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Speaker 1: How do everybody Welcome to the podcast. What a journey

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Speaker 1: it's been. Thank you for being on it with me.

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Speaker 1: If you're new to the podcast. We do this every Monday,

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Speaker 1: and I just appreciate you listening. We have so many

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Speaker 1: interesting things to talk about today. My buddy Bernie is

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Speaker 1: back with me. He was with me last week talking

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Speaker 1: about things like girls with daddy issues, which is important

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Speaker 1: to me. I'm raising a girl, you know, so you

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Speaker 1: want to try to know some of these pitfalls before

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Speaker 1: you get into them. I'm also going to talk about

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Speaker 1: morning routines, which you've heard me say before. I think

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Speaker 1: morning routines are so important, more important than we could

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Speaker 1: a little bit about mine, Bernie's going to talk about his,

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Speaker 1: and both of us have been researching a lot of

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Speaker 1: people with different morning routines and it's so interesting to

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Speaker 1: me and I don't still don't think I figured it

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Speaker 1: out yet, but I wanted to share it with you

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Speaker 1: guys on this podcast because I think it's interesting and

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Speaker 1: I think it's important. I mean, if we all had

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Speaker 1: The day the right way, I think the world would

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Speaker 1: be a better place. That's a crazy thing to say,

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Speaker 1: but sometimes it's the little things that compound over time

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Speaker 1: and it's important. I want to give some shoutouts as well,

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Speaker 1: like I always do, and these shoutouts come from emailing

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Speaker 1: Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. You could also ask

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Speaker 1: me a question. Me and Bernie you're going to answer

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Speaker 1: some of yours today Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: So I want to give a shout out to Stephen

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Speaker 1: Jones from Iowa, Vince Walker, Grayson Weber, Isaac rock from

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Speaker 1: North Carolina, Nolan Viensta's Gloria Strong from Covington, Washington, Mark

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Speaker 1: Wicki and Rodney Holme, Joe Vanderhorn from be to Texas.

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Speaker 1: Shout out to Texas, Kenneth Pattiston from Arkansas, Tyson Lindbergh

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Speaker 1: from Washington State. Justin Chambers, what's up, buddy? Who's this?

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Speaker 1: Four didn't say in the subject line. Jen R from Maryland,

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Speaker 1: Thank you. Jen Austin from Scotland and Bowden. I appreciate

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Speaker 1: all you guys for writing in and getting the shout out.

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Speaker 1: If you want one, yourself Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: Even more importantly, ask a question. Anything under the sun,

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Speaker 1: could be music related, could be life related, could be anything.

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Speaker 1: I want to talk about it. This is episode sixty eight.

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Speaker 1: Buckle up, here we go, ye yee did kids and

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Speaker 1: deel tires and long line of five full of popping

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Speaker 1: down on the back rangey colge. Yeah you thatation alright?

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Speaker 1: I have my side. Kicked Bernie back for second week

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Speaker 1: in a row, second week different had I had to

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Speaker 1: h had to gear up this time. Yeah you had on.

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Speaker 1: Bernie is a longtime friend, known him for twenty one years,

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Speaker 1: and it was on the last podcast when we kind

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Speaker 1: of went over how we met and what good advice

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Speaker 1: be to other people that listen as we go through

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Speaker 1: some of these questions. I have a question for you

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Speaker 1: because you've crushed the twenty twenty era in your life

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Speaker 1: and you've just done really well mentally. I'll put it

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Speaker 1: that way. When I am trying to improve myself, because

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Speaker 1: and admittedly I'm not always. At any point in time,

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Speaker 1: for all the kind things you said about me and

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Speaker 1: this says Hey Grainger. My name is Austin. I'm reaching

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Speaker 1: all of your songs, love all your music, keep them coming,

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Speaker 1: God bless and ye. So this is a good one

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Speaker 1: I record it? Austin, I would tell Austin, I feel

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Speaker 1: Like I was so passionate there. You would come to

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Speaker 1: there's no lack of passion. But it wasn't until after

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Speaker 1: the more that you kind of push into that craft,

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Speaker 1: the better the music the songwriting is gonna be. And

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Speaker 1: you know the point of that book is that you

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Speaker 1: like whoa man, Austin has got something we need to

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Speaker 1: listen to. As far as the like practical nature, it

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Speaker 1: Gris may be able to talk about like how you

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Speaker 1: make it sound a certain way and you know, all

642
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Speaker 1: that kind of stuff, But that would be my thing.

