1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:03,600 Speaker 1: It is how we react to our thoughts and feelings 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:07,000 Speaker 1: that really matters, and it is so important to remember 3 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:26,000 Speaker 1: that that is our opportunity we get to react. What's 4 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 1: going on Hurdler's Emily A Badi. Here you are listening 5 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:33,199 Speaker 1: to another installment of Hurdle Moment from Hurdle, a wellness 6 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 1: focused podcast to reconnect with everyone from your favorite athletes 7 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 1: to top experts and industry CEOs about their highest highs, 8 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:43,839 Speaker 1: toughest moments, and everything in between. We all go through 9 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 1: hurdles in life, and my goal through these discussions is 10 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:49,760 Speaker 1: to empower you to better navigate yours and move with 11 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:53,080 Speaker 1: intention so that you can try towards your own big 12 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:57,640 Speaker 1: potential and of course have some fun along the way. 13 00:00:58,080 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: For today's installment of Moment, I'm kicking it old school style. 14 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 2: I've been doing three episodes a week of. 15 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:07,960 Speaker 1: The show for over two years now, I want to 16 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:12,760 Speaker 1: say practically three. And when Hurdle the cadence of the 17 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:15,400 Speaker 1: show went from two episodes a week to three episodes 18 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: a week, I wanted to make it a priority to 19 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:21,720 Speaker 1: have more often than not a guest on Wednesdays just 20 00:01:21,840 --> 00:01:25,119 Speaker 1: to spice up the flow of the show and give 21 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 1: you more than just emily sitting behind the mic episode 22 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:34,040 Speaker 1: after episode now. A while back, before this happened, I 23 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:38,080 Speaker 1: often did Hurdle Moment episode solo, and today I'm bringing 24 00:01:38,120 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 1: back that vibe. 25 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 2: It's a solo episode of Curdle. 26 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 1: Moment, and I am tackling the conversation topic of imposter syndrome. 27 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: It's something that I get a lot of messages about 28 00:01:49,440 --> 00:01:51,960 Speaker 1: and it always makes me laugh when a message comes 29 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:56,280 Speaker 1: in and it's something like, ham, I'm just curious. 30 00:01:56,120 --> 00:02:00,680 Speaker 2: Do you ever struggle with imposter syndrome? Tell you something. 31 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:03,920 Speaker 1: Whenever you're going to ask a question and you're wondering 32 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 1: if this is something that someone else experiences, the answer 33 00:02:08,040 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 1: to your question is probably yes. More often than not, 34 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:16,000 Speaker 1: the world of social media can make things feel super isolating. 35 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 1: It can make us feel like whatever problems or issues 36 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:21,000 Speaker 1: that we may be going through and experiencing, they are 37 00:02:21,080 --> 00:02:24,360 Speaker 1: ours and ours alone. But I can promise you that 38 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:28,600 Speaker 1: that is certainly not the case. You are never ever 39 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 1: alone in how you feel or what you're going through. 40 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: So let's just make sure we put that out there 41 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 1: first and foremost. And so to wind it back to 42 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 1: imposter syndrome, that is exactly what I'm going to talk 43 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:42,920 Speaker 1: to you about today. Not only am I going to 44 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 1: start by defining it, but then I'll share some of 45 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 1: my personal story of navigating imposter syndrome and the tips 46 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:55,080 Speaker 1: and tricks that had worked for me successfully to call 47 00:02:55,160 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 1: my way out of the depths of comparison, because at 48 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 1: the end of the day, a lot of what we 49 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 1: feel to be imposter syndrome is rooted in our natural 50 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:09,400 Speaker 1: inclination to compare whatever it is that we're doing to 51 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:11,920 Speaker 1: whatever it is that someone else is doing. 