WEBVTT - Girls with daddy issues 0:00:11.160 --> 0:00:13.800 How do everybody Welcome to the podcast. What a journey 0:00:13.800 --> 0:00:15.680 it's been. Thank you for being on it with me. 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:19.400 If you're new to the podcast. We do this every Monday, 0:00:19.560 --> 0:00:22.720 and I just appreciate you listening. We have so many 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:25.840 interesting things to talk about today. My buddy Bernie is 0:00:25.880 --> 0:00:28.520 back with me. He was with me last week talking 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:32.320 about things like girls with daddy issues, which is important 0:00:32.320 --> 0:00:34.640 to me. I'm raising a girl, you know, so you 0:00:34.680 --> 0:00:36.680 want to try to know some of these pitfalls before 0:00:36.720 --> 0:00:38.639 you get into them. I'm also going to talk about 0:00:39.159 --> 0:00:42.000 morning routines, which you've heard me say before. I think 0:00:42.040 --> 0:00:46.200 morning routines are so important, more important than we could 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:49.479 possibly imagine, because it starts the day. It says the 0:00:49.520 --> 0:00:52.839 tone for the entire day. And I'm going to talk 0:00:52.840 --> 0:00:54.880 a little bit about mine, Bernie's going to talk about his, 0:00:55.680 --> 0:00:58.120 and both of us have been researching a lot of 0:00:58.120 --> 0:01:02.000 people with different morning routines and it's so interesting to 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:04.040 me and I don't still don't think I figured it 0:01:04.080 --> 0:01:05.680 out yet, but I wanted to share it with you 0:01:05.720 --> 0:01:08.840 guys on this podcast because I think it's interesting and 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:10.679 I think it's important. I mean, if we all had 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:15.840 great morning routines, and set off to start a day. 0:01:16.000 --> 0:01:18.319 The day the right way, I think the world would 0:01:18.319 --> 0:01:20.120 be a better place. That's a crazy thing to say, 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:23.440 but sometimes it's the little things that compound over time 0:01:23.560 --> 0:01:26.759 and it's important. I want to give some shoutouts as well, 0:01:26.760 --> 0:01:30.760 like I always do, and these shoutouts come from emailing 0:01:30.880 --> 0:01:34.679 Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. You could also ask 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:36.440 me a question. Me and Bernie you're going to answer 0:01:36.520 --> 0:01:40.440 some of yours today Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:43.959 So I want to give a shout out to Stephen 0:01:44.040 --> 0:01:51.200 Jones from Iowa, Vince Walker, Grayson Weber, Isaac rock from 0:01:51.240 --> 0:01:58.400 North Carolina, Nolan Viensta's Gloria Strong from Covington, Washington, Mark 0:01:58.440 --> 0:02:05.400 Wicki and Rodney Holme, Joe Vanderhorn from be to Texas. 0:02:05.440 --> 0:02:10.800 Shout out to Texas, Kenneth Pattiston from Arkansas, Tyson Lindbergh 0:02:11.560 --> 0:02:16.920 from Washington State. Justin Chambers, what's up, buddy? Who's this? 0:02:17.040 --> 0:02:20.480 Four didn't say in the subject line. Jen R from Maryland, 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:28.000 Thank you. Jen Austin from Scotland and Bowden. I appreciate 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:32.440 all you guys for writing in and getting the shout out. 0:02:32.520 --> 0:02:35.919 If you want one, yourself Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. 0:02:36.360 --> 0:02:39.480 Even more importantly, ask a question. Anything under the sun, 0:02:39.520 --> 0:02:42.959 could be music related, could be life related, could be anything. 0:02:43.520 --> 0:02:46.359 I want to talk about it. This is episode sixty eight. 0:02:47.160 --> 0:03:22.639 Buckle up, here we go, ye yee did kids and 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:31.240 deel tires and long line of five full of popping 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:49.600 down on the back rangey colge. Yeah you thatation alright? 