643
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 1: Just grind on that songwriting, grind on playing get really

644
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Speaker 1: really really good at it. It starts with the song

645
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:44,040
Speaker 1: so you could you could only they say the music business,

646
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:46,480
Speaker 1: you can only shine a turd so much. You know,

647
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:49,719
Speaker 1: so you can't edit. I mean, there's no amount of

648
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Speaker 1: editing you could do on a bad song to make

649
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Speaker 1: it finally sound good. And if it's a really good song,

650
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:58,000
Speaker 1: it just doesn't need that much editing. That's right, that's

651
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:00,840
Speaker 1: a good point. So you could have have a really

652
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Speaker 1: good song just recorded on the voice member of your

653
00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 1: iPhone and with the scratchy background and dogs barking, and

654
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:10,719
Speaker 1: it's still a really good song. So I would just

655
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 1: would not focus in the middle of your question here

656
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Speaker 1: about you've had a little bit of trouble editing where

657
00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:20,440
Speaker 1: it sounds better. I would just continue to finish new songs.

658
00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 1: So write a song, finish it, and continue to try

659
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:26,800
Speaker 1: to start a song and finish it, and start another

660
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:29,960
Speaker 1: song and finish it. Instead of taking the one song

661
00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:32,719
Speaker 1: and picking it apart so much to try to make

662
00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:35,480
Speaker 1: it sound better, just move on, keep moving and build

663
00:39:35,520 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 1: that repertoire, because then you can go back. You could

664
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 1: always look back and go, oh, what, you know what

665
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:45,520
Speaker 1: that I remember a song I wrote last year, and

666
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:48,000
Speaker 1: I just figure out a way to make that bridge better.

667
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:52,239
Speaker 1: Here's the idea, and that'll just come naturally. So don't

668
00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:55,759
Speaker 1: get stuck on one song just keep moving. There is

669
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Speaker 1: no secret to making it in the music business. And

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Speaker 1: if there was a secret, it would be maintain that

671
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 1: passion that got you in it from the beginning and

672
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Speaker 1: have that the rest of your life. Whether you're playing

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Speaker 1: on a street corner with your guitar case for tips,

674
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Speaker 1: or whether you're playing in an arena, do it because

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Speaker 1: you love it, not because you want to make it

676
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:19,399
Speaker 1: or you want to you want to be famous. That's

677
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 1: trust me, that's a terrible aspiration to have. You need

678
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Speaker 1: to do music because you want to do it and

679
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:27,520
Speaker 1: you love it so much that you want to do

680
00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:30,920
Speaker 1: it at a big level. There's nothing wrong with that.

681
00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:34,600
Speaker 1: Good luck, buddy, and it's great. Don't dig too much

682
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:42,759
Speaker 1: into editing. You're in the right place. Here's one that

683
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 1: the subject line is Wild at Heart, which is of

684
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Speaker 1: course we talked about this in the last podcast. It's

685
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:50,799
Speaker 1: a great book by John Eldridge. I recommend it to

686
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Speaker 1: any boy out there. I know we have a lot

687
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Speaker 1: of young boys listening eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen, fifteen years

688
00:40:56,239 --> 00:40:58,439
Speaker 1: old because I see your shout out emails coming in,

689
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Speaker 1: and then we have a lot of dad and so

690
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 1: it's important also for dads that are raising boys to

691
00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:07,799
Speaker 1: read this book. Wild at Heart cannot recommend it enough.

692
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 1: And here's a question that says, I just started listening

693
00:41:10,040 --> 00:41:13,960
Speaker 1: to your podcast and have listened to the latest four episodes.

