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Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.

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Speaker 1: She couldn't She cleaned and cared for her children and

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Speaker 2: Didn't talk back.

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Speaker 1: She was both obed, hint and soft by nature. She

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Speaker 1: was a good woman who always made good choices. We're

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Speaker 1: Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 3: Two single mom who said fuck the patriarchy, shared all

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Speaker 3: their bad choices and.

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Speaker 1: Sound out they were so bad.

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Speaker 2: After all, we're experts. Overshares and your new besties.

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Speaker 1: Sit back and enjoy the ride.

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Speaker 2: I can do it. Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 1: I'm Erica and I'm Mila, and it's Wednesday.

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Speaker 2: It's Wednesday.

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Speaker 3: Did you guys enjoy our intro music? Shout out to

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Speaker 3: Anthem Music Group. Yes, I love our intro music you too.

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Speaker 3: Today is a very special episode because we're only two

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Speaker 3: days away from Valentine's.

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Speaker 1: Day, Lover's Day.

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Speaker 2: I feel like you used to hate Valentine's Day.

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Speaker 1: I don't hate it, I don't really celebrate it.

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Speaker 3: You're just like anti celebration of Valentine's Day, your anti love.

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Speaker 1: I don't think that this very hallmark holiday in the gates,

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Speaker 2: I've made of love.

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Speaker 1: I don't need a day on the calendar to remind

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Speaker 1: me how I deserve and love to give love. However,

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Speaker 1: I think this is great for people that do. Do

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Speaker 3: Are you going to be disappointed or expect anything of

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Speaker 3: Valentine's Day? Like any special treatment, a special coffee, a walk,

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Speaker 1: I mean, if my man wants to do that, I'm

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Speaker 1: not going to be mad. But if he Doesn't'm also

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Speaker 1: not going to be mad. So I've never been mad about.

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Speaker 3: Valentine's So if your man doesn't acknowledge it all, so

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Speaker 3: it's not one thing about being Valentine's Day, you won't

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Speaker 1: No, this is one of those days I really could

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Speaker 2: What did you do any Valentine's Day?

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Speaker 1: Do you care about Valentine's Day?

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Speaker 3: I mean, I'm not a holiday person unless it's like Halloween,

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Speaker 1: I mean I love I love love, and if it's

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Speaker 1: all for it, and so I'm not I'm not against it.

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Speaker 1: And I also think, like, I'm really excited because we

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Speaker 1: lot of single mom love stories. So I'm grateful that

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Speaker 1: this day inspired that, because reading these stories was really

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Speaker 1: this year because it gave me the opportunity to read

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Speaker 3: I'm just thinking about us talking about yeah, Valentine's whatever,

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Speaker 2: Right an outfit.

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Speaker 1: Well, you know, I'm always down for a theme, bitch, Like,

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Speaker 3: If you're just joining our show and you're just getting

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Speaker 3: to know Erica and Mila, that's Erica by the way

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Speaker 1: So so, no, I don't hate Valentine's I've never hated

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Speaker 2: The what in the beast?

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Speaker 3: The machine is so crazy, Like consumerism is so blind

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Speaker 1: They're not blind. It's all intentional. I saw.

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Speaker 3: I'm saying consumers are blind when I go into stores.

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Speaker 1: I meant the machine. I was like, no, the machine

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Speaker 2: Rest the wallets.

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Speaker 3: My gee and I boycotted Christmas this year by buying

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Speaker 3: With with the men and the fucking football games and

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Speaker 1: They're there to watch the game.

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Speaker 3: what they say hungry, it's distractions, babe.

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Speaker 2: It's just it's a distraction. I need to eat. People

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Speaker 1: It's your chance to make Orlando food for once.

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Speaker 2: Okay, he has to eat every day, but this is

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Speaker 1: That's your day.

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Speaker 3: How many days a week that football games come, are

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Speaker 2: I obviously have hope, but I'm not.

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Speaker 3: I'm not participating in the football season bullshit because it's

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Speaker 1: So don't I don't have to deal with that.

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Speaker 2: Then you forget about things that matter like being present.

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Speaker 2: So by moving to the jungle where nobody gives a fuck.

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Speaker 1: I just want to say shout out to our tribe

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Speaker 1: during the Breakfast Club. We were on the Breakfast Club

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Speaker 1: to Charlemagne, DJ Envy Lauren, who showed us a lot

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Speaker 2: Whores always like whores.

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Speaker 3: You know, it's difficult to be a sex positive woman

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Speaker 3: Even the things the thing about what we do is like,

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I feel like we've come a really long way,

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Speaker 3: And then sometimes when they ask, I'm like, just shut up,

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Speaker 3: We're here now. But then I'm like, there is moms

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Speaker 1: Oh excuse me. Okay, and you guys, I'm okay. I

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Speaker 1: don't know if you saw. Also, we announced two retreats

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Speaker 1: in the summer go in Costa Rica. Yay women's retreats.

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Speaker 1: We do actually still have a few spots left for

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Speaker 1: our couples retreat in June, so if you have any lovers,

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Speaker 1: speaking of love and lovers, we have some spots available

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Speaker 1: at our couple's retreat in Costa Rica. This is going

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Speaker 1: to be a really special treat. It's going to be me,

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Speaker 1: Mila Orlando and my partnership m and we're going to

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Speaker 1: be just it's all about play. This is like the play.

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Speaker 1: This is like a retreat really built around adventure, really

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Speaker 1: That you know, bad choices don't mean good, don't mean bad.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what you've been doing with that roses whole.

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Speaker 2: I thought the hole would like electrocute you. No, that

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Speaker 3: You know a lot of that shit really comes from China,

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Speaker 3: But that shit right there, and mine stopped working it

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Speaker 2: We'd bring back the old school chargers, just regular batteries.

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Speaker 2: I feel like it so age Like, did you get

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Speaker 2: She gave that to you.

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Speaker 1: It was a back massager.

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Speaker 3: It makes way more sense because it was huge and

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Speaker 2: How old were you when you got this?

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Speaker 1: My mom got me my back massage or slash vibrator.

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Speaker 1: No, you said what I didn't even know?

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Speaker 1: And then it took me like one year to figure out.

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Speaker 3: And then, oh my god, remember something else? What I

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, why is my mom calling me?

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Speaker 2: Hello?

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Speaker 1: Da? Thanks for the vibrator, slash massage or the.

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Speaker 2: She was doing. She heard your complain, she heard your prayers.

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Speaker 3: One time I was traveling and I must have been

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Speaker 2: And do you know what I did?

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Speaker 3: I use the back of my vibrating toothbrush.

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Speaker 3: You can download a vibrating vibrator, but you just make

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Speaker 1: It's not very do you dont'ta pul like plastic on

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Speaker 2: Anyway. I don't recommend any of these things. You didn't

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Speaker 1: You knowing all the things that come off of phones

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Speaker 1: I'm not judging you. I'm just saying, like all I'm

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Speaker 3: So if you're hearing this and you need to stop

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Speaker 1: Mhm. So I just shuffled some cards. I think I've

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Speaker 2: It's just God with the people. Should we come back

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Speaker 3: our position of marriage and girlfriend status. And I think

441
00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:34,280
Speaker 3: we even had an episode once it's called like I'm

442
00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:36,920
Speaker 3: auditioning Beer Wife, because that was that was the week

443
00:19:36,920 --> 00:19:38,440
Speaker 3: We're really trying to be somebody's wife.