52 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 2: Make sure you're following along with Hurdle over on. 53 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:17,679 Speaker 1: Social It's over at Hurdle Podcast. I am over at 54 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:21,200 Speaker 1: Emily a Body. And speaking of social media, if you 55 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 1: love the show, and I know you do, because you 56 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:25,640 Speaker 1: come back week after week, you call yourself a hurdler, 57 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:28,919 Speaker 1: I'm so lucky to have you and do me a 58 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 1: solid not only rate and review the show wherever you're 59 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:36,280 Speaker 1: listening to this episode right now, but also share it 60 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 1: wherever you want to share it, Share it with a friend, 61 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 1: share it on social media Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, wherever. Your 62 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:46,040 Speaker 1: shares mean the world to me. That help us grow 63 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 1: the community, and in turn, that helps me keep doing 64 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:53,640 Speaker 1: what I'm doing, So share it wherever you want. 65 00:03:53,680 --> 00:03:55,880 Speaker 2: And with that, let's get to it. 66 00:03:56,000 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 1: Let's get to hurdling imposter syndrome. I think it's important 67 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:17,000 Speaker 1: for us to start out doing two things. First and foremost, 68 00:04:17,080 --> 00:04:20,839 Speaker 1: I want to make sure that I tell you how 69 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:25,200 Speaker 1: I'm arriving at this conversation. So for the last six years, 70 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 1: I have been working for myself. I'm an entrepreneur, and 71 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 1: in my journey thus far as an entrepreneur, I've really 72 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:36,479 Speaker 1: had to learn the importance of being my own biggest 73 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 1: type man and understand that more often than not, I 74 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 1: really don't have time to let imposter syndrome take things 75 00:04:45,560 --> 00:04:48,520 Speaker 1: from me, and so if I'm the only thing that's 76 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 1: standing in my own way, then that's a problem. 77 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:52,200 Speaker 2: So there's that. 78 00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:54,800 Speaker 1: The second thing that I want you to know that 79 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 1: I bring to the table is that I am a 80 00:04:58,000 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 1: certified professional coach. 81 00:04:59,520 --> 00:05:01,919 Speaker 2: You can like in that to a life coach. 82 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:03,880 Speaker 1: I recently, and I've talked about this on the show, 83 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 1: but just completed my certification program that lasted roughly seven 84 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:12,799 Speaker 1: months and involved almost three hundred hours of coursework between 85 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:18,919 Speaker 1: coaching calls, different seminars online, as well as three different 86 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:24,160 Speaker 1: three day modules learning everything there is to help individuals 87 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 1: coach individuals get out of their own way and go 88 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:30,799 Speaker 1: after their big goals. During that certification program, I learned 89 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 1: a lot about how to help individuals overcome their gales. 90 00:05:34,839 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 1: And gales is an acronym for gremlins, assumptions, interpretations, and 91 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 1: limiting beliefs, all different energy blocks that can hold someone 92 00:05:45,839 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: back from going after their big goals and their big dreams. 93 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:57,320 Speaker 1: And yes, imposter syndrome can be the result of a gale. 94 00:05:57,760 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 2: Cool. Now we're on the same page. So that was 95 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 2: the first order of business. 96 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 1: The second order of business is me breaking down for 97 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:10,600 Speaker 1: you what impostor syndrome is so loosely defined. Imposter syndrome 98 00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:14,120 Speaker 1: is doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud period. 