694
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 1: I found this book in May and read it back then,

695
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Speaker 1: what would you say to men that are struggling with

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00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:24,160
Speaker 1: what it means being a man because they never got

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Speaker 1: that confirmation from their fathers? Which Wild at Heart talks

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Speaker 1: about the injury to a man's heart that happens from

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Speaker 1: a father. And everyone has some sort of injuries. Some

700
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:47,120
Speaker 1: are bigger, some are smaller, but the reason everyone has

701
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 1: one is because no man or father is perfect. Everyone

702
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:57,400
Speaker 1: has flaws. That's just how it is. And the book

703
00:41:57,440 --> 00:42:02,799
Speaker 1: talks about boys needed that confirmation from their fathers of

704
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Speaker 1: that they are on the right path of becoming a man,

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Speaker 1: and if they don't get it, they struggle with And

706
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 1: we've all seen the guys that either you struggle in

707
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:18,440
Speaker 1: a way that you're over compensating, we've all seen that,

708
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Speaker 1: like I'm a man, or they struggle in a way

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Speaker 1: that's they're forever a servant to everyone else and never themselves.

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Speaker 1: So there's kind of two spectrums and the book does

711
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:35,360
Speaker 1: a really good job of explaining that, but burns what

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Speaker 1: would you say? And I'm not sure if Alex here

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00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:41,880
Speaker 1: is asking for him, because he says, what would you

714
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Speaker 1: say to the men that are struggling with what it

715
00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:47,719
Speaker 1: means because they never got that confirmation from their father.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if he's talking about himself or just

717
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:54,120
Speaker 1: in general, but it's a very common question. Sure everyone

718
00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 1: deals with that some level. Sure. Yeah, that's a great question,

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Speaker 1: And kudos to you for asking the question, because I

720
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 1: think therein lies. You know, part of the answer is

721
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:16,759
Speaker 1: being vulnerable enough to accept your own reality and your

722
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:21,640
Speaker 1: own hurts, everything that's kind of happened to you in

723
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:27,359
Speaker 1: your life, and not to wear those as you know,

724
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:33,560
Speaker 1: anything other than what they are, don't try to mask them. Yeah,

725
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:36,839
Speaker 1: I think there's probably a lot of resources that would

726
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:40,839
Speaker 1: tell you a lot of different things of what a

727
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 1: man is and how to be a man. I think

728
00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 1: really it comes down to you finding security in who

729
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:56,480
Speaker 1: you are, confidence and complete security and who you are

730
00:43:56,520 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 1: regardless of how you were treated grown up. And so

731
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:06,000
Speaker 1: maybe the question is who are you? Maybe that's what

732
00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:08,799
Speaker 1: you don't know. So, like, if you're struggling to figure

733
00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 1: out how to be a man. Maybe it's because you're

734
00:44:10,120 --> 00:44:14,200
Speaker 1: struggling to know who who am I? My identity has

735
00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 1: always been this and maybe you're realizing for the first

736
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:21,719
Speaker 1: time that's not who you are. And so and in

737
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:24,360
Speaker 1: the public eye, there's a lot of miss misreads on

738
00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 1: what a man is like is a man? Does the

739
00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 1: man mean that a real man has his finger on

740
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 1: a red button that could just blow up everybody? Or

741
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:36,840
Speaker 1: does a man mean he's the dude with the biggest

742
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 1: truck in the parking lot. Or does the man the

743
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:42,920
Speaker 1: guy that has the most kids, Or is the man

744
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:45,840
Speaker 1: the guy that's never got married because he's single, And like,

745
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:50,239
Speaker 1: there's a lot of there's a lot of misinterpretations on

746
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:52,960
Speaker 1: what that might be. When when Burnas was talking, I

747
00:44:53,040 --> 00:44:55,839
Speaker 1: pulled up this poem because I love this poem. It's

748
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:58,719
Speaker 1: a great, a great poem to read on this podcast

749
00:44:59,160 --> 00:45:02,240
Speaker 1: by ruder Kipling. It's called if do you know that poem?

750
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:07,920
Speaker 1: I like, sir, so I would say, I'd say read

751
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:11,200
Speaker 1: this point because for me, this is a great just

752
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:16,480
Speaker 1: a great interpretation of what it means to be a man.

753
00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:20,279
Speaker 1: And so it says try to pull up my phone

754
00:45:20,320 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 1: or I can read it right, I feel like my

755
00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:25,160
Speaker 1: eyes are getting bad, it says. If you can keep

756
00:45:25,200 --> 00:45:27,960
Speaker 1: your head when all about you are losing theirs and

757
00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 1: blaming it on you. If you could trust yourself when

758
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:34,319
Speaker 1: all men doubt you, but make allowance for their doubting too.

