Speaker 1: How do everybody Welcome to the podcast. What a journey
Speaker 1: it's been. Thank you for being on it with me.
Speaker 1: If you're new to the podcast. We do this every Monday,
Speaker 1: and I just appreciate you listening. We have so many
Speaker 1: interesting things to talk about today. My buddy Bernie is
Speaker 1: back with me. He was with me last week talking
Speaker 1: about things like girls with daddy issues, which is important
Speaker 1: to me. I'm raising a girl, you know, so you
Speaker 1: want to try to know some of these pitfalls before
Speaker 1: you get into them. I'm also going to talk about
Speaker 1: morning routines, which you've heard me say before. I think
Speaker 1: morning routines are so important, more important than we could
Speaker 1: possibly imagine, because it starts the day. It says the
Speaker 1: tone for the entire day. And I'm going to talk
Speaker 1: a little bit about mine, Bernie's going to talk about his,
Speaker 1: and both of us have been researching a lot of
Speaker 1: people with different morning routines and it's so interesting to
Speaker 1: me and I don't still don't think I figured it
Speaker 1: out yet, but I wanted to share it with you
Speaker 1: guys on this podcast because I think it's interesting and
Speaker 1: I think it's important. I mean, if we all had
Speaker 1: great morning routines, and set off to start a day.
Speaker 1: The day the right way, I think the world would
Speaker 1: be a better place. That's a crazy thing to say,
Speaker 1: but sometimes it's the little things that compound over time
Speaker 1: and it's important. I want to give some shoutouts as well,
Speaker 1: like I always do, and these shoutouts come from emailing
Speaker 1: Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. You could also ask
Speaker 1: me a question. Me and Bernie you're going to answer
Speaker 1: some of yours today Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: So I want to give a shout out to Stephen
Speaker 1: Jones from Iowa, Vince Walker, Grayson Weber, Isaac rock from
Speaker 1: North Carolina, Nolan Viensta's Gloria Strong from Covington, Washington, Mark
Speaker 1: Wicki and Rodney Holme, Joe Vanderhorn from be to Texas.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Texas, Kenneth Pattiston from Arkansas, Tyson Lindbergh
Speaker 1: from Washington State. Justin Chambers, what's up, buddy? Who's this?
Speaker 1: Four didn't say in the subject line. Jen R from Maryland,
Speaker 1: Thank you. Jen Austin from Scotland and Bowden. I appreciate
Speaker 1: all you guys for writing in and getting the shout out.
Speaker 1: If you want one, yourself Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: Even more importantly, ask a question. Anything under the sun,
Speaker 1: could be music related, could be life related, could be anything.
Speaker 1: I want to talk about it. This is episode sixty eight.
Speaker 1: Buckle up, here we go, ye yee did kids and
Speaker 1: deel tires and long line of five full of popping
Speaker 1: down on the back rangey colge. Yeah you thatation alright?
Speaker 1: I have my side. Kicked Bernie back for second week
Speaker 1: in a row, second week different had I had to
Speaker 1: h had to gear up this time. Yeah you had on.
Speaker 1: Bernie is a longtime friend, known him for twenty one years,
Speaker 1: and it was on the last podcast when we kind
Speaker 1: of went over how we met and what good advice
Speaker 1: you give me and what I think a benefit you'll
Speaker 1: be to other people that listen as we go through
Speaker 1: some of these questions. I have a question for you
Speaker 1: because you've crushed the twenty twenty era in your life
Speaker 1: and you've just done really well mentally. I'll put it
Speaker 1: that way. When I am trying to improve myself, because
Speaker 1: I always want to be the best version of myself,
Speaker 1: and admittedly I'm not always. At any point in time,
Speaker 1: you can go, man, I'm doing really good right now,
Speaker 1: or I'm not and I'm not talking about financially or
Speaker 1: career or I'm just talking about as yourself. How well
Speaker 1: are you doing compared to what you want to be
Speaker 1: or capable of being. So my question I usually start
Speaker 1: with is what's your morning routine? Because the morning sets
Speaker 1: the tone for your day, And anytime I get in
Speaker 1: a funk in my life, it starts for me in
Speaker 1: the morning, starting with the alarm, And what do I
Speaker 1: do in that first hour to set the tone for
Speaker 1: my day, which really sets the tone for the week,
Speaker 1: and then the month, and then before you know it,
Speaker 1: you're in a good rhythm. So Bernie to you, what
Speaker 1: would you say your morning routine is now? And how
Speaker 1: was it during the twenty twenty craze? Sure, so morning
Speaker 1: routine has been something that has evolved a lot. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm sure that it will evolve just as it probably
Speaker 1: has for you. But for me, I'll just take you through.
Speaker 1: I'll wake up at five point thirty, I don't snooze,
Speaker 1: I get out of bed first time alarm goes off.
Speaker 1: My wife's still sleeping. I go put my workout clothes on,
Speaker 1: I make a cup of coffee, and I go into
Speaker 1: a time a quiet place, and I have a time
Speaker 1: of meditation for about ten to fifteen minutes. Do you
Speaker 1: use an app for that or you do it? I
Speaker 1: use headspace a lot. I've gone off of headspace sometimes,
Speaker 1: but headspaces were really the one that kind of got
Speaker 1: me into the routine of it. I've actually advertised them
Speaker 1: on this podcast. Yeah awesome. So I do that and
Speaker 1: then I move. I typically like to do that because
Speaker 1: I think that there's a lot of you and I
Speaker 1: have talked about dreams in the past and like our
Speaker 1: subconscious mind and the supercomputer, and I think that if
Speaker 1: you get into these times of just really like focusing
Speaker 1: your mind on your breath and just kind of listening
Speaker 1: early in the morning, that you can kind of start
Speaker 1: to like there's things that were happening when you were
Speaker 1: asleep in your mind that kind of like start to
Speaker 1: pop up, and like maybe things you were thinking about
Speaker 1: yesterday and you couldn't figure out what to do or whatever,
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden, it just kind of like
Speaker 1: lifts up. So I like to do that like very
Speaker 1: first thing. And I usually don't even drink any coffee
Speaker 1: before I do that. It's almost like first just kind
Speaker 1: of get to that place. So let me let me
Speaker 1: just like pause you intermittently. So you use your phone
Speaker 1: for headspace, but do you obviously have your phone on
Speaker 1: airplane mode or something what just silence? Yep, because you
Speaker 1: don't want to open your phone and see a message
Speaker 1: from Twitter or your friend or so how do you
Speaker 1: get to headspace on your phone without that? Well, first,
Speaker 1: my phone's always silent. I never have my phone on.
