Speaker 1: He's on down. He's on down down. Come on now,
Speaker 1: he's one down. He's on down. Don't you carry nothing
Speaker 1: that might be alone? Come on out, he's on down,
Speaker 1: he's on down there.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's we can't do the whole thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we can't.
Speaker 2: That was oh my god, the Whiz?
Speaker 1: Yes, how did you well? First? Hello everybody being man,
Speaker 1: You're so hello.
Speaker 3: Sorry, I just had a cup of coffee and it's
Speaker 3: six forty pm.
Speaker 1: Yes, welcome back to what episode is this of Brown Ambitions?
Speaker 2: They've grown sixteen? Sweet sixteen?
Speaker 1: We were sixteen and never been kissed. Yes, welcome back
Speaker 1: to the sixteenth episode of Brown Ambition. And yes, the Wiz.
Speaker 1: What did you think of it?
Speaker 3: I have been so hype for the Whiz for the
Speaker 3: last like ever since they announced, and I remember watching
Speaker 3: Shanie Williams go on the Today Show as like this.
Speaker 2: New talent I loved, Like Mary J.
Speaker 3: Blige, I want a word to begin, like I've I've
Speaker 3: been the kind of person like I watched Sound of
Speaker 3: Music and I watched Peter Pan live, and while I
Speaker 3: was watching it, I'm like, why am I doing this
Speaker 3: with my life?
Speaker 2: Why am I? Like I only.
Speaker 3: Watched Sounds of music for on Audrey McDonald like, that's
Speaker 3: like the one reason, Okay, Peter Pan was a waste
Speaker 3: of my life. And I was like, but from the beginning,
Speaker 3: Wiz was just so different. The set design, Yeah, costume, Yes,
Speaker 3: David al and Greer as the lion.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't even know he could sing, and like,
Speaker 1: you know, and my friend's like, and I still don't know.
Speaker 1: I said, ooh in the shade he was. He was good.
Speaker 1: If you ask, it was so good.
Speaker 3: I forgot that he was even him. I forgot all
Speaker 3: about Neo until the end. I was like, wait, who
Speaker 3: was the tin man? Yeah, I forgot all about Neo because
Speaker 3: he was so good. He was blended in Yeah Blige.
Speaker 1: Queen, I just love Queen. Lets you. Her outfit was
Speaker 1: so her costume was so beautiful. I was trying to.
Speaker 3: Think whose costume was my favorite? And I feel like
Speaker 3: the award goes to everybody in the Emeralds in the
Speaker 3: Emerald Club.
Speaker 1: Yes, Vogue they gave me. Yes, I was.
Speaker 2: I was entranced.
Speaker 1: Yes, and the poppies, of course, I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: look at these sexy poppies. Give me a little tourm
Speaker 1: It's a.
Speaker 3: Lion just like a manly I know that was so
Speaker 3: different I never seen I mean, obviously, I wasn't even
Speaker 3: born when the play was on Broadway, and I saw
Speaker 3: the movie version, like I don't even know the last
Speaker 3: time I saw maybe when I was a little little girl.
Speaker 3: So it's sort of like it was completely fresh for me.
Speaker 3: A lot of the plot I didn't even remember.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just remember like thinking that the guy who
Speaker 1: played the Scarecrow, I loved him, but he reminded me
Speaker 1: of Michael, and it just made me a little bit sad, like, oh,
Speaker 1: I remember when Michael played this. And I even went online,
Speaker 1: which I'm sure so many people did, and I like
Speaker 1: pulled up like he's on down the rule so I
Speaker 1: could watch it on YouTube, and I was looking at
Speaker 1: Michael and he was acting and singing and dancing, and
Speaker 1: it just hit me, like, yo, Michael Jackson was amazing,
Speaker 1: so talented and yeah, so oh it was just really
Speaker 1: nosalgic for me. Me and Supergirl watched it. Superman was
Speaker 1: upstairs watching football. He was like, yeah, if.
Speaker 2: Ass oh, that was probably her first time watching that, right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't really because she asked me in the
Speaker 1: morning because she fell asleep. She said so how did
Speaker 1: it end? And I said, are you kidding?
Speaker 2: And she was like, Nod'd never seen the Wizard of Oz.
Speaker 1: No, she's nine and so you know, And I was like,
Speaker 1: what do you mean? How did it end? She's like
Speaker 1: how did it end? Like it was a new movie
Speaker 1: and I was like knew. I was like, Okay, we
Speaker 1: have to watch it. So a new tradition tradition for us.
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe. I forgot, like, oh, she didn't grow
Speaker 1: up in that error.
Speaker 3: That's amazing that this is going to be her first
Speaker 3: Wizard of Oz. Yeah, I know, right, Oh, I'm looking
Speaker 3: at pictures. Oh Amber Riley. First of all, I love
Speaker 3: Amber Riley, like I follow her on Instagram. I love
Speaker 3: her voice, I love her person, I love I watched
Speaker 3: her on Dancing with the Stars. That's how good her
Speaker 3: I am. And she was so good at as what
Speaker 3: was her Adlene able Ling? How do you say her name?
Speaker 1: The watch? Yeah? I know, but she was really good.
Speaker 3: I don't think anyone in the cast. I wish that
Speaker 3: Stephanie Mills had had more time.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I also I saw someone tweet and I had to agree.
Speaker 3: I'm like everyone else has like a modern outfit but
Speaker 3: they put aunt em in this like old lady outfit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 2: Why wasn't she dressed for twenty fifteen?
Speaker 1: You're right, you're right. And there was just so many
Speaker 1: things that were kind of funny, like when they found
Speaker 1: out that Queen Lativa, the Whiz character was a woman,
Speaker 1: and she was like, whatcham would being a woman? I
Speaker 1: was like, yes, you better assass them.
Speaker 3: That was so perfect for her too, because she's already
Speaker 3: that kind of andry. She can be really androgynous.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and she's come out as gay, you know, fairly recently,
Speaker 1: and so it was just kind of like okay. And
Speaker 1: I saw it like when she was in her robe,
Speaker 1: when they like, you know, pull back the curtain, I
Speaker 1: was dying because that is so me in Jersey, sitting
Speaker 1: at my deck. I was like, look at queen representing
Speaker 1: for the at home entrepreneurs her so.
Speaker 2: Looked pretty good for me in our home.
Speaker 1: I know, but it was just good. I had a
Speaker 1: good time.
Speaker 2: Oh what did you think of uz Uzu Aduba? I
Speaker 2: like that.
Speaker 1: I mean, I know people are like, oh, she missed
Speaker 1: some notes and whatever. I'm like, it's live. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: What do you do with your life watching at home.
