saturday that one text Saturday night, and uh has and

769
00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:15,960
Speaker 1: that has been his only effort of contact since I

770
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 1: am about to give up completely and refuse to be

771
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 1: the one to put an effort this time. I feel

772
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:22,800
Speaker 1: like his effort never matches mind, and no matter how

773
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:26,280
Speaker 1: and no matter who is in the wrong, I always

774
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:28,239
Speaker 1: have to be the one to make it right. I

775
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:30,400
Speaker 1: know that not responding to his text and avoiding him

776
00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:33,240
Speaker 1: is probably childish, but I just want to see his effort.

777
00:41:33,600 --> 00:41:35,440
Speaker 1: So am I the a hole for not speaking to

778
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Speaker 1: my husband? Should this just be the end of our marriage?

779
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 1: Ding ding ding ding ding ding D three two one, Yes,

780
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Speaker 1: it should be the end of your marriage. No, you

781
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Speaker 1: are not the a hole for not talking to your

782
00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:51,800
Speaker 1: literal scum of the what's worse than scum?

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Speaker 2: Right? I mean?

784
00:41:52,600 --> 00:41:56,640
Speaker 1: I was trying to black tar like human language can't communicate.

785
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Speaker 2: It's just it's just he's just so low, so disgusted.

786
00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 2: Fourteen number fourteen, number fourteen number.

787
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Speaker 1: Freak straight out of the atmosphere, through the center of

788
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Speaker 1: the sun into.

789
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:10,800
Speaker 2: The port cloud that surrounds our solar system, into the

790
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Speaker 2: largest black hole known to man, turn into spaghetti and

791
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:19,080
Speaker 2: be imprisoned in tartarus. Love that, love that. That's what

792
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 2: that guy deserves. So that's it. That's all she wrote.

793
00:42:23,719 --> 00:42:28,320
Speaker 1: That is literally dump that man, wipe our hands of them.

794
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:36,520
Speaker 1: Get element. Yeah. Yeah, it's uh, it's not always that simple,

795
00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 1: but at the end of the day, it's like sometimes

796
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 1: you gotta just make the decision.

797
00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 2: It's what he deserves, it is what he freaking inser.

798
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Speaker 2: Someone said, Smegma, Magma, yeah it gross. Don't say that.

799
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Speaker 2: You asked what's worse than scum? They Okay, yeah, who

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Speaker 2: was it? I did ask for that, but please don't

801
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Speaker 2: ever say that again.

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Speaker 1: I'm not even cash. You know what that is. It's

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Speaker 1: I think that's thick cashy.

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Speaker 2: Thickshy, Like that's so funny. Nice, I love it. Yes, Okay,

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Speaker 2: here we go, Here we go, Here we go, Here

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Speaker 2: we go. I think we're on a new episode. Actually

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Speaker 2: we're not. Oh this is US three? Is US three?

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Speaker 2: Just kidding? I am a big old liar. Let's see

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Speaker 2: any more donos no again.

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Speaker 3: it's so good to actually feel better and I can

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Speaker 3: I was a seasonal little boy.

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Speaker 2: Oh it was when you're back?

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Speaker 3: Here was I When I came back from college. I

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866
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Speaker 2: ladies wanted. Hey, do you want warm vanilla sugar for

867
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 2: your man? Do you want Japanese cherry blossom? Midnight dream?

868
00:46:26,680 --> 00:46:27,439
Speaker 2: What do you want? Girl?

869
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:30,359
Speaker 3: I got some seasonal sales two for you know, by two,

870
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:31,359
Speaker 3: get three free.

871
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:33,760
Speaker 2: By two, get three free. It was kind of crazy,

872
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:38,880
Speaker 2: the salesman of the century, key on selling candles, slinging candles.

873
00:46:38,880 --> 00:46:42,759
Speaker 2: That Bath and body Works also high logan, I saw

874
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:47,880
Speaker 2: you comments in there, Hey Logan, are you also watching

875
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 2: The Walking Dead?

876
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:48,680
Speaker 1: With?

877
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:51,359
Speaker 2: No, you're that You're not? Have you seen the Walking Dead?

878
00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:54,359
Speaker 2: I haven't? Actually you have not? Yeah, bro, he doesn't

879
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 2: even know who. I don't even know who Norman.

880
00:46:56,560 --> 00:47:00,960
Speaker 1: And be a Christian to the Walking Dead and so

881
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 1: and my cousin loves Darryl from The Walking Dead?

882
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:10,239
Speaker 2: Cross who knew? Who knew who? And Brandy Loo thanks

883
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:12,920
Speaker 2: for the five bucks through the tip link. Here's Logan

884
00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 2: My my goodness. All right, leg did you get the story?

885
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:24,440
Speaker 2: My eyes been? Have the story? My hubby Miles, Well,

886
00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:28,279
Speaker 2: you don't know what Norman Rita is. You probably would

887
00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:30,200
Speaker 2: if you saw him and he saw his face. I

888
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 2: bet you know who for a second Norman? All right?

889
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:39,319
Speaker 2: When read uh just for John, that's Norman reads Ah, yes,

890
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 2: I recognize that face. Yeah, thank you dude. What's that?

891
00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:44,440
Speaker 2: What's up with him?

892
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:51,239
Speaker 1: With the with the vest falling off of him? Scott

893
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:58,360
Speaker 1: Riley's in here opening doors. Everybody say hi to Riley? Riley?

894
00:47:58,440 --> 00:47:58,640
Speaker 3: Is our?

895
00:47:58,760 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 2: Is our a C box just gone? Is it just blasted?

896
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:12,760
Speaker 2: Not on this mortal plane? Bye bye bye bye bye Rye.

897
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:14,680
Speaker 2: We love love you you.

898
00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:18,880
Speaker 1: Also, everybody shout out, well, do you want me to

899
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:20,760
Speaker 1: shout out your brother on here for being graduate?

900
00:48:21,600 --> 00:48:27,640
Speaker 2: Yeah? Hey, shout out Tate for being a fledged graduate. Everybody,

901
00:48:29,000 --> 00:48:36,240
Speaker 2: Yeah we are, but we're kind of excited. Weekend. What's up, guys?

902
00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:37,760
Speaker 2: I had a crazy weekend.

903
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:41,439
Speaker 5: My luggage got stolen Bate, We'll not mistaken, and then

904
00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:43,640
Speaker 5: some other family stuff happened.

905
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:45,560
Speaker 2: It was just weird weekend but Tay.

906
00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 5: Graduated and he made it so happy. Congrats to Tater Totter.

907
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:53,239
Speaker 1: He everyone, and they recreated a picture that they had

908
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:55,080
Speaker 1: when Riley graduated, and it's adorable.

909
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:59,000
Speaker 2: I love this, This sibling love is. So we got

910
00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 2: two more. We got two more that are going to

911
00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:03,200
Speaker 2: graduate or maybe not graduate, but we'll see.

912
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:06,440
Speaker 5: Sawmill exists. But one of them wants to be that

913
00:49:06,480 --> 00:49:07,840
Speaker 5: and the other one wants to be a chiropractor.

914
00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:14,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, one maybe it'll graduate. Maybe there's bus on

915
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:19,919
Speaker 2: this street, either graduate or saw mill. Yeah, graduate, saw mill.

916
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:23,720
Speaker 2: That was my choice. It's perfectly reasonable choices. This is true.

917
00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:26,200
Speaker 2: This is true. We need people to work at the

918
00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:27,800
Speaker 2: saw mill. That's true.

919
00:49:28,719 --> 00:49:31,759
Speaker 1: We need window panels and we need flooring. What ain't

920
00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:34,319
Speaker 1: going chop itself? I'll tell you that much.

921
00:49:35,239 --> 00:49:39,960
Speaker 2: Oh god, I saw that, Dolly. I'm not even going

922
00:49:40,000 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 2: to I want to know your candle name. Oh yeah,

923
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:48,040
Speaker 2: candle bug Bug made you a candle. It's called Riley's

924
00:49:48,080 --> 00:49:48,840
Speaker 2: panty dropper.

925
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:55,320
Speaker 1: Boo Riley Riley.

926
00:49:57,760 --> 00:49:59,600
Speaker 2: No, no, it really is, you know, but you really

927
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:02,319
Speaker 2: don't believe me. Oh you just want to see it

928
00:50:02,320 --> 00:50:06,880
Speaker 2: for yo. Thank you for the fifty dollars in the tipling.

929
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:09,560
Speaker 2: Howdy doodle, how do doodle? You guys always make my

930
00:50:09,640 --> 00:50:11,239
Speaker 2: day just a little brider, and I hope you always

931
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:15,759
Speaker 2: remember how much we all appreciate your hard work. Love y'all. Hey,

932
00:50:15,840 --> 00:50:17,239
Speaker 2: we love y'all too.

933
00:50:17,640 --> 00:50:17,799
Speaker 3: Yo.

934
00:50:18,120 --> 00:50:22,280
Speaker 2: Thanks O, thank you the yo. Oh, thank you for everyone.

935
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:24,960
Speaker 2: So everyone said, everyone's kind words and love and support

936
00:50:25,040 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 2: and he asked for it. Yes. Wait, he's going to

937
00:50:30,040 --> 00:50:32,919
Speaker 2: be so mad at me whenever she finds out. Wait

938
00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:42,759
Speaker 2: told you, I told you it's pink Yoh wait, that

939
00:50:42,800 --> 00:50:52,759
Speaker 2: sounds like stars yo like pancy. Oh dude, right ubbing

940
00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:59,600
Speaker 2: right now, dude, huge, Okay, Hi, Riley, go drink a

941
00:50:59,640 --> 00:51:00,359
Speaker 2: glass of water.

942
00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:04,200
Speaker 1: No, I would not, it's a milk or something actually,

943
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:06,440
Speaker 1: speaking of drinking glasses of water.

944
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:17,759
Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah, so that's two. That one's Dakotas just one.

945
00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 2: We can tell what. This is good? Thank you to

946
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 2: take your time, to take your time. Cool. This is ug.

947
00:51:26,640 --> 00:51:31,839
Speaker 2: We're bricked. I'm dead. That's Riley's. That's Riley sent now.

948
00:51:32,440 --> 00:51:35,840
Speaker 2: That is while you taking my candle, I don't know

949
00:51:35,840 --> 00:51:37,279
Speaker 2: if you'll be able to I don't know if you

950
00:51:37,280 --> 00:51:42,120
Speaker 2: will be able to get that sent on mindfulcandlecoad dot com.

951
00:51:42,160 --> 00:51:43,560
Speaker 2: But you can see if it's there.

952
00:51:43,800 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 1: Oh no, okay, all right, I think we are finally

953
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:51,160
Speaker 1: about to read this.

954
00:51:51,160 --> 00:51:57,920
Speaker 2: This third story we go. My husband refused to adopt

955
00:51:58,000 --> 00:52:03,719
Speaker 2: another child, but I did it anyway. Okay, I don't

956
00:52:03,719 --> 00:52:06,320
Speaker 2: know about that one. It seems maybe a little flippant.

957
00:52:06,440 --> 00:52:09,320
Speaker 2: This isn't like an extra hamburger at the drive through.

958
00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:15,799
Speaker 2: This is a child, the human baby. Okay. I forty

959
00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:19,439
Speaker 2: eight female, married my husband forty eight males, sixteen years ago.

960
00:52:19,840 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 2: I have one child, twenty six female, from a previous

961
00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:26,840
Speaker 2: marriage that he has taken responsibility for and taken care of,

962
00:52:27,080 --> 00:52:29,160
Speaker 2: just like one of his own, just as I have

963
00:52:29,239 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 2: taken care of his four children twenty male, nineteen male,

964
00:52:32,520 --> 00:52:36,839
Speaker 2: eighteen male, and sixteen female from his previous relationship. Okay,

965
00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:40,120
Speaker 2: by the way, this comes from fun Process ninety eighth

966
00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:43,960
Speaker 2: eight on the r slash. Okay, storytime subred it suit.

967
00:52:45,080 --> 00:52:48,280
Speaker 2: We had known each other for about ten years before

968
00:52:48,320 --> 00:52:51,440
Speaker 2: we finally started a relationship. My daughter was six and

969
00:52:51,480 --> 00:52:56,000
Speaker 2: his children were almost four, three, two and eight wow months.

970
00:52:57,840 --> 00:52:59,920
Speaker 2: Their mother decided she did not want to be a

971
00:53:00,040 --> 00:53:04,760
Speaker 2: mother any longer and left them and left him along

972
00:53:04,800 --> 00:53:05,480
Speaker 2: with the children.

973
00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:08,360
Speaker 1: That's dude to single dig of four kids. That is

974
00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:13,160
Speaker 1: no freaking joke at all, no joke. We had talked

975
00:53:13,200 --> 00:53:17,680
Speaker 1: to each other in a friend group, but that was it. Okay,

976
00:53:17,920 --> 00:53:20,960
Speaker 1: One day we decided to start seeing each other romantically,

977
00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:24,080
Speaker 1: and it worked out. When we decided to introduce each

978
00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:26,720
Speaker 1: other as boyfriend and girlfriend to our children, my daughter

979
00:53:26,840 --> 00:53:29,880
Speaker 1: was so excited. My daughter absolutely loved him, and his

980
00:53:30,040 --> 00:53:33,120
Speaker 1: children loved me. After a year, we moved in together

981
00:53:33,160 --> 00:53:36,360
Speaker 1: and got married that same year. Go.

982
00:53:37,840 --> 00:53:42,680
Speaker 2: I love children, and I have always wanted a big family. Unfortunately,

983
00:53:42,719 --> 00:53:45,880
Speaker 2: I only birthed one child and never got pregnant again.

984
00:53:46,440 --> 00:53:49,680
Speaker 2: A young family member was Slash is having a tough

985
00:53:49,680 --> 00:53:53,239
Speaker 2: time in her life with substances and her children were

986
00:53:53,280 --> 00:53:56,759
Speaker 2: taken by CPS. She asked everyone in our family to

987
00:53:56,760 --> 00:53:58,800
Speaker 2: take her children until she could care for them again.

988
00:53:59,400 --> 00:54:03,160
Speaker 2: Not one person would, and I hadn't said anything because

989
00:54:03,200 --> 00:54:05,600
Speaker 2: I was certain her parents would take her children in.

990
00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:09,400
Speaker 2: But they didn't. They outright refused and said it was

991
00:54:09,440 --> 00:54:12,160
Speaker 2: her own doing. Wow, which I understand they're thinking to

992
00:54:12,200 --> 00:54:14,560
Speaker 2: an extent, but I don't feel it is her children's

993
00:54:14,600 --> 00:54:18,239
Speaker 2: fault or doing. Which let me just say, what do

994
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:19,640
Speaker 2: I always say? John?

995
00:54:20,200 --> 00:54:20,319
Speaker 1: What?

996
00:54:20,360 --> 00:54:24,680
Speaker 2: Do you say to Coda, think of the chill dream.

997
00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:27,880
Speaker 2: I knew you always say that, think of the children.

998
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:30,640
Speaker 2: I've never heard you say that. I'd literally say it

999
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:31,640
Speaker 2: all the time.

1000
00:54:31,760 --> 00:54:34,359
Speaker 1: I also had no idea what you were gonna say.

1001
00:54:34,520 --> 00:54:36,240
Speaker 1: I must admit I think.

1002
00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:40,600
Speaker 2: Of the children. Well, now I know, think of the children.

1003
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:43,080
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.

1004
00:54:43,080 --> 00:54:47,160
Speaker 1: I'm very distracted because Riley has been picking at there

1005
00:54:48,520 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 1: and things are just falling out of the wall, and

1006
00:54:50,760 --> 00:54:52,440
Speaker 1: so I might be a little behind, but.

1007
00:54:52,400 --> 00:54:54,000
Speaker 2: I'm gonna lock it. I'm gonna lock in. I promise,

1008
00:54:54,080 --> 00:54:55,080
Speaker 2: I promise. Okay.

1009
00:54:55,960 --> 00:55:00,200
Speaker 1: My husband knew I wanted to adopt, so so he

1010
00:55:00,280 --> 00:55:01,120
Speaker 1: said to go for it.

1011
00:55:01,600 --> 00:55:03,640
Speaker 2: I stepped up and said I would care for her children,

1012
00:55:03,640 --> 00:55:06,120
Speaker 2: and she was grateful. Maybe I shouldn't have said adopt there,

1013
00:55:06,160 --> 00:55:10,240
Speaker 2: but I wanted to take in the child. I stepped

1014
00:55:10,320 --> 00:55:12,200
Speaker 2: up and said I would care for her children, and

1015
00:55:12,239 --> 00:55:14,839
Speaker 2: she was grateful. She said she knew her children would

1016
00:55:14,880 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 2: be taken care of. Unfortunately, she got pregnant again. She

1017
00:55:18,600 --> 00:55:20,600
Speaker 2: was clean at the time and working towards getting her

1018
00:55:20,640 --> 00:55:23,160
Speaker 2: children back, and she took care of herself while she

1019
00:55:23,200 --> 00:55:25,840
Speaker 2: was pregnant. My niece fell into the wrong crowd again

1020
00:55:26,000 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 2: and started using when she was close to giving birth,

1021
00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:31,000
Speaker 2: so of course CPS said they were going to take

1022
00:55:31,080 --> 00:55:34,040
Speaker 2: the baby. My husband said he would not accept this

1023
00:55:34,160 --> 00:55:36,720
Speaker 2: child and it could go into the system. He didn't

1024
00:55:36,719 --> 00:55:39,279
Speaker 2: care because she should have continued doing what she was

1025
00:55:39,280 --> 00:55:41,799
Speaker 2: doing to get her children back. Ooh, that seems like

1026
00:55:41,800 --> 00:55:43,480
Speaker 2: a pretty cold and heartless thing to say.

1027
00:55:43,560 --> 00:55:45,680
Speaker 1: That is a very cold like It's one thing if

1028
00:55:45,680 --> 00:55:49,640
Speaker 1: it's like, hey, honestly, like we've raised what five or

1029
00:55:49,680 --> 00:55:51,920
Speaker 1: six children at this point, like it, I don't know

1030
00:55:51,960 --> 00:55:54,000
Speaker 1: if we have the capacity. That's like one thing to say,

1031
00:55:54,040 --> 00:55:58,359
Speaker 1: which again is debatably even bad on its own right

1032
00:55:58,600 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 1: with that, but him just saying like, oh, well, you

1033
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:03,480
Speaker 1: know she did that to herself, so you know it's

1034
00:56:03,480 --> 00:56:08,719
Speaker 1: her own fault. It's like, whoa, the child is blameless, blameless.

1035
00:56:08,840 --> 00:56:10,279
Speaker 1: The child is very blameless.

1036
00:56:10,560 --> 00:56:14,359
Speaker 2: Thank you. I can understand where he's coming from, and

1037
00:56:14,560 --> 00:56:18,080
Speaker 2: much of my family agrees with him. Oh. The caseworker

1038
00:56:18,160 --> 00:56:20,319
Speaker 2: asked me personally if I would take the baby in.

1039
00:56:20,480 --> 00:56:24,600
Speaker 2: I didn't hesitate, and I said yes. I didn't tell

1040
00:56:24,600 --> 00:56:27,000
Speaker 2: my husband until stuff started showing up in the mail

1041
00:56:27,040 --> 00:56:30,440
Speaker 2: from the local foster agency that helps foster families get

1042
00:56:30,480 --> 00:56:32,200
Speaker 2: what they need to take care of the children in

1043
00:56:32,239 --> 00:56:35,759
Speaker 2: their care. My husband blew up. He was livid that

1044
00:56:35,800 --> 00:56:38,400
Speaker 2: I would take the baby in against his wishes, and

1045
00:56:38,480 --> 00:56:40,560
Speaker 2: I tried to explain that I was trying to keep

1046
00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 2: the children together. I was trying to make sure that

1047
00:56:43,760 --> 00:56:45,920
Speaker 2: all of the siblings stayed in the same family, and

1048
00:56:45,960 --> 00:56:49,879
Speaker 2: whatever mistakes my niece made weren't her children's fault. They

1049
00:56:49,920 --> 00:56:53,080
Speaker 2: had no blame in this. My niece did go on

1050
00:56:53,320 --> 00:56:56,640
Speaker 2: a long term birth control so she wouldn't hopefully have

1051
00:56:56,719 --> 00:56:59,560
Speaker 2: any more children. My niece is nowhere to be found

1052
00:56:59,600 --> 00:57:01,640
Speaker 2: right now now and her baby is two months old.

1053
00:57:01,680 --> 00:57:06,320
Speaker 2: The other children are three and five. My husband said,

1054
00:57:06,760 --> 00:57:08,840
Speaker 2: I will not be spending any of my money on

1055
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:12,480
Speaker 2: that kid. Everything we have received for the baby has

1056
00:57:12,480 --> 00:57:15,640
Speaker 2: been through the foster agency and charities. We have spent

1057
00:57:16,200 --> 00:57:20,640
Speaker 2: none of his money on the baby. WHOA, Oh, this guy,

1058
00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:25,160
Speaker 2: this is a hard situation. I mean, this guy's definitely

1059
00:57:25,240 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 2: like I think. I think the emotional exhaustion that he

1060
00:57:29,560 --> 00:57:33,600
Speaker 2: feels with the niece is just like leaking into like

1061
00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:36,240
Speaker 2: his opinion of like the kids, which is not fair

1062
00:57:36,240 --> 00:57:36,760
Speaker 2: to the kids.

1063
00:57:36,800 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 1: So because it's once again it could be like, Okay,

1064
00:57:41,400 --> 00:57:44,080
Speaker 1: if he's like, listen, I've had to raise I became

1065
00:57:44,120 --> 00:57:45,240
Speaker 1: a single data four.

1066
00:57:46,400 --> 00:57:48,280
Speaker 2: You know, I've done all this stuff.

1067
00:57:48,360 --> 00:57:52,640
Speaker 1: Like, could we figure out another plan because I don't

1068
00:57:52,720 --> 00:57:55,120
Speaker 1: know if I have it in me to give this

1069
00:57:55,240 --> 00:58:01,240
Speaker 1: child the the childhood and raising that they deserve. That

1070
00:58:01,400 --> 00:58:05,880
Speaker 1: is a totally different thing than what he's been saying.

1071
00:58:06,520 --> 00:58:09,280
Speaker 2: His The execution on his part is like very much,

1072
00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:13,680
Speaker 2: get that kid out of my sight. Yeah, because that's there.

1073
00:58:13,960 --> 00:58:19,480
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's crazy. We'll talk about that later

1074
00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:20,160
Speaker 2: after the story.

1075
00:58:20,440 --> 00:58:21,920
Speaker 3: I know it wasn't pertinent to the story, but like

1076
00:58:21,960 --> 00:58:25,640
Speaker 3: I was, like, whoa, that's we'll talk about ilala.

1077
00:58:25,760 --> 00:58:28,959
Speaker 2: We are now certified to be foster parents, and yes,

1078
00:58:29,120 --> 00:58:31,080
Speaker 2: we will get a small amount of money to try

1079
00:58:31,120 --> 00:58:34,160
Speaker 2: and help offset what we spend on the children. All

1080
00:58:34,200 --> 00:58:36,280
Speaker 2: in all, it's not really a lot when you see

1081
00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:38,720
Speaker 2: the amount you actually spend on a child, but it

1082
00:58:38,760 --> 00:58:42,120
Speaker 2: does help. Now my husband is demanding that I hand

1083
00:58:42,160 --> 00:58:44,320
Speaker 2: over the money that I will be receiving for the baby.

1084
00:58:44,680 --> 00:58:47,360
Speaker 2: I told him no, since he doesn't want to spend

1085
00:58:47,360 --> 00:58:48,960
Speaker 2: any of his money on the baby. I need to

1086
00:58:49,000 --> 00:58:50,800
Speaker 2: find a way to make sure that the baby gets

1087
00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:53,240
Speaker 2: what he needs as he gets older, I said, I

1088
00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:55,480
Speaker 2: would give him some of the money, but definitely not

1089
00:58:55,760 --> 00:58:58,480
Speaker 2: all of it. He said, since he has been taking

1090
00:58:58,520 --> 00:59:00,600
Speaker 2: care of that kid since I brought it home, that

1091
00:59:00,680 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 2: I need to give him all the money. I refused.

1092
00:59:04,480 --> 00:59:07,600
Speaker 2: I decided to further my education so I can make

1093
00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:09,760
Speaker 2: a little more money and not rely on him so much.

1094
00:59:10,040 --> 00:59:12,040
Speaker 2: He was agreeable to me going back to school, but

1095
00:59:12,160 --> 00:59:14,680
Speaker 2: insisted that none of the children would help me with

1096
00:59:14,800 --> 00:59:17,440
Speaker 2: caring for the baby. Since I chose to bring it

1097
00:59:17,480 --> 00:59:20,160
Speaker 2: home I could figure out the babysitting in school on

1098
00:59:20,200 --> 00:59:24,880
Speaker 2: my own. Why does he what is it? What is

1099
00:59:24,920 --> 00:59:25,400
Speaker 2: it to you?