759
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:37,160
Speaker 1: If you could wait and not be tired of waiting

760
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:41,920
Speaker 1: or being lied about. Don't deal in lies or being hated,

761
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:45,080
Speaker 1: don't give way to hating, and yet don't look too

762
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:48,759
Speaker 1: good nor talk too wise. If you could dream and

763
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 1: not make dreams your master. If you could think and

764
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:54,840
Speaker 1: not make thoughts your aim. If you could meet with

765
00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:58,759
Speaker 1: triumph and disaster and treat those two impostors just the same.

766
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:01,560
Speaker 1: If you could bear to hear the truth you've spoken

767
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:05,239
Speaker 1: twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, or

768
00:46:05,320 --> 00:46:08,319
Speaker 1: watch the things you gave your life to broken and

769
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:12,279
Speaker 1: stoop and build them up with worn out tools. If

770
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:14,520
Speaker 1: you could make one heap of all your winnings and

771
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 1: risk it on one turn of pitch and toss and lose,

772
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 1: and start again at your beginnings, and never breathe a

773
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:23,960
Speaker 1: word about your loss. If you could force your heart

774
00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 1: and nerve and sin you to serve your turn long

775
00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 1: after they're gone. And so hold on when there's nothing

776
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:34,759
Speaker 1: in you except the will, which says to them, hold on.

777
00:46:35,920 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 1: If you could talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

778
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:42,000
Speaker 1: or walk with kings, nor lose the common touch, if

779
00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:45,799
Speaker 1: neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, if all

780
00:46:45,840 --> 00:46:49,200
Speaker 1: men count with you, but none too much, If you

781
00:46:49,239 --> 00:46:53,320
Speaker 1: could feel the unforgiving minute, with sixty seconds worth of distance,

782
00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 1: run yours is the earth and everything in it, and

783
00:46:56,600 --> 00:47:01,080
Speaker 1: which is more? You'll be a man, my son. That's

784
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:08,520
Speaker 1: really good. That's the poem if by Rdred Kipling. Alex,

785
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,239
Speaker 1: that's your question. What would you say to men that

786
00:47:12,280 --> 00:47:14,160
Speaker 1: are struggling with what it means to be a man?

787
00:47:14,920 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 1: I would say, go to that point and just dig

788
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:19,840
Speaker 1: it apart, man, just dig it line by line. Yeah,

789
00:47:20,080 --> 00:47:22,840
Speaker 1: walk with kings, nor lose the common touch. That's a

790
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:28,440
Speaker 1: great line. Yeah, yeah, great question, Alex. Yep, see, we

791
00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:33,279
Speaker 1: got time. We could do another one. Oh, this is

792
00:47:33,320 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 1: a good one I saw. This is the title of

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Speaker 1: Kids in Politics. It says, Hey the Granger. I'm Eric Johnson,

794
00:47:41,840 --> 00:47:45,320
Speaker 1: twenty five years old from Salina, Kansas. I hope to

795
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 1: see you around here again sometime soon. My question, I

796
00:47:50,560 --> 00:47:54,040
Speaker 1: have a twenty month old son and I shall be

797
00:47:54,120 --> 00:47:57,360
Speaker 1: working on a second here sometime soon. I'm going to

798
00:47:57,440 --> 00:48:01,400
Speaker 1: try to leave yours and my politics my political views

799
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 1: out of the conversation. But I was always pretty ignorant

800
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:08,400
Speaker 1: to politics before the twenty sixteen election, and that election

801
00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:10,200
Speaker 1: really opened my eyes to everything going on in this

802
00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 1: country and how much everything has been pressured in political

803
00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:18,319
Speaker 1: views on people, let alone all the political bs that's

804
00:48:18,360 --> 00:48:21,040
Speaker 1: going on. I will definitely do everything I can to

805
00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 1: keep my kid's eyes wide open to the world and

806
00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 1: keep their views and hearts pure, but make sure that

807
00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:29,640
Speaker 1: they also know how the world in our country works,

808
00:48:29,680 --> 00:48:31,759
Speaker 1: to keep them knowledgeable to the world and not too

809
00:48:31,840 --> 00:48:36,359
Speaker 1: ignorant to things without pressure. My question, though, is that

810
00:48:36,400 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 1: with all the political influence in the world, how do

811
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Speaker 1: you keep your kids away from all the negative influence.