444
00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:40,600
Speaker 2: And then we've had other episodes just like I'm a Home.

445
00:19:44,440 --> 00:19:46,920
Speaker 3: So there's just been a wide range of where we've

446
00:19:47,000 --> 00:19:49,679
Speaker 3: been in our single dumb and like where we're at

447
00:19:49,720 --> 00:19:52,919
Speaker 3: in our relationship status. And you know, if you're if

448
00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:55,560
Speaker 3: you've been with the show for a long time, you've

449
00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:58,360
Speaker 3: watched us grow. You know, you've been with us through

450
00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:02,040
Speaker 3: most of our thirties, and so it's like the evolution

451
00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:06,840
Speaker 3: of like the evolution of a WHO evolution. And now

452
00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:12,240
Speaker 3: we're both in stable, healthy, loving relationships kind of for

453
00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:15,680
Speaker 3: the first time ever that are compatible and makes sense

454
00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:18,120
Speaker 3: because before you know, there's a lot of trial and error.

455
00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:20,959
Speaker 3: And so we decided that today we're going to dedicate

456
00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:25,560
Speaker 3: the entire episode to single moms finding love because there's

457
00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:28,520
Speaker 3: so much shit on the internet about single moms not

458
00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:31,840
Speaker 3: being worthy, not shouldn't be able to date, shouldn't date,

459
00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:34,280
Speaker 3: don't date them, they made the wrong mistake the first time,

460
00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:37,000
Speaker 3: fuck them. They shouldn't date for twenty years at least

461
00:20:37,000 --> 00:20:39,560
Speaker 3: to this child is out the house. There's so much

462
00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:44,680
Speaker 3: false information about saying like leaving the moms behind somehow

463
00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:47,840
Speaker 3: like we asked ourselves to be single moms and that

464
00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:51,120
Speaker 3: was our, like, our life's choice. So I'm just I'm

465
00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:57,360
Speaker 3: happy to finally celebrate and highlight the stories of women

466
00:20:57,400 --> 00:21:03,000
Speaker 3: who have found love after baby Daddy's Amen. Amen, Shall

467
00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:03,360
Speaker 3: we begin?

468
00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:06,400
Speaker 2: Then, shall begin? Once upon a time, single hoes found.

469
00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:10,200
Speaker 1: Once upon a time a mom had sex and had

470
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:11,800
Speaker 1: a baby and realized this.

471
00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:12,879
Speaker 2: Ain't it, This ain't it.

472
00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:15,399
Speaker 3: And then she said, I'm not gonna let all these

473
00:21:15,520 --> 00:21:17,960
Speaker 3: ugly mugs on the internet tell me what the fuck

474
00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:21,199
Speaker 3: I can't have. I'm gonna pursue other men, and they

475
00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:22,480
Speaker 3: will be men that will pursue me.

476
00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:25,760
Speaker 1: And what do you know, it exists all right. I

477
00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:27,960
Speaker 1: was with my ex husband since a week before my

478
00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:32,639
Speaker 1: seventeenth birthday. He was sixteen. It was always high highs

479
00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:34,680
Speaker 1: and low lows. But shit really hit the fan when

480
00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:37,159
Speaker 1: we had kids back to back, two under two. He

481
00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:39,679
Speaker 1: left me while I was seven months pregnant with our second.

482
00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:42,399
Speaker 1: It was traumatizing. He would take our only car and

483
00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:44,640
Speaker 1: go stay at his cousin's house, and to this day

484
00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:47,320
Speaker 1: he still can't hold a steady job. He came back

485
00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:49,359
Speaker 1: when our daughter was born, but it was another two

486
00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:52,280
Speaker 1: years of on and off before it finally ended, mostly

487
00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:55,200
Speaker 1: because I found out he was on dating sites and

488
00:21:55,280 --> 00:21:57,240
Speaker 1: the one girl he started talking to during that time

489
00:21:57,320 --> 00:22:00,159
Speaker 1: became the mother of his third child. The relationship. It

490
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:04,000
Speaker 1: was stressful mentally, emotionally and financially. Anyway, now you know

491
00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:06,480
Speaker 1: the backstory. Once I was mentally free from him, I

492
00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:09,360
Speaker 1: spent the next seven months finally dating after not having

493
00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:11,400
Speaker 1: an adult dating life at all. I was twenty nine.

494
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:13,280
Speaker 1: I made a lot of mistakes during that time. I

495
00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:16,080
Speaker 1: was not emotionally mature or ready to be dating anyone

496
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:20,320
Speaker 1: or messing around I would instantly get attached. Then, in

497
00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:22,960
Speaker 1: February of twenty sixteen, I was on a dating app

498
00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:25,639
Speaker 1: and saw a cute guy. Started talking and he was

499
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:28,280
Speaker 1: instantly different than anyone else. We went on a date

500
00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:32,160
Speaker 1: right away, no talking forever and going nowhere. He took

501
00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:34,520
Speaker 1: me to lunch that same night, asked me to the movies.

502
00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:36,600
Speaker 1: It was great, so we made plans to go on

503
00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:39,639
Speaker 1: a Valentine's Day date two days later. I took some

504
00:22:39,760 --> 00:22:42,800
Speaker 1: convincing after that date because I was not feeling his style.

505
00:22:43,440 --> 00:22:45,520
Speaker 1: I wrote him off as corny and told him I

506
00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:48,000
Speaker 1: wasn't ready to date, and that was that. He respected

507
00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:50,240
Speaker 1: my decision. A week later, he texted me about a

508
00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:53,120
Speaker 1: song he heard, so we started talking again, and slowly

509
00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:55,960
Speaker 1: but surely I got to know him and by February

510
00:22:56,080 --> 00:22:56,640
Speaker 1: twenty ninth.

511
00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:57,560
Speaker 2: I was in love.

512
00:22:57,760 --> 00:23:01,959
Speaker 1: Wait what was the first date? February? Anyway, I think

513
00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:05,000
Speaker 1: it was like thirty days. I'm obsessed with this man.

514
00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:07,719
Speaker 1: There is no one better than him. He comes from

515
00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:10,399
Speaker 1: a good family. He loves my children. He provides for us.

516
00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:13,399
Speaker 1: He never tells us no. He does anything to make

517
00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:16,560
Speaker 1: us happy. He's calm, rational, and level headed. He's a

518
00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:20,680
Speaker 1: provider in every way possible. He's handsome and an amazing lover.

519
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:24,160
Speaker 1: We are married and we had a baby. He had

520
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,040
Speaker 1: his own story with his ex wife and they have

521
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:29,200
Speaker 1: a daughter. It's now been almost nine years and everything

522
00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:31,880
Speaker 1: is amazing. We are a blended family and all work

523
00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:34,200
Speaker 1: together to make sure the kids are good. His ex

524
00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:37,800
Speaker 1: wife is our family and is included in many family events.