1100
00:59:25,520 --> 00:59:29,080
Speaker 1: If the other kid like, again, I could get like, okay,

1101
00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:32,160
Speaker 1: if it's going to be a lot on you to

1102
00:59:31,840 --> 00:59:34,480
Speaker 1: to pitch in in certain ways and things like that.

1103
00:59:34,680 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 2: But if the other kids are like, hey, you know

1104
00:59:37,480 --> 00:59:39,760
Speaker 2: wall help. You know, there's a lot of like older

1105
00:59:39,800 --> 00:59:48,240
Speaker 2: adult children, Thank you, sir, thank you on he smacked

1106
00:59:48,240 --> 00:59:51,880
Speaker 2: his bottom. I get that.

1107
00:59:52,040 --> 00:59:54,760
Speaker 1: But if the other if other people that are not

1108
00:59:54,880 --> 00:59:55,800
Speaker 1: him are willing.

1109
00:59:55,560 --> 01:00:01,080
Speaker 2: To why stop them? Why? I think like if he

1110
01:00:01,200 --> 01:00:03,680
Speaker 2: was being like, hey, we just can't afford to take

1111
01:00:03,720 --> 01:00:06,440
Speaker 2: care of these kids, and then it's like where's the

1112
01:00:06,440 --> 01:00:07,880
Speaker 2: rest of the family, being like all right, we need

1113
01:00:07,920 --> 01:00:09,439
Speaker 2: to all pitch in and make sure that these kids

1114
01:00:09,440 --> 01:00:12,640
Speaker 2: don't just like fall into the abyss here because their

1115
01:00:12,720 --> 01:00:15,760
Speaker 2: mother is like making mistakes. Yes, none of these kids

1116
01:00:15,760 --> 01:00:18,080
Speaker 2: deserve to just fall through the cracks because their mom

1117
01:00:18,120 --> 01:00:18,880
Speaker 2: has made mistakes.

1118
01:00:19,520 --> 01:00:22,040
Speaker 3: I've seen a lot of people saying everyone sucks here,

1119
01:00:22,360 --> 01:00:24,800
Speaker 3: like both people. Some people can say, oh, I can

1120
01:00:24,840 --> 01:00:26,840
Speaker 3: see where they're both coming from. I can see like

1121
01:00:27,440 --> 01:00:30,120
Speaker 3: the husbands of the a hole or some of them.

1122
01:00:30,160 --> 01:00:34,720
Speaker 3: Like It's like, this is very sticky. I don't like

1123
01:00:34,800 --> 01:00:35,800
Speaker 3: any of this right now.

1124
01:00:35,920 --> 01:00:39,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I will say, I feel like op is trying

1125
01:00:39,440 --> 01:00:43,600
Speaker 1: her best to empathize with him, but like, yeah, it's

1126
01:00:43,640 --> 01:00:48,120
Speaker 1: just yeah, yeah, I don't know, and it doesn't Yeah,

1127
01:00:48,200 --> 01:00:49,080
Speaker 1: well let's keep going.

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01:00:49,240 --> 01:00:53,000
Speaker 2: Yes, I have a friend who helps me with babysitting

1129
01:00:53,040 --> 01:00:55,520
Speaker 2: when she can, usually twice a week, so I do

1130
01:00:55,600 --> 01:00:58,040
Speaker 2: as much of my schoolwork as I can manage when

1131
01:00:58,040 --> 01:01:00,760
Speaker 2: the baby is with her. I'm currently two weeks behind

1132
01:01:00,800 --> 01:01:03,120
Speaker 2: in school according to my schedule of where I would

1133
01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:06,600
Speaker 2: like to be, and it is self paid. I can't

1134
01:01:06,640 --> 01:01:08,840
Speaker 2: afford to pay her right now. I was going to

1135
01:01:08,920 --> 01:01:10,840
Speaker 2: use some of the money we received from foster care

1136
01:01:10,880 --> 01:01:12,560
Speaker 2: to pay my friend for helping out with the baby,

1137
01:01:12,800 --> 01:01:15,240
Speaker 2: but I forgot to put it. But I forgot to

1138
01:01:15,280 --> 01:01:17,640
Speaker 2: put in the time for our foster care. So we

1139
01:01:17,720 --> 01:01:20,960
Speaker 2: aren't getting paid this month. That was totally my fault,

1140
01:01:21,000 --> 01:01:23,120
Speaker 2: and I feel so stupid for forgetting but it is

1141
01:01:23,160 --> 01:01:26,280
Speaker 2: what it is. We will get paid next month. Of course,

1142
01:01:26,320 --> 01:01:28,760
Speaker 2: my husband is angry about this, but there's nothing I

1143
01:01:28,800 --> 01:01:31,720
Speaker 2: can do about it now. As far as most of

1144
01:01:31,760 --> 01:01:34,440
Speaker 2: my family is concerned, they agree with my husband. They

1145
01:01:34,480 --> 01:01:37,000
Speaker 2: say I shouldn't have taken in the baby. Me being me,

1146
01:01:37,160 --> 01:01:39,640
Speaker 2: I couldn't do that to him, or my or his siblings,

1147
01:01:39,680 --> 01:01:42,520
Speaker 2: their family. The rest of the family isn't saying anything

1148
01:01:42,800 --> 01:01:45,360
Speaker 2: one way or the other. I feel so alone and

1149
01:01:45,440 --> 01:01:48,200
Speaker 2: sometimes wonder if I have made a mistake. Deep down,

1150
01:01:48,840 --> 01:01:52,080
Speaker 2: I know I didn't make a mistake, though my child

1151
01:01:52,120 --> 01:01:54,760
Speaker 2: and the children that I have raised will not help

1152
01:01:54,800 --> 01:01:57,640
Speaker 2: me because they don't want to go against their father's wishes.

1153
01:01:59,280 --> 01:02:03,280
Speaker 2: The dad's screw it up. Dad is screwing it up everybody.

1154
01:02:02,080 --> 01:02:07,760
Speaker 2: And it's like, honestly, I don't even think she sucks.

1155
01:02:07,800 --> 01:02:09,720
Speaker 2: I think she's an angel for doing this. I think

1156
01:02:09,760 --> 01:02:12,200
Speaker 2: in this situation, she doesn't suck for bringing in this kid.

1157
01:02:12,640 --> 01:02:15,800
Speaker 2: She just realized that it was either her doing it

1158
01:02:15,960 --> 01:02:18,600
Speaker 2: or nobody, so she did like what she felt she

1159
01:02:18,920 --> 01:02:21,680
Speaker 2: had to do, Like put yourself in her position. You

1160
01:02:21,680 --> 01:02:24,000
Speaker 2: have a family member who just had a baby, and

1161
01:02:24,040 --> 01:02:27,120
Speaker 2: you're the last person who could possibly take them.

1162
01:02:27,160 --> 01:02:29,200
Speaker 1: She is a saint, and I know it seemed like

1163
01:02:29,200 --> 01:02:32,080
Speaker 1: she kind of sympathized earlier, but to me, I read

1164
01:02:32,120 --> 01:02:35,320
Speaker 1: that as she's just truly like, hey, this is my husband.

1165
01:02:35,400 --> 01:02:40,400
Speaker 1: I'm truly trying to understand his perspective, but like, yeah,

1166
01:02:40,440 --> 01:02:43,480
Speaker 1: I think this poor woman is just being just stretched

1167
01:02:43,520 --> 01:02:45,280
Speaker 1: so thin and she's doing the right thing here.

1168
01:02:45,400 --> 01:02:52,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's all fine. I did this, and we'll

1169
01:02:52,040 --> 01:02:54,800
Speaker 2: take care of the baby, all of the children, and

1170
01:02:55,720 --> 01:02:58,640
Speaker 2: on my own and go to school. I will finish

1171
01:02:58,760 --> 01:03:02,400
Speaker 2: all according to my time. I'm now thinking that after

1172
01:03:02,480 --> 01:03:04,920
Speaker 2: I'm done with school, that leaving is my only option.

1173
01:03:05,440 --> 01:03:07,560
Speaker 2: I can't live like this alone in a house full

1174
01:03:07,600 --> 01:03:10,200
Speaker 2: of people that I've cared for and raised, given my life,

1175
01:03:10,240 --> 01:03:13,120
Speaker 2: to gave up my career for, just to be abandoned

1176
01:03:13,200 --> 01:03:16,600
Speaker 2: because of one little life. I got upset with my

1177
01:03:16,680 --> 01:03:19,520
Speaker 2: husband because I'm tired. The baby has some health issues,

1178
01:03:19,560 --> 01:03:24,520
Speaker 2: and his daughter also has some health issues. I'm taking

1179
01:03:24,560 --> 01:03:26,760
Speaker 2: care of both of them on my own while he works.

1180
01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:29,360
Speaker 2: I work as well part time for right now, while

1181
01:03:29,400 --> 01:03:31,880
Speaker 2: I'm in school. I was irritable and he asked me

1182
01:03:32,120 --> 01:03:35,800
Speaker 2: what was wrong. I told him I was tired. He said, well,

1183
01:03:36,080 --> 01:03:41,960
Speaker 2: you shouldn't have taken the baby in. That's your fault.

1184
01:03:43,560 --> 01:03:45,840
Speaker 2: Is is he just like this because he's like, we

1185
01:03:45,840 --> 01:03:48,240
Speaker 2: were at the finish line, like because they have a

1186
01:03:48,240 --> 01:03:50,040
Speaker 2: bunch of kids who are like eighteen and twenty, so

1187
01:03:50,080 --> 01:03:52,200
Speaker 2: they're like out of the house, I would assume, and

1188
01:03:52,240 --> 01:03:54,160
Speaker 2: then they have like one kid who's sixteen, and now

1189
01:03:54,160 --> 01:03:57,720
Speaker 2: it's like this guy's just like so selfish that he's like.

1190
01:03:57,680 --> 01:04:01,400
Speaker 1: Oh, great, another baby. We were almost done with all

1191
01:04:01,440 --> 01:04:04,439
Speaker 1: of them. If that's the case, then say that then

1192
01:04:04,640 --> 01:04:09,120
Speaker 1: and not be so. I mean he's almost like it's

1193
01:04:10,080 --> 01:04:13,320
Speaker 1: almost as if he wants to have this vindictive thing

1194
01:04:13,320 --> 01:04:16,200
Speaker 1: of like, yeah, I'm not raising that bait like he

1195
01:04:16,200 --> 01:04:19,880
Speaker 1: he just his perspective is just completely off.

1196
01:04:20,080 --> 01:04:22,600
Speaker 2: It's very like, well, the baby should have thought about

1197
01:04:22,600 --> 01:04:26,360
Speaker 2: that before it was born. It's like it's a baby.

1198
01:04:26,520 --> 01:04:33,439
Speaker 2: It's literally a newborn child. Oh, Schmid says, I hate

1199
01:04:33,440 --> 01:04:33,760
Speaker 2: this guy.

1200
01:04:33,880 --> 01:04:37,520
Speaker 1: Same yeah, same, No, we all hate this guyomm you

1201
01:04:37,560 --> 01:04:39,520
Speaker 1: had another number fourteen coming right up.

1202
01:04:41,120 --> 01:04:44,360
Speaker 2: Well, shouldn't have taken the baby in. That's your fault.

1203
01:04:45,120 --> 01:04:48,440
Speaker 2: I feel so alone. I can't even talk to him

1204
01:04:48,480 --> 01:04:50,200
Speaker 2: like I used to. I can't open my heart up

1205
01:04:50,240 --> 01:04:52,560
Speaker 2: to him and talk about what I'm going through because

1206
01:04:52,600 --> 01:04:55,120
Speaker 2: he doesn't want to hear it and says I've betrayed

1207
01:04:55,160 --> 01:04:58,400
Speaker 2: him by taking this baby in and going against what

1208
01:04:58,840 --> 01:05:04,040
Speaker 2: he said. He won. But you will never ever betray

1209
01:05:04,280 --> 01:05:09,200
Speaker 2: us by taking yourself into our stream. When we go

1210
01:05:09,360 --> 01:05:12,880
Speaker 2: live every weekday at three pm PST on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok,

1211
01:05:13,080 --> 01:05:15,320
Speaker 2: and Twitch, just tap on our profile on any one

1212
01:05:15,320 --> 01:05:18,600
Speaker 2: of those platforms anywhere in the live. We do have

1213
01:05:18,640 --> 01:05:23,760
Speaker 2: a little bit more to go here, but like, I mean,

1214
01:05:24,240 --> 01:05:28,680
Speaker 2: let's do a poll, like is it just do does Op?

1215
01:05:28,960 --> 01:05:35,000
Speaker 2: Does the husband suck? Or does everyone suck? I don't personally,

1216
01:05:35,040 --> 01:05:39,560
Speaker 2: I don't think that Op sucks because she just sort

1217
01:05:39,600 --> 01:05:42,160
Speaker 2: of like it, you know. I almost feel like this

1218
01:05:42,240 --> 01:05:44,920
Speaker 2: is like, uh, to make a weird reference here. It's

1219
01:05:44,920 --> 01:05:48,440
Speaker 2: like Chernobyl, where it's like at one point they're just like,

1220
01:05:48,480 --> 01:05:51,520
Speaker 2: all right, guys, there's these levers that need to be pulled,

1221
01:05:51,520 --> 01:05:54,600
Speaker 2: and it's not in a great place and if they

1222
01:05:54,600 --> 01:05:58,480
Speaker 2: don't get pulled, bad things are gonna happen. So who's

1223
01:05:58,480 --> 01:06:02,520
Speaker 2: gonna go pull the levers? As like? And no one

1224
01:06:02,640 --> 01:06:04,560
Speaker 2: gotta take care of the baby. Yeah, it was like

1225
01:06:04,800 --> 01:06:06,840
Speaker 2: either you do, either you take care of this kid

1226
01:06:06,960 --> 01:06:09,000
Speaker 2: or you just throw it to the mercy of the

1227
01:06:09,040 --> 01:06:13,480
Speaker 2: foster system. Yeah that, you know, which is like, you know,

1228
01:06:13,800 --> 01:06:16,000
Speaker 2: I think it's pretty well known that that's not a

1229
01:06:16,080 --> 01:06:20,040
Speaker 2: guarantee of a good successful you know time.

1230
01:06:20,360 --> 01:06:23,040
Speaker 1: There's a lot of problems with that system. Yeah, you

1231
01:06:23,040 --> 01:06:30,760
Speaker 1: can bypass it, you know, absolutely do that, Yeah, you know, Yeah,

1232
01:06:30,920 --> 01:06:35,080
Speaker 1: it's it's absolutely too much. And again yeah, I think

1233
01:06:35,680 --> 01:06:38,920
Speaker 1: I think it's the husband, the kids, you know, like

1234
01:06:39,000 --> 01:06:41,840
Speaker 1: Obie says, like I am in this house of people

1235
01:06:41,840 --> 01:06:46,520
Speaker 1: I raised, and none of them will And again I'm

1236
01:06:46,560 --> 01:06:49,080
Speaker 1: not saying that they have to like overextend themselves or

1237
01:06:49,080 --> 01:06:51,960
Speaker 1: adopt the baby or anything like that necessarily, but to

1238
01:06:52,120 --> 01:06:55,680
Speaker 1: like hate on op like they have been, it's just

1239
01:06:56,400 --> 01:06:59,520
Speaker 1: it's just too fall. Everyone's crossed the line in my

1240
01:07:00,440 --> 01:07:01,240
Speaker 1: from what I've seen.

1241
01:07:01,800 --> 01:07:05,240
Speaker 2: So I wonder how because it's like the kids seem

1242
01:07:05,320 --> 01:07:07,920
Speaker 2: like they're just afraid of the dad. At this point,

1243
01:07:08,080 --> 01:07:10,360
Speaker 2: I can't I can't imagine. I can't believe none of

1244
01:07:10,400 --> 01:07:12,840
Speaker 2: the kids have stepped up and been like, hey, this

1245
01:07:12,880 --> 01:07:15,360
Speaker 2: is we kind of agree with mom on this, but

1246
01:07:15,800 --> 01:07:17,919
Speaker 2: like everyone's just like I don't want to go against dad.

1247
01:07:18,040 --> 01:07:20,240
Speaker 1: I don't want the wrath. That's a great point of

1248
01:07:20,400 --> 01:07:22,560
Speaker 1: father to come down on my head.

1249
01:07:22,840 --> 01:07:28,120
Speaker 2: Great point that that took some some sleuth eyes, some sleuthy,

1250
01:07:28,400 --> 01:07:31,480
Speaker 2: some sleuthy eye. Daddy's hiding something. Something's wrong with daddy.

1251
01:07:31,600 --> 01:07:34,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, well he's yeah, he's you don't want to cross him,

1252
01:07:34,320 --> 01:07:36,400
Speaker 1: which and then shout out again to Op for doing

1253
01:07:36,400 --> 01:07:38,320
Speaker 1: it anyway, and being like, now this is what's right.

1254
01:07:38,520 --> 01:07:40,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, taking the baby. Shout out to Op, I take

1255
01:07:40,920 --> 01:07:46,320
Speaker 2: in the baby. There's also a great scene in nineteen seventeen. Wait,

1256
01:07:46,480 --> 01:07:49,960
Speaker 2: isn't that the movie about World War One? I've seen

1257
01:07:50,000 --> 01:07:52,960
Speaker 2: that one. Yeah, and there's a French woman who just

1258
01:07:53,000 --> 01:07:55,120
Speaker 2: like has a baby and it's not hers. She just

1259
01:07:55,160 --> 01:07:58,040
Speaker 2: found the baby and it had no parents, and she said,

1260
01:07:58,080 --> 01:07:59,400
Speaker 2: I gotta do what I gotta do. I gotta try

1261
01:07:59,400 --> 01:08:00,240
Speaker 2: to keep this baby's if.

1262
01:08:00,160 --> 01:08:02,440
Speaker 1: She's not going this isn't my baby, and it's wartime

1263
01:08:02,680 --> 01:08:04,760
Speaker 1: and I don't have the means or the ends to

1264
01:08:04,800 --> 01:08:05,960
Speaker 1: take care of this child.

1265
01:08:06,240 --> 01:08:08,520
Speaker 2: She goes, Oh, this faultless baby is in the middle

1266
01:08:08,520 --> 01:08:10,440
Speaker 2: of a war zone. I guess I should try to

1267
01:08:10,520 --> 01:08:13,880
Speaker 2: help it. Moving on, let's get to the end of

1268
01:08:13,920 --> 01:08:16,000
Speaker 2: the story where I hope this guy gets flung into

1269
01:08:16,000 --> 01:08:20,560
Speaker 2: a black hole. Oh, yes, I love it. Let me

1270
01:08:20,800 --> 01:08:23,320
Speaker 2: say that I understand how difficult it is to take

1271
01:08:23,360 --> 01:08:25,400
Speaker 2: care of a child and how much work it is,

1272
01:08:25,640 --> 01:08:30,760
Speaker 2: especially one with the ooh substance, one who has been

1273
01:08:30,840 --> 01:08:34,160
Speaker 2: born with as short of a stick as this child.

1274
01:08:35,200 --> 01:08:38,639
Speaker 2: But they need love just as much as the next person.

1275
01:08:38,880 --> 01:08:41,160
Speaker 2: They need someone to take care for them, to look

1276
01:08:41,200 --> 01:08:43,439
Speaker 2: after them. Maybe my niece will get cleaned up and

1277
01:08:43,439 --> 01:08:46,360
Speaker 2: get her children back. Maybe she will never come around again.

1278
01:08:46,760 --> 01:08:50,559
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe maybe Until then, her children are loved and

1279
01:08:50,680 --> 01:08:53,599
Speaker 2: safe and taking care of regardless of what anyone else

1280
01:08:53,720 --> 01:09:00,120
Speaker 2: says or wants. W I want what's best for them.

1281
01:09:00,439 --> 01:09:02,640
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole for taking the baby in

1282
01:09:02,720 --> 01:09:05,800
Speaker 2: against his wishes and refusing to hand the money over

1283
01:09:05,840 --> 01:09:10,280
Speaker 2: to him. No, No, definitely no.

1284
01:09:10,360 --> 01:09:12,280
Speaker 1: On the second one, especially after he was like, I

1285
01:09:12,320 --> 01:09:14,120
Speaker 1: want nothing to do with this child, and now he

1286
01:09:14,120 --> 01:09:15,519
Speaker 1: wants to be like, you need to give me some

1287
01:09:15,600 --> 01:09:16,160
Speaker 1: of that money.

1288
01:09:16,200 --> 01:09:19,960
Speaker 2: It's like that doesn't make any sense, Like if this

1289
01:09:20,240 --> 01:09:24,840
Speaker 2: was just like if you were also raising your own

1290
01:09:24,960 --> 01:09:29,800
Speaker 2: children who were like also young babies or toddlers, and

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01:09:29,880 --> 01:09:33,040
Speaker 2: you guys were stretched so financially thin that it was

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01:09:33,240 --> 01:09:38,839
Speaker 2: literally impossible for it to work. Maybe, but I wouldn't

1293
01:09:38,840 --> 01:09:40,960
Speaker 2: even say that you're the A hole. It's more just

1294
01:09:41,000 --> 01:09:45,920
Speaker 2: like your heart is so big that I don't know

1295
01:09:46,000 --> 01:09:50,880
Speaker 2: it's it's making it's hard to have a heart that big. Yeah,

1296
01:09:50,920 --> 01:09:53,960
Speaker 2: because I would think that regard like you would have

1297
01:09:54,000 --> 01:09:55,920
Speaker 2: to kind of put your own kids first, but you're

1298
01:09:55,920 --> 01:09:59,160
Speaker 2: not in that position right now. Yeah, So with that

1299
01:09:59,200 --> 01:10:01,519
Speaker 2: being said, like I know, I don't think you're the

1300
01:10:01,560 --> 01:10:04,360
Speaker 2: A hole. I think I think, you know, if the

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01:10:04,439 --> 01:10:06,880
Speaker 2: husband really did doesn't want to take care of the kid,

1302
01:10:06,880 --> 01:10:08,160
Speaker 2: and may be, all right, let's come up with a

1303
01:10:08,160 --> 01:10:13,720
Speaker 2: plan then to find this kid a home that will

1304
01:10:13,880 --> 01:10:15,840
Speaker 2: love him and take care of him and will allow

1305
01:10:15,920 --> 01:10:17,880
Speaker 2: him to still be in our family, so to speak.

1306
01:10:18,479 --> 01:10:20,920
Speaker 2: But instead he was just like that kid gets what

1307
01:10:21,000 --> 01:10:25,760
Speaker 2: he deserves what. No. I just can't imagine being that way.

1308
01:10:25,880 --> 01:10:29,439
Speaker 2: No cease to exist, cease to exist exists, my friend. Indeed,

1309
01:10:29,520 --> 01:10:33,040
Speaker 2: black say to you, black hole, throw him in there.

1310
01:10:33,800 --> 01:10:36,839
Speaker 2: Number fourteen. All the way. I don't know about number fourteen.

1311
01:10:38,160 --> 01:10:44,160
Speaker 1: Maybe probably I think personally I'm putting him on number

1312
01:10:44,200 --> 01:10:48,280
Speaker 1: fourteen just because of how hard he goes against a baby.

1313
01:10:48,360 --> 01:10:53,680
Speaker 2: Yeah. Literally, just just crazy. It just crazy. Yeah, I'm

1314
01:10:53,680 --> 01:10:57,120
Speaker 2: almost fourteen. The number fourteen is gonna get used a lot.

1315
01:10:57,360 --> 01:10:57,960
Speaker 2: I know, I know.

1316
01:10:58,240 --> 01:11:01,439
Speaker 1: It's so it's so deliciously powerful, you know, it's it's

1317
01:11:01,479 --> 01:11:03,800
Speaker 1: just hi octane, high octane.

1318
01:11:04,000 --> 01:11:07,840
Speaker 2: Okay, Well that is the end of that story. All right,

1319
01:11:08,680 --> 01:11:14,320
Speaker 2: there we have. We are going to the next episode,

1320
01:11:14,560 --> 01:11:16,640
Speaker 2: which I will there we go, baby, I'm doing I

1321
01:11:16,640 --> 01:11:18,400
Speaker 2: will be going right now. Do we have any more

1322
01:11:19,160 --> 01:11:20,360
Speaker 2: exquisite little dono?

1323
01:11:20,560 --> 01:11:24,439
Speaker 1: Oh yes, Jackie, thanks for the five bucks and the

1324
01:11:24,560 --> 01:11:26,479
Speaker 1: heart emoji. Yeah, I know how to make a gen

1325
01:11:26,560 --> 01:11:31,560
Speaker 1: Z heart, got you gen Z and then uh mermaigs

1326
01:11:31,600 --> 01:11:34,280
Speaker 1: three fourteen. Thanks for the five bucks on the tip link.