Speaker 1: I don't have social media on my phone. I don't
Speaker 1: push my email notifications, so unless someone has text me
Speaker 1: in the night and I see like an icon. But
Speaker 1: I mean, after after a while of just having the
Speaker 1: habit of like, no, this is just where I go. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not really tempted because I also know that that's
Speaker 1: gonna get me out of this place. It's gonna it's
Speaker 1: gonna skip me ahead into my day. And now I'm
Speaker 1: not ready for that yet. I'm just waking up and
Speaker 1: I'm committed to the routine. So I'm gonna like stay
Speaker 1: there and this and again this is like I'm I'm
Speaker 1: not one of these like you know, very kind of
Speaker 1: overly disciplined, militant kind of guys Like I'm I'm just
Speaker 1: a guy that has over time learned, Hey, these things
Speaker 1: make me feel better to start to day, so as
Speaker 1: I can kind of like use the habits to stick with,
Speaker 1: I just think things have gotten better. So after that's over,
Speaker 1: I immediately go into a time of just prayer and
Speaker 1: stillness and I get into a devotion. So I'll read
Speaker 1: a devotional from somebody. I'll my brother who is amazing,
Speaker 1: has just taught me about Bible arcing, and so like
Speaker 1: really starting to dig into the texts, into the dig
Speaker 1: into the scriptures of like what was the situation, what
Speaker 1: was the purpose, what what was coming out? What was
Speaker 1: the context of all of this stuff? Just having you know,
Speaker 1: I have three young kids, career everything, so like doing
Speaker 1: these things early in the morning, like I waking up
Speaker 1: earlyer have the time to uh to really spend with it.
Speaker 1: So Bible arcing, what is that? So and again I'm
Speaker 1: very new at it. Yeah, you know, Jason talked to
Speaker 1: me for like three hours on the way back from
Speaker 1: East Texas not too long ago, and I think I
Speaker 1: grasped like the basics. But you're basically breaking down like
Speaker 1: a couple of different verses or a couple verses together
Speaker 1: of like Okay, who who is it speaking to? What,
Speaker 1: what are they saying? What is the response to what
Speaker 1: this part of the versus saying? And you're once you
Speaker 1: start to do that, it's really just spending time. We
Speaker 1: understand things deeper when we spend time with them. Like
Speaker 1: if I spend time with you and I ask you, oh, well,
Speaker 1: why did you do that thing? And you tell me
Speaker 1: about some situation that really developed that, It's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I know you deeper now. So it's really just a
Speaker 1: matter of trying to understand the scripture deeper, not like
Speaker 1: the coffee mug scripture, but like what was the context,
Speaker 1: what does this really mean? And trying to put those together.
Speaker 1: So I try to spend the next half hour or so,
Speaker 1: you know, doing that. So about forty minutes has gone
Speaker 1: by now. YEP. I write in my journal every morning,
Speaker 1: and it has been over the years. I've probably done
Speaker 1: journaling since I was I mean since we met, since
Speaker 1: I was twenty physical coffee. Yep. I have journals that
Speaker 1: I write in, and so I'll also have time, you know,
Speaker 1: towards the end of the year, different times in the
Speaker 1: year where I'll go back and read some of those
Speaker 1: things or read journals from like, you know, two thousand
Speaker 1: and six, and I'm just like, oh my gosh, I
Speaker 1: was such an idiot. What am I thinking? But I
Speaker 1: think journaling and just having a place that's quiet and
Speaker 1: stilled to kind of get out thoughts and all those things.
Speaker 1: So move into journaling and then and then I'll go
Speaker 1: into a workout and that really depending on the day,
Speaker 1: I'll practice yoga, I'll do some silly runs, you know,
Speaker 1: like some trail runs, or go run hills with my
Speaker 1: buddy Andy at swift at X follow him. But depending
Speaker 1: on the day, I'll get in the workout. I'll get
Speaker 1: that done. I feel like you have a morning shake
Speaker 1: that you do everyone. Okay, So my wife just got
Speaker 1: me into these, you know, like kale and cocoa and
Speaker 1: almond milk and you know, so I'll make one of those,
Speaker 1: or she'll make it. We'll make them for each other,
Speaker 1: which is really great after the workout. That's after the workout.
Speaker 1: Ye I'm I'm trying to be specific because I'm thinking,
Speaker 1: if I was listening to this podcast, I want to know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know the timeline, So we're we're at about six
Speaker 1: fifteen to six thirty. You're then working out yep, okay, yep,
Speaker 1: six fifteen, six thirty. I hit that I typically work
Speaker 1: out started around six fifteen and go to about six
Speaker 1: forty five or seven, depending on kind of what it is.
Speaker 1: So one thing that my wife and I started doing
Speaker 1: is cold showers, so in between moving on uh to uh,
Speaker 1: you know, to the next thing after, but before the shape,
Speaker 1: the cold showers. And she's the one that started doing
Speaker 1: it and told me about it, and I listened to
Speaker 1: this thing about it, and I was like, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: give it a shot. And it's not so bad, like
Speaker 1: you were the tiler will say, it's not so bad
Speaker 1: in the summertime where you're sweating it's like crazy hot outside.
