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Speaker 1: all of my guests are Anna, So let's again this

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Speaker 1: week's episode. Y'all. I am super excited to have my

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Speaker 1: guests on the show today as she will be sharing

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Speaker 1: her story on being an asset attacked survivor. So to

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Speaker 1: my guests, thank you so much for being a part

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Speaker 1: of the show. Thank you for having me. Of course

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Speaker 1: I was just a key king with her before the show,

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Speaker 1: telling her that it's been over two years that I

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Speaker 1: was in her deals, like, hey, come on shows your

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Speaker 1: story on the again. I just want to say, happy

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Speaker 1: birthday again. You hit of course, you had a mouth

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Speaker 1: stone and this thing called life. How do you feel?

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Speaker 1: I feel good? I feel good. You look good too.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. I'll come a long way, especially in healing,

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Speaker 1: so embracing forty and this birthday and hit a little

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Speaker 1: different for me. I was just making fun of her,

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Speaker 1: y'all because I was like, if she gonna make this

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Speaker 1: interview because she was last night. Yeah, yeah, party hit different?

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Speaker 1: Do you hit different? Yeah? It went for me. He

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Speaker 1: hit different, I guess because I'm in a different sphace.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm. My other birthdays since my attack hazard wasn't

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Speaker 1: like this this way. Do you think the attack and

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Speaker 1: make look at life differently? Yes? Absolutely, yes. It's one

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Speaker 1: of those uh you never don't think it won't happen

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Speaker 1: to you moments h and not coming home. You people

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Speaker 1: always say, you know, like like when you don't make

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Speaker 1: it hung and night coming when you thought you was

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Speaker 1: gonna make your own like those are one of the

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Speaker 1: biggest understatements because ever like cherish charing, you have to

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Speaker 1: really cherish your family, your kids, because you do not

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Speaker 1: know when you won't make it hung right at night.

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Speaker 1: I didn't make it home to my kids money bar

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Speaker 1: baby that night. M hmmm, I'm glad. I'm bad. Thank

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Speaker 1: But that night, the plan was to go home and

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Speaker 1: finished cooking Thanksgiving dinner. I didn't make it right. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Have you noticed that there has been an increase in

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Speaker 1: asset attacks in the US. Yeah, I have noticed. At first,

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Speaker 1: If it's not an asset, because acid attack is um

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Speaker 1: like being set on fire or something like that. Yeahalized

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Speaker 1: with acid. Yeah mm hmm. Do you think ascid you

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Speaker 1: made illegal because it feels I feel like it's it

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Speaker 1: seems so easy to get. Well, it is easy to

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Speaker 1: How did they get that? Well, it comes in different forms,

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Speaker 1: like brought this on myself, right, and then that is

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Speaker 1: throughout this situation because even imagine like your yeah, like

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Speaker 1: I know they want to put hands on her. Yeah. No, No,

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Speaker 1: it's not even my family is It's Chicago. It's people period,

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Speaker 1: because you're well known. Well now now I am. But

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Speaker 1: I just need some work, I need help getting there.

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Speaker 1: But once the case is all, why our plan to

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Speaker 1: It's the thing about it is people take manags in

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Speaker 1: it into their own hands, and I can't protect you

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Speaker 1: Anything outside today has nothing to do with me, right right,

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Speaker 1: And that just speaks to speaks more about your character.

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Speaker 1: I feel like when I first met you through Instagram

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Speaker 1: over the years since I've been trying to get in

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Speaker 1: I think I've definitely they come here out their prayers.

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Speaker 1: to give me a corny and transplant and things like that,

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00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:48,239
Speaker 1: absolutely not. I don't know. So I declined a lot

426
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 1: of surgeonies, underclined surgeries, like for my nose and stuff

427
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 1: like that. I declined on surgeries because it's just too much,

428
00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:59,760
Speaker 1: right and thank god you can look at your piece

429
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 1: of my time. Yeah yeah, yeah. How did the attack

430
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 1: affect your journey with motherhood when it came to your son?

431
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:16,400
Speaker 1: Who it was? It's hard? It was that. It was

432
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:18,840
Speaker 1: harder when he was a new born, because I was

433
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:25,440
Speaker 1: I was depressed. I had severe depression, severe I had,

434
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 1: I was had. I was that those with severe depressions,

435
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 1: severe anxiety, severe PTSD um um, and I was sad,

436
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:49,479
Speaker 1: so I couldn't. I was sad, I was heart broken.

437
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:53,280
Speaker 1: Everything was just happening at one time. It was a lot.

438
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 1: It was a lot um. I couldn't nurseure him mm

439
00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:02,640
Speaker 1: hmmm because I was breastfeeding and when I was in

440
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:04,520
Speaker 1: the hospital thought I was behind the breastfeed them and

441
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:07,040
Speaker 1: they told me I could a brest feed them anymore. Mhmm.

442
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 1: Because I was so doped up with so much medicine

443
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 1: and dragged my milk mm hmm. And uh, it was

444
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 1: hard for me to nurse him. It was hard for

445
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 1: me to uh have a bun and or in the beginning.

446
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:28,040
Speaker 1: It was hard because in my man, she did this

447
00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:32,960
Speaker 1: because I had a baby, right, so a little piece

448
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 1: of me reasoning my baby. I was just about to

449
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 1: ask you, did you resent your baby? Yeah? M hmm.

450
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:41,680
Speaker 1: I was just there. I was just taken care of him.

451
00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:45,080
Speaker 1: So it was like I wasn't even bind it with him, right,

452
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:50,800
Speaker 1: But I had to get away from him to burn

453
00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:55,520
Speaker 1: really really create a bun with my my friend because

454
00:32:55,760 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 1: something maybe he saved me that love that I needed him.

455
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 1: I needed his love. It was an unconditional love that

456
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 1: I had never felt before. And he's so adorable, y'all.

457
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 1: Oh my god. It was an intraditional love that I

458
00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:18,800
Speaker 1: had never felt before with him. And uh, once I

459
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:22,400
Speaker 1: snapped out of that stage, Um, I wasn't in it

460
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 1: for a long time. But once I did snap out

461
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 1: of it, I bought all of it into him and

462
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 1: my daughter. My daughter was a strong month. She was strong.

463
00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 1: Of course, he didn't know what was going on, mhm,

464
00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 1: but she was a strong one. But he did my baby.

465
00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 1: He didn't want nobody believe mm hmm. It'd be I

466
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 1: had the promount of surgery and he had been crying

467
00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 1: and he would warn me and I was just probably

468
00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 1: and uh, I would have to be hopping on one

469
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:08,840
Speaker 1: leg one he was getting heavy because I couldn't carry

470
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:13,960
Speaker 1: him on my right sad. He's trying to touch my

471
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:18,879
Speaker 1: face and he couldn't because it was hurt and certain things.

472
00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:24,480
Speaker 1: And to this day, you cannot sweep without touching mm hmm.

473
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:30,480
Speaker 1: He cannot, like he has to touch me. So I

474
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 1: have so many videos and pictures of this boy, just

475
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:36,239
Speaker 1: like sitting on the couch and he's just like you'll

476
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 1: see him like you will see it here. But it

477
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:50,320
Speaker 1: was it was just challenging motherhood. And you know, my

478
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:55,920
Speaker 1: daughter seeing me in this space mm hmm, seeing me

479
00:34:56,080 --> 00:35:01,279
Speaker 1: go through that. He my son doesn't understand, but my

480
00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 1: daughter does. So she had to see that because I

481
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:06,760
Speaker 1: last for I told that I was in the bancharis

482
00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:12,919
Speaker 1: of mm hmmm. Did she believe at first? She did?

483
00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 1: Mm hmm until she found that the truth. How did

484
00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:24,480
Speaker 1: she feel? She said, she hate her and I am

485
00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:31,840
Speaker 1: teaching her to hate right m hmm. She's just like,

486
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 1: why do they treat you? Why did they treat you

487
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 1: like that? Why did why did she do this? Right?