0:03:49.680 --> 0:03:52.920 I have my side. Kicked Bernie back for second week 0:03:52.920 --> 0:03:55.880 in a row, second week different had I had to 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:57.960 h had to gear up this time. Yeah you had on. 0:03:59.320 --> 0:04:03.320 Bernie is a longtime friend, known him for twenty one years, 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:05.720 and it was on the last podcast when we kind 0:04:05.720 --> 0:04:10.600 of went over how we met and what good advice 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:16.839 you give me and what I think a benefit you'll 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:18.760 be to other people that listen as we go through 0:04:18.760 --> 0:04:21.279 some of these questions. I have a question for you 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:28.120 because you've crushed the twenty twenty era in your life 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:33.000 and you've just done really well mentally. I'll put it 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:37.200 that way. When I am trying to improve myself, because 0:04:37.240 --> 0:04:39.800 I always want to be the best version of myself, 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:45.560 and admittedly I'm not always. At any point in time, 0:04:45.640 --> 0:04:47.680 you can go, man, I'm doing really good right now, 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:51.039 or I'm not and I'm not talking about financially or 0:04:51.120 --> 0:04:56.640 career or I'm just talking about as yourself. How well 0:04:56.720 --> 0:04:58.800 are you doing compared to what you want to be 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:02.680 or capable of being. So my question I usually start 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:08.320 with is what's your morning routine? Because the morning sets 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:11.479 the tone for your day, And anytime I get in 0:05:11.520 --> 0:05:14.839 a funk in my life, it starts for me in 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:17.880 the morning, starting with the alarm, And what do I 0:05:17.960 --> 0:05:21.080 do in that first hour to set the tone for 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:24.480 my day, which really sets the tone for the week, 0:05:24.600 --> 0:05:26.440 and then the month, and then before you know it, 0:05:26.680 --> 0:05:30.000 you're in a good rhythm. So Bernie to you, what 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:34.240 would you say your morning routine is now? And how 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:39.240 was it during the twenty twenty craze? Sure, so morning 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:42.880 routine has been something that has evolved a lot. Yeah, 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:45.760 I'm sure that it will evolve just as it probably 0:05:45.760 --> 0:05:48.760 has for you. But for me, I'll just take you through. 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:53.160 I'll wake up at five point thirty, I don't snooze, 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:56.599 I get out of bed first time alarm goes off. 0:05:57.120 --> 0:06:00.719 My wife's still sleeping. I go put my workout clothes on, 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:06.600 I make a cup of coffee, and I go into 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:10.279 a time a quiet place, and I have a time 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:13.440 of meditation for about ten to fifteen minutes. Do you 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:15.560 use an app for that or you do it? I 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:19.120 use headspace a lot. I've gone off of headspace sometimes, 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:22.440 but headspaces were really the one that kind of got 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:25.960 me into the routine of it. I've actually advertised them 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:31.400 on this podcast. Yeah awesome. So I do that and 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:34.599 then I move. I typically like to do that because 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:37.840 I think that there's a lot of you and I 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:40.240 have talked about dreams in the past and like our 0:06:40.279 --> 0:06:43.760 subconscious mind and the supercomputer, and I think that if 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:49.440 you get into these times of just really like focusing 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:52.000 your mind on your breath and just kind of listening 0:06:52.600 --> 0:06:55.200 