99 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 1: Now it disproportionately affects what all deemed to be high 100 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:24,479 Speaker 1: achieving people, so those who may find it difficult to 101 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:29,800 Speaker 1: accept their accomplishments. Now these people will question whether or 102 00:06:29,839 --> 00:06:34,279 Speaker 1: not they are deserving of accolades. The term was originally 103 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 1: coined as quote unquote imposter phenomenon in nineteen seventy eight 104 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 1: by two different psychologists that go by the name Pauline 105 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:46,560 Speaker 1: Rose Clance and Suzanne Emes. I might be butchering their 106 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 1: last names, and in that case, I am extremely sorry. 107 00:06:50,120 --> 00:06:50,919 Speaker 2: But in their. 108 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:56,039 Speaker 1: Research, which actually was focused on high achieving women, they 109 00:06:56,240 --> 00:07:00,720 Speaker 1: found that despite outstanding academic and professional accomplishments, who experience 110 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:04,400 Speaker 1: the impost phenomenon persist in believing that they are really 111 00:07:04,400 --> 00:07:07,800 Speaker 1: not bright and have fooled anyone who thinks otherwise, which 112 00:07:07,839 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 1: is just so sad, right, it's so so unfortunate. Know 113 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:15,720 Speaker 1: this to be true. Before we go on, the word 114 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:19,640 Speaker 1: everyone would be probably too broad of a term, but 115 00:07:20,320 --> 00:07:26,200 Speaker 1: most everyone experiences imposter syndrome at one point or another. 116 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 1: I'm talking from Emily Body sitting at her desk in 117 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 1: Brooklyn to I believe. I've read interviews with Michelle Obama 118 00:07:34,640 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 1: and the late Ruth Bader Ginsburg, both of whom admitted 119 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 1: to navigating impostor syndrome. Now, typically speaking, when someone experiences 120 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:48,080 Speaker 1: impostor syndrome, there are a lot of different feelings that 121 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:51,560 Speaker 1: can come into the mix. I'm talking discomfort, second guessing, 122 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:57,520 Speaker 1: mild anxiety, and to reiterate, women of all different levels 123 00:07:57,560 --> 00:08:02,320 Speaker 1: of confidence and abilities are experiencing imposter syndrome. 124 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 2: Period. 125 00:08:03,040 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 1: I'll share a little bit about my experience. Literally, yesterday 126 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:12,080 Speaker 1: I got a notification that someone said something not superstellar 127 00:08:12,120 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 1: about me on the internet, and I allowed, briefly this 128 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:21,960 Speaker 1: person that I don't know to make me feel like 129 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 1: an impostor in what I do. 130 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 2: I was texting with a friend and I told her 131 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 2: what I. 132 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:30,320 Speaker 1: Read, and in that moment, she totally checked me as 133 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:34,880 Speaker 1: my impostor syndrome started to take hold, and she said, Emily, 134 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:37,080 Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you what you already know, and 135 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:39,800 Speaker 1: this will be a tip as we move along here. 136 00:08:40,200 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 1: She said, you have a top one hundred health and 137 00:08:44,200 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 1: fitness podcast. You collaborate and work with some of the 138 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: best brands in your industry, and you have created a 139 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:55,800 Speaker 1: community that is passionate and consists of women from around 140 00:08:55,960 --> 00:09:00,840 Speaker 1: the world that want to live healthier, happier, more motivated lives. Literally, verbatim, 141 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:04,280 Speaker 1: that's exactly what she said to me over text. And 142 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:07,079 Speaker 1: I sat there and I read that and I said, 143 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:09,080 Speaker 1: this is all facts, and. 144 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:09,600 Speaker 2: I needed that. 145 00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:13,320 Speaker 1: I needed that so badly. Fast forward to