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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, It's Monday. We're scrubbing in. Good morning, Oh,

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Speaker 1: good morning, good three pm, Good morning, good day. How

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Speaker 1: are you feeling rough? We're at Tanya's house in her

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Speaker 1: home studio and the air seems to be out, so

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Speaker 1: it's it's it's at least not you have the blackout curtains,

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Speaker 1: so correct is it's doable, it's manageable. But you slept

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Speaker 1: in this last night. Yeah, I just feel like, um,

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Speaker 1: you know, like you feel like I feel like I'm

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Speaker 1: on drugs, but I'm not on drugs. It's when you

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Speaker 1: take a red eye flight, you don't sleep, you wake

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Speaker 1: up the next day you're all discombobulated. You feel like

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Speaker 1: maybe you're getting sick, but just feel your temperature won't regulate. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I know that. I hate It's like my I hate

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Speaker 1: it so much. So that's where I'm at. NAP. I

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Speaker 1: told you to nap. I know, I tried. I'm like

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Speaker 1: the world's worst napper because like when it's daylight, I

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Speaker 1: feel like it's like one of those things are um,

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Speaker 1: you know vampires can't sleep in the day, Maybe a vampire.

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Speaker 1: I think vampires do sleep in the day. Yeah, the

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Speaker 1: only Okay, So what's the opposite of a vampire just

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Speaker 1: a normal human? Well, I have such a hard time

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Speaker 1: sleeping when the sun's out because I feel like I

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Speaker 1: should be like active, you know. Yeah, see, I need

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Speaker 1: some of that. I could just lay down on my couch.

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Speaker 1: My couch is like the size of like the depth

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Speaker 1: is like a twin size bed. So if I just

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Speaker 1: sit down on my couch and my apartment, my like

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Speaker 1: condor or whatever my place is is like, um, pretty

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Speaker 1: dark inside, so honestly the same, I can make it dark.

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Speaker 1: But the thing that's so annoying is I'll just lay there.

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Speaker 1: So I was just laying for like an hour, not

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Speaker 1: doing anything. So I'm not sleeping and I'm not being productive.

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Speaker 1: So it's like really bad combo. No, it's called resting.

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Speaker 1: That's normal. I mean, that's productive in a way. I

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Speaker 1: feel like that's one of those things you tell your kids,

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Speaker 1: or you are told when you're a kid, when you

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Speaker 1: can't sleep, You're told you're laying there, your eyes are closed,

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Speaker 1: you're resting. That's almost as good as sleeping, And I

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Speaker 1: don't think that's actually true. I think that's say I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it did anything good to me. No,

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's as good as sleeping. I just

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Speaker 1: think laying down and not doing anything sometimes is what

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Speaker 1: your body needs. Although I do feel like you actually

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Speaker 1: just need sleep. Yeah, So if this, if if my

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Speaker 1: a sasn't fixed today, I might come spend the night

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Speaker 1: at your place tonight. Right. Do you like how I

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Speaker 1: didn't even ask. I was just like, so expect me

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Speaker 1: to find if you want to come stay. Um. To

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Speaker 1: be honest, I wish I had. It's it's complicated because

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Speaker 1: I have three My place is technically too big for

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Speaker 1: me because I live alone. I'm like, you know, I

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Speaker 1: signed the lease on my own singleton. He is over,

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Speaker 1: you know, almost we alternate where we are. But he,

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Speaker 1: my younger sister, Hink, was living with me. But my

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Speaker 1: third bedroom used to be like an office, which let's

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Speaker 1: be real, I didn't really use it as an office,

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Speaker 1: and now I've made it into my workout room. But

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Speaker 1: part of me is like, if I could just have

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Speaker 1: I could sleep on that couch no problem. Yeah, oh,

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Speaker 1: I would do things in that couch right now. I

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Speaker 1: don't want you to do anything. Okay, sleep, okay, cold

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Speaker 1: comfortable sleep just sounds so delicious. I would just how

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Speaker 1: was your weekend? Uh? You know what's funny? It didn't

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Speaker 1: really feel like a weekend, but um, it was really

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Speaker 1: jam packed in terms of like television to be had.

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Speaker 1: I feel like there were so many Laker games there

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Speaker 1: were I know, who am I with? Like sports now,

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Speaker 1: I was flipping um yesterday in between the Emmy's like

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Speaker 1: e coverage from the Emmy's and football and basketball. I

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Speaker 1: was like, who am I? I see? The basketball thing

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Speaker 1: is so funny to me because it's just nothing's more

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Speaker 1: I just got Laker couzies literally just got them from

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Speaker 1: Tanya is like, I'm gonna make it, Tanya version, I'm

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Speaker 1: You know? I was like obviously confused. He was like,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna make a cute little uh beat beat the

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Speaker 1: Nuggets tray. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, y'all are really on the stings.

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Speaker 1: Y'all are really certain things. Um. But yeah, it's funny

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Speaker 1: because I I was always grew up with football on

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Speaker 1: I wasn't watching anyone that was close to me. I

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Speaker 1: football season, just even if it's background noise. If just

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Speaker 1: when the Lakers want. I was actually paying attention. Does

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Speaker 1: Red Star have a football team here? No, he watches

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Speaker 1: for his fantasy team. I don't really know how that works.

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Speaker 1: All I want is for Tanya to participate in a

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Speaker 1: fantasy No chance. I don't even understand the way he

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Speaker 1: I have this guy on my team. I was like, well,

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Speaker 1: why aren't they on the same team. That sounds counterproductive

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Speaker 1: like this. No, it's basically like this. You have different

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Speaker 1: categories at the Grammys, and you get a point for

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Speaker 1: get points. It's basically like a bunch of different teams,

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Speaker 1: if your team doesn't play this? Every team play every week?

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Speaker 1: Is that the whole thing? Well? Right, don't they? I

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Speaker 1: mean they have one week off, But it doesn't matter

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Speaker 1: for you because you have drafted people from all different teams,

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Speaker 1: so you have some you have people playing at all times,

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Speaker 1: even if like two of the players from team are

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Speaker 1: I was like, what is happen? Kid? Just pick your

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Speaker 1: I might have a drinking issue. I drink a lot. Now, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: well it's weird because I mean for the longest time,

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Speaker 1: I was like, wow, because I I don't like to.

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Speaker 1: I don't even like to have. You know, like there's

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Speaker 1: like the legal limit where you can have like point

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Speaker 1: whatever it is to drive, but I don't even do that.

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Speaker 1: So if I have a glass of wine, like I don't.