early in the morning, that you can kind of start 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:58.320 to like there's things that were happening when you were 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:01.000 asleep in your mind that kind of like start to 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:03.240 pop up, and like maybe things you were thinking about 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:06.560 yesterday and you couldn't figure out what to do or whatever, 0:07:06.600 --> 0:07:07.880 and all of a sudden, it just kind of like 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:09.720 lifts up. So I like to do that like very 0:07:09.720 --> 0:07:12.760 first thing. And I usually don't even drink any coffee 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:15.320 before I do that. It's almost like first just kind 0:07:15.320 --> 0:07:18.040 of get to that place. So let me let me 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:20.960 just like pause you intermittently. So you use your phone 0:07:21.000 --> 0:07:24.520 for headspace, but do you obviously have your phone on 0:07:24.600 --> 0:07:29.160 airplane mode or something what just silence? Yep, because you 0:07:29.160 --> 0:07:30.880 don't want to open your phone and see a message 0:07:30.880 --> 0:07:33.680 from Twitter or your friend or so how do you 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:39.320 get to headspace on your phone without that? Well, first, 0:07:39.360 --> 0:07:42.480 my phone's always silent. I never have my phone on. 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:45.440 I don't have social media on my phone. I don't 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:51.000 push my email notifications, so unless someone has text me 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:55.080 in the night and I see like an icon. But 0:07:55.200 --> 0:07:59.160 I mean, after after a while of just having the 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:03.000 habit of like, no, this is just where I go. Yeah, 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:07.320 I'm not really tempted because I also know that that's 0:08:07.360 --> 0:08:09.480 gonna get me out of this place. It's gonna it's 0:08:09.480 --> 0:08:12.640 gonna skip me ahead into my day. And now I'm 0:08:12.680 --> 0:08:15.200 not ready for that yet. I'm just waking up and 0:08:15.240 --> 0:08:17.640 I'm committed to the routine. So I'm gonna like stay 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:21.640 there and this and again this is like I'm I'm 0:08:21.640 --> 0:08:24.840 not one of these like you know, very kind of 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:28.400 overly disciplined, militant kind of guys Like I'm I'm just 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:31.840 a guy that has over time learned, Hey, these things 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:35.719 make me feel better to start to day, so as 0:08:35.760 --> 0:08:38.440 I can kind of like use the habits to stick with, 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:41.840 I just think things have gotten better. So after that's over, 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:45.240 I immediately go into a time of just prayer and 0:08:45.280 --> 0:08:51.520 stillness and I get into a devotion. So I'll read 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:58.199 a devotional from somebody. I'll my brother who is amazing, 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:01.960 has just taught me about Bible arcing, and so like 0:09:02.080 --> 0:09:06.560 really starting to dig into the texts, into the dig 0:09:06.559 --> 0:09:11.400 into the scriptures of like what was the situation, what 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:13.680 was the purpose, what what was coming out? What was 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:17.560 the context of all of this stuff? Just having you know, 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:22.160 I have three young kids, career everything, so like doing 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:24.640 these things early in the morning, like I waking up 0:09:24.679 --> 0:09:27.720 earlyer have the time to uh to really spend with it. 0:09:27.800 --> 0:09:31.800 So Bible arcing, what is that? So and again I'm 0:09:31.880 --> 0:09:33.760 very new at it. Yeah, you know, Jason talked to 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:36.959 me for like three hours on the way back from 