Speaker 1: But you get into like these winter months and you
Speaker 1: just reach over and turn that thing the cold and
Speaker 1: it really hurts. But there's a lot of health benefits,
Speaker 1: you know, both ways. And I've really just felt it's
Speaker 1: helped me mentally, just the discipline of like we've talked
Speaker 1: about before, you know, like seeking pain in your comfort,
Speaker 1: to find comfort in your pain. So you texted me
Speaker 1: that one random day. I did, yeah, and you said,
Speaker 1: and this is classic Bernie Slash Granger conversations but you know,
Speaker 1: we could go for a month without saying anything, and
Speaker 1: you randomly texted me and said, man, I gotta tell
Speaker 1: you what happened. You know these words that came to
Speaker 1: me when I was taking a cold shower, and it
Speaker 1: was yeah, And it's one of those things where it
Speaker 1: just you know, it's that supercomputer, it's that subconsciousness, whatever
Speaker 1: it is that just I was in there and I
Speaker 1: was like, this is the stupidest thing you've ever done.
Speaker 1: Why are you doing this? And then just that line
Speaker 1: kind of popped in my head. You seek pain in
Speaker 1: your comfort, to find comfort in your pain, and which
Speaker 1: basically means I could have eased in my my comfort
Speaker 1: would have been a warm shower. I could have easily
Speaker 1: done that, but instead I opted to No, I'm going
Speaker 1: to do a cold shower so that when I don't
Speaker 1: have the option for a warm shower, I'm going to
Speaker 1: find comfort in the fact that, hey, you've done these
Speaker 1: cold showers for a while. So I think there's a
Speaker 1: lot of like there's a lot of you know, like
Speaker 1: mental you know, sympathetic, nervous system. There's a lot of
Speaker 1: science and biology that goes into that. But I've started
Speaker 1: doing it and I do it as every time that
Speaker 1: I take a shower, then we go to the shake.
Speaker 1: One thing during COVID that has been really great is
Speaker 1: I've stayed home and I've gotten to like see my
Speaker 1: kids after I work out and have my shake and
Speaker 1: like either before they're going to school or if they're
Speaker 1: online school and we're just all there. But so yeah,
Speaker 1: just get into kind of like have be a part
Speaker 1: of their the beginning of their day, because I I
Speaker 1: before I wasn't a part of the beginning of their day.
Speaker 1: It was more like they would see me when I
Speaker 1: got I would be out of the house early early,
Speaker 1: I would be going downtown to do my workout to
Speaker 1: our office downtown to do all of that routine. But
Speaker 1: it's been just a really pleasant surprise, or not surprise,
Speaker 1: but like a grace to be able to kind of
Speaker 1: have that implemented. So the next thing I do is
Speaker 1: I have a tablet that's called a remarkable tablet. It
Speaker 1: has there's no blue light. It looks like a piece
Speaker 1: of paper, but it's a tablet, and there's no notifications
Speaker 1: that come to it or send out of it. It's
Speaker 1: basically a place that you can really kind of disconnect
Speaker 1: and start to really plan out your day that you
Speaker 1: can write, that you can sketch, that you can just
Speaker 1: kind of like have something to like dialogue stuff. But
Speaker 1: it's also you know, you can take notes and then
Speaker 1: convert it to text if you wanted to remarkable remarkable. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's really cool and it's just helped me be able
Speaker 1: to like have a place that I can plan that's
Speaker 1: not my phone, that's not my computer. And so I
Speaker 1: have a schedule every day that goes by the hour,
Speaker 1: and time batching is another thing that I kind of
Speaker 1: like start preparing for, Okay, this day, can we talk
Speaker 1: on this podcast about time blocking? Yeah, and so I will.
Speaker 1: You know, I have a prayer that I say basically
Speaker 1: every morning and try to like prepare myself just to
Speaker 1: start with gratitude God, thank you for the habits that
Speaker 1: you're putting in my life. I pray that everything I
Speaker 1: do today can glorify you. I have another one that
Speaker 1: I say at the end of the day that's basically
Speaker 1: the same thing. Thank you for the the privilege and
Speaker 1: the resources that you've given me. I pray that I've
Speaker 1: used them to your glory. Now that I'm clocking out,
Speaker 1: I pray that you clock in and do the invisible
Speaker 1: work to continue you will in my life so good,
Speaker 1: so the and again, these these things are like over
Speaker 1: a long period of time, have just you know it
Speaker 1: kind of have the Oh yeah, I like that, So
Speaker 1: I'm gonna like keep doing that. I'm gonna start doing that.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tweak this. So so yeah, I get into
Speaker 1: my really my day planning, and that's where I feel
Speaker 1: like I set myself up for being productive in that day.
Speaker 1: You always have to. I think preparation is really key
Speaker 1: because there's times where somebody will I'll bump into somebody
Speaker 1: and the best thing that I can do is be
Speaker 1: present with them and listen as long as they need
Speaker 1: me to. But if I'm so caught up in getting
Speaker 1: to my next thing that's on my schedule, I'm going
Speaker 1: to totally miss that opportunity. So I almost have to
Speaker 1: anticipate and work that in, Like, hey, I need to
Speaker 1: prepare a schedule, but I need to give it time
Speaker 1: to breathe so that if Griz calls me and needs
Speaker 1: to talk, I'm not gonna be like pushing back appointments
Speaker 1: and all of this stuff. And a lot of times,
Speaker 1: you know, with work, you know, you know, whatever career
Speaker 1: you're in, and like, I've found that it's been really
Speaker 1: great marketing to give your time to people because that
Speaker 1: one person recognizes like, man, they talk to me, and
Speaker 1: they were present, they listen to me. They go out
Speaker 1: and tell everybody anytime they hear your name, they're speaking man,
Speaker 1: that guy is amazing. And then that kind of like
Speaker 1: builds a reputation, but it's an authentic reputation. No one
Speaker 1: likes the guy looking over his shoulder at whoever else
Speaker 1: is walking in the room. Yeah, no one likes that guy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: or like hey, I gotta go so or hold on
Speaker 1: sec you know, those kind of things. So that's kind
Speaker 1: of the morning routine right now. I'm sure I left
Speaker 1: some things out, but let's talk about because we at
Speaker 1: lunch today talked about the news source that you get
Speaker 1: and that goes into that day at some point. Yep.