Speaker 2: I don't even remember.
Speaker 1: I just I thought, I love the fact that when
Speaker 1: she came down, this brown woman, you know, and the
Speaker 1: first thing out of Dorothy's mouth was she's so beautiful.
Speaker 1: I was like, that's it, you know, that's and you.
Speaker 3: Know what, That's why I was thinking Supergirl, like the
Speaker 3: fact that this is her very first Wizard of Oz,
Speaker 3: Like she doesn't know any other odds. It's like people
Speaker 3: who were born for with a black president for the
Speaker 3: first time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, oh yeah. And when you think about how
Speaker 1: transformative is that for you, that it's not a big
Speaker 1: deal to have a black president because that's all you've
Speaker 1: ever known.
Speaker 2: Wow. Mile.
Speaker 3: On the internets, some people who obviously did not grow
Speaker 3: up with an all black casts and anything where even
Speaker 3: before the Wiz aired, people were already like throwing shade
Speaker 3: and asking the stupidest questions like why isn't there a
Speaker 3: white Whiz.
Speaker 2: I'm like, where's the white wiz at?
Speaker 3: Oh? If it was an all white casts, you guys
Speaker 3: would be calling racism.
Speaker 1: I'm like, hello, have you not seen the Wizard of Oz?
Speaker 1: You idiots? That's what that is. That's crazy.
Speaker 2: It was so crazy.
Speaker 3: I was like, are they just doing this just to
Speaker 3: get you know, their tweet shared online. And then also
Speaker 3: just like, can we talk about every single movie where
Speaker 3: it's all white people and there's like maybe one person
Speaker 3: in the Like I just finished watching The Gilmore Girls.
Speaker 2: Did you like The Gilmore Girls?
Speaker 1: I did? Actually I liked.
Speaker 3: It too, but like it was like maybe halfway through
Speaker 3: the third season and I'm like, wait a second, there
Speaker 3: is not literally not one brown person in its entire season.
Speaker 2: And we watched all the way through, and I'm.
Speaker 3: Like, this is this is all like if they went
Speaker 3: through seven seasons of a show based in Connecticut or
Speaker 3: New York, both places, ye had a single black character.
Speaker 3: Like I mean we've been but like that's not and
Speaker 3: that's not a new thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's just normal. It's called life and Nobody. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So I feel like I saw I saw a funny
Speaker 3: tweet of someone they found the background dancers at the
Speaker 3: Evil Quitch's Layer, Evil Evil Witch's Layer, Mary J. Bludge,
Speaker 3: and they found one white guy in the back and
Speaker 3: they're like, oh, here you go, here's your token, like.
Speaker 1: Us, welcome to our world. Yes, yeah, the Wiz. I
Speaker 1: mean it's just so crazy because that was the purpose
Speaker 1: of the Wiz. It was in response to the fact
Speaker 1: that the Wizard of Ours really was an all white
Speaker 1: like you know production, and here was like a little
Speaker 1: flavor added and you know, a little brown flavor. It's just,
Speaker 1: you know, people always are looking for something whatever. I
Speaker 1: think they got like a viewership of like almost twelve
Speaker 1: million people watched that night.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I just was like, oh, it was just nice,
Speaker 1: and I like, I did a lot of live facebooking
Speaker 1: just because it was fun. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Twitter, I was on the twitters.
Speaker 1: Yes, I was trying on the Twitter, and like they
Speaker 1: had a lot of funny memes, especially about poor Toto.
Speaker 1: Did you see the memes about.
Speaker 2: Total No because they didn't get in the airtimes.
Speaker 1: Yes, they had this one picture of like three dogs
Speaker 1: like like with your eyes narrowed, looking mad like Totals
Speaker 1: family watching tonight, Like where is he? I was dying.
Speaker 1: I was like, Toto does not care.
Speaker 2: They couldn't have had a dog the whole time.
Speaker 1: Now, come on, exactly can you imagine live that dog
Speaker 1: would have been pooping and peeing, running around and barking.
Speaker 1: They just could not have done that.
Speaker 3: I know. Oh it was so good. The you know
Speaker 3: that kind of reminds me. I heard on and I
Speaker 3: was listening to the read this week and Kid Fury
Speaker 3: was talking about how Lupitza niongo. You know, how she's
Speaker 3: gonna have a role in the new Star Wars movie
Speaker 3: that everyone is like losing their shit about. Yeah, about
Speaker 3: the movie itself, apparently her role. He says, there's speculation
Speaker 3: that it's been like cut to a sliver okay, Oscar
Speaker 3: winning actress Lapiza, which is kind of a bummer because
Speaker 3: she would have been the only black woman in that
Speaker 3: whole cast.
Speaker 4: Probably, But I thought I saw like a quote from
Speaker 4: the director saying that like Lupitza was amazing or something
Speaker 4: like that, and the answer, oh good, okay, I thought
Speaker 4: I saw something like that, So I guess we'll see.
Speaker 1: You know, the proof will be in the pudding.
Speaker 2: Are you gonna go?
Speaker 1: I don't you know. I'm not a big Star Wars fan.
Speaker 3: I don't even know if I am. I've never seen it.
Speaker 3: I was just talking to my fiance. She said, we're
Speaker 3: gonna try and watch it this weekend because I kind
Speaker 3: of want to see it, like I want to see
Speaker 3: it for lu Pizza or I want to see it
Speaker 3: for the I don't know what character the other black
Speaker 3: guy's playing. I want to see it for him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, right to see you for the blacks people.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't. I not a huge movie like
Speaker 1: Jarelle is a huge movie person, and like I'll go
Speaker 1: just because you know, I'm trying to be like a
Speaker 1: good girlfriend. But I'm the type of person I rather
Speaker 1: watch the movie like in the house on the couch
Speaker 1: where I can pause to go to the bath and
Speaker 1: get some food.
Speaker 2: You know, Oh, you're that kind. It was like my mom.
Speaker 2: I was always yelling. I'm like, Mom, sit down, I
Speaker 2: just want to do the laundry real quick. Yeah no, no, no,
Speaker 2: we're watching a movie. Oh but the dishes.
Speaker 1: That is the whole ambiance of like movie. Him and Supergirl,
Speaker 1: so well, Superman and Supergirl will have a whole ambience
Speaker 1: of like movie time. And I'm always like, ooh, real quick,
Speaker 1: quick phone call. He's like, are you kidding me?
Speaker 2: That's what my dad and I do together, go to
Speaker 2: see movies.
Speaker 1: Oh that's cute.
Speaker 2: What else is? Oh? I lost my notes on.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to pick what else was both?