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Speaker 1: a um, what's it called, like a bonding thing because

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Speaker 1: he likes to drink. You'll drink like nice wine and

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Speaker 1: make cocktails with your special dinners. You'll, yeah, but I

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Speaker 1: of my other girlfriends, like, yeah, but we had like

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Speaker 1: I just think it's been such a big change because you,

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Speaker 1: of her, like the opposite of making eye contact. She

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Speaker 1: and I was like what was that. She gets back

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Speaker 1: then everybody goes, Tanya, you're good, like because like Tanya,

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Speaker 1: you used to do this stuff all the time. You

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Speaker 1: They have to hunt, they have to fish, they have

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Speaker 1: to do they have to build shelter. It's just fascinating

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Speaker 1: to see what people are able to do in a

424
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Speaker 1: situation where they're just live. Yeah. I would, and they

425
00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:23,200
Speaker 1: have like well, and so it's just them. They give

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Speaker 1: them a camera and they just set up the camera.

427
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Speaker 1: They talked to the camera, but it's edited so well,

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Speaker 1: do you know what I would do? I would literally

429
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Speaker 1: just sit there and like pray. I would just pray.

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Speaker 1: She'd be like, God, pleasing me food and then he'd

431
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Speaker 1: be like can you go fish and maybe there's something

432
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:42,399
Speaker 1: there for you and be like no, no, please, please

433
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Speaker 1: got to help me. But no, there's like bears and wolves.

434
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Speaker 1: It's so intense. Anyways, you can call in and you

435
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 1: can tap out at any point, but whoever lasts the

436
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Speaker 1: longest gets five thousand dollars. And a lot of these

437
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Speaker 1: people live this lifestyle even in their regular life. So

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Speaker 1: these people were like amazing. So we've been watching different seasons.

439
00:24:05,119 --> 00:24:08,119
Speaker 1: There's one season on Netflix. If y'all are interested, so

440
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 1: you can get started and then we buy the other

441
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Speaker 1: seasons because we're so into it. Oh gosh, I know

442
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:19,440
Speaker 1: we're really nerdy. You guys watch in a relationship here

443
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:23,080
Speaker 1: we are? Um? Oh yeah, I know they won a

444
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Speaker 1: lot last night the Emmys. It made me feel interested

445
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Speaker 1: to watch it, but I also want to watch away. Oh.

446
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Speaker 1: I started the Challenger documentary. Has anyone watched that yet?

447
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:38,040
Speaker 1: The Space Shuttle, it's so sad, like I think I

448
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:41,520
Speaker 1: remember hearing about it. Happened like two years before I

449
00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:44,240
Speaker 1: was even born. But just like seeing you know, other

450
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Speaker 1: documentaries or people talking about it, and I never thought

451
00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:50,880
Speaker 1: about their families were just sitting there watching it take

452
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Speaker 1: off and it just went into flames and they're all

453
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Speaker 1: just like standing there in the audience. So that's what

454
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Speaker 1: I'm watching right now. I'm really into document enteries and

455
00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 1: real life things. Well. I was in high school when

456
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 1: that happened, so think about that. Um, that was back

457
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:09,640
Speaker 1: in the day when space launches were a big deal

458
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:11,359
Speaker 1: and wheel in a TV for you all watch it

459
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Speaker 1: as a class. But I don't think they did for

460
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Speaker 1: that one, or maybe I missed it, but I remember

461
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Speaker 1: hearing about it in the hallway and then running into

462
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Speaker 1: the science lab where everybody was gathered around a TV

463
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Speaker 1: watching them replay it over and over and over again. Yeah,

464
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Speaker 1: that wanted me pretty good, I was gonna say. I

465
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:27,960
Speaker 1: mean that. I guess that's kind of similar for us

466
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Speaker 1: with like nine eleven, because that's I just remember the news,

467
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,320
Speaker 1: the TV is being on. It's weird how our brains

468
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:36,760
Speaker 1: do that, because when I think back to that time

469
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Speaker 1: my age, I was, you know, seventh grades, I was

470
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Speaker 1: twelve or thirteen. I don't have a ton of crystal

471
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Speaker 1: clear memories, you know what's weird. I've been realizing that too,

472
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Speaker 1: because everybody's talking more about like homeschooling, you know, like

473
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Speaker 1: even at the picnic and you guys were like, yeah,

474
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Speaker 1: in fifth grade you learned about like civil rights. And

475
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Speaker 1: I'm like, did I just block out school entirely from

476
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Speaker 1: my memory? Because I have no idea? And like the

477
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Speaker 1: other day since he was like, yeah, third grades when

478
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Speaker 1: you do the miss and I'm like, who the freak

479
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Speaker 1: remembers that or like the periodic table, I'm like, did

480
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Speaker 1: I just black out all of my schooling? Because I

481
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 1: don't remember anything before college? Really, But That's what I'm saying,

482
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Speaker 1: do you have specific like do you remember what nine

483
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Speaker 1: eleven that day? Yes, I do remember nine eleven, but

484
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Speaker 1: when it comes, oh, hang on, what's like the air

485
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:21,520
Speaker 1: conditioning guys coming? So I'm just gonna shut the doorkay um.

486
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Speaker 1: But I think I just I think about I guess

487
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:29,800
Speaker 1: our brains associate memory with significant things, whether it's like

488
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Speaker 1: tragic or you know, significant in some way. But it's

489
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Speaker 1: weird because I was thinking about that this year when

490
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Speaker 1: nine eleven came, that I have these specific memories from

491
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:45,280
Speaker 1: certain times in my life that I don't remember anything else.

492
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:48,840
Speaker 1: That's weird. Although I do remember this guy named Josh

493
00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 1: always played with my hair in that class and it

494
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 1: felt so nice. But probably weird now looking at that,

495
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Speaker 1: that is weird, Tony. You don't remember doing a mission.

496
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Speaker 1: I feel like every California kid members doing the missions

497
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 1: in fourth grade. It's like literally blacked out about I

498
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:10,399
Speaker 1: do remember that vibe of sorts, but I couldn't tell

499
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:12,359
Speaker 1: you what it was an assignment, It wasn't a vibe.

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00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:16,920
Speaker 1: You know, the missions like the big, beautiful, old old

501
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:22,440
Speaker 1: Spanish churches up and down the California coast, early Spanish

502
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:27,960
Speaker 1: colonization of California. In California. We would study those missions

503
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:31,159
Speaker 1: and uh, we would have to build one with like

504
00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:36,120
Speaker 1: out of sugar cubes or something. Wow. No, I don't

505
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,399
Speaker 1: have to do that. But I did go to like

506
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Speaker 1: alligator farms and stuff growing up. We went to the

507
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:49,920
Speaker 1: Lebrand tarpits. What's up the places where dinosaurs used to live?