Speaker 1: So before I start checking email and kind of I
Speaker 1: feel like email after you prep for your day, I
Speaker 1: kind of have email checking is one of the things
Speaker 1: in the time blocking. I read a newsletter called Morning
Speaker 1: Brew and I feel like it it is kind of
Speaker 1: my news outlet, you know, it's I feel like it's
Speaker 1: kind of down the middle. It gives it's it's just
Speaker 1: straight journalism, reporting facts and having different links from different
Speaker 1: sides and everything, and it's it's really just trying to
Speaker 1: gain perspective, different perspectives than my own. I can't just
Speaker 1: consume things that align with everything I believe, so it's
Speaker 1: gaining these different perspectives, and it's in a way that
Speaker 1: I feel like I can really understand what they're saying
Speaker 1: and kind of keep up on some of the news.
Speaker 1: Again because like I'm not on social media, I don't
Speaker 1: really cruise the internet. I don't watch a lot of TV,
Speaker 1: so and that gives you sports sports saying that politics,
Speaker 1: technology to COVID updates, you know, things like that. So
Speaker 1: and then at that point it's like, oh, if we
Speaker 1: have to start the day, let's let's get to it.
Speaker 1: And that's when I check my email and like kind
Speaker 1: of figure out and by that time it's probably eight
Speaker 1: thirty And most days that I can do that, I
Speaker 1: feel I feel set up and that I have I've
Speaker 1: set myself up to be productive that day and successful
Speaker 1: that day. That's the standard. Yeah, I understand, and I
Speaker 1: will say that your brother in the midst of a
Speaker 1: really difficult time that we've both been through. I had
Speaker 1: begun to lean on my feelings more than my standards.
Speaker 1: I was relying on how I felt, and I let
Speaker 1: that dictate my morning routine. And your brother Tyler sent
Speaker 1: me something, and for whatever reason, it just really rocked
Speaker 1: me and reminded me, Hey, healing is found here, like
Speaker 1: get back to your standards. And I felt like after
Speaker 1: I started kind of getting back in that routine, I
Speaker 1: just I started to heal and I started to find
Speaker 1: my way forward. What did he send you? Do you remember? Yeah?
Speaker 1: He sent me a video by Ben Newman called Feelings
Speaker 1: Versus Standards. Yep. Yeah, Tyler is a He's a machine
Speaker 1: when it comes to that. You know, his time walking
Speaker 1: is scheduling. He's also single, not married, lives in an
Speaker 1: apartment on top of our office building, so he you know,
Speaker 1: he does have space in his life to do that. Sure,
Speaker 1: but he does set really really good standard. He's the
Speaker 1: guy that got me into Miracle Morning. December of twenty eighteen.
Speaker 1: That is when I first started my is when I
Speaker 1: I first realized and I was hearing different guys on
Speaker 1: different platforms talk about their mornings. You know, you've heard
Speaker 1: for years like Mark Wahlberg, here's his morning routine, like
Speaker 1: it's you know, and they listed out in some magazine.
Speaker 1: So I've always been interested in that it successful people,
Speaker 1: what do they do in the mornings. But then I
Speaker 1: became kind of obsessed with it. And that's when Tyler
Speaker 1: first introduced the idea of Miracle Morning. And December twenty
Speaker 1: eighteen is when I first looked at it and said, Okay,
Speaker 1: from when you wake up to when you start your day,
Speaker 1: you separate that into could be could you could start
Speaker 1: at ten minutes and you could end up like you
Speaker 1: and it could be two and a half hours. But
Speaker 1: in that time, you're setting your pace for your day.
Speaker 1: And so many times like I don't. I don't even
Speaker 1: sleep with my phone in my room anymore. I sleep
Speaker 1: it's in a separate room, and my watch wakes me up.
Speaker 1: And because I want to avoid the temptation of first
Speaker 1: of all, getting in bed and looking at my phone,
Speaker 1: and second of all, God forbid waking up and looking
Speaker 1: at my phone. First thing, looking at and seeing a
Speaker 1: message from someone or group me from someone, or an
Speaker 1: email or God forbid social media of some bad news.
Speaker 1: I mean, there you started your tone for the day. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's no way to recover from that. What time do
Speaker 1: you go to bed? Typically I go to bed around
Speaker 1: ten to ten thirty. My wife is a night owl,
Speaker 1: and if I could, if I had it my way,
Speaker 1: I go to bed at like eight. But totally, like,
Speaker 1: I definitely understand that, Like, hey, there's something you know
Speaker 1: to be said for us, like you know, our our
Speaker 1: evening kind of routine of you know, going to bed together,
Speaker 1: praying together, Like, hey, let's let's keep that, and so
Speaker 1: I can sacrifice that. It's fine. The cool thing is
Speaker 1: when you said a morning routine like yours, you don't
Speaker 1: have to set a evening routine because you're gonna be
Speaker 1: tired enough. You're worn out and you know it's ten
Speaker 1: o'clock and you're like, I gonna go to bed. And
Speaker 1: what I typically say to people that are are struggling
Speaker 1: or they're stuck, or they're just lethargic in some way
Speaker 1: or form, which has been almost all of us in
Speaker 1: twenty twenty. If you feel that way, radically change your
Speaker 1: morning routine. And I love what you said about how
Speaker 1: your alarm goes off and you don't snooze because I
Speaker 1: get so guilty of going through patterns of snoozing, snoozing, snoozing.
Speaker 1: But I'm a better person if I just get up,
Speaker 1: set my if I want to if I want to snooze,
Speaker 1: I should set my alarm through that time that I
Speaker 1: was gonna snooze to. You're gonna get better sleep anyway.