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:38.880 East Texas not too long ago, and I think I 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:43.960 grasped like the basics. But you're basically breaking down like 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:47.000 a couple of different verses or a couple verses together 0:09:47.080 --> 0:09:51.560 of like Okay, who who is it speaking to? What, 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:54.480 what are they saying? What is the response to what 0:09:54.559 --> 0:09:57.520 this part of the versus saying? And you're once you 0:09:57.600 --> 0:10:00.200 start to do that, it's really just spending time. We 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:03.680 understand things deeper when we spend time with them. Like 0:10:03.760 --> 0:10:06.200 if I spend time with you and I ask you, oh, well, 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:08.480 why did you do that thing? And you tell me 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:11.199 about some situation that really developed that, It's like, oh, 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:13.960 I know you deeper now. So it's really just a 0:10:13.960 --> 0:10:16.920 matter of trying to understand the scripture deeper, not like 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:20.040 the coffee mug scripture, but like what was the context, 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:22.680 what does this really mean? And trying to put those together. 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:25.160 So I try to spend the next half hour or so, 0:10:26.280 --> 0:10:30.360 you know, doing that. So about forty minutes has gone 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:34.280 by now. YEP. I write in my journal every morning, 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:39.520 and it has been over the years. I've probably done 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:43.800 journaling since I was I mean since we met, since 0:10:43.840 --> 0:10:48.640 I was twenty physical coffee. Yep. I have journals that 0:10:48.679 --> 0:10:52.960 I write in, and so I'll also have time, you know, 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:54.360 towards the end of the year, different times in the 0:10:54.400 --> 0:10:56.079 year where I'll go back and read some of those 0:10:56.080 --> 0:10:58.880 things or read journals from like, you know, two thousand 0:10:58.960 --> 0:11:00.640 and six, and I'm just like, oh my gosh, I 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:03.320 was such an idiot. What am I thinking? But I 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:06.480 think journaling and just having a place that's quiet and 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:09.880 stilled to kind of get out thoughts and all those things. 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:15.520 So move into journaling and then and then I'll go 0:11:15.600 --> 0:11:18.000 into a workout and that really depending on the day, 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:23.400 I'll practice yoga, I'll do some silly runs, you know, 0:11:23.480 --> 0:11:26.680 like some trail runs, or go run hills with my 0:11:26.679 --> 0:11:32.280 buddy Andy at swift at X follow him. But depending 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:35.040 on the day, I'll get in the workout. I'll get 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:38.000 that done. I feel like you have a morning shake 0:11:38.160 --> 0:11:41.360 that you do everyone. Okay, So my wife just got 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:46.600 me into these, you know, like kale and cocoa and 0:11:46.760 --> 0:11:51.360 almond milk and you know, so I'll make one of those, 0:11:51.440 --> 0:11:52.880 or she'll make it. We'll make them for each other, 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:59.560 which is really great after the workout. That's after the workout. 0:11:59.640 --> 0:12:01.560 Ye I'm I'm trying to be specific because I'm thinking, 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:04.120 if I was listening to this podcast, I want to know, Yeah, 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:06.839 you know the timeline, So we're we're at about six 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:10.640 fifteen to six thirty. You're then working out yep, okay, yep, 0:12:10.880 --> 0:12:14.920 six fifteen, six thirty. I hit that I typically work 0:12:14.960 --> 0:12:18.520 out started around six fifteen and go to about six 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:20.800 forty five or seven, depending on kind of what it is. 