today, I 146 00:09:13,360 --> 00:09:16,400 Speaker 1: had a meeting that was very exciting to me, and 147 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:20,200 Speaker 1: I caught myself earlier today thinking about what would happen 148 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:23,080 Speaker 1: if the meeting didn't go as I hoped, and I 149 00:09:23,080 --> 00:09:25,880 Speaker 1: stopped myself right there because I realized I caught myself 150 00:09:25,880 --> 00:09:29,439 Speaker 1: in that moment, allowing imposter syndrome to kick in, allowing 151 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 1: my thoughts to drift into maybe they's someone more qualified 152 00:09:33,240 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 1: to do this idea that I have. Maybe they're going 153 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:38,679 Speaker 1: to look to someone else to jump onto this opportunity, 154 00:09:39,120 --> 00:09:44,720 Speaker 1: and that thinking did not and does not serve me. So, 155 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:48,760 Speaker 1: now that you have some insight into how imposter syndrome 156 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:51,960 Speaker 1: has crept in for me in just the last two days, 157 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:56,160 Speaker 1: a parent that it happens quite often, I want to 158 00:09:56,559 --> 00:10:00,520 Speaker 1: offer up some ways that we can over or come 159 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:07,160 Speaker 1: imposter syndrome, because again, most everyone experiences it. The first 160 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:12,200 Speaker 1: tip too overcoming imposter syndrome is to acknowledge it. 161 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:14,920 Speaker 2: Period acknowledge that. 162 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:21,440 Speaker 1: You are experiencing imposter syndrome and recognize those impostor feelings. 163 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: It is so important to understand that again, imposter syndrome 164 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:28,120 Speaker 1: is a common experience and you are not alone in 165 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:32,280 Speaker 1: feeling this way. It is impossible to change a behavior 166 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:36,000 Speaker 1: or do something about a behavior unless you take the 167 00:10:36,080 --> 00:10:41,640 Speaker 1: time to accept that the behavior or the feeling is occurring. 168 00:10:41,960 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 1: For instance, if there is someone who wants to have 169 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 1: a more regular movement practice, a more regular exercise routine, 170 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: that won't happen until this person says, Okay, listen, I 171 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:58,600 Speaker 1: haven't been moving like I want to. I haven't been 172 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:02,720 Speaker 1: integrating regular or exercise into my week, and I know 173 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:05,560 Speaker 1: that I want to do something about it. 174 00:11:05,880 --> 00:11:08,000 Speaker 2: If you don't admit that, if you. 175 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:11,400 Speaker 1: Don't come to grips with what's actually happening, then you 176 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:14,240 Speaker 1: can't move forward and you can't change it. So step 177 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:19,440 Speaker 1: number one to overcoming imposter syndrome is acknowledging that you 178 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:24,920 Speaker 1: are experiencing it step number two. Once someone acknowledges their 179 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:30,199 Speaker 1: imposter feelings, the next trick is to reframe your thoughts. 180 00:11:30,480 --> 00:11:33,360 Speaker 1: So when you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, 181 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:36,240 Speaker 1: do yourself a favor and try to replace those thoughts 182 00:11:36,240 --> 00:11:40,240 Speaker 1: with positive affirmation. So I'll give you an example. Instead 183 00:11:40,280 --> 00:11:44,200 Speaker 1: of saying I'm not good enough, say I am capable 184 00:11:44,320 --> 00:11:49,000 Speaker 1: and competent for me. Let's go back to my meeting 185 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 1: that I had earlier today. I gave myself all of 186 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:56,520 Speaker 1: these sentences. I was saying all of these things to 187 00:11:56,559 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 1: myself about why maybe I wasn't the right fit for 188 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 1: an opportunity. And when I caught myself saying not the 189 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:10,080 Speaker 1: nicest things, dousing myself in imposter syndrome, I put a 190 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:10,680 Speaker 1: stop to it. 191 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:12,240 Speaker 2: I noticed it was happening. 