Speaker 1: But if you radically change your morning and set you know,
Speaker 1: time block that specific those things that help grow your
Speaker 1: your mind and your peace, then you'll notice the calm
Speaker 1: that's start. It's happening through your day, and then your
Speaker 1: your nights will start getting earlier and earlier. And it
Speaker 1: changes your exercise, It changes your eating, it changes how
Speaker 1: you listen to people when they're talking, and it it's
Speaker 1: it to me. That's number one. Start and why not
Speaker 1: start with when you wake up? Start with when the
Speaker 1: day starts. So I love that, man, I love that story.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I just I would encourage anyone listening that's
Speaker 1: that's like, man, I just kind of I'm kind of
Speaker 1: stuck right now. Start start right now. You listen to
Speaker 1: this podcast and go, Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna take
Speaker 1: a couple of notes. I'm gonna set my alarm for
Speaker 1: let's say say you go to work at you leave
Speaker 1: the house at seven thirty typically, so then back up it.
Speaker 1: I would say, back up an hour from that, instead
Speaker 1: of setting your alarm just in time to get dressed
Speaker 1: to leave, back up another thirty or forty five minutes,
Speaker 1: and it's literally just reverse thirty or forty five minutes
Speaker 1: or an hour, and then build this little schedule of
Speaker 1: I'm gonna for ten minutes, I'm gonna sit in silence
Speaker 1: for ten minutes, I'm going to exercise for ten minutes.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna write a journal. And it's not like some
Speaker 1: sweet sixteen sappy journal. It's just like it could be
Speaker 1: you're talking to yourself, So it could be like feeling
Speaker 1: tired late night last night, a lot of stuff going
Speaker 1: on in the world, Excited about Friday with my friends, done, yep, yep.
Speaker 1: I feel like we need to be reminded of the
Speaker 1: truths of our lives, and we forget those. But when
Speaker 1: we have that, there the best part of having it
Speaker 1: is being able to look back at it and be like,
Speaker 1: oh man, God was faithful here, yeah, oh oh man,
Speaker 1: I forgot about that, and just those are truths of
Speaker 1: our lives and like having reminders of those is great. Yea,
Speaker 1: all starts with the morning. Do you want to get
Speaker 1: into some questions? Yep. Still you are really good at this,
Speaker 1: so we're gonna dig into your questions. Grangersmith Podcast at
Speaker 1: gmail dot com is the email if you want to
Speaker 1: ask anything that are just a shout out or piece
Speaker 1: of advice, whatever it might be. Grange Smith Podcast at
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Speaker 1: through some of these questions here, and I made some
Speaker 1: notes from the last podcast that we did. I kind
Speaker 1: of got some emails put together, so I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: a little bit random in here and thank you guys
Speaker 1: for all the kind things you said about me and
Speaker 1: having me back on. I wear the shirt all the time. Okay,
Speaker 1: this says Hey Grainger. My name is Austin. I'm reaching
Speaker 1: out from Princeton, Kentucky. I'm a guitar player, singer, songwriter.
Speaker 1: I wrote a song or two. I'm a big fan
Speaker 1: of music and how you delivered the message to your
Speaker 1: listeners and just how much heart and soul you pour
Speaker 1: into your songs. I've listened to your music since twenty twelve,
Speaker 1: and I was just wondering what are some good tips
Speaker 1: or advice on the music industry, what to look out for,
Speaker 1: things to get the ball rolling? How do you how
Speaker 1: do you unwind? How do you get to a place
Speaker 1: to write and edit your songs when you write them.
Speaker 1: I've been a little bit I've had a little bit
Speaker 1: of trouble editing where trying to make it sound trying
Speaker 1: to make it sound better. I just want to ask
Speaker 1: you if you had any any advice on how to
Speaker 1: help me with that. I've been following your podcast and
Speaker 1: all of your songs, love all your music, keep them coming,
Speaker 1: God bless and ye. So this is a good one
Speaker 1: for you, Burns. I kind of pulled this one out
Speaker 1: for you because you are a musician, singer, songwriter, not
Speaker 1: actively practicing, but once you are, you kind of always
Speaker 1: are sure. And this is like the question from a beginner,
Speaker 1: how do you get the ball rolling? Like where do
Speaker 1: you start? It's so overwhelming to think I could write
Speaker 1: a song, but then how do I get it? How
Speaker 1: do I get anyone to listen to it? How do
Speaker 1: I record it? Austin, I would tell Austin, I feel
Speaker 1: like we learn the most from our failures. I'm not
Speaker 1: saying necessarily that my music career was a failure. But
Speaker 1: this ain't the you know, this ain't my podcast, So
Speaker 1: obviously I moved on to different things. But I read
Speaker 1: a book called So Good They Can't Ignore You by
Speaker 1: Cal Newport. I've read it too, Yeah, and I think
Speaker 1: this book maybe something you need to check out. It
Speaker 1: speaks to really honing your craft. And we have this
Speaker 1: craftsman mindset versus a passion mindset, and a lot of
Speaker 1: times we think, you know, Austin is passionate about music
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna write these songs. And that was me,
Speaker 1: Like I was so passionate there. You would come to
Speaker 1: a show or hear me play and it was like,
Speaker 1: there's no lack of passion. But it wasn't until after
Speaker 1: kind of reflecting back on music that I realized I
Speaker 1: never really took the time to like perfect my craft,
Speaker 1: to really spend hour on hour writing songs and writing
Speaker 1: songs and writing and playing guitar and learning you know, scales,
Speaker 1: and I just didn't do that. I floated along with
Speaker 1: just writing on passion alone. And so that would be
Speaker 1: my advice to you, Austin has just spend as much
Speaker 1: time as you can honing your craft and knowing that
Speaker 1: it likely is not going to happen overnight. I know
Speaker 1: it didn't happen that way for Grange, Like I mean
Speaker 1: how I mean, this guy has been grinding and grinding
Speaker 1: and grinding. And even when you've gotten to where you've gotten,
Speaker 1: you keep doing the things that got you there. You like, continue,
Speaker 1: continue to hone your craft, keep writing, and I think
Speaker 1: the more that you kind of push into that craft,
Speaker 1: the better the music the songwriting is gonna be. And
Speaker 1: you know the point of that book is that you
Speaker 1: will be so good that people can't ignore it. And
Speaker 1: just like, oh, Austin, he doesn't do you know, it's
Speaker 1: like whoa man, Austin has got something we need to
Speaker 1: listen to. As far as the like practical nature, it
Speaker 1: feels like a lifetime ago that I did it. So
Speaker 1: Gris may be able to talk about like how you
Speaker 1: make it sound a certain way and you know, all
Speaker 1: that kind of stuff, But that would be my thing.