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:24.360 So one thing that my wife and I started doing 0:12:25.520 --> 0:12:29.560 is cold showers, so in between moving on uh to uh, 0:12:30.040 --> 0:12:33.520 you know, to the next thing after, but before the shape, 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:38.320 the cold showers. And she's the one that started doing 0:12:38.360 --> 0:12:39.800 it and told me about it, and I listened to 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:41.120 this thing about it, and I was like, I'm gonna 0:12:41.120 --> 0:12:44.080 give it a shot. And it's not so bad, like 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:45.640 you were the tiler will say, it's not so bad 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:49.520 in the summertime where you're sweating it's like crazy hot outside. 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:52.319 But you get into like these winter months and you 0:12:52.400 --> 0:12:54.600 just reach over and turn that thing the cold and 0:12:55.040 --> 0:12:57.160 it really hurts. But there's a lot of health benefits, 0:12:57.240 --> 0:13:01.760 you know, both ways. And I've really just felt it's 0:13:01.800 --> 0:13:05.960 helped me mentally, just the discipline of like we've talked 0:13:05.960 --> 0:13:08.760 about before, you know, like seeking pain in your comfort, 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:12.280 to find comfort in your pain. So you texted me 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:17.559 that one random day. I did, yeah, and you said, 0:13:17.679 --> 0:13:21.160 and this is classic Bernie Slash Granger conversations but you know, 0:13:21.200 --> 0:13:24.040 we could go for a month without saying anything, and 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:27.400 you randomly texted me and said, man, I gotta tell 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:30.800 you what happened. You know these words that came to 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:33.800 me when I was taking a cold shower, and it 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:36.280 was yeah, And it's one of those things where it 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:40.800 just you know, it's that supercomputer, it's that subconsciousness, whatever 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:42.680 it is that just I was in there and I 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.160 was like, this is the stupidest thing you've ever done. 0:13:45.160 --> 0:13:47.800 Why are you doing this? And then just that line 0:13:47.880 --> 0:13:50.000 kind of popped in my head. You seek pain in 0:13:50.040 --> 0:13:55.160 your comfort, to find comfort in your pain, and which 0:13:55.200 --> 0:13:57.280 basically means I could have eased in my my comfort 0:13:57.280 --> 0:13:58.920 would have been a warm shower. I could have easily 0:13:58.960 --> 0:14:01.840 done that, but instead I opted to No, I'm going 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:03.840 to do a cold shower so that when I don't 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:07.000 have the option for a warm shower, I'm going to 0:14:07.040 --> 0:14:08.880 find comfort in the fact that, hey, you've done these 0:14:08.880 --> 0:14:10.880 cold showers for a while. So I think there's a 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:13.160 lot of like there's a lot of you know, like 0:14:14.480 --> 0:14:17.400 mental you know, sympathetic, nervous system. There's a lot of 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:20.840 science and biology that goes into that. But I've started 0:14:20.840 --> 0:14:25.440 doing it and I do it as every time that 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:29.120 I take a shower, then we go to the shake. 