525
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:40,480
Speaker 1: I often hope that women could experience the love that

526
00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 1: we have, because when you're in a shitty situation, you

527
00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:45,639
Speaker 1: think it's normal and it's not. You can have the

528
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:47,720
Speaker 1: life you dream of, and in my case, it was

529
00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:50,359
Speaker 1: because I gave the nerdy, goofy guy a chance.

530
00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:52,080
Speaker 2: That's beautiful.

531
00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:54,680
Speaker 3: I love that sometimes you got to go outside of

532
00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:56,920
Speaker 3: your comfort zone or what you usually date, because what

533
00:23:57,000 --> 00:23:58,840
Speaker 3: you usually date has historically not worked.

534
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:01,280
Speaker 1: I mean we did this on the last episode, like

535
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:03,399
Speaker 1: not going too far. There's a fine line if you

536
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 1: got to make your pussy tingle, as Mila said in

537
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 1: that episode, if you tingle, don't put.

538
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,240
Speaker 3: If you're you're taking it on pussy, if you're taking

539
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 3: all pussy and pussy, don't tangle.

540
00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:10,960
Speaker 2: It ain't for you.

541
00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:16,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I think it's true. I think sometimes we are, like,

542
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 1: it's true, like we're so used to like dealing with

543
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:20,240
Speaker 1: a certain type of person, even esthetically, that like we

544
00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:23,239
Speaker 1: don't even give people a chance, and often like might

545
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:27,399
Speaker 1: just pass up our our future husband, our future baby daddy,

546
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:28,800
Speaker 1: or future love based on that.

547
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:31,200
Speaker 2: So based on shit.

548
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:33,080
Speaker 3: That doesn't really matter, You've got to really, like, I

549
00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:34,520
Speaker 3: know a lot of people are like, oh, the sex

550
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:37,640
Speaker 3: really matter, Yes, bitch, it does. But there's other things

551
00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 3: that don't matter. Like, you know, a pair of shoes

552
00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:42,639
Speaker 3: you hate, you can fucking throw those away, you know,

553
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 3: and buy a new pair. There's certain things that just

554
00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 3: shouldn't be a game changer. And you also know what

555
00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 3: is a game I mean, not a game changer, a

556
00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:50,800
Speaker 3: deal breaker, And you also know what the deal breaker

557
00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:52,440
Speaker 3: is going to be. You know, what another thing is

558
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:55,400
Speaker 3: reading all these stories, I realize there are so many

559
00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:59,399
Speaker 3: things about my baby daddy relationship that I literally locked

560
00:24:59,440 --> 00:25:01,639
Speaker 3: out in my mind, and it's just so far removed

561
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:04,640
Speaker 3: from me that I forgot. Like I caught my baby

562
00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:08,040
Speaker 3: daddy on bumble when I was pregnant, and I was like,

563
00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:11,680
Speaker 3: what the fuck? And I totally forgot that happened totally.

564
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:13,960
Speaker 3: I just was like when I read it, I was like,

565
00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:16,760
Speaker 3: oh my god, that happened to me. But when you

566
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 3: decide to move on and you let some shit go,

567
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:22,439
Speaker 3: you forget. And also you're when it's traumatic, you forget.

568
00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 3: You're like, it's too much going on right now.

569
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 2: I have to have a baby.

570
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:27,440
Speaker 3: I can't think about this shit. So this was a

571
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:30,479
Speaker 3: nice reminder of, oh yeah, bitch, that was you too.

572
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:34,000
Speaker 3: And I love the blended family because I think that that, too,

573
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:35,760
Speaker 3: is is goals.

574
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 1: You know. The hope is that like that we all

575
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:41,000
Speaker 1: get to coexist one with one another. I mean, I

576
00:25:41,040 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 1: don't want to say that's the hope, but it was

577
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:43,800
Speaker 1: my hope.

578
00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:45,960
Speaker 3: It is like it is idea when you have a help,

579
00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:48,920
Speaker 3: when you get to a healthy place with mature men.

580
00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:51,639
Speaker 3: But I mean, obviously it's a lot of times we

581
00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 3: leave men because they're not mature, So you know, it's

582
00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:56,920
Speaker 3: not always the case, but I would prefer it that way, Like,

583
00:25:57,280 --> 00:26:00,480
Speaker 3: let's all just be a happy, big family and brunch.

584
00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:04,720
Speaker 3: But you know, yeah, I'm gonna hear the second story. Yeah,

585
00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 3: come on, okay, love story number two. I'm in the

586
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 3: military and have two beautiful children. I am currently deployed

587
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 3: and found a man out here that I truly love.

588
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:17,680
Speaker 3: It's only been three months, but he's amazing. He's thoughtful,

589
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:22,680
Speaker 3: over communicates, romantic, protective, productive, intelligent, a giver.

590
00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:25,400
Speaker 2: The list goes on. He's also given me the best

591
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:28,320
Speaker 2: sex I've ever had in my life. Don't let that

592
00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 2: confuse a girl.

593
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:32,560
Speaker 3: I've made myself scored a little, but this man gets

594
00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:36,520
Speaker 3: Niagara falls out of me every time we make love. Okay,

595
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:40,400
Speaker 3: he's twenty six, divorced, no kids. I'm twenty nine, divorced

596
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:42,680
Speaker 3: and a lover girl. I'm ready for marriage again and

597
00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 3: to grow my family even more.

598
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:47,560
Speaker 2: I think this is it. Wish me luck, damn bad

599
00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:47,960
Speaker 2: of the game.

600
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 3: Twenty nine divorce you ready to go again? Because baby

601
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:53,119
Speaker 3: a bitch was bruised. I was like, I might not

602
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:55,320
Speaker 3: ever see that I might be single forever.

603
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:56,960
Speaker 2: I'm proud.

604
00:26:57,080 --> 00:27:00,639
Speaker 1: You know what love will expedite at leve expedite the

605
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:03,359
Speaker 1: healing process. You know. I think God knew we needed time,

606
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:04,639
Speaker 1: We needed some.

607
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:08,560
Speaker 2: Mirror, some seasoning to like work on our own things so.

608
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:11,639
Speaker 1: That like when love walked through the door, we would fuck.

609
00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:13,640
Speaker 2: It up, it would be completely scarred well.

610
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 1: Or and also that the men that you know, we

611
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 1: were attracting probably needed to do some hoeing themselves and

612
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 1: some healing and some all those things. So you know,

613
00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:24,879
Speaker 1: everyone finds love. I mean, I think even for me,

614
00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:27,359
Speaker 1: and like my current relationship, I came out of a

615
00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:31,560
Speaker 1: relationship and kind of got into that relationship kind of quickly,

616
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 1: I mean, and at first I was judging myself, like

617
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:38,520
Speaker 1: I don't trust myself. Is this okay? But love can

618
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 1: heal you, you know, the right love can really heal you.

619
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:42,480
Speaker 2: So same I think.

620
00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 3: I like gott I gotta moved one dge at my

621
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:48,119
Speaker 3: house and then Orlando started moving his ASCID and I

622
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 3: was like, this is I might be a dumb bitch,

623
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:51,080
Speaker 3: but here we go.

624
00:27:54,440 --> 00:28:01,640
Speaker 1: Okay, next story, I like this one. My love story

625
00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 1: goes a little something like this. I started liking this

626
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,200
Speaker 1: guy I worked with and we became really good friends.