488
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 1: Maybe we don't know, m I don't know. We don't

489
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:46,560
Speaker 1: know why. Hm, you know how I just realized. Do

490
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 1: you think that this is going to affect the relationship

491
00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:53,839
Speaker 1: between your child? Your son and her child, they don't

492
00:35:53,880 --> 00:36:03,720
Speaker 1: know each other. Mm hmm. Her child is okay, okay,

493
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:11,000
Speaker 1: but um, they don't know each other right now. Of

494
00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:14,680
Speaker 1: course he knows that he has a brother, a little brother,

495
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:18,120
Speaker 1: whatever the case may be. But because of the situation,

496
00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 1: is just not a good place of this space. UM.

497
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 1: I think he visually, in due time they really meet

498
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 1: the probably have a relationship with each other. I hope

499
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:32,719
Speaker 1: they are strong enough too have a relationship with each other.

500
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:37,240
Speaker 1: I have nothing to guess child. He didn't do anything

501
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 1: to me. Um. I do teach my son that he

502
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 1: does have a brother. Um, and that's pretty much something

503
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 1: that his father has to do. It's something I can't

504
00:36:53,200 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 1: I can't fix it, but I do pray. I pray

505
00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 1: for him all the time. I always prayed that her

506
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 1: son doesn't catch her cormy. Yeah, it seems like I

507
00:37:10,880 --> 00:37:19,799
Speaker 1: said my journal, like foor blown prayers. So um, one

508
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:25,359
Speaker 1: day they get together. I hope they did. Yeah. Talking

509
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 1: about your role to Helen, what did that look like?

510
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:39,399
Speaker 1: It was hard? Hard, real hard? Um, it was rod

511
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:47,320
Speaker 1: be heartbroke, being heartbroken like my relationship did our words

512
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 1: and then and then this happened to me, Like it

513
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:55,239
Speaker 1: was heartbreaking then because like why do you have to

514
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:58,319
Speaker 1: go so fine? That's the way for what you did,

515
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:01,880
Speaker 1: Like you had no reason to do this, like we

516
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 1: was like right with your life for you know what

517
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:07,560
Speaker 1: I'm saying it fear for your life, like you have

518
00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:13,120
Speaker 1: no reason to do this, but it's um, you know,

519
00:38:13,719 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 1: like I'll tell you people, I was saying, she needs

520
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:20,399
Speaker 1: more fred of me. Mm hmm, she need more friend

521
00:38:20,520 --> 00:38:24,040
Speaker 1: me because I meant to state as it wasn't where

522
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:29,040
Speaker 1: it should have been for her to do something like this, right,

523
00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:38,920
Speaker 1: so um my animals, it was all right. I was

524
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 1: going to like two psychiatries, but it was making me

525
00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:46,839
Speaker 1: feel crazy. Mm hmm. It was making me feel crazy

526
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 1: and it wasn't helping. But it wasn't helping because it

527
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 1: was just so much. I stopped going and then I

528
00:38:54,440 --> 00:39:00,319
Speaker 1: end up being a life coach. Mm hmmm. I got

529
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 1: one in February. I started seeing her and that's when

530
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 1: the real healer started. M hmm. That's why you're able

531
00:39:08,280 --> 00:39:13,400
Speaker 1: to see me like, yeah, I got a life folks,

532
00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:19,960
Speaker 1: mm hmm. That's dope though. Yeah, and I still go.

533
00:39:20,719 --> 00:39:28,440
Speaker 1: I still see her every kids. Mhm. She forced me

534
00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:32,279
Speaker 1: to journey because I do not like write it me either,

535
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:36,239
Speaker 1: like how to write a book? And I'm writing my

536
00:39:36,360 --> 00:39:39,800
Speaker 1: journey because I got a memory, like why do I

537
00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 1: have to write? But um, yeah, I had to do

538
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:51,040
Speaker 1: a lot of forgiving on myself. Yeah, I'm just about

539
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:55,800
Speaker 1: to ask you that that you forgive yourself. Yeah. I

540
00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 1: had to do a lot of forgiving for myself and

541
00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 1: that's a lot of change. Jim. Hm, Well, my relationship

542
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:09,200
Speaker 1: with God and everything? How did this? How did this

543
00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: shrenthen your relationship with God? And see else? I don't

544
00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:18,960
Speaker 1: turn too all right, I ad nobody else turned to.

545
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 1: The only person that could have got me through this

546
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 1: was God. Because I think that I didn't have suicidal thoughts.

547
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:33,680
Speaker 1: I didn't have suicidal thoughts. If I had this had

548
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 1: happened to me and I didn't have my son, I

549
00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:38,640
Speaker 1: probably would have had. So it's like thought, but then

550
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 1: my man, I would have thought my daughter would have

551
00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 1: been okay mm hmm um. But I didn't have suicidal thoughts,

552
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:52,800
Speaker 1: but I did as that just take me because in

553
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 1: my mans s side of the scenes, right, So I

554
00:40:58,680 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 1: couldn't do it. But if God did it right, that's

555
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:10,200
Speaker 1: what I tricked my man and things, so I would

556
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:17,920
Speaker 1: really be like, I can't do this. I can't, I

557
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:24,320
Speaker 1: can't do this. I had a mess of workdown and

558
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:29,480
Speaker 1: that was like the point of peach yourself together. Mm hmm.

559
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:37,880
Speaker 1: It was. It was like, get yourself together because I

560
00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:46,360
Speaker 1: ain't read this y just to be said or you know,

561
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:49,160
Speaker 1: you're gonna get through this. So there was a lot

562
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:52,120
Speaker 1: of prayer, a lot of her a lot of prayer,

563
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 1: a lot of crying, a lot to give her myself

564
00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:59,040
Speaker 1: hold because at first it was I was a linctalm.

565
00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 1: I was a victim and they were the blame m

566
00:42:06,560 --> 00:42:08,440
Speaker 1: And I think that was one of the main reasons

567
00:42:08,560 --> 00:42:18,239
Speaker 1: that's why my relationship was um coming to end, because oh,

568
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:26,760
Speaker 1: this is your fault, this is your fault. But praying

569
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:30,280
Speaker 1: and getting closer to guy, you you start to hear

570
00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:34,760
Speaker 1: God like, yeah, I remember that him when it happened,

571
00:42:34,800 --> 00:42:38,239
Speaker 1: that was me. I was trying to worry like that's

572
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:43,080
Speaker 1: a fact. Yeah, So you started thinking about that. I

573
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:46,560
Speaker 1: started thinking about those twos, you know, And the more

574
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:52,200
Speaker 1: I healed, the more by hold on myself accountable. Mm hmm.

575
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:55,560
Speaker 1: Like it ain't my fault though, don't get me wrong,

576
00:42:57,560 --> 00:43:00,239
Speaker 1: but a lot of it could approved me then if

577
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:04,800
Speaker 1: I brother just walked away. Mm hmm. That's a fact.

578
00:43:05,320 --> 00:43:06,839
Speaker 1: I think about a lot of the ships that I've

579
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 1: been through and I was like, I used to be like, damn,

580
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 1: like why me? Why me? Why me? But then when

581
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:13,399
Speaker 1: I look back on certain things, I'm like, Yo, God

582
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 1: was with me the whole time. I'm just not realizing that. Yeah,

583
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:22,719
Speaker 1: some of things that happened. And this is how I

584
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 1: know I was getting called I am getting closer to God.

585
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:29,359
Speaker 1: Guy that was close of guy because I start realized Mine,

586
00:43:29,600 --> 00:43:32,279
Speaker 1: this I am going to do with this. M. I

587
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:36,960
Speaker 1: literally got caught in somebody else stores. But I literally

588
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:42,279
Speaker 1: was caught in y'all start you was in a bad space, Yeah,

589
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:45,279
Speaker 1: take it out of somebody. So I was the one

590
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 1: mm hmm. I was the one fact. It was nothing

591
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 1: that I I did to deserve this. I was just

592
00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:59,920
Speaker 1: caught in. I was at the wrong place. Well, I've

593
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:03,879
Speaker 1: had the right place because I had to go through

594
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:07,920
Speaker 1: this to be be prom it today. M. I never

595
00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:11,799
Speaker 1: loved myself as much as I do now. Mm hmmm. Hell,

596
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 1: I was not aself that stuff that I was going

597
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:20,920
Speaker 1: through now, when I've been went through with him, I

598
00:44:20,960 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 1: would not accept that now, like if you don't right right, No,

599
00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:32,880
Speaker 1: So I had to go through this to allow myself,

600
00:44:33,640 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 1: to allow myself and to know that God loves you.