812
00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:45,640
Speaker 1: Do they know how much might be going on and

813
00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:48,319
Speaker 1: what do you explain to them or do you just

814
00:48:48,320 --> 00:48:50,759
Speaker 1: try to keep them out of it altogether? What are

815
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:53,680
Speaker 1: your plans in the future when you talk about this

816
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:56,840
Speaker 1: with them, Grangel, I'll be honest with you here, but

817
00:48:56,920 --> 00:48:59,400
Speaker 1: I'm really not much of a religious person, so faith

818
00:48:59,600 --> 00:49:02,960
Speaker 1: may not be able to help me much on this one.

819
00:49:07,640 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: Eric Johnson another good question. Yeah, it's heavy, and Eric,

820
00:49:17,760 --> 00:49:20,279
Speaker 1: that's early. You're asking it early because you have a

821
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:23,840
Speaker 1: twenty month old son, So it's good you're getting a

822
00:49:23,880 --> 00:49:26,319
Speaker 1: head started on an important question. It's not like it's

823
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:30,080
Speaker 1: you know, London for me is nine, Boston for you

824
00:49:30,239 --> 00:49:33,959
Speaker 1: is ten ten. So our oldest are nine and ten

825
00:49:34,360 --> 00:49:40,799
Speaker 1: and ironically named after two cities, Fos London. But they're

826
00:49:40,960 --> 00:49:44,520
Speaker 1: they're definitely at the ages when they're they're watching, they're

827
00:49:44,560 --> 00:49:49,879
Speaker 1: soaking up this stuff. And first and foremost, before they

828
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Speaker 1: watch the news, before they watch social media or TikTok

829
00:49:54,040 --> 00:49:58,439
Speaker 1: or before all that, they're watching you. They're watching you,

830
00:49:59,080 --> 00:50:03,440
Speaker 1: and they're watching you watching it. So they're watching how

831
00:50:03,480 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 1: does dad respond to news? And so you ask, how

832
00:50:09,800 --> 00:50:11,760
Speaker 1: do you keep your kids away from all the negative?

833
00:50:12,160 --> 00:50:15,600
Speaker 1: Well it starts with what is negative? Are they watching

834
00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:20,560
Speaker 1: dad throw its boots at the tv? Are they watching

835
00:50:20,600 --> 00:50:24,080
Speaker 1: dad throw his phone over the back fence? And why

836
00:50:24,160 --> 00:50:27,399
Speaker 1: is dad so mad? So they are learning from you

837
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:33,000
Speaker 1: that politics affect dad in this way, and if it

838
00:50:33,080 --> 00:50:36,279
Speaker 1: doesn't affect you in a negative way, Daddy, what's going on?

839
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Speaker 1: You go, it's just grown men in Washington arguing again

840
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:43,000
Speaker 1: and that's how they look at it. Then it's not

841
00:50:43,040 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 1: going to be that big a deal to them. And

842
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:46,719
Speaker 1: when all the friends pressure them into thinking it's a

843
00:50:46,719 --> 00:50:52,120
Speaker 1: big deal, you get like the poem, if keep your

844
00:50:52,160 --> 00:50:55,279
Speaker 1: wits about you, when everyone else is losing theirs, you

845
00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:58,279
Speaker 1: keep your wits. And I think that's that's first and

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00:50:58,320 --> 00:51:04,320
Speaker 1: foremost is in politics and kids, because there's a reason

847
00:51:04,960 --> 00:51:09,920
Speaker 1: that they have age limits on everything in life, driver's license, alcohol,

848
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:13,399
Speaker 1: It's because kids are not ready for adult things. They're

849
00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:17,160
Speaker 1: not ready for adult problems. They don't need to invest

850
00:51:17,200 --> 00:51:20,719
Speaker 1: themselves in adult problems, and so right now it's about

851
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:27,480
Speaker 1: training them to control your reactions to the world. What

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00:51:27,520 --> 00:51:29,919
Speaker 1: are you doing with your kids? That's man. I think

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Speaker 1: you hit the nail on the head. I think that

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Speaker 1: they are watching us even more than we know that

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Speaker 1: they're watching us. And the example that you gave is,

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Speaker 1: you know, pretty ironic, because a lot of times people

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Speaker 1: will try to shelter their kids from anything different than

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Speaker 1: what they believe, anything negative. But the way that they're

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Speaker 1: responding to that is teaching the kids something. I love

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Speaker 1: that you're asking the question, especially when they're that young.