627
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:09,400
Speaker 1: Things started getting serious between us, but he was also

628
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:11,879
Speaker 1: talking to another girl. They were just friends, but I

629
00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:14,160
Speaker 1: felt like he was choosing, so I thought, oh, you're

630
00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:16,399
Speaker 1: not about to play with me. I started talking to

631
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 1: my old boyfriend from high school. We began going out

632
00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:23,119
Speaker 1: and dating girl. Leave the boyfriend from high school alone, boom.

633
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:25,639
Speaker 1: A couple months later, I found out I was pregnant.

634
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 1: That relationship was so full of drama. He lied about

635
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:31,680
Speaker 1: not having a girlfriend, telling me she was his ex

636
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:34,119
Speaker 1: when she wasn't. It was just a mess. I remember

637
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 1: calling my friend, the guy I worked with and telling

638
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 1: him everything that was going on. He said, I can't

639
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: believe you got pregnant. I told him, you're the one

640
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 1: that was choosing. I wasn't about to sit around and

641
00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 1: wait for you. He told me it wasn't like that,

642
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 1: but I was over it. I also told him how

643
00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 1: I was thinking about getting an abortion because I was

644
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 1: so stressed and didn't want to have a baby with

645
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 1: this guy. But he told me, don't do anything like that.

646
00:28:56,800 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 1: I'll be there for you. I didn't really believe him

647
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 1: at first, but we started getting close again. By this time,

648
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 1: I was about three months pregnant. One day he asked

649
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 1: me to be his girlfriend, and I said yes. We

650
00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 1: dated for two years and then he asked me to

651
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 1: marry him. I said yes, and we got married. Now

652
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 1: we've been married for ten years. I know some people

653
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 1: will say she wasn't a single mom, but I basically

654
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:20,640
Speaker 1: was gonna be. My ex wasn't stepping up, and I

655
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:22,760
Speaker 1: was prepared to do it all on my own. I

656
00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 1: just wanted to share my story because I remember my

657
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,800
Speaker 1: ex saying nobody's gonna want you with a baby, but

658
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Speaker 1: he was so wrong. Love found me while I was pregnant,

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Speaker 1: and I'm so thankful that it did.

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Speaker 3: I hear that all the time, including for my own

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Speaker 3: baby daddy. I heard nobody's gonna want you with the kid.

662
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:38,480
Speaker 3: Nobody's gonna want you with the kid.

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Speaker 2: Hah.

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Speaker 3: Nig let me tell you that's the number one lie

665
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 3: that baby baby daddys tell to keep you fucking stuck.

666
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:49,400
Speaker 3: So if your baby daddy told you, raise your hand,

667
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:52,040
Speaker 3: it's like ninety percent of everybody who ever left their

668
00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 3: baby daddy told him, you're not gonna find anybody with

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Speaker 3: that baby. Well guess what, nigga, It does happen because

670
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,440
Speaker 3: after a certain age, a lot of people have kids

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Speaker 3: because they learned a lesson. So don't let that statement

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Speaker 3: in particular hinder you from moving on and moving on.

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Speaker 2: I read that a lot in.

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Speaker 3: These messages, that these stories that we got. My baby

675
00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:14,280
Speaker 3: daddy said, I didn't think I was going to find

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Speaker 3: somebody else because I had a kid. Because I had

677
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:17,680
Speaker 3: a kid, I didn't think I should date. I thought

678
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Speaker 3: it was gonna be a hope for life. Don't adopt

679
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Speaker 3: those beliefs because it's just not true.

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Speaker 1: Don't let pregnancy block you from your husband.

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Speaker 2: Don't let your hate and ask baby daddy block you

682
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Speaker 2: from your husband.

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Speaker 1: I just more so a mean bitch. She was pregnant.

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Speaker 1: Don't let pregnancies block you from your future, baby daddy

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Speaker 1: slash husband.

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Speaker 2: I mean luckily in her pregnancy. He was like, I'm

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Speaker 2: down to you know.

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Speaker 1: I mean that takes that takes a very particular particular

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Speaker 1: man who really had the foresight to know, this is

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Speaker 1: my partner. I don't care what is going on. I'm

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Speaker 1: with you. I'm writing no matter what. And that's a

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Speaker 1: testament to whatever work he had already done where he

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00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,040
Speaker 1: was at in his life. Yeah, because there was a

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Speaker 1: clarity there that he was like, I don't really give

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Speaker 1: a fuck, and most men are not gonna never do that,

696
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 1: so shout out to them and I don't and be

697
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 1: careful saying never. Never say never, because you don't know,

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Speaker 1: I said, most men. Yeah, I didn't say never.

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Speaker 3: But that's not the first story I've heard like that.

700
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Speaker 3: Like to hear fair and pregnant, so you know there's

701
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Speaker 3: are you've been surprised.

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Speaker 2: And that's the thing. I think.

703
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Speaker 3: Sometimes we're hearing certain rhetoric and we start to believe

704
00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 3: those things and it's just like so I turned the

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00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 3: negative off off off. Hmm, Okay, there's another one. I

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Speaker 3: became pregnant by my childhood sweetheart at fifteen. We had

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Speaker 3: our daughter at sixteen, and I spent four years being physically,

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Speaker 3: emotionally and sexually abused by him.

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Speaker 2: I would I would have left. I would have left.

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Speaker 3: Sooner, but he had convinced me that nobody would love

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Speaker 3: me as a fat, single mom, so I stayed because

712
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Speaker 3: I thought it would be better than being alone. I

713
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Speaker 3: finally had another and decided being alone would be better

714
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Speaker 3: than what I was going through. Fast forward seven years,

715
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Speaker 3: my best friend started a new job and invited me

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Speaker 3: to be her plus one. At a work event, she

717
00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:10,280
Speaker 3: introduced me to her new boss. I spent all the night,

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00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:13,640
Speaker 3: all night talking with him. Following Monday, he asked me

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Speaker 3: asked my friend for my number. After two years, we

720
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 3: moved in together. In twenty twenty one, he asked my

721
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:20,959
Speaker 3: fifteen year old permission to marry me. We have been

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Speaker 3: married for almost three years now and just started our

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Speaker 3: fertility journey. All these years being a single mom, I

724
00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 3: never imagine I would find a kind, loving man, or

725
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Speaker 3: that I would ever even want to have another child.

726
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:36,240
Speaker 3: Being loved properly by an amazing man healed so many

727
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 3: things in my soul. Seeing him step up and be

728
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:42,040
Speaker 3: an amazing stepdad to my daughter healed many things within

729
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Speaker 3: her as well. This is not only my love story,

730
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 3: but a story a love story for my daughter as well.

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Speaker 3: She gets a father figure and to see an example

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Speaker 3: of a healthy, loving relationship. I am praying that we

733
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Speaker 3: are able to have a child this year, and so

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Speaker 3: it is and I can see him really blossom into

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Speaker 3: fatherhood and that I will get to experience motherhood again,

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Speaker 3: but with a partner that is supportive and present.

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Speaker 2: H beautiful.