601
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Then I feel like you were reborn and

602
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:46,040
Speaker 1: if so, did you have to rediscover yourself reborn? I

603
00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:49,960
Speaker 1: don't know about reborn, but I definitely felt like I

604
00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 1: had to civy this out all over again. Like I'm

605
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 1: still trying to figure out, like how to you know,

606
00:44:57,480 --> 00:45:04,560
Speaker 1: just be normal. Like I was surprised that I have

607
00:45:04,719 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 1: so much fun like yesterday because I have social anxiety

608
00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:16,440
Speaker 1: so bad to make sure she's gonna come to the

609
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:20,880
Speaker 1: show because she was lit. Yeah, so it was just

610
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:25,520
Speaker 1: just like I have social anxiety real bad the way

611
00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 1: I used to. I don't go places so what like

612
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 1: how I used to. I'm not a social butterfly like

613
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 1: I used to be. I'm not as freely as I

614
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: used to be. Um, so I said a lot of boundaries.

615
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:43,719
Speaker 1: I just don't do the stuff that I used to

616
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:47,880
Speaker 1: paranoid when I go out that door mm hmm. Because

617
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 1: this happened to meeting a reason. So who's saying what

618
00:45:54,040 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 1: I happened to be? Like the world just crazy by

619
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:01,960
Speaker 1: I did not know I would hate it that much?

620
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 1: Like what does I do? The eally hate me like that? Right?

621
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:13,480
Speaker 1: You have to hate me? Mm hmm. And I had

622
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:17,680
Speaker 1: never felt hated so much in my life? Right, why

623
00:46:18,080 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 1: why did you hate me like this? So we getting

624
00:46:27,080 --> 00:46:31,919
Speaker 1: back out here stuff and it's challenging. It's challenging because

625
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:35,680
Speaker 1: I'm really like just the hongle body. Dating is hard,

626
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 1: I can I can't even imagine. That was my next question. Yeah,

627
00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 1: dating is hard. It's hard. It was, you know it was.

628
00:46:48,760 --> 00:46:53,200
Speaker 1: It's hard to pick out who's who's uh really genuine

629
00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:58,320
Speaker 1: and who's not. You know, um, people want to just

630
00:46:58,400 --> 00:47:00,120
Speaker 1: get in and be as million story that they you

631
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:02,680
Speaker 1: got money thinking. People want to live in this light

632
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:06,880
Speaker 1: and like like I don't care about all these muse

633
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:10,320
Speaker 1: I get like I got a message like girl, you

634
00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 1: had twenty two point four million years, I know how

635
00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 1: you feel. I don't feel like nothing, right Like you know,

636
00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:25,919
Speaker 1: to some people, the lights and the views gets them

637
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 1: and it boosts them and don't boost me like I had.

638
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:35,440
Speaker 1: I really had a hard time posting my pictures. Yesterday

639
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:38,239
Speaker 1: for my birthday, I took a photos through purposely to

640
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:42,920
Speaker 1: post the pictures in the shot the world. But I

641
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:45,239
Speaker 1: had a hard time to find the courage to do

642
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:47,719
Speaker 1: that because for I did not want all the attentions

643
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:51,319
Speaker 1: mm hmm. I didn't want all attention that I knew

644
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:54,319
Speaker 1: I would be and trust me. So it's a lot

645
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 1: of messages in my embosses that you know, it's just

646
00:47:59,200 --> 00:48:03,279
Speaker 1: I don't want a type of attention mm hmm. But

647
00:48:03,760 --> 00:48:07,400
Speaker 1: this is my wife, man, this is my life, and

648
00:48:07,480 --> 00:48:11,279
Speaker 1: I have to women and me and look at me

649
00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:14,160
Speaker 1: like this is this is a strong girl. M h

650
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:18,840
Speaker 1: how she doing? Well? It's my job, man, that's what

651
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 1: I got to keep showing the world. This is how

652
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:28,399
Speaker 1: I do it. Like I'm like a mentor to people

653
00:48:28,480 --> 00:48:33,560
Speaker 1: I don't even know, because a lot of people who

654
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 1: are disfeated in the face and stuff like they're like

655
00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:41,800
Speaker 1: they don't know how to accept it. And that was

656
00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:45,000
Speaker 1: my that was my big issue with the SADOND, especially

657
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:46,799
Speaker 1: in the data world. It was like, well, you're gonna

658
00:48:46,800 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 1: have to accept everything that comes with me and out

659
00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:52,040
Speaker 1: of this. But I hand the sector and myself right,

660
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:54,680
Speaker 1: I want you to unscept it, but I ain't under sector.

661
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:58,120
Speaker 1: I want to show accepting for me, so I had

662
00:48:58,160 --> 00:49:01,160
Speaker 1: to start as septing in myself. So like now when

663
00:49:01,200 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 1: it curves for David, I'm a little more at ease

664
00:49:05,040 --> 00:49:08,160
Speaker 1: because this is me. At first, it's like, why you

665
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:09,719
Speaker 1: don't want to take me? How you know she being

666
00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:11,879
Speaker 1: with me in public or you know what I'm saying.

667
00:49:11,960 --> 00:49:16,120
Speaker 1: But now he's just like, I just let it slow, naturally,

668
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:22,439
Speaker 1: I said, boundaries. Everything was a real flaction. That's that's

669
00:49:22,840 --> 00:49:25,960
Speaker 1: that's the hard part. Everything is a red faxtion. Nope,

670
00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:36,120
Speaker 1: well that say no y'all they do mm hmmm. And

671
00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:38,560
Speaker 1: I know niggas being your dmcause you still look good.

672
00:49:39,040 --> 00:49:43,000
Speaker 1: I keep telling you, like she looks good like her pictures.

673
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:47,360
Speaker 1: I mean, you look like I always say about my

674
00:49:47,600 --> 00:49:50,200
Speaker 1: guests that you know, superheroes don't always wear capes. And

675
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:52,840
Speaker 1: I really do think that it's important for you to

676
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:55,480
Speaker 1: share your story because a lot of women and men

677
00:49:55,719 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 1: can relate to it. And you still pretty like I

678
00:49:59,040 --> 00:50:06,480
Speaker 1: still the same person, thank you. It's just um like, yeah,

679
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:13,920
Speaker 1: my NaN's checked, but her body still looked good, y'all.

680
00:50:14,480 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 1: She posted I gain weight. No, you still look good,

681
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:21,480
Speaker 1: especially after giving birth and thank you. But the thing

682
00:50:21,560 --> 00:50:24,719
Speaker 1: about it this is for two years, two and a

683
00:50:24,800 --> 00:50:30,000
Speaker 1: half years, because I gave weight, I gain started getting

684
00:50:30,040 --> 00:50:33,400
Speaker 1: weight to in the last year. So I was like,

685
00:50:33,440 --> 00:50:36,840
Speaker 1: I don't need to think the bears. I was like

686
00:50:37,640 --> 00:50:39,279
Speaker 1: the pounds. And once I got my life coach, I

687
00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:41,279
Speaker 1: started game in weight, so I was like, I'm meant

688
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 1: two hundred pounds now mm hmm. And I was just

689
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:50,360
Speaker 1: like man as so it's a big what's going on?

690
00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:56,520
Speaker 1: But I realized, like it's peace. It is. It's a

691
00:50:56,600 --> 00:51:01,640
Speaker 1: different piece that allowed me to feel myself back out

692
00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 1: because I was so skinny, so little. He was stressed

693
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:12,600
Speaker 1: and depressed and depressed, yes, yeah, because I lost everything.