508
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Speaker 1: I think there's there's dinosaurs. I think at the bottom

509
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Speaker 1: of it. Oh, stop talking while I'm ahead, double onton. Um,

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Speaker 1: I know that we have a scrubber, a special scrubber

511
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Speaker 1: coming on to chat with us, and we are going

512
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Speaker 1: to take a break. Our our scrubber named Danielle. You've

513
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:13,720
Speaker 1: probably seen her um work. She does that. It's called

514
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:17,959
Speaker 1: her Instagram is edited by um edited by Danny, and

515
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:21,360
Speaker 1: she does like sparkles and cute graphics behind the photos

516
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:23,400
Speaker 1: and she's done. I know Tony and I had both

517
00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:25,239
Speaker 1: red posted them, so I'm sure you've seen them if

518
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Speaker 1: you're in the group. But um, she is having a

519
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Speaker 1: huge brain surgery and we just wanted to call and

520
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:35,199
Speaker 1: kind of encourage her and lift her up and you know,

521
00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:37,679
Speaker 1: give her good vibes going into the surgery. So we're

522
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 1: gonna have her with us in a moment, but we're

523
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Speaker 1: going to take a break and we'll be right back

524
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Speaker 1: with Danielle. Hey, what up, everybody, It's Wells Adam So.

525
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Speaker 1: I have a podcast called The Wells Cast. You might

526
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Speaker 1: know me from being the bartender and Bachelor in Paradise,

527
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Speaker 1: winner of Worst Cooks in America, celebrity on Food Network,

528
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Speaker 1: No Cool, the entertainment Red Carpet correspondent, starting my first

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Speaker 1: radio show, and I was sixteen years old and been

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Speaker 1: in radio for the past fifteen years. Nothing engaged to

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Speaker 1: Sarah Highland for Modern Family. Yeah, that's okay, fine, whatever.

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Speaker 1: I have a podcast called The Wells Cast where basically

533
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Speaker 1: we talked to famous and successful people and find out

534
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Speaker 1: where they came from and how the heck they got

535
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Speaker 1: so stink and rich, and we got something for everybody.

536
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Speaker 1: Are big into sports? All right? We got you Rash

537
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Speaker 1: Jennings and Victor Oladipo. Are you a music fan? We've

538
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Speaker 1: gotten a low down from Rascal Flats, Bret Michael's Lance Bass.

539
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Speaker 1: You begin the reality TV Chris Harrison, Johnny Bananas. You

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Speaker 1: want to find out more about film and TV stars?

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Speaker 1: Brian bum Garden from the Office, Dave Koyer from Full House,

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Speaker 1: Scott Eastwood. It's a great way to see what the

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544
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Speaker 1: the I Heart Radio app, on Apple podcasts or wherever

545
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Speaker 1: you get podcasts these days. Um So, just I did

546
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Speaker 1: a little introduction before we brought you in, but I

547
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Speaker 1: feel like a lot of our scrubbers probably have seen

548
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 1: your work or and a lot of people listening, even

549
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Speaker 1: if they're not like part of the group, they probably

550
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 1: have seen a three posterum edits and stuff. But how

551
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 1: did that even start? Because you it's so cute what

552
00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:29,760
Speaker 1: you do with photos? Something else you? Um So, last

553
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Speaker 1: year and fourth of July, I had like the worst

554
00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 1: day ever, Like it was just the weirdest day. And

555
00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:38,360
Speaker 1: the day after I'm like, how can I get this funk?

556
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Speaker 1: Like what do I enjoy doing? Art has always meant

557
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Speaker 1: so much to me, Like I worked in the music

558
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Speaker 1: industry and then I've always just in freelance graphic design

559
00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 1: just like for fun and everything. And I never I

560
00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 1: was always scared to take the leap to show my

561
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Speaker 1: art like to other people, I guess because I didn't

562
00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 1: think anyone will care. And within the first day, I

563
00:30:57,600 --> 00:31:01,240
Speaker 1: mean making everything Tanya reposted me, and I was like

564
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 1: literally at breakfast crying and I definitely have imposter syndrome

565
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 1: for sure, and that that from everyone. I was just like,

566
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:16,240
Speaker 1: oh my god, like I think I'm honest something here. Yeah,

567
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 1: it's it's really I always you know, Tanya does that

568
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:21,640
Speaker 1: for so many people without even knowing, you know, she

569
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 1: just like repost because she's like, oh, thank you. She's

570
00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:28,480
Speaker 1: so grateful, and it's like she's she's just so it's

571
00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:30,280
Speaker 1: crazy that you said that. It's like that you had

572
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:33,040
Speaker 1: imposter syndrome and me posting it and like people like

573
00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:35,440
Speaker 1: telling you how talented you were helped that because it's

574
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:39,479
Speaker 1: so it's so wild. How Like I don't think I

575
00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:41,640
Speaker 1: realized when I like talked about it so much that

576
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:46,200
Speaker 1: I think the majority of people like suffer from impostor

577
00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 1: syndrome in a certain like way, shape or form in

578
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Speaker 1: their life, you know what I mean, Like they don't

579
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Speaker 1: feel like they're worthy enough for X y Z fill

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00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 1: in the blank, whether it's like a job or a

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Speaker 1: love or whatever. That maybe And it's really really interesting,

582
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,760
Speaker 1: right yeah, because I was like so nervous making the

583
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Speaker 1: edited by Danny came like no one's gonna follow me,

584
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 1: Like the people I know that how much to school,

585
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:09,360
Speaker 1: but they're not going to care. And then just like

586
00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:11,480
Speaker 1: having them like follow me, and I wanted them to

587
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:13,719
Speaker 1: make things for their businesses and this and that. And

588
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:16,120
Speaker 1: you definitely helped me a lot by reposting, and then

589
00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:17,920
Speaker 1: the fact that you've for posted me a bunch of too,

590
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:23,440
Speaker 1: which definitely just the outpour people like requesting edits and

591
00:32:23,480 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 1: just like actually liking what I do. I'm like, well,

592
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 1: like people like this, and so you turned into a business?

593
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 1: Is that what you did? Yeah? So through um you

594
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 1: guys like posting everything, I've had people reach out to me.

