Speaker 1: Welcome to your second Day podcast.
Speaker 2: It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning, and I know
Speaker 2: someone who has a lot of opinions about restaurants.
Speaker 1: In this room, I'm looking at them.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I mean, would someone screwing up at
Speaker 2: a restaurant be a huge red flag for you?
Speaker 3: What do you mean by that?
Speaker 4: Hold on?
Speaker 5: Well, like screwing up?
Speaker 3: Like, what do you mean the order?
Speaker 4: I can't tell you exactly because it's coming up in
Speaker 4: the second.
Speaker 2: It's gonna happen while he's still holding the menu at
Speaker 2: the beginning.
Speaker 6: Okay, well, you should know how to go on to
Speaker 6: date at a restaurant, so obviously this would.
Speaker 3: Be a red flag.
Speaker 2: Okay, Jose's not dating you, but you know what, I
Speaker 2: don't think that's what he's asking for. Anyway, you're gonna
Speaker 2: hear what's going on in this second date. But we
Speaker 2: love to start with your comments because you mean so
Speaker 2: much to us.
Speaker 1: That's true, that's true. We're thankful for you. We we
Speaker 1: are and marriage in comments a lot. But I like
Speaker 1: this one.
Speaker 2: They said, I might be weird, but I like spoilers
Speaker 2: or teasers, so I read the comments before I listen.
Speaker 3: I actually know someone like wait you do that? Movies
Speaker 3: are like, yeah, she loves this.
Speaker 7: I know.
Speaker 2: And I skipped to the end of the books first,
Speaker 2: and I read what happens at the end before I
Speaker 2: go I.
Speaker 4: Want to do it.
Speaker 3: Somebody around in my life does this too?
Speaker 1: What is wrong with you?
Speaker 2: I need to know what happens that I can read
Speaker 2: in peace or watch in peace.
Speaker 3: So you relate to marriagin Yere's.
Speaker 4: Well anyway, thanks leaving the comment and how alexis?
Speaker 1: I love it? Your second date starts right now.
Speaker 3: The second date up date. The results are in. It's
Speaker 3: broken Jeffrey in the morning. Because recent studies have shown
Speaker 3: about fifty percent of couples now meet online compared to
Speaker 3: just twenty two percent only five years ago.
Speaker 4: That's crazy.
Speaker 1: That's a huge jump. It's like the pandemic, like super Yeah.
Speaker 3: It made a really normal, really quick Yeah. So now
Speaker 3: going forward, Brook, if you want to spice up the
Speaker 3: relationship with your husband, you're going to have to make
Speaker 3: him a dating profile.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, I think I could make him a really
Speaker 2: good one.
Speaker 3: I mean to be honest, Well, I think joke's on you.
Speaker 3: He already has one. Wait, you're looking for a third
Speaker 3: right now? According to him, and we're not going to
Speaker 3: go into that because I want to talk right now
Speaker 3: to Jordy, the listener who wrote into our show because
Speaker 3: apparently he met a girl out in real life, bucking
Speaker 3: all of the latest trends.
Speaker 1: You're the minority now r L.
Speaker 3: Jeordy, good work, Welcome to the show.
Speaker 1: Hey guys, So where'd you meet this woman?
Speaker 8: So?
Speaker 6: I met Harper at this German bar? Actually?
Speaker 9: Uh, you know, I was playing BOXI ball.
Speaker 6: Do you guys know what that is?
Speaker 1: You have boy ball on my rooftop of my apartment.
Speaker 3: It's like he tossed big, these like big colorful balls
Speaker 3: onto like a field, and then you try to toss
Speaker 3: other balls towards the ball.
Speaker 1: It's an Italian game playing at a German bar.
Speaker 10: But what happened?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, okay, So you said her name was Harper? Yeah?
Speaker 9: Yeah, she was actually a waitress there.
Speaker 3: Oh oh. I assumed that she was gonna be like
Speaker 3: playing in the stall next year or something like that.
Speaker 6: Right, No, no, no, no, no. She was super cute,
Speaker 6: and I mean she was super helpful too, because I
Speaker 6: actually had to have this like long cop with her
Speaker 6: to tell her to cut off one of my drunk friends.
Speaker 4: Yeah, cut off your friend.
Speaker 3: You had to do it like nicely, Like I told you.
Speaker 1: I'm sure that's happened to you and you just don't
Speaker 1: if you have.