694
00:51:13,280 --> 00:51:19,080
Speaker 1: I lost everything. Everything was it was hard. I lost

695
00:51:19,280 --> 00:51:23,600
Speaker 1: everything and then COVID has really can work. I was

696
00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:27,640
Speaker 1: broken as hell and not saying like the Brokens that

697
00:51:27,760 --> 00:51:33,000
Speaker 1: I had ever been in my life. I lost everything. Oh,

698
00:51:34,320 --> 00:51:41,320
Speaker 1: it was just it was roight mm hmm. Yeah. The

699
00:51:41,440 --> 00:51:45,239
Speaker 1: suspect was arrested off February eighteen for activated battery with

700
00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:49,120
Speaker 1: great bodily harm and was put under house arrest. At

701
00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:58,239
Speaker 1: this point, when an apology even matter to you, mm hmm, No,

702
00:51:58,480 --> 00:52:03,399
Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna do right, I ain't don't give

703
00:52:04,320 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 1: um just the remorsetion me right, you ain't remorseful? Like

704
00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:14,839
Speaker 1: do you not know what you get yourself? Is? I'm

705
00:52:14,920 --> 00:52:19,360
Speaker 1: afraid for you. I'm afraid for you. Well you know,

706
00:52:19,520 --> 00:52:25,600
Speaker 1: jail will humble people being in the house on comment

707
00:52:25,680 --> 00:52:33,719
Speaker 1: humble me so right, So like I'm afraid for you,

708
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:40,279
Speaker 1: like you ain't scared? Yeah, you ain't sorry, you ain't remorseful.

709
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:42,879
Speaker 1: Remorse off is the heart, you know what I'm saying.

710
00:52:43,200 --> 00:52:47,479
Speaker 1: And I I am a forgiving person. I am self forget.

711
00:52:47,640 --> 00:52:51,360
Speaker 1: I'm too forgetting. And I asked, God, why did you

712
00:52:51,480 --> 00:52:53,520
Speaker 1: make me like this? I don't I don't want to

713
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:58,600
Speaker 1: to be like this? Right, but if she was remorseful

714
00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:01,880
Speaker 1: for the in this process would be so much easier.

715
00:53:03,840 --> 00:53:06,040
Speaker 1: It would be so much easier, and we probably wouldn't

716
00:53:06,040 --> 00:53:14,960
Speaker 1: even beat this fly where we are in the court process. Yo, shoot,

717
00:53:15,000 --> 00:53:17,560
Speaker 1: I'm scared for like girl, you don't even know what

718
00:53:17,640 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 1: you just really you mostly know nobody here really was

719
00:53:23,320 --> 00:53:26,040
Speaker 1: a jail. That's some stuff. I know people who really

720
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:29,400
Speaker 1: was to jail pull some stuff and then they know

721
00:53:29,480 --> 00:53:32,120
Speaker 1: where to be. You know what I'm saying, Like you

722
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:34,959
Speaker 1: don't wish nothing like that or nobody. Sure you also

723
00:53:35,000 --> 00:53:37,319
Speaker 1: don't don't know not I'm gonna ask to nobody either,

724
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:44,720
Speaker 1: but you know, be hey people, my world is totally different.

725
00:53:45,560 --> 00:53:52,839
Speaker 1: M hm. Is this is her going away? Well, hume

726
00:53:53,080 --> 00:53:56,799
Speaker 1: her or whatever? You know. I just prayed she here

727
00:53:56,920 --> 00:54:00,120
Speaker 1: calls to the guy to get herself to help and

728
00:54:00,440 --> 00:54:05,600
Speaker 1: found howsome. Mm hmmm. I want you for real because

729
00:54:05,640 --> 00:54:09,160
Speaker 1: she she she knows herself right now, only you know

730
00:54:09,360 --> 00:54:11,400
Speaker 1: she's ever been allowed to be herself. I don't know

731
00:54:11,480 --> 00:54:13,719
Speaker 1: what she's been through, but she had to been going

732
00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 1: through something because she was hurt to the point where

733
00:54:16,120 --> 00:54:22,120
Speaker 1: she hurt meeks right, m hmm. You know. Then that's

734
00:54:22,200 --> 00:54:26,040
Speaker 1: my press for my parents want her to get us

735
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:30,640
Speaker 1: out together and get her man right. Facts. They forgot

736
00:54:30,719 --> 00:54:37,440
Speaker 1: to humble her. They realized he just hurt me. Mm hmm.

737
00:54:37,920 --> 00:54:47,440
Speaker 1: She hurt everybody, her family, my family, her parents, my parents,

738
00:54:48,160 --> 00:54:55,439
Speaker 1: her siblings, my siblings, our families. Right, we all hurt.

739
00:54:56,440 --> 00:54:59,120
Speaker 1: We all heard because some speaky ships she did because

740
00:54:59,120 --> 00:55:04,120
Speaker 1: you're stupid. Yeah, so my biggest friend for us to

741
00:55:04,160 --> 00:55:06,040
Speaker 1: get house as to god, don't get how man right?

742
00:55:08,400 --> 00:55:11,879
Speaker 1: Getting man right? So she could realize the position she put.

743
00:55:12,480 --> 00:55:15,200
Speaker 1: Let's see, and the sad thing about it is people

744
00:55:15,280 --> 00:55:19,280
Speaker 1: don't realize something so quick as in a five second

745
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:21,879
Speaker 1: throwing and drink or somebody would cast you a lifetime

746
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:27,279
Speaker 1: mm hmm. I would never think to do nothing like that.

747
00:55:27,400 --> 00:55:34,320
Speaker 1: I really like, what's he like? Right? Like boxing Alison

748
00:55:34,440 --> 00:55:37,640
Speaker 1: is just that bad. It wasn't even that bad to

749
00:55:37,760 --> 00:55:46,640
Speaker 1: me because like you had for me, but no appearance

750
00:55:46,760 --> 00:55:51,200
Speaker 1: over a mayor, That's what it was, because he loved

751
00:55:51,239 --> 00:55:58,680
Speaker 1: me publicly, right, he was doing things that he was

752
00:55:59,080 --> 00:56:01,120
Speaker 1: He was in the space that he probably wasn't never in,

753
00:56:01,960 --> 00:56:07,759
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, And people hate to see

754
00:56:07,800 --> 00:56:09,839
Speaker 1: you when you're in a good space over somebody else

755
00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:15,560
Speaker 1: makes you have facts. People hate that so like it

756
00:56:15,640 --> 00:56:19,160
Speaker 1: ain't even that serious and looks let this mage right,

757
00:56:20,160 --> 00:56:30,000
Speaker 1: yeah right, it's just a lesson. You got to really

758
00:56:30,120 --> 00:56:32,480
Speaker 1: learn the harghway, like you got to really leave your

759
00:56:32,560 --> 00:56:37,800
Speaker 1: family and your kids. Mm hmm. That's so stupid story.

760
00:56:39,680 --> 00:56:44,320
Speaker 1: It's an even worth there. I'm pretty sure she like

761
00:56:45,840 --> 00:56:47,800
Speaker 1: in due time, I would love to have a conversation

762
00:56:47,840 --> 00:56:51,680
Speaker 1: with her, like as a woman's a woman? Yeah woman

763
00:56:51,800 --> 00:56:55,920
Speaker 1: or me m h and go saying I would love

764
00:56:55,960 --> 00:57:01,880
Speaker 1: to have a conversation, but I wanna have to do

765
00:57:02,000 --> 00:57:05,279
Speaker 1: his life on that. So even dello at that much

766
00:57:05,440 --> 00:57:13,480
Speaker 1: control like that, Yeah, it's gonna say it's gonna take

767
00:57:14,000 --> 00:57:16,600
Speaker 1: a week or a month in jail. Ain't gonna say too,

768
00:57:18,720 --> 00:57:25,320
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to lose everything. Yeah, that's heartbreaking. Yeah,

769
00:57:26,320 --> 00:57:29,760
Speaker 1: what are some of the go ahead? No obviously saying

770
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:33,959
Speaker 1: it's heartbreaking that she you just gotta go through this. Yeah,

771
00:57:35,160 --> 00:57:38,880
Speaker 1: you're going going away. It's heartbreaking. Man, I'll be heartbreaking

772
00:57:39,000 --> 00:57:43,080
Speaker 1: for me, but it's heartbreaking and play. You know. People's

773
00:57:43,680 --> 00:57:46,600
Speaker 1: right you ain't. I'm not the only way you work.