Speaker 2: Oh, my girlfriend sent me this, so my friend I'm
Speaker 2: gonna call her out. Her name is Jess. She is
Speaker 2: my dear.
Speaker 3: I've been friends with her since my freshman year of college,
Speaker 3: so going on ten years now, and she's been single
Speaker 3: for a while, sorry, just living in New York City.
Speaker 3: And she sent me she sent me this link up
Speaker 3: from box. So I was talking about what's the headline, like,
Speaker 3: I asked my boyfriend to move in with me to
Speaker 3: save rent? And Jess was like, God, I really feel
Speaker 3: for the first time, like happy.
Speaker 2: To be single.
Speaker 3: I don't have to do this, and I feel like
Speaker 3: this is not I mean, I read the article and
Speaker 3: she's like talking about how she's not alone, that a
Speaker 3: lot of people ask their boyfriends their girlfriends to move
Speaker 3: in to save rent, and personally, like, I think that's
Speaker 3: I don't see, It's not that much different than like.
Speaker 2: Getting a roommate, you know. Yeah, but I find it's
Speaker 2: so common in New York.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just feel like it's common. I mean, that
Speaker 1: wasn't the only reason, but I remember one of the
Speaker 1: things that Jirelle said to me when we were dating
Speaker 1: for a while. He was like, why don't you move
Speaker 1: in and just save rent? You know? And I know,
Speaker 1: and I was that's why I said no. At first,
Speaker 1: I was like, no, I'm good because my friend is
Speaker 1: about the same as when I'll pay splitting it with you, right,
Speaker 1: you know. And then he was like, all right, I
Speaker 1: just want you to be here. You're always here anywhere.
Speaker 1: I'm like That's what I wanted to hear exactly. I'm
Speaker 1: like right, because I think he was trying to appeal
Speaker 1: to my budgetiste the side of being like, oh, maybe
Speaker 1: I'll tell her to save, and I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that doesn't move me. But yeah, so, I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: I'm paying I was paying really low rent before so
Speaker 1: and when I first moved in, Jerell was like paying
Speaker 1: all Darrell starting at Superman, was paying all the bills,
Speaker 1: and I was like I built that. I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: don't you want some help? And so now, like which,
Speaker 1: my friend, one of my BFFs, told me that I
Speaker 1: was crazy that I should let him man be a man.
Speaker 1: How do you feel about that?
Speaker 2: Like, I didn't, you know, I just a mandy man
Speaker 2: by what paying all the bills?
Speaker 1: Yeah, because he was paying all the bills. Even though
Speaker 1: I make significantly more than Superman. He was paying, you know,
Speaker 1: all the bills, and well most of them, I would
Speaker 1: say he was paying about seventy five percent of the bill,
Speaker 1: because of course I was paying my own bill, and
Speaker 1: I think I was paying like the cable and that
Speaker 1: was it, and I just did it didn't feel right,
Speaker 1: especially since I was making more than him, and I
Speaker 1: am making more than him. She was like, no, that's
Speaker 1: what you know. She subscribes to the whole Steve Harvey theory,
Speaker 1: which you know, I'm not necessarily in agreement with, but
Speaker 1: I've never had anybody take care of me financially, and
Speaker 1: I just felt like, well, we both eat the same
Speaker 1: food and you know, use up the same amount of
Speaker 1: room in the house, that we should split the bills.
Speaker 3: And so I think that's very antiquated, that whole idea,
Speaker 3: especially today. I mean, unless you're dating is like a
Speaker 3: banker or something and he's you know, loaded, and he yeah,
Speaker 3: doesn't matter. But I feel like we're all in the
Speaker 3: same both these days, most couples and you're in their
Speaker 3: twenties and thirties, like you probably have student loan debt,
Speaker 3: you probably haven't had that much of a raise in
Speaker 3: the last few years, and I think you have to
Speaker 3: be like the whole I don't know, I just think
Speaker 3: that's not fair to the guy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why I said that. I was just like, well,
Speaker 1: because she was like, what you should let him be
Speaker 1: a man. You shouldn't have offered, And I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: it seems a little selfish.
Speaker 2: That, like, no, what if they ended up presenting you?
Speaker 1: Yeah, who knows, especially you know, especially with seeing my
Speaker 1: business grow, like wow, Tifany's making great money and she's
Speaker 1: literally paying nothing. It just didn't seem like fair. It's
Speaker 1: not It's not like I'm paying I said, Hey, I'll
Speaker 1: take care of all the bills myself. I just said, like,
Speaker 1: let's just go half plus.
Speaker 3: I think that forces you into a position of me
Speaker 3: like you made me feel guilty always paying the bills
Speaker 3: so I should clean the kitchen and yeah, you know,
Speaker 3: it just sort of pushes you into these other guilty
Speaker 3: you know, for being it makes you guilty and then
Speaker 3: you do all these other roles that like you maybe
Speaker 3: not have time for. It's not just to sort of
Speaker 3: have this like semblance of equality.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just true. We're pretty equal on everything when it
Speaker 1: comes to like cooking, cleaning, all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: Like you know, we have I have weeks definitely that
Speaker 1: I don't do a whole lot, and I have weeks
Speaker 1: that I do do a whole lot as it relates
Speaker 1: to that, But I don't know, it feels right for
Speaker 1: me to be It just feels good to know like
Speaker 1: we're going half, we're good and you know, and plus
Speaker 1: that means he has extra money left over for that ring.
Speaker 1: Then I'm exact that he's saving for. You know. I'm like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: you know, I did a little check in recently, have
Speaker 1: that ring money going. He just looked at me, like, Tiffany, it's.
Speaker 2: Only been Wait, hasn't it been like a week since
Speaker 2: you started hinting?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, well, no, from the very beginning. See,
Speaker 1: because I'm thirty six, so befo. When we first started dating,
Speaker 1: I said, before we enter into this relationship, let's make
Speaker 1: sure we're on the same page of where we're headed. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and you know, and so he was just like, because,
Speaker 1: I mean, Durrell Superman's not new to me. We had
Speaker 1: been friends for a while, we had dated a little
Speaker 1: bit earlier when we were younger, and so this wasn't
Speaker 1: like some brand new person. It was kind of like, well,
Speaker 1: if this is something we're doing, are we on the
Speaker 1: same page and he was, And so I just check
Speaker 1: in every once in a while because my biggest thing
Speaker 1: and his biggest thing is always if you're not on
Speaker 1: the same page as me, just let me know. Yes,
Speaker 1: it might hurt my feelings and I might be heartbroken
Speaker 1: or whatever, but I rather know so I can make
Speaker 1: a choice based upon what is not what I want
Speaker 1: it to be.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, definitely, And I think that you should be,
Speaker 3: like I said, like my Fance and I we talked
Speaker 3: about like getting married before moving in together, and yep,
Speaker 3: and I would say, I mean, maybe it's just because
Speaker 3: I was raised by a single mom and I saw,
Speaker 3: you know, when my parents got divorced, she couldn't afford
Speaker 3: the house that they had, so she had to move
Speaker 3: and we were living with my uncle for a while.