192 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:15,160 Speaker 1: I had that awareness, and then I said, I am 193 00:12:15,240 --> 00:12:18,360 Speaker 1: qualified and capable to take on this opportunity. I am 194 00:12:18,440 --> 00:12:22,559 Speaker 1: qualified and capable to take on this opportunity. One simple 195 00:12:22,840 --> 00:12:28,040 Speaker 1: sentence that completely shifted my inner dialogue and better prepared 196 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:32,839 Speaker 1: me to step into this meeting, albeit on zoom, and 197 00:12:33,160 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: do so with more confidence, the confidence that my credentials, 198 00:12:38,520 --> 00:12:44,360 Speaker 1: what I am capable of is worth period. Affirmations in 199 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:48,040 Speaker 1: general can be just such a major game changer, one 200 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:51,560 Speaker 1: that I am leaning into right now. I am working 201 00:12:51,840 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 1: on kind of rejiggering some of the habits that I 202 00:12:54,520 --> 00:12:56,520 Speaker 1: know make me feel good in my body. And I 203 00:12:56,520 --> 00:12:59,880 Speaker 1: say to myself every single day today, I will feel 204 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:03,000 Speaker 1: and I will make decisions that will make me feel great. 205 00:13:03,120 --> 00:13:08,080 Speaker 1: And it's simple and to the point, and I keep 206 00:13:08,120 --> 00:13:10,800 Speaker 1: coming back to it. I keep coming back to that sentence, 207 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:13,240 Speaker 1: I will make decisions that make me feel great. I 208 00:13:13,320 --> 00:13:16,040 Speaker 1: make decisions that make me feel great. I can keep 209 00:13:16,080 --> 00:13:18,840 Speaker 1: saying it over and over and over again, and I 210 00:13:18,880 --> 00:13:22,079 Speaker 1: think about what I'm about to do and put myself 211 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:26,000 Speaker 1: ten fifteen minutes from now and ask myself, is this 212 00:13:26,080 --> 00:13:29,080 Speaker 1: action I'm about to take, this thing I'm about to eat, 213 00:13:29,320 --> 00:13:33,079 Speaker 1: this conversation I'm about to have, this reaction I may 214 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:36,640 Speaker 1: have instead of waiting and responding whatever I am about 215 00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:39,600 Speaker 1: to embark on. Is this an action that I will 216 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:42,480 Speaker 1: be proud of, my future self will be proud of, 217 00:13:43,000 --> 00:13:46,520 Speaker 1: And so that affirmation it really works for me, and 218 00:13:46,559 --> 00:13:50,520 Speaker 1: I would encourage you to find one that works for you. 219 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:54,680 Speaker 1: In general, yes, but also when it comes to navigating 220 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:57,839 Speaker 1: imposter syndrome, I'll go back to that first suggestion, I 221 00:13:57,880 --> 00:14:03,160 Speaker 1: am capable and competent. I am capable and competent. 222 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:04,880 Speaker 2: And then my next. 223 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:09,520 Speaker 1: Recommendation, when it comes to overcoming imposter syndrome, develop a 224 00:14:09,520 --> 00:14:13,040 Speaker 1: support system. I mentioned to you how helpful it was 225 00:14:13,120 --> 00:14:15,400 Speaker 1: for me to reach out to a friend and get 226 00:14:15,440 --> 00:14:18,520 Speaker 1: honest about my feelings, acknowledging what was going on, and 227 00:14:18,559 --> 00:14:23,520 Speaker 1: then lean into her support to get through that less 228 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:26,600 Speaker 1: than ideal situation. There are people in your life that 229 00:14:26,680 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 1: care about you, that want to support you, that want 230 00:14:28,960 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 1: to be there for you, and those people won't judge 231 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:34,920 Speaker 1: you when you come to them and tell them, Hey, 232 00:14:35,400 --> 00:14:37,800 Speaker 1: this is something that I'm dealing with. Sometimes we need 233 00:14:37,840 --> 00:14:42,000 Speaker 1: someone that has an outside POV to come into a 234 00:14:42,040 --> 00:14:46,040 Speaker 1: situation and help us zoom out. It can be so 235 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:48,720 Speaker 1: so helpful to talk to someone who understands what you're 236 00:14:48,760 --> 00:14:52,160 Speaker 1: going through and then can offer encouragement and support that 237 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:56,280 Speaker 1: we all deserve right This can be a friend, a 238 00:14:56,320 --> 00:14:59,320 Speaker 1: family member, or even a therapist. 239 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:00,120 Speaker 2: A life coach. 240 00:15:00,200 --> 00:15:02,280 Speaker 1: And then the last tip that I want to bring 241 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:05,280 Speaker 1: into the mix when it comes to navigating and overcoming 242 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:10,040 Speaker 1: imposter syndrome is be able to articulate your strengths and 243 00:15:10,080 --> 00:15:12,280 Speaker 1: separate fact from feeling. 244 00:15:13,200 --> 00:15:14,840 Speaker 2: Like I said, I've been there. 