774
00:57:48,160 --> 00:57:51,360
Speaker 1: Doctor's getting back at me, and you really mussed up

775
00:57:51,480 --> 00:57:58,720
Speaker 1: some real good relationships. Yeah. So what are some of

776
00:57:58,760 --> 00:58:01,520
Speaker 1: the conversations you would have your children when they get

777
00:58:01,600 --> 00:58:04,160
Speaker 1: older about dating and just being in situations like this,

778
00:58:04,240 --> 00:58:07,800
Speaker 1: Because I just feel like, especially when you're an attractive woman,

779
00:58:08,200 --> 00:58:10,040
Speaker 1: this is something that we all have to go through,

780
00:58:10,800 --> 00:58:12,800
Speaker 1: some a little bit more severe than others. What would

781
00:58:12,800 --> 00:58:17,080
Speaker 1: you tell your daughter and son? Like my daughter, Um,

782
00:58:17,640 --> 00:58:21,600
Speaker 1: you know, I think it's crazy because I feel like

783
00:58:21,640 --> 00:58:23,640
Speaker 1: I'm might even gonna have to tell her this because

784
00:58:23,680 --> 00:58:29,200
Speaker 1: she she knows, like the last and you know what

785
00:58:29,280 --> 00:58:32,240
Speaker 1: I'm saying, just rare flags. I know it's gonna be

786
00:58:32,240 --> 00:58:34,280
Speaker 1: a time where he's gonna fall in love and he's

787
00:58:34,280 --> 00:58:38,400
Speaker 1: gonna be their own person and do that. But right

788
00:58:39,240 --> 00:58:41,720
Speaker 1: as far as situations where it's just too many rare

789
00:58:41,800 --> 00:58:44,000
Speaker 1: flags and there's too many problems, maybe you gotta walk

790
00:58:44,040 --> 00:58:49,720
Speaker 1: away from there because I'm ther biggest example. I can't

791
00:58:49,840 --> 00:58:52,560
Speaker 1: love you because you almost lost to me. M h

792
00:58:52,960 --> 00:58:54,880
Speaker 1: I can't lose you to no nonsense. So we're walking

793
00:58:54,920 --> 00:59:00,640
Speaker 1: away from mine six mm hmm, we walk away nn sense.

794
00:59:02,240 --> 00:59:04,920
Speaker 1: I gotta tell her all the time. She she always

795
00:59:04,960 --> 00:59:07,320
Speaker 1: got a story like when she get out of school, girl, Mama,

796
00:59:07,400 --> 00:59:10,800
Speaker 1: little girl, and see i'd be like that, a low

797
00:59:10,920 --> 00:59:14,280
Speaker 1: vibration them girls they love, you know. I have to

798
00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:19,439
Speaker 1: talk in her slave. So it's just like I think

799
00:59:19,480 --> 00:59:24,840
Speaker 1: she's gonna get it. As far as my foot, I

800
00:59:25,000 --> 00:59:27,720
Speaker 1: really want to raise him to be an honest young man.

801
00:59:28,400 --> 00:59:30,640
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. It's me and out here now, I really

802
00:59:30,720 --> 00:59:35,760
Speaker 1: honest woman. And it's the women that take it through way. Yeah,

803
00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:41,200
Speaker 1: So I be honest, honest young man. You know what

804
00:59:41,280 --> 00:59:44,000
Speaker 1: I'm saying. He knows how to He's gonna know how

805
00:59:44,040 --> 00:59:46,600
Speaker 1: to love a woman because he got me mm hmmm.

806
00:59:47,400 --> 00:59:52,800
Speaker 1: I'm overly affectionately when my kids overly affectionate. So he's

807
00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:55,120
Speaker 1: gonna know how to love a woman. I just hope

808
00:59:55,200 --> 00:59:57,440
Speaker 1: he just don't have you know, something is just in

809
00:59:57,560 --> 01:00:01,240
Speaker 1: your dna mm hmm. And because my son is like

810
01:00:01,480 --> 01:00:04,600
Speaker 1: spitting in New Trump's problem because I didn't look like

811
01:00:04,680 --> 01:00:10,760
Speaker 1: I just carry them. Right, here's your baby, right. Um.

812
01:00:11,360 --> 01:00:15,240
Speaker 1: I pray that he does not be like you know,

813
01:00:17,440 --> 01:00:22,760
Speaker 1: but like as my son father told me, like, nah,

814
01:00:24,080 --> 01:00:27,240
Speaker 1: stink gonna be raised, right, we call him stink. I

815
01:00:27,400 --> 01:00:31,240
Speaker 1: called both of my kids stink, but he we call

816
01:00:31,400 --> 01:00:35,560
Speaker 1: him stink. He was like, yeah, he's gonna be raised, right.

817
01:00:35,560 --> 01:00:39,240
Speaker 1: I said, well you gotta raising. You have the raising.

818
01:00:40,840 --> 01:00:46,720
Speaker 1: You have to raise your son. Mm hmm. So um,

819
01:00:50,120 --> 01:00:52,760
Speaker 1: I just pray my sol. Don't you know what I'm

820
01:00:52,760 --> 01:00:57,960
Speaker 1: saying in English? I know he won't because I'm stronger

821
01:00:58,000 --> 01:01:00,840
Speaker 1: than that. I don't play that he would be a

822
01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:06,080
Speaker 1: bring honest guy and me and need to be honest women,

823
01:01:07,040 --> 01:01:10,360
Speaker 1: be more honest. Give us an option. Had he been

824
01:01:10,480 --> 01:01:14,920
Speaker 1: a little more honest with me, a lot of things

825
01:01:14,960 --> 01:01:18,720
Speaker 1: would have been prevented, right, A lot of things would

826
01:01:18,720 --> 01:01:21,240
Speaker 1: be prevented and me have to stop lying to women

827
01:01:21,280 --> 01:01:27,400
Speaker 1: and playing both sides facts and about side, like you know,

828
01:01:30,000 --> 01:01:32,720
Speaker 1: I want to do something for me, like I speak

829
01:01:32,800 --> 01:01:34,320
Speaker 1: to women, but it's to me and we need to

830
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:36,880
Speaker 1: be so spopusing because they don't hear from my female

831
01:01:36,960 --> 01:01:40,800
Speaker 1: who understand like being honest with me. Give me the option,

832
01:01:41,160 --> 01:01:46,320
Speaker 1: you know, that's the best thing that you could do,

833
01:01:46,840 --> 01:01:49,280
Speaker 1: because if you told me this and this is what

834
01:01:49,440 --> 01:01:51,640
Speaker 1: it is and I deal with it, whatever happened after

835
01:01:51,680 --> 01:01:56,400
Speaker 1: that is on me, facts me and have to be

836
01:01:56,640 --> 01:02:01,360
Speaker 1: more honest and protect us women mhm. The crazy ship

837
01:02:01,560 --> 01:02:07,080
Speaker 1: like this. They have to be more honest. The mere

838
01:02:08,000 --> 01:02:12,960
Speaker 1: the therapy too, mm hmm. You got money issues, dirty issues,

839
01:02:14,040 --> 01:02:15,560
Speaker 1: you know. I say it's hard for the black man.

840
01:02:15,680 --> 01:02:20,800
Speaker 1: I get it, but you gotta make it easy for us.

841
01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:26,320
Speaker 1: So accept that from you. Ye, this is what it

842
01:02:26,600 --> 01:02:31,000
Speaker 1: is and this is it's not gonna know what this is?

843
01:02:31,040 --> 01:02:35,760
Speaker 1: How I am so accepted. No, I ain't gotta accepted.