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Speaker 1: As a parent, I think half the battle more than

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Speaker 1: half the battle is just showing up and caring and trying.

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Speaker 1: So in the end you can say, man, I gave

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Speaker 1: it my best shot. They are they're going to understand.

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Speaker 1: I understand now that my mom and dad were human

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Speaker 1: in you know, a pretty crazy world and they were

867
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Speaker 1: just doing their best, and they did their best for

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Speaker 1: me to like set me on the right path. I

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Speaker 1: think there's something to be said for them being exposed

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Speaker 1: to certain things in an environment where you can help

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00:52:34,520 --> 00:52:41,319
Speaker 1: them understand it and you can help explain why that

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Speaker 1: person is talking to that person that way, what you

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00:52:44,920 --> 00:52:48,800
Speaker 1: know what, because those are the things that kids probably

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00:52:48,840 --> 00:52:51,839
Speaker 1: don't understand a lot of times, and if we if

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Speaker 1: we shelter them from it and like block it out completely,

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00:52:56,840 --> 00:52:59,200
Speaker 1: eventually they will get exposed to it and it's like

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00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:01,840
Speaker 1: they you know, kind of freak out. But if we

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Speaker 1: can expose them to I mean things like politics and

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00:53:07,200 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 1: political division and but a whole gamut of different you know,

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00:53:14,440 --> 00:53:19,840
Speaker 1: struggles and sufferings in life in the still in the nest,

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00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:23,400
Speaker 1: then I feel like that's going to help them properly

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00:53:23,480 --> 00:53:26,600
Speaker 1: be able to process when they're seeing things and you're

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Speaker 1: not there. Absolutely, I would I would use your home

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Speaker 1: as a place of comfort for them too. So say,

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Speaker 1: I don't think you should be sitting around watching say

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Speaker 1: riots on TV with your kids. But if you do

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Speaker 1: and it's on TV, or you say you're at you're

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Speaker 1: you're at a place and there's a TV on and

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Speaker 1: it shows some violent riots and kids ask about it,

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00:53:49,560 --> 00:53:52,960
Speaker 1: I would say I would say something to the extent of,

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00:53:54,840 --> 00:53:58,920
Speaker 1: I want you to know that people disagree in this world,

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00:53:59,800 --> 00:54:02,799
Speaker 1: and people don't always see eye to eye, but when

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00:54:02,800 --> 00:54:07,560
Speaker 1: you're with me and you're in our house, you're always safe.

894
00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:11,759
Speaker 1: You're always safe with me, and it's just building that.

895
00:54:12,560 --> 00:54:15,239
Speaker 1: Ah okay good because you could see it and you go,

896
00:54:15,320 --> 00:54:18,759
Speaker 1: is that come in to our house and reassure them

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Speaker 1: that no, that happens in the world, but not in

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00:54:21,760 --> 00:54:24,080
Speaker 1: our house, not with me and your mom, not with

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00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:28,040
Speaker 1: your siblings. It's this is your safe place. We'll always

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00:54:28,080 --> 00:54:30,719
Speaker 1: have each other, we'll always look after each other, and

901
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:32,799
Speaker 1: nothing bad is going to happen with us in our

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00:54:32,880 --> 00:54:35,760
Speaker 1: core family. Yeah. I think the goal is a parent

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00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:39,120
Speaker 1: and my wife and I talk all the time about

904
00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:42,760
Speaker 1: like we want to we want to be the people

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Speaker 1: that our kids come to later in life when they're

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00:54:45,200 --> 00:54:49,399
Speaker 1: having struggles or they're like going through something. But if

907
00:54:49,400 --> 00:54:52,760
Speaker 1: we don't practice that now, then they won't do it later.