1327
01:11:34,400 --> 01:11:37,599
Speaker 1: By the way, thank you for that. Hey from Kings Bay, Georgia.

1328
01:11:38,520 --> 01:11:41,800
Speaker 1: Big hugs to all the okop gang. Thanks so much

1329
01:11:41,840 --> 01:11:44,120
Speaker 1: for keeping me company while my husband is deployed on

1330
01:11:44,160 --> 01:11:48,439
Speaker 1: a boat that sinks on purpose. Oh, submarine, submarine. I

1331
01:11:48,479 --> 01:11:50,400
Speaker 1: am hoping that sub Amerina.

1332
01:11:52,640 --> 01:11:56,880
Speaker 2: Maybe it's that maybe he's deployed on the Titanic recreation

1333
01:11:58,960 --> 01:12:03,320
Speaker 2: must hope not Oh god, I just had to say that.

1334
01:12:03,800 --> 01:12:08,040
Speaker 1: Oh goodness, ps Whopper is the uholo?

1335
01:12:08,560 --> 01:12:13,920
Speaker 2: What is it? Solo? Uh, Pokemon Whooper, We're gonna We're

1336
01:12:13,920 --> 01:12:17,920
Speaker 2: gonna gonna fall? Oh there you go? Okay, Yeah, that

1337
01:12:17,920 --> 01:12:20,519
Speaker 2: that that seems very act one of my favorite Pokemon

1338
01:12:20,560 --> 01:12:24,200
Speaker 2: to say as well. Thankoper, Thanks mermaids. That that was

1339
01:12:24,240 --> 01:12:27,160
Speaker 2: a great, uh weird thing. Oh and then theo do

1340
01:12:27,240 --> 01:12:28,439
Speaker 2: we get theo? There did?

1341
01:12:28,760 --> 01:12:29,000
Speaker 3: Oh?

1342
01:12:29,120 --> 01:12:30,920
Speaker 2: But shout out again to your theater for the fifty bukon.

1343
01:12:31,479 --> 01:12:35,600
Speaker 1: Thank you, bay boy, howdy mother hit us with a

1344
01:12:35,760 --> 01:12:36,559
Speaker 1: how noodle?

1345
01:12:37,280 --> 01:12:39,679
Speaker 2: Do we get anything from a tea?

1346
01:12:40,120 --> 01:12:44,559
Speaker 1: Thanks for gifting a storytime membership, Grobbing the family, Claire Golf,

1347
01:12:44,720 --> 01:12:48,160
Speaker 1: thank you for the one month of membership. I'm so

1348
01:12:48,240 --> 01:12:51,240
Speaker 1: thankful for all of you being here every day.

1349
01:12:51,520 --> 01:12:54,600
Speaker 2: Thanks Claire, we got. Thankful for you.

1350
01:12:54,720 --> 01:12:59,880
Speaker 1: All, Frank, all of you, oh children, Frank, the pugs

1351
01:13:00,080 --> 01:13:02,000
Speaker 1: for being a matter for two months. I just added

1352
01:13:02,040 --> 01:13:05,320
Speaker 1: an update to my journal. It contains the past six

1353
01:13:05,520 --> 01:13:10,880
Speaker 1: years of divorce custody drama with my ex. One day

1354
01:13:10,920 --> 01:13:18,120
Speaker 1: soon I will post it on the subreddit. Please yes, indeed,

1355
01:13:18,320 --> 01:13:23,920
Speaker 1: that sounds insane. I cannot wait love yeah for that

1356
01:13:24,080 --> 01:13:28,439
Speaker 1: to cross our digital desk. Cindy, thanks for to five bucks.

1357
01:13:28,680 --> 01:13:33,120
Speaker 1: Greetings from Western North Carolina, a longtime lurker, finally reaching

1358
01:13:33,160 --> 01:13:35,479
Speaker 1: out to thank you for the amazing podcast and endless

1359
01:13:35,479 --> 01:13:38,280
Speaker 1: hours of entertainment. You guys have helped me stay sane

1360
01:13:38,360 --> 01:13:41,160
Speaker 1: during my finals. It's amazing seeing the team grow and

1361
01:13:41,200 --> 01:13:45,080
Speaker 1: I love the additions to the team me too. Keep

1362
01:13:45,120 --> 01:13:50,920
Speaker 1: being awesome. Okay, team, let's freaking god, we.

1363
01:13:50,880 --> 01:13:54,320
Speaker 2: Did that at the same time. Weird you boys said

1364
01:13:54,400 --> 01:14:00,720
Speaker 2: the words time and the prophecy fulfills another steps.

1365
01:14:00,000 --> 01:14:03,799
Speaker 1: And I say something super cute, which is uh, Dakota

1366
01:14:03,840 --> 01:14:06,599
Speaker 1: and Kean are now moving in together.

1367
01:14:07,800 --> 01:14:10,439
Speaker 2: Kind of great? Is the is it? Is it all?

1368
01:14:10,520 --> 01:14:10,600
Speaker 1: Like?

1369
01:14:10,760 --> 01:14:12,000
Speaker 2: Is it like finalized?

1370
01:14:12,120 --> 01:14:12,200
Speaker 3: Like?

1371
01:14:12,360 --> 01:14:15,200
Speaker 2: Is it there's just a couple? Yeah, I mean it's finalized.

1372
01:14:15,520 --> 01:14:19,120
Speaker 2: Money has been sent, utilities have been signed up for,

1373
01:14:20,439 --> 01:14:23,360
Speaker 2: although I did. I was texting my leasing guy today

1374
01:14:23,360 --> 01:14:25,680
Speaker 2: and he never got back to me. I don't like that.

1375
01:14:25,800 --> 01:14:27,719
Speaker 2: He I think he will be probably he might literally

1376
01:14:27,720 --> 01:14:30,200
Speaker 2: just have a day off. I don't know. Unacceptable.

1377
01:14:30,880 --> 01:14:32,920
Speaker 1: You know how many days, Dakota, how many days do

1378
01:14:32,960 --> 01:14:35,360
Speaker 1: we stream?

1379
01:14:35,400 --> 01:14:38,639
Speaker 2: Five days? We don't take days off don't take day

1380
01:14:38,680 --> 01:14:39,840
Speaker 2: now in the middle of the week. Maybe he had

1381
01:14:39,840 --> 01:14:42,720
Speaker 2: an emergency, who knows, no emergencies allowed. But I know

1382
01:14:42,760 --> 01:14:45,559
Speaker 2: he's he's a cool guy. He's the only he's not

1383
01:14:45,760 --> 01:14:47,000
Speaker 2: He's the reason we got this place.

1384
01:14:47,560 --> 01:14:51,400
Speaker 1: In a way, he's the reason because he gave me

1385
01:14:51,439 --> 01:14:53,320
Speaker 1: the scoop and was basically like, you need to do

1386
01:14:53,400 --> 01:14:56,080
Speaker 1: this right now, or you're not getting this place because

1387
01:14:56,120 --> 01:14:58,080
Speaker 1: I guarantee you one of these people today are gone.

1388
01:14:58,320 --> 01:15:00,920
Speaker 2: And he was right. There were go shout out to him,

1389
01:15:00,920 --> 01:15:02,920
Speaker 2: shout out to him. Yeah, but we could be roomies.

1390
01:15:03,120 --> 01:15:05,160
Speaker 2: Oh to be crazy. I love it.

1391
01:15:05,720 --> 01:15:08,120
Speaker 3: Ye see each other everywhere every day, and I'm gonna

1392
01:15:08,120 --> 01:15:11,679
Speaker 3: hate it. No, we're playing smash Bros.

1393
01:15:11,680 --> 01:15:14,920
Speaker 2: And then we're gonna smash You're you're gonna You're gonna

1394
01:15:14,920 --> 01:15:19,439
Speaker 2: hate it. Then when I beat you, over ran, over

1395
01:15:19,640 --> 01:15:25,000
Speaker 2: ran over all. Right, you guys been friends for ten years? Indeed, yeah,

1396
01:15:25,560 --> 01:15:29,000
Speaker 2: ten years. I didn't know that. Ten whole years, dude.

1397
01:15:29,000 --> 01:15:32,280
Speaker 2: That's I love that. I love that.

1398
01:15:32,840 --> 01:15:35,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, it seems like yesterday where I had short hair

1399
01:15:35,080 --> 01:15:36,320
Speaker 3: and Dakota had long hair.

1400
01:15:36,400 --> 01:15:40,000
Speaker 2: Do you remember where we met? No? I don't. Actually

1401
01:15:40,040 --> 01:15:43,040
Speaker 2: it was at Rex's old house. Oh, oh is that homemail?

1402
01:15:44,920 --> 01:15:49,679
Speaker 2: Oh Notepsorp. That's when we first met with zep Sorp.

1403
01:15:49,760 --> 01:15:50,400
Speaker 2: That's crazy.

1404
01:15:51,240 --> 01:15:54,040
Speaker 1: This is this a person named Zeepsorp. It was a

1405
01:15:54,160 --> 01:16:01,360
Speaker 1: name that ended up I'm dead, not Zeepsorp. Just but

1406
01:16:01,400 --> 01:16:04,000
Speaker 1: it's like a very It's like it feels on brand.

1407
01:16:04,320 --> 01:16:05,559
Speaker 1: It feels on brand in the best way.

1408
01:16:05,920 --> 01:16:08,800
Speaker 2: And that's how that friendship blossomed. Well, guy literally met

1409
01:16:08,800 --> 01:16:10,000
Speaker 2: playing Spanish.

1410
01:16:09,760 --> 01:16:13,720
Speaker 1: Hearts, Hearts and Houses in the chat for Dakota that

1411
01:16:13,720 --> 01:16:17,599
Speaker 1: they they not just found a house, they found a home.

1412
01:16:18,000 --> 01:16:20,920
Speaker 2: That's right in each other. We found in each other. Yeah,

1413
01:16:20,920 --> 01:16:25,439
Speaker 2: because you're my homie. Ooh, that's pretty good. I want

1414
01:16:25,479 --> 01:16:27,719
Speaker 2: to trademark that one. I'll live inside you.

1415
01:16:28,240 --> 01:16:28,599
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1416
01:16:28,640 --> 01:16:31,280
Speaker 2: And then John John being Florida John, and then John

1417
01:16:31,360 --> 01:16:37,599
Speaker 2: went straight Florida Moon. Oh, Piggy Slayer, says gaming stream

1418
01:16:37,640 --> 01:16:41,120
Speaker 2: wind Dakota Keyon. That's right, we're gonna be We're gonna

1419
01:16:41,160 --> 01:16:43,000
Speaker 2: move in and as soon as we get off at

1420
01:16:43,400 --> 01:16:45,880
Speaker 2: okay storytime, we're gonna go home and be video game

1421
01:16:45,920 --> 01:16:51,720
Speaker 2: streamers for eight hours. Kyota. I love that. That's that's

1422
01:16:51,760 --> 01:16:53,080
Speaker 2: the name of our twitch stream.

1423
01:16:53,280 --> 01:16:58,400
Speaker 1: I love that, Kyota, Kyota. It's not way you shake

1424
01:16:58,439 --> 01:17:01,439
Speaker 1: your head cute. It's we have to we have to

1425
01:17:01,479 --> 01:17:05,760
Speaker 1: be stream all day, stream all night, all day, all night.

1426
01:17:07,360 --> 01:17:10,040
Speaker 2: Okay, we're ready for this next.

1427
01:17:11,000 --> 01:17:17,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, you want to make sure checking love Kyota?

1428
01:17:18,200 --> 01:17:24,200
Speaker 2: Yota sounds like a car, true, Yeah, I drive a Kyota. Yeah,

1429
01:17:24,280 --> 01:17:26,479
Speaker 2: I drib An eighty four Kyota. You probably haven't heard

1430
01:17:26,479 --> 01:17:29,880
Speaker 2: of it. We are. I'm all right, Uh yes, let

1431
01:17:29,920 --> 01:17:32,240
Speaker 2: me just double check and make sure, yes, sir, hit

1432
01:17:32,280 --> 01:17:38,120
Speaker 2: that double check. Hey, wetted a new Mega and that's

1433
01:17:38,120 --> 01:17:40,760
Speaker 2: one very good stuff. All right, let's get into it.

1434
01:17:41,200 --> 01:17:44,600
Speaker 1: So my girlfriend rejected my wedding proposal because it's not

1435
01:17:44,640 --> 01:17:45,479
Speaker 1: her dream setup.

1436
01:17:45,600 --> 01:17:46,200
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.

1437
01:17:46,240 --> 01:17:48,880
Speaker 1: I had a dream and it looks nothing like this

1438
01:17:48,960 --> 01:17:49,959
Speaker 1: garbagee setups.

1439
01:17:50,720 --> 01:17:52,479
Speaker 2: I had a dream and it's not you.

1440
01:17:53,640 --> 01:17:56,760
Speaker 1: For context, my girlfriend female twenty one and I mail

1441
01:17:56,800 --> 01:17:59,439
Speaker 1: twenty one. I've been together for six years, and over

1442
01:17:59,479 --> 01:18:02,360
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving weekend I took her on a week long trip

1443
01:18:02,400 --> 01:18:03,559
Speaker 1: to Hawaii with.

1444
01:18:03,640 --> 01:18:05,160
Speaker 2: The intention of proposing to her.

1445
01:18:05,479 --> 01:18:09,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, what a terrible place for a proposal, So crappy,

1446
01:18:09,280 --> 01:18:10,800
Speaker 1: so unthoughtful.

1447
01:18:10,280 --> 01:18:13,120
Speaker 2: How dare you wait a minute?

1448
01:18:13,880 --> 01:18:16,360
Speaker 1: I even asked her parents for their blessings, and they

1449
01:18:16,479 --> 01:18:19,240
Speaker 1: showed and showed them the ring a couple of days

1450
01:18:19,400 --> 01:18:21,640
Speaker 1: before we'd left for the trip. By the way, this

1451
01:18:21,760 --> 01:18:25,400
Speaker 1: comes from Axel Brillas from the r slash Okay story

1452
01:18:25,400 --> 01:18:28,240
Speaker 1: of Time Starbed It. So we have talked about marriage before,

1453
01:18:28,320 --> 01:18:31,479
Speaker 1: and we've both agreed that we want to marry each other.

1454
01:18:31,560 --> 01:18:34,000
Speaker 1: So the idea of it is nothing new and actually

1455
01:18:34,120 --> 01:18:35,000
Speaker 1: a frequent topic.

1456
01:18:36,000 --> 01:18:37,439
Speaker 2: The issue is.

1457
01:18:37,400 --> 01:18:40,600
Speaker 1: That she wanted a grand wedding proposal, similar to the

1458
01:18:40,600 --> 01:18:44,120
Speaker 1: ones that you might see on TikTok slash Instagram, big

1459
01:18:44,439 --> 01:18:47,519
Speaker 1: marry me in letters on the beach, rose petals on

1460
01:18:47,560 --> 01:18:52,400
Speaker 1: the ground, lights, mariachi band, et cetera, et cetera. I

1461
01:18:52,479 --> 01:18:55,040
Speaker 1: was absolutely on board on doing that for her if

1462
01:18:55,080 --> 01:18:57,280
Speaker 1: it made her happy, but that was something to be

1463
01:18:57,400 --> 01:19:00,240
Speaker 1: planned at a beach back home, since I wouldn't have

1464
01:19:00,240 --> 01:19:02,439
Speaker 1: the resources to plan it for a trip to somewhere

1465
01:19:02,520 --> 01:19:05,760
Speaker 1: we've never been, especially because we booked everything as a

1466
01:19:05,840 --> 01:19:11,160
Speaker 1: last minute vacation just five days prior. Pin that for

1467
01:19:11,280 --> 01:19:15,519
Speaker 1: later discussion. I see your years working. Ironically, after she

1468
01:19:15,640 --> 01:19:22,599
Speaker 1: sent me videos of people vacationing in Hawaii. Okay, so

1469
01:19:22,600 --> 01:19:26,960
Speaker 1: they watched some videos of people vacationing, booked it kind

1470
01:19:27,000 --> 01:19:32,880
Speaker 1: of hastily, Okay. I believed this would be a great opportunity, though,

1471
01:19:33,760 --> 01:19:36,479
Speaker 1: so I planned to propose to her on the day

1472
01:19:36,600 --> 01:19:40,720
Speaker 1: we arrived. I carried the ring in my pocket all day,

1473
01:19:40,840 --> 01:19:43,840
Speaker 1: waiting for a good opportunity to ask her, knowing it

1474
01:19:43,920 --> 01:19:46,120
Speaker 1: wasn't going to be a grand proposal like she had

1475
01:19:46,160 --> 01:19:49,680
Speaker 1: hoped for, but I thought that because of the circumstance,

1476
01:19:49,760 --> 01:19:54,160
Speaker 1: she would be happy. However, we had some completely unnecessary

1477
01:19:54,280 --> 01:19:57,360
Speaker 1: arguments and I decided to postpone because I didn't want

1478
01:19:57,400 --> 01:19:57,920
Speaker 1: to do it.

1479
01:19:57,880 --> 01:19:58,920
Speaker 2: After a bitter day.

1480
01:20:00,080 --> 01:20:03,040
Speaker 1: The second day there, we had booked a reservation to

1481
01:20:03,040 --> 01:20:05,760
Speaker 1: go paras hailing. I didn't want to risk losing the ring,

1482
01:20:05,920 --> 01:20:08,320
Speaker 1: so I left it back at the hotel. We didn't

1483
01:20:08,360 --> 01:20:12,320
Speaker 1: get back to the hotel until around five PM, and

1484
01:20:12,360 --> 01:20:15,559
Speaker 1: we started getting ready to go back out into the city.

1485
01:20:15,960 --> 01:20:18,200
Speaker 2: By this time, it was already starting to get dark.

1486
01:20:18,479 --> 01:20:22,679
Speaker 1: She said that before she said before that she would

1487
01:20:22,720 --> 01:20:26,120
Speaker 1: want a sunset proposal, and knowing that I couldn't organize

1488
01:20:26,160 --> 01:20:28,040
Speaker 1: any of the other things she had in mind for

1489
01:20:28,080 --> 01:20:31,160
Speaker 1: a poor a proposal, the sunset was the only thing

1490
01:20:31,200 --> 01:20:33,840
Speaker 1: I had. I missed my chance on that, but we

1491
01:20:33,960 --> 01:20:37,120
Speaker 1: still went out to dinner and drinks. We came back

1492
01:20:37,160 --> 01:20:39,280
Speaker 1: to the hotel afterwards, and she was tired.

1493
01:20:39,400 --> 01:20:39,920
Speaker 2: I was too.

1494
01:20:40,000 --> 01:20:41,960
Speaker 1: It was an eventful day. I let a rest for

1495
01:20:42,000 --> 01:20:44,880
Speaker 1: a bit, and around ten thirty I convinced her to

1496
01:20:44,920 --> 01:20:47,080
Speaker 1: go on a night walk with me at the beach.

1497
01:20:47,760 --> 01:20:55,280
Speaker 1: Just to note, not during sunset, right during night. Correct,

1498
01:20:56,120 --> 01:21:00,519
Speaker 1: this is when I planned to propose to her. Auci,

1499
01:21:00,640 --> 01:21:04,439
Speaker 1: I just bit my tongue, try to let you know.

1500
01:21:06,640 --> 01:21:09,800
Speaker 1: We got to the beach and the city. We got

1501
01:21:09,840 --> 01:21:12,280
Speaker 1: to the beach and the city was very much still awake,

1502
01:21:12,560 --> 01:21:15,280
Speaker 1: with the lights of the buildings and the streets combined

1503
01:21:15,320 --> 01:21:20,080
Speaker 1: with the moonlight illuminated the illuminated the ocean beautifully. We

1504
01:21:20,160 --> 01:21:26,759
Speaker 1: stood there hugging and kissing. That's my impersonation, both knowing

1505
01:21:26,880 --> 01:21:29,840
Speaker 1: it was a beautiful and interval moment. I started telling

1506
01:21:29,840 --> 01:21:31,720
Speaker 1: her how much I love her and how I want

1507
01:21:31,760 --> 01:21:33,960
Speaker 1: to be with her my entire life.

1508
01:21:34,160 --> 01:21:35,280
Speaker 2: Et cetera, et cetera.

1509
01:21:36,360 --> 01:21:40,120
Speaker 1: So as they started to get on one knee and

1510
01:21:40,160 --> 01:21:42,960
Speaker 1: I reached into my pocket for the ring, she stopped me.

1511
01:21:45,160 --> 01:21:51,960
Speaker 2: Alt holds your horse's buddy, old, hold hold steady, steady.

1512
01:21:53,439 --> 01:21:55,920
Speaker 1: I hope you're not about to propose to me right now.

1513
01:21:56,320 --> 01:21:58,040
Speaker 1: This isn't what I expected.

1514
01:22:01,360 --> 01:22:03,839
Speaker 2: You say, I know, I wasn't about to do that. Actually,

1515
01:22:03,960 --> 01:22:04,960
Speaker 2: he's gonna tie my shoes.

1516
01:22:05,320 --> 01:22:09,120
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, I was tying my shoe that I'm not

1517
01:22:09,160 --> 01:22:10,800
Speaker 3: wearing on the beach.

1518
01:22:11,320 --> 01:22:14,360
Speaker 2: You're so right. It probably not working shoes. I just

1519
01:22:14,600 --> 01:22:18,240
Speaker 2: thought I had something between my toes. Oh my god,

1520
01:22:19,160 --> 01:22:22,400
Speaker 2: my toe gap? Was it? Geez god? Sorry, I was

1521
01:22:22,439 --> 01:22:29,639
Speaker 2: just hitting the tim tebow all right. Boom, my heart dropped.

1522
01:22:30,880 --> 01:22:34,479
Speaker 1: I got back up and stood speechless before starting to

1523
01:22:34,520 --> 01:22:37,920
Speaker 1: walk back to the hotel. I was in no mood

1524
01:22:38,000 --> 01:22:40,559
Speaker 1: to talk about the situation and told her that we

1525
01:22:40,600 --> 01:22:44,880
Speaker 1: should talk about it tomorrow now. We talked about it

1526
01:22:44,920 --> 01:22:47,559
Speaker 1: the next day, and she insists on me doing it again,

1527
01:22:47,680 --> 01:22:51,320
Speaker 1: but this time the quote unquote right way during sunset.

1528
01:22:52,560 --> 01:22:55,400
Speaker 1: I tell her I can't do that because she rejected

1529
01:22:55,439 --> 01:23:02,960
Speaker 1: me already. She tells me she didn't reject it, whoo,

1530
01:23:03,400 --> 01:23:06,200
Speaker 1: just simply that it wasn't how she wanted it to happen.

1531
01:23:06,680 --> 01:23:09,080
Speaker 1: We spent the next four days in Hawaii in a

1532
01:23:09,280 --> 01:23:12,280
Speaker 1: very tense state. But we had to deal with it

1533
01:23:12,920 --> 01:23:15,880
Speaker 1: until we But we had to deal with it until

1534
01:23:15,920 --> 01:23:18,760
Speaker 1: we got back home. We lived together and for the

1535
01:23:18,880 --> 01:23:22,160
Speaker 1: first night she went to sleep with her parents. Now

1536
01:23:22,200 --> 01:23:24,759
Speaker 1: she came back, but I don't want to be home

1537
01:23:24,880 --> 01:23:27,840
Speaker 1: and there with her. What can be the outcome of

1538
01:23:27,880 --> 01:23:31,280
Speaker 1: the situation. I obviously didn't want this to happen during

1539
01:23:31,320 --> 01:23:34,679
Speaker 1: our vacation, but I didn't see it any other way.

1540
01:23:35,120 --> 01:23:37,920
Speaker 1: Is there a valid reason for her not for me

1541
01:23:38,160 --> 01:23:40,880
Speaker 1: not wanting to be with her anymore. I also don't

1542
01:23:40,880 --> 01:23:44,680
Speaker 1: think it's right for me to redo the proposal. We

1543
01:23:44,720 --> 01:23:49,439
Speaker 1: have an update, but we have to talk. Dakota, please

1544
01:23:49,880 --> 01:23:50,559
Speaker 1: please talk to me.