Speaker 3: Then we moved into a tiny little house, and you know,
Speaker 3: it was always a struggle. And I always told myself, like,
Speaker 3: I'm never going to be relying on a man enough,
Speaker 3: like if a guy moves out, I want to be
Speaker 3: able to at least know that I can pay the
Speaker 3: rent on my own and that I won't be out
Speaker 3: of you know, homeless, or like out on the you know,
Speaker 3: out on my own and that's always been in the
Speaker 3: back of my mind. And then you know, my Fancee
Speaker 3: has known that from the get go, like I'm moving
Speaker 3: in with you for because I love you, because I
Speaker 3: want to live with you, not because I need to
Speaker 3: financially mm hmm.
Speaker 2: And he respects that.
Speaker 1: I think it's said. I mean, I feel like every
Speaker 1: everyone's relationship, you have to make up your own rules.
Speaker 1: That's one thing I've learned. So like my I have
Speaker 1: one friend who I just love her relationship with her boyfriend.
Speaker 1: They've been together since there were kids, honestly off and on,
Speaker 1: and but they like since they were fourteen, and she's
Speaker 1: thirty one, thirty two, and like you would think that
Speaker 1: they just started dating. They're so cute together, you know,
Speaker 1: like they laugh, they play, they joke. And one thing
Speaker 1: I've learned from her is as long as she and
Speaker 1: I have been friends, I've known her since high school.
Speaker 1: She I can count on one hand that she said
Speaker 1: anything even slightly disparaging about him. She might be like, oh,
Speaker 1: he's getting on my nerves, but that's even rare. And
Speaker 1: she has never discussed like they're they're inside business, you know,
Speaker 1: And so just seeing that has just given me like
Speaker 1: a great like kind of like roadmap to like that's
Speaker 1: how I want to be. I want that, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean I checked him exactly, you know, and I'm
Speaker 1: sure they've gone through whatever. I'm sure, but she would
Speaker 1: never ever, ever be like, oh, let me tell you
Speaker 1: what terrible thing that he's done and I'm so sick
Speaker 1: of him, Like that just doesn't come out of her mouth,
Speaker 1: even if she's upset with him. You know, that's just
Speaker 1: it is very toxic because you're not always going to
Speaker 1: be mad at your boo, but now you're going to
Speaker 1: have the whole world mad at them forever.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've always well, I've learned to not hold the
Speaker 3: grudges since he and I moved in together. Like we
Speaker 3: like we just literally we're outside here. I am talking
Speaker 3: about our beef on the podcast, but we just got
Speaker 3: into like a little like we were just bickering about
Speaker 3: who needs to clean who needs to clean this spare
Speaker 3: bedroom and I.
Speaker 2: Was like, but I did it last week and He's like,
Speaker 2: you never grab but let me get in home, and
Speaker 2: I'm like, whatever, we're engaged. What am I going to do?
Speaker 2: Like be mad forever? It is stupid, and I feel like.
Speaker 3: But when I was when we first started dating, though,
Speaker 3: I was so quick to immediately text my best friend,
Speaker 3: and you know, we would get together, put our heads
Speaker 3: together at work and just talk about all the horrible
Speaker 3: things that's you know, what our boyfriends had done the past,
Speaker 3: and it just it just comes with age. I think
Speaker 3: you grow and you get perspective, like what's a small
Speaker 3: thing and what's a big thing.
Speaker 1: And she stopped because she said one of she had
Speaker 1: lost the best friend in college because that had happened.
Speaker 1: She had said something like, oh, he did this, he
Speaker 1: did that, and then the best friend started treating her
Speaker 1: boo poorly and then it became this you know what
Speaker 1: I mean like and then it became this toxic relationship
Speaker 1: between the three of them, and the best friend just
Speaker 1: it did wasn't a fit anymore. So the best friend
Speaker 1: kind of basically left, and you know, so I just so,
Speaker 1: she said, I just learned to be like I have
Speaker 1: to protect him. That I'm angry at him temporarily, but
Speaker 1: you know, I can say something that can have people
Speaker 1: angry at him for life.
Speaker 3: I'm really protective of you know, because we both are
Speaker 3: the breadwinner, right, I mean, not that we're like combining
Speaker 3: finances with our partner. Yeah, completely, but we earn more
Speaker 3: than our partners. And I really I'm protective because between
Speaker 3: him and I its cool, but I'm protective of anyone
Speaker 3: else having an opinion about that not being up. Yes,
Speaker 3: m I'm like he does so much for me. Money
Speaker 3: is not the only thing that's important, and it's it works,
Speaker 3: and I'm really I'm whenever I hear someone kind of
Speaker 3: start to judge that that, like that balance it, it
Speaker 3: makes me upset.
Speaker 1: No, I agree because I don't allow for any of
Speaker 1: that because I'm like, what, like Superman is like one
Speaker 1: of the kindest, nicest people that I always sound You're
Speaker 1: so much nicer than I am. Like I don't know
Speaker 1: any of the neighbors' names. He knows miss Mary has
Speaker 1: a bad hip and brings her food on Wednesdays. He
Speaker 1: knows that like little Jeremiah just started preschool and will
Speaker 1: get him a bike for his birthday. I mean, he's
Speaker 1: like the kindest, sweetest and I'm like that's such a
Speaker 1: small thing to me, being like the breadwinner. You know,
Speaker 1: it's in comparison to someone who's actually a good kind person.
Speaker 1: So you're right, me too. I'm protective over that. I
Speaker 1: wish somebody would say something. M M.
Speaker 3: If you'd like to say something, you can email us
Speaker 3: a Strong Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: Or tweet us at the BA podcast.
Speaker 3: Y'all.
Speaker 2: But I say, don't move in together just because of
Speaker 2: the money. You may regret it.
Speaker 3: And honestly, what happens when he moves out. It's like
Speaker 3: any roommate, what happens when they move out. You need
Speaker 3: to have a backup plan. Have your own money. Please
Speaker 3: have your own money?
Speaker 2: Yes? Oh lord, Okay, So I think that's it for
Speaker 2: bus Worthy.
Speaker 1: Yes, Buzzworthy out. So first, so it's now it's brown
Speaker 1: break time, right, and me and Mandy we're not gonna
Speaker 1: have We weren't gonna have a brown break. But then
Speaker 1: I started thinking I actually do want to take a break.
