WEBVTT - Rescue unproductive evenings

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is about how to rescue unproductive evenings. I

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<v Speaker 1>recently got a note from a Before Breakfast listener named

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<v Speaker 1>Cassie who had this question, how do you make the

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<v Speaker 1>most of your evenings or after work time and fight

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<v Speaker 1>the urge to just flop on the couch. Cassie explained

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<v Speaker 1>that when I leave work, I'm often excited to go

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<v Speaker 1>home and work on some things on my to do list,

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<v Speaker 1>but at some point, between leaving my desk and opening

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<v Speaker 1>the door to my apartment, I lose the willpower to

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<v Speaker 1>do more. Partly this was just physical exhaustion. Cassie noted

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<v Speaker 1>that she usually rode her bike to and from work,

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<v Speaker 1>which is great, but added to her feeling that she

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want to do any more work after cleaning up

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<v Speaker 1>the dinner dishes. She explained that the things on her

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<v Speaker 1>list were truly important to her, such as self discovery

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<v Speaker 1>assignments as she thought about her long term career plans.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'd rather just take it easy and give into

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<v Speaker 1>the comfort of my couch most nights. Am I a

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<v Speaker 1>hopeless procrastinator, she asked, or do you have any tips

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<v Speaker 1>that can help me overcome this end of day slump? Well, first,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to assure Cassie that she is not hopeless.

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<v Speaker 1>This is an incredibly common issue. Most of us are

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<v Speaker 1>just tired by the end of the day. Well, we

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<v Speaker 1>might have imagined after that seven am cup of coffee

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<v Speaker 1>that we could conquer the world. By seven p m.

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<v Speaker 1>We lack the energy to do anything but scroll through

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<v Speaker 1>our Netflix selections. Fortunately, there are a few ways to rally,

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<v Speaker 1>or at least to make the most of this situation. First,

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<v Speaker 1>if you find your couch tempting, don't head to your

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<v Speaker 1>couch immediately. One or two days a week, Cassie could

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<v Speaker 1>bike to some place that was conducive to thinking, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>a library, a bookstore, a coffee shop. She could do

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<v Speaker 1>some of her strategic planning and then reward herself with

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<v Speaker 1>her favorite takeout or delivery afterwards, so she wouldn't have

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<v Speaker 1>to muster the energy to cook. She could also aim small. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it's admirable to want to figure out a career direction.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a big order for your average Tuesday. It might

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<v Speaker 1>be better to assign herself one small task. She could

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<v Speaker 1>do that first thing upon arriving home. With an absolute

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<v Speaker 1>time limit of fifteen minutes. Worst case scenario, she could

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<v Speaker 1>just sit there for fifteen minutes, then get up and

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<v Speaker 1>get dinner. But by building in that time and enforcing

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<v Speaker 1>it and then seeing how manageable it was, she'd probably

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<v Speaker 1>feel like making a little progress. It's also possible that

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<v Speaker 1>Cassie falls into the category that author Gretchen Reuben calls

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<v Speaker 1>an obliger. Keeping promises to herself is hard, but keeping

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<v Speaker 1>promises to other people is relatively easy, so she might

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<v Speaker 1>respond best to external accountability. If that's the case, Cassie

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<v Speaker 1>could organize a group of career changers that would check

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<v Speaker 1>in with each other virtually or in person every Tuesday night.

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<v Speaker 1>With these friends counting on her, she'd focus on these

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<v Speaker 1>questions and start making progress. Finally, it's also possible that

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<v Speaker 1>evenings just won't work for the kind of deep thinking

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<v Speaker 1>Cassie is hoping to do, but that doesn't mean she

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<v Speaker 1>can't do it. Maybe two mornings a week she could

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<v Speaker 1>get up an hour earlier and use that time for

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<v Speaker 1>her strategic thinking and self analysis. Then, by the time

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<v Speaker 1>she biked home from work and found herself feeling too

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<v Speaker 1>tired to do anything but eat dinner. She could relax.

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<v Speaker 1>It would all be good because she'd already made progress

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<v Speaker 1>on her goals. How do you rescue unproductive evenings? You

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<v Speaker 1>can let me know at Before Breakfast podcast at I

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<v Speaker 1>heart media dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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