1545
01:23:51,640 --> 01:23:56,639
Speaker 2: So so I feel like having like a dream wedding,

1546
01:23:57,200 --> 01:24:00,479
Speaker 2: a dream something, having a vision for like an event

1547
01:24:00,520 --> 01:24:04,360
Speaker 2: that you can plan, that's one thing, and then having

1548
01:24:04,439 --> 01:24:08,680
Speaker 2: your like dream proposal scenario in your own head and

1549
01:24:08,720 --> 01:24:12,000
Speaker 2: then expecting your partner to just like do it, and

1550
01:24:12,040 --> 01:24:14,679
Speaker 2: if they it's not lining up, You're like no, no, no, no,

1551
01:24:14,479 --> 01:24:17,360
Speaker 2: no wait wait stop. I hope you're not trying to

1552
01:24:17,360 --> 01:24:20,480
Speaker 2: propose to me because it needs to be at sunset

1553
01:24:20,720 --> 01:24:24,759
Speaker 2: or I will be unhappy. It's like, you you should

1554
01:24:24,760 --> 01:24:27,479
Speaker 2: be happy that you're being proposed to. If you're not,

1555
01:24:28,600 --> 01:24:32,760
Speaker 2: I don't know what you want the aesthetic of your

1556
01:24:32,760 --> 01:24:36,200
Speaker 2: proposal to be a certain way. It's like that's just

1557
01:24:36,280 --> 01:24:38,720
Speaker 2: not you're you're you're a person who's obsessed with the

1558
01:24:38,760 --> 01:24:41,080
Speaker 2: wrong stuff. And if op he doesn't marry this person,

1559
01:24:41,120 --> 01:24:43,360
Speaker 2: he's probably better off. Can I ask you a question,

1560
01:24:43,920 --> 01:24:48,400
Speaker 2: does everybody suck here? No? I think so. I don't

1561
01:24:48,439 --> 01:24:51,040
Speaker 2: think you can suck by taking your like like fiance

1562
01:24:51,240 --> 01:24:55,840
Speaker 2: slash girlfriend future wife to like Hawaii for a trick.

1563
01:24:56,000 --> 01:25:00,040
Speaker 2: So let me let me where's the suckiness coming from? So?

1564
01:25:02,040 --> 01:25:07,800
Speaker 1: I think that op he did know what kind of

1565
01:25:08,560 --> 01:25:12,400
Speaker 1: proposal she would like, and he was like, Hey, I

1566
01:25:12,479 --> 01:25:14,800
Speaker 1: know that she wants this thing, and we couldn't do

1567
01:25:14,880 --> 01:25:15,960
Speaker 1: it at a beach at home.

1568
01:25:16,000 --> 01:25:19,040
Speaker 2: And as soon as he said that, I thought, why.

1569
01:25:18,560 --> 01:25:21,280
Speaker 1: Didn't you just do it at a beach at home

1570
01:25:21,479 --> 01:25:26,439
Speaker 1: if you kind of knew you couldn't like feasibly pull

1571
01:25:26,520 --> 01:25:29,880
Speaker 1: off exactly what she liked, Like, wouldn't she prefer the

1572
01:25:29,960 --> 01:25:34,439
Speaker 1: thing she prefers? Now to your point, do I think

1573
01:25:34,439 --> 01:25:37,760
Speaker 1: that a Hawaii proposal in it, whether it's moonlight, whether

1574
01:25:37,800 --> 01:25:40,800
Speaker 1: it's whatever the case is, in my mind is just

1575
01:25:41,000 --> 01:25:47,640
Speaker 1: automatically banger like automatically great, given that she's said explicitly

1576
01:25:47,680 --> 01:25:52,760
Speaker 1: what she wants. And then he, I don't know, like

1577
01:25:52,840 --> 01:25:55,000
Speaker 1: a little bit of being a baby, like I.

1578
01:25:54,920 --> 01:25:58,280
Speaker 2: Don't want to do redo the proposal. Okay, yeah, so

1579
01:25:58,560 --> 01:26:00,920
Speaker 2: I that's a good point. I will say that like

1580
01:26:01,479 --> 01:26:04,559
Speaker 2: him then taking that so personally to the point where

1581
01:26:04,640 --> 01:26:07,200
Speaker 2: it's like, well, I can't do it. I don't know.

1582
01:26:07,600 --> 01:26:10,840
Speaker 1: I think I think maybe, I mean, you know what,

1583
01:26:11,360 --> 01:26:13,840
Speaker 1: that would hurt a lot, So maybe I retract that

1584
01:26:13,880 --> 01:26:15,800
Speaker 1: a little bit. But I do think I do think

1585
01:26:15,840 --> 01:26:20,439
Speaker 1: she sucks more. But I think I think Brody really

1586
01:26:22,479 --> 01:26:27,800
Speaker 1: didn't have to put himself in this scenario, although maybe

1587
01:26:27,840 --> 01:26:30,439
Speaker 1: I'm kind of glad he did.

1588
01:26:30,120 --> 01:26:33,400
Speaker 2: Just John, Yeah, Justina Regis says, John, shut up.

1589
01:26:35,320 --> 01:26:39,040
Speaker 1: Fair, fair. I'm not, you know, saying that I shouldn't

1590
01:26:39,040 --> 01:26:45,479
Speaker 1: shut up, but look just yeah, please, so please OPI

1591
01:26:46,439 --> 01:26:47,920
Speaker 1: clearly was ready to marry this woman.

1592
01:26:47,920 --> 01:26:51,640
Speaker 2: I would assume he is aware of what her personality is,

1593
01:26:51,840 --> 01:26:54,080
Speaker 2: what her likes are, what her dislikes are, how she is.

1594
01:26:55,280 --> 01:26:57,920
Speaker 2: She wanted to get proposed to at sunset on a beach,

1595
01:26:59,000 --> 01:27:03,160
Speaker 2: and he knows that he knew that already. He goes

1596
01:27:03,200 --> 01:27:05,880
Speaker 2: to propose after the sun has already gone down, So

1597
01:27:05,920 --> 01:27:08,800
Speaker 2: she just goes, what are we doing? I know you're

1598
01:27:08,800 --> 01:27:11,800
Speaker 2: not doing that right now? Right. So it's like I

1599
01:27:11,880 --> 01:27:14,040
Speaker 2: understand his perspective of like it's kind of ruining the

1600
01:27:14,040 --> 01:27:17,320
Speaker 2: moment after he does it, but also he kind of

1601
01:27:17,360 --> 01:27:20,679
Speaker 2: ruined the moment by you know, I do this. Sometimes

1602
01:27:20,760 --> 01:27:22,080
Speaker 2: it's like it's hard for me to get gifts for

1603
01:27:22,160 --> 01:27:23,960
Speaker 2: people because once I get the gift, I'm just like

1604
01:27:23,960 --> 01:27:25,200
Speaker 2: I want to tell them. I want to tell them

1605
01:27:25,240 --> 01:27:28,320
Speaker 2: what it is like right away. Yeah, And I feel

1606
01:27:28,360 --> 01:27:30,439
Speaker 2: like that was just he was like waiting for the

1607
01:27:30,479 --> 01:27:32,040
Speaker 2: right moment, and he just kind of like was like,

1608
01:27:32,640 --> 01:27:34,000
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna do right now because we're on the

1609
01:27:34,000 --> 01:27:36,320
Speaker 2: beach and sounds already down totally. I don't know if

1610
01:27:36,360 --> 01:27:37,920
Speaker 2: we're gonna have like a fight tomorrow and then it's

1611
01:27:37,920 --> 01:27:41,200
Speaker 2: gonna like ruin the vibes again. So I don't know.

1612
01:27:41,600 --> 01:27:48,920
Speaker 2: But still it's like, ah, this is hard.

1613
01:27:48,960 --> 01:27:51,720
Speaker 1: I don't know who sucks here now, you know I

1614
01:27:52,000 --> 01:27:56,400
Speaker 1: definitely again, definitely she sucks. And having this conversation, I

1615
01:27:56,439 --> 01:27:58,960
Speaker 1: think I want to go a little bit less hard

1616
01:27:59,000 --> 01:28:03,160
Speaker 1: on OP. I think it was very well intentioned, but

1617
01:28:03,840 --> 01:28:05,960
Speaker 1: just like I feel like it's one of those things

1618
01:28:06,000 --> 01:28:09,600
Speaker 1: where you're like, ah, I should have seen this, but

1619
01:28:09,760 --> 01:28:11,320
Speaker 1: you know, I thought it would be great.

1620
01:28:11,320 --> 01:28:13,360
Speaker 2: I thought you would love it. It's Hawaii. It's beautiful.

1621
01:28:13,720 --> 01:28:18,040
Speaker 1: I totally understand his logic, you know it, I get it,

1622
01:28:18,640 --> 01:28:22,840
Speaker 1: but it does feel like from his end, he could

1623
01:28:22,920 --> 01:28:26,040
Speaker 1: have just, hey, let's just do it at home when

1624
01:28:26,080 --> 01:28:28,759
Speaker 1: I when I can plan the things that you would like,

1625
01:28:28,760 --> 01:28:30,920
Speaker 1: like don't you want to give your partner the thing.

1626
01:28:30,760 --> 01:28:32,880
Speaker 2: That they want? And you know what the way that

1627
01:28:32,920 --> 01:28:35,080
Speaker 2: she kind of any kind of didn't, you know, it's

1628
01:28:35,120 --> 01:28:38,200
Speaker 2: like he kind of didn't kind of didn't. Somebody said

1629
01:28:38,280 --> 01:28:44,880
Speaker 2: ruined the moment by like like choosing the wrong one.

1630
01:28:45,120 --> 01:28:48,400
Speaker 2: So it's like she said not right now, but also

1631
01:28:50,600 --> 01:28:53,320
Speaker 2: that's not no. She's like, wait, wait, you know I

1632
01:28:53,320 --> 01:28:55,360
Speaker 2: wanted this sunset. We're gonna do it suns it right.

1633
01:28:55,640 --> 01:28:57,920
Speaker 2: So she's not being like I'm not going to marry you.

1634
01:28:57,960 --> 01:29:00,760
Speaker 2: She's more like, what can we do it like at

1635
01:29:00,800 --> 01:29:03,160
Speaker 2: the time I want? And then he was like, and

1636
01:29:03,200 --> 01:29:05,880
Speaker 2: you know, I don't know, we're but do you think, oh, well,

1637
01:29:05,880 --> 01:29:09,080
Speaker 2: because missing the others are also very young, they're also

1638
01:29:09,200 --> 01:29:09,639
Speaker 2: very young.

1639
01:29:09,760 --> 01:29:12,360
Speaker 3: Maybe she wanted it not now, maybe she wanted to

1640
01:29:12,360 --> 01:29:15,320
Speaker 3: wait a little bit. Maybe he's rushing.

1641
01:29:15,000 --> 01:29:17,800
Speaker 1: It, But it seems like it was less of a

1642
01:29:17,920 --> 01:29:19,640
Speaker 1: like oh, we need more time and more of a,

1643
01:29:20,080 --> 01:29:22,040
Speaker 1: I just want it, and they're both twenty one.

1644
01:29:22,160 --> 01:29:25,840
Speaker 3: Yeah that's what I'm I'm also seeing like yeah that's okay.

1645
01:29:25,920 --> 01:29:27,000
Speaker 2: Yeah they're both twenty one.

1646
01:29:27,160 --> 01:29:31,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, it's it's it's making a lot more sense.

1647
01:29:30,800 --> 01:29:33,559
Speaker 3: Out I can see her like whoa, whoa, Like this

1648
01:29:33,640 --> 01:29:37,439
Speaker 3: is what I want, but maybe not right now. I

1649
01:29:37,720 --> 01:29:40,160
Speaker 3: think both kind of suck here. I think it's just

1650
01:29:40,200 --> 01:29:41,760
Speaker 3: like that that young love and.

1651
01:29:41,840 --> 01:29:44,760
Speaker 2: Like, oh, let's just do this, Like she wants this,

1652
01:29:44,880 --> 01:29:47,599
Speaker 2: she she's been talking about it, let's do it right now.

1653
01:29:48,160 --> 01:29:51,760
Speaker 2: And I'm like, ah, that's not it. But also she's

1654
01:29:51,840 --> 01:29:54,479
Speaker 2: I wonder if he really also just pick like the

1655
01:29:54,560 --> 01:29:57,960
Speaker 2: dumbest worst moment, like like they were just like walking

1656
01:29:57,960 --> 01:30:01,160
Speaker 2: on like a not particularly like good part of the beach.

1657
01:30:01,280 --> 01:30:04,519
Speaker 2: There's like trash everywhere or something like this is all

1658
01:30:04,479 --> 01:30:06,600
Speaker 2: on my head, but like and then you just like

1659
01:30:06,760 --> 01:30:10,360
Speaker 2: randomly goes like you know, there's like a I don't know,

1660
01:30:10,520 --> 01:30:12,960
Speaker 2: like a like a car's headlight is in like their

1661
01:30:13,160 --> 01:30:16,679
Speaker 2: eyes or something. I don't know. In my head. Maybe

1662
01:30:16,680 --> 01:30:19,800
Speaker 2: I'm just like, did you just pick like a bad

1663
01:30:19,880 --> 01:30:21,880
Speaker 2: moment And she's like, no, let's do it better. But

1664
01:30:21,920 --> 01:30:23,800
Speaker 2: does that is that even okay. I don't like the

1665
01:30:23,800 --> 01:30:26,960
Speaker 2: fact that she gets so contextually dependent on the relationship

1666
01:30:26,960 --> 01:30:29,720
Speaker 2: because I've been in relationships with like dynamics where I

1667
01:30:29,720 --> 01:30:32,840
Speaker 2: could see that being okay to me, like because it'd

1668
01:30:32,880 --> 01:30:33,160
Speaker 2: be like.

1669
01:30:33,120 --> 01:30:36,400
Speaker 1: Hey, silly, what are you doing, dummy, Like you're proposed.

1670
01:30:36,520 --> 01:30:39,080
Speaker 1: I want you to propose to me. Just let's do

1671
01:30:39,120 --> 01:30:42,040
Speaker 1: it at that the coolest time, And I'd be like, Okay,

1672
01:30:42,200 --> 01:30:43,720
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I forgot.

1673
01:30:43,400 --> 01:30:45,639
Speaker 3: I was gonna say that. Like she didn't say anything.

1674
01:30:45,720 --> 01:30:48,320
Speaker 3: It was like, stop, don't do that.

1675
01:30:48,320 --> 01:30:48,760
Speaker 2: That's it.

1676
01:30:48,800 --> 01:30:50,680
Speaker 3: She could have been like I love you, and like

1677
01:30:50,720 --> 01:30:53,040
Speaker 3: she could have made it so much better than what

1678
01:30:53,120 --> 01:30:55,280
Speaker 3: it was. Yeah, she's like a spoiled bride, like I

1679
01:30:55,320 --> 01:30:57,400
Speaker 3: want this, I want that, I want a dream proposal.

1680
01:30:57,439 --> 01:31:01,280
Speaker 2: It's just like, ah, yeah, it's Brandy, all right, we're

1681
01:31:01,280 --> 01:31:04,439
Speaker 2: doing both suck. They both suck. They both suck. There

1682
01:31:04,479 --> 01:31:07,120
Speaker 2: we go, but we have more? Which did they cancel

1683
01:31:07,120 --> 01:31:09,080
Speaker 2: each other out? Like negative numbers? I don't think so.

1684
01:31:09,240 --> 01:31:11,240
Speaker 1: I think she does suck more. I think she does

1685
01:31:11,240 --> 01:31:16,400
Speaker 1: suck more. But we have an update. So we had

1686
01:31:16,439 --> 01:31:19,479
Speaker 1: another conversation about it once she came back home from

1687
01:31:19,520 --> 01:31:22,960
Speaker 1: her parents' house. Another thing also just being like, I

1688
01:31:23,000 --> 01:31:24,519
Speaker 1: don't want to talk about it. I'm sleeping with my moms.

1689
01:31:24,560 --> 01:31:27,479
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go here. Yeah yeah, I digress, Yeah yeah yeah.

1690
01:31:27,560 --> 01:31:31,600
Speaker 1: She's still adamant that I failed to meet her expectations. Admittedly,

1691
01:31:31,680 --> 01:31:33,880
Speaker 1: I understand I didn't do any of the things that

1692
01:31:33,880 --> 01:31:35,280
Speaker 1: she had visualized it to be.

1693
01:31:38,760 --> 01:31:39,519
Speaker 2: TikTok dance.

1694
01:31:40,760 --> 01:31:43,519
Speaker 1: I emphasized that we're young and the proposals she's seen

1695
01:31:43,560 --> 01:31:49,599
Speaker 1: on social media are nothing but trends. Again, if it's

1696
01:31:49,640 --> 01:31:52,679
Speaker 1: what she wants, who cares if it's a trend? Digress,

1697
01:31:52,680 --> 01:31:56,360
Speaker 1: I digress. These proposals have become popular in maybe the

1698
01:31:56,439 --> 01:31:58,800
Speaker 1: last year or two. Prior to that, she's told me

1699
01:31:58,920 --> 01:32:02,120
Speaker 1: that she wants an intimate proposal, and especially away from

1700
01:32:02,120 --> 01:32:04,880
Speaker 1: the public. People are telling me I'm wrong because I

1701
01:32:04,920 --> 01:32:07,559
Speaker 1: knew exactly what she wanted and didn't do it. She

1702
01:32:07,720 --> 01:32:10,320
Speaker 1: also tells me that a proposal is solely about the

1703
01:32:10,400 --> 01:32:11,960
Speaker 1: female and what she wants.

1704
01:32:12,560 --> 01:32:14,200
Speaker 2: I hate her, now you scared?

1705
01:32:14,240 --> 01:32:16,639
Speaker 1: Mede't a little startled there.

1706
01:32:16,880 --> 01:32:19,200
Speaker 2: Sorry, I got really upset there. Yeah, I hate I

1707
01:32:19,240 --> 01:32:19,679
Speaker 2: hate her.

1708
01:32:20,120 --> 01:32:23,000
Speaker 1: Hey, my man Kean, he he deserves to be wooed

1709
01:32:23,000 --> 01:32:25,280
Speaker 1: a little too, Yeah, he deserves.

1710
01:32:24,920 --> 01:32:27,200
Speaker 2: A little you know, what what what is keon want?

1711
01:32:27,240 --> 01:32:30,040
Speaker 1: I want to know that I want him to dump

1712
01:32:30,080 --> 01:32:34,519
Speaker 1: her woo. The hat says all, yeah.

1713
01:32:34,320 --> 01:32:37,879
Speaker 3: I'm tired, Like, come on, meet you sound so selfish

1714
01:32:37,960 --> 01:32:39,679
Speaker 3: and so righteous in your mind.

1715
01:32:39,680 --> 01:32:40,480
Speaker 2: It's disgusting.

1716
01:32:40,720 --> 01:32:44,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, uh, Obi says, I think that's BS.

1717
01:32:44,520 --> 01:32:44,920
Speaker 2: I know.

1718
01:32:45,040 --> 01:32:46,960
Speaker 1: I told her that I was on board on doing

1719
01:32:46,960 --> 01:32:50,639
Speaker 1: her fantasy proposal, yet I changed my mind about that.

1720
01:32:51,280 --> 01:32:52,240
Speaker 2: I didn't want to.

1721
01:32:52,200 --> 01:32:54,720
Speaker 1: Plan this huge thing at my hometown beach just for

1722
01:32:54,760 --> 01:32:56,800
Speaker 1: the spectacle of it. I preferred to do it in

1723
01:32:56,800 --> 01:33:00,400
Speaker 1: a way I knew we would both enjoy in Hawaii's Actually,

1724
01:33:00,400 --> 01:33:04,000
Speaker 1: that I think is important context. Something that really bugs

1725
01:33:04,040 --> 01:33:06,000
Speaker 1: me is that she says that I made the trip

1726
01:33:06,040 --> 01:33:09,960
Speaker 1: seem like, seem like just another trip, nothing crazier out

1727
01:33:09,960 --> 01:33:10,679
Speaker 1: of the ordinary.

1728
01:33:11,080 --> 01:33:13,960
Speaker 2: What does she want to do? What is this? What

1729
01:33:14,040 --> 01:33:16,439
Speaker 2: is this? What is this a Disney movie trip to

1730
01:33:16,520 --> 01:33:20,480
Speaker 2: Hawaii's just like, well, we only just went to Hawaii?

1731
01:33:21,479 --> 01:33:24,040
Speaker 1: What baby, Like, why didn't you like rent to the

1732
01:33:24,040 --> 01:33:25,000
Speaker 1: whole island just for me?

1733
01:33:25,120 --> 01:33:26,680
Speaker 2: Like I felt like so unspecial.

1734
01:33:26,680 --> 01:33:28,840
Speaker 1: I had to like shirt for like with like tens

1735
01:33:28,840 --> 01:33:30,759
Speaker 1: of thousands of people, Like am I even like special

1736
01:33:30,800 --> 01:33:30,960
Speaker 1: to you?

1737
01:33:31,000 --> 01:33:33,680
Speaker 2: Babe? Didn't give you a personal island. Oh my god,

1738
01:33:33,760 --> 01:33:35,920
Speaker 2: I wanted a personal island. I want about Deves. I

1739
01:33:35,920 --> 01:33:38,320
Speaker 2: want to get me mad at Gasscard. I thought you

1740
01:33:38,680 --> 01:33:44,240
Speaker 2: loved me. This is significantly less difficult for me. Now. Yeah.

1741
01:33:44,320 --> 01:33:45,880
Speaker 2: I was like I was waiting for her reasoning, like, oh,

1742
01:33:45,880 --> 01:33:48,439
Speaker 2: maybe we should wait, but she's like, no, that wasn't

1743
01:33:48,439 --> 01:33:52,240
Speaker 2: a dream, and so let me be clear. Her response

1744
01:33:52,439 --> 01:33:56,040
Speaker 2: was definitely not the kind of cute, bantery energy I

1745
01:33:56,240 --> 01:33:59,840
Speaker 2: was imagining it was. It was definitely more of like,

1746
01:34:00,240 --> 01:34:07,600
Speaker 2: oh ill, yeah, grass, Jenny from TikTok got married and

1747
01:34:07,680 --> 01:34:12,600
Speaker 2: out the islands in the Philippines we got Hawaii. These

1748
01:34:12,640 --> 01:34:13,880
Speaker 2: islands aren't even that bad.

1749
01:34:15,479 --> 01:34:19,080
Speaker 1: This is literally our first ever vacation flight together.

1750
01:34:19,160 --> 01:34:22,920
Speaker 2: Oh my god, dude, this is triggering me so much.

1751
01:34:24,240 --> 01:34:28,000
Speaker 2: Know this is bad, but I love trigger. Usually i'd

1752
01:34:28,000 --> 01:34:31,200
Speaker 2: be like whatever, but like this taking me off. It

1753
01:34:31,320 --> 01:34:31,920
Speaker 2: hits deep.

1754
01:34:32,920 --> 01:34:35,760
Speaker 1: The same night that that happened, we had brunch, we

1755
01:34:35,800 --> 01:34:40,439
Speaker 1: went parasailing, and we had a wonderful uh teppanyaki dinner,

1756
01:34:40,560 --> 01:34:45,000
Speaker 1: which is uh, I don't.

1757
01:34:44,800 --> 01:34:46,040
Speaker 2: Know what the fact that you put me on this one.

1758
01:34:46,040 --> 01:34:47,679
Speaker 2: I was like, I know, whateanyaki is? Now, I don't

1759
01:34:48,280 --> 01:34:51,400
Speaker 2: what is I'll look it up. Hawaiian. Yeah, we'll look

1760
01:34:51,400 --> 01:34:55,400
Speaker 2: it up. Japanese, a Japanese dish, Japanese? Okay, got you? So?

1761
01:34:55,760 --> 01:34:58,559
Speaker 1: Am I selfish for changing the whole proposal up without

1762
01:34:58,600 --> 01:35:02,000
Speaker 1: consulting her. I don't understand why people why some people

1763
01:35:02,000 --> 01:35:04,720
Speaker 1: say I'm selfish for not doing what she wanted. I

1764
01:35:04,760 --> 01:35:08,080
Speaker 1: still did something that objectively should make any woman ecstatic.

1765
01:35:08,920 --> 01:35:12,200
Speaker 1: I think my focus now is shifting from wondering if

1766
01:35:12,240 --> 01:35:14,360
Speaker 1: it's okay for me to break up with her for

1767
01:35:14,439 --> 01:35:16,960
Speaker 1: turning me down, to wanting to break up for her

1768
01:35:17,080 --> 01:35:21,519
Speaker 1: ungratefulness in general. Another reason why she said it wasn't

1769
01:35:21,600 --> 01:35:31,439
Speaker 1: up to her expectations. Run run, run ron, run, run

1770
01:35:31,520 --> 01:35:36,599
Speaker 1: as fast as you can. Another reason why she said

1771
01:35:36,600 --> 01:35:39,200
Speaker 1: it wasn't up to her expectations was because we were

1772
01:35:39,240 --> 01:35:40,480
Speaker 1: both dressed casually.

1773
01:35:42,280 --> 01:35:47,040
Speaker 2: All right, all right, pack it up, pack it up, packed.

1774
01:35:47,640 --> 01:35:51,360
Speaker 2: We're moving out. We're not marrying this one. We're not.

1775
01:35:51,880 --> 01:35:55,559
Speaker 2: Are you a freaking princess? Oh? You think you are

1776
01:35:55,600 --> 01:35:59,320
Speaker 2: mischievous princess, but you're not. I realized. Also, all the

1777
01:35:59,360 --> 01:36:02,440
Speaker 2: windows are so yelling goes out to like the neighborhood,

1778
01:36:02,800 --> 01:36:05,360
Speaker 2: and the better they better hear this. That's right.