Speaker 3: Good friends, if anything, probably makes you look kind of
Speaker 3: good to her because you seem like a responsible guy.
Speaker 9: Exactly.
Speaker 6: It's like watching Jerry Fringer. It's like you look better
Speaker 6: than those people.
Speaker 2: Oh can I ask real quick? Was there an indication
Speaker 2: that she was interested in you? Because cute waitresses get
Speaker 2: hit on all the time.
Speaker 3: And they smile and there everyone thinks they're getting tries
Speaker 3: to get them to be the third in her relationship.
Speaker 8: Harper.
Speaker 1: I mean, Harper is a hot name.
Speaker 3: But again, sorry, that is a conversation for another day.
Speaker 3: Tell us, how did you work Harper? It's not the
Speaker 3: right way, Jack. How did you get Harper to agree
Speaker 3: to a date?
Speaker 1: There?
Speaker 7: It is?
Speaker 6: Well, I just simply asked her on the way out.
Speaker 6: I was like, look, are you single?
Speaker 10: And she said he was asking and I said I
Speaker 10: am good. Yeah, And I just said I'd love to
Speaker 10: take you out sometime, and she actually gave me her number.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, dude, if we done this and it's our
Speaker 2: loser line, is.
Speaker 3: That your only meet up or did you guys actually.
Speaker 8: Have a date.
Speaker 6: No, No, we had a date.
Speaker 3: Okay, so it is her number because we all, she
Speaker 3: probably gave you a number to get ready.
Speaker 1: So what did you do?
Speaker 6: We went out for drinks, little food. You know, she
Speaker 6: looked amazing, I mean when she was like out of
Speaker 6: her waiter outfits.
Speaker 8: Second party.
Speaker 6: I mean I did have one embarrassing moment on the date.
Speaker 6: We tried to order some keyshe Lorraine, and I said, quickie, Lorraine,
Speaker 6: you know I didn't take French in high school, Like
Speaker 6: excuse me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, you're.
Speaker 3: Also clashing with a batchy ball in the Germans.
Speaker 2: Don't want to be elitist by being able to say, Keisha,
Speaker 2: it's a.
Speaker 3: Tough wor what was her reaction?
Speaker 9: She totally laughed it off.
Speaker 6: It was a little embarrassing, but after that, like I
Speaker 6: think you kind of lightened the mood a little bit.
Speaker 2: And from there, especially if you can be self deprecating
Speaker 2: about it, you know what I mean, Like it could
Speaker 2: almost even turn into like your inside joke together.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the next thing, I speak German and then you.
Speaker 9: Just ruin it.
Speaker 10: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 6: So we actually like kissed at the end of the day,
Speaker 6: So that was nice. And she was the one who
Speaker 6: texted me that night saying that she got home safe
Speaker 6: and that.
Speaker 9: She certain wait to see me. So whoa Like, it
Speaker 9: seems super clear, right.
Speaker 1: Are you sure you didn't read that wrong too?
Speaker 3: There's no way.
Speaker 6: I was in English?
Speaker 8: I think.
Speaker 3: Okay, so you've you've had a solid first date. You
Speaker 3: kissed her at the end of it, she's the one
Speaker 3: saying I can't wait to hang out again.
Speaker 1: And how long has it been?
Speaker 6: It's been like ten days or so.
Speaker 11: Well, something must have happened in her life, Like I
Speaker 11: already have a feeling this is not your fault.
Speaker 2: Oh, I could see that where I don't know, maybe
Speaker 2: work got crazy or there's a family emergency.
Speaker 3: She kindled something and was just oh yeah, but what's
Speaker 3: happened in those ten days? That's a long time. Have
Speaker 3: you asked her like what have you done?
Speaker 9: Yeah?
Speaker 6: I mean there was one time where I thought one
Speaker 6: date was gonna work, but then she asked about a
Speaker 6: different date, So.
Speaker 4: I don't know, See, a hot bosball player came into.
Speaker 3: Her work, might be okay, Well, we can reach out
Speaker 3: to Harper for you and see if she agrees to
Speaker 3: going out with you one more time. If not, then
Speaker 3: you might have a backup often because Brooke and her husband.
Speaker 6: You know, but.
Speaker 1: Jeffy is not online.
Speaker 3: Oh that's right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we only like the online one.