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:32.880 One thing during COVID that has been really great is 0:14:34.560 --> 0:14:38.080 I've stayed home and I've gotten to like see my 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:40.720 kids after I work out and have my shake and 0:14:40.800 --> 0:14:45.120 like either before they're going to school or if they're 0:14:45.160 --> 0:14:50.600 online school and we're just all there. But so yeah, 0:14:50.760 --> 0:14:53.480 just get into kind of like have be a part 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:55.880 of their the beginning of their day, because I I 0:14:55.960 --> 0:14:58.000 before I wasn't a part of the beginning of their day. 0:14:58.440 --> 0:14:59.800 It was more like they would see me when I 0:14:59.840 --> 0:15:02.440 got I would be out of the house early early, 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:05.280 I would be going downtown to do my workout to 0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:07.680 our office downtown to do all of that routine. But 0:15:08.920 --> 0:15:13.200 it's been just a really pleasant surprise, or not surprise, 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:15.320 but like a grace to be able to kind of 0:15:15.920 --> 0:15:20.560 have that implemented. So the next thing I do is 0:15:20.720 --> 0:15:24.640 I have a tablet that's called a remarkable tablet. It 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:28.840 has there's no blue light. It looks like a piece 0:15:28.840 --> 0:15:32.640 of paper, but it's a tablet, and there's no notifications 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:36.040 that come to it or send out of it. It's 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:39.479 basically a place that you can really kind of disconnect 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:42.160 and start to really plan out your day that you 0:15:42.240 --> 0:15:45.840 can write, that you can sketch, that you can just 0:15:45.920 --> 0:15:48.640 kind of like have something to like dialogue stuff. But 0:15:48.960 --> 0:15:51.480 it's also you know, you can take notes and then 0:15:51.520 --> 0:15:55.520 convert it to text if you wanted to remarkable remarkable. Yeah, 0:15:55.560 --> 0:15:57.720 it's really cool and it's just helped me be able 0:15:57.800 --> 0:16:00.560 to like have a place that I can plan that's 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:03.320 not my phone, that's not my computer. And so I 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:05.920 have a schedule every day that goes by the hour, 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:09.720 and time batching is another thing that I kind of 0:16:09.720 --> 0:16:11.960 like start preparing for, Okay, this day, can we talk 0:16:12.000 --> 0:16:18.840 on this podcast about time blocking? Yeah, and so I will. 0:16:19.480 --> 0:16:22.360 You know, I have a prayer that I say basically 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:25.360 every morning and try to like prepare myself just to 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:29.800 start with gratitude God, thank you for the habits that 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:31.680 you're putting in my life. I pray that everything I 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:35.000 do today can glorify you. I have another one that 0:16:35.000 --> 0:16:36.680 I say at the end of the day that's basically 0:16:36.720 --> 0:16:39.880 the same thing. Thank you for the the privilege and 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:42.200 the resources that you've given me. I pray that I've 0:16:42.280 --> 0:16:44.560 used them to your glory. Now that I'm clocking out, 0:16:44.640 --> 0:16:46.720 I pray that you clock in and do the invisible 0:16:46.760 --> 0:16:49.920 work to continue you will in my life so good, 0:16:51.280 --> 0:16:54.240 so the and again, these these things are like over 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:57.640 a long period of time, have just you know it 0:16:57.760 --> 0:17:00.200 kind of have the Oh yeah, I like that, So 0:17:00.240 --> 0:17:02.000 I'm gonna like keep doing that. I'm gonna start doing that. 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:08.359 I'm gonna tweak this. So so yeah, I get into 0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:13.359 my really my day planning, and that's where I feel 0:17:13.359 --> 0:17:18.400 like I set myself up for being productive in that day. 