1779
01:36:06,320 --> 01:36:09,120
Speaker 1: She wanted me to give her prior notice that something

1780
01:36:09,200 --> 01:36:12,840
Speaker 1: special was going to happen by telling her to get

1781
01:36:12,880 --> 01:36:16,080
Speaker 1: all glammed up. By the way, you never got to

1782
01:36:16,080 --> 01:36:18,879
Speaker 1: get all glammed up. To join us live every weekday

1783
01:36:18,880 --> 01:36:22,320
Speaker 1: at three pm PSD. We're live on YouTube, on TikTok,

1784
01:36:22,360 --> 01:36:24,520
Speaker 1: on Facebook, tap a profile.

1785
01:36:24,240 --> 01:36:25,599
Speaker 2: Get on in here, join the party.

1786
01:36:27,520 --> 01:36:31,560
Speaker 1: Part Speaking of partying, let's uh, let's get down and

1787
01:36:31,800 --> 01:36:36,920
Speaker 1: dirty and a little discussion. I'm sorry, I'm just trying

1788
01:36:36,960 --> 01:36:41,880
Speaker 1: to like I was down. I wanted to chat with

1789
01:36:41,920 --> 01:36:44,800
Speaker 1: my man Dakoda over here. You know, things happen we try.

1790
01:36:45,640 --> 01:36:48,559
Speaker 1: I'm gonna trigger keyon the CODEA. Yeah, what do you

1791
01:36:48,560 --> 01:36:50,320
Speaker 1: got for it? What do you mean my go go go, go,

1792
01:36:50,320 --> 01:36:50,720
Speaker 1: go go go.

1793
01:36:51,040 --> 01:36:57,120
Speaker 2: I believe this woman belongs on the moon. Explain. I

1794
01:36:57,160 --> 01:37:01,200
Speaker 2: believe there's a way back from this. However, it's something

1795
01:37:01,200 --> 01:37:05,120
Speaker 2: that might not be able to be done within the

1796
01:37:05,160 --> 01:37:09,960
Speaker 2: engagement slash relationship that she's currently in. However, twenty one

1797
01:37:10,360 --> 01:37:14,240
Speaker 2: and also having your brain completely like built by I'm

1798
01:37:14,280 --> 01:37:17,639
Speaker 2: assuming social media for a large chunk of that time,

1799
01:37:18,360 --> 01:37:22,160
Speaker 2: as every single person growing up. Now, that's what's happening,

1800
01:37:24,840 --> 01:37:30,040
Speaker 2: being like obsessed with the optics with the trend with

1801
01:37:30,360 --> 01:37:37,960
Speaker 2: you know, the hot new flavor is understandable. Like, however, like,

1802
01:37:38,680 --> 01:37:42,479
Speaker 2: she's clearly not ready for marriage. I don't. He's probably

1803
01:37:42,479 --> 01:37:43,840
Speaker 2: not ready for a marriage either, the way that he

1804
01:37:43,920 --> 01:37:48,280
Speaker 2: reacted to that. Yes, I think that both of their

1805
01:37:48,479 --> 01:37:52,760
Speaker 2: reactions slash behaviors indicate that they're probably not ready for

1806
01:37:52,960 --> 01:37:58,160
Speaker 2: like a commitment as serious as marriage, So they either

1807
01:37:58,200 --> 01:38:01,320
Speaker 2: need to and you know, realistically, after the proposal goes

1808
01:38:01,320 --> 01:38:03,519
Speaker 2: wrong like this, there's not really a way back for

1809
01:38:03,680 --> 01:38:07,800
Speaker 2: like the vast majority of situations, I would think if so,

1810
01:38:07,960 --> 01:38:10,960
Speaker 2: sorry to interject, like, but if she said that, then

1811
01:38:11,000 --> 01:38:13,479
Speaker 2: that's fine, that's great, Like, let's wait a little bit longer.

1812
01:38:13,479 --> 01:38:14,000
Speaker 2: We're young.

1813
01:38:14,240 --> 01:38:17,080
Speaker 3: That's what I said earlier. Great, But the fact that's like,

1814
01:38:17,200 --> 01:38:20,240
Speaker 3: you're not meeting the requirements I need for this proposal.

1815
01:38:21,120 --> 01:38:24,160
Speaker 3: Do over do it again, I guarantee you every time.

1816
01:38:24,200 --> 01:38:26,760
Speaker 3: It's not perfect, she's but don't do it yet, Well,

1817
01:38:26,800 --> 01:38:29,120
Speaker 3: that's perfect, make it perfect. That's not perfect.

1818
01:38:29,280 --> 01:38:29,519
Speaker 2: Nope.

1819
01:38:29,520 --> 01:38:31,479
Speaker 3: I don't see a marioca band, I don't see flowers.

1820
01:38:31,479 --> 01:38:34,599
Speaker 3: I don't see the burning fire on this beach at sunset,

1821
01:38:35,080 --> 01:38:37,479
Speaker 3: right at the strike of the sun hitting the water,

1822
01:38:38,280 --> 01:38:40,439
Speaker 3: but that's this is disgusting. This is discussing behavior, this

1823
01:38:40,479 --> 01:38:41,640
Speaker 3: is discussing mindset.

1824
01:38:41,960 --> 01:38:43,800
Speaker 2: It isn't like her, but I feel like it's a

1825
01:38:43,800 --> 01:38:48,880
Speaker 2: byproduct of like a lot of social media and a

1826
01:38:48,880 --> 01:38:51,960
Speaker 2: lot of so I think, if to be clear, both

1827
01:38:51,960 --> 01:38:54,759
Speaker 2: of these people are not mature enough to get married.

1828
01:38:54,800 --> 01:38:59,080
Speaker 2: They are both immature. Yeah, and I think that given

1829
01:38:59,200 --> 01:39:03,559
Speaker 2: enough time on the moon, you know, with no social media,

1830
01:39:05,200 --> 01:39:07,719
Speaker 2: there is a way back she has not given. However,

1831
01:39:07,800 --> 01:39:10,120
Speaker 2: it's not going to be with the same couple. No,

1832
01:39:10,280 --> 01:39:13,720
Speaker 2: I think she has she she could redeem herself. She's

1833
01:39:13,760 --> 01:39:17,360
Speaker 2: still twenty one. But it's like, yeah, this is clearly

1834
01:39:17,400 --> 01:39:19,400
Speaker 2: it's like y'all need to not be getting married.

1835
01:39:19,880 --> 01:39:22,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, I don't even think the like, oh, the

1836
01:39:22,960 --> 01:39:28,680
Speaker 1: trendy uh you know, super involved.

1837
01:39:28,080 --> 01:39:29,200
Speaker 2: Like proposal setup.

1838
01:39:30,720 --> 01:39:33,719
Speaker 1: I'm like putting that to the side because I'm like, Okay,

1839
01:39:34,720 --> 01:39:38,080
Speaker 1: for me, I'm like, okay, what how can I I

1840
01:39:38,120 --> 01:39:39,920
Speaker 1: just want to serve my partner. How can I do

1841
01:39:40,000 --> 01:39:42,920
Speaker 1: best to like give her what she wants within what

1842
01:39:43,000 --> 01:39:45,800
Speaker 1: I am capable of doing? Right, Like he like op

1843
01:39:45,920 --> 01:39:49,240
Speaker 1: shouldn't get like a you know, go ten thousand dollars

1844
01:39:49,280 --> 01:39:52,360
Speaker 1: in debt to like stage. This in that of money,

1845
01:39:52,360 --> 01:39:54,240
Speaker 1: that he doesn't have a stage is crazy thing, right,

1846
01:39:54,320 --> 01:39:59,200
Speaker 1: that's completely ridiculous. But can he do as Bessie can

1847
01:39:59,280 --> 01:40:02,719
Speaker 1: with what he have in like completing her her vision?

1848
01:40:02,960 --> 01:40:03,639
Speaker 2: I think so too.

1849
01:40:03,680 --> 01:40:06,880
Speaker 1: I think it's more about the fact that like she

1850
01:40:07,560 --> 01:40:10,920
Speaker 1: is completely disregarding his his efforts. She's being so cruel,

1851
01:40:11,400 --> 01:40:14,200
Speaker 1: so mean, so not even giving him a chance, being

1852
01:40:14,240 --> 01:40:15,160
Speaker 1: so demanding.

1853
01:40:16,880 --> 01:40:21,000
Speaker 2: And yeah, I know, I get it. It's that mindset.

1854
01:40:21,040 --> 01:40:23,720
Speaker 3: But it's like, dude, you're not even showing any like

1855
01:40:23,880 --> 01:40:27,439
Speaker 3: remorse or words of affirmation to op OPI has done

1856
01:40:27,680 --> 01:40:30,920
Speaker 3: all this stuff, yes, and nothing of like a thank

1857
01:40:30,960 --> 01:40:33,559
Speaker 3: you or like, oh my god, I love you or anything.

1858
01:40:33,560 --> 01:40:36,160
Speaker 3: Because that's what's getting to me, is she's ungrateful.

1859
01:40:36,240 --> 01:40:36,439
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1860
01:40:36,479 --> 01:40:40,080
Speaker 1: And and in fairness, like you know it low key

1861
01:40:40,240 --> 01:40:46,599
Speaker 1: is objectively a fire under the moonlight on Hawaii. That

1862
01:40:46,720 --> 01:40:49,880
Speaker 1: is that is objectively a fire proposal. Yeah, you know

1863
01:40:50,120 --> 01:40:52,960
Speaker 1: is a cliche to to each their own.

1864
01:40:53,040 --> 01:40:55,720
Speaker 3: It's the idea and the sentiment of love and how

1865
01:40:55,800 --> 01:40:57,320
Speaker 3: much you want to spend the rest of your life

1866
01:40:57,760 --> 01:41:02,240
Speaker 3: with this person. And she's just like try again next time, bucco,

1867
01:41:02,960 --> 01:41:06,559
Speaker 3: do better. It's the the do better for me. That's

1868
01:41:06,560 --> 01:41:08,439
Speaker 3: that's where that's I think that's where it's ticking me off.

1869
01:41:08,439 --> 01:41:11,160
Speaker 3: It's like, m m, you can do better, you can

1870
01:41:11,160 --> 01:41:11,439
Speaker 3: do better.

1871
01:41:11,520 --> 01:41:14,160
Speaker 2: Yeah it's too much. Yeah it's it's true.

1872
01:41:14,520 --> 01:41:18,439
Speaker 1: But ikey, let's close out this story here. Also, can

1873
01:41:18,479 --> 01:41:23,880
Speaker 1: we make me like a like, aw can Mike, I'm

1874
01:41:23,920 --> 01:41:29,680
Speaker 1: gonna boke too high? But anyways, oh yeah, you got it?

1875
01:41:29,760 --> 01:41:33,280
Speaker 1: Oh guys, Dakota's or Dakota Kean's there we go. I

1876
01:41:34,160 --> 01:41:38,479
Speaker 1: think right there all right, like like down.

1877
01:41:38,320 --> 01:41:43,320
Speaker 2: A little bit. I like how Hannah said it's a

1878
01:41:43,360 --> 01:41:48,240
Speaker 2: beach in Hawaii? Am I misunderstanding? Right? True? It's like

1879
01:41:48,360 --> 01:41:49,519
Speaker 2: con come on.

1880
01:41:50,320 --> 01:41:54,000
Speaker 1: So note to the people asking why I couldn't propose

1881
01:41:54,000 --> 01:41:57,200
Speaker 1: The next day at sunset, another requirement for her proposal

1882
01:41:57,360 --> 01:41:58,800
Speaker 1: was for her dog to be there.

1883
01:41:59,439 --> 01:42:04,120
Speaker 3: Okay, shut up, shut up now, now do you get it?

1884
01:42:05,080 --> 01:42:05,760
Speaker 2: I think I get it?

1885
01:42:05,840 --> 01:42:10,479
Speaker 1: Not which she told me, uh, which she told me

1886
01:42:10,760 --> 01:42:14,520
Speaker 1: that same minute after telling me it's not what she expected.

1887
01:42:14,800 --> 01:42:18,080
Speaker 1: So she just told him just then, oh my dog

1888
01:42:18,160 --> 01:42:19,439
Speaker 1: needs to be here, but he didn't know.

1889
01:42:19,560 --> 01:42:20,599
Speaker 2: Yeah, it seems crazy.

1890
01:42:20,800 --> 01:42:23,320
Speaker 1: She absolutely adores this dog and has always told me

1891
01:42:23,479 --> 01:42:25,760
Speaker 1: she wants him to be the ring bear.

1892
01:42:25,880 --> 01:42:30,320
Speaker 2: At our wedding. Cute, gross cute, that's fine, it's cute.

1893
01:42:30,320 --> 01:42:32,880
Speaker 2: That's not fine. You give that to the baby. You

1894
01:42:32,920 --> 01:42:34,880
Speaker 2: give the ring bear a job to a baby, I

1895
01:42:35,000 --> 01:42:37,920
Speaker 2: mean the dog. Do you know? Also, don't your dog

1896
01:42:37,960 --> 01:42:41,600
Speaker 2: to the wedding? Sorry, what are you doing? Honestly I

1897
01:42:41,640 --> 01:42:43,280
Speaker 2: had the weddings with the dogs are there and they're chill,

1898
01:42:43,360 --> 01:42:46,960
Speaker 2: they're they're well behaved. Yeah, I'm just thinking of getting

1899
01:42:46,960 --> 01:42:51,280
Speaker 2: a dog with a bow taking of untrained, unruly time.

1900
01:42:51,640 --> 01:42:54,400
Speaker 3: But like I said earlier, she has it's never gonna

1901
01:42:54,479 --> 01:42:57,280
Speaker 3: please her. She's gonna keep wanting more and more to

1902
01:42:57,520 --> 01:42:59,519
Speaker 3: like it's so perfect, this is so perfect. Nothing's going

1903
01:42:59,560 --> 01:42:59,960
Speaker 3: to be perfect.

1904
01:43:00,200 --> 01:43:02,240
Speaker 2: Or yeah, imagine you bust out the ring and she's

1905
01:43:02,320 --> 01:43:05,200
Speaker 2: like that that's what it is. Our guarantee it. She's like,

1906
01:43:05,240 --> 01:43:12,519
Speaker 2: that's not twenty four carrot. True true issue is, oh

1907
01:43:12,560 --> 01:43:13,080
Speaker 2: waited up?

1908
01:43:13,760 --> 01:43:15,439
Speaker 1: She wants the dog to be a ring bear at

1909
01:43:15,479 --> 01:43:18,160
Speaker 1: her wedding. Sure thing, if it makes her happy, I

1910
01:43:18,160 --> 01:43:21,519
Speaker 1: really don't mind. Issue is she always wanted that to

1911
01:43:21,520 --> 01:43:24,680
Speaker 1: be the case for the proposal, which I was absolutely

1912
01:43:24,760 --> 01:43:28,080
Speaker 1: unaware of, and obviously we didn't take the dog with us.

1913
01:43:28,439 --> 01:43:30,760
Speaker 1: She was just too focused on how she wanted the

1914
01:43:30,760 --> 01:43:35,120
Speaker 1: proposal rather than being excited about being with me Yes,

1915
01:43:35,160 --> 01:43:37,400
Speaker 1: and never acknowledged that one thousand percent.

1916
01:43:39,200 --> 01:43:43,360
Speaker 2: Case close. That's it, mic drop from that story. Did

1917
01:43:43,360 --> 01:43:46,000
Speaker 2: we get anything from op wanting anything for the proposal

1918
01:43:46,080 --> 01:43:51,519
Speaker 2: other than proposing to her? No, not really. Yeah, I

1919
01:43:51,560 --> 01:43:52,960
Speaker 2: think I think it hinges on.

1920
01:43:55,560 --> 01:43:59,640
Speaker 1: Hey, what you know, whatever will make her feel like

1921
01:43:59,680 --> 01:44:02,840
Speaker 1: the proposal is great if he also feels.

1922
01:44:03,000 --> 01:44:03,599
Speaker 2: Good about that.

1923
01:44:03,680 --> 01:44:06,639
Speaker 1: Like, for instance, for people that might have like a fear,

1924
01:44:07,080 --> 01:44:09,280
Speaker 1: like a fear of being in front of people, or

1925
01:44:09,880 --> 01:44:12,599
Speaker 1: like social anxiety or something, maybe like a big, grand

1926
01:44:12,600 --> 01:44:14,599
Speaker 1: proposal in front of a ton of people would be

1927
01:44:15,080 --> 01:44:18,360
Speaker 1: make a terrible experience for you know, the person proposing,

1928
01:44:19,080 --> 01:44:21,200
Speaker 1: you know, like, yeah, we can't, we can't do it

1929
01:44:21,240 --> 01:44:23,040
Speaker 1: to the detriment of the proposer.

1930
01:44:23,479 --> 01:44:27,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, Opie was doing all the right things,

1931
01:44:27,400 --> 01:44:29,679
Speaker 3: and even then that wasn't hitting an didn't even strike

1932
01:44:29,720 --> 01:44:32,599
Speaker 3: a chord for her, Yeah, it wasn't, not not even

1933
01:44:32,880 --> 01:44:34,000
Speaker 3: one like oh this is great.

1934
01:44:34,080 --> 01:44:36,479
Speaker 1: Didn't even try to be empathetic to him or like, oh,

1935
01:44:36,479 --> 01:44:39,160
Speaker 1: oh my god, you know this trip is amazing. You're amazing,

1936
01:44:39,240 --> 01:44:40,920
Speaker 1: I love you and I want to marry you.

1937
01:44:41,360 --> 01:44:41,559
Speaker 2: Is it.

1938
01:44:41,800 --> 01:44:46,120
Speaker 1: Okay, if we do, you know a couple other fun

1939
01:44:46,200 --> 01:44:49,080
Speaker 1: things I went there, that's at least at least at

1940
01:44:49,160 --> 01:44:50,920
Speaker 1: least at least ten times better.

1941
01:44:51,560 --> 01:44:53,800
Speaker 2: Right if Jim and Pam could do it at a

1942
01:44:53,960 --> 01:44:57,280
Speaker 2: freaking gas station in the rain. Okay, Well, you're talking

1943
01:44:57,280 --> 01:45:00,280
Speaker 2: about one of the most iconic proposals, arguably of all

1944
01:45:00,360 --> 01:45:03,599
Speaker 2: of American media. So I'm just kidding, like, that's that's

1945
01:45:03,600 --> 01:45:07,519
Speaker 2: a hard one to compare to. That's true. I also

1946
01:45:07,560 --> 01:45:09,599
Speaker 2: need to get ahead of something right now. Guys, in

1947
01:45:09,640 --> 01:45:13,000
Speaker 2: my head, the dogs were like, give me a give

1948
01:45:13,000 --> 01:45:15,519
Speaker 2: me a dog that's unruly, give me a pop culture

1949
01:45:15,560 --> 01:45:18,880
Speaker 2: dog that is not well behaved. No, no, not just

1950
01:45:18,920 --> 01:45:22,679
Speaker 2: a breed like a I was thinking of, like behave

1951
01:45:22,880 --> 01:45:27,240
Speaker 2: not good. I was thinking, Yeah, I imagined like just

1952
01:45:27,320 --> 01:45:30,400
Speaker 2: like ten dogs running around everywhere for some reason, and

1953
01:45:30,439 --> 01:45:33,479
Speaker 2: I was just like, that's a bad idea. But you're right, Okay,

1954
01:45:33,520 --> 01:45:35,679
Speaker 2: a dog can't be the ring bearer. And I don't

1955
01:45:35,720 --> 01:45:38,920
Speaker 2: hate dogs. Please don't come at me, please please da coda.

1956
01:45:39,240 --> 01:45:45,040
Speaker 2: Do be honest with you. There is almost nothing I

1957
01:45:45,080 --> 01:45:51,400
Speaker 2: am more annoyed by than an untrained, unruly dog. You're annoying.

1958
01:45:51,520 --> 01:45:54,439
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, fair enough I don't hate them, but my god,

1959
01:45:54,560 --> 01:45:55,320
Speaker 2: are they annoying?

1960
01:45:56,040 --> 01:45:59,479
Speaker 3: Uh? To get my mind off of things, here's.

1961
01:46:00,920 --> 01:46:01,320
Speaker 1: Ah.

1962
01:46:01,400 --> 01:46:04,320
Speaker 3: Yes, I thought for a second, like I saw yaki.

1963
01:46:04,400 --> 01:46:07,040
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, uh call it taco yaki, which

1964
01:46:07,040 --> 01:46:08,200
Speaker 3: is like the little squid balls.

1965
01:46:08,360 --> 01:46:10,840
Speaker 2: That was really good. But let's tep in yak.

1966
01:46:12,120 --> 01:46:16,160
Speaker 1: Listen, listen any dinner on a Hawaiian beach. Then walking

1967
01:46:16,320 --> 01:46:19,680
Speaker 1: in sunset, it's it's gonna be vibes. It's gonna be

1968
01:46:19,680 --> 01:46:24,000
Speaker 1: freaking vibes. So it's like nothing can please this woman. Sorry, yeah,

1969
01:46:24,240 --> 01:46:27,760
Speaker 1: nothing at all. But that's the end of that story.

1970
01:46:28,400 --> 01:46:34,559
Speaker 1: Prevorse prerse, pre mars, pre marse, pre marse, pray mars.

1971
01:46:35,640 --> 01:46:37,360
Speaker 2: Oh sorry we haven't.

1972
01:46:37,439 --> 01:46:39,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, we haven't had a good divorce pre orse chan

1973
01:46:39,439 --> 01:46:41,840
Speaker 1: Wow man, good guys. Yes, I know there are dogs

1974
01:46:41,840 --> 01:46:44,120
Speaker 1: that are behaved. I'm not talking about those dogs. I'm

1975
01:46:44,120 --> 01:46:47,080
Speaker 1: talking about the other ones. I like dogs. I even

1976
01:46:47,120 --> 01:46:48,040
Speaker 1: like them when they're not behaved.

1977
01:46:48,040 --> 01:46:51,400
Speaker 2: They're just really annoying and I wouldn't want untrained dogs

1978
01:46:51,400 --> 01:46:55,280
Speaker 2: at my wedding. I'm sorry. Yeah. I also I do

1979
01:46:55,400 --> 01:46:57,680
Speaker 2: like cats more than dogs, so you can come at

1980
01:46:57,680 --> 01:46:59,720
Speaker 2: me for that, but don't ever be telling me. I

1981
01:46:59,760 --> 01:47:04,920
Speaker 2: hate dogs because I don't my favorite the only I'm

1982
01:47:04,960 --> 01:47:08,680
Speaker 2: gonna just stop talking. You got I believe it? Do you?

1983
01:47:08,680 --> 01:47:11,760
Speaker 1: I believe I might. I might pass it off to

1984
01:47:12,439 --> 01:47:15,880
Speaker 1: my me. Old throat is not the throats goat is

1985
01:47:15,960 --> 01:47:21,280
Speaker 1: not quite just you know it's not the old old

1986
01:47:21,439 --> 01:47:33,479
Speaker 1: throat does not preturn to his former glory yet.

1987
01:47:30,320 --> 01:47:34,760
Speaker 2: Friends, But we did get some donations. Oh bug, thanks.

1988
01:47:34,479 --> 01:47:38,679
Speaker 1: For the twenty five bucks, thirty more minutes, question mark.

1989
01:47:39,640 --> 01:47:43,240
Speaker 1: I guess we're gonna find out. Uh and then what

1990
01:47:43,280 --> 01:47:48,519
Speaker 1: the hell? Bug again getting the line by thirty three cents?

1991
01:47:48,560 --> 01:47:51,240
Speaker 1: Mind you, I love the the barely over the line

1992
01:47:51,640 --> 01:47:55,240
Speaker 1: with a ah, what the hell? And and there it

1993
01:47:55,280 --> 01:47:59,480
Speaker 1: is and wingles right behind bug with the ten gifted memberships.

1994
01:47:59,520 --> 01:48:01,439
Speaker 1: There you go, and I have a feeling that won't

1995
01:48:01,439 --> 01:48:02,320
Speaker 1: be the last one either.

1996
01:48:02,520 --> 01:48:03,599
Speaker 2: I have a feeling.

1997
01:48:05,400 --> 01:48:07,360
Speaker 1: And then not sure if you read this already, but Hannah,

1998
01:48:07,360 --> 01:48:09,599
Speaker 1: thanks for to twenty five bucks also as well.

1999
01:48:13,000 --> 01:48:14,439
Speaker 2: You know, I don't think we got that wich.

2000
01:48:14,479 --> 01:48:16,960
Speaker 1: We did not, we did not. Well, there you go, glady, Glad,

2001
01:48:16,960 --> 01:48:19,559
Speaker 1: Toby Major. We got it is that everything on the tiplink.

2002
01:48:19,680 --> 01:48:22,200
Speaker 2: Stop it, stop it, stop it, stop saying I hate dogs.