Speaker 3: Able to keep some distance. Yeah, sorry, but you know what,
Speaker 3: We'll work on Harper first and try and get you
Speaker 3: your second date update. Right after this second date update,
Speaker 3: we're in the middle of a second date update with
Speaker 3: our listener, Jordie. And Jordie likes cute waitresses at German
Speaker 3: baci ball bars. He likes to mispronounce Keish Lorraine just
Speaker 3: to seem vulnerable and flawed.
Speaker 1: How did he say something?
Speaker 3: Yeah, he said, you said quickly? What did you say, Jordie?
Speaker 11: I said, And he really likes to receive texts saying
Speaker 11: I can't wait to see you again, because that's exactly
Speaker 11: what is dade, Harper said to him after they went out.
Speaker 3: So why is she not jumping at the chance to
Speaker 3: hang out again?
Speaker 4: Yeah, she's the one that said she wanted to Jordy.
Speaker 3: You think there's another guy who mispronounces French words even
Speaker 3: worse than you do. Maybe that's her thing?
Speaker 9: Yeah, maybe.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he tried to order me a quabarnet gone. Oh,
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's hot.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I don't even know how you have mispronounced.
Speaker 3: So much pronounced.
Speaker 9: I mean, look, Harper is a really cute waitress.
Speaker 6: She probably has a lot of guys asking her out.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I bet she's saying no fifty times
Speaker 2: a day, every other table.
Speaker 1: It's so annoying.
Speaker 2: But that's why you're so special is that she said
Speaker 2: yes to you and you guys had.
Speaker 4: A great day issue she said you yeah.
Speaker 6: But like, look, guys, if that's it, if that's the
Speaker 6: thing where she has another guy, like, just convince her
Speaker 6: that I'm a good guy.
Speaker 4: You know what, in the five minutes so we've spent
Speaker 4: with you.
Speaker 1: Totally will vouch for you. Thank you, You're welcome like
Speaker 1: a good guy.
Speaker 3: I honestly not even kidding. Yeah, a lot of good
Speaker 3: guys insist how good they are. So we're just gonna
Speaker 3: trust you on that, and we're gonna call Harper. Let's
Speaker 3: see if she answers. Okay, all right, I don't know you.
Speaker 3: I mean you seem nice from a little bit be spoken. Okay,
Speaker 3: you just stay where you're at, though, buddy, we don't
Speaker 3: know you that.
Speaker 1: Let's get her on the phone.
Speaker 3: Hello, Hey, is this Harper.
Speaker 8: Yeah, who's calling?
Speaker 3: We're a radio show calling called Brook and Jeffrey in
Speaker 3: the morning. Good morning, Hi Harper. That half of the
Speaker 3: room isn't very excited to talk to you, obviously, but
Speaker 3: I don't think she talked to us.
Speaker 2: This half of the room, I just don't want to
Speaker 2: come into jeff what are you calling for?
Speaker 7: See?
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're working. This is this is something we do
Speaker 3: call the second Date Update. And one of our listeners
Speaker 3: named Jordi, asked us to reach out to you.
Speaker 1: Were you going anything else?
Speaker 8: I said, what do you want me to say?
Speaker 1: You remember?
Speaker 3: Okay, We're just trying to help him out because according
Speaker 3: to Jeordi, he says he's been putting in a lot
Speaker 3: of effort trying to figure out a good time that
Speaker 3: would work for you to meet up, just because he
Speaker 3: felt like you guys bonded connected.
Speaker 1: Is it just something where the schedules aren't aligning.
Speaker 8: No, there was just like a lot of effort. That's
Speaker 8: kind of a problem too much.
Speaker 3: What do you mean, Yeah, can you elaborate?
Speaker 12: I mean, like on the surface, when I met him,
Speaker 12: like I was working and then we went and hung
Speaker 12: out and like he.
Speaker 8: Was a good guy and well, that's not like what
Speaker 8: I was looking for.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like he's what you were looking for.
Speaker 1: I mean, like I thought, so okay, so what changed?
Speaker 8: So we hung out and it It wasn't until after
Speaker 8: that I realized something was off. What Like I had
Speaker 8: every intention to go out again.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, what's the problem. Is it something about him?
Speaker 8: Yeah?
Speaker 12: He gave me three options to hang out, all in
Speaker 12: a row, like Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
Speaker 8: Like, why is he so available?
Speaker 3: Wait?
Speaker 9: What do you hold on?
Speaker 3: Did he want a three day date or he was
Speaker 3: just like pick a day and we can do that one.