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Speaker 3: I think this is a lot of a good testament

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00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:09,640
Speaker 3: too to allowing yourself to put your guard down and

740
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Speaker 3: letting people in, because I think sometimes when you get

741
00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 3: your heart broken by someone you have a baby with,

742
00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 3: you become so hardened and your your walls go up

743
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Speaker 3: and it's just kind of like you shut it down.

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Speaker 3: And I think this and even when someone's safe comes,

745
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 3: it's hard to put that that guard down of like

746
00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 3: being independent, of being you know, alone, and of having

747
00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 3: like a defense on. And I think this is like

748
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 3: such these are stories of a testament of why it's

749
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Speaker 3: important that you always stay soft and always stay hopeful.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think there's that. I think also just on

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Speaker 1: the other side of that too, for the men that

752
00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 1: are dating single moms, and like I was talking to

753
00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:45,400
Speaker 1: someone that I know who is dating a mom, and

754
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Speaker 1: I was telling him like how important it is that

755
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Speaker 1: moms really need permission from the men that they're dating.

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Speaker 1: Not even permission, it's like security and knowing that like

757
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:58,080
Speaker 1: they're they're they're safe. I don't want to say dumping

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00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 1: on them, but like every everything that they have going

759
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Speaker 1: on and going on in their life, including like whatever

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00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 1: it is, like the drama that you might be dealing

761
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Speaker 1: with on the other side with your child's father, like

762
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:11,400
Speaker 1: the stress of just being a mom, like the stress

763
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Speaker 1: of like sometimes not wanting to be a mom, and

764
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:16,719
Speaker 1: like women like us like keep tucking that away because

765
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:20,200
Speaker 1: we don't want to seem like unmotherly because we've made

766
00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:23,239
Speaker 1: this choice. Like for a man to come to you

767
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 1: and say, like I can hold space for all of that,

768
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Speaker 1: Like I'm okay, Like you don't have to like compartmentalize

769
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 1: those pieces for you. Are so is so important, specifically

770
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Speaker 1: for single moms and dating to be able to be soft,

771
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Speaker 1: to be able to like allow themselves to open up

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Speaker 1: and feel safe, and also for the children too. I

773
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Speaker 1: mean I think for me too, like seeing my daughter

774
00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:49,360
Speaker 1: and my partner's relationship bloom has been so healing for me,

775
00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 1: and I want to say even for her. I think

776
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: that Iri looked at like you and Orlando and Luna,

777
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Speaker 1: and like she saw this example that Orlando had with

778
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Speaker 1: you with Luna and like how he stepped up, you know,

779
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Speaker 1: And and I think that she because she had that representation,

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00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:14,719
Speaker 1: she was like gave, she gave she came more permission

781
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 1: to allow that space into her life. And so like

782
00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:20,360
Speaker 1: she's loving with him. She wants us to lay in

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00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:22,840
Speaker 1: bed with her and put her to bed together, Like

784
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:25,279
Speaker 1: these are things that she's asking for. I think because

785
00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:28,680
Speaker 1: she has seen it, whereas before like her not both

786
00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 1: of us like kind of like you know, tiptoeing around

787
00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: relationships and not really sure and like there was like

788
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:36,560
Speaker 1: she didn't really fuck with her examples, Yeah, did you

789
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:39,800
Speaker 1: really fuck with that? So I think it's important for

790
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:46,920
Speaker 1: the men to make sure that they are vocally telling

791
00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 1: the women, the single moms that they're dating, what they're

792
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 1: willing to and open to taking on as their partner.

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Speaker 1: And it kind of has to be like all of it.

794
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:59,960
Speaker 1: You can't like just pick and choose the parts of

795
00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:04,640
Speaker 1: your motherhood that you feel comfortable of their motherhood that

796
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:08,239
Speaker 1: you feel comfortable allowing in because like you're not going

797
00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 1: to get the full You're not going to get the

798
00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:12,479
Speaker 1: full person. You're not going to get that, and she's

799
00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:15,160
Speaker 1: not going to feel fully safe in your presence, and

800
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 1: your child ultimately is going to feel that too.

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00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:21,160
Speaker 3: I think there's also like this uh but like this uh,

802
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:26,480
Speaker 3: this this understanding that like for women at least, that

803
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:28,840
Speaker 3: we can't show up human, like we can't show up

804
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:31,360
Speaker 3: with our mistakes, Like if I was in a relationship

805
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:33,320
Speaker 3: with someone who was abusive to me and I stayed

806
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 3: and I had a baby with them, Like I'm dumb,

807
00:36:35,360 --> 00:36:37,279
Speaker 3: and so I don't deserve love after this, and you

808
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:40,360
Speaker 3: don't feel you don't feel safe expressing that to someone.

809
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 3: There is like a defense that goes up because there

810
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:45,279
Speaker 3: is so much rhetoric in the world about like it's

811
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 3: our fault and there's a guilt that we hold on to,

812
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 3: like with our kids and just in general. And I

813
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 3: think like men do themselves such a disservice by like

814
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:57,920
Speaker 3: jumping on that bandwagon not recognizing like, my nigga, you.

815
00:36:58,000 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 2: Have made mistakes too.

816
00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 3: You have dated some people that you're not proud of

817
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:03,400
Speaker 3: you've done you know, you've fallen for the wrong people,

818
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:06,480
Speaker 3: and you've had a hofase and all these things. Or

819
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:08,400
Speaker 3: you know, when women get knocked up, it's like we

820
00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:11,000
Speaker 3: have we have the burden of carrying a child. We

821
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:13,360
Speaker 3: hold the burden if if it's something we fucked around

822
00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 3: and like had a night of pleasure and now we're

823
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:17,320
Speaker 3: carrying a baby, we have to go get a termination.

824
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 3: And that's something men will never have to deal with,

825
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 3: so they can sit on a high horse and judge

826
00:37:21,680 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 3: nut and judge you know, knowing good and god damn

827
00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:25,120
Speaker 3: it all you'd pulled up in a.

828
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Speaker 2: Bitch raw that you didn't really want to have a

829
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:27,800
Speaker 2: baby with many times.

830
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Speaker 3: But because it's not a burden that you have to carry,

831
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:32,640
Speaker 3: it's easy to point a finger and judge. And I

832
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:36,320
Speaker 3: think that men really miss the mark with finding connection

833
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:40,759
Speaker 3: because you're so caught up in finding fucking the virgin Mary,

834
00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:43,400
Speaker 3: which doesn't exist, but meanwhile liking all the big booty

835
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:45,040
Speaker 3: bitches on Instagram.

836
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Speaker 2: So it's very confusing.

837
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 3: And I think men when you qunt, like when you

838
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 3: want a partner, you have to think of him as

839
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:53,680
Speaker 3: a homie, you know, like if you're a homie, fuck

840
00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:55,600
Speaker 3: some bit so you know, fuck the stupid hope, Like

841
00:37:55,600 --> 00:37:58,440
Speaker 3: you're not gonna stop being friends with him. Things happen

842
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:00,160
Speaker 3: in life, and like the sooner that we can come

843
00:38:00,200 --> 00:38:03,040
Speaker 3: together and accept that about one another as humans, as

844
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 3: women that we fuck up to and like so we

845
00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 3: feel comfortable to go into relationships and go into friendships

846
00:38:09,080 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 3: and just be with the opposite sex and be like, yeah,

847
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 3: I fucked up, you know, like and this is where

848
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:15,320
Speaker 3: I'm at and this is how I've grown. But a

849
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:17,520
Speaker 3: lot of times women are like concealing and hiding those

850
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 3: parts of themselves because there's no room for forgiveness for us.