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:24.120 You always have to. I think preparation is really key 0:17:24.200 --> 0:17:30.200 because there's times where somebody will I'll bump into somebody 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:34.720 and the best thing that I can do is be 0:17:34.800 --> 0:17:37.920 present with them and listen as long as they need 0:17:37.960 --> 0:17:42.879 me to. But if I'm so caught up in getting 0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:46.800 to my next thing that's on my schedule, I'm going 0:17:46.880 --> 0:17:49.240 to totally miss that opportunity. So I almost have to 0:17:49.280 --> 0:17:52.240 anticipate and work that in, Like, hey, I need to 0:17:52.280 --> 0:17:54.879 prepare a schedule, but I need to give it time 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:57.480 to breathe so that if Griz calls me and needs 0:17:57.480 --> 0:18:00.639 to talk, I'm not gonna be like pushing back appointments 0:18:00.680 --> 0:18:03.680 and all of this stuff. And a lot of times, 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:07.200 you know, with work, you know, you know, whatever career 0:18:07.240 --> 0:18:11.359 you're in, and like, I've found that it's been really 0:18:11.480 --> 0:18:15.959 great marketing to give your time to people because that 0:18:16.040 --> 0:18:18.679 one person recognizes like, man, they talk to me, and 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:22.360 they were present, they listen to me. They go out 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:25.520 and tell everybody anytime they hear your name, they're speaking man, 0:18:25.640 --> 0:18:29.399 that guy is amazing. And then that kind of like 0:18:29.440 --> 0:18:32.760 builds a reputation, but it's an authentic reputation. No one 0:18:32.800 --> 0:18:35.480 likes the guy looking over his shoulder at whoever else 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:37.840 is walking in the room. Yeah, no one likes that guy. Yeah, 0:18:38.000 --> 0:18:40.120 or like hey, I gotta go so or hold on 0:18:40.200 --> 0:18:44.800 sec you know, those kind of things. So that's kind 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:46.719 of the morning routine right now. I'm sure I left 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:50.320 some things out, but let's talk about because we at 0:18:50.440 --> 0:18:53.040 lunch today talked about the news source that you get 0:18:53.160 --> 0:18:55.120 and that goes into that day at some point. Yep. 0:18:55.400 --> 0:18:59.720 So before I start checking email and kind of I 0:18:59.720 --> 0:19:03.320 feel like email after you prep for your day, I 0:19:03.400 --> 0:19:05.680 kind of have email checking is one of the things 0:19:05.680 --> 0:19:10.280 in the time blocking. I read a newsletter called Morning 0:19:10.359 --> 0:19:14.600 Brew and I feel like it it is kind of 0:19:14.600 --> 0:19:17.359 my news outlet, you know, it's I feel like it's 0:19:17.440 --> 0:19:19.760 kind of down the middle. It gives it's it's just 0:19:19.800 --> 0:19:24.720 straight journalism, reporting facts and having different links from different 0:19:24.760 --> 0:19:26.760 sides and everything, and it's it's really just trying to 0:19:26.800 --> 0:19:30.439 gain perspective, different perspectives than my own. I can't just 0:19:30.480 --> 0:19:33.480 consume things that align with everything I believe, so it's 0:19:33.520 --> 0:19:36.760 gaining these different perspectives, and it's in a way that 0:19:36.840 --> 0:19:39.320 I feel like I can really understand what they're saying 0:19:39.359 --> 0:19:41.959 and kind of keep up on some of the news. 0:19:42.320 --> 0:19:45.160 Again because like I'm not on social media, I don't 0:19:45.200 --> 0:19:47.000 really cruise the internet. I don't watch a lot of TV, 0:19:47.160 --> 0:19:52.440 so and that gives you sports sports saying that politics, 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:57.439 technology to COVID updates, you know, things like that. So 0:19:58.280 --> 0:20:00.480 and then at that point it's like, oh, if we 0:20:00.560 --> 0:20:02.600 have to start the day, let's let's get to it. 0:20:02.720 --> 0:20:05.320 And that's when I check my email and like kind 0:20:05.320 --> 0:20:07.400 of figure out and by that time it's probably eight 0:20:07.960 --> 0:20:14.760 thirty And most days that I can do that, I 0:20:14.800 --> 0:20:18.800 feel I feel set up and that I have I've 0:20:18.840 --> 0:20:21.879 set myself up to be productive that day and successful 0:20:21.920 --> 0:20:29.639 that day. That's the standard. Yeah, I understand, and I 0:20:29.680 --> 0:20:33.919 will say that your brother in the midst of a 0:20:34.000 --> 0:20:39.200 really difficult time that we've both been through. I had 0:20:39.240 --> 0:20:44.480 begun to lean on my feelings more than my standards. 