Speaker 8: No, he was like, these are all the days that
Speaker 8: I'm available, And I have to believe me and my
Speaker 8: friends do that. There's a guy between the age twenty
Speaker 8: four and thirty two ish. If they have that much
Speaker 8: time to hang out, it really means that he's a loser.
Speaker 5: Oh oh wait wait a loser ikes Wow, you're calling
Speaker 5: him a loser because he gave you multiple options of
Speaker 5: times where he wants to hang out because he likes you.
Speaker 12: Yeah, because like they're all in a row, and it's like, okay,
Speaker 12: he should be grinding away planning for his future. Wait,
Speaker 12: maybe not working or like working on a promotion or
Speaker 12: getting somewhere.
Speaker 2: He may maybe he is like, in my mind, you're
Speaker 2: a waitress, so he's probably just trying to give you
Speaker 2: options because it's probably hard to align schedules, Like he
Speaker 2: probably figures you work on the weekends.
Speaker 8: I mean that sounds like an excuse he'd use.
Speaker 7: I guess, well, it sounds like he's doing it for you,
Speaker 7: because nowadays we hear from a lot of women who
Speaker 7: tell us guys don't put in enough effort, they want
Speaker 7: the easy thing, they don't really care.
Speaker 3: Jordy sounds like the total opposite, Like he's willing to
Speaker 3: do whatever just to see you make.
Speaker 4: Plans the other days that you say you can't.
Speaker 8: Yeah, but he didn't say that. He was like, I'm
Speaker 8: wide open, and I'm like, well, what else are you
Speaker 8: doing with your life? Just pursuing me?
Speaker 6: Okay, Okay, Sadly this makes sense, but doesn't mean we
Speaker 6: agree with it.
Speaker 4: I don't know that it does make sense to me.
Speaker 4: He's not a loser.
Speaker 1: Like you liked him. You liked everything about him. You
Speaker 1: said that he checked all your boxes basically.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean he did. He actually had decent hygiene, which.
Speaker 3: See Okay, but but he's too available for you.
Speaker 1: Maybe that's why it's hygiene is so good. He has
Speaker 1: got time for it. I mean again, you don't whatt
Speaker 1: a dcentone.
Speaker 2: Who wants to hang out every single day sometimes like
Speaker 2: they need to have a life.
Speaker 3: Well sure, oh god.
Speaker 8: And especially in the beginning getting to know who they are,
Speaker 8: and it just seems like he's just wide open to
Speaker 8: do whatever. Okay, we're trying to build who we are
Speaker 8: as people.
Speaker 2: What would you want his response to be when you say, hey,
Speaker 2: I can't wait to see you again.
Speaker 1: What should he have written.
Speaker 6: Back to you.
Speaker 8: He shouldn't have. He should have just let me hang
Speaker 8: for a bit.
Speaker 3: That was a red flag.
Speaker 1: Okay, well it was cutting like a game.
Speaker 3: I don't I don't want to tell you this because
Speaker 3: it's not that he's like super available to talk to
Speaker 3: you any That's not what this is.
Speaker 1: He was so busy. It's like we had to call
Speaker 1: him so many times.
Speaker 3: Just in the middle of his extremely hectic day. He's
Speaker 3: taken a little bit of time to jump on the
Speaker 3: phone right now to talk to you because Jordie's there.
Speaker 8: Hey, Harper, Oh so you've been on the phone.
Speaker 11: Just a little bit like barely.
Speaker 6: I heard you call me a loser who has too
Speaker 6: much time on his hands.
Speaker 8: Well, yeah, they asked me to be honest, and I
Speaker 8: was honest.
Speaker 3: She didn't ask me what.
Speaker 1: I mean. That's what Jordie wanted.
Speaker 6: He wanted to know you think I'm a loser because
Speaker 6: I want to go out a second time? Like that
Speaker 6: part doesn't make any sense.
Speaker 8: It's just it's just a little red flaggy to be
Speaker 8: able to hang out three nights in a row, and like,
Speaker 8: my perfect guy would never do that. He shouldn't have
Speaker 8: all the time in the world for me.
Speaker 2: You know, I'm sorry, my perfect guy shouldn't have all the.
Speaker 6: To be totally clear, I didn't want to hang out
Speaker 6: with you three nights, and I gave you three options.
Speaker 8: Okay, you're just being a little way too chill at
Speaker 8: this time in your life. You know. Now the time
Speaker 8: is to work hard and we're going to chill later.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Well, well, your servant Stein's in a German bar like.
Speaker 5: That means she probably makes more than I do here.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well, it's just like, what are you doing to do
Speaker 1: the same thing.