595
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:38,959
Speaker 1: And then I've started freelancing, so um, I yeah, I

596
00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:44,640
Speaker 1: have a few clients in California, New York. It's yeah,

597
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 1: it's been really cool to help other people, like it

598
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 1: kind of comes back in nature to me, social media

599
00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 1: graft design. Then to help other people do that is

600
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:57,280
Speaker 1: has been really awesome and it's been amazing, Like it's

601
00:32:57,320 --> 00:33:00,040
Speaker 1: really helped me in so many ways, like mentally and

602
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:05,520
Speaker 1: this lilies and everything, and I really really appreciate it. Guys. Well,

603
00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 1: I mean I feel like a lot of people are

604
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 1: in that position of wanting to do something new or

605
00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 1: do something that they're passionate about and have imposter syndrome

606
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:18,440
Speaker 1: or fear of failure or whatever it is. And I

607
00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 1: feel like this is You're such a great example of

608
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 1: people going for it and seeing what can happen if

609
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Speaker 1: you just kind of do what you love and put

610
00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 1: it out there exactly. Like just it's so like, now

611
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:32,320
Speaker 1: I look back on it, I'm like I should have

612
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Speaker 1: done this years ago, Like I really just thought knowing

613
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Speaker 1: care or anything, and then seeing like the outpour of everything,

614
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Speaker 1: I'm just like astonished, like people care what I do

615
00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 1: and enjoying my sparkly things, enjoying my spars. So we

616
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Speaker 1: got your email and you um said that you just

617
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Speaker 1: found out that you have to get brain surgery next month.

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Speaker 1: Is that? Like when are you having the surgery? What's

619
00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 1: going on? Okay? So I need to get brain surgery

620
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Speaker 1: next Wednesday, So not this Wednesday, next Wednesday. UM. So

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Speaker 1: I have this thing called chiari malformation, which they actually

622
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Speaker 1: mentioned it on Gray's when they meet Zola. They thought so,

623
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Speaker 1: but you didn't. Oh so was that something that is

624
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:25,560
Speaker 1: like you get the surgery and you're okay or um? So,

625
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:29,000
Speaker 1: when I first found out a few years ago. Um,

626
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Speaker 1: they said that I might not have been the best

627
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Speaker 1: candidate because my only major symptom was vertigo UM and

628
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 1: headaches here and there. So they're like, you know, like

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Speaker 1: you're still young, you're eighteen. Um, we'll keep an eye

630
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Speaker 1: out on it. And then last year, like I didn't

631
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Speaker 1: probably see like in the camera with my eye like

632
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Speaker 1: spasms randomly, like a little bit of a twitch and

633
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Speaker 1: it kind of makes the left side of my face

634
00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:55,919
Speaker 1: like just look not cute. Um. And then they did

635
00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:59,000
Speaker 1: more m R s and whatnot this year, and then

636
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:01,840
Speaker 1: they're like you should get it and um as a

637
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:05,920
Speaker 1: more of a preventative thing. Because my neurosurgeon looked at

638
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: my m R eyes and he's like, so you're not

639
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:11,279
Speaker 1: in pain, and I'm like no, why. He's like, if

640
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 1: I didn't know you and looked at your scans, I

641
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:14,880
Speaker 1: would think you're in a lot more pain than Like

642
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 1: I couldn't live like a day to date normal life.

643
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:22,799
Speaker 1: So that's scared me. Yeah, so you're just like, I

644
00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:25,720
Speaker 1: want to get this done so that doesn't get worse. Exactly.

645
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 1: It's more of a preventative measure, and like, I don't

646
00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 1: know anyone else with this problem. I don't know, Like

647
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:34,279
Speaker 1: I look up online and there's not like it's not

648
00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 1: that it's not common, but I just don't know anyone

649
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:37,360
Speaker 1: else with it. So I'm like, I just want to

650
00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:40,360
Speaker 1: get this and I have a better shot at like

651
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 1: in not progressing. What other symptoms are there. And by

652
00:35:44,040 --> 00:35:45,839
Speaker 1: the way, I wouldn't have noticed that half of your

653
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:49,360
Speaker 1: face situation if you had any points. You know, it

654
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:52,840
Speaker 1: gets like I gets like tiny. Um. My major symptoms

655
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:55,319
Speaker 1: are vertigo, Like I would feel like I was, you know,

656
00:35:55,360 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 1: when you're on like a spinny ride at like an

657
00:35:57,080 --> 00:36:00,759
Speaker 1: amusement park. I would feel like that. I'd wake up

658
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:02,279
Speaker 1: like that and I go to bed feeling like that,

659
00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:06,319
Speaker 1: like it was horrible. Um. I always feel like I'm

660
00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:08,879
Speaker 1: gonna fall. Like there's a weird symptoms and I would

661
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:10,839
Speaker 1: be scared to like go to the mall because oh

662
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 1: my god, what if like I feel like this and

663
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 1: like no one's with me, or if I pass out,

664
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 1: um constant dizziness and lightheadedness, um, really bad headaches. Um

665
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:28,120
Speaker 1: just like weird like nerve things like something's all get

666
00:36:28,160 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 1: like numb like tingling like my hand or something. It's

667
00:36:30,680 --> 00:36:34,239
Speaker 1: like very random. But the spasm became one of the

668
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 1: biggest symptoms, and like, I'll just be at work in

669
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:39,360
Speaker 1: my Facebook just like freeze up. And that got me

670
00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:43,480
Speaker 1: really scared. Yeah. Well, so when you were watching Grays

671
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:45,440
Speaker 1: and they talked about that was Zola where you like,

672
00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, this is crazy and no one ever

673
00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:50,799
Speaker 1: talks about this. Yeah, I know. It was actually like

674
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:53,200
Speaker 1: four days ago. I've been like rewatching it and I

675
00:36:53,200 --> 00:36:55,319
Speaker 1: guess I didn't catch it the first time around, and

676
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 1: then they're like, um, Derek said like, oh, she might

677
00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:01,240
Speaker 1: have Kiari, Like we're gonna do you like a test

678
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:03,279
Speaker 1: for that, and and then he explained it. I'm like,

679
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 1: oh my god, Like that's that's me. I feel so seen,

680
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 1: not so low. You're my dad. Well, have you met

681
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:16,000
Speaker 1: your surgeon yet? Does he look like Shepherd? He doesn't. Unfortunately,

682
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 1: he's very nice. But Derek, come in handy, Derek, Shepherd

683
00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:25,080
Speaker 1: is there with you in spirit and so are we obviously, Yeah,

684
00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:27,320
Speaker 1: well we are definitely there with you in spirit. Do

685
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:28,799
Speaker 1: you know how long the surgery is going to be.

686
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 1: I don't think it's that long. Um, they said, tell

687
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,440
Speaker 1: us exactly like the day and the time that you're

688
00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:36,279
Speaker 1: going to be in it. So that we can all

689
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:38,120
Speaker 1: everybody that's listening, we can all pray for you during

690
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 1: that time. Thank you. Um. It's next Wednesday, thirty am

691
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:51,319
Speaker 1: Eastern time, so whatever time, UM, And I think I

692
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:52,839
Speaker 1: don't think it's that long. I think I'll just be

693
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 1: in the hospital like that day, maybe for a night. UM.