908
00:54:53,200 --> 00:54:55,960
Speaker 1: So even from the youngest age that you know, your

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00:54:56,080 --> 00:55:00,640
Speaker 1: kids start to see things never miss and I know

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Speaker 1: I do it all the time. I'm like, hey, I

911
00:55:02,360 --> 00:55:07,720
Speaker 1: should have told him this, like take the chance to like, hey, Boston,

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00:55:07,800 --> 00:55:12,799
Speaker 1: this is why this And even if it looks like

913
00:55:12,840 --> 00:55:17,600
Speaker 1: they're not soaking anything in and they're just like can

914
00:55:17,600 --> 00:55:20,040
Speaker 1: I go play now, it's like I'm trying to teach

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00:55:20,040 --> 00:55:24,440
Speaker 1: you something they are, you know, it's all coming in

916
00:55:24,480 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 1: and what it's teaching him is like, my dad loves

917
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Speaker 1: me and he's trying to teach me. Even if that's it.

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Speaker 1: My dad loves me and he's trying to teach me,

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00:55:33,520 --> 00:55:36,560
Speaker 1: even if they don't grasp what you're trying to teach him.

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Speaker 1: I hope that you know in my extensive research of

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Speaker 1: child psychology, which is none, but I feel like that

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00:55:45,160 --> 00:55:49,400
Speaker 1: that you know in my experience from growing up, and

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Speaker 1: you know, with my kids now, it's the best I

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00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:56,040
Speaker 1: got totally. You could either protect your children from the

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00:55:56,040 --> 00:55:59,719
Speaker 1: world or you can prepare them for the world. You go.

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Speaker 1: You you could protect them all day long, they're gonna

927
00:56:03,560 --> 00:56:07,120
Speaker 1: come out, and eventually they're gonna leave the nest, and

928
00:56:07,200 --> 00:56:09,680
Speaker 1: all those lessons are going. The world is either going

929
00:56:09,719 --> 00:56:12,479
Speaker 1: to teach them the lessons or you are. I would

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00:56:12,560 --> 00:56:16,759
Speaker 1: much rather teach my kids the harder lessons than a

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00:56:16,840 --> 00:56:20,480
Speaker 1: teacher or a principal in an office, or a boss

932
00:56:21,360 --> 00:56:24,680
Speaker 1: or a friend down there. I'd much rather teach those

933
00:56:24,719 --> 00:56:28,120
Speaker 1: hard things where I can control the way I want

934
00:56:28,160 --> 00:56:31,120
Speaker 1: them to learn it. Then eventually they're gonna If I don't,

935
00:56:31,560 --> 00:56:34,160
Speaker 1: somebody's gonna teach them that principle is gonna teach them

936
00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:39,440
Speaker 1: or something. So yeah, I would say preparing them for

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00:56:39,480 --> 00:56:42,040
Speaker 1: the world is a better avenue than protecting them. And

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't. First of all, dude, Eric, you got a

939
00:56:46,000 --> 00:56:49,480
Speaker 1: twenty month old. Soak that little boy up, Hug him,

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00:56:49,640 --> 00:56:52,080
Speaker 1: kiss him every chance I get, you get, squeeze him.

941
00:56:52,760 --> 00:56:55,480
Speaker 1: Don't worry about politics and him. Yeah, that's way down

942
00:56:55,560 --> 00:56:57,560
Speaker 1: the road. It's good that you're asking it, it's good

943
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Speaker 1: you're thinking about it, But that's down the road. We

944
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Speaker 1: can't control tomorrow. All we have is today, So soak

945
00:57:03,680 --> 00:57:06,160
Speaker 1: that little boy up. And when the time comes and

946
00:57:06,160 --> 00:57:08,480
Speaker 1: he's seven, eight, nine, ten years old and he's asking

947
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Speaker 1: questions about the TV. You'll be ready for it then

948
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Speaker 1: it's right. Griz could be president by then, and it's

949
00:57:13,520 --> 00:57:16,120
Speaker 1: all Everything's gonna be all good. There won't be any

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00:57:16,120 --> 00:57:23,200
Speaker 1: political happened. No, we're just gonna be on this podcast. Okay,

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00:57:23,360 --> 00:57:25,280
Speaker 1: I'd rather do that comment below if you want to

952
00:57:25,280 --> 00:57:27,400
Speaker 1: see more Bernie, if you want to say more Bernie

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Speaker 1: on the comments, because this dude he drops some drops

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Speaker 1: some wisdom on you guys. Appreciate y'all so much. Email

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Speaker 1: Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com and we'll get your

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00:57:37,720 --> 00:57:40,600
Speaker 1: questions answered. See it you, guys, Thanks for joining me

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