Speaker 8: Well, you don't even know me, so how about you
Speaker 8: shut your mouth?
Speaker 3: Yeah, your mouth? Who are you complaining about the people
Speaker 3: bringing you alcohol?
Speaker 1: I think being a server is a great job.
Speaker 2: But she's like expecting him to like do all these
Speaker 2: big great things, like what are you doing to plan
Speaker 2: for your future?
Speaker 3: You stay in your lane and keep not tipping people after.
Speaker 1: I just like, I hate when people do that.
Speaker 3: This is about Jordie. Jordie, she's concerned that you're too
Speaker 3: free and you're too available. Prove to her that that's
Speaker 3: not true. And how much you got going on?
Speaker 1: You don't want to date?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean it sounds like that would be more
Speaker 6: attractive to you. I mean, I just don't erstand why
Speaker 6: you want to play these games.
Speaker 9: Like we met in real life. I thought you were
Speaker 9: a good person.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's actually a point. I mean, how busy are
Speaker 3: you right now?
Speaker 9: I mean I'm kind of busy. I'm not totally busy.
Speaker 9: I mean.
Speaker 3: He's super busy, right slam?
Speaker 9: Okay, Like, look, I'm looking to get busier.
Speaker 4: All right, God, sounds like a nice guy.
Speaker 3: That's what she wants. She doesn't want that, but you
Speaker 3: did want it that night.
Speaker 9: Look, look, Harper, let's rewind. Pretend I didn't call you
Speaker 9: for the week.
Speaker 6: Are you turned on now weeks.
Speaker 12: It's only been ten days imagining.
Speaker 8: I mean, the reality is you sent me a lot
Speaker 8: of freaking texts with like a lot of freaking dates,
Speaker 8: and now you have me on a radio show.
Speaker 3: It does look bad. It's pretty bad. You know what
Speaker 3: the thing is, We made him do it. Yeah, we
Speaker 3: got all the time in the world. He didn't even
Speaker 3: want to be here, he didn't have time to know,
Speaker 3: but he was kind enough to take a little bit
Speaker 3: of time out to do this with us, just so
Speaker 3: that I could ask you if you would like to
Speaker 3: see Jordi one more time, and we would pay for
Speaker 3: that date. I don't even know if he's free. Honestly, Jordy,
Speaker 3: are you even free?
Speaker 9: Not anymore? I'm all booked up.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. She's like, so, I'll see you next weekend.
Speaker 8: I mean, I'm not really into these games that he's
Speaker 8: playing with me, and I'm not going to follow.
Speaker 9: Sweetie.
Speaker 3: Oh God, that was talking like brook Now, this is
Speaker 3: not okay. This is going back looking Jeffrey in the morning,
Speaker 3: got a text into seventy eight five nine to two
Speaker 3: that says, with that outlook, I hope she's ready to
Speaker 3: die alone.
Speaker 2: I mean, honestly, I think she just doesn't actually want
Speaker 2: a boyfriend.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, like anybody's.
Speaker 2: Saying that she's like looking. She says she's looking for something,
Speaker 2: but she found it because.
Speaker 3: What she just wants to be wanted. And the outlook
Speaker 3: that I think they're referring to is the theory that
Speaker 3: if a guy says he's available to hang out with
Speaker 3: you multiple nights in a row, that means he's a
Speaker 3: loser and must have absolutely nothing going on.
Speaker 6: Is not correct that because when girls try to hang
Speaker 6: out with me and I tell him I'm sorry, I
Speaker 6: got two jobs.
Speaker 3: I'm streaming video games every single night, it also deters. Yes,
Speaker 3: it also matters what you're busy doing.
Speaker 2: Ye got my D and D club on Friday on
Speaker 2: Saturday night, so I can't hang out. Sorry, but I.
Speaker 3: Make tons of money. Hello, Hello, Hello, you guys, just
Speaker 3: give up. There's going to be easier to be just
Speaker 3: quick because actually they're gonna feel more attracted to you
Speaker 3: that you've given up on that.
Speaker 1: Based on her, I mean.
Speaker 3: Just too late. She speaks for all women.
Speaker 1: Hey, I just cancel on my two guys.
Speaker 3: Who saw that coming. But you know what, if you
Speaker 3: need help with your dating life, go ahead, email the show.
Speaker 3: We'll call that person who isn't calling you back, and
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Speaker 8: And Jeffrey in the Morning