2003
01:48:22,240 --> 01:48:25,439
Speaker 2: Stop it where's Kimberly Holly. Kimberly Hawley said that she

2004
01:48:25,479 --> 01:48:27,240
Speaker 2: has a dog that she loves too, and she would

2005
01:48:27,240 --> 01:48:31,120
Speaker 2: be an absolute menace at her wedding. Okay, we can

2006
01:48:31,280 --> 01:48:34,000
Speaker 2: like the dogs and not like them in settings where

2007
01:48:34,000 --> 01:48:41,000
Speaker 2: they need to be well behaved. I think it is

2008
01:48:41,120 --> 01:48:43,760
Speaker 2: easier to make a baby walk in a straight line

2009
01:48:43,840 --> 01:48:47,320
Speaker 2: than the dogs. Okay, I think it would be stop

2010
01:48:47,400 --> 01:48:49,960
Speaker 2: talking stop stop no, no, I think it would be

2011
01:48:50,720 --> 01:48:51,599
Speaker 2: walk that way.

2012
01:48:52,280 --> 01:48:54,960
Speaker 1: I love this. I love this rabbit hole for thecause

2013
01:48:55,720 --> 01:48:58,400
Speaker 1: I love. I love it like this has happened to

2014
01:48:58,400 --> 01:48:59,240
Speaker 1: me in the past.

2015
01:49:00,080 --> 01:49:04,200
Speaker 2: Kean might know. Oh my god, I don't hate I'm sorry.

2016
01:49:04,280 --> 01:49:06,559
Speaker 1: But Stella says Johnny's baby is to cutts dog, and

2017
01:49:06,640 --> 01:49:11,040
Speaker 1: Sam hates successful relationships getting on his shirt.

2018
01:49:11,240 --> 01:49:12,360
Speaker 2: I'm dead.

2019
01:49:11,680 --> 01:49:18,920
Speaker 1: I'm dead, all right, youtubs, let's read those those wingles again.

2020
01:49:18,960 --> 01:49:23,200
Speaker 1: Takes her time, gift memberships a heart of alo, thanks

2021
01:49:23,240 --> 01:49:26,439
Speaker 1: for the two box the pole pre force or.

2022
01:49:26,439 --> 01:49:28,200
Speaker 2: Not, you know what? That would have been a good poll.

2023
01:49:28,320 --> 01:49:32,240
Speaker 2: The time is tragically passed. But we literally chanted Prevoric

2024
01:49:32,320 --> 01:49:34,720
Speaker 2: So I think we I think we ended up on

2025
01:49:34,760 --> 01:49:35,639
Speaker 2: the Prevorice train.

2026
01:49:35,840 --> 01:49:38,519
Speaker 1: Yeah, we we we We got to the answer and

2027
01:49:38,560 --> 01:49:41,160
Speaker 1: then is there anything else on that.

2028
01:49:41,240 --> 01:49:43,439
Speaker 2: Is it looks like I do have to use the

2029
01:49:43,439 --> 01:49:44,559
Speaker 2: little Sam's room. I'll be right back.

2030
01:49:44,600 --> 01:49:46,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, get out of here, dude, get that weeder in

2031
01:49:46,720 --> 01:49:47,960
Speaker 1: your hand, Sam's room.

2032
01:49:48,240 --> 01:49:54,680
Speaker 2: Get it in there. Oh boy, Okay, I can't scrolling

2033
01:49:54,720 --> 01:49:59,640
Speaker 2: anymore because you know here all the tinkle town. No,

2034
01:49:59,640 --> 01:50:05,160
Speaker 2: don't worry. Keon's coming back. No he's not. Now you

2035
01:50:05,200 --> 01:50:09,360
Speaker 2: can all bully me all. I mean, look, dogs, I'll

2036
01:50:09,360 --> 01:50:11,599
Speaker 2: tell you the dogs I like the most. The dogs

2037
01:50:11,640 --> 01:50:14,960
Speaker 2: I like the most are the funny enough, the giant

2038
01:50:15,560 --> 01:50:22,120
Speaker 2: dufish goofballs who are actually constantly doing things wrong as

2039
01:50:22,200 --> 01:50:26,519
Speaker 2: Puppy's right. But then you train the dog. You have to.

2040
01:50:28,280 --> 01:50:31,559
Speaker 2: If you're gonna have a dog, you have to train it.

2041
01:50:32,960 --> 01:50:39,320
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, you have to train a dog. What about chaos? Right?

2042
01:50:39,479 --> 01:50:42,160
Speaker 2: Or You're gonna get a chaos dog? And It's like, sure,

2043
01:50:43,040 --> 01:50:46,800
Speaker 2: you can have a chaos dog, but I'm not gonna

2044
01:50:46,880 --> 01:50:50,559
Speaker 2: like it as much as if it was not chaotic.

2045
01:50:50,560 --> 01:50:54,000
Speaker 2: And I think maybe I'm being biased because if it

2046
01:50:54,080 --> 01:50:58,559
Speaker 2: was my dog, I might like not care, but at

2047
01:50:58,560 --> 01:51:00,719
Speaker 2: the same time, I would train my dog. I literally

2048
01:51:00,720 --> 01:51:02,920
Speaker 2: come from like my grandfather on my mom's side, it was.

2049
01:51:03,560 --> 01:51:05,599
Speaker 2: I mean, he he had his dogs trained like they

2050
01:51:05,600 --> 01:51:11,240
Speaker 2: could almost speak English, right, I was actually I was

2051
01:51:11,280 --> 01:51:14,400
Speaker 2: actually really really afraid of dogs as a as a

2052
01:51:14,439 --> 01:51:16,960
Speaker 2: small child because my one of my best friends had

2053
01:51:17,000 --> 01:51:19,320
Speaker 2: a little yapper that would just like it was loud,

2054
01:51:19,400 --> 01:51:22,200
Speaker 2: so it would scare me. And I had the dogs

2055
01:51:22,200 --> 01:51:28,200
Speaker 2: here for the first like part of my childhood. But yeah,

2056
01:51:28,240 --> 01:51:30,559
Speaker 2: the bigger and dumber they are, the more I like them,

2057
01:51:30,840 --> 01:51:33,120
Speaker 2: because that's you're literally a big dumb dog. I'm not

2058
01:51:33,120 --> 01:51:35,879
Speaker 2: saying you're not. Also, you know what, Alex had dogs

2059
01:51:36,040 --> 01:51:38,880
Speaker 2: that were also very small and adorable, and so it's

2060
01:51:38,920 --> 01:51:41,759
Speaker 2: if they're either small, they're either really small or really big.

2061
01:51:41,600 --> 01:51:45,280
Speaker 1: And those are my favorite. So but I am also

2062
01:51:45,280 --> 01:51:49,840
Speaker 1: a cat person more than anything. Sorry, but don't tell

2063
01:51:49,840 --> 01:51:51,280
Speaker 1: me I hate dogs, because I don't.

2064
01:51:52,040 --> 01:51:54,080
Speaker 2: If we were dogs, what would be what? What would

2065
01:51:54,120 --> 01:51:54,360
Speaker 2: we be?

2066
01:51:55,600 --> 01:52:02,240
Speaker 1: You would be a Corgi, yeah, border border Collie for Dakota.

2067
01:52:02,560 --> 01:52:08,639
Speaker 1: You'd be a bloodhound me, No, he wouldn't a bloodhound.

2068
01:52:09,000 --> 01:52:09,640
Speaker 2: No no, no, no no.

2069
01:52:09,640 --> 01:52:09,760
Speaker 1: No.

2070
01:52:10,040 --> 01:52:13,760
Speaker 2: Beagle bagle Bagle, beagle beagle. Yeah. I think Riley would

2071
01:52:13,760 --> 01:52:17,800
Speaker 2: be a bagel. You would be Riley's. Riley's one of

2072
01:52:17,840 --> 01:52:23,080
Speaker 2: those Riley's like a like a big No, that's not right.

2073
01:52:23,160 --> 01:52:26,120
Speaker 2: That's John, that's right, pull up.

2074
01:52:26,000 --> 01:52:31,320
Speaker 1: Like a big Yorkie, the big bagle vibes Yorkie poodle,

2075
01:52:32,280 --> 01:52:33,040
Speaker 1: the large ones.

2076
01:52:33,120 --> 01:52:43,840
Speaker 2: That's that's Riley. No, not what let me see I

2077
01:52:43,880 --> 01:52:46,960
Speaker 2: put put a york poodle with a big Yorkie poodle.

2078
01:52:47,200 --> 01:52:48,960
Speaker 2: I think I don't know if that's the breed or not.

2079
01:52:50,040 --> 01:52:51,439
Speaker 2: Everyone's saying that you're a golden Retriever.

2080
01:52:51,520 --> 01:52:56,240
Speaker 1: John, that's actually low key.

2081
01:52:56,280 --> 01:53:00,880
Speaker 2: Tell me that one is not like I could roll

2082
01:53:00,920 --> 01:53:02,639
Speaker 2: on the left right next to it on the left.

2083
01:53:03,080 --> 01:53:06,639
Speaker 2: That's not right, Fine, okay, it's not cool.

2084
01:53:06,680 --> 01:53:10,160
Speaker 1: I'm wrong, Yeah I did. I don't know if matching

2085
01:53:10,439 --> 01:53:14,519
Speaker 1: personality of dogs is your gift of your many gifts.

2086
01:53:14,840 --> 01:53:16,360
Speaker 1: I guess your many many gifts.

2087
01:53:17,520 --> 01:53:18,680
Speaker 2: I mean, uh.

2088
01:53:18,920 --> 01:53:21,760
Speaker 1: The Lawyer Princess says, I'm an Afghan hound. Can we

2089
01:53:21,840 --> 01:53:24,639
Speaker 1: google that really quick? Because what actually?

2090
01:53:25,000 --> 01:53:28,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, because they have the most majestic coat of any

2091
01:53:29,080 --> 01:53:39,240
Speaker 2: any dog. Wait wait, wait, that's funny, the Lawyer Princess.

2092
01:53:39,439 --> 01:53:44,840
Speaker 2: That's good. That is good. That is good, dude, you

2093
01:53:44,920 --> 01:53:46,599
Speaker 2: know what I'll take it.

2094
01:53:46,680 --> 01:53:50,560
Speaker 1: That is that is so funny.

2095
01:53:50,880 --> 01:53:56,880
Speaker 2: Oh I'm dead, bro, I'm so dead. Mm hm. Oh,

2096
01:53:57,000 --> 01:54:01,840
Speaker 2: Jakota is a husky. Now I can see that.

2097
01:54:01,920 --> 01:54:06,000
Speaker 1: Somebody said huskies are cat software on dog hardware.

2098
01:54:07,280 --> 01:54:12,679
Speaker 2: That's Dakota. That is not. No, it's that one.

2099
01:54:13,080 --> 01:54:16,560
Speaker 1: That's the one I was saying, was Riley.

2100
01:54:17,360 --> 01:54:23,320
Speaker 2: That's Riley that I was Yes, tell me that is

2101
01:54:23,400 --> 01:54:28,320
Speaker 2: not Riley. Oh my god, yes, yes, that is the one. Yes,

2102
01:54:29,160 --> 01:54:33,760
Speaker 2: a dude, I feel like I feel like you would

2103
01:54:33,800 --> 01:54:37,800
Speaker 2: not be happy. I feel like you'd be happy with

2104
01:54:37,840 --> 01:54:39,440
Speaker 2: the top right one that look at he looked, that

2105
01:54:39,440 --> 01:54:41,960
Speaker 2: would looks majestic, the fox terry on the top right. Oh,

2106
01:54:42,120 --> 01:54:45,960
Speaker 2: Dakota is a chocolate lab. That's that's low key, A

2107
01:54:46,000 --> 01:54:50,720
Speaker 2: little true though, stop Eleana stuff saying I hate doll.

2108
01:54:51,520 --> 01:54:53,360
Speaker 2: We're getting a little deep in this rabbit hole. It's

2109
01:54:53,400 --> 01:54:55,360
Speaker 2: kind of it's kind of fire though fire. It's a

2110
01:54:55,360 --> 01:55:00,520
Speaker 2: fire rabbit hole. I kind of love it. A dream

2111
01:55:00,520 --> 01:55:03,800
Speaker 2: about this, yeah, not a corky. When you have a

2112
01:55:03,840 --> 01:55:05,360
Speaker 2: second you highlight the Tomlitz comment.

2113
01:55:05,440 --> 01:55:08,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, a little bit crazy, but yeah, they they had

2114
01:55:08,880 --> 01:55:10,800
Speaker 1: a big.

2115
01:55:11,000 --> 01:55:15,840
Speaker 2: Adam it is right there. I've had little dreams about this.

2116
01:55:15,960 --> 01:55:20,560
Speaker 1: Riley is a mixed breed back road dog with big paws.

2117
01:55:20,600 --> 01:55:23,880
Speaker 1: Accurate John it's a Golden Retriever. Sophia is a labradoodle.

2118
01:55:24,160 --> 01:55:27,040
Speaker 1: Sam is a lab but Dakota is the Yorki and

2119
01:55:27,120 --> 01:55:31,920
Speaker 1: Kean yeah corky Okay, honestly super accurate, except for Dakota.

2120
01:55:31,960 --> 01:55:34,040
Speaker 1: I don't I don't think Dakota is a york My

2121
01:55:34,200 --> 01:55:34,400
Speaker 1: one of.

2122
01:55:34,440 --> 01:55:37,800
Speaker 2: My best friends had a Yorki and it was named Bradley.

2123
01:55:37,920 --> 01:55:41,840
Speaker 2: And it never shut up. Oh wait, no, no, that's

2124
01:55:41,840 --> 01:55:45,400
Speaker 2: a wrong breedn't mind, I'm getting I thought I knew

2125
01:55:45,400 --> 01:55:48,480
Speaker 2: what dogs dog breathed. This is a Scotty I love. Okay, No,

2126
01:55:48,600 --> 01:55:50,520
Speaker 2: then it must be a Yorki. Yeah. The thing would

2127
01:55:50,560 --> 01:55:55,000
Speaker 2: never shut up, and it was always biting my ankles

2128
01:55:55,040 --> 01:55:57,320
Speaker 2: and it was And guess what. I didn't even hate

2129
01:55:57,360 --> 01:56:00,840
Speaker 2: that dog. I just thought it was annoying. Whenever he

2130
01:56:00,880 --> 01:56:02,560
Speaker 2: would be nice to me, I'd be like, oh, yeah,

2131
01:56:02,680 --> 01:56:10,960
Speaker 2: Badley's being nice today. So are you a Schnauzer? Right? Oh?

2132
01:56:11,080 --> 01:56:13,360
Speaker 2: I want to be a malin waw. No, I'm not

2133
01:56:13,400 --> 01:56:17,120
Speaker 2: a Malanwa. That's like it's like at we had a

2134
01:56:17,120 --> 01:56:20,520
Speaker 2: good run. That was fun. Oh my god. Okay, Saint

2135
01:56:20,560 --> 01:56:23,080
Speaker 2: Bernard is one of my favorite dogs. It coulda is

2136
01:56:23,080 --> 01:56:24,600
Speaker 2: a husky I don't see to.

2137
01:56:25,040 --> 01:56:29,720
Speaker 1: Big dummy anyways, got okay story for us, my big

2138
01:56:29,800 --> 01:56:31,000
Speaker 1: dog dude, it's right.

2139
01:56:30,880 --> 01:56:33,840
Speaker 2: Here in my hands. You have my boyfriend's female friend,

2140
01:56:35,360 --> 01:56:42,680
Speaker 2: My boy yes, I do. You're good. My boyfriend's female

2141
01:56:42,720 --> 01:56:47,480
Speaker 2: friend is way too clingy. I need her to get away.

2142
01:56:47,720 --> 01:56:52,200
Speaker 2: I got a solution. Just if he loves her so much, merrier, Yeah,

2143
01:56:52,240 --> 01:56:55,160
Speaker 2: take her to Hawaii if you love her so much?

2144
01:56:55,360 --> 01:57:00,960
Speaker 2: On your here, okay. My boyfriend twenty five and and

2145
01:57:01,160 --> 01:57:05,640
Speaker 2: I twenty six. Sorry, my boyfriend twenty five male and

2146
01:57:05,760 --> 01:57:09,760
Speaker 2: I twenty six female have been in a relationship for

2147
01:57:09,840 --> 01:57:12,520
Speaker 2: a little over a year. We met three years ago,

2148
01:57:12,680 --> 01:57:15,560
Speaker 2: and I have always known about his female friend twenty

2149
01:57:15,640 --> 01:57:19,200
Speaker 2: four female, who we will call Mandy. By the way,

2150
01:57:19,240 --> 01:57:22,000
Speaker 2: this comes from user elegant Potato sixty eight seventy eight

2151
01:57:22,040 --> 01:57:26,640
Speaker 2: on the r slash okay storytime stubreddit. So, my boyfriend,

2152
01:57:26,680 --> 01:57:29,760
Speaker 2: who we call Chris, has been friends with Mandy for

2153
01:57:29,840 --> 01:57:33,000
Speaker 2: six years. Mandy dated one of Chris's best friends and

2154
01:57:33,080 --> 01:57:35,920
Speaker 2: college roommate for over a year, but they were all

2155
01:57:35,960 --> 01:57:39,440
Speaker 2: friends before Mandy dated his friend. He remained in contact

2156
01:57:39,480 --> 01:57:41,600
Speaker 2: with her after she and his friend broke up, but

2157
01:57:41,760 --> 01:57:44,960
Speaker 2: not as close as they were before. He rarely talked

2158
01:57:45,000 --> 01:57:48,520
Speaker 2: about Mandy and they never hung out until Chris and

2159
01:57:48,600 --> 01:57:53,280
Speaker 2: I made our relationship official. That's a weird time to

2160
01:57:53,280 --> 01:57:56,480
Speaker 2: start hanging out. I see the type of person we're

2161
01:57:56,480 --> 01:58:00,520
Speaker 2: dealing with here. When Chris and I made our relationship official,

2162
01:58:00,560 --> 01:58:03,280
Speaker 2: we lived in two separate towns over an hour away

2163
01:58:03,280 --> 01:58:06,600
Speaker 2: from each other. When we labeled our relationships, suddenly I

2164
01:58:06,600 --> 01:58:09,240
Speaker 2: would hear how Mandy was inviting him over to her

2165
01:58:09,280 --> 01:58:12,040
Speaker 2: house in the evenings and asking him to do favors

2166
01:58:12,040 --> 01:58:14,240
Speaker 2: for her, like fix the bed frame or get her

2167
01:58:14,320 --> 01:58:23,240
Speaker 2: gas because she ran out. What also, fix the bed frame? Yeah,

2168
01:58:23,320 --> 01:58:31,120
Speaker 2: that's what after you break it, Ughliva says, Oh lord,

2169
01:58:31,200 --> 01:58:36,640
Speaker 2: not the bedframe. It was annoying to me, but I

2170
01:58:36,800 --> 01:58:39,200
Speaker 2: had never met her at that point. When I finally

2171
01:58:39,240 --> 01:58:42,160
Speaker 2: did meet her, the only annoying thing was how often

2172
01:58:42,240 --> 01:58:44,640
Speaker 2: she mentioned that she and Chris had been friends for

2173
01:58:45,040 --> 01:58:49,800
Speaker 2: so long. It was weird, but I wasn't concerned. A

2174
01:58:49,880 --> 01:58:52,480
Speaker 2: month later, she invited him to go to a concert

2175
01:58:52,800 --> 01:58:56,520
Speaker 2: of an old band together in the summer. It's definitely

2176
01:58:56,560 --> 01:58:59,920
Speaker 2: not my music, but I wasn't invited at all until

2177
01:59:00,000 --> 01:59:01,960
Speaker 2: a week later, when we were all hanging out and

2178
01:59:02,000 --> 01:59:04,600
Speaker 2: she said, Oh, would you like to go? I'm sure

2179
01:59:04,640 --> 01:59:08,040
Speaker 2: you could find tickets somewhere. I really wasn't too torn

2180
01:59:08,120 --> 01:59:10,960
Speaker 2: up about it all, just annoyed still at this point.

2181
01:59:12,040 --> 01:59:14,160
Speaker 2: Fast forward to summer and I moved to the town

2182
01:59:14,240 --> 01:59:16,920
Speaker 2: my boyfriend is in. I'm trying to make an effort

2183
01:59:16,920 --> 01:59:19,960
Speaker 2: to get to know this girl because she is always around.

2184
01:59:20,440 --> 01:59:22,560
Speaker 2: We live in the same apartment complex, and there's a

2185
01:59:22,560 --> 01:59:25,920
Speaker 2: pool we would go to during these days. The first

2186
01:59:25,920 --> 01:59:29,680
Speaker 2: major red flag comment she says to me alone is quote,

2187
01:59:30,080 --> 01:59:32,520
Speaker 2: sometimes I wonder what my life would be like if

2188
01:59:32,600 --> 01:59:35,640
Speaker 2: I was the one dating Chris. I see how sweet

2189
01:59:35,640 --> 01:59:42,200
Speaker 2: he is to you, and I want that. Ew, what

2190
01:59:42,400 --> 01:59:46,160
Speaker 2: are we doing here, Peole to tell you who they are?

2191
01:59:47,880 --> 01:59:52,520
Speaker 1: Listen, Maya Angelou over here is dropping the hot knowledge bombs,

2192
01:59:52,560 --> 01:59:57,360
Speaker 1: because yeah, when people show you who they are, you

2193
01:59:57,560 --> 01:59:59,280
Speaker 1: believe them.

2194
02:00:00,040 --> 02:00:09,560
Speaker 2: Angelie looking good. Dude on Earth? What is this person

2195
02:00:09,880 --> 02:00:16,000
Speaker 2: on to be saying that? Oh? My god, So, like

2196
02:00:16,160 --> 02:00:22,000
Speaker 2: any girlfriend, I became concerned. I should have said something then,

2197
02:00:22,080 --> 02:00:25,920
Speaker 2: but I hate confrontation. Also, for the sake of the

2198
02:00:25,920 --> 02:00:27,560
Speaker 2: story length, I'm going to be cutting a lot of

2199
02:00:27,560 --> 02:00:29,800
Speaker 2: sketchy things that she said to me and only give

2200
02:00:29,800 --> 02:00:32,240
Speaker 2: you the juicy details, because this was not the worst thing.

2201
02:00:33,400 --> 02:00:36,800
Speaker 2: That's not the worst thing. I imagine myself with Chris

2202
02:00:36,840 --> 02:00:43,080
Speaker 2: instead of you. WHOA fast forward one month later, her

2203
02:00:43,120 --> 02:00:45,720
Speaker 2: and my boyfriend went to the concert without me. What

2204
02:00:46,920 --> 02:00:51,480
Speaker 2: you let that happen after that interaction? You didn't did

2205
02:00:51,520 --> 02:00:54,240
Speaker 2: you tell him that? She said that, Oh my god,

2206
02:00:57,480 --> 02:01:02,560
Speaker 2: god bout full of food. I'm just spit on the microphone.

2207
02:01:07,960 --> 02:01:11,680
Speaker 2: I didn't know you exactly, I did not. You're extra

2208
02:01:11,760 --> 02:01:15,000
Speaker 2: devious today, Kean. I just missed you guys. Yeah, you

2209
02:01:15,000 --> 02:01:21,320
Speaker 2: missed you too, You DoD babe. So fast forward one

2210
02:01:21,320 --> 02:01:23,280
Speaker 2: a month later, her and my boyfriend went to the

2211
02:01:23,320 --> 02:01:26,080
Speaker 2: concert without me, and she posted a picture of them

2212
02:01:26,160 --> 02:01:28,840
Speaker 2: together at the concert, which is the only picture they

2213
02:01:28,840 --> 02:01:33,080
Speaker 2: have together in their six years of friendship. Imagine that. Also,

2214
02:01:33,200 --> 02:01:34,960
Speaker 2: he told me that she barely knew any of the

2215
02:01:35,040 --> 02:01:37,560
Speaker 2: songs and was miserable the whole time, so he was

2216
02:01:37,600 --> 02:01:40,520
Speaker 2: confused why she wanted to go. I know why. So

2217
02:01:40,600 --> 02:01:44,000
Speaker 2: you didn't tell him that, which is crazy, Opie.

2218
02:01:44,640 --> 02:01:52,360
Speaker 1: You tell him that immediately, anyway, Kean, key on, you

2219
02:01:52,480 --> 02:01:54,480
Speaker 1: leave him alone.