0:20:44.520 --> 0:20:46.440 I was relying on how I felt, and I let 0:20:46.480 --> 0:20:51.000 that dictate my morning routine. And your brother Tyler sent 0:20:51.040 --> 0:20:55.000 me something, and for whatever reason, it just really rocked 0:20:55.000 --> 0:20:59.439 me and reminded me, Hey, healing is found here, like 0:20:59.480 --> 0:21:04.879 get back to your standards. And I felt like after 0:21:04.960 --> 0:21:09.760 I started kind of getting back in that routine, I 0:21:09.800 --> 0:21:12.800 just I started to heal and I started to find 0:21:13.680 --> 0:21:19.680 my way forward. What did he send you? Do you remember? Yeah? 0:21:20.000 --> 0:21:25.480 He sent me a video by Ben Newman called Feelings 0:21:25.560 --> 0:21:31.800 Versus Standards. Yep. Yeah, Tyler is a He's a machine 0:21:31.840 --> 0:21:34.359 when it comes to that. You know, his time walking 0:21:34.440 --> 0:21:39.760 is scheduling. He's also single, not married, lives in an 0:21:39.800 --> 0:21:43.680 apartment on top of our office building, so he you know, 0:21:43.880 --> 0:21:47.280 he does have space in his life to do that. Sure, 0:21:48.160 --> 0:21:51.320 but he does set really really good standard. He's the 0:21:51.320 --> 0:21:56.480 guy that got me into Miracle Morning. December of twenty eighteen. 0:21:57.480 --> 0:21:59.879 That is when I first started my is when I 0:22:00.000 --> 0:22:04.119 I first realized and I was hearing different guys on 0:22:06.080 --> 0:22:10.280 different platforms talk about their mornings. You know, you've heard 0:22:10.359 --> 0:22:14.840 for years like Mark Wahlberg, here's his morning routine, like 0:22:14.840 --> 0:22:17.080 it's you know, and they listed out in some magazine. 0:22:17.320 --> 0:22:20.680 So I've always been interested in that it successful people, 0:22:20.720 --> 0:22:22.680 what do they do in the mornings. But then I 0:22:22.760 --> 0:22:25.359 became kind of obsessed with it. And that's when Tyler 0:22:25.400 --> 0:22:28.639 first introduced the idea of Miracle Morning. And December twenty 0:22:28.680 --> 0:22:32.040 eighteen is when I first looked at it and said, Okay, 0:22:32.160 --> 0:22:34.280 from when you wake up to when you start your day, 0:22:34.640 --> 0:22:38.480 you separate that into could be could you could start 0:22:38.520 --> 0:22:41.360 at ten minutes and you could end up like you 0:22:41.400 --> 0:22:43.679 and it could be two and a half hours. But 0:22:43.960 --> 0:22:47.240 in that time, you're setting your pace for your day. 0:22:48.080 --> 0:22:51.879 And so many times like I don't. I don't even 0:22:51.920 --> 0:22:53.760 sleep with my phone in my room anymore. I sleep 0:22:53.960 --> 0:22:57.160 it's in a separate room, and my watch wakes me up. 0:22:57.960 --> 0:23:02.040 And because I want to avoid the temptation of first 0:23:02.040 --> 0:23:03.840 of all, getting in bed and looking at my phone, 0:23:03.880 --> 0:23:06.680 and second of all, God forbid waking up and looking 0:23:06.680 --> 0:23:10.760 at my phone. First thing, looking at and seeing a 0:23:10.840 --> 0:23:15.560 message from someone or group me from someone, or an 0:23:15.600 --> 0:23:19.199 email or God forbid social media of some bad news. 0:23:19.680 --> 0:23:22.440 I mean, there you started your tone for the day. Yeah, 0:23:22.480 --> 0:23:25.440 there's no way to recover from that. What time do 0:23:25.440 --> 0:23:30.120 you go to bed? Typically I go to bed around 0:23:30.200 --> 0:23:33.080 ten to ten thirty. My wife is a night owl, 0:23:33.600 --> 0:23:35.400 and if I could, if I had it my way, 0:23:35.400 --> 0:23:38.520 I go to bed at like eight. But totally, like, 0:23:38.680 --> 0:23:43.240 I definitely understand that, Like, hey, there's something you know 0:23:43.320 --> 0:23:46.080 to be said for us, like you know, our our 0:23:46.200 --> 0:23:49.439 evening kind of routine of you know, going to bed together, 0:23:49.560 --> 0:23:51.840 praying together, Like, hey, let's let's keep that, and so 0:23:52.920 --> 0:23:55.240 I can sacrifice that. It's fine. The cool thing is 0:23:55.440 --> 0:23:58.800 when you said a morning routine like yours, you don't 0:23:58.880 --> 0:24:02.040 have to set a evening routine because you're gonna be 0:24:02.080 --> 0:24:06.159 tired enough. You're worn out and you know it's ten 0:24:06.200 --> 0:24:08.400 o'clock and you're like, I gonna go to bed. And 0:24:08.720 --> 0:24:11.760 what I typically say to people that are are struggling 0:24:11.880 --> 0:24:15.960 or they're stuck, or they're just lethargic in some way 0:24:16.040 --> 0:24:17.679 or form, which has been almost all of us in 0:24:17.720 --> 0:24:23.040 twenty twenty. If you feel that way, radically change your 0:24:23.119 --> 0:24:26.280 morning routine. And I love what you said about how 0:24:26.280 --> 0:24:28.240 your alarm goes off and you don't snooze because I 0:24:28.800 --> 0:24:32.000