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't have anything to be annoyed about.
Speaker 1: Wait a second, and it this is not necessarily like
Speaker 1: because I feel bad because my best friend just had
Speaker 1: one of these, my sister just had one of these.
Speaker 1: Everybody's having one of these because I'm in my thirty
Speaker 1: so everyone was popping out these. I'm talking about bagels.
Speaker 1: So I love some babies. I love my new nephew.
Speaker 1: I love my godson who is my best friend's uh baby.
Speaker 2: Wait, can you do it? Can you say the whole thing?
Speaker 2: I need a brow and break from babies.
Speaker 1: Yes, I need a brown bait from babies, not the
Speaker 1: babies themselves, but like from like and then the baby did,
Speaker 1: and then the baby said, and then I tell you
Speaker 1: that the baby said and did said said, big big baby.
Speaker 1: I need a break just because every because I guess
Speaker 1: once you hit your thirties, everyone's like either having kids
Speaker 1: or their kids are just starting to do interesting things.
Speaker 1: And so my timeline is babied out. And I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. This is slightly hate because I want a baby.
Speaker 1: I do kind of want a baby. So when I
Speaker 1: have a baby, I will be sure to annoy everyone
Speaker 1: with my incested baby pictures exactly Like you should see
Speaker 1: my text now, Like you know, when you're twenty, some
Speaker 1: of your texts are like salacious. You're like, hey, no,
Speaker 1: my text now, anybody can read my g rated text.
Speaker 1: It's just full of baby pictures from all my friends,
Speaker 1: my friends and family, like and look at him smiling
Speaker 1: and look at him laughing, and I'm like, oh.
Speaker 3: Do you do the thing where you like some of
Speaker 3: your friend's babies better than others?
Speaker 1: No, you know what I mean, I have a couple of.
Speaker 2: Favorites, and I was like, it's a couple of not
Speaker 2: so favorites. I don't know how. I don't know what happens.
Speaker 2: I just connect with some babies more than uthers. You know.
Speaker 1: Well, you know what. The two closest babies in my life,
Speaker 1: they're still so young. Like my best friend's baby, he's like, uh,
Speaker 1: seven months or eight months, and he is mister gigglely.
Speaker 1: I mean, that baby is the happiest baby I've ever seen.
Speaker 1: I mean he's like it's blue outside, it's green outside.
Speaker 1: I'm happy, happy, happy. And then my sister's baby is
Speaker 1: like the most chill cool, like that baby was born
Speaker 1: with sunglasses on and he is so and so we're
Speaker 1: like I helped my parents put up the Christmas tree
Speaker 1: and my sisters and I today and so she brought
Speaker 1: her baby and he I was just like, look at
Speaker 1: this baby. He is so chill. No matter how much
Speaker 1: we were like smaiya giggle laugh, He's like I'm actually chilling.
Speaker 1: I mean, you guys look a little silly, but Okay.
Speaker 1: His face is just like cool as a cue humber,
Speaker 1: and he's so adorable.
Speaker 2: He's like, tell me a joke.
Speaker 1: Then, yeah, he's very dry. You were like, okay, like
Speaker 1: no crying or nothing, just looking at you like, I
Speaker 1: mean you're gonna have to do beds than that. I
Speaker 1: love it. Yeah, So I love them both, and like, honestly,
Speaker 1: I'm not really sick of, you know, babies, It's just
Speaker 1: that I'm ready for a baby, and I'm just like,
Speaker 1: it is it's a lot of work. Though. She's like,
Speaker 1: are you sure you're ready because it's a lot of work.
Speaker 2: I'm sure they would like a brown break from their
Speaker 2: own babies.
Speaker 1: They're like, you could have my baby for a little bit.
Speaker 2: Man, I kind of want to adopt.
Speaker 1: Oh.
Speaker 2: I mean I wanted to mention this earlier.
Speaker 3: I just read this really good article on Yahoo actually
Speaker 3: not a shameless plug Yahoo parenting. It was like it
Speaker 3: was an article about a white mother who talked about
Speaker 3: adopting two young black boys and she already she adopted
Speaker 3: all of her children. Then she has four kids, two
Speaker 3: white girls and then two black boys. And I thought
Speaker 3: it was a really good story just about like how
Speaker 3: like a white mother's perspective of raising two black boys,
Speaker 3: and she was so self aware.
Speaker 2: She's like, I made sure we have black friends. I
Speaker 2: do my best.
Speaker 3: She listed off all these things that she try has
Speaker 3: to do for them. It reminded me of my mom
Speaker 3: a little bit, because it's got to be hard. Yeah,
Speaker 3: my poor mom, I mean not by I grew up
Speaker 3: in the South and she had two brown babies, two
Speaker 3: white babies, and I'm sure people gave her weird stairs
Speaker 3: all the time in the grocery store, you know, but
Speaker 3: she did a great job treating us all like equals.
Speaker 1: You know. It's so funny you mentioned this because my
Speaker 1: sister was asking me today. I was like, oh, I'm
Speaker 1: taping with Mandy today, and she was like, is Mandy black?
Speaker 1: I was like, her dad's black, her mom's wife. She's like,
Speaker 1: and it's so strange. She's like, who does she what
Speaker 1: does she identify as? And I just thought it was
Speaker 1: such an interesting question. And I'm like, because when I
Speaker 1: first saw her, I thought, hmmm, I would have because
Speaker 1: I thought the same thing. I thought maybe you were
Speaker 1: like hispanic, but I knew there was a little something
Speaker 1: and I was like, hmm, she's got an extra curl
Speaker 1: in her hair, and I was like, Oh, what does
Speaker 1: Mandy identify it? I said, I don't. I think Mandy
Speaker 1: identifies as I told her. I feel like you identify
Speaker 1: as a woman of color. That not all the way
Speaker 1: like you know, sister girl black, not all the way
Speaker 1: you know, miss Mandy white, but like I don't know,
Speaker 1: just a woman of color. That's how that's my vibe
Speaker 1: from you. But what do you identify us?
Speaker 3: I mean, I say black and white. I don't know
Speaker 3: if there's a I mean, this is, this is whatever.
Speaker 3: This is a question I've been asked my entire life.
Speaker 2: What are you who?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: Where are you from? What's your background? People people stop
Speaker 2: me on the street all the time like where are
Speaker 2: you from?
Speaker 3: And I'll be like America, and I'll get really annoyed.
Speaker 3: They're like no, but like, what's your background, Oh, Georgia, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I mean, I do know. I just say I'm black
Speaker 2: and white.