851
00:38:20,960 --> 00:38:24,000
Speaker 3: It's like you're you've been tainted and you're can you're

852
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 3: disposable now. And I think I think men miss out

853
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 3: on a lot of great women because they're so busy

854
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 3: thinking they're going to fucking go source Mary, fucking the

855
00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 3: virgin Mary herself, you know. And it's just it's an

856
00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:39,960
Speaker 3: odd thing when you really want a partner and you

857
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:42,239
Speaker 3: really want a human unless you're about to date a

858
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:45,800
Speaker 3: fucking avatar or like an Ai my nege. Like people

859
00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:48,600
Speaker 3: come with stains, and so if you're not willing to

860
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 3: like move through those things, then you're not ready for

861
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:52,319
Speaker 3: a relationship, not a real one.

862
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 1: Anyway, Amen? Should we read a few more?

863
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Speaker 2: Sure?

864
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Speaker 1: Okay? I felt pregnant at twenty one, completely unprepared and unexpected,

865
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Speaker 1: as I was told I could never have children due

866
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 1: to health problems. My pregnancy was lonely. Was lonely as

867
00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:18,719
Speaker 1: my baby daddy was very abusive. I felt isolated, and

868
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 1: the abuse got worse the more pregnant I got. I

869
00:39:21,640 --> 00:39:23,560
Speaker 1: left when my baby was six weeks old, the stitches

870
00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:26,279
Speaker 1: from my birth were still dissolving. I had twenty seven

871
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:28,640
Speaker 1: pounds in my bank account, but I made it work.

872
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:31,200
Speaker 1: I got a tiny, tiny apartment, but made it a

873
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:33,879
Speaker 1: haven for me and my girl. The day I got

874
00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:36,799
Speaker 1: those keys to our little sanctuary was the first day

875
00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 1: I felt like I could be the mom she deserved,

876
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 1: the mom. When she was only six months old, I

877
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,399
Speaker 1: took her to the library and heard my name called

878
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:47,400
Speaker 1: over the bookshelves. I was met by a beaming smile

879
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:49,880
Speaker 1: of a boy who had come to my sixteenth birthday party.

880
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 1: We chatted and had to catch up a parted ways

881
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 1: as I continued to raise my girl alone. Cut to

882
00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:58,520
Speaker 1: when my daughter was four and I was entering the

883
00:39:58,640 --> 00:40:01,759
Speaker 1: dating scene. A notification popped up. It was him. We

884
00:40:01,840 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 1: went on a date and fell totally in love. When

885
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 1: the baby daddy kicked off one day at meeting my

886
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 1: new partner, he shouted, you don't know her, just you wait,

887
00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:14,440
Speaker 1: and my lovely man stepped forward in front of me

888
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 1: and said, I've actually known her since we were sixteen,

889
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:19,160
Speaker 1: so I know her far better than you, and slammed

890
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:21,360
Speaker 1: the door in his face. We've been together, We've been

891
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:23,359
Speaker 1: together for five years now, and me and my daughter

892
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:24,920
Speaker 1: love him more and more every day.

893
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:28,279
Speaker 2: That's beautiful. I love a man's gonna stand up for you.

894
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:34,560
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Yeah, yeah, I think that's again important, very important,

895
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 1: you know, I think too, Like one of the things

896
00:40:37,000 --> 00:40:40,560
Speaker 1: that I'll say about my partner is that like when

897
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 1: even in times where I'm like talking shit and I'm

898
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 1: angry and I'm mad, he like doesn't ever ever talk

899
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:50,319
Speaker 1: negatively about him, not even to me, like he he'll

900
00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 1: like agree, like Dan, that's fucked up. But I think

901
00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:54,640
Speaker 1: he's like always kind of holding space for him to

902
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:57,279
Speaker 1: hopefully be better. I think that's just like how he

903
00:40:57,440 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 1: is for men in general, just like the hope that

904
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 1: like just like we do a chance he's giving men

905
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 1: like holding the space for a man to like step up,

906
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:08,800
Speaker 1: do the right thing and enlightenment and and and honestly

907
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:11,200
Speaker 1: it helps me hold It helps me keep the light

908
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:14,120
Speaker 1: of beam hope held there too as well, because I

909
00:41:14,200 --> 00:41:16,280
Speaker 1: have someone who's not just gonna get into the trenches

910
00:41:16,360 --> 00:41:19,840
Speaker 1: with me and like go dark and go dark and

911
00:41:19,960 --> 00:41:21,880
Speaker 1: go dark with me and like have a ship talking

912
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 1: storm together. Like I mean, there's spaces and places for that,

913
00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:28,920
Speaker 1: but like like I'm grateful that like he doesn't he's

914
00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:29,200
Speaker 1: still my.

915
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 3: Protector, maintains like a neutral space because at the end

916
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:35,239
Speaker 3: of the day, the nigg is gonna be in the world,

917
00:41:35,280 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 3: in the life with you.

918
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:37,239
Speaker 2: You know, it's some capacity.

919
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:39,520
Speaker 1: So I do I respect that, like he's still he's

920
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 1: still my protector, and I feel very protected. But I

921
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:45,520
Speaker 1: also respect that the fact that that that that exists

922
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 1: because I mean, if granted one day there is a

923
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:51,200
Speaker 1: time in which, you know, me and my child's father

924
00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 1: are like going on vacations group family vacations together or like,

925
00:41:55,239 --> 00:42:00,360
Speaker 1: I don't know, that we become more than just you know, parents.

926
00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 1: You know, there's like still a genuine likability between the two,

927
00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:09,920
Speaker 1: and like he hasn't been totally tainted. I mean, I'm

928
00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:11,960
Speaker 1: sure that he's still taking in all the things that

929
00:42:12,000 --> 00:42:14,760
Speaker 1: I that I may or may not say by whatever

930
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:17,480
Speaker 1: I've said, and allowing him to have his own experience

931
00:42:17,520 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 1: with this person. You know. Yeah, So I don't know,

932
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:25,239
Speaker 1: I think that's important. I mean, until something goes wrong

933
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:26,719
Speaker 1: and then he has to like you know, beat an

934
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:29,279
Speaker 1: EXAs or whatever. But hopefully that never happens. Pray that

935
00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:31,600
Speaker 1: never happens. I definitely don't want that for me or

936
00:42:31,719 --> 00:42:34,279
Speaker 1: for anyone listening, because like that's stressful.

