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Speaker 1: One or two point seven Swift FM. All right, that's

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Speaker 1: what we're calling it. It's Ryan Seacrestire. It's time for

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Speaker 1: Ryan's roses. This is interesting. Don't move it may it complicated.

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Speaker 1: Dana writes to us, Dear Ryan and Sisteny, my husband

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Speaker 1: and I are both bisexual, but with this strict rule,

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Speaker 1: he can play around with other guys, but no other women.

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Speaker 1: I think he's breaking the rule. Sounds messy, Dana Inscovina Dana,

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Speaker 1: good morning, Dan, and thanks for coming on.

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Speaker 2: Hey, oh my gosh, thank you for helping me out here.

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Speaker 1: Of course, so I'm trying to figure out what we

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Speaker 1: need to know here. You have made an agreement right

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Speaker 1: for other people to be involved with your partner, which is,

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Speaker 1: you know, potentially a slippery slope for a dangerous situation,

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Speaker 1: right because of what you now fear may be happening.

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Speaker 1: You're comfortable with him being with other.

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Speaker 2: Guys, yes, we're both by.

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Speaker 3: And you're uncomfortable with him being with.

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Speaker 2: Other women, yes, and vice versa.

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Speaker 1: So you have the same rules for you that he has,

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Speaker 1: and you're not breaking those rules.

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Speaker 3: No, have you ever?

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Speaker 2: I mean it's no, I mean no, it's just like

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Speaker 2: you know, that's been our rule pretty much since the beginning,

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Speaker 2: you know. And in fact it's funny because he was

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Speaker 2: a super jealous guy, you know when we first met

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Speaker 2: in you know, Bahini reflirty. Nothing happened, and but we

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Speaker 2: enforced that one rule. He can't mess around women, I

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Speaker 2: can't mess around with guys. But we have this really

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Speaker 2: great and like amazing mutual friend of ours. His name

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Speaker 2: is Mark. He's super gay, he's awesome. He took me

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Speaker 2: outside a couple you know whatever ago, a couple of

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Speaker 2: days ago, and he said he's pretty much sure that

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Speaker 2: my husband is hooking up with a woman, which breaks

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Speaker 2: our rules named Shannon, who they you know, all met

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Speaker 2: at a club one night, and Mark thought I should know,

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Speaker 2: and you know what Adam is up to. So, you know,

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Speaker 2: I just before I confront Adam, I just really want

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Speaker 2: to make sure, you know, so I want to see

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Speaker 2: who he sends the roses to.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, got it. I think we can do

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Speaker 1: this next.

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Speaker 3: Just hang on. I think we have all information. If

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Speaker 3: you can hang on for one second.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, I know it might be like you're probably

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Speaker 2: sounding as confused as my parents when I try to

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Speaker 2: explain our relationship but.

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Speaker 1: Anywhere, and I think you made it very clear to

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Speaker 1: us on Air with Ryan's Seacrest.

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Speaker 3: On Air with Ryan Seacrest.

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Speaker 1: Uh, Okay, we're into Ryan's roses, so I need to

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Speaker 1: give you some quick facts here so you can follow along.

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Speaker 1: Dana and her husband are bisexual. They have a strict rule.

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Speaker 1: He can be with other guys, she can be with

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Speaker 1: other women, but they can't cross. So she thinks that

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Speaker 1: her husband has been is breaking the rule, has been

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Speaker 1: with another woman named Shannon.

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Speaker 3: So that's where we are because you want.

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Speaker 4: Mark told her that.

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Speaker 1: Right, so she needs to know if he's broken the

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Speaker 1: rule in their arrangement.

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Speaker 3: Dana, thank you for holding on.

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Speaker 1: I need you to say, Ryan, you my permission to call,

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Speaker 1: and then your husband's name on Kiss FM.

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Speaker 2: Go ahead, Ryan, you have my permission to call.

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Speaker 3: Okay, standby, are going to do that.

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Speaker 1: Be very quiet until we find out from him who's

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Speaker 1: top of mind, who he sends the flowers to, and

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Speaker 1: then we will tell him he's on the air before

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Speaker 1: we say anything.

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Speaker 3: Okay, here we go and good luck.

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Speaker 2: Okay, thanks.

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Speaker 1: Hello, Hi is this Adam.

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Speaker 5: It is Hi.

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Speaker 4: My name is Amanda. I'm calling from West Covina. Florista.

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Speaker 4: We are actually a floral design company that delivers fresh

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Speaker 4: arrangements here locally and around LA and today we're offering

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Speaker 4: local residents a promotion of a free dozen red roses

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Speaker 4: that you can send to anybody that you'd like. I

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Speaker 4: don't need cash or billing information. They're absolutely free. You

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Speaker 4: can send them to anyone. Just need the name of

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Speaker 4: the person and we can write a note. Is that

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Speaker 4: something you'd be interested in?

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Speaker 5: Sorry, I won something.