245 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 1: I've had moments where I to struggle from imposter syndrome, 246 00:15:19,040 --> 00:15:21,080 Speaker 1: and I'm sure I will have many more to come. 247 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:25,560 Speaker 1: But in those moments, a very helpful tool is being 248 00:15:25,600 --> 00:15:29,440 Speaker 1: able to write down and commit to the facts. Write 249 00:15:29,480 --> 00:15:32,160 Speaker 1: down on a literal piece of paper in front of you, 250 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:36,520 Speaker 1: what is true. So, going into my meeting today, keep 251 00:15:36,520 --> 00:15:39,320 Speaker 1: going into this example, I knew this to be true. 252 00:15:39,480 --> 00:15:44,520 Speaker 1: I have delivered keynote talks keynotes to groups of fifteen 253 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:48,120 Speaker 1: hundred people or more through my work with Hurdle I 254 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:51,040 Speaker 1: have been able to collaborate with some of the biggest 255 00:15:51,160 --> 00:15:55,000 Speaker 1: brands in the health and wellness space on different events, 256 00:15:55,080 --> 00:15:58,240 Speaker 1: hosting one on ones, fireside chats. 257 00:15:57,960 --> 00:15:59,320 Speaker 2: And panel conversations. 258 00:15:59,760 --> 00:16:04,120 Speaker 1: I've made a living doing this for years now, and 259 00:16:04,280 --> 00:16:07,480 Speaker 1: knowing all of those things to be true, why would 260 00:16:07,480 --> 00:16:11,480 Speaker 1: I be any less qualified to do something similar to 261 00:16:11,680 --> 00:16:14,880 Speaker 1: other things that I have already done. And the answer 262 00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:18,560 Speaker 1: is that I'm not. I'm not less qualified than I 263 00:16:18,680 --> 00:16:22,640 Speaker 1: was yesterday. But today my anxiety snuck in. The gremlin 264 00:16:22,720 --> 00:16:26,880 Speaker 1: snuck in and made me doubt myself for just a moment. 265 00:16:27,560 --> 00:16:29,920 Speaker 2: And you know what, that's okay. 266 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:32,160 Speaker 1: Because then I used all of the tools in my 267 00:16:32,280 --> 00:16:37,480 Speaker 1: toolbox to come back, to come and move forward again. 268 00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:40,760 Speaker 1: Whatever you're experiencing, whatever you are feeling, you are not 269 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:46,080 Speaker 1: the only one. Know that most everyone experiences imposter syndrome 270 00:16:46,120 --> 00:16:49,040 Speaker 1: from time to time. It is part of a human 271 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:53,760 Speaker 1: condition period. It is how we react to our thoughts 272 00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:57,320 Speaker 1: and feelings that really matters, and it is so important 273 00:16:57,360 --> 00:17:01,840 Speaker 1: to remember that that is our opportunity. We get to react, 274 00:17:02,440 --> 00:17:06,600 Speaker 1: we get to move forward, we get to overcome imposter 275 00:17:06,760 --> 00:17:07,760 Speaker 1: syndrome because we. 276 00:17:07,800 --> 00:17:09,680 Speaker 2: Are capable of that. 277 00:17:09,880 --> 00:17:14,800 Speaker 1: You are capable of that, and it starts with being 278 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:19,080 Speaker 1: your own biggest hype man. Now, don't get me wrong, 279 00:17:19,400 --> 00:17:21,760 Speaker 1: I say that all the time right, that we owe 280 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:26,040 Speaker 1: that to ourselves, that the first step to getting anything 281 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:29,120 Speaker 1: that you want is believing that you deserve it, believing 282 00:17:29,119 --> 00:17:33,080 Speaker 1: that you are capable. And despite having those thoughts, despite 283 00:17:33,240 --> 00:17:35,800 Speaker 1: knowing that deep in your gut, that doesn't mean that 284 00:17:35,840 --> 00:17:38,440 Speaker 1: imposter syndrome is not going to sneak in from time 285 00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:43,920 Speaker 1: to time. I reiterate, it's normal and it's okay, and 286 00:17:44,000 --> 00:17:48,320 Speaker 1: now you have these tools in your toolbox to combat 287 00:17:48,359 --> 00:17:51,520 Speaker 1: it when it sneaks in at more than likely the 288 00:17:51,640 --> 00:17:57,480 Speaker 1: least opportune times, because that is how it happens. I 289 00:17:57,520 --> 00:18:01,520 Speaker 1: want you to remember this. If your struggling with imposter syndrome, 290 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:05,400 Speaker 1: you're not alone, and there are steps that you can 291 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:09,879 Speaker 1: use to overcome it. As always, I'm always looking for 292 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:13,160 Speaker 1: your questions to use in upcoming episodes. So if there's 293 00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:15,960 Speaker 1: a topic that you want me to cover, a specific 294 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:18,280 Speaker 1: question that you have, I am all ears. 295 00:18:18,359 --> 00:18:21,240 Speaker 2: I would love to shed some light on it in 296 00:18:21,480 --> 00:18:22,040 Speaker 2: the show. 297 00:18:22,119 --> 00:18:25,320 Speaker 1: The link to leave me a question of voice messages 298 00:18:25,359 --> 00:18:29,080 Speaker 1: in the show notes, and as always, the dms are 299 00:18:29,080 --> 00:18:32,320 Speaker 1: open and You can reach out over email at Hello 300 00:18:32,640 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 1: at hurdle dot us. Now go on, you've got this 301 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:41,000 Speaker 1: another hurdle cogrid. Catch you guys next time.