694
00:37:56,160 --> 00:38:01,400
Speaker 1: But I'm a very positive person. If you couldn't tell, um, yeah,

695
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:03,640
Speaker 1: I'm just I just want to get it over with

696
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 1: and feel good. And UM, A lot of people have

697
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 1: the surgery, whoever lived up online, the like few that

698
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:13,120
Speaker 1: can find they're like I didn't realize until after the surgery,

699
00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 1: how like really and like normal I felt. So that's

700
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:19,320
Speaker 1: what I'm hoping for to like this is what normal

701
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:22,160
Speaker 1: feels like, That's what's gonna happen. And I was gonna say,

702
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 1: you've been living with it, so you don't even you

703
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 1: probably won't even know until you're done with the surgery,

704
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 1: how like how much it was affecting you, you know exactly.

705
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:33,000
Speaker 1: And I'm just excited, like every day that I don't

706
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:36,040
Speaker 1: feel vertigo and I don't feel like stick. I'm so

707
00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:38,320
Speaker 1: grateful to Like I used to when I lived on

708
00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:40,239
Speaker 1: the island, I'd see people go on the train to work.

709
00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:42,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, I just want to be that girl who

710
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:45,319
Speaker 1: can go to work alone on the train to Manhattan

711
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:47,279
Speaker 1: and like live that life. And then now that I

712
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:50,839
Speaker 1: live that life, I'm like so grateful. You don't even

713
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 1: know that you could. I mean, honestly, even just coming

714
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 1: on here and talking about it might help someone realize

715
00:38:57,120 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 1: that maybe that's exactly what I would just think. I

716
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:02,720
Speaker 1: have people in my life who have struggle with vertigo

717
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:05,319
Speaker 1: and not knowing where it's coming from, so this might

718
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:06,920
Speaker 1: help a lot. But it's so true. It's like you

719
00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:09,239
Speaker 1: literally have to be your biggest advocate with Like it's

720
00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:10,759
Speaker 1: like you could have stopped at your normal doctor where

721
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 1: they're like, oh, you're fine, or like everyone's like you're fine,

722
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:14,360
Speaker 1: But it's like when you know there's something wrong with

723
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:17,400
Speaker 1: your body, like you have to keep going until you

724
00:39:17,440 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 1: figure out what it is. Exactly. I went, I'm proud

725
00:39:19,719 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 1: of you, thank you. I went to cardiologists, UM and

726
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:25,400
Speaker 1: T doctors like everything, and then my doctors like, you

727
00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 1: should go to a therapist. I think it's from your anxiety.

728
00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 1: So I'm like, Okay, I definitely have anxiety, but I

729
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:32,760
Speaker 1: have a problem, Like I know and then my therapist

730
00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:37,400
Speaker 1: sent to me, Um, okay, so they think your anxiety

731
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:39,600
Speaker 1: is causing a physical problem. I think your physical problem

732
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:41,359
Speaker 1: is giving you that anxiety, and that's why you're scared

733
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:42,640
Speaker 1: to go to school. That's where it's scared to go

734
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:44,239
Speaker 1: to the law. That's why you're scared to go to

735
00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:48,160
Speaker 1: I had problem coming up, and she really like solidified

736
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:51,320
Speaker 1: that I am not going to easy like I have problem,

737
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:54,319
Speaker 1: and then m R. I obviously solidified that further. But

738
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 1: it's like, yeah, you know yourself and don't go until

739
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:01,080
Speaker 1: you get those answers. Because my family thought I was

740
00:40:01,120 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 1: going crazy. Like Danielle like put to school if you

741
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:05,360
Speaker 1: just don't want to go because prom's coming up and

742
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 1: you're nervous, Like no, I love school and I'm such

743
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 1: a nerd and I feel like we do that. That's

744
00:40:12,680 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 1: what scares me is I feel like I'd be that

745
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:19,479
Speaker 1: dad to my It's okay, you're all right. Um yeah.

746
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 1: My dad was like damn, Like just because you're dizzy,

747
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:24,239
Speaker 1: like maybe it feels like you're drunk or something, that's

748
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:26,440
Speaker 1: that's okay. People will drink it to feel like that.

749
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:31,919
Speaker 1: I'm like, dad, like, but I'm not drinking like that, Yeah,

750
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 1: I'm eighty. And then then my dad a few years

751
00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 1: later had vertigo and he called me. He's like, Dan,

752
00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:41,200
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. You felt like this every day, Like yes,

753
00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 1: and you made me go to high school. You said

754
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:49,040
Speaker 1: it was because I was nervous about prom man, Well,

755
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:52,800
Speaker 1: we love you so much and it's gonna be surgery

756
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:54,759
Speaker 1: is gonna be amazing. You're gonna come out, You're gonna

757
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 1: be better than ever. And I have literally not like

758
00:40:58,680 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 1: a doubt in my mind and just know going into

759
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:04,279
Speaker 1: it that these people do these surgeries day in and

760
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 1: day out. You're in great hands, and um, just think

761
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 1: about everything that's going to come after. I know. I'm excited.

762
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 1: And if anyone has like any other medical issues or

763
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 1: anything like oh, Like why I love this podcast is

764
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:20,920
Speaker 1: like I always feel like not alone in such a community,

765
00:41:21,080 --> 00:41:24,160
Speaker 1: and I hope to be like that for other people

766
00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 1: as well, because I don't really have many people go

767
00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 1: to for this, for this problem everything, So just I

768
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 1: want to be that person for other people. We should

769
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 1: set a time in a day to check in with

770
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:37,400
Speaker 1: her again, you, Danielle, because your vibe is perfect for

771
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:39,640
Speaker 1: this podcast, so we should check in and see how

772
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:42,759
Speaker 1: you're doing in a month or year or whatever it is. Oh,

773
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:48,960
Speaker 1: three years, and I was thinking like October twelve, Okay,

774
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:51,399
Speaker 1: I'll put in my calendar. Yeah. If you're feeling out

775
00:41:51,400 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 1: for it, all of you, I'll feel up for it. Okay. Perfect. Well,

776
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:58,400
Speaker 1: we're praying for you. We're sending you all the good vibes,

777
00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 1: and I'm glad you feel good at out your surgeon.

778
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:02,919
Speaker 1: You're gonna feel amazing after the surgery. And we love

779
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:06,279
Speaker 1: you and we support you and the best. Yeah, we

780
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 1: love you. Thanks. Should I go? Yeah? Yeah, all right.