Speaker 3: And I mean I grew up even further dividing those
Speaker 3: two worlds. But the fact that they got divorced when
Speaker 3: I was ten, so I would be black. When I
Speaker 3: was on my dad's family, surrounded by my black aunts,
Speaker 3: my cousins, my uncles, I love them dearly. I don't know,
Speaker 3: I'm really grateful for my background. I feel like I've
Speaker 3: got the best of both worlds in a way.
Speaker 1: No, I mean, I guess it was just like this
Speaker 1: random question just because, like I said, it was so random.
Speaker 1: And she asked, what does Mandy identify us? And I
Speaker 1: was like, I don't. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I mean, don't all biracial people.
Speaker 1: I was just biracial. Well, no, it depends to me.
Speaker 1: What I've seen is that the majority of biracial people
Speaker 1: that clearly look like once one of their segments like
Speaker 1: identify like you know, like say, for example, I don't know,
Speaker 1: Like if you get like somebody who's like maybe they
Speaker 1: might be half white half black, but they look so black,
Speaker 1: like you know, super chocolate skin, curly hair for whatever reason,
Speaker 1: you know, then it's I mean, it's not even a
Speaker 1: question because it's just like, well, I look so black,
Speaker 1: so I'm not like I'm hiding. And then but you
Speaker 1: do get some And then because I've gone to school
Speaker 1: with one of my friends was biracial in high school.
Speaker 1: But she like it's almost like I could tell she
Speaker 1: was a little something, but only with like the trained
Speaker 1: black eye, could you see a little something, because honestly,
Speaker 1: she looked like Nicole Ritchie, like you could really not
Speaker 1: hardly tell at all that she her father was black,
Speaker 1: but he was like really fair and had like curly hair,
Speaker 1: and so she she more so identified with her mom's
Speaker 1: side like white and nothing she would herself like just
Speaker 1: plaining white. But I don't know, it just seemed like
Speaker 1: that's the road that she was taking, which is okay,
Speaker 1: you know. And then you have somebody like Jesse Williams
Speaker 1: hight is that his last name, Williams. Super cute, you know,
Speaker 1: and so he could like totally you know, he doesn't
Speaker 1: look like, he doesn't have super strong black features, and
Speaker 1: even though he has looks like he has a little
Speaker 1: something in him he could easily identify with, you know,
Speaker 1: white if he wanted to. But it seems like he
Speaker 1: heavily identifies with being black more so than anything, even
Speaker 1: though of course he doesn't discount or discredit his you know,
Speaker 1: his his white side. But I don't know, I think.
Speaker 3: I think that it matters a whole hell of a
Speaker 3: lot more to everybody else would identify myself as Honestly,
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to be sassy, but I mean, I've
Speaker 3: talked about this before, Like, I'm just I'm tired of
Speaker 3: people telling me I'm not black.
Speaker 2: I'm tired of people telling me that I'm not this.
Speaker 2: My hair is this? You know.
Speaker 3: I was just I mean, people ask me, why are
Speaker 3: you trying to make your hair natural? Like why don't
Speaker 3: you just, you know, just diet straight, died straight, you know,
Speaker 3: make it straight. I had a coworker tell me that
Speaker 3: wasn't black because I tried to do the whip nanna
Speaker 3: and I had no idea how to do it to
Speaker 3: like's not black, you're not black, And I'm like, I'm.
Speaker 2: So fucking sorry. I'm so tired of.
Speaker 3: People having an opinion about what I am. And it's
Speaker 3: fine for people to be curious, I guess, But at
Speaker 3: the same time, it's not like I'm I don't know,
Speaker 3: I guess. I'm not trying to defend someone like Rachel Dolesol.
Speaker 3: But at the same time, I mean, I actually have
Speaker 3: the background. I have a black father and a white mother,
Speaker 3: and I'm like, well, I'm I'm not gonna pick a lane.
Speaker 1: Honestly, and you don't have to, you know. It's so
Speaker 1: funny because it's like I remember, like, like, now you
Speaker 1: can't tell by the way I speak, but when I
Speaker 1: grew up in an all white, mostly Jewish town, and
Speaker 1: so at one point, like I didn't even I didn't
Speaker 1: know what I sounded like. I just felt like I
Speaker 1: sounded like me, but I sounded like like a valley girl,
Speaker 1: like I am a name Sippy, and like there was
Speaker 1: no base in my voice, no, no, nothing, because that's
Speaker 1: just where I grew up. And it wasn't until I
Speaker 1: came to work in New York, which is like majority black,
Speaker 1: and that somebody was like, why do you talk like that?
Speaker 1: And I literally had no idea what they met And
Speaker 1: I'm like what, And I thought maybe because my parents
Speaker 1: are African. I'm like, do I have an African accent
Speaker 1: or something? Because I was born in America. But and
Speaker 1: she's like, like, you know, why do you talk like that? Stop?
Speaker 1: And I did not know what she meant. I was
Speaker 1: twenty two, and I'm like, what do you mean. She's
Speaker 1: like stop, like she thought that I was putting on
Speaker 1: And for the longest time, people really thought that I
Speaker 1: was forcing that accent. And I just remember being like
Speaker 1: and then someone telling me and then used to pick
Speaker 1: on me, like my first job in Newark, like the
Speaker 1: black girls would pick on me and tell me that
Speaker 1: I wasn't black and I sound like a white girl,
Speaker 1: and like they were gonna beat me up and some
Speaker 1: other foolishness. Until one day I just snapped and she
Speaker 1: was like something something yeah, okay, whatever, white girl. And
Speaker 1: I said, can I ask you a question? And she
Speaker 1: was like yeah. I said where were your parents born?
Speaker 1: And she was like Jersey. I said what about your grandmother?
Speaker 1: And she was like Georgia. I was like, well, what
Speaker 1: about her grandmother? She was like I don't know. I said,
Speaker 1: you want to know where my parents were born? She
Speaker 1: was like where? I said, Africa? You want to know
Speaker 1: where they're parents were born. She's like where, I said, Africa?
Speaker 1: You want to know where they're parents are born? She said where?
Speaker 1: I said Africa and Africa before that and Africa before that.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you who's the blackest person in this room.
Speaker 1: It's not you, so like, don't you know? And I
Speaker 1: just remember telling her that that, like just because I
Speaker 1: sound a certain way and I don't have hardly any rhythm,
Speaker 1: this is just true for whatever reason, like that doesn't
Speaker 1: make me less black, you know. And I'm like, I
Speaker 1: can trace my roots back to the to back before
Speaker 1: when my last name was one name and the village
Speaker 1: was started by my great great great great grandfather. So
Speaker 1: you know, I'm good on the black side. And after
Speaker 1: that they stopped.