Speaker 1: Just grind on that songwriting, grind on playing get really
Speaker 1: really really good at it. It starts with the song
Speaker 1: so you could you could only they say the music business,
Speaker 1: you can only shine a turd so much. You know,
Speaker 1: so you can't edit. I mean, there's no amount of
Speaker 1: editing you could do on a bad song to make
Speaker 1: it finally sound good. And if it's a really good song,
Speaker 1: it just doesn't need that much editing. That's right, that's
Speaker 1: a good point. So you could have have a really
Speaker 1: good song just recorded on the voice member of your
Speaker 1: iPhone and with the scratchy background and dogs barking, and
Speaker 1: it's still a really good song. So I would just
Speaker 1: would not focus in the middle of your question here
Speaker 1: about you've had a little bit of trouble editing where
Speaker 1: it sounds better. I would just continue to finish new songs.
Speaker 1: So write a song, finish it, and continue to try
Speaker 1: to start a song and finish it, and start another
Speaker 1: song and finish it. Instead of taking the one song
Speaker 1: and picking it apart so much to try to make
Speaker 1: it sound better, just move on, keep moving and build
Speaker 1: that repertoire, because then you can go back. You could
Speaker 1: always look back and go, oh, what, you know what
Speaker 1: that I remember a song I wrote last year, and
Speaker 1: I just figure out a way to make that bridge better.
Speaker 1: Here's the idea, and that'll just come naturally. So don't
Speaker 1: get stuck on one song just keep moving. There is
Speaker 1: no secret to making it in the music business. And
Speaker 1: if there was a secret, it would be maintain that
Speaker 1: passion that got you in it from the beginning and
Speaker 1: have that the rest of your life. Whether you're playing
Speaker 1: on a street corner with your guitar case for tips,
Speaker 1: or whether you're playing in an arena, do it because
Speaker 1: you love it, not because you want to make it
Speaker 1: or you want to you want to be famous. That's
Speaker 1: trust me, that's a terrible aspiration to have. You need
Speaker 1: to do music because you want to do it and
Speaker 1: you love it so much that you want to do
Speaker 1: it at a big level. There's nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 1: Good luck, buddy, and it's great. Don't dig too much
Speaker 1: into editing. You're in the right place. Here's one that
Speaker 1: the subject line is Wild at Heart, which is of
Speaker 1: course we talked about this in the last podcast. It's
Speaker 1: a great book by John Eldridge. I recommend it to
Speaker 1: any boy out there. I know we have a lot
Speaker 1: of young boys listening eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen, fifteen years
Speaker 1: old because I see your shout out emails coming in,
Speaker 1: and then we have a lot of dad and so
Speaker 1: it's important also for dads that are raising boys to
Speaker 1: read this book. Wild at Heart cannot recommend it enough.
Speaker 1: And here's a question that says, I just started listening
Speaker 1: to your podcast and have listened to the latest four episodes.
Speaker 1: I found this book in May and read it back then,
Speaker 1: what would you say to men that are struggling with
Speaker 1: what it means being a man because they never got
Speaker 1: that confirmation from their fathers? Which Wild at Heart talks
Speaker 1: about the injury to a man's heart that happens from
Speaker 1: a father. And everyone has some sort of injuries. Some
Speaker 1: are bigger, some are smaller, but the reason everyone has
Speaker 1: one is because no man or father is perfect. Everyone
Speaker 1: has flaws. That's just how it is. And the book
Speaker 1: talks about boys needed that confirmation from their fathers of
Speaker 1: that they are on the right path of becoming a man,
Speaker 1: and if they don't get it, they struggle with And
Speaker 1: we've all seen the guys that either you struggle in
Speaker 1: a way that you're over compensating, we've all seen that,
Speaker 1: like I'm a man, or they struggle in a way
Speaker 1: that's they're forever a servant to everyone else and never themselves.
Speaker 1: So there's kind of two spectrums and the book does
Speaker 1: a really good job of explaining that, but burns what
Speaker 1: would you say? And I'm not sure if Alex here
Speaker 1: is asking for him, because he says, what would you
Speaker 1: say to the men that are struggling with what it
Speaker 1: means because they never got that confirmation from their father.
Speaker 1: I don't know if he's talking about himself or just
Speaker 1: in general, but it's a very common question. Sure everyone
Speaker 1: deals with that some level. Sure. Yeah, that's a great question,
Speaker 1: And kudos to you for asking the question, because I
Speaker 1: think therein lies. You know, part of the answer is
Speaker 1: being vulnerable enough to accept your own reality and your
Speaker 1: own hurts, everything that's kind of happened to you in
Speaker 1: your life, and not to wear those as you know,
Speaker 1: anything other than what they are, don't try to mask them. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think there's probably a lot of resources that would
Speaker 1: tell you a lot of different things of what a
Speaker 1: man is and how to be a man. I think
Speaker 1: really it comes down to you finding security in who
Speaker 1: you are, confidence and complete security and who you are
Speaker 1: regardless of how you were treated grown up. And so
Speaker 1: maybe the question is who are you? Maybe that's what
Speaker 1: you don't know. So, like, if you're struggling to figure
Speaker 1: out how to be a man. Maybe it's because you're
Speaker 1: struggling to know who who am I? My identity has
Speaker 1: always been this and maybe you're realizing for the first
Speaker 1: time that's not who you are. And so and in
Speaker 1: the public eye, there's a lot of miss misreads on
Speaker 1: what a man is like is a man? Does the
Speaker 1: man mean that a real man has his finger on
Speaker 1: a red button that could just blow up everybody? Or
Speaker 1: does a man mean he's the dude with the biggest
Speaker 1: truck in the parking lot. Or does the man the
Speaker 1: guy that has the most kids, Or is the man
Speaker 1: the guy that's never got married because he's single, And like,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of there's a lot of misinterpretations on
Speaker 1: what that might be. When when Burnas was talking, I
Speaker 1: pulled up this poem because I love this poem. It's
Speaker 1: a great, a great poem to read on this podcast
Speaker 1: by ruder Kipling. It's called if do you know that poem?