2220
02:01:56,120 --> 02:02:03,200
Speaker 2: Anyway, she was at my apartment. I'm a little bit

2221
02:02:03,200 --> 02:02:04,920
Speaker 2: of you know, I can have a little tom foolery

2222
02:02:04,960 --> 02:02:07,760
Speaker 2: over here to you. You know, yeah, listener's uh Keon

2223
02:02:08,000 --> 02:02:10,960
Speaker 2: is a tomfoolery kind of guy, and honestly, when he

2224
02:02:10,960 --> 02:02:12,920
Speaker 2: sits in the chair, he has to be the guy

2225
02:02:12,960 --> 02:02:15,320
Speaker 2: who rains in the tomfoolery and it's hard on his

2226
02:02:15,520 --> 02:02:18,400
Speaker 2: tomfoolery brain. I get it. So you want to you

2227
02:02:18,400 --> 02:02:20,160
Speaker 2: wanna rob all rouse yourself a little over.

2228
02:02:20,480 --> 02:02:22,680
Speaker 3: A little bit, let me a little bit. This is

2229
02:02:22,720 --> 02:02:24,400
Speaker 3: this is my This is my way of getting into

2230
02:02:24,440 --> 02:02:25,280
Speaker 3: like a little.

2231
02:02:26,800 --> 02:02:29,920
Speaker 2: Boy. At some point, I'll produce some episodes and you

2232
02:02:29,960 --> 02:02:34,320
Speaker 2: can sit and be but I don't know how. Okay,

2233
02:02:34,320 --> 02:02:35,960
Speaker 2: never mind, I see I'm getting it right now. Oh

2234
02:02:36,000 --> 02:02:39,680
Speaker 2: my god. Okay, back to the story. God, Okay. Anyway,

2235
02:02:40,200 --> 02:02:42,280
Speaker 2: she was at my apartment helping me do stuff for

2236
02:02:42,360 --> 02:02:46,520
Speaker 2: my classroom a couple days later, and she randomly said, quote,

2237
02:02:46,880 --> 02:02:49,720
Speaker 2: Chris just didn't care if I posted the Instagram picture,

2238
02:02:49,800 --> 02:02:52,440
Speaker 2: but I don't want you to think I'm your competition.

2239
02:02:53,360 --> 02:02:56,720
Speaker 2: I was genuinely so confused because we weren't even talking

2240
02:02:56,760 --> 02:03:00,680
Speaker 2: about that, and I said, I don't think you're my competition?

2241
02:03:01,160 --> 02:03:01,520
Speaker 1: Like what?

2242
02:03:02,560 --> 02:03:05,400
Speaker 2: Uh? Then she said, oh my god, did Chris tell

2243
02:03:05,440 --> 02:03:07,800
Speaker 2: you I want him and I to get matching tattoos together.

2244
02:03:08,040 --> 02:03:09,720
Speaker 2: He's been my friend for so long and stuck by

2245
02:03:09,720 --> 02:03:12,440
Speaker 2: my side. He's the only friend I would do that with.

2246
02:03:12,960 --> 02:03:15,960
Speaker 2: Run yeah at this point, or I'll eaves, push her

2247
02:03:15,960 --> 02:03:18,720
Speaker 2: away and then run. You need to tell your boyfriend

2248
02:03:18,800 --> 02:03:23,920
Speaker 2: that she is like literally being like, I steal your man.

2249
02:03:24,280 --> 02:03:25,800
Speaker 2: I don't care what she says. Right here, she's being

2250
02:03:25,880 --> 02:03:31,280
Speaker 2: steal your man. At this point, I'm like, WTF because

2251
02:03:31,480 --> 02:03:34,640
Speaker 2: they aren't even close like that. Then later she wants

2252
02:03:34,680 --> 02:03:36,640
Speaker 2: to plan a vacation at the end of summer the

2253
02:03:36,640 --> 02:03:39,280
Speaker 2: week I start school. Backup, I'm a teacher, and she

2254
02:03:39,400 --> 02:03:42,160
Speaker 2: knew that when I started school. So when I tell

2255
02:03:42,200 --> 02:03:45,040
Speaker 2: her that wouldn't work for me, she says, oh, well,

2256
02:03:45,040 --> 02:03:48,040
Speaker 2: maybe Chris will just go with me, and is texting

2257
02:03:48,080 --> 02:03:49,960
Speaker 2: him at work convincing him to go with her. Girl,

2258
02:03:50,080 --> 02:03:54,640
Speaker 2: you got to stop being passive. Stop being passive. Tell

2259
02:03:54,680 --> 02:03:59,960
Speaker 2: your boyfriend what are we doing? He doesn't agree to go.

2260
02:04:00,000 --> 02:04:02,240
Speaker 2: Oh but why is she trying to plan a solo

2261
02:04:02,360 --> 02:04:04,760
Speaker 2: vak with just my boyfriend? Why are you acting like

2262
02:04:04,800 --> 02:04:07,200
Speaker 2: you don't know the answer to that. Finally, I later

2263
02:04:07,240 --> 02:04:10,360
Speaker 2: tell him nervously, by the way, how uncomfy she has

2264
02:04:10,400 --> 02:04:13,280
Speaker 2: made me. I'm very civil about it, but he tells

2265
02:04:13,320 --> 02:04:16,600
Speaker 2: me he understands and says it is weird behavior. Anyway.

2266
02:04:16,680 --> 02:04:19,320
Speaker 2: She doesn't do anything too crazy for a while until

2267
02:04:19,920 --> 02:04:22,000
Speaker 2: we are at a get together with friends and we

2268
02:04:22,080 --> 02:04:26,960
Speaker 2: all got done taking shots. Chris and I were standing

2269
02:04:27,040 --> 02:04:30,200
Speaker 2: close and being cute as a couple when she stands

2270
02:04:30,240 --> 02:04:34,160
Speaker 2: on the couch and says to Chris, carry me in

2271
02:04:34,240 --> 02:04:39,919
Speaker 2: a whiny voice. So he says, no, that's effing weird.

2272
02:04:40,880 --> 02:04:44,680
Speaker 2: So she says, let me get on your shoulders and

2273
02:04:44,840 --> 02:04:47,360
Speaker 2: continues to get on top of him. What do you mean?

2274
02:04:47,400 --> 02:04:51,600
Speaker 2: And continues to get on top of him What do

2275
02:04:51,680 --> 02:04:55,320
Speaker 2: we mean by that? Because he could literally at any

2276
02:04:55,360 --> 02:04:59,360
Speaker 2: point just be like, hey, I'm not letting you climb.

2277
02:04:59,360 --> 02:05:01,360
Speaker 2: Do you know how much consent you have to give

2278
02:05:01,440 --> 02:05:03,200
Speaker 2: to let someone get up onto your shoulders.

2279
02:05:04,400 --> 02:05:08,720
Speaker 1: It's both the comfort and the like safety, you know,

2280
02:05:09,040 --> 02:05:10,919
Speaker 1: like there's there's so many layers.

2281
02:05:11,240 --> 02:05:14,080
Speaker 2: I don't know. This is just really weird. Listen, this

2282
02:05:14,160 --> 02:05:17,040
Speaker 2: is already all fed up. But I'm definitely bigger than

2283
02:05:17,080 --> 02:05:19,440
Speaker 2: she is. To me, She's one of those girls who

2284
02:05:19,480 --> 02:05:21,840
Speaker 2: did that to prove to me that he could carry

2285
02:05:21,840 --> 02:05:25,440
Speaker 2: her with ease and not me. Maybe I'm overthinking that piece,

2286
02:05:25,520 --> 02:05:29,240
Speaker 2: but come on, oh god, that's an extra gross layer.

2287
02:05:29,840 --> 02:05:42,440
Speaker 2: You literally don't you literally don't like. This girl needs

2288
02:05:42,440 --> 02:05:44,720
Speaker 2: to go. That's all I'm gonna say. This girl needs

2289
02:05:44,720 --> 02:05:48,480
Speaker 2: to go, bye bye. She wanted him to carry her.

2290
02:05:48,800 --> 02:05:51,360
Speaker 2: I was at my breaking point and told him I

2291
02:05:51,560 --> 02:05:53,880
Speaker 2: was going to set her straight the next day. I

2292
02:05:53,960 --> 02:05:57,160
Speaker 2: did so over Snapchat, and she was apologetic, of course,

2293
02:05:57,400 --> 02:06:01,360
Speaker 2: but that still didn't stop her. She always does and

2294
02:06:01,400 --> 02:06:04,760
Speaker 2: says weird and sketchy things. Still. The most recent she

2295
02:06:04,920 --> 02:06:09,680
Speaker 2: literally asked him to be her little swimmer. Don'tor I

2296
02:06:09,720 --> 02:06:12,840
Speaker 2: am not even kidding When she asked, I said, no,

2297
02:06:13,880 --> 02:06:18,320
Speaker 2: that is a effing weird question, and she got very red.

2298
02:06:18,920 --> 02:06:20,960
Speaker 2: I told Chris that the next time she does something

2299
02:06:21,000 --> 02:06:22,720
Speaker 2: like that, he needs to be the one to say

2300
02:06:22,720 --> 02:06:25,960
Speaker 2: something to her, since she doesn't respect our relationship. I

2301
02:06:26,040 --> 02:06:28,000
Speaker 2: told him that all my friends say to cut her off,

2302
02:06:28,120 --> 02:06:30,240
Speaker 2: but I know that she is his friend. He says

2303
02:06:30,240 --> 02:06:32,760
Speaker 2: he agrees with me, and it is weird, but I

2304
02:06:32,760 --> 02:06:35,160
Speaker 2: don't think he understands how angry I am and how

2305
02:06:35,240 --> 02:06:38,280
Speaker 2: much it bothers me. He's so oblivious to it all.

2306
02:06:38,560 --> 02:06:41,880
Speaker 2: But also op I think part of why he's oblivious

2307
02:06:42,000 --> 02:06:45,400
Speaker 2: is you don't seem to have communicated any of the

2308
02:06:45,400 --> 02:06:47,880
Speaker 2: way that you are feeling to him in like a

2309
02:06:47,920 --> 02:06:50,800
Speaker 2: real way. Whether that's because you don't like confrontation or not.

2310
02:06:51,400 --> 02:06:54,880
Speaker 1: But like from the first moment she said, I just

2311
02:06:55,120 --> 02:06:59,320
Speaker 1: am always picturing myself with your boyfriend instead of you.

2312
02:06:59,320 --> 02:07:02,560
Speaker 2: You tell him that, and you go, I don't like

2313
02:07:02,640 --> 02:07:03,080
Speaker 2: this one.

2314
02:07:03,440 --> 02:07:09,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I'm like, admittedly, this is maybe the most

2315
02:07:09,440 --> 02:07:15,160
Speaker 1: obvious case we've ever seen of like, oh, she clearly

2316
02:07:15,200 --> 02:07:17,680
Speaker 1: wants you and is trying to like get in between

2317
02:07:17,720 --> 02:07:20,560
Speaker 1: and destroy your relationship to steal you.

2318
02:07:20,760 --> 02:07:24,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, but still.

2319
02:07:24,760 --> 02:07:29,280
Speaker 1: She should share how she feels because she deserves that.

2320
02:07:29,360 --> 02:07:31,280
Speaker 2: Dude, you have to talk. You have to do it immediately,

2321
02:07:31,360 --> 02:07:33,400
Speaker 2: no matter how weird it is, no matter how weird

2322
02:07:33,440 --> 02:07:35,200
Speaker 2: it feels. I've literally had to do this before I

2323
02:07:35,240 --> 02:07:37,560
Speaker 2: had someone. So I think Keon actually knows the story.

2324
02:07:37,760 --> 02:07:41,000
Speaker 2: But somebody after they had gotten with us, they started

2325
02:07:41,040 --> 02:07:43,760
Speaker 2: dating somebody we had at literally at one point we

2326
02:07:44,120 --> 02:07:46,120
Speaker 2: never did, we just made we just had we like

2327
02:07:46,120 --> 02:07:48,400
Speaker 2: looked at each other at one point, right and they

2328
02:07:48,440 --> 02:07:52,320
Speaker 2: were eyeballs being exchanged. And then after she starts dating

2329
02:07:52,560 --> 02:07:55,680
Speaker 2: my friend at one point where like, uh, in the

2330
02:07:55,720 --> 02:07:58,520
Speaker 2: same area, and she goes, this could have been us.

2331
02:08:00,240 --> 02:08:01,520
Speaker 2: Just if you would have made a move, it could

2332
02:08:01,560 --> 02:08:05,320
Speaker 2: have been us. And I immediately went out not five.

2333
02:08:05,320 --> 02:08:09,000
Speaker 1: Minutes later, yeah, and was like, hey, bro, heads up

2334
02:08:09,520 --> 02:08:12,320
Speaker 1: because your girlfriend just low key was like what if

2335
02:08:12,360 --> 02:08:13,000
Speaker 1: we were dating?

2336
02:08:13,600 --> 02:08:15,560
Speaker 2: So just wanted to give you the heads up on

2337
02:08:15,600 --> 02:08:17,880
Speaker 2: that one. Yeah, and that's exactly what you should have

2338
02:08:17,880 --> 02:08:20,160
Speaker 2: done with your own boyfriend when this girl was like,

2339
02:08:20,560 --> 02:08:24,480
Speaker 2: I low key am fantasizing about being your boyfriend's girlfriend.

2340
02:08:24,760 --> 02:08:25,360
Speaker 2: I mean I.

2341
02:08:26,000 --> 02:08:29,320
Speaker 1: Feel for her because I guess she's just like scared

2342
02:08:29,400 --> 02:08:32,080
Speaker 1: of you know, oh, what if he that's his friends,

2343
02:08:32,600 --> 02:08:33,280
Speaker 1: that's his friend?

2344
02:08:33,360 --> 02:08:33,800
Speaker 2: Like what if you?

2345
02:08:33,920 --> 02:08:37,680
Speaker 1: Like I why I feel for her? I definitely agree, like, like,

2346
02:08:37,840 --> 02:08:40,240
Speaker 1: you deserve to be able to tell him like I

2347
02:08:40,280 --> 02:08:43,760
Speaker 1: am insanely uncomfortable, and I think that you should be too,

2348
02:08:43,920 --> 02:08:45,240
Speaker 1: and you should want to.

2349
02:08:45,800 --> 02:08:50,960
Speaker 2: Yes, cut it off. Yes, but now she has been

2350
02:08:51,000 --> 02:08:54,080
Speaker 2: calling him asking for favors so much lately and I

2351
02:08:54,120 --> 02:08:57,040
Speaker 2: can't take it. I'm so ready to just cut her

2352
02:08:57,160 --> 02:09:01,480
Speaker 2: off entirely. The most recent things to occurs when I

2353
02:09:01,560 --> 02:09:03,720
Speaker 2: tried to give her one more chance and went to

2354
02:09:03,720 --> 02:09:06,680
Speaker 2: an event with her alone. She says, out of nowhere,

2355
02:09:07,200 --> 02:09:11,480
Speaker 2: if Chris ever proposes, you better not say no. Out

2356
02:09:11,520 --> 02:09:13,760
Speaker 2: of sheer frustration. I tell her that our plan is

2357
02:09:13,800 --> 02:09:16,040
Speaker 2: to get married and we have it all figured out.

2358
02:09:16,440 --> 02:09:19,360
Speaker 2: She looked so surprised and suddenly texted Chris to tell

2359
02:09:19,440 --> 02:09:22,200
Speaker 2: him that she needed to know all of the details

2360
02:09:22,240 --> 02:09:25,720
Speaker 2: of the proposal. A little bit later, she says, I

2361
02:09:25,760 --> 02:09:27,760
Speaker 2: hope you're not worried about me and Chris, to which

2362
02:09:27,800 --> 02:09:31,200
Speaker 2: I responded, I'm not and I've never been worried. She

2363
02:09:31,280 --> 02:09:33,560
Speaker 2: then said, well, I have something to tell you about

2364
02:09:33,600 --> 02:09:36,120
Speaker 2: three or four years ago. Chris gave me a backscratch.

2365
02:09:37,880 --> 02:09:44,000
Speaker 2: What what? What kind of comment is that? Nah? I

2366
02:09:44,040 --> 02:09:47,960
Speaker 2: don't This is about three or four years ago. He

2367
02:09:48,000 --> 02:09:55,280
Speaker 2: patted me on the back. This is a perfect example

2368
02:09:55,320 --> 02:09:58,280
Speaker 2: of you don't need to just like keep people around

2369
02:09:58,920 --> 02:10:01,720
Speaker 2: if they were like you put your stuff like down

2370
02:10:01,760 --> 02:10:04,120
Speaker 2: and you put it on her down her throat. I

2371
02:10:04,120 --> 02:10:08,040
Speaker 2: don't know, man, anyway, you like that, John, you like that?

2372
02:10:08,520 --> 02:10:11,480
Speaker 2: She goes on, I'm I'm I'm ending that right now.

2373
02:10:12,440 --> 02:10:15,200
Speaker 2: I feel like we were hiding that from you. I

2374
02:10:15,240 --> 02:10:18,600
Speaker 2: hope you don't think it's weird. I just love soft touches.

2375
02:10:19,600 --> 02:10:25,200
Speaker 2: Oof dude, dude. I'm just like, who is this again?

2376
02:10:25,240 --> 02:10:28,680
Speaker 2: I'm running the Oklahoma drill now, that's if I'm if

2377
02:10:28,680 --> 02:10:34,160
Speaker 2: I'm op, It's like all right, set hut. When I

2378
02:10:34,200 --> 02:10:36,280
Speaker 2: told her I didn't care, she just kept bringing it

2379
02:10:36,360 --> 02:10:38,320
Speaker 2: up all night, saying how she hopes it won't cause

2380
02:10:38,360 --> 02:10:42,680
Speaker 2: our breakup, Like, shut up, you idiot. Later, she also

2381
02:10:42,720 --> 02:10:44,440
Speaker 2: told me that if she ever made a move on Chris,

2382
02:10:44,440 --> 02:10:47,200
Speaker 2: she's confident he would say no. I told Chris all

2383
02:10:47,240 --> 02:10:49,160
Speaker 2: about this and said, I can't be around her anymore.

2384
02:10:49,160 --> 02:10:51,720
Speaker 2: I've given her too many chances. Chris and I are

2385
02:10:51,720 --> 02:10:55,200
Speaker 2: moving towns, which she conveniently got a job into. Dude,

2386
02:10:55,240 --> 02:10:56,240
Speaker 2: whoa dude?

2387
02:10:57,680 --> 02:11:01,560
Speaker 1: D we are reaching in insanity, not yet.

2388
02:11:01,400 --> 02:11:07,600
Speaker 2: Reached before moving in together? Uh OPI and her boyfriend Chris,

2389
02:11:08,040 --> 02:11:10,520
Speaker 2: and he's already asked my dad for his blessing. It

2390
02:11:10,680 --> 02:11:13,200
Speaker 2: is the real deal, and I love him so much.

2391
02:11:13,480 --> 02:11:15,000
Speaker 2: But I don't know how much more I can handle

2392
02:11:15,000 --> 02:11:17,520
Speaker 2: with the constant reminder of all that Mandy has said

2393
02:11:17,560 --> 02:11:20,360
Speaker 2: and done to me with her still around. If I

2394
02:11:20,360 --> 02:11:22,640
Speaker 2: tell him to cut her off without giving her another chance,

2395
02:11:22,680 --> 02:11:23,440
Speaker 2: am I the a hole?

2396
02:11:23,560 --> 02:11:23,960
Speaker 1: No?

2397
02:11:24,480 --> 02:11:27,800
Speaker 2: You're not. You forgot something important.

2398
02:11:27,800 --> 02:11:33,400
Speaker 1: Though, Mandy also went and asked for the blessing to

2399
02:11:33,440 --> 02:11:35,440
Speaker 1: marry him.

2400
02:11:35,920 --> 02:11:37,600
Speaker 2: I don't even feel like she would do that. She'd

2401
02:11:37,640 --> 02:11:40,160
Speaker 2: be like she would do it on she'd go ask

2402
02:11:40,280 --> 02:11:46,240
Speaker 2: Chris's parents, like, if op has the blessing to marry Chris. Yeah,

2403
02:11:46,320 --> 02:11:49,120
Speaker 2: it wouldn't be like I heard you didn't get the blessing.

2404
02:11:49,120 --> 02:11:51,520
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that must feel so sad. I heard

2405
02:11:51,560 --> 02:11:54,480
Speaker 2: you didn't get the blessing from Chris's girlfriend if she

2406
02:11:54,600 --> 02:11:59,080
Speaker 2: was allowed to marry your your wonderful son, and I

2407
02:11:59,240 --> 02:12:03,280
Speaker 2: personally would have definitely asked that. I can like convey

2408
02:12:03,320 --> 02:12:06,040
Speaker 2: the message for you if you want, dude, And then

2409
02:12:06,040 --> 02:12:08,240
Speaker 2: she's gonna be like, Chris, your parents told me that

2410
02:12:08,240 --> 02:12:13,000
Speaker 2: they'd rather you marry me. How silly is that? Yeah? No,

2411
02:12:13,080 --> 02:12:17,120
Speaker 2: I mean like, but he needs to know that this

2412
02:12:17,200 --> 02:12:21,200
Speaker 2: girl's unhinged. Yeah, he has to already know. So why

2413
02:12:21,240 --> 02:12:24,680
Speaker 2: is he ignoring it? Yeah? It is? Why hasn't he?

2414
02:12:25,840 --> 02:12:27,880
Speaker 1: Like again, I feel like it would be very normal

2415
02:12:27,960 --> 02:12:30,200
Speaker 1: at this point for him to be like, yeah, this

2416
02:12:30,280 --> 02:12:34,000
Speaker 1: is a no go unless it's I don't know how

2417
02:12:34,080 --> 02:12:37,360
Speaker 1: much of this has been said with him one hundred

2418
02:12:37,400 --> 02:12:41,480
Speaker 1: percent there and aware of it, but I just can't.

2419
02:12:41,280 --> 02:12:43,480
Speaker 2: Imagine that he's not able to see it. Yeah, it's

2420
02:12:43,520 --> 02:12:46,839
Speaker 2: so obvious. It's gotta be pretty clear. Yeah.

2421
02:12:46,920 --> 02:12:49,040
Speaker 1: If this is what she's saying to the girlfriend, imagine

2422
02:12:49,080 --> 02:12:51,800
Speaker 1: what she says to him and Box.

2423
02:12:52,040 --> 02:12:52,800
Speaker 2: We have an update.

2424
02:12:54,680 --> 02:12:57,880
Speaker 1: First Off, I really appreciate all the comments and advice

2425
02:12:57,920 --> 02:12:59,480
Speaker 1: from my original post.

2426
02:13:00,040 --> 02:13:02,240
Speaker 2: I'm sorry just.

2427
02:13:02,160 --> 02:13:09,040
Speaker 1: Said, not the ahle, you are dormats, not.

2428
02:13:08,920 --> 02:13:12,640
Speaker 2: Even you are a doormats. You are doormat. You are dormat.

2429
02:13:12,720 --> 02:13:17,120
Speaker 2: I'm sorry that would just sent me. First off, I

2430
02:13:17,120 --> 02:13:21,360
Speaker 2: really appreciate all the comments and advice from my original post. Truthfully,

2431
02:13:21,720 --> 02:13:23,840
Speaker 2: I didn't read anything in the comments that was new

2432
02:13:24,120 --> 02:13:26,800
Speaker 2: or something that I haven't thought of or of before

2433
02:13:26,920 --> 02:13:30,120
Speaker 2: deep down, So it was honestly very validating to read

2434
02:13:30,160 --> 02:13:33,440
Speaker 2: all the comments because I know I'm not crazy. I

2435
02:13:33,520 --> 02:13:36,680
Speaker 2: even know my boyfriend is not totally innocent in this situation.

2436
02:13:37,120 --> 02:13:38,920
Speaker 2: But that can be a hard pill to swallow, which

2437
02:13:38,920 --> 02:13:42,000
Speaker 2: is why I didn't mention it. But I should have

2438
02:13:42,120 --> 02:13:44,600
Speaker 2: known the commenters on Reddit would read between the lines

2439
02:13:44,720 --> 02:13:46,840
Speaker 2: lol and really quickly, I'm going to touch on that

2440
02:13:46,880 --> 02:13:49,760
Speaker 2: because I feel like it speaks to Ope's personality. I

2441
02:13:49,800 --> 02:13:51,680
Speaker 2: know that can be a hard pill to swallow, which

2442
02:13:51,680 --> 02:13:55,600
Speaker 2: is why I didn't mention it. Sometimes, the hard talks,

2443
02:13:55,600 --> 02:13:58,680
Speaker 2: the cold water, the bitter pills. You need to mention

2444
02:13:58,840 --> 02:14:00,320
Speaker 2: these things in a relationship.

2445
02:14:01,200 --> 02:14:04,600
Speaker 1: If they don't get mentioned, they just fester beneath the

2446
02:14:04,680 --> 02:14:08,240
Speaker 1: surface until they manifest as like.