844
01:02:36,040 --> 01:02:38,480
Speaker 1: But if you wanting to work on yourself, A lot

845
01:02:38,520 --> 01:02:40,720
Speaker 1: of men are not healed. I got with a man

846
01:02:40,760 --> 01:02:45,760
Speaker 1: who won't heal right. I got with a man who

847
01:02:45,880 --> 01:02:53,560
Speaker 1: one deal and who was touring mhm. He's touring and

848
01:02:53,640 --> 01:02:58,040
Speaker 1: the more I hear them, an understand why the things

849
01:02:58,400 --> 01:03:02,440
Speaker 1: went where they went after happened tos. But me, I

850
01:03:02,600 --> 01:03:06,120
Speaker 1: say us because he went through too. Mm hmm. This

851
01:03:06,320 --> 01:03:10,520
Speaker 1: was very life change of him as well. Now I'm

852
01:03:10,520 --> 01:03:14,280
Speaker 1: not just a pair anything with him, but he went

853
01:03:14,320 --> 01:03:17,720
Speaker 1: through this way too, Like this changed his life forever.

854
01:03:18,200 --> 01:03:22,480
Speaker 1: He has not been the same. M hm. He has

855
01:03:22,520 --> 01:03:25,720
Speaker 1: not been the same. And he took more losses than me,

856
01:03:27,800 --> 01:03:33,160
Speaker 1: Like this happened to me, but like he's but when

857
01:03:33,280 --> 01:03:37,080
Speaker 1: he I'm telling me that, and we just had this

858
01:03:37,160 --> 01:03:41,040
Speaker 1: conversation like last week, it was it was really like

859
01:03:41,200 --> 01:03:47,040
Speaker 1: an countable accountability moment on his ears and he was

860
01:03:47,120 --> 01:03:50,360
Speaker 1: like seeing you scared off the face. It's something that

861
01:03:50,440 --> 01:03:52,200
Speaker 1: I have never seen before in my life. And I

862
01:03:52,240 --> 01:03:56,360
Speaker 1: will never forget that and the thing that this happened

863
01:03:56,360 --> 01:03:59,960
Speaker 1: because me, that was all I needed wanted to him,

864
01:04:00,520 --> 01:04:04,840
Speaker 1: you know what long life had a conversation. Yeah, I

865
01:04:04,880 --> 01:04:12,520
Speaker 1: can't even imagine. Yeah, like y'all skinning came off y'all

866
01:04:12,600 --> 01:04:16,600
Speaker 1: face because I hate I'm my wall. Hell, you love

867
01:04:16,680 --> 01:04:22,880
Speaker 1: to hate us. Don't talk about a night, right, dude.

868
01:04:22,920 --> 01:04:26,680
Speaker 1: I have for my stas and they're like nigga what

869
01:04:26,880 --> 01:04:29,960
Speaker 1: you want. But at the end of the day, you know,

870
01:04:30,040 --> 01:04:32,160
Speaker 1: people like how she hates and I would hate him,

871
01:04:32,160 --> 01:04:36,200
Speaker 1: and I would hate Oh I don't. I hate what

872
01:04:36,320 --> 01:04:39,960
Speaker 1: he did. I hate how he did it because at

873
01:04:40,000 --> 01:04:41,720
Speaker 1: one point we were in love and he loved me.

874
01:04:44,200 --> 01:04:46,800
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, right, I just I just

875
01:04:46,920 --> 01:04:50,680
Speaker 1: hate what he did and I hate and he hate

876
01:04:51,040 --> 01:04:54,280
Speaker 1: that the this just happened the way it did. And

877
01:04:54,360 --> 01:04:56,920
Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna say, I'm pretty sure that you

878
01:04:56,960 --> 01:04:59,919
Speaker 1: won't put nobody else through this in the year. Yeah,

879
01:05:00,080 --> 01:05:04,040
Speaker 1: he won't have to because I ain't about to be

880
01:05:04,200 --> 01:05:08,160
Speaker 1: this to my body on you. Yeah, I'm not about

881
01:05:08,200 --> 01:05:15,439
Speaker 1: the even break a sweat. So I hope he learned

882
01:05:15,480 --> 01:05:19,160
Speaker 1: this lesson. But at the same time, you're probably thinking,

883
01:05:19,200 --> 01:05:20,920
Speaker 1: in the back of man, how can I make this right?

884
01:05:20,960 --> 01:05:25,520
Speaker 1: By mm hmm, you're trying to right his wrongs? Well,

885
01:05:25,600 --> 01:05:29,920
Speaker 1: you have a favorite work that out with God. I

886
01:05:30,040 --> 01:05:33,400
Speaker 1: t him. I'm saying you need to hear, you need

887
01:05:33,480 --> 01:05:37,360
Speaker 1: to hear. Mm hmm. This did not just break me

888
01:05:37,440 --> 01:05:46,360
Speaker 1: in both you mm hmm. My heart is different. My

889
01:05:46,440 --> 01:05:49,840
Speaker 1: heart is a really differently And I've a said that

890
01:05:49,920 --> 01:05:53,840
Speaker 1: that mm hmm. Because at first, I didn't want it

891
01:05:53,920 --> 01:05:56,000
Speaker 1: to be differ I wanted to be to be mean

892
01:05:56,200 --> 01:06:04,200
Speaker 1: and cold. Nothing in me could be like that, not

893
01:06:04,360 --> 01:06:07,760
Speaker 1: even for my attacker. I hope she gave what she

894
01:06:07,880 --> 01:06:12,520
Speaker 1: deserves and that's just that the gods he fits is

895
01:06:12,600 --> 01:06:18,560
Speaker 1: so different. That's just what God see mm hmm. How

896
01:06:18,640 --> 01:06:21,120
Speaker 1: do you think this will affect the relationship between your

897
01:06:21,240 --> 01:06:23,720
Speaker 1: son and his father? Because I'm pretty sure as he

898
01:06:23,760 --> 01:06:26,560
Speaker 1: gets older, conversation is going to be need to be had.

899
01:06:27,560 --> 01:06:30,280
Speaker 1: He got to figure that out. That isn't funny, right,

900
01:06:31,400 --> 01:06:36,320
Speaker 1: he has to figure that out. He I hope, I

901
01:06:36,480 --> 01:06:42,040
Speaker 1: hope that he's um changed him so really sick him

902
01:06:42,120 --> 01:06:48,240
Speaker 1: down and it's flame to him as a man I

903
01:06:48,680 --> 01:06:53,120
Speaker 1: was and what it was. I hope by that time

904
01:06:53,240 --> 01:06:58,560
Speaker 1: he's really changed in their relationship is so good to

905
01:06:58,680 --> 01:07:03,120
Speaker 1: the point where it's understanding rather than my son being

906
01:07:03,320 --> 01:07:08,280
Speaker 1: angry with him. Mm hmm. But that's on you gotta

907
01:07:08,360 --> 01:07:14,120
Speaker 1: fix I can't fix it. M okay, fix it. I

908
01:07:14,280 --> 01:07:20,520
Speaker 1: just pray it works out. Boy zone in God is

909
01:07:20,600 --> 01:07:26,000
Speaker 1: in the evining mm hm hm. And last, but not least,

910
01:07:26,040 --> 01:07:28,680
Speaker 1: what is your advice to women that are having issues

911
01:07:29,320 --> 01:07:38,600
Speaker 1: with their partners X Get out of it, get out

912
01:07:38,640 --> 01:07:42,120
Speaker 1: of it, because you ain't having a problem with the

913
01:07:42,160 --> 01:07:47,600
Speaker 1: ask for no reason. It's you are not having a

914
01:07:47,640 --> 01:07:54,400
Speaker 1: problem with it, asks for no reason. So you're you're

915
01:07:54,440 --> 01:07:56,040
Speaker 1: gonna get out of it. And it's gonna be you

916
01:07:57,920 --> 01:08:01,320
Speaker 1: the problem with the axes. That is the rare fat right.