Speaker 3: I didn't even get what it is, Like, what is
Speaker 3: the magic formula that makes you black enough? I think
Speaker 3: what it gets down to is socioeconomic status.
Speaker 2: And yeah, where you grew up and where you're from,
Speaker 2: And like, I'm not even gonna lie, I'm not from
Speaker 2: the hood.
Speaker 1: Yeah me either.
Speaker 2: Our family is my dad's family live in the hood.
Speaker 3: I go there over the holidays, feel uncomfortable all the
Speaker 3: time because I'm not of that environment, but I love
Speaker 3: my family.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And like it's so crazy now because I kind
Speaker 1: of live in the semis the hood now because this
Speaker 1: is where Superman is born and bred. And I'm like, huh,
Speaker 1: look what love brought me. But honestly, I don't mind.
Speaker 1: I don't know. You know, it was such an adjustment
Speaker 1: coming from African parents, super African at home and then
Speaker 1: at school everything is super white and then all of
Speaker 1: a sudden coming to a super black town and but
Speaker 1: it's been like, I love it though. I love that
Speaker 1: I get to see different walks of life, you know,
Speaker 1: as it relates to me being me and me being black.
Speaker 1: But you're right, what does black really mean? Like you know,
Speaker 1: is it skin color? Is it like you said, is
Speaker 1: it culture? Like if you can't whip in Nane, are
Speaker 1: you less black? I don't know. I think they should
Speaker 1: tell us, like what do you think being black? Neids?
Speaker 1: I would love to hear from the people from the
Speaker 1: folks listening at home. What do you think being black? Waves?
Speaker 1: Sweet us at the BA podcast, Facebook us this is
Speaker 1: what I think black mets at Brown Ambition on Facebook
Speaker 1: and email us at.
Speaker 3: Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com. You can read
Speaker 3: those emails.
Speaker 2: I'm good. I don't want to read They're gonna be
Speaker 2: like you're not black enough. I'm like, oh no.
Speaker 1: We're not. We're asking what do you think yourselves yet?
Speaker 1: Like not not, we're not asking Mandy or me, but
Speaker 1: what you just think that being black needs?
Speaker 3: What's going to happen when my last name is all
Speaker 3: of a sudden, like like my new name will be Santos,
Speaker 3: that's my new last name.
Speaker 1: Then you know what's going to happen? Everyone who who's Hispanic.
Speaker 1: When they see you and you don't speak Spanish, they'recause
Speaker 1: I think they're trying to deny your culture.
Speaker 2: They're gonna.
Speaker 3: I feel like people will be like, oh, you're in
Speaker 3: Hispanish like that is like I feel like people will
Speaker 3: be finally like, oh that makes sense. Yeah you look brown,
Speaker 3: you're probably probably Dominican.
Speaker 1: Yep.
Speaker 3: But I love I love being ambiguous because it's allowed
Speaker 3: me to travel and blend in everywhere I go.
Speaker 2: I could blend it.
Speaker 3: In Brazil, I blended in in Chili and Argentina like
Speaker 3: I love blending in. No one asks me any questions.
Speaker 1: That's awesome though. You're right though, because you're right, you could.
Speaker 1: You're like, they're what they call it, uh racially ambiguous.
Speaker 1: Actually buzz he just had a did you see that
Speaker 1: article about celebrities you didn't know uh were like biracial
Speaker 1: or whatever. But some of them.
Speaker 2: Look at Rashida Jones.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean Quincy Jones is her father brown man,
Speaker 1: you know, and look at what we all knew that
Speaker 1: what's her face was? Uh, what's her name? Mariah Carrey was,
Speaker 1: But there were some people on there that I didn't know,
Speaker 1: like uh, some young well some of these people are
Speaker 1: too young for us to really care about. But yeah, wow,
Speaker 1: that was a long brown break. Did you even do
Speaker 1: your brown break or not?
Speaker 3: But I can do a brown break from people asking
Speaker 3: me what I am? Okay, that's good, how black I
Speaker 3: am and telling me whether or not I'm black.
Speaker 1: Yes, we could definitely take a break from that. So
Speaker 1: a matter of fact, don't get up the emails. I
Speaker 1: think that we're taking over. We're taking a brown break
Speaker 1: from that, and we're canceling that.
Speaker 3: I really wanted this podcast to not just speak to
Speaker 3: speak of women of color, you know.
Speaker 2: That's why it's called ambition.
Speaker 3: And I think that even though we may not like
Speaker 3: I may not be Hispanic, and you may not be
Speaker 3: Indian American or some other race, you know, Like I
Speaker 3: feel like there are shared experiences of being other that
Speaker 3: we can all relate to and speak from. And that's
Speaker 3: why that was the whole sort of impetus for this podcast.
Speaker 3: And I hope it feels inclusive and people feel like
Speaker 3: they can get something out of it no matter where
Speaker 3: you're from.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so. I don't think we get like
Speaker 1: super race happy most of the time. I mean, but
Speaker 1: it's good to bring it up when it comes up, you.
Speaker 2: Know, definitely, definitely, So let's.
Speaker 1: Go right into wins when right when the two of us,
Speaker 1: I like that song Ben, that's just random anyway. So
Speaker 1: a win and what is a good win?
Speaker 2: I have a win?
Speaker 1: Okay, what well?
Speaker 3: I kind of told you about this before, but this week,
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't want to talk about my current
Speaker 3: employer too much, but this week I asked.
Speaker 2: For a raise.
Speaker 1: Ooh, how did it go?
Speaker 2: I don't think my boss is listening to this, so hopefully,
Speaker 2: you know, I think it went. It went well, and
Speaker 2: I hadn't planned on doing it.
Speaker 3: I didn't have, like, you know, I didn't have a
Speaker 3: PowerPoint slide presentation of my you know, accomplishments for the
Speaker 3: past year. But I just know that the cute that
Speaker 3: third quarter is really an important in time to ask
Speaker 3: for promotion and a raise because this is the time
Speaker 3: when they make all the decisions going into the last
Speaker 3: quarter before the fiscal year ends. So from a strategy point,
Speaker 3: I was like, now, we're never now or never. He
Speaker 3: was very receptive, and I'm really glad I did it
Speaker 3: because one thing he told me was, Wow, no one
Speaker 3: else has asked me this all year, like no one else.
Speaker 2: Has asked, and I'm like, yep, you know what.
Speaker 3: The first thing I did was I went back to
Speaker 3: my desk and I told the two One of my
Speaker 3: two close work friends are both women. I was like, ladies,
Speaker 3: do not be afraid to ask, go ask for a raise.