2447
02:14:08,200 --> 02:14:13,240
Speaker 2: A full blown like the disease. Yeah, like that has

2448
02:14:13,360 --> 02:14:17,960
Speaker 2: infected your relationship and now you gotta like do a

2449
02:14:18,000 --> 02:14:20,520
Speaker 2: whole wellness routine. You could have done a preventive care

2450
02:14:21,160 --> 02:14:28,480
Speaker 2: and now you gotta go on. Yeah, so I want

2451
02:14:28,480 --> 02:14:31,640
Speaker 2: to clarify some things first before I fully update. Mandy

2452
02:14:31,680 --> 02:14:35,000
Speaker 2: and Chris hardly talk one on one that you know of,

2453
02:14:35,640 --> 02:14:38,720
Speaker 2: and they never really have before, which is why I

2454
02:14:38,840 --> 02:14:42,400
Speaker 2: was okay with the friendship at first because it seemed casual. However,

2455
02:14:42,440 --> 02:14:44,680
Speaker 2: once I came into the picture, she tried to weasel

2456
02:14:44,760 --> 02:14:47,240
Speaker 2: her way in and make it seem like their friendship

2457
02:14:47,320 --> 02:14:50,040
Speaker 2: was more than it was. But trust me that they

2458
02:14:50,040 --> 02:14:52,560
Speaker 2: have never had a fling and he would never leave

2459
02:14:52,640 --> 02:14:55,600
Speaker 2: the relationship for her. That has never been my worry.

2460
02:14:56,720 --> 02:14:59,520
Speaker 2: I know all girls say that, but it's true. He

2461
02:14:59,560 --> 02:15:02,240
Speaker 2: truly is oblivious to a lot of things. But I'm

2462
02:15:02,280 --> 02:15:05,560
Speaker 2: sure deep down he liked the attention as well, which

2463
02:15:05,640 --> 02:15:11,080
Speaker 2: I saw some comments saying that, which is annoying. My theory,

2464
02:15:11,160 --> 02:15:13,840
Speaker 2: also thankfully backed up by commenters, is that she one

2465
02:15:14,280 --> 02:15:16,840
Speaker 2: likes the attention. Trust me, I could tell twenty more

2466
02:15:16,880 --> 02:15:19,880
Speaker 2: stories about how she tried to get attention from her,

2467
02:15:20,680 --> 02:15:24,200
Speaker 2: from her body to her wild antics. Two she wants

2468
02:15:24,200 --> 02:15:27,080
Speaker 2: what she can't have. Chris is typically not her type,

2469
02:15:27,080 --> 02:15:33,120
Speaker 2: but obviously attractive, humble flex from op there. She was

2470
02:15:33,160 --> 02:15:36,960
Speaker 2: never interested before, except now that he's not available. Three

2471
02:15:37,080 --> 02:15:39,840
Speaker 2: she wants to make me jealous. I've hated feeling this

2472
02:15:39,880 --> 02:15:42,360
Speaker 2: way because on the surface, it seemed like we could

2473
02:15:42,360 --> 02:15:45,240
Speaker 2: have gotten along. This is probably why I kept giving

2474
02:15:45,320 --> 02:15:49,480
Speaker 2: chances when it should have stopped long ago. Once I

2475
02:15:49,560 --> 02:15:52,240
Speaker 2: moved into town a few months into our official relationship.

2476
02:15:52,320 --> 02:15:54,920
Speaker 2: Chris only hung out one on one with Mandy that

2477
02:15:55,200 --> 02:15:58,560
Speaker 2: one time at the concert. Every other time I'm there,

2478
02:15:59,000 --> 02:16:01,720
Speaker 2: I honestly have spent way more time with her alone,

2479
02:16:02,080 --> 02:16:04,640
Speaker 2: which is why she has made ninety percent of the

2480
02:16:04,720 --> 02:16:07,520
Speaker 2: comments to me. This is why it has been tricky

2481
02:16:07,520 --> 02:16:09,400
Speaker 2: for Chris to reach out to her when he's hearing

2482
02:16:09,480 --> 02:16:13,160
Speaker 2: everything from me that doesn't make any sense. I'm not

2483
02:16:13,480 --> 02:16:16,280
Speaker 2: even accepting that that shouldn't be tricky at all for

2484
02:16:16,360 --> 02:16:19,520
Speaker 2: your boyfriend to hear his girlfriend talking about how one

2485
02:16:19,560 --> 02:16:23,720
Speaker 2: of his friends is like violating her boundaries. Yeah, he

2486
02:16:23,720 --> 02:16:25,760
Speaker 2: shouldn't be like, Oh, that's weird. I don't know if

2487
02:16:25,800 --> 02:16:27,240
Speaker 2: I can talk to her about it because she wasn't

2488
02:16:27,280 --> 02:16:30,520
Speaker 2: talking to me. No, that doesn't make any sense. And

2489
02:16:30,560 --> 02:16:33,440
Speaker 2: if that's coming from your boyfriend, I am extra suss now,

2490
02:16:34,959 --> 02:16:36,760
Speaker 2: which I don't think it is. I think that might

2491
02:16:36,760 --> 02:16:40,000
Speaker 2: be coming from Ope. But anyway, right right, I know

2492
02:16:40,120 --> 02:16:42,200
Speaker 2: that it's not a full excuse because I'm coming to

2493
02:16:42,280 --> 02:16:45,359
Speaker 2: him with these issues. Plus he would rather avoid conflict.

2494
02:16:45,360 --> 02:16:48,199
Speaker 2: But we talked about this in my update. We both

2495
02:16:48,200 --> 02:16:50,560
Speaker 2: have not seen or talked to Mandy since the last

2496
02:16:50,600 --> 02:16:54,280
Speaker 2: incident because I told Chris I was done. However, even

2497
02:16:54,320 --> 02:16:57,320
Speaker 2: after that conversation a month ago, it didn't sit right.

2498
02:16:57,800 --> 02:16:59,920
Speaker 2: I posted this on Reddit after she sent a message

2499
02:17:00,040 --> 02:17:02,840
Speaker 2: to us both wanting to hang out, and while we

2500
02:17:02,920 --> 02:17:04,879
Speaker 2: didn't hang out with her, he made it seem like

2501
02:17:04,920 --> 02:17:09,920
Speaker 2: it was a possibility. So here is the update update.

2502
02:17:10,560 --> 02:17:13,440
Speaker 2: Thanks to the Reddit commenters, I feel validated enough to

2503
02:17:13,480 --> 02:17:16,440
Speaker 2: bring it back up. We had a deep conversation where

2504
02:17:16,480 --> 02:17:20,720
Speaker 2: I laid it all out there. I didn't sugarcoat anything.

2505
02:17:21,160 --> 02:17:24,000
Speaker 2: I didn't allow him to be innocent in the conversation either.

2506
02:17:24,520 --> 02:17:27,120
Speaker 2: He did say again that her behavior is weird and

2507
02:17:27,160 --> 02:17:30,240
Speaker 2: has made him angry. I did mention that hopefully there

2508
02:17:30,280 --> 02:17:33,200
Speaker 2: won't be any other situations because we will avoid her.

2509
02:17:33,480 --> 02:17:35,320
Speaker 2: But I can't be the one to keep saying things

2510
02:17:35,360 --> 02:17:37,920
Speaker 2: to her. I won't lay out all the details of

2511
02:17:37,920 --> 02:17:40,720
Speaker 2: our conversation, but he came up with the solution on

2512
02:17:40,720 --> 02:17:44,279
Speaker 2: his own. Here it is, if Mandy is the problem,

2513
02:17:44,320 --> 02:17:51,600
Speaker 2: we will cut off the problem. There you have it, folks.

2514
02:17:51,040 --> 02:17:54,160
Speaker 2: It should have been done as soon as she was like,

2515
02:17:54,280 --> 02:17:58,360
Speaker 2: I'm daydreaming about stealing your man. Yes, come on, but

2516
02:17:58,560 --> 02:18:02,280
Speaker 2: give him another child. No, No, come on, you're sweety

2517
02:18:02,360 --> 02:18:03,920
Speaker 2: for doing it because you're like, oh, this is like

2518
02:18:03,920 --> 02:18:05,959
Speaker 2: he's known this girl and their friends. But doesn't sound

2519
02:18:06,040 --> 02:18:09,039
Speaker 2: like that's even the case. Yeah, there is no need

2520
02:18:09,200 --> 02:18:12,440
Speaker 2: for her to be making him and I angry and uncomfortable.

2521
02:18:12,800 --> 02:18:14,760
Speaker 2: And I just want to let all of y'all know

2522
02:18:14,800 --> 02:18:18,520
Speaker 2: that you could never make us angry or uncomfortable.

2523
02:18:19,760 --> 02:18:23,160
Speaker 1: By joining us every weekday at three PMPST when we

2524
02:18:23,160 --> 02:18:27,680
Speaker 1: go live on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitch, all you

2525
02:18:27,680 --> 02:18:29,640
Speaker 1: gotta do is tap our profile and you're in.

2526
02:18:31,760 --> 02:18:39,320
Speaker 2: John Facebook YouTube TikTok. Come on down. You heard them, folks.

2527
02:18:39,520 --> 02:18:41,080
Speaker 2: So we have a little bit of a story left here.

2528
02:18:41,600 --> 02:18:43,640
Speaker 2: I think we have a little bit. Let me see

2529
02:18:43,640 --> 02:18:45,600
Speaker 2: how many moment we got, like we got just a

2530
02:18:45,640 --> 02:18:49,360
Speaker 2: little bit more left of this update. But honestly, do

2531
02:18:49,400 --> 02:18:52,440
Speaker 2: you I mean, if I was Ope, I would seriously

2532
02:18:52,480 --> 02:18:58,520
Speaker 2: reconsider like my relationship with my boyfriend, because it's like,

2533
02:18:59,360 --> 02:19:02,000
Speaker 2: if he's really this obliviate, like you can only be

2534
02:19:02,120 --> 02:19:04,400
Speaker 2: so oblivious before it becomes a red flag. And this

2535
02:19:04,520 --> 02:19:07,119
Speaker 2: is a big one, like if he's if.

2536
02:19:07,160 --> 02:19:11,760
Speaker 1: The shows miss alignment, it what it shows misalignment? Yeah,

2537
02:19:11,959 --> 02:19:15,680
Speaker 1: And she's like, this is something that bothers me so

2538
02:19:15,840 --> 02:19:18,879
Speaker 1: insanely much, and it is like something very obvious to her.

2539
02:19:19,560 --> 02:19:22,760
Speaker 1: And it was just like crazy how long it took

2540
02:19:22,800 --> 02:19:26,600
Speaker 1: for him to come to this realization because it's not

2541
02:19:26,720 --> 02:19:29,199
Speaker 1: you know, it's not like she didn't say absolutely anything.

2542
02:19:29,240 --> 02:19:32,879
Speaker 1: She did, uh Mandy said things to him that was weird.

2543
02:19:33,120 --> 02:19:36,840
Speaker 1: She did bring stuff to him, and it seemed like, uh,

2544
02:19:36,879 --> 02:19:40,360
Speaker 1: you know, while OPI very much so should have communicated

2545
02:19:41,040 --> 02:19:43,160
Speaker 1: basically like you said everything.

2546
02:19:43,040 --> 02:19:44,599
Speaker 2: All up front, like immediately.

2547
02:19:45,680 --> 02:19:49,000
Speaker 1: It's just like dang, dude, Yeah, like if this happened,

2548
02:19:49,040 --> 02:19:51,360
Speaker 1: is or is something similar gonna happen again? Or are

2549
02:19:51,400 --> 02:19:53,720
Speaker 1: we gonna go through the same ringamarole.

2550
02:19:53,600 --> 02:19:57,200
Speaker 2: Exactly, And the huge red flag for him being like,

2551
02:19:57,879 --> 02:20:00,320
Speaker 2: I mean we could hang out with her again, like

2552
02:20:00,440 --> 02:20:03,200
Speaker 2: after everything, after they're like we'll cut her off, and

2553
02:20:03,200 --> 02:20:04,960
Speaker 2: then she hit them up and was like let's hang

2554
02:20:05,000 --> 02:20:09,120
Speaker 2: out and he was like, wow, maybe it's like what

2555
02:20:09,200 --> 02:20:13,640
Speaker 2: are we doing, dude? This girl is like like she's

2556
02:20:13,680 --> 02:20:16,640
Speaker 2: going to do a Stephen King misery on you. That's

2557
02:20:16,959 --> 02:20:21,320
Speaker 2: how infatuated she seems. With your backscratches and everything, Like

2558
02:20:21,640 --> 02:20:25,480
Speaker 2: what a weird, weird, weird thing to repeatedly bring up

2559
02:20:25,520 --> 02:20:27,840
Speaker 2: to somebody's in a relationship with someone who's been like

2560
02:20:27,920 --> 02:20:29,920
Speaker 2: remember three years ago when he gave me those backscratches.

2561
02:20:29,959 --> 02:20:31,400
Speaker 2: I just really hope that you can get past that.

2562
02:20:31,840 --> 02:20:33,080
Speaker 2: I hope that you can get past that and it

2563
02:20:33,120 --> 02:20:35,680
Speaker 2: doesn't ruin your relationship that he scratched my back because

2564
02:20:35,680 --> 02:20:38,000
Speaker 2: he gives the best backscratches and I love his soft touch.

2565
02:20:38,520 --> 02:20:40,680
Speaker 2: And did I mention that the backscratch it was like

2566
02:20:40,800 --> 02:20:42,720
Speaker 2: one of the best backscratches I've ever had in my life.

2567
02:20:42,720 --> 02:20:44,680
Speaker 2: So again, I just really hope you guys don't break up.

2568
02:20:45,320 --> 02:20:49,360
Speaker 2: It's like I'm leaving you at the function. At that point,

2569
02:20:49,400 --> 02:20:53,000
Speaker 2: I am abandoning you there, and I'm calling my boyfriend

2570
02:20:53,000 --> 02:20:55,160
Speaker 2: to be like, your friend is a freak and I

2571
02:20:55,280 --> 02:20:59,640
Speaker 2: don't want us to hang out with her. Yeah, anyway,

2572
02:21:00,600 --> 02:21:03,440
Speaker 2: let's finish this story. Let's do it.

2573
02:21:05,040 --> 02:21:07,720
Speaker 1: I never showed him the post or the comments. I

2574
02:21:07,800 --> 02:21:11,200
Speaker 1: probably will later. Our plan now is to not make

2575
02:21:11,240 --> 02:21:14,560
Speaker 1: a ruckus but drop her. I'm glad he's on my side,

2576
02:21:14,600 --> 02:21:15,480
Speaker 1: though I had.

2577
02:21:15,320 --> 02:21:19,039
Speaker 2: No doubt about that. He truly is unproblematic. I just

2578
02:21:19,080 --> 02:21:22,040
Speaker 2: needed to lay it out there and communicate it all

2579
02:21:22,080 --> 02:21:25,800
Speaker 2: for him to understand my true feelings. Communication is something

2580
02:21:25,800 --> 02:21:28,240
Speaker 2: we both need to work on. You got that right.

2581
02:21:28,760 --> 02:21:30,600
Speaker 2: I know I have talked to him before, but this

2582
02:21:30,680 --> 02:21:34,039
Speaker 2: time was different. Thank you everyone for validating my feelings

2583
02:21:34,040 --> 02:21:37,000
Speaker 2: and encouraging me to have a conversation and opening my

2584
02:21:37,040 --> 02:21:39,360
Speaker 2: eyes to how he needs to set these brown dreies.

2585
02:21:39,879 --> 02:21:42,480
Speaker 2: Hopefully there are no more updates because there are no

2586
02:21:42,600 --> 02:21:45,720
Speaker 2: more problems and that is the end of the story.

2587
02:21:45,760 --> 02:21:50,199
Speaker 2: So I guess no more problems for OPI. But still,

2588
02:21:52,240 --> 02:21:54,560
Speaker 2: I just imagine, like imagine that the boyfriend is just

2589
02:21:54,600 --> 02:21:58,680
Speaker 2: a Golden Retriever, a Golden Retriever puppy who's just like, yeah,

2590
02:21:58,720 --> 02:21:59,039
Speaker 2: I don't know.

2591
02:21:59,120 --> 02:22:03,680
Speaker 1: She seems nice. Dude, how did you do that? Shout

2592
02:22:03,680 --> 02:22:07,280
Speaker 1: out ke On, That's what I'm here for. Jordinaire leveling

2593
02:22:07,360 --> 02:22:09,640
Speaker 1: up like crazy over here. I haven't seen Riley do

2594
02:22:09,720 --> 02:22:10,320
Speaker 1: anything like that.

2595
02:22:10,760 --> 02:22:13,200
Speaker 2: Who call me a mind reader?

2596
02:22:13,440 --> 02:22:15,920
Speaker 1: I haven't seen Riley literally read a mind them this

2597
02:22:16,040 --> 02:22:18,040
Speaker 1: fighting word, I mean, that was that was impressive.

2598
02:22:18,080 --> 02:22:23,120
Speaker 2: That was just like ready to go. Yeah, though, look

2599
02:22:23,120 --> 02:22:26,920
Speaker 2: at that. He's just so fluffy inside. I don't are

2600
02:22:26,959 --> 02:22:32,800
Speaker 2: you talking to me? Are you talking to me? No? No,

2601
02:22:33,520 --> 02:22:37,240
Speaker 2: I'm talking about like in general. Okay, you wanna you

2602
02:22:37,240 --> 02:22:39,400
Speaker 2: wanna you wanna you wanna run down? You want to

2603
02:22:39,440 --> 02:22:44,760
Speaker 2: run down? Okay, what is happening here? I won't give

2604
02:22:44,800 --> 02:22:47,160
Speaker 2: it to you. I just said I won't give it

2605
02:22:47,200 --> 02:22:48,760
Speaker 2: to you. I'll you know what, I won't even give

2606
02:22:48,760 --> 02:22:51,879
Speaker 2: it to you. Whoever was the one who commented that

2607
02:22:51,879 --> 02:22:54,760
Speaker 2: they've raised ten dogs and understands that they can be

2608
02:22:54,800 --> 02:22:57,600
Speaker 2: a nightmare, let's hit hit us with a story in

2609
02:22:57,640 --> 02:22:59,360
Speaker 2: the In the comments, please for ke On because he

2610
02:22:59,400 --> 02:23:01,560
Speaker 2: doesn't understan and how a dog could possibly ever be

2611
02:23:02,200 --> 02:23:06,720
Speaker 2: a negative at any point apparently, God, I did it again.

2612
02:23:06,720 --> 02:23:09,600
Speaker 2: I'm digging the whole deeper.

2613
02:23:11,040 --> 02:23:12,760
Speaker 1: And then they're like, oh, it's gonna be fun to

2614
02:23:12,760 --> 02:23:14,640
Speaker 1: torture Refore with this.

2615
02:23:14,680 --> 02:23:18,720
Speaker 2: Everyone's like, he owns fast. I need to be fast.

2616
02:23:18,879 --> 02:23:25,600
Speaker 1: Oh God, he's a fast man. He's moving, he's shaken God.

2617
02:23:27,720 --> 02:23:32,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, but yeah, dude, Bro is hopelessly this guy low key.

2618
02:23:33,360 --> 02:23:37,680
Speaker 2: Everyone in that story was. It was a little rough.

2619
02:23:39,200 --> 02:23:45,560
Speaker 2: I mean, honestly, you just please people like communicate. Communication

2620
02:23:45,760 --> 02:23:48,480
Speaker 2: is key if you feel like someone is crossing a

2621
02:23:48,480 --> 02:23:52,160
Speaker 2: boundary with you, especially in the context of like literally

2622
02:23:52,240 --> 02:23:58,600
Speaker 2: being like I want to be you straight up, Like

2623
02:23:59,200 --> 02:24:01,480
Speaker 2: I don't think about friend, I want to be you.

2624
02:24:05,440 --> 02:24:08,440
Speaker 2: Oh no, what it's my cousin.

2625
02:24:08,760 --> 02:24:13,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, well is that was that the thing that you

2626
02:24:13,879 --> 02:24:16,280
Speaker 1: wanted to talk about, Logan? Because I was gonna I

2627
02:24:16,320 --> 02:24:18,640
Speaker 1: was gonna call you after the chat. Yeah, that that

2628
02:24:18,680 --> 02:24:19,439
Speaker 1: does suck.

2629
02:24:21,760 --> 02:24:25,560
Speaker 2: Anyway, sorts Okay, arts, art's arts for Logan because that's

2630
02:24:25,800 --> 02:24:32,000
Speaker 2: definitely gotta that's that stinks. But yeah, so sometimes the

2631
02:24:32,080 --> 02:24:35,400
Speaker 2: dog just It's all I'm saying, guys, is that dogs

2632
02:24:35,440 --> 02:24:39,400
Speaker 2: require a training. Okay, They're not.

2633
02:24:39,360 --> 02:24:41,000
Speaker 1: Just like a set it and forget it to say

2634
02:24:41,040 --> 02:24:43,040
Speaker 1: you love the hype, you love dogs.

2635
02:24:43,200 --> 02:24:46,040
Speaker 2: You can you don't have to do. Just say you

2636
02:24:46,040 --> 02:24:47,760
Speaker 2: love dogs, you love cats, and you love dogs. That's

2637
02:24:47,760 --> 02:24:49,840
Speaker 2: all you have to say. I love cats unconditionally. I

2638
02:24:49,879 --> 02:24:53,680
Speaker 2: love dogs with conditions Jesus. And there you go the

2639
02:24:53,760 --> 02:24:59,560
Speaker 2: chat and take guys. We're gonna get hot to get

2640
02:24:59,560 --> 02:25:01,560
Speaker 2: into and lets you cook on and see if there's

2641
02:25:01,600 --> 02:25:04,959
Speaker 2: any more done. We're gonna see, We're gonna see. Oh yeahs.

2642
02:25:05,000 --> 02:25:07,520
Speaker 2: By the way, not loving something is not equivalent to

2643
02:25:07,600 --> 02:25:12,120
Speaker 2: hating it. Okay, okay, that is not the same thing.

2644
02:25:12,720 --> 02:25:14,360
Speaker 1: We don't live in the black and white world. There's

2645
02:25:14,360 --> 02:25:17,000
Speaker 1: a gray area in the middle between love and hate.

2646
02:25:17,040 --> 02:25:21,160
Speaker 1: There is like, eh, eh, there is in between that.

2647
02:25:22,000 --> 02:25:30,160
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, I see people support me, Ezekiel, I know

2648
02:25:30,200 --> 02:25:30,879
Speaker 2: you're just kidding.

2649
02:25:33,280 --> 02:25:40,000
Speaker 1: Literally, Frank the Hug says same. The dog in the

2650
02:25:40,080 --> 02:25:49,200
Speaker 1: chat agrees with me. We did not every from the Swabs.

2651
02:25:49,200 --> 02:25:51,640
Speaker 1: Thanks for the five bucks on the tiplake. I have

2652
02:25:51,720 --> 02:25:56,200
Speaker 1: a hey hard dog, mom, leave the coda alone. My

2653
02:25:56,320 --> 02:26:00,280
Speaker 1: Deutsche hound Docs, Sorry, thank you. My Docs is a

2654
02:26:00,280 --> 02:26:04,039
Speaker 1: little crap. But I still think he'd win Dakota over

2655
02:26:04,200 --> 02:26:04,560
Speaker 1: a meet.

2656
02:26:04,640 --> 02:26:06,320
Speaker 2: And that's true. Do you know why because Doson is

2657
02:26:06,320 --> 02:26:10,080
Speaker 2: one of my favorite dog breeds. I love docs. I

2658
02:26:10,120 --> 02:26:12,680
Speaker 2: have literally never met a Doxon that is not well

2659
02:26:12,720 --> 02:26:15,240
Speaker 2: trained because they're they're good. They're they're hunting dogs, so

2660
02:26:15,280 --> 02:26:19,080
Speaker 2: they're they're they're designed in their brain to be trained.

2661
02:26:18,840 --> 02:26:22,680
Speaker 1: So do but other dogs can't give me good love

2662
02:26:22,720 --> 02:26:23,960
Speaker 1: a doxin.

2663
02:26:24,800 --> 02:26:27,400
Speaker 2: My my family friend had a docks in. His name

2664
02:26:27,440 --> 02:26:30,200
Speaker 2: was Charlie and he was a fuzzy Dosin and he

2665
02:26:30,320 --> 02:26:34,200
Speaker 2: was fantastic, cute, little fuzzy docks And a Docson might

2666
02:26:34,240 --> 02:26:36,400
Speaker 2: be that. I might just love a dosing no matter what. Honestly,

2667
02:26:36,440 --> 02:26:38,400
Speaker 2: I think I might love docsin's unconditionally.

2668
02:26:38,879 --> 02:26:42,400
Speaker 1: Well, well, we appreciate you for not doxing us and

2669
02:26:42,480 --> 02:26:44,360
Speaker 1: instead joining the Knights.

2670
02:26:45,280 --> 02:26:48,960
Speaker 2: Welcome well oh wait wait wait I never did sure before.

2671
02:26:49,640 --> 02:26:53,120
Speaker 1: Uh, welcome to the Knights.

2672
02:26:53,200 --> 02:26:53,800
Speaker 2: Welcome to