917
01:08:01,800 --> 01:08:06,280
Speaker 1: Why why she got a problem? I my my daughter's

918
01:08:06,360 --> 01:08:11,200
Speaker 1: father has girlfriends and stuff, and it's just like we

919
01:08:11,400 --> 01:08:14,600
Speaker 1: a whole family, you know what I'm saying, Like we

920
01:08:14,760 --> 01:08:23,720
Speaker 1: have problems. It's just like girl, if you don't come

921
01:08:23,720 --> 01:08:29,840
Speaker 1: here against something to eat, like right, I don't want me,

922
01:08:30,439 --> 01:08:33,400
Speaker 1: but that's my dog. I want you to know that

923
01:08:33,840 --> 01:08:38,720
Speaker 1: that's my dog. We were locked, but I don't know.

924
01:08:40,720 --> 01:08:44,479
Speaker 1: And that's the thing. A lot of women they see

925
01:08:44,520 --> 01:08:47,200
Speaker 1: that it's doing good and they went them back. But

926
01:08:47,320 --> 01:08:51,240
Speaker 1: you don't get the same version. Fact, you don't get

927
01:08:51,360 --> 01:08:54,880
Speaker 1: the same version of dad. So don't expect that. That's

928
01:08:54,960 --> 01:08:58,600
Speaker 1: y'all ask for a reason. Just since he's giving me

929
01:08:58,680 --> 01:09:01,280
Speaker 1: a better version and you on the back, you're gonna

930
01:09:01,320 --> 01:09:03,920
Speaker 1: get that same version. You're not. You're gonna get the

931
01:09:04,000 --> 01:09:10,240
Speaker 1: same person that he always been to you. Facts. Women

932
01:09:10,320 --> 01:09:14,439
Speaker 1: got to stop doing it. Women have to stop putting

933
01:09:14,439 --> 01:09:17,960
Speaker 1: themselves in a position where when they ex move on

934
01:09:18,840 --> 01:09:23,599
Speaker 1: or I want you back. No, no, because you don't

935
01:09:23,640 --> 01:09:27,760
Speaker 1: get the same version that I get as if I

936
01:09:27,960 --> 01:09:33,439
Speaker 1: was weak, you know what I'm saying, Like my my,

937
01:09:33,920 --> 01:09:37,120
Speaker 1: my age, he got she got a bet a version

938
01:09:37,160 --> 01:09:40,640
Speaker 1: of him that night. Am mm hmm. So it's just

939
01:09:40,880 --> 01:09:45,200
Speaker 1: like you're either gonna get a better he gonna be verse. Yeah,

940
01:09:46,960 --> 01:09:48,760
Speaker 1: but you're not gonna get the good the goodness that

941
01:09:48,840 --> 01:09:51,800
Speaker 1: I got because from what we're fresh in anyway, so

942
01:09:52,000 --> 01:09:57,160
Speaker 1: you're gonna seem like it's good anyway. I gotta stop

943
01:09:57,280 --> 01:10:03,120
Speaker 1: doing that. Women have to stop doing it that these

944
01:10:03,240 --> 01:10:06,960
Speaker 1: men move on with their life. Mm hmm. Not on,

945
01:10:07,080 --> 01:10:11,400
Speaker 1: my lord, it's not even right you want them back

946
01:10:11,439 --> 01:10:13,439
Speaker 1: for for him to do the same stuff he's doing.

947
01:10:15,160 --> 01:10:17,040
Speaker 1: Of course he's gonna do something there for me to

948
01:10:17,160 --> 01:10:23,200
Speaker 1: want to m m duh. Yes, he's gonna be a

949
01:10:23,320 --> 01:10:27,519
Speaker 1: headache once I get to know. Yeah, just because you

950
01:10:27,760 --> 01:10:31,120
Speaker 1: my baby dad, you my mind forever. I don't own you.

951
01:10:32,720 --> 01:10:38,120
Speaker 1: I don't own you. You're not mine forever. Right, So

952
01:10:38,320 --> 01:10:41,720
Speaker 1: it's just like women got a I really would, I

953
01:10:41,920 --> 01:10:45,439
Speaker 1: really knew women to stop doing it. M oh, I

954
01:10:45,600 --> 01:10:48,760
Speaker 1: on my family's day No, you don't. You just don't

955
01:10:48,760 --> 01:10:52,559
Speaker 1: want to just right, it just looks good over here

956
01:10:52,600 --> 01:10:55,800
Speaker 1: for right now because I'm new right and we had

957
01:10:55,880 --> 01:10:59,240
Speaker 1: over here mm hmm. You don't on the back. You

958
01:10:59,280 --> 01:11:03,800
Speaker 1: ain't only even go get the same version. And I

959
01:11:03,840 --> 01:11:06,599
Speaker 1: don't think women think of it like that. M Let

960
01:11:06,600 --> 01:11:09,519
Speaker 1: me just think they guys got the power to us

961
01:11:09,600 --> 01:11:12,280
Speaker 1: as a way, and that's what's gonna get it back

962
01:11:12,320 --> 01:11:14,680
Speaker 1: in the in this case, in my case, that's what

963
01:11:14,800 --> 01:11:19,560
Speaker 1: it was. Mm hmm. But you still didn't get that

964
01:11:19,680 --> 01:11:26,360
Speaker 1: same d version of him. You didn't get that back. Facts,

965
01:11:28,080 --> 01:11:31,920
Speaker 1: you didn't get it back. I'm just curious, So what's

966
01:11:31,960 --> 01:11:33,240
Speaker 1: next for you? Because I know we need to get

967
01:11:33,280 --> 01:11:35,120
Speaker 1: a we need to get a book deal, we need

968
01:11:35,200 --> 01:11:38,920
Speaker 1: to get a show like once everything, like what are

969
01:11:39,000 --> 01:11:41,960
Speaker 1: we doing? Because we gotta support? I want to go

970
01:11:42,040 --> 01:11:46,280
Speaker 1: on to Steve, Yes, come on now, I really want

971
01:11:46,320 --> 01:11:49,040
Speaker 1: to go on to Steve. Are we show? Because them

972
01:11:49,200 --> 01:11:51,479
Speaker 1: my story? I really want to go on to Sleeve.

973
01:11:51,680 --> 01:11:53,960
Speaker 1: I want to do one. I want to do one

974
01:11:54,000 --> 01:11:56,680
Speaker 1: of my shows and stuff. But like I because when

975
01:11:56,760 --> 01:12:00,960
Speaker 1: I did my first interview on the big Pack, a

976
01:12:01,120 --> 01:12:04,719
Speaker 1: real big platform, um, I didn't know it was gonna

977
01:12:04,720 --> 01:12:08,280
Speaker 1: be that big. But you know, when you have certain

978
01:12:08,280 --> 01:12:10,080
Speaker 1: amount of views and stuff, they get paid for that.

979
01:12:10,520 --> 01:12:14,200
Speaker 1: And I knew that, but twenty two points four million, yeah,

980
01:12:16,120 --> 01:12:17,920
Speaker 1: uses a lie, y'all got paid for that. So all

981
01:12:18,000 --> 01:12:21,400
Speaker 1: this was like, I'm not doing no free interviews for

982
01:12:21,520 --> 01:12:26,719
Speaker 1: any big platforms any more, big platforms. If it's small,

983
01:12:27,720 --> 01:12:32,600
Speaker 1: you know, small women's stuff for a big big platforms,

984
01:12:32,640 --> 01:12:36,160
Speaker 1: I reach it out to you mm hmm. And it's

985
01:12:36,240 --> 01:12:38,960
Speaker 1: just like, well, I wait till these cases all, but

986
01:12:39,200 --> 01:12:44,920
Speaker 1: I'm not doing it for free yea, yeah, Like no,

987
01:12:45,360 --> 01:12:47,439
Speaker 1: I'm not doing this for freaking You don't ask questions

988
01:12:47,479 --> 01:12:51,120
Speaker 1: from from any cry you know what. I'm like, I

989
01:12:51,200 --> 01:12:54,240
Speaker 1: gotta remer this. You don't pay me for reliving this,

990
01:12:54,800 --> 01:13:00,720
Speaker 1: you know what. I'm so so you know I when

991
01:13:00,880 --> 01:13:06,840
Speaker 1: is pause, you know, something like this or a church

992
01:13:06,960 --> 01:13:10,120
Speaker 1: eaving or something for my community or anything like that,

993
01:13:10,920 --> 01:13:13,599
Speaker 1: of course, but a big platform where you'all got money,

994
01:13:13,640 --> 01:13:16,760
Speaker 1: and I'm sending you a struggling m y'all ain't about

995
01:13:16,760 --> 01:13:23,240
Speaker 1: to make God his money off my story. So and

996
01:13:23,320 --> 01:13:26,040
Speaker 1: I know I have a good story m hmm. It's

997
01:13:26,080 --> 01:13:30,680
Speaker 1: stuffing that told yet So it's just like and then

998
01:13:31,760 --> 01:13:35,200
Speaker 1: like I want to write a book. But I saw

999
01:13:35,320 --> 01:13:38,720
Speaker 1: I want to go to schools then talk about it.