781
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 1: All the scribers you heard that seven thirty on the

782
00:42:34,800 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 1: East coast for thirty. If you're on the West coast,

783
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:40,520
Speaker 1: Tony will be up, might be up. I'm not gonna

784
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 1: lie Wednes. Yeah. Um yeah. So we're rooting for you, Danielle.

785
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 1: And that was kind of a big deal to open

786
00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:54,760
Speaker 1: up about something that's a very personal thing. So nothing's

787
00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 1: going to get she's got the best attitude. Yeah, I agree. Um,

788
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:01,399
Speaker 1: I know we have some other emails that we are

789
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:03,920
Speaker 1: going to get to, so Mark, you want to take

790
00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:06,120
Speaker 1: that away. This is from Kimberly. I'm going on a

791
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 1: vacation to Yellowstone and Grand Titon National Parks in two

792
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:12,399
Speaker 1: weeks with a guy I didd casually for a few

793
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 1: months about four years ago. Since we stopped dating, I

794
00:43:16,160 --> 00:43:18,319
Speaker 1: didd someone for two years, and from what I can

795
00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:21,759
Speaker 1: tell from Facebook, he was engaged until like February of

796
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:23,759
Speaker 1: this year, so I feel like he's not in a

797
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,640
Speaker 1: place where he's ready to date again. Anyway, he messaged

798
00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 1: me on Match a couple of times back in March.

799
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:30,919
Speaker 1: I messaged him back and edited him as a friend

800
00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:33,239
Speaker 1: on Facebook. Since then, we decided to do this trip

801
00:43:33,239 --> 00:43:37,320
Speaker 1: together and I specifically said as friends. Well yesterday we

802
00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:39,920
Speaker 1: matched on Bumble as well. I don't know how to

803
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:42,319
Speaker 1: approach this trip. I would be open to dating him

804
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:43,799
Speaker 1: if he were at a place where he was ready

805
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 1: to date and commit, but I'm afraid he's just hoping

806
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:49,200
Speaker 1: to be friends with benefits again or just hook up,

807
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:51,920
Speaker 1: and I'm not interested in that. Should I said boundaries

808
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 1: before the trip or just see if he makes a

809
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:55,680
Speaker 1: move on the trip and say something in the moment

810
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:59,120
Speaker 1: if it happens, Well, I'm confused. Why would we go

811
00:43:59,160 --> 00:44:02,680
Speaker 1: on a trip us for ends? Uh, that's interesting to me.

812
00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:04,879
Speaker 1: I agree that I don't want to go on any

813
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:07,720
Speaker 1: trip with no guy as a friend because she doesn't.

814
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:10,560
Speaker 1: She's trying to protect herself of like not moving too fast,

815
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:13,759
Speaker 1: because he just got out of a relationship, so she's

816
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:16,360
Speaker 1: declaring it as friends to keep him from climate on

817
00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 1: top of her. He was engaged, so she's saying, like,

818
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:20,239
Speaker 1: let's do it as friends and get to know each

819
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:24,839
Speaker 1: other again before we are just hooking up. Well, why

820
00:44:24,920 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 1: go on a trip with him? Go on trip with

821
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 1: somebody else. It's always her time, you know what I'm saying, Like, well,

822
00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:32,400
Speaker 1: she's open to dating him, Yeah, she just wants to

823
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:38,760
Speaker 1: make sure it's not being what too fast or friends

824
00:44:38,800 --> 00:44:42,360
Speaker 1: with benefits situation like it was four years ago. She

825
00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:46,719
Speaker 1: wouldn't say relationship. Then let's not take him on this

826
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:50,520
Speaker 1: trip and take some other potential man. There are lots

827
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:56,000
Speaker 1: of fishingcy as usual, Rebecca. I just think I think

828
00:44:56,080 --> 00:45:00,160
Speaker 1: you you enjoy yourself, You go somebody you like, know all,

829
00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 1: go have a good time. If things get to that point,

830
00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:06,320
Speaker 1: you explain where you stand on it and just say, listen,

831
00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:09,080
Speaker 1: you were engaged a few months ago, potentially going to

832
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:11,719
Speaker 1: marry someone, and now we're on a trip together. I

833
00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 1: don't want to rush. I don't want this to be

834
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:15,120
Speaker 1: what it was four years ago. I want to, you know,

835
00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 1: if we're gonna be together, I want to actually be

836
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:21,560
Speaker 1: together or we just be friends. All right, Well, I'm

837
00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:23,359
Speaker 1: going to give you the guy's perspective on this. He's

838
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:26,040
Speaker 1: definitely into you. He definitely wants to go on. He

839
00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:27,959
Speaker 1: would not be going on a one on one trip

840
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:30,040
Speaker 1: with you if he was not into you more than

841
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:34,439
Speaker 1: just booty call, in my opinion. So I would go,

842
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:37,160
Speaker 1: and I would go with an open mind about everything,

843
00:45:37,200 --> 00:45:39,439
Speaker 1: but I would just set the boundaries in your head.

844
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:42,080
Speaker 1: I would set your boundaries as I'm not going farther

845
00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:45,560
Speaker 1: than whatever with him, and make sure you stick to that,

846
00:45:46,040 --> 00:45:47,920
Speaker 1: and then if it comes up, then it comes up

847
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:49,680
Speaker 1: then and you gotta stop him. You gotta stop him.

848
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:51,600
Speaker 1: But I think you're open to whatever might happen on

849
00:45:51,640 --> 00:45:53,520
Speaker 1: this trip because I think he's into you, and I

850
00:45:53,520 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 1: think he's over whatever fell apart in February, because that

851
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 1: was seven months ago, and if he was engaged, okay,

852
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:01,879
Speaker 1: that's major, but that's a long time. And I think

853
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:05,400
Speaker 1: he maybe he's missing you. Maybe he felt like that

854
00:46:05,480 --> 00:46:07,120
Speaker 1: was a good thing you guys had. I don't know,

855
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:09,600
Speaker 1: but I think you're putting a lot of thoughts into

856
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 1: his brain that might not be there. My thing is

857
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:16,840
Speaker 1: like going on a vacation to the National parks feels pretty.

858
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:20,799
Speaker 1: I mean, that's pretty intimate in my opinion. I wish

859
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 1: she was going with like a group of friends, so

860
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 1: that if she really had expectations of Yeah, I just like,

861
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 1: I don't know about going on a trip with a

862
00:46:27,320 --> 00:46:31,840
Speaker 1: guy that, like I've blinked before, like not blinking again.