Speaker 1: I like, sir, so I would say, I'd say read
Speaker 1: this point because for me, this is a great just
Speaker 1: a great interpretation of what it means to be a man.
Speaker 1: And so it says try to pull up my phone
Speaker 1: or I can read it right, I feel like my
Speaker 1: eyes are getting bad, it says. If you can keep
Speaker 1: your head when all about you are losing theirs and
Speaker 1: blaming it on you. If you could trust yourself when
Speaker 1: all men doubt you, but make allowance for their doubting too.
Speaker 1: If you could wait and not be tired of waiting
Speaker 1: or being lied about. Don't deal in lies or being hated,
Speaker 1: don't give way to hating, and yet don't look too
Speaker 1: good nor talk too wise. If you could dream and
Speaker 1: not make dreams your master. If you could think and
Speaker 1: not make thoughts your aim. If you could meet with
Speaker 1: triumph and disaster and treat those two impostors just the same.
Speaker 1: If you could bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Speaker 1: twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, or
Speaker 1: watch the things you gave your life to broken and
Speaker 1: stoop and build them up with worn out tools. If
Speaker 1: you could make one heap of all your winnings and
Speaker 1: risk it on one turn of pitch and toss and lose,
Speaker 1: and start again at your beginnings, and never breathe a
Speaker 1: word about your loss. If you could force your heart
Speaker 1: and nerve and sin you to serve your turn long
Speaker 1: after they're gone. And so hold on when there's nothing
Speaker 1: in you except the will, which says to them, hold on.
Speaker 1: If you could talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Speaker 1: or walk with kings, nor lose the common touch, if
Speaker 1: neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, if all
Speaker 1: men count with you, but none too much, If you
Speaker 1: could feel the unforgiving minute, with sixty seconds worth of distance,
Speaker 1: run yours is the earth and everything in it, and
Speaker 1: which is more? You'll be a man, my son. That's
Speaker 1: really good. That's the poem if by Rdred Kipling. Alex,
Speaker 1: that's your question. What would you say to men that
Speaker 1: are struggling with what it means to be a man?
Speaker 1: I would say, go to that point and just dig
Speaker 1: it apart, man, just dig it line by line. Yeah,
Speaker 1: walk with kings, nor lose the common touch. That's a
Speaker 1: great line. Yeah, yeah, great question, Alex. Yep, see, we
Speaker 1: got time. We could do another one. Oh, this is
Speaker 1: a good one I saw. This is the title of
Speaker 1: Kids in Politics. It says, Hey the Granger. I'm Eric Johnson,
Speaker 1: twenty five years old from Salina, Kansas. I hope to
Speaker 1: see you around here again sometime soon. My question, I
Speaker 1: have a twenty month old son and I shall be
Speaker 1: working on a second here sometime soon. I'm going to
Speaker 1: try to leave yours and my politics my political views
Speaker 1: out of the conversation. But I was always pretty ignorant
Speaker 1: to politics before the twenty sixteen election, and that election
Speaker 1: really opened my eyes to everything going on in this
Speaker 1: country and how much everything has been pressured in political
Speaker 1: views on people, let alone all the political bs that's
Speaker 1: going on. I will definitely do everything I can to
Speaker 1: keep my kid's eyes wide open to the world and
Speaker 1: keep their views and hearts pure, but make sure that
Speaker 1: they also know how the world in our country works,
Speaker 1: to keep them knowledgeable to the world and not too
Speaker 1: ignorant to things without pressure. My question, though, is that
Speaker 1: with all the political influence in the world, how do
Speaker 1: you keep your kids away from all the negative influence.
Speaker 1: Do they know how much might be going on and
Speaker 1: what do you explain to them or do you just
Speaker 1: try to keep them out of it altogether? What are
Speaker 1: your plans in the future when you talk about this
Speaker 1: with them, Grangel, I'll be honest with you here, but
Speaker 1: I'm really not much of a religious person, so faith
Speaker 1: may not be able to help me much on this one.
Speaker 1: Eric Johnson another good question. Yeah, it's heavy, and Eric,
Speaker 1: that's early. You're asking it early because you have a
Speaker 1: twenty month old son, So it's good you're getting a
Speaker 1: head started on an important question. It's not like it's
Speaker 1: you know, London for me is nine, Boston for you
Speaker 1: is ten ten. So our oldest are nine and ten
Speaker 1: and ironically named after two cities, Fos London. But they're
Speaker 1: they're definitely at the ages when they're they're watching, they're
Speaker 1: soaking up this stuff. And first and foremost, before they
Speaker 1: watch the news, before they watch social media or TikTok
Speaker 1: or before all that, they're watching you. They're watching you,
Speaker 1: and they're watching you watching it. So they're watching how
Speaker 1: does dad respond to news? And so you ask, how
Speaker 1: do you keep your kids away from all the negative?
Speaker 1: Well it starts with what is negative? Are they watching
Speaker 1: dad throw its boots at the tv? Are they watching
Speaker 1: dad throw his phone over the back fence? And why
Speaker 1: is dad so mad? So they are learning from you
Speaker 1: that politics affect dad in this way, and if it
Speaker 1: doesn't affect you in a negative way, Daddy, what's going on?