937
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:38,160
Speaker 3: I don't have any physical altercation that's very stressful, absolutely

938
00:42:38,239 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 3: the fucking u But yeah, I know what I also like,

939
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:43,160
Speaker 3: there's a I think for single moms too, because I

940
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:46,840
Speaker 3: experienced this, like when you fight so hard to protect

941
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 3: your child and to have a place and to get

942
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:51,200
Speaker 3: down your feet, which a lot of times, this is

943
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:54,440
Speaker 3: what like prevents single moms from getting into relationships, is

944
00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 3: that I don't want to leave this guy because everything's

945
00:42:57,200 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 3: going to fall to shambles and I'm gonna have to

946
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:00,840
Speaker 3: rebuild and how will I do that alone? And I

947
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:04,320
Speaker 3: think that's like like holds people back. But then you

948
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:06,160
Speaker 3: look up and it's been years and you're still the

949
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:08,399
Speaker 3: same person and you're still putting up with the same shit,

950
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 3: And you could have just taken the two years it

951
00:43:11,160 --> 00:43:13,879
Speaker 3: took to be fucked up out here, stay with a friend,

952
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:16,279
Speaker 3: be at your mom's house, whatever the fuck it would take.

953
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:18,839
Speaker 3: Because I know there's a range of things, because bitch,

954
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:21,520
Speaker 3: I went through a lot of shit after I made

955
00:43:21,560 --> 00:43:23,400
Speaker 3: that choice, and there was times where I was like

956
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 3: was this the right choice? A lot of times, But

957
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 3: I think there's like a resilience that's built once you

958
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 3: leave someone that doesn't treat you right, particularly the thought

959
00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:34,840
Speaker 3: like the person you've created a child with. That it

960
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:38,360
Speaker 3: builds some kind of resilience like a with with dating,

961
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:42,319
Speaker 3: because there's a level of I just left my kid's father.

962
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:44,160
Speaker 3: So if you think you're about to disrespect me or

963
00:43:44,160 --> 00:43:45,720
Speaker 3: step out of line, nigga, I will.

964
00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:47,720
Speaker 2: Leave you quickly. I can leave anybody.

965
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:50,080
Speaker 3: If you can leave someone who you had a baby

966
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:52,160
Speaker 3: with that didn't treat you right, then you can carry

967
00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:54,319
Speaker 3: that standard into other relationships.

968
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 2: And there'll be times you.

969
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 3: Forget and you slip up, but overall it will take

970
00:43:57,600 --> 00:44:00,120
Speaker 3: you shorter and shorter less and less to deal with

971
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:02,840
Speaker 3: the bullshit and like you weed it out. And I

972
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:05,560
Speaker 3: think sometimes women, you know, you get so scared of

973
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 3: like the finances and like what it looks like to rebuild,

974
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:12,800
Speaker 3: and you have to rebuild I kind of sometimes to

975
00:44:12,880 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 3: prove to yourself that you can. And I think that

976
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 3: like that is the strength that we need sometimes to

977
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 3: find the right partner, like to know, bitch, you're better

978
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 3: than this, you're more, You're worth like you're worth more.

979
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 3: And then it kind of like, well.

980
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:26,399
Speaker 1: Then you attract that, so like you're not like if

981
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:28,279
Speaker 1: you want to stay in that and or you want

982
00:44:28,320 --> 00:44:31,799
Speaker 1: to keep entertaining that that you're gonna while while simultaneously dating,

983
00:44:32,239 --> 00:44:34,120
Speaker 1: not all the time, but more times than not, you're

984
00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:36,800
Speaker 1: going to attract the similar energy. You're going to attract

985
00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 1: the similar person, and you're going to find yourself in

986
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:41,239
Speaker 1: the same fucking situation over and over and over.

987
00:44:41,400 --> 00:44:43,920
Speaker 3: There's a level of responsibility that you have to take

988
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:45,520
Speaker 3: for participating in relationship.

989
00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:48,560
Speaker 2: Absolutely, you know, you can't like point the finger every time.

990
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:49,840
Speaker 3: And it was like bit you, with you, with you,

991
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:52,200
Speaker 3: you keep dating the same person in different body suits,

992
00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 3: then yeah, bitch, it's you at this point because even

993
00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:56,360
Speaker 3: for me, like I stayed in my relationship for a

994
00:44:56,520 --> 00:45:01,880
Speaker 3: long time, abusive talk, shit talk, not working, all types

995
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:05,800
Speaker 3: of shit, all dating apps, and I eventually I was

996
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 3: just like finally when I got the strength, it was

997
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 3: just like something switched on and I was just like

998
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:14,800
Speaker 3: gotta go, you know. And then after that there was

999
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:17,799
Speaker 3: a level of like fuck you, next, fuck you next,

1000
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:19,920
Speaker 3: fuck you, next, fuck you next, even when I was

1001
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 3: fucked up, because I'm like I've been I've done all

1002
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 3: the things I've done, been to the bottom and back.

1003
00:45:24,719 --> 00:45:27,400
Speaker 3: So if you can't treat me right, I know that

1004
00:45:27,520 --> 00:45:29,799
Speaker 3: I can be fucked up and come back up or whatever.

1005
00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:31,440
Speaker 3: I know I can figure it out. And I think

1006
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:34,320
Speaker 3: sometimes that's what needs to happen for you to do

1007
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:36,880
Speaker 3: the work to attract to like, figure out what about

1008
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 3: you is attracting people like that, because it is a

1009
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:42,440
Speaker 3: mirror most relationships.

1010
00:45:42,480 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 2: Most times.

1011
00:45:46,360 --> 00:45:50,160
Speaker 1: Yes, I agree, I'm gonna share one last one, and

1012
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:53,000
Speaker 1: this one's a little sad. Okay, this one's a little sad,

1013
00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:56,440
Speaker 1: but I feel like it's important. So I met my

1014
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:59,360
Speaker 1: baby daddy at sixteen. It was young, fun love. We

1015
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:02,360
Speaker 1: had a baby nine years later after trying forever. Funny

1016
00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:04,560
Speaker 1: thing is when my daughter finally came, I was ready

1017
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:07,720
Speaker 1: to go because he became a bum like super broke,

1018
00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:10,879
Speaker 1: lazy and just yuck. I tried for a year after

1019
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:13,160
Speaker 1: she was born and then finally moved on and then

1020
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:16,200
Speaker 1: I met my husband, my love. We had four children

1021
00:46:16,280 --> 00:46:20,120
Speaker 1: together within four years. Busy, and then he died.

1022
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:21,320
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness.

1023
00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, single widow baby mama of five. Now that's a

1024
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:27,440
Speaker 1: story for you, love you ladies.

1025
00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's it's scary, but it's like life and

1026
00:46:32,080 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 3: it's also like would you have rather It's like the

1027
00:46:34,480 --> 00:46:37,120
Speaker 3: cheesy term would you rather experience love than not at all?

1028
00:46:37,880 --> 00:46:40,960
Speaker 3: So it's and then you get left with little baby hymns.

1029
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:45,759
Speaker 3: But yeah, and I think also that's being in a

1030
00:46:45,800 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 3: relationship with your baby daddy and calling it off when

1031
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:51,200
Speaker 3: you do find love that's healthy and loving and real.

1032
00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:54,120
Speaker 3: There's also this underlying fear about like, oh my god,

1033
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:57,239
Speaker 3: what if something fucking happens to you? Because I like,

1034
00:46:57,400 --> 00:46:59,920
Speaker 3: I think about the worst case scenario all the time.