1000
01:13:39,520 --> 01:13:45,080
Speaker 1: Yeah you should. You gotta get huh, I said, you

1001
01:13:45,160 --> 01:13:47,320
Speaker 1: definitely got to get into your motivational backers. You have

1002
01:13:47,400 --> 01:13:50,280
Speaker 1: a story I do. I do, I really do. I

1003
01:13:50,400 --> 01:13:52,160
Speaker 1: It's like I want somebody to come pull me and

1004
01:13:52,200 --> 01:13:55,320
Speaker 1: take my hand, like come on, come on girl. And

1005
01:13:55,880 --> 01:13:59,760
Speaker 1: it's hard. It's hard just pushing yourself to do this.

1006
01:14:00,000 --> 01:14:06,040
Speaker 1: I need a I need a push her. I need

1007
01:14:06,120 --> 01:14:08,120
Speaker 1: a pushure because it's hard. I'm gonna see a mom.

1008
01:14:08,240 --> 01:14:10,560
Speaker 1: I got my mom supped to do so it was

1009
01:14:10,640 --> 01:14:14,920
Speaker 1: just like, how am I gonna do this? But you

1010
01:14:14,960 --> 01:14:18,400
Speaker 1: gotta get out. It has to get out. It has

1011
01:14:18,439 --> 01:14:20,479
Speaker 1: to get out, like it got to hit the TV

1012
01:14:20,640 --> 01:14:25,760
Speaker 1: station on a real, real big platform, you know what

1013
01:14:25,880 --> 01:14:29,320
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like this has got to because this is

1014
01:14:29,520 --> 01:14:32,080
Speaker 1: unheard of. Like I know you heard like some Brina

1015
01:14:32,120 --> 01:14:36,559
Speaker 1: Greenley story mm hmm. In our story is like the same,

1016
01:14:38,040 --> 01:14:41,240
Speaker 1: just the same, it's being made the same story. And

1017
01:14:41,479 --> 01:14:44,040
Speaker 1: uh that was a part of my hearing too when

1018
01:14:44,080 --> 01:14:48,360
Speaker 1: I'm married, Like I reached out to her and we

1019
01:14:48,439 --> 01:14:53,800
Speaker 1: did a lave interview or uh Instagram lad. Yeah, she

1020
01:14:53,880 --> 01:14:57,920
Speaker 1: had a perfect or something. Yeah, it was a big

1021
01:14:57,960 --> 01:15:00,680
Speaker 1: part of my Helena. She's still keep in touch with

1022
01:15:00,760 --> 01:15:05,320
Speaker 1: me and things like that, and I needed that. Yeah,

1023
01:15:06,560 --> 01:15:08,960
Speaker 1: and she was just taking off for telling her story

1024
01:15:10,160 --> 01:15:14,400
Speaker 1: at the time, Like so you know, I'm thinking about

1025
01:15:15,280 --> 01:15:19,640
Speaker 1: UM for profit organization, you know what I'm saying, like

1026
01:15:19,960 --> 01:15:23,639
Speaker 1: something because me and go through this too. Mm hmm.

1027
01:15:24,439 --> 01:15:27,439
Speaker 1: You can't need me and now sometimes for me and

1028
01:15:27,479 --> 01:15:30,600
Speaker 1: not a cause, but it's just sometimes women take it

1029
01:15:30,680 --> 01:15:34,320
Speaker 1: too far. Yeah, and me, some men get hurt because

1030
01:15:34,360 --> 01:15:37,600
Speaker 1: I've had people reach out to me. I hear my

1031
01:15:38,320 --> 01:15:43,320
Speaker 1: baby mama is Poifred did this like what mh But

1032
01:15:43,479 --> 01:15:46,080
Speaker 1: me and are quiet about it. So it was like

1033
01:15:46,400 --> 01:15:50,479
Speaker 1: creating a platform with it where they're comfortable with telling it.

1034
01:15:51,880 --> 01:15:55,920
Speaker 1: Like I'm only outside. I get the guys all I

1035
01:15:56,000 --> 01:15:59,840
Speaker 1: reckon barber shop, so I hear everything, you know what

1036
01:16:00,080 --> 01:16:02,720
Speaker 1: saying songs like how can I relate to the men

1037
01:16:03,240 --> 01:16:06,880
Speaker 1: to make them better? How can a woman relate to

1038
01:16:07,120 --> 01:16:10,680
Speaker 1: men to make the better? To bret it stuff like

1039
01:16:10,760 --> 01:16:14,080
Speaker 1: this for happening. But I think when men hear your

1040
01:16:14,120 --> 01:16:16,000
Speaker 1: stories and when they see you and stuff, and you

1041
01:16:16,160 --> 01:16:17,960
Speaker 1: be because you know, you're working in the barber shop,

1042
01:16:18,000 --> 01:16:21,679
Speaker 1: so you can speak their language. And I think once

1043
01:16:21,720 --> 01:16:24,200
Speaker 1: people here, once men hear story, it would make them

1044
01:16:24,240 --> 01:16:26,679
Speaker 1: be more accountable and how they move forward with women

1045
01:16:26,720 --> 01:16:29,280
Speaker 1: because they do play a part and a lot of

1046
01:16:29,360 --> 01:16:32,320
Speaker 1: these situations when women are attacking each other because of them,

1047
01:16:32,760 --> 01:16:34,560
Speaker 1: and I think they need to see somebody like you

1048
01:16:34,680 --> 01:16:37,960
Speaker 1: that comes from their neighborhood that understands like yo, like,

1049
01:16:38,080 --> 01:16:39,840
Speaker 1: I know it can be hard, but you have to

1050
01:16:39,920 --> 01:16:42,040
Speaker 1: be honest, like you you might have a daughter or

1051
01:16:42,120 --> 01:16:47,280
Speaker 1: sister or a mother like this is not cool. Yeah, yeah,

1052
01:16:48,920 --> 01:16:55,160
Speaker 1: so like figuring that out and h mm hmmm. I

1053
01:16:55,200 --> 01:16:57,880
Speaker 1: don't know what guy has and stories, but it's goingly

1054
01:16:58,040 --> 01:17:01,479
Speaker 1: something big. I know that and honest, thank this mm hmm.

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to witness it. Cannot wait to support you. However,

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Speaker 1: I can support support you. You have my number and

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Speaker 1: never whatever you need, I'm always a phone call away.

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Speaker 1: And I'm so happy that you decided two thousand years

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Speaker 1: later to be on the ship. Hey, you know it

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Speaker 1: was a peace thing. No, I know, I know, I know.

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Speaker 1: I was very persistent. I was like please please, yeah

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Speaker 1: hello at the PSD podcast dot com. And until next time, everyone,

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much to my guests. I really appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna do a follow up Worth Records over. Definitely

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Speaker 1: going to follow up I found me, you know what

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm I'm gonna speaking into it because let's say, yes,

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Speaker 1: New Beginnings and then we go Christmas, but I don't

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Speaker 1: know they'd be tripping on court. So that's Sat. January

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Speaker 1: and hopefully before next year's over when we would have

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Speaker 1: this book out. Yeah. Yeah, I kind of give my

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Speaker 1: hands on the right people because they're gonna have to

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Speaker 1: hol me yes, yes, And until next time, everyone, later,

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