Speaker 1: You go, it's just grown men in Washington arguing again
Speaker 1: and that's how they look at it. Then it's not
Speaker 1: going to be that big a deal to them. And
Speaker 1: when all the friends pressure them into thinking it's a
Speaker 1: big deal, you get like the poem, if keep your
Speaker 1: wits about you, when everyone else is losing theirs, you
Speaker 1: keep your wits. And I think that's that's first and
Speaker 1: foremost is in politics and kids, because there's a reason
Speaker 1: that they have age limits on everything in life, driver's license, alcohol,
Speaker 1: It's because kids are not ready for adult things. They're
Speaker 1: not ready for adult problems. They don't need to invest
Speaker 1: themselves in adult problems, and so right now it's about
Speaker 1: training them to control your reactions to the world. What
Speaker 1: are you doing with your kids? That's man. I think
Speaker 1: you hit the nail on the head. I think that
Speaker 1: they are watching us even more than we know that
Speaker 1: they're watching us. And the example that you gave is,
Speaker 1: you know, pretty ironic, because a lot of times people
Speaker 1: will try to shelter their kids from anything different than
Speaker 1: what they believe, anything negative. But the way that they're
Speaker 1: responding to that is teaching the kids something. I love
Speaker 1: that you're asking the question, especially when they're that young.
Speaker 1: As a parent, I think half the battle more than
Speaker 1: half the battle is just showing up and caring and trying.
Speaker 1: So in the end you can say, man, I gave
Speaker 1: it my best shot. They are they're going to understand.
Speaker 1: I understand now that my mom and dad were human
Speaker 1: in you know, a pretty crazy world and they were
Speaker 1: just doing their best, and they did their best for
Speaker 1: me to like set me on the right path. I
Speaker 1: think there's something to be said for them being exposed
Speaker 1: to certain things in an environment where you can help
Speaker 1: them understand it and you can help explain why that
Speaker 1: person is talking to that person that way, what you
Speaker 1: know what, because those are the things that kids probably
Speaker 1: don't understand a lot of times, and if we if
Speaker 1: we shelter them from it and like block it out completely,
Speaker 1: eventually they will get exposed to it and it's like
Speaker 1: they you know, kind of freak out. But if we
Speaker 1: can expose them to I mean things like politics and
Speaker 1: political division and but a whole gamut of different you know,
Speaker 1: struggles and sufferings in life in the still in the nest,
Speaker 1: then I feel like that's going to help them properly
Speaker 1: be able to process when they're seeing things and you're
Speaker 1: not there. Absolutely, I would I would use your home
Speaker 1: as a place of comfort for them too. So say,
Speaker 1: I don't think you should be sitting around watching say
Speaker 1: riots on TV with your kids. But if you do
Speaker 1: and it's on TV, or you say you're at you're
Speaker 1: you're at a place and there's a TV on and
Speaker 1: it shows some violent riots and kids ask about it,
Speaker 1: I would say I would say something to the extent of,
Speaker 1: I want you to know that people disagree in this world,
Speaker 1: and people don't always see eye to eye, but when
Speaker 1: you're with me and you're in our house, you're always safe.
Speaker 1: You're always safe with me, and it's just building that.
Speaker 1: Ah okay good because you could see it and you go,
Speaker 1: is that come in to our house and reassure them
Speaker 1: that no, that happens in the world, but not in
Speaker 1: our house, not with me and your mom, not with
Speaker 1: your siblings. It's this is your safe place. We'll always
Speaker 1: have each other, we'll always look after each other, and
Speaker 1: nothing bad is going to happen with us in our
Speaker 1: core family. Yeah. I think the goal is a parent
Speaker 1: and my wife and I talk all the time about
Speaker 1: like we want to we want to be the people
Speaker 1: that our kids come to later in life when they're
Speaker 1: having struggles or they're like going through something. But if
Speaker 1: we don't practice that now, then they won't do it later.
Speaker 1: So even from the youngest age that you know, your
Speaker 1: kids start to see things never miss and I know
Speaker 1: I do it all the time. I'm like, hey, I
Speaker 1: should have told him this, like take the chance to like, hey, Boston,
Speaker 1: this is why this And even if it looks like
Speaker 1: they're not soaking anything in and they're just like can
Speaker 1: I go play now, it's like I'm trying to teach
Speaker 1: you something they are, you know, it's all coming in
Speaker 1: and what it's teaching him is like, my dad loves
Speaker 1: me and he's trying to teach me. Even if that's it.
Speaker 1: My dad loves me and he's trying to teach me,
Speaker 1: even if they don't grasp what you're trying to teach him.
Speaker 1: I hope that you know in my extensive research of
Speaker 1: child psychology, which is none, but I feel like that
Speaker 1: that you know in my experience from growing up, and
Speaker 1: you know, with my kids now, it's the best I
Speaker 1: got totally. You could either protect your children from the
Speaker 1: world or you can prepare them for the world. You go.
Speaker 1: You you could protect them all day long, they're gonna
Speaker 1: come out, and eventually they're gonna leave the nest, and
Speaker 1: all those lessons are going. The world is either going
Speaker 1: to teach them the lessons or you are. I would
Speaker 1: much rather teach my kids the harder lessons than a
Speaker 1: teacher or a principal in an office, or a boss
Speaker 1: or a friend down there. I'd much rather teach those
Speaker 1: hard things where I can control the way I want
Speaker 1: them to learn it. Then eventually they're gonna If I don't,
Speaker 1: somebody's gonna teach them that principle is gonna teach them
Speaker 1: or something. So yeah, I would say preparing them for
Speaker 1: the world is a better avenue than protecting them. And
Speaker 1: I wouldn't. First of all, dude, Eric, you got a
Speaker 1: twenty month old. Soak that little boy up, Hug him,
Speaker 1: kiss him every chance I get, you get, squeeze him.
Speaker 1: Don't worry about politics and him. Yeah, that's way down
Speaker 1: the road. It's good that you're asking it, it's good
Speaker 1: you're thinking about it, But that's down the road. We
Speaker 1: can't control tomorrow. All we have is today, So soak
Speaker 1: that little boy up. And when the time comes and
Speaker 1: he's seven, eight, nine, ten years old and he's asking
Speaker 1: questions about the TV. You'll be ready for it then
Speaker 1: it's right. Griz could be president by then, and it's
Speaker 1: all Everything's gonna be all good. There won't be any
Speaker 1: political happened. No, we're just gonna be on this podcast. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'd rather do that comment below if you want to
Speaker 1: see more Bernie, if you want to say more Bernie
Speaker 1: on the comments, because this dude he drops some drops
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