Speaker 3: And I know one of them went to ask, and
Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure the other one's going to ask soon.
Speaker 3: Good And I was like, there's and you know, I
Speaker 3: didn't even feel like, oh, you know, I don't want
Speaker 3: to tell anybody that this guy you know, seems open
Speaker 3: to it.
Speaker 2: You know. I wanted to share that because.
Speaker 3: I feel like information is power, Yeah, and we should
Speaker 3: tell each other everything we know about what it's, what
Speaker 3: it takes to get to the next level. And there's
Speaker 3: enough out there for everybody. So I was pretty proud
Speaker 3: of that moment. I mean, who knows if it'll happen.
Speaker 1: But still, the fact that you ask, that's huge, you know,
Speaker 1: and you never know.
Speaker 2: If you don't ask, all you do is get.
Speaker 1: Bitter, exactly. The answers always know if you don't ask.
Speaker 3: And I will say this, I didn't We're supposed to
Speaker 3: have reviews and I didn't get a review this this
Speaker 3: past quarter, and everyone no one got a review, and
Speaker 3: everyone's sort of just let you know, they grumbled about it,
Speaker 3: but no one actually did anything. And I was like,
Speaker 3: I'm just going to ask my manager for a review
Speaker 3: and I'm going to ask for a raise.
Speaker 2: I'm just going to do it.
Speaker 3: And I hear people complaining about, oh, my manager doesn't
Speaker 3: never give me a chance to you know, have a
Speaker 3: review or sit down with me.
Speaker 2: And sometimes you just got to do it yourself.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying it's not ideal, but you got to
Speaker 3: take the initiative sometimes if your vanager is not doing
Speaker 3: it for you because he's not there to mean he's not,
Speaker 3: they're not. They have so much on their plate. You know,
Speaker 3: one employee maybe isn't the priority. So you have to,
Speaker 3: you know, speak up for yourself in that way.
Speaker 1: Exactly. The squeak what is it, The squeaky wheel gets
Speaker 1: the oil.
Speaker 2: I'm a squeaky wheel. I'm just squeaky everything.
Speaker 3: And then let me tell you, I was nosing about
Speaker 3: trying to figure everybody makes like what can I ask for?
Speaker 2: What's possible? I ask all the awkward questions. I'm squeaky
Speaker 2: that's good. Get in trouble one day.
Speaker 1: No, most people are not are not squeaky. What was
Speaker 1: I going to say?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 1: My win is I'm leaving tomorrow morning on my first
Speaker 1: international speaking gig. Woo whoo. I'm excited. It's in Barbados.
Speaker 1: It's for this this Bridle magazine called Munoluchi Bridle. They're
Speaker 1: having a they have an annual kind of like bridal conference.
Speaker 2: Can you get me any coupons or like a free
Speaker 2: copy in the magazine? Oh?
Speaker 1: Yeah, true, I should I forgot about that, Like yeah.
Speaker 1: So they asked me to come speak because they're do
Speaker 1: this conference and all these Bridal professionals flying from all
Speaker 1: around the world. Some are coming as far as like Africa. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so it's dope. I guess they've done this before.
Speaker 2: Oh I'm looking at the Instagram.
Speaker 1: Ooh, I know, very fancy. And so they.
Speaker 2: Were like samples back.
Speaker 1: Well maybe get true. And she asked me to come
Speaker 1: because she said one of the number one things I
Speaker 1: guess the participants of the last conference that they wanted
Speaker 1: to learn about was how do you budget as a
Speaker 1: as a business owner? And I was like, okay, I
Speaker 1: can come talk about that, and she was like, you know, obviously,
Speaker 1: like the hotel, flight, food, all that stuff is free.
Speaker 1: And I was like okay, and then she was like
Speaker 1: you can bring anybody. Like I was like, Superman, do
Speaker 1: you want to fly? And he was like yes, And
Speaker 1: I said, well, let's see, like how much extra costs,
Speaker 1: and she's like, no, it'd be no additional cost for him.
Speaker 1: He just have to get his flight. So then I
Speaker 1: checked to see I said, you know, he has a
Speaker 1: credit card. I said, well, let's see between my points
Speaker 1: and your credit card if we have enough points to
Speaker 1: get a free flight. And we did, so, I know what,
Speaker 1: five days, four nights in like a resort in Barbados
Speaker 1: for free. So I'm super excited and just I know
Speaker 1: we're just gonna have a ton of fun and like
Speaker 1: literally it's just straight vacation for him. And I only
Speaker 1: speak one hour on one day, so the rest is
Speaker 1: just pure vacation.
Speaker 2: Holy crap. And they give you five days. That's awesome.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so yeah, I'm looking at their instagram right now.
Speaker 3: That's why I got quiet. It's really pretty stuff.
Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I'm really excited about them.
Speaker 3: Are you talking about how to save and budget while
Speaker 3: you're with the business while you're playing a wedding.
Speaker 1: No, I'm talking about because these are all bridal professionals,
Speaker 1: So I'm more so talking about how do you oh yeah,
Speaker 1: how do you save? Or really just how do you
Speaker 1: budget when you're when you have an irregular income? You know?
Speaker 1: So that's what I would, you know, be talking because
Speaker 1: everybody kind of struggles with that, especially at the beginning.
Speaker 1: And you know, so I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I know I did well? How believe this is the
Speaker 1: end of BA podcasts. We are signing off. I still
Speaker 1: have packing to do. I just looking at my toes, like, yikes,
Speaker 1: I can't go to Barbados with these toes looking like this. Y'all.
Speaker 1: I know I have so much to do, but you
Speaker 1: know what, I'm excited and I can't wait to I
Speaker 1: would say get a tan, but I mean I was
Speaker 1: born with these sands, so you know, God did it?
Speaker 2: Builtin's on screen, That's what I call it. Yep, have
Speaker 2: so much fun. I'm so excited for you.
Speaker 1: I can't wait too. Superman's like, are you gonna bring
Speaker 1: your computer? I'm like, who are you talking to? Of course?
Speaker 1: Oh Vaca't you don't stop work? I mean, I'm not
Speaker 1: going to work extra extra like I normally do. But
Speaker 1: I have things to.
Speaker 2: Do, right, you know, I have a lot of fun.
Speaker 1: All right. Well, we will see you guys next week.
Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed and keep in contact with us.
Speaker 1: Tweete while I'm away.
Speaker 2: What's your Twitter?
Speaker 1: Oh? The Budgetnista and Mandy Mandy woodroff Right, Mandy.
Speaker 2: With I at Mandy Woodward with an I and at
Speaker 2: the BA podcast. You left hearing from you guys.