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Speaker 4: It's a promotion that we do about once a month,

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Speaker 4: absolutely free. I'm just trying to promote my my new business.

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Speaker 4: And if you're pleased with our arrangements, we hope that

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Speaker 5: Okay, wow, I when something can't be a car or

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Speaker 5: a lottery, it's some some flowers.

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Speaker 4: Great, Yes, sir, we can start with a note. Is

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Speaker 4: there anybody you want to send them to?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? Sure, I'll take them. I herd name is a

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Speaker 5: Sham Sham short for Shannon, so.

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Speaker 4: S h a N or double N.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, you can Shan Shanner Shannon.

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Speaker 4: Either Okay, we would you like to put on the card?

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Speaker 5: Well, how about is it Saturday?

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Speaker 4: Is it Saturday?

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Speaker 1: A yet?

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Speaker 4: It's kind of cute.

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Adam, your voice is being broadcast on the radio

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Speaker 1: and I have your wife Dana on the line. Can

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Speaker 1: you talk about why you sent roses to Shannon right now?

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Speaker 3: Wait, I'm on the radio now, correct?

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Speaker 1: That is correct? Well, that's that's exactly what we're trying

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Speaker 1: to find out. Why are you on the radio and

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Speaker 1: Dana is wondering why you're sending there? So if you

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Speaker 1: explain that, we'll know why you're here. Why are you

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Speaker 1: sending roses to Shannon and not your wife? What you

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Speaker 1: need to tell your wife? You being transparent? Just be

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Speaker 1: open and honest with your wife. What do you need

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Speaker 1: to tell her?

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Speaker 5: Nothing? She's a friend of mine.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, well, Dana, why don't you tell your husband

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Speaker 1: what you know?

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Speaker 5: Right? Hello?

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Speaker 2: Hello, hi here?

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Speaker 5: What are you doing?

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Speaker 2: Can you just explain to me what's going on?

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Speaker 5: What? What are you What do you mean? What's going on?

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Speaker 5: What are you talking about?

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Speaker 2: Adam? Adam, just explain what's going on.

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Speaker 5: I knew it.

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Speaker 2: I knew it. I knew you were sleeping with Chan.

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Speaker 5: Knew it. You're trying to tesch me having an affair.

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Speaker 5: We have an open marriage. What are you what are

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Speaker 5: you talking about?

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Speaker 2: No, we don't.

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Speaker 3: We don't.

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Speaker 2: I mean like we do. But we have our rules,

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Speaker 2: Adam and and you are breaking the rules. And this

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Speaker 2: is cheating.

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Speaker 5: This is cheating. No, no, it's not a cheating No no,

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Speaker 5: it's not cheating any more than it was cheating when

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Speaker 5: you slept with Jeff.

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Speaker 2: So I never slept. Who slept with Jeff?

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Speaker 5: I told you, Adam, Yeah, I know you did. We

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Speaker 5: know you did. Your whole office knows you did. So. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Now I'm seeing chan.

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Speaker 1: I want a second. I want to follow along, Adam

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Speaker 1: and Dana. Adam, you're admitting to having an affair with Shannon.

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Speaker 5: No, no, yes you are.

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Speaker 2: You were, well, what's happening Saturday night?

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Speaker 5: Huh? Nothing happened.

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Speaker 1: And from one understand you, you broke a rule in

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Speaker 1: your relationship, in your marriage, and you were with Shannon.

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Speaker 1: Is that accurate? Can we say that's safe to say?

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Speaker 5: No? I don't. I don't think so, because she no

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Speaker 5: when when she hooked up the rules changed, so she can't.

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Speaker 3: Okay, but you did do it? If you did it,

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Speaker 3: you know, to respond to what she did. You did?

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Speaker 1: God it Okay, So let's put that aside. Now, Dana,

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Speaker 1: did you break the rule first?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we asked you if you did.

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Speaker 2: I never hooked up with Jeff. I never.

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Speaker 3: Think you did.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I mean, I just.

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I honestly, I have no idea. I never hooked out

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Speaker 2: with Jeff. And so you know, Adam's just trying to

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Speaker 2: throw this back in my face because.

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Speaker 1: I think, you know, I think it sounds like Adam's

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Speaker 1: with Shannon. Maybe you're with Jeff. Here's the problem from

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Speaker 1: my view, Once you've opened the door for other people,

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Speaker 1: this is a very possible outcome where we are not

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Speaker 1: the first time we've seen this here.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna let you guys go.

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Speaker 1: I think, Dana, to your question, I believe Adam did

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Speaker 1: do something with Shannon, and you should take it from

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Speaker 1: here based on what agreement you guys have. Thank you

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Speaker 1: very much for coming on and good luck getting the

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Speaker 1: bottom of it and finding peace.

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Speaker 3: There in that relationship.

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Speaker 1: But you open the door, and this is an outcome

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Speaker 1: that's comfortable