1035
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:01,799
Speaker 1: Think about it all. You know, I'm dark, so I'm

1036
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 1: literally thinking about this constantly. But I'm also with the Scorpio,

1037
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:07,680
Speaker 1: so we can I can actually say the things out

1038
00:47:07,719 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 1: loud without you know, being like a psychopath.

1039
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 3: I feel like if I say it, then I'm attracting it,

1040
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:13,759
Speaker 3: so I don't say it just go dark and spiral out.

1041
00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I think was saying it actually allows

1042
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:20,279
Speaker 1: me to be more present and more appreciative of the

1043
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:23,320
Speaker 1: moments that we have because eventually someone's gonna go eventually

1044
00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:25,880
Speaker 1: one is I mean less You're Romeo and julieting it

1045
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:28,800
Speaker 1: and we were out of here together, like you know,

1046
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:30,120
Speaker 1: one time I.

1047
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:31,560
Speaker 3: Was on the plane I think I was like really

1048
00:47:31,680 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 3: falling in love with Orlando at the time. And I

1049
00:47:33,760 --> 00:47:36,279
Speaker 3: was on the plane and this woman behind me was

1050
00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 3: talking to her seat mate, like just a woman she

1051
00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:40,480
Speaker 3: had on the plane, and she was telling telling the

1052
00:47:40,520 --> 00:47:41,799
Speaker 3: story how she found like the.

1053
00:47:41,880 --> 00:47:43,959
Speaker 2: Love of her life, this wonderful husband who.

1054
00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 3: Had pursued her and pursued her and pursued her, and

1055
00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 3: that he just died of a heart attack. And I

1056
00:47:48,200 --> 00:47:49,560
Speaker 3: wasn't even supposed to be listening to the story. She

1057
00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:50,840
Speaker 3: wasn't even talking to me, And I was in the

1058
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:52,440
Speaker 3: fucking road in front.

1059
00:47:52,280 --> 00:47:52,640
Speaker 1: Of her, like.

1060
00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:58,840
Speaker 3: Crying hysterically, like I'm so emotional an emo, I'm like,

1061
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:01,880
Speaker 3: I gotta stop easdropping A and B. I got a

1062
00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:04,600
Speaker 3: step going dark. But I think it's also like a

1063
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:06,919
Speaker 3: part of motherhood too, you think, like I love something

1064
00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:09,279
Speaker 3: so much, what happens if something happens to you. You know,

1065
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 3: it's like the human nature to think about the worst

1066
00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:14,319
Speaker 3: case scenario, but it doesn't really do us any good

1067
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:17,200
Speaker 3: except give us anxiety AKA me. So yeah, you got

1068
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:19,360
Speaker 3: to just like live in the present without thinking of

1069
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:21,399
Speaker 3: the worst case scenario. And I think sometimes when you've

1070
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:24,399
Speaker 3: had bad shit happen to you, you've had bad relationships,

1071
00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:27,759
Speaker 3: it's like second nature to think of the worst thing

1072
00:48:27,800 --> 00:48:29,239
Speaker 3: that can happen, Like what if I lose you right now?

1073
00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:31,760
Speaker 2: What if you cheat? Because you know we're.

1074
00:48:31,640 --> 00:48:34,239
Speaker 1: Women, I think too, like I wonder. I wonder for

1075
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 1: her too, like if she's like done, because some people

1076
00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:38,919
Speaker 1: like will be like I'm done, like I've found my life,

1077
00:48:38,920 --> 00:48:42,120
Speaker 1: I've found my great love. Like that's it, there's no more,

1078
00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:45,400
Speaker 1: that's that's done. And I understand, I feel it. I

1079
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:48,040
Speaker 1: understand that. I don't know if that would be my story.

1080
00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:50,560
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think that there's like an end

1081
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 1: for me and love. If my partner were to depart,

1082
00:48:54,160 --> 00:48:57,400
Speaker 1: I obviously would mourn his death and mourn our relationship,

1083
00:48:57,480 --> 00:48:59,719
Speaker 1: of course, but I don't think that's what he would want,

1084
00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:01,319
Speaker 1: and that's not what I would want for him.

1085
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:03,719
Speaker 2: I don't know if I'll find someone more for me.

1086
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Speaker 3: So I don't know if I'm even like a care

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Speaker 3: to try or be like actively outside, but you know

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Speaker 3: who knows. I'm gonna read today's tarot card, which was

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Speaker 3: the Page of Wands because it's Taroote time, so we

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Speaker 3: got the page of Wands and it's inspiration ideas discovery,

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Speaker 3: limitless potential, free spirit. H With the page of wands,

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Speaker 3: you're inclined to give anything and everything a go. You

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Speaker 3: embrace the opportunity to start out a new journey or

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Speaker 3: project and see where it takes you. You do not

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Speaker 3: necessarily have a solid plan in place, nor do you

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Speaker 3: really know where you are are headed, but you are

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Speaker 3: excited about the possibilities. You have a gift for dreaming

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Speaker 3: up new creative ideas unfettered by the burdens of everyday life.

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Speaker 3: Nothing will get in the way of your dreams. AKA

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Speaker 3: you're happily ever after. And while the appearance of a

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Speaker 3: page of wants indicates that you are experiencing creative relentlessness,

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Speaker 3: notice that the page is standing still and his staff

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Speaker 3: is firmly planted on the ground. He is not going

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Speaker 3: anywhere just yet. You still need to take your creative

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Speaker 3: spark and ground it down into reality so it's ready

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Speaker 3: for you to be implemented in the physical realm. You

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Speaker 3: may need to map out your strategy, or you may

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Speaker 3: need to test your ideas or create a few experiments

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Speaker 3: before committing o a little it could be helpful to

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Speaker 3: run your thoughts through a filters that you can act

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Speaker 3: on those most aligned with your broader goals. The page

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Speaker 3: of wands can appear when a spiritual path or journey

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Speaker 3: may be calling you. You have a curious mind and

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Speaker 3: are intrigued to see what this call might lead. You

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Speaker 3: open to possibilities, and know that if you have it

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Speaker 3: in your mind, don't settle and don't do it.

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Speaker 1: Anything's possible.

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Speaker 3: It is.

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Speaker 1: Look at us, two single moms who literally just started

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Speaker 1: having a conversation in my dining room, And look at

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Speaker 1: the world that we've been able to build. Look at

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Speaker 1: the community that we've been able to attract. Look at

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Speaker 1: the friendship that we've been able to to create cultivate.

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Speaker 1: Look at the women's and men's lives we've been able

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Speaker 1: to impact and how they've impacted our lives. Look at

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Speaker 1: the relationships that we've you know, battled through and loved

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Speaker 1: ourselves through, discovered and discovered and landed on. Look at

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Speaker 1: the Look at the children that we're raising.

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Speaker 3: The honesty that we've put on a public platform, and

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Speaker 3: how that's manifested and attracted our tribe, our men, our people,

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Speaker 3: people who truly accept us because there's no fake shit,

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Speaker 3: and we we know because we said all the things,

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Speaker 3: even the less likable ones. So be yourself and be

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Speaker 3: true and clear about the things that you want, and

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Speaker 3: it will come to you.

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Speaker 2: Like in that and don't settle.

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Speaker 1: Yes, well, my dear, I love you.

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