863
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:36,879
Speaker 1: But she likes him, and I'm telling you he likes her. Yeah,

864
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:40,439
Speaker 1: I don't like her just for a hookup. I don't

865
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:42,440
Speaker 1: think so. I don't think he's going to yellow Stone

866
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 1: for a hook up and Grand Teatons. He's going to

867
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:53,160
Speaker 1: two national parks. That's not a hook up. That's that's

868
00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:54,560
Speaker 1: he wants to spend a lot of time with you.

869
00:46:54,640 --> 00:47:00,880
Speaker 1: It's a romantic, naturistic hookup. What guy wouldn't be into that.

870
00:47:01,120 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 1: I like it. I like this for you, I like

871
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 1: this for him. I think this is good. I think

872
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: go have fun, don't overthink it. If if it gets

873
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:10,440
Speaker 1: to the point where he's making a move, say something,

874
00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:16,200
Speaker 1: express your feelings. If it stays friendly, great, great friendship

875
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:19,960
Speaker 1: to the Titans. We're just like make out with him

876
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 1: a little bit. I think we love, we love a

877
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:26,680
Speaker 1: first base situation for a long time. Just you decide

878
00:47:26,680 --> 00:47:29,040
Speaker 1: in your mind, think of what we're a picture that

879
00:47:29,080 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 1: baseball infield. How far do you want to get on

880
00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 1: that baseball? Exactly? Make the first hard wall though wherever?

881
00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:37,239
Speaker 1: Exactly keep him up first for as long as you want. Baby.

882
00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:38,840
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, you you can do a lot of

883
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:41,279
Speaker 1: living at first base. You can do a lot of

884
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 1: living at first base. Okay, true, Yeah, I lived four

885
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:49,280
Speaker 1: years of my life at round first and feel those

886
00:47:49,360 --> 00:47:55,480
Speaker 1: days around shortstop? Where's that between second and third? Oh

887
00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 1: you think so? Huh? Maybe a few men in shortstops,

888
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:02,919
Speaker 1: but I say the majority definitely between first and second base,

889
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:08,160
Speaker 1: touching little little happy petting well that second base. Yeah,

890
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:11,120
Speaker 1: that's about as far as I went with a majority.

891
00:48:11,520 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 1: Here's page. So. I started a new job in April

892
00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:16,239
Speaker 1: lamits this COVID pandemic, which means that I have been

893
00:48:17,160 --> 00:48:20,439
Speaker 1: remote working from home since the very first day. Last week,

894
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:22,319
Speaker 1: my boss called me after I emailed her with some

895
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:24,200
Speaker 1: questions about a project she had given me, and I

896
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:26,840
Speaker 1: could hear in her voice that she was frustrated with

897
00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:29,359
Speaker 1: my confusion. As soon as we hung up from our call,

898
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:31,279
Speaker 1: I actually put a one on one zoom meeting on

899
00:48:31,360 --> 00:48:33,799
Speaker 1: my calendar for the next morning. I couldn't sleep, thinking

900
00:48:33,800 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 1: I was going to get fired or at least yelled at. Well.

901
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:38,040
Speaker 1: The next morning, the call went well. She told me

902
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:40,719
Speaker 1: her only complaint about me is that I sometimes missed

903
00:48:40,719 --> 00:48:43,880
Speaker 1: small details because I don't ask enough questions. I was

904
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 1: honest with her, right totally. Look, I don't want to

905
00:48:46,080 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 1: ask too many questions because I don't want to be

906
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:49,200
Speaker 1: annoying and I don't want you guys to think I'm

907
00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:51,600
Speaker 1: not fit for this position. I felt so much better

908
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:55,360
Speaker 1: after talking to her, until today I got a message

909
00:48:55,440 --> 00:49:00,680
Speaker 1: that was not intended for me, saying Page has forgotten

910
00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 1: yet another detail in quotes. Not sure how much longer

911
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:10,760
Speaker 1: she will last? Oh no. So I confronted her Bravo

912
00:49:10,840 --> 00:49:14,560
Speaker 1: by the way, and she apologized, saying it was totally inappropriate,

913
00:49:14,760 --> 00:49:16,879
Speaker 1: and I respond to telling her, look, I promised I'm

914
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:19,600
Speaker 1: working as hard as I possibly can. Then she spent

915
00:49:19,640 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 1: the rest of the day kissing my ass, telling me

916
00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:24,759
Speaker 1: how wonderful I was doing. After every single email I sent,

917
00:49:25,000 --> 00:49:28,879
Speaker 1: How am I supposed to move on from this. Let

918
00:49:28,880 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 1: me tell you how you move on. Girl. You keep

919
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:33,759
Speaker 1: doing your job the best you can, but you start

920
00:49:33,840 --> 00:49:41,400
Speaker 1: looking elsewhere. Why not? Because I don't think her saying

921
00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:44,239
Speaker 1: that she I think it. Maybe it was like this

922
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 1: is her superior, it's her bross. Yeah. Yeah, So if

923
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:49,920
Speaker 1: she's like your boss is saying in an email that

924
00:49:50,000 --> 00:49:52,240
Speaker 1: wasn't intended to me, I don't know how much longer

925
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:56,120
Speaker 1: she's gonna last. I'm gonna have one fut Yeah, I mean,

926
00:49:56,120 --> 00:49:58,239
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be hesitant, but I'm also going to be

927
00:49:58,280 --> 00:50:00,719
Speaker 1: making sure I'm paying attention to d tail because some

928
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:02,840
Speaker 1: jobs that is part of the you will have to

929
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:06,360
Speaker 1: pay to sure for sure things are gonna go awry.

930
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:09,520
Speaker 1: So like she, I think, if anything, it's a wake

931
00:50:09,600 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 1: up call of like, yeah, obviously, if you're doing the

932
00:50:12,600 --> 00:50:14,480
Speaker 1: best you can and you're just like, listen, this is

933
00:50:14,480 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 1: too much for me and I don't think this is

934
00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:19,120
Speaker 1: a good fit for my personality and hers, then yeah,

935
00:50:19,320 --> 00:50:21,759
Speaker 1: look elsewhere. But if you think I can step it

936
00:50:21,840 --> 00:50:24,319
Speaker 1: up a notch and prove her wrong and what she

937
00:50:24,400 --> 00:50:27,800
Speaker 1: thinks about me, then do that and let her kiss

938
00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:30,440
Speaker 1: your ass while you're doing it. Yeah. Look, this is

939
00:50:30,560 --> 00:50:33,120
Speaker 1: COVID jobs aren't a diamond dozen right now. So I

940
00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:34,799
Speaker 1: think if you've got a good I've got a decent gig,

941
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:36,480
Speaker 1: you have to stick with it, especially one nless you

942
00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:39,120
Speaker 1: work from home all the time. It's tough, though, working

943
00:50:39,120 --> 00:50:41,839
Speaker 1: from home all the time, because these resentments build and

944
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:43,600
Speaker 1: you can't express them. If you guys were in the

945
00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:45,880
Speaker 1: office every day together, you wouldn't have this kind of

946
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:48,480
Speaker 1: weirdness between you. It would be resolved instantly, or you'd

947
00:50:48,480 --> 00:50:50,879
Speaker 1: actually maybe have a good relationship with her. So it's

948
00:50:50,920 --> 00:50:53,239
Speaker 1: too bad. That's an unfortunate element of working from home.

949
00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 1: But she's screwed up, and that's great. When your boss

950
00:50:57,520 --> 00:51:00,400
Speaker 1: screws up, you can ride that for a long time.

951
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:03,839
Speaker 1: I think, bury her with questions and emails and make

952
00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:06,560
Speaker 1: absolutely sure you're dotting every eye and crossing every tea

953
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:09,399
Speaker 1: because you've got some you've got some leeway. Now, you've

954
00:51:09,400 --> 00:51:11,040
Speaker 1: got a little bit of a while where you can coast,

955
00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:12,400
Speaker 1: But you don't want to coast. You want to be

956
00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:14,360
Speaker 1: awesome in this time. And I think this may be

957
00:51:14,440 --> 00:51:16,000
Speaker 1: a turning point for you guys, and things are gonna

958
00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:18,640
Speaker 1: get better from here. Yeah, And I also applaud you

959
00:51:18,680 --> 00:51:24,160
Speaker 1: for calling her out me too, I and anxious about it.

960
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:26,600
Speaker 1: Like the fact that you spoke up I think gives

961
00:51:26,680 --> 00:51:32,000
Speaker 1: you an edge of her being a little bit like

962
00:51:33,080 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 1: you have leverage right now because she's made the mistake,

963
00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 1: like Mark said, and you confronted her about it, so

964
00:51:38,840 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 1: she's like, she knows you ain't playing. And I would,

965
00:51:42,840 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 1: I mean, if things continue to feel awkward and you're

966
00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 1: like you can't get that out of your head, I would.

967
00:51:48,680 --> 00:51:51,319
Speaker 1: I would run her about it and say, listen, I

968
00:51:51,400 --> 00:51:53,880
Speaker 1: know that we talked about this, but I feel like

969
00:51:53,920 --> 00:51:58,920
Speaker 1: I'm I'm having to Yeah, I'm just saying, like I understand,

970
00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:00,560
Speaker 1: like I definitely think you need to up your game

971
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:02,879
Speaker 1: and be detail oriented and like kick it up a notch.

972
00:52:02,920 --> 00:52:06,360
Speaker 1: But also I think like not having not having support

973
00:52:06,440 --> 00:52:08,840
Speaker 1: and encouragement from your boss, Like for me, seeing something

974
00:52:08,880 --> 00:52:10,759
Speaker 1: like that would really really be hard for me to

975
00:52:10,840 --> 00:52:12,960
Speaker 1: like you know what I mean, Like it would really

976
00:52:13,000 --> 00:52:15,040
Speaker 1: be hard, Like knowing that my boss felt that way

977
00:52:15,080 --> 00:52:16,960
Speaker 1: about me would be really really hard for me to

978
00:52:17,160 --> 00:52:19,279
Speaker 1: deal with. So yes, I would definitely step up my

979
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:22,320
Speaker 1: game and like work as hard as I possibly could.

980
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:24,360
Speaker 1: But I would. I would. I mean, I know jobs

981
00:52:24,400 --> 00:52:27,319
Speaker 1: are not you know, a diamond doesen't. Like, I know

982
00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:31,000
Speaker 1: it's tough times, but I also would probably start just

983
00:52:31,040 --> 00:52:33,239
Speaker 1: like putting feelers out, you know, Like I don't say,

984
00:52:33,239 --> 00:52:35,200
Speaker 1: I'm not saying quit your job and leave, but like

985
00:52:37,200 --> 00:52:39,359
Speaker 1: put some feelers out. I wonder if there's somebody else

986
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:41,800
Speaker 1: there that can also help you with these uh quote

987
00:52:41,880 --> 00:52:44,200
Speaker 1: unquote details you're missing, like maybe the person that the

988
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:47,360
Speaker 1: boss sent that email to, maybe that could be somebody

989
00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:49,440
Speaker 1: you could work more closely with who could help you,

990
00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 1: help help guide you through these days. Yeah. I mean,

991
00:52:54,760 --> 00:52:57,120
Speaker 1: I I just have to say, for me, with my

992
00:52:57,239 --> 00:53:02,160
Speaker 1: competitive personality, it would sting like I would carry that

993
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:04,720
Speaker 1: in the back of my head. But then I what

994
00:53:04,719 --> 00:53:06,319
Speaker 1: what I would do wrong is that I would not

995
00:53:06,400 --> 00:53:10,120
Speaker 1: even say anything, and then I would let her realize

996
00:53:10,120 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 1: the mistake that she's made, and then I would just

997
00:53:13,480 --> 00:53:17,319
Speaker 1: be like crushing it to prove myself, which I don't

998
00:53:17,320 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 1: know if that's healthy mentally, but that's what I would do.

999
00:53:20,160 --> 00:53:22,200
Speaker 1: But I think you handled it best by confronting her,

1000
00:53:22,200 --> 00:53:24,080
Speaker 1: and I think now you move forward by being the

1001
00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:26,840
Speaker 1: best that you can, like focus on the details. And

1002
00:53:26,840 --> 00:53:28,919
Speaker 1: if things continue to be this way where you feel

1003
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:31,480
Speaker 1: like you can't do anything right, maybe Tony is right

1004
00:53:31,480 --> 00:53:34,480
Speaker 1: and it's time you move on from this job. But Paige,

1005
00:53:34,920 --> 00:53:40,719
Speaker 1: you're in control, so just feel confident knowing that. UM.

1006
00:53:40,760 --> 00:53:43,320
Speaker 1: I think that's it for today. That's it for today.

1007
00:53:43,480 --> 00:53:45,640
Speaker 1: I think my air condition is getting fixed as we speak.

1008
00:53:46,640 --> 00:53:48,960
Speaker 1: I do not feel it yet, but hopefully that does

1009
00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:52,120
Speaker 1: come for you, because I'm getting the heck out of here. UM.

1010
00:53:52,760 --> 00:53:55,840
Speaker 1: Love you, guys, Love you, sending you the best wishes.

1011
00:53:55,920 --> 00:53:58,440
Speaker 1: Danielle and we love you. We'll see you next week.

1012
